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fredialim/r/seduction21/02/16 12:11 AM
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Always assume attraction. Most women will display interest in very indirect ways. Asking questions, being in the general vicinity, looking at you, etc. You cannot guess exactly what is going on, so alway assume that they are interested in you. Say hello, talk, flirt, ask them out for coffee. You have nothing to lose. Don't worry about being labelled as a creep either. There is something Mark Manson say's about "not worrying about the creep police." I paraphrase. Worst comes to worst, they'll not…
/r/seduction06/01/17 04:13 AM
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Always be recording. Find out if you are a one-party consent state (this is US-centric advice). In that case your recordings would be legal. Use apps on your phone to do so. Getting something stolen is a problem, but not as big of an issue as a false rape accusation.
/r/seduction04/01/17 04:39 AM
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Totally agree. His take on religion was one of the best I have ever come across. Jordan Peterson has a lot of valuable stuff to say. This was my first time listening to him and my first time finding out about Joe Rogan. I have been living under a fucking rock. This also added The Gulag Archipelago by Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn to my reading. Thank you OP!
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 06:05 PM
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Levels of escalation.
/r/seduction30/11/16 12:25 AM
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Dicarlo Escalation Ladder
/r/seduction29/11/16 09:55 PM
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Don't follow up with a text to confirm. That sound's needy. Do make alternative plans for Wednesday. So if she flakes (which women do all the time), then you go and do something else. Don't be hung up on the kiss. And if you do try to keep it in the middle rather than at the end. Do escalate using kino. Google. Several examples on how to do this. Some good ones by Richard LaRuina. Leave her wondering why you did not kiss her. Date no. 2 escalate from the get go...and keep going. Of course have l…
/r/seduction29/11/16 07:10 PM
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Oneitis.
/r/seduction27/03/16 11:51 PM
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Ass, tits, a tight body, and a cute face. In no particular order.
/r/seduction17/03/16 09:09 PM
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Yes, keeping it honest and will let her bring things up. I agree about the "women sharing a good man." Rollo talks about the same thing. The Black Dragon blog has been fun to read.
/r/askTRP09/03/16 04:27 AM
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Thanks for the input. Yes, proceeding as I usually would.
/r/askTRP09/03/16 04:26 AM
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Framing your success to the approach instead of her response was a great move. Good job!
/r/seduction06/03/16 10:12 PM
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Good job dude! Now, the mods won't ban you from the group. Ha ha ha.
/r/seduction05/03/16 11:10 PM
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That's cool. Yes, talk to everyone. The barista. Other people in line. Women. Men. Old dudes. Everyone.
/r/seduction05/03/16 02:43 AM
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You can do it! Remember: Rejection is always better than regret! ALWAYS! (From Mike Cernovich's book). I have saved this post and will come and gently kick your ass tomorrow. And good luck.
/r/seduction05/03/16 02:16 AM
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Niice! Have fun. You deserve to be happy.
/r/seduction24/02/16 03:56 AM
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It will get better. I promise! It can pretty damn good if you work at this. That too I promise. Of all things, I am going to give you a book recommendation. It's called Choose Yourself by James Altucher. Has nothing to do with Seduction but has to do with a person who picked himself up after failing multiple times in relationships, family, businesses, etc. It's an easy read. There is a chapter that has recommendations on what to do if you are absolutely miserable. I know it is difficult to belie…
/r/seduction24/02/16 01:15 AM
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I have to echo this 100 times over. Be honest. For her sake. For yours! Don't play games. Don't wuss out. Don't be impolite. Just be honest. Don't apologize. Don't say, "Sorry, I would blah, blah, blah." Just say that I will have to cancel our date. If she asks why tell her that you are not interested anymore. If she asks again, tell her that you are not attracted to her. (Not that "she is not attractive," "you are not attracted to her.") And for fucks sake get her off your Facebook page.
/r/seduction23/02/16 11:58 PM
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Sounds good. I would suggest that you don't see her more than once a week though. Oneitis is real and will get you fucked up real fast! Been there, done that!
/r/seduction23/02/16 11:54 PM
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As a person who had to learn everything about dating all over again I suggest that you read everything in the sidebar. Twice! There is a lot to learn, and it will come with a combination of both practice in the field and understanding your own limitations, how women behave socially, and the whole human mating scene. Great job on getting out there and getting dates. And don't beat yourself over not being able to close the deal (so to speak). Keep learning and keep improving. Also, if you do have …
/r/seduction23/02/16 06:02 PM
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Her eye color. This forces me to make eye contact first and figure out the color of her eyes in the first place! For example, "Your eyes are the loveliest shade of brown (blue, green, orange) that I have seen!" This works sometimes and not others, but it definitely gets me out of my comfort zone and clearly signals my intent.
/r/seduction21/02/16 06:34 PM
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When approaching a woman you can presume that she is interested, neutral, or not-interested. Instead of assuming neutral or not-interested start from the frame of assuming that she is interested! Until she signals disinterest. In this way your approach is more confident and less filled with self-doubt. Also, you are not waiting for IOIs or permission to approach. Instead you are only looking for lack of interest (she turns away, starts talking to someone else, or tells you that she is not intere…
/r/seduction21/02/16 06:31 PM
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Models by Mark Manson has a chapter on becoming a fascinating person. (I paraphrase). One tip was to watch every movie on the top-20 list for IMDB genre lists. And then analyze and read reviews of the movie to create my own understanding. This would keep me busy for years! There is so much to do in life. As a not-so-young lad anymore, all I can say is that time that is lost is never recovered. Also, learn to say yes to all opportunities that come your way. Watch "Yes Man" with Jim Carrey. (Yes, …
/r/seduction21/02/16 03:03 PM
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So as promised: This is the video I was talking about. It an animation by Don Hertzfeldt called World of Tomorrow. Unfortunately, I could not find a free link to the video. It is available on Netflix streaming and (I think) on Vimeo to rent. The video is a 16 minute short film about a girl that is visited by a future clone of herself. The major "ah-ha" moment came from a point when the girls future character says that we appreciate the present only when we look back at it from the future (after …
/r/seduction21/02/16 02:58 PM
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AAA: Always Assume Attraction
/r/seduction20/02/16 07:28 PM
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My top three favorites. All teach how to understand people's behaviors and motivations, and thereby influence them. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Influence by Robert Cialdini
/r/seduction18/02/16 10:50 PM
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"I like what I see." Be upfront and honest. Trying to hide it will come off as creepy. Also, this keeps the frame on me ("I" like) rather than on her ("you" are beautiful).
/r/seduction17/02/16 12:33 AM
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My take is as follows: We all like validation and approval. When we can't get it from a healthy sense of our own self, we tend to seek it from external means. I would suggest that you explore your own feelings of self acceptance, guilt, and shame. Two resources are Robert Glover (NMMNG) and John Bradshaw (he has several books and also videos on youtube). Good luck!
/r/seduction17/02/16 12:28 AM
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Something I heard recently is going to be my standard line to get a number. "I would love to take you out sometime." Say that and hand your phone to her with the contact app open. No gimmicks and clearly signals intention. TBH, have not tried it yet, but seems like a good approach (and was really successful for the person talking about this.)
/r/seduction16/02/16 08:18 PM
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An apartment as filthy as fuck. Strange cuts or marks on her body. At this point not fucking her would have been a good idea.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 04:45 AM
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A very powerful book. Very underrated!
/r/TheRedPill14/02/16 08:44 PM
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'Man's Search For Meaning' by Viktor Frankl A great book on finding purpose and meaning in life written from the perspective of an Austrian psychologist who survived the holocaust. The most amazing thing was his lack of bitterness against the Nazis or even the experiences. 'Flow' by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi To me this books provides the how and why of living a happy life from the perspective of experiences.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 11:46 PM
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This.
/r/seduction12/02/16 03:10 AM
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Yes, this has been the only thing that works for me. I am great with social skills but used to have massive amounts of approach anxiety. I ultimately figured out that it does not matter. Either a woman will be interested or not. And it is my goal to find that out. You can also sit in a public area at a university or a street cafe and observe people. Very few men actually approach nice looking women. So if you are able to do this, it will be definitely unique. And you will get rejected. Quite a b…
/r/seduction11/02/16 06:49 PM
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Whenever you see someone that you find attractive, walk up to them and say hello. Ask their name? Start the conversation. Get some experience with approaching. Calibrate, calibrate, calibrate. You can read a lot about approach and technique, but ultimately nothing beats going out and actually approaching women. And you don't need to hide your intentions if you find a woman attractive. Good luck.
/r/seduction11/02/16 06:11 PM
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Don't come from a position of neediness. But, do ask the TA out. Your job is not to get a date, get laid, or even go after one particular girl. Your job is to learn the process and get better at this. The more you approach, the better you will get. Don't play up the whole Valentine thing either. Just say, let's go and get a cup of coffee (or drink). I would like to find out if you are as interesting as you seem to be. It does not matter what you say, just how you say it. Good luck!
/r/seduction11/02/16 03:23 PM
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Several videos and speakers from The 21 Convention. I have linked one below that is my absolute favorite. Funny, informative, and very motivational. Top 10 Mistakes Intelligent Men Make With Women by James Social Coach Other speakers that I have found useful for pickup (from T21C) are Nick Sparks, James Marshall, Steve Mayeda, and Damien Diecke. The T21C Youtube Channel I have no affiliation with these folks. Just stumbled upon them a while back.
/r/seduction11/02/16 04:35 AM
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Hey <her name> lets get a drink on Saturday. How about I pick you up at 7:00 pm? If she says yes, you plan the drinks date and escalate from there. If she says no, but offers an alternative time/day, keep it going. If she say no, but does not offer anything then delete her number and move on to the next one. The fact that she gave you her number shows you that she is interested. If you don't make a move she will lose interest or place you in the LJBF zone.
/r/seduction10/02/16 06:19 PM
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The us versus them (men versus women) language that colors some of the discussions. The lack of tolerance of anything non-TRP. And the perspective that TRP is the answer to everything. I was very blue-pill for a long time and I was convinced that was the way to live. I am well on my journey today, much happier, and with healthier boundaries. But I think that my continual growth has to allow me to test and question all new models of reality. TRP portrays itself as being "correct". I tend to take …
/r/TheRedPill10/02/16 12:48 AM
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I have done three so far. For a while I was going every year, but have not got for the last two. Every time the experience is different. It may sound woo-woo and hippy-dippy, but vipassana allows me to see the world much more clearly. Maintaining a somewhat regular daily practice also helps. My biggest take-away is that everything that we "see" is an interpretation of reality. I see TRP the same way—a model which is accurate in parts and inaccurate in others. I take what works and leave the rest…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 07:34 PM
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Another vote for the 10-day Vipassana retreat. Can be quite an awakening.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 05:16 PM
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Ignore the chodes! There are enough of us without fucked up self-limiting beliefs that would love to hear from your field experience.
/r/seduction06/02/16 10:58 PM
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As an older guy who struggles with the whole dating-younger-women issue I found this post very helpful. Would you be willing to share your resources. Also, clarify a bit more on dressing, fashion, and clothes. Thanks!
/r/seduction06/02/16 04:39 PM
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I read the parts in bold and then went back and read the introduction. You are 16 and she is 35. This is a relationship with an imbalance of power (therapist-client, doctor-patient, teacher-student, etc.) Not normal at all and not platonic. She has issues. You have issues. Deal with your own issues. Her problems are not your problem. Examine why you feel guilty for her behavior. Sorry for being blunt.
/r/seduction23/01/16 04:15 AM
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