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Fucken class film. Prefer 3 but. Leo's first screen credit, I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 09:01 PM
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They tell you to stick it in the oven?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:12 PM
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She immediately gets high fived. Based.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:09 PM
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You know I'm invested in this situ and root for you, and I mean no ill intent when I say this - it's just in the spirit of discussion: You've antagonised a lot of dudes on here who are in the position you are now. But now having experienced the same thing yourself, do you think you will view them differently going forward?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:51 PM
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Me hungover:
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:15 PM
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People generally date their looksmatch, or within a point of it. Statistically speaking, she'll have got dumped by a guy who is probably around the same level of attractiveness as her. But her self-awareness is so low that she'll never realise it. Skill issue innit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:40 PM
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<image> Oh, it's bad. I always try to work on it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:40 AM
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I'm no expert on how you guys do it, but I really think you need to say something that will shock him instead of going with the mundane. I'd say: double text him with something outrageous. Gotta stand out from the crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:30 AM
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Man... this is beyond small talk. This is tiny talk. At this point you might as well just ask him if he wants his balls tickled, because you desperately need something to jolt the convo back to life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:19 AM
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That's a grey area - very interesting to explore. I think if she openly expresses distaste and disapproval for porn, and makes her views on porn use in a relationship clear (but does not explicitly ask him to stop), and he recognises it and decides to stop because he loves her - we're all good there. But the second she has to actually say "your porn use is hurting me, can you please stop?", imo things are ruined. He presumably already knows she doesn't like it before it's gotten to the point of …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:07 PM
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Absolutely. That's exactly what I'd do in that situation too. I think a good way to describe my view is: people must do things because they want to, not because they were prompted to do so. If I was that hypothetical woman who asked her partner to stop watching porn and he agreed, I still don't think I'd feel satisfied with that resolution. He's stopping watching not because he wants to; but because she had to ask. I'd prefer to walk.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:48 PM
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Hmmm, complex. I don't think I view it favourably. It's strange because I am anti-porn and don't watch it myself, but I feel that asking someone to alter their behaviour is a bit too controlling. That's a personal thing though. I really don't like unduly influencing people, so I don't tend to approve of asking people to stop doing things. Even if I don't support said thing in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:36 PM
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Like Shia said: don't let your dreams be dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:02 PM
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Actual Steak stop being such a fucking freak.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:32 PM
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Blank is my recommendation. Let the pictures speak for themselves, then deepen the connection in the chat. It's much better to have an organic conversation about mountain biking, for instance, than to have "I like mountain biking" on your profile. I'm sure you hate it when you see a movie trailer that shows you the whole plot before you've actually seen the film. Same logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 04:03 PM
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You think that's common IRL? I see the "I want a harem" stuff on here, but I always thought that was cope manifest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:59 PM
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You're a movie guy right? Seen that Speak No Evil yet? Remake of the Danish film. Watched it yesterday. Danish original was an examination of masculinity in the face of social norms. American remake changes it in to "cheating wife turns action hero and protects cucked husband who cowers in a corner." Mental.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:53 PM
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Why is American media pushing this agenda so hard. Oddballs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:47 PM
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Mine let their bedsheets drag across the grass where cats and foxes pee :|
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:46 PM
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Teenager during most of those experiences. People tend to do stupid stuff age 15-20 when they're finding themselves. And it was easier to get a hold of weed than booze when you were under 18, which lead to "pfffff I might as well try it again I guess, maybe this time will be different" thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:34 PM
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Tried weed about 20 times in my life, and never once liked it. Doesn't agree with me - I get this horrible feeling of tunnel vision. Used to do coke when I was drinking because it's super common here. Fun because it wasn't mind-altering, but turns me in to a person I don't like. Tried ecstasy a couple of times in the early 2000s and felt like I was constantly panicking when I was on it. I just don't think I'm a drug person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:28 PM
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(Depends on the woman and the tattoo quality, of course.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:14 PM
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I can't relate, but it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:55 PM
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Combine it with the bras d'honnuer for emphasis, perhaps. Although I suppose that could be done with the Vs too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:45 PM
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Literally me, as you can see. Although I favour the middle finger over the Vs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:33 PM
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There are some fucked up saddos in the world. You'll find 'em in every walk of life. On Reddit they can be anonymous, and dodge accountability for doing stuff like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:19 PM
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Not at all, for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:16 PM
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Wife likes to sleep in a formation I call "the swastika". So my "side" consists of the 10% closest to the edge.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 11:33 AM
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Get some citrus fruits down you and keep warm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 11:31 AM
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Although I agree about lots on here lacking confidence and that being a massive problem, this is not a good comparison. A) He's got a camera. Watch how the women light up when they see it, and direct all their attention toward it rather than him. B) He's a social media influencer, and they obviously recognise his gimmick. They're playing along in the hope of being featured in a video. C) None of those women were genuinely interested in him. There's zero signs of actual attraction from them - onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 11:25 AM
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M8 just get a locking chastity belt-style protector for your kidney areas before you get on that flight.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 01:59 PM
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Not even a second's hesitation 😂 Man was vicious. There was a hilarious John Prescott sigma male megamix when he died.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 01:54 PM
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John Prescott. https://youtu.be/_nJioyq3We8?si=i2yPddCqaECOCzs5
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 01:45 PM
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<image> This is roughly what the average 24-28 year old woman looks like where I live. Take from a Google search of "average Scottish woman 20s". Stats also say she'll be about 140-145lbs, and 5'4". Fairly accurate to what I see around me every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 12:50 PM
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But no of course, on a serious note I believe in radical and unequivocal self-ownership of one's own mistakes and flaws. One person's actions have no bearing or reflection on the character of those close to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:02 PM
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You're supposed to say "eating a meal, a succulent chinese meal?" 😠
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:00 PM
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What is the charge
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 09:52 PM
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Corbyn's ignorance of Scottish law cost him a lot up here. Not convinced he viewed us any differently from the Tories - an afterthought at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:44 PM
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I'm just kidding on. If your neighbour's house is burning down you'd be a dafty if you didn't try to save your own. Can't tell me that if you had the option of a Plaid Wales in Europe you wouldn't make a grab for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:30 PM
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Revenge for pulling us along for the ride with Thatcher.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:22 PM
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Haha, I'm not American either! I'm Scottish - SNP are one of the main parties here, and Nic Sturgeon was our FM (equivalent to president) for 9 years. And she did a good job, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:48 AM
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SNP since I was old enough to vote, although I do not vote for them any more since they had a corruption scandal which disillusioned me. Nicola Sturgeon was an excellent leader from 2014 to 2023. Shame the way shit went down and the succession of useless diddies they've had ever since.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:30 AM
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Depends on the type of feminism. I support equal rights for women in terms of legal, social, employment treatment. I'm pro-abortion. Voted in favour of making sanitary products free. Think the best politician my country ever had was a woman. Rosie the Riveter feminism = great. But I think "kill all men" Tiktok feminism is cancer. I think women should receive the same sentences as men when they commit the same crimes. I don't think Onlyfans and porn is empowerment. Rosie the Rimjobber feminism = …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:34 AM
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Me trying to trim my cats' claws:
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:38 AM
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Real.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:29 AM
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Q4A: Do you believe in the concept of luck? Can an individual be inherently lucky or inherently unlucky? How much do you think character, preparation, and individual agency factor in to luck?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:22 AM
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It's Stephen Graham for me. Would watch anything he's in tbh. This century's Robert Deniro.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 02:10 AM
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Nah, rare I'd say. 10-15% of relationships. It takes some ego death and humility to truly love someone that way - and it's uncommon to find two people who are capable of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 12:45 AM
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I think they work best when both parties are convinced that they love the other more. Mutual simpdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 12:33 AM
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Kinda dude who looks like he enjoys chewing tobacco.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 10:46 AM
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<image> What the fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:48 AM
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Airport beers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:30 AM
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I'd love to have this doss cunt working under me for 1 week. Would have him crying by day 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:01 PM
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I assumed the coloured heart thing was just bollocks made up for the show, or urban myth. It's like the Doc Marten lace colour supposedly being an indicator of what type of skinhead you are. Does red laces really mean you're a Nazi who has killed someone, or is it more likely that you just like the colour red and those laces were in stock at the shop.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:44 AM
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Yeah it's like a poorly-fitting Halloween mask of Charles Bronson, but still for 61 I'd take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:42 PM
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Weird how Anthony Kiedis can come out of decades of heroin addiction looking pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:32 PM
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Not too bad. Nowhere near David Cronenberg level. Most extreme bit is heavy on the humour, which softens the impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:31 PM
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I don't believe it, personally. Something like "bond" is too nebulous to be quantified, imo. How can one objectively judge the strength of an emotional attachment without self-reported data, which will obviously be skewed by people who are hung up on their exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:11 PM
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Polyphasic sleeping. It's forced upon me because I have 4 cats and they go tits at 4am every morning, but I've grown to love it. Spend an hour reading or watching TV. I actually I think I feel more rested with 4+3 hours with a break in between than I do with 8 continuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 11:54 PM
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Stephen Graham's in it and it's filmed oneshot like a Dogme95 film? Fuck me that's right up my alley. Will give it a go tonight.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 11:52 PM
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I wonder what these women look like. That's all I'm gonna say.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 10:28 PM
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Nah I had no idea he was holding a knife. Probably would have froze, had I realised. Less thug, more drunk and gormless. Like those people who get run over by cars but don't break a bone because they were inebriated and landed the right way by chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 08:26 PM
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My most thug story is on NYE 2008 I had been at a house party and it was shite (didn't kiss girl I liked), so I decided to walk home at around 4am. I had earphones in, and a guy crossed the road towards me and said something. I wasn't paying full attention, and just said "fuck off mate I'm no in the mood" without taking my earphones out. It was only after I passed him I realised that he was holding a blade. Internally I was shitting it, but I kept the head and just looked back as I was storming …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 08:17 PM
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Fully support this. Where I live is known for being "aggressively friendly". So I could be standing outside the pub on the phone or having a smoke and some junkie covered in blood will come up to me and ask to shake my hand. Then they take the hump and get aggro when you don't want to touch them. As if I'm the dick for not wanting to touch some cunt's hand when I can see his nails are black and about 2 inches long. It's one part of the "social game" I've just never done well with navigating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:26 PM
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I'm fastidious, but Electric Death is right. I just don't touch door handles in public. Door can be opened by my foot or elbow, or not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:18 PM
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American tourists don't deserve the extent of the hate they get tbh. I live between two extremely touristy cities and yes - some of the Americans are rude as fuck and entitled, but compared to the Chinese tourists who openly litter and let their kids take shits in the street? The Yanks are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 07:00 PM
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Sea = raw attraction pilled confirmed then, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:57 PM
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Proximity. Smaller streets in urban centres here. Also public transport. Means someone can easily brush up against you and pickpocket you, whereas most places in the US you can see people coming for miles. Hard to pickpocket an alert target. Plus you have guns. Risking some broken teeth for a phone = worth it. Risking death = not worth it. Low stakes crime (pickpocketing, casual violence like fights, assaults) is much more common here because the consequences are less severe. Victim probably can…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 03:51 PM
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Totally agree with that. Every marriage and relationship is different, and people are free to have whatever conditions they want. But if someone wishes to have an effective partnership, then making these things clear to the other party before documents are signed is absolutely essential.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 03:19 PM
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Very sorry that happened to you. It's an interesting point that you mentioned about the "best years of your life" stuff. For me, that's a big part of the reason I'd be fine with her leaving. I've got a chronic autoimmune disorder (Crohns) which can leave me fucked up for weeks on end. Hopefully it won't get worse, but you never know. My wife is also almost 9 years younger than me. The thought of seeing the lively and vivacious woman I love wasting years of her life caring for me because I'm stuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:29 PM
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This is what I think as well. I really respect the "sickness and health" people, but I'm more of a "if you love them, let them go" type.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:35 PM
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Been away for a few days so I'm going to return with a controversial discussion topic: I genuinely don't think there's anything wrong with leaving a partner when they get sick. If a relationship isn't serving you any more, then leaving it is completely justified. You only get a limited time on Earth, so it's understandable not to want to spend it as a carer. Also, I don't believe that anyone should be held hostage in a relationship due to obligation or guilt. Who agrees and who disagrees? Why an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 11:59 AM
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Well, imo big gestures aren't appropriate for a first date. Looks don't come in to it, really. Bar is pretty standard for a first meeting - a lot of people don't want a sit down meal with someone they don't know yet. Don't see anything wrong there. Problem here is that she ran in to a rude person. I had a couple of similar experiences when I used OLD: women complaining about my looks when I arrived to meet them. Some people are just weird and rude. It happens. You just have to shrug and move on …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 11:27 AM
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Man I think I saw that kid you were looking f- ...HEY!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:52 PM
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Man, don't even get me started. I'd be here all day. My parents are exactly the same. Both left school in their early teens and neither have ever had a job, yet believe they are the pinnacle of human intelligence. Dealing with them exhausts me. I learned long ago to just leave them to their own devices, because telling them otherwise is like screaming in to the void.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:07 PM
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Egg boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:34 PM
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Yeah Angmar is right, we're talking more about venting here than chatchatting. 60ish minutes of monologuing where all you can really say in response is "yeah?", "that sucks, you did well to get through that", "that's great well done", "i am proud of you", "it will work out" or similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:34 PM
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Phone down, TV on something relaxing. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:04 PM
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100% nail on head. A lot of it is spiralling about the same thing again and again, just from slightly different perspectives. I think it's quite rare to realise that indulging spiralling thoughts is not productive. I guess when you're in that frame of mind - especially if you're someone with ADHD or anxiety - it's difficult to see the forest for the trees. Many would say that tough love exposure therapy style refusal to talk beyond two repetitions would be the best method for dealing with this. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:02 PM
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I tend to agree. I've always taken on the brunt of the emotional labour in my relationships, whilst being very emotionally taciturn myself. For instance, I have always chosen women who like to talk me through their work day for an hour or so when they arrive home. Whereas when I get home, I just want to forget about work and not talk about it at all. Means I am taking on the role of active listener much more often than they are. Which is fine, but I resent people implying that men don't know how…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:51 AM
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Agree. Very cheap work. Should not look so faded at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:26 AM
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I suspect this is a fake story written by a woman. That's not the methods by which men peer pressure one another. A sit-down intervention in a brewery lol. 100% women writing men material. A) Group breakups are more of a womens' thing. B) If the two friends did really desire this, the way a man would do it would be to lead by example and then provide an opportunity for OP to stray from his marriage. For example: fully embrace the single party life to make OP jealous, then book a lads' trip to Am…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:22 AM
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Yup. It's just so frustrating to watch someone resort to shrieking and childish insults over the slightest inconvenience. Like how did they navigate through life when they're like this all the time. Mine are still at it. I provide for them now, and we were over there the other day bringing them shopping. My wife got annoyed with how much my mother was complaining about what I bought, so said "you know you are very lucky to have a son who will do this. Many would put you in an elder care home." M…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:15 AM
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Although I think my wife would be okay with it if that's what I wanted. They're just clones, after all. She can brutally murder them afterwards with no moral or legal repercussions if she does end up feeling jealous, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:49 AM
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Nah, just wouldn't interest me. Group sex is something I kinda find disgusting (caveat for the clone situation, as they don't really count). At the very least, I've never felt like I needed the extra stimulation during sex. One partner is enough for me. The clones can go for the shopping and do house tasks instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:45 AM
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Overrated when positioned as the most important quality, but it's still high on the list of importance imo. I've been with sourpusses who can't have a laugh before. It's like putting a monochrome filter over the day's events. It's linked with intelligence too. Smarter people tend to have quicker wits. And no one wants to be with a dullard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:41 AM
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If by temporarily cloned you mean the duplicates have a short lifespan (a few hours or a day) then yes, definitely. If the clones are permanent then no. Because even though they start as a copy of my personality to begin with, even minor different experiences will eventually butterfly effect them in to a completely different person.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:27 AM
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My parents were very similar. Considering their worst fear is public embarrassment, in retrospect I really should have reported their antics to the authorities when I was a child. Or at least spoke openly about them. There would have been little repercussions, but holding their fears over their heads would have given me more agency.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:23 AM
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He loses all credibility by ranking eye contact above body lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:14 AM
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With a camera too 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 10:22 PM
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I really enjoyed It's What's Inside. Newish horror about body-switching.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 10:20 PM
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For real. They are all extremely vicious to one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:29 PM
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There really are a lot of femcels in the main sub. More common to see on here than incels, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:13 PM
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Exactly. I'm not obtuse; I know that my concerns are over 1 in a million scenarios. Risk-taking is not going to "prove" anything to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:52 PM
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You hit the nail on the head with that description. It's like they're reading from a script. Get more understanding from Amazon customer service.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:33 PM
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A lot of them are clueless. I have OCD, mainly around home security. Sought out CBT for it. I get why exposure therapy can work, but it has to be applied intelligently. The approach of the therapist I had was to say "well would that be the end of the world?" to everything, which is unhelpful. When she asked me why I wouldn't leave my front door unlocked overnight, I told her that it's because I don't want my wife to get raped and my pets to be murdered. Her response was legitimately "yes but wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:28 PM
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I live near two very touristy cities, and although tourists can often be really obnoxious, they really don't deserve how badly they get ripped off by restaurants and pubs. It's the soft drinks that always fuck them. We don't do free refills here, so you're paying full price each time. Tourists who come from countries that do refill your glass for free don't know this, and end up being presented with a bill that includes £40-50 worth of Coca Cola. Price of an extra meal and a half on soft drinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:05 PM
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If they have food banks where you live, then don't be embarrassed to go to one. This is exactly what they're there for.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:18 AM
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Understood. Very wise. Have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:06 AM
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Why no long term any more? Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:55 AM
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I couldn't do it. Barcus Wroot has to die if you're taking the evil path. That is unacceptable to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:40 PM
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£7 on eBay. Yeah, I think I will.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:31 PM
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Ok that's fair. I do have age goggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:22 PM
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She's 6/10 and he's 5/10. People rank her higher because of the blonde halo, but she's really pre-pubescent looking. I feel nauseated rating a dead girl, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:16 PM
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Coronary heart disease. It's the reason few of us reach 60 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:00 PM
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Yeah there's a cutoff! It's similar to mates with kids - can't call them after 9pm at night. Opposite gender friend cutoff is usually 11pm, but after a few years you can work you way up to a midnight cutoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:57 PM
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Ya both tofu and tempeh are made from soybeans, so I guess they're kinda cousins.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:53 PM
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Hahaha I got one when I was a student for a joke. Honestly... no bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:51 PM
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It's also called tempeh! Edamame beans that have been fermented. Gives them an umami taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:50 PM
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<image> Beancurd, borlotti beans, okra, broccoli, tomatoes, garlic, basil, tagliatelle. A succulent Italian meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:45 PM
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Yeah, I'd allow it. If the kids have no idea, obviously the parents keep that part of their life well hidden. As it should be. No worries about their influence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:43 PM
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Yup, I agree. One of my good friends is a woman, and we both maintain an unspoken distance. We became pals through a niche hobby, and are both happily married. So we do our hobby together and hangout, text etc. But we would never get drunk together, or hang out alone at either of our houses, or do midnight texts. Nothing would happen if we did. It's just how it would look to others. Not appropriate. I'm sure everyone knows the diff between "pal who happens to female" and "girl bestie". One's fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:37 PM
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Your rice was fine! It's nice to fancy it up sometimes, but plain white rice with some salt is a standard base for lots of Asian dishes. People on here don't appreciate simple food. Said it before, I will say it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:51 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=upRy3RZ3e5I
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 06:07 PM
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Tried to make one. It makes things worse. Too many coloured lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 06:03 PM
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Me reading this post back to myself:
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 05:59 PM
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I'm watching a horror movie where a guy has invented a device which lets people switch consciousnesses. He's brought it to a house party with his friends, and he's using it to psychologically fuck with them. Stoke jealousy, insecurity etc. Inspired by that, Q4A: You are at that party with your partner (hypothetical partner for the single Pringles). Everyone has switched bodies, and now you're all playing truth or dare. Which scenario would make you feel more uncomfortable: A) Watching your partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 05:57 PM
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Suspiria! Fuck yes, what a film.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:34 AM
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Man is a seriously good actor.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:23 AM
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The femcel list combined with the incel list is basically a rundown of my top 50 movies tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:15 AM
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<image> Although I have previously been told that my biggest movie red flag is Death Wish (1974).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:11 AM
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Oh yeah, jalepeños, peppers, onion. The spicier it is, the more comfort it provides.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 12:59 AM
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The simple pizza.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 12:57 AM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 12:54 AM
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I have so many core memories that are linked to beer it is unreal. The refreshment it provides when you've been working hard all day is unparalleled. Especially when you've not drank in a long while.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 12:52 AM
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Beer. I really love the taste of beer. But I keep it on a tight leash as I don't want to become an alcoholic or get an unhealthy BMI. If it had 0 calories I'd drink it all day long.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 12:44 AM
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Nope. All the ones I've met match the stereotype precisely.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 11:45 PM
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Couldn't do it. I'd be too paranoid that they would miss the lifestyle and want to open it up again. Plus also, people who have open relationships tend to look... ehhh... well, you know. So it's a no all round.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 11:34 PM
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VERY NICE.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:26 PM
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That's a long way away. Your mind and perceptions will likely change by then. Also your dick will probably only be getting hard once every two weeks anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:12 PM
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You've been letting the PPD Daily foodposter side down recently by not posting what you've been making.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:54 PM
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Literally all of my mates' houses look like this. It's not to my taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:27 PM
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Nothing to change. You're right. Partially, at least. Other problem is people who treat second, third, fifth, sixth hand anecdotes from dubious sources as hard evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 07:57 PM
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I've never had one tbh, but I think ripping them off is funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:24 PM
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<image> PPD women: slick or ick?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:18 PM
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Try the r4r sub. Women message first on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:30 PM
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Nah man I can't hold it back.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:32 PM
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If it's not bait then it's just another example of the ignorant attitudes that people (especially women) who look younger than their age have to deal with. Which is worse than bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:32 PM
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Struggling to not reply to it. I have big opinions on the subject, but committed to the PPD detox.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:00 PM
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Not me, man! https://youtu.be/ws0dZEcbBWs?si=MJ_tVliXBW7OR--_
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:40 PM
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Naw man, this has caused a legit problem here. 12ish years ago in Scotland, a rich student girl killed an old woman whole drunk driving. She got jailed for it, and unfortunately killed herself because she couldn't handle life inside. Very sad, but it caused lots of feminist groups to petition the government to abolish womens' prisons. The government has largely conceded; there are only 42 female prisoners in Scotland now. The logic is sound at first glance - women tend not to commit as severe cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:13 PM
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Someone else do an AMA. I am nosy and enjoy learning you peoples' lore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:55 PM
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Sex isn't really the important part here, imo. I'm more referring to tolerance levels with regards to making allowances for the needs, mannerisms and habits of a close romantic partner, especially when said habits are annoying/unpleasant. Just speaking from experience, those things were quite tough to learn. Took me a couple of relationships to get it right. When you're close with someone, inhibitions fade away. That's good and bad. Good because it fosters the right environment for deep emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:48 PM
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Okay, two questions for you. One serious, one silly. Serious one first. Re: your inexperience with relationships, virginity etc. Do you fear that when you do get in to a relationship, you won't have the tools necessary to make you a good partner? You're a smart woman; you don't need me to point out the difference between theoretics and practice. If this is something you worry about - what do you intend to do to combat it? If not - why not? Silly one(s) now. What's your drink of choice? How much …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:27 PM
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Finch? Mine is decked out in full wizard gear.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:22 PM
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Man, I look like an escaped mental patient. Every single woman I've ever been with in my entire life has been much more attractive than me. If you can get with someone better looking than you, you take that opportunity and don't question it. Imo, people who say otherwise are the pontifex maximus of cope. Cope John Paul II.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 02:23 PM
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Religious people seem to manage it. Monks, nuns, priests (insert diddler joke here) etc. But regular people? I doubt it. It would take a very stoic individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:22 PM
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Billie Piper.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:07 PM
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Walked out the barber after saying "give me the St. Francis of Assisi cut" and now he's straight up blathering away to himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 04:45 PM
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Tried it. He just told me that I could pull Anya Taylor-Joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 04:43 PM
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Hahahaha WHAT! ChatGPT can tell you what your league is now?! That is wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 04:38 PM
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<image> Prepping. Dough for pizza. Cajun chips.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 03:53 PM
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I know, it's frustrating. It's a self-preservation thing, I think. Can't get hurt if you're never officially together.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 03:30 PM
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Definitions vary. For me, it was: "Seeing someone" = no committment, so you can sleep with whoever else you want. I think that's what people call FWB. Or similar enough. "With someone" = committed relationship, no sleeping with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 03:19 PM
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I have a fine selection of bedroom chairs for sale, if you're interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 02:10 PM
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No music in the car is so legit though. Shut the fuck up I'm trying to operate a 2 ton vehicle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:09 PM
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Sugar dating sounds like the most straightforward option to achieve what you want, but somehow I don't think that's your thang.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:04 PM
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<image> And dessert. A big dirty porter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:00 PM
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Yes, it's excellent! Really unique flavour, works very well together. The mint adds a wee zap which is a nice contrast to the savoury.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:59 PM
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Ya I shat myself that it wouldn't cook evenly so diced the onions and "steak" too finely, which made it in to slurry. I'll know better for next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:54 PM
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Naw you're right I have no attention to detail. Second it's done I just slop it down on the plate. Fail at the last hurdle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:41 PM
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I'm mainly a "wing it" style cook, but as for guidelines: For the seitan: VWG, soy sauce, paprika, liquid smoke, vegan worcestershire sauce, garlic, granulated onion. Mixed and pressure cooked for 1 hour, then stuck in the fridge. If you eat meat I recommend just buying a steak and cutting it up instead. Pastry is similar to bread with flour and water, but add lots of butter or butter substitute. Or simply buy pre-rolled. Line tin with pastry, add onions, "steak"/steak, and gravy (who can be fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:33 PM
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Mozzarella, easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:20 PM
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<image> Dinnerposting. Seitan "steak", onion and gravy pie with broccoli sauteed in garlic and mint. 0/10 spice level no bumholes burnt today.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:19 PM
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Air fryer. Need the crisp factor you only get from one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:03 PM
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That's a good point. Could very well be a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:39 PM
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There will be a few bots, scammers and time wasters I'm sure, but not 216 out of 217 of them. I've done Tinder, and the people to robot ratio is simply not that high. I checked out his comments. As suspected, guy's a prick. Take a look. Here's one of his finest: > It might be hard for you to understand but it's a super simple cause and effect. When one group of people is complete assholes to me, I don't like them. They are nothing but worthless shitbags. Fuck shits. Douche bag, ass hats, mother …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:34 PM
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I agree that the problem is him, but not the cause. He's getting matches and chats. Looks aren't what's stopping him. 719 matches in ~4 years. That's a match roughly every 2 days. The man is not struggling to attract women - he's struggling to not turn them off when he speaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:25 PM
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Look where the dropoff occurs. Chats to dates. Many of those can be explained by time wasters/perma penpals, but not for a chat to date result of less than 0.5%. That's the point of failure for him. He can get the matches, he just turns them off when he speaks. I'll wager he is on the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:16 PM
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Hot Lack you're a cool guy. I believe you could belong in many places.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 12:41 AM
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Ah, completely understand. Bittersweet situation. Maybe one day she'll come round to the idea of not having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:37 AM
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I enjoy the cooking reveals. Looks great.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:35 AM
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Why not get back with her? I know you said the other day that you find some of her habits annoying, but there's clearly still a lot of affection there. Don't feel pressured to answer if that's too personal btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:32 AM
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Fuck me, there's Gene Hackman away. Under strange circumstances too - wife and dog also dead. Sounds like carbon monoxide poisoning to me. Not the way I expected a 95 year old to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:16 AM
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Those who manipulate the market, control the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:44 PM
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Ok, my "brother".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:42 PM
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I suspect that you're saying things in order to get men to argue with you, and your goal is to see them insist that they are attracted to "normal level" pretty women. It's reverse psychology rhetoric, and very similar to something a certain female poster on the main sub does. I won't blow your cover, because witch hunting is banned. But I see you! Don't think I don't see you!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:35 PM
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You should have posted this shot as the main picture. Looks excellent here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:07 PM
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Be honest; are you really a "blue pill man" or is this the alt account of a very insecure woman? Because everything you say makes it sound like the latter. No offence intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:06 PM
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Cba doing full bookshelf reveal, but will do bottom of the bed blanket chest reading pile reveal. Nonce book, horror book, and two antisocial books: <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:00 PM
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She sounds exhausting. If she wasn't putting in effort on her end, then you have nothing to feel regretful about. Takes two to tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:50 PM
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The Chinese spyware says I look 26. Vampire confirmed 🧛
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:45 PM
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Fantastic specimen.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 11:54 AM
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Aw shit not even in a meta context? I'll get rid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 11:52 AM
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Show cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 11:49 AM
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Cannot stand melts like this. Blue tick and veneers on direct debit, life on finance but giving it the big one to scam gullible cabbages on Tiktok. If he really was a multimillionaire trader he wouldn't be selling places on a private Telegram for a fiver a pop. Copy-paste trades and posing with stacks of fake money. Wankstain.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 11:23 AM
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Looks like he's been crying. He should let the stubble grow in on his head a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 11:18 AM
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I'm not sure it really matters tbh. If they're shy and non-confrontational like you said, then they'll probably just agree with you when you bring it up. If they don't rock the boat with him, they probably won't rock the boat with you either. That said, it'll do no harm to just ask them outright if they condemn it or not. Maybe they're just waiting for an opportunity to take a stand, and you need to lead the way. That's the optimistic outcome though. But at least you'll know, which is better tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:48 AM
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Don't count on your friends to back you up here. I've spoke about this on PPD before: wife and I have been shunned from our former group of progressive wokie friends because I called out one of their partners for being a convicted rapist. Made it clear that neither I nor my wife were ever to be in the same room as him when he got out, but they ignored it and brought him to an event anyway. I greeted him with "hello rapist" and shit hit the fan. What I learned is that there are a lot of people wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:35 AM
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Look at Sayid leading the polls so far. Wouldn't have expected it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:08 PM
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Not cancelled. It got a good finale if you are the type of person who likes to analyse philosophical and ambiguous endings to stories. Very bad ending if you like things neatly tied up and spelled out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:06 PM
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Common Norway W.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:04 PM
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Yeah, but the very thought of another man having any physical contact with my wife puts me in to an immediate homicidal rage. So although I maybe don't understand things from the threesome havers' perspective, surely there has to be some sort of humiliation/cuckoldry kink going on with him to want to see that happening, no? Even if he is also involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:01 PM
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Does he have some sort of cuckold fetish?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:54 AM
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Do you think Ben and Michael will eventually earn their redemptive passing over ending like the rest of them did?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:53 AM
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Idea #2 sounds similar to the 2006 Jason Statham movie Crank. He gets a pacemaker rigged to explode if his heartbeat falls below a certain level. There's a scene where he has sex with someone in public to keep it elevated. Decent movie. They made a sequel too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:50 AM
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That's awful. Pet deaths are horrendous things to deal with 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:46 AM
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Wooft, that's heavy. Care to explain the link a bit more? If not, no problem. Sorry for your loss either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:42 AM
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What made you so hypersexual? Were you always like this? Was it some sort of trauma response? Bang out of order questions, but you did say we could ask anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:38 AM
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Piss privilege is very underrated. I'll add being able to go in a bottle when you're a passenger on a long distance car journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:35 AM
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If you're in a position of authority at work or whatever, it's easier to get people to respect that authority.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:27 AM
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You can go to the pub or have a night out and chances are you won't have to deal with some random belligerent maniac who wants to fight you just because his coked-up mind has decided that he doesn't like your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:16 AM
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I can't sleep, so I'm going to watch Christine starring Rebecca Hall. Been meaning to get round to this one for a while. It's a biopic about Christine Chubbuck, the reporter who killed herself live on air in 1974. Her primary motive (alongside depression and anxiety) was her lack of romantic relationships. In that sense, she may be considered the first incel. Not sure if femcel is the correct terminology for her case. Strange that I've never saw her discussed on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:57 AM
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<image> ? In Italian! I thought "from concentrate" was a pretty common term worldwide?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:06 PM
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Hit the nail on the head again there. If I was the person I used to be when I was younger, my wife would not have regarded me as a serious individual. Re: the advice the poster is asking for, absolutely - if someone is showing the signs of having reformed their character, then judge on their current behaviour. How they treat you etc. The present is more important than the past - retroactive jealousy can be a killer. But also do confirm that they've actually done the work they claim. Nothing wron…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:30 PM
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Does my wife know that I cheated on women in the past, do you mean? Yeah, she knows. She knows all about the person I used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:10 PM
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Fuck, you're right. I didn't even see that gaping hole in my own logic. I think your stance is more pragmatic and sensible than what I said. And people should follow it as Plan A. But at the same time, I can't deny my own experience. I did go from being a horrible little bastard to a good husband, and that is partially because of the person my wife is. All I can say is: I never met anyone like her when I was younger, and if I had, my relationship history would definitely not have been so tumultu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:08 PM
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Sure. Nothing I said implies otherwise, I don't think. If you think it did then - definitely wasn't meaning that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:40 PM
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Yeah, it's not something I personally understand either. But I think they have quite a lot of problems with street harassment there (they have gender segregated subway cars? Is that correct?) so I get where they're coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:27 PM
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I'm certainly capable. Everyone is capable. But I'm an entirely different person now, so it's extremely unlikely. When I was younger and cheated, I did not take anything in life seriously. I wasn't dating for marriage, or with intent for longterm partnership. Nothing really mattered to me. I grew up, and my perspective on life changed. So did my goals, and what I valued. It was easy to cheat when I had no goals or values in life. I contend that it is much harder to cheat when you care about some…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:11 PM
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Nah, wouldn't want to invade a female-only space. Even if it's only unofficially segregated, the women who go there clearly don't want men around. I respect their wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:02 PM
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I dunno if I'd describe my past as "wild" per se, but I've had my share of one night stands and short flings. And (I am ashamed to say) when I was younger I did cheat on a couple of girlfriends. The answer is - based on my own experience - yes, it is very possible for someone who has been "wild" or has cheated in past relationships to entirely change their ways and be a loyal and dedicated partner. I am married now, and I am so loyal and dedicated to my wife that people I know (lovingly, not in …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:20 PM
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To have myself, or for a partner to have? Myself: don't really care, doesn't matter much to me. Partner: given my age/location/social circles, average is somewhere in the 5-20 region. Which is fine by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:10 PM
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When you're in a relationship/married and getting your female partner flowers, have them sent to her work so all her female coworkers can see. If a tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, does it really make a noise logic. But it's had unanimously positive results for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:28 PM
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<image> Extremely disagreeable is probably accurate, but I'd have guessed my extroversion was much lower and neuroticism a bit higher, if I was asked to rate them myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:10 AM
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There's Kanye and the woman who looked uncomfortable in the see-through dress just split up. Thoughts?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 02:23 PM
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Makes sense. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:54 PM
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Your situation is fascinating, man. Zero judgement here. But would prozzies not be a faster way to up that bodycount? Easy way to skip ahead, if being good at sex is one of the main concerns. Can practice all you like with them, and fuck it you could start tonight.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:50 PM
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And this will be a form of revenge on womankind, correct? Interesting. Do you think you will manage to keep to this resolve when the time comes? What's your willpower like in other areas?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:42 PM
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Bit of horse before the cart there, but fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:36 PM
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Are you currently cheating on someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:33 PM
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Or just don't marry a slag. They're very easy to identify, so there's no real excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 12:23 PM
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Of course. It's not the done thing because of gender roles and all that pish, but I have no objection. It's sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:30 AM
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It's natural for people to care more about the opinions of the demographic whom they most desire. A man can be called ugly by 100 other guys and it will be water off a duck's back because he's got no romantic interest in men. Not so for getting called ugly by women. That hurts more because it means something to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:28 AM
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Same criteria as I'd judge someone's ability to draw. If you can look at a picture and copy it, and it looks pretty good - you can draw. Someone who can draw a picture from their mind and have it look good is an artist, and they're rarer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:22 AM
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It's inhibition. Which, I suppose you could say is an aspect of personality. They're all highly inhibited, socially anxious, and possibly autistic. High inhibition is a bigger catalyst for social and romantic disaster than looks and personality combined. It's misguided of the original post to imply that being unhinged would be a turnoff. Unhinged usually means uninhibited, which (unless accompanied by Actual Steak "I want to smell your farts" outright weirdness) is a good thing for attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:17 AM
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Naw I definitely don't think that. You're getting me wrong. What I mean is, if (some) women on here insist that immediate lust doesn't exist (from a woman's perspective), then how do they explain short-term or immediately sexual encounters? Get my meaning now? It just doesn't add up. I don't buy the line that women are inherently asexual. Outside of Reddit, I've never saw that being widely believed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:30 PM
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Unlikely to do so on this thread, because of the Reddit demographic. Not trying to be controversial, but majority of women on Reddit just aren't the type to engage in immediate sex with a stranger they find hot. Nothing wrong with that - everyone is different. But outside of that demographic, people are different. The way I've always been accustomed to things - you meet someone on a night out or on OLD; you have sex within the first few meetings; then maybe you start dating, if you get along wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:18 PM
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That's you though, and that's completely valid. But as far as I know from your posts, you don't dogmatically insist that all other women are the same as you, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:01 PM
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I've saw this said a few times on here, and I don't understand it. Are they saying that no woman has ever felt immediately attracted to a man on looks alone? Because that seems like a bizarre thing to claim. Surely a majority of women will balk at that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:38 PM
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Still gonna choose allegation, I think. Being raped would fuck me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:23 PM
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Long story short: During my undergrad, I worked as chargehand in a pub. I did the dayshift, and we got a lot of alkies who would get rowdy, and it was my responsibility to make them leave. Day after I turfed one woman out, the police came in wanting to speak to me about an allegation she made against me. I shat myself, but it turned out that her allegation wasn't about me turfing her out the day before... she claimed that I had raped her when she was a child. Which was in the mid 70s - 10 years …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:16 PM
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I had a public false claim made against me when I was a teen. It was by an insane person, so was disproved in under 24 hours. I'd rather have that happen again than be raped. Rape is scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:08 PM
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Silly, because the cultural expectation is that men do the asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:34 PM
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I'm a 1. About as introverted as an individual could get. In fact no, I'm chatting on here right now, aren't I? I'll change it to a 2. No social anxiety whatsoever though. I'm the opposite - too bold, too confrontational, too loud, too gregarious. I just get tired of socialising very, very easily. I can go from laughing and joking to getting my coat and sneaking out at a moment's notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:17 PM
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It's too fun, and most people on here are lowkey decent. Or at least, they're interesting. I'd rather engage in this brainrot than talk to my coworkers tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:39 PM
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Mate when are you actually going to escape? I am here for your prison break story arc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:24 PM
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King of the Hill master race. It didn't run for long enough to become bad. Still holds up too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:55 PM
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Nah, it's not fun having your autonomy denied. As much as I semi-jokingly support Lorena Bobbitt, being stalked/obsessed over is genuinely scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:48 PM
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I feel the same, but it's just not worth the risk. I have meticulous, borderline obsessive tendencies. That will either result in the best dad ever, or Chris Benoit mark 2. Why take the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:45 PM
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Seeing this attitude more and more in recent years, and I love it. So infuriating to be told that I'd be a good dad by someone who doesn't know me. I KNOW ME.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:40 PM
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It's weird - looking back, me and all my pals were insanely jealous of him at 14. But by the time we reached 19 ourselves, we thought people like him were the most pathetic daftarses on the planet. Infuriating that these people slip under the radar, but what can ya do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:38 PM
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But yes, I suppose the old Butcher's Apron is fine too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:36 PM
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Sick, but there's genuinely nothing that can be done. When I was 14, there was a 19 year old who had shagged a lot of the girls in my school year. He had the nickname Tampon because "he was the first thing up a young girl's cunt". Absolutely disgusting, and illegal. But if the parents know and don't care then... forget it Jake, it's Chinatown.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:17 PM
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Opinions on childfree men? Just asking, not offering any judgement or arguments on your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:02 PM
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I'll add: being in a (successful) band.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:39 PM
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Brainwashed in to believing it's the thing a good lefty feminist partner would agree to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:54 PM
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To be fair, who wants to fight and possibly die for some rich cunt who views me as disposable cannon fodder. I'd fight to protect myself/wife/pets, but that's it. Jail where I live isn't so bad - I'd rather be there than at war.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:48 PM
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When I was younger, I was always conditioned to believe that it was the second worst possible thing someone could do to their partner. I'm not so sure about that any more. We've become a much more snoopy, snitchy society since then. And accustomed to being monitored and spied upon. I read a statistic the other day saying that roughly 30% of Gen Z supported the idea of the government installing CCTV cameras inside people's private homes. So maybe it's not so bad any more, given the current genera…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:31 PM
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Married. Pre-empting the question: I'm the one who keeps strictly to the 3 day rule. She's the one who will pick mould off things and eat them. Name a more iconic duo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:39 PM
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Timon and Pumba gave me unrealistic friendship expectations though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:46 PM
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Just discovered a sofrito base I made 4 days ago and kept in tupperware at the back of the fridge. I don't usually consume past 3 days, but we're taking a risk tonight. Fuck it, we'll do it live.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:38 PM
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Average full-time housekeeper earns about 2K per month where I'm from (according to Google). Average prostitute where I'm from earns about £100 per errrr... "go". Again, according to Google. Assuming the Platinum service user will want a sexual act once per day, I'd put that at 700 a week. So for full-time Platinum, cost is £1200 per week. For Diamond - factoring in the exclusivity - I think about £1500 per week is fair. Bangmaid will be earning £78k per year, which is excellent. Puts her in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 04:16 PM
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Absolutely not. I'd go volcel. I'm lucky enough to be married to my ideal partner, but it took years of careful trial and error to find her. The chance of lightning striking twice is extremely low. Couldn't do it all again. Love of my life then back to "what's your favourite colour" - nah, not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 09:14 AM
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I don't really think either tbh. It makes sense that lots of people on a niche social media app are high earners, because it attracts nerdy tech types. And I don't see anyone on here at least trying to pass themselves off as shaggers extraordinaire. Just ask 'em to video call you and show you their house/partner if you think someone's lying. Call their bluff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:58 PM
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It happens, but it's rare. So be cautious, but don't worry yourself sick over it. Don't leave your drink unattended when out (even if friends say they will watch it - friends are often lax), keep your hand over the top when in busy areas, don't accept drinks from strangers unless you've watched it being opened. And there's these wee net safety things with straws that you can get to put over your drink. I think lots of universities give them out for free nowadays anyway. Just keep your wits about…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:30 PM
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This is hilarious. She missed a trick not firing back with "does G stand for gay?"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:23 PM
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Nah, let him set the pace. If he mentions it, that's how you'll know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:08 PM
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I grew up below working class - basically Jerry Springer guest scum. First in my family to have a job that they weren't forced to get in order to claim benefits, never mind first to go to university etc. Although I'm not a multimillionaire, I've got a good job, career, house, investments, savings etc. But it was the experience of growing up with literally nothing that made me want to protect these things. I've seen folk kick seven shades of shite out of each other over a pack of fags, so I know …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:15 PM
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Yes, why not. Go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:35 PM
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Good comment imo. This is it in a nutshell: leave situation - wait feelings out - use emotional energy to do something positive for yourself or loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:09 PM
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Could be, yeah. But they don't fight each other as frequently either. Less testosterone probably a big factor, but I believe socialisation plays a part too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:06 PM
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Sometimes I really feel like me and Kanye would get along very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:59 PM
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Why are we like this though. For women, someone can insult or disrespect them in public and it's just water off a duck's back. They can just tell them to fuck off, walk away and not think about it again. For me, I am fizzing with anger for days if not weeks unless there is an immediate physical confrontation. I don't know any man who isn't the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:53 PM
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You're totally right. I forget who it was, but I was talking to a woman on here who said she thought she could handle herself in a fight against a man. I advised her against it based on biological differences, but it the male psychosocial aspect of it didn't occur to me until a few days later. When men attack random women, it's usually because they want to rape them. That's why it's so important for women to learn to throw a punch - because if they can fight back at all, after taking a few shots…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:47 PM
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Equal parts her, him, everyone who disbelieves me, and the police. Fuck them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:34 PM
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It's toast. Beans and toast. https://youtu.be/fXPQLXjC_KA?si=H0MpsnoNTPgESH4L
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:28 PM
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Ah, right. Think Big Ben's been broken for about 10 years now though. Doubt most of the younger Brit demographic getting called that by inexplicably triggered Americans even know what it is any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:21 PM
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Wasn't me, was just a thread I was reading. But what's that? A retard stoner?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:14 PM
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His boundary is fine, but it's the way he went about expressing it. I don't like going down when someone is on their period. I've just said "I've got a bit of a thing about blood, so is it cool if I don't do that this time?" and it has never been received poorly. If he had worded it in a similar way, I bet this would be a non-issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:10 PM
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Likely insufferable personality. Usually the answer in these situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:54 PM
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They were really going full offended patriot the other week when UK folk were asking if they'd ever heard of Robbie Williams. Responses were all "NO why would we you Londonistan bad teeth no seasoning Muslim cuck what happened in 1776 fuck the queen tea in the harbour lol u mad bro????" Fucking hell, it was just a question. The guy's a national joke in Britain, and he just released a biopic internationally. People were wondering if he was also seen as a joke in other countries. But Americans are…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:42 PM
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Last week I got one from 4 days previous. It was a Q4M I posted which was tangential to something discussed deep in a comment section of one of the main threads. Moderation was "no discussion of main topics in daily". Lol, it's from 4 days ago. The horse has already bolted the stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:10 PM
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No; he's slightly better looking right now. Although if she lost 30-40 pounds, she'd easily eclipse him. Such is the power of obesity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:38 AM
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Happened one of my first weeks on OLD. Had a date on the Thursday of a bank holiday weekend (for those not in UK - that's a public holiday from Fri through Mon). Had a great time, she stayed at mine, slept together etc. Next day she suggested spending the day together. I said fuck it why not, and she stayed over that night again. Saturday morning when she left, she suggested meeting up again on Sunday. I said yep, sounds good. Never heard from her again. Completely ghosted. Weird as fuck. Maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:39 PM
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No one actually behaves like that bar weirdos on the Internet. First date with my wife ages (35 and 27) we spoke about goats, ghosts, ranked British TV celebrity sex offenders by the severity of their crimes, and ridiculed Disney adults. If someone had asked me what I brought to the table, I would have slid under aforementioned table and slunk straight out the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:33 PM
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Perhaps. We're all different, after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:08 PM
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Naw I'm fully on board with you. The ideal woman is picky, and picks you. I think that 0.6% swipe rate from you is about right.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:07 PM
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It's not just sexual. Remember the social benefits of being with an attractive person; people openly state that they're jealous of you; you get treated better by proxy; get to feel like you've "won" at life. There is a psychosocial aspect to lust that is often overlooked. Covetousness is a powerful motivator on the human psyche. And moreover, basking in the light of someone else's halo effect makes you never want to lose that feeling. Conversely, when someone isn't such a (in a psychosocial sens…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:04 PM
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Something Avril Lavigne-coded about this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:57 PM
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We treat people we view as attractive better than those we view as unattractive/neutral. We just do. It's a human flaw. Halo effect, all that jazz. Respect them more too. And two things everyone wants in a relationship is to be treated well, and to be respected. Relationships just seem to work better when there's strong mutual lust. That's my view on it, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:55 PM
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Don't catastrophise. You applied where you did for a reason. And you must have thought they were good enough when you made the applications. Trust your past decisions. The most important thing is that when you get to uni, make the most of your education. Study hard and get good grades. That is worth more than a fancy schmancy name. And if you feel otherwise, you can do what I did and transfer to another uni after your first year 🌚
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:35 PM
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<image> This guy from an Andy Warhol art project in the 60s looks so much like me that my own mother thought it was Photoshopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:14 AM
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Bizarre PPD questions are my favourite. From seeing me in real life, maybe 300ish. If we include OLD likes then 1000ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:07 AM
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Not a fucking chance she'll be able to handle it. Grandparents raising it within a year, MMW.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 12:13 AM
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Doesn't work that way mate. Surely you know someone with autistic kids? You can try to discipline/reality check/tough love the autism out of people all you want, but it'll never work. Their brains are different. I'm sure she'd prefer not to have the headphones on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 12:05 AM
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There's a guy in an Andy Warhol art piece photo collection from the 1950s who is my literal double. Even my own mother thought someone had inserted a picture of me as a joke the first time she saw it. So probably him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 11:28 PM
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Well, I think gory horror films are quite a tame interest tbh. And it's only a mild foot fetish, which isn't that bad (and it doesn't run my life, not like a requirement for me to get off). But yes, embarrassingly enough I have been jailed for fighting a few times in the past, and charged once. I was a silly, silly boy when I was a student/early 20s :\
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 11:19 PM
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I know Lily, but I just don't like fancy phones. Mine is a cheap Chinese brand from Amazon. I'm sorry to disappoint everyone like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 11:13 PM
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124 which apparently makes me "Chad" (lol). Ones that brought me down: not a nice person, don't have kids, do have criminal record, have shitty off-brand phone, under 6ft, enjoy gory horror films, have a fetish, don't have attractive face. Lot of nonsense though, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 11:09 PM
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Aw, me for sure. I'm the one who is responsible for any emotion I feel. Problem is that anger is energising and addictive for me, and my historic bad habit was to go along with it and let it snowball. I don't do that any more though. An hour later now and I've processed it; it's more exasperating and semi-funny than anger-inducing now. We're back to chill mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:23 AM
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Unfortunately, I can't handle weed at all. Makes me unable to mentally multitask or even think about more than one thing at the same time, and then the loss of control/vulnerability I feel from that makes me freak out. Tried it numerous times over the years, to the same effect each time. Very jealous of those who feel relaxed when smoking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 09:40 AM
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Few things tick me off more than overly familiar cunts who don't know when to shut up. Have a meeting at a different office today, so got a taxi in. Driver blabbering on about kids the whole way. Asks me if I've got kids. Naw. Asks me if I want kids. Naw, got a vasectomy. That set the daftarse off; telling me I'm way too young to make that kind of decision, and asking me why I did it. Most people would take my answer - that I'm not fit to be a father because I have absolutely no patience and a t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 09:20 AM
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I may be Monday night drunk, but I just want to say that some of you are surprisingly cool. Against all odds, the PPD daily thread is a unexpectedly nice little community. Will delete this tomorrow morning when I feel embarrassed for showing emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:12 AM
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I'd say I had a successful time on Tinder. Averaged around 3 matches a day. Materialised in to about 5 decent conversations a week. Met up/went on a date with someone roughly every 2-3 weeks. Had a good few short relationships from it, one mid-length, then matched with the woman who is now my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:15 AM
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Someone on here yesterday or the day before said you were the most dateable PPD man. I forget who it was, but unless there's another user called Yuyu, it was referencing you. Use the search function and shoot your shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:09 PM
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Yeah I'm the same, but sometimes you've got to just take the plunge. Imagine how gutted you'd be to find out someone else has snapped it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:08 PM
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I see; thanks for answering. And good luck on the timeshare. That sounds great.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:05 PM
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Absolutely fucking not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:55 PM
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Two. One serious, one fun. I saw the other day that you said something along the lines of "no man is capable of loving a woman for who they are". It wasn't exactly that, but it was similar. You said it during a discussion with someone about women being valued for thin bodies and devalued for fat ones. Question is - how do you reconcile that viewpoint with the reality of marriage. Second question: favourite DINK purchase.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:52 PM
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150kmph winds incoming and NO ONE BELIEVES ME. I've been out securing all the planters with bricks and tying everything down. Called off work tomorrow too. Feel like Jeff Goldblum in Independence Day. No one is listening. Looks fine now, but it's going to be bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 10:08 PM
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Pls don't do this. I know you're not going to listen, but I've been boxing for 20 years, and I've watched my wife get into boxing and weightlifting too. She hits like a truck - for a woman - but she gets paired with the 14 year old lads when sparring for a reason. Wasting my breath here though, no doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:40 PM
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Culture and class plays a big part in it. You've got a lot of nerdy, middle class people from the USA on here. No shade, but it's true, isn't it? They're not going to be as up for casual sex as some women elsewhere. Basically, normal is relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:35 PM
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What? Fuck that. Break it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:03 PM
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Mate are you feeling okay. I think he's handsome in his own way, but I don't think that's what they mean by "Chad".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 06:30 PM
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This will probably get the thread deleted for circlejerking, yeah. But you're right - there are all sorts of weird double standards on the main sub that just get ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 06:27 PM
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This isn't male-specific behaviour; I had an ex who did a few of the things listed. Welcome to dating. No point in being bitter about it - just find someone who isn't terrible. It's a journey, but one we all have to go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 06:27 PM
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That's a divorce. I would feel terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 06:16 PM
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Absolutely. They're out, and he did probably a nanosecond glance. If I say elephant, you're going to read it and have a nanosecond visualisation of an elephant. It means nothing - just how the brain works. Personally, I believe Zuck is very much in love with his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 05:29 PM
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I do it almost every single night in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 05:22 PM
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My personal opinion is that if they're doing it quietly, they're fine. But the type who join a community to talk and strategize about it are wrong 'uns.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 05:20 PM
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They definitely do in Northern Europe. No idea why.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 05:18 PM
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It's for the best, trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 05:15 PM
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Some of the women here are nuts. A few weeks ago one was telling me that I was a predator because I'm 39 and my wife is 31 - which is apparently disgusting because when I was 18 she was "literally 10". It was probably the same person. Just report and/or block her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:02 PM
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Only two responded that they wanted them! And even those two didn't seem to be too hung up on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:51 PM
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Looks like we're weird and undesirable then. I'm fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:48 PM
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Q4M: You've been seeing a woman for about 9 months, and she's great. Goodlooking, loyal, kind, attentive. No problems. She might be the one. Sex frequency is whatever is your ideal. She's always up for it, and thinks you are hot shit. Valentine's Day comes, and you've planned an extravagant date for her. Bought her a present, roses. The whole production. She has got you... nothing. Planned nothing. She gratefully thanks you for the evening, and seems bowled over by the effort you've made. But yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:28 PM
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I'm not going to reply to all of these, but yes I think this is unpopular! I posted the poll because I was surprised by the amount of women "somewhere else" who said that they preferred to lead the relationship, and the vitriol with which they were attacking both the women who enjoyed being led, and the men who were accustomed to leading women. And I wanted to get a pulse on what others actually thought. For what it's worth, my wife is exactly the same as you in this respect. Tbh I don't think I…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:27 PM
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Q4W: In a relationship do you prefer to lead, or do you prefer your (presumably male for the sake of the question) partner to lead? Or do you prefer a 50/50 split? Examples of day to day things that could be categorised as "leading" - Deciding what to have for dinner; being the primary driver and route planner; organising and planning vacations, dealing with electricians/plumbers/etc; coming up with dates and activities; checking doors are locked and appliances turned off before bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:03 PM
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Kinda sounds mostly like you've got a (justified) beef with your stepfather which is clouding your judgement by being an axe that you can't help publicly grind. But aside from that, on to the larger issue at hand. I agree that there's nothing stopping women from being effective leaders of relationships. But the roadblock to this becoming the norm, as I see it, is that every woman I've been in a serious relationship with has preferred to go in to "baby mode" when I am around. They feel safest and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 12:02 PM
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Why don't you message that girl doing all the woe is me posts on here tonight? You're always going on and on and on about that being your type. You may even get the fabled fart in your face that you covet so much. What have you got to lose?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:11 PM
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Divorce incoming. The new model will be bimbofied, mark my words.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 08:46 PM
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That Actual Steak nutter you're replying to here is apparently exactly your type, so say multiple posters. Get him to send you a picture. And send him a picture. This is me officially setting you two up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 08:43 PM
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Some do, some don't. For a not insubstantial number of people, the thrill of having sex with a stranger/someone new is very stimulating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 04:12 PM
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Of course, absolutely, 100% without a doubt yes. Don't overthink, just do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:40 PM
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Totally get that. When I was 15-16 and my dad was trying to give me "advice" on my first girlfriends, I knew even then that we were singing from two totally different hymnsheets. It's apparent still - he was up at my gaff last week, and was clueless when I asked him how he takes his tea. He had no idea, because in 78 years of life he's never turned the kettle on once. My mum always makes his tea for him. Don't get me wrong - the fact that me and my mates are not like that is a source of pride. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 11:13 PM
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I'd be a bit raging, yeah. It's not terrible, and not last minute. But the woman who said 24 hours for politeness is about right, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 10:24 PM
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Both. Back in my father's day (1960s) he literally did not have to make any effort. He thinks it's a travesty that I cook, clean, keep myself fit, take care of my appearance etc. He got married at 18 to the first girl he approached at a dance. In his view, it's insane that I was 38 when I got married. So if we're comparing the effort he and his generation put in to that of me and mine... incomparable. But at the same time, modern men are weak as shit. No in-depth explanation needed there.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 10:12 PM
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Pretty good, Sheila! Definitely correct on vast majority of the aesthetic stuff. Desk job - yup, although it's more management, but I am sometimes behind a computer. Pizza and beer, being cozy - YUP. And excellent guess with Trainspotting; it's one of my favourite books and films. Only things not quite correct are: I'm an only child, and I actually prefer introverted women. My wife is the type who can enjoy herself at a social event, but after a few hours will just say "right I'm out of energy -…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:19 AM
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Deal! Yours is actually surprisingly difficult. Tears for Fears guy threw me for a curveball. Here goes nothing: I think that you'd probably enjoy the show Parks and Recreation. And if you were to pick a favourite Nirvana album, it'd be Unplugged in New York. Solidly a cat person over dog person. As a partner, I get the feeling you'd enjoy doing things together but separately. Like he does his own thing, you do yours - but you're in the same room and frequently check in on one another. I think y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 11:54 PM
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My wife gets told this constantly, and it's the main reason I had Billie on my list of subjective 10s. Big teeth, big eyebrows.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 11:10 PM
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Nah it was the goth witch chick first, and then I followed suit with mine. Original intent was for people to psychoanalyse users based on their taste in women/men, but the people here are such simpletons they just began sharing people they found hot. (I'm just salty no one psychoanalysed me.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 11:02 PM
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Adversity is a learning experience. Can't coddle the kid to the realities of life, y'know? It's not gonna kill him, and will probably save him the embarrassment of learning the same lesson as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:48 PM
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Ohhhhh, I like this one. Fuck me, that's tough. I stay quiet and let her learn the lesson herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:33 PM
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Kinda doing it myself. The tl;dr is: we live in a small country. She's from one side of it, I'm from the other. We were both homeowners when we met. She runs a business that has premises on both coasts. I frequently travel for work. We live together about 7 months of the year. She's at one of our houses and I'm either with her or travelling. People freak out about it. We've had a lot of negative reactions and rude comments. But it works for us. Our current goal is to buy a shared property abroad…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:27 PM
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Those are some nice highs. But regardless, I hope things get better for you, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 08:59 PM
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Mime 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 08:29 PM
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Personally, wouldn't be going on a first date to a restaurant (or tipping for that matter). But if I somehow was in that situation, then I wouldn't think much of it. It's one date - whatever. See how she acts on the second one. If it's a habit for her, then we probably wouldn't work out longterm. Looks don't really come in to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 08:16 PM
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Not me. In my view that's the same mentality as people who take Huel instead of eating a nice meal. But you do you. We're all different.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:31 AM
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People don't like it when someone who is not very attractive acts as if they are super attractive. That's not a gender thing either, it's a monkey brain thing. The urge to "put someone back in their place" is strong, and is encouraged/normal on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:25 AM
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Definitely subjective, but I think most people probably view anal as more serious than oral. Do a poll?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 12:46 PM
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Two reasons I think anal counts, while oral/digital doesn't: A) It's a pretty serious sexual act. Much more involved than a fingerbang or a wee wank. B) It's inclusive of gay bros.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 12:23 PM
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Ahh, pakora is deep-fried Indian food. Very popular where I live as a takeaway snack. But very easy to make. There's a ton of different classes available, but the problem is it's a very trendy, hipstery city. Could charge half a month's wages for a half hour class on the history of spiderwebs, and people here would gladly pay it. Drives the price up for normal folk. Hope you have fun making the ceramics!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:57 PM
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Prices of crafty type classes in my city are out of control. Was just looking for one this morning. £150 for a "pakora making masterclass". 150 per head. There's no way anyone can ever break even on that, even if you make 10/10 pakora every week for the next decade. They really have millennials by the balls. We settled on a glass painting class in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:41 PM
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I'M SORRY WHAT, HE'S OVER 300LBS????? Wild stuff. I think they're cute together and wish them the best, but wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:59 PM
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She's not top 20%, but jesus christ that is an insane looks disparity. Anyone who says otherwise is clearly lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:48 PM
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Thigh highs???
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:45 PM
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He's obviously a soft mark, so he didn't have the guts to do it behind her back. Same as he didn't have the guts to leave when she cheated. It's not a man thing - it's a spineless person thing. Guarantee if he says "yeah, divorce time" she will shape up and become Mrs. Perfect Wife for a while. As perfect as a cheater can be, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:44 PM
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My hot take on polyamorous people is that they were the band camp DnD club computer summer school types when young. Low social skills, poor hygiene, probs autistic, unpopular, dressed weird, smelled like crayons. So when they get older, they become hypersexual as a way of saying "LOOK AT ME NOW!!!!!" A reclamation of identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 01:21 PM
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Johnny Gosch would like a word.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:37 PM
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Attempts are incessantly made, but I came in to this world cutting my nails with kitchen scissors, and I will leave it cutting my nails with kitchen scissors.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:34 PM
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Haha. Wife owns a beauty salon. I know all the shit about tinting, laminating, acrylics, gel polishes, builder in a box etc because I hear it every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:30 PM
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I think that's a mixture of both. And I'd say it's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:27 PM
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Still think it's normal. My parents knocked the utter shite out of me as a child, and justified it with "you'll thank us for it one day". First time I was arrested for fighting was when I was 18, they did the shocked Pikachu face upon finding out that I had grown in to an adult who used violence to solve problems. Obviously I have my own agency as a human and I'm (somewhat) less inclined to get physical these days - so I'm not wholly placing the blame on them for my past decisions - but they wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:24 PM
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Go to a professional and get your eyelashes tinted. They know what they're doing. Eyebrows you can do yourself, but don't fuck around with peroxide that close to your eyeball.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 11:39 AM
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I'm 5'10" and although I never struggled when dating and it would be disingenuous to pretend otherwise, there were occasions over the years where I got told I was too short to date. Or that I'd be a catch if only I was taller. It wasn't a huge problem, but if I experienced it at my height then I can only imagine it becomes more impactful the smaller you are. I don't really know anyone IRL who struggled with dating - even the very short men I know managed okay. But they do have umpteen stories of…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 11:05 AM
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Don't mention it, and then on the date subtly bust out his catchphrase. "What are you going to have at the restaurant? I'm assuming it's no soup for you AM I RIGHT LOL???" Something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 10:54 AM
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Ohhhh this isn't a rewatch? Okay, you're in for a very emotional ride.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 12:18 PM
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Sociopath is relative. He had the most fucked up life of all the Losties (excepting Sayid), so it makes sense that he's out for himself most of the time. Despite that, he needlessly stuck his neck out for others more than enough times to redeem himself as a hero.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 12:11 PM
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Sawyer for me. Amoral conman but more often than not ends up doing the right thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 12:03 PM
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Worth remembering that this is (mainly) an online thing. And the hysteria is usually disingenuous. Online I've been told that I'm a predatory, child molesting paedophile because I am 39 and my wife is 31. In real life, no one has ever cared or even noticed. These are mostly bitter and bored people making a fuss for attention/woke points. They themselves know that if they said this stuff IRL, best case scenario they'd be viewed as a lunatic, worst case scenario they'd be punched in the face. My a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 11:24 AM
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Italian speaking English. Most American and UK accents sound terrible to my ears. Including my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:54 AM
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We have a vampire aubergine named The Count and Derek the Oktoberfest frog currently on bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:21 AM
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Fair enough. Can't really relate - I have always kept things strictly casual until 6-9 months in, for good reason. People put their best foot forward when dating, however I reckon that most can't keep a façade up for longer than 6ish months. 3 months though? Danger zone, in my opinion. It sounds to me like the women you're getting with are lovebombers. Maybe try being a bit more reticent in future. Don't go along with the ILY after 6 weeks stuff, for example. If they're desperate for manufacture…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:12 AM
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Commenting from the other side - I don't want kids, but when I used Tinder I had better results saying I'm "undecided" rather than actively childfree. I imagine it works the same the other way round: the average person prefers a blank canvas over someone with strong preferences one way or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:05 PM
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Good definition. Healthy mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:46 PM
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What is your definition of "safe choice"? What traits does a safe choice have, compared to a risky choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:30 PM
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3 months tops isn't a long-term relationship though. Long-term begins at the year mark. You've not been in one - so how would you know what they're like?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 09:56 AM
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I'm using hyperbole when I say "no one else exists to you". I don't mean you're literally blind to others. I'm years in to my marriage, and although I am capable of understanding the objective attractiveness of others, it's not accompanied by the desire to do anything about it. And I say that having been a cheater in past relationships. Not proud of that mind you, but the experience has taught me awareness of the difference between "that person is pretty" and "I want to fuck that person". Having…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:19 PM
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1: Yes, of course. 2: Some will, some won't. Judge based on the individual character of the person, not on some generalised stereotype. 3: No. When you're with the right person, no one else exists to you. 4: See above.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:41 PM
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I think she's only in to female gays tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:51 PM
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I know, but I don't believe in objective truth in this scenario. You asked "would you be capable of loving an average woman?" and my answer is no, because viewing someone as average conflicts with my individual concept of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:50 PM
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I just personally can't fathom being in love with someone whom I viewed as middle of the road. I don't think my brain would allow it. Perhaps that makes me hypergamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:47 PM
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None of my business what another person does with their life. I don't meddle. But for me - couldn't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:44 PM
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Add on: what if his ringtone is the Chris Benoit entrance theme?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:43 PM
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I'd argue that if you view someone as average, you don't love them. So, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:41 PM
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Could be yes, could be no. You did the right thing though. Better safe than sorry. I'd have done the same. Worst case scenario you're wrong and he got his feelings hurt - so fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:38 PM
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Something I've noticed is that a lot of the people on here who struggle with dating come from incredibly wealthy backgrounds. Correlation?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:18 PM
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That's fine. It's good to have a platonic friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:03 PM
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I appreciate my wife, my cats, my mother, and my in-laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:51 PM
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The only thing that would make me reconsider is the fact she took 4 hours to do it. Mine's patience wouldn't last 4 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:49 PM
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100% same. For my own mental stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:40 PM
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Ahhh I had no idea about that, I thought they were all celebrities. Still a nightmare if you're the wife of somecunt from JLS, sitting at home knowing he's spent 10 hours a day groin to groin dancing with some Russian ex-ballerina.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:34 PM
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If you're married to a Z-list celebrity, your worst fear must be your partner going on one of those dancing on ice/dancing with the stars programmes. The amount of infidelity those shows have facilitate is a meme at this point. Every single time they're on, you hear about some married woman who was in a one hit wonder girl band from 2001 getting her guts rearranged by the married ex-child actor from a soap opera who was assigned as her dancing partner. Crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:25 PM
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Same. According to Reddit it's the norm, but I've never experienced it even once before. I've had women get grumpy with me for insisting on using a johnny even although they're on the pill. Couldn't imagine someone asking for STD results.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:03 PM
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It's how I imagine every single person I interact with on the Internet. Genuinely gobsmacked when I turn out to be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:34 PM
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Country too. There was official stats posted on here last week about Tinder gender ratios. 50/50 men/women in Europe; 55/45 in UK; 70/30in USA; and like 90/10 in India.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:33 PM
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Depends on where you are too. Everyone on here says Tinder is just for hookups, but in my experience it was a bit of everything. I had both short and longer term encounters with people I met on there, and it's how I met my wife. Bumble on the other hand was dead. Hinge was decent, but more like Linkedin lite. POF was for folk who had maximum 7 teeth in their mouths. Totally the opposite in other places, according to some on here. Imo the dating app hate comes from laziness. You have to introspec…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:22 PM
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Point in case. They defo all walk with a cane and/or have a homemade fursuit that has stains on it. Food and "other".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:42 PM
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I did this once! Hillsong United. I'd accompany her to these all day church sessions that were more like a gig/TED talk. They'd all speak in tongues sometimes. It was very weird. Bearing in mind that I live in an atheist/agnostic majority country. I was very young at the time though. In the days before I had learned what incompatibility really meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 12:13 PM
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<image> This rule applies. Those women will be undesirable freaks who had a belated sexual awakening in their late 20s when they discovered that they could get the validation they missed out on as a teen by being hypersexual with disgusting, desperate guys. It's the high school band geeks with chronic B.O. who were always fucking each other, but a grown up version.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:17 AM
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I had a "progressive" wish rape on my wife recently. If anyone doesn't believe that a lot of them are complete scumbags, I challenge you to disagree with them on a political point while having a woman in your pfp.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:01 AM
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Had to Google Image search those bin chickens - if one of those bastards wants my chips I'm letting him have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:18 AM
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Hahahahah we've been an embarrasment since the liquidation in 2012 anyway. Times are tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:15 AM
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Okay okay, it shall stay until morning!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:09 AM
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I'm a Gers boy through and through.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:08 AM
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https://voca.ro/14CRIrGRkGxc I'm awake for a quick pee. Gonna scroll for a bit then will delete this as I fear keeping my voice on the Internet for too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:57 AM
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I pay for my wife's nails and toes anyway, have done since about a year in. She doesn't get them done every 4 weeks though. More like 6. And $200 is excessive. Hers costs £90.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 11:54 PM
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Your circumstances are fascinating. Would you say that they make it hard for you to date in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:50 PM
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She gets a bad rep, but she's fairly reasonable. She doesn't let women away with shit either. I think it's because of her name. There used to be a famous femcel account on Twitter with the same handle, and imo it's unfair blowback from that. Like going on to a holocaust survivor's genealogy forum with 88 in your username. It might just be your birth year, but people are probably going to kick off anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:21 PM
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Black Friday-inspired Q4A: Would you say that keeping up with the latest material trends is important to you? I.e. Do you renew your car finance each year in order to get newest model of car? Is your phone brand important to you? Do you buy the new iPhone model as soon as it comes out? Do you queue overnight for things like shoes?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 01:30 PM
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Women IRL give decent advice, but the ones on here do not because (with a few exceptions) they fit in to 3 categories: A) Single and unlucky in love. B) In a relationship with some Sheldon Cooper type they've been with since age 15, so have no idea what the dating world is like. C) Are hysterical, perma-grumpy prudes. As with everything, the source of the advice should be scrutinised.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 10:26 AM
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No, but that wasn't the question. You're conflating the macro and the micro. I wouldn't have got with someone if I didn't find them very attractive in the first place. In that sense, someone I did not find attractive would not be getting any money spent on them at all. But If I've found someone attractive enough to be in a relationship with them, then the amount of effort they've put in to their appearance on any particular day is irrelevent. They've already passed the attractiveness bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:17 AM
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Lol, I think anyone doing that probably has debilitating autism. So no.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:11 AM
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What does that even mean? Do I get out a flipchart photo album of her past looks prior to every date, and if her eyebrows aren't laminated as well as they were in June 2022 do I knock a tenner off?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:06 AM
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I spend money on her because I want to, but if I was destitute she'd still be here. Money doesn't factor in to our relationship in a big way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:02 AM
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Wife. Sometimes, yes. She's not a very materialistic person. But when she does want something, it has to be the best quality. Overall I don't think she'd care if I was poor, if that's the real question.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 01:57 AM
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Do whatever you want, Timothy Treadwell.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 10:51 PM
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I don't think they do. They'll be smelling themselves all day, and that will make them noseblind to it. Like when someone has 14 dogs but denies that their house smell of wet dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:30 PM
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Your guess is as good as mine. The only guy I've ever known post-childhood who smelled bad was a fella at my office who had such a bad case of headlice that you could actually see the eggs on his scalp. Predictably, he reeked. So just don't date men like that any more and you should be fine. Not much more to it. You're the one picking these guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 06:19 PM
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https://youtu.be/9S1EzkRpelY?si=YnvpyE1KHoKxmoxv
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 03:09 PM
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Idiots, both of them, Marriage is over - no coming back from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:56 PM
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Naw nothing wrong with it. It's fine to spend a romantic day with someone you're not committed to. Valentine's Day doesn't mean anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:36 PM
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Not a bad thing, especially at work. I've got the cold/dead eyes thing too, and it's served me well when I have to lead others in projects that I secretly don't have a fucking clue about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 12:45 PM
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Yeah to be clear, if life is busy or someone genuinely hates it then that's fair enough. I'm specifically talking about the intentional "I'll cook for myself but never you" attitude. It's bizarre to me to intentionally breed resentment in such a manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 11:12 AM
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I don't understand the "I will never cook for a man" attitude. How does one expect to have a healthy relationship when one partner is intentionally being difficult? So in these relationships the man could be coming home very late from a terrible day to find that his partner has cooked her own dinner, ate, cleaned up, and when he asks if there is anything left for him the answer is "fend for yourself" or some such. Could never be me. Sounds like hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 10:55 AM
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So far today: Kitchen drain is clogged way down the pipe due to hair from the washing machine. Can't reach it with my usual plethora of tools. One of my cats had the shits and dragged shitey trails all down the stairs. Opened a tube of squeezy garlic and it exploded in my face. Read online that there was a product recall due to salmonella risk from bacteria inhibitor being accidentally left out in manufacturing. Had to toss the soup I'd made. I'm one step closer to the edge. Now I know how Chest…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:55 PM
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Want some advice from someone who dated while having a full bodysuit of tattoos? Doesn't make a difference. You attract different people, but lose the attraction of others. Swings and roundabouts. Also it sometimes attracts women who just view you as a fetish/fashion accessory. So I say it's not worth it unless you 100% want to look this way regardless of whether women like it or not. Best to just be you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:52 PM
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If there was two of you and two of them, you should have at least sat within proximity and when the opportunity for casual conversation arose, took it. But live and learn. You can do it next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:48 PM
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"I did it all for the nookie, so you can take that cookie and stick it up your yeah."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:16 PM
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House cleaners?! Bougie biatch. Get the Aladdin and Jasmine love story started ASAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:24 PM
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38 years old. I think it's somewhere around the 25 mark. Didn't exactly make notes. Single and single-ish from 17-23, which is where probably about 15 of that number came from. LTR from 23 to 32. Tinder from 32-34 accounting for roughly 10 more. Been with my wife since 34. Apparently 25 is absurdly high for a man according to this sub, but I'm fairly average for my social group.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:56 PM
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Nah I get it. Being short isn't the equivalent of someone who consistently made poor life decisions (i.e. multiple single parent, serial cheater, abusive, addict). If that's all they can get because of their height, I do understand how they end up so fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 01:33 PM
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I'm counting that as a success. Happy for you, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 09:38 PM
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How'd it go earlier? Success?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 09:35 PM
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I'm not bluepill, but I never really needed a guide to dating. Pre-OLD, I'd meet women at the pub/clubs/university/work. We'd hang out, be official after 4-6ish months, then sometimes it would work out/sometimes it wouldn't. After OLD, I'd match with women. Hang out, official after 4-6 months, sometimes it would work out, sometimes it wouldn't. There's not really much else to it. Don't know what else to say, to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 08:36 PM
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I don't really know tbh. I assumed that purple pill was the "normal" one. According to the furious bluepiller who has been messaging me in a fit of rage for the past 36 hours, blue means completely disengaging from the physical and seeking only relationships that have a hobby/interest-based starting point. Fuck it, I'm done with Reddit for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:07 PM
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Think I have identified my first major beef with bluepillers: their immediate and visceral anger upon hearing about a relationship that didn't start as a friendship. They seem to believe that the only way to do it is friendship first -> develop attraction later. The idea of two people being attracted to one another first and developing the emotional connection afterward sends them in to a foamy-mouthed rage. "CaN't WaIT uNtIL yOuR ShAlLoW ReLaTionShiP eNds!!!!!" ...well that's not very live laug…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:44 PM
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Disagree. Am man and eyes don't wander any more. Haven't since the day I met my wife. Sorry your experiences have lead you to such a pessimistic outlook.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:17 PM
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Yep - have a look and you'll see nothing in my post that implies either men or women are better than each other. It's just differing attraction preferences. I wouldn't say men's preference is always "dependence" either. It sometimes is (especially on here), but usually dependent/competent is irrelevant because physical attraction is of such prime importance to us. Anyway, sorry that has been your experiences. Sounds rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:10 PM
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Loss of physical attraction: Many people let themselves go when in a relationship. It's not a good idea. You've got to maintain your appearance if you want to keep your partner interested. The eye wanders, then the genitals follow. With women there's an extra element to this one - if you appear too weak, whiny, depressive, apathetic, a pushover etc then they can lose physical attraction even if you're a Henry Cavill clone. Doesn't really work like that for us guys though. Loss of feelings: A lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 01:38 PM
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Oh shit. Right, gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:51 AM
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Hold on; doesn't purple pill just mean "normal"? Recognising bits of the red/blue dichotomy can be true, but placing no importance on any particular ethos?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:16 AM
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Yes, I agree. These all seem incredibly obvious to me. I practice all of them, and I'd say they're part of the reason I have such a happy marriage. The ones she values most is emotional gestures and material gestures. Emotional - me always being emotionally present to listen to her problems and give advice/empathy. Material - planning engaging dates, meal prepping for her work week, buying her random little things I see that she might like. The one I value most is respecting personal space. I li…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 10:46 AM
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Nonsense for me. Four years in and life with my wife gets better every day. She's went from someone who I think is hot and cool, to being someone who I think is hot and cool and is also my best mate. The passion is more intense, not less. I'll grant you this though: yeah, in most previous relationships about 18 months was my limit before I'd get bored. But that's just dating innit - it's how you find out if someone is right for you in the longterm or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 10:35 AM
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This stuff is not normal. It's abusive/controlling, yes. I'm sorry for snooping, but I looked at your post history. I just want to suggest that you talk to your friends/family about your situation, and ask them for help. It sounds really bad. Perhaps contact some men's resources wherever you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 07:00 PM
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I'm sure it's not as simplistic as he's making out by his comment. Even I can think of a lot of games and lessons that can be made from the things he mentioned. Cartoons have plenty of relevant life issues that can be discussed. He mentioned Spiderman, which might contain themes of personal responsibility, caring for family, helping others, managing stress in life. I'd be surprised if any adult didn't segue that in to discussions like "how did you feel about X issue that we saw Spiderman dealing…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:53 PM
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I'm glad you're happy - you sound like a great dad. It's just not for me though. I am already "old" and my opinion on kids has never changed. Chris Benoit theme intensifies, if you catch my drift. Luckily I found a partner who feels the same way, and we just live our wee life. We actually do really enjoy taking care of our friends' kids on occasion, but always glad to hand them back at the end of the day!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:37 PM
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We met on Tinder! And yeah - big city. Small town is definitely gonna be harder, so I'd say hobby groups in the city is a good place to start. Wish I could be more helpful, but we both still struggle to make childfree friends. There's not one place/activity I've come across that has a particular glut of CF individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:29 PM
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I don't know why you're getting attacked over this. You're completely right. I can't stand kids personally, but my mother was an early years educator for 40 years, so I take her word on this issue: she always said the number one effective approach for teaching young children was learning through play. "Come on Timmy it's time for your Mandarin lesson! China is the fastest growing economy in the world and you need to be ready" is going to create miserable kids who never had a childhood. Vs. Let's…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:13 PM
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Can I answer as well? I do most of this too. I'll go through the stated requirements one by one: I enjoy cooking because it's a creative outlet. Realistically who enjoys cleaning - no one. Freaks of nature, perhaps. But what I enjoy less is having a messy or dirty living area. We're childfree, so the kids part is out. I do not have the temperment for taking care of children. Looks are subjective, so I can't speak for the "7/10" thing. But I enjoy the fact that my wife finds me very attractive, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:27 PM
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That's not a trad husband; that's a modern husband you're wanting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:38 PM
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Divorce being easily accessible (a good thing - don't misunderstand me here) has changed the nature of what marriage means in the modern era. To that end, I think the oaths part (better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and health) is outdated. But realistically, replacing it with "I swear to be with you and forsake all others up until such a time as I decide otherwise" isn't exactly romantic. Personally, I don't think either gender should be judged harshly for leaving a sick spouse. If the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:38 AM
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Need to just get over it man. Best way to be is pretend that he doesn't exist. Gonna look weird if you do otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:43 PM
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Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:23 PM
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More likely to be childfree, if that's your thing. I came out of 9 year relationship at 32 and found when dating that most women 30-35 had kids. Hard to find a childfree partner when limiting myself to that age group. 25-30 had significantly more childfree/without kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 02:19 PM
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I'm sorry those are your circumstances, my friend. That sounds difficult. But perhaps that means you are not qualified to give advice on this particular issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 05:18 PM
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Rape is a completely different crime from common assault. Majority of rapes here are date rapes. Women are way more at risk from men that they know than from strangers, where I live at least. I'm from a country called Scotland, in a city called Glasgow, in the east side in an area called Calton. Americans will find it hard to process and even harder to believe because it's a different culture - I understand that. But historically, very macho hooligan attitudes are prevalent here. You can look up…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:52 PM
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Depends on your country. You'll be in the US, I suppose. I'm not. Where I live, male on female random attacks are extremely low. But conversely, male on male casual violence rates are through the roof. The choice, frequently, is to fight or curl up in to a ball and have your head stamped on. But to focus on actual physical confrontation is getting away from the point a bit. Not everything needs to escalate to the physical. I'm sure regardless of where you live, your husband has been "pressed" by…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:20 PM
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I'm happy for you. But you're a woman, right? Statistically way less likely to get in to a violent conflict from which you cannot escape without fighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:03 PM
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I'm not a fan of RP because I think autistically analysing attraction is fruitless, but this is one area where I think they've hit the nail on the head. It's not about aggression or psychopathy - Jake Paul is unanimously viewed as a clown btw - it's about being willing to stand up for yourself. Whether that means verbally or physically. I personally think that a lot of the problems young men have these days stems from the fact that they're too inhibited, and too anxious. You could walk up to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 03:06 PM
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Makes sense now why US posters on here are always shocked when I say that I enjoyed my experience on Tinder (UK). Culture surrounding the app is evidently completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:12 PM
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Yeah. I know it's silly, but in that situation I don't ever want her mind to go "hmmmm, wonder why he didn't tell me?" if she ever found out a coworker made a pass. Just don't like the thought of her having any worries or doubts (and slight trauma from overly accusatory exes, if I'm being totally honest).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 08:50 PM
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Depends on the context. Some random woman at the pub? Nah, no point. Never going to see her again. Coworker/someone we know? Yes, 100%. Got to get ahead of that, just in case.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 08:45 PM
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I'm in an "age gap" marriage (38 and 30, met at 34 and 26) and the ironic thing is that no "older" women ever have a problem with it. It's only kiddies in the 17-19 age range who hold the "what does a GROWN ASSMAN of 38 have in common with a LITERAL UNDEVELOPED 30 YEAR OLD CHILD" view. And the ironic thing is they are unable to see the nuance because they're immature and their brains are undeveloped. Most "older" women aren't morons.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:03 PM
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In my experience, most of the women I've known intimately have held similar viewpoints to me: they'll sleep with someone they find moderately attractive and pleasant enough to be around, but they raise their standard for personality when considering a relationship. In PPD, it seems that most believe women lower standards for relationship and raise standards for casual. I have not ever observed that in my life. Never known a woman who entered in to a relationship with a man whom she would not hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 02:55 PM
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All I can speak for is myself. When I was single, I would have slightly lower standards for those I would sleep with than those with whom I would pursue a committed relationship. For instance, I was fine having casual relationships with women whose personalities, moral values, attitudes to life etc did not align with my own. I was even fine with being casual with women whom I found slightly "annoying". I'm not being nasty by saying that - I am sure that I am annoying to loads of people too. Pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 02:37 PM
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It's only neckbeard if you don't shave them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:30 AM
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I hope never had an energy drink is true, because I like giving the nod of approval to fellow luminous gutrot haters.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:29 AM
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Yes! I don't even mind a long text or a pointless phonecall. Anything but the podcast monologue voicenote.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:06 AM
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Noooo that's the number one thing I hate about them - I don't want to have to get the fluorescent highlighters out for a casual chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:05 AM
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I am once again here to complain about long voice notes. Just woke up to a 6 minute one. Not even going to listen, and considering just replying with "haha aye 👍". 20 seconds should be maximum length for these things, on penalty of forcible voicebox removal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 08:44 AM
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I'd like to have your optimism, but for every African nation who have eliminated FGM (Kenya), there is another whose FGM rates have increased (Somalia). I'm a skeptic concerning the 21st century human's ability to change and learn though, so please don't take what I say here too seriously. I'd love to see a change.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 05:10 PM
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There is absolutely no way to dissuade Americans from being pro-circumcision. Most of the men like being circumcised because they don't know anything else. Most of the women like circumcised penises because they don't know anything else. People are scared of deviation from the norm, and Cornflake guy has got too far in to Americans' heads. No point in trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:45 PM
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Taurus rising, apparently. But I don't have a septum piercing so astrology DEBUNKED 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:59 PM
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Uuuuurgh this is the question, isn't it? It's especially hard to answer because we've all collectively decided to view being "obligated" to do something for your partner as A Bad Thing (tm). No one is obligated to do anything (as in: I would never force someone to do something they really did not want to do). However, in a normal relationship dynamic it is not unreasonable to expect the messier partner to recognise that they're being cleaned up after, and to make an effort to be less messy. I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 05:00 PM
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Ideally, yes. Realistically - the person who values cleanliness and orderliness the most will find themselves doing more than the other. They have to either a) suck it up and get on with it, or b) discuss a realignment of expectations and responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:54 PM
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I think anyone doing the passport dating thing expecting to buy a hole to fuck with no strings attached is going to be severely disappointed, unless they're involved in legit sex trafficking. But I don't doubt that the liberality which gays (are stereotyped to) engage in NSA sex somewhat accounts for the disparity in general rates of sexual frustration between hetero/homosexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:16 PM
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Also, there are many, many account of women who fled from him/reported him because he was behaving creepily towards them. It's a miracle of poor policework that he never got caught before he did. He tended to prey on very young women who were alone, and did it via the broken arm routine aka pretending to be vulnerable. It's not like he was viewed by his victims and potential victims as a sexy Don Juan whom they would let take them anywhere. On the occasions where he could keep it together long e…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:04 PM
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Your questions used to be interesting. Disappointing. Not redpill, but I think it's fairly obvious: Gay guys will suck strangers off in public toilets and then go about their day. Few women do that. Ergo - different scenario. We have a few resident gays, I believe. Why not ask them instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:55 PM
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Yeah, and what I'm saying is simple - embracing the "bad" label will backfire if they don't have anything to back it up. And the "bad" that women are talking about with man vs. bear etc isn't "my boyfriend is a drug dealer but he's a sweetheart" bad; it's "I'm scared of rapists" bad. There's no way to embrace "rapist" that is likely to work out as a net positive for the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:21 PM
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Different type of crimes. Even for women who do like "bad" men: An overconfident loudmouth who gets in to fights with strangers at the pub = (potentially) hot and bad. A stuttering nerd who might rape you when you're passed out = not hot and bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:16 PM
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Embracing the label without having anything to back it up is just going to make them look foolish. They have to walk the walk, if that's what they want. And they can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:07 PM
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Choosing to be "bad" isn't an option for them, because they view themselves as inherently and unchangeably good and moral. Which they kind of are. How many people who complain about nice guys finishing last can you honestly imagine even engaging in minor "bad" things like drinking, smoking, shoplifting, lying, cheating, fighting? They couldn't do it. So there's no point in telling them that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:00 PM
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No. I think that modern hubris and the increased importance of getting one up on your "opponents" will cause them to double down, if anything. When is the last time you saw someone admit that they made a mistake about anything? Rare in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 01:46 PM
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If that's what you think, and how you want to live your life - go ahead. But I personally think that anyone can leave at any time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:34 PM
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Yeah, sure. I agree. If you're trying to hurt someone, then you take whatever opportunities to hit them, and hit them as hard as you can. Nothing is off the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 05:18 PM
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We clearly have opposite approaches to life. I didn't acquire what I have through laziness (not just talking about relationships; I mean career, education, social life, house, even personality and interests) and I sure as shit won't lose them through laziness. The thought of being lazy with anything disgusts me. But that's me. You do whatever you want to do with your life. I have no judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:15 PM
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I don't understand why this statement is causing such anger from the posters on here. This is my belief too. 50% of the reason I work out is for myself, and the other 50% is to ensure that my wife doesn't lose physical attraction to me. I believe that (for most people), once physical attraction slips - the relationship will suffer. I apply the same attitude to other things too, which means I always bring my A game when it comes to being emotionally present, engaging and romantic, and domesticall…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:15 PM
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Didn't comply last time; won't comply this time. I don't think this will go anywhere though. The wool can only be pulled over the eyes of the general public once. Or at least, I hope it can.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:15 PM
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Wait Until Dark (1967) starring Audrey Hepburn. Really tense thriller set in one location.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:13 PM
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I don't think that's a controversial thing to say. I'm an introvert, and I frequently feel drained by others. It makes sense that repeatedly feeling drained by others while growing up made me this way as an adult. But it is what it is. I don't know anything different, so I don't miss anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 09:02 PM
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It's when they owe you money. Loansharkmaxxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:53 PM
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Camus girl always. I think reading The Stranger at a young age shaped my attitude to life. It's probably the book that has influenced my worldview the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:45 PM
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Agree. It surprised me to learn that there are a significant number of women who didn't know that men aren't up for sex 24/7 regardless of circumstances. We get stressed, busy, tired, and turned off just like any human being does. It's not a disorder unless it's happening on a regular basis. Weird how women don't understand that innately. But I guess it's a product of the media poisoning their minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:43 PM
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I'm not single, but I was at one point. Obviously. So I'll answer looking back on my attitude during those times: Political beliefs were not a main factor in how I chose partners. As long as someone is not an extremist either way, it'll be fine. I don't have any political extremists in my life, and I only really see them online anyway. So it didn't make much of an impact when dating IRL. Most people are in the broad spectrum of centre-right to centre-left. That's fine for me. I don't need partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 02:44 PM
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I'm an elder millennial. I know 0.5 misandrist women. My ex with whom I am still friends is a fairly popular Tiktok misandrist. Her online persona is very "kill all men - and yes I mean ALL men". But it's mostly for clicks, because in real life she's fairly chill. She's quite egalitarian, in reality. But apart from her: no. Every other woman I know in real life thinks that misandry is immature, terminally online behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 11:52 AM
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Scotland. Very rough area of a very rough city. Lots of pressure to grow up fast. Your teen years sound very wholesome - I am a bit jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:52 PM
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Sushi then invite her back to yours. This is just my experience, but if you pass date 5 and haven't slept together then she is probably starting to think that you aren't interested. Rip off the bandage and get it done. Things will feel a lot less stressful afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:32 PM
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I'm not defending this guy btw, but what you're saying here is very culture-specific. 14 year olds were definitely not still watching cartoons and playing dress up when I was a kid. They were trying to get in to clubs underage, or getting smashed on cheap cider in the park. We had a lot of 15 year old "parents" at my school.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:12 PM
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Mate - what? This is brainwashing. Misery loves company, and somehow a bunch of miserable pessimists have convinced you of things that are utter bollocks, and seem to have ruined your self-esteem along with it. I don't usually recommend therapy, because usually such recommendations are just weaponised passive-aggressive insults, but in this instance I really do recommend seeking out a professional who specialises in CBT and exposure therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:58 PM
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Enough to make any man reject a legion of Rohan's shieldmaidens.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:42 PM
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People here view the world as rigid stereotypes, and struggle to see anything else. According to PPD's physical and lifestyle stereotype catalogue, I am a degenerate amoral thug, and my wife is a masculine feminazi slut. In reality, our personalities are the opposite of this. But it makes me wonder how many people have passed us on the street and thought of us through the lense of the PPD-style playbook.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:07 PM
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Yeah; I was using "I'd argue that..." as a synonym for "in my opinion...", or "I'd say..." That's my fault - I forgot where I was for a second, and forgot that the Redditors need razor precision language. (N.B. "razor precision" doesn't mean that I will literally be writing down my comment then cutting it up with a razor blade. Just to be clear.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:45 PM
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Absolutely - not trying to. I know my opinion isn't for everyone either. Regarding relationships, we don't need to dogmatically have everyone agree with us. All anyone really needs is one person who mostly agrees, so they can build a life together. I'm sure those searching for tradwives will have a glut of options, and I wish them well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:45 PM
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I'd argue that a younger career woman is more mature, stable and has her head screwed on better than an older woman who wants to doss around the house all day. Her mind is gonna rot, if it hasn't already. Wisdom rarely comes with age; young idiots tend to grow in to old idiots.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:23 PM
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Lots of reasons. I find it difficult to respect someone who doesn't have at minimum a modicum of professional drive. Not saying all my past partners have been CEO types, but my best relationships have been with women who at least enjoyed having some sort of career. Secondly I am childfree, so what would this trad wife be doing? Sitting at home all day? I don't need a cleaner; I've handled all my own cooking and cleaning since 18. Then aesthetically - why would anyone date older if they had other…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:01 PM
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Younger boss babe, no question.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 04:26 PM
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Thankyou!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 03:12 PM
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I plan out and take her on dates that she will find interesting. Always vary the activities and try to find new, engaging stuff. Related: I plan out and take her on interesting and romantic holidays. I make sure her needs are catered to and make her life easier. Example: I am away on a business trip at the moment, she had a long day at work yesterday and text me around 4pm that she was feeling unwell. I ordered sushi from her favourite place to be delivered to her work in time for her finishing,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 11:49 AM
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My view is a bit different from most, I guess. I sincerely doubt the fella has more tattoo coverage than me. Few do. But if he did, then it may give me pause to ask myself why she's consistently going for men with extreme amounts of tattoos - being part of someone's fetish isn't really flattering to me. Apart from that, I find a lot of the things you mentioned - gold teeth and chains - to be quite silly looking. They certainly wouldn't intimidate me. Might cause a little chuckle, but that's it. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 09:46 AM
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Well, my experience was fine on both Hinge and Tinder. And I'm not talking about just hookups - had a yearlong relationship with someone I met on Hinge, and met my wife on Tinder. So I do know what I'm talking about, but as you've pointed out - the problem with this place is no one will listen anyway. Feelings and fears trump actual experience. I may as well scream in to the void. I am interested in why you think using the most popular apps is a bad idea for guys who are really struggling though…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 01:33 PM
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Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble. They're the three most popular dating apps, where the lion's share of daters are. And imo they're a good spread. Bumble is "feminist"; Hinge facilitates easier interpersonal connection; and Tinder is jack of all trades master of none. What does that have to do with keeping a conversation going? Nothing. Someone who can't keep a conversation going in a chat or on a date is a boring person. But that's a different scenario from starting a conversation on a dating app, whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:47 AM
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Listen, I agree with you 90% of the way. People hate putting in effort. They'd rather complain, and somehow the dopamine hit they get from whining has replaced the dopamine hit they should be getting from connecting romantically with someone. Periods in my life when I was actively dating, I treated it like a part-time job. Had I been lazy about it, I would not have got the same results. Effort put in reflects in outcome. But the one I disagree with you in is filling in the profiles. We've talked…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:30 AM
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The average woman's hobby is mindlessly scrolling social media after work. The average man's hobby is mindlessly playing video games after work. Average people aren't that interesting. And they're mostly doing fine in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:30 PM
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It's a good point, and well made with the example of fat shaming. I'd say that I try to be on that middle road as well. Or like, as I said to someone else on that other thread - I don't think the guy who gets his cock out on the subway and starts chugging away should be given leeway because he's some special unique snowflake who needs to be allowed to express himself through cum art. But at the same time, most victims of bullying aren't that guy. They're awkward, harmless types who drone on abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 08:10 PM
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Fuck. Tough one. I don't support the body positivity movement, but I don't support leaning out of car windows and making moo sounds at fat people either. Basically, I'm not going to make unsolicited hurtful comments about someone's weight, despite the fact that I think healthy eating and exercise should be encouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:54 PM
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Absolutely nothing you can say or do. And the harder you grasp, the more she'll slip away. Just find someone else to direct that energy toward.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:51 PM
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Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:49 PM
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Personally, don't agree. MWALT is more accurate, I'd say. Been with two mold-breakers myself in my time. Relatively rare, but not impossible to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:46 PM
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Some opinions: A discussion in one of the main threads about bullying raised an interesting clash of values for me. I said that people who claim "the victims of bullies usually deserve it" are often just bullies themselves, and are trying to mitigate their own guilt/responsibilities/avoid consequences. However, I got a good few responses telling me that I was wrong - that more frequently than I think, people who get bullied tend to deserve it. For me (38 Y.O.), I was taught all that Sesame Stree…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:40 PM
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This is all just stuff that could easily be applied to women as well. What you're describing is just a lacklustre partner. And that's not gender specific. With a childish view of love sprinkled in. Sorry that's your experience of relationships, but don't put it on the rest of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:47 PM
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Modern. No question about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:34 PM
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I can only comment on my own experiences, so before anyone says "well akshully statistically... 🤓" - I couldn't give a fuck about statistics. The following is something I noticed was a commonality among partners I had in the past. That's all I can speak on. Basically, when they had a bad day, they made damn sure that every single person around them would also have a bad day. I am sure there are plenty of men who do this too, but I think the major difference is that it's considered more acceptabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:51 AM
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I am lucky enough to be married to my ideal partner. I enjoy treating her for the sake of it. I'd place myself at an 8 on the willingness scale you requested.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:42 AM
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100%. There are greys appearing on my temples too. The reaper is saying hello.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 07:46 PM
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Nah I weigh the same as I did when I was in my early 20s. 5 foot 10 about 160lbs; nowhere near enough to cause snoring. It's just the start of the inexorable crawl towards the grave, I think. First signs of ageing and all that jazz.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 07:46 PM
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Pre-35 me was a silent sleeper. Post-35 me... snorer 😢. I have no idea what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 07:37 PM
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Yes! I really do think it's fine. Young people are going to discover alcohol one way or another. Might as well make it as safe and less taboo as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 07:36 PM
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Best way to do it imo. Kids are going to get booze from somewhere. When I was 14 we would pay junkies to go in to corner shops and buy us bottles of vodka. At least if the parents are buying it, they can keep an eye on them and make sure they don't drink too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 07:29 PM
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Top middle is the neo-nazi chick who manipulated a dude in to doing a murder, top right is "I don't like Mondays" school shooter, middle is Jodi Arias, bottom left is one of Chris Chan's friends and she's into CP and doesn't wash.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 07:09 PM
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Saw similar at Xmas when I stayed over with my wife in her hometown. I mean I did not have a good time in school myself - was in fights almost every day. But the mental torture she went through was insane. She was hated because she was a) Polish, b) redheaded, and c) alternative. The popular clique of girls would spit in her hair and Photoshop her head on to pics of women getting gangbanged (2010 version of deepfake, I guess). They're all fat messes now. Unequivocally ogres. And every time one o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 06:50 PM
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I wouldn't say BMI is a 100% reliable way of judging, because even a bit of musculature on a person can make them have a greater BMI than someone who is skinnyfat and out of shape. Body fat percentage in combination with BMI is a better indicator. 30% body fat with a BMI of 25 would be considered overweight. 40% body fat with a BMI of 30 is considered obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 11:24 AM
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Nah I completely understand. That's why I said it's like something you'd see on Curb. It sounds silly. But there's nothing I can say to make it sound less silly, and there's no point in doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:44 PM
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I wish I could prove to you that it's real, but unfortunately I can't 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:38 PM
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I wouldn't say so, no. But the alternative/punk scene in which I was involved when I was young was highly incestual, and I was quite popular. But I wouldn't say that sleeping with 3 people who turned out to have boyfriends/seeing someone over a 20 year period is particularly high. Just bizarre. I don't think I've ever slept with a taken woman apart from those 3, which makes it even more ridiculous. Edit: Ah right, I can see why he'd think I'd be making it up though. It's not exactly a normal sit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:34 PM
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I have no idea what that means, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:24 PM
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Vasectomy. On the waiting list to get one right now. She's got the arm implant, but neither of us want her to get it again. Hormones and sheeit. Rather just tackle the problem at its source.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:19 PM
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Bear in mind none of this was intentional: 1: Circa 2005 I slept with a girl I met at a party when I was at uni. Turned out she had a boyfriend, and that boyfriend was him. I had no idea she was taken. 2: Circa 2007 I used to play in a band and started casually seeing a girl who would come to our shows. When people found out they said "oooooo that's bad - she's been semi-seriously seeing some dude for months now". Some dude turned out to be the same guy from before. 3: Circa 2011 a coworker at t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:16 PM
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There is a guy whose life I have accidentally fucked up at least 2 and maybe 4 times over the last 20 years. Truly, I had no knowledge of him and bore him no ill intent. But he sees me as some kind of supervillain. I had an appointment with my barber there, but he had an emergency so had to move my booking to his new employee. Guess who his new employee is? The guy whose life I have unintentionally made a misery on repeated occasions. I saw him through the window before I went in and it was a fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:58 PM
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I'm kinda with her on this one. He's doing fuck all to nurture the relationship, she's had big conversations with him about it multiple times, and he's still not bothering. Dude's sleepwalking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 03:32 PM
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I think part of the problem is that social media has made everyone obsessed with "humbling" others. Everyone nowadays wants to get that zinger where they put someone back in their place. And people are too divorced from real life consequences that they think it's acceptable to drag someone down if they're displaying any sort of "unearned" confidence in themselves. Ergo you've got a whole generation who think it's appropriate to tell people that they're ugly unprompted, or that their partner is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 12:46 PM
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Not at all. If she gave up fighting and went in to self-protection mode then she must have felt that was the smartest thing to do at the time in order to avoid being seriously hurt/killed. She did what she had to do. Respect doesn't even factor in to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 10:26 AM
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What adjectives? Confident, secure, well-adjusted, relaxed, bold, self-assured.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:30 PM
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There's defo a difference between Instagram in bio and proper harcore Insta influencer. The type you describe in your first para are still in the realms of being "normal" women. But the way Tinder was for me last time I used it (early Covid times, in a major European city) was like: first 20 profiles shown were always women with brand deals, who were clearly getting flown out places to be shat on by Arab sheiks. Very different from your 25k follower sorority girl example. And personality-wise, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:25 PM
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Oh yeah, you are right - they are two different categories. But what I mean with the Instagram influencers is like: if she has 500k followers and her profile photo is her up some skyscraper in Dubai, then she's probably not gonna be interested in going on a date to the pumpkin patch with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:50 PM
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To be fair, I don't think this is a gendered thing. I know some women who have reported poor experiences on dating apps too, and they've used it the same way. Matched with the first 5 profiles they're shown (i.e. the most sought after men) and then wonder why it doesn't go anywhere. It's more of a mental laziness thing than anything. And both genders are guilty of that. It's why pyramid schemes, predatory advertising, and get rich quick stuff will always find more suckers. Introspection and crit…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:21 PM
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That wasn't how I did it, at least. Remember that on Tinder, for example, men only get 50 right swipes per day (25 every 12 hours). So you have to use them judiciously. I'd right swipe on perhaps about 20% of women. Only those I found attractive. I'd swipe purely based on looks, and wouldn't even bother reading the profile. If there was a match, then I'd read their profile. If everything was gravy then I'd message. If I saw something I didn't like, I'd unmatch. In the rare case that someone was …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 11:40 AM
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A - I did. I don't consider myself intelligent, but having a Masters degree does classify me as educated. I've been with less intelligent/educated women in the past (i.e. couldn't understand how Blair Witch Project wasn't real because it looked real; believed that 5G causes autism because her nail tech told her so) and it felt like being with a baby. So when I last dated, I sought out women with Bachelors degrees minimum. My wife has a Masters, and I consider her to be much more intelligent than…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:19 PM
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Oh yeah, total prick. I was actually friends with him first, but "switched sides" after this and some other scummy behaviour from him. Plays the sex addict card these days though 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:03 PM
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Two of my friends are single mothers. One was engaged to the father of her child, but caught him messaging escorts while she was in labour. She left him and didn't date more than casually until quite recently. I never asked, but I think it's implied that she was just focusing on raising her daughter. She's now in a relationship with a single father, and they are in the beginning stages of being a blended family. She's 31. The other is my ex, with whom I remain friends. We had a 9 year relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:41 PM
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I'm a childfree man, ergo I'd pick being a childfree woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:10 PM
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Yep - east end of Glasgow. Always have to be in owl mode and have eyes on the back of your head when you're out and about. I know exactly what you mean. I had an ex who would get confrontational with men whenever she had a drink in her. If some strange guy bumped in to her or looked at her the wrong way when we were out then the first thing out her mouth was "my man will punch your cunt in". Errrrrrrr what. Please no. I'm trying to avoid trouble wherever possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 08:58 AM
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Thanks for the suggestion, but she's got a fear of IUDs! I don't blame her tbh, wouldn't like it myself. We've decided we're fine with waiting for the vasectomy - 6 month wait list here, so I should have an appointment confirmed by Xmas for the op itself late February-ish. She's actually got the arm implant right now, but it's on its last legs (expires around Xmas). So it probably still works at the mo, but we're not taking any chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:32 PM
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This is good advice. Not perfect, as you point out, but it's like home security: the more layers and precautions you have, the safer you are. Condoms plus abstinence during ovulation plus never ejaculating inside is how we are doing it until I am "allowed" a vasectomy by the powers that be 🙄.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:47 PM
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Yep, I know the type. And it's weird how late in to life this sort of behaviour is accepted. You still see it from normal guys in their 50s with decent jobs. Behave.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:31 PM
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God damn it. New thread the SECOND I posted 🤦
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:15 PM
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Women (where I live) have dramatically less chance of becoming involved in a violent confrontation when they are out and about. I know this may not be the case in all places, but I live in a city which is synonymous with male on male casual violence, in a country which is known for male on male casual violence. Male on female casual violence is comparatively rare. It's not non-existent, of course. But every 10th or so guy around here is a coked-up lunatic who is under the impression that they're…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:14 PM
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Q4A: Since I stumbled upon this place, I have saw a fair amount of both men and women say that they have used AI chatbots to feel less lonely. Is this really so common? And for those who have done so - were you convinced by the interactions? Did they help you? Personally, I can't see it. I struggle to get AI to create a convincing picture of my cat dressed as a medieval monk. I just don't think the tech is at the point where it could create a chat realistic enough to alleviate human loneliness. …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:00 PM
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Handjobs and footjobs: "am I a joke to you?"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:35 PM
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Why won't she ever be in to you? That's very defeatist to say. Although perhaps for the best, because shitting where you eat is rarely a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:39 PM
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My wife and I are both covered (almost) head to toe. But never, ever would either of us get a name done. Or anything in cursive. Not either of our styles. I'd have to assume she'd been replaced with a pod person if that occurred.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:29 PM
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It's bizarre to me to hear people say this. Shows how different the majority of people I associate with IRL are from those on the Internet. Of my social group of 12ish guys whom I have known for 15-20 years since university, only one of them is an "I'd fuck anything that breathes" type. And he's a full degenerate sex addict who was caught messaging prostitutes while his wife was in labour. Perhaps it's the loud minority like him who is ruining the reputation of the rest of us. Because for everyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:34 AM
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I have to disagree. I am not an attractive man, but more women have tried to flirt with me since I got married/when I was in serious relationships than they ever did when I was single. And I'm not talking about friendliness mistaken for flirting. I mean overt propositions. That said, it is nowhere near as frequent as this sub makes out. We're talking about 1 woman every 1-2 years. And they're obviously fucked in the head to try it on with a taken man in the first place. So it's not exactly a via…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:44 PM
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"Stacy" and "Chad" is immature brainrot. People are either attractive, or they aren't. And plenty of people with the features you've described are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:26 PM
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I guess I'm an "older man", so I will try to answer. The problem is: what does "curvy" mean here? If it's a kind way of saying overweight, then no. But if we're talking about more pronounced feminine dimorphic traits, then yes. I became more attracted to those features the older I have become.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:24 PM
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I'm 38. From my experience, people are susceptible to a personality shift in the years 28-32. Sort of a 1/3 life crisis. This can be a turbulent time for relationships, because there's a lot of nostalgia for teen years when you could go out on the piss every night, sleep with randoms, not worry about anything, no real responsibilities etc. And of course, some are not strong enough to fight that urge to firebomb the life they've built in favour of chasing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 10:58 AM
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Quality over quantity. When I dated I used Tinder and Hinge. Tinder I'd get 2-3 matches a day (you might think that's a pathetic amount but it was a lot to me), and only about 1 in 20 of them would be a good match. Whereas Hinge I'd get 1 match every 2ish days. But the quality of matches was much better because its algorithm more is better tuned to assess compatibility. About 1 in 5 of those matches was a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:39 PM
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I wouldn't say 3 dates is anywhere near long enough to determine suitability for a relationship. 4-6 months is the standard, and for good reason imo. That said, the stuff I liked to know in order to determine whether continuing beyond 3ish dates was worthwhile was: Does she have/want kids? (Easy and appropriate to ask) Is she monogamous or polyamorous? (Poly people usually make it known very quickly) Does she use recreational drugs? (People love to tell stories about times when they've got fucke…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:38 PM
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I know you're not asking for the opinions of men, but I have a few of these so-called "red flags" (likes violent movies; been convicted of a violent crime; reads a lot; vegan; has a mental illness; eccentric), and I've found that IRL no one really cares about them as much as they purport to do on the Internet. The only ones that have lost me dates/relationships have been veganism and having OCD. Lots of women don't want to date a vegan - which is fine, I knew that going in. And even when treated…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 02:04 PM
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Lots of different ways (poor answer, I know). Some examples of immediately observable things would be: not afraid to say "no" in the face of peer pressure, won't just agree with people to appear polite, can't be pushed in to doing things she doesn't want to do. Background accomplishments can also potentially show strong willpower: having completed a complex long-term project (i.e. advanced degree, achieved a career goal, set up own business) is usually a good indicator, although the accomplishme…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:03 PM
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Willpower/strength of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 03:53 PM
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UK: It doesn't match my own personal experience, but it does match what I imagine is the average Brit's experience. I think social class has more bearing on this than anything else. I grew up in a very working class/lower class environment. Most of my schoolmates were sexually active at 14, or 15 max. I lost my virginity at 17, which was considered very late (and marked me out as a complete loser). However, when I went to university and began to mix with middle-middle to upper-middle class folks…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:30 PM
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Happened a few times when I was dating. Nah. I didn't fall for it. Killed the attraction for me. Being treated as an option makes me remove myself as an option. Probably have too much pride.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:39 PM
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The whole "watching porn is cheating" thing is something I've only ever witnessed being said by women on the Internet anyway. I don't actually believe this attitude exists among normal, regular individuals IRL. For the record, I don't watch porn myself (for various reasons, none of which are particularly interesting) and contrary to what women online purport, the response of most partners I've had has ranged from thinking that I'm incredibly odd for not doing so, to having no opinion on the matt…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 10:30 AM
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Hard to maintain my harsh judgement in the face of someone's happiness. On one hand: good for them, I suppose. On the other hand: fucking disgusting. What's your future wife/gf going to think?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 05:48 PM
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No (incoming opinion that will trigger feminists, anti-feminists, and everyone in between): I believe that prostitution is akin to paid rape. I view it as immoral. And regardless, I don't believe the experience would help him in any way with real women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 05:37 PM
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I fucking hated this when I used Tinder. "I'm not 25 I'm actually 22 idk why it says that :\" I do. It's because you've been using the same Tinder account since you were 15 and pretending to be 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:20 PM
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Cheating and abuse. One ex cheated on me right in front of my face. In public. Completely egregious. Even her friends were shocked. Another broke down my self-worth over time. Started with simple criticisms about my appearance, personality and intelligence, and progressed in to full-blown "no other woman would ever look at you, so you're stuck with me." Classic emotional abuse. And if we're including kid stuff, then constant bullying by girls about my appearance as a teenager. The nickname given…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:32 AM
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Yep, I get that. We're 50/50 on the cooking because it's a shared hobby, and cooking together/for each other is a way we bond. Cleaning; I probably do about 70% because I'm a bit too fastidious and she's more relaxed, but I don't care about the imablance. Having someone in our house doing tasks for us? Nah fuck that, we both hate strangers in our personal space. Plus, I doubt they'd do a thorough job.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:01 PM
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It's personal preference. My wife and I are both relatively high earners, but we would never dream of hiring someone for cooking/cleaning/chores. You find trips to be an unnecessary expense, whereas we enjoy them. We find hired help to be an unneccesary expense, whereas you see them as a necessity. It's just different priorities and perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 01:41 PM
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I'm not one of those people who think that all negative behaviour can be explained by jealousy, but I do think it plays a large part in the situations you've described. A lot of people on the Internet aren't in a very good place in their lives, and hate to see others - especially those they deem "unworthy" or "lesser" - achieving something that they themselves cannot. It's not just on the Internet, either: Think of the homeless person who calls you broke when you refuse to give them money. Think…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 08:16 PM
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Might be a good idea. Try an African country, perhaps. Nigeria?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:58 PM
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Depends on the context. At first impression - very, very cold. I have a permanent "city face" and live in Northern Europe, so that's a granted. However, I have the capacity to be very hot vibed once my "fuck off" defences are down. I attract hot energy people. Other cold energy folks tend not to like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:54 PM
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Your standards are not high, per say - but they are niche. You're looking for a very religious person in a world that is becoming increasingly secular. That is going to limit you to a small pool of potential partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:48 PM
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Generally considered to be on the fringe of "very attractive", earn over double the average for my age demographic, had a ten year relationship with a wonderful woman who is now one of my closest friends. I'm here because the dating market and social norms have changed in the last fifteen years, and I am curious about how young men are dealing with that. I also, perhaps naively, think that "Redpillers" who come on here are open to having their worldview changed. Don't get me wrong, much like FDS…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 10:29 AM
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Of course. Been in this situation. Worked in a bar, and a girl whom most (including me) men would consider to be very attractive was basically stalking me at my workplace. She was extremely hot, but not my type at all (tbh I found her persona to be repugnant). No sympathy from any of my coworkers, male or female. To them, I was a "poof" for not shagging her. Men are not robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 05:23 PM
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I think this might be one of those things that only women on Reddit say, perhaps because they've got a bit more going on between the old ears than your average woman on the dating apps. My experience of it has been that a guy with hobbies above and beyond getting pished is viewed as a bit of a weird cunt, and that's a slight turnoff for most women. Reddit vs. reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:54 PM
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I was actually thinking about Mallrats and this scene in particular last night. Weird!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 03:46 PM
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If you only count PIV yes, but does that mean gobbles etc are just erased from existence? Seems disingenuous, although I will admit I don't know what the preferred method of calculation is, but I think if a woman told me she had 20 partners and I later find out that she's had sex with 20 guys but actually hoovered another 60 dicks on top of that, I'd feel that she was being dishonest with me. Why? Uhhhh, well I worked in a bar when I was in my early 20s, so I guess that would facilitate hookups.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 03:03 PM
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My number is somewhere between 32-35. That's if we're just talking PIV anyway. "Other stuff" included obviously puts it higher. So lets say about 50 "partners" all in all, yeah. I'm 35 though - don't think that's an insane number for my age. I think it's high enough to be a bit ashamed of, but not high enough to be considered "wild". I'm certainly not a wild guy. But double that is where it starts to get weird, in my view. Can't put a finger on why, it's just an arbitrary line that my mind has d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 11:59 AM
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I know it's terrible, but I'd just be moving straight on no matter the reason. I mean at that number what could the possible reason be anyway? Ex-porn star or ex-escort? I am not really interested in having a future with someone who has done sex work, as awful as that sounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 10:46 AM
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I'm not really sure what these pills really are. I know I'm not red so I think I must be blue? Anyway, yes I would be turned off if a woman had a significantly higher number than I do. However, that's because my number is almost in the realms of what I'd call embarassingly high. I feel the urge to lie to women about my number so they don't think I'm a dirty sket (I don't btw, but I feel the urge to). If a woman has say... double that? We're talking near triple digits. There's something wrong wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 10:08 AM
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Oh, I never said he was a bad person. Just a walloper. I view him the same way I view George Galloway: as a childish attention seeker that needs a skelpit arse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:19 PM
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And bear in mind that since he was lifelong unemployed, that fine was coming out his dole money in incremental payments. Dole money paid for by me and all the other Scottish taxpayers. Guy's an edgelord wank. Didn't get battered enough in school so he acts the cunt as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 11:34 AM
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Couples who do this are smart. The ideal would be separate households. Drake doesn't know shit - he's just a pedo whose only experience of cohabitation is sleeping under a Barbie duvet with the adolescents he likes to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 12:02 PM
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Yeah man but the existence of shiteatingfetish.com doesn't mean that the majority or even a significant percentage of people are into eating shit. Read my comment again: the women I'm meeting aren't into money. They're into Instafame, status and clout. I come across this constantly. And in contrast, very few "gold diggers". "Like-diggers" are much more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 04:40 PM
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I wonder how much of this is a cultural thing. I'm from the UK and wealth doesn't really seem to matter much to the women that I encounter. In general, they'd be much more interested in a guy with 75k Instagram followers than a guy with a 75k salary. I can't find evidence of the "women seek out money" stereotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 02:35 PM
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