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Especially since they often portray themselves as being very successful in life. Sir if you're so successful why are you on a dating app?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:58 PM
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Ding ding ding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:57 PM
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Every single military man I've come in contact with, including family members and guys that I've dated, has been toxic. They are brainwashed and likely have a lot of trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:55 PM
11

Yes! I'm convinced that the men who don't reach out and instead orbit your social media are just there for the dopamine. What's funny about that is some men have tried to come into my life as a "friend", but then they're literally never there. They don't reach out, don't check in, don't ask to see me (and if they do it's spontaneous — like, "do you want to go do something right now?" It's a clear indication to me that they were never interested in being a friend, they just wanted to feed off of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:51 PM
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Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:44 PM
62

So the logic behind that is, if he says he's too busy, he thinks she'll chase him, as if his supply is limited and she has to work for his attention/time. They'll also try to get you to think that they have other women competing for them. They'll sometimes even use triangulation tactics to make you jealous, for instance if they're still friends with or in contact with their ex, or any other attractive woman. I hope that makes sense. There's a high demand for me but I'm not dating because I'm wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:58 PM
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What's funny is I had called her for advice because I didn't know what to do about him and she said he would never change. She was his step mom and his dad and her had 3 kids and a house together, but he refused to marry her. She was the homemaker and also had a job. He had a house on the side that he would "escape" to. Low value runs in the family so it was good that I called to talk to her about it. She was like "don't end up like me!" I truly wish I could thank her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:54 PM
2

Thank you. They'll probably always have some poor woman around them. Men like that always have "backups"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:52 PM
3

Is there an update? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:44 PM
5

Right? Same with comments like "I won't bite" 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:42 PM
6

And he'll add in that she's shallow lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:42 PM
3

And LVM only do kind gestures when they want sex or when they've done something wrong. No LVM will ever treat you as good as they day you find out they cheated on you. That happened with a guy I ended up leaving. He bought be a bunch of flowers, candy, wanted to take me out, etc. That's the difference. Kindness isn't kindness when there's an expectation of reciprocity attached to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:38 PM
8

Men love complaining about the family dynamics that they forced upon society. They just love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:34 PM
2

Ugh. My dad's mom had 6 kids and my grandfather was in and out and never really there. My grandma was a bad ass bitch, but her whole life revolved around caring for her kids. When she got older she was always taking trips to casinos to play poker and drink brandy. You just KNOW she would have rather enjoyed her life when she was younger. 6 kids is a damn daycare at that point. This woman married a low value man and had not one, not two, not three, but SIX kids with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:33 PM
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I recently watched that movie. I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:28 PM
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They would rather blame women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:25 PM
2

Whenever I come across a man who acts entitled to having sex with me and isn't willing to put in effort, or mentions anything about paying for my meal, I make sure to let him know how much time and money is spent on appearance. I have LONG ASS hair so it takes a long time to style. I went to beauty school and even for me it's a lot. Makeup, hair products, nails, perfumes, it all costs money. My hair takes about an hour to wash, dry and style. My hourly freelance wage is $25/hour so I just apply …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:22 PM
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Many years ago I decided to get a Brazilian wax before going on a summer vacation so I didn't have to worry about shaving. I don't know if it was the wax she used or her lack of skill, but we could only do a bikini wax. It is so painful and so uncomfortable. The place I went to served alcohol and i had a shot of whiskey prior and it was still so painful. There is NO CHANCE IN HELL I am EVER waxing myself for a man. One time I had gone on some dates with a guy and he starts talking about his hair…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:15 PM
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When I used to date, like actually date, I would often show up without makeup and in normal clothes. Why do I have to meet all these standards but they can show up without makeup and in regular clothes too? I like dressing up for myself but I've learned that you should never put in a lot of effort on your appearance for a date, especially with a man you don't know. I will match energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:08 PM
8

I don't like Adam Sandler so that had me dying. If a man likes Adam Sandler that means he looks up to him and is most likely an LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:05 PM
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"Smegma" 🤢 Its concerning to me how many men do not know what smegma is. That question should be used for vetting because otherwise they might not be fully hygienic lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:04 PM
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That is unconditional love and what a partnership should be like. I can't count how many times a man dipped when things got difficult. I've experienced so many illnesses, so many surgeries, alone without anyone to care for me. I almost died years ago and while in the hospital for two weeks my boyfriend was going out clubbing, and then getting mad at me for saying the wrong thing when I had almost died from a brain infection and was heavily medicated. That is why I never ask a man for help or tak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:02 PM
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Can't forget about the statistics that proof men are more responsible for the spread of Covid because of their poor hygiene, lack of getting medical care, and promiscuity. All throughout the pandemic men were trying to meet up with me for sex. It was really concerning to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:00 PM
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Good lord. If anything a "population cliff" is a good thing because humans are a threat to the planet. This narrative reminds me of anti-abortion people who think we're going to go extinct. It's all just a load of bull shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:56 PM
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There are definitely men out there who get off on scaring or intimidating women. I've had enough experiences and have heard about enough experiences to know it's true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:55 PM
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Right? Look at all the awards the post got. Men "act" self aware but then they engage in activities that endanger or exploit women. It's all an act
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:54 PM
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The Gift of Fear is so helpful and should really be viewed as a Bible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:53 PM
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Eventually she will get tired of his low efforts, and then will see a post about how she's a whore because she didn't want to keep sleeping with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:51 PM
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To me true feminism would be to not let any man see you naked lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:45 PM
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It goes without saying that a LVM who is active in all of those activities listed because he is not mentally well. A man who isn't working on his mental health will gravitate toward anything that gives him a quick dopamine release. What's sad about that is the things they seek out for dopamine will eventually be unable to provide them with it. They are addicted to chasing dopamine because they refuse to work on their mental health. This is true for anyone no matter their gender
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:44 PM
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Tell me you're partner is bad in bed without telling me your partner is bad in bed lol Usually men like that aren't attentive in other areas of the relationship. Women get off on men who are emotionally available and who help out around the house. I would bet money that she is a full-blown pick me who would wipe his ass for him if he asked her to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:40 PM
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Right? Anytime I've tried to have a conversation outside of the bedroom about problems surrounding sex, they get offended and defensive and then call you mean. These are the type of men who can't make you orgasm then get mad at you for not having one, as if you're "holding off". I can have an orgasm by myself in a few minutes. It's not hard but these men got their sex education from porn so everything they do in bed is centered around their own pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:34 PM
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My exes make fake accounts to look at my social media. They probably do it to their other exes as well. So pathetic. One such ex I left in 2014 mostly because he was cheating but also his step mom warned me about him and his dad being narcissists, something I had never heard before. Anyway he STILL tries to get in contact with me. He's so pathetic. They all are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:30 PM
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Exactly. This is why vetting works. I did this with a guy a couple years back and by the third date his mask started to slip. I could tell so I just decided to exhaust him even more with conversation and questions. I could see by his body language that he was getting tired of being fake. It worked. He ghosted me and I had the satisfaction of not giving him what he wanted the whole time (sex), despite the way he was coming across. Many people project who they think someone is onto them, and that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:28 PM
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I agree. Guys say that to create a demand for their supply because he knows she can easily go somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:20 PM
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So true. The thing about paying for sex in regards to this topic comes up in my mind a lot. I will never have to pay for sex. Most women won't. Even when I'm old and wrinkly there will be some cougar chaser out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:15 PM
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Overbearing mother for sure, parents who coddled/enabled their bad behavior, if there was any kind of violence against their mother at home, if they didn't have any boundaries and could break rules and hurt other people without consequence, any kind of trauma would cause brain damage and might affect the amygdala and hippocampus, parents who were blatantly sexist, racist, homophobic, or just otherwise ignorant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:41 AM
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It's so weird that I came across this because earlier today I was thinking about all the wives who likely inspired and/or helped their husbands, and the husbands got all the recognition. That's why we never really heard about women doing these amazing things until people on the Internet started researching it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:08 AM
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He was definitely a predatory pedophile that groomed me and I had no idea until I got older and started therapy. He hung out with younger people and would buy everyone alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:40 PM
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Jealousy? No, I just remember when I lost my virginity at 16 to a 23 year old man who groomed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:13 PM
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I would forward this to the girlfriend for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:04 PM
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Has he never heard of smoothies? Slow cooked stew? He's feigning incompetence because he's lazy. Period. I have mental illnesses and suffer from depression too and I know it can be hard to prepare meals. But I also have the ability to use Google and you can find ideas online. If he can post to Reddit he can use Google. He just doesn't want to. I always have quick, healthy meals and snacks on hand for when I'm too mentally ill to cook. The grocery store near me has healthy prepared meals. Has he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:02 PM
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"I feel like an idiot" As you should. My son could fix himself macaroni and cheese when he was 8 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:59 PM
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I do this. The thing that came to mind is when guys I've just started talking to send me a "good morning beautiful" text or whatever. Not even my boyfriends would do that, and it's not like I care if they do. I like my space and I don't like a man I barely know texting me at 7am with some cheesy good morning text. I know everyone is different but for me I don't like it. So I'll just say "hey I don't like getting good morning texts from men I'm not even dating". If they are put off by it, so be i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:52 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:30 PM
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I was watching a documentary about sex trafficking and one of the hosts was saying how these women are basically being paid to be raped. The women talk about how they have to dissociate during, which is a tell tale sign that they are not enjoying what they're doing. Even if "voluntary", like a woman who becomes an escort or sugar baby, she is still doing it for the money. I am an ex sugar baby and sex worker and those are not my opinions, they are facts. If a woman claims otherwise she's just in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:26 PM
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I think it's the artist's signature
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:42 AM
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It reminds me of when men say stuff like "thanks for putting up with me". Wow, that sounds like a great relationship lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:31 AM
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They even mistake the kindness of service industry workers just doing their job. No, she doesn't like you, she has to be nice or she'll get fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:29 AM
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Yep. If a man cheats, he was seduced. If a woman gets promoted but a man doesn't, it was due to her looks, or they say "slept her way to the top". When a man talks about his ex, usually she was "crazy". If a man doesn't do a chore right, he says he "doesn't know how to do it" because his mom didn't teach him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:26 AM
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I just had a guy, of whom I went on a couple dates with in 4 years ago, text me out of nowhere wanting to meet up. I had to reject him a second time. I've had similar things happen in the past but that one was particularly irritating because we didn't really know each other, and we never slept with one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:23 AM
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What is he waiting for lol he did everything else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:14 AM
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And they'll even joke about rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:10 AM
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Meanwhile we are chastised for "faking it" but if men knew how to love us we wouldn't have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:42 AM
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Public dates or nothing at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:25 AM
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They didn't ask me and I've been raped in my sleep by my partner. I would bet that the percentage is more like 75-80%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:20 AM
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Yup. Based on my personal experience a man who wants to wait is bad in bed, insecure about his dick, or both. It reminds me of men who brag about how good they are at giving oral. They say that because they can't perform during PIV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:20 AM
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Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:18 AM
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So, either way you use women for your own gain. Gotcha.
/r/seduction15/06/21 01:57 AM
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This is horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:48 PM
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"She thinks my tractor's sexy" Uh no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:47 PM
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Said fuck you to my entire family, friends, and would have become a cave dwelling witch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:44 PM
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That article says what I struggle to say when I think about poly relationships and casual sex. It truly is like you're paying for sandwich or something at the store. What's the point in having sex that many people? It's just weird. I fucking hate it. I wish people would stop using the terms non-monogamous and poly and just say what it is: I am so unsatisfied in my life that I need an endless supply of sex and affection from as many people as possible. The more I think about poly relationships th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:42 PM
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The grossest thing about that is those men are out of their prime. They are old, wrinkly and are getting liver patches. Why on EARTH would any young woman want to be with an old wrinkly man? It's so gross! Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:38 PM
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That's likely only one or two months of child support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:06 AM
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I know guys who did that. Their voice cracks as if they're still a teenager
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:02 AM
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Unfortunately I grew up with a brother like that. He was abusive in many different (sometimes disgusting) ways and was a "peeping Tom". For some reason my parents didn't have a lock on the bathroom door (but they had locks on their bedroom door lol) so there wasn't much privacy. I was always being walked in on and spied on by my brother. It disturbs me. I wish my brother was dead and I fantasize about dancing on his grave and celebrating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:25 PM
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It's not just guys on Bumble, it's guys everywhere, in general. I cannot count how many times I've been asked out on a date from a guy who has no plan. He expects me to do all the planning. I can but I won't so if he doesn't take the reigns and figure it out he's not going on a date with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:21 PM
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In my clubbing years I never waited in line. I would just use the men's bathroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:12 PM
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That article title is atrocious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:11 PM
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I had a full panel done a few weeks ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:05 AM
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Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:59 AM
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Also, if he's an alcoholic that means he's an addict and likely addicted to sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:00 PM
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I think it's fake/staged because of how bad the acting is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:45 PM
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It's a video game reference I believe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:34 PM
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Men: "we don't want to be bread winners!" Also men: "women are gold diggers!" Also men: "i have a lot of money; have sex with me!" Also men: pays for sex; watches porn; frequents strip club; pays for only fans "sex workers are WHORESSS! IF MY DAUGHTER WAS A SEX WORKER I WOULD DISOWN HER!!!" Also men: "women just want free meals!" Also men: only willing to go 50/50 on dates Also men: "want to get coffee or go for a walk?" Also men: "she didn't put out. She's ugly anyway" Also men: 6 months later.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:00 AM
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The next time I hear a man say he's afraid to ride horses because they're scary, I'm going to say "now you know women feel". Funny thing is, horses are very sensitive to energies so if you're anxious or scared, they will be too. They react to what you're reacting to. So when a man says this he's basically admitting that he's scary haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:44 AM
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I'm so paranoid about my shit getting hacked. It has crossed my mind with an ex. Is that stuff easy to do? I have looked through my phone and laptop in the past just to make sure there wasn't any background apps running.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:30 AM
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I have absolutely shut it down because of that, but also when I've finished and he hasn't. I straight up reverse the roles. I'm done baby, you can go jerk off in the bathroom now. I'm not your sex slave lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:28 AM
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So true. It's disturbing. Reminds me of how men think if you're not being vocal that you're not enjoying it, or if you haven't had an orgasm yet, you're also not enjoying it. Or how when you start to enjoy it and they know, they speed it up and ruin the flow so you lose the orgasm. Then they just pump really fast and keep asking "did you come yet? Did you come yet? Come for me! COME FOR MEEEE!" It's like, SHUT up, man! You manage to ruin everything, even my orgasm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:17 AM
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I vet for this too, only after they tell me about how they want to have a threesome, I go on and on about how I want to have a MMF threesome and how I want a guy who will do that with me. It's funny how quickly they'll shoot down that idea, but mostly a good vetting tool. I would never date a man who had porn fantasies because he will likely try to coerce me to act them out for him. I'm bisexual and every day I become more and more gay. Women aren't as sexually aggressive as men are, or at least…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:49 PM
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I taught my child sign language when he was an infant but have nothing to show for it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:11 AM
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Literally no one enjoys pain. If they do, their brain is trying to come to terms with abuse and making it "okay". I'm so sick of BDSM being pushed on women. Most of these men would never want the roles reversed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:50 PM
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I have similar experiences. Extensive therapy and lifestyle changes helped me to see toxic behavior patterns that I'd adopted from childhood. I have heavy childhood abuse and trauma, up until my early 20s. Lots of assault, sexual abuse. I am still trying to "re-wire" my brain to stop associating a loving relationship with an abusive one, and this includes friendships. I had no idea so many of my friends were abusive to me, but this was a theme my entire life. When I was a child a group of my bes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:18 PM
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I'm an ex sex worker both on and offline (stripping, camming) and the customers are absolute garbage. Sure they paid for it, but it comes at a cost. I had one guy go completely bonkers. He thought I had confessed my love to him and wanted to runaway with him. It was borderline sad because I knew he was mentally ill and I have mental illnesses too, but the things he would say were seriously that of something you would hear about in a crime documentary. I won't go into detail because I am still tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:13 PM
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Ugh. This reminds me of so many experiences. I can't stand men who put themselves down or bring up things they've been through just for sympathy. I get it a lot because I'm quite understanding, compassionate and caring, however I don't tolerate it. I can always tell. And they always want to give you their SOB stories. "Feel sorry for me!!!" Ew, no! That is not attractive. You know what IS attractive? Seeing a man going to regular therapy, taking care of his health, keeping up with his hobbies, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:05 PM
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I agree. If people decide to be in a partnership together, they should act as best friends/family members who will be there for each other through it all. If they're not interested in doing that, I don't see the point of them being in a relationship. It always boggles my mind how so many men get into relationships where they don't really like the woman enough to be supportive. It's an unwritten law that if you want the benefits of a relationship, you have to contribute to those benefits equally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:57 PM
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It's almost obvious, huh lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:38 PM
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I have major PTSD from men, especially if they at all resemble someone who abused me. I have immediate flash backs followed by a panic attack, almost always. My doctor and I are working on managing it, but I live in a city and it's not exactly "safe", so it can be hard to avoid. I want to go live in a women and LGBTQ+ community just so I can exist without being sexually harassed. Online and offline
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:21 AM
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Wasn't Babe Ruth a drunk? Or am I misremembering?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:00 AM
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That last article you posted gave me goosebumps, especially when it mentioned how watching violent porn activates the same area in the brain as if they were doing it, which can eventually lead to them actually doing it. And people say BDSM isn't bad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:52 AM
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Everyone was laughing about it. They eyes of children were being shielded. It was so funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:07 PM
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It's pathetic if a guy can't get hard. I stopped dating a guy because of it. He was so insecure that he put the blame on ME! He then verbally assaulted me and acted like he was ending things with me! LOL! I'm not sorry that I prefer having sex with a hard dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:44 PM
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Hahaha yessss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:41 PM
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This is true for all species 😂 I went to the zoo one time and the male elephant was following/harassing one of the females for several minutes before finally getting on top of her. Couldn't get it in. He finished in the air, blowing everywhere, and the look in her eye was so fucking relatable. She looked so disappointed and just walked off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:40 PM
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That's the phrase I was looking for. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:18 AM
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I really hope she sees his post. What a loser!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:21 AM
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I do this because of childhood abuse. It's a hard habit to break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:20 AM
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And it all feeds the turning wheel. Sex sells. Marriage sells. Babies sell. Healthcare sells. It's a big sales funnel. Everything feeds the beast. So many businesses/entities rely on the "American Dream".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:20 AM
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It's because it's becoming more and more accepted, and therefore more content is being made and distributed. People are literally becoming desensitized. If we continue down this road, there will be people having sex out in the open, everywhere, like bonobo apes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:16 AM
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Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:15 AM
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I don't really give a shit what I look like. I carry 3 different weapons and am trained in jiu jitsu and Muay Thai. I've been assaulted and have actually escaped from a guy who was likely going to kidnap and murder me. I have had a gun pointed in my face. I do not care. I will not worry anymore about what I'm wearing. We literally could do everything to "prevent" it and it would still happen. Huge dude gets on the elevator with me a couple days ago. I'm small; barely over 5 feet and 95 lbs. this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:13 AM
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I never thought about it that way. Why are we even labeled as being single? Oh, it's because women are only valued for what they can contribute to society, and she can't do that unless she's having sex or married! I appreciate you and thank you for commenting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:25 PM
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You're so right. I appreciate you bringing up gay men, because I often think about them when I think of women sex workers. We don't hear much about their experiences, I wonder why? Oh wait, it's due to toxic masculinity who attack gay men. It's just sad all around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:23 PM
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That's really interesting. What compelled you to get into that? Did you have a script you had to stick to? I'm intuitive but I don't like the word psychic and I don't sell it, probably for similar reasons as you. I utilize it on a regular basis to navigate my own life, but have helped other people. For instance, many of my friends ask me for dating advice. I can usually pick up on things and have been accurate about my assumptions, but I think a lot of that has to do with my interest in forensic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:20 PM
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It's kind of a joke, because of how the stereotypical psychic is employed and works for someone "higher up", but a freelance psychic works for themselves whenever they feel like it. But I'm not an actual psychic lol Edit I was really stoned when I came up with it and when I think about it now it doesn't make much sense hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:41 PM
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Exactly. None of them realize the sacrifice going into it, because society promises endless easy money. The only thing I have to show for it is the knowledge and experience I gained through managing and marketing myself. I ended up getting into marketing and have since built up a nice resume. It is SO much work. In a professional porn production, the woman is only responsible for her performance and maintaining her appearance. Whereas with stuff like OF, she is the entire production crew, editor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:37 PM
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It really is. It's so.. ugh.. what's the word for this? Lol It's like it's being catered to appeal to young women, like very young women who are easily influenced by the "American dream" and "Prince Charming". The purpose of that show is to sell marriage and baby making
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:02 PM
7

When I heard that they think they peak at 50 I almost spit my drink out. I would say the peak age is well below 50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:53 PM
12

People always comment on how fast I walk. I've been followed and grabbed by a guy from behind, dressed all in black. Clearly thought I was a teenager or something. I've been cornered by random men on the street. I get a lot of cardio in when I'm out and about because I always do those full circle turns while walking up see if a guy is following me. I did that at a stop light a few weeks ago. I thought I was being followed so after I crossed the street, I just kept crossing the street and when I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:47 PM
63

I'm an ex "sex worker" and I agree with a lot of what that woman said. I have many regrets about the content that's floating around. I've had to get photos taken down from porn websites. I look for photos a few times a year just to make sure. It haunts me. Men absolutely treat sex workers like trash. Yeah, yeah, "not all men" (sarcasm) but a large majority do. Because they don't see you as a real person, you are an object that supports their sexual gratification. Aka a tool. Women are not in con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:37 PM
11

It's always the ones without kids too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:21 PM
20

This made me laugh so much. Neither of them are using their arms so this is the right answer 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:18 PM
36

He has carpal tunnel from jerking off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:17 PM
88

They always have backups
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:15 PM
201

It truly is about shaming women. It supports the narrative that women don't choose to be single, and if they are, it's because she's a bitch. Men love that narrative because it alleviates them of any accountability for their behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:10 PM
166

That's so disturbing. He gave himself away. I'm glad you followed your instincts and got out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:03 PM
17

Yeah, she's basically being conditioned to be used/exploited by the patriarchy. Young girls are pressured into being women, while women are pressured into staying young girls. Think about it. We can't win. We can never just be a child, or an elder. We're either "ripe" or "used up".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:55 AM
4

It has to do with hormone changes that occur after they ejaculate. It takes 20-30 minutes for oxytocin (the bonding hormone) to release in men, whereas it's almost instant for women. This is why men "joke" about leaving right after. They're intentionally avoiding "catching feelings". This is why it's always a red flag if he doesn't want to cuddle after sex; he doesn't want to get emotionally bonded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:49 AM
10

The first time I went to a concert alone I had the best time. I never had to check in with anyone to see how they were doing, or go with them to the bathroom, or look around for them, etc. The entire experience was about me being at that concert. I don't think I ever stopped dancing. I mingled with a group of girls near the end, but I had the best time being solo. It was so much fun. I always recommend that people go do stuff like that solo. You have a totally different experience. I love taking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:41 AM
2

This just reminded me that I forgot to buy myself flowers today while at the store. Tomorrow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:34 AM
4

I'm not pulling this out of my own ass, I'm regurgitating sociobiology. You don't have to disagree, but trying to personally attack me is really petty and ugly. But that's just my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 10:35 PM
8

Woman: runs away Man: she's just playing hard to get!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:39 PM
8

This thought process is so believable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:39 PM
6

I read the missed connections on Craigslist for material (screen shots of men to make fun of). I always see ones that are written by a man, about a woman who smiled at him. Hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:38 PM
10

I agree! I sometimes like to remind men that women are programmed to go for the "alpha male", the one with the most testosterone, the biggest balls, and the best genes. It's biology. In all species of animals, it is the male that competes for a mate. This is why some species of female birds tend to have dull coloring, while the male birds are very colorful. Personally, I don't need sex. I masturbate when I'm in the mood, and then move on with my life. It's a lot less trouble than it is to sleep …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:36 PM
15

Last night while laying in bed ruminating about life, I realized that things ARE shifting. More women are coming to FDS, and more women are bringing FDS topics to light on other platforms. More women aren't dating, and the ones that are, are raising the bar. Very slowly, but steadily, women are drifting further away from the strongholds of the patriarchy. I see it, I feel it. I can tell men are becoming more and more frustrated by it. I shoot down any and every man who tries to have a conversati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:30 PM
27

The point is that he's saving money/not wanting to contribute because he's planning on his wife being dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:19 PM
129

Also think about the amount of time that went into this. Literally hours of thinking this was cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:16 PM
10

We're to a point where men are obsessed with anal sex and coerce every woman they meet to have anal sex with them. Several months back I was talking to a guy from OLD (never again). Out of nowhere he asks "so what's your fetish?" I said something like, "that's a personal question I'm not going to answer". He was like "oh. Well I like eating ass." I was so turned off. Just the thought of a man putting his mouth on something that shit comes out of, is just not hygienic at all. It's so gross to me.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:15 PM
34

"Baby boy" is one I use sometimes. "Neanderthal" is also a good one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:34 AM
15

I can't think of so many off the top of my head. The delusional is real with this one...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:34 AM
6

I have a horror story involving that. I told him he must need to take a shower. After the shower it still smelled. Never talked to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:36 PM
2

Omg.. I struggled with eating disorders as a teen and this hits too close to home. This is so fucking sad. What a piece of shit. He's only posting this because he wants people to feel sorry for him because he feels bad about it. "Nothing I do will ever be good enough" This line is classic for narcissistic behavior. It's emotionally manipulative. "My fetish ruined MY life" before he even mentions hers. Clearly he's a narcissist and only cares about himself. I have a fantasy where I live in the wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:23 PM
4

Exactly. Otherwise he'll string her along until someone "better" comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:17 PM
3

It is really interesting to see how people, particularly men, tend to celebrate Joe Exotic. They gloss over all the bad shit he does/did, like they do with all men. Picasso Pablo is a good example of that. Horrible man, hated by many, yet men today defend him saying "he's not so bad" or "don't be so judgmental". Men are always willing to forgive men who do bad things, and point out the good they do. Whereas if a woman does one bad thing, she's instantly outcasted and anything good she's done is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:12 PM
10

This makes me angry in so many ways, and brings up so many feelings for me. For many years I questioned/denied being bisexual because I was afraid it was a result of being conditioned by men to enjoy sex with other women. I still have a lot of questions in regards to my own sexuality. I come from an abusive past and I had boyfriends/partners who forced me to have threesomes and engage in sex with other women for their enjoyment. I often wonder if other women have similar experiences with being c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:48 PM
6

How much you want to bet that her mom was forced into marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:42 PM
70

For centuries men have been afraid of the power of women. It is so easy to seduce and control a man. Yet the patriarchy has drilled into their heads that women are powerless and should submit to men. You can hypnotize a man just by dancing in front of him. Ask any stripper lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:22 PM
117

They literally never talk about circumcision as genital mutation. If they did, they would have been talking about it. Why aren't they protesting about it? They are so lazy and entitled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:18 PM
122

My son's dad was very adamant about him being circumcised. We were not religious and I was against it. But because I didn't have a dick, apparently my opinion didn't matter. I felt so bad about it. Men act like women push for circumcision, when it's almost always men. Then they act like women think uncircumcised dicks are gross. I prefer uncircumcised, I don't know why. Maybe my brain is attracted to natural things. Who knew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:17 PM
36

Men know it's easier for the woman to convince other women to have sex with them. That's why they never approach women, it's always their gf/wife. They use their gf/wife to get laid. It's a free pass to cheat. But he'll likely never agree to a MMF threesome. Anytime a guy has suggested anything like that to me, I say only if we can have a MMF first. Then I gush over the idea of having sex with another man. Then they change their tune. It's funny how these men act progressive when poly isn't prog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:13 PM
7

My parents really screwed up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:06 PM
85

Desensitization is dangerous. Ask any stripper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:06 PM
167

Men can rub up against anything and get off. A gust of wind can set a guy off. A slight fabric rubbing. Actually, this only happens if they're not porn-addicted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:05 PM
49

I cringe when I think back to my 15 year old self, when I realized I did not look like women in porn. Eating disorders followed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:04 PM
137

Not to mention, it's obvious to me that she's internalizing how she feels about him paying women on only fans, because she is trying to become one of them to win his affection. She said it's a "joke", but we all know that joke comes from a place of truth. She masks it as a "joke", most likely because he shoots her down anytime she voices her opinion. The same thing happens sometimes in relationships where the man cheats. The woman will think that she's not meeting his needs, so she suggests an o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:02 PM
21

Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:56 PM
51

It's on so many levels. I dated a guy who was always "joking around", would call names (I know, I know). Anytime I did it back, he immediately got serious, and acted like I was a horrible person. He could never take it but he always dished it out. All men are like this. They criticize literally everything about women, but the second a woman does it back, they get all butt hurt. It just goes to show how insecure many of them really are. Especially the ones who regularly degrade women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:37 PM
6

Also, he makes it all about him. He doesn't even consider her feelings or wants at all. It's pathetic. He doesn't want to commit to her. I've seen husbands cry at their own weddings because they were so happy to get married. Men like to act that they don't like monogamy or commitment, yet they are more emotionally dependent on us, then we are them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:34 PM
3

Thank you for the kind words. That's not even the worst experience 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:05 PM
9

They're just lying about it. Men use OLD to increase their odds of having sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:17 PM
3

I made a list in 2014... Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:16 PM
30

Wow sounds like one of my exes. He was always going on about my clothing, makeup, what I ate, my weight, etc. I weighed around 125 but he always told me I would look better at 100 or 95 lbs. For my height, 95 lbs would be considered underweight. He knew my past issues with eating disorders, too. It's almost like he was trying to break me down! Not surprisingly, my eating disorder issues (that I had worked so hard to manage) started coming up again, and I started to feel really bad about myself. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:15 PM
44

I once explained this to a guy. Men don't typically use the same amount of personal hygiene/grooming products that women use. So to go on a date all they have to do is take a shower and maybe put product in their hair. Whereas, my hair takes 1 hour to wash and style, the products I use are expensive. I use three different kinds of lotion, teeth whitener, makeup, etc. Before the date has even begun, I've already invested time/money into it. So when a guy wants to go dutch, he's basically telling …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:07 PM
6

Most of the time it's because they don't shower often and don't wash their clothes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:58 PM
12

Lol!! What?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:20 AM
47

Exactly. If they can't get it up that's how you know they watch too much porn, or they have some problem with their hormones. Imagine being so porn addicted that you can't even have sex because of erectile dysfunction caused by porn consumption. It's almost like karma, in a way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:19 AM
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I agree. I know men can jerk off to fully clothed women, so anything less than that is going to arouse them even more. Not to mention the fact that a lot of young people use social media, and we all know how porn can warp a young mind. The dancing videos on TikTok put me into an instant rage for so many reasons: I fear for the girl's life, I get angry about the men who likely harass her, and I just hate it. I block all users who just dance around on TikTok so I don't have to see it. Just look at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:22 AM
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Men are so obsessed with their own dick size because of porn. All insecurity surrounding dick size literally comes from porn. Big balls are usually the indication of high testosterone, and I don't think dick size matters when it comes to hormones. I'll have to fact check that, but my point is if the roles were reversed, society would be very different. All men would be in the gym all day long, counting calories, investing in hair/body products, getting waxed, getting their hair colored, getting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:17 AM
13

"An average of 4 hours per week" Oh my. I've had exes who likely watched more than that. Yikes. Biiiiig yikes. No wonder I'm so happy single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:10 AM
19

Most likely. I've never had a good experience with a guy who wasn't conventionally attractive. I've also had bad experiences with really attractive guys. Men like this only go for women way out of their league. Then they get rejected and blame hot women who don't go for ugly guys for their problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:08 AM
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So true. I had an experience where I told a guy I wasn't poly and wasn't interested, and he still pushed. Not only do they want to be poly and have it be expected, they want to normalize it for women so they can have more sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:44 AM
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I've come across a handful of guys who, after I rejected them, acted like they were rejecting ME! It's a little bit delusional lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:31 PM
3

Haha I just summarized yours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:29 PM
8

You're so right. Society enables that behavior. "Boys will be boys!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:42 PM
2

Thank you. At the time it really bothered me but getting validation through unemployment really helped! He was so mad! Hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:40 PM
2

I think so, too. I also think it's a form of projection. They feel shame and internalize it, then project that onto women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:39 PM
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I agree. They do this with a lot of things; act like they can't do it, so they don't even try. Even if you tell them directly, or in five different ways, they still act like they don't know. I feel like it's a form of gaslighting. It makes you think they don't understand, even though you're explaining it thoroughly; this causes you to question your own logic in what you're saying and if it makes sense. It's very manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:47 AM
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My thoughts too. It's easy to elude to things in film, it's always done. I get triggered every time one comes up. If I wasn't forced to watch it, I would be able to control the response from being triggered. It just really bothers me. It can ruin an entire movie for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:40 AM
19

No matter what we do, men will still judge. Many years back my boss told me I wasn't wearing enough makeup and that I looked sick and needed to put on more. The kicker is that I actually was sick. I was later diagnosed with multiple illnesses. I actually got unemployment for that job because he fired me one day, when I came into work for my shift. I had the flu (fever, vomit, all that) and couldn't find anyone to cover my shift. He forced me to come in and threatened to fire me. He fired me the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:37 AM
19

This is why men love it when women talk in a baby voice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:33 AM
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There was a thread going today between my friends where we were all talking about how we haven't heard anything about our smiles since the pandemic began, and how great it is. I'm going to keep wearing a mask. I would rather people around me feel safe and seen/heard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:29 AM
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Yep. I was dating a guy who didn't have feelings for me, so wasn't very giving (pickme days). But once he caught feelings, he was very giving and always made sure I had an orgasm before he did, and I did every time. They know, they just don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:28 AM
2

Happy belated birthday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:25 AM
3

Same! I like reading it with my morning coffee, and in the evening before bed. Best times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:25 AM
1

Sigh. I knew a guy like that. All he did was brag about money and complain about being used by women. Hmm, maybe it's because he only goes for women he meets at bars, when he's drunk and talking his ass off about his money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:24 AM
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In the book The Gift of Fear the author talks about how he came across victims who had a bad feeling about the guy in the beginning, but ignored it. Women know. I knew with my exes, but ignored it and paid the consequences, even though it wasn't my fault they abused me. I look at dating in a completely different way now. 80% of women victims of homicide are killed by a man they knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:46 PM
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Saaaaaaaaaaaame! Especially when their intention is to be a voice of reason. How can I respect what someone has to say if what they're doing demonstrates a lack of intelligence? I see this all the time from "Instagram gurus". I don't even want to watch this video because of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:43 PM
24

Where are they know? Who knows! I cut them out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:35 PM
29

It feels so good to have the roles reversed. I've never seen something like this. It's always women doing the overly sexual challenges and the men standing by, ogling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:34 PM
22

They even make Dude Wipes which are marketed toward smelly men who don't shower. Yet, here we are. I've heard that some (closeted) men think touching their own butthole makes them "gay" so they don't do it. It's only a rumor but it's believable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:30 PM
15

While they were off fighting wars, women were in the factories and in the homes taking care of everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:26 PM
9

This is why my social media name is different than my real name. I've had guys look me up on social media after meeting me somewhere. It's very creepy. Also, just throwing this out there for anyone who needs it: never share your location online through any social media app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:20 PM
7

I'm cringing so much over the thought of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:20 PM
14

I taught my son about boundaries, rape, sexual harassment (like cat calling, inappropriate touching), etc. I've been cat called and hit on in front of him many times (once by an old lesbian woman LOL!!!) so the conversations started early. If there's one thing I do on this earth, it's raise a good man so he can be an ally and advocate for women. People always tell me how polite he is. He's the type of person who thanks you again and again, even if days have passed. He's such a good boy. I hope m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:15 PM
9

When I was a little girl I was constantly told how beautiful I was. They would point out features like my eyes and hair, but never about anything I did. I've been an artist and musician since I was a young age, and did a lot of other compliment-worthy things. But all I ever heard was compliments about my looks. It happened so much that my response was "I know". People thought it was funny, but I was so young I didn't understand the humor. All I knew was that everyone was always telling me how pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:11 PM
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I know it sounds outlandish, but my first thought was perhaps the husband has sexual feelings toward OP, so any "rejection" that comes from her is automatically filed in the "sluts who won't sleep with me" folder, which would explain his response. I can't fathom any other reason why he would respond like that. It's definitely a "nice guy" thing to say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:08 PM
68

I think he meant to say "invite" but it got autocorrected
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:05 PM
5

My family wasn't like this at all. My parents families weren't either. I have no idea what it's like to have a loving, present, supportive family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:54 PM
11

There is nothing more pathetic than a man so porn obsessed that the real thing doesn't make him aroused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:53 PM
1

So that's where the nurse fetish came from
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:52 PM
36

It's as if the pickme mentality extends to their sons. They set their sons up to be with a pickme in the future. It's a structure designed by the patriarchy that locks people in and they can't get out. Some of the best skills I have are "homemaking" skills, because my mom was the 50s housewife/pickme and my dad didn't lift a finger. My brother grew up spoiled and entitled because of that family dynamic. Meanwhile I can cook, bake, clean, fix appliances, sew, mow the lawn, and can organize and pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:49 PM
45

It's so wild we have to do this. Men can and will sexualize anything and everything, especially if it's phallic. Applying lipstick/lipgloss is another thing ruined by men. So many things ruined by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:38 PM
80

This is why I never eat a banana the "normal way" if I'm in public or around men. I break up with my fingers and make dead eye contact with them. Anyway, men are disgusting. Men gave the word a sexual connotation because apparently incest is hot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:45 PM
36

Imagine what it will be like when the kid asks about their birth. "Oh and your dad thought my pain and your birth was so sexually arousing that he jerked off the entire time!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:42 PM
15

I say this all the time. In literally every species of animal the male has to work/compete for a mate. Not only that, but he "protects" her from having any other mates after he gets with her. This is where the "chastity belt" idea came from. It's all about control. The patriarchy is, and has always been, about controlling women. But they twisted it so that women have to compete, which goes against nature. This is why I wait around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:37 PM
8

He's "self made" because he doesn't view her as a person. To him, she is an object/asset to help him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:14 PM
7

"The connections between and among women are the most feared, the most problematic, and the most potentially transforming force on the planet." Edit: I can't stand when people only use parts of the quote so there's the whole thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:10 PM
8

Is*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:08 PM
10

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:05 PM
10

Boooorrrrrrrrinngg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:05 PM
5

How much you wanna bet he hasn't even applied for police training
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:04 PM
9

Pretty sure they're filming a screen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:02 PM
21

This reminds me of an ex friend of mine who used to slut shame literally any pretty woman, even her best friend! SHES ON ONLY FANS NOW HAHAHAHA! I really want to shame her but I know she already feels ashamed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:49 PM
17

I'm an ex sex worker (stripper/cam girl) and I can say with confidence that no sex worker is mentally well. They do not exist. If they act like they are, they're likely suppressing a lot of trauma, to the point where they're blind to their own self-abuse. Voluntarily deciding to do sex work is a form of self-abuse. People who have been abused and haven't dealt with it are often guilty of abusing themselves through alcohol, sex, etc. Sex work is their way of "dealing" with the shame because to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:47 PM
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It's not even an argument. If I'm sucking a dick it's because I want to, so if I'm not getting paid it doesn't matter. Sucking a dick not because you want to, but because you're getting paid to, is vastly different from being in a relationship and wanting to please your partner. It's like they just don't get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:39 PM
3

Sigh. I feel that on a deep level. FDS has really opened my eyes. I'm glad we're here and able to reflect and see progress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:53 AM
34

True. Men are afraid of each other, they just don't/won't admit it. Another theory is that men like that don't respect women, but they respect other men. So in this case the men are likely more concerned about losing the respect of/being rejected by a man, than they are a woman. They truly care more about being one of the bros. They're willing to lose their dignity by harassing women because it boosts their bro points in their circle jerk club.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:14 PM
8

I know the video you're referencing, and I'd never thought about it in that way. In the real world, if I said something to a guy who was checking me out, he'd probably laugh and/or call me a bitch. The complete opposite. The fact is that men are loyal to other men, period. The entitlement is widespread, just like their legs on the city bus seat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:01 PM
1

So I have a weird thing where I feel I have to tidy up before a cleaner comes, but I just get over it. I used to clean houses when I was young, and we did not care. House cleaners/maids don't spend a lot of time thinking about all those little things. They're just there to clean. I have a non-bias view of messes because of those jobs I did as a teenager, and because I've had friends who were depressed or had a surgery or something and needed help cleaning. I've helped so many friends clean. You …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:56 PM
2

This happens for a few reasons. One of the main reasons is that men prioritize their male friendships, and that bond is important to them. They are more excited to tell their friends about the woman they had sex with, than they are about the act of sex itself. They get a huge ego boost over that. Their bromances are almost more important than their romances in that way, because they look to the friend group for validation and acceptance. If he goes against someone in the group, he will likely be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:43 PM
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An online acquaintance of mine asked me for a tarot reading about a guy she was seeing. I didn't know anything going into it. The entire reading was about how he was trying to manipulate and take advantage of her, particularly her finances. She didn't fully believe that was the case, but a couple weeks later she contacted me and told me he was a scammer! She had sent him some money, but didn't disclose to me how much or how often. All I know is she was really upset. I felt so bad for her. She's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:32 PM
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Also, men can and will jerk off to it. Even if it's not overtly sexual. They will, and they do. I wish more women would see that as "free porn" and stop doing it. If not for themselves, for the young women out there who are emulating it. It just makes me so sad. I feel this cycle will never end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:27 PM
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The "naturally hairless" thing really got to me. I'm pretty sure that would be considered a rare health condition if you were an adult that didn't grow pubic hair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:25 PM
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As if these men don't share nudes they get. "Only I can share your nudes!" Sometimes if a random internet guy asks for nudes, I send him a stock image of a naked man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:22 PM
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It was truly disturbing. My rating was a B+ lol. They also had these plugs that they would insert inside women to "claim" them, as if they were looking at cattle and marking the ones that were sold. It was really chilling. I really wish the dream had lasted longer because I knew what was going on and felt like I was a spy lol When the news about Epstein came out it chilled me to the bone. I've had premonitions in dreams before but rarely it's about things like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:15 PM
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80% of crimes against women are done by people they know. It's not a gift to assume that a missing (or presumed dead) woman was the victim to a man she knew. I don't disagree or anything, I just think that it's good to note that statistics don't lie, so anytime a woman goes missing, there's a very high chance the reason was due to a boyfriend, husband, brother, son, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:12 PM
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They're the same guys who brag about their dog having big balls. Ew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:01 PM
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As I sit here sipping my coffee, realizing that many of my ex boyfriends raped me by initiating sex while I was still asleep or half asleep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:54 PM
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I had a very dark handmaid's tale dream almost exactly one month before Epstein was arrested. In the dream I was in a warehouse with a bunch of women, all dressed in lingerie. We were being rated by our looks and how "fertile" we were. There were men all around in business suits, laughing, joking about how they were going to be fucking us later, and slapping our asses. Women were supposed to perform sex acts for these men too, which they were doing. The dream was lucid, so I knew I was dreaming,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:53 PM
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Okay, replace wet and dry with whatever words suit you. The meaning is the same. Of course I'm referring to arousal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:45 PM
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Totally!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:13 PM
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I've had some toxic friends in the past. The woman that first came to mind was cheated on, and also cheated on her husband. One time she made out with my date while I was in the bathroom. She's unhappily married still and on only fans now lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:11 PM
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Men lack empathy so much that they misinterpret a woman being nice/having empathy, as having a romantic interest in them. There was a study done on this somewhere, but I don't have the link saved and I don't feel like searching right now. It basically explained why men fall in love with/fantasize about strippers, nannies, nurses, waitresses, basically anyone who has a profession that requires showing basic empathy. This is why men suddenly get mad when they find out they were "friend-zoned". To …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:54 AM
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Yes. It's so easy to put in a different age, too. I've legit asked to see a man's ID on a date. I told him "if anything happened to me, my friend will know who I was last with". Seems extreme but not if you're meeting him for the first time. If you decide to ride in his car, take a picture of the license plate and if he asks, say the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:48 AM
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They absolutely won't stop whining about the Jada smith thing, either. They made such a big deal out of that. But when men cheat, they're celebrated. They call it "natural".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:44 AM
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It really creeps me out to think how much a lot of men like age gaps. It starts young. They fantasize about an older woman. Then they get older and fantasize about the younger woman. It's very odd. I've been cat called by high school aged boys and I'm in my 30s. It grossed me out so much. It was at the grocery store, too. I was trying to buy food and get out of there, but had to be reminded of the patriarchy, who thinks they're entitled to women of all ages no matter their age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:43 AM
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It's gotten much worse, for sure. I've acquired more weapons to carry while out (during the day, mind you. I don't go out at night anymore). Men are becoming more bold and more invasive. All throughout lockdown, all sorts of men have been trying to hook up with me. Men are more to blame for COVID-19 because they can't keep their dicks in their pants. I truly am afraid to leave my apartment, especially at night. I always have to mentally prepare for what might happen. When I hear about shootings …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:40 AM
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I have a folder on my hard drive with evidence, just in case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:35 AM
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I think it runs in the family, based on how her mother didn't think it was a good idea, but didn't say anything about it. Meanwhile the dad is parading around in his cowboy hat, like some polygamy king. He's probably in favor of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:33 AM
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Okay, I've been keeping up on this and it is literally the worst. I'm good at reading body language and she doesn't want any of it, but is going along with it. She gets nothing out of it. She had less of a man before and now she has even less. She isn't even married anymore, so if he decides she's out, she's screwed legally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:32 AM
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They're also the ones talking shit about women who are "dry". She's dry because she's repulsed by you. If I'm attracted to a guy, he doesn't have to do anything, it's buckets. These men don't make women wet so instead they shame women for not being attracted to them. Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:31 AM
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This has happened to me before. It's as if they brainwash you so well that you end up brainwashing yourself. I literally woke up one morning and it was as if it had all dawned on me. The best way to begin any new dating experience is to not get emotionally attached, and to not get close intimately too soon. Physical bonding and sex releases oxytocin and other powerful bonding hormones. I won't even save a guy's number unless I'm interested in him long term, or if I get to know him better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:29 AM
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Most men get fit when they want to attract a woman. Anyone who wants to attract someone knows they have a better chance if they're fit. I can't stand the guys who put zero effort into their appearance, yet expect it from women. Men like that are delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:21 AM
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Kind of how women are seen as the seductress who takes advantage of a man and lures him into her vagina. Hahaha.. okay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:11 AM
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Her "freaking awesome" is my "misery"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:09 AM
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There's literally no escape from harassment. Even if I stay home it happens on my phone. Just today I got a message from a guy I went on one date with over a year ago, and haven't talked to since. He was asking if I wanted to come over and "hang out"? I asked for his name and I said, "oh yeah [name], with the audacity". He didn't get it. I live in a city and anywhere I go I expect to get harassed in some way. At the very least I'd like to be invisible, without some middle aged guy rushing over t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:56 AM
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Yup. They have the ability, they just choose not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:50 AM
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Isn't it funny how "baby talk" is seen as sexual to men? They literally love being seen as a helpless baby so women will take care of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:44 AM
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My child's sperm donor slept during most of labor. If he wasn't sleeping, he was smoking weed in the hospital parking lot. I had to wake him up to let him know his kid was about to come out. I guess I shouldn't have gotten drunk around him that one night 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:41 AM
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Men who complain about gold diggers are the same men who have nothing of value to offer a woman, not even money. Rarely do men with actual money complain about gold diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:38 AM
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What a waste of money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:36 AM
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I have a new rule now: if the thought of him hovering above me naked grosses me out, I won't date him. I'm sure anyone would feel the same way. I will never force myself to lower my standards at the off chance that he might be a good guy. I would rather he look good and then turn out to be bad, than look bad and turn out to be bad. I've dated bad/bad before and it's better to just be single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:35 AM
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Male comedians are held at such lower standards. I see so much "comedy" online from men that just isn't funny, yet somehow everyone thinks so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:32 AM
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He really isn't, yet it seems like every LVM loves him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:31 AM
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This might be a reach, but she might be envious of single women, while at the same time realizing her man is LV, so she's targeting single women with standards, because they're a representation of who she won't be. Just my thoughts on projection. I've had experiences with married women who seemed annoyed by the fact that I was single and could date. They're always women in bad relationships. It comes out in different ways but they're usually the ones who try to force blind dates on you, as if th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:12 AM
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I swear this "man" is no older than 17
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:04 PM
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Usually when couples over share/post details of their relationship and lives together, they're overcompensating for what it isn't. That's social media in a nutshell. They're nothing but lifestyle influencers. That's why I never feel sad or envious when I see posts like that on social media. People who are confident with themselves and with their partners don't need to post that type of stuff online. I ALWAYS see couples who do this, then it turns out some major drama was going on behind the scen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:03 PM
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Both men and women say this. This is just my two cents but no one should have to "put up" with anyone. I absolutely will not tolerate a man who I have to "put up" with. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:00 PM
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The reason men think we dress up for them is because they like it and they're entitled. Other than that detail, this is spot on. But she missed the mark on that one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:46 PM
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This is rape and it will escalate. This is usually the backstory of many true crime documentaries I watch. I'm absolutely horrified for her. I would have called the police if that had happened to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:42 PM
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Anytime a man flashes his money I immediately know one thing: he has zero substance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:29 PM
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I used to be friends with a woman with the worst self esteem on the planet. She also had so much work done on her face, that by 28 she looked 36. She also lied about getting work done (our mutual friend told me she lied) which just made it even worse. Her whole existence was to please men. Her and another woman were always slut shaming sex workers, then after the pandemic started, I found out they were both on only fans lol I don't care what people do with their body, I just simply observe and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:25 PM
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He needs to exfoliate 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:57 PM
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It's not uncommon to have different phone cases
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:56 PM
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I've never met a man with better skin than mine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:55 PM
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I like your mum. And I completely agree. If one person cooks and the other cleans, that's better. One of my "love languages" is cooking/feeding others, so it feels good when it's reciprocated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:22 PM
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Right? If he's so against losing his "freedom", why is he getting married to begin with? Oh, it's because he's a coward with an enlarged clit for a dick who can't cook. He knows no one else would put up with him, and that even though he has a fantasy of being a player, he doesn't have the looks or the confidence to get laid, so he gets married because that way someone is forced to have sex with him! Edited to add that, ironically, the song "nice guys finish last" by Greenday came on TV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:35 AM
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Oh, they know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:00 AM
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Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:58 AM
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And some of them are lying about being vaccinated and/or tested! It's the same with STIs. They're looking for anything that will help them get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:49 AM
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And that's how it's a form of gaslighting. We know, they know we know, yet they still act like it doesn't exist. It's a sad reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:48 AM
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"I don't know" is their excuse for everything. If you have eyes, ears, and a brain, you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:47 AM
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Men will sit through gore and rape scenes in movies, but gag if a woman mentions period blood. LVM are so beyond fucked up. They're all Neanderthals unwilling to consciously evolve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:40 AM
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Yes! I was recently talking about this with a friend of mine. I've never been sexually aroused by something like that, and cannot imagine wanting to hurt someone I love. It's really gross. They are soulless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:38 AM
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If I see someone hasn't eaten and I'm about to cook food, it doesn't matter who it is, I'll offer them some. But a LVM who can't cook will take advantage of that. I'm done doing that. I would rather my partner and I take turns, or do it together, or not at all. I've found (in my past relationships and other people's relationships) that food/cooking issues can drive a huge wedge in between a couple. It gets old really fast. And if he can't cook, at the very least he should be ordering me food. A …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:36 AM
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Incels think they're gifts from god and thus entitled to sex with beautiful women. This is perpetuated by porn, which often depicts ugly old men having sex with young beautiful women. The fact is, they are unwilling to date someone in their league, because they feel they are entitled to hot women. But because no hot woman would go near them, and their incapable of self-awareness and accountability, they chastise all hot women. They turn hot women into the enemy, when it is their own lack of self…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:33 PM
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Men desire more emotional bonds than women do. That's why everything is so messed up in society. The patriarchy has taught them that to be a man you must not be emotionally intimate, at all. So now we have all these toxic men who fall in love with women who simply just listen to them. They use women as their emotional dumping ground. They are also less likely to seek out therapy, which means they just use us even more. If they had "bro to bro" time with emotional connections more often, they wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:25 PM
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When my parents got divorced my dad lives off microwave dinners because he cannot cook, at all. He quickly got married to a 50s housewife who does all of that for him. He's a sweet guy, super old. Was in the military and then in the church. He is a direct byproduct of the patriarchy so I can't completely hate him. But when I see men who are my age, who can't cook, I just cringe. And no, BBQing meat is NOT cooking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:18 PM
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Literally none of us care if men find us attractive, or don't find us attractive. We all know men will sleep with women they don't like or don't think are attractive, so it's not a compliment or a put down; we simply do not care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:16 PM
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Oh wow that was the same type of stuff that this guy did! I'm so sorry you went through that. Nothing is worse then being gaslighted because it literally makes you feel like you're losing your mind! Edit: I will say that I did get back at him, in very small but impactful ways. He was all about control so everything, and anything, had to be how HE liked it, even if it didn't make sense. This included things in the fridge. I know, so stupid. Anyway, I would rearrange things sometimes, or put my fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:10 PM
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Yup I'm in my 30s and I've definitely dated younger because of it. The rise of the "dad bod" just made things worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:51 PM
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It's so weird to me how many men do not use lotion, even sun screen. At least for their face. When I've been on dating apps I saw a lot of men the same age as I am, who looked years older. A lot of it probably has to do with the years of never using any sunscreen, or lotion, drinking beer, not washing their hands and just generally not giving a shit about their health at all. I'm so surprised when I find out a guy doesn't take any vitamins or supplements. There's no way he's getting all his nutr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:04 AM
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How are men not wiping their assholes??? I make for damn sure my ass is sparkling clean after I go poo. Why wouldn't I want that? Why would anyone want a dirty asshole? AHHHHHHHHHHHH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:00 AM
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That's what I was thinking! Last year I moved into a house out of desperation and soon learned I lived with a toxic couple including a LVM who had brainwashed a much younger woman to be with him. 13 years together, a dog, she does everything, and zero talk of marriage! Haha! Anyway, he was ALWAYS gaslighting her (he tried with me, too) and one day she pulled me aside and said "I think he's been hiding my purse". Sure enough, he was. She started making notes of where she set it. Another thing he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:55 AM
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And it doesn't take much effort to be more attractive. Maintaining hair, facial hair, using nice hair styling products (salon quality) and actually styling it, using deodorant and cologne, and whitening teeth, are all very little things that make a huge difference. I feel like the average man only wears deodorant and that's it, yet they still have astronomical standards for women. And then they bash women when they get rejected, but can't figure out why doing the bare minimum isn't enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:48 AM
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It's really sad because abuse really changes the way your brain behaves. It messes with your short term memory, which just makes it easier for someone to be manipulated. I've learned all I can and have had a lot of therapy but I'm still very overly trusting and naive at times. That's actually one of the reasons I quit drinking! The more in control I am, the less I find myself in "unsavory" situations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:20 AM
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Yes! Exactly. It strokes the narrative of the hot, helpless, lonely woman who just needs a man to come rescue her and make her happy. It was made for/by neck beards who think there's some super hot virgin out there just waiting for them to take them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:13 PM
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All the red flags he mentions are about himself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:10 PM
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I was a pick me when I was insecure and unhappy with myself, and was also very vulnerable and naive. When you don't respect yourself, you place value on other people. It's just complete self-sabotage. I can empathize with her because I can relate in some ways, but even then, she should know it's bad. The fact that she's asking for confirmation just means she's full of self-doubt and lacks confidence. She may be brainwashed at this point. I've been manipulated and abused in the past and before I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:46 PM
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Ugh that sounds horrible. I'm so sorry. Luckily I only got nauseous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:40 PM
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My dad, everyone 🙃🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:14 AM
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Don't forget closeted homosexual who got married to hide his sexuality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:02 PM
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That's so funny and it brings to light another thing I think about, which is how men think BBQing meat is knowing how to cook. Men are also more likely to brag about being able to cook, when what they "cook" is laughable. I'm compiling things men say and one of the things is about what they can cook. I can't go more into detail because I'm going to make a video about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:02 PM
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I watch a lot of true crime shows and it's almost always a man that was close to the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:00 PM
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I've given birth and it's very painful. The worst cramps times a billion, and it never ends. Just continues hurting. Those electro things don't match the amount of pain at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:47 PM
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They really need to make up their mind. At this point, it's obvious to me that a lot of men are in denial of the modern woman, who can go to school, get a job, and care for herself. They hate that they aren't the "head of household" anymore, because it just shows that they really didn't have much to offer anyway. Simply paying bills doesn't equate to manhood, and it's not needed now. For centuries men prevented women from getting an education and working so that they would need men to survive. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:34 PM
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Every time I see a guy saying he's "old fashioned", I want to ask him how old fashioned he is to see if he's willing to pay for everything. Usually he just means he wants power and control without responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:25 PM
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Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:53 AM
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I actually heard about this in a Stanford lecture. It happens with specifically high testosterone men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:52 AM
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Omg hahah thank you for sharing! I'm over here giggling. The worst/best time this happened was when I had a racist/sexist/narcissist/probably brain dead male roommate. He would argue about anything and everything, even subjective opinions ("blue is a better color than red" kind of stuff). It's also important to note he is a LVM and a huge loser. Anyway, this memory is vague because I blocked out a lot of this guy after I moved out. Basically he was telling me about the new Dracula tv series, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:31 PM
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I don't even know the email address of my last boyfriend. This bothers me because if you have a feeling, and feel like you need to act on it by checking his account, likely there are much bigger issues in the relationship. Why even put in the time/energy to do this? Emotional labor is real and this is exactly what this is. To me being a HVW means you don't get to a point where you feel like you HAVE to do stuff like this. This is pickme behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:27 PM
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Facts! It happens with other stuff too. For instance if I know more about a specific topic and I teach him some stuff about it, he'll act like he knows more about it than I do. This has happened to me a few times with different guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:20 PM
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Right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:50 PM
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How can they joke about something like that??? These men are absolute trash heaps and probably threats to society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:08 PM
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An old friend of mine was assaulted by a cab driver. I've had some creepy drivers before. Ones who ask "are you going home?" I've often made a point to say my destination is my boyfriend's house, even though I haven't had a boyfriend in a few years lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:54 PM
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If there's one thing I've learned about men it's that their profession has zero reflection on how they are as a person. Just look at all the creepy gynecologists. There's a reason why they make a woman attendant stand in the room if you have a male doctor. I don't think that's common practice the other way around. In fact, men joke and fantasize about sexual things in the medical field, so it's no wonder that there are a lot of perverted medical professionals. Their brain twisted their porn obse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:21 AM
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Yes, I've seen several. I've seen the one where they can make their eyes bigger as well. It's so obvious to me when they've even edited because I have a photography background. It's usually these guys who have "looking for a real woman" in their bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:17 AM
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The gut never lies. Many years ago I had a gut instinct and it was so strong that it helps me now. I was walking home from the bus late at night and I felt someone was watching me. But when I stopped to look around, no one was there. I listened for steps and kept on my way. Seconds after I hear something and then feel someone grab my arm. I turned around and standing over me was a big sweaty bald man dressed all in black. I yelled in his face as loud as I could and he just stood there in shock? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:15 AM
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I've noticed this and have actually countered it by not budging and being more "dominant", like forcing them to yield to me. Or on public transportation, when they're man-spreading and taking up two seats, then have a bag on another seat next to them on a full train. I have made a huge point to make them move their shit so I can sit down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:05 AM
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I was just thinking about this a week or so ago. Very rarely does a woman talk to me. We'll smile in passing, but rarely even say hi. On the other hand, I cannot go anywhere without a man saying something to me. Sometimes they'll wait until they pass by me so I can't respond, or they follow me. Even with headphones they try to spark up a conversation about nothing. Online too. Literally everywhere I go some man needs something, at the very least, my attention. Last month while PMSing and waiting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:00 AM
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I feel like most people know that bacteria is everywhere on the skin, even the dick. Who knows what kind of bacteria he transferred from his dirty hands to his dick then back onto everything else, then onto his dick again the neck time he goes pee. It's as if they are blind to their entire existence and unwilling to see how anything they do is wrong. I feel like a lot of men cannot stand being wrong, and will deny the truth just to save face. I've seen if first hand so many times with so many me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:55 AM
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That's why men are mostly to blame for the spread of Covid (and more men have died from it). Statistics don't lie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:51 AM
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Also, a coffee/walk date is a sign that he's going on a lot of dates, or at the very least, intending on going. He doesn't want to invest all his money/time into one person, he wants to spread out his investment for the highest return possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:47 AM
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I know, right? Like, we are all "visual" creatures, if we have working eyeballs. There is a lot that goes into attraction and a lot of it is just hormones. We all have those. For one week out of the month I could have sex all day, every day. Do I act on it? No! Why? Self control! Men who use that as an excuse are unable to recognize and be accountable for their own lack of will power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:46 AM
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Just want to chime in about how this starts going. Children's bathing suits often look like ones made for women. It's disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:44 AM
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Leave it to men to ignore all the needs of women, including plumbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:01 PM
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Exactly. It's funny how older men will brag about having never been married. That just means they spent their prime years having promiscuous sex. Now that they're old and losing their hair/looks, they realize no woman wants casual sex with them (let's be real), and only now do they want to "settle down." I laugh my ass off at ugly guys who say they only want casual sex. Like, good luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:40 PM
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What's up with guys wanting tour guides?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:35 PM
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Seriously. Ass sweat is a constant thing for most people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:35 PM
146

He probably has a fetish for music festival Instagram models
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:34 PM
94

You always gotta have coffee to prepare for Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:32 PM
82

I cringe when I think about how often his bedding gets washed. I wash/change my sheets/bedding once a week. I can't imagine a guy in a van would regularly wash his bedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:32 PM
107

The sunset idea is nice for people who already know each other and are dating, but as a date? No. It's forced romance and very awkward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:29 PM
229

I would never stay over or even hang out at a van/RV with a guy if he didn't have any kind of bathroom. That's a dealbreaker for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:28 PM
5

It sounds like you surprise them with it. Why don't you tell them you live in a van?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:27 PM
10

Let's not forget about why men want women to shave their pubic hair. I dropped this gem online a while back and a few people hadn't even thought of that. Men want women to look prepubescent, apparently. And it's "gross" to have pubic hair. I personally think it's gross to be sexually attracted to a prepubescent child, but that's just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:42 PM
6

Exactly. They defend because they're guilty of it themselves. Even those who tout "not all men" are likely a part of the majority of bad men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:39 PM
4

Patriarchy payday hahaha In all serious though, the patriarchy created the dynamic where the man provides, so I don't get why they're complaining. Oh, it's because they can't stand that women can pay for their own meals now lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:35 PM
60

Omg why do guys always say shit like that? In my pick me days, two guys I dated (at different times) told me they didn't know how to delete their account. I hate how guys act dumb to get away with shit. It's not rocket science. One guy even asked for my help (LMFAO) and then later he said he never said he would delete it (I had screen shots proving otherwise). I ended things immediately and then he acted like he was the one ending things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:33 PM
3

Same! It's always full of creeps. A missed connection is not seeing someone attractive lol All these men are delusional I love when I see ones about strippers or a cashier just being nice by doing her job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:45 PM
6

I don't know you but I support that. I have a good phone voice too and have been told that. It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where Elaine records herself on Jerry's tape recorder, and then all the guys go nuts trying to figure out who it is. Men are so easy to manipulate. Just raise your voice up a little bit. I swear most men are fucking clueless when it comes to understanding their own biological processes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:38 PM
8

Then they write a "missed connection" on Craigslist "I saw you at [store]. We caught eyes once for half a second. I felt a connection with you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:36 PM
19

It's better to be the woman being glared at than it is to be the woman glaring a wise old sage 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:15 PM
6

Yeah, I agree. The character he always plays ruins him in real life for me. I don't like him. I like movies like the Wedding Singer, but not because of him. He's a boy trapped in a man's body. That stupid voice he does bothers me so much. Whenever I hear a guy do that voice I cringe. I hate how guys celebrate LVM. It's disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:19 AM
8

It's because men her age are too busy shoving their meat into all the pickmes possible. They probably see her as "wife material" but are intimidated by her and would rather find someone "easy". This is why good, intelligent and pretty women often end up the fun aunt. They have high standards and LVM don't make their rounds with her. Boys are disgusting and sadly many boys never grow up, they just grow old and the entitlement to play with women like toys remains
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:18 AM
91

It's funny to me to see LVM out with their bang maid. Even better if they're fighting. Also gotta love the glares I get from the woman while his man tries to pretend I don't exist. It's funny because I used to be that woman and I'm so happy I'm not anymore. I will never be with a man who makes me feel so insecure in a relationship that i have to be "on guard" protecting my man that no one else wants lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:10 AM
46

Yes, I'm basically dating myself and I'm the happiest I've ever been. I don't care about dating or men. I don't desire sex that often either. I picked up a new hobby a couple weeks ago and that has made me even happier. Happiness will never be found at the end of a dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:08 AM
2

I do the same thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:07 AM
30

What is with being followed? I live downtown and a few weeks ago I was at the end of my run, walking toward the end point: a smoothie place lol. Anyway I pass this older guy just standing around, who looks lost. He follows me across the street, and I stopped to sit down and to look at their menu so I can avoid spending a lot of time in there. A little while later I see this man shuffle up behind me. He then goes and stands in a shelter the smoothie place has up in the street by the sidewalk (Cov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:49 AM
4

It's always the men with the worst mental health who tell you you're crazy or refer to an ex as that. I went on a date a long time ago (lol) where the guy said his ex was crazy, "no really, she had BPD". He then goes on to describe how all his exes have had BPD. I obviously just ghosted after that, but about a month later I was watching one of my favorite doctors on YouTube talk about how people with BPD often get into relationships with other people with BPD. I immediately thought of that guy. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:46 AM
1

My EX LVM hated taking pictures together. Why? Probably because he wanted to appear single online. I was a pickme. Anywayyyyy eventually I stopped asking him. One night we went to a soccer game with his dad and I asked his dad to take a picture of me. "Don't you want - in the picture too?" I smiled and said "no, because then I won't be able to post it online." I eventually left him. It's been over 7 years and he still tries to contact me. He's had a girlfriend for the last 3!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:40 AM
6

I was listening to a live stream podcast with people who called in and one was an obvious pickme. She kept saying how she doesn't get along with women and has all guy friends blah blah blah I used to be like that and it's so obvious to see it now that I'm on the "other side". The jokes on me because the only reason those guys were my friends is at the off chance they might get to have sex with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:37 AM
62

Scientifically speaking a woman's voice will raise when she's around a man she likes, or if she's ovulating. When any woman is ovulating her voice raises up a bit. Because of that, men are naturally drawn to higher pitched voices. It's biology. This is why commercials often have a high pitched woman speaking. I recorded videos of myself after ovulation, when estrogen is the lowest, and right before ovulation/during when it is higher, and there is a slight difference for sure. Humans are fucking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:34 AM
42

Many years ago I dated a guy for a short while and one time he brought flowers. When I asked where he got them (because they were loose), he said he "picked them on the way", aka picked them from people's yards. Buying flowers is one of the easiest gestures but a LVM will always find a way to fuck it up. My ex only ever brought flowers to apologize. I later found out he was fucking the florist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:30 AM
30

It's obvious because he doesn't love himself. Someone who doesn't love themself can't possibly love anyone else; they literally have no love within themselves to give to them or anyone else. This is why I will never date a man who hasn't been going to therapy and working on self love. It's surprisingly hard to find. So many of these men are empty vessels who are just zombies that eat, drink, and fuck and that's it. They have zero value because they don't work on themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:37 PM
151

I recently told a guy (who gave me his number after giving me a really sad sob story) that I didn't want any men as friends (aside from the two "good" ones I have) and completely glazed over his sob story by just saying "that really sucks it must be so hard" then rejecting him completely. Men never want to be just friends. They always want something in return: sex, emotional support, dating advice (I have a friend-ish who's ALWAYS asking me for dating advice), fashion advice, or want you to teac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:31 PM
13

Hahaha I've never heard that, but I love it. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:30 PM
1

Lol! Which phrases would they like us to use instead? Here are a couple of my own that have been in my vocabulary rotation for a while now: Bottom-feeder Neanderthal Low vibrating man (only "vibrates" in his root chakra, where the dick is") My favorite is "enlarged clit" when referencing their dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:28 PM
174

And I always clarify that a friend + sex = a relationship. If I were to have sex outside of a relationship I would be a cold hearted bitch. No bonding, no dinners, no cuddling, no overnights, no last names. I know they would hate it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:18 AM
4

I swear to god it's because they see their dad do it. Anything my son said/did that was weird, 99.9% of the time, it was because of his LV dad. He taught him bad words. Not that I care about swearing, but why teach a kid that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:16 AM
5

I'm not for or against but we have to understand that this was all branded/curated and staged for social media. I'm not saying it's all fake. I'm just saying that it would be easy to do all those things just for the sake of posting. From a marketing perspective it screams lifestyle branding. I think most people see through the inauthentic stuff on social media, and the meaning behind this is almost lost for me due to knowing the work that went into it to make it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:14 AM
52

Waiting doesn't work. I'm a catch. I've waiting. Men don't shoot their shot, and the ones that do are super creepy/inappropriate/overly aggressive or they cross some kind of boundary. The reason I'm single isn't because I haven't found "the one", it's because I stopped searching and have been focusing on myself. It seems like men talk a lot of game but don't have anything to back it up with. In my pickme days, I asked guys out. I have been rejected numerous times. Did it completely destroy me? N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:11 AM
16

The only times I've ever go back to OLD have been for entertainment, to take screen shots, to find someone for a friend, but mostly for entertainment and screenshots. I only have one right now and there are several messages I left on read from a guy I know who I'm trolling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:25 PM
24

He's also low effort because he's making a ton of small investments in hopes to get many small returns (sex). If he wanted a hefty ROI, he would make a hefty investment. It's so obvious. Men invest where they want the most return. They know what they're doing, but they don't think we know. This profile is an example of how to tell if a man is LV because there are subtle red flags below the surface level ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:23 PM
-2

It would help if your bodyguard wanted to have sex with you because then he would instinctively want to keep all other men away lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:21 PM
3

I've had similar fantasies with two huge bodyguards dressed in full black, ear pieces and sunglasses. I'm really small and I live in the city so this is always something I think about. I want to hire two so one is also my driver lol Someday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:20 PM
21

I'm over here giggling because it's so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:09 PM
-4

Because they don't have anything else of value to offer in a video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:06 PM
36

I'm sitting here laughing because it's SO TRUE. That's why some guys mention being able to do basic things in dating apps. I cannot stand it when he lists stuff like "I cook, I clean"; like do you want an award for doing the basic things that everyone should already be doing??? Speaking of cooking, why are there so many guys who think they're a chef because they know how to BBQ meat? I've met guys who think they know more about cooking than I do, just because they figured it out by looking at re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:38 PM
2

Same to you! It makes me happy knowing I'm not the only one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:06 PM
2

Thanks for saying that. I was just having a moment this morning and it came up in my thoughts to join the party lol I did find joy in draining wallets and demanding more money. One guy gave me a car to use and I still demanded more money. The sad thing about that is, when I got the car it didn't have windshield wiper fluid, or oil, was about 10,000 miles past the recommended oil change date, the wipers themselves were broken so I had to replace them, and the whole car was a mess. I basically had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:02 PM
23

Thank you for reading. I feel like I fit the stereotype completely so I try to speak up about it. I do this with men sometimes but not on a personal level. I usually just mention the statistics about the chances the porn they watch might be a victim of sexual abuse or sex trafficking. Men seem to not like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:13 PM
24

Best thing I ever did for myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:04 PM
93

I'm a former pickme, stripper, sex worker, cam girl, only fans girl. Coincidentally I have a long history of sex abuse that started as a child. I'm part of the stereotype! I almost threw up in the shower this morning thinking about my past. Sex work is not a reputable job and it is not empowering. It makes you feel worthless. What these women don't talk about is that sometimes they don't make a lot of money. I have memories of crying in my car after 8 hours of stripping and only $35 to show for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:58 PM
67

I was not expecting to read that right away. Why on earth would anyone stay with someone who said they cheated because you were ugly? How about they cheated because they're a piece of shit? How can people defend cheating? A normal person would break up if they weren't satisfied. When they do this instead it's just so disgusting. They truly only care about their own pleasure and satisfaction. Because she stayed after the first time, he knows she has no respect for herself so he can keep doing it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:19 PM
25

I used to have a friend who was in a poly relationship with two men and they lived together with her daughter (that's another story but the daughter basically thinks sex is the way to be a good woman). They had a lot of issues but the main thing was housework. She was always complaining about how she had to do all the cleaning and yard work. I even helped her with that one day while the young boyfriend was off on some trip with friends. I kept trying to understand what she got out of it, because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:16 PM
25

I will never date a guy who is into sports again. I've noticed too many similarities with those types of guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:09 PM
9

What does he think men did before porn? Does he think that men just had no interest in sex unless they saw weird sex acts being performed on other women? This shit grinds my gears for so many reasons. He's completely delusional and in denial
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:08 PM
11

True. I can train horses and they're a lot smarter than some men I've met
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:30 AM
7

I've gone to 4 different gyms in my life. The bottom two least expensive gyms had the most scrotes, but the most expensive gym still had the same scrotes. It's like the illusion that other OLD apps are better than others; they're not because all the same guys are there. My LV ex worked out at both an expensive gym and then an inexpensive gym. They're everywhere, and the gym is where they go to exchange testosterone points with other bros so they can attract more women. The gym is a meat market f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:53 PM
30

I hated Bumble. I was never active enough to keep up with their 24 hour message rule. But the apps are all the same. People act like it's somehow better than the other apps, but you see the same guys from the other apps! People also argue about how it's better because they fill out more of a bio. Wrong! Many people lie on those apps, my psychopathic ex was one of them. I don't subscribe to the notion that women are the ones that should be chasing men. It goes against biology. In all the species …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:58 PM
18

I've talked to so many women who have all had that same idea. Men would hate it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:50 PM
15

Bio descriptions are usually about who he wants to be rather than who he really is. I always read bios as if they're thinking about their weaknesses while they write them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:49 PM
13

The CDC website provides statistics that show men are more likely to catch and spread COVID because of their promiscuous sexual behavior, poor hygiene, and inability to ask for help (go to the doctor). These scrotes have not stopped their ways for the pandemic. So many guys on there were looking for casual sex. It's truly sick. A lot of men don't care about anyone else, they just care about getting their dick wet. One of these scrotes actually tried to invite himself over to watch movies with me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:43 PM
3

Overall I'm just bothered with the expectation men have that ALL women enjoy this type of stuff. They believe it because they see it in porn and pickmes perpetuate it by going along with it. This shit is forced down our throats whether we want it or not. I was casually chatting with a guy a while back and he casually mentioned he enjoys eating ass. I was so grossed out and instantly dried up. Nothing about that is a turn on for me. I hate that because it's a sexual trend among men that women hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:03 AM
15

I just love when my man's skin is all dry and smells like dishes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:30 AM
2

Only a devolved man would blame biology for not being able to control themselves. It's like they're opening admitting they think and behave like animals and lack the intellectual capacity to control their bIoLoGiCaL uRgEs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:24 AM
58

I swear every guy has it set at 18+
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:05 PM
11

That is a narrative that assholes tell themselves. It's a misogynistic view that women try to "trap" men with pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:53 PM
2

She sounds just as toxic as he does imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:43 AM
1

I feel sick to my stomach thinking back about my own life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:38 AM
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