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2016 for me: Started off in an unhappyish 5 year relationship, living with the girl. Both overweight, struggling with my career, next to zero friends of our own and spending most weekends morosely lying around the house. I found out she was cheating around March and moved out just as I found a new job. Since then Ive not had an easy time of it, but Ive had sex with about 5 women, pulled many more and been on lots of dates, lost at least 10 kilos, had a great first year in my new job and nearly g…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/16 08:09 AM
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Consider moving abroad , lots of very unattractive guys do well in far off continents
/r/TheRedPill28/12/16 08:16 AM
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For me, what seems to work is focus on the core. Doing stuff that hits my core makes me feel good, energetic and also keeps my weight down. So squats, sit ups, planking , anything like that .
/r/TheRedPill24/12/16 01:09 AM
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For my part, I didnt mean any offense but I do think that that was what was going on. I guess you wont be doing the same shit again, so this was probably good for you to write out. But yeah, she didnt trick you nor did she really even lie IMO. Most people are dishonest about their relationship mindset. If someone asks me what I want in that sense, I say "nothing serious at the moment", I usually dont say "I want to bang a load of progressively hotter women until Im too old to do that anymore". I…
/r/TheRedPill23/12/16 01:27 AM
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I had the means to do similar to this a while back to my ex. I took a deep breath and left it alone. What do you gain from it anyway? If I was heading into an LTR, but the girl said "actually Ive been seeing someone but its done now" then I wouldnt actually have much objection, it isnt unusual to be seeing other people before you commit. It's naive to think youre exclusive until you actually put that rule down. And if the guy contacted me in the way you did, all that would do would make me want …
/r/TheRedPill23/12/16 01:10 AM
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Good job. He pussied out and deleted it
/r/TheRedPill23/12/16 12:41 AM
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I cut out sugar earlier this year and I lost about 15 kilos . Been working out too, but I'm pretty sure that was key. Feels good.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/16 11:26 PM
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"Eventually"? You were just getting palmed off because you were being creepy and needy.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/16 05:10 AM
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I can't be around people who can't take criticism anymore, theyre just too boring. Im going to slate you, and you can slate me. Having said that, it still doesn't stop her from cheating on you if that is what she wants to do
/r/TheRedPill17/12/16 01:51 AM
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Ive done it twice. First time, she turned violent and ended up smashing a chair on my head. Second time, she cheated on me after 5 years of relationship. With both, it was the best sex Ive had. But not worth the consequences I told. It's your move. But Im not going there again in a hurry
/r/TheRedPill15/12/16 01:42 AM
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I think that too often people associate these terms 'dominant' and 'submissive' with BDSM and that kind of rough play. There's much more to it than that. You sound like you take the lead and operate things on your own terms, and at your own pace, which is akin to dominating proceedings. I have been seeing someone and we too usually go fairly gently in comparison with how others have liked it. But it's good, she loves it and I'm definitely in charge in that area. It doesn't explicitly need saying…
/r/TheRedPill12/12/16 04:17 PM
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Im feeling like this today. Ive got sex lined up for tomorrow and a couple of fresh dates for next week, but still fucked off at the couple that have played me recently. I probably need to fucking calm down a bit. If she flakes, Id say let that go unless she suggests an alternative and quickly. If she dicks about with the time then just leave it.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/16 04:58 PM
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You could condense it down to a matter of sentences pretty much. "I like music." "Yes, but I like music too and Im a girl." "Wow a girl that likes music? That's really rare and cool. I'm also funny, Im a funny guy." "Yes, but dont forget me Im funny too for a girl" "Yes you are really funny and also pretty" "lol" "(she doesnt wanna say im a good-looking guy? oh well, must try harder lol) yadayadaydayada do you wanna go for an expensive meal?"
/r/TheRedPill06/12/16 05:11 AM
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Are you being direct enough with them about your intentions? Better to say upfront that you aren't looking for a serious thing and that you don't have enough time to romance a lot. Sounds like youre stringing em along a bit. Define the terms early on, then refer back to them if she is wavering. Walk if she won't play ball.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 06:29 AM
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I'm glad youre making progress but you probably haven't "killed the beta". You don't undo years of conditioning in a couple of months. Don't be complacent.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 06:18 AM
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Not sure about this. Most people I know go for being helpful, even if most of them are well-meaning idiots.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/16 03:38 PM
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Women DO want a friend there, but this comes back to the basic duality. It isnt enough. They want an obedient forever friend, but also an exciting alpha man. Being both is hard work. Ive chosen to go for the fun side.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/16 03:04 AM
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I got involved with a girl who had an 'abusive family'. Every time I spoke to them they were lovely. She broke a chair on my head. Dont believe a fucking word of it.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/16 04:08 PM
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Yeah and that's generally ok. The problem is more if I agree to meet, then they'll go off and plan a whole day, night and following day of stuff to do.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/16 06:18 AM
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I just needed to lose weight and cut my hair. Doing fine with women now. Ironically its more stressful managing this than it was being single. I'm still catching feelings at strange times and they pressure me to spend time and money on them. Doing good though
/r/TheRedPill21/11/16 04:16 AM
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Don't go, dont even respond to the invite
/r/askTRP18/11/16 02:06 AM
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I like a bit of banter and bickering though to be honest, good fun
/r/askTRP16/11/16 01:55 PM
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I had "my nipples are still hurting" a few weeks ago. She just wanted me to be a bit more sensitive with them and now she loves me twisting and teasing her nips. For me at least, it is usually a slow build with regards to dominating. Go into it too fast and it is common to be rejected. I start slowly, the first few times just being generally good in bed and making sure I dont do anything stupid (cumming without a condom, actually hurting her, cumming in her eye, sticking a finger up her ass with…
/r/askTRP16/11/16 01:45 PM
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I found having an argumentative girlfriend quite enjoyable, like a battle of wits! It was funny most of the time, bickering and making fun of each other. My current gf isnt like that so I jsut chill, for now. Maybe we need a challenge?
/r/askTRP15/11/16 04:36 PM
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Well if she isn't submissive as such away from sex, treat her as usual. Seems like your question could be "how to handle a woman who isn't an argumentative bitch like my ex?" ?
/r/askTRP15/11/16 04:27 AM
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I agree with htbf, she might just have been surprised, probably thought it was funny. At the least, you said something interesting.
/r/askTRP15/11/16 03:17 AM
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I live in Japan and have spent extended time in nearby countries. Being white gets you laid around here but the highest SMV men are always well-heeled, successful Asians. They're the group that controls all the power, has the most money, and that can get shit done. White guys in Asia tend to do well, they find attractive and pleasant women a lot of the time. But it is very rare to see a scorching hot Asian girl with a white guy around here - and this is even if the guy is very attractive. Moreov…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 02:34 AM
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I've had several that were sort of like this, it is when the honeymoon period wears off that you can run into trouble. Watch out for passive-aggression, things like being unenthusiastic but compliant with your decisions. Submissive people sometimes let that build up passively and then one day they arent submissive anymore. Also, in time she might start to shit test your leadership skills, but without giving a lot of input. Watch out for starting to think you're like a dictator - she still has fr…
/r/askTRP15/11/16 02:09 AM
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It wont matter much. You can bet that most of them have not had really mind-blowing sex yet. They're still awkward teens. A few months of regular sex would give you more experience than most of your peers.
/r/askTRP14/11/16 05:15 PM
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Start studying Italian, pronto. And look hard for other English speakers around. The potential isolation you describe is a worry.
/r/askTRP14/11/16 04:52 PM
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It probably wont help your performance IRL to be honest. Everyone takes time to get good, and a prostitute isnt going to make you good at sex suddenly. I've slept with my fair share of women by now, in my mid-30s, and the first time with a new person isnt usually amazing anyway. On top of this, at uni plenty of girls you meet (and you will meet them) will be very inexperienced as well. They wont mind much. Come to think of it, my best friend was a virgin when he went to University and he became …
/r/askTRP14/11/16 04:32 PM
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This TRP stuff makes it seem like you have to be a dickhead. What do you mean by dickhead?
/r/askTRP14/11/16 02:44 AM
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Is keeping your frame, demanding respect and staying dominant as well as still being a gentleman (opening car doors, holding doors, flowers) and all that shit counterintuitive? Does the nice stuff you would do in a LTR counter the Captain-first mate dynamic or am I just thinking Alpha = dickhead? It makes you neither, it depends on your intentions. If you act the gentlemen in order to impress people then you are not a gentleman. If you do it to impress a woman into sleeping with you then you're …
/r/askTRP14/11/16 02:10 AM
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As others often mention, the key factor is time. When you start getting a lot of dates, you inevitably have to put some time and effort into them and without a solid quality control buffer you are going to have trouble managing it.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/16 12:26 PM
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I'm struggling to care, still, but it's pretty entertaining
/r/TheRedPill10/11/16 05:26 PM
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One pop from your friend could be enough to fuck you up properly, for a long time. Well this is how I look at it anyway. If they catch you the right way, even if theyre not that strong you could be hitting the deck and smashing your head on the concrete. It might be unlikely but it's feasible.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/16 05:10 PM
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Some signs she's settling? Could be useful. she won't give head or do anything kinky Can't think of any more . Lol. Open to suggestions!
/r/TheRedPill09/11/16 03:03 AM
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yeah that is pretty funny! to be honest Ive never been, Im going next year but Ive heard lots of stories.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/16 03:22 PM
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Which part is hypergamous? Also, is hypergamy an exclusively female trait?
/r/TheRedPill08/11/16 04:02 AM
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I highly recommend taking up a martial art. Especially if youve never done anything like that, and you think you're handy in a fight. You'll quickly see how fast a trained person would ruin you. At first it is a bit depressing, but then enlightening. It's a learning experience, and something that you benefit hugely from being aware of.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/16 03:23 AM
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Yeah, any woman is going to like that body! In my experience though, the standard Asian woman doesnt mind a bit of chub.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/16 02:52 AM
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I've become quite a bit more careful with persoanl information as I've realised the mental acrobats people do with it. Seems that info on your love life can be the key to people getting a picture of your character. It was going well until last week when I let something slip. Basically I've been dating someone who is more into me than I am into her and I let this out to a few people not really in my close circle. They set about guilt tripping me, and it worked. So, Im going to shut up now, let it…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/16 02:27 AM
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Nothing like that passive-aggressive loooong-game to break you down. Sloooowly. Come to Japan and see the miserable expat husbands scurrying home at 22:30 if you dont believe this.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 05:43 PM
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Yeah, there is a lot going on there though right? One of my first memories of Korea was seeing a wife tearing her husband a new asshole in a local supermarket on a Sunday afternoon. Kind of ripped open my view of submissive Asian women within a few days of being there. I definitely met a lot of successful, charming dudes there though.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 04:51 PM
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Koreans that I've known seem to have some weird inferiority strain going through them... don't fully understand all the details. They are pretty harsh to each other, very critical. They will directly tell you if you look bad, and think nothing of it. They can be very insecure.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 03:59 PM
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The whole of South East Asia is looking for English Teachers pretty much. Thailand has never been that attractive to me as it is saturated with backpackers and perverts. I'm sure it's fun but I wouldn't expect a rewarding job or a great intercultural experience. You don't know what a bad job is until you've had a bad teaching job. On the other hand, if you can use that.connection for a safe bet - go for it! But have a look around first ! I've heard good things about Vietnam recently
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 02:57 PM
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I think it's a different interpretation of it going on here. A lot of guys I meet here certainly are not betas. They just have a different set of values, as the post maps out. A lot of Asian Guys have much higher standards than Western guys when it comes to looks, for example. They won't beg off on some ugly girl, they'll stay single until they find a hot one. Many of them keep themselves very fit and looking good. Give them a few drinks and they'll go after women pretty aggressively too. Marrie…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 02:42 PM
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Consider investing in a CELTA certificate so you don't end up with a nightmare job. Think about learning the language. Maybe think wider than just Thailand. Teaching there has been done to death.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 02:35 PM
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I was going to mention the plating. Even having female friends can put the shits up them. I had my ex find me a language exchange partner. She chose her for me, spoke to her often and sometimes we all hung out together and she still got jealous as hell. I'm sure it can happen but you'd be lucky . I'm thinking if you want that, you need to aim for unhappily married women.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 02:27 PM
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How to use this knowledge to get with Asian women? Maybe some pointers? don't be too much of a loudmouth or show off. They won't want to be centre of attention . Play the long game if you need to. They put out, but as mentioned here they'd die of shame if they were centre of one night stand-type gossip. from my experience, don't expect much until the third date. This is the marker for when you can be physically intimate. Likewise, don't be surprised if after that third date, she assumes your her…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 01:49 PM
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Get a good job with more experienced people working in it or take up a new martial art/Sport etc to deal with this if it is a habit. Comparing yourself to people who are more professional and skilled than you by far is too tough to really keep up your front and you realise you need to learn from them instead. Its humbling but you will surely improve, which is more satisfying in the long run. Don't be a big fish in a small pond. Get out of your comfort zone.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/16 01:18 PM
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I missed something, if I say "utter filth", it can be in a positive way. Maybe you didn't catch the connotation as im sure we are from different cultures
/r/TheRedPill01/11/16 06:10 AM
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If it is mostly American women in Europe as I think, then from what Ive seen theyre usually average-looking.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/16 11:50 PM
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True, Im guilty of the charge of slut-shaming here. These were fine, upstanding young ladies hahaha.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/16 11:47 PM
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British women at least are renowned for being total whores when they go on holiday. Google 'Club 18-30 stories' or something like that to get an idea of what they are like. There are documentaries about it as well, even whole TV series following people. You're talking blowjob competitions in public bars, tequilla shots for breakfast, female holiday reps having a running bet on who can bed the most holidaymakers. There was a fairly recent scandal involving a woman who put 20 consecutive cocks in …
/r/TheRedPill31/10/16 04:56 PM
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I copied that part ready to.paste and say the same thing, then I saw your comment. Nothing sick about it , that is literally what happens.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/16 06:16 AM
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Yeah, more like actively listening.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/16 03:42 AM
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Do be careful. A few years back I found my ex was cheating, I was able to find pictures of the guy, his name and his address plus the school he was studying at without either of them ever knowing. I was never going to hunt him down , but a few too many drinks, a bad day and a chance encounter could have been very interesting.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/16 01:33 AM
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Seems to make sense. Watch out you don't become an annoying nosey fucker though. I've had a speight of people just asking me lots of questions (dates as well) and I get sick of being pressed for information when Im not in the mood to have a ramble. My ex boss had obviously read some book like Carnegie's, and would pepper me with deep thinking questions when I was just looking to either work or get some downtime when things were quiet. He was a nice guy, but his tactics were obvious and just a pa…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/16 01:17 AM
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Cos theyre not necessarily "decent" men. They just do what people tell them and expect to be rewarded, like puppies.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/16 01:43 PM
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She sounds like a spam email brought to life
/r/TheRedPill28/10/16 04:00 AM
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True, it isn't a great gain in the scheme of things. Im not sure it's the great evil it is sometimes made out to be though.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 06:44 AM
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Well that is your prerogative. I am not convinced though, there are studies saying it doesnt fuck you up too. Im suspicious of it all because there is something of a campaign to get it banned, and I have seen lots of anti-porn feminist-type articles claiming that "porn is rewiring young minds to think sexual abuse is ok". It might cause people problems if they overdo it - like weed, sugar, video games, Whatsapp or even Reddit. But until much more research has gone into it then I have to suspect …
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 04:51 AM
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People who sit there for hours trawling for the right picture sound like fucking autitstics. If it wasnt porn, itd most likely be something else.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 04:14 AM
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Well I do like sitting on my chair, and I do it rather a lot. Should I stand up for a bit? Dont get me wrong, there might well be something in porn being unhelathy, it most likely is if you use it too much but Im not convinced there is any proof whatsoever yet. On top of this, read around leftist newspapers etc and this is the same argument they use to try and ban it. "Porn is rewiring young men's minds to think that rape is normal" and shit like that. "Porn creates unrealistic expectations." If…
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 04:12 AM
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Like any drug we must keep upping the anti. It comes down, ultimately, to a spike in dopamine. Novelty, creates dopamine. Casinos, and flashing lights cause dopamine. There was a great takedown of this in a recent thread. The jist of it was dopamine is just a buzzword applied to anything that people do too much. The Sun newspaper ran an article saying that cupcakes might be more addictive than cocaine because they cause a rush of dopamine. Cupcakes. The dude was basically saying that everything …
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 03:43 AM
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This seems like some stupid online gaming troll. She is giving out presents to people who write her name on their head. If you look at her Twitter now she has 'Stewart' on her head.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/16 02:26 PM
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Women who have got to an advanced level have likely been around the block a few times with English speakers so have developed their own 'types'. They also nearly always have some experience living in western cultures which hardens them up to our way of life. Their honeymoon period is over and they get back to normal. You have it right then, you need someone who can communicate but not well enough to get deep and meaningful. They are already getting something valuable from you (genuine language p…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/16 04:04 AM
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I have been in a similar position. But looking back I have to say my tactic was saying "it's ok, we can work at it" and then just hoping for the best. This ended up in her cheating , which I was lucky to catch early on and move out. She was planning on dragging it out to give herself time to choose what she wanted, without telling me. I've obviously thought about it from different angles, but what I think it boiled down to was she didn't know HOW to break up with me and she let this build up ove…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/16 03:47 AM
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Not sure how this demonstrates abundance. You just ignored your ex for a few hours and she went a bit mad?
/r/TheRedPill24/10/16 05:12 AM
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I havent met a Phillipina that wasn't a fucking lying idiot or some kind of prostitute yet. The last one I had any interaction with went a day without texting me, which I didn't care about but when I said "how was your day?" she said "oh I left my phone at home so.couldnt text you lol". It was the most needless lie I've ever been told and theyre full of it. "Orientals" is a broad stroke to paint , there is truth in what you say but youre making a mistake if you think they are all like that. Also…
/r/TheRedPill21/10/16 07:41 AM
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Major cities usually have a class-element to them in my experience. Lots of people move to them hoping to level-up their social standing and want to fit into the culture and this usually involves looking down on the plebs. A lot of my friends moved to London for work and they would often say they hated the attitude of a lot of people but you have to play the game. Also, in major cities you get the major rich, and it is the rich wives who are out and about spending money far, far more than their …
/r/TheRedPill20/10/16 02:31 AM
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Pretty much summarizes what being an adult means
/r/TheRedPill17/10/16 05:07 PM
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Ok slow down Ron Jeremy. I said in his mom's basement, not your sick ass porn dungeon.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 03:15 PM
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Don't pay for everything! Its a fairly good measure of how much she actually digs you. If you split the bill and she still wants a second date - you have at least something even if she JUST enjoys your company. Or at least you just had some dates with someone and it didn't work out. If you pay for everything - you don't know. Also, you become more bitter after each date.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 02:42 PM
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That point still stands though. Most women won't wanna go back to your mom's basement
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 02:37 PM
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Is this why the funky chicken is so popular?
/r/TheRedPill11/10/16 06:04 AM
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Yeah me too. I lost my earphones and went a week without them. When I got a new pair - eargasm!
/r/TheRedPill11/10/16 05:56 AM
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This is probably well off-topic, but recently I read that music is enjoyable because it releases dopamine. Most of my spare time I'm listening to something, often at a decent volume. Also recently I'm becoming aware that too much dopamine isn't a good thing. Does anyone know where music fits into this?
/r/TheRedPill11/10/16 04:16 AM
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but you are trying to suppress it yourself, by dismissing my premise that the question is flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/16 01:23 AM
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The amount of crap I got about my clothes in the last 15 years I would have to disagree. I think the point is that many women are bothered by this kind of thing, and it can and will put them off. You can still get laid, but you're narrowing down your possibilities. This is a little bit like smoking. A good deal of women (and men) where I am will just be like "he smokes? nope" and that is an instant dismissal. When I quit smoking I expanded my options a good deal. When I went clean-shaven and dec…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/16 01:24 PM
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That is an interesting point, I have seen "denying sex" repeatedly on lists of what counts as emotional abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/16 03:31 AM
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My experience of university in the UK was the first few months was people hooking up, then a lot of people would settle down into relationships. Still a good deal of hooking up going on though and of course these relationships dont always last a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/16 03:26 AM
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If things got to being as transactional as this, Id be walking away anyway. The idea of literally checking-in to see if they are ok during sex is laughable, you can tell! And Id say I naturally try and support the people around me. What you don't want is to become the emotional dump for someone who isnt interested in fulfilling your needs. For example, a girl I met a few months ago trying to get me to go out on this kind of fantasy-date list she had but when I suggested doing someting chill she …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/16 02:51 AM
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Anecdote time - when I was at university a girl I knew had sex with a nearly passed out guy - apparently she was being very rough with him trying to get decent sex out of a near-zombie and actually really hurt him. It didnt sound like a pleasant experience at all. On top of that, she had herpes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/16 02:37 AM
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then Im sure you can respect my stance on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/16 01:43 AM
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Go ahead, I've not got the energy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/16 01:13 AM
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it's good for me because I know I can easily find someone, like a safety net almost. Funnily enough, recently it is getting easier to sleep with girls just after meeting them in real life, perhaps because they are pleased that I have the guts to actually talk to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/16 04:57 PM
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it's an average but an average of what or who? Most studies of who? Blah blah blah. Id hooked up with loads of girls by the time I was 21 then it slowed down, now it has sped up again now im in my mid 30s? What average is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/16 04:48 PM
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what is to be gained by comparing them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/16 04:33 PM
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A couple of hundred men on a reddit page have ruined your view of all men? Why dont you try leaving your laptop alone for a day or two?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/16 04:29 PM
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It's not helpful at all to even try and make the comparison either way. Grow the fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/16 04:25 PM
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I had a look at the book you recommended and I thought it was very lightweight. But Im sure there's something in what you have posted.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/16 02:37 PM
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University can be a funny time - you can gain confidence and start to realise who you are. Unfortunately, it rarely lasts and the few years after Uni are when reality smacks you in the face, hard. You realise that while you were cock-sure in yourself at Uni , the actual World was getting on with being comparatively unidealistic when matched against what college students seem to think. "No two men are the same" is an absolutely textbook example of this. At Uni you are allowed to be a unique perso…
/r/TheRedPill08/10/16 11:05 AM
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