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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	I almost paid for sex, but I'm glad I didn't in the end. How do you cope with a woman who ditched you twice in a more healthy way? "Anyone would be (angry)". No. Average guy would be- experienced guys who practice outcome independence would not. Maaaybe a bit disapointed. That's about it. Going from getting blown off to hiring a hooker because you're feelings got hurt is just a big indication that you have some work to do on yourself. I'm not saying that to slander you. It's just a big behavioral red flag that if you don't get to the bottom of, will sabotage you in the future. There's definitely impulse control issues in th…	/r/seduction	06/11/25 11:17 PM
6	I almost paid for sex, but I'm glad I didn't in the end. How do you cope with a woman who ditched you twice in a more healthy way? "And to me, that's a personal INSULT. My PRIDE is hurt! " Seriously? That's just your ego running your life and choosing for you what matters. WE CHOOSE how we react to events in life. If you get butthurt every time some woman blows you off- you're gonna wind up bitter and hateful toward women in general FAST (if you're not already). You've got to separate yourself from the individual results, learn some mothafuckin' OUTCOME INDEPENDENCE and get a better understanding of how women work. I mean "…	/r/seduction	06/11/25 10:49 PM
0	Been at this for 11 years "gets with no women ever if ne learns and understands game" that makes no fucking sense- unless he NEVER tries to actually take action. You've got some Bullshit in your head kid.	/r/seduction	06/11/25 04:40 PM
1	Got Rejected Today The approaches and rejection can not only get A LOT easier- but can get to the point you don't care. YOUR biggest hurdle- you thinkin' be stinkin'. You have a little self doubt creep in and you let your mind run with it. It's too common with most people these days- we let our feelings own us instead of acknowledging "it's just a feeling" and letting it go or giving yourself some encouragement instead. Read "Litany against Fear" in the first Dune book (just google it). And realize ALL of our nega…	/r/seduction	06/11/25 05:08 AM
18	Stupid simple natural seduction method that no one talks about Why does this read like a click bait article selling some "secret the man doesn't want you to know!" Then have a bunch of up votes for promoting social circle game like its some damn secret? Oh, look at OPs posts. Yup. Selling something.	/r/seduction	06/11/25 03:30 AM
6	Best ways to spend money to improve your seduction With #1- just as important- look at cities with higher numbers of single women than men. HOLY SHIT. This made such a difference in ease of hooking up. I'd recommend looking at maps which outline these numbers. Women seem to like warmer cities (in the U.S. at least) even down right hot ones. I've spent time in Phoenix and lived in Nashville (varying weather there), but BOTH of those places (when I was there) had plenty more single women than men and DAMN attractive women could be competitive to h…	/r/seduction	06/11/25 01:36 AM
1	Been at this for 11 years All these guys talking about "how often do you approach? blablabla", NOPE. It's not about approaches with someone who has that much time in- it's their own personal beliefs. There's conditioning/societal programming in this guys head that keep him stuck. Pessimism, self doubt, the darker side of manosphere space, "woke society won't let a man blablabla" excuses, maybe religion too, maybe judgemental towards women's sexuality. I wouldn't say ALL of that list- but parts of it or adjacent thinking.…	/r/seduction	06/11/25 01:24 AM
2	Been at this for 11 years That's B.S. there are always guys who the general public think are WAY out of league with the women they hook up with. Sometimes that's money- A LOT of the time, that's game.	/r/seduction	06/11/25 01:20 AM
2	Been at this for 11 years "Yeah totally socially acceptable to approach woman" someone has a bunch of social programming (social media/youtube/tiktok) in ther head. What have you been consuming?	/r/seduction	06/11/25 01:18 AM
2	Do women expect you to try to kiss them on the first date? Old School Seduction community term. ASD = Anti-Slut Defense. It's a natural thing in most women. Programmed in by evolution, because women have a natural fear of being judged by their peers/family. They tend to want sex to be something they can say "just happened". IE, the guy "made it happen" so she doesn't feel guilty/get shamed. Guys need to know about it. Will say, in the more liberal areas, with the last generation that came into maturity- there is a bigger portion of the womens that have …	/r/seduction	04/11/25 04:31 PM
12	Do women expect you to try to kiss them on the first date? You're going to get VERY different answers on this, some will say DON'T kiss a woman on the first date, even if she wants you to AND she enjoyed herself- her ASD will push her into a fight or flight response and she'll ghost you. Other's will say go for it, if you get "the vibe". Neither are wrong. But here's the thing- in a lot of cases, (as someone who has lived in different states all over the U.S.) A LOT of if you should go for the first kiss on a first date or not- even if they're just look…	/r/seduction	04/11/25 12:27 AM
8	I got rejected by a girl, but her friends still reach out. These guys are right- their friend fucking you is the ticks the caveman "preselection" box in her girlfriends heads. They're attracted to you, interested in you. Some might want to just fuck you, some might want to see where things go. It's why they're hanging out near you and opening you. The X is jealous. It's normal and you shouldn't care about it. Don't worry about the x's discomfort. She had her chance, rejected you, AND you're not really friends. She doesn't get to make a call in this situ…	/r/seduction	03/11/25 08:16 PM
5	I got rejected by a girl, but her friends still reach out. He's right	/r/seduction	03/11/25 08:08 PM
1	When she says " I just want to be alone" Yup, I see a lot of what you're talking about going on, on this sub. Lot of inexperienced guys in a circle jerk feeding each other bad advice based of some shit they saw online. There is some good advice here too, but damn, the "love to complicate things and discuss simple matters at length" is very true. Guess is probably can't be help from what is probably plenty of nerds who are "learning" something they're suppose to pick apart and integrate.	/r/seduction	03/11/25 04:35 PM
0	When she says " I just want to be alone" A) Seduction skills on any decent level CONTINUE right into relationships B) If the "move" is intentionally manipulative, especially in a dishonest way- it MIGHT "improve the perceived value of the guy" for a minute (and fuck that, it's outcome dependent") but a lot of time when a guy does something like that it's not only coming from a place of neediness it's dishonest as well (like he made it up on the spot to "one up her"). All THAT does is weaken his frame in the long run. It's also incredib…	/r/seduction	03/11/25 04:31 PM
39	When she says " I just want to be alone" For the new guys (AGAIN), it's not about "what she SAYS" it's about "what she DOES". She wanted to leave and fuck other people. We don't have the information to say WHY 100%. But that doesn't matter as much as accepting it and moving on- without beating yourself up or being bitter toward her.	/r/seduction	03/11/25 12:36 AM
1	When she says " I just want to be alone" There's no reason to do all of that. It's just manipulative to protect your ego. She wants to go? Cool. Let her go. OP's girl doesn't want an open relationship with him, she wants to fuck other people. Why force some tricky word play when you could be accepting it and moving on? Why would you need to say things like "the spark isn't there for you, it's kind of the same for me". Seems like she hurt your feelings and you wanted to act indifferent and possibly hurt her back. That kind of thing gets…	/r/seduction	03/11/25 12:33 AM
2	Does the Fear Of Rejection Ever Completely Go Away? After years of playing around with seduction techniques and reading on the caveman mind/lizard brain part of us that produce these irrational fear- my approach anxiety is WAY down. Not 100% gone, but I'd say around 90% reduced. I practically auto-flirt with women these days. It's not bad.	/r/seduction	02/11/25 10:59 PM
2	Why is it so difficult in the moment? I would say a part of it can be self esteem, for sure. I wouldn't say it's mental health, off hand anyway. I'll tell you the route mammalian cause. Most of our fears, wants, urges come from old caveman programming. So why is approaching outside of your comfort zone? Why are your FEELINGS fucking with you? Because waaay back in the day when a man (or a woman) did something that turned out to be a failure, flop, bomb in front of the "tribe" you would lose social status and you might get less of th…	/r/seduction	02/11/25 04:06 AM
1	Girl Went Cold after 4th Date There's a bunch of reasons a woman can "act up" but yeah it usually boils down to dude isn't acting right/keeping his frame or she has mental issues in the first place. And you're right- you've got to walk out. (Your's already did) "and not make her your entire focus" NO woman EVER should be that. And that's not even to say with your job and health taking up time- she should be SECOND at best behind some greater objective you have to propel your life forward or interest/hobby. "let her miss you"…	/r/seduction	30/10/25 07:17 PM
3	Girl Went Cold after 4th Date Maaaybe you picked up some of the "calling women out" shit that's all over the internet from 'Alpha males' it's 90% bullshit. "Calling a woman out" from most guys just dries up their pussy- and chance are if they acted wrong it's because you or someone else enabled it or gave them a reason to feel insecure about your interactions = they "act up". Now, once you're really "seasoned" and you have some real game and understanding of human behavior (especially mating/dating/pair bonding, the evolutio…	/r/seduction	30/10/25 04:29 PM
2	Girl Went Cold after 4th Date Nothing wrong with you cooking, as long as you do it like a boss (I do it sometimes and actually BOSS the woman around in the kitchen like my assistant), other than that the above guy is spot on. You were coming off as needy with her pretty quickly, and she ran away. You were probably always just a "Maaaaybe" to her in the first place.	/r/seduction	30/10/25 04:25 PM
2	Girl Went Cold after 4th Date "I'm tying to decide...A. Pulling back" Dude. She already pulled back. All you're debating is the degree you should chase her. The answer is NONE. You guys are already done. Hell you didn't even have sex. She just have you excuses why it wasn't happening. She either wanted you to find a way to make it happen or just really wasn't feeling YOU in that way. If you've had 3 or 4 dates, NOT fucked, then she's just blowing you off/not getting back to you- it was never gonna happen.	/r/seduction	30/10/25 04:21 PM
8	Why Do Women Put “Looking For Friends Only” on Dating Apps? You should know, what women "say" and what they "mean" are, most of the time, NOT THE SAME THING. You say that to a woman and they'll likely get upset, funny thing is- it's the lens they view other people by, because it's how they operate. You say something (often simple and straight forward) to a woman. Her internal dialog "I bet he REALLY means x" or when speaking to a girlfriend "what did he mean by that?". Run a test (if you feel like it). Smile at a woman you're casually talking to, tell he…	/r/seduction	29/10/25 01:51 AM
8	The reality of modern dating...most women are Big assumption you've made there.	/r/seduction	26/10/25 05:28 AM
13	What's the best move to make if a strange man comes up to you and the girl you are talking to and puts his arms around both of you? Confidently say "sorry man, we were having a private conversation ". Then lead her by the hand/arm away from him and act like its no big deal. This will actually help her feel safe with you which is HUGE. Did something similar when on my first meetup with a girl in her mid 20s (I'm mid 40s). It made her much more comfortable with me VERY quickly (which she repeated later). We were fucking about 90 minutes later.	/r/seduction	25/10/25 02:49 AM
1	Game men instead of women You're just adding extra steps. If you wanna do social circle game- that's cool. But it's not needed. Especially with what you're implying- a guy doesn't need to siphon charisma off some celebrity (weird kind of person to write in) or businessman or whatever. Be your own source of success/confidence. Put the time into yourself, not creating social circles just for "game" sake. That, in itself, is needy and a little manipulative. And time is limited. So, again, work on yourself. This ALWAYS pays …	/r/seduction	25/10/25 01:15 AM
3	Why women pull away even when things are ‘going well’— and how to react when it happens Chances are she has REAL mental issues and you're dodging a bullet. You got the best out of it you were going to get. Betting red flags were going to start popping up (there may have been some already and you just missed them because you were having too good a time). Women who in the least bit have their shit together by 30 (mentally) don't do shit like ghost you after that much time and connection, at least without "hey, sorry I'm dealing with some shit/this isn't going to work for me" somethin…	/r/seduction	23/10/25 02:43 AM
7	Why I quit dating apps forever (and what I now do instead) 100% on guys not realizing how attractive they can be to women. Thought I took good pics and was self conscious of meeting in person because, at mid 40s, Im seeing signs of aging skin that show up more in person. But multiple women have told me how much more attractive I am in person. Go figure.	/r/seduction	21/10/25 03:57 PM
11	Why I quit dating apps forever (and what I now do instead) Night game can be fun- butt most the women you'll meet out there past a certain age (area dependent) are prone to have more issues, be less interesting and just shallow. There are exceptions of course.	/r/seduction	21/10/25 03:41 PM
3	Girl gave me her number but said something that threw me off. Let me recommend something that helped me- do this ALL THE TIME, even and especially when alone- practice shrugging and saying "who cares" when something comes up and you know it might bother you or some outcome independence would be helpful. Whether it's a thought/feeling of your's or something someone says. Your subconscious will hear this and after awhile believe it from repetition. Do it when people get caught up in bitching about shit that is redundant, isn't worth the mental energy or they…	/r/seduction	17/10/25 09:22 PM
3	Girl gave me her number but said something that threw me off. Ignore this advice, OP's giving a shit about her comment is the red flag.	/r/seduction	17/10/25 08:25 PM
29	Girl gave me her number but said something that threw me off. The correct attitude here is "who cares". If you let every little thing like this get to you then this insecurity is gonna come out with women, especially the ones you mess with more than a few times and especially the ones you like. Work on yourself to get your confidence up and learn some outcome independence.	/r/seduction	17/10/25 08:25 PM
4	Does getting with these hoes make y’all never want a relationship again? Why would this burn a bridge, because you're gonna run out of women? Not gonna happen. Or just "burn a bridge" in your own mind of the habit you form? Could happen. But it's how you approach relationships. There's a middle ground between "they're all hoes" and "they're all angels".	/r/seduction	17/10/25 06:59 AM
7	Does getting with these hoes make y’all never want a relationship again? This 100%. I'm in my 40s and have been into "game" for going on 20 damn years (yeesh). And yeah, even your mom is like this. Really we all are. But especially women. "Wifey" types are like this too. They're just more selective and descreet. This is one of the reason that after "women's rights" became prominent in first world countries and women don't have to have a marriage to literally survive- divorce rates went through the roof. It's a semi complicated topic that has to do with caveman/geneti…	/r/seduction	17/10/25 06:57 AM
1	Do you think “confidence” is overrated in seduction? Those loud guys aren't confident, it's just another way over projecting/over compensating for insecurity. BUT- Hell no. Most women will fuck an over confident (even projecting) asshole before fucking an obviously (overtly, mousy) insecure guy. Both those types can turn women off fast, and there are excepts- but GENUINE confidence, just being comfortable in your own skin, not caring what people think while not trying to force your opinion on others and just being able to "BE" is THE most consecut…	/r/seduction	13/10/25 03:28 PM
1	Are women after 25 harder to game? Well this could be any number of things- this could be that the younger ones are falling for your canned game approach (if you're doing that- might be even if you don't realize it). Could also be that you're living in an area where they get hard up for provider hunting sooner than later (where I've lived I use to see this and the "interview" happen more around 30 where women got more insecure about the ole' ticking clock), could be the economy sucks where you're at and women you're hitting up ar…	/r/seduction	12/10/25 04:47 PM
8	Prove me wrong, please.. Slow down there Mr. Tate	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/25 09:24 PM
9	5 Tightly Guarded Secrets of Female I don't agree with the "flirt with her just as much when her friends show up" some women like how bold a guy can seem when doing this, others worry about their friends judging them and want more of a co-conspirator vibe with you. Depends on the woman. If you're talking about a work environment, of course you have to be careful. There's a right time and place to be forward/bold, which can still be done in the work place (not in front of everyone). Other than that his overall point of "she only ca…	/r/seduction	23/09/25 04:27 AM
9	Full blown got laid in the club [field report] Guys are taking away the wrong lesson from this. It's not "did or didn't it happen", no you catch a freak at the right time and she'll jump whats around so she can scratch the itch and move on with her week. The lesson guys should be taking from this her saying "I work all the time", as in "I'm a female who like everyone else likes to fuck when the mood hits, BUT because 'I work all the time' I don't have time for all the games, the chasing, the attention whore/making guys jump through hoops mos…	/r/seduction	02/09/25 04:30 PM
2	Gf(27F) wants to break up over religion with me (27M) A lot of people (especially the young) say something to this effect ALL THE TIME and wind up trapped in loveless relationships for very unhealthy amounts of time (been there). You have to realize this is likely unfixable and you're trying to trade less pain now for more pain later. And, as someone who has been there, that is an immature outlook to have. Like others have said "never stop a woman from leaving you". It will only get worse, she knows it. She's giving you an opportunity to grow. Grow…	/r/seduction	15/08/25 10:27 PM
2	Too old at 43? Spoken like a keyboard jokey who never gets out and tries. Not that damn hard. This sub is full of pessimist that should really be somewhere else.	/r/seduction	10/06/25 05:30 AM
4	Too old at 43? Christ, really, one and done? There are plenty of women who don't like older men, plenty who don't care about age as long as you're not ancient, and another chunk of women who are very attracted to older men. In the last year, with just a little effort, I (being 44) fucked a 26 year old with a killer body, a fine ass latina who couldn't have been older than 25, dated a 37 year old for 7 months (who everyone thought couldn't be older than 30) and a few months before that hooked up with a damn cut…	/r/seduction	10/06/25 04:06 AM
8	How to win against physically attractive guys Not a great mindset to promote. I'm an average looking guy, some days a little above average and have had plenty of competition from better looking guys. I've lost a few women to them, sure, but I've won my share too. A lot of those guys will rely on their looks and have a shit personality, or ability to have a touch of understanding about things like what women deal with in periods or guys constantly hitting on them, etc (which isn't hard to turn into something humorous)- basically if you can f…	/r/seduction	06/06/25 06:31 PM
3	What I've learnt from fking attractive women Your realization is just you maturing. That's great. BUT there's nothing wrong with enjoying fucking really attractive women. In fact - I'd argue being able to attract/fuck really attractive women is a skill worth having. Yeah, don't put them on a pedistal. When you can swoop in and "pick up" the type of women most men lust after, then it gets a LOT easier to not miss the oppurtunity of bagging the quality women that come along for some real kind of connection AND when that relationship ends, li…	/r/seduction	01/06/25 01:18 AM