fritzlangthecat Archive

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1	How to overcome this anger? Just work on moving past it, then. See what you think of the book. It's intended to help men be more direct and avoid situations like yours. she could have dumped me all along or showed me my place much before. she threw baits now and then to keep me as a pet. Like this, for instance. When you learn to be more direct, others won't have this level of control in your relationships. You're holding her responsible for taking care of your feelings. She's incapable of that. This experience doesn't nee…	/r/askTRP	30/11/15 12:08 AM
4	How to overcome this anger? Don't blame her for your own bullshit. Read the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and pay attention to the section on covert contracts. You had unstated expectations of love in exchange for friendship. Attraction doesn't work that way. Her life is hers to fuck up. She likes a whack job asshole, that's her business. Work on you. EDIT: toned it down.	/r/askTRP	29/11/15 11:56 PM
2	Is being boring something you're born with? Nope. But Patton Oswalt, Jon Stewart, and Louis CK are good examples of comedians who connect rather than go for cheap laughs. That said, standup is different from real conversations, which involve a lot of active listening. Comedians also exaggerate a character that they play (those three included). Imitating them will make you seem odd and artificial. You can study how they engage and keep a story moving without losing interest. If you have interesting or exciting things happening in your life…	/r/askTRP	29/11/15 11:40 PM
4	Is being boring something you're born with? Regardless of whether you were born with it, you can fix it. Study comedians, not the schlocky ones who work a gimmick or are "always on" but the very funny ones who seem to be having a natural conversation with their audience.	/r/askTRP	29/11/15 11:21 PM
1	How can I live a normal life as a 5'6" Asian guy without being regarded as "the short guy"? What I am trying to say is that the first step is not to perceive yourself is short. You can't make yourself 6'1."	/r/askTRP	25/11/15 06:36 AM
7	New plate is a young CC rider and strangely I want to help her Your attempt at help will be met with contempt. And rightly so.	/r/askTRP	25/11/15 06:32 AM
2	How can I live a normal life as a 5'6" Asian guy without being regarded as "the short guy"? White girls can't kill you through some sort of Anglo telekinesis by thinking to themselves, "that dude is short." You might as well get over your fear. I'm betting that the 5'6" hurts you somewhat overall, but it hurts you a lot more to perceive yourself the way that you do now: "short guy" as opposed to "a normal height man who has a good chance with girls." Your battle is almost entirely mental. Start thinking of yourself as normal and work on losing your sense of inadequacy. You're shorter b…	/r/askTRP	25/11/15 06:10 AM
1	White American males of TRP, would you ever help an Asian or Indian guy have success with white women if he was your friend? trololololol	/r/askTRP	25/11/15 05:25 AM
1	what does this mean? "I have no romantic or sexual feelings toward you at all. I do not want to be with you."	/r/askTRP	25/11/15 05:13 AM
2	What kind of an SMV do you need to pull the hot blonde types if you're in the USA anyways? I see so many questions here specifically about American blondes. There is no goddamned difference, I promise you.	/r/askTRP	25/11/15 04:21 AM
5	Concrete steps to fix severe conversational problems? When I'm with very good friends and have a drink or two I can act naturally and joke and tease, and I'm actually a fairly sharp-witted motherfucker. This is good news. You have already cultivated a sense of humor, you just have some inhibitions. Breaking down social inhibitions is partly a matter of mindset, mostly a matter of practice. Keep going out and attempting to do better in conversations, even though it sucks. As to the mindset component, you're funnier when you're relaxed and comfortabl…	/r/askTRP	25/11/15 03:34 AM
2	Was being too alpha the reason my ex gf went back to the comforts of her beta ex? The a-word you are looking for may be "abusive."	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 06:41 AM
2	Getting back on the horse. There is no magic formula for a quick confidence boost, imo. Bad one night stands can make you feel shittier than you already did. Also, if she is less attractive, I would think any confidence boost would be hers, not yours.	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 06:33 AM
2	Can the red pill explain hot blondes here in America and why they are generally cold bitches? Get some dark hair dye. Smuggle a bucket of it into a bar, then quickly dump it on your desired target. You will be arrested and go to jail. However, that girl in the bar that you assaulted will become non-bitchy, warm, affectionate, and humble.	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 06:13 AM
1	Nexting one LTR for another LTR? I wish you the best. Just remember, this is an internal process. Using another person as a means to challenge yourself won't necessarily be effective. She's probably being honest about calling her out on manipulation tactics. Who cares, though - the issue is whether you are enjoying yourself in this relationship.	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 03:21 AM
1	First plate. Female Dread Game? Possibility of caught feelings. 18 years old. EDIT: I wrote something long about the plate/ltr decision without reading carefully. My apologies, I forgot that you're long-distance in writing this response. LDR LTR at 18 is a bad idea, as others have said. Just stop trying to control her at college, then, is my answer.	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 03:06 AM
1	Girls frequently call me a "dork". How do I stop being one? Ignore it and don't internalize it. Don't ask how to change yourself based on some offhand comments. It's not like girls frequently call you a toddler-rapist and you have a history of unexplained blackouts. No soul-searching needed.	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 02:24 AM
3	Passive Aggression from Friend We can only go by your example. And despite the sarcasm, the text with the "thanks" seems like a pretty direct way of bringing it up. EDIT: Reading your other comments, your beef is that your friend told you something that you didn't recognize to be a secret and is now acting like you're the enemy because you spread it around. In that case, who is right depends on the specifics of what was shared. Either you should have known better, or he's being a bitch. Hard to tell without more details.	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 01:55 AM
1	Did you take antidepressants, and if yes - were they beneficial? Many years ago, I took Wellbutrin/bupropion. It is also used to help people quit smoking and has no sexual side effects. It's basically an upper. My depression was mostly situational - while I am prone to it, certain events in my life made it harder for me to work my way through. My impression was that the bupropion assisted in my own, independent, multi-prong plans to kick my own ass into getting better. It wasn't a solution by itself, and, as with any anti-depressant, constantly check in with …	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 01:45 AM
3	What's her intention? Wait - I don't understand the country involved, but why would a girl want some rando on tinder to tutor her if she cares about her grade? She's keeping you at a distance in order to avoid declaring any attraction at this point (and fair enough - she hasn't met you irl and doesn't know whether she'll feel anything). Get the in-person coffee and you'll know whether there's potential or not. Right now you can't tell anything from internet messages. Don't offer to tutor her or help her with books, o…	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 01:33 AM
2	Passive Aggression from Friend Yep, he fucked up. It sounds like he didn't even need to lie, just not volunteer that he'd heard already.	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 01:27 AM
2	Nexting one LTR for another LTR? Just break up with your LTR. The new one may work out, may not, but the issue of whether LTR1 is working is distinct from whether LTR2 has legs. Also this: Additionally, I have had to check her phone on one occasion Who made you do this - God? The Flying Spaghetti Monster? You aren't taking responsibility for your own actions in your LTR, which kind of gels with my overall impression that you feel paranoid because (you think) LTR1 is more alpha. Right now you aren't the guy you want to be in thi…	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 01:18 AM
3	Finally got around to making plans with a prospect...find out her best friend just died recently but she's still game (??) Her response was bizarre because of the situation. She's completely fucked up and in a major stage of grief that she doesn't understand yet. Her answers aren't going to make sense because her brain is still processing that a key part of her life has been blown apart. Yes, definitely don't be a dick and write something like "bummer, let's reschedule." That's a response for when her boss decided to give her a due-next-day assignment at EOD or her apartment flooded. Her fucking best friend died. Yo…	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 12:47 AM
0	Guys who have successfully quit porn, how did you do it? What are your reasons for trying to quit/reduce porn?	/r/askTRP	23/11/15 12:08 AM
1	First plate. Female Dread Game? Possibility of caught feelings. 18 years old. As it currently stands, I tightened the frame of the relationship by forbidding her from any sexual activity while in university if she wants to come home to still be FWB. I also told her that I may consider a monogamous relationship if [a bunch of hoop-jumping bs] Forbidding her? Seriously? If she is a plate, she gets to have sexual experiences with people who aren't you.	/r/askTRP	22/11/15 10:59 PM
2	Are guilt trips valid method for dealing with women? Guilt trips are the tools of the passive-aggressive. I think walking away from an escalating situation rather than getting yourself into the drama weeds is the better way to go.	/r/askTRP	14/11/15 08:31 PM
1	Working on frame - I think I'm losing my sanity? Relationship almost destroyed. She ordered another glass of wine because I wouldnt be able to see her for her birthday which was the 'tomorrow' from this situation and that also answers why I wasn't more demanding. Also stupid. A common mistake I like to make over and over again is thinking about her well-being (or others) over mine. Read No More Mr Nice Guy. This is an example of a covert contract. You followed it up with a victim puke after the gym.	/r/askTRP	13/11/15 05:08 AM
7	Cuddling You buried the lede. She's under the age of consent. Stay far away.	/r/askTRP	11/11/15 07:58 PM
1	Gift for plate? A couple of suggestions. Beginner plug - http://thepleasurechest.com/tantus-perfect-plug-17716-prd1.htm Anal lube - http://thepleasurechest.com/maximus-18125-prd1.htm	/r/askTRP	10/11/15 08:27 PM
1	GF has orbiter friend (a BP white knight), I'm afraid of her cheating me if the right circumstances arise, I'd like help on how best I should deal with their relationship (basic question) I want her to show me all their chat logs as a condition of staying with me. This is counterproductive. You already know what you need to know. giving me some pleasure in making her resent what she did. Only this last part of your explanation is an actual reason that you want to do this. The rest was bs.	/r/askMRP	10/11/15 02:35 AM
1	Why is it so hard for me to give my life a puporse? Tell your doctors about all of your symptoms in detail. If one doesn't want to listen to you, move on and keep trying different doctors. Anhedonia, severe depression, suicidal ideation - shit, I am surprised that you are still walking around. There's your purpose: heal yourself and focus on finding the right medical treatment. You can go through life like this but already know your status quo sucks.	/r/askTRP	05/11/15 04:32 AM
1	Hypothetically speaking are their downsides to marrying a very wealthy girl (assuming no children)? A lot of rich women have made their own money. Someone without the baggage that comes from growing up wealthy might value another individual who shows drive and initiative in life.	/r/askTRP	04/11/15 11:33 PM
2	Ex goes psycho, lies about me to get me fired/expelled/in trouble with the law. What do I do? Get a lawyer and get ahead of this before it ruins your life. If you aren't 100% confident in your counsel, seek second or third opinions.	/r/askTRP	03/11/15 09:12 PM
1	/r/TRP recommends Models but disagrees with its core concept of Vulnerability. How? Thanks for the link. I'm new here and it's one of the best things I have read in this forum so far - if everyone around you seems shitty, take a harder look at yourself.	/r/askTRP	02/11/15 11:28 PM
1	I need help. Please read this. Any ideas where to start? You identified the starting point yourself. You're a poorly functioning human being. The order is: work on function, get job, get money, backpack. You're only 23. You'll make it to the backpacking part.	/r/askTRP	02/11/15 07:56 PM
1	I need help. Please read this. Your story got to me so much that I joined just to respond. You're getting a wall of text. I'm sorry about your cat. She didn't deserve to die like that. In some alternate reality, your cat may have lived if you remembered to shut a window, the dog was outside, etc. Nobody remembers to shut a window all the time. You didn't kill your cat. The Universe didn't kill your cat. Some asshole did. Be angry and be depressed. I would. As far as "deserving" your excellent cat, you did deserve her. You hav…	/r/askTRP	02/11/15 07:18 PM