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Discussionfroderenfelemus/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:39 PM
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The symbolism behind taking his last name is to transfer ownership from your dad to your husband, back in the day. Wedding rings symbolize eternal love, commitment and unity. It’s a tangible symbol of the commitment you make during a wedding ceremony. Wearing it every day is a show of commitment. It can also be a status symbol, but it’ll always be a wedding ring first. If you’ve been Jane Doe your entire life, it’s a big change to suddenly become Jane Smith. There’s a lot of identity and paperwo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 09:58 PM
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People tend to seem more patient with me, though that mainly stems from a “she’s just a stupid young girl” so you win some you lose some
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:39 PM
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It’s not about what you can do for misogyny, but about what misogyny can do for you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:38 PM
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Maybe? (Obviously depends a lot on the person). Why would I mind dating a cis guy who’s been with a trans woman though?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 09:48 PM
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Books can absolutely trigger certain feelings, no doubt. But a book, an inanimate object, cannot force a human being to develop a kink…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:26 PM
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Books do not have the ability to force a person to feel a certain way. Reading a book about bondage will not “make” you enjoy bondage
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:23 PM
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“Made them”, they discovered a kink through literature, and kept pursuing it because they enjoyed it. But yes, being exposed to new concepts and ideas makes us aware of said concepts and ideas
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:19 PM
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Well yeah, that makes sense. They read that smut because they’re into that thing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:14 PM
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Yeah exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:58 PM
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Oh it’s definitely not new, that’s not what I meant. I meant it was way more available today. Women are getting published. Girls go to school and learn how to read. Women don’t get lobotomies for being literate and knowledgeable. Social media makes it infinitely easier to recommend spicy books. Not to mention that 50 shades shifted how society viewed those books. As feminism has evolved and “women like sex too”, it’s been less taboo to recommend these kinds of books too. Way back in time you wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 08:06 AM
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I don’t agree with this statement, but I would like to point out that dark romance books are really popping off right now. Before that, it was fanfiction written by anyone, uploaded to a website for everyone to read. Before that, well, I don’t think there was much of an option or availability for women. Smut has been a game changer
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:03 PM
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1 sexual partner? Ok 0 sexual partners? Also ok
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:35 PM
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True, but I don’t see anywhere in my comment or the original post the mention of obsessive behavior? That wasn’t my impression of the word simp
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:53 PM
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My bf proudly and loudly wears the simp badge of honor. The relationship is very reciprocal. He sees simp as a positive, because ofc he wants to go the extra mile and spoil his partner. Tbh, I thought the annotations to simp had become positive. I know when it first took off it was “derogatory” (idk, making fun of them, whatever) but I was under the impression that that had turned around.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 02:24 PM
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Okay, thank you for explaining. I think that murder is okay if it’s necessary for society to function, if that makes sense - oversimplified. It’s less voluntary if it’s their job. They don’t take joy in killing, they are doing it out of need. (Obviously that’s not 1:1 how it really works, some of them enjoy it, it’s just vastly generalized ) It’s completely fair that you don’t argue, obviously. I will admit my opinion is a little bit contradictory. I eat meat, but I object to hunting as a hobby.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:17 PM
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I’m not denying that those are important practices in society. They definitely are. And it’s definitely not all that sustainable. I’m not dating the farmer? The financial aspect is also a factor, although it wouldn’t justify it. I wouldn’t date a farmer either. But there’s a difference between doing it for financial gain, putting food on the table, and just doing it for fun. I doubt many farmers shoot their pets for fun? Medical necessity is a whole different factor. It’s absolutely fine that yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:54 AM
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I don’t know what that means. Warhammer, is that a game? What’s a shut in, in this context?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:35 AM
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In my opinion there’s a difference between someone raising and profiting from selling meat, and people who go out and shoot wildlife for fun. I’m not vegan, and I absolutely benefit from animal control. But that doesn’t mean I want that in a partner? I’m aware that it’s necessary, it’s just not necessary in my vicinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:01 AM
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Any violent natured sports. Violence just turns me off. If he had a boxing tournament or something, I would love to be able to be there and support him, but violence makes me so uncomfortable. Team sports - ones that are on tv - like soccer, basketball, football, hockey - whatever. I feel like often it’s their whole personality, and they schedule their lives around the team calendar. Dress up in their team jerseys. Yell at the tv. And again, I want to take an interest and support my partner, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:46 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:55 AM
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They (men) have to impress the woman, and not other men. I’m especially thinking about dating profiles. Fish picture - yeah the boys might’ve cheered you on for that, but women are not impressed by that. If they have a profile filled with gym pics, because that impresses all the gymbros. Dark humor (I love dark humor, but on a dating profile as a first impression it can be kind of a turn off. Depends on how it’s done. But know your crowd). And the ones who have bios like “women who likes typical…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:50 PM
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I’m 160 cm, a big height difference just gives me the ick. I feel like you’d look like dad and daughter. It’s just not for me. The physical distance is just weird too. Wdym I can’t kiss my partner without a ladder. No thanks. I can stand on my tippy toes but that’s it. I’m obviously not judging anyone who does like a big height difference, this is just my personal preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 08:26 AM
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Intelligent (can stimulate me mentally, bring new perspectives) Attractive (to me) No taller than 180cm Good humor Ambitious / has self discipline (not in a climb the corporate ladder way, but more like having aspirations, and actually giving an effort to achieve them) Manners Not socially incompetent No snoring Feminist (same political views etc) Confident in his masculinity Childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:10 PM
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I feel like you answered the question in the title. She enjoys casual sex because she doesn’t share any chores with him. There’s no mental load of him not pulling his weight. As for the emotional connection, there’s a big difference between no emotional connection with an attractive stranger, and having no emotional connection with the man whom you share a bed with every night, took vows with, and fell in love with. A stranger is a stranger, the emotional connection doesn’t mean anything. Your h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:39 PM
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Women want sex too. Wanting sex isn’t disgusting or evil. It’s completely natural. Feeling entitled to sex is usually what turns women off. It’s fine to want sex - it’s the way you portray the feeling that defines wether it’s disgusting or not. You can want sex, but just because a girl agrees to go out with you, doesn’t mean you’re gonna have sex. You paying for her food doesn’t mean you’re having sex. You paying for her drinks doesn’t mean you’re having sex. Nothing means you’re gonna have sex.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 03:02 PM
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Dude, women used to get lobotomized for being outspoken. They were deemed crazy. I don’t think “looking at the facts regarding women” is the most reliable thing. I truly don’t know what to tell you here. Women’s feelings, thoughts and opinions about themselves are theirs to have - not for men to tell them what they should be. You can’t say women, as a whole, are dishonest about their attraction just because you don’t believe them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 01:24 PM
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I don’t think the male gaze on a woman’s feelings are what we can conclude as being objectively correct. If a woman claims that she cares more about personality than looks, and rejects a man, and then starts dating a different man, then the first guy is obviously gonna paint her like a superficial bitch who only cares about looks, simply because the second man might be more attractive? It’s not all about looks. It does matter, attraction matters, but it’s far from the only or biggest thing that …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 01:04 PM
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Men constantly gaslighting women by claiming they know better about the female mind than the women with the female brains. Even on here, u see this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:52 PM
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So very constructive! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:51 PM
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Of course we care about looks we're not (all) blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:13 AM
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Men lie to themselves and get angry at women for it apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:10 AM
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Yes you need verbal enthusiastic consent before engaging in sex. Men being “straight forward” in this context is something different. I’ve experienced when still getting to know each other, just talking, they’ll just out of the blue drop something like “would you rather have me fondle your breasts or your thighs while I eat you out?” And it’s just. What. We were talking about our favorite movies, what the heck. If a woman isn’t interested in someone, being “straight forward” is really fucking cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:16 PM
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Autistic men being unaware of social cues and making women uncomfortable is gaslighting and mind reader bs?… what
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:00 PM
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I’m not saying that this is all autistic men, this is just my personal experience. I feel that autistic men are very bad at reading the room. Like saying absolutely out of pocket things. Being way too straight forward, especially when the flirty relationship hasn’t yet been established. Struggling socially is a part of autism, for sure, but it’s just visible on autistic men? Like, you can see it. Their demeanor can be (unintentionally) threatening, because they don’t experience social cues the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:36 PM
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I didn’t claim all men hated women. I only mentioned society. Women can be misogynistic too. But again, it wasn’t that deep. Right
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:03 PM
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Take it with a grain of salt. I was just referring to misogyny, sexism, incel forums etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 04:51 PM
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Society hates women. Unattractive women even more. Unattractive (old / wrinkly / infertile) women with no way of getting more attractive? Most hated
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 02:35 PM
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This! She’ll communicate xyz, he’ll promise to do better, she’ll believe him, nothing changes - rinse and repeat. At some point, without her even realizing, she’s just done. She’s over it completely. She stopped caring. He stopped trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 08:58 AM
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“Feminine temperament” = blubbering mess, regularly cries, submissive with no backbone, unconfrontational
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 05:18 PM
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This indeed. It’s for relationships not first dates
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:35 AM
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“I wasn’t feeling it” usually translates to “I gave him a chance because he’s attractive, but our personalities didn’t quite click like I’d want them to”. A woman isn’t gonna go out on a serious date with a man she isn’t attracted to in the least
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:03 PM
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We keep saying it, but you’re not listening. Looks aren’t the most important thing. A personality can make up for looks. I’m not saying that Shrek-looking men have a chance if he has a good personality. But at least average and medium ugly guys definitely can make up for it. Some attraction is important, I won’t deny that. It just seems like men think that women won’t even look at a man that would be rated less than 8/10, which isn’t the case at all. Yes looks matter, but they’re not everything
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:47 PM
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I’m not saying looks don’t matter. They do. But they don’t matter as much as you (or the internet) says. It just seems like men want an excuse so rejection doesn’t feel as bad. Women having unrealistic beauty standards is more comforting than “I’m just not her type”. I’ve seen so so so many less-attractive men in relationships, so looks are obviously not the only thing women care about. My point, about Brad Pitt, was that the way you present yourself matters too. Your facial structure can be att…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:43 PM
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Not obese, not extremely underweight, not visibly muscular. I don’t mind a dad bod. Just not any of the “extremes” - so normal. I know exactly what I like, I just can’t necessarily describe it in a way that gives you the accurate understanding of what I like. I think the easiest way would be to describe it as the funny friend in the friend group
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:04 AM
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Oh, ok, that wasn’t obvious. Again, I can’t speak for all women. But probably someone around 170-180, normal built, dark hair, good smile, charismatic, friendly, funny and maybe even a little flamboyant at times. The way he carries himself is the most important, and I don’t really know how to adequately describe it. You just know it when you see it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 10:56 AM
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That’s up to the individual woman to know. Everyone has different taste
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 10:44 AM
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Brad Pitt could walk in, but he wouldn’t get any woman home if he had clothes with stains and holes, if he smelled, if he made her uncomfortable and so on. Looks is not the ONLY thing that matters. I’ve seen countless of women immediately losing interest in a man as soon as he started talking. I’m sensing that you want to paint women in an extremely shallow light, and when we disagree we’re just delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:56 AM
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Looks have an effect. Charm has an effect too. With charm, they’re just as likely
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:41 PM
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I’m not denying that physical attractiveness plays a factor. It does, no doubt about it. My point was more so that men seem to put more weight on the physical attributes than literally anything else. Of course it matters some, it’s just not everything. I’m not denying any studies either. I’m just saying what I’ve witnessed and experienced. It can very well be a cultural or geographical difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:24 PM
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A man wanting to be sexually attracted to a sexual partner is completely fine?… Expecting all women to adhere to his wants, and criticizing those who do not live up to his fantasy is likely gonna be called an incel though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 07:49 PM
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Women refuse to admit that looks are the most important thing in a partner. It’s not like he has to be model level attractive. Average and “medium ugly” men are just as likely to be favored, even in one night stands. As long as they have a certain charm about them, they’re likely to succeed. I’ve witnessed a astounding amount of average or less than average men who have had casual relations
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 07:42 PM
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If she’s sexually attracted to him yes. Sexual attraction is a pretty fair request when engaging in sex. Not sure why you’re making it seem wrong or unreasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 12:15 PM
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She mentally checked out and processed the breakup while you were still together. When she’s finally over you she probably notices that it’s time to move on. She didn’t (necessarily) know/realize that she was over you already. In many cases she gets fed up with having to remind you and whatnot (remember to do the dishes, remembering anniversaries, whatever it might be) she gets tired of nagging too. She keeps giving the relationship a chance in hopes of it getting better. When she’s over the rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 06:03 PM
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Unpopular opinion: the friend zone doesn’t exist. It’s an excuse (mostly) men use so they don’t have to blame themselves for the rejection- even though it wasn’t personal. It’s easier to say you’re stuck in the friend zone than saying she just wasn’t into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 05:09 PM
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Men shouldn’t date women who don’t respect their boundaries. Especially if they follow it up with “you’re a man, act like it” in any capacity. You’re allowed to have your feelings, thoughts, boundaries and beliefs. An equal partner wouldn’t steamroll over those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 03:29 PM
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Right. You’re still not approaching them
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 09:27 AM
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The point was that you’re not approaching anyone by ignoring them. That was the point of the post
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 09:25 AM
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Glad you got the point
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 09:21 AM
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Amazing. You just forgot the part about thinking she’s cute, so in case she’s a mind reader she’ll approach you. Then everyone’s safe
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 08:23 AM
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Birth rates are lower because more people (especially women) are realizing they don’t HAVE to have kids. They have a choice. Many women were raised by mothers who regretted having children, and it stuck. Women have all kinds of different reasons. Number of young men single and less men married is probably due to feminism (surprise!). Women don’t HAVE to be married. They no longer need a man to have a bank account or house- so they don’t. Women are way more career focused, since they’re allowed c…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 09:38 PM
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I dated a guy I wasn’t physically attracted to. I was attracted to his personality though. He wasn’t necessarily ugly, he just wasn’t attractive to me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 11:02 AM
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I think it’s more difficult for a woman to be ugly than for a man to be ugly. Women can have their long hair, nice figure, whatever, and they’ll look pretty good most of the time. Men are just unfortunate. Sure they can grow a beard to appear more attractive, but if it’s a patchy unkept beard it’ll make him even more unattractive. They aren’t as inclined to have long hair, so their face shape is pretty much on its own, so the wrong hairstyle can make him even more unappealing. Weight is more lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:05 PM
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Well my big t-shirt will get caught on things. It’s easier to just keep everything compact- like putting our hair in a bun. For me, personally, it’s a mentality thing too. My style is kind of baggy street vibes, so putting on “tight clothing” (workout clothes) makes me feel more productive and not as much as just another day in a big t-shirt. The tight fitting workout clothes in that material is a completely different feeling than my other clothes, so it kind of allows me to get in a headspace t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 03:39 PM
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I think it’s because women are conditioned to take on a lot of responsibilities when they’re still kids
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 02:16 PM
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I personally haven’t had issues with this. I wouldn’t describe myself as defensive or on edge, but definitely cautious. Good men usually respect that and understand it. “Predators” (or just men who are openly seeking casual sex) usually just nope out and save both of us the time and energy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 09:40 PM
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Modern day self harm: doom scrolling
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 08:22 PM
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Some women get approached way more than others, so they are more likely to prepare I guess. With the wrong man there will be no winning. Nothing you do will keep you safe. My phone number doesn’t have my full name, location, workplace or anything else (unless you’ve posted your number online). It feels a lot safer
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:45 PM
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You can always block the number immediately. Otherwise give him a fake number - but again, that’s really risky if he insists on calling the number immediately. I saw a girl who had made a fake instagram account to give to guys. That way they didn’t get rejected, and she didn’t share any personal information. If my boyfriend didn’t think I did it for my own safety and nothing else, he probably wouldn’t be a boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:21 PM
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Not all men are dangerous, but enough are. You never know. Dahmer and Bundy were ordinary attractive guys. I’m not risking anything. He could always just follow her home and do that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 07:17 AM
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Then I’m not sure why you would relate to those things. That was my only guess
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:29 AM
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Was your mother absent? Physically present, but mentally absent?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:20 AM
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Idk I don’t feel like you would want your girlfriend to risk her safety just so a stranger knows she’s in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 11:26 PM
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No one deserves that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 08:26 PM
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This is nothing but speculation; I could imagine that those women are out of tune with their femininity. They might want to do their hair, nails, makeup and whatnot - but they never had anyone to teach her, or tell them that it was okay to do. Nail polish was “gay” in her household, perhaps. She wouldn’t be able to relate to many of her female peers, and would gravitate towards being friends with the boys. She wouldn’t have that tight knit supportive relationship with girls or women. The support…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 06:43 PM
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Whether he makes her laugh. Feel good about herself. Share same beliefs. Want the same things in life. Good vibes and compatibility. Overall men who bring emotional value to the relationship. Now don’t get me wrong, women do like a man they’re attracted to, is financially independent, or whatever it might be. The notion just seems to be that he needs to be 6’4, making 6 figures and look like a model. That’s just not the reality. Men are comparing themselves to functional standards
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:22 PM
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It’s not the most important criteria though. Men make it seem so much more important than it is
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 05:36 PM
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I can’t talk for everyone, but as a heterosexual woman I wouldn’t date a woman. I don’t know if a bigger percentage of women are bisexual or lesbian, and if that’s what you’re referring to with sexually fluid? Not to mention there’s tons of sexualities that depend more on the emotional and personal connection rather than sexual attraction or whatever. What was your thought behind “sexually fluid”? I can’t imagine that you meant that straight women were able to have relationships with women by ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 03:18 PM
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Why don’t women-hating men just date other men? Because sexuality isn’t a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:07 AM
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Sexuality isn’t a choice. Why don’t women-hating men date other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:06 AM
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I call it my own personal self harm
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:48 AM
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That men have convinced themselves that women only will date the top 20% of men, and that no one else has a chance. That men think that women’s only criteria for a partner is money, height, attractiveness and status. And last but not least, that women and feminism has caused a male loneliness epidemic for the remaining 80% of men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:48 AM
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They’re already married… she’s already trapped with a child… I see what you mean. I guess when women are distrusting they’re scared of getting beaten and killed
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:20 PM
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Couldn’t have said it better
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:14 PM
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A woman in a happy and safe relationship does not have a go bag. I’m not saying she’s innocent, she just has a reason for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:17 PM
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She obviously has a go bag because he’s a loose cannon, not because he’s a man
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:30 AM
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Women tend to get diagnosed later on compared to men. Maybe trying to research autism will give you a better understanding of yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:55 PM
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I’m absolutely fine haha, thanks tho
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:36 PM
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I wouldn’t really care. Asexuality and aromantic exist. So don’t a lot of other things. My child’s success is not built on romantic conquests.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:35 AM
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I probably wouldn’t tbh. Some partners either completely pull back, and others start lovebombing to make up for their guilt. So I guess if their behavior changes suddenly?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 09:39 AM
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Does “unattractive” do those men justice?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:40 PM
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Ehm… that’s a lot to unpack here buddy. “Nothing more xyz than” is a very common figure of speech. A rapist will never be more attractive than a doormat. Being nice never hurts your chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:39 PM
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I’ve seen it multiple times, so 1 in 1.5M is rather dramatic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:37 PM
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It’s even more attractive when you’re 30 and shaking down kids for their lunch money /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:23 AM
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Second this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:22 AM
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This! Doormat spineless pushovers are the absolute biggest turn off ever. Women don’t always recognize the pattern immediately, but when they do, they’ll likely be running for the hills. Women want to be challenged intellectually. They want an equal who can make decisions alongside her. Carrying the mental load of a relationship constantly would tire most women out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:21 AM
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I second this. No part of me would be attracted to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:17 AM
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Isn’t that because he prioritizes his woman’s (sexual) needs and lets her finish first though?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:16 AM
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Kindness can attract women in some cases. I remember a friend starting to notice a guy simply because he was extremely kind. Always smiling and being nice to everyone around him. Now, that’s not common case, obviously. But it does happen sometimes:)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:15 AM
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I absolutely agree with you, I would just like to add that “too nice” guys probably don’t have that much success (correct me if I’m wrong). Like the pushover dormants without any spine. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t have a personality or opinion of their own. There’s nothing more unattractive than a person who’s not able to have their own opinion. That’s my understanding of being “too kind” in the dating scene, and blaming that on their lack of success. That, or t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:12 AM
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There’s so many unattractive men who get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:07 AM
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If you’re nice just for the sole purpose of getting laid then you’re a “nice guy” who reacts negatively when rejected. If you’re nice to gain something for your own selfish reasons, then you’re probably not that nice of a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:06 AM
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I can’t speak for all women, but I can absolutely say that I will be absolutely repulsed by a man who’s unkind to me in any way. Especially if he’s a “nice guy” who’s only nice as long as he gets what he wants. There’s a difference between being a genuinely kind man, and a “nice guy”. If you tell a genuinely kind man no, he’ll respect that answer. If you tell a “nice guy” no, he’ll call you all the names in the book and throw a tantrum. Every woman has experienced a “nice guy”. Schrödinger’s wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:03 AM
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If she wants to dress modestly because she’s in a relationship, that’s fine, that’s cool, that’s her choice. If she shames other women for being slutty and asking for it because they choose less modest clothing, then I’m calling internalized misogyny. Think whatever you want, but don’t bring others down because of your beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:17 PM
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It could just be shitty people. But I suppose that would depend on what they said or did?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:13 PM
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I guess. I don’t doubt women unless they give good reason
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:41 PM
2

Obviously some women do lie. But almost all women are silenced too. So it’s a tricky one. Usually, if I have my doubt on the validity, I’ll just keep quiet. I won’t spread my thoughts, I’ll let her tell her story. Unless it’s painfully clear that she’s lying, then all bets are off. But if I’m in doubt, then I won’t accuse her of lying. Yknow?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:35 PM
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Yeah, we gotta call it out when we see it. It’s not always they even realize that they have internalized misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:14 PM
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I hate when other women put down other women. When their internalized misogyny causes them to victim blame and shame other women. I hate when women look down on other women because they don’t fit their narrative. Whether that means being an outspoken feminist, or a stay at home mother. Either one is absolutely fine. Women slutshaming other women suck too. Who cares, why does it bother Sarah that Caroline has an active sex life. It doesn’t matter. Who cares. Let Caroline live her life. Women who …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 11:36 AM
1

Again, there are always exceptions to the rule. Some dirtbags do have success Attraction definitely helps, I’m not arguing against that. Looks are subjective, so men you might find unattractive are attractive to some women. And some women don’t care for looks. Women don’t care about looks as much as it seems like in this subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:13 AM
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He works 70 hours a week. She rarely sees him. When he gets home from work he’s exhausted. I doubt he’s actually helping with chores and children, not because he’s a man, but because he’s working a 70 hour work week. He’s literally just a man that eats dinner with them and sleeps in the bed with his wife. Some might make it work. But 70 hour work weeks is insane. No person can do that, clean the house, cook, take care of the kids (put to bed, bathe, play, drive to school and activities, parent t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:36 AM
1

I’m imagining the standard “hey I noticed you and think you’re cute, can I have your number” thing. There’s a million ways to do it. Some are objectively creepy, some are objectively charming. The way a man acts when he does it is what really matters. He can be an attractive 10/10, but if his attitude is bad, arrogant, entitled and whatnot, then it’s creepy. If an “ugly” guy approaches, but is respectful, polite and charming, then it’s not creepy. He might not be successful, but he’s not creepy.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:13 AM
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I didn’t really find your analogy very good sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 03:19 PM
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We are fucking terrified of doing so. Just lately a video surfaced of a woman sharing her experience. She politely told the man she didn’t want to share her socials with him, but he kept pressing and pestering. Her friend told him that she wasn’t interested and that he should stop. He absolutely beat that girl up. Women getting killed, beaten and threatened after rejecting a man is not anything new.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 03:18 PM
1

Right… does there exist anything other than short ugly balding men and hot arrogant assholes, or is it really as black and white as you claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 03:15 PM
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That sounds like a personal opinion tbh. Most couples I’ve seen, the girl is usually more attractive than the guy. Maybe it’s a cultural thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 03:13 PM
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It’s okay to have sexual needs. It’s not okay to disrespect others because of it. Being a criminal isn’t that okay, depending on the cause (different places have different laws. Here you can become a “criminal” for driving over a red light. Which obviously isn’t okay, but criminal status is a bit much). You can’t really compare crime and male sexuality? One is illegal, one is natural?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:16 AM
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I know it’s a cliche, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So it’s not really as easy as “ugly” and “attractive”. I’m not denying that good looks aren’t a huge advantage. But women have very different taste. I have friends that prefer “medium ugly” guys (for a lack of better terms.) And someone’s attractiveness partly depends on their personality too. If an attractive person is arrogant and an asshole, they can easily go from a 10/10 to a 2/10. And vice versa, if a person is a 4/10, and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:12 AM
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I’m not saying that everyone has the same chance at all. Some people won’t find love because of their disadvantages, like genetics. I’m not disagreeing with that at all. My point was more so that as long as you live up to the bare minimum, your odds are infinitely better. Some people are just incredibly unlucky, and that sucks. However I do think it’s a valid “want” to be physically attracted to your romantic partner. Attraction is important. And so is the personality. If you only have one, it p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:07 AM
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Pretty privilege / the halo effect is without a doubt very real. We’re biased as fuck. There’s no denying that. I’ve heard about the effect before, but maybe I’ll take another deep dive into it!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:04 AM
1

It’s not really that black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:01 AM
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The most charming guys I’ve ever experienced has been medium ugly (for lack of better words) guys. If a man who looks like someone who neglects self care approaches you, then yes, it will immediately be seen as creepy. Those men usually give off incel nice guy energy, so we’re extra alert with them. I’m not saying the halo effect doesn’t exist, but it’s just not the only thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:14 AM
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Lean back and enjoy the show then
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:10 AM
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That wasn’t what I was saying, though I understand why it would be taken that way, that’s my bad. A bar is an absolutely fine place to approach. Sometimes women might go to a bar for a girls night to support their newly single friend. (An example) and those circumstances, that you couldn’t possibly know beforehand, make it a no-go to approach that specific woman then and there. I hope that made sense
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:08 AM
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Perhaps because women always are at risk when rejecting a man? So saying they should stop all together is the best solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:02 AM
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Feminist’s disagree with wanting to be treated like respectable human beings?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:22 AM
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Charming and charismatic* No need to be “attractive” or “ugly”.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:08 AM
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This. No one ever said to never approach a woman. They simply asked for it to be done in a respectful manner
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:07 AM
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It’s about the when, where and how. A bar is a fine place to do it. Just not while you’re sloppy drunk. Or when they’re having a girls night (which you couldn’t possibly know without asking of course). The circumstances are crucial. Most women go to bars to hang out with their friends and have fun, not to talk to male strangers for presumably want to get laid (generalization, obviously some men don’t want just that. A bar just gives that vibe)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:06 AM
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Approaching women in a creepy or uncomfortable situation is frowned upon yes. I do believe that men are less likely to approach a woman more than ever before. The stories of women being uncomfortable because a man approached her in an uncomfortable or creepy way has been labeled as, all men all the time, it seems. I think that only men with real self awareness know if their approach is good, and they might try to do so. That, and men who severely lacks self awareness and think they’re doing it r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:02 AM
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Guy 2 definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 03:49 AM
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I’m not sure I would call it selfish to want a partner you have something in common with, but I definitely see what you mean about the honesty
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:23 PM
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I’m well aware that a break up isn’t easy. Especially when there’s abuse in the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:10 PM
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If you feel the need to cheat, break up. I know it isn’t that easy always, and there will always be exceptions, like there is to everything. As a rule of thumb, the cheater isn’t the victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:03 PM
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If she’s aware that it’s his way of showing love, she’ll definitely feel loved. Not as much as if it was her love language, but still feeling loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:01 PM
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He could be a lawyer on a sabbatical and we wouldn’t know lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:06 PM
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I don’t really think that’s about the money per se. More that they search for like-minded partners. Someone who has a bachelor’s degree will seek out someone who has experienced the hardships of getting a bachelor’s degree. That makes sense. If women want to be with someone who makes the same, they’re probably just looking for an equal. Financial imbalance can be a huge strain on a relationship. All women are different, some do consider income, some don’t. So on and so forth. But I can say that,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:05 PM
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Maybe when women weren’t allowed to work or have bank accounts, yes they would want someone with a steady income and financial stability. Women really don’t care about money as much as this subreddit seems to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:44 PM
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Too bad he’s already taken. Maybe he has a brother or something?.. Jokes aside, yes. Extremely attractive. There’s many ways to be masculine. Not helping around the house isn’t masculine. Not pulling your weight in a household isn’t masculine. I mean, he’s taking care of “his woman”, and providing for her - which men would say is very masculine, right? He’s taking care of the house (chores), himself (gym, coffee), his partner (making her food and a smoothie) and the household (planning/booking t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:02 PM
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There should definitely be some sort of juridical abortion for men. But I don’t think it will be feasible. There should be a timeline for it, just like a medical abortion. It would mean the mother knew about the pregnancy, the father, the time of conception (roughly, to determine how far the pregnancy is), and then inform the father of it. Then he would have to file the papers in time, and we all know how much can go wrong there. What if the mother is mistaken about the partner, and the wrong gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 10:08 AM
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It has made it easier. Acknowledging women have a sex drive, needs and the right to sleep around exactly like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:12 PM
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Dislike old?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 12:57 PM
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I always suggest how they should approach women (not unwarranted) if they feel like it. I do encourage them to approach women, but only if they do it right. Obviously I don’t just throw a step by step list in their face, they usually ask for advice and tips, because they’re respectful and don’t want to make women uncomfortable. I love my male friends, they’re great. Any woman would be absolutely lucky to get them! (If she wanted to, and they were compatible, obviously). If the circumstances are …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 11:11 AM
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This. Women get a crazy amount of likes and matches on dating apps. “Sorting” down matches is almost necessary. And even then, she still receives more messages than she can reply to. If she had to say yes to every single date she was asked on, she would have to quit her full time job. It’s absolutely crazy how much success women have on dating apps. Once, at a party, we got to talking about men and women on tinder. A few guys opened their apps, and they had 5-20 matches each. A few girls opened …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 10:55 AM
2

Men’s insecurities are the most pressing issue in the patriarchy /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 02:00 PM
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It wouldn’t really be sustainable to do. If everyone has to take a paternity test, then that would take ressources, money, lab time and whatnot. It should definitely always be an option, but it doesn’t make sense to waste resources on people who aren’t doubting the paternity. But I do think that’s already an option? Maybe not everywhere though, I’m not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:03 PM
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It’s okay to have preferences. Just be respectful and don’t feel the need to tell them why. It’s okay to not like someone for their weight / height / body type / appearance / personality / literally everything ever - just be nice about it. Tell them you aren’t feeling it. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, no one cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:09 AM
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Yeah I think that it evolved to that, but women were hunters for a while too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:27 PM
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I mean, you’re the only common denominator in this scenario where all women are the same
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:01 PM
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Fun fact; a lot of hunters / gatherers used to be women in the early ages. I think they could see that by the graves or something. Don’t remember where I read it, it’s been a while lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 07:48 PM
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My thoughts exactly. I think I know one woman who might listen to Drake, and that’s just a guess based on the music I know she listens to. I can confidently say I know more men who listen to Drake. So idk what OP is experiencing exactly. And here everyone has iPhones. A higher percentage of women might have iPhone, but a butt ton of men do too. It’s not really enough of a distinction to compare the two genders. It’s more tech interested people who have something not iPhone - not gender based. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:49 PM
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I would argue that the older generation is less likely to be apart of the sisterhood - aka toxic boy moms, for example. The misogyny is so deeply ingrained within them, and they haven’t had feminism and the internet the same way we had growing up. I have a male and female boss. I love them both. But I do feel a lot more comfortable coming to my female boss about bigger things and such. I’m glad I got one of both
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:52 PM
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Of course. I just haven’t seen many of these basic women, which doesn’t seem as basic to me. But that’s just me, there’s probably a lot of factors involved. Frequently you would run into “basic women” but he says it’s absolutely all of them. That’s just interesting. He’s the only common denominator
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:46 PM
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Maybe you should try meeting women elsewhere? I can confidently say I don’t know more than two girls in my circle of friends who listen to Drake. And all my friends have actual hobbies and not just “traveling”. Is it possible you have a type, and you tend to go for these types of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:52 PM
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Way to miss the point
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 11:17 AM
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Bestie, it’s now 2024; women are working and providing for their family. News flash, men are no longer sole providers in households (some are, of course, but by choice and opportunity). Some women want traditional relationships. Some don’t. People are different. Women are people. Ergo, women are different. But like you say yourself, not many women like the traditional relationship dynamic. So most women are working. Providing for their household. Contributing to the finances. So men simply don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 01:20 AM
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It’s not about the coat on the couch. It’s about “please don’t put your coat on the couch, and take it off at the door instead please”. It’s the fact that they, in this hypothetical scenario, communicated a small ask, and just get ignored. I just got reminded of this other Reddit story I saw some time ago. I’ll try to make it short. A woman had some severe ptsd which resulted in her reacting very badly to her closet door being open. She asked her boyfriend, who moved in with her, to please keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 01:16 AM
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Do you think you’re entitled to sex if you do the dishes? That relationships should be completely transactional? Sex is a bigger thing on many parameters than doing household chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:20 PM
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That’s absolutely right when you live alone. But when you have a partner there needs to be space for both of you. You’re equals, and you’re equally responsible for making a comfortable environment. The balance can be tricky, but it still stands. You can’t let dishes sit in the sink for a week because you just weren’t feeling like it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:16 PM
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I do. Do you understand that you don’t always enthusiastically want to clean up after yourself, and that, as an adult, you still have to?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:13 PM
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Non consensual cleaning would be being an adult and cleaning up your house.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:11 PM
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I think it’s about more than the cleaning really. It’s the mental load of being the only one who cares about their environment, household chores and whatnot. When she says “hang your coat instead of throwing it on the couch” or something, and he doesn’t, it triggers the “he doesn’t care enough to listen” mentality that she’s experienced in the relationship before. It’s a lot deeper than just being tidy. Sex needs to be consensual. Cleaning doesn’t. I don’t think those two things can be that clos…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 12:12 PM
1

F20: 6,7,4,8,3,5,9,1,2
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:50 PM
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Only if you pay extra
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 02:23 PM
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Don’t initiate a friendship when you have an agenda. You’re not her friend, you’re manipulating her into a relationship by pretending to be a friend. The friend zone isn’t a thing. Women can definitely date men they’ve been friends with. Just because she doesn’t date all her guy friends, doesn’t mean that they’re in the friend zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 07:22 AM
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No I wouldn’t mislead someone I didn’t like. As in taking advantage of them because I know they liked me, and it was reciprocated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:19 AM
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No If my partner would think that, then the relationship has obviously taken a turn for the worse. Also it would seem like they were projecting. Treat a man like a criminal, and he’ll act like a criminal. Not saying that I would cheat because of the accusations, but it would definitely do something to your relationship dynamic and behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:54 AM
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Sex work is definitely providing a service
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:30 AM
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So by showing everyone that having sex can be done, not too difficult, we can eradicate prostitution and only have free natural sex? Who gives a shit about who’s paying for sex with who. If you don’t like prostitution, don’t do prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:24 PM
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I mean, the animals get a clean shot to the head, it doesn’t hurt too bad. If at all. Sadly human lives are valued higher than animals, and the good outweighs the bad. All vegan people I know are vegans for themselves and not trying to force it upon anyone else. They don’t want to eat meat, they don’t. What others do is their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:14 PM
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Literally all of this. I couldn’t have said it better myself, and I wholeheartedly agree with it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:01 PM
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And besides. It’s basic supply and demand. Who’s paying for women to have sex with them? Men. Men are the ones keeping female prostitutes in business, while simultaneously shaming them for being in business. Make it make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:51 PM
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Yeah, and no one is discussing whether or not men should be allowed to. If people wanna fuck for money they should. Idk why women are being targeted specifically here
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:47 PM
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If you find eating meat unethical, don’t do it. If you find prostitution unethical, don’t do it. If it doesn’t hurt anyone who does do it, then just avoid it. Slavery, child labor and whatnot do hurt those involved - your inactivity won’t help fight its existence, so you should be proactive
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:45 PM
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Forcing people to work under bad conditions and shitty, if any, pay, or a woman voluntarily having sex in exchange for money. If you think prostitution and slavery is the same thing, then idk man. Maybe if you’re thinking about the pimp culture with young girls who are forced into prostitution. They’re not necessarily doing it voluntarily, and their pimps probably take most of their money. That’s more like human trafficking, which is a lot more relatable to slavery. But not all prostitution is h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:37 PM
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And yet it might not be the country I’m talking about. Trilingual brain fart
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:10 PM
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I don’t remember what country it was (Netherlands, holland, something), but a part of disability / early pension was getting sex, from a prostitute. Disabilities can make sex hard to “achieve” and prostitution opens up for disabled people to also have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:55 PM
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I get the idea there. But women offer a lot of non sexual services too, I don’t see why this one should be the most valuable. Women who choose to sell sex are selling their services. It’s not a slave trade where you can buy women because you want to
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:38 PM
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No Paying for a service furthers the economy. Here it’s illegal to be a pimp, but completely legal to offer sex from yourself for money. So no brothels or anything, but prostitution is legal. Which obviously significantly reduces human trafficking. If you don’t support prostitution, don’t buy it. No harm no foul. Let people have the option, who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:18 PM
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The fact that you think it’s about the dirty dishes So men that shower frequently and cry sometimes don’t produce as much testosterone as those with dirty fingernails that watch sports?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 08:02 AM
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Why wouldn’t they? The recent “uproar” about how women carry the mental labor in the household has told us that partners who lessen the mental load are more sexually appealing to their partner. A manly man who works a 9-5, never does laundry, cooks, cleans or anything does not get a lot, if any, sex. So why would a man who cooks, cleans, listens and care for their partner not have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 12:48 AM
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Yeah, that was what I was getting at with “different ways”. A man can be feminine in the way that he’s in touch with his emotions, but also masculine in a way he might have a strong built. So it’s all about balance. I don’t think a man / woman necessarily can be / tend to be inherently masculine or feminine. Especially because those traditional roles are getting outdated. Maybe toxic masculinity is the only type of person that would be inherently masculine. You definitely need both sides in a re…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 10:42 AM
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I would argue feminine men and feminine women would make a great couple. Dressing up nice together. Eating cute little tapas, having a fruity drink. Gossiping and getting all the details. Cleaning. Smelling good, showering. Maybe doing self care and pampering. Attentive sex with each other in focus. Matching each other’s energy is usually pretty good. I see how masculine and feminine compliment each other, but it depends on the different ways
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 09:05 AM
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It’s not a competition
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:58 PM
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I only date male feminists. It’s a totally dealbreaker for me. So I’m sticking to doing that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:58 PM
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Yes, I would. If they resented their job it probably wouldn’t be sustainable long term. Exactly. As long as your job has a positive impact on you, then it’s good
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:03 PM
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Harry styles
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:03 PM
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I wouldn’t date someone for their paycheck. If he just works to get paid, that’s fine too, but that’s not what I find the most attractive, which was what you asked. There’s nothing worse than a partner who hates their job and comes home with a horrible and stressed mood every day
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:59 PM
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No, because I’m personally not into hooking up
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 08:05 PM
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A profession he’s passionate about. Something that puts him in a good mood and makes his eyes light up. Something that gives him a a greater purpose, in his own eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:30 PM
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I’m an autistic woman. And most autistic men are just weird. Almost predatory like you say. I don’t know why exactly that is though. But here are some things that might be relevant: personal space. Women can easily feel threatened if you’re towering above them in their personal space don’t stare. I know eye contact is hard. But the staring is giving psychopathic vibes your volume. Classic autistic trait not being able to regulate how loud you’re speaking. I work with an autistic man, and he’s so…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:05 AM
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Hype her up. Always. Overreact. Make her feel like the most beautiful girl in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 01:17 AM
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You’re prompting people to be in one sided relationships like your friend. No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 05:59 AM
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My theory is that; Women have a better safety net. They’re emotionally close with their friends. They’re self sufficient - many men don’t know how to do basic things like laundry, cleaning, dishes etc (because they were raised to depend on a partner. It’s the way they were raised, I’m not hating on men). Women are generally better at creating nice environments, like all those memes we’ve seen with how men would live (yes, you can survive with a mattress on the floor, but subconsciously it makes …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:58 PM
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I absolutely get that. Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:48 AM
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I would also want to be able to trust my partner- which is why I would be offended about the paternity test. Exactly because those are my values. In the original scenario, they would find out if he ever has or ever will hurt a woman. A paternity test only verifies one time. So the original test seems a lot more beneficial if that makes sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 11:34 PM
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I would probably be a little butthurt or offended if my partner asked for a paternity test, but I would absolutely do it. Unless I had something to hide
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 09:55 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 09:37 PM
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I mean, I wouldn’t care for the test, unless he actively didn’t want to do it, because he would seem like he was hiding something. He should be more than willing to take the test in my eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 09:30 PM
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Hahah unicorns are real apparently I think people agree here more than we think. I imagine a lot of misunderstandings and miscommunications occur
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:13 PM
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People who make their bed and complain about it are the absolute worst. It’s painful to hear all the time. Two equal partners should always put in the same effort yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:55 PM
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I feel like it’s fair to have any kind of standards and boxes to check. If you’re unable to find a relationship then that’s on you, and then you can either lower the standards (if they’re unreasonable) or accept the single life. It might be a black and white way of thinking, but either those “picky” people find someone they see as an equal or they stay single. No harm no foul. I do acknowledge the double standard in men “having” to work out and improve themselves, whereas women don’t have to. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:47 PM
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Thank goodness I don’t live with you if those aren’t daily tasks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 03:02 PM
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I did
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:58 PM
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Depending on the household it can definitely be daily. There exists other households than yours, and when asking strangers online you’ll find that not everyone lives your life. I answered daily tasks, and additional tasks to be helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:50 PM
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For some it is. Tidying up was never specified to be after themselves. My plants aren’t watered every day, but some plants are watered every day. Can you not read? Making a meal plan, a budget and whatnot is definitely a task. Everything with a mental load counts as a task.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:35 PM
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Well probably look after the pets if they have any, take the dog for walks and such. Dishes, laundry, vacuuming, tidying up and general cleaning. I could imagine making grocery lists, shopping (groceries), mopping the floors, dusting, and such are common tasks too, but not necessarily every single day. Watering plants and taking care of plants, if you have any. I know I have over 60 plants, so that would take a minute - and they’re not on the same schedule, so watering every day isn’t far fetche…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:04 PM
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That’s exactly why I said things like “some women” and “most women” and not “all women”. I think it’s common sense that one random comment on Reddit isn’t representative of an entire gender. And I never said anything about needing male validation whatsoever. Feeling flattered after being approached by a man does not equal a desperate need for male validation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:16 AM
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What other comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:12 AM
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I guess yeah I mean, confident people obviously give off the vibe that they’re worth something and have desirable traits- like being smart, funny, whatever. Confident people are usually just positive people to be around, compared to someone who is just filled with self hatred - whom tend to project all their insecurities and show serious jealousy. If that makes sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:25 AM
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Confidence is a desirable attribute in a person. It definitely makes you pay more attention to the person who is seemingly confident- which can lead to discovering other attributes you will find sexually and or romantically attractive. I don’t think confidence is like the final factor. I feel like it’s the first factor, confidence just gives a great first impression - which makes the interaction much better and easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:16 AM
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Confidence is just attractive, it can be sexually, but also not? When someone is sure of themselves and has trust in themselves, they just give off good vibes. I don’t know if you’ve heard the “medium ugly, big nose, funny guy” trope, but those are exactly the men who exude confidence and that’s why they are as attractive as they are (that, and they make you laugh). Hope that cleared it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:02 AM
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Right, and I’m saying I understood the checking boxes differently
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 12:05 AM
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We do not. It’s completely okay to approach women, if the time and place is right and you’re not a creep, and most women (if not all) will absolutely admire your confidence in approaching them. They might get a little ego boost from being approached, especially if they’re approached by someone they find attractive, but that doesn’t mean they’re looking down on you at all. Some women will look down on you, but women as a whole, won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:45 PM
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From my understanding the whole “women need these boxes checked” is the whole “I don’t need a man, but I want a man” that you’re referencing. They simply want a man who brings value into her life, and therefore makes her want a relationship, rather than being dependent on it (like before women could have bank accounts and whatnot)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 10:50 PM
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Of course my friends tell me the bad stuff too lmao. The women described in the post sound absolutely alien. I’ve never once heard, seen or experienced that kind of behavior. I’ve seen single instances of it, but that doesn’t represent dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 07:08 AM
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I’m well aware. I still know how they are in relationships because I know them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 07:03 AM
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When I say “know” I mean actually knowing the person lol. I’m sure they exist, but the way they’re described on here, just not in my neighborhood
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:41 PM
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I’ve been wondering this too. I don’t know any of those women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:56 PM
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I love this! Who would’ve thought a respectable approach would have a positive reaction? I’m sure they all thought of you in a positive light, and you probably made their day too. Really glad that you can improve while complimenting others
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:19 AM
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Literally exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 06:26 AM
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The issue isn’t that women are “too” selective. Men are just comparing women’s standards to their own, which don’t align. Guys, as a generalization, have low(er) standards, and think that less than bare minimum is more than enough
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:09 PM
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Attraction is subjective. No one is saying a Tommy Hilfiger model looking man is the the minimum needed for attraction? Women are just the right amount of selective and that’s okay, is my perception of it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 05:56 PM
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Physical attraction always matters. Some women don’t mind shorter guys. There’s no denying there’s a trend of women being more attracted to taller men. Being attracted to your partner is definitely a bare minimum in a relationship. If women aren’t attracted to him because of his height then that’s fair too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 05:31 PM
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Reminds me of the TikTok a young woman posted about what she wants in a partner. Her standards and the bare minimum for her. You get the gist. She was ripped to shreds by butthurt men that called her mid and that her standards were unattainable and arrogant. The standards were so bare minimum you wouldn’t believe it. Shit like showering regularly and being nice to her. And the men were absolutely furious.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 12:37 PM
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Supply and demand. Women have the upper hand because men supply more than there’s demand for
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:59 PM
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If he’s asexual then it wouldn’t be weird to never have had experience. All the power to him. Not everyone’s into asexual relationships. But if we’re talking about heterosexual “ordinary” guys, then I would say 25 ish - the experience doesn’t have to be serious. But at least a talking stage and a kiss or something. If we’re talking those weird incel Reddit mod types (you know the ones) then it would be weird if they had ever had any experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:58 AM
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Only if I had built a deep deep deep connection with him before finding out. It’s a huge turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:41 PM
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I think there’s plenty of good men out there. Just like there’s plenty of bad ones. But I wouldn’t say the majority was bad. The bad ones are just the loudest
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:16 PM
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Some women like older men. Just because you were 20 looking like a 40 year old doesn’t prove anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:06 PM
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I’ve only ever heard women encouraging men to speak up within their friends groups, so I can’t really say much there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:25 PM
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Exactly. And I’m encouraging the positive force
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:10 PM
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Staying quiet because it’s easier is the problem too. Staying quiet because of your own wellbeing is valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:09 PM
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I’m only speaking from my own experiences. When I’ve tried to speak up to men I’ve definitely been dismissed because I “don’t know anything”. I’m not saying women shouldn’t speak up. They should. When they do they are more likely to be dismissed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:04 PM
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I’ve seen plenty of cases where people befriend people just so they aren’t alone. So it definitely happens. But mostly you stick to people you share values with for sure. Then there’s nothing to call out. No problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:01 PM
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Laughing at rape jokes can definitely be enabling. Hurt feelings count, there’s not needed blood for someone being hurt. Being a considerate decent human being isn’t rocket science
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:58 PM
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Are they funny without hurting anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:53 PM
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That’s just society. Often women aren’t taken seriously. Physical threats are often times unrealistic and therefore not actually a realistic threat. Misogynists tend to believe women are stupid and generally don’t have anything constructive to say. There’s a difference between a woman saying rape jokes aren’t funny, and men saying rape jokes aren’t funny. A joke is rarely funny when you’re the punchline, and therefore you aren’t really an objective judge on whether it should be considered funny …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:38 PM
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Which leads back to my “putting yourself in front of an abusive man’s fist”. If you would get fired for doing so, and it doesn’t concern you, you shouldn’t meddle. Maybe go to hr with your concern or whatever. But no need to compromise your life to do the right thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:31 PM
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Absolutely. But the post was about men being responsible for men’s behavior. All genders, races, sexual orientations and whatnot should be able to call everyone out on their bullshit. But sadly that can be dangerous for some to do. And then we’re back at the “putting yourself in front of an abusive man’s fist”. If you’re able to call anyone out, you should. If you worry for your own safety, then you shouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:16 PM
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Many people disagree with what their acquaintances say, but agree to stay on their good side. Encouraging people to speak up when they experience some kinda of bigotry is important. If none of your friends say shit like that, great, then you won’t have to speak up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:14 PM
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I absolutely do. I’ve lost friends because they couldn’t handle being called out either. That’s just life. I’m in no way saying it’s only men - the post was just about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:12 PM
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There’s a big difference between saying “I could rape her” and “I hate men”. Women’s comments and jokes rarely hold any weight whatsoever. Obviously women should call each other out on their bullshit, no doubt about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:11 PM
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There’s a difference between putting yourself in front of an abusive man’s fist, and “hey that’s not cool man” when your friends and colleagues say misogynistic, sexist, racist, homophobic and shit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:43 PM
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No, it’s not. That’s not what I’m saying. Women are now happy alone, and if men don’t bring value into her life, she won’t be likely to date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 07:03 AM
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If she’s not into you after a minor thing; then it’s more than just that minor thing. Women overlook red flags so often lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:43 PM
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Absolutely respect the statistics. And I’m not necessarily saying that men are inherently complicated per se. If that was your understanding, then that’s my bad, that’s not what I meant. I don’t really see the need to paint one gender as dramatic and one like down to earth. It’s not solely a gender thing (it’s a lot that, but not entirely). It’s not that black and white, which actually just proves the simplicity of men. But that simplicity does in fact cause issues too sometimes, because the gre…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:01 PM
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Aka a good personality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 05:17 PM
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I acknowledge that, and I know how it sounds when I say I wasn’t accountable lol. Unless calling male friends out on their behavior is my fault lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:51 PM
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In my personal experience my drama has been 90% because of or directly involving men. But that’s obviously not representative enough to conclude I’m right. It’s just my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:47 PM
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It’s easier to be an ugly guy than an ugly girl. Not struggle wise. But like, it takes more for a woman to be actually unattractive. It’s harder for men to be considered attractive. I hope that made sense
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:44 PM
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I must say a majority of the drama I’ve witness and been apart of has been because of men. Men are getting less and less simple as we evolve
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:38 PM
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Charm and a good personality will get you further than any job would
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:28 AM
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I find medium ugly guys so much more attractive than supermodel men. Not because of their options to cheat, but rather that they’re more likely to have developed good personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:11 AM
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My best advice to you is a good haircut and maybe attempting to better your personality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:08 AM
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You’re saying that like men don’t do the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:06 AM
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Right. Right. I’m with you. In your theory, I’m just curious about what you think about factors like sperm donors, adoption and such. And what would the results be? Women begin to approach men? They’re more likely to take initiative? What would your theory accomplish? It makes me think of the woman strike in Iceland in 1975. Everything fell completely apart when women were no longer doing anything. And therefore they achieved their goal of equal pay and ending gender based violence. So with that…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:30 PM
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Equality is not being equally violent to both genders. Equality is respecting both genders equally. Her not liking the chair pulled out from under her is not solely based on her gender? Some people just don’t find that shit very funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:58 PM
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They honestly should. With the rise of child free women I’m sure it’ll get great results too. Out of genuine curiosity, what did you think would happen if men withheld children? What’s your theory here?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:53 PM
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This this this. Sure, women want attraction to their partner, them being able to fund their own living ans whatnot. But these posts whining about how all women just hate men and are superficial and whatnot is exactly what repels women. This negative outlook is what’s challenging men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:19 PM
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Charm, smiles and humor can do a whole lot. I’ve known numerous medium ugly, as the internet calls them, who have gotten with multiple stunning amazing women, because they were charming, funny or just joyful to be around. Some people just exude their personality and vibes. I’ve definitely swiped less attractive, by societal standards, men because their personality was apparent in either their pictures or bios. I’ve dated guys like that before too. I have never dated a man based solely on his att…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:26 PM
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Women are at peace with being single because they get the emotional support they need from friends and family. Of course you have to bring positive change to her life for her to give up her peace? What self respecting woman would give up her peace just to have a manchild in the house that doubles the dishes, food budget, mess, laundry and whatnot. It has nothing to do with your attractiveness or income alone. Sure women are more turned on if they’re attracted to their partner physically, but sur…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:15 PM
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This comment right here. Couldn’t have said it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 12:10 PM
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My relationship is my relationship, I’m not sending screenshots of every damn text lol. However, my friends definitely matter. They’ve been right before lol. And they’re seeing it from the outside, and not through pink tinted glasses. So I do believe that their input is worth something. But I’m not gonna break up with my partner because my friends think he’s ugly or whatever lol. I’ll listen to serious concerns, not every single thought they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 07:48 AM
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Because partner will be 100% correct in 100% of the scenarios rather than wife/husband, gf/bf, fiancée/fiancé. Some people don’t fit the binary titles either, so “partner” does literally no harm to anyone ever. Such a non issue to complain about lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:44 AM
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We long as you’re oiled up it would probably feel like a ball pit massage
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:07 PM
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Lol I should definitely research Bundy more
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:45 PM
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This this this. This seems like a textbook perfect example. Especially the “you seem interesting” rather than the superficial “you look good” (which is also nice to hear sometimes but yknow).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:30 PM
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I thought his thing was being pretty and inviting them home
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:27 PM
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Did he ask women to lift heavy objects for him?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:17 PM
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Yep. Absolutely. It should be, but it isn’t. And saying you have a boyfriend is the safest way, and you gotta protect yourself. I would definitely use it if I was feeling unsafe too. I just feel like we’re enabling them by doing it. Like weaponized incompetence. If that makes sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:08 PM
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You absolute buffoon, what woman can help you lift heavy objects? Tell her you have a stain you can’t get out you noob. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:06 PM
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A conversation would definitely be good! It’s just so easy to miss social clues and boundaries while nervously approaching someone. If I had a 20 minute bus ride and someone chose to talk with me when I had no way of escaping would suck big time. Or if they saw where I lived / worked. If you’re able to hold a conversation without being a creep then that’s amazing and should definitely be the go to. Absolutely agree
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:05 PM
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“The “97 Percent” trend refers to the 97% of women in the United States who have been sexually assaulted. “ https://www.spectatornews.com/opinion/2021/03/protect-women-now-100-of-them/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:51 PM
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And this is exactly why victims are scared to step forward
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:41 PM
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Convicted being the keyword.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:38 PM
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Are you actually serious? Ever heard of the 97%? #Metoo? Literally so many women experience violence and sexual harassment/assault
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:30 PM
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Good luck with all that success! You’ll be swimming in fat asses. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:26 PM
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We don’t, we’re just scared.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:25 PM
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Only if you put “fat” in front of it. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:11 PM
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It is. But “I’m not interested” should be just a quick. No explanation needed, no advice, no more talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:20 AM
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Having to lie about your relationship status because men only respect other men’s wishes is crazy. It shouldn’t take a man to get a man to accept his rejection from a woman. But it’s sadly the only thing that works
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:17 AM
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Men; here’s how to do it: You see an attractive woman, you walk over to her, keep your distance and don’t block her way, tell her, “hey, your x really caught my eye, and I just wanted to tell you you look great. I would love to take you out sometime, and get to know you, if you want. Here’s my number, if you’re up for it”, don’t linger. Don’t make her feel pressured or cornered. Creeps linger, corner and are oblivious to women’s disinterest. Like OP says, women don’t go places to be approached, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:15 AM
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It’s what YOUR comment said. Those are the things I answered dude. I genuinely can’t decide wether you’re playing dumb or what 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:32 AM
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“Women don’t even prefer men who shave their armpits” “What is the goal of this post” You did though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:55 AM
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You said women don’t like men who don’t shave their armpits. I said that that was untrue. Then you asked what the point was. And I answered that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:48 AM
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I feel like you misunderstood what I said? My pit preferences has nothing to do with the point of the post. The post was to highlight the little effort some men put into themselves. Which can be in a multitude of different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:38 AM
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I’ll shave if I feel like it, not because society tells me to. It’s fucking freezing being hairless
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:28 AM
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I definitely prefer men who would shave their armpits. The point of the post is, and I’m just guessing, to see how little effort men out into their own care, and see if their own care would be adequate in a partner. Would men be okay with a woman who trims her armpit hair, brushes their teeth once a week, doesn’t wash their ass - whatever it might be.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:26 AM
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They just have to be the more enticing option and make the move
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 08:08 PM
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So women should all just believe they aren’t particularly attractive?… I like confident women. So that’s gonna be a no from me. Women tend to be more attractive than men on average, imo. Just say you pry on insecure girls with no self esteem. Is it a control thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:49 PM
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Is there a database where women can see their attractive score and all the possible matches she may have as so to not cause problems with dating and relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:44 PM
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Thank you. My comment is completely pointless in that case. Thanks tho
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:49 PM
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In my personal observations I recon it’s harder for women to be unattractive, somehow. There’s a lot more unattractive men than women, from what I’ve seen irl and on dating apps. Maybe it’s a geographical thing, but I don’t think so. Also; what does cmv mean lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:31 PM
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I couldn’t care less. I hope everyone eventually ends up happy, if that’s alone or in a couple, whatever it might be. My womanly advice, which according to OP is sabotaging; if you feel like everyone’s the problem when it comes to dating, look inwards. Learn to love yourself. Respect yourself. Try giving feminism a fair shot, women love that. Get a hobby. Read a book. Get a skincare routine. StArt a new Minecraft world. Bake a cake. The world is not out to get you. You’re your own master. Take c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 09:32 PM
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I can’t give you any statistics, but I do compliment men too. I had a guy with a button up with a candy (that’s popular here) printed on, and he had a pretty cool moustache too. I complimented him on that. I only give out genuine compliments, I’m not just kissing ass lol. Women, in my store at least, seem to make more out of their appearance. Hair, makeup, a style that really shows their personality - anything. The men just wear grey sweats and that’s about it. Not that there’s anything wrong wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:11 AM
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Yes and no. Some definitely just want to get laid. But many of them talk about marriage and such too. Not having kids, a legacy, dying alone. All that crap. That’s a bit deeper than getting laid lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 10:26 PM
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Many female friendships are built on praise, admiration and attention to detail. Sure, some do it just to be polite, but even then they know it would make the other woman happy. I work in a supermarket, and I try to give at least one compliment a day (I’m terrible at it, so I’m practicing). I vividly remember one customer who looked miserable. Like three weeks into a depression, just rolled out of bed, would spit on anyone who dared to acknowledge her existence. But I told her I loved her socks …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 10:23 PM
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All I’ve learned is that men hate women and simultaneously are batshit terrified of not dating
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:17 PM
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I considered studying to be a mechanic or carpenter. I tried a mechanic elective, as the only girl in a class of 30. I liked the whole mechanic thing, but I would never survive with such a male dominated space. The sexism in that elective class alone had me exhausted. Pun unintended. I would be willing if I was welcome, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:38 PM
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Personally I find a high body count to be a huge turnoff. But otherwise past relationship baggage shouldn’t be that much of an issue. I don’t mind having to heal with my partner. However. If that past baggage consistently and widely affects the relationship, then that’s a no from me. I don’t want the entire relationship to be me comforting and reassuring them for what their ex did or said. Of course comfort and reassurance is expected in a relationship, but not all day every day. Depends on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 08:05 AM
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Women have no business telling men to cover up. Police may, but women may not. (Obviously female police can, for anyone confused) Men have no business telling women to cover up. If her clothes are “legal” then let her be. She looks amazing and that’s that. Clothes isn’t an invitation to sex (unless it’s lingerie in a private setting I guess). She can wear whatever she’s comfortable in and confident in. Partners policing their partners clothes are a huge red flag. Communicate if you feel like you…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:50 AM
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Just gonna throw this out there; Many men with long hair look greasy, unkempt, messy and just plain dirty. Men who take care of their long hair (and not necessarily a beard) are much more attractive. Do with that what you will
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:53 PM
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Start browsing the middle schools or stay celibate. Some might come to their senses and lower their standards
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:06 PM
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I don’t date men that aren’t obsessed (not literally) with me. If I don’t feel like I’m the prettiest, smartest, funniest etc etc woman he’s ever met, then that’s a no from me. I don’t get insecure in relationships because I know he’s all about me. No need to worry. Just because people find Caucasian features more attractive, doesn’t mean you can’t be attractive too. It’s not a competition. Date someone who loves you for you, and you don’t feel insecure with. Try communicating these insecurities…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:09 PM
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Looks are subjective indeed. Sometimes attraction starts with appearance, yes, but not always. The more attracted you are to someone’s personality, the more attractive you’ll find their appearance too. I don’t disagree with some relationships are completely shallow. Some women definitely go for looks. But many don’t too. It’s just a sad outlook on life that you’re nothing because you don’t perceive yourself as attractive. That’s all I’m saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 10:40 AM
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Women don’t rate a man’s attractiveness on what they think his penis size is lmao I’m not saying it’s crazy. I’m simply saying that women don’t care as much about looks as you’re led to believe. Of course women want a partner they’re attracted to, but that can also mean psychologically, emotionally, mentally etc. It doesn’t have to be solely based on looks. I’ve seen a butt ton of rather unattractive men with cute or even gorgeous women. We’re talking 2-3/10 men with 6-8/10 women. A good persona…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:40 AM
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I have to disagree. Unless you literally look like a deformed monster from a horror novel, then your looks won’t make someone uncomfortable guaranteed. If you’re polite, mindful, sweet and kind in your approach you will not make anyone uncomfortable. I know it’s a hard pill to swallow, but that’s just how it is. I’ve been approached by objectively and subjectively unattractive men, but they were really nice, and I absolutely respected their confidence and kindness. And I don’t know if I agree on…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:32 AM
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I never mentioned mental health issues. Those are serious, and not really a laughing matter. Those were not the issues I was referencing. Appreciate the self awareness and consideration here, though I have no way of knowing if you would make women uncomfortable or not. It’s not really about the appearance of the approachee, but rather their stance, words, body language, general vibe, appearance (meaning clothes, hair, hygiene or whatever is in your control). Attraction is subjective, and someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 08:24 AM
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Entertainment. Some of the issues seem so trivial. A lot of the time it’s men having some weird narrative of the female mind that just doesn’t make any sense. It’s laughable really. And the fact that they won’t take advice from actual women is both hilarious and depressing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:19 PM
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Women don’t complain about dating, they complain about men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:39 PM
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You can wear makeup too if you’d like. No one’s stopping you. No one’s gonna check your shoes for inserts. If you want a bbl or breast implants then that’s cool too man, your body your choice. As a woman, I will not judge you for any of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:55 PM
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Women don’t do it to compete with other women Women don’t do it to impress men Most cosmetic surgeries are barely noticeable, especially if you’re unaware of them Makeup can accentuate existing features, and highlight her natural beauty Makeup is an art to some. Playing with shadows, undertones, colors, highlights- all of that, it’s an art. And it’s absolutely valid to flaunt that talent, in my opinion Women do it for themselves, to feel good about themselves, and not necessarily for anyone else…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:40 PM
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Yeah, for sure. I always look at the face first. Bodies change, you can’t judge solely on that. Of course faces change as you age, but that’s a longer process lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:12 AM
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Haha I think we’re talking past each other a little bit. I don’t disagree that women care more about bodies, I’m just saying they like a wider range of bodies compared to men. I totally respect the study, of course, it’s really interesting. I suspect that the overweight men bring undesirable in comparison is because of subconscious stereotype about hygiene. Bigger people sweat more, they use more energy on simply existing and moving, and men in general don’t have the best reputation for good hyg…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:11 AM
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Really interesting study, it makes sense that fit people favor people who share a lifestyle. My original point was more so that men wanted an hourglass figure, a good butt, big boobs, small waist, not too tall, fit but still thick, long hair, petite and so on and so forth. Women don’t seem to care as much. Dadbods, fit, skinny and chubby is all viable preferences depending on the woman. This is only my own observations, of course. To me it just seems like men have a more unilateral picture of an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:35 PM
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You said you deserve everything for being you and not doing anything. Then you switch around and say people deserve money to live… your original comment was more so referencing you in particular, and not people as a society. But perhaps that’s just a miscommunication then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:07 PM
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Some* women want a fit man, but otherwise spot on. Women care less about weight and body type, and have a tendency to like all types of weights / body types (like, all women have different preferences for male bodies, whereas males have a more desirable body type in mind where they agree that that’s the best one)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:05 PM
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Your original comment and what you claimed your point was just doesn’t seem to add up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:59 PM
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Lmao yeah everyone deserve to be able to afford to live. Saying “I deserve everything for being me and doing nothing else” doesn’t seem to convey that though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:33 PM
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Ehm… what? Are you saying all women deserve money for existing? Or?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:21 PM
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What’s the saying? You attract the energy you put out? I can definitely recommend finding a feminist, the money split will definitely be more likely to be 50/50. But then you have to be a feminist, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 02:28 PM
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You don’t date the right women do you :\
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 02:24 PM
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Exactly. 50 years ago women barely could have a bank account. It’s outdated traditional conservative thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:58 AM
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Not really. Maybe 50 years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:32 AM
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The only fair argument for picking the 20 year old lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:32 AM
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30+ woman all day every day? I’m not trying to be a piggy bank. A partner is equal, not 100/0 split just because they’re a bit more pretty and young
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:31 AM
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I’m gonna sound like a huge asshole here but it’s the truth. I had a boyfriend and I would never post him, because every time I took a “good” photo of him I would realize how unattractive he was and how I slowly felt myself get less into him. So I just didn’t. Then I couldn’t get more unattracted. Everything else with us was good. Short answer: I was embarrassed and tried to avoid it to it to keep the relationship going
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:24 AM
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No. Not at all. Other people are having kids for both of us man. Some families have 15 kids, I don’t think extinction is gonna come that much faster because I don’t birth. But biologically. Yeah, we’re meant to reproduce, but aren’t we, as a race, also supposed to make sure the best traits are passed on? So the human race can evolve to be something better in the future? My genetics wouldn’t better the human gene pool, so I’ll just keep it to myself and do my duty by bettering the human race by s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:11 AM
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To start a conversation and thereby make sure that young women (men sadly don’t have that much focus here) are aware of grooming, love bombing and superficial relationships. Not everyone can see that they’re being used by an older man, and some don’t even know it’s an option. It hurts literally no one to talk about it and make sure young women are safe. (I’m not saying that all older men only want to take advantage of young women, I’m sure some are genuine)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:28 PM
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Dude, simps are not inflating women’s stock prizes. Women have become more confident, not necessarily from simps, and have standards now. Women want better men, then be better. Simple as that. Men telling women that they’re the prettiest girl on earth doesn’t do shit for your chances. Maybe you should just invest in some lower stock women if you can’t afford high stock women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:33 PM
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I was being sarcastic thank you very much. (That was sarcasm too, I’m not really thankful). A woman can still be confident and not egotistical even if she has had a simp gas her up. Now, I’m just painting a scenario here, a guy gets rejected by a woman because he doesn’t meet her standards. She might be a 5 on a good day, but she’s really funny, smart, supportive and whatnot. He thinks she has a huge ego because she said no to a 7 when she was clearly only an 8. I think that that’s a pretty comm…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:08 PM
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Thank you so so so much for explaining that very difficult difference for me 🥺🥺 so considerate Who’s the judge of when it’s ego and when it’s confidence? It’s a thin line, that obviously depends on if you have to have something to have it in, or if you’re all talk. Do you judge wether she’s confident or egotistical? Does she decide? Is there a objective third person judge? I’m not saying that women can’t be egotistical, they can, but sometimes confidence gets misinterpreted as egotism when you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 10:03 PM
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God forbid women having confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:41 PM
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It just baffles me that men are so petrified with being alone that they devote their entire lives to compete with other men, in order to get with women. The fact that they’re bettering themselves to compete, and putting on that facade of being better than others, rather than becoming better for yourself and have that be genuine. Men you do you I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 06:33 PM
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You really don’t need to be condescending. I understand that men aren’t being approached unprovoked like women are, my criticism is rather that men’s entire life goal is dating. Bettering yourself, not to be better, but to be better than other men, in the hopes of getting a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 06:20 PM
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No, not all those things matter. To some they do, but not nearly everyone. Jesus, all your character development is to benefit your dating life?…. I better myself to be better for myself. It sounds pretty exhausting to constantly compete with all men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:58 PM
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I see where you’re coming from of course, but when dating it’s not about having bigger muscles than Zack, better hair than Fred or a higher pay than Mick. It’s about finding a partner which compliments you, and that you compliment. Someone you’re compatible and happy with. You’re not competing with every single guy, at all. If your dating life is competing with other men, rather than bettering yourself, then idk what to tell you man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:34 PM
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As long as it doesn’t hurt anyone I absolutely support simps
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:22 PM
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I love me a simp, as long as he only simps for me, of course. If you can’t compete with guys who are too nice or too caring, then focus on yourself instead. Dating isn’t about being better than others, but rather being the best you. Wait it out or become a simp dude 🤷‍♀️ maybe dating way below your “league” will be a wonderful third option.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:15 PM
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I know you didn’t, I did, I was making a lighthearted joke lol. Great incentive to try and get people to meet though. Sounds really interesting, with how the state has orchestrated it and how matches are made. Thanks for informing, I’ll definitely be looking more into it!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:36 PM
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Wow. So prostitution is okay when the state arranges it? Wild. Paying two people to procreate. I can’t imagine that the human race is nearly extinct, so such dramatic measures seem to only be about consumerism and capitalism. Can’t demand taxes from people that don’t exist I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:16 PM
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Insane how more than one child was illegal beforehand, and now they’re (probably) on the verge of paying them to procreate. Really puts into perspective how times have changed
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:00 PM
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Sounds like a fetishization of codependency / bpd, which is always bad. Fetishizing mental health and such is never good. But feeling wanted in a relationship is absolutely valid. It’s nice to feel longed for and wanted and loved. It’s a thin line to walk. Seeking out girls with bpd for example is weird, wrong and bad. Wanting to feel validated, needed and wanted is valid. Mental health shouldn’t be glamorized as fetishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 07:10 AM
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Those relations seem a lot more advanced than pursuing a stranger in public. Strong women aren’t sexual harassment, sounds like the boy who screamed wolf. My claim was directed at pursuing strangers in public and work relations. I didn’t communicate that directly enough, that’s my bad
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 07:41 AM
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It’s literally not difficult to not sexually haras people. Yes, everyone has different boundaries. Whoever has the lowest tolerance is the default. That way no one gets offended. Don’t touch strangers, don’t corner them, don’t linger, don’t say anything crude or offensive, don’t put them on the spot. You’re acting like it’s difficult to avoid sexually harassing people
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 09:40 PM
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Crazy thought, but some moms feel a connection to the growing lump of cells in her body? Some women perceive it as their child, they’re not gonna kill their child lol. A man is not needed to have a happy childhood. Single moms have been doing amazing jobs. Sure the kid might feel like they’re missing something, but I’ve heard a butt ton of kids say their mother filled out both roles amazingly. And who’s to say the mother won’t find someone after giving birth or while pregnant?….. I firmly believ…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 05:31 PM
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Lol my personal preference is 161-185 cm, my dating profile mentions it too. It’s just a huge turn off. I don’t really think we have any power over or turn offs per se. If women prefer a certain height she can do that. It’s not like women don’t have enough options to filter through. If they have no success they might widen their horizon and date someone outside of their direct preference. If a woman is alone and single it’s a choice. She could always choose to lower her standards and try someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:00 AM
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Some women want to just fuck, some want a relationship, and some want anything in between that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:55 PM
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It’s really not hard to not sexually harass people lol. Just be a decent human being and everything’s good
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:27 AM
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Oh lmao ty
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:26 AM
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AF / BB?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:02 AM
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Yes, but they don’t instantly know who they want to date
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:01 AM
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Or maybe they’re sugarcoating that you smell, dress weird, talk weird, didn’t let her talk or just generally gave off a creepy vibe. The opportunities are endless. And it’s impossible to know which one it is lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:59 AM
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Until it’s harassment
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:58 AM
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There’s a radio show called “second date update.” Person A calls the radio and says they had a good time, but never heard back from person B, and would like to know what went wrong and if they could possibly get a second date. Person B then gets called up, gets informed of the situation, and the hosts ask what went wrong (while person A is on the other line). And they usually have great reasoning for not wanting a second date. Sometimes person A is very shocked, sometimes offended and sometimes …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:57 AM
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And bank account too right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:17 AM
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We don’t want options. We want to be left alone. To feel safe. Not be on guard all the damn time. It’s completely fair that you’re touch starved enough to see sexual harassment and people you’re not even sexually attracted to as viable options. We do not. We do not want options. We are suffering because of sexual harassment, objectification, disrespect and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:12 AM
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Men can’t fathom disinterest. It’s just not a reason. Literally not possible. You have genitals, I have genitals, I’m hot, you’re hot, what more is there to say? Men, in general, has a tendency to think with their penis, to put it lightly. If a woman is being friendly or just pleasant to them, they think that that’s interest - and that makes them interested. They want to be wanted. But yeah, they’re so touch starved and or horny that they would probably get with anything with a heartbeat, a vagi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:08 AM
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I think it has a lot to do with maturity and their self esteem. Men are more or less fully developed in their 30’s compared to 20’s. Maybe the men’s standards got lower since they wanted a relationship, but no woman was interested in him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 09:38 AM
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No it’s not. Chemistry is more of a feeling of compatibility. It’s when you “vibe”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 08:10 AM
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Women are attracted to chemistry. There are a lot of attractive men out there, but that doesn’t mean we would be with all those men?…. Chemistry, compatibility, attraction, adoration are more important factors. It’s not just attraction. Maybe one night stands are based on attractiveness alone, but never in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:44 AM
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You can want casual sex and building a meaningful relationship before being intimate. Obviously they care more about who they wait for. Really weird to hook up while with someone you want to get serious with though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:48 PM
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If it’s b it’s not a hoe phase, it’s more of a lifestyle at that point. Unless they get help the pattern will continue. It’s not a phase mom
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:40 AM
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No they are not. My point was that me don’t treat women like that because they’re women, they treat everyone equally as shitty because that’s who they are
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:21 AM
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This was reassuring. Sad you have to go through it too, but it’s nice to know that it’s less of a woman only experience and more of a men experience. At least that makes it seem like society is just a little less misogynistic in a way?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:03 PM
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If I’m brave enough to put myself out there I’m brave enough to hear the answers. Yeah it’ll suck, but there’s nothing wrong with not being someone’s type.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 09:41 AM
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Be caring, considerate and respectful of others and their feelings. Be ambitious, dream big, do your best. Have good manners. Be extra mindful and respectful of women; no means no, consent is important, don’t pressure them, don’t treat them like objects, and be mindful that they can be intimidated by men. Hold the doors for others. Always carry a tampon, just in case. Acknowledge your privilege. Ask your friends, especially men, how they’re doing. A man is someone every sane mother in law would …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:18 PM
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My best guess is that blue collar workers have a specific lifestyle that the “other women” can’t recommend a young woman. There will always be people who support it and people who are against it, I don’t think you can generalize women in a scenario like this. If she’s doing it for the money, you go girl. He’s probably doing it for her young attributes too. If she’s in love with him, then that’s unrelateable and weird to some. It depends on where you stand on age gaps I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:53 AM
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Ahh, maybe, you never know. I would imagine he tried to get women’s attention, so the red pill would definitely be bad for attracting women. But what do I know
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:55 PM
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Women are turned on by ambitious and successful men. They’ve probably dated their fair share of aspiring homeless men who never bought a bed frame. Nothing wrong with desiring a partner who can have a future that aligns with yours. Women are not (always) dating them for the success, but rather the qualities that got them there. That, and because their (hers and his) future plans align.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:27 PM
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It’s in his bio, I imagine that that’s what it’s about
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:11 PM
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This. I could never date someone who doesn’t have the same core values as me. It would be an absolute dealbreaker if he was racist, sexist etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:10 PM
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No face or body could make up for that no. Especially not that man, he’s really not my type. Conventionally pretty maybe, but not for me. Women, as a generalization, are not that shallow. A conventionally attractive face or conventionally desired body will never outweigh the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:08 PM
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Like I said at the end :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:46 PM
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The standard should be splitting the bill evenly. No one should be expected to carry both loads. It would be nice if someone did, but it shouldn’t be expected. This is just a theory, but the die hard feminists are the women who always had to take care of themselves, their siblings, their family, their friends ect. Having a partner finally loosen that load and showing her that she deserves to be taken care of, and that he can do so. Bottom line: even as feminists, women still grow up with their m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 05:03 PM
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So continuously taking birth control, as a deliberate act, would that be murder?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 11:58 AM
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A pill, birth control, produced by humans is nature?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:42 AM
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“… think about it logically, I am right.” Oh ok
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:30 PM
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So, technically, if you’re on the pill constantly and deliberately choose to have your period?…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:13 PM
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Is having their period murder too? Those poor cells
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:35 AM
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I’ve been saying this. For me personally I couldn’t date anyone over 185. The height difference is just too much of a turn off
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:54 PM
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Wise words by Chad Thundercock. People, humans, persons all have their own personal taste and preference. Preach.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:13 AM
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The “ick” has nothing to do with femininity. It can be that, of course, in some cases. But you can’t really put them equal to one another. Yeah definitely, I personally would be rather put off by a guy who’s that vain and shallow, but once again, that has nothing to do with wether or not he puts on a bit of concealer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:42 PM
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And? He can do whatever the hell he wants lol. If he wants to wear nail polish, dresses and whatever who am I to judge? A man who feels secure enough in his masculinity to be feminine is a major turn on for many women. So what lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:38 PM
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If you read my comment again, you can see that I said I wouldn’t have a problem with makeup HOWEVER my problem would be if he was vain and shallow, and was constantly caring too much about his appearance. Your lack of reading skills is not my lie homie. A dab of concealer would not bother me for shit, spending two hours in front of the mirror before he could even go get the mail would definitely bother me - but at that point it wouldn’t be the makeup, but rather the hyper fixation on appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:26 PM
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Yeah it’s difficult without data haha. I only use mascara, and I personally think it’s worth the time, money and effort. I’m not talented in makeup by any means, but I have followed various artists throughout the years. Those who make crazy pretty designs and use blending techniques and cool colors are (often) the ones who use it as a form of expression. I paint with acrylic paint, I’m not very good, but the feeling of the painting is just great, even if the finished product is kind of wack - I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:45 PM
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I have to disagree again. Makeup isn’t a waste of money, time and effort. The women who do it, do it because they like it - wether that’s the process or the outcome. It would be a shame to have lost a way of expression, as some women view it. Or some even view it as a way of accessorizing - which could be a way of expression again, in some cases. Pretty privilege would surely still exist, even without makeup. Maybe it would just apply to new people, when makeup is no longer a factor. In a way th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:37 PM
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I mean, I definitely see where you’re coming from. I just don’t necessarily agree with you. I do believe that there would be some kind of shift, but I also believe it would be short lived. Things would go back to “normal” pretty quickly, because what else is there to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:30 PM
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Concealer definitely conceals. Sometimes you just get an unexpected pimple, shit happens. I would argue that mascara, brow color (?) and lip gloss were the most used makeup products- and those definitely enhance existing features rather than conceal them. I really don’t think my standards would lower. I don’t need or aspire to have a relationship. I’m absolutely content on my own and I don’t want to settle. Not wearing mascara will not change that lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:25 PM
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I think it depends a lot on what makeup we’re talking about. If it’s just some blemish control and a little mascara I doubt many women would care. If it was a full glam, bold red lip and glittery cut crease makeup look more women would probably be put off by it. I’m imagining, neither of us can conclude anything without statistics of any kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:05 PM
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This. It’s basic supply and demand. Women, I’m general, are less likely to settle. They’re more likely to know their own worth, and never settling with anything beneath what they personally think they deserve. Most women (that I know) are okay and even prefer being single, rather than “settling” in any way. Men are more likely to want sexual or emotionally supportive relationships with women, as they struggle finding those with other men. Many men would never tell their friends about their menta…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 04:09 PM
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Depends what “makeup” is too. There’s a vast difference between wearing mascara and lipgloss, and then wearing a full face of makeup with 17 steps. Obviously mascara os makeup too, but it’s still vastly different than a full face, and can hardly be compared equally
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 04:03 PM
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I would absolutely not bat an eye if the man I was dating wanted to wear makeup to feel more confident. Women can do it, so can men. We can borrow each others mascara. Maybe he can teach me to wear foundation. We can get ready together too. I’d definitely be down for that. Women’s problem isn’t men wearing makeup, women’s problem is vain and shallow men who care too much about appearances.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 04:01 PM
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I will confidently say, as a woman, that I would never lower my standards just because I couldn’t wear mascara anymore. Women are rarely insecure about their makeup free looks. They feel better with makeup, sure, but they’re definitely not insecure without it. Yes, makeup can be used to change your appearance if you’re talented at it - but in most cases it’s simply used to enhance your existing features. I’m sure there would be a noticeable change in society if makeup vanished overnight, but I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 03:58 PM
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When he tells you you’re so attractive/hot/beautiful/whatever that he would like to fuck all we hear is “I would like to satisfy myself with your hole.” Women have experienced sexually charged attention since around age 10, as OP said. We’re over it. We’ve heard it all before. It stopped being special before we were even 16. It’s disgusting that literal children get enough sexual attention that they’re sick of it years before being legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:06 AM
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I dated a jealous guy once. Never again. I had to comfort and reassure him every time I hung out with someone that wasn’t him, even if it was a mutual friend we both trusted. Sure, it’s fine to feel a bit territorial, but at the end of the day, both partners should feel safe and secure in their relationship, and know that no matter what, they’re the ones going home together. You’re dating your partner because you think they’re amazing, other people are gonna think the same thing, and that’s okay…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 08:32 AM
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A man who’s very confident with his feminine side. Not that he has to wear nail polish or anything, but it’s clear to sense when a man has toxic masculinity or not. When he is a feminist. Women love being supported in being perceived as equal human beings deserving of respect. Insane, I know (/s) When he is well mannered and well spoken. A good vocabulary will get a man far. Conversation skills in general really. Hope this helped :))
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:52 AM
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Never claimed it was
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:08 PM
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OP asked for advice. I provided advice. Why are you taking this as a personal attack? Yes we’re cautious, is that a crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:07 PM
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No? I never said it was? If you understand our perspective, you also understand that we don’t consider all men to be criminals?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:05 PM
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That’s not what I was trying to say lol. My thought was more that if it was a completely empty street. Men shouldn’t consider themselves criminal, it would just be nice if they took our security into consideration
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 10:50 AM
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Places that would NOT be fun to be approached: 1. At my workplace, while I’m on my shift 2. Outside my workplace, where you were waiting on me to end my shift 3. On my way home from my workplace, where you followed me 4. On public transportation where I don’t have the opportunity to remove myself from the situation 5. In public, but with no other people around 6. Anywhere you needed to run to catch up with me 7. Any place where I cannot remove myself from the situation with ease 8. Anywhere I mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:43 PM
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Supply and demand baby
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 01:00 PM
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I definitely can’t speak for everyone, but to some women the emotional connection is more important in a long term relationship. And sex can even be better after building this meaningful relationship. It’s not that they’re avoiding it against their own will. Again, not speaking for all women - but some might “withhold” it to build the emotional connection the man might not want to after getting laid. There are way too many factors to give a “correct” answer
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:11 PM
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“They prefer not having sex early in the relationship” “WHY ARE YOU WITHHOLDING IT” You’re not entitled to sex. No one is. It’s a personal preference and choice if a woman doesn’t want sex right off the bat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:58 PM
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Rather be happy alone than miserable with a non compatible partner
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:53 AM
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As long as he pays her for her work and stay within the limits that were established beforehand, I honestly have nothing against it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:51 AM
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I wouldn’t mind at all tbh. There’s nothing wrong with it, everyone has their own pace
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:46 AM
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Just because women aren’t horny for you they’re still horny as fuck lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:35 PM
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Neckbeards / unkempt beards. Crooked teeth. Very big prominent moles that just look like warts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:28 AM
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All (most) men who go to the stripclub cheat, but not all cheaters go to the stripclub 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:57 PM
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Men are used to being needed, absolutely vital to women - so vital that women would have to stay in abusive relationships, shitty boring entitled man children. Men have “always” been able to act as they have but now women won’t stand for it anymore. A lot of men expect their wives to act as mothers but woman want an equal and not another person to take care of
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:39 PM
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Thank you 😌😌
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:26 PM
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Will teach them both to be their best self, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:08 PM
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This exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:29 PM
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Well yeah. Women no longer NEED men and are now setting their standards higher than ever. Women aren’t forgetting that they need to prove themselves - they simply don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:15 PM
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Great response! Men often forget that they themselves also need to be worth it for the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:03 PM
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No one likes to be dumped. Tell her the truth and let her do with it what she will. You can’t be the villain for telling the truth - as long as you keep it within reason
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 12:33 AM
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Just let the boys date when they’re teenagers and until they find “the one.” Why restrict one self from love? That seems self sabotaging. Even if you managed to rake up a social status etc, then what now? You’ve spent 30 years telling women cheesy pickup lines in bars. Quick pump n dump. Leaving while she’s in the shower. At this point you’re set in your ways and incapable of a long term relationship. You’ll act like you enjoy the single life as a facade, but really you’re yearning for a life pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 05:33 AM
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If they want to run on treadmills and eat salads then hell yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:22 AM
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Good thing (big) women deserve a respectful partner, and not a customer :))
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:12 AM
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Just say you can’t handle a big girl and move on
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:47 AM
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I don’t see men any different if they cry. I cry, they cry, it’s a terrible existence, we all cry. My ex however, would cry CONSTANTLY- to a point where I would have to avoid saying things so he wouldn’t cry. We only became official because he kept bugging me and crying whenever I said I wasn’t ready yet. THIS is a turnoff. Not because he’s a guy, but because he was acting like a toddler that didn’t get his way. Some women aren’t as sympathetic as others, they would perhaps have a problem with m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 06:47 PM
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When you feel good and confident you’re gonna do better 🤷‍♀️ if that’s what needed to motivate them, then let them pound on a cake of makeup. Some men train shirtless, women can show their belly button and scrunched pants
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:10 PM
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Can’t judge a girl for an active sex life 🤷‍♀️ as long as she stays safe
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:25 AM
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God forbid women having a form of self worth and self respect. Women, now more than ever, have a choice. They can decide for themselves what they want in a partner. They shouldn’t lower their standards just because. For the first timer ever, women don’t rely on men. They can have their own bank accounts. They can buy their own houses. They can be exactly who THEY want to be. They don’t need to attract men to depend on anymore. The problem lies that men haven’t yet discovered that their market va…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:16 AM
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