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I wasn't diagnosed with endometriosis until I had a hysterectomy. Leading up to the hysterectomy, I had flooding and it was attributed to a polyp (ignoring my history of fibroids). I was given progesterone to stop the flooding before the polyp removal, but when I ran out, they told me I could not have any more and to go to the ER if the flooding continued, which, of course I did. The day of the surgery I found out it was a d&c because they wanted to take some of my uterine lining to see if it wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:31 AM
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You can want what you want whenever you want ! It's the blessing of being single. I can do what I want, buy what I want and don't have to listen to or smell anyone else !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:08 PM
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It's the urge to exert control over a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:04 PM
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Same ! I bought a house a year after the divorce and every day, I thank God for my freedom and peace of mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:33 PM
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Wow, you really went to the core. I totally agree. That is so deep. Porn is for men who are dead inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:53 PM
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Oh em gee I just realized this is someone I know. He's a 50-50 guy in the sense that he believes he and his wife should split all bills 50-50. Except his property. That's his. He has a son from a previous relationship whom he kept during the summers. Your post turned on a lightbulb in my head. He never paid child support for that child. Of course he had a pick me to help care for the son each summer - that was a friend of mine. When he married and had another son and divorced, in order to avoid …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:47 PM
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The advice will sink in eventually. I used to be like her and it took some pretty drastic abuse for my mind to break free from the dysfunction. I hope nothing worse happens to her to finally get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:26 AM
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Oh, boy, that's terrible. I'm glad you escaped. I called whenever I was threatened. On the first report, the officer wrote I said I was being picked on. I never said that. But he wrote that to downplay what happened. I would have never known if I didn't go down to the police station and pay for a copy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:18 AM
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So, true. I was told by a judge that I needed to have bruises and broken bones to get a restraining order and she was a woman. It wasn't taken seriously by my ex- county. When I did get one, after my eye socket was broken, they refused to enforce it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:44 PM
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Amen to that ! Expose them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:43 AM
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I was just coming back to mention her video. The statistics were alarming !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:42 AM
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I bought a house. The LVX would never commit to buying a house because as he said, he didn't want anyone to take it from him. I traveled, I went to concerts, renewed my friendships, restored my relationship with my child, went through trauma counseling and regular counseling, learned to put myself first. It's just such a blessing to be free and do whatever the f I want to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 03:14 PM
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We win when we learn to love ourselves and we don't depend on other people to feel valued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 09:16 PM
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Finish my insurance certification so I can start a new career. Prioritize my health. Strengthen my body. Travel for fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:36 PM
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Hopefully she will realize it is never too late to get rid of a LVM. And once he is gone, you can reclaim your life, live free and joyously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:09 AM
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Amen !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:20 AM
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When I was married, we were always behind on bills. Sometimes utilities would get disconnected. We rarely went anywhere, maybe the movies once in a while and certainly never on a trip anywhere. Once I got divorced, I paid all my bills on time, bought a house, traveled out of state and went to concerts. I really enjoy my life now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:05 PM
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We are the better and best choice !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:10 AM
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They try to justify it by telling everyone the woman was trying to make a money grab.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:52 PM
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Good for you ! It's beautiful and you deserve it ! Get everything you want for your life - no need to deprive yourself waiting for someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:06 AM
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Our girls need to be taught that ! Waiting for someone to "complete" you is a setup. We need to love ourselves first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:03 PM
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I can relate. When I was married, we were always broke, I always had to beg for extensions, shit would get cut off, repossessed. It was sad. Since I've been on my own, I pay all my bills on time, bought myself a house and take myself out. I told a friend I was buying myself something nice rather than wait on a man to get it for me. She said, I'm going to pray you find someone to get it for you. I told her not to curse me like that ! Lol. Why would I need a man to buy me nice things ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:26 AM
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Or the trope that a woman would slap a man and he would grab her and kiss her. Imagine growing up in the 70s and 80s and all the mixed messages even though women supposedly had more freedoms and powers ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:45 PM
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I can't help but feel unimpressed and slightly suspicious. I would not give my house key to a boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:32 PM
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I think this is great advice. Having some kind of empathy for a pickme but keeping emotional distance is a sound suggestion. Fo myself, I know after growing up in an abusive home, I suffered from cognitive dissonance so every shitty situation or relationship I was in, I could pretend to myself that everything was going to be okay. I just didn't know that I would be fine alone or even successful alone. Everyone has a different moment of truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:23 PM
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That's crazy ! I've been rewatching some late 70s shows like Knots Landing and my, how things have changed. Women could be grabbed by strange men, kissed by men without permission and have to get up from the table to get their husband a drink when both are having a meal. A husband took his wife hostage by gunpoint for 24 hours with a police standoff and he was never charged, The poor lady's "friend" chastised her into forgiving him and taking him back. We have come a long way but there still is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:57 PM
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I wish I had known how much better my life would be without the toxicity. There are years I can never get back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 10:22 PM
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Congratulations on your accomplishments !! It is one of the scariest things to leave a LV relationship and embark on your own. You sound fearless and enjoying your life !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:45 PM
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So this is how Wonder Woman's Amazonia came to be !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:41 PM
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You are not alone. Unfortunately, once a woman experiences sexual trauma, you no longer feel like you have agency over your own body. You become susceptible to further abuse. Please don't blame yourself. It is a psychological phenomenon. Have you had counseling ? It really helped me learn to be kind to myself and stop blaming myself, which helped me heal and put myself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 09:42 PM
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My ex-husband told me had no kids. I found out when we filed taxes together that he owed child support for a child. I was pulled over by cops in my ex's car one day. They asked me if I knew EX. The officer told me there was a warrant for him for child support in another state. He was able to petition the court for a DNA test (the child was 15) because he swore to the court the mom was a ho. Test came back 99.9% his. That was the day I realized what a f-ing liar he was. It took me another year to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:30 PM
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This is so important because women often put their needs aside within a relationship. If you learn what your own needs, desires and goals are and focus on the importance of just being you, you are less likely to fall into that trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:07 PM
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I totally agree. I can't say how many times I wish I had left a man alone after my boundaries were crossed. I would have saved myself years of heartbreak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:08 PM
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My ex received $1500 a month in benefits and had the audacity to tell his friends and family I was a gold digger and didn't work. If I had worked, his benefits would have been reduced dollar for dollar. When we separated, I made sure to let the agency know how much money I was making. He lost benefits for at least 6 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:17 PM
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Well, damn. At least it was less than 24 hours to show you who he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:14 PM
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This is such an enlightening post. I didn't even realize this but it is so true. It puts a whole new spin on identifying LVM. My ex used to get irate if I laughed at him, which is something I did not pay close enough attention to either. I'm over 50 so I'm glad this sub is here and I can learn things to save my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:35 PM
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I love it ! Tell us more stories, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:42 AM
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Good for you ! Your future is bright !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:07 AM
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Congratulations ! So glad you are free and doing work you enjoy and looking forward to grad school !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:56 PM
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I would. I'm willing to be alone for the rest of my life until someone proves they can love they way I deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:59 AM
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Keep focusing on yourself, your goals and your enjoyment. You'll soon forget why you want a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:45 PM
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I agree. Not all pickmes ignore child abuse. Or even allow child abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:40 PM
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My ex-husband is on every dating app there is ! That's reason enough to stay off them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:48 PM
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Well said. I have no interest in waiting on a man hand and foot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 12:32 AM
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Happy Cake Day ! My lessons were hard learned and I experienced pain and trauma. The end result is that even though I am over 50, I still have plenty of life left to ENJOY and feel grateful for. I can do what I want when I want. And I can take care of myself. Honestly, I never knew what boundaries were until I got counseling after the separation a few years ago but as Iyanla says - "Boundaries will save your life !"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:16 PM
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Such a great post ! Once I realized I could do what I want, when I want, whenever I want, I truly became a happier person. I made a list of things I want to do and guess what ? None of them require a man. Such freedom !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 06:27 PM
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I love that ! I know my ex did me a favor when he left but I like your statement better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:24 AM
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This is me ! I bought my first house one year after the divorce. Every morning I let the dogs out into the backyard and thank God for the beautiful day and my life of freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:57 AM
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Damn, that's pretty sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:54 AM
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This is me, too. I would like to add that I thought my role was to be a help-mate and help build them up with unconditional support. Sadly, they were not worthy or appreciative. They used that help to better themselves and abuse me. So I'm done with helping a man, standing by a man or being supportive. I do that for myself instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 10:25 PM
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Except she has a history of falling for her costars and cheating. If we are talking about women who are self aware and possessed after age 30, I don't think the fact that she found a young rich man makes her admirable or puts her anywhere near the category of Emma. Her history shows she goes from man to man (as many of us has) and I just don't think she's a good example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:38 PM
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I say ALWAYS trust your gut. ALWAYS. Do not second guess yourself for any reason, superficial or not. If the rare opportunity where your intuition is wrong and you lose out on some "great" guy, there's another one out there. No need to feel like you missed your chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 02:33 PM
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I don't think Jennifer Garner is a good example. I would describe Ben Affleck as an addict and a cheater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 01:46 PM
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that's deep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 04:48 AM
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