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You don't. You shoot your shot and if you notice she's uncomfortable, you take the loss and go.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 05:53 AM
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What does any of that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:39 AM
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Adam. If I had a Caleb for a son I'd be so disappointed and honestly question my parenting because Caleb is a fucking asshole. And if I do my job right and do have an Adam, he will know his worth is tied to who he is and not what he looks like. And I say all this as someone who DOES have a son.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:38 AM
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Its possible her personality would not he the same as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:21 AM
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It .makes sense for the people who live there. As someone else said, affairs are the norm and most people are likely raising kids that aren't there's. That's not typical everywhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:56 PM
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But we do know. We express horror because we were the young girls in those relationships. I was 18 and with 27 year old and it was not okay and yes you're gross for doing that. She's is barely legal and you are a full grown adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:24 AM
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Most fathers don't want their 20 year old daughters dating ment their own age lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:22 AM
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The point is that single people who want to be married get married at younger ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:51 AM
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Are we gonna have another week of paternity test posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:56 PM
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So if you think your baby mama cheated, get a paternity test. It doesn't need to be more complicated than that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:55 PM
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Not with someone who sexually repulses you though
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:35 PM
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Sometimes people are just shitty amd don't care about taking commitment seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 12:38 AM
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Its really unlikely that another draft will ever be called. The moral in the military is already at an all time low and the people who would be drafted (millenials and younger) are so anti military that they likely wouldn't even be helpful if they were forced to fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:04 PM
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Admitting they don't have orgasms during sex? Where do you see 0 women Admitting that? I've had one guy give me an orgasm and I married him. It's a common complaint everywhere including here. But yeah, I wouldnt marry a man who didn't make me orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:35 PM
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Also who likes to be bored on the toilet?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:55 AM
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Its not about being killed. Women say bears because they'd rather be killed than raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:41 PM
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Id absolutely rather face a black bear than a man. But also I lived in grizzly country and even grizzly bears mostly leave you alone. Plus the worst they're gonna do is kill me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:40 PM
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Does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 12:32 AM
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Abortions are medical procedures that come with risks just like any other. It would only be fair if the person knew well before the sex even happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 10:01 PM
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Because it absolutely us. If you think adoption is better for the kid than their absent parent paying child support you are living in a delulu world.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 01:49 PM
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Have you raised a kid? Thats a full time job. It's not about cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:45 AM
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Because she's also working. Either she works outside the home or inside it, but it's still work either way. When both people are home they should both be contributing to parenting and housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:43 AM
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It still is a chore that is never finished and it's not like the clothes and dishes put themselves in the machines. Laundry and dishes are endless.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:41 AM
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How can you blame it on women and divorce when it is also happening WITHIN marriages. Do you know how many dad's don't know their kids birthdays? And they live AT HOME with them. They don't know their clothing size or favorite color or anything. That's the mental load and too many men ignore it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:39 AM
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I mean.. thats untrue? Women who work mostly in male dominated fields are constantly talking about it. I was trying to get into computer science and ultimately left the space because of how sexist it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:17 PM
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Thats a bit obtuse. Most parents do it because their child's doctor tells them it's better and healthier. They're not hurting their child on purpose and most of the time in pregnancy circles when I see babies being circumcised it's because DAD wants it to happen, not mom. I didnt circumcise my son, but my SIL did because she trusted the doctors in her hospital. She did not circumcise her second because she learned more about it in between the two. Saying every parent ever who has had their child…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:30 AM
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I'm sorry WHAT? Men are not the only ones who pay taxes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:25 PM
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But if she'd just kept it to herself no one would ever even know that's why
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:17 PM
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Yeah it's like whenever the topic of "why aren't young people these days in relationships???" And the answer is clearly that they dont want to be. Pretty typical to spend your early 20s having fun and settle down in your late 20s early 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:51 AM
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I think part of it is that OF is a job where as a relationship with a significantly older man is personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 04:20 PM
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Very few in my own experience. I didnt give out my number unless I actually knew the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 09:14 PM
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Your last paragraph is important. I am sexually attracted to my partner even though he'd probably be objectively average or slightly below. But it's because 1) I am attracted to his features even if most people wouldn't be and 2) I am attracted to the rest of him (personality, humor, etc) as well. So looks matter but we all have different preferences there and we all put a different like.. emphasis on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:27 PM
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Probably not but any woman can tell you they have the same experience even without transitioning. I was in a male dominated field for awhile and it was so insulting how stupid they all thought I was just because I was a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 04:56 PM
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I dont think most women care. Its a chronically online take in my own experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 09:54 PM
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Because its a bullshit argument. My husband has never once been worried he'd get called out for sexual harassment. Because he isn't a gross man sexually harassing people. "Approaching" a woman isn't sexual harassment saying nasty shit to her unprompted or not leaving her alone when she clearly isn't interested are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 09:56 PM
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I think you have the wrong definition of common. I've seen numbers anywhere from 0.5 to 20% and some studies found that the likelihood was dependent on the confidence of the father. So basically if you suspected your wife/girlfriend of cheating it was way more likely. I wouldnt call that extremely common outside of cases where cheating is already suspected.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:14 PM
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Theres a big difference between being vanilla and not bringing other people unwillingly into your sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:33 PM
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What does that have to do with liberals? My husband is super masculine. He also is liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:28 PM
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You find your own roles? My husband and I do adhere to more traditional gender roles but we also are a team and often it has to switch for whatever reason. I am having a super rough pregnancy so he's taken on the caretaker role for our toddler for example. I am also the one that puts furniture together because I'm anal and really good at reading instructuons. Strict adherence only hurts you. Roles have aplace but they don't have to be related to gender and should work for the people in the relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:26 PM
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Even in western society most people are paired up by 30
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 10:24 PM
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Feminists are fighting for paternity leave which is a men's rights issue. The only time they oppose men's rights is if it infringed on women's rights. As for child custody, it's been shown time and time again that if men WANT custody, they get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:36 PM
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In my own experience most men actually don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:35 PM
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There are tons of legal benefits to getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 04:02 AM
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They are though. Kids still have days off and breaks and summer vacation. Until your kid can stay home alone, there is value in a stay at home parent. My kid is in preschool and if I was working we would have been screwed every time he had a break or was home sick.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 04:01 AM
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No it just means you're likely going to end up with someone who is also ND.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 09:14 PM
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The OP absolutely did say that women prefer significantly older men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:13 PM
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Theres a huge difference between a 20 year old dating a 22 to 24 year old and dating a 40 year old and if you can't see that I don't even know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:13 PM
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Yeah because we were at one point the younger women and know exactly how predatory and gross that relationship dynamic is. This dude is so oblivious.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 09:10 PM
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Yes sometimes drunk women make bad decisions and so we ask someone to protect us from that ahead of time so we don't feel regret in the morning. Also your image of what would happen if a woman was coerced is just.. completely wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:24 PM
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Its such a weird take. "I a man who has been cockblocked by women's friends OBVIOUSLY know what was going through the woman and her friends minds!" I've never pulled a friend away from a dude unless she was super drunk or signaling for help. Sometimes signals get misconstrued. It does happen, but then the friend reassures that everything is good and I go about my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:20 PM
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I dont think the first is a red flag. Most of my family is from the south and thats just how they communicate and so I picked it up as well. Its not a test and I wouldn't be angry if someone didn't understand, its just 1 way of communicating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 12:29 AM
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They mean the same to me too. I remember reading about different communication styles and something like this example came up and it has to do a lot with whether you were raised with indirect or direct communication. I usually do say #1 but wouldn't get mad if someone didn't catch my meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 12:28 AM
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Autistic people arent necessarily mentally impaired. Many are capable adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:23 PM
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I think that depends on the neurotype of the woman. I have adhd so I am not NT and ended up with a man who is likely autistic because I related to him a lot better than NT people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:22 PM
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Its not. As someone who is a woman and was in their 20s recently, I didnt know anyone who was "riding the CC"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 04:37 AM
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It sounds like she likes some aspects of their personalities but not the general whole of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:54 PM
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Why do you think its a facade? I know plenty of objectively attractive people that I am not sexually attractive to. And I have been sexually attractive to men who aren't objectively attractive. They're not the same thing for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:52 PM
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I can navigate fine and still use GPS in case there is traffic or an accident. Like.. its fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 08:19 PM
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Kids stop napping by 3 or 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 01:19 AM
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Have you spent all day watching a young child? As in 3 and under. My husband is an airplane mechanic and he definitely gets more breaks at work than I do during the day. Just because my kid is occupied doesn't mean I get to go do whatever I want. He's a toddler, he has to be watched at all times. It's not the same thing as watching a school aged child.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 01:18 AM
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Only if the other parent covers for them or they get a babysitter. That's just the nature of being responsible for another human.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 01:16 AM
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You do not get more money with each kid, just fyi. Thats a myth. You get more money when you get married and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 09:09 PM
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More money, good insurance, housing on base, being able to pcs together, etc. I am a military spouse and we definitely only got married because of the benefits, by which I mean we were content to just be together in an LTR but the military does not recognize long term girlfriends as existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 09:08 PM
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Thats weird considering the opposite happens more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 07:09 PM
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Pinterest is huge with women and basically anonymous.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:17 PM
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Not a good assumption? Spambots exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:16 PM
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Yes we definitely still use those. AO3 in particular is definitely not dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:11 PM
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Because moderates don't care that my rights are being infringed on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 10:10 PM
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I think that depends on the person? I've never had any issues with that and it's been almost 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:13 PM
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Its more like they dislike men they specifically aren't attracted to hitting on them. Ive dated people in my friends group but its never them just... hitting on me. It's a slow thing where we start hanging out more 1 on 1 and find that there's chemistry between us and then mutually agree to try dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:45 PM
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I dont think its a common thing to believe that. I can be afraid of men as a whole and know most of them aren't predators. I trust my husband and my brother and my son and my guy friends etc etc. Its more that if I don't know a man I'm going to take precautions because he COULD be. Me taking precautions doesn't mean I hate men and think they're all out to get me. I wouldnt eat candy out of a bowl that I knew had some poisoned candy even if it was a small minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:26 PM
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Not many many women. A minority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:23 PM
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Not sure how you figure that? CDC says that 41% of women and 26% of men experience violent partners and when it comes to sexual violence the numbers are way higher. Men are definirely more likely to be violent than women. I do agree that it isnt helpful to call DV male violence though because it's not an accurate description.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:20 PM
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What's short? I know multiple men 5'6 and under and all of them have had sex and majority of them are married. One dude was 5'2 and had 0 issues. Absolutely none of them are dropping hundreds of dollars on dates with their wives lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:14 PM
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I guess all of us that are perfectly attracted to our SOs that aren't the hottest, tallest, or richest just dont exist then.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:13 PM
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Women being more likely to be diagnosed with neuroticism does not mean ALL women are neurotic. Do you not understand statistics? Also OK cupid is one single dating site that isnt even relevant anymore. Back when that was done most guys who were online dating were NOT attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:10 PM
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Not like the other girls. I think we all go through a phase of it but not everyone grows out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:08 PM
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Yeah that's totally why men are more likely to be liberal and women are more likely to be conservative... oh.. wait. Thats not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:07 PM
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Sure dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:05 PM
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Do you live in the real world? The average man over 30 is in a relationship or married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:10 PM
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Yup. My husband is a pretty normal dude. Definitely not a social butterfly or super attractive or rich or tall or anything like that. He was probably never gonna be pulling supermodels, but plenty of women were into him just as he is. The problem is when you want women who AREN'T into what you're giving.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 10:09 PM
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Okay.. well when you cheat on someone you are putting their health at risk. So theres your answer. If you asked for an open relationship and they said no, just divorce them. I'd much rather my husband divorce me than cheat on me and if i ever found out he'd been doing so I'D be divorcing HIM.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:58 PM
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Lol the men I hear say women are sluts are having 0 sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 12:18 AM
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Then leave the marriage. You made a promise to be monogamous. If you break it then yeah, you are a shitty person
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 11:08 PM
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My wife is the reason we weren't having sex for awhile and I didn't go to reddit and cry about it. I also didn't cheat on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 11:07 PM
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I'm so tired of hearing about it. Half the people in the deadbedroom subreddit ARE women. And my husband has definitely had the lower libido at some points in our marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:57 PM
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The reason its wrong to cheat is because you both went into marriage agreeing you wouldn't sleep with anyone else. It has nothing to do with how you treat your wife while you do it. I do not want to be in a nor monogamous relationship. When my husband and I married we signed a contract and part of the promise involved was that we wouldn't be sleeping with other people. If he broke that, we'd be done. I'd much rather he just divorce me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:55 PM
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My mom went through a very nasty divorce decades ago and despite her being our primary caregiver they almost gave custody to my deadbeat abusive dad. The only reason tbey didnt is because shed drop child support petition if he stopped fighting for it. You are definitely the one in an echo chamber. When dads fight for custody, they get it. And if they get 50/50 there is no child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:52 PM
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You can believe men and women should have equal choices and that both men AND women should be able to do whatever they like regardless of tradition while also wanting traditional gender roles for yourself. Theres no contradiction there. The entire point is we all get a choice instead of society trying to fit us all into the same box. My husband and I are more traditional than a lot of couples these days. That doesn't mean I think all couples should follow what we do. Its what works for US. It wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:41 PM
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Birth rates were part of what OP is complaining about
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:38 PM
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Incompatible how? There's nothing wrong with using immigrants to help fill out the gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:38 PM
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The thing is an equal partnership has nothing to do with money or looks or anything. Its how you treat each other. You're never gonna be equal in every single regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 08:46 PM
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Casual sex for women isnt really enjoyable most of the time for a lot of reasons. There are some women who would have casual sex with hot dudes but not average guys but most (like me) arent interested in it at all regardless of what you look like. The sex is mediocre at best and not worth the risk of std and pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 09:07 PM
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Because theres a difference between wanting a woman who would be a good mother to children and wanting a woman to replace the mother role FOR YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 04:51 AM
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No they want a second mother in thr sense that they want someone to cook and clean up after them. Its not anything to do with nurturing. My husband had a friend who moved in with us after he got divorced and asked ME to do his laundry because he didn't know how. He was 30. He got a gf within a week so that someone would do it. That is what we mean when we say they want a mommy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 04:47 AM
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Most of the posts there have to do with women healthcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:53 AM
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Okay then if the shoe fits incel is fine too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:51 AM
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You implied that a woman who doesnt have trouble dating shouldnt be here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:50 AM
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Over half of the mods ARE redpillers
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:49 AM
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The subs that got quarantined and banned WERE violent. Many of the posts there were advocating the rape of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:48 AM
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Youre complainign about how banning works in other subs???? So you have 0 evidence of it happening here?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:46 AM
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I swear I've seen one paternity testing post per day for a couple months. Im so tired of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:44 AM
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Yeah theres a reason we have the term "daddy issues". As someone who had them, abusers could pick me out of a crowd so fast. When I finally got my shit together they started leaving me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 07:22 PM
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Broke guys are fine, men who dont care about havinf a job and are fine bumming it on your couch are the ones who get shit on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:08 AM
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Most people wont ask but if they do I'd just tell em. Women care way less about that stuff than men do on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 08:33 AM
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So many millenials are childfree by choice. I agree with the basic point that most men can find relationships and sex but using kids as a stand in for sex is not gonna work.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 11:01 PM
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Women go to their OBGYNs regularly and std testing gets done at those appointments. I have to go every year to 3 years and get tested every time despite having 0 symptoms. My husband has gotten std testing maybe once in his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 05:50 PM
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Also the fact that womens anatomy makes them more likely to get stds period.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 05:45 PM
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And I do and can say a lot of the men in those subreddits look just fine as well. In my personal experience, what makes someone an incel is their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:11 PM
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Or shes had experience with abuse in the past. My husband is not abusive and I dont think hed ever hurt me but I definitely have a plan in case that changes and especially in the early days of our relationship, I was prepared. My dad was abusive and hid it for a number of years before it finally came out so I've seen nice men turn awful. Its not paranoia, its experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:54 PM
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Uh lots of guys say women are basically useless after 25/30 so youre wrong in that regard. And in my experience men who date way younger than themselves absolutely do replace those women as they age
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 12:06 AM
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It doesnt need raised if people would stop being gross. 18 year olds having sex with 22 year olds is fine. 30 and 40 year olds is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 12:05 AM
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Tell that to the studies on lifetime partners. The average is 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:25 PM
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This is such a stupid take. Some women have higher libidos than some men. Some women have the same libido as some men. Some women have lower libidos than some men. Libido is very individual and has nothing to do with gender except that hormonal birth control (which many women are on) commonly kills libido as a side effect. And thats not even getting into how libido can change in the same person depending on whats going on in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 12:22 PM
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No. Cheating happens. It sucks. Paternity fraud happens. It sucks. But its rare. Thats like saying every time you go to the doctor we should test you for all the diseases you may have a chance of having. But we don't. Instead we look at your symptoms and go from there. If you have 0 reason to suspect that your wife/partner is cheating then a paternity test isnt needed. Does that mean the child is definitely yours? No. But the chance of it being yours is way fucking higher than the chance of it N…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:46 AM
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Im so sick of paternity testing posts. Theres been one every day for like a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:43 AM
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Thats generally prior to getting pregnant or right after and has nothing to do with paternity. Theyre not comparing the results, just seeing if anyone pops as carriers for certain diseases.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 02:26 AM
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As a woman who has dealt with many men thinking I was interested in them when I absolutely was not.. yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:51 PM
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How is hijab any different than nuns? I agree that it should always be a choice but many women do choose it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 01:20 AM
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No theyre going to help him figure out how to get over his insecurity so he can be confident and mentally healthy which is going to make him more attractive to the general public.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 04:32 PM
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If you say so. My husband probably would get rated as a 5 max by the red pill dudes here but his smile is so fucking cute and is absolutely part of the reason I became interested in him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 04:31 PM
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Yes. Everyone should strive to be a better person if they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 04:25 PM
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No its a word for people whos reality is distorted by a few bad experiences that completely dont match the rest of our experiences with the same world.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 04:25 PM
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I can give someone a compliment on their hair or their shoes or their outfit and be totally truthful while not thinking shes a 10/10. Also most people are beautiful in their own way to me which isnt a lie. Why is it womens faults that wed rather lift each other up and men would rather tear each other die?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:37 PM
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Eh. Average lifetime count for bith genders is around 7 so 10 is gonna be higher than most.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:53 AM
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Youve clearly never been a woman. Its not that easy to have sex even if you are one. You have to be pretty attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:52 AM
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Im not demisexual and most men I meet I'd consider attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:50 AM
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Dont even get me started on how they feel about short men. Anyone under 5'7 is doomed according to a lot of people here when I've never met a dude under that height that didnt pull women just fine. The few I've heard about were absolute dicks and made being too short their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:42 PM
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This is just untrue and many of us have lived experience that its false. Casual sex and long term relationships are completely different things and one person can be able to do both but just want one more than the other right now. The vast majority of people who have casual sex young later get married and have kids and all that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:51 AM
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Why? Not everyone has to share your values. If you dont like it then dont have casual sex and leave everyone else alone. Theres nothing wrong with having causal sex when youre young and moving on to LTRs when youre older and more settled. YOU believe sex should be between two people who love each other but why? If its not religious then there is literally nothing that supports that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:46 AM
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Okay? I had sex before I was married because it felt good and now I still have sex because I'm married because it feels good. How am I whore for having sex with the person I'm married to? Your line of reasoning is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:19 PM
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Its not destroying the country and not all of us are Christian at all. I dont CARE what the bible says bevause I dont believe in it. Why do you get to push YOUR values onto everyone else? The birthrate is not decreasing because women are sleeping around in their 20s, its decreasing because its too expensive to have children and theres no supports for parents. As someone who slept around a bit in their early 20s and now had 1 child and another on the way, I KNOW exactly what the issues are that c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:15 PM
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Children cost more than child support so I dont see how anyone is out there using the money for fun. Like yeah they might be literally using THAT money for fun because theyve used their OTHER money for the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 01:53 PM
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No one should have to raise a child, but youre both responsible for making it so you should be financially responsible. End of. If a woman keeps a baby she is also financially responsible. Children need money to survive. Yeah ideally both men and women would get a say in whether an abortion happens, but once the baby is there you have to go forward with that and that includes financial responsibility for the life you created. Anything else is punishing the CHILD not the adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 01:49 PM
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Because men in general are more accepted when they are fat than women. If you dont see that then youre living under a rock.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:37 PM
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Theres more than just that. There are tax benefits as well as health insurance benefits as well as legal benefits like default next of kin and medical decisions. And thats not getting into social benefits like welfare.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 10:04 PM
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Same. I have never been asked what my issue is and there have been times when I've had some big ones. OP delusional or taking an internet phenomenon and making it a real life one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:52 PM
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Because women arent out there talking about sex as a need and putting it up there with breathing and food. I can have a high libido and still recognize its a want. Men get rid of their own nuance when they do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 03:48 PM
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Its not an excuse. I am 30 years old. I did stupid shit in my early 20s because I was young and dumb and didnt know any better really. Its not an excuse, but its an explanation. Most peoplenhave similar experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 10:59 PM
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Its a bit ridiculous that you think anyone over 21 shouldnt get gifts lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 10:58 PM
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Who are these so many feminists? Seeing people complain about it online sometimes doesnt make it a majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:15 PM
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Yeah I dont know anyone who calls themselves a feminist that doesnt date .en who are also feminists at heart. My husband certainly would never call himself one but we agree on things like womens rights, abortion, lgbtqia+, toxic masculinity, division of household chores etc. Sometimes I wonder if maybe people posting here are assuming feminist men are FEMININE? My husband looks like a burly lumberjack. He basically embodies masculine. That doesnt mean hes not a feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 06:14 PM
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Im a sahm mom. Working is not even close to the same situation and I would 100% prefer to be dorxed to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 04:44 PM
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Theyre shamed by their friends too. I dont know any woman who wants all those things that isnt told she needs to lower her standards by her friends who are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:28 PM
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Its also not normal for women to be so selective in my experience. The ones who are are told their standards are too high or they are too picky. I know thats what we always told friends who were looking for too specific of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:28 PM
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This post is really assuming what I want when most of that list wasnt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:08 AM
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Its definitely true in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:03 PM
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They do spend more time with their kifs but men are rarely the primary caregiver and most dont even have paternity leave. When schools call a parent they call mom. Doctors appointments are usually moms, etc. Dads are doing better but they still are put more into the provider role instead of parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:02 PM
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She didnt ask for a date she asked for a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:30 PM
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Yeah I checked it out and most people are just saying he should have treated her more like a person than a sex doll. Booty calls are one thing but theyre still people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:29 PM
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Yeah saying its just sex is easy but it does start to feel bad when you feel like a glorified sex toy. I get both sides here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:12 PM
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No that is literally a crazy woman. That is not typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 11:17 PM
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Its not about rapists ot sexual predators. Its about constantly getting hit on and bothered at the gym. Its a real thing that happens and its annoying as fuck. I bet you wouldn't like that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 08:02 PM
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Nah they do well the problem is they are usually run by scummy men and when people find out they stop going
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 08:01 PM
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Ever been to the US where men are icky towards women at the gym?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 08:00 PM
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Ha, same here. I dont know who this guy is talking about cause in my experience women do NOT take kindly to being cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 04:40 AM
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Ive never met a woman who was completely blindsided that her boyfriend or husband was cheating. They always have some sort of inkling or suspiscion
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 08:08 PM
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Not all women do that. I dont give a shit what my husband is doing on social media because I trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 08:06 PM
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Whats the point of being in a relationship if youre constantly paranoid about being cheating on? Sorry but I dont live that life. Ive been with my husband long enough and spend enough time with him to not have suspicions. If that changed then I would pursue something but until then I'm just fine living the life I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 08:04 PM
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Can we stop fucking talki g about paternity tests. Jesus fucking christ. Why is it coming up every day? No, unless I had a suspiscion I would not use that test. I do not have a suspsicion so I wouldnt use it. We already have shit like that. Its called snooping and spying and paying a private investigator. Also a paternity test doesnt even guarantee you an answer to that question. A woman could be cheating on you but still be pregnant with your baby. They also might not be cheating on you and not…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 08:01 PM
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Well not everyone saw the poll I'm sure. I didn't. But with the usual posts and comments I'm not really surprised the majority have no idea what theyre talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:29 PM
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Because we give it? I dont have a gps in my husbands car so I can see where he is at all times. I dont go through his text messages every day to make sure hes not flirting. I dont check his phone for dating apps. Weve been together for almost a decade. I trust him. Asking for a paternity test would be the equivalent of doing those things and men don't like when its done to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:23 PM
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Im so tired of them. There has been one every day for awhile now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:21 PM
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Its not 20% of men. Its 20% of men who do a paternity test. That IS a small number.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:19 PM
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Ugh. Its the blind trust dude. Its not blind trust when youve spent years earning it!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:18 PM
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I mean you need to be social but you dont need to be approaching women. My husband is average at best and we met through a mutual friend. He didnt APPROACH me. We just met and started talking and it went from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:54 PM
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These dudes never know what they're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:27 AM
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No you dont. Anyone can do a paternity test.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:26 AM
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Im so tired of this shit for real. We have had this exact same opinion every day this week for some reason. OP go read the other threads because what youre saying isnt new.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:24 AM
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Its not about literally needing someone, its about emotionally needing them. Like, if my husband died or left me, I'd move on and I would be fine. But I would be emotional broken for a little while because he is important in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:44 PM
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The average couple eho has the woman stay home has kids though. Youre talking about a scenario that isnt common at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:41 PM
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Prenatal paternity testing can be done with a blood test actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 01:15 AM
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Insurance pays for hospital fees and that is often subsidized by the government. I have military insurance. Should our taxes be paying for unnecessary paternity tests then?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 01:12 AM
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Because most people dont feel that mistrust. My husband has never doubted our kid is his. Why are you trying to solve a problem that doesnt exist and why do you think its revolutionary? This gets posted here every fucking day
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 01:10 AM
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Yup. My mom lost a ton of weight when my dad left because she was so anxious and upset that she stopped eating. It wasnt healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:26 AM
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More time too. If my husband and I got divorced hed get partial custody of our kids and id have time to go to the gym for once lol even without kids I wouldnt be spending time with him anymore so still more time
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:25 AM
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Yup. I dont personally know any man over the age of 28 who is single. Of course they exist but it isnt common.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:44 PM
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Polls are not evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:41 PM
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Its because its rude to ask the woman youve been married to for 5 years to get a paternity test becausr youre not sure her baby is yours. I dont care if we go to mandatory testing. That wouldnt bother me in the slightest. But ASKING for one will never not be insulting and insinuiting that there is no trust in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 02:01 AM
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How is it blind trust? Blind trust means you just met this person and youre overlooking their red flags even though you barely know them. Youre talking about people who have been together for YEARS. Thats not blind. Thats earned.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 01:54 AM
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Why are you assuming every woman is cheating? If you dont trust a woman not to lie to you about the paternity of the child, you shouldnt be having a kid with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 01:52 AM
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70% of women COULD get away with it. Less than 20% of people cheat. Period. And mostly its men. 20% men and only 13% women. But sure, go with your fake ass statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 01:50 AM
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No its not. I dont follow my husband around or check his phone constantly to make sure he isnt cheating on me. How is this any different? Its called trust. We were together for 5 years before I got pregnant. Its not like it was new relationship. I have nothing to hide. My husband and I have done 23 and me. If my son grows up and decides to do that he will pop as our child. Because he is. That doesn't make it not insulting for my husband to ask for a paternity test. Why be with a man who doesn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 01:44 AM
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Yes I agree. Its absolutely rape by the informal definitions but a lot of the time legally rape has to involve penetration. Definition needs to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 03:34 AM
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Thats true for guys too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 01:02 AM
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Generally it just shows a mismatch in future goals. I want something serious so wouldnt want someone looking for something casual. This guy can say hes ready for something serious but I dont know that I'd take a chance on that. Maybe if hed had a couple serious relationships since the 100 women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:48 PM
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This person has never had kids if he thinks they're getting switched in the hospital in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:54 PM
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No one is fearful. I didnt cheat. A paternity test would just show that. But the accusation that my husband thought I would, would break my marriage. Its not fear, its hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:49 PM
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Nothing. I think if men want paternity tests then they should petition for mandatory paternity tests on birth. Its the accusation that comes with asking for one thats the issue, not the test itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:46 PM
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Same. I dont have a problem with paternity testing in general and if the hospital did it automatically I'd be okay with that. But if my HUSBAND asked me to do one for our son or the pregnancy I am literally breaking my body for... i would be pretty hurt. Because it implies that he thinks there is a chance that these kids arent his and that means he doesn't trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:44 PM
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If youve evwr been a women trying to date then youd realize the majority of "male suitors" ARE bad. I dont know if the majority of men in general are but the majority in the dating pool are pretty fucking awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 08:34 PM
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Oh my god same I freaked out for a minute
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:41 AM
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Mens do the same thing. Their libido shifts if they are tired or stressed. Im not sure why youre acting like only women do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:01 AM
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Seriously. My husband and I barely had any sex for about 4 years. Because I was pregnant, then I was postpartum, rhen I was on birth control which I did not know at the time killed my libido. Then i got off birth control and our sex life started up again. Im pregnant again so its probably gonna be gone for awhile again but this time I'm not getting on hormonal birth control so that will help. Dips in libido happen to everyone. For awhile my hsuband was the low libido one because of stress. Most …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:54 AM
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They literally have the saying AWALT
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:13 PM
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No one ever said that. They said there was a small risk in one certain subset of the population with one vaccine. That is true. Its also true that covid has a much higher risk of myocarditis.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 05:53 PM
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Speak for yourself? I appreciate when my husband shows vulnerability. It makes him human.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 01:58 AM
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Ive literally never heard anyone say any of thise things. People feel awkward after they reject someone. Its normal. Also shy guys are not seen as threats, incels are. As for men being SAd and told that, only assholes would say that. Normal people do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 11:01 PM
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Yeah thats why every time I ovulate I run around and cheat on my husband. Oh wait. I don't. You're right that when I ovulate I want sex, but I want sex with the MAN I MARRIED.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:44 PM
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I think you should speak about yourself. I am almost 8 years into my marriage and have 0 desire to seek out other people even though I am the higher libido right now. My husband feels the same. Monogomy is the default because most people do actually like it and prefer it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:59 PM
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Recovering alcoholics do exist snd should not be in bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 11:23 PM
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People who arent religious will not have a whole lot in common with people who attend church regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 11:22 PM
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I think my husband is cute but he thinks his face is ugly. Hes also NOT insecure. There is a difference between thinking your face is ugly and being insecure about it. My husband just doesnt care what his face looks like and never has. Same with his body or his height. That alone is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 05:50 PM
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Agreed. I didnt care in my early 20s but as a full grown adult with kids its just not the type of thing I'd be looking for. Its not a red flag, just we'd clearly be in different spaces in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 05:49 PM
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Thats a little extreme. My husband and I both use tiktok. His is filled with funny memes and mine is mostly books and music. It is what you make it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 09:33 PM
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Yup. I am a young millenial and the vast majority of people I know who are my age barely care (if they care at all) about gender roles. My grandma and my mom and I fight about it a lot because they care waay more. I dont think tiktok is a good example of what young people think. For one, its social media and people lie for views. And two, what you see is curated for you. I never see anyone who is for strict gender roles on tiktok, but thats because I'm not interested in that. Mine is filled with…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 09:31 PM
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I'm 5'1 so hed probably still win against me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 05:53 PM
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Theres no minimizing it. Even guys shorter than me are stronger than me. Anyways its a dumb thought regardless because unless you are abnormally short 5'3 and under, you are gonna be fine. I've known tons of "short" guys around 5'5 to 5'7 who have never been single.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 05:52 PM
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Then they arent perfextly normal ordinary women. Holy shit. I dont know a single woman including myself who is into serial killers romantically and if I met one I'd run. Fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:25 PM
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I mean even then. I'm 30. I used tinder before I married my husband. My mom met my stepdad through online dating. Preapp people are boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:40 PM
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Its illegal in a lot of.places and even where its not its unethical and most doctors wont do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:15 PM
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That number 4 was pretty disturbing honestly. Also getting them hormone treatments for no reason??? If they treat children like this those children are going to drop them so fast when they move out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:13 PM
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I agree with you. Im so happy my parents divorced. My dad was abusive and their relationship was bad. It wouls have been worse for everyone involved if theyd stayed together. My grandparents on the other hand have refused divorce and are absolutely miserable. Are they in the still married statistics, yup. Are they happy, nope. There is nothing wrong with divorce if youve decided its the best way forward for your family. Its not shameful and it doesnt mean you "didnt try hard enough". Why are we …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:30 AM
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Thats what I was gonna say. There is a bias here in that the only people I know that dont live together before marriage are religious enough to not believe in divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:28 AM
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Okay but why do you think its fine for men to never cook but not for women..?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:23 PM
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The problem is if your husband did that then people would tell him how great of a husband he was and give him tons of praise. Its the double standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:21 PM
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Which part? The single parent part? Because no one wants to be a single parent. It sucks. Or the pedophile part? That's more because statistically a pedophile is way more likely to be a man. Thats just how it is. Obviously only a small number of men are pedophiles but its a risk you run if this was a real service and they would likely be the ones gravitating to jt because of point 1) being a single parent sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 03:16 PM
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Gay guys are not single parents. They are a dual parent household. Also someone with an iq of 40 if definitely no capable of keeping a human being alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 03:12 PM
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For the same reason as men? Why cant we have pills/opinions? But mostly because a lot of the men here are so degrading and I cant help but argue against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:09 AM
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While true, most of us have implied consent in our long term relationships. Not even just sexual consent. My mom doesnt ask before she hugs me just like my husband doesnt ask before he makes a move. I can say no in the moment for both but its implied rhat my answer is usuallt yes. And yes in my marriage that includes unconscious. Waking up to sex is fun for both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 10:04 PM
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Actually you let the doctor decide. These situations never happen in real life. The reality is that 99.9% of things that would be killing the mother during labor/childbirth are solved by getting the baby out. So the outcome for most things is everyone is saved. No doctor is asking the father of the baby who he would like to save. Its completely unethical.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:06 AM
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First one to come in mind for me was when spencer reed from criminal minds had the longer flowing hair. He looked great but I would classify it more as medium length. No beard and definitely not rugged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:03 PM
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Yes that happens to a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:21 PM
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Yes I've honestly never heard of the scenario in the OP. Usually its something they DIDN'T like doing and only did becauae they were getting pressured into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:59 PM
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I think thats really dependent on the people. Most people shouldnt marry young but its really dependent more on how long and how well you know each other beforehand
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:04 PM
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But theres a difference in "oh yes hes attractive" and "yes I would date him". I think ryan reynolds is attractive. I would never want to be in a relationship with him for a million reasons. You cant compare celebrity crushes to real men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:02 PM
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I mean. My profile picture is just me because its my profile. My husbands does include me but thats because he doesnt take selfies. Its not that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:48 PM
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The reason that specifically gets called out is because if a man and a woman have a child and they are both sick, who ends up doing the childcare? Because its almost never the man. Women are expected to power through while men get to lay around and recover. No, it doesnt make him a whiney piss baby, but it is an unfair expectation of society. When my husband is sick, he gets to take off work and stay home and relax and get better. When I'm sick, I still have to watch our kid because there's no o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:35 PM
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My dad was none of these things. Still a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:33 PM
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Yupm my deadbeat father married my mom. They were engaged before she got pregnant. She was only 19 and he was almost 30. Then got her pregnant again when she had a 6 month old. Abused her mentally and physically and cheated multiple times. Then when his kids were toddlers he left us for another woman and refused to pay child support. Oh and i forgot to mention his first kid. The wife he divorced while she was pregnant and never saw again which he lied to my mom about. But sure its both of those …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:27 PM
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The vast majority of people dont cheat. Only about 20%. So then its an unexpected danger by your definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:24 PM
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I care because when I was 16,17,18 older men were grooming me so when I see anyone under the age of 21 with anyone over the age of 25 to 30, its a huge red flag for me. Most of us care because we've experienced. In my experience, young women dont date seriously older men unless they were taken advantage of. So even if its rare, its almost always an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 03:40 PM
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These same dudes complain if girls won't give blowjobs which can also take 10 to 20 minutes. You think one is less work than the other? Do I give a blowjob every time we have sex? No. But you dont have to go down every time either. Most women are fine not orgasming EVERY sex encounter and most can orgasm just fine from things other than oral like clit stimulation or toys.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:06 PM
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Uhhh because men also take that long? Are you finishing in 5 mins from a blowjob? Its not on women if they take longer to orgasm. Its a physical difference between us. You can be unwilling to bother with it but thats a YOU issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:03 PM
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Its pretty likely for someone who is 5'4 and 165 lbs to just look thick. My SIL has those measurements and looks great. Thats not an unusual weight for that height. I'm 5'1 and no one even thought I was overweight at 150 because I carry it in my thighs. Different people look differently at different weights.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:22 PM
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Ive never cared about skinny vs overweight vs obese. I dont think it matters. Am i attracted to them? Are they healthy? Do I have stuff in common with them? Then yes. My husband has been many weights and been anywhere from fat/obese to muscular and all there is between. Ive never not been attracted to him. I have also been many different weights in our relationship and he feels the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:20 PM
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Im obese and that doesnt fit me 🤷🏼‍♀️ i dont snack at all and do like to get outside and be actuve. My problem is the lack of time and the fact that I am very short so its very easy to gain weight if I'm not super careful. Not to say you should date obese women. Makes no difference to me. But I think that the stereotype you have wouldn't hold to many.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:18 PM
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No its actually because women are more likely to be miserable. Statistics show married men are happier than single men and that married women are more unhappy than single women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:44 AM
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I don't think most people here know what infertile means? Definition of infertile is not being able to get pregnant in 1 year of trying. Most people won't know thats true for them until trying to get pregnant and its the couple who is considered infertile, not the one person. On top of that, over half of people who are infertile by that definition would concieve a child on their own without fertility treatments by 2 years of trying. Theres this weird thing where people here infertile and equate …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:36 PM
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Your opinion on childfree women is gross But I appreciated the comment about infertile people. As someone who has struggled with infertility I hate being used as an excuse for antiabortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:33 PM
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If youre able to communicate in other ways, it wouldn't bother me. None of the other things would bother me either since I also have some of those problems and habe autistic relatives. My husband is likely autistic actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:45 AM
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I agree here. I am actually ND (adhd) and so its much much easier for me to communicate with my ND husband (likely autistic) and my ND child (autistic) than it is for me to communjcate with my NT mom. I think its more avout matching communications styles. I do think that asking if he could consent just because hes autistic was kind of gross and implying hes basically a child or mentally incompetent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 02:44 AM
5

Kids dont become less expensive. I spend at least 50 to 100 a month on my son specifically and more than that on food every month. And hes not even in daycare or after school activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:33 PM
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And the vast majority of deadbeats aren't paying it. My dad NEVER paid my mom. She got child support when his wages were garnished but as soon as he got a new job, no more child support
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:32 PM
1

Tell that to all of us that have miscarriages. Nature is the biggest abortionist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:30 PM
2

People are going to gwt abortions for non medical reasons do so almost exclusively in the first trimester. After that the vast majority of abortions are for medical issues. These women don't want abortion or don't have access to abortion (many many states have now outlawed it).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:29 PM
2

I mean consciousness the way you are using it doesn't really happen for a fetus. If you are talking about self awareness, newborns do not have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:27 PM
4

Science knows when that is. Around 20 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:26 PM
3

If the type of birth control prevents implantation then it goes against "life at conception". Also it isnt a fetus for a few weeks, its an embryo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:25 PM
10

Also wic is only given to pregnant women and children under 5 and its a lot of food.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:24 PM
21

You can have emotions. Your emotions just dont outweigh someone else's body autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:22 PM
1

My husband never got casual sex but hes cute as a button to me. Also very sexy when he tries to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:58 AM
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Why are you saying SHE'S projecting? It absolutely is something redpillers believe. Its all over their subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:32 AM
2

Most women feel that way in my experience. My husband hardly ever gets angry and if he did get angry often that would be a deal breaker because I would be scared for my safety. I wouldn't say we break many red pill conventions except the fact that he is only 5'6 but I'm pretty short so he has a good 5 inches on me. He is emotionally available but his dad was... well not great and beat the crying out of him young. I actually would love if he cried sometimes. It would make me feel less alone in my…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:30 AM
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Looks matters more to get you in the door but if your personality is shit only a woman who has very low self esteem is going to stay eith you. Personality absolutely matters more if you want a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:51 PM
1

Marriage is no longer religious, it is a contract between two people with the government overseeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 08:51 PM
1

She is literally saying that she had an ED where she was starving but still not eating because the comparison is the same. You can be starving and still not eat if society has told you its wrong to do. I have a very high libido. I did not masturbate as a young woman. My libido has ALWAYS been high with the exception of pregnancy and birth control which I was rarely on. So I can tell you easily that yes it has a huge impact. If I have the same libido now and can easily have sex 4 times a week and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:45 PM
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Im the same way in that my libido fluctuates. When I was on birth control and when I was pregnant I had 0 libido. When I'm ovulating it is sky high. When I'm not it seems to be pretty average. During ovulation I have spontaneous sex drive but outside of it I have responsive sex drive as you say. Right now my libido is always higher than my husbands but I think he is stressed at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:40 PM
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Absolutely disagree. Are you a woman? Because if you are not you have 0 experience with this. The best sex I've ever had has been with my husband and he is the smallest of all the men I've slept with and is under 5 inches
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:07 PM
12

Also bedrooms tend to go dead for a year or two after a baby. Its pretty normal and generally goes back to the average of once a week at some point in the toddler years.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 11:14 PM
13

What? All anyone is saying is that most people are not going to be telling you if they are having sex and with whom.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 11:13 PM
1

I disagree. A healthy relationship with healthy minded people involved won't have worse sex because they will be talking about their needs and wants as they change and grow. My husband and I have better sex now than before we had a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:53 PM
5

Red pillers will also say men cheat
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:50 PM
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You can be kind and empathetic while also understanding the greatest danger to you are men. That's just a fact. The thing most likely to kill me is my husband and after that other men.. That does not mean that I am rude and cold and distant from men though. You are somehow making it seem like you can't be aware and be cautious while also being kind. A pick me is a woman who puts other women down in front of men they want to date/have sex with which is qhy its CALLED pick me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:36 PM
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All women have a different preference. My husband is below average by most standards. Hes on the short end (5'6) and had a Neanderthal brow line and a unibrow. Hes not super proportional and his arms/shoulders dont really fit with his legs. Hes veeeerrryyy hairy. Everywhere. But I love the way he looks. Hes exactly the right height for me and I think hes cute. Hes like my own huggable bear and his back hair looks like angel wings which is fun. Its not like women are a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 10:09 PM
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Because hes usually honesy about it. Also I'll be honest. I've never met a single dude that would meet the definition of chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:30 PM
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This is a bunch of shit. No one calls someone a niceguy becayse they complain about dating. They call them a nice guy if they complain that a friend wont date them even though they are a super "nice guy" and have done tons of things for that friend without telling her they want to date her. And the entire reason the term came about was because the people CALLED THEMSELVES nice guys when they were objectively not. If you want to use the poor minority example then it would be some rich white dude …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:25 PM
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Uh. No? I'm losing weight because I want to feel better about myself and fit in my old clothes and stop having so much pain in certain parts of my body. It has 0 to do with getting guys. I'm married with a kid, I do NOT want anything to do with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:30 PM
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Eh. In the process of losing 60 lbs and am with the same guy for 10 years. I gained the weight because of pregnancy/early parenthood so while we were together but still. I think its silly to say women lose weight for the men they want. I am losing it for ME.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:28 PM
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Because you didnt get with a cheater and tell her "if you dont stop cheating, I'll leave you". His boundary would be "I don't date women who post bathing suit pics on instagram" and so he would never have gotten into a relationship with her in the 1st place. If he DID then found out later he would have said "hey, I'm sorry but this isnt going to work. I have a boundary that I dont date women who post bathing suit pics on instagram so I'm going to have to leave this relationship". Those are bound…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 06:57 PM
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This is some bullshit. Statistics show that married men who have kids are the happiest demographic and they tend to live longer. Meanwhile women lose happiness when they get married and have kids. But sure only benefits the women. Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:13 PM
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Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:12 PM
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Thats what me and my husband did. We were off and on in high school then broke up for good when he joined the military and I went to college. When I was around 22 I was leaving college and he was deployed so we just randomly reconnected over skype and within a month of him coming back we were living together, married a year later and trying for a baby a year after that. We've been married 8 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:09 PM
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Thats.. gross. If I were that women I would stay away from you if I read this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:08 PM
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They aren't talking about sex, they are talking about dating for relationships which is a different thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:39 PM
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Most women want a man TALLER than them and that height will vary based on the height of the woman. I am very short and have dated men 5'2 to 6'1. Most short women I know are similar. The tall women have dated guys shorter than them often.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 08:22 PM
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Being tall isnt all there is. I was friends with a dude who is 6'4 and he really struggled (and still does if facebook is any indication) getting a girlfriend. The reason was mostly that he didn't look that great. Height is definitely not the deciding factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 08:21 PM
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That usually comes from ignorance. It happens with military spouses too. They THINK they know what they are getting into but they actually don't and it really sucks when you have a family and your husband is gone a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:39 PM
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For one, yes they do (life expectancy in the US is 78). And for two, middle age doesnt mean literally middle of your lifespan.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:34 AM
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You can put out the things he did wrong while also acknowledging the timing was bad. Its not either or. Honestly I couldn't care less what he did because I don't care about celebrities. The main issue here is all the people who are calling what he did a boundary because that is a way bigger problem. If you are mistaking his controlling behavior for boundaries then you are likely doing the same in your real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:59 AM
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You're not understanding the difference. He can have a boundary to not be with someone who does those things. But in order to enforce that boundary, he would have 1) not gotten into the relationship at all because she didnt meet that boundary to begin with or 2) when he did finally realize she didn't meet it he would leave. Saying "i will leave UNLESS" is the controlling part. If your boundary is monogomy then you don't get into a relationship with someone you know isn't monogomous. If you got i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:56 AM
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No because the person they responded to didn't say "if you keep going to church, I'm leaving you so you should stop going to church" he said "hey, we are incompatible (because of religion) so I'm ending it". One is manipulative and the other is incompatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:51 AM
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Boundaries are something you enforce on yourself. Controlling is something you force onto others. If he had a boundary against his girlfriend wearing a swimsuit on instagram and talking to male surfers then he should have never gotten with someone who does those things regularly. His boundary would be "i dont date people who do that" and that would be fine. What he did was not enforce a boundary. He went into a relationship KNOWING she did not fit what he wanted and then tried to guilt her into …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:48 AM
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Thats absolutely not the same thing. One is asking for a monogomous relationship. The other is trying to change someone's job, hobbies, and interests. Her wearing a bathing suit surfing is absolutely nothing like kissing a guy. Thats such a dumn comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:46 AM
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Context doesnt really matter. She should have said something earlier but it doesnt make his behavior fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:42 AM
1

Thats definitely not the average experience. I've had guys in the past be so angry after rejection that I was honestly scared they might hurt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:48 PM
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Even if that were true we know that the average woman sleeps with less than 10 men in a lifetime. Those ARE long term relationships with maybe a fling once or twice. Why do so many people think all women are constantly sleeping around? And before you even go on about how "but gen z are having more sex now!" No they arent. They're having less sex. So even less body count in a lifetime. Its all just so ridiculous. Why are we talking about the 2% of women who sleep with 20+ men?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:57 AM
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Most people dont. If a man cares that much about how many guys I've slept with, I don't want to be with him anyways. IME the vast majority of men do not care about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:52 AM
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Sorry I didnt realize that you didnt have a real job unless you make 100k+ a year. Most people in the US men AND women work jobs. Average salary is like 30k.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 05:34 PM
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Yes. My husband has done 2 of those 3 things. It happens sometimes in life. I chose him as my life partner, not my "only if you're hot" partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:46 PM
5

For real "sorry, hunny you're fucking ugly now"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:44 PM
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Most women bodies are changed even if they lose the weight. Pregnancy changes physical aspects of your body for good. For example most womens breasts start dropping after 1 pregnancy and do so more after each one. Hips tend to widen as well. Feet get bigger. These are changes almost every women goes through after pregnancy and none have to do with weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:41 PM
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I disagree. Exhaustion messes up the hunger chemicals in your brain which can cause overeating even if you aren't trying to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:34 PM
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Yes I gained about 60 lbs when pregnant because eating was one of the only ways to keep myself from puking and I was puking until 30 weeks. I lost about half pretty soon after birth then gained it back. Because I was exhausted and depressed and struggling. My son turned 3 a few months ago and I've been finally slowly working my way back down now that I've got a bit more time and energy and have gone down 2 pants sizes so far. A lot of time weight gain like that means something else is going on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:34 PM
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Why not? Men want it, women who want it want it for the same reasons. I wouldn't mind it myself. I somehow ended up as the stay at home spouse and honestly don't like it much so I'd love to switch.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 09:23 AM
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Yes. I am a SAHM because my husband cant quit his job and I'd switch places in a heartbeat. My job as the SAHP sucks but I do like that one of us is home with our son most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 09:18 AM
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Gay people do exist. Also statistics work so that if men are having higher numbers on average and women have lower numbers on average with SOME having very high numbers then the average won't be the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:12 AM
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Sure but its not often. I've had sex with 4 men and only 1 of those was a fling with the other 3 being long term relationships. Most women are not going from fling to fling
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:11 AM
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Yeah at 20 I'd had sex with 1 man. At 30, my number is 4 and 1 is my husband. Only 1 of those was a fling and it lasted a few months. Most women I know have had sex with less than 10 men which makes sense since I believe the average for women in a lifetime is 7? I'd have to check the numbers again though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:09 AM
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They also tend to die more from environmental factors. Cold and heat for example. Male babies are surprisingly more fragile than the female ones
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:46 PM
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Seriously. I never dated any "alpha" dudes but still had failed relationships. 3 of them. Things just don't work out. One of them I loved very much. He is still one of my very good friends and he and my husband get along super well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:36 PM
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Why do you care so much? My biological father is a narcissist asshole who I cut off contact with completely years ago..nust because someone is capable of reproducing it doesn't mean they wjll be a good father or someone who should be involved in a child's life. My life would have been 1000x better if I'd never known my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:54 AM
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Paying child support is not the same as being involved in the childs life. It is literally leaving the mother as a single parent still.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:51 AM
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You just do. My dad owes my mom over 100k in child support. At some point they stopped garnishing his wages and it wasnt worth it for het to keep going back to court to fight it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:49 AM
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Its not just that. Part of why they are alone is the same as incels:personality. Even lowering their standards may not help because rhey are awful to be around. I used to be an incel lady and I was just annoying. Also women who are incels usually want a telationship, not just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:41 PM
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If you think New York and Wyoming have the same politics I have some news for you. We have different tax rates in each state, different laws, different cultures, and yes different sports and media. No its not exaxtly the same as the EU but its a lot closer to that than it is to provinces in a country.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:43 PM
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It arises from a culture that hates women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:37 PM
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So as a western woman who was trying to get into a male dominated field, you are wrong. You are very very very wrong. There is still so much sexism involved in our society and in the way we expect women to act and the way we react when they don't act that way. It was terrible. So terrible that I personally could not do it and have so much respect for anyone who does. Respectfully, you have no idea what you are talking about. We are literally having our rights stripped away right now, and you cal…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:35 PM
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Most women between 25 and 30 look exactly the same as they did at 23. Thats the point. The wall is a stupid concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:02 PM
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Also for number 3 the women who were abused by older men at young ages. I know that there is a huge power imbalance in those age gaps if the girls is under 21 because I WAS THAT GIRL. Its gross and youre gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 02:02 PM
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25 dating 19 IS weird. One of you can go to a bar and the other cannot. After 21 its more of a free for all, but before that you should stay away from girls younger than 21 if you couldn't go to high school with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 02:01 PM
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You can trust that they THINK they are correct while verrifying. My husband has said some stupid shit but he absolutely thought it was true. He wasnt lying on purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:01 PM
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Its not 50% and hasnt been for a long time. Decreases every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:00 PM
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Right. Because women wanting equal rights is an immediate turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:58 AM
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I really can't relate to that. Sometimes I was sex multiple times a day and sometimes we go weeks or months without it. Life is constantly changing and libido with it. I definitely would rather once a month than never.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 12:43 AM
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Oh dear fucking god. Are you seriously defending PEDOPHILIA?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:38 PM
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Exactly for 6. My mom and stepdad are 13 years apart. When he graduated high school she was barely even in KINDERGARTEN. OP is missing the point. Its not gross because of the age GAP. Its gross because of the age of the younger one. No one cares that my mom and stepdad are that far apart because she is grown adult. Its gross when that girl is under 20 because she is NOT. And its gross because many many of us were groomed by older men as teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:37 PM
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Except they haven't actually every had to deal with it. You can say "oh I wouldn't care" but I can still know the minute someone 6 inches taller than you and 200 lbs heavier than you gets pushy about their interest in you that it would freak you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 11:35 AM
6

So then if a HVF cheats on her husband its the man's fault right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 06:50 PM
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Because the women are also attractive and could be with tons of men and arent? The entire point is that they both agreed to be monogomous and one is not holding up their end of the deal. That makes them low value despite all the other shit they bring to the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 06:48 PM
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That is absolutely not true. Men can love their partners just as much as women do and those people do not cheat. I know my husband has opportunity to do so before and been put into situations where he has said no and left. If a man cheats he is a below average man IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 06:44 PM
1

Once a woman has sex once she isnt a virgin, so its literally not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 04:28 AM
0

I've literally never been asked that question except by people online.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 04:26 AM
1

Agreed. I masturbate even though I have regular sex with my husband. They are separate needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:53 PM
1

Its not even just ethical. Some people don't like it. I'm a woman but I personally prefer erotic stories over porn and my husband just uses his own visualization.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 07:51 PM
3

I never thought pregnancy or birth was beautiful. I went through them for the end result, not the experience. I am literally in the process of trying to do it again knowing full well what it all feels like
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:28 AM
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Oh stop. I love my kid. I'm glad he exists and that I get to be his parent. He was still an absolute parasite in the womb because he made me so sick I puked every day for 8 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:25 AM
2

Teasing is not hitting. We are talking about physical abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:20 AM
3

Ive never researched my husband online ever. But sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:31 PM
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As a woman i can tell you that we aren't good at measuring dick sizes unless there is a ruler involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:38 PM
0

Right because every short guy in a happy relationship is a "beta". There is literally no way to disprove that because you could say that about anyone without knowing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:54 PM
1

I'm 5'1 and absolutely chose the guy who was funny and 5'6 over the guy who was funny and 6'. There is a thing as too much height too. I definitely prefer someone around 4 to 5 inches taller than me but its not a deal breaker or anything. Guys just hear that height isnt the only thing that matters and think it means we don't care at all. Of course some people have preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:36 PM
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I've dated someone shorter than me, but as someone 5'1 it is extremely hard to find men who actually are shorter than me. It would be something I'd have to deliberately search out which is no longer "not caring".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:35 PM
2

My husband is 5'6 and does face masks so -shrug-
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:33 PM
0

I dont think it is a lie. Everyone has different priorities and there probably IS someone out there that will love you. But they can be hard to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:32 PM
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Yes but I think thats the point. Dating is hard for everyone. The painful sex is a real issue though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:40 AM
3

I literally never even think about my exes. They happened a decade ago. Thats so far behind me its not even relatable to the life I live today.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:28 AM
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Really? My husband is 5'6 and decidedly average to ugly to the rest of the population. I personally think hes fucking adorable, but that isn't an opinion most have. He is hairy as a bear and scarred all on his face from chicken pox and acne. He is in the military so his paycheck is shit and I have to live places that I hate. But I moved 100s of miles to be with him because I fucking love him to bits and have for almost 15 years now. I did not have to do that and absolutely wouldn't if he was jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:26 AM
2

When you say all women are like that you are saying all women do exactly the same things and thats just not true any more than all men do the same things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:23 AM
2

My triggers are someone who is 5'7 or shorter and likes the same hobbies as me and isn't an asshole Its not that fucking rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:21 AM
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Yeqh because your opinion is based on a small subset of women that you then generalize to all of us. I personally have only known a handful that fit the stupid AWALT
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:20 AM
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Sex isn't a need. I didn't have sex for 18 years until the first time and then went without it for years at a time after that. I won't die without sex. I will die without food. I like sex. I'm happier when I'm having sex. Its still not a need. Even in my marriage there have been times when our bedroom was "dead" because of life stuff getting in the way. Deployments, high risk pregnancy, a baby, stress at work, etc. Right now its my husband who has the lower libido and you don't see me ranting ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 06:47 AM
1

Maybe in your experience. I am a mom who is actively involved in the parenting world and it absolutely is my own experience that men are praised for doing the absolute bare minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:23 AM
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Because its a common experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:20 AM
1

Dad takes 3 kids to the park "wow, what a great dad. Hes really helping out and involved " Mom takes 3 kids to the park. "Wow, does she know what birth control is?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:19 AM
1

Nah. When I see it is usually in regards to husbands and fathers who act like a man child and won't do their share of the household work. Many many times they help until the woman is "trapped". I've seen it happen to men with their wives as well but not nearly as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:18 AM
9

But what makes a suitable woman? Because I bet your answer is a huge red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:57 AM
3

No... that was the reaction to the person that they replied to. Do you not know how to read reddit comment chains?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:54 AM
8

All the dudes in this sub serious overestimate both alimony and child support and the likely hood of receiving it. Just because someone owes you either does not mean you'll ever see it. I know so many women (inlcuding my mother) who never saw a dime because the ex wouldn't pay and they couldn't afford to take him to court again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:53 AM
1

Lol what? Women don't think sexuality is evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:17 PM
1

Says who? The people tinder? Newsflash. Most women aren't on tinder. I am 5'1 and picked a guy who was 5'7 to marry. Its been my favorite height so far. I have dated a guy who was almost 6' and it was awkward and I hated it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:08 PM
6

I am 29. I don't have an instagram except for my handmade items business. Its literally pictures of things I sell and that's it. I post on facebook twice a month. The only time I was active on facebook was when I was in high school. I have never had a personal instagram. Maybe we aren't the delusional ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:00 PM
5

That article is straight up lying. The more education someone has the less likely they are to divorce. We have known that for awhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:58 PM
4

Oh right. Sorry. I forgot as a woman I have never been horny in my whole life while also wanting to have sex with someone. Wow. Or maybe... maybe I have. Many many times. And because I am an adult, I just dealt with the fact that it is a me issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:57 PM
20

Why does interest have to be sex? Also when my husband and I were dating, the expenses came out of BOTH of our pockets.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:55 PM
1

The same things that men bring. It depends on the person and their strengths and weakenesses. There is nothing that all women bring to a relationship just as there is nothing all men bring to a relationship. Its a stupid question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:48 PM
6

Lmao. Pair bond? We aren't birds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:14 PM
1

There is not only heterosexual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:12 PM
1

Its anonymous. There is 0 reason to lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:11 PM
1

But why does you seeing escorts before marriage matter if you're not doing it anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:09 PM
1

How old is she? That would be like.. having sex with a new person every day. Who has the energy for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:08 PM
10

He is saying that divorce rates for the country do not translate to the individual because it is possible to lower your risk of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:10 AM
12

Totally agree. Most men I know that got divorced did so after getting a new chick meanwhile the women didn't find someone new until later.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:56 AM
2

Nah its because the men are what are making them shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:54 AM
0

Oh thats bullshit. If he has no money then there are no assets to split and he won't be paying alimony. Alimony is only given in cases where the one person greatly outearns the other and it has been given to men as well if they were the ones earning less.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:52 AM
5

Happened to my mom as well. He cheated and moved in with the other woman but didn't file.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 08:50 AM
-3

Self evident to you maybe. There are tons of things that men and women experience the same. This is a ridiculous take.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:27 AM
-1

This is such bullshit and I hate it. I was considered attractive when I was dating (I am fatter now so probably not anymore) and it was extremely hard for me as well. All I got were creeps or nothing. I was socially awkward because I didn't start dating until I was over 18 and didn't really know what I was doing. Could I have gotten sex? Sure. But that's not what I or most women are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:25 AM
7

I agree with this. Many women have reactive libidos. So they are maybes and then when someone starts some foreplay they become yeses. Men tend to be yeses from the start. But not always. Just depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:34 AM
10

Uh... have you ever given a blow job? Theyre not exactly the height of fun. Its uncomfortable and makes my neck and jaw sore after awhile. Its also smelly even if the guy has just washed because.. well.. penis has a distinct smell. I'd rather do dishes if we are talking about chores. Blowjobs are great when I'm having sex with my husband because then we are both into it. I don't mind those bad things because I want to give my husband pleasure just like he is doing to me. Its a totally different …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:30 AM
6

Why would anyone want to have sex with someone who wasn't enthusiastically into it? Sometimes people are not in the mood. Its not a crime. Marriage is noy about getting sex every time you ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:29 AM
1

Thats because you don't know many women then. I certainly didn't do that any of the times my relationships ended. And I personally don't know any women who did that after serious relationships. The first weeks/months are spent crying and watching shitty tv while eating comfort foods. Not having shitty sex with strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:20 AM
1

You're flirting with other women and keeping them on the side in case of a breakup. Women who do that are just as shitty. But You're trying to argue that its okay because all women can go have aex after a breakup. One, thats not true. And two, sex is not a relationship. And three, they aren't doing anything to encourage that so its just not even close to the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:17 AM
1

She said THESE guys, not ALL guys. Only one person is projecting here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:14 AM
-1

But you're sitting here assuming that women are oy "shocked" after a break up. Break ups can be heartbreaking and they aren't something you get over judt because you have sex with someone else. You're starting your argument with a false premise. If my husband left me, I definitely wouldn't be going out trying to find someone new for a long time. It would be devastating. I definitely don't have a "back up". And I don't want one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:12 AM
-3

How is it impossible? We know that happened with r/incels. If it were impossible, we wouldnt. And for the record, your reason about islam is no different when applied to christianity.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 10:15 AM
6

Because its a bunch of misogynists constantly talking about how women are no better than children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 10:14 AM
7

I mean, I do like the look personally. But he absolutely looks his age and if a woman looked like that everyone would call her "haggard".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 04:57 AM
6

A lot of it is genetics, not "taking care of yourself" whatever that means. My mom doesn't take care of herself at all and looks 10+ years younger than she is. I was carded at a vape store at 27 because they didn't believe I was over 18. It varies greatly person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 04:55 AM
8

I am very happily married with a man I love. We have a family together. I do not want anyone's men. What I do want is to warn girls about older men because as a teenager I was groomed. Multiple times. And I couldn't recognize it until I was older.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 11:18 PM
15

But just because you're attracted to someone, it doesn't make it RIGHT. A 30 year old can be attracted to an 18 year old. Its still gross. And speaking from my own experience, all the men (20+) who came after me as a teenager absolutely were predators. Maybe she was speaking from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 11:13 PM
9

Yes? That's exactly what I'd think
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:14 AM
3

I'd ask bill clinton how that definition worked for him. Oral sex is sex. Anal sex is sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:12 AM
1

No. It implies that a man with average dick is better than small dick. And thats gonna be true for a lot of women, but not all of them. If I had to choose between big and small, I'd choose small. Big physically hurts and I can't do my favorite positions because they go too deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:11 AM
3

I paid for dates all the time when I was working. Guess I'm not a real woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:37 AM
3

Cool. I was super privileged when I was groomed,sexually assaulted and abused by my 25 year old boyfriend at 16. I was super privileged when I was harrassed by my male classmates in college. I was super privileged when no doctor would take my health issues seriously because they had to do with my uterus. And these are just the things off the top of my head that have been major in my life. There are so many more. Maybe stick to talking about things you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:34 AM
0

Oh fuck this. Sorry but as a woman who experienced the tech industry, its not even close to the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:32 AM
5

I guess I'll let my husband know that the internet thinks he's a chad. He will be absolutely shocked because he always says he looks like he got runover by a car.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:31 AM
4

30 is not when fertility takes a dive. A 25 year old had a 25% chance of getting pregnant every month. A 30 year old has a 20% chance. The huge drop off is 40 when it drops to 5%.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 09:58 PM
3

Not really. Thats a 70% success rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 09:56 PM
12

Right. My husband and I are both introverts but we sre both fine in social situations and actively seek them out sometimes. Being an inttovert means that I recharge at home, not that I never go out with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 09:35 AM
3

I mean.. you won't die without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:58 AM
0

Its jot about telepathy, its about the lived experience. We have all dated or know someone who has dated someone like that. And so we all know what it means because of that. Sure. Its not going to be all women, but it sure is most of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:57 AM
11

I've actually never persoanlly met a woman who feels that their male SO showing emotions and comforting them makes them a mommy. I'm sure they exist somewhere, but I actually think this is something that MEN feel is true when its a vast minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:55 AM
6

Jobs aren't the only thing you sacrifice as a SAHP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:41 AM
1

Why? I'm married to someone in the military and the biggest annoyance is how shitty they treat him. So the military is the issue, not the man. I can't wait for him to get out, but I would have never not married him just because he is in. I wouldn't have missed out on a great guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:40 AM
3

The jobs that I had did not pay enough to cover childcare in my area. But I guess I should have worked anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:35 AM
3

Just... to correct, you don't pay child support AND alimony. If you're paying child support, you're not paying alimony. If you're paying alimony, you have no kids and also make significantly more than your spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:33 AM
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Its not just that. I'm a SAHM and I'm fine with it, but if my husband divorced me I would have NOTHING. We have little savings, we don't own our house right now (he's military), I haven't worked for over 5 years and likely won't work for at least another 5. I wouldn't have any money, wouldn't be able to afford childcare since I'd have a shitty job, would likely not be able to afford to be in the same state as my husband or move when he does (again, military). So I'd have to choose between my kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:32 AM
3

Being a SAHM is not workless. My job literally never ends. Chores often get put to the wayside because something was going on with the kid. Some women want to work because they know that being a SAHP is hard. For me personally, its harder mentally than going to an office job. It just sounds like you're talking from inexperience because the fact is that if I'm doing 90% of childcare, my husband needs to help with chores otherwise they aren't going to get done. And he does so without complaint bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 07:56 AM
4

You're talking about date rape. Most women are raped by someone they know and trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:11 PM
6

Cool. I'll tell that to my 19 year old sover self. This is just absolutely not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:10 PM
4

And why do you think that? Of the women i know, none are counting something small as sexual assault. We've all been groped. We call it groping. When I say I was sexually assaulted, I am saying that someone forced me into a sexual position that I did not want and the only reason I don't call it rape was because there was no penetration. You have no idea what you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:09 PM
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I doubt its youm in my experience, many women have this same thing happen to them. I personally have been sexually assaulted and stalked by a man and having only dated 5 or 6, thats a large percentage for me as well. My mom was abused by my dad who convinced everyone he was very charming. So for me, I've always been aware that good guys can turn bad in a flash. Its depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:06 PM
0

But he WAS. If you befriend someone with the intention of getting in a relationship, then you were never really friends. The guys that I've dated who were my friends before are STILL my friends. Because they weren't only being friends with me to get into my pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:03 PM
12

That's an interesting take and I don't really understand it considering statistically ypur daughters are in more danger from men related to them. I am a woman and I have a stepdad.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 08:23 PM
7

I mean.. thats not even close to true.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:29 AM
17

Where do you work? I've honestly never seen anyone have uncontrolled fits of crying where I've worked. And I worked in a field dominated by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:29 AM
3

That is very hard to enforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:19 AM
-4

How? Back in WW2 men were not all fighting. Some were cooks, some were medics, some handled supplies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:18 AM
1

Okay? Even our military is 90% military jobs. Most people are not drafted for combat in the majority of militaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:17 AM
0

Its a complicated issue. In general, it is hard to force both sexes to fight because you also have to think of children. Its a lot easier to say "all men must fight, women go" than "families, choose one parent". The result is the same but the first is way less complicated and easier to enforce. No one wants to leave millions of orphans if they can help it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:15 AM
2

Right. My nexplanon didn't have the same hormones as something like the combo pill. And some IUDs don't have hormones at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:58 AM
4

That might work for someone in their early 20s but it ain't gonna work with someone who wants something stable. I want nothing to do with drama or excitement. My husband helping around the house makes me want to have sex with him way more than if he tried to neg me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:41 AM
2

God forbid a man contribute to the cleanliness of the house that he lives in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:39 AM
4

How so? I am insanely attracted to my husband. I also feel compassion for him when bad things happen to him because I love and care for his happiness. They're not mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:38 AM
0

No she isn't. She's saying that he is making generalizations that are untrue using herself as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:37 AM
7

I really hate that mindset. It doesn't make you not manly if you got raped. Doesn't matter who did it. I can't even wrap my head around the response to someone confiding in you about that being "ew" instead "wow I'm so sorry that happened."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:36 AM
1

Because they are. There are many many men who just sit on their asses and play games all day. There's nothing wrong with doing that aome of the time but they will sit there as their children cry and their wives run around doing everything in the house. Working is not the only way to contribute to the home and its not even the most important.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:31 AM
5

Its not really about the time, its about the effort. Nothing is ever 50 50. What you want is for it to FEEL 50 50. I have a kid and stay at home with him. In order for me to feel like I'm getting a break, my husband has to take over some childcare or chores when he is home. Working more would not make me feel better. Its him being home and helping in the house that makes it feel more 50 50. Even if I was working, my answer would be the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:16 AM
2

Seriously? As long as they have a job and aren't just sitting on their couch all day eating cheetos its good enough for me. My husband was making 35k when we got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 12:35 AM
1

Then don't say it since its not true?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 12:34 AM
0

Is it true for women if they earn less? I wonder if its just a universal thing for people who are home all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 12:33 AM
5

I mean.. doing it every time is boring. Its not bad. Just boring. If thats what you like more power to you, but my husband and I are pretty vanilla and even we have like 3 or 4 go to sex positions besides missionary.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:31 PM
-1

Says you. Most women don't care if their partners watch porn and are aware that exes might be more attractive. Thats life. My husband chose me. I don't care what his exes look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:12 PM
8

Exactly. My husband is what most people would consider "eh" but I think hes adorable and sexy. I can see objectively that hes not conventionally attractive while still being attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:58 PM
8

Okay but I can get an orgasm if I'm doing it myself. I rarely get one out of sex. My husband is one of the only people who has been able to do it. Meanwhile men tend to orgasm every time they have sex even if it takes longer. Its not just about the orgasm, but its not worth it if there is nothing else there and its gonna be shitty sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:02 AM
20

Maybe to a guy. Its not better than no sex to me personally. Bad sex exists for women and its painful and unsatisfying. I have never orgasmed outside of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:57 AM
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Yup. I think that the younger generations are just done with it and good for them. I know my generation expects a lot more from men when they become fathers than my moms or my grandmas generation and that is GOOD. I'd rather be with no one than someone who acts like a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:56 AM
15

Its not the honesty, its the not even trying. Like just do the bare minimum of flirting for a few minutes before trying to proposition someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:03 PM
1

No. Incels hate women. Women hate players. Its different. You could maybe make the argument if women hated all men. There are female incels who hate men as much as male incels. Thats the equivalent. Women can also be players who manipulate men and bounce from short term fling to short term fling. Its not a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 11:49 PM
2

Yeah I think my husband is cute but a lot of people think he is.. not. I've always thought that it may have to do with just loving who he is as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:19 AM
-2

And? My worst sex was with someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 03:27 AM
-1

Ugh this is so true. The men here are so obviously their own problem while trying to make it about the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 03:26 AM
-3

Thats not gotten happen in most LTRS. I have a kid at home and my days are exhausting. I'm definitely not running to the door and ripping my husbands pants off. I love having sex with him and its great whenever we have the time, but I think that's an unrealistic expectation when you've been with some 5, 10, 15+ years.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 03:24 AM
4

Don't forget if they are fat
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:05 AM
3

No. Its wanting different thingd out of life. At 20, I wanted to go clubbing and dancing and drinking. At almost 30, that is not something I want to do at all. So at 20 I was looking for a guy who would be fun to take to a club. That is not the kind of guy who catches my interest at 30. Why is that hard to believe?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 03:29 PM
4

What? Who would deny that? Most people want to get married and be comfortable with a loving partner at some point in their lives. Settle down does not mean settle FOR.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 03:26 PM
1

They do though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 04:14 AM
13

They exist, but they don't mean anything about virginity. Some virgins have them, some non virgins have them. Some are more stretchy and last through multiple sex encounters and some get broken through non sexual encounters (bikes, horse riding, etc) and some women never had one at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:54 PM
12

I broke my hymen on a bike at 8... but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:53 PM
8

Not really? Casual sex and relationships are not the same thing and aren't treated the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:51 PM
8

That's going to greatly depend on the woman. What I find attractive is completely different than what my SIL or my mom find attractive. You're gonna get 1000 different answers. For me its close to my height (so max 5'6, 5'7) and having a nice facial structure and smelling good. Then there had to be some kind of "spark". I only hooked up once and it was because I really liked the dude's personality more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:38 PM
6

Meanwhile I met my husband of 6 years online.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:04 AM
8

Disagree. I know many men who are successful and not sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:41 AM
2

Maybe yours do. Every single one of my relationships started as friendships. My one hookup ended as a hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:05 AM
7

My body is permanently changed from pregnancy. Whether I get to me prepregnancy weight or not, my breasts look different, my hips are wider, I have extra skin at my stomach. Its not just temporary weight gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 11:02 AM
3

Personally, I gained 20lbs (from 125)when first in a relationship with my husband because I was eating bigger portions without knowing it (because I was matching his). I then lost it once I realized. What fucked my weight up badly was pregnancy and postpartum and the birth control I got on. That was 60lbs. It's not something that I'm unaware of or proud of and thankfully my husband is understanding as I try to work on it while also dealing with the stress and daily care of our toddler. Its one t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 11:00 AM
9

Its not that hard if both people want it. Just a bit of paperwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:09 AM
-1

Yes. One is an adult and one is not. I would have never touched a 16 year old at 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 11:18 PM
6

You can join the military at 16 in the US as well. You need parent consent and you don't actually go anywhere until you graduate, but you can join.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 11:17 PM
1

And the men don't? Majority of men in a dead bedroom are in one because they are selfish assholes who let their wives run themselves ragged taking carefof the house and kids alone. They put 0 effort into the relationship and then expect sex at the end of the day anyways. Dead bedrooms happen when the couple is no longer connecting. Sometimes thats because both people are too focused on other things and sometimes there is only 1 person that is the problem. But to say its always because "women don…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:55 PM
-2

Oh thats funny considering all the accused rapists who are living their perfectly normal lives with 0 consequence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:32 PM
9

Lol no you wouldn't. I can't even count the amount of times some drunk asshole has played grabass with me. Women do not call the cops for that and it happens constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:31 PM
3

Its hard to say statistically, but proven false allegations are very rare. Most times, rape cases go nowhere because they are pretty much impossible to prove if there was no violence or drugs. Majority of the time, women report and the cops shrug. No one is getting locked up because they had sex with a drunk woman. Actual violent rapists barely even get locked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:29 PM
4

Okay? So start lobbying for laws to stop casinos from doing that? Why do you want to take away a good thing because something bad still exists? Guys were raping girls who were blackout drunk. There was 0 consent there. Rape is bad whether you feel strongly about sex or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:23 PM
1

Tell that to all the women living in states that no longer allow abortion after week 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:35 PM
1

As someone who went to college to get into software engineering and computer science this is just bullshit. Women don't get into the field because its fucking awful to be a woman in it. There is so much sexism and harrassment that its not even worth it. I experienced it myself. Many. Many. Many times. And its the reason that I ended up NOT pursuing that education despite having put 3 years into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:29 PM
1

What? That's not even a little bit true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:26 PM
1

Disagree because its never about merit. So long as you know the person interviewing is a woman, there is a likely bias. And if you can't fix someone's bias, the only way is to force them to hire women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:24 PM
-1

This doesn't sound like a cap for the parents, it sounds like its the most that the GOVERNMENT is paying to the primary parent in the case that the child support paying parent cannot afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:23 PM
2

No there shouldn't. Someone who is the primary care provider needs to buy things that benefit the child that aren't necessarily for the kid. Like, if mom can't get to work, she can't provide for her kid. So if her tire pops, she should be able to spend the money she has (no matter where it came from) to fix the tire. If there is no house, the kids are without shelter. So paying rent with it is beneficial to the kids. It would be too easy to actually worsen a child's life if you limited the spend…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:19 PM
13

Qs someone who is only 5'1 that's not necessarily true. In order to stay slim I would have to eat 1300 calories a day. Which is basically nothing. Exercise helps bump that up some so its actually possible
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:54 PM
4

Or its because women have more estrogen that leads to more fat retention...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 08:19 PM
11

Because it is. My husband and I make decisions TOGETHER. Why should he get to make decisions that affect us both? That's ridiculous and not a partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 11:25 PM
3

What...? Most women are also looking for these qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 11:22 PM
2

Its not actually. When men fight for custody, they often end up with joint custody
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 11:21 PM
5

As someone with a big butt, there is no hiding it. Nothing I have ever worn has been able to. And I have tried at various points in my life. Boxy dresses look slutty because they end up too short.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:19 AM
1

Why does tight clothes hurt you? I workout in tight clothes because I am comfortable in that. Specifically, sports bras and bike shorts because I get hot easily and those keep me cool and comfortable. I don't go to the gym to get stared at. In fact, I don't go to the gym at all. I work out at home. But I definitely wouldn't change how I dress just because I go to the gym instead. This is qbsolutely a "you" problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:14 AM
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This is literally what my husband wears when he works out. Never gotten a single complaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:11 AM
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I mean.. its a bit vain but not narcissistic. There's nothing wrong with liking how you look either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:07 AM
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It's not really the same. The weirdest part about being pregnant and sex/attractiveness was the moving baby in my belly, not the weight gain. I was super cute during pregnancy. Lots of people don't get less attracted to women while they are pregnant and a lot of guys are into the whole "i am man, this is my seed" thing. Having baby move while having sex though? Uck. That was gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:45 PM
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The vagina is a muscle. A stitch won't actually make things tighter, it will just make things painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 01:42 PM
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But they DON'T say that. That's the point. They lead you on by saying the exact opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 04:09 AM
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They're expensive because people will pay that. And it will continue even if its legalized everywhere. Low quality women will charge less, hot women will charge more. Its delusional to think otherwise. And even when it was legal everywhere (hundreds of years ago) men still got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:36 AM
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Yup Tom Hanks is a pedophile but blessed Trump was just there for his good buddy and never touched any of those girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:58 PM
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Yes because people don't want to be friends with racist misogynistsic homophobes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:55 PM
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Doesn't matter. Someone who is prolife is completely against my own morals and directly affects my life and my control over my body. I don't want anything to do with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:53 PM
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What does this even mean. There are really only 2 sides in the US. If you don't like one side, then you vote the other. You don't want them to vote at all? I will never vote for someone who supports banning abortion. Ever. Period. End of. And so I will always vote democrat. The inflation is caused by COVID. Its happening all over the world. I'm 100% sure people would rather have had that rent help so they could stay in their homes than the 25 cents less at the dollar store that almost no one sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:50 PM
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Yess. Republican policies directly affect me and I want nothing to do with a man that agrees with them. My husband does lean slightly republican but we agree on all moral issues, just not necessarily fiscal ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:47 PM
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Nah. It depends kore on lifestyle and where you live. I am not upper middle class or wealthy and I SAHM and know many parents who do as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:13 AM
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Can you do all those things while raising children? Because I'll tell you now that I don't know a single SAHM that is up to date on her chores if she has toddlers in the house. Just doesn't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:09 AM
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Okay let me just stop you there. I am happily married and a SAHM. Not struggling and super supported by my husband. But staying home is fucking hard and some days I wish I was working instead. Like, at least understand what you're talking about before you ask why no one does it? Part of it is finances and part of it is the complete isolation that comes with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:06 AM
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Or we could encourage women to stay in the work force if they want and support EITHER parent staying home because dads can raise children just as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:04 AM
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You might be able to i guess? I dunno. In my experience I knew way more dudes acting like a manchild than women who couldn't take care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 07:14 AM
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My chubby husband would love to tell you about the dad bod and how it typically happens to MARRIED men who definitely are not perpetually single. If men are more likely to be single its because there are more men in the world. Otherwise it wouldn't statistically be possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 07:09 AM
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This is actually not true. In general, woman's happiness goes DOWN when they get married and DOWN when they have children. Women are statistically happier while single. Also as a not religious woman who is not on the verge of suicide and doesn't do drugs.. thats a hell of a statement to make based on a very small sample size.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 07:05 AM
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That's a misnomer. 80% of a woman's total eggs die before she's even born. 50% of the eggs she is born with die before she hits puberty. You can't decide fertility based on that. Even at 10% there are tens of thousands of eggs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:40 AM
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When I've seen it, it's been creepy older men grooming teenagers and that's the only reason it gets talked about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:37 AM
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I guess lesbians don't have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:25 AM
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Holy shit man. Men and women are equally self centered and that is okay. Sometimes it is good to be looking out for yourself. Great grandma chose the first man who could feed her because she wasn't allowed to work and then she stayed in an abusive unsatisfying marriage because she wasn't allowed to divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:15 AM
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Dude why are you so obsessed with this topic. For the record, my husband is 5'6 and adorable as all hell. I hate this bullshit. You're not doomed if you are short or your penis is small.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:13 AM
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Women want what feels good. I prefer on the smaller end because I am small too. Average women will want average. Its pretty normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:11 AM
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I guess only 5% of men have partners then if its that important. Oh wait. That is not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:10 AM
2

Tilted uteruses (which is what you're talking avout) don't cause more pain during sex. About 20% of women have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:07 AM
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Uh. Tip of the cervix is usually where women want to stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:04 AM
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Okay but touching a penis and looking at it are different than using them. I might choose 7 if I'm looking but I definitely would choose sub 6 if I was using.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:04 AM
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Why? She literally said it was perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:03 AM
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He didn't think there was a chance, but alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:20 AM
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Being conventionally attractive and being attractive to your partner are completely different things. My husband is considered ugly in his social circle but I think je is freaking adorable and he absolutely can turn me on. We were together a long time before babies were even considered and when we got married we actually considered going childfree. Looks aren't everything, but even if they were not everyone finds the same things attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:18 AM
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I don't see how not wanting a man to make less than you is any different than not wanting a woman to make more than you. They come from the same place in the brain thats says men should provide. I think its a dumb place, but for some reason only women get shit on for their side when it comes to RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:05 AM
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No. Women don't like AWALT because it is calling all of us narcissistic children incapable of love and taking care of ourselves. Women aren't wonderful, they are just people. Don't treat them like gods and don't treat them like dogs. Treat them like any other person. Most men wouldn't like if I said AMALT and called them all narcisstic abuser incapable of loving anyone other than themselves. You are being pretty misogynistic in this comment so I don't think you've actually left the AWALT thinkin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:00 AM
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But like seriously this is why I got married. I wanted my husband to have medical rights to me in case of a coma or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 09:14 PM
1

Why is it all going towards them? My husband makes 4 to 5k a month. Only maybe 500 goes to me and our child directly. The rest benefits him just as much as us because its things like bills or things we do for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 09:11 PM
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I know many people this has happened to. You'd be surprised. Especially back in the days when pregnancy meant marriage. My grandpa's father on his birth certificate was not his real dad and he knew it because she was pregnant when they met.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 09:08 PM
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Right. There are ways to ask for paternity tests that don't feel as awful as just being straight out. Like.. my husband and I talked about it for a bit as an INSURANCE that our kid is his to courts if for some reason that was necessary one day. We didn't end up doing it, but did do a DNA test on our son eventually to test him for a genetic mutation my husband has and that itself showed that my husband was his father so in the end we did technically do a paternity test. Anyways, my point is there…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 09:06 PM
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Or they love their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:11 AM
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Why is it zero ambition? If someone knows they want to be a parent and comes to the conclusion that they want to stay at home, that isn't no ambition. That is a very clear goal. I dunno. I am a stay at home mom and its not easy so I don't really understand why its treated as someone bumming out. Going to work everyday was way easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:10 AM
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I would say most women would not do that so no. I personally have never known a woman who would or has.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:08 PM
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Agreed. My husband has only cried once the entire time I've known him and it was heartbreaking because I love him and don't want him hurt. It didn't make me lose attraction to him, it just made me want to stay close and comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:07 PM
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Its not that it matters most, its that personality can make you attractive to someone even if your looks are meh
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 09:24 AM
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Uh no. Your cervix is open and there is a huge wound in your uterus. Washing is not helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:37 PM
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Jesus fucking christ. My husband looks exactly the same as he did before we had a kid. I still didn't want to have sex with him for awhile after birth and while breastfeeding. Why? For a lot of reasons, but mainly it was my hormones. Weaning helped my.libido go back up. That's right. Libido. Which is real. You can't just say "all this science is bullshit because I say so". We have sex now and he's not more attractive. Soooo i dunno man. Also, I wouldn't have had sex with anyone during that time.…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:34 PM
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Men don't need it any more than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:31 PM
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That's about how long bleeding lasts afterwards, so maybe that's why?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:29 PM
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If you don't want to be married to somekne with a mom bod, don't have a kid with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:26 PM
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He isn't. The guys who are like this usually aren't helping. My husband didn't even offer sex once the first... 3 to 4 months? We waited until 6 because I was struggling with the fear of it hurting. Now we are back to normal unless its been a stressful week with our now toddler.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:24 PM
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Because I don't want to? Because I'm exhausted and tired and there is milk leaking out of my boobs and a baby has been clinging to me all day and if I'm less than 6 weeks postpartum I was still feeling like my vagina was falling out and having god awful itching from my stitches and if my husband had even put his penis near my mouth I would have bit it off. Why are people not allowed to not be in the mood at all? My husband wasn't in the mood for sex either and he wasn't even going through the ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:19 PM
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What?? Why are you even bringing this up? Also FAS is complicated. It isn't just alcohol use= FAS. Some people drink their entire pregnancies and have healthy babies and some women have a single glass of wine and have a child with FAS.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:15 PM
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My problem with TRP is that they call women children and tell other men that we cannot live our own lives and have to be told what to do by men. It has nothing to do with men having their own space.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:12 AM
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Women discussing themselves is not lecturing. I don't understand why RP men have decided that they know an entire gender better than the people who belong to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:05 AM
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Jokes on the redpillers because I started trying to have a kid at 23, had two miscarriages and infertility and it wasn't until my late 20s that I finally got pregnant and had a kid. There's never a guarantee of fertility no matter your age. And even if you look at fertility facts, they don't drop significantly until 35. Until then, its just a small change.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 11:25 PM
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Why do you believe women can't be single? When I was single by choice I wasn't dating. I didn't want to. I had other things I was focusing on. People hitting on you isn't dating, its annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 10:14 AM
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Not all women see it that way. My husband and I always alternated who paid when we were dating. Relationships are not transactional for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 01:26 AM
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You want to be the dude she has sex with and then never saw again? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 01:23 AM
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I don't know why you think the women who are waiting to have sex are the same women who are having casual sex. These are not the same people unless you are talking years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 01:17 AM
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Seriously. Yes, I can be attracted to someone I don't know. Hell NO, I'm not going to have sex with them just cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 01:12 AM
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I'm attracted to my husband. I think he is super cute and sexy. I'm not jumping his bones constantly. Sex drive doesn't work that way for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:34 PM
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I only know one woman who can't masturbate to orgasm so "a good chunk" is absolutely false.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:33 PM
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Its still true if you end up following that script. I had to be the pregnant one and now I'm the one expected to do everything. My husband is great and a wonderful dad. But if he takes out kid for a couple hours alone, everyone is on and on about how amazing he is. Meanwhile, I watch our kid alone for 6 hours or more every single weekday. No praise here. Society is still sexist as crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:32 PM
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But there isn't. The internet isn't real life. I've never met a single woman who referred to herself as a queen except as a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:27 PM
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So do adult women. I am a late 20s woman and my husband is short. I prefer short men because I am short. We are not one singular thing with one singular attraction. In high school, I was attracted to 1 certain look of dude and thought other looks were gross. As I got older, I became more attracted to other things. In high school, I thought chest hair was a super turn off. Now I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:07 PM
1

That is just not a true statistic
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:06 PM
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Not everyone has casual sex in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:04 PM
0

So all the happily married short dudes be damned hm?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:03 PM
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Mmm.. i went from weighing 110 to 130 between 16 and 24. I never even made it to overweight. 2/3rds of Americans are overweight or obese, true. But its not some magic thing that happens between 16 and 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:01 PM
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I'm attracted to my husband. Is he the most attractive man I've ever met? No. Of course not. But he IS attractive to me. If I went for the most attractive man I've ever met, then I'd be settling in a lot of other regards because that dude was a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 10:59 PM
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But the money isn't what they are choosing. They are choosing a supportive man with good character who will make a good husband and father. The exact same thing that he is describing the men doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 10:57 PM
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Uh.. I'm a parent 24/7/365. So yeah. I do understand putting in 2400 hours at work every year. Just because you don't see domestic work as work, doesn't mean that you're correct. My husband says that going to work is a break compared to all the crap that has to be done at home and he works a very hand on job as an aircraft mechanic. You get no medal for the same reasons that I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 10:08 AM
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Just because you know how doesn't mean you will actually do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 10:06 AM
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Uh.... who is to say they wouldn't detonate the relationship they have with you for someone else then?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 10:04 AM
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That's how you feel but that's just not reality for many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 10:03 AM
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Sounds like she was pretty upfront about it, so it's on the guys at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 01:40 PM
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Hardly any men fit your definition of wholesome. I have 2 exes and one of them is a great guy who I'm still friends with and the other was a manipulative asshole. The good guy isn't wholesome by your definition, but the asshole is pretty close except for the asshole part.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 01:37 PM
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Thicc is in if you are skinny and have a big butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 05:24 PM
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30 years when it comes to behavior is a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 05:56 PM
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It's going to depend on who you're in a relationship with, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:21 AM
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It happen all the time. I haven't been in college for a few years now, but the people looking for casual sex and the people looking for relationships did not go out looking for the same people. I didn't hook up with people and then get in a relationship. I met dudes, had a ton in common with them, went out a few times, etc etc. It's pretty normal if you are looking for an LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:20 AM
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You're so right about the difference between friends and partners. Conversations between partners should be waaaay more open.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 10:06 AM
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That sounds ridiculous. I could see looks being important in the short term, but for marriage? You're spending your life with this person and you'd rather she be pretty than someone you enjoy being around?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 05:13 PM
3

They were pro terrorist because they literally worshipped a mass shooter. Which is the whole reason they got nuked in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 12:29 PM
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It causes anyone who goes on next to slip and potentially hurt themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:48 PM
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That depends. I have a pear shape and carry most of my weight in the thighs and butt. Someone who is an apple is not going to look "thick" when chubby. They are going to look chubby.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:46 PM
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"Her kids" you mean "OUR kids".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 02:25 AM
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That is NOT why men minimize custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 02:24 AM
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But it IS for the kids. Just because you can't verify that all parents use it that way doesn't mean that isn't the purpose of child support. My dad refused to pay and it was really hard for my mom to raise my brother and I on her salary without his support. Despite taking him to court multiple times, he always somehow got out of paying and she eventually gave up because of all the time and effort it took
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 02:22 AM
4

Cheaters were only ostracized if it became public. Most people would ignore it if they knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 02:04 PM
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I don't know how you can look at a society that literally constantly caters to male sexuality in its advertising, tv show, movies, medicine, laws, etc and think that society shames men for that same sexuality. I'm sorry, but it's the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 01:30 PM
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That's true, but as you said, they both have medical applications and yet only one is covered by insurance. Because the other might allow women to have sex casually and we as a society dislike that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 01:27 PM
3

How extended are you talking? Birth defects don't increase in chance because of age until well into your 30s and sometimes not until 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 01:26 PM
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My husband once put a charcoal mask on his face. Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 08:00 AM
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Or she just doesn't like casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:59 AM
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They're literally all around you. Stop listening to reddit and talk to real women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:59 AM
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Why wouldn't she? Is that a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:58 AM
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I went to college in a big city and my n count is 4 including my husband. 3 of those were LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:57 AM
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Since always. The average lifetime count for a woman is very close to the average for a man's. It's not even in the double digits.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:56 AM
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Nah. I knew very few women that had one night stands and I've only had one casual sex relationship in my life. Most women have sex with their boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 07:54 AM
0

Women on okcupid are not the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:53 AM
2

So not obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:32 AM
6

Most women are going for men in their league. A small loud minority do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 07:31 AM
2

Not true. Fertility is on the inside, not the outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 06:53 AM
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But the problem is that there AREN'T physical characteristics that come with fertility. Just because you equate youth and fertility doesn't mean that's correct. Teenagers are more likely to miscarry and actually less likely to get pregnant as up to half of their cycles are annovulatory. Before 23, your chances of miscarrying and having complications are also higher. You are most likely to have a healthy successful pregnancy in your late 20s and early 30s. These are facts. Until 35, there isn't e…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 06:52 AM
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I get what you're saying with wanting marriage to be forever, but there was a time when divorce couldn't happen and people just cheated or killed their spouses or lived in misery for the rest of their lives. I'd rather have divorce. Now that divorce exists, people tend to be happier in their marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 06:48 AM
2

Knowing that your age affects how you look and saying that all women after 25 are old and ugly and infertile are completely different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 05:54 AM
2

If you've ever said AWALT then I don't feel like you have a leg to stand on with calling the caption rude. Especially since one is a joke and the other is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 09:22 PM
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I've done plenty of yardwork since my husband isn't always around. It takes the LEAST amount of time out of all my chores. Cutting grass is easy. The lawnmower does the MAJORITY of the work. All I have to do is pop in the battery and walk around the yard for half an hour. I also put together all our furniture, change batteries in smoke detectors, and fix the majority of the things wrong in the house. If I can't fix it, neither can my husband and we are calling someone. But ya, sure, women are in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 08:53 PM
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Studies show that men are happier in marriages than women are so obviously they are getting more out of those relationships. Women are happier single, men are happier married. Seems to me that the answer to which gender needs the other more is simple
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 08:49 PM
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That's you. Not everyone is the same. Monogamy adds to my relationship. Neither my husband and I crave sex outside of our relationship and the monogamy brings us closer together. If you are happier without it, that's fine, but not everyone is like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 03:31 AM
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It's because women have to have some fat for childbirth so we pretty much always carry it even if we are healthy. I believe the lowest most women can get and be considered healthy is like 15% where as men can get much lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 04:33 AM
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Which is a dumb argument since divorce rates are going down, not up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 04:31 AM
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Lol I wish it was life on easy mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 05:13 AM
1

Yes, in general, women will date taller, but I know plenty of women who date men shorter than them. And in my experience, men are just as picky about not dating women taller than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 01:53 AM
3

So men and women can't have things in common? That's such a stupid thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 01:01 AM
2

Why? My best friend is actually one of my exes. It doesn't change the fact that he is my best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 12:59 AM
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Why does that make them beta orbiters? Why can't women just have good friends whether they are Male or female? It's such a dumb argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 12:57 AM
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I don't care if you try to get better women but infantilizing women and saying that they are all the same is absolutely misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 06:40 PM
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What? The only reason I have facebook is because my family uses it to communicate with me. Attention whoring and connecting with men? Jesus fucking christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 06:39 PM
0

That sucks and of course the woman should be convicted and put in jail, but women also have to pay child support if they make enough and their child is with their rapist. Stuff like that had happened on both sides. Rape is not convicted they way it should be for either gender, but I agree that it is harder to convict a woman because of everyone's biases towards what constitutes rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 10:15 PM
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Condoms can give you yeast infections.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 05:14 PM
6

Women can get ovarian torsion which men always seem to forget happens. We have three organs that you don't that can all get cancer so the prostate bit is bullshit. Prolapse is a thing for multiple women, look that up, it's fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 05:13 PM
6

That is only true when abortion is accessible to all which it is not right now, especially in the states.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 05:10 PM
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Depends on where you live. A lot of red states have made it almost impossible and unfortunately, going to a different state is not always an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 05:09 PM
7

It's dying. They both suck. It's not better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 05:29 PM
1

I don't remember the exact stats, but if I remember correctly it isn't that men try to commit suicide, but that men are just more likely to succeed. I could be wrong though. Either way, studies show that men are more unhappy when single than when married whereas for women it is the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 12:55 AM
-1

I forgot that us womenz don't know anything about our own motives and must have the men tell us what we are thinking at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 11:56 PM
2

Dude what? Those are not loose clothes. He is literally wearing a form fitting shirt and short shorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 11:54 PM
4

Oh. And you know that because you're a woman? I'm married. I'm not looking for any kind of attention. Sometimes I wear revealing clothes because it's hot as heck outside and sometimes I wear them because they make me feel pretty. It has nothing to do with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 11:49 PM
3

Eh. I have less pairs of shoes than my husband. One pair of flip flops, one pair of sneakers, one pair of snow boots, and one pair of nice sandals for date nights. Not all women love shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 03:17 AM
0

Disagree. Unattractive men date and get married all the time so they obviously have something that makes up for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 03:16 AM
1

Women are offering that when they get married as well, but unfortunately life is not always what we want it to be and sometimes people change and grow apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 03:14 AM
9

Lol this is so ridiculous. Why does this whole place think women only marry for money? They can get their own jobs these days if they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 07:28 AM
1

Yeah that's bullshit. Poor people had unwanted pregnancies all the damn time 100 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 05:40 PM
2

My husband knows immediately if I'm not into it because I can't get myself turned on. If I'm not mentally there, I can't get wet enough for sex and that's not enjoyable for either of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 03:36 AM
2

I would agree with that. Most people want partners who align with their values and priorities and having similar n counts can mean that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 01:16 AM
3

Eh. I don't. I have never preferred assholes and once someone shows they are an asshole, I get them out of my life. The point this person was making was that manipulative people will manipulate. My mom married my dad thinking he was charming and great and a wonderful person who would love and cherish her. And then he took off the mask and physically and emotionally abused her their whole marriage, including cheating on her multiple times and almost choking her to death once. He left her for anot…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 09:38 PM
3

You do realize that it starts to hurt women too, right? We all have our limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 03:09 AM
1

What if the second has dated all the guys that she had sex with while the first had 2 casual sex relationships. You can't tell stuff like that by just a number. You could get a count of 20 by the age of 26 just by dating 2 guys a year assuming you are sexually active by 16.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 10:34 PM
1

Your point is that it means something about how they choose who to sleep with. But it doesn't. A number doesn't tell you if they wait to have sex, have casual sex, or only sleep with serious relationships. Mine is 4 including my husband, but one of those was casual sex and for some dudes here even 4 is too high! It's meaningless to me because it says nothing. But also because it matters more to me what your sexual actions are RECENTLY. Maybe you slept around 10 years ago, but now you don't do ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 10:31 PM
3

So a woman should never have a child with anyone because that man might leave her some day?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 03:59 AM
8

A fetus cannot survive outside the womb until well past 12 weeks. Viability is about 25 weeks and that's only a 50% survival rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 03:59 AM
3

No, it means they're not having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 08:54 PM
8

Yup. My dad is a narcissistic selfish asshole, but man is he charming when he wants to be. He even makes ME like him sometimes and he's treated me like crap most of my life. He had a child with his first wife, then when she left him for basically abandoning her, he tried to kill himself to make her feel guilty. Then he left and didn't talk to his child again. He met my mom and manipulated her into marrying him at 19 when he was 26. He got her pregnant, made fun of her for being fat WHILE PREGNAN…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 10:04 AM
9

Hell no. I do not want my hair pulled or to be spanked. I don't mind a little manhandling and some rough sex, but I dont want to be HURT.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 01:45 AM
7

My mom and I talk about our dogs and doctors appointments and my brother and me nephew and how annoying my grandma is. I have no idea where your weird 17th century mom talk is coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 06:54 PM
7

Oh stop. It's an exaggeration referring to men that have specifically done something to us like old boyfriends or coworkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 06:53 PM
10

Seriously, what? My mother has never done anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 06:52 PM
4

Why do you keep using IVF? People doing IVF are not fertile. That's the whole entire point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 05:10 AM
3

You do realize that miscarriages ARE infertility, correct? If you try to get pregnant but miscarry all the time, you are infertile. That is part of the definition. I should know considering that is part of the reason I was referred for infertility. And the fact of the matter is that women under 23 (25?) are not only more likely to miscarry, they are also more likely to experience complications of childbirth like DEATH. Also IVF is not a good standard for fertility. If you need IVF, you are infer…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 05:09 AM
8

Someone in their 20s thinks 2 to 5 years is an age gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 05:05 AM
1

ICSI only requires one sperm 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:03 PM
1

ICSI is a type of IVF and only requires one sperm per egg. I would guess that is where we would go if this truly became a sort of epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 08:59 PM
14

Alcohol is one of the main reasons for low sperm count. So there's also that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 08:57 PM
5

It's not insecurity. If I went and got a paternity and came home and said "guess what?! You're definitely the father!!!" My husband would be confused at least and hurt at most. Getting a paternity does is attached to suspicion. If I am getting a test done, I think there's a possibility he isn't the father. Who wouldn't be hurt by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 11:33 PM
7

Nah. It is just an accusation. I wouldn't be against getting a paternity test in general, but if my husband was the one who requested it, it would be an accusation. The fact is that if he asked me for one then he thinks there is a chance I cheated. I'm not saying I don't understand, but it doesn't make it less of an accusation. If you want it to have no emotions behind it, you have to make it a requirement for all women and all fathers, not only on request. Make it a requirement from the hospita…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 11:28 PM
7

I find my husband attractive sexually and he doesn't work out anymore. He was more attractive when he did and I would love if he started again, but there are things other than muscles that attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 12:09 AM
23

You're obviously a man because women absolutely appreciate a nice ass in jeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 12:07 AM
4

The complete shut off of sex is usually due to hormones after giving birth. I would say for up to a year is normal and natural and that it's kind of scummy to pressure someone recovering from that into sex. On the other hand, I think if it is much longer than that, there might be something else going on. Either way, you're right that it's not going to be as often. My husband and I have regular sex, but it's a struggle because our schedules are different and we are busy and so we have to schedule…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 10:25 PM
5

Mine is the same. He is sweet and loving, but also assertive and strong. These things aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 10:35 PM
5

You probably don't believe women's accounts of anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 10:34 PM
1

It's not as fun when it doesn't work. It used to turn me on, but now that I have to have it on a timeline even if I don't want to along with medications and tests.... well that fetish went down the toilet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 02:28 AM
6

Eh, that happens to me. I'm not picky, but if something doesn't sound good, it doesn't sound good. I can be totally fine with a restaurant one day and be sick of it the next. I think that's pretty normal. If I don't have the option of picking, I can eat whatever, but if you're asking where I wanna go, then yeah, I'm gonna pick something I'm in the mood for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 12:27 AM
2

I think a lot of men don't know how pregnancy works. A woman can only get pregnant 6 days out of every cycle and only 3 days are even close to likely. The highest chance most women have is 30% every cycle, not every time you have sex. And you would know at most 3 weeks (but more likely 2) after you had sex if she was pregnant or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:23 AM
0

But what do you even consider low? I've only had one casual fling, but I still have had sex with 4 men including my husband and that number can be bumped up to 6 if you are counting anything sexual at all. But every single one besides the casual thing was a guy I'd dated a significant amount of time. And I was 23 when I got married. You could only have sex with serious relationships and get up to 10 easily by the time you are 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:19 AM
1

Definitely not 6. I don't know about in states, but I lived on a military base for awhile and you couldn't let your kids out by themselves for a significant amount of time until they were 10 or 12. They could walk to and from school if they went on base, but that was about it. Everything else was supposed to be supervised.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 12:26 AM
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There's a reason for this too, especially if the mother is the primary caretaker. The fact of the matter is that one, it is really hard to turn off mom mode and turn on wife mode. And two, after spending all day with children grabbing at you, having a husband pawing at you isn't arousing in the slightest. I believe it's called touch fatigue. It's generally pretty accepted that after a child is born, sex may be lacking until that child is out of diapers at the very least. I'm not saying that husb…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 10:35 AM
26

You guys are so freaking negative. Why is that every woman has to either get the best dude or is cheating on her current one? Do you even know women in real life?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 07:20 PM
3

I didn't marry the best partner I could secure. If I had been looking for a husband with that in mind, I would be with someone far richer and far more attractive than the man I did marry. The fact is that most people are marrying because they LOVE someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 07:48 PM
3

I stay at home. Only extremists care at all. Most women tell me they either wish they could do that or that they would go crazy. Women aren't a hivemind. We are all different. The key philosophy of Red Pill is that we are all the same. And that is super flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 07:44 PM
2

Pregnancy is 10 months long. So, unless they are getting pregnant before marriage, it can't be much shorter than a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 06:50 PM
10

Just because you hear those stories does not mean women are more likely to be the aggressors in domestic violence. 1 in 4 women (24.3%) and 1 in 7 men (13.8%) aged 18 and older in the United States have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. So almost double the amount of women are abuse. Not only that, but if you are pregnant, your risk of being killed by the father rises so high that almost all OBs are constantly asking if you feel safe at home be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 07:54 PM
3

But if course it is up to the perception of the person being touched. That's exactly why you don't just touch random people without asking. Like, I don't like hugs or platonic kisses from people I don't know well. Is it harassment if someone does it when I didn't want them? Not really, but it's making my day worse when it happens so its rude and not nice. How hard is it to say "Do you mind if I (blank)?" Whether it is put my hand here or hug you or kiss your cheek.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 07:53 PM
3

I am 5'1 and the tallest I have dated is around 6'. It was too tall. I was with them because I was really interested in them as people, but their height definitely worked against them and I prefer my husband's 5'6 height.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 03:25 AM
6

Same. I am only 5'1 and have dated men barely taller than me in the past as well as men close to 6 feet tall. My husband is also 5'6 and I really like that height difference. He is tall enough to put his head on mine, but I can kiss him easily and sex isn't awkward because of our different heights.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 03:22 AM
5

Well the 4% is about the children not knowing the guy isn't their dad, so that makes sense that 2% of those dads would know their children weren't their own for whatever reason. Donor sperm, adoption, etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 10:29 PM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 12:40 AM
1

I hope you're not saying that it's bad that they count it as separate acts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 12:39 AM
1

They don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:31 PM
6

The interesting part is the majority of women getting abortions are women who have one or more children. Over 50% already have kids and just can't afford or take care of another one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:27 PM
1

Maybe not for long with the way the laws are going.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 07:21 AM
2

That's true in 99% of situations, but sometimes people get into a downward spiral where they hate themselves and try to destroy everything good in their lives. In that case, if they cheat on you, it's because they do care about you as stupid and backwards as it sounds. That's not to say it's an excuse even in that case, but it should be seen as a cry for help.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 09:39 PM
4

Lol what? 90% of women want a guy who is taller than them. 10% want a guy who is over six feet. I have never met an actual woman in real life that cared if a guy she dated was over six feet. And I've even met women who date shorter than themselves. As for penis size, I'm in SDP for a reason and that reason is that I married a man with a penis under 4.5 inches and have no problems with his penis size at all and neither does he. I've never said penis size doesn't matter, but that doesn't mean all …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 10:30 PM
2

You'll also see all the short dudes who are happily married. I am not saying men don't get made fun of for their height, but I've only ever seen it on the internet and not in real life. My husband is short and no one ever made fun of him for it and one of his friends is barely taller than me and one of the most confident dudes I know. No one makes fun of his height except as an inside joke and he is very happily engaged to a woman taller than he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 10:25 PM
2

Most women only care that you are taller than them. The girls who will only date 6 feet and up are a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/19 10:21 PM
2

I am getting really sick of the "women, you are terrible, but go ahead and cmv" threads.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 12:00 AM
5

Seriously. Why do so many men here think we are lying harpies?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 11:59 PM
5

It's not true for all states. Not all states or even countries are created equally and we don't all have the same access to things like birth control or abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 04:43 AM
2

It's actually not. The sharp decline starts at 35 with the biggest decline after 40. 30 is not the number. Also, 8% of couples experience infertility. That's of ALL ages. I have had 2 miscarriages and been able to get pregnant again for 2 years. My husband and I started trying at 23. Age isn't everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:30 PM
6

Exactly. I also married at 23 and don't regret my choice one bit (3 year anniversary in July) but I watched my brother follow the same path and both he and his wife are ... not living the high life. She even threatened to leave him earlier in the year despite the fact that they have a baby not even 1 years old that they cannot afford to feed together let alone apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:25 PM
7

Pregnancy isn't fun. It sucks. Speaking from experience, I did not want to have sex because I was tired and sick. And that was just the first 10 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 09:39 PM
1

My husband married me because he loved me. I wasn't having sex with other men whether he married me or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 09:37 PM
1

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.usatoday.com/amp/1429494002 Divorce rates are down. So...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 07:02 AM
2

So? Either way, the younger generations aren't "divorcing more".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 07:00 AM
9

But why can't you be someone who provides for her and someone she pines over? It's not either or. I love my husband and think he's sexy. I also love that I can depend on him if I need him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 08:23 PM
9

The difference is that in my experience, it's usually the guy who insists the woman quit her job and stay at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 07:17 PM
3

But on women, ANY hair is considered excessive hair. We all have it. I have less and it is less noticeable than mt husband's, but if I don't shave it then I'm "gross" where as he has twice as much and he isn't gross. Why? I can see why facial hair can be an issue, but why do we care about the rest?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 10:08 PM
8

Getting fat isn't good, but women can't wear makeup every second of the day. If you're in a relationship with one, you will see her without it. No getting around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 05:10 AM
0

Some women. Just like some men only lust after models and actually have sex with them, especially in their youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 07:04 AM
7

Men absolutely do do that if they are poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 07:03 AM
16

That's not even just a female perspective. Plenty of men don't want to fuck everything they see either. This is such a weird question.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 02:22 PM
2

And having legal rights to your shared stuff. And having legal rights to your spouses medical decisions. And joint taxes. And name changes. And some various other random ones you get depending on your state. For example, even though I was not on the house deed, my husband couldn't sell it without my signature so that he couldn't do it behind my back and leave me with nowhere to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 02:24 PM
0

Except it doesn't. You can't divorce someone because they aren't taking care of you if you can't no fault divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 02:22 PM
2

Seconding this. My parents getting divorced was one of the best things that could have happened to my brother and I. All the fighting was terrible and really stressful for my brother especially. My mom is now married to a great guy and my dad is somewhere being a super huge asshole. But nothing you say matters cause this guy believes all women are out to get men and the only reason we leave is cause we found a bigger dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 02:20 PM
-1

It doesn't devalue marriage. People grow. Do you want them to wait until they are 70 to get married because they might grow apart, a perfectly normal thing to do as you get older. We all get married hoping that we will grow together and be happy forever, but that's not going to be the case every time. If you are miserable, why should you be forced to stay marries just because of someone elses values?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 02:16 PM
2

As a 25 year old, you're not quite going low enough there. Sure it was different, but the vast majority of my life, I did not have any technology at all besides old video consoles like the SNES. In high school, I got a phone, but all it could do was make phone calls and text a few times a month. Facebook became a thing while I was in high school, but no one was using it as more than a page to show off. I don't know. I gues what really gets me is that my husband and I met online. He is not super …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 03:06 PM
3

Sometimes divorce is best for the kids. If I had grown up with my parents sticking it out "for the kids" I would have been a lot more messed up than I already am.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 04:05 AM
3

The differerence is in when it's brought up. A man brings up a pre-nup during the engagement or most likely before he has ever proposes. If my husband told me ahead of time when we were dating or even newly married that he would want a paternity test on all future children, I would be upset but I would understand. If he tells me when I'm 6 weeks pregnant that he wants a paternity test, that feels much worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:32 PM
6

How the heck would she even know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:28 PM
4

Initiating means nothing except that the woman is the unhappy party. Maybe it's her fault or maybe it's because she feels that her husband doesn't love and want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 02:28 PM
8

My 50 year old dad is about to marry some girl he met online from the phillipines. So ya. That happens still.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 02:27 PM
0

The fact is that men don't listen to women. The only people who can call men out are other men. You don't have to do it, but it means that you are standing by while men act like that and that's being complicit. If you're okay with that, that's fine. But being DOES mean making the world around you better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:59 PM
6

I watch lesbian porn because straight porn doesn't look enjoyable and I put myself in the position of the woman. I would rather watch straight porn but it is made for men. Womem definitely feel attraction to men. That's why male models exist. You obviously have never talked to women about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:10 PM
5

So two married people should just not have sex unless they want children?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 06:22 PM
3

And none but abstinence are 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 06:20 PM
9

Seriously. I don't know many guys who would legit start a fight. They might say knock it off, but most guys are gonna walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 01:02 PM
12

Wrong. I am attracted to my kind reliable and unexciting husband both physically and sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 06:41 AM
2

Yup. My husband couldnt sell our house without my signature and I wasn't even on the deed to the house. A lot of states have laws like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 04:19 AM
8

For me? 10. This question has been asked around reddit before and most women are somewhere between 10 amd 20 for penetration and 45 to an hour for all of it together including foreplay.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 12:37 AM
1

I've had sex with a virgin guy before. Everyone is different. Virginity only hurts your prospects in casual sex, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:46 AM
3

That's reverse cowgirl. Cowgirl is a bit safer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 09:23 AM
8

What? Sex can just be painful. If the guy is too big or there wasn't enough foreplay or if you just can't get your head in it because of whatever reason. Even when I am 100% into it with my husband who matches me really good size wise, the first couple thrusts still can hurt. I push through because I know it's temporary, but I have been with guys in the past where it wasn't. Also, if I recently came off my period, it hurts pretty bad. And if I had anything done to my cervix recently it can be re…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 09:21 AM
7

Uh. The pill isn't mild discomfort. I had to take misoprostal when I was having a miscarriage and it is some of the wordt pain I have ever been in. I cried ever time I sneezed for almost a week. And I was in so much pain they prescribed me Narco to help me sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 05:44 PM
1

That is not a thing. Nobody is letting babies die when they were born alive unless they have severe physical issues that are going to lead to death anyways. It is just a strawman that prolife people are pulling out. Only 2% of abortions are performed after 20 weeks. 2%. Almost all of those are terminations for medical reasons. Women aren't just deciding that they don't want their babies after being halfway or ALL THE WAY done with pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 05:43 PM
3

Actually yout hormonal load is the worst in the first trimester. At 12 weeks, your hormones stabilize and that is why you lose most of your early symptoms such as morning sickness, mood swings, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 05:39 PM
3

I mean... Yes and no. Women who have both given birth and had miscarriages often say that the miscarriages are actually more painful. The body is ready to give birth at 40 weeks. It is not ready at 10. The pill version of abortion induces a miscarriage, so that is what many women are going through because it is much cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 05:37 PM
6

It is risking your life to be pregnant. Your chances of being killed by a SO raise significantly and especially in the US, we have what are considered high rates of women dying during or right after childbirth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 05:34 PM
2

Not true. The physical side of abortion has never been a no big deal. It's painful and bloody no matter which option you choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 05:32 PM
7

I lived in Baltimore and went to college there for years. In my entire time there, I had sex with 2 guys. Both long term boyfriends. After I left to go to tiny town Wyoming, I slept with one more dude. And then when I left there to go to Oklahoma City, I slept with one final dude. My husband. Soooo no.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 03:16 PM
2

I've had 4. Most women I know had between 2 and 5. Most women are not sleeping with 10 to 20 people in their lifetimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 03:14 PM
14

Abso fucking lutely. I am so sick of all the misinformation about period and BC.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 02:38 PM
3

That whole looking where we sit is nice in theory but when its 3 am and you are squinting and half asleep and it's pitch black, that just isn't going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 02:11 AM
6

Yes! I get migraines on the regular and my husband can always tell and we pretty much rush through whatever we were doing and head on our way home. I have migraine medicine with me just in case, but I get nausea that doesn't go away even after I take them, so home is always best. He definitely doesn't whine and act hurt. And ignore me all day when I snap a little because I am in pain and want to be in my own home.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 02:06 PM
14

There is a huge difference between talking about your feelings and having the emotional fragility of a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 02:04 PM
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Yup. I would shave my head if I thought I could pull it off.... But I can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 10:56 PM
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So are most people. Including men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 11:46 PM
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We all know what we mean. We just didn't know you didn't know what we meant. When women say they don't want gym men, they usually mean gym obsessed men. As in going every day for hours and hours. Guys who only eat chicken and rice for every meal of every day. That type of thing. My husband goes to the gym for an hour to an hour and a half. He lifts weights and does cardio. He eats decently. He looks good. He doesn't take steroids or workout supplements. That is the kind of muscle women like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 05:46 AM
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Or has a very lifting heavy job. But yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 05:44 AM
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Ugh. The wage gap exists, it just isn't entirely because employers are paying women less. A lot of it has to do with the sorts of jobs women take which is a whole seperate issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 09:36 PM
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I'm a woman in my 20s who married a boring predictable man. We aren't a hive mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 04:12 PM
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Eh. Sometimes. Sometimes starting to have sex gets me into it and sometimes it just reinforces the fact that I am definitely not in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 12:02 AM
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The type of uncomfortable that someone gets by having sex when they don't want to is not the same kind of uncomfortable as doing laundry when you are tired. Its a bog difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 12:00 AM
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No. Toxic masculinity is when you take traditionally male gender roles too far. When you have a strangle hold on the finances, when you are so controlling that you don't let your wife have friends, and when you are so assertive that you are actually violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 12:27 AM
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How? The cultures are referring to the different states and regions of the US not the color of people's skins.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:20 PM
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Stop pushing the heterosexual women don't exist narrative. Its just wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 08:49 AM
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An ugly face isn't the end all be all. Plenty of things can balance out the scales and make a man attractive despite an ugly face. But I don't think his face is all that bad personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 08:48 AM
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My husband and I got married while we were fencesitting on kids. The main reason was so we could both get benefits since he is in the military. It wasn't a rushed thing. We were together for several years before we did get married and he had just reenlisted for another 6 years because he had reached the end of his first 6. Another reason to get married is that you are next of kin and get the say in medical decisions for your spouse. I also stay home so we get tax breaks as well from being marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 11:54 PM
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Yes. I agree. High n-count could just mean she didn't want a relationship while she wad young. It doesn't mean she's bad at them or has ever be unfaithful. Like you said, if it makes you uncomfortable, then fine. But it doesn't necessarily mean anything for the future of your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 12:29 AM
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Showering every day isn't basic hygeine unless you sweat constantly. It's actually terrible for your hair and skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 10:58 PM
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You're definitely wrong. I never spend hours on my hair and makeup, but there are definitely days that I get dressed up and never leave the house. Why? Because it's for me. If I'm feeling like crap, looking good can help me feel more confident about myself and my life whether I go out or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 10:56 PM
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Guys really never look in the mirror and go "wow I look great" and get a good feeling from it? That seems weird to me. But yes. Women absolutely can dress sexy for themselves. When I want to feel good about myself I dress pretty/sexy, but I stay home most of thd day so the only person who sees it is me and my husband. Definitely no validation there. Dressing better just makes me feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 10:54 PM
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Ugh yes. All these guys don't seem to understand how women feel when we have sex when we don't want to. Sure, you can make all the arguments that you want that men deserve sex from their wives blah blah. It doesn't change the fact that the few times I had sex even though I really didn't want to it felt... Terrible. Just like you say. It feels like rape. It's not because I didn't say no, but it's still what it feels like. It feels violating and unpleasant and definitely nothing I ever want to fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 08:25 AM
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It's the women that watch lesbian porn. It gets discussed a lot in the sex subreddits.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:58 AM
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Who do you think you are to sit there and tell women they can't be striaght because they don't fit into what you picture as a straight woman. I am heterosexual. I've never been attracted to another woman. I've never experimented. I've been hit on by other women before, but have never been interested? Why? Because I'm not attracted to vaginas. Period. I am not saying they are gross or anything since I have one, but they don't turn me on and I don't want to have sex with them. So, according to you…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:55 AM
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I watch porn more than my husband does. I am straight. Wayyyyy atraight. Not even a little bi. I also watch lesbian porn, for the exact reason the other user said. It caters more to women than straight porn does. Sorry, but I don't want to watch a dude jackhammer a lady for 30 minutes. If you go to any of the sex subreddits, you would see just how many straight women DO watch porn and how many of them watch LESBIAN porn. The fact is that even though a lot of it is catered to men, I actually get …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 03:46 AM
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It isn't that it's gendered. It's that the gender that tends to have a reactive sex drive is women. Some men have reactive sex drives as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 01:42 AM
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Spoiler: It isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 01:41 AM
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Regular masculinity is being confident and in charge while toxic masculinity is taking those traits too far and being controlling of women to the point that its abusive like not allowing them to have male friends or taking their phone away or even physical abuse. Any masculine trait can be toxic if taken too far. It's masculine to be emotionally strong, but if you take it too far you have guys blowing their brains out because they felt they couldn't tell anyone that they were struggling. The tox…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 12:49 AM
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Absolutely. Both toxic masculinity and femininity exist. Dudes love to say "but what about toxic femininity haaaa" and there are so many examples of that too. Anything can be bad if you have too much of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 12:46 AM
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Probably because our whole lives we are told to care. I remember when I was younger people would say things like "why don't you go brush your hair, people will think you're homeless" "don't do that or you'll never get a husband" "that isn't for ladies, go wear something else" When everyone is constantly telling you that people care so much about what you do, you're gonna grow up to think it matters a lot more. It took me a long time to get comfortable enough with myself to stop caring so much ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 10:44 PM
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Totally agree. Tbere is good advice in the thread for improving yourself but plenty of lazy fat slobs get girlfriends all the time. My husband is meh on attractive, is short (5'6) and is overweight (and has been pretty much the whole time I've known him, but he goes back and forth between muscular and fat). He doesn't have a great job and his social skills are really honestly terrible. But I love him and that's that. He's hilarious and so sweet to me and the people I love even if he can be a jer…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 04:44 PM
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No but it can lead you to be coerced and raped by a 50 year old man because your parents weren't paying attention to what you're doing online.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 04:23 AM
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So says one man. I'm not a Gen Z, but I am borderline (I was born in 93), and never found that to be the case. It isn't alieniating. It's something great. I can easily keep in touch with friends even though I now live across the country. I can see my nephew grow up when I otherwise wouldn't have. I can meet people who have the same interests as me even if they are living across the world. How is that alienating? I even met my husband on a DnD style roleplay site. I read the article the you quote…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 04:20 AM
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23 was born in 95.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 04:15 AM
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Lol my SIL was a housecleaner and she is the pastiest of whites.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 02:07 AM
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My house isn't enormous (1600 sqft or so), but its bigger than my husband and I need because we have dogs. We could deal with them in a tiny place, but it's easier in the winter if we have enough room to play inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 02:04 AM
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Who the hell bends over to clean? Are you seriously down on your knees scrubbing the floor? That's pretty over kill these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 02:02 AM
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Ha. My husband can't stand the way I load the dishwasher. Whatever, I hate doing dishes anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 01:54 AM
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I can't afford a maid, but even if I could I wouldn't want to waist money that could be going into a retirement fund or an emergency fund on something so stupid. I can do my own laundry and my own dishes. Why on earth would I pay someone to do something so easy?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 01:52 AM
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Sorry but us women don't actually have a hive mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:34 AM
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Real people don't really have that stigma. My mom was a single mom after my dad left her for another woman and she never had issues getting dates and married her boyfriend of 9 years shortly after I moved out. In my experience, its not single moms that turn guys off. Its selfish women. Sometimes a woman is both, but that doesn't mean its the single mom part that is the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:18 AM
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Uhhh yeah they do. OJ anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:56 AM
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A man actually does what he is accused of far more often than a man is falsely accused. If you've looked at the numbers, you should know that. If you think women are overreacting about the numbers, then men definitely are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 03:58 PM
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My husband is short, pretty average looking and only.makes 35k a year. I put up with all his shit because I love him. 🤷 Most guys aren't 6', a 9 out of 10, and making 6 figures a year. And most guys also are in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 01:56 PM
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I don't understand how you can rationalize this. Men who cheat still love their wives but women who cheat don't? That's just straight up bullshit. It depends on the person, not their gender. Plenty of women have sex with people they don't love. Which means they could also cheat and still "love" their spouse because it also means nothing to then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 01:54 PM
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Most women who get abortions are married and have kids already, so your point doesn't make as much sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 11:38 PM
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A lot of women can't take hormonal contraception. Its condoms or nothing for me because of my migraines and clotting disorders. So a lot of women are in the same boat as men, but you don't see us bitching about it. We just use condoms. I don't understand why so many men want to have condomless sex. Its risky behavior even if you don't count possible pregnancies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 11:36 PM
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Stop spouting this as a solution. Vasectomies are not 100% reversible and after a few years the likelihood of successful reversal goes way down. If that guy thinks he may want a child one day, he could accidentally make himself sterile for life by getting a vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 11:34 PM
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Most women take birth control because of reasons relating to their menstrual cycle actually. The majority are not on it to prevent pregnancy. Mostly because it has such terrible side effects and condoms don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 01:11 PM
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You are so clueless to what an abortion entails. As someone who went through a miscarriage and the equivalent od a medical abortion (in which a woman takes the pill instead of having the procedure) it was terrible. I was basically in labor and in a ton of pain. Even after being prescribed Narco, it hurt to sit up or cough or laugh. I was bleeding literal buckets for hours on end and had to stay sitting on the toilet because I was bleeding through pads. There are women that go through that to hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 01:04 PM
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A fucking men. I would rather use condoms any day than take hormonal birth control again. I had to take it recently to try and treat an ovarian cyst and I wanted to die. I was constantly nauseous and tired. I had a migraine most of the 3 months I was on it. I was depressed and felt like my brain was fuzzy. I was bloated and felt terrible. It was the worst. And those are just the symptoms I had. There are way more that can happen and it has even caused blood clots that KILL people. I've always to…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 01:00 PM
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Seriously. The issue is do women prefer men over 6' and that's no. Most women just prefer someone TALLER. That could mean anything. I'm 5'1 and have dated people who are barely taller than me before and my husband is only 5'6. All this means is that you should try to date women shorter than you. Which most guys were doing anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 09:43 PM
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I'm not the one you responded to, but absolutely. And then when you tell them you aren't interested, they go on a rage about how you're a slut and they didn't want you anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 08:43 AM
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Women have lower insurance rates because they have been shown to have less risk. It's not discriminatory. Women pay more for health insurance because they might get pregnant one day, also not discriminatory, just annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 07:27 PM
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Nah. I like knowing that my husband loves me so much that me leaving would make him extremely sad. Who wants their spouse to be indifferent towards them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 07:23 AM
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Women fought for the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 08:54 PM
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You're definitelt not! I also stay home and absolutely love it! It depends on the person. I also hatr the set schedule and the grind of the office like the person above you. So maybe it takes that kind of person to be happy at home?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 08:51 PM
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I stay at home and I definitely don't twiddle my thumbs in a clean house or spend all of our money on amazon because I'm bored. I personally spend a lot of my day playing with my dogs (they are both very high energy) and the rest is kind of dependent on what needs done. Sometimes I do laundry, sometimes I vacuum or dust, sometimes I cook. Other times I just sit around and make stuff for us or for family or to sell. I went to college for Computer Science and did well, but it isn't something I wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 08:49 PM
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Its not, but saying all women are the same is. Women are not a hive mind. We all think and feel differently. There are going to be some traits that cross across the gender, but it isn't as many as TRP likes to spout.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/18 05:21 PM
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That's because most women are like that. You guys have this weird opinion of women that just isn't true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 07:08 AM
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Eh. I care more about my husband's muscles than his height. He can't change height and it doesn't matter really.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 05:56 PM
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Then put some makeup on yourself. Don't complain how it isn't fair. Its not like there is a law that men can't wesr it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 05:54 PM
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Absolutely. That "natural" look that men love is all makeup. Those women are wearing foundation and eye liner at the very least and usually much more than that. And most women definitely want a guy with muscle. They don't want someone who is flabby and they don't want someone who looks like they are on steroids. They want the guy eho looks like he goes to the gym on a regular basis, but doesn't spend all his time there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 05:51 PM
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Its because the question was for red pill men. So women are commenting under automod like they are supposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 09:10 AM
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Its just as funny when women do shit like that though. I've seen old ladies take some spills and had to really keep myself from laughing. My husband is constantly laughing when I hurt myself (as long as it isn't serious). It had nothing to do with men or status.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 08:58 AM
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A lot of people I know that are my age (mid 20s) don't really use social media anymore. It really is kind of a high school and college thing. Oh and old people. My grandparents use Facebook more than 90% of people I know. And why is having less sex important?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 08:42 AM
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No. The problem is that you often have to teach a virgin and that can put pressure on someone. She said that knowing would make her feel that way. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 02:16 AM
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As someone in the US... I have had to wait a month+ often to see my doctor. Sooooooo.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 06:30 AM
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Yup. My dad is like this. He is charming and wonderful and funny when you meet him. He seems like a great guy because that is what he wants you to see. And then when he finally has you he drags you down into his mental despair. He takes your money so he can flush it down the toilet and he tells you that you're worthless so you feel as bad as he does. It's definitely not something unique to women or the dependent. My mom ended up married to this man who said he would love and support her. She had…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 05:16 AM
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... Columbine?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 05:09 AM
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Someone else pointed out that quite a few of those shooters actually did have fathers in their lives so this article is a bunch of B.S.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 05:08 AM
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It's a c, not a g.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 05:05 AM
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My problem is that it could be any number of things. For example, single mothers tend to be low income. Could it be the low income part that is really the problem? Could it be that their fathers were mentally unstable? That can contribute to genetics and the reason that they are no longer in the picture to begin with. Obviously we all agree that a child should have both parents in their lives and that is the ideal scenario, but plenty of people grow up with a single parent and turn out fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 05:05 AM
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I'm 5'1 and I am absolutely attracted to shorter men. My husband is 5'6, but I've dated shorter and taller and I have always prefered the shorter. So. Hello. We exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 08:50 AM
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Because women cook and clean. Haha. Get it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 08:11 AM
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My husband makes me laugh all the time. Even when I want to bash his head or cry myself into a puddle he can say a few words and I'm giggling like a schoolgirl. Mosy people know exactly why they are with who they are with and if they don't its probably because they were lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 07:27 AM
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Okay. So the cheating women aren't loyal to their husbands. Shocker. What about all the women who aren't cheating? Or... We don't exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 07:24 AM
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Are you alright? You've posted a lot of comments about your ex wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 07:18 AM
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Oh what fucking ever. As long as T_D exists, I will never believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 05:13 AM
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I'm 5'1 and he is 5'6. Height contributed to attraction because I could actually kiss him when we were both standing up. By pure chance, my previous relationships had been with guys who were close to 6' and it was really annoying. We are the same age though. He is 5 months older and we met in high school, so not super surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 04:45 PM
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That isn't the joy for everyone. I love children and babies, but I have known people who just wanted nothing to do with them. And I've known people who absolutely regretted ever having kids because people told them they'd be the greatest joy in their lives.... And then they weren't. We aren't all wired the same and we all enjoy different things. Some people like working with their hands, some people like lounging, some people find joy in exercising and some find it in their work. Saying that bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 05:26 PM
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He probably just has a low libido. I have one and thats almost exactly how I feel sbout sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:38 PM
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Could be lots of reasons. Moral, religious, family pressure, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:36 PM
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Women do take precautions to avoid unplanned pregnancies. Fact is thar birth control sometimes fails. More often than you think. The fail rate on birth control is PER YEAR not per lifetime. Sure, there are scummy people out there that are tricking men into pregnancies, but there are also scummy people out there tricking women into pregnancies. Its not a one gender thing. And don't even get me started on men who won't wear condoms and then complain about having financial responsibilty and how wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 12:07 PM
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It isn't stress. Its boredom and depression and having no adult contact most days. I personally really enjoy my time at home, but there are days when I wish I got out of the house more. With kids it gets even worse. They are around 24/7 and they are most of your daily interaction with people. Stay at home moms are very often depressed because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/18 06:58 PM
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Then all RP men are also low quality?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 10:00 PM
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Not knowing what you're doing doesn't mean you suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 01:44 AM
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Not all women xan orgasm from PIV sex. That is a stupid assumption based on nothing. I know what gets me off and I know that penetration can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 01:41 AM
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If I had sex until I orgasmed we would never stop. Not all women orgasm easily with their partners. Its easier for me to enjoy myself and just finish it off solo later.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 01:40 AM
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If a woman is willing to get lockjaw she could go that long I guess. My jaw starts to hurt after 10 minutes and it really really hurts after 20. Maybe guys should give a blowjob to a banana to get an idea of how tiring holding your mouth open that long is. On the other hand, I have never seen a woman ask for an hour of oral. Maybe an hour of foreplay. But that includes a lot of stuff besides oral.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 01:36 AM
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My husband has made me orgasm once the entire time we have been together and it was very very recently. Sex still feels good and I still enjoy it when it happens. If she says she is fine without orgasming then she is fine. You acting like it is the end of the world will just put more pressure on her which makes it even less likely to happen. Most women cannot orgasm from PiV sex. That's very normal. Trust what women tell you. We aren't children.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 01:26 AM
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I definitely cannot orgasm from just sex. And I actually have a hard time orgasming from anything my husband does at all, but that is more a mental thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 01:23 AM
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As someone who has repeatedly told my husband that he has to tell me if I start gaining a lot of weight, not everyone is the same. We are all different and react differently to different things. In my experience, a dead bedroom (which also happens to many women as well as men) is usually caused by a selfish and uncommunitive spouse. If it occurs in a good marriage, it usually gets fixed on its own in time. The problem arises when the spouse doesn't give a crap about the marriage or the person th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 08:22 PM
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Just for the record, men over 55 actually are less fertile than younger men and have worse sperm. They have a hardwr time getting women pregnant and that sperm can cause chromosomal abnormalities in the fetus which can cause miscarriages and birth defects. So yeah, you have sperm, but it isn't the same your entire lives and you absolutely have a wall to your fertility.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/18 01:21 AM
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A lot of women stay home because they were spending their entire paychecks on childcare or sometimes spending even more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 06:03 AM
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My mom worked and I also grew up over indulged and over protected. It is more about the person than the work status in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 06:00 AM
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Also there was the "put the new roll of toilet paper onto the holder instead of just sitting it on top of the empty roll". That one I related to very much. The askwomen thread was pretty tame. I didn't really see anything that would spur this post about women's "standards".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 05:57 AM
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Seriously. I am not even that close with some of the people I discuds my sex life with and I am pretty private of a person. That definitely comes up in conversation, especially if it is because it has STOPPED.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/18 06:09 PM
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Romance novels aren't real life. They're just supposed to be fun to read. I would never date any of the dudes in the books I read. Its cool in fiction, not so much in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 09:31 AM
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Pretty sure they are saying that you can have a terrible relationship even without infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 08:01 AM
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Whoever is more qualified. If I had the choice between two equal ones then I would probably pick a woman to watch my daughter, but I would pick a man to watch my son.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/18 10:45 PM
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But did he walk up and proposition you for sex or just start a conversation like a normal person and then it went from there?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/18 10:35 PM
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I feel like you missed the whole movie bevause she definitely gets her voice back and in the second one she talks the entire movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 08:49 PM
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Tattoos are expensive and good tattoos take time and planning to design. How does that show a tendency to not think things through? I don't have a tattoo yet, but I'm planning to get one in the next few years if I can work myself up to going under the needle. I have known what I want for years and years. It's something I have considered for a long time. Why do you assume most people who get tattoos don't think it through? Most people I know who have gotten them spent at least a few months decidi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 08:03 PM
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One of the most successful people I know is a lawyer and has a really stupid looking tattoo. My single mother has none. My husband who is an NCO in the military and who is not poor or trashy has 3. That is such a blanket statement. The fact is that tattoos are not as taboo as they were and so more and more people are getting them. I know someone who has tattoos for his kids and another guy who got one to memoralize a kid we went to school with who was killed by a drunk driver. Not all tattoos ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/18 07:47 PM
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Nah. In general, women use emotions in more of their life. For example, an orgasm and getting turned on as a woman is in your mind as well as your body. Same with sexual and physical attraction. No one is saying the guy went from a 2 to a 10, but someone can definitely get more attractive the more you know them because you start seeing their personality more and more. You also jusr get used to the way they look and don't really notice the bad parts anymore after awhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/18 05:53 PM
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I don't personally care what someone does with their own body. I wish it were legal so these women could have basic rights like the rest of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 09:20 PM
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I have to shave every day in order to have hair free legs constantly and I have very little leg hair. You are delusional if you think it is twice a week for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 08:02 PM
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Birth Control and the way it affects women depends on the specific type and the woman. Even the generic vs the name brand can produce entirely different side effects which makes 0 sense. For me, I cannot take any hormonal birth control without feeling like I'm dying. My GYN is making me take it now before taking my ovarian cyst seriously and it is a nightmare. I am always tired, always nauseated, I have no energy, I'm getting way more acne than I've ever had, I cramp all week long, I'm having IB…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/18 11:54 PM
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Eh. Granted, my husband and I are young, but I'm definitely more attractive than him by traditional standards. He is getting closer to me now that he is losing weight, but definitely not higher than me. I'm not overweight and as far as I know I don't have any terrible personality traits. I get anxious talking on the phone, but I do it. I have a Facebook and Instagram and all that, that I barely use. But the main point is that I definitely don't look around for other guys. I'm not interested. I l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 12:26 AM
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The problem is when they EXPECT a relationship or sex because they've been your friend for several years. It happens a lot. They'll rant about how they've had to listen to you complain about other guys and help you do all these things, you know... friend stuff, and how they deserve to get what they want because of it. If a guy is just holding out a small hope that you may someday love him back, fine, but it's not healthy. The problem is this usually blows up into a huge fight that the girl never…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/18 09:02 PM
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I can. The right to abortion is the right to bodily autonomy. It's a crime to steal organs from a dead body if they didn't want to donate them. It's a crime to force someone to donate their blood or bone marrow if they don't want. It doesn't matter if that donation would save a dying person. Abortion should be legal for the same reason. A woman is donating her body to a fetus during her pregnancy. It sucks up her nutrients, causes health issues, and can even cause her death. Many women go on to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 02:56 AM
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My dad got out of garnishes wages by getting a new job. It was too exhausting for my mom to continue going to court every time he got a new one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 02:52 AM
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Most women having abortions at 20 weeks are doing so because the baby has something medically wrong with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 02:50 AM
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Well... I really can't blame him for that. I personally don't like period sex because I'm bloated and crampy and my vagina is too sensitive, but that absolutely would scar me for life yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/18 11:35 PM
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Also INTP, also feel the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/18 07:21 PM
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The majority of women are getting married by their late 20s and most of those women have been in relationships with those men since their early or mid 20s. So yeah. They are meeting and dating those marriage material guys earlier than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/18 09:23 AM
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Eh. I never changed my standards of men, so I guess my answer would be at birth. Many women go for LTRs as a rule and their standards continue to be the same. If you had meant when I got married, the answer would be shortly after I turned 23. Edit to add that our relationship in general is good, but struggling a bit lately due to miscarriage and infertility which has been hard on us both.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 09:11 AM
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Find a woman who won't do that then. Despite what is constantly thrown around here, not all women are the same. Some are high maintenance and most are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 09:04 AM
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My husband makes 40k a year, is not aggressive or promiscuous (And never has been), he isn't domineering or controlling. He is maybe a 6 out of 10 on looks and is 5'6. He's kind of fat, but working on it. And yet I married him and love him and couldn't imagine giving him up for the kind of person you describe yourself having been. Normal women do not find them interested in that type of guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 06:31 PM
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Are you fucking serious? I didn't realize that as a woman who plays video games that I wasn't allowed to want to play games that I can play as my own gender. I didn't realize that video game companies finally realizing that half of their consumers are women and might appreciate also being catered to along with the male consumers. I didn't realize adding a female protagonist along with a male one as options in games is LITERALLY RUINING THEM. Ugh. Go back to the battlefield subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 06:21 PM
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Thank you. I hate that this sub equates the two. I can want a guy to be masculine and still say that toxic masculinity exists. We aren't trying to effeminate all men. We are just trying to say it's okay if you are feminine as a man. It's okay if you share your feelings or like things that aren't considered masculine. I don't know where this whole idea that feminists want all men to be women comes from. My husband is open with his feelings, but also burly, hairy, into cars and beer and working wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 06:18 PM
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In other words, it is based on what they want to do. I'm liberal leaning, but consider myself in the middle and I'm an introvert. I don't think there's anything wrong with casual sex, I'm just not into it. I have a count of... 4. Which is not super low or anything, but 2 were LTRs and 1 is my husband. The other was a fling that I was trying out, but didn't work out in the long run. Anyways, I'm not some terrible person or some angel. My sex choices don't really have anything to do with that. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/18 05:08 PM
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The US does not have paternity leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 05:08 PM
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That's not true. I don't compare my husband to my exes every single day of our life together. I don't even think about my exes anymore. They don't matter. Doesn't matter how attractive or good in bed they are. I love my husband and I love how he looks and I love having sex with him. That's all that matters. I don't understand why guys here believe that a woman is constantly comparing. It's just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 12:38 AM
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They mean creating gender equality by raising women up. I know it's some terrible thing to be a feminist here, but the extremists you see on the internet and at marches aren't the average feminist. Most of us love men and want the best for them as well as women. A lot of feminist issues would also help men. For example, paternity and maternity leave are feminist issues and would allow a man to stay home to help take care of his wife and newborn child which in turn helps the wife who is recoverin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/18 12:31 AM
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Have you never had sex when you are uninterested? It sucks. It's exhuasting and it doesn't really feel good and sometimes it can be really hard just to get into it enough to get wet enough for sex and then you have to use lube or sex isn't even going to happen. And the whole time you lay there hating the person that pressured you into this thing you really didn't want to do and is using YOUR body for HIS pleasure when he could easily just use his fucking hand. So yeah. It is so horrible and I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 05:22 PM
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Thats the point for the man. Most women don't orgasm during sex. I have sex with my husband because it feels good and I enjoy the intimacy. It has nothing to do with orgasms on my end.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/18 05:20 PM
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I can't say much about most, but GOOD marriages do. If you or your SO are not enthusiastically consenting that sounds more like a personal issue than an issue with the fact that it should be the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/18 07:46 PM
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Where are you getting fertility and miscarriage rates for women above 30? Women experience a very small decrease in fertility after 30, a bigger one at 35 and then a huge one at 40. Miscarriage rates don't really increase drastically until after 40 and before 18. Age isn't a guarantee anyways. I am 24 and have had 2 miscarriages and I am now struggling with infertility despite being healthy, young, and in good shape. No tests have found anything wrong with husband or I and neither of us have hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/18 10:32 PM
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Men and women can be different without you acting like all men are gods at sports and all women are terrible and boring. Many people like to watch women's sports and find them very entertaining. Your opinion is not end all be all. You find them boring. Great. Plenty of people who know the sport very well do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/18 04:23 AM
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They're not. I am also a 24 year old who is married and is definitely normal. He's not fucking attractice. He was known for having a lot of charisma and being able to manipulate young, clueless women into doing what he wanted. Most women would not fall for it or find him attractive. He was just good at singling out the weak ones in the hers. Also being a virgin at 24 does not make a woman picky. There are many reasons that someone would be waiting to have sex and we should not be acting like it …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/18 04:19 AM
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There were weird kids that nobody likes 20 and 30 years ago that didn't shoot up schools. Something has obviously changed. The amount of school shootings is going up every year, especially the past few years. You can't blame this on bullying. It's existed since children existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/18 04:10 AM
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I am 24 (25 later this month) and have unexplained infertility after a miscarriage at 23. Age isn't everything when it comes to that. There are 35 year olds that have had multiple pregnancies in the time I've been just trying to have one. There's not some window of fertility. They don't even see a significant drop because of age until 35 and then a really big on at 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/18 12:29 AM
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Yes. The whole point is that stereotypes like that are dumb on either side.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 10:49 PM
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That's not true. Custody might be an issue, but plenty of men get alimony after divorce because they stayed at home and their wives make a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 02:20 AM
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What do you call all the men who get their wife's money after divorce? Or do you pretend they don't exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 02:19 AM
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Not everyone is happy just because their new SO is hotter than their old one. More to a relationship than looks if that is what you are referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/18 02:17 AM
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Then I really don't understand the conclusion the OP made.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 08:42 PM
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But without knowing gender how is biased? Maybe the women had better CVs and that is why they were getting picked more? I don't understand how this can be a woman are wonderful thing if no one even knew they were women. It's not like anyone has CV vision and can guess their gender. Edit: Nvm the study in OP showed women still getting hired less. So I still don't understand the point of this whole post personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/18 08:40 PM
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I would be interested to know if this was also true in other countries. Maybe it's a culture thing more than a woman thing? That being said, studies have shown time and time again that women show a decrease in happiness after getting married so it makes sense they would initiate a divorce. Especially since men showed an increase in happiness after marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/18 01:23 PM
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Absolutely. I broke mine while riding a bike at the age of 8. Guess I stopped being a virgin then.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/18 02:36 AM
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Sure, and then THEY are the people that tell us. Or the millions of people that live in that country. Or the thousands of people that visit and see things. It's like you are living under a rock if you can't believe people who have never visited a country might know something about it's culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 07:35 PM
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I'm a female in my mif 20s and my N count is... 4. By your definition. I would probably jump it to 5 by my own. That includes my husband. I've never purposefully lied, but I don't really keep track in my head and have to really count them. They were all LTRs except one. He had some relationship issues and it may have turned into something, but I ended up moving away to live with my now husband. It's a long story.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 07:27 PM
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I did this same thing! He actually was a terrible boyfriend though. I think the pressure of it was top much for him. We ended it for good eventually and stayed best friends. I'm married now to a guy I adore and he's in a pretty stable relationship, so it worked out for both of us. I am... a very bluish purple pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/18 07:15 PM
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Start lifting! I've been doing weights the past couple months and it's so cool seeing my weak girl arms get stronger. Yeah, my husband will probably always be stronger than me, but I can be strong too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 06:38 AM
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Then how do you explain when love comes before having sex? I definitely loved my husband years before we ever had sex (no we did not wait until marriage, we just had a very long distance relationship). I agree to a point though. Love is definitely chemicals, but it doesn't make it any less of a real thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 06:34 AM
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Yes, I really hate this whole "men can have children until they die" thing. It's technically true, but men over 50 have bad sperm which can cause infertility, miscarriages, and birth defects. There are women who can have babies well into their 40s. The ages aren't so different as guys like to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 06:21 AM
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Women don't need men. They want them. Some women don't even want them. When someone says they don't need a man, it's true. I'm married and happy, but I don't need a husband. I wanted one, so that's what I did, but I wouldn't die if he weren't around. I can take care of myself without him. That's all it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 06:19 AM
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Was it hot outside? A lot of times the salty comes from sweat. Despite common belief, we sweat everywhere. EVERRRYYYWHERE. Even if she just had a shower, sometimes it can linger for a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:02 PM
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So you'd be okay not getting blowjobs? Serious question, not am accusation. My husband doesn't like going down on me, and I don't like giving him many because I have TMJ which causes my jaw to hurt quickly and it works for us just fine, so I get it. It's just that in the past, I've seen a lot of guys who say this also say "It's not the same thing" in reference to women not giving them blowjobs because they don't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:00 PM
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Ugh. Just because there are extremists in a group, it doesn't make it that all of them are like that. I've seen very few women who look like that let alone women who are feminist who look like that. Most of us are normal, reasonable people. We don't hate all men or think we are better than them or want them to die or anything like that. And we definitely aren't all obese. And dying your hair doesn't really have anything to do with it. Some women just find it fun to have weird hair. I don't, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:48 PM
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So what is a Chad? Because despite what is always tossed around here, not all women are attracted to the same type of men or even the same type of features on a man. My husband would probably rate a 5 on most women's scales, but he's easily a 7 on mine. This happens vice versa too. There are men out there that I see women swoon over and I just don't get it, at all. We aren't a collective hivemind. We don't all agree that this person is a 3 and this is a 10. We all have different deal breakers an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 07:59 PM
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That just sounds creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 07:45 PM
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And so is a mans. When a guy says "I can't find a single woman to have sex with me" he really means "I can't find a single woman that I'm attracted to to have sex with me." Same with women. I did have a lot of trouble getting guys in the past because I'm a bit awkward and not great at the social thing. The same as most of the guys who claim to be incels. Why is it okay for them, but I must be lying? It's such a double standard. You aren't doomed if you're under 6' or a below average dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 03:51 PM
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It's false anyways. I love me a good programmer. There are women in that field with that passion as well. Sure, someone who has a passion for clothes or hiking or animals probably won't care, but one who has a passion for electronics or computers or software will.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 03:37 PM
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It's an individual thing. Humans are good at that. We care more about the individual than the whole. If I owned a cow or a pig, I wouldn't be able to eat it because I love it and care for it, but I also wouldn't feel like I couldn't eat other cows or pigs. I'm also not of the mind that I wouldn't eat dogs or cats, though. I never have, but that's more of an availability thing. It's like how on a global scale, I believe that we are having a population control problem that could be solved pretty e…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 03:29 PM
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Are You? I'm married, and I'm glad I didn't jump in headfirst without knowing we were sexually compatible. I have a low to average sex drive that could have become a real problem in our relationship if we weren't. I get your point that a marriage isn't just sex, but it's also not just communication, or having things in common, or even liking each other. None of those are essential for a marriage. They just make it more likely that you will ENJOY that marriage. Sex is not what I chose my husband …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/18 03:11 PM
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Okay, so is my advice more credible because my husband is short (5'6), squat (fat), has acne all over the place and is literally covered in hair, and by all accounts under my league. Because that's a very accurate description of him. Guess what? I still find him very attractive because I love him. That simple. I met him online through a friend and got to know him years before we ever met in real life. My main issue with incel is their opinion of women. The fact that they think literally all wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/18 11:35 AM
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Kids cost way more than 1500 a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:51 PM
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Seriously. My dad literally owes my mother several tens of thousands of dollars and no one even really cares. They garnished his wages at first, but he kept moving jobs, and the state decided that was too much work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:49 PM
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Why? How does him leaving someone who it sounds like is always putting him down and making his life worse make is so that he can no longer be an ally? If she wants to call herself a feminist, that's on her, but most of us believe feminism is equality with a focus on women's issues, not bringing men down under our boots.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/18 08:27 PM
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Seriously. About 10% of women battle with infertility. So.... the stats really aren't that big for them in this case. Many lesbians end up having biological children while many gay men don't because it's way more expensive for them. Some people don't want them at all. There are so many reasons people aren't having children. By 45, I really doubt it has anything to do with wanting to have multiple sex partners. Most people are married by then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 08:51 PM
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This is literally the type of situation they put in sexual harassment seminars.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/18 12:11 AM
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Come to the South and tell me that again. Everyone here is fat and not everyone is poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/18 04:16 PM
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Yeah, casual sex has never been my thing. I tried it once and didn't enjoy the no strings attached part. I don't think I've ever met anyone I would consider top 1% and I don't really care to, honestly. I prefer meeting and talking to guys who are in my league. It just takes out a lot of potential drama. In order for me to sleep with someone so out of my league, we would have to have a very real connection. It's pretty moot though because I'm married and won't be sleeping with anyone else unless …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 03:02 AM
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Your score on the Explorer scale is 17 out of a possible 42, or 40%. Your score on the Builder scale is 25 out of a possible 42, or 60%. Your score on the Director scale is 28 out of a possible 42, or 67%. Your score on the Negotiator scale is 26 out of a possible 42, or 62%. Yeah that's not super surprising at all and since every once else is adding it, I'm INTP. Well rounded, but don't like surprises.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/18 12:30 AM
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Is this really true? Honestly, in almost all groups most people tend to be in the middle. When I took the test, I was close to the middle in all 4 as well. I got 40% in explorer, 60 in builder, 67 in director and 62 in negotiator. The qualities really aren't this or that. You can have parts from each one easily. I like to have logical discussion but can also be emotional. Just like I like to try new things but still like to make those plans ahead of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/18 12:23 AM
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If we are talking about the US, birth control isn't free. Sometimes if you have insurance you can get it for free, but they're always changing the list of what is free and what isn't and so you end up having to constantly change your prescription just to keep up. I've paid up to $80 WITH insurance for your basic generic birth control pill before. I don't even want to think about what it would be without insurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/18 11:08 PM
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It's not about body image. It's about wanting the person we are with to find us attractive. If some random dude told me I was ugly, I wouldn't care. If my husband told me he thought I was ugly, it would be very hurtful. There's a huge difference between the two and to say that men don't care if their partners find them attractive is just bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 12:37 AM
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Why is is unrealistic? I absolutely love my husband in the same way he loves me. Many people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 05:35 PM
2

But why does feminine mean gold-digging cheater? Why can't feminine just mean liking dresses and makeup and doing your hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/18 10:18 PM
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That doesn't sound right since the person most likely to kill a woman is her husband. And when she gets pregnant that likeliness skyrockets. Do you have a source for the statistics?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/18 10:17 PM
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r/inceltears doesn't mock virgins. It mocks men who treat women like shit because they won't sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/18 09:54 PM
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Um ... women are billed more for health insurance all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/18 03:40 AM
2

The original comment said besides abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/18 03:36 AM
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If the issue is bodily autonomy, do you want it to be illegal for parents to pierce their baby's ears as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/18 03:33 AM
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Eh. I don't have a drive to have sex with numerous people. Also, having that drive while single is much different than having that drive while committed to someone. For a lot of people, if they're really committed they stop seeing most people in a sexual way. Not all people, obviously, but a lot. I don't even notice most guys looks now that I'm married and the ones I do are just in passing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/18 03:28 AM
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It's a 0 if you're only heterosexual and not even a little anything else. And to chin in, I am as well. Absolutely and totally. I've also had women interested in me and never even considered giving them a chance because I just am not interested in women that way. I like men and only men and even a certain kind of men. We definitely exist and I'd say we are the norm. I really don't know why this whole "all women are bisexual" nonsense is going around the internet. The reason it's "hard to find a …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/18 03:21 AM
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What is with men hating women who wear makeup? MOST women who wear it aren't hiding that much. You guys are poisoned by those stupid videos of girls putting on an entire container of foundation to make them look like a barbie. Most people only wear a little, some eyeliner, and maybe something on their lips. It doesn't change their looks that much. I guarantee you couldn't point out women who aren't wearing make up in real life. Most do the "natural" look and I've found that men almost always alw…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 11:13 PM
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I guess I'll tell my husband that we can't be married anymore because he wasn't the hottest guy that fits all my criteria that I could have married. Looks are not everything. I don't know why people in this sub act like they are end all be all. They aren't. There are so many other factors like personality and proximity and compatibility and interests and family and tons of other things that go into. Sure, if you've got the exact same person down to every last detail and one is more attractive, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 04:08 AM
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Eh. I doubt that. Most women I've met (including myself) don't care at all. Why would they? It's not like there's much to it that can't be taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/18 08:59 AM
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Statistics show that men who are married make more and also are happier than men who aren't. Opposite is true for women in both cases. So that right there kind of proves that men are getting more from a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/18 06:34 AM
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It's not most. It's just a stereotype that we all like to laugh about. Most military wives are working and average weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 06:08 AM
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No. Normal feminists don't want to ban men from watching porn. Prostitution is a bit more complicated, but most of us think if it's your body you should be able to sell it if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 06:05 AM
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Yup. Guy looks fine, and I'd even go so far as to say attractive. That's why I hate the whole "incel" thing. 90% of the time they post a picture, they look absolutely average or above.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 01:55 PM
1

Seriously... when does that person think most people go to college? I'm definitely later in life at 24 too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 01:46 PM
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So what is your point in this post? Most "niceguys" are either not actually nice or unnatractive. Same issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 01:41 PM
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Edit: I responded to the wrong person!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 01:40 PM
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Depends on your area. Husband and I own a house on his salary of less than 50k a year. We are renting now while we try to sell it, but plan to buy another soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 08:23 PM
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Ice cream tastes good and doesn't leave you with a sore mouth. People love giving blowjobs because they love how it makes their partner feel. People love eating ice cream because of how it makes themselves feel. Big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/18 06:48 AM
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Yes she did. He updated with the fact that her ex husband made her give him one every time they had sex and she became pressured and tired of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/18 06:42 AM
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Seconding the taking too long. I don't mind giving blowjobs, but I have TMJ issues and blowjobs make your mouth tired. I give my husband less blowjobs because he lasts too long and NO other reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/18 06:39 AM
2

Hormonal birth control is usually at least 80 dollars every month. I wouldn't call that cheap if you're having trouble affording food.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/18 08:57 PM
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My husband and I dated before having sex. You meet them through friends or in school or at work. That way you get to know them before jumping into bed with them. I have no issues with people who are having casual sex (In case it came across that way), just explaining that it's really really easy to find people to date without having sex with them first.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/18 08:45 PM
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As someone who went to college for Computer Science in a super liberal town, most of those guys are fucking assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/18 08:43 PM
5

BPers are literally telling you that they don't feel that way and you are arguing. Looks are important. But they arent EVERYTHING.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/18 08:56 PM
1

Are you a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/18 11:02 PM
1

Yup. My husband is 5'6 and stocky. It works for him, but it's his clothes more than anything that he has issues with. Like certain shirts really make him look awful, and he has to wear his pants at a certain place since he basically has no hips. Also, women who are in shape/Not overweight are not gonna weigh more than a guy taller than them pretty much ever. But I don't really know why that's a concern anyways. Its not like people are gonna ask him his weight unless they're trying to figure out …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/18 10:08 PM
1

You can not need a man, but still want a healthy and fulfilling relationship with one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/18 07:15 PM
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Yes. Sure, most men are going to find 18-25 year olds attractive, but they're not going to start relationships with them or marry them. They want to marry people that they have things in common with. Most people marry within a few years of their own age, male or female. I hate how these types of questions always act like men have no feelings. Like they can't genuinely care for or love a woman if she's not a 20 year old with huge breasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/18 07:18 AM
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If you don't believe in love or satisfaction in a relationship. Also married men statistically make more money and are healthier and happier, so there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/18 05:56 PM
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Ugh. The phone call thing. I'm weird because if some stranger calls me, I can answer and say what I'm supposed, but calling someone else makes me freak out. Like a doctor or something. I remember it taking so long to get the courage up to call my doctor for my std results (just general testing, but they weren't allowed to share my results with anyone). My husband now makes most if my appointments, but always jokes about how much of a baby I am. Its alright. In that aspect I totally am. 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/18 07:42 PM
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She said many, not most, and that's absolutely true. Many women do not wear makeup at all and even more do not wear makeup because they want people to look at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/18 06:58 PM
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Not the person you're talking to, but that isn't the pretense. The pretense is these guys are only nice because they want sex even though they never say so from the start. They say the only want to be friends and when they finally come out and say it months or even years down the road and the woman tells them she isn't interested in anything besides friendship, they get really nasty. It's the taking the rejection awful that makes them Nice Guys. If they were nice because they were genuinely inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/18 12:16 PM
2

But they aren't. That's like saying the KKK are the mainstream voice of Trump supporters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/18 11:45 AM
3

Its actually really easy to learn when you're fertile. There's ovulation tests, temperature, and a couple other things to look for. Not really concealed anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/18 11:30 AM
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You don't have to be bored with people to watch porn. That's an extreme view in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 03:42 PM
2

You probably wouldn't. Have you considered that your wife wouldn't want to have sex every time you did? It's not often, but my husband still masturbates sometimes even though he has me. Sometimes I'm not up for it. When he's not, I do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/18 03:35 PM
1

Even if you get the burger for a dollar youre spending more than you would if you cooked it yourself. Don't get me wrong. I love fast food and the convenience of it and not having to cook, but it will never be the cheaper option, dollar menu or no. Not to mention it's not good for you to eat it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/18 07:05 PM
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Edit: nevermind. You're talking about BPD women. You're right. My dad has that and his self destructive tendencies are though the freaking roof.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/18 06:59 PM
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I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. I had one in March last year and it's awful enough on its own without being told you can never carry to term. I hope you start to feel better physically soon and wish you... well healing of the soul if it doesn't sound pretentious. It can take a long time to get over something like that. It's been almost a year, and I'm still not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/18 06:06 PM
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I keep a vigilant diet because gaining weight makes me feel like crap physically. Most people I've talked to who do the same have the same exact reason for it. I hate the whole narrative that we only keep ourselves attractive for others. I look the same now and put the same amount of effort in now that I'm married that I did before. Because it's for ME. Any effort I put in is for myself. Not so people want to have sex with me or find me attractive. I have that at home. I don't need it anywhere e…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/17 09:13 PM
6

Absolutely. My husband is super self-motivated and we do not have issues. He's very reliable. Sometimes I have to ask him to do things because they aren't on his priority list, but its so much better than having to act like his mother. We have a "friend couple" who has that kind of relationship and I have no idea how she does it. That man is 28 years old and can't even make sure 2 dogs don't tear up his house while he's home or clean up after himself. I couldn't deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/17 09:09 PM
10

Seriously. I'm 5'1 and have never met a man shorter than me. I've dated men as short as 5'3 and I actually dated a guy in high school who was my height, but he's taller now. Sure, most woman want to date taller than themselves, but it doesn't mean much in the grand scheme. If you're on the shorter end, look for shorter women. Or even tall women because guys generally hate dating women taller than them. Go figure. Height matters to guys too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/17 05:30 PM
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Most women are not finding guys to date on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/17 05:27 PM
1

It's true that you can change, but changing together is pretty easy. I've known my husband since we were 16 and he's hardly changed at all. Same with me. We are 25 next year. I think 3 years is plenty, especially because they say that 1 and a half to 2 is when the honeymoon phase starts to wear off no matter how old you are. But that's just my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 08:57 PM
2

Those kind of people consider ugly as being 6 and under. You know, average. So it makes even less sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 08:37 PM
9

Women do pay child support and alimony if they made more and don't have full custody of children. It's not often because most women do get full custody and didn't make more, but it absolutely happens. Not really sure what's wrong with child support though. You're paying to help raise your kid. Sure, I think more men should get split custody, but bashing child support isn't going to make that happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 08:30 PM
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Don't be. I don't have the best experience but I've had.... four? Yeah I believe four different men that I've had sex with one of which includes my husband and he is the only one that I've enjoyed it with. His count was 1 before me. So, it really doesn't always matter that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 08:27 PM
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It's because me who are successful don't go looking for advice. My most bluepill guy friend is also the most successful guy I know when it comes to sex. It has nothing to do with being misogynistic. Sure, some women are going to get off on that. Pretty much no matter what you do, some women somewhere is gonna enjoy it even if it's terrible. But I can tell you, MOST women do not want to be around a misogynist, and they absolutely don't want to sleep with one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 08:17 PM
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Ehhhhhhh. My husband is super masculine. He's big, he's buff, he loves beer and cookout and gets into physical fights with his friends when he's drunk. He likes getting his hands dirty and messing with cars and other crap in the house. He loves camping and fishing and hunting and guns. He also likes facials and talking to our dogs in a baby voice and other random "feminine" things. Most men fall somewhere in the middle like that and most men are sexually successful. The difference is that most m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 08:14 PM
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I mean if I broke up with dudes because I wasn't getting oral as a woman then I would be alone for a long long time. I think oral is great for both parties, but if you aren't giving don't expect to receieve. And if you're giving, then have a conversation about how you'd like reciprication.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 04:13 AM
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Seriously. You can be attracted to someone and ignore it. I don't know why these people think that we are so under control of urges that we lose all reasoning and thought process. I love my husband. I want to stay with my husband. I could see the hottest dude ever and want to have sex with him, but I will turn around because it isn't worth it. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 02:42 AM
2

It's something they're taught to do because men tend to get offended if they don't orgasm during sex even when you tell them over and over that you enjoyed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 08:57 PM
3

Going to reference my comment further up and say no. I'm a woman. I'm sexually attracted to my husband. I engage entirely in the sex with him. I have never had an orgasm with him. Ever. Not through sex or foreplay. I've never had an orgasm with anyone other than myself. And I'm absolutely fine with it. Not all women are going to orgasm, no matter what you or she does. The problem is when people expect that a woman can't enjoy the sex because she's NOT orgasming. Or that a woman not orgasming mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 08:54 PM
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Not necessarily. I've never had an orgasm caused by anyone other than myself. No matter how good sex, oral, or foreplay. I love having sex with my husband. It's fun and pleasurable, but he and I have both come to terms that he'll never get me off. Not all women can have an orgasm by someone else even if they have proper technuque.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 08:51 PM
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What? Partner isn't an interesting word choice. It's a typical word used in place of boyfriend. All the time. And the person you are replying to literally said "most men", yet you say they're not considering them men? This whole theory doesn't make sense. I don't look at a guy I don't want a relationship with and think, wow what a boring blob of flesh. I think, I don't want a relationship with that guy. Yup. Guy. Because my brain knows he's a man whether you want to believe it or not. I don't se…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 08:34 PM
1

I didn't initiate because I'm shy and introverted and initiating makes me uncomfortable. It doesn't mean I don't see men, or notice them, or find them attractive. It just means that I generally had to meet guys and become friends first before I'd consider letting them know I was interested. In fact all of my boyfriend had been my friends first, same with my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/17 08:29 PM
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Eh. Not everyone is attracted to the same traits. I specifically was looking for an introverted guy because I am also introverted. I dated an extrovert and it was so emotionally draining.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/17 10:16 PM
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It's not like he is trapped for life married to this terrible woman. Telling people to never get married because they might make a mistake is like telling people to never get a job because they might get fired. Marriage is awesome if you find the right person. Sure, you could just stay in a relationship forever and never get married. That's understandable. It's not necessarily a different relationship, but there are cool benefits and there's now this expectation that no one is going to leave if …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/17 08:15 PM
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Your height won't break it. As someone who has dated short men (including a guy shorter than you), it doesn't matter as much as you think. Yes, taller men will get more women, but that doesn't mean short men will get none. It's a ridiculous thought process.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/17 10:10 PM
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My thing is, so what? So WHAT if she doesn't find you sexually attractive? If she cares for you and wants to be with you, why does it matter? Not to mention that many many women didn't start out sexually attracted to their partners. The whole rose colored glasses phenomenon. They became sexually attracted to them after they started to fall in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/17 10:08 PM
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If you're not going out of your way to meet women, why are you surprised that you aren't meeting women who want to have sex/a relationship with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/17 10:06 PM
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I doubt that as every woman is different and there are probably more types out there than woman you've met.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/17 12:39 PM
0

Are you saying most men can't afford to live on their own? Because that has not been my experience and I'm only in my early 20s. If I met a man older than me who still had roommates, it would be a potential red flag. Financial stability isn't THAT hard. Granted, it depends on where you live, but I would definitely say most men are capable of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/17 11:29 AM
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Definitely. My brother dated a girl who bought a pregnancy test and drew on it with highlighter to make him think she was pregnant. Poor kid. She later went on to accuse someone of rape, and while I wouldn't just straight up accuse her of lying, I'd only believe her if there was evidence against the dude. It's unfortunate, but it's what happens when you lie your entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/17 07:03 PM
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And make sure you aren't someone who might wear anything other than hoodies before you put one on. Because god forbid you like to wear jeans and hoodies as well as dresses. Then you're fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/17 06:48 PM
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I don't feel like that's true. My play style changes form game to game. In some games I prefer healing and support (League, MMOs) And in some games I prefer damage dealing classes, and in some games I want nothing to do with combat at all. Most people are like that in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/17 06:44 PM
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No. That they claim to want gamer girls, but the ignore and attack gamer girls. No take about it. I am one and I've seen the shit that some ment post to me. You don't have to be obvious about it. As soon as they hear your voice it's over. And if you happen to be streaming be prepared for rape threats.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/17 06:37 PM
1

Says who? Pretty sure the gaming community is 50 50 men and women based on studies done by the gaming companies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/17 06:35 PM
2

But when we remain anonymous men like you scream "THERE AREN'T ANY REAL FEMALE GAMERS!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/17 06:31 PM
2

Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/17 06:29 PM
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Yikes. As someone who wears hoodies, no makeup, and plays games this is pretty weird to read. I'm certainly not unfeminine or fat. In fact, I also spend my days working out and knitting. I get dressed up for dates with my husband and special occasion, I take care of myself with regular showers and hair products. I just don't like applying makeup and goodies are comfortable for day to day. I think that it's weird that you guys just assume these women are unattractive. I'm guessing you haven't met…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/17 06:26 PM
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Getting hung up on an ex isnt getting hung up on the sex. It's getting hung up on the feelings that were involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/17 06:12 PM
1

Have you been in a relationship? Every single one is different. Some don't do anything like that, some do them all. For example, my husband and I don't talk every day when he's out of town and it's no problem. Last year he let me forget his birthday, and I was furious. We do a small Christmas together with just a funny gift or two and for Valentine's day we just put a candle on the table and eat dinner like we always do. Not all long term relationships have to be the way you apparently think the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/17 09:36 AM
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According to the CDC the average LIFETIME partner number of women is 4. 4. Something like only 10% of women even had over 10 partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/17 09:24 AM
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Not really. Women's puberty lasts a lot longer than mans. Just because we get our period, it doesn't mean puberty is over. I didn't develop breasts, hips, and a butt until I was well into my senior year of high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/17 08:27 AM
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How low is low count? Including my husband, I've only had sex with 3 men. All 3 having been in long term relationships before having sex. I do not have a low sex drive. I didn't want to become pregnant and I didn't want to have sex with someone I didn't love. Just because you have a higher libido, it doesn't mean that you want to have casual sex. I can satisfy that with plenty of other things that don't include people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/17 08:21 AM
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