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ADVICEfrogswife/r/RedPillWives18/04/20 04:35 PM
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Hey girl! I'm right with you. 34, married 14 years, Mama to 4, trying to lose baby weight using IF and the odd run. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/22 09:01 PM
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Word of warning. Don't wait too long to decide. The older you are, the harder it is to have children. I have 3 girlfriends off the top of my head who decided career was more important. Now 30, none of them can get pregnant. One is doing ivf unsuccessfully (and getting way into debt) another had suffered through 3 miscarriages and another can't seem to get pregnant at all due to advanced scarring from Endo. They say "you can have it all" but only the very very few is this reality. At 35 you're co…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:12 PM
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My husband is French Canadian we live in Ontario and he speaks to our children only in French. (I'm an anglophone)
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:08 PM
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You've already made your opinion of him. The height thing you could mayyyybe get over, but the fact that you now see him as effeminate, that's not gonna change. So unless you're down with having a fabulous husband, move on.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 02:58 PM
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I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but I honestly think until you're in med school and living away from your family that this is too much to ask of a partner. Now he could decide to deal with it and stick through all the Insanity, but I think asking or expecting him to, is a bit much He's almost 30 and you're still quite young and seem to want/have a very full career life in front of you, maybe he doesn't want to wait years to get married, especially if while waiting he's getting accosted by cr…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 11:29 AM
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There's a lot of bad advice here. There's nothing wrong with being a SAHM. My parents were supportive of me being one after I got a higher education. It was my mother who said that if I had children, and God forbid something happened to my husband, I had better have a way to support my kids financially.I became a librarian and worked in my career for 5 years before having my first child and becoming a SAHM. We have a joint account, but I have a private savings account. The bills are in his name,…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 11:21 AM
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It depends. If you want to be a SAHM then probably not, as you'll always have to work and end up resenting him. If you're happy being the higher earner, then sure! Is he happy at his current wage or does he want to make more?
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 08:11 PM
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Lol you say "no" If he pouts and acts like a little boy about it, drop him. You clearly know what he's looking for and it's not a relationship with you, it's to get laid. You're better off
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 11:25 PM
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I was married at 21, had my first at 24, second at 28, third at 30 and due with #4 in one week, at 33. Husband and I are happy to be done at 4, so I'll be getting a tubal. I knew I didn't want children past 35, I didn't want a geriatric pregnancy and I wanted to have my children while I was younger, and had energy and my health. My friends at the time were shocked "but what about travel? Your career? Seeing the world?!" Lol travel? With what money or time? My career? I was a librarian and while …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 03:23 AM
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So I'm a mom of three, and 35 weeks pregnant with #4. Staying "hot" isn't nearly as high on my list as it usually is right now. 😅 But! I can say the best thing you can do is a great skincare regime. I do the 10 step Korean skincare routine, and as soon as babies are sleeping, I'm right back into running and strength training. (I really miss running right now, but my joints are too loose :( ) I don't think I'll ever fake tan, between running and being olive skinned it seems unnecessary, I don't d…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 09:12 PM
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((straight talk time - feel free to downvote the hell out of it)) This is an overly emotional young woman thing. He's old enough to realize that if this were actually an issue you'd be talking to a proper therapist. Maybe you do want warm, comfort, and if that's what you're going for, say that. Men his age don't play games. This, unfortunately, looks manipulative and slightly immature. Maybe breaking up would be for the best for both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 03:21 PM
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Eh, it wasn't a real offer anyway. "I'll babysit but only until it's not fun for me." .... Ok well, thanks I guess. I would've probably responded the same "it's ok, wasn't planning on asking" 😅 She thinks she's doing you a huge favor, because she has a low opinion of children, therefore watching your kids is doing something that she doesn't even want to do anyway. Apologize if you want this person to be your friend. But you don't have to be SOOOOOOOOO THANKFUL someone is willing to watch your ch…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 02:36 AM
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I'm married to a quiet man. And believe me quiet can be interpreted as shy, but that HARDLY means he's a beta. He's the best type of Alpha because he's not the loud, obnoxious, annoying Alpha. He's the rock-type alpha and those are good men! One thing I've learned over the years (married 12 years) is that YOU can encourage more masculine/assertive behavior. Start small - start deferring to him (well, what do you think?) Encourage the decisions he makes. Bring out that masculine side of him by br…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/20 02:49 PM
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Are you married?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 02:09 PM
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I'm strongly against female erasure, allowing fully functional men into women's prisons, rape shelters and group therapy. I think transwomen can live however they like, but it is not my duty as a woman to let myself be walked all over, or be called "menstruators" "uterus haver" or told that "pregnant people" "chestfeed". I believe that female athletes shouldn't have to have their skulls cracked by male athletes who identify as women, or scholarships and awards that should go to women, going to m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/20 02:25 AM
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CENSORED FOR WRONGTHINK
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 10:06 PM
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I'm currently pregnant with #4. I know about seasons of marriage and sex life believe me lol. Sex will never be versatile in a RP view. It's oil and water. Sex has value, to hand it out or not hold it in any regard other than valuable and meant for ONLY your spouse automatically brings down your value. Which you can agree or disagree with, EXCEPT that if you want a traditional man, none of them are going to agree with your view of sex. They're just not made that way.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 12:56 AM
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Ah. And also how sad lol. I've been married for 12 years and I'm still happily having sex regularly with my husband....but if she only views sex as an income I can see why she'd be happy to pawn her hubby off on other trashy women..
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 12:28 AM
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So you're a sugar baby stripper, who gets paid to sleep with your "daddy", but you hope to one day turn over a leaf and get a high value man who will keep you and allow for an open marriage so you can continue to have multiple partners? ... Hunny I think you're in the wrong group, go search in a feminism group, you'll have much better luck getting simps to agree with this lifestyle choice because NOTHING you're saying is in any way RP
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 12:03 AM
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There is so much wrong with all of this I don't even know where to start.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/20 11:58 PM
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Do not move in with his family. It's a horrible idea.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 07:02 PM
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You can't make him step up more, all you can do is take a step back.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 06:59 PM
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Gross. He's probably crawling with goodness knows what. Bleh....🤢
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 06:57 PM
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Your job as a girlfriend is to show you WILL be an awesome wife, not make yourself into one right away. Only husband's get wives - boyfriends don't. You're bending over backwards letting him enjoy the perks of having a "marriage like" relationship without giving you any of those perks himself. I would absolutely cut off the sex. And if he's not husband material, time to leave the relationship. Why waste time on someone you know doesn't have any staying power??
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 06:53 PM
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I always ask, not because I'm worried about permission, but because I believe in open communication and common courtesy. "So Stacey wants me to go grab dinner with her and the girls, is that ok?" Meaning: is there any reason or scheduling issue as to why I can't do this? Sometimes I forget that my husband has prior commitments, or maybe he had planned a date night for us... He does the same thing to me if he wants to do something as well. I had a friend once proudly say "I'll NEVER be the type o…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/20 03:58 PM
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Exactly this. Want to keep your value? Don't hand yourself out like free samples.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 03:14 PM
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As someone who's husband works in IT. I'll share what he told me. "Don't EVER send nudes. Those photos are not secure, can be shared/stolen easily and you never know where they'll end up. If you wouldn't share it on FB, don't send it." This further proved his point when I recieved an email from a distant friends begging me not to open any email from her or her fiancees account. Turns out a vindictive ex of her fiance, got into his email, his cloud, found EVERY nude she sent him and sent them en …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 03:00 PM
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It's easier if you don't move in together. There's truth in the saying "why would he buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free?" As a girlfriend you show that you have the ability to be a great wife, but until he's committed to be your husband he doesn't get that privilege. Another reason why I didn't have sex until marriage. ((Married 12 years to my captain, and a happy SAHM, with another little one on the way))
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 11:56 AM
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I loved that book!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 04:31 PM
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You're allowed to say "no that makes me uncomfortable"
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 02:07 AM
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Due to the quarantine I haven't seen or been to either my mother's or MIL's. I get this little spike of energy around noon, but that's about it. Today I cleaned the bathroom and tidied the main floor, that's about it - and it was still really hard lol. My EDD is November 10th, though it'll probably be the first week of November since I'm booking a csection. 😊 Congrats to you as well!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/20 10:40 PM
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You need to go spend time on r/botchedsurgeries and see how all these beautiful women butchered themselves with pillow lips or breast implants that end up making them look 10 years older. If you're worried about lines, look into Korean skincare products and routine. Fix the skin you have by taking care of it, not puffing it up with fillers.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 10:43 PM
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You sound like you have great hobbies. And honestly there's truth to the adage "a quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach", but you already bake! I think you're doing just fine ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 02:40 PM
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Church
/r/RedPillWives07/04/20 09:50 PM
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Is he healthy? Overweight? Low testosterone? He may have a naturally low drive, but if it hasn't been like this previously, it sounds like something (either medical or psychological) are ruining his sex drive. Is he on any medication? Or could he be depressed? Really stressed out? Porn addiction? There's literally a million things that could take away his drive, but it's hard to give advice with so little background info... I've been married 12 years, and I have a higher drive than DH. I'd say o…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/20 07:29 PM
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I think beggers can't be choosers. You're quickly getting past your prime and at 30 are considered a "geriatric pregnancy" (if you want kids) I'd say if you want a quality man, knowing you're already creeping on 30, I'd open your mind to other possibilities age wise.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 12:35 PM
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Best of luck to you! I hope you get what you're hoping for. :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/20 12:51 AM
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I'm a SAHM to (Soon to be) 4 children and homeschool.. My entire life, including my teen/university years I knew I wanted to be a SAHM. These are the steps I took to help that happen: Firstly I went into college to get a useful degree that would land me a job with a decent starting income. (Library and information technician) it was a three year course and gave me tons of opportunities through placements. Secondly, I didn't date. I knew I wanted to stay home eventually and have children - so I s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 02:00 PM
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Having your own interests and hobbies round you out as a person. Ideally your hobby should be a useful one, (while it's great to know the stats of every hockey player, that's not particularly useful) I think because social media and streaming have taken over so many people's lives, that they decide to forgo any opportunity of learning anything new. It's certainly much easier to binge a Netflix show than teach yourself to knit. And I think that's what it's boiled down to - a whole section of soci…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/20 01:39 PM
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Yes we're both Christians, and were married at 21 (me) and 24 (him) both of us saved ourselves for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 03:15 PM
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Our wedding night. I was a virgin and have 0 regrets. We've been married now for 12 years
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 12:04 PM
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You need some re-education love! I'd recommend reading "Fascinating Womanhood" to start. It will help you break down those walls and redefine for you what femininity is! It will give you the basics and how to use them. Like anything else, if you want to be good at something, you need to study and practice.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 01:39 AM
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I've been happily married for 12 years to my husband, whom I ADORE. I've had attention from charmed men, but always found there to be a difference from personally charmed, to ideally charmed. Here's what I mean: I stay home and keeping care of my husband and children is my calling, I love it, and I'm getting pretty good at it. Every week my husband hosted a games night for his buddies, that meant once a week I'd have anywhere between 3-7 men in my home. I always made sure my home was clean, I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 01:35 AM
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Lol I think I have some stalkers who are serial down voting me. 😅 But that's ok! It's still a lovely day
/r/RedPillWives18/02/20 06:26 PM
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Sounds so lovely! Spring won't arrive here for another month and a half, but wow am I looking forward to getting into my garden! Today is a busier day, schooling, then taking the eldest to piano lessons and brownies. We are supposed to be getting more snow and freezing rain, which is stressing me out a bit. But otherwise things are pretty quiet and happy right now.
/r/RedPillWives18/02/20 05:51 PM
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I dated two men, the second I married and have been married happily 12 years to. Your bf sounds jaded and already planning on throwing this relationship away though self destruction. He's setting himself up for failure, as clearly he sees no future here, so let him go and be cynical alone. Find someone who actually wants to be with you forever.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 02:27 PM
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Short answer, No. I knew I always wanted children, even if I was unable, or he wasn't, then I'd want to adopt. I was always extremely clear in what I wanted in a husband when I was looking, and "wanting kids" "wanting me to be a SAHM" "having a traditional marriage" were all at the top of my list.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 05:07 AM
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Your time is too valuable to be spent on someone who obviously cares so little for you. Take this as your wake up call. The man couldn't even be bothered to spend Valentine's with you. Free yourself from his mess and find a real man who will treat you well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 03:47 AM
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Yes! This! I had been writing a response in my head all morning, but you've effectively listed out all my same points! I hope you find your wife soon, you sound like a great partner.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 02:54 PM
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I think you'll have a hard time finding what you're looking for tbh. You want a "manly man" Alpha type, while still sitting on the "I'm an independent woman who don't need no man" bench. Manly men don't want a partner that is like them, they don't want a manly wife - when there's a bump in the night, they don't want their wife to say "don't worry baby, I'll protect you". I'm not saying you shouldn't have your own value, strength, identity and bravery. But the type of man you say you want, and th…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 04:05 AM
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It gets harder to have babies the older you are. That being said, I didn't have my first until I was 24.
/r/RedPillWives02/02/20 06:40 PM
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Sorry I can't really help. Church has definitely been helpful, basically any Church that believes in complimentarianism will have like minded ladies. Good luck on your search!
/r/RedPillWives02/02/20 06:15 PM
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I'm so so sorry you had to go through that. I can't imagine how terrifying it would be to be coerced into that situation. I personally, don't know if I could ever fully trust my husband again after that - especially if you know you'll be wanting children down the road. ((What if he "changes his mind" again?)) The way I see it you have two options: the trust is so broken you have to leave. Or: when you decide to get pregnant, you refuse to let him dictate what will happen to the baby, eg. You're …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 01:24 AM
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Currently on my tww as we're trying for #4. It would honestly be a miracle if we were pregnant however, as I've only had one proper period in 12 months. (My youngest just turned a year and I'm still breastfeeding) Still! You never know! I'll be able to test on the first.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/20 03:07 AM
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Awww I love her! I'm so glad she's speaking up for tradwives. Also watching the feminist butt-hurt is HILARIOUS! lol¡
/r/RedPillWives26/01/20 03:04 AM
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I think you should be asking the bdsm subreddit.. This Reddit isn't about kink play
/r/RedPillWives23/01/20 03:54 PM
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Good for you! I try to really think of my home as my husband's haven. The world outside is cruel, tiring and frustrating. I know he's burnt out often from a demanding job so I gather the kids about 30 minutes before husband is home and do a "before daddy gets home" cleanup. I try to have a hot dinner ready and we all greet him as soon as he walks in the door. The children swarm, I hang back and wait for my kiss lol! I love seeing him visibly relax and his usual smile come back to his face. It ma…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/20 04:25 PM
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I have not gone through all that you have, but I'm 3 babies in now, and I know at 6 months, with difficulties like the ones you're going through- you are still in the trenches. And while I know it sucks and everyone is sleep deprived and has zero patience and super sensitive, this WILL get better. I promise. You need to tell yourself that next week will be better. Remind yourself of that constantly, remind your husband of that constantly. And even though you don't feel like it at ALL, try to giv…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/20 08:33 PM
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