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It is normal though. It happens to enough people to be normalized. The bed treatment for dysphasia (and there have been studies but it’s 2 am and I believe in your ability to google things) is to let people transition.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 06:38 AM
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Tell that to the birth canal
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/20 01:41 AM
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Do you understand that a woman getting wet is not the same as a guy getting a boner? It takes longer to get wet enough to have sex and how wet you can get depends on your cycle and varies from person to person. Humans are not the best designed creature.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 04:32 PM
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Do you really think women aren’t in any of these professions?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/20 12:24 AM
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Mhmm. Cause stigma around sex work only exists in Utah and New Jersey. Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 06:33 PM
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I happen to live above the mason Dixon line and waaay over to the east. Doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 05:26 PM
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??? Where the hell do you live? Where I’m from porn is shameful. I don’t think it’s right, but it’s there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 04:54 PM
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Do you think modern women were also forced to be different?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 04:52 PM
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There is a video by a guy named Oliver thorn that takes a very logical approach to pro choice if you wouldn’t mind watching it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 05:48 PM
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If someone dated my friend and broke up, I’ve probably heard some really awful things about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 06:43 PM
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Do you have any fashion savvy friends you could ask before a presentation?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 07:45 AM
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I mean I just think of Halloween when I hear that. It would really depend on the intensity of the orange though. I think a darker green or red could go better, but I’d have to see it together.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 07:41 AM
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Do they just think you’ve got bad fashion? Something that clashes horribly would distract me from any presentation, no matter how good the speaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 07:29 AM
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I'm sorry for such a late reply, I wanted to think this through. I kind of thought everyone saw the world as systems interacting? But I realize I've never actually asked. There are systems as large as the corporation of disney and as small as two people but each one is a system of choices and interactions. I think the fact that men are just kind of the assumed leader of situations is still a problem. I don't always think there is "no other reasonable option" though. I've seen more capable women …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 07:23 AM
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I think the perception that it is impossible to be friends with people you are attracted to adds to the "lack" of practical self restraint.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 07:06 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 05:17 AM
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I was, I also have a few that are objectively attractive but they are like brothers now and it’s actually disgusting to think of them intimately. I think everyone has enough self restraint to not jump into someone’s pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 02:38 AM
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I happen to have a couple of attractive platonic male friends. The secret was to get the fuck over any attraction to them because I enjoy them as friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 11:59 PM
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Ahh, I meant that the existence of asexuals means there can be non sexual romantic acts because thee are people who do a lot of romantic acts that never leads to sex. I meant that as an extreme example of a normal phenomenon
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 03:19 PM
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So, we’re talking about two different things, I think. To clarify, you’re talking about a romantic relationship I.e. two people dating. I’m talking about a romantic act I.e. getting your partner flowers. The guy waaay at the top said that any romantic act was just prolonged foreplay in their opinion, and I disagree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 05:15 AM
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So, a romantic relationship with to sexual people with have sex in it if it’s healthy, but every single romantic interaction does not and maybe should not be trying to lead to sex
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 10:13 PM
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No, I’m describing romance that isn’t extended foreplay
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 09:16 PM
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Well, I think their existence proves their can be romance without sexual connotations. And even people who aren’t outliers can experience that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 08:06 PM
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I have to disagree based on the existence of asexuals
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 05:55 PM
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My point is that pink was for boys until about the 1950's. So the trappings of gender, the dresses for girls, suits for boys, boys like video games, girls like barbies, is almost certainly a social construct. That's not to say it isn't real. It's real the same way money is real. Money only has value because our society has decided to give it value, it's really just paper. The difference lies in the fact that it's a lot easier to defy the social construct of masculinity than money. It'd still be …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 06:00 PM
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I think some people just get depressed, logically or not, and they kill themselves. My uncle was similar, kids, a wife, just got a promotion at work, also killed himself. A male friend of mine also had a knife in hand about to go to the bathtub when a friend texted him to ask if he was alright, and that was what stopped him. Most of the people I know that have killed themselves, tried to, or have come damn close to trying have been mentally unwell instead of situationally unwell. I come from a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 05:53 PM
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Yes, because every man and woman think exactly the same way and face exactly the same problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:40 PM
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My cousin (more like a brother to me) killed himself in his sophomore year of college, good grades, good girlfriend, good friends. His life was far from destroyed. I would disagree. I feel that I should disclose I am female at this point, and that may change your view of all this, but it will also add credit to the claim that I know my females friends sex lives. Intimately. And quite a few of them are into fucking nearly every night with their incredibly expressive and emotionally vulnerable boy…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 05:17 AM
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Well, all the suicides by feelings I know were men, so different worlds I guess. I've seen relationships where a woman really does do a lot of emotional work with her man, and still respects him after, but I will admit they are slightly rarer than someone taking advantage of the other. I've only seen women lose respect for men when they show emotion, but I also feel that that becomes a lot more common with lower income. I might be entirely off base about this, but women who don't have to worry a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:49 AM
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I'm really happy you are fine! I understand how suicide can be rational, but there is an irrational side to it as well. For people who are clinically depressed and kill themselves it's not always about rationality, which is more of what I dealt with. I think my main problem with the red pill is the demonization of women. That may have been your experience (women can absolutely suck as people), but I disagree with the othering and "evolutionary science" claims quite a bit. I guess my point is tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:13 AM
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I would guess yes, I was wondering if you had gotten red pilled by your therapist or you found that on your own. Also, how are you doing now? You don't have to answer, I just hope you're okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 03:40 AM
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So, in your view, is pink inherently feminine?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:35 AM
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Have you been to therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:32 AM
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What about teaching both at the same time? While warning people it might make them less attractive in the eyes of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:29 AM
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I think it communicates that you don't have your shit together. I realize that's because making a space mine is a high priority for me, so if I see someone with a mattress in the floor, it feels like they can't do the most simple part of being an adult. Unless I know more about a financial situation, of course
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:26 AM
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So, I’m a female gamer and I think what really pisses me off is things like Quiet. They had to come up with a bull shit reason to put her in a bikini when they could have done it without being such an obvious thirst trap. If you’re going to sexually objectify someone, commit damnit. I don’t want “breathes through her skin.” Though I think the slaughter aspect is a really good point. However, a lot of games operate under power fantasy rules with combat as the primary focus. I think there would ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:00 PM
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To everyone or just partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:11 PM
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No, but most do not want to dominate their partner 24/7 or even every time they have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 09:18 PM
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You should probably ask about their fetishes first then. Seems you’re in for a surprise
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:32 PM
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Are you having fetish sex with men?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 03:59 AM
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Well. I asked because I’m curious how the hell you got to this conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 03:58 AM
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Coming from a mildly dominate woman, they really don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 03:46 AM
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Have you been in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 03:45 AM
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What about the ace dude that cut off his dick? Is he still trying to fuck or nah?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 04:39 AM
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It's hard to tell how it's supposed to be taken, ngl. We've seen this actual view on this sub quite frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 08:46 AM
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Good on you for breaking the pattern!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 08:44 AM
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What situation would that be, in you opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 05:52 AM
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Have you ever fucked?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 12:53 AM
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Friends exist. You can want a relationship, that’s normal! You shouldn’t put all your happiness on finding one or fucking people though!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:51 PM
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I think it is. You should not depend on another for your happiness, you can want a relationship, but you should not need one to be happy. And maybe you’ll be more happy in a relationship, but you should at least be happy/content on your own
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:50 PM
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I had an incredibly effeminate male friend in high school, and he got with more girls than any of the rest of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:59 AM
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What makes you think the women on this sub are pussies?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:56 AM
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Well, fun BDSM is trust. BDSM without trust is pretty much just abuse or damn close to it. Oh! Like 50 shades, god I hate that book.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:54 AM
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Host clubs
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 11:06 PM
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I’m very sorry your world is so small.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:11 PM
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No. Start running in a different circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:43 PM
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What kinda circles are you running in? That’s not how women “are” that’s how dumbasses “are”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:43 PM
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I know for me that my partner and I are always trying to support each other, so we end up taking care of little things while the other is stressed or sick. There aren’t really arguments or discussions about it unless one of us feels like we aren’t doing enpugh
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:32 PM
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Has the sub changed significantly in the past month??
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:13 AM
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The reason deteriorates with birth control or if you don’t want kids. Also, humans are all kinds of fucked up, evolution is not a perfect master it just throws shit at the wall until something sticks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:12 AM
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All of my gay friends who do OLD and even sometimes in real life get rejected for not being masculine enough. Masc for Masc one big muscle dude for another.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:25 PM
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What about the entirety of the masc for masc thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:20 PM
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Whether or not men are hypocrites doesn’t absolve women for what women do So, she wasn’t talking about men in broad strokes here, just specifically RP men. It is hypocritical to follow a doctrine about how all women are evil manipulators and ignore everything women tell you about their lived experiences then turn around and demand they respect yours. What is your lived experience? How were you lied to? I want to start a discussion with you in which we both listen and do not discount the other on…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 01:34 PM
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Does your video have any sources besides that guy’s experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 01:21 PM
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Ahh. I see. I think the debate on what makes an alpha is interesting, and also if what is considered to be alpha is actually attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:01 PM
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Only in the context of TRP is it objective, and even then people debate on what is truly alpha
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:10 PM
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What about gay women?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:37 PM
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Objective by TRP standards, there’s the catch. It’s not objective unless in that context, and therefore not really a fact of life. Also, TRP’s definition is supposedly based on observation of said “alphas”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:33 PM
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I guess I ascribe them to different feelings, as most people do now, I believe. I like my language descriptive instead of prescriptive though, so I think this is that difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:42 AM
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So, I wouldn’t see that as confidence, but bravery. Confidence is feeling like you got this, bravery is doing it when you don’t feel that. Do you feel confident or brave?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:45 AM
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Is your current partner not stable enough for monogamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:41 AM
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People do not ignore those they view as subhuman they hate as them. Ask any trans person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:28 AM
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For me confidence is a feeling. Do you feel confident in your actions? What do you mean by “not good at it”?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:59 AM
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Well, you’re trying to say it’s not fake even when you’re faking it? That’s the bit I’m confused on right now. Is it fake or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:33 AM
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Is holding frame not a more fancy way of says big fake it till you make it? That’s the most coherent definition I’ve gotten of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:24 AM
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How so? Do you have some sources? I can show you mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 04:13 AM
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He said it because they are brown. It’s not hard to connect that to racism.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 04:12 AM
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here is the source.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 11:04 PM
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I think if your comments to appearance are relegated exclusively to women, you’ve got a problem. I can find one comment about a man’s appearance from trump and it’s to insult him for not looking manly enough. (Man bun protestor). here are some things he’s said on Mexico. I don’t know if he believes that white people are superior in his head or not, but he does say a lot of things that are easily interpreted as racist. Like the time he told 4 congress women to go back to the countries they came f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 11:03 PM
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I’m not listening to the president who lies constantly, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:58 PM
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Not sure about globally, but in America it’s 73% right wing and 27% Islamic. So I was slightly wrong it was only in 2018 that all the extremist attacks had ties to white nationalism. I apologize for the overstatement, but the fact remains that the majority of terrorism in the US is by white nationalist groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:55 PM
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You said I was determining his beliefs? Which implies you believe he does not think that way? Now the burden is on you. Admit he’s sexist or provide your proof. And saying you don’t care if he’s sexist or not is valid too it’d line up nicely with your username
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:50 PM
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Oh weee there’s another one. Yay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:35 PM
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So hate crime=extremist crime to you? Extremists are from a group ideology, hate crimes are always. So yeah. I think I will keep my source. And have you never had a Spanish speaking friend? Most immigrants are actually trying to learn English, and a smile is universal. While you might not be bosom buddies you can certainly cultivate a friendly relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:33 PM
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Hm. I can see that I won’t convince you of anything, but please go look into your sources. Look at somebody for check them because there are so many lies on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:24 PM
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Do I have to when you can use google? Well any way here here here I feel like that enough to keep you busy for five minutes while only reading the first line of everything. Then you can try to prove to me how he’s definitely not sexist 100% supports women all 17 allegations of sexual misconduct are made by liars who are lying because they hate Trump. And trump the most honest man alive would never do something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:22 PM
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Yep. Don’t we live in a great country that totally isn’t ruled by lobbying groups and people snapping at power and money however they can. I’m not saying that Democrats are much better, but they don’t have a significant portion of followers that would want to force me back into the kitchen to emulate “when times were better” (but only for white people). If I’m going to support a hollow husk of a human it might as well be one who at least pretends to care about people outside of their race and ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:12 PM
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Did you not hear the good ole Tuck report on that one town that now has a 50% Spanish speaking migrant population? He can’t imagine being friends with “people who can’t speak the same language” And here is the citation for the white nationalist terrorism.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:09 PM
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Can you give me quotes that show any respect for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 09:55 PM
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Because many of them were afraid of the funds being used for deportation raids and not for the care of children, supposedly. It may have also been a dick move to make the Republican Party look even worse. But do you really think Trump, and by extension the Republican Party stirring up hatred and fear of brown people is helping things here? Do you think that we should turn our back on our history as a country of migrants and fear people who speak Spanish as Tucker Carlson says? Should we continue…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 09:40 PM
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Actually, a lot of new white nationalists like Israel. They think it’s an ethnic state for Jews and that we should send all of them there. We lose a lot by thinking that neo-nazis are exactly like original nazis. They prey on a fear of brown people and women’s rights. Thats why people like Ben Shapiro (not a neo nazi himself) has so many white nationalist followers. They love how he is anti immigration, anti LGBTQ, and anti feminist. Also does Trump really support gay marriage? Right up until el…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 09:33 PM
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Maybe dead kids and worse conditions? It wasn’t right when Obama did it. It certainly isn’t right that Trump made it worse. BP used to only hold people for 3 days. Some people (children taken away from their parents included) are held for weeks. Facilities meant for 100 people are holding 350.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 09:25 PM
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Where did you read that men have more varied interests than women? And where did you read that women are sitting back and letting everyone take care of them? Because I’ve been doing a lot of reading too. Studies that about 50% of the working population are women. How in a dual income household women still do the majority of the house work.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:50 PM
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We did start wonderful “summer camps” for kids at the border! Kids from asylum seeking families
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:39 PM
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Well the red pill is also real cute with their assumptions on an entire gender they aren’t even a part of. I know there are issues for men in this society that are not being addressed. Courts need to be more fair in custody battles, there needs to be male abuse shelters. We should stop believing all men (especially black men) are rapists just waiting to happen. We need to stop expecting men to suppress every emotion except mild happiness and anger. But the idea that every women is a soul sucking…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:11 PM
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I’m a little worried because it looks like the center of the Republican Party is moving closer and closer to extremism in order to protect financial interests. I mean, we elected trump, and almost the whole party switched to near fanatical support for him instead of derision.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:02 PM
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Do you believe that the average man uses Reddit? Cause I think it’s like 15% of men and 8% of women in the US so all of us are abnormalities, but then again not really cause that is a fuck ton of people. It depends on how you define “normal”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 07:59 PM
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Mildly off topic, but how do you feel about the rise of white nationalism on the far right? It just feels like it’s getting more traction and attention than it should.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 07:44 PM
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I see your hypothetical point but I believe you have a very small amount of real life experience to draw on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 07:13 PM
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So where are you getting your twitch info if you don’t even watch twitch? And where are you getting the info that only .1% of girls are actually into their interests? Again, women started the star trek fandom. Do you think there has been a huge shift and now no women like it anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:51 PM
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I think you may be talking about the parts of twitch you spend time on. I follow a couple of women gamers who just like games? Games are pretty fun and lots of women don’t play for attention. Girls started the Star Trek fandom ffs before it was popular. That most certainly wasn’t bandwagoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:23 PM
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Hm. I can only dispute based on personal experience. I think it’s more like 80% who like at least one of those things but not really all of them. Also, what do you think the interests of men are?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:05 PM
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Ah, good to know. Thank you for being honest!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 05:34 PM
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Ah yes. The shit opinion of one person defines their entire gender. Of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 05:18 PM
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What do you mean when you say “the west”?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 05:17 PM
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What kind of variety? What are the things 99% of women like, in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 05:16 PM
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I like to refer back to that classroom study. Men thought women were dominating the conversation when they talked 30% of the time. So, maybe it’s also your own bias?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 05:14 PM
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Not really? I have male friends who I find very interesting and fun. Some of them are more interesting than the female friends I have. I think it’s just whether or not interests line up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 05:12 PM
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I mean, there are marathon runners who are amputees. They just got little leg things. So, yeah, you can do it. It might be harder for you since you’re anxious, but you can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:50 PM
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Why do you feel that men get no sympathy for rejection?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:43 PM
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Do other men care about you? Random men? Or just your friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 04:41 PM
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I think anyone with co-dependent tendencies is going to be miserable in a relationship unless you can fix that about yourself. You might have been able to attract more people as a girl, but you still probably wouldn’t be happy with the relationships, if that helps your resentment at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:00 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 02:49 AM
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He was saying that women do not care about men, I think that anyone that is empathetic cares about half of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 04:31 AM
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Why do you feel my question is useless? I don’t know if you’ve fully thought through how you think about other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 03:49 PM
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What do you think women do with their time?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:03 PM
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Do you believe women never do their own work then? Just make men do it by acting weak? Is this just a social concept that you’re talking about? What about working through grief? Does that not count as a period of growth or do women not do that in your eyes?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:09 PM
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I’ve experienced a very different truth for myself, but I think it may be that I’m in a more liberal area? Most girls are looking for a partner that makes them happy above all else. The jealousy thing very rarely plays a role unless the girl is insane from what I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 05:50 PM
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What’s your idea of a situation that forces someone to grow outside of a romantic context?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 05:47 PM
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Nope, still concerning. Saying you care about white people would be much less concerning, but putting the primarily in front of any race implies that you care about that race over other races. And that is concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:29 PM
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Saying “I care primarily about white people” is mildly concerning, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:17 PM
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If the people had scurvy it’d make sense. But the people do not have scurvy. There gums are bleeding because they haven’t brushed and are balking all their problems on not having oj, when oj is not the key to their or anyone’s happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 07:44 PM
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Wait, needs? Like a romantic relationship is a need?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 06:14 PM
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I feel like most people’s demands to incels aren’t get a gf but just to stop hating women? Is that a contradicting demand?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 03:39 PM
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It’s not so much a “reveal unflattering things” just a “be mostly wrong and cause hatred” thing that women dislike. Yes, there is some (very small) truths in their thinking. But most of it is just MUH WOMEN BAD.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 03:15 PM
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What is your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 03:13 PM
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Yep. So therefore k-pop guys are attractive! That was the point I was trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 06:52 PM
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I forgot a /s actually whoops
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 06:39 PM
2

And what was always the selling point of boy bands?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 06:38 PM
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I think they’re just attractive? They got that popular by being attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 05:07 PM
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Again, I don’t care about any of my male friends in the slightest. /s They tell me what’s up in their life and I try my best to help or comfort or anything. Just because you are surrounded by shitty women does not mean every woman is a horrible person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 03:38 PM
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Women are incapable of empathy? I don’t care about my best friends in the world at all, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 03:05 PM
2

Well for me, I find this sub really interesting, like entertainment. Also, I can hope to change a little bit of someone’s mind every time I interact with them and that’s pretty fulfilling for me. It’s hard to find a space on Reddit where disagreement is encouraged and not downvoted to hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 04:49 PM
1

Where do you feel disrespected?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:40 AM
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I can very confidently say I’ve never intentionally elicited jealousy. And negging is specifically picking at a partner/target/whatever to make them more insecure. That isn’t flirty teasing that’s being a shit person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:39 AM
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Because doing something else will improve it even more.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:35 AM
0

Wouldn’t all TRP success stories be anecdotal evidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:32 AM
1

What does “done right” mean here? Like, the frequency, how did it work for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:30 AM
1

There are reasonable boundaries that exist as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 01:35 AM
1

There’s some out there! Unfortunately most of them are taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 05:10 AM
2

Do I look like I can see you???
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 05:07 AM
3

I think those men are dating the wrong women, honestly. But maybe not insane people are just few in number.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 01:17 AM
6

Have you dated a man? One that feels the need to be masculine?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 01:13 AM
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I think there are a lot of men hat need emotional babysitting in a relationship and play just a many games because of it. I feel that large swaths of both genders are undateable to me because of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 09:22 PM
5

Why do you believe the truth must hurt? Does your life not have any happy truth?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 08:49 PM
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Do you think men are less crazy in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 08:47 PM
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You’re older, aren’t you? I think this boils down to a language thing. Most people call that “talking” now. And it’s understood that that is casual. However, sex isn’t necessary expected in that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 12:48 AM
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Do you think most men are too? Or is narcissism an only female trait?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 02:08 PM
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What frigid girls are going to festivals???
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 02:00 PM
2

Have you actually seen this happen? How many times? I tend to see high inhib girls settle into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 01:59 PM
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Depends on the dude. You can usually tell though, if you’re looking for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 12:56 AM
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If it comes of as condescending is it the obvious choice of the right thing to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 02:19 PM
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Well, there is light grey and dark grey. If you can’t tell the difference prepare to get fucked over by “friends”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 11:53 PM
1

Was he also sexless for years?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 05:18 PM
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The op is assuming that all women do not respect those qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 05:15 PM
4

“I don’t want to work on myself or my issues” the post. Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 02:40 PM
1

Yep. Also during day to day life. It’s a trigger of mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:28 PM
1

The thing is, it does not matter how much I trust the person, if they grab my neck that’s an anxiety attack. It’s really important to get consent for the harder shit in BDSM like face smacking and choking, also one handed choking is really dangerous if you don’t know how to do it right. Ass smack? Prolly fine that shits basically vanilla, but the smacking and throat grabbing is something that needs to be asked, you can do it in a dom way or whatever but it really needs to be asked about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:44 AM
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I just want to chime in to super make sure she’s okay with that before you do it. Anyone who grabs my throat is going to get a panic attack from me, which are decidedly unsexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:28 AM
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Well, I’m a white woman. I’ve had crushes on Latino, Asian, and Indian men and a few Latino and Asian women, but I don’t have much exposure to Arabs to idk about them as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 08:39 PM
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You might have a point there, I know a not really religious Muslim guy so I don’t think that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:15 PM
2

I mean, if you want to hate someone cause they were born in a different place go ahead?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:14 PM
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Well, her sister does not wear the hijab so I don’t think that is the case in this situation. I agree that feminism does go to far in trying to legitimize people forcing women in the hijab, but I see it more as an attempt to stop people from ripping hijabs off in public and other things like that. At the very least if you have the view that these women are abused/pressured you should try not to do anything to make it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:14 PM
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I think it’s because it’s applied to the group as a whole. I see the same thing happen in many feminist spaces, criticism of men turning to hatred. I think what people should really be doing is looking at sets of behaviors that some people exhibit and looking at where society treats the other gender differently and critiquing that. Like people are generally nicer to women, shouldn’t we be nice to men too? And other such things instead of IF YOU MARRY THAT WHORE WILL DIVORCE RAPE YOU!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 07:25 AM
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Do you know anyone who is Muslim? Like actually know them, not just passed them on the street? I’m lucky enough to be friends with a lovely Muslim woman, and she wears the hijab because it strengthens her faith, she’s not trying to force it on anyone else. I think that’s where the real difference comes in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 07:21 AM
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I agree, but MGTOW is full of things that go beyond criticism, right into hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:03 AM
2

How many exceptions must there be before the rule is thrown out?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 11:05 PM
2

Have you heard of Margret Hamilton? The women who wrote the code to go to the moon. Or, what about Ching Shih the most successful pirate ever? There are a lot more examples but those are my favorites.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:54 PM
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I’ll give you stronger, but what makes you say smarter? Men and women are usually around the same intelligence level i.e. average
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 09:05 PM
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I disagree with you that it is natural, simply because different cultures have had many different ways of organizing a household, and usually not even in household format. It’s just the post industrial revolution European way of doing things won out due to conquest. However, I’m extremely on board with it being a partnership. How would you organize it? A 50/50 split or would there still be “man jobs” and “woman jobs”?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:46 PM
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Believing a group of people is lesser than you are is what leads to a hate group.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:28 PM
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You can oppose something without saying it is lesser than you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:24 PM
2

Why do you think the man is a leader of the household social position is natural?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:23 PM
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Not exactly. For anyone being penetrated, bad sex is painful. And to actually get off usually takes a partner who knows your body pretty well unless you’re incredibly sensitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 10:06 PM
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Well, a lot of women know big dicks hurt more too. That would be why. If you’re someone who has sex infrequently, and your partner is someone with a big dick, you’ve got to stretch yourself out again or risk serious injury. Not to mention that for most women hitting the cervix means excruciating pain. So if he’s too big it’s just pain if he wants to bottom out. In other words, for most women, big dick=pain in the vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 02:18 PM
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Thank you very much for the information! How did you find out they were pursed and wanted? Are there some articles on that? Sounds like an interesting read.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 01:46 AM
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I think people are realizing men are much more socially bound by gender roles and actually care about the men in their lives gaining that part of freedom and autonomy. But maybe you’re right and I’m the only woman in the world with any empathy for some of my dearest and oldest friends, my brother, and my dad. Not everyone is a lying sociopath trying to manipulate all those around them. Some are, and the virtual signaling is absolutely a thing. But some people actually just care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:58 PM
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They might have had opportunity for sex, but they are also mentally unstable enough to shoot people and sometimes that can limit getting laid. I agree it might be more them rallying behind the title rather than actual involuntary celibacy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:54 PM
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I rennet them labeling themselves as such when shootings happened and I just looked them up to refresh my memory
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 07:42 PM
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I just saw a couple shooters listed as incels
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 05:22 PM
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I’m going to say you’re wrong, but have fun with that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 05:22 PM
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Could you expound on the ‘not an inel’ remarks? Also, for the other two, are you saying they were voluntarily celibate?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 01:27 PM
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Elliot O. Rodger, Chris Harper-Mercer, William Atchison, and Scott Beierle, to name a few.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 01:10 PM
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I’m sorry to hear that. I’m a woman and like the think I handle rejection well (been there a couple of times) and I hope you find someone not batshit to have a nice relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 12:58 PM
1

Ah, thank you for providing an example!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 12:35 PM
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So western masculinity is the only way for men to exist? Have you talked to men who exist outside of traditional masculinity?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 11:31 AM
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Popular in what way? I know there was a conversation that some of them had nice faces, but the girls actually rejected them based off personality (shocker, it can matter).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 11:11 AM
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I think it’s more in line with freeing them from their gender role like feminism did for women. Allowing people to exist outside or inside traditional masculinity and encouraging not emotionally repressing yourself. There is a large difference between stoicism and emotional repression and telling a crying boy to “man up” helps no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 11:10 AM
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I’m hearing about 4 incredibly shifty women from your life. Do you have a wider observation as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 10:45 AM
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Oh, do you have a study? I’m genuinely curious. Also, the boys have been self identified incels so that’s where the perception comes from. There were a couple of article saying of “Reddit/incel subs=school shooter gathering” because of it or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 10:44 AM
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I’ll make my own opinion on the advice after I finish the book. Though it is currently confronting how women ignore men’s issues to be more comfortable so I’m hopeful. I’m just glad that while it might not be doing great there is a start to the conversation of truly adding men to feminism and treating them as human beings. I’m honestly not sure about the sensitivity one. Because I’m sure it exists, but I’m also a woman. I recently held my boyfriend as he cried. I’ve been more sexually attracted …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 10:41 AM
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Quite a few trans people do. Maybe you don’t care cause it’s hate is mostly directed at trans people anyway? To be fair I didn’t browse very far the sub very far and there might be quite a lot of man hating as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 10:15 AM
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I think the perception comes from several school shooters identifying as incense and the fear of the doctrine that you have nothing better to do than ldar would produce more. I’m not sure how fair this is, but I wouldn’t be taking that risk as a company either.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 10:10 AM
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There’s some more recent (better) feminist writing about actually helping men out and caring for them. I’m reading a book right now. There are also some rare ish people who really let you cry your heart out without judging. Unless it’s like, over waluigi porn. I hope you find some of those people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 10:06 AM
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He specifically said “leading them on” as in tricking them for sex. I think it’d be concerting if he didn’t feel guilt for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 10:13 PM
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Someone with some interesting experiences and better sex tips. But, to each their own. I know that most bi people don’t appreciate being called faggot so it’s probably for the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 01:49 AM
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Well dang. Fair enough I guess, but to me you’re missing out. Edit: Do you share this opinion for bi women too? (Our of curiosity)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 01:39 AM
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Well, not necessarily. A lot of male porn stars use Biafra to get it up even with women because it’s a job not always something they enjoy. Also, bi people exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 01:26 AM
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Huzzah, we’ve all got them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 06:48 PM
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Because you have empathy. That’s why you feel bad. You consider women human beings with feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 04:41 PM
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I think it’s actually cause our urethra is shorter
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 09:51 PM
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You’d be surprised! It’s usually both!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 04:03 AM
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I’m not entirely sure of that point, because I was a little girl and played in a much more male style. Mud, tree climbing, trucks and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 06:57 PM
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I actually agree with you here, but the only reason people pay attention to women issues is about 50 years of complaining, also called feminism. I really truly believe men need a movement like feminism, but al lot of men’s rights things still seemed to be centered on relationships with women. Even MGTOW is centered around not having relationships instead of the institutional injustices men face.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 05:53 PM
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For men, the problem is being invisible, and for women the problem is being too visible. You don’t get called disgusting if you don’t shave your legs for three days. People tend not to judge you by the way you look unless its for a sexual reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 03:01 PM
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? Can you not tell when you want to have sex with someone more often? Is that not an increase in attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 03:26 AM
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My sexual attraction increased after my parter opened up to me about insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 03:13 AM
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I’m confused by what you mean here?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 05:06 PM
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I think some women enjoy this, but they are not the norm. Red pillers normally try for women who are down for casual sex, I believe, so they end up with a pretty strange view of what most women actually want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 05:37 PM
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Except a large penis can be incredibly painful during sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 05:35 PM
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I think around 75% of women can’t have an orgasm through just intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 05:33 PM
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Well, I know a few exceptions to this rule, mostly introverted women, actually. But one of my really good male friends is a social butterfly who is also an introvert.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 11:29 PM
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How do you define introvert? Just needing to recharge or socially awkward?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 08:46 PM
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I think you might be right, I personally have a mix, but I also want sex much more often than my other female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 06:13 PM
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We do, but it is generally lower. It depends on the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 05:37 PM
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What makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 03:00 PM
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There’s a theory that it’s because it takes the responsibility of the act away from the woman. Of course, having a fantasy doesn’t equate to wanting that thing to happen to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 02:52 PM
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Well, yeah, that’s what one of my many concerns with the feminist movement. How did you get the impression that I don’t care about men? My more pressing concerns about men’s mental health are directed at feminism and the general idea that all masculinity and men are bad, which isn’t what TRP says at all. TRP’s views actually make me more concerned about the partners of these men, so that’s what I’m talking about here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 04:05 PM
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Well, I was talking about negging women, and my intention were for those sentences subject to be the partners of such men not men themselves. I don’t know how much/if TRP hurts men specifically. I think it fucks with their empathy and their ability to trust half the population, but if that’s the life they want to live I’m sure they can still be happy as long as they don’t get too bitter. I think TRP makes it really easy to get bitter, but it’s not necessarily going to have a direct negative impa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 03:30 PM
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Hello, you’ve now met a women who is a switch and actively enjoys a dominant role in her current relationship. Huzzah, mildly kinky sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 03:49 AM
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What makes your believe that they cannot?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 11:11 PM
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I would imagine it isn’t, but where did I mention men’s rights in this comment? I mean, I do care about it but I don’t think I mentioned that there?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 09:07 PM
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Oh yeah, but if X things is new or something she had gently brought up before it’s totally fair game. Quick edit because I remembered: Men actually have hormone cycles too but there are no easily identifiable physical signs, so it could be interesting to look at yourself and see if there is a pattern to being especially irritable!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 09:05 PM
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Well, I know you probably won’t believe me, but I am a woman so here’s my experience. There are absolutely women who do this, there as also men who do this. Yes, it’s a manipulation tactic, but the people who intentionally do this are few and far between. I’ve a friend like this, the reason she pulls this shit is because she cannot handle her own emotions well and has a host of mental health problems and boundary issues. It is the same for my male friend like this. Women commiserate more and rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 11:26 AM
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Yes but some people misuse words, so I was clarifying. How do you believe women behave with manipulation in mind? Could you provide some examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 08:41 AM
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Because they are selective with who they connect with. They’ve met many girls but only select one to actually open up to
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 07:48 AM
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What kind of crisis are you talking about? Emotional, physical?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 07:42 AM
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I’m not sure, I just want to know where you’re drawing this conclusion from, is it from life experience, if so, do you have a story? Is it a theory? I’m just curious, tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 07:31 AM
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Do you believe the manipulation is intentional?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 07:27 AM
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Do you believe women can love?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 07:26 AM
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Do you have examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 07:23 AM
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Most of the uterus having population experiences PMS, however it is actually before the bleeding, and if you know what’s happening it can be quite easy to compartmentalize and ignore the feeling, just takes a moment to question why you’re feeling so irritated. I think the “misogynistic lie” part comes in because there is a history of people discrediting women on account of PMS, like an SO that says “oh you’re not really mad at X thing it’s just your time of the month” when the women is actually …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 07:21 AM
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How is it contradictory? The first statement is that men fall deeply in love with the first girl they connect with (as a person and are attracted to) Second just says men are selective when choosing said woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 07:14 AM
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I’m confused by what covert contracts and covert consent mean, would you mind explaining a little more in depth?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 04:10 PM
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My problem is when part of that consent comes from tearing the other participant down. I’ve had FWB, we never felt the need to belittle the other because we were actually friendly with each other before sex started. There was some dread gaming from both sides in a way because in all of them we agreed to go no further than friends, but that was made clear from the beginning. On a slightly related note, how many people from TRP have plate spinning success stories? I’m not trying to attack here, ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 03:12 PM
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I would say someone advising you to drive it into a crowd would be immoral, as that is a better comparison to my specific issue. I should make it clear that I don’t have a problem with all of TRP, I think it has some genuinely good advice and interesting ideas mixed up with all the craziness
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 03:05 PM
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Hm, but in a healthy BDSM relationship there are conversations about being whipped and safewords. The man knows that at the end of the day the partner loves and cares for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 03:03 PM
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TRP makes it an intention, some people unconsciously manipulate others and that’s pretty fucked to in my opinion, but TRP normalizes the lighter forms of emotional abuse as “dating advice” and teaches men that they should belittle women in order to get them to sleep with them. That’s where the intent is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 07:31 AM
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It becomes immoral through intent, and it can be incredibly damaging to a person with low self esteem. Hell, it has been damaging to people with high self esteem. Having a SO should mean having someone to trust and if they are bringing you down to keep you with them? Idk, sounds pretty similar to intentional emotional abuse to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 07:15 AM
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Yeah, same here. There’s a lot of masc for masc stuff with gay men, and even the “feminine” gay men don’t nessisarily share feelings with each other or other friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 04:21 PM
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Do gay men talk about feelings more?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 11:46 AM
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I meant it as an example of the impact of the fantasy on my everyday life. Meaning, it doesn’t have one; it has no connection my my reality. For the something wrong point, some people actually get off on feeling they are doing something wrong than the actual relationship aspect of the thing. More watching incest because it is wrong rather than it being incest. So, if I caught my brother with a bunch of incest tabs open I wouldn’t be particularly worried, especially not if he has other “wrong” po…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 06:26 PM
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Hm. I think it depends, honestly. Have they made any sort of pass at me in this situation? Or is it truly just a fantasy? I know you are of the opinion that it could never be just a fantasy if it’s consistent but let me provide a non-sexual example for my perspective. Many romance films have a childhood friend as the opposite sex lead (or same sex lead but w/e), I have consistently fantasized about how nice it would be to have this kind of relationship. Have I made any actual passes at my childh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 06:13 PM
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I think it depends on the degree the “fantasy” influences that person’s life. If the only thing someone can get off to is children, yes, that’s a problem. If someone watched SISTER CHOKES ON ROCK HARD COCK once because hey, it was there, that’s most likely not an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 05:56 PM
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They are my friends. We share shit with each other and have fun together. I’ve made it clear I will not change my mind and they understand that. They’ve also moved on. They are my really good friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 11:41 AM
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Dang. I must be ugly as sin. Maybe not seeing as multiple friends how found me attractive/wanted to date and then still been my friend after rejection. But who knows?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 11:36 AM
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Huh. Well, I’m not going to change your mind, so I’ll just disagree. I’ve had a very different experience with myself as a friend and female friends. Sure, there are selfish women who do this shit (I personally have a friend like this but love her anyway) just as there are selfish men who do similar things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 05:14 PM
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Why do you think that women make shorty friends in general? You provided a reason for men, do you believe there is one for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 05:04 PM
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If you want to change yourself to see women as people instead of fuck holes it’d probably help to find a female friend who shares interests with you. Also someone you’re not crushing on/desperately trying to get in her pants. If not keep on keeping on, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 04:28 PM
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Are you of the opinion that men and women cannot be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 04:25 PM
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As a young female, it happens to me from both my male and female friends. I have about equal amounts of both and it happens at about the same frequency.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 04:12 PM
1

Even between friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 05:22 AM
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Welp. I’m a female :D feel free to PM me, we might have something in common that we could make into friendship!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 05:32 AM
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My advice is to truly try and make female friends not a girl who is friendzoning you but an actual female friend. I think it’ll give you a lot more insight on how people work and might open some other doors. Also, most importantly, you’ve still got your hand and a fuck ton of porn thanks to the internet. You don’t need sex or a relationship to be fulfilled with life. It’s nice, but you can be happy without them. Go and kill it this year, I believe in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 05:14 AM
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Well, if you stick around and annoy them they’ll tell their friends about “this annoying/inconsiderate” guy and if they find you on Facebook or whatever they’ll show their friends who are probably around the same attractiveness level and then you’re blacklisted by a whole group of hot girls instead of one. Also, idk if you’re interested in relationships at all (doesn’t sound like it) but that is generally a better way of getting sex and a fun time with a (hopefully) pretty cool person too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 04:55 AM
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Why? Honestly curious
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 04:29 AM
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That’s why I’m saying it’s a regulated sexual market. It’s at least regulated by social norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:36 AM
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Hm. In my experience the second part is true, but not so much the first. And even then it’s more of a nice thought/dream thing. I guess my friends are more LTR types so when they go out they’re more in it for a good time than finding someone to hook up with. Also, not a single woman I know likes sexual attention from those she deems unattractive. (That’s what I meant by the first part) but maybe we run in different circles and I know slightly more confident girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:35 AM
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Hm. I feel it’s generally still regulated there. Like I know if I scream and make a huge scene there someone will help instead of just letting me get raped. So I feel safe enough to tell people to fuck off or ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 11:14 PM
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Ahh, sorry. My original point was that I don’t go out dancing to get hit on. It happens, yeah, but that’s not why I go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 11:12 PM
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And then go “why the fuck are you dressed like that if you don’t want this?!” god awful thrusting gesture And I will ignore them because interacting is wasting time when I could be having a good time instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 10:44 PM
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The fuck. To be clear, I was lucky enough to be born in the body I identify with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 10:42 PM
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Yep. And I do that cause I love to dance, not cause I want to be approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 10:41 PM
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I don’t have a giant bass speaker at home that shakes my bones. I love that feeling. I love it even more when I’m experiencing that with friends. I enjoy it less when a rando grinds on me. Edit: grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 07:15 PM
2

Damn. That sounds awful. I’d literally never go out if I didn’t like dancing as much as I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:53 PM
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Are women not allowed to enjoy dancing? Do people not enjoy dancing with friends? Am I not allowed to go out to dance for fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:45 PM
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Well, I still have to disagree with you there. I’m highly attracted to my current partner (I initiate many-most of our sexual interactions) and he is not very masculine. In fact he is more feminine than I am, I think I’m probably an outlier. However, this does not mean I “don’t know what I’m attracted to.”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:24 PM
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Could you explain to me the abstract implications of these concepts? I mostly see AWALT used as a warning against oneitis or “all women are fckn stupid and mean lol” and would love a more detailed abstraction of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:20 PM
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And any woman who lives differently is lying, obviously. Why would any woman ever want to pursue their own goals when they’ve got a man to follow? I, for one, plan to give up all my dreams to follow my future husband because I have an innate desire to be subordinate. I’m 100% not a dom or following my own goals. Edit for language, sorry I got miffed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:14 PM
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I come from a slightly conservative place and it’s very common there
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 09:47 PM
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Also, weirdly, people who don’t like drama
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:40 AM
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I’m pretty shallow when it comes to dating. But in my everyday life? Not so much. Once I found out about the tendency to treat attractive people better I started work in my head to treat others fairly even/especially if they aren’t attractive to me. I don’t lie to people that personality is everything in dating and I don’t find that my female friends do that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 12:25 PM
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“When used perfectly” people aren’t perfect, and internal condoms are harder to put in that external are to put on. The actual effectiveness is about 75-82% effective because of human failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 02:55 PM
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Cause they have a much lower success rate of stopping pregnancies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 01:46 PM
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I actually know how much it turns me off cause I’m a horny bitch in general, so when I feel absolutely disgusted at the thought of sex with someone I find attractive, usually cause they don’t treat me as an equal. Damn. It’s almost like I know my own fucking preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 12:05 PM
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Ah yes the old “women are lying, even to themselves!” That makes your argument completely invulnerable to criticism from a woman/women cause they couldn’t possibly know their own preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 12:03 PM
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An important part you’re both missing is that that’s on average. Most men have a much higher sex drive than women do, but there are exceptions to this as it is an average and we all exist on a spectrum of sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 02:42 PM
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I mean, I was a depressed kid so getting out of bed was hard then to. That’s when getting out of bed is hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 11:59 AM
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My point is that your descriptors are general, and therefore not very useful. Yes both attractive women and children have big eyes, however the way that manifest is completely different on both.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:43 PM
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Ah, not what I meant either, sorry read the appearance section of that before looking at pictures. The physical characteristics are generalized and do not capture what the image actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:33 PM
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Ah, I did not make myself clear enough. The general descriptions of the features are the same but they don’t look childlike
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 04:07 PM
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Yes, they are, they are also incredibly general. Big, full lips look different on a woman than a child and other such things. I’d like to point you to written descriptions of resident evil characters on wikis. They don’t capture the actual image, just these generalizations. Which you then took way too far and made this mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 03:49 PM
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Well I’m struggling to find your title/thesis in your post. You set up an expectation of examples of masculine/feminine polarity and how that helps a relationship and you just kinda said that childlike women are attractive. It’s super easily misconstrued as your fetish instead of what (i think) your argument is. You didn’t say why any of these dynamics work.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 03:33 PM
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I think you didn’t explain yourself well
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 03:11 PM
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Yeah, the conditioning is really hard to shake. Maybe consider going to therapy for this guilt? And heck yeah for setting that boundary now!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:59 PM
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There’s a whole gut bacteria thing that really does affect weight gain or loss and iirc, it is hereditary.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:53 PM
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Hey, you don’t have a scarlet A on your chest. Loads of people move in before marriage. You’ve found that doesn’t work for you, but you are in no way a whore for moving in before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 02:47 PM
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Not men in a good relationship built on trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:43 PM
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Woman here! I’ve actually had a depressed boyfriend! I was very happy when he told me as I enjoy trust in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 04:30 PM
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Have you dated men? I’ve heard it from both, but more often women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 01:29 AM
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Ah! Thank you! For me, something being a complement to something else means the original thing is of the most importance. Saying that a woman exists to complement a man reads that the man is more important to me for that reason, not so much the soft and empathetic thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 09:03 PM
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That sounds like your culture puts women as second class/subservient to men? Am I misinterpreting that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 08:01 PM
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Who they’ve slept with that I know. Also n-count, to a lesser extent. The girls were actually more upfront with me, but I’d say that’s mostly because I am also a woman so Idk what hereto relationships look like with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 09:58 PM
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Well, for me, I date both and have noticed about equal patterns. I was curious since your take seems to be “women are victimizing me so I should victimize them.” Where as I tend to lean on a much more individual basis. Different opinions are interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 06:26 PM
2

Do you believe that men are more honest with their pasts?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 02:19 PM
1

I agree with the suddenly! If it has always been there, nothing to worry about (without other issues in that relationship) imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 05:14 PM
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No. You’re not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 05:13 PM
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What I got from that study is that the individual brain is so unique that almost no one has a discernibly male or female brain, meaning the mental abilities of each individual (biologically speaking) are not rooted in gender. I think Asians were shown to be statistically better at math, but that was a correlation with how Asian languages communicate numerically, and how that made math easier at younger ages. My belief is that most of the statistical differences (mentally) are from things like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 02:17 PM
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Sorry, tend to see a lot of that in seriousness here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:29 PM
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Male strangers make me feel uncomfortable, but that’s mostly because they are taller than me and I’m anxious instead of them disgusting me. Once I have a conversation, most men are fine or friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:11 PM
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Bruh, physical contact is excellent, just cause people like cuddling doesn’t make em a slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 12:06 PM
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I have always had at least one friend, however, I seriously expanded my social group and changed how I interact with people. I come at them from a much more loving and understanding place than I used to and it has been much, much better for me. I used to hold TRP like values, but I dropped those and started to hang out with people because I liked them instead of trying to get something from them. It really, really helped and now I have a large group of close friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 11:43 AM
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This is what I was referring too. I will cry “discrimination” at least slightly. I don’t believe it’s quite as steep many radicals believe, but in things like the orchestra blind auditions very quickly narrowed the hiring gap for the two genders. I also recall something about a college hiding names and just showing achievements for potential speakers and that made the speakers 60% female or thereabouts but I cannot find the link and I’m too tired to search that hard. I think that our current cul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 03:59 AM
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Genetically speaking, no. There is more individual variability in brains than there is across genders. Males and Females have the same capacity for intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 03:22 AM
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I happy you’ve found someone who appreciates your well directed anger! However, my preference is still unchanged.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 02:23 PM
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If they shout, I’m out, my dude. Anxiety is a thing when picking partners for me. I don’t care how righteous their anger is, if they express it as shouting and violent gestures I will be terrified and not want to pursue them romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 01:50 PM
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5’5” guy I don’t really care about the height of my partner so long as I’m attracted to them and enjoy their company
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 12:35 PM
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I did not know that! Also just found a Q and A that says we’re both right because it is unknown if increasing T in women inverses sex drive because of higher T levels, or if it’s because the T is converted to estrogen
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 05:21 AM
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Yep. RP just goes too far, in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 05:00 AM
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I believe there were a few studies done that linked higher T levels in women with more sexual desire, but all I’m getting when I google it is WEBMD type shenanigans so I might get back to you later with some links.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 04:59 AM
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True, but they have much higher testosterone levels comparative to other women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 06:16 PM
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For sexual relationships, I believe most BP’s believe in personality+looks unless they are tumblr level nuts and think it’s all personality
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 06:15 PM
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Most don’t have the same sex drive men have
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 06:14 PM
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Nah, that’s the straw man argument a lot of the RP uses for BP, but since BP is just “people who disagree with RP” there are many more varied viewpoints, but most believe personality is the determining factor for friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:20 PM
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Yeah, you need a variety and balance of hormones for almost every system, but high testosterone is the main indicator of a high six drive across both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:17 PM
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You’re thinking biological sex hormones. Sex drive is linked to testosterone, estrogen is the “female sexual hormone” in the sense that it’s much more prevalent in biologically female bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:10 PM
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They normally say personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:31 PM
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You can’t touch emotional pain, true. But it’s still quite perceptible. Breaking someone’s trust like that leads to grief, and reducing those feelings to “butthurt” is like saying someone is “butthurt” after a friend dies. It shows an extreme lack of empathy or understanding. Side note: adlultery is still illegal in ~20 US states, though it is rarely prosecuted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 10:58 PM
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It’s a social contract. One quite explicitly laid out in most vows. I say, play bitch games, get bitch prizes. You fucked over your partner, they get to fuck you over.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 10:35 PM
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If a spouse cheats they’ve broken a contract and your trust. I say fucking go for it. They fucked up and should pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 10:29 PM
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Ah yes. We should all be logical robots in every relationship because what’s the point of loving your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 10:16 PM
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I’m actually repulsed by anger in a way. Angry men scare the living shit out of me and if one is angry a lot I’ll slowly try to stop spending time with them. For sadness, I want a partner who is mentally healthy and can handle their emotions. So, if you’re crying everyday for hours on end, yeah I’m repulsed, but if they just need someone to lean on/ vent to every now and then I’m absolutely fine with that. I can’t be their entire support network, but I don’t mind being part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 09:42 PM
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Which women though? Can you link these studies? I’m actually super curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 02:40 PM
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Well, as a woman who enjoys some emotionless porn, there is a LARGE difference between fantasy and real life. Just because I can get off to something that’s a fantasy does NOT mean that I wish for it to happen in real life. The reason I enjoy the harder stuff is usually because the actresses seem to be more into it, instead of the fake as fuck over moaning in a lot of vanilla stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 02:36 PM
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I agree! Neat. Agreeing with an internet stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 08:47 AM
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Would you agree with the marriage laws outlined in the post or something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 07:39 AM
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Well no, I don’t like it when people decide that violence is a reasonable way to get sex. However, my problem was that I read their comment as supporting that behavior instead of observing it. It has since been cleared up for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 07:35 AM
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Well... Hopefully you’ll find someone someday though
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 07:18 AM
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Ah! Thank you for clearing that up!! And yeah, I agree. Divorce was a step forward, not back.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 07:16 AM
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Eh, some will. There’s a bad double standard of financial contribution in a relationship. Personally, if I marry, it’ll be percent based on who makes more money if it is a truly large disparity, but other than that 50/50 sounds good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 06:28 AM
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Do you understand how horrifying the phrase “willing to get violent” is in that context? Do you support domestic violence to stop dead bedrooms? I’m really hoping it’s just bad wording here. Please just be bad wording.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 06:26 AM
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The “founding ideas” also included slavery. We’ve moved past that point and are attempting to actually give “justice and liberty for all” instead of just white men. The sexual revolution is part of that as well as the civil rights movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 03:51 AM
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When divorce was hard, domestic violence was even more rampant than it is today. Maybe marriage has been devalued, but I wouldn’t be so quick to jump on the “back in the good ol’ days” train.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 03:47 AM
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Here are the stats!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 03:39 AM
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I saw something really interesting the the third article that said more experienced women tend to be more sexually satisfied. Could it be the the Chads are just more experienced and therefore better? Also, the third article also mentioned that it only counted orgasms from intercourse which, according to the first source, only about ~25% of women can even orgasm from. Maybe attractiveness plays a role, but I wouldn’t put it as the only thing that matters when making a woman orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 02:28 PM
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If your female friends are the ones you’re opening up to about depression, they might just not bring up you missing something because they feel it’s related to depression and not want to pressure you. In other words, they could be expressing love in very different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 03:38 PM
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For me, the first three book down to “ain’t nobody got one for that” it’s a fucking waste of time and energy to cheat cause you gotta hide that. I’ll break up if I’m not happy and I don’t think I can fix it cause, again, waste of time and energy. And shit testing is peak stupidity, if I feel I have to do that I’ll just break up instead. Of course I will like someone if they are attractive?? I mean, if they open their mouth and spew hot garbage then it’s a different story, but being attractive de…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 02:15 AM
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I have pretty much the same conditions as you, but I’d be down for it with any guy/gal that I’m attracted to that is down for a poly/open. I also don’t really care if they tell me about other partners/bring them into the relationship emotionally. I think it’s neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 04:19 AM
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Ask a woman for once, most of us have preferences across a fuck ton of races, I think I’ve romantically/sexually liked two white boys in my life. What actually drives many people off is a “woe is me” attitude. No one has time to be your therapist instead of your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 04:06 AM
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I do know of a few girls who do this, but I’d say on the whole it’s innocent/they aren’t intending to flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 12:36 AM
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“Scissoring was never a thing”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 12:35 AM
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Over laying in bed bitterly despite holding my gf? Hell. Fucking. Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 12:35 AM
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I am so very confused by what you’re trying to say here. The only thing I can parse is the question in the middle, I’d prefer if my gf “ turned to butter in a microwave” because that would mean she was probably happy in her last relationship and I fucking love my gf and don’t particularly care about what she’s been riding before she meant me so long as it’s only me when we’re dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 12:33 AM
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Why do you believe women always want plausible deniability? (Actually curious, not attacking)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 08:57 PM
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As a bi person, all these people sound awful to date. Otherwise, I’d probably prefer if their last partner was less attractive than myself, but I still would care all that much because they’re with me now and I already know I’m fucking fabulous. Obsessing over ex’s is just asking to get hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 07:50 PM
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Why’re y’all thinking about ex’s so much? She’s fucking you now, revel in that instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 07:47 PM
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Have you heard of lesbians?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 05:49 PM
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By 1%. it’d be an interesting study to see how objectively attractive the women who cheat are vs. the faithful ones, and the same to men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 05:38 PM
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A study in American found that men cheat more
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 12:14 PM
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Well, I can attest that I have a friendly, decidedly not flirty, personality and many men have taken that as sexual interest from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 12:08 PM
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Most girls that have approached me due to sexual attraction also want a relationship, in my experience. Same way with my female friends finding partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 07:19 PM
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I would say there are some women like that, and the ones that are are more likely to approach a relative stranger for sex in the first place. I would say the majority of women are not sexually attracted to insecurity, but, again, that’s my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 06:19 PM
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Ah, I see. I define sexual attraction as willingness to have sex with a person/excitement about it. So, closer to your “passive sexual attraction” but I would say many women just need a feeling of safety/security to feel that sexual attraction and a relationship is part of that. Idk, different lives means meetings different people
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 05:50 PM
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Do..do you know any women who enter relationships without being attracted to their partner at all? In my personal experience, I don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 12:48 PM
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“Removed from her and given to someone else” I will concede that you cannot peel someone’s face off and make it your own, however, with makeup many similar looks can be achieved. Also, with enough money, plastic surgery. This is the same way that two people can be wealthy without stealing each other’s money. (Super technically, money isn’t a material good at all because it has no practical value, just a promise from the government, but if you abstract the definition a body is because it is simpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 08:36 PM
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Her physical self is a material good as his financial status is his. Looks are vase of genetics so who your parents are, that also applies to getting a job/education in order to get a financial standing. Grooming and make up are both skills necessary to remain attractive just like doing your job grants finances. My argument is that even if finances are the main factor to women like looks are to men, you still need a personality that vibes with her for her to actually commit. Of course there are …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:32 PM
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My point was that money can be a contributing factor to attraction, but it is not the only factor. Also, way back up to your comparison of money to a chick’s hotness is “you are only worth your looks” not just as dehumanizing as “you are only worth your financial contribution,” because I feel that even if money is the main factor in a woman’s attraction (I don’t believe this but for the sake of arguing let’s go) would the same not be true of a man going after looks? As in, looks are something hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 05:50 PM
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I agree, I’m just a pedantic asshole who had a problem with the fact that the only argument OP supplied had a logical fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 05:26 PM
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I think viewing women as investors dehumanizes them a bit, but much less than my initial assumption of you, and I apologize for that. I think that most people equate money with financial stability an therefore a sense of security which can then be used to build trust. I don’t think people randomly fall in love most of the time, they need trust to actually love one another. Men too. You can like a girl for her face, but you need trust and some sort of predictable behavior patterns to really love …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 05:17 PM
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How so? Grand scheme of what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 05:07 PM
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I was trying to clarify that suffering in scarcity=/= liking more, did that not come across?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 05:04 PM
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For me, the fallacy laid in the assumption that because woman can gain sexual satisfaction from something other than men, they don’t like men as much. Yeah, men are going to suffer more in a scarcity, but that doesn’t mean women wouldn’t suffer the same amount if there was just nothing to release sexual tension. Jus because something can be substituted doesn’t mean that a person doesn’t like both things the same amount. Like if you’re making something gluten free it can be just as good as the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:59 PM
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When I say household management, I don’t mean just cleanliness, yes women tend to have a higher standard, but that’s also a societal dictation. I’m talking about things like remembering to buy food, toilet paper, and taking care of any children the couple has mostly on her own. For emotional support, I mean from friends. I agree that men get rebuked for having feelings far more often, but I would actually say that it’s mostly from male friends. However, I believe female friends are, in general, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:49 PM
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*and, generally, her household management (especially if she doesn’t work.) There 100% is a double standard to financial contribution in a household, however there also exists a double standard in household management. If she all of the suddenly stops doing all the chores while the man is still working all day, you bet he’ll have a problem with it. It’d still be “her” she’d just no longer be contributing to their current lifestyle and routine. So yeah, sorta about the money, also about large cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:12 PM
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Did your fantasies change after experiencing porn? I’m guessing they did. Fantasies are also based on what you’ve already seen, it’s not all mental magic that makes it happen. If a straight woman has seen lesbian porn and gotten off to it, that can then be included in her fantasies. However, present that same girl with straight porn actually targeted to her (wild concept, I know) and therefore never making her dig deeper to actually find porn that is focused on getting her off, she’d probably ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 03:59 PM
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I’m not talking “career aspirations are your only personality” people here, I agree that they are boring. I’m talking someone with no career aspirations whatsoever. I.e. someone with the physical, mental, and social capacity to work and just... doesn’t. That type of personality doesn’t vibe with mine, and most likely wouldn’t vibe with the average woman. But, hey, individuality is a thing and others might like it. On the “I've seen cases too where a guy with a successful career had enough of it,…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 03:49 PM
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The thing with porn is that lesbian porn is at least sort of targeted to women and straight porn is decidedly not. If something is obviously not catered to you, it will lessen your enjoyment of it. So, while I agree, I’m pointing out a logical fallacy because I’m a bit of a pedantic asshole and want all arguments to be as strong as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 03:42 PM
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I think the same guy suddenly winning the lottery might get other women interested but not necessarily the same woman who already knew him. Sure, if she’s literally just into guys for money she’ll go for it, but the money is not going to make him instantly attractive if she’s not just looking for money. The thing I’ve neglected to talk about is that women also have standards for how a guy looks so if it were the same guy but hotter the same result could happen. And the thing with “no career aspi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 03:17 PM
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I do actually agree that men, on average, desire women more. I’m just saying your logic is wrong. You’re saying that because something can’t be replaced for someone it means they must like it more than someone it can be replaced for, and that is not necessarily true. Back to my apples and oranges. I could replace the apple with an orange because I like it equally as much, but the other person can’t because they don’t like oranges as much as they like apples. I could still very well like apples t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 03:07 PM
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Well, imagine instead that a woman befriends a man establishes an emotional connection and is then attracted. If he dies tomorrow that emotional connection ain’t getting passed on to the next person either. I do agree that men find women more visually appealing, but I just find your generalization unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 03:03 PM
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If you’re talking sexually, yes. Men tend to have a higher libido and a less fluid sexuality so they desire women more. However, on an individual level, some women desire sex just as much or more than the average male.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:57 PM
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I think saying women only see men as a means to an end is an unfair generalization. Yes, more women are going to go after the guy with a fuck ton of money, the same way men are going to go after the hottest chick that will fuck them, but actually building a relationship is normally based on an emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:53 PM
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Women tend to have a more fluid sexuality, but that does not mean they are less attracted to men. Your argument is failing because you’re using the assumption that because women can replace men in fantasies they are less attracted, but people are allowed to like more than one thing at the same time with equal intensity. For example, I enjoy both apples and oranges equally, while someone else likes apples better. This does not mean that I don’t like apples as much as that person because I also li…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:38 PM
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It’s almost like she was on drugs , and drugs make you look bad
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 09:28 PM
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Physical attraction is not the only factor in a successful LTR unless it is a FWB situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 12:07 AM
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For me, I seek emotional connection in a conversation and that would be my purpose. I find endless argument entertaining, but exhausting. Personally, my favorite conversations are composed of dumb banter back and forth which isn’t really expressing any new ideas just adding to jokes. So I guess it’s back to the original tl;dr different strokes for different folks?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 09:14 PM
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Well, I think the investment piece of the conversation is knowing the other person actually agrees with your world view and not get a “yeah, sure” I don’t believe either person has to be particularly invested in the conversation so long as you know the other party actually agrees. I.e. I rant a bit and the other party just goes “HELL YEAH YOU TELL ‘EM” this still give me validation and that dopamine Edit: hit send too early and must leave for a bit, there will be a part 2 addressing the crafting
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 07:22 PM
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Well, I would argue that the conversation is helpful specifically because other people engage and validate rather than my personal focus and concentration. Think of how good it feels to be right in a logical discussion, people just like to be correct, and if you’re experiencing a negative, seeking out that feeling of validation is normally how you get the positive emotion to balance. Actually, you made me realize something. The pride and self validation is what makes crafting so rewarding, where…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 06:46 PM
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What do you mean? Say that where? (Genuine confusion)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 06:25 PM
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I dislike absolutes. Personally I have/do engage in both making something and talking to people to process my emotions. I've found talking to people generally bings me to the base level contentment faster than pursuing a craft, but that's how I work. I think people all have different ways of processing and crafting should be viewed as just another tool in a wide variety of healthy options. I don't know if there is a "best" way, and I do not believe that we should limit ourselves to only one way …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 06:13 PM
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I feel as though if it is something she has "nagged" (read:asked) from day one than it is an important thing for her. I completely agree with the 10 year later point, however I think consistently asking someone to do something should communicate importance on it's own. I.e. that you don't have to sit the guy down and say "dishes are important to me" if literally every time he leaves them out you ask him to put them away.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 05:42 PM
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So the crafts are men’s emotional tampons? Emotional validation is a way of processing emotions, and, in my experience (I’ll look for studies), one of the healthiest ways to do it. For men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 05:28 PM
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Well, I think it is a communications issue, but not exactly in the way you’re implying . For the woman, the issue really is about the “trivial shit” because it’s not trivial to them. For the woman it is an important issue because that is their standard for cleanliness, and their partner, instead of respecting their standard of cleanliness/whatever other thing they are nagging about basically says “it doesn’t matter to me so it shouldn’t matter to you” devaluing the woman’s opinion. Basically the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 04:56 PM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/mustbethistalltoride.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/amp/
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 03:47 PM
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Have you read the “She divorced me because I left dishes by the sink” blog post thing? I found it to provide an interesting perspective about lots of nagging, mainly that a partner can feel very hurt by trivial things because it feels as though you don’t respect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 03:35 PM
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I think the problem with always trying to think logically is that you often suppress/discredit your own emotions without sharing them, and they can fester. I believe a logical response to having an emotion is to share it so it can be validated and that will normally calm you down.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 03:28 PM
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Fair point, I completely missed that line, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 04:38 AM
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Due to a quick google search, ~45% of age 18 and older americans are unmarried of that part of the population ~ 46% are men, that leaves us with at most ~21% of men are not getting sex, and this is just marriage statistics. It does not account for unmarried people fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 04:16 AM
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And women with guns. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 03:48 AM
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I think a point to be made here is that men still bang the "dumb sluts." It's not an issue of sexual attraction. Frankly, I find it interesting that a lack of sexual attraction towards women is what many people* believe it takes to respect one. Like how people defend gay men against accusations of misogyny on the fact that he's gay. *Not myself
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 03:46 AM
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Thank you for the clarification! One last question, what do you view as the emotional expression of a stoic man? Is there a certain way he should express emotions, should he only express emotions he feels valid or is it something else entirely?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 07:01 PM
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Just out of curiosity, how do you differentiate between productive and unproductive sadness?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 06:38 PM
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I feel that most people's problem with stoicism comes from "the stoic man" never sharing his emotions with others. I may be misinterpreting your idea of stoicism, but it sounds like you should hold court in your own head about which emotions you should allow to impact your life without any outside input. I feel that sharing your emotions simply to seek emotional validation can actually calm the more irrational ones down quite a bit, but that is only my own perspective and I have excellent friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 06:08 PM
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Yup! I think just having similar hobbies is how many people make friends
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 01:21 PM
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I'm female, but I have 3 very close guy friends that I'd consider to be at the level of my female best friends, and many other male friends that aren't quite that close. I'm quite happy with the amount of friends I have I drifted from a few close friends because we didn't have many similar interests and couldn't keep up interesting conversations anymore. I have a fair bit of free time and usually spend it playing games (with friends), doing theater, or lurking on Reddit There is absolutely a cor…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 04:32 AM
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