frysmell Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	What Am I Looking At?		frysmell	/r/Divorce_Men	15/06/22 02:00 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Don’t know what to do, need great advice! Get an attorney dude	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/24 03:01 AM
12	What is the point? Mine has me living paycheck to paycheck as well after years of that being in the past. If your house is a mess, either hire a maid or start chipping away at it. If you are depressed try seeing a therapist or psychiatrist. Exercise will also help get you feeling more energetic and motivated, I’ve lost 10 lbs since we separated and am starting to lift again. You are an adult and are going to continue to be responsible for taking care of yourself regardless of your situation, so keep your head up a…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/09/22 02:16 PM
2	Alimony in Maryland? There are calculators you can use online to input both your incomes and see what the normal range for your state would be. Alimony is factored off of the discrepancy in both your earnings. If she refuses to work a full time job, a judge might impute her income based on what she could do. I would take all of this to another strong divorce attorney and see what your options are.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/22 02:40 PM
3	Joining club. Again. If she’s working he may not have to provide if she tries to claim benefits. Wondering if OP co-signed the visa tho. Not sure if it matters in any immigration hearing, but “my wife literally told me she is fucking another man and wants to have his baby” might imply that she did not enter the marriage in good faith if OP was the co signer OP, you really can’t protect shit in most jurisdictions. Any wealth you both accrued during the marriage will be subject to a 50/50 split, regardless of the part…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/22 03:46 PM
1	first post ever: i am just starting this process, and so far she is being very civil about everything Don’t know how far you are, but I felt like things were amicable at first. Does she have an attorney? It sounds like you may have initiated, just be prepared for a roller coaster and let the attorneys figure it out. Decide if the dog is a hill you’re willing to die on. Do not try to bargain with her directly. Let the attorneys figure it out. Whatever you two have agreed upon now as a split will change. Once again, let the attorneys figure it out.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/22 05:32 PM
2	Timing - Wife has cancer Is the prognosis positive at all? Is the treatment going to be something invasive like chemo? You should obviously get out if you need to, but I would question how this might manifest as some intense guilt in the future if you don't stick things out until the waters are clear.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/22 01:04 PM
2	Things I can do now that would help if we end up separating? Asset advice aside, just get out while you still have the will to do so.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/22 09:00 PM
2	My wife separated from me last night. Exactly. I’m going through this now and there is clear traceability and it was never commingled with other marital funds or even spent. I put my inheritance into a joint brokerage account for our retirement (I was really trying to make things work). I have shelled out a lot of money for an attorney who thinks we can win this one, but I suspect she will be told to claim half. So if you have commingled your inheritance you need to bring every piece of paper tracking that money to your attorney. In…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/22 07:19 PM
3	Well it happened to me Sounds like she does not love you and is using you as a security blanket. I doubt this has been going on for two months if she has never stopped being attracted to this individual. Do you want to live the rest of your life knowing that you are viewed as a backup option if what she wants doesn’t work out? Are you ready for if she leaves you when what she wants does work out? Her not wanting to divorce doesn’t matter. If you stay with her longer you will just lose more if one of you does decide la…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/22 07:06 PM
2	In need of advice There are a lot of moving pieces in your story - drinking to avoid reality, cheating, the guilt over the kid, prior abuse. I separated from my wife of four years because I realized the chemistry is not there. That’s OK. I feel like I made the correct decision. I am 31 and most of my earning power has come into play from 28-31. There is a price to pay for this, but it’s a matter of being willing to buy your freedom. If your situation feels oppressive and you are harming yourself and those around …	/r/Divorce_Men	17/07/22 07:32 PM
1	What Am I Looking At? I’m curious if this holds water. I would think that moving the stocks prior to the divorce would be construed as hiding money	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/22 03:32 AM
1	What Am I Looking At? Not yet and she doesn’t seem to be interested in it. I have put her through school and that’s been the focus. Two more years of that… I’m hopeful that before we ever end up in a court we can mediate, but I also know these things turn sour. We are on good terms right now, and I don’t know if she suspects, but I’ve been pretty detached recently so maybe… she has a really bad temper so I won’t be surprised if it gets dirty. The stocks have also never been traded, altered, and there are no other ass…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/22 07:12 AM
1	What Am I Looking At? I moved them into the account and gave her access to it. At the time I thought this was a good faith way of showing her that she was a part of the finances and did not see the potential issue down the road	/r/Divorce_Men	15/06/22 02:49 PM