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You should check out adult children of emotionally immature parents! It completely changed me and put me on the path to healing from childhood trauma. Dm me if you want a pdf
/r/askFDS09/12/20 06:53 AM
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I love it when a man reveals his misogyny so I don't even have to waste my time swiping or messaging to vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:13 PM
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Enough to make me pause and be hesitant to snap him any further. The face is a lot different, and the hair is off. I also thought he would be a lot more muscular, but he's not. I'm settling by not acknowledging that I'm physically attracted to him. I feel shallow but men demand for women to look a certain way all the time, that I'm really not that bad comparatively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 04:16 AM
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Ugh, I'm settling. I'm going to have to face the music.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:46 AM
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I've got a date next week with an archaeologist who seemingly checks off most of the boxes. He's got the same chaotic/adventurous vibes I do, always initiates conversation first and has put in all of the effort dating wise so far, and is going to drive to my city for the date because I told him I don't travel for men. The problem is, I added him on social media and he's not attractive as his profiles made him out to be, but the personality is there. So far, I'm not physically attracted to him bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:34 AM
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Yeah he legit ran over every boundary I asked of him so it’s a no for me. Even my request for space was taken with “I don’t do well with ultimatums or statements like that.” I’m not surprised but disappointed because we’d been talking for over a month and he seemed like a HVM. At least now I can get dinner with a friend this weekend. I'm glad I read through the FDS booklet because the old me would've tried to find a "compromise" and fuck compromising on my boundaries when there are better option…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:13 PM
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Well, I bought tickets to a large city a few hours away partly because of my internship and partly because of someone who I thought was a HVM that I've been talking to. The main purpose of the trip was to network, work on site and see my job because people keep referencing exhibits and buildings I haven't seen (everything is remote atm), and see friends. I thought he was a HVM because he treats me like a queen in a lot of ways and has been super supportive emotionally and academically. But I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:56 AM
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No, I spent so much time trying to be understanding and and taking space for him that I didn't make any space for myself. He was less understanding to me and broke my heart quite cruelly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:11 PM
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Was he a commercial diver?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:53 PM
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Also, I hate that I can't travel anymore. I used to travel everywhere across the country and the world by myself. I'd leave my phone alone, cut contact with everyone for the week, and lose myself in a foreign country for the week doing whatever I wanted. I'd try everything local, hang out and befriend locals, and go out to try and authentically live my life in that country- it was honestly fun exploring a new life in a new country for a week and I'd come back with crazy stories. I'm going crazy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:45 AM
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Dated a british man and he was the most emotionally abusive, trash man I've ever met. Slept around and dated plenty others. Literally every British man I know has severe daddy issues that stunts them emotionally for life. They're never direct about anything nor confrontational which sucks. They put banter high on their list of wants in a woman, but in return are boring and dry as hell. Avoid, run for the hills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:35 AM
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I dated one, and "work" is going to be their fall back excuse for anything and everything to evade any type of commitment and accountability. I would only do it if he can show a commitment or make time for you consistently over a few months (most men start dropping whatever courting actions/commitments they've made by that time). And see other people the entire time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:13 AM
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That is so thoughtful! I'm happy for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:11 AM
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Protect yourself, your energy, and your time. Good friends make you feel excited to see them and happy to be around them. You don't owe anyone friendship. You don't have to formally end things, but I would pull a slow fade. COVID gives the perfect opportunity to do so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:10 AM
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Is it common to get hate mail/DMs from participating on this subreddit? I've gotten so many just in the past 48 hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:46 PM
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They still sound like a drain. If you're coming away from an interaction with someone with negative feelings, it's not worth it. Just because someone is "good" does not mean they are a good friend. Men also source out girlfriend/mom tasks to friends if they can't hook a woman into dating them and fufuilling it. You're being a mom and a therapist to LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:44 PM
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DISCUSSIONSTRATEGY All good! I didn't want anyone to feel like I was bashing their education level. Now that I'm thinking of your point on men relying on other men for information, it would be a good idea to weed out LVM by asking their male role models/men they admire. That would be so telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:41 PM
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Men aren't emotional, yet my inbox is full of hate not even 24 hours after posting. Men aren't emotional, yet they deliver threats that bully women activists off the internet. Men aren't emotional, yet they rape and kill women for nothing, etc. Men are emotional, but lack the emotional maturity and socialization to express it in any healthy way, so they resort to violence and power. I had a man threaten to follow me home and assault me after I turned him down for sex because the only way he coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:36 PM
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ooh I'm in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:20 PM
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Yep. I was talking to a man about racism, language, and structural racism and he has such a simplistic view on the world. To him, racism is an indication of someone being a "good person" or a "bad person." That's it. As I was trying to explain (as a black woman who lives in the south) that there are plenty of racists who are "good people" and how most structural racism is done by people who are "good people," he decided I was wrong and that it's all about the individual and whether they're nice …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:37 AM
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Yes! I should clarify that I don't mean stupid in terms of education level. There's plenty of women who aren't in my field or don't have similar education levels who are willing to learn, read, or listen. It's like they lack the capacity to think for themselves so much that they'll listen to whatever male guru (joe rogan, that guy who was in the military and runs marathos that is a motivational speaker) over any independent fact finding or thinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:33 AM
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Happened to me. I was assaulted in my sleep by a man. I’m a heavy sleeper and sleep through my alarm clock designed for people with hearing disabilities. I woke up to both my hands around him, stroking him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:12 PM
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And even when they do something, if it’s only one gesture and not everyday things, it will never be enough. Emotionally stunted men tend to do one massive gesture and think theyve done diligence, like prince charming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:00 PM
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