fumblingabout Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Man's the asshole for asking his wife to dress up for one date night The difference would be if you were constantly shaven when you start dating but then decide to stop shaving completely once married. If you go into a relationship natural as you are, and the relationship progresses, then the guy has no ground to stand on for expecting you to shave	/r/RedPillWomen	16/03/22 06:27 PM
4	Feeling like my kindness is being taken advantage of and unappreciated Sometimes the most kind thing you can do for people is to let them fall and learn how to pick themselves back up, especially when their predicament is of their own making and capacity to overcome. People don't fully learn accountability, ownership for outcome, and self-sufficiency skills until they realize they aren't entitled to external safety nets (kindness of strangers/parents/friends/government). Habitual parasites will find another host	/r/RedPillWomen	08/03/22 03:33 PM
1	Is dating really as horrific as it seems these days? Do I stand a chance? (Need words of encouragement more than anything else) Just another passing thought: You mentioned you want to lose weight before going out on the dating market since you'd be able to get more attention and options from men. Your boyfriend happens to be a man too, though. Perhaps you'll find that once you lose weight, you'll recapture your boyfriend's initial attention to you, and your boyfriend won't be so interested in looking at other women? Discussing weight in relationships shouldn't be such a landmine issue, yet all men are trained to know it …	/r/RedPillWomen	17/02/22 12:00 AM
0	Is dating really as horrific as it seems these days? Do I stand a chance? (Need words of encouragement more than anything else) That extra context about your boyfriend maintaining dating profiles sure does complicate things. He could definitely be gearing up to sleep with someone else without your approval when given the opportunity. Alternatively, he could just be looking for external validation (in the form of likes/matches/messages) from other girls if he feels that he's not getting enough validation within your relationship in a way that he understands (see Love Languages). This isn't to say he should be maintaining …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/22 11:25 PM
4	Is dating really as horrific as it seems these days? Do I stand a chance? (Need words of encouragement more than anything else) You mentioned in your opening post that you absolutely adore your boyfriend and that he's funny, gregarious, and handsome, but that you are discovering things about him that are dealbreaks (lying, infidentlity...). However, from this additional context you just provided, it sounds like your boyfriend hasn't actually cheated. It sounds like what you're hung up on is the possibility of infidelity (which is a categorically different issue), and you feel that he lied to you because he expressed so…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/22 10:54 PM
3	Where do I even begin (need safe space to talk) In general, if someone truly loves you, they shouldn't let themselves be your burden or make your life harder. People who love you want you to be happy, healthy, and freely choosing your commitments and sacrifices. Your guy has way too much baggage, illness, and other red flags for him to ask you to be tied to him in good conscience unless he is significantly compensating in all other areas, or is actively remedying his issues with measurable progress. Marriages should be built on love, trust, p…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/22 08:40 PM
1	Set Your Intentions Or Deal W/ Consequences Your own understanding of "training" seems to be fairly consistent with the conventional meaning of the word. You can let your expectations and standards be known to a man from the outset. If the man violates those expectations you can leave. If a man doesn't meet your expectations but you stick around to wait for him to change as a result of your demands, actions, or reassertion of your expectations of him, that is training a man to submit to you. If you succeed, congrats at finding a submissiv…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/01/22 08:45 PM
2	Not being a “normal” girl With what it means to be a "normal" these days, my hat is off to you for daring to be different. Unfortunately, being different comes at the price of not relating to most people and most people not being able to relate to you. I know the loneliness is hard right now, especially since you're early on in college where nearly everyone just lost their entire high school network. Most freshmen will feel the need to find new groups to fit into rather than taking the time to create a group that fits th…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/01/22 08:22 PM