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| 1 | Is raw confidence only an aphrodisiac if there's already a fair level of attraction?does this only apply if you already fall within their 'league' so to speak? Yeah. All other things being equal, confidence and humor are attractive. In other words, if you're competing against other people of your attractiveness level for people in your league, being outgoing, confident, and funny are very useful. Danny DeVito, to use your example, was married for 35? years to Rhea Perlman. (A search reveals they're separated but still friends; maybe they argued a lot, who knows. Anyway.) But th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 06:13 PM |
| 0 | Women’s attraction to tall men: social or biological?short guys are not looking to date 6 footers Yeah, I said that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/20 12:40 AM |
| 3 | Women’s attraction to tall men: social or biological?There is nothing small about me as a 5'10" woman who's over 6' in heels. That said, guys who were shorter than 5'8" never hit on me, because I don't...know. I don't think most men want their girlfriend towering over them either. My husband is 6'3". You're right, in that I don't want to feel like a giant next to a guy, but 90% of women are under 5'8". Insisting on dating a six-footer when you're 5'2" is kind of ridiculous, IMO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/20 10:27 PM |
| 2 | CMV: As a bisexual guy women are generally far more homophobic than men are when it comes to their partner being bisexual or having experimented with the same sexI would be fine with this, but if you're a bit jealous or insecure, your partner possibly being tempted by either sex could be a bit too much. We all know that 99% of straight guys either don’t care or think lesbians/bisexual women are hot. Men don't worry about this as much with bi women because they elevate dick a lot in this scenario (hence, the way some think that they can "turn" lesbians with dick). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/20 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Q4W Do women tend to value stealing men from each other?I agree. I think someone who'll drop their current partner on a dime is kind of a jackass. If someone's legitimately not happy in their old relationship, what are they doing? Using that person? It's not like a job where you keep the lame one until you find a better position. And people who go after people already in relationships are also jackasses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/20 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women: How many of your ex boyfriends were absolute pieces of shit?Actually, only one! He cheated on me and impregnated someone else. And it was shocking, because he didn't seem like the type. He was never abusive or shitty before that. Everyone else was lovely. Only broke up because too young/moved out of the state/country or life phase stuff. I've either been fortunate (except for that one guy) or I know how to pick 'em. I suppose you could add in one guy who was gay and sort of used me as a beard, but I understood -- he didn't lead me on and there was DADT i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/20 01:28 AM |
| 1 | If you’re struggling attract high value people it’s because the circles you frequent and subsequently you are not in fact high valueHardly anyone I went to school with as a child went to college nearby or stayed there. Sure, people go out with people they meet in college or in the military or at their workplace, but your circle seems a bit unusually insular unless you live in a Nicholas Sparks movie. I glanced at your history. Nobody "dated" pre-Internet Really? No...there was this thing called "the club," and we went there and danced with people, and they would ask for your number and then you go out on a date. Or there wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/20 03:36 PM |
| 1 | How many men can afford a stay at home wife?This is math that people do every day. If you take a few years off to save money on child care, you're often badly behind when you decide to go back, and you've lost your contacts and momentum AND the money you would have put in your IRA and 401k for those years. If the working spouse makes enough to make this point moot, it's a little different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/20 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Why is Dirty Dancing so popular among women?Being a good dancer means you're probably a good fuck, is why. But it's also about bucking conformity in the 60s and following your heart that's leading you to the sincere, modest working class guy (who's probably a good fuck) and not the phony, shitheel-y Ivy League guy (who secretly knocks up "the help" and lies about it). Edit: I don't think any movie has a MORE obvious "don't judge a book by its cover" theme than this one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/20 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Why is Dirty Dancing so popular among women?Yeah, the Cider House Rules is more about the orphan, Homer, his relationship with Wally and Candy, and the Doctor as his father figure. Great book, by the way. (I pimp John Irving whenever possible.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/20 04:01 PM |
| 4 | Most men don't give a shit about how hot a woman's face is. As long as she's slim or of healthy weight (not fat) a woman can be considered 'attractive' even with a below average face.Many lead or "Alpha" roles in Hollywood are given to women who are slim/fit in the body but not pretty in the face. Think of Sarah Jessica Parker from Sex in The City as a prime example. She's clearly not pretty. Facially, she looks like a Witch. Men with below average faces and healthy weight bodies never get to play sexy characters, they're always cast in character actor roles, or as sidekicks to 'sexy men'. The fact that you're mentioning her face points towards proof that looks matter. Porn … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/20 03:12 PM |
| 0 | [Q4W] In what areas do you expect the man to treat you equally and where do expect dominance?Equality. I'm not in any way submissive. "Lay down the law." LOL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/19 05:53 PM |
| 5 | Dancing will get you laid - a list of things boys can do to be popular with girlsThis take is confusing. Dancing is a way to determine chemistry and dateability -- do they move with you? Do they smell good? Do they make small talk during a slow dance? Do they have rhythm? If they don't, do they have a sense of humor about it and try to have fun anyway? Are they too self-conscious to even try? Maybe if you like to dance/are extroverted, that last guy isn't an optimal person to date, then. If you ask someone to dance and they seem enthusiastic and want to stay on the dance flo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/19 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Men Often Exaggerate the Expenses of Everything in Dating or MarriageThis is accurate. By the time a couple gets engaged, they should have a pretty good idea that their values match. It's more difficult if they come from very different backgrounds socially/economically, but they should be able to agree on these things or be able to compromise comfortably before marriage, because they certainly don't want to find out they're incompatible in these ways years in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/19 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Men don't like average women, despite what they say. Men are irritated by the very existence of average women because they don't fit men's standards of femininity.It was fantastic! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/19 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Men don't like average women, despite what they say. Men are irritated by the very existence of average women because they don't fit men's standards of femininity.Fun fact: That movie is an adaptation of Les Liaisons Dangereuses, written by Pierre Choderlos de Laclos in 1782. (And also a movie before Cruel Intentions.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/19 07:57 PM |
| 3 | [Q4W] how come jerking to porn "damages" male brains but high N-count doesn't "damage" female brains?I didn't argue this, but maybe...porn makes people want unrealistic, idealized sex, and fucking lots of people is lots of realistic, normal sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 10:04 PM |
| 5 | Pics vs presenceI'm a woman, and I don't think he's objectively attractive, but I didn't watch Girls except for maybe two episodes. I do know that Adam the person is a nice guy and well-liked in the industry, so that does color my opinion, even though it's not supposed to in this exercise. I guess you can compare it to a friend telling you her male roommate she wants to set you up with is awesome and funny and sharing stories about him before you meet, so you're predisposed to think positively about that person… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/19 04:42 AM |
| 5 | Why do women on Reddit never admit that they stare at attractive guys?Yeah, I totally do. I don't think I'm obvious about it. I look longer at cool cars and at puppies, too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Is it just me, or is it mostly short girls who are obsessed with height?Maybe that's why some gravitate to very tall guys? I'm 5'10" and I've dated guys from 5'8" to 6'4", but I don't really feel like someone needs to be a "protector" type for me. I've never been bullied (except for the normal shitty 7th grader make-fun-of-your-shoes bullying mean girls do to everyone at some point.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/19 11:45 PM |
| 6 | The Lonely Burden of Today’s Teenage GirlsThese sorts of kids had their parents carting them everywhere and running their schedules. If they've never had a job or transported themselves to school and activities, they're incapable of planning in exactly the way you mention. Also seen in the inability of some to accomplish basic tasks like laundry or preparing a meal or cleaning a bathtub. The parents did that, "Oh, it's faster if I just do it," thing instead of having their kids handle these general adult life skills basics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/19 10:08 PM |
| 6 | Spending time around hippies has made me doubt that hypergamy is the cause of increased male celibacy. (long-ish)I agree with you, and the hippie thing isn't the point. People who want to meet people of the opposite sex need to be in spaces where they can interact organically. For some, this is apparently rocket science. This applies to women, too: of course you're not going to meet many guys if your social network and hobbies are all yarn-focused. Go to a bar and talk to people. Bring a friend or two so people know you are tolerable company. Get involved in a political campaign. Bring your dog to the dog … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/19 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Men think women see men as alpha or beta, because they are the ones who label women as madonnas or whores.Yeah, like...not having big calves is a negative? confused question mark gif guy I'm tall and have mostly dated guys who are tall -- my husband is naturally linebacker size with big shoulders, though I've dated some thin men -- and he's self conscious about his calves too (?) I don't notice or care if calves are muscular or not or if someone has thin wrists. On the other hand, if their clothes fit properly, they generally look just fine. Nobody expects guys to look like they spend five hours in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/19 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Men think women see men as alpha or beta, because they are the ones who label women as madonnas or whores.Honestly, I think a lot of women don't register "goes to the gym all the time" the way some guys think that they do. Of course being fit is beneficial (and going to the gym and eating well are good to do for yourself/health anyway), but if someone's skinnyfat or a little chunky it's not really a huge problem to a lot of women if the guy has a decent haircut (if balding, a close cut) and dresses and presents himself well (glasses that aren't ten years out of date, etc.) I have a male relative who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/19 12:01 AM |
| 3 | CMV: It's not worth it for men to get married in USA.I was, since I know gay people with long-term partners and I'm not an asshole? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/19 10:47 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It's not worth it for men to get married in USA.No, that's conservative talking-point bullshit. There are tangible benefits to marriage, especially if you're in a joint-earner household, which most gay people are. Tax Benefits Filing joint income tax returns with the IRS and state taxing authorities. Creating a "family partnership" under federal tax laws, which allows you to divide business income among family members. Estate Planning Benefits Inheriting a share of your spouse's estate. Receiving an exemption from both estate taxes and gift t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/19 09:33 PM |
| 2 | If woman are so selfish during romantic relationships, why are they less likely to leave a sick spouse and more likely to donate organs to a spouse?Agree. If someone actually said that about their spouse I'd think they were a total sociopath. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/19 03:46 AM |
| 4 | You know how women say they don't want to be a "mother" to their husbandLOL wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/19 12:41 AM |
| 19 | You know how women say they don't want to be a "mother" to their husbandUgh. There is actually a line here that isn't necessarily obvious when you hear this phrase, but this is it: Moms pick up after children who don't know better. It's one thing to do a normal amount of housework, but it's infuriating to pick up after an adult who lacks respect for your work. Throwing socks/boxers/damp towels on the floor of the bathroom, failing to bring a glass into the kitchen when turning in for the evening, or leaving crumbs and a dirty knife on the kitchen counter are things … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/19 09:13 PM |
| 6 | You know how women say they don't want to be a "mother" to their husbandMy mom did, but my dad obviously cooked and cleaned. In a dual-income household, the couple should split the tasks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/19 09:09 PM |
| 1 | EXPECTING a woman to have sex with you by the 3rd date is ridiculous.I honestly don't think someone makes it past the second date if the other person isn't feeling any chemistry. First date -- fine, could be nerves, first dates can be a bit awkward, might be something that's not really conducive to kissing or whatever, like a day baseball game and coffee. Second date and still no desire to get close to a person? No chemistry. You could go on ten dates, but chemistry is usually apparent early. (I mean, actually prior to the first date if they've asked you out in p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/19 03:26 AM |
| 3 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.Don't trivialize anyone getting raped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.Then it would probably be more traumatic, wouldn't it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.Well, see how you feel if you're raped by a man. Here are some stories from guys who were raped and traumatized for life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 05:08 PM |
| 5 | I started giving short men a chancePlus it's probably also like when you put a big painting in a small room. A statement piece accessory, so to speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/19 10:45 AM |
| 21 | Do you care about the intelligence of your partners?Most people end up with long-term partners that are about as smart as they are anyway. No one wants to feel like they're being condescended to, or conversely, that they're dating an idiot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/19 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Why do women touch men in ways they wouldn't liked to be touched?It does also depend on context -- do you know the person well and know their intentions, and is the space where it's done appropriate. Nobody cares if you good-game a sports teammate with a gentle butt-slap, generally, but your boss better stick to a high-five. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/19 12:47 PM |
| 3 | Why do women touch men in ways they wouldn't liked to be touched?Tapping a person on the shoulder is a different ballgame than patting a person on the butt or groping them. I would separate touch into three categories, I suppose: Touch to get someone's attention: the tap on the shoulder, which is pretty innocuous. I can't imagine being mad about this. Social touch that may or may not be uncomfortable if the recipient of the touch isn't socialized to accept it or is a non-"touchy-feely" person (gripping the forearm during a handshake -- say you're a politician… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/19 12:36 PM |
| 15 | Wouldn't you just end up with dead-beadrooms, if you force women into relationships with unattractive menI think dead bedrooms have always existed. Nobody used to talk about it as much before because there was no anonymous internet place in which to do so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/19 02:07 AM |
| 2 | “Just As Famous As A Beautiful Woman”That's exactly my type. I married one! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/19 12:39 AM |
| 21 | Why do (some) men think male decency should be rewarded with female beauty?Exactly. It's like believing it's a factual assessment when your mom says you're beautiful. She might believe it's true because your kids are beautiful to you, but it's partially blowing kindness smoke up your ass so you don't end up with poor self-esteem. "We were told that personality is more important than looks" is on par with "We were told that getting any bachelor's degree in any subject will guarantee a middle-class white collar career." Is it true that a person with a great personality w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/19 03:17 PM |
| 2 | "Why don't you marry young, have kids, then when the kids are grown up, start school?" A question men ask career women all the time, answered.I think your assessment is accurate. I mean, it's the same thing as, "the mean girl homecoming queen will end up pregnant at 19 and working at the quickee mart," that makes people feel better, I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/19 01:02 PM |
| 11 | "Why don't you marry young, have kids, then when the kids are grown up, start school?" A question men ask career women all the time, answered.They're all, "the brain doesn't finish developing until 25!" when it comes to some life decision that affects them, but sure, women should marry and have two kids by then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/19 04:54 AM |
| 2 | Redpill is beneficial to absolutely NO woman todayGood complexion bot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/19 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Why do men not select for height in mates?Huh. I'm 5'10" and the shortest man to ask me out was probably about 5'8". I married someone who is 6'3", but he'd dated women who were 6' and 6'1" before me. (I mean...the Netherlands.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/19 12:52 AM |
| 4 | Why would people put a high priority on looks when searching for a long term relationship?Men write most scripts... Of course they have the average Joe get the girl. It's their fantasy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/19 01:42 PM |
| 3 | Why would people put a high priority on looks when searching for a long term relationship?Which is a factor into why the "who is attractive" data is skewed - because it cuts off the ability to gauge those other attraction triggers for women. I agree, and this is why that stat about women only finding a small percentage of men attractive on Tinder is misunderstood. I'm convinced this means "attractive based solely on a photo," not "most people are completely hopeless." Of course anyone with eyeballs can see that someone like Chris Hemsworth is handsome from a photo, but with an averag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/19 01:41 PM |
| 3 | (Q4MEN) What are some non sexual/non obvious "hoe" traits?Maybe scarlet letters. Hur hur. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/19 03:24 AM |
| 3 | Doesn't the average man LTR every girl that has sex with him? Isn't that kinda lame?What you can get is what you can get, though. What is the rationale behind the idea that the average person is somehow entitled to a smorgasbord of fuckable people to select from? It might be nice to have a top-of-the-line $150k sports car and a penthouse with a rooftop pool too, but if you have an average salary, these things aren't in the cards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/19 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?No, I understand that's completely different and I'm familiar with kink. The person I replied to said "most" women like hairpulling and spanking, and I've seen plenty of (young, inexperienced) people on r/sex refer to choking like it's mainstream and...expected? It is not, but these are mainly younger guys who see it in porn and assume something along the lines of "girls like things that girls in porn all seem to enjoy, like a load of come right in the eyes!" So yeah, we actually agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/19 03:04 AM |
| 1 | The same way some straight men feel about having friendships or getting close to gay men, is the same way women feel about unwanted male attention in general. Nobody wants sexual attention from someone they are not sexually interested in.Or it may be that men back off when another man says "No thank you," without having to go into detail about having a boyfriend or husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/19 11:55 PM |
| 9 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?Ewww, no. That's a symptom of watching too much porn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 12:35 AM |
| 0 | Q4All: What happens to the increasingly large amount of "left behind" & undesirable men in the dating marketplace? Fallout for society?These examples of men comprise people with either wealth or power. The point isn't that they're violent. It's the wealth and power. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/19 10:22 PM |
| 1 | What do you think would happen if a group of women went on to live on a remote island?A hierarchy would emerge, with the loudest assholes in charge until they failed and the most able would end up in charge. Some people would hook up, and a few fuckers would be useless and lazy and annoying, but probably grudgingly tolerated. Pretty much the same as a group of dudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/19 02:20 PM |
| 3 | The Promiscuity of Modern Women is OverstatedYes, this sounds normal and like my experiences. It's like some of the guys here look at sex like donuts. "What? There's a donut shop near your place? Why don't you eat donuts for three meals a day, every day?" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/19 05:07 PM |
| 3 | RPW seems like it serves the male imperative more than the female imperativeI suppose some people are yes-women. In a work-related context, I can perform submission to an idiotic client that's paying the bills in order to stay employed, but I can't imagine doing so for an idiotic life partner. Hiding one's competence is, frankly, exhausting for someone with an egalitarian mindset, and it turns relationships into weird transactions instead of being, ideally, a "we're on the same team" brain trust. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 04:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: A man wanting a wife with a lower n-count is no more, and no less, hypocritical than a woman wanting a husband who makes more money, or a stronger husband, or a taller husband.Yeah, I've seen that happen so often. Likewise, people who married/committed young and one or the other person changed or matured into someone who wanted other things. That's so young to feel so trapped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/19 02:57 AM |
| 1 | CMV: A man wanting a wife with a lower n-count is no more, and no less, hypocritical than a woman wanting a husband who makes more money, or a stronger husband, or a taller husband.Same here. My dad was also 12 years older than she was. My grandma also had kids into her 40s, just not her first child. My sister-in-law had a baby in her 40s (an oops situation, to be sure, since she had two teenagers at the time and did not expect that, but it was fine.) Having children when you're a teenager or recent college graduate who hasn't had a chance to travel or enjoy the freedom of youth before you take on an 18-year commitment is what sounds odd to me, frankly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/19 03:12 PM |
| 3 | An ugly girl is an invisible girlWell, I don't like Walmart, but that's not really true. They exist in some parts of America more than others. There are 300 Walmarts in Texas, and they're not all in ghettos. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/19 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Q4Men: why do men get angry about women who get free drinks when the free alcohol is intended to make us drunk and therefore less likely to say “no” to sex? Alcohol affects consent.I love dancing! As you get older, it sort of sucks when clubbing is no longer a thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/19 07:53 PM |
| 4 | Q4Men: why do men get angry about women who get free drinks when the free alcohol is intended to make us drunk and therefore less likely to say “no” to sex? Alcohol affects consent.Yeah, but a stranger rabbitfucking you for five minutes is not getting your needs met. It's getting HIS needs met. A quality one-night-stand includes making out and extended foreplay for most women. Throw in some post-coital cuddling and a cheerful coffee in the morning and a good time is truly had by all. (And there's nothing wrong with that. I do agree that people shouldn't be taking free drinks from people that they're not interested in getting to know, just because they have cotton mouth or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/19 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Q4Men: why do men get angry about women who get free drinks when the free alcohol is intended to make us drunk and therefore less likely to say “no” to sex? Alcohol affects consent.They can't relate because they tolerate dance clubs because women are there. A lot of them don't enjoy dancing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/19 06:52 PM |
| 5 | Why do people here keep acting like sex is something a woman "gives" to a man?This is a neutral phrase, like, "I didn't want to enjoy raw fish, but my friend's samples of sushi won me over." It means, "x convinced me of the value of them/that thing." If a woman wins a man over, or vice versa, they have convinced the other person of their value as a partner. It could be sense of humor or personality or tits or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/19 07:13 PM |
| 2 | How good are you *actually* at spotting red flags, vetting, reading people, and leaving bad situations?I've never had a relationship with an abuser or creep and am not codependent in any way, but my parents had a healthy relationship and I wasn't around arguing, etc. I really can't tolerate strife and yelling and shit, so being around angry or difficult people is uncomfortable for me and I probably unconsciously avoid it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/19 02:26 AM |
| 2 | Is the Cock Carousel real?The OP says in a comment that he's banged ten escorts, so he's not exactly been shyly pining away at church. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/19 01:42 PM |
| 2 | Is the Cock Carousel real?I'm part Slavic(-American) too! This is one of the funniest manosphere fables I've ever seen. Me too! Are all of us here on this sub as mythbusters? That's an amusing coincidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/19 01:28 PM |
| 3 | Why the hate for "Pick Me's"?Well, I've always had a career and have been married for two decades, so she can suck it. (No kids, but we didn't want kids. We prefer having 2.5 money instead.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/19 01:29 PM |
| 1 | If you were transformed into a straight, average-looking single person of the opposite sex, and you had to find a committed relationship with someone you found decently attractive, what strategies would you use?A fair number of guys do guy stuff and work with mostly guys and rely on apps to meet women. No, that is not the way. Take a class where you're painting plates or doing yoga. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/19 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Maybe meeting for dinner is not a good idea for a first or second date?This is a good answer. Who wants coffee at night? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 08:34 PM |
| 1 | How does the disparity in makeup use between women and men affect the current dating landscape?I will always choose to look better if it takes less than ten minutes, which it does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/19 01:14 AM |
| 1 | How does the disparity in makeup use between women and men affect the current dating landscape?Look at the married couples you know. Aunts and uncles, your parents, friends, people on social media. They marry people who are roughly as attractive as they are. Very rarely is there a surprising difference between couples. I think men sometimes don't think that average men look nice, but they do. Most people are average, and average women have relationships with average men all the time. Average doesn't mean Elephant Man/My 600lb Life pairings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/19 10:48 PM |
| 1 | How does the disparity in makeup use between women and men affect the current dating landscape?If you wear makeup every day to work (nothing excessive like an Instagram face, just simple five-minute makeup) and skip it one day? Everyone: "Oh, are you sick?" "You look really tired." Your made-up face becomes your expected public face. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/19 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Women, do you think nice guys chase after the wrong types of women?Younger women who aren't cynical or more savvy think that yes, he would. The "oh, he's just being nice if he can get laid," realization doesn't occur until you're jaded by humanity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/19 06:55 PM |
| 3 | What type of girls do "Chad" like to keep around?Because they're very kinky girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/19 06:47 PM |
| 4 | What exactly about being college/university educated makes marriages more successful?On a very basic level, they are older when they get together and more likely to know what they want in a life partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/19 06:28 PM |
| 3 | "6 figures" and no gut isn't really all that high value or impressiveEh. I mean, I don't like Bud Light either unless it's the only option at a baseball game, but this guy just sounds a little basic and was possibly nervous about the date. They didn't have any chemistry, clearly, but this just seems a little...petty? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/19 06:26 PM |
| 2 | After coming out of a committed relationship I’m realising my male friends aren’t all they seemedPersonally, if someone gives off "orbiter" vibes as a friend, I find that uncomfortable to be around. It's like having an overly clingy or pushy female friend. Just...big yikes vibes. But let's say a male friend's behavior is totally platonic and they're not suggestive/flirtatious, basically treat you like a sister, bust your chops, friend shit. If you break up and they hit on you immediately (versus just hanging out more often and eventually you kiss or whatever in an organic sort of way becaus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/19 05:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: We are long overdue for cultural shifts that recognize marriage as a long-term, but not lifetime, commitment. Divorce needs to be made more predictable to the individuals, less expensive, and less complicated.Nothing's stopping you from getting a prenup? Almost all of the divorced people I know just split their shit and did 50/50 custody, but they were all working couples. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Are there any Socially Conservative women left?Maybe she spanks him, bucko Edit: but the t-shirts thing screams Mormon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/19 01:56 AM |
| 6 | Are women really repulsed by male emotions or is this a myth?I've seen those comments and they confused me? Not doubting people's accounts, but wow, are they dating some hardhearted self-centered women if showing vulnerability or breaking down gets you dumped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/19 01:06 AM |
| 4 | Are women really repulsed by male emotions or is this a myth?Bingo. That goes for women, too. Everybody has a bad day or a bad life event, but this continual self-pity whining thing some people do means they get slowly cut off. (Unless they're relatives, in which case, fuuuuck.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/19 01:04 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: About the Cardi B situation and the amount of women on Twitter defending her behavior.I think she's a jackass trying to get "street cred" by talking up a criminal past, like male rappers proud of being gangbangers and not suburban kids who played XBox on Friday nights instead of driving around doing drug deals and getting shot at. But they're all jackasses? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/19 01:39 PM |
| 14 | US finally catches up to Japan: around 27% of men under age 30 are virginsYou may have a point there: people getting their egoistic needs met in other ways, with high scores and adulation and likes that don't involve interacting IRL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/19 09:07 PM |
| 6 | Is Ephebophilia the reason grown men shit on male teenage heartthrobs so much?Have you ever been a preteen/young teen girl? Boy bands and teen hearthrobs are safe fantasy objects. It's irrelevant what the objects of affection are really like, because they're imaginary training-wheels media boyfriends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/19 09:07 PM |
| 32 | Is Ephebophilia the reason grown men shit on male teenage heartthrobs so much?A lot of comments from guys seem to be missing the point about why young teenage girls like Bieberesque guys and boy bands. It's because they are non-threatening and "soft". Young teenage girls (and adolescent girls) mature faster than the boys in their school, and these guys look young like them, but sing about romance and love and dress well and have good haircuts don't look they smell like gym socks or are going to talk about Fortnite all day. Of course young teen girls aren't going to swoon … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/19 01:31 PM |
| 8 | Is Ephebophilia the reason grown men shit on male teenage heartthrobs so much?They're thinking of Brad Pitt as "generic handsome Ken Doll-looking guy" and not really registering his age as over 40. This happened with Robert Redford, too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/19 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Is taking your pre-teen sons to hooters bad parenting?It disappoints me that Twin Peaks is not a coffee and pie diner. But maybe it is? I'd probably go there for that reason since I have my own tits but I love a damn good cup of coffee. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/19 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Why are so many women having trouble with the Dating scene?You wear deodorant, though, presumably. Grooming what you have isn't the same as having plastic surgery to look like a Ken doll, like this (quite odd and plastic surgery-addicted) guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/19 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Because we haven't talked about VR Porn enoughIf you think women won't also be bangin' virtual romance-novel-program Chris Hemsworth instead of some sweaty guy from work, I don't know what to tell you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/19 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Do women prefer masculine or feminine traits in a man?Apparently, some men do. Women aren't going out there and saying regular haircuts are metrosexual or feminine; it's a way for some guys to shame other guys who spend time on their appearance: it's the herd. There are some women who do similar things and is milieu-dependent. I suspect because it raises the bar for their own effort. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/19 12:45 PM |
| 3 | Do women prefer masculine or feminine traits in a man?Good grooming isn't feminine. Chris Hemsworth "sculpting his beard" is grooming. "Old school men," if you mean, say...men in the 1940s as opposed to people living in actual caves, used hair tonics every day and went to barbers for close shaves and wore pressed shirts and brushed their hats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/19 12:38 PM |
| 5 | Would you want to have been born the opposite sex of what you are nowI was in the military and wasn't treated like shit. I liked how fair it was in general (test well, do a decent job, get promoted, versus who you know/who your dad is.) It felt gender-blind to me, but I was in the Air Force and not a combat-related field, so people's mileage may vary here. On the other hand, the M/F ratio is pretty sweet for dating. Sometimes the goods are odd, but the odds are good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 07:54 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on cheating?I think the missing ingredient here would be chemistry. I used to have more male friends than female, just because of my job -- there was one other woman there and she was older with kids, so she wasn't going out with all of us after work and didn't want to hang out and drink and play video games -- just the kind of things that friends do. Go get tacos or see a movie or something. I dated exactly zero men in that environment and did not consider any interactions with them solo to be "dates". The… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/19 04:54 PM |
| 2 | Hollywood has brainwashed men with false expectations of how easy it is to obtain a high value partnerI've heard this argument before, but most of the writers/directors/producers in Hollywood have historically been guys. If they're writing some wish fulfillment (because it's fun to imagine you're a hero getting the girl), it's kind of the responsibility of the viewer to realize that media that lights up your brain's pleasure centers with a fantasy...is fictional. And have they not noticed that action heroes are usually charming, witty, dashing, and handsome? If you're shaped like a Dorito and ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/19 04:15 PM |
| 3 | A woman's personality matters just as much as her looks. Strong/alpha personality women get the better men.CEOs encounter a lot of yes-men (well, yes-people) in their daily lives. They are important and tend to be ass-kissed in most of the settings in which they find themselves. So it makes sense that they would sometimes prefer to be spoken to without that filter, or "taken care of" and not expected to be a leader or take-charge individual in personal encounters. Unless the CEO is a narcissist and expects to have their ass kissed. Then this would not apply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/19 01:19 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women have no sympathy for men.How many are needed? The Male Fashion Advice subreddit has 1.7 million subscribers and they are happy to give advice if someone has no idea how to dress and asks for feedback. and a large number of those men are either gay or effeminate. Really? I thought we got over the metrosexual slur in the 90s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/19 05:55 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Women have no sympathy for men.That's men's media? The editors and contributors are men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/19 05:06 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Women have no sympathy for men.Yeah, I go to Supercuts personally. You don't have to spend a ton, but you need to perceive the difference between a bad and a good haircut and clothes that fit properly and don't fit properly (or the semiotic difference between a plain black t-shirt and an Affliction t-shirt or something your job handed out in 1997.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/19 08:06 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Women have no sympathy for men.Well, men don't outright tell women verbally that "looks matter a lot," either, but that is absorbed culturally. Looks matter to everyone looking to touch their genitals to someone else's genitals. Edit: sorry, clicked too fast. This doesn't mean someone has to try to resemble a model or spend an hour on their appearance every morning, but good hygiene and generally matching/appropriate clothing and hair are baseline, not just for reasons of romantic attractiveness. Movies, TV, and magazines asi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/19 07:52 PM |
| 11 | CMV: Women have no sympathy for men.Right, but haircuts and glasses do follow trends, and people need to cut their hair and wear glasses (and wear clothes) anyway, so they might as well make a choice that flatters them. I could wear a $30 grey sweatsuit from Walmart to cover my ass and avoid being arrested for public indecency or I could wear a $30 dress from the Gap that fits nicely, right? They both serve the same function. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/19 04:12 PM |
| 15 | CMV: Women have no sympathy for men.There are tons of magazines and websites, and even subreddits that exist to advise men on how to improve their appearance. GQ, Esquire, Men's Health. There are fashion sites for anything you like from street style to dandy to basic bastard outfits that are simple to put together. And Queer Eye is on Netflix. Pretending that "nobody tells us we can look better" sounds like an excuse from some quarters (not you) that really means, "I don't want to invest any time or energy into this because I'm no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/19 03:49 PM |
| 8 | Why do people pretend they don't know why couples don't want to be raising multiple kids?Don't want kids? Fine, but don't expect mine to pay the taxes to support your old ass. I don't have kids but happily pay property tax that supports the local school system, paid income and other taxes without complaint, and buy girl scout cookies and your kid's fundraising calendars at the door, too. I took care of my elderly mother in my home when she developed dementia, but there are many people with kids sitting in nursing homes lonely because their (sometimes many) children don't even bother… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/19 03:06 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Men here want sexual submissiveness, not actual submissiveness, because that would require responsibility on the man's partYeah, in the middle of a disaster/crisis or a work project. Sometimes that person is me. If I wanted someone to boss me around at home, I'd have stayed at my parents' house. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/19 07:41 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Men here want sexual submissiveness, not actual submissiveness, because that would require responsibility on the man's partExcept when women say "no, in fact, we do not want that," and they ignore that response because they don't like it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/19 07:07 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Men here want sexual submissiveness, not actual submissiveness, because that would require responsibility on the man's partZero women that I know IRL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/19 07:06 PM |
| 2 | "Are you fat? I don't really do fat girls."Well, I think her feelings were hurt so she went public...buuuut she stands to gain in some way because she makes money off of instagram somehow so, IDK, I don't really have any sympathy for either of these people. For his girlfriend, I do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/19 02:58 AM |
| 5 | "Are you fat? I don't really do fat girls."And it's not like he's shredded. It's kinda interesting because he has a gut himself and is being criticized for it, so perhaps he thought it wasn't too rude to mention because his body is policed publicly, so he's used to hearing about it and blunt comments when he's gained weight. And I lean towards that because he inquired about her food and workouts like he might if it was a friend he was texting. So I think he's dumb, because hey, if you're going to cheat on your pregnant girlfriend with an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/19 11:21 PM |
| 1 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.I believe you, but for me and the women I know personally and hang around, being around someone in this position is profoundly uncomfortable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 05:11 PM |
| 1 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.The essence of "nice guy" issues, though, is that the person is acting like a friend and the person they like is also acting like a friend, but the "nice guy" (or it could be a woman here) expects more just for being nice. Someone taking advantage of the person with the crush is being a jackass. Behaving like a normal friend who isn't attracted to a person who is their friend (just a friend, to them) is not jackassery. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 04:29 PM |
| 2 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.Here's the thing. Almost everybody seems to make this dumb mistake the first time they fall into unrequited infatuation with a crush. If they're 17 or 18 years old, they're growing up, it's a bummer of an experience, and they have my sympathies. If a 30 year old is sitting around whining about being "friendzoned," or conversely, being unhappily relegated to booty-call status, they have no self-respect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 04:15 PM |
| 0 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.If someone's waiting around to be a "plan B," it's also on them. WTF, who would settle for that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 03:16 PM |
| -2 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.First off, no, it's never okay to key someone's car or go ballistic because you misinterpreted what someone wanted in a relationship, so not giving anybody a pass on that. But in the examples you use, you're comparing someone who's being used for sex with someone who's acting like a friend but wants more, but they're not entitled to a relationship (or sex) either just because they're nearby and nice. If someone's doing favors for someone they're into that they wouldn't do for an actual friend, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 03:10 PM |
| 1 | If a man leaves the seat up and a woman falls in, who is responsible?The most practical solution is to put the seat down, since everyone needs the seat for #2 and half (or whatever percentage are women) of the household needs the seat down, if there are generally an equal number of men and women. If it's a house with three men and one woman or something, that might not be the case, however. So mathematically, it makes sense to leave it down. Diplomatically, it might make the most sense to close the lid entirely. I do have a visceral reaction to the seat being lef… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/19 05:46 AM |
| 3 | CMV- What women like in terms of a mans body is not attainable for a lot of men.But you're contradicting someone who says she likes a different type and quoting a study. All women don't have to like your type. If 10% of women do, that's still 10% of four billion women. Even when you subtract the people who aren't of dating age and single, that's still a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/19 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Why so few young women have short hair?Tons of women had short hair in the 50s, including two of the biggest celebrities -- Marilyn Monroe and Audrey Hepburn, and they had no shortage of male admirers. 60s started off as a Jackie Kennedy bouffant decade and ended in the hippie era. It's just trend cycles. I think one driver of the current long hair trend is celebrities and the other is the recession. Long hair is cheaper to maintain and actually in many cases takes less effort than hair you have to cut every six weeks. I had short ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/19 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Would you rather be seen as cute or sexy?Neither. Elegant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/19 12:52 AM |
| 6 | To what extent do “reputations” still matter for sexual and marital selection?Unless you're going to bars in a city and picking people up. Not everybody, particularly people who are closeted or who come from some religious community, broadcasts their social lives on the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/19 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Invisible to girlsShe sounds insensitive. Just because people have some social skills and are outgoing doesn't mean that they're kind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/19 03:19 PM |
| 1 | What's up with your taste in men?I'm a woman and I'm all Thor, all the time. I see the appeal of Loki, but that's not my personal type. I'm on Team Cap over Bucky, too. Bucky needs to wash his hair and not be a brainwashed wildcard, but a lot of female fans love a woobie project. I cannot understand Adam Driver at all. I'm sure he's a cool person, but "hottest male celebrity," in terms of appearance, nope. I feel mean saying that, however. Jeff Goldblum is sexy for his age, dresses well, and also has a good voice. Disney prince… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/18 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Are socially adept men really “dominant,” or are they just “playful,” “fun,” and "good communicators"?Well, not every nerd is introverted. There are plenty of extroverted personality types among all parts of the population. There's a difference between being confident in something like a classroom situation or among your friends in a club or hobby activity and in romantic situations, though; people can be confident and outspoken when they know what they're doing and feel comfortable in one sphere and not others. People have to learn how to read others' responses to be able to flirt successfully … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/18 01:39 PM |
| 2 | How would you feel about this female porn preference in your relationship?Although it has to be said that a guy jerking off in front of a camera is probably not being exploited -- he's not a teenager who's trying to make a buck having sex with an old creepy porn guy like Rocco Siffredi, so your porn choice is also objectively more ethical overall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/18 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Men dropping out of societyLook through any pile of engagement announcement photos (from a photographer's site, since people don't pay or newspapers anymore) or wedding pictures, and you'll notice that couples are mostly equally attractive and look perfectly suited to one another in terms of looks, general age, etc... unless you're talking about the rare very rich old guy marrying someone much more attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/18 10:54 PM |
| 14 | CMV: For all our talk about clear consent and dudes being creepy, it's the dudes taking chances that will end up with the girls, while the nice and respectful ones will be going home alone.I have definitely gone out with extroverted guys, but there's also a line between aggressive and flirtatious, and an element of "reading the room" that has to happen. (I am also not a hypocrite and have made the first move and asked men out myself, but I am decidedly not shy.) How not to be perceived as creepy -- factors: Is the environment appropriate for showing romantic interest? You can't put someone on the spot if they're working and can't leave. A server HAS to be nice to you or they're no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/18 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Being directly sexual is considered creepy and pretending to be friends with a girl just to get sex is also considered wrong. If both of these methods are wrong then how are you supposed to go about showing interest?You're welcome! If it works, let me know! When I was single, I was WAY more likely to go out on a date with a specific plan: go-karting, the zoo, ice skating, than something like "get together...." randomly. If the person is a little shy, the activity gives you something to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/18 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Being directly sexual is considered creepy and pretending to be friends with a girl just to get sex is also considered wrong. If both of these methods are wrong then how are you supposed to go about showing interest?Try using the information you've gotten from the conversation -- she likes music? Suggest going to a concert. Were you talking about the lunch at the conference and she mentions she likes to cook? What's her specialty -- "Hey, I'd like to learn how to make that...you up for showing me?" or if she says she likes Italian food, you know a great place, want to go there sometime? A specific date - planetarium, biking, museum, baseball game, corn maze, even coffee and pie -- whatever, is kind of more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/18 02:24 AM |
| 3 | Are men becomming less attractive to women?Our entire civilization, for literally hundreds of thousands of years, has been based on an asymmetric provision between genders, it’s why gender roles came into being in the first place. Men would go out and hunt and provide shelter, food, and resources That's...not true. In hunter-gatherer societies, who do you think was gathering? Women often provided 50% of the group's calories with berries, nuts, honey, etc. (pregnant women and women with kids aren't "helpless" except for a short window of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/18 06:38 PM |
| 5 | What does everybody think about this fascinating comment about looks/status?Why would you want stupid children? Do you want your children to get free ride scholarships, or barely swing a GED...? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/18 04:54 PM |
| 2 | CMV: So I guess women really are better parents after all.Well, true. But women also need to realize we have the power here. Not married? Condom. Don't like condoms? I don't care. Go home and fuck your hand, then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/18 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Do women fantasize about a male version of the fictional trope "Born Sexy Yesterday" or the trope "The Clueless Goddess"?Question: Do women fantasize about a male version of this trope? Male characters who are special or superior in some way BUT are pretty damn clueless about common elements of life. Yes! I had to laugh at the video, because I KNEW it would have Leeloo in it as an example of this trope. Agree with Thor (on earth, first MCU movie,) fish out of water, "clueless" alien, Steve Rogers/Captain America (trapped in ice for decades, so also fish out of water, and before that in the first film -- he was an … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/18 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Is Male Sexual Attention Even Pleasant?The benefits that a small number of high-status, attractive women enjoy? No one's running up to hold up an umbrella for my aunt Bertha in the rain or buying her free drinks hoping they'll get lucky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/18 11:11 PM |
| 2 | The majority of straight women are sexually submissive (to varying extent by individual), but TRP articulates this poorly and creates unnecessary division/confusion.No. I would never want anything like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/18 12:56 AM |
| 2 | How is it hard for women to know whether a guy's interested in romance, or just a one night stand?Some guys tell me about how they wanna be "lovey dovey", but I immediately go "No way dude, you're into nicki minaj, theres no way you want that" and then they burst into that "lol yeah" chuckle and comedically drop the "act". You know, this seems weird in context with another comment you've made: No, I'm suggesting getting to know someone on a personal\intimate level BEFORE actually banging them. NOT consciously withholding sex, like he's gotta pass a test to get the sex reward. It sort of soun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/18 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Confused: Right to sex vs tax-funded birth controlThat too! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 02:41 PM |
| 14 | Confused: Right to sex vs tax-funded birth controlHormonal birth control (the pill) is used for many, MANY ailments, like polycystic ovary syndrome and menstruation-related problems like heavy bleeding. But...why are you concerned about the pills women take and not Viagra? That's not benefiting anybody else but the person taking it (and their partner if they have one) either if used for erectile dysfunction. But also, taxpayers would be paying quite a lot more for a wave of children if families commonly still had 6+ children. So birth control i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: Do you find courageous and heroic women to be attractive, all other things being equal?Thanks! I've heard good things! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/18 10:03 PM |
| 5 | Q4All: Do you find courageous and heroic women to be attractive, all other things being equal?Sure, I fantasize about taking down someone who tries to hijack a plane I'm on. I don't know if gender has anything to do with that. I really do love media with heroines too. I mean, this exists in a lot of storytelling, not just a hypothetical romance novel. Heinlein's Friday, Katniss Everdeen, Lisbeth Salander. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/18 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Q4All: Do you find courageous and heroic women to be attractive, all other things being equal?I'm not sure if anybody really craves the chance to risk their lives for strangers or if this is conditioning. After all, someone raised in a vacuum would probably be instinctually focused on self-preservation, unless it came to putting themselves in front of a loved one. Heroism is something we learn about as members of society that values heroism. Edit: which is not to say that someone wouldn't run into a burning building to save a screaming person. We do have natural empathy as a species. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/18 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't the most common pairing 18yo females and 50yo males?I suppose they may be messaging these women even though the odds aren't in their favor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/18 05:17 PM |
| 10 | Why isn't the most common pairing 18yo females and 50yo males?Okay, there are faulty assumptions people are taking from this study. From the data, we know that 80% of messages are sent by men, but they examined people who had at least one message and reply back. Women who are more likely to reply back are more likely to reply back to 50 year old men. Why do you think that is? Because in the dataset (and in general), women who are older/on the site to sincerely connect with someone in this age group probably receive fewer messages than the average 18 year o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/18 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Q4Men: Would You Rather "Attractive, but Low Sexdrive" or "Unattractive, but High Sexdrive" in a partner?Handsome with a low sex drive. I have a hand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/18 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Hypergamy isn’t a Female Thing - It’s a People Thing (And Other Findings)There are probably fewer unattached men among that age group for the pool of women looking for men to date. Women who are 30 will date a 50-year-old man if he's appealing. Tony Hawk and Will Smith and Daniel Craig are 50. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/18 03:15 AM |
| 24 | Is It Difficult to Not Be Creepy?People who are creepy are actually rare. Basically, "creepiness" is a failure to recognize accepted social cues in the environment that you're in. Staring at someone on the bus makes them feel like prey. Failing to disengage if someone you talk to for a moment clearly looks like they want to keep reading their book/texting and not chatting with you, things like that. Starting a conversation at a bar or a party isn't creepy. That's a social venue. Starting a conversation when you're waiting for y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/18 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Physical attractiveness.Women are visual too, but looks in and of themselves are a smaller factor. However, if you look at all of the long-term or married couples that you know, from famous people to your aunts and uncles and coworkers, they're almost always generally matched up, looks-wise - like, it's not surprising that they're together when you see them as a couple. There are exceptions (old sugar daddies - see Anna Nicole Simpson's husband) but even...Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg are married to women who match t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/18 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: What do you think of this New Yorker story? (Cat person)She didn't want to have sex and said, "Oh well, guess I'm here and you're here..." This is a communication problem and she could have used her words. He really didn't pressure her into anything, but they were not very compatible for a long-term relationship. When I was this age, I remember going out with friends and having that one friend who'd just hook up because the guy was there and people had kind of paired off, and he'd catch feelings or she'd catch feelings and things would go nowhere, an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/17 04:15 PM |
| 3 | Q4ALL: What do you think of this New Yorker story? (Cat person)I...agree. They're both kind of shitty. Margot has the advantage of being the POV character, so we really don't know what Robert was thinking. Though his final reveal shows jerkass behavior, it seems fairly clear that he felt hurt so reacted in the way he did about of a bit of jerk-assery, but also because he wanted to hurt her feelings as a result of his feelings of rejection. Margot also came across as insecure and naive, but she's young, so I kind of expected that. Really, a story about a bad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/17 12:20 AM |
| 1 | What is the moral, acceptable way to ask out friends?I bet that's not true about your personality. Don't sell yourself short there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/17 07:34 PM |
| 1 | When you learn that a guy you know is pursuing a girl way out of his league, do you judge him for it?I don't judge him unless he's complaining that he never gets anywhere with women, or complains about them "all being bitches" for not returning his affections. Just like...I don't judge someone who's broke...unless I know they spent their grocery money on concert tickets. Make good choices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/17 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Q4WOMEN: As your cruise ship sinks, and the captain yells, "Women and children first," do you raise your voice about equality?I'd prioritize children and their parents first. I don't have kids so I wouldn't want some little kid orphaned because his dad drowned. As someone over 45, I'd also prioritize an 18 year old man over me - they haven't had a chance to live yet. Also, my parents are dead so they wouldn't be mourning me - it has to be awful to lose a child. A bunch of single guys my age? I guess we could flip coins or whatnot. Edit: if my husband was there he'd try to save me, and vice versa, but he'd want to be re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/17 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Marriage as a TransactionI don't get it either. Some people think they're squirrels, too. Life is odd. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/17 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Marriage as a TransactionMaybe it's his kink? People buy stuff/give others money as part of a BDSM kink. Fin dom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/17 12:07 AM |
| 4 | Q4All Who are outraged by celebrity sex scandals: What is your alternative?You can be a filthy hedonist without forcing yourself on people, you know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/17 07:52 AM |
| 3 | Is there some credence to women thinking men are "immature"?Well, he's retired early, so...me. Our incomes went back and forth through the years. I was laid off once (dotcom bust), sometimes I made more, sometimes he did. We mostly made around the same amount, though, with the range only about $10k either way. But we're DINKs so neither of us had our incomes suffer due to dropping out of the workforce. Our best friends are an attorney and cop; she makes more. They had a nanny, obviously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/17 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Is there some credence to women thinking men are "immature"?I say "younger" because I'm in my mid-40s and don't hear this anymore, but 90% of the people my age in my friend group have been married for years. in terms of not committing, if that's an expectation, people need to use their words and not stick around hoping for some kind of relationship they don't express verbally that they want. By the same token, if someone doesn't want a long-term relationship to turn into a permanent one, they need to be honest about this. Most of the people we know marri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/17 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Is there some credence to women thinking men are "immature"?When I hear younger women (or recall being younger) and hearing women complain about lack of maturity, they mean: He doesn't want to date one person exclusively/won't commit over just wanting to play the field. Or: dating someone for years with no discussion of marriage or the future beyond doing something next month. He doesn't have goals (and they do - career goals or grad school or whatever that looks like.) This doesn't mean "doesn't make a lot of money" but it does mean, "doesn't want to mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/17 04:33 PM |
| 1 | "Smart, educated, career women" are the new "nice guy tms"Maybe, because he does a fair amount of leading man roles. The guy from One Direction whose name I always forget but he wears a lot of Dior and has nice hair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/17 06:47 PM |
| 7 | "Smart, educated, career women" are the new "nice guy tms"Pop culture has become more fragmented since the 90s. Is there even a "Brad Pitt" that's listed as some sort of generic handsome guy that everyone knows of and likes? People consume all sorts of different genre media today and like a more varied smorgasbord of physical types than a particular blond actor. The earlier equivalent would probably be someone like Robert Redford or Paul Newman, similarly well-known. IDK, Ryan Reynolds? He's 40, though. Who do 20-year-olds think of? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/17 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Why doesn't society just tell boys/men what girls/women want?Is this a society where GQ and Men's Health magazine don't exist? All media basically tells men to be fit, confident, and dress well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/17 04:41 AM |
| 2 | QFW: Can men be too cute, or attractive for you to talk to them?No. (I'm taken, though...my dating days are long over.) You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, ladies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/17 11:37 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is your N-Count, and what do you think is the "appropriate" N-Count?Maybe? Could have been something that happened in her social group, too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/17 08:53 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is your N-Count, and what do you think is the "appropriate" N-Count?It's not that uncommon to have fantasies or curiosity and then make out and think, "Nah, that did nothing for me, but maybe it was just the person and we didn't have chemistry." And then to try it again and think, "Hmm. Nope, actually not bi after all." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/17 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Can a woman really get any genuine enjoyment out of pegging a man?There are no bestselling book series similar to 50 shades that reverses the D/S role for man and woman. Maybe there should be. There certainly will be, at some point. Don't forget that women are primed by media/texts -- the princess that's rescued by the prince, etc. It's a very passive scenario. Stories in which women are heroic are often not M/F romances - Joan of Arc, Xena. Stories in which women dominate men often make them evil or manipulative: Misery, Basic Instinct. There are few portraya… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/17 05:47 PM |
| 1 | When modern men seem unmanly, is it that they are feminine or it is that they are immature?People can't expect to attract attractive people if they aren't willing to do what it takes to be attractive. Pretty much. If you see someone totally slobbed out next to someone decently groomed and dressed, it's a.) rare and b.) one of them is a celebrity, rich, or let themselves go after getting together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/17 05:20 PM |
| 1 | When modern men seem unmanly, is it that they are feminine or it is that they are immature?I'm a woman and I don't get this either. I appreciate any time spent on making a person more attractive, grooming, dressing nicely, etc. There's a "taking it too far" point for both men and women where a person can be perceived as being overly high maintenance, but the world is full of distinctions like this, like dedicated versus workaholic or sports fan/gamer/other hobby participant versus fanatic who doesn't talk about anything else ever. Not caring at all about your appearance because you're… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/17 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Q4all: Why should I support gender equality. What's in it for me?Well then, imagine a partner with whom you're unhappy. It's like being stuck living with a demanding, asshole family member or the worst roommate you can imagine. Not worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/17 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Average Women Aren't Being Bombarded with Attention...Rate These 10 Women Out of 10 Experiment RESULTSThis confuses me though, because I don't have any idea what you look like. People generally pair up...equitably in long term relationships. Average people end up with other average people, extremely attractive people pair up with other extremely attractive people. I mean, are you an 8, or...? Ratings on the internet don't take into account other things that become apparent in real life, either. Some people look better in person, move well, have a friendly aura or sexy voice, etc. (I don't know w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/17 02:22 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men perceive the loss of their own privilege as a sign that women have now 'out-privileged' them.You mean register? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/17 04:43 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men perceive the loss of their own privilege as a sign that women have now 'out-privileged' them.looking All the stories I'm finding are unclear. The Senate passed something last year, the Obama administration said "fine," and I'm not sure about the House. I really hope so. I think all people who are physically fit should be treated equally here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/17 01:08 AM |
| 9 | CMV: Men perceive the loss of their own privilege as a sign that women have now 'out-privileged' them.Unless women are willing to work tiring dead end jobs with little to no thanks for the work being done, instead of forcing their way into high-end only jobs, the lower tier working men will continue to feel like they are getting shafted. What? How many men clean hotel rooms or wipe childrens' asses in daycare facilities and preschools? A lot of the semiskilled labor men do pays comparatively better, because of reliance on physical strength, but most of these jobs aren't a relaxing little cakewal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/17 04:35 PM |
| 8 | CMV: Men perceive the loss of their own privilege as a sign that women have now 'out-privileged' them.These are good points. The playing field can be leveled further, by, say, requiring women to register for Selective Service (I'm a female vet and I prefer that no one be drafted versus using volunteers in any normal situation and we haven't had a draft in about 40 years, but fair is fair.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/17 04:06 PM |
| 3 | Creep is a valid claim, but never an objective or absolute one.Yeah, Ted Bundy is kind of an outlier. Jeffrey Dahmer wasn't charismatic. BTK was an average joe with a wife who was a Cub Scout leader and active in church, so probably seemed "normal." Aileen Wuornos was a sex worker and knew how to gain people's trust, but also, they were dudes picking her up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/17 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Women of PPD, if you only had to choose between TWO men on SMV, which of these two would you choose and whyHmm. Either, but the head, or at least hair, of Guy #1. Not fond of the beard on someone I'm kissing and doing other things with. I can watch, say, Vikings and find bearded guys attractive but it's kind of despite the beard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/17 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Q4 WOMEN attracted to men taller than them...do you mean slightly taller or do you mean extremely taller?I'm 5'10" and my husband is 6'3", but we're close when I wear heels. I like that we can wrestle on the floor and it's a challenge instead of a blowout, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/16 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Q4 WOMEN attracted to men taller than them...do you mean slightly taller or do you mean extremely taller?I'm the same height and have had exactly the same experience. I think being a tall woman can be "intimidating" to some guys. I had decent luck finding men to date, but I know I was approached less than my friends who are around 5'5" and 5'7", and yes, we never get "cute" as a descriptor. On the other hand, I think looking like we can probably defend ourselves probably results in less harassment on the train than very petite women, from what I have heard from friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/16 09:23 PM |
| 3 | [Q4ALL] What is toxic and non-toxic masculinity?Hmm. I don't think that's really true, referencing "good men." I think most women I've heard say this mean a man who has a job/some life goals, is generally self-sufficient (in a "pays his bills" way, not "built a house by himself with two by fours and a hammer" way) isn't a jerk and doesn't cheat on his partner. Not some kind of white knight or machismo dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/16 09:41 PM |
| 3 | How did we elect a sexist male president over a woman?That was the straw that broke the camel's back. Trump said outrageous things throughout the campaign and flipped out on Twitter frequently. The perception is that he has a big mouth and little tact or sense of discretion, which is kind of important for a person who's supposed to represent all of us and deal with foreign leaders in an official capacity. I mean, sure, making a joke with your buddy that's not appropriate in mixed company, it happens, but he said sexist things about plenty of women,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/16 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Discuss. What up with this height obsession lately?Nah. This is an excuse, like "women only like rich guys!" or "women prefer assholes!" I'm 5'10" and when single, dated guys from 5'6" to 6'4" - (no one shorter asked me out, but I've had crushes on cute, shorter guys.) Conversely, if someone was so insecure about their height they'd ask me not to wear heels, I'd find that unattractive, actually. Being in my 40s, we hang out with a lot of other couples, and there are plenty of paired-up short guys with attractive, nice, accomplished long-term par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/16 10:13 PM |
| 14 | Do men and women even have common mutual interests?Most women pretty much get over the need for a menstrual "resource" 30 minutes after our mom hands us a bag of products when we're 13. Menstruating isn't actually a hobby. The only support we need from a partner after that is a response to this: "I feel too rotten to do anything today, let's order in." "Okay, sounds good." Anybody can enjoy football or literature or skiing. Sure, if your hobbies and the interests of your partner don't match up, you need friends to share them with as well, and fr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/16 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would women not caring about sex make men's lives easier?Ideally, it should be fun for both parties. If you're not really enjoying it, your partner should pick up on that and do...something. It's like...it's my turn to make dinner tonight. I could slap a Kraft slice between two pieces of bread and give my husband a Coke and he won't be hungry anymore, but I want us to have an enjoyable meal. Otherwise, what's the point? Might as well pop a Soylent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/16 07:39 PM |
| 1 | One argument in support of Nice Guy shaming is that male nerds are "overprivileged". This argument (if nerd means no social skills) usually has no statistical evidence.Here's something I don't really understand: engineering and science require one to be well-dressed and possess good communication skills. Additionally, the job market is competitive and requires good interviewing skills. Dressing well = a skill Communication = a skill Interviewing = a skill Most human beings are not born with innate mastery of "things that will make a person successful in a given society." These are things that are learned by observation, experience, and study. Being great at en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/16 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Q4women: what do you think of the rise of male bisexuality?They can be, yet there are monogamous people of every orientation. There's also a difference between being committed to a partner and agreeing to be monogamous, and being promiscuous when you're single. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/16 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Q4women: what do you think of the rise of male bisexuality?That seems hypocritical. I suspect that's due to unfair stereotyping of bisexual people (and gay men) as being promiscuous. You can't judge individuals based on a stereotype. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/16 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Q4BP: Do you deny that any woman has a fantasy of overpowering, forced sex, or rape fantasies?Some people might, but I don't and a lot of women I know don't, either. That's why a lot of us laughed really hard at 50 Shades of Grey. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/16 12:08 AM |
| 4 | CMV: Women value men with "style" because it's shorthand for wealthStyle = dressing appropriately for the occasion/milieu in which you find yourself. Appropriate country club attire for a 44 year old is different than something a 23 year old hipster would wear. Women appreciate that because most of us put effort into hair/makeup/wardrobe and appreciate it when men do this as well. Most men's clothing that is expensive isn't obviously so to women, like say, Lobb shoes and bespoke suits. If you're not upper class, you don't need to spend $600 on a pair of shoes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/16 12:06 AM |
| 2 | CMV TRP men are angry because physical looks, unlike before, plays a large role mate selection. They are even angrier because women have little sympathy for their plight.Most people end up with partners who are generally analogous to themselves, lookswise. Factors like wealth or achievement or "attractive traits" like being a talented musician can tip the scales, but if other factors are generally equal, people pair up by looks like it's Noah's Ark of beauty, hence the lack of surprise anyone feels when they see Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt or Rhea Perlman and Danny Devito pair up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/16 02:54 PM |
| 1 | New Theory: Early Dating Bottleneck TheoryWell, I think most people respect other people who do things well and are proud of their abilities and efforts. Why wouldn't you admire that? I have never had any interest in being a CEO or high-powered lawyer's spouse or whatever people think is key to attracting women. If you want to be successful at something for YOU, you should do it. Doing it for others isn't satisfying for you. If you're going to do anything, and you kill it, great. Half-assing is half-assing, and if you're the sort of abl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/16 09:09 PM |
| 1 | New Theory: Early Dating Bottleneck TheoryI think that's true in that couple's case. This man watched the kids when she went to grad school and has been laid off and she makes much more than he does, so he's not "good enough," now, and she's bought in to the SATC cougar crap her friends are peddling her. (Her...single friends...) So, she's ditching a great dad with a cool personality, and she's not exactly aging like Christie Brinkley, so everyone is speechless. He's no schlubbier than she is, you know? He's a catch as a human being. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/16 08:31 PM |
| 1 | New Theory: Early Dating Bottleneck TheoryIt happens! People change, too. Some of the premise of the OP's post ignores the fact that people do grow throughout their 20s. You can change, your partner can change. A friend of a friend is leaving her husband after like, 18 years, and they were married in their early 20s. There really is no reason for that, except IDK, midlife crisis rationale? We all feel immensely sorry for the guy -- he's really, really nice and doesn't deserve to be dumped -- but he'll probably find someone who makes him… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/16 07:39 PM |
| 1 | New Theory: Early Dating Bottleneck TheoryYeah, that's strange to me as well, but not terribly uncommon. Some people wear rose-colored glasses when it comes to relationships and hope everything will work out/ignore very obvious red flags. That's not even unique to young people. I know 40 year olds who make horrible relationship decisions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/16 07:10 PM |
| 1 | New Theory: Early Dating Bottleneck TheoryI don't know if the risk-taker hypothesis is accurate. That might be true for people who say, want to be Navy SEALs, but a lot of people join the military in uncertain economic times BECAUSE it's stable, provides benefits, and offers a steady promotion path and a pension. It's actually a very safe job, if you're something like a communications technician. I won't even go on roller coasters. I hate physical risk! (Loved traveling and living in other countries, though.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/16 06:12 PM |
| 1 | New Theory: Early Dating Bottleneck TheoryI imagine the environment itself isn't very conducive to LTRs, but I have to wonder if there are other common threads. Perhaps folks that sign up for the military in general are more risk taking? Dunno, but it is interesting. Tendency to marry someone they haven't known very long, marriage because "I feel homesick/lonely," "so he or she (if not military) can get benefits/citizenship," or "so I can get out of the barracks and live in a house/apt. with girlfriend/boyfriend." This plus working in a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/16 06:01 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Unreasonable niceness or kindness is a negative for sexual attractivenessWho said anything about "taking shit" from anybody? There's a wide gulf between acting like a doormat and acting entitled, and in the middle is, yes, acting with social confidence and charm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/16 08:47 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Unreasonable niceness or kindness is a negative for sexual attractivenessThis type of kindness or niceness is beneficial to attraction because it conveys you have a superior and well-honed ability others do not, which they look up to you for. I don't agree with the way you've worded this or the way you see it. It's like "only be nice if someone will be grateful because they can't do the thing you're doing for them." Maybe you should think of "noblesse oblige," in a way. This is someone being nice when they don't have to. You're a customer in that bookstore's line and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/16 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Guys Worried About Their Girlfriend's Sexual History are CreepyBut if the women are choosing high N men, they're also choosing someone based on personal preferences which might be entirely unrelated to N. They're selecting for some other quality the person has. (Probably? Though...I'm not sure if the selection here isn't based on the guy's desirability to others/arm candy/trophy spouse, not unlike the way some men choose.) After all, an attractive/hot partner could signify something based on the fact that they chose YOU to settle down with despite their pas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/16 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Guys Worried About Their Girlfriend's Sexual History are CreepyI can understand why, too. I just think it's hypocritical, like wanting to marry an industrious person when you're lazy. You're not being hypocritical personally. It baffles me how men who have children by several different women (and often have difficulty supporting them) are seen as a good prospect by the next woman. I'm honestly stumped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/16 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Guys Worried About Their Girlfriend's Sexual History are CreepyI think there's a difference in the way people approach sex. Some people are prone to prefer LTRs because they just do, some people prefer more novelty in their partner choices. I'm not saying that either group is wrong, but they are likely incompatible long term. But, things change. We've all known people in LTRs who are happily coupled forever, but sometimes that couple who got together at 19 break it off because one of them hits the gym and becomes a swan and thinks they missed out by being w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/16 10:40 PM |
| 6 | Guys Worried About Their Girlfriend's Sexual History are CreepyI can agree with this reply, because you are relating your partner preference to your own experiences and activity. You like long term relationships and you're not imposing a double standard, like it's okay for men to have lots of partners, but not women. I think you're laying this out as a compatibility thing with a preference for LTRs versus someone who has a higher desire for novelty. Which is... a compatibility thing, not particularly a judgment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/16 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Askmen poster makes a fantastic post about why men aren't into fictional romances like women are.Third, if she did it in the past, and it wasn't discussed up front, but at some point the husband decides he wants to try, doesn't it seem a little selfish to simply reply "I tried that once with Chad and I didn't like it, so you're out of luck." That's a bit of a complicated thing, though. There can be many reasons why someone no longer wants to do something that they once did: the ex wasn't careful or gentle, she did it because she thought she "had to"/pressure and has since matured/learned to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/16 03:08 AM |
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