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Getting Startedgammaglobe/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 07:28 PM
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Women regret anything and everything. They are weather. Being a centered man means you do you thing and she is either on your program or not.
/r/seduction14/08/26 04:59 PM
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Rejoice. She is getting what she NEEDS. Women have a lot of chaos inside. When men are young and less experienced we try to fix it for them, guide, rationalize - by limiting their impulses. Women then associate negativity with their SO. Then they divorce and think life will be roses without that suffocating asahole of a husband. Suffering is a catalyst for growth. Let her experience the repercussions so she can choose to grow.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/26 03:14 PM
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Bravo.
/r/seduction14/08/26 02:35 PM
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This is crazy successful. You must be amazing at game.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 07:02 PM
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First week was entirely on medication - diphenhydramine, lorazepam, indica THC, melatonin. They wokr on surface. But you do what you need to get a bit of rest. Took me half a year to finally be getting good sleep. Whenever you ruminate on the issues cortisol spikes up and you wake up at 2-3am and can't sleep further. Sleep optimization: room temperature, phone hygiene, lighting - dont do much. On the other hand, I went camping, nature, very relaxed state - noise, uncomfortable mattress, light po…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 02:16 PM
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It's existential. Mourning the loss of friend, of person you confided in, of safety , of home you were building many years one screw at a time. This is very traumatic.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/26 02:10 PM
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What's up with feet?
/r/seduction12/08/26 05:45 AM
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Could you share your online openers? Women jaut don't respond well in3my experience.
/r/seduction12/08/26 12:06 AM
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Don't hit on woman if she has a boyfriend. Hold yourself to a good standard.
/r/seduction11/08/26 03:32 AM
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2x likely to have anxiety lancet30263-2/abstract) The Fear-Potentiated Startle Trial: A landmark human study published in Psychoneuroendocrinology tested women given a single dose of testosterone versus a placebo. The women given testosterone showed a significantly reduced fear-potentiated startle response, proving the hormone directly blunts acute physiological anxiety. I bet you gonna come back saying some bullshit because you know better than industry magazines and research centers. Let's see…
/r/ExRedPill10/08/26 11:17 PM
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Dude, you can nitpick all you want. Women have 2x anxiety rate of men. Downvote all you want. All your counterarguments have been controlled for by people who design studies. Testosterone injections drastically reduce anxiety in women.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/26 06:58 PM
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I don't care what you think counts or not. You are not a qualifier for me. Women are at twice the risk for anxiety and depression disorders as men are.... We dissect the role of fluctuating sex hormones as a critical biological factor contributing to the increased depression and anxiety risk in women.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/26 06:13 PM
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Typical stubborn ego driven response. You are not looking for truth. You are nitpicking "Estrogen is not female hormone because men have it too." I am not defending my position in front of scientific committee. For the purpose of days to day conversation testosterone is male and estrogen, progesterone would be considered female. "Oh wow women have testosterone too" . There's lots of studies showing how testosterone levels affect anxiety, how administration of test reduces anxiety in women, how h…
/r/ExRedPill10/08/26 01:50 PM
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Relashinship is boring. And woman has a need to care (for somebody). She has love inside and you will be a focal point of application. "Service to others" is her mode. Fun women are all about themselves. Service to self.
/r/seduction10/08/26 03:15 AM
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Are you banned from Google? Or simply like arguing? If no type "females vs male anxiety and hormone influence" Never did I encounter reply acknowledging the facts being pointed. And I don't have hopes in you case. Nonetheless, 1, 2
/r/ExRedPill10/08/26 02:58 AM
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Thanks for clarifying. You based you opinion on personal anecdote? Fyi: women are diagnosed with anxiety twice as often statistically and female hormones are directly implicated in amygdala function.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/26 01:57 AM
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I am not sure what you wanted to say by this statement.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/26 09:39 PM
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The main threat is social media and news. They stimulate amigdala. We live in civilization for very short time. Just under 100 years ago rape, violence, robbery were daily events. Our brains haven't updated yet. Men and women are exposed to same stimuli, but our sensitivity to them is different. Women's anxiety levels are much higher because their amigdalas are more sensitized.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/26 04:21 PM
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Piggybacking on what to say next topic: OP start taking to anyone - fat women, shirt women, men of all sorts ( gym, sidewalk, shop workers), grandpas/ms walking in the neighborhood. How's you day? Love your hairstyle. Amazing shirt. this site well on you. I bet this is one of the nicest weather we gonna get this year. Looking happy today, don't you? This expands your neural centers responsible for connecting.
/r/seduction08/08/26 06:07 PM
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36 is a great age. It think it's one of the driving forces men try to hang on to their no so perfect wife - fear of not finding a partner. Closest woman destroys one's self-esteem with this little remarks. "you aren't good enough" - start sitting in your subconscious. You are fine. And there will be many who will like you for who you are and what you bring to their life.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/26 03:20 PM
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It's feminine biological wiring. Faulty pair bonding. Conqueror comes to village, kills her man, takes her with him. Within a couple of weeks she cries and then happily cooks for the new guy and gives him offspring. Easy. With you it was a mask. With the next person it will be a mask. Until she becames invisible after looks fade.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/26 07:10 PM
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Student
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 02:53 PM
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Yes. I was doing night shifts and she ventured into the trade behind my back.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 06:33 AM
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Not my experience. Dating apps pool sucks. Been looking for a year and they are same women circulating. Tattoos and nose rings 🤮 "Application to be my boyfriend is now open" - shallow af.
/r/seduction05/08/26 05:10 AM
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Foreign trained dentist. Then escort. Then nurse.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/26 05:04 AM
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Thank you for your opinion. I disagree. "He asked her to be his guide in her city and that killed the attention". Come on. Why do men keep rationalizing silly dynamics. There's no lesson here. Shot your shot and move on. Her loss.
/r/seduction03/08/26 11:49 PM
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Stock market analysts always have an explanation post factum. But I agree - she expects entertainment, and not investing anything. Onto the next.
/r/seduction03/08/26 10:54 PM
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Just acknowledge that woman sucked. Spark of interest needs to be inside of her. Man isn't a clown to entertain her. She supposed to display basic steps towards op. If not - leave her and move on. They are spoilt with fake online attention. Their problem.
/r/seduction03/08/26 10:52 PM
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I didn't read yet but my first idea is sign pre-nup heavily in your favor then agree to child. The outcome has to be beneficial for you either way.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 06:41 PM
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Stay away from apps then. Real life only.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 06:38 PM
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I have an emotional day today. 1 year post separation. I feel your pain my man. Mine discarded me with a bunch of made up deeply personal remarks. 23 years together. And I discovered that she did escort for almost a year behind my back in the first year together and got pregnant from another affair with a different person, all while love bombing me - and for years I thought that's "our" love child until DNA. Women truly are chaos and test for masculine strength. They push us to the limit.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 04:50 AM
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You are not alone. Thank you for sharing this.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 03:50 AM
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Women operate from limbic system. It developed long time ago. Neocortex much later. Limbic system views aggressive mates as alpha. This worked when we lived in tribes. Contemporary world prioritizes cooperation, rules, synergistic interaction. This primal alphas are aggressive, have poor control, anger management. Primal women didn't get the memo. Beauty and the beast - they want alpha and believe they'll be the one who tame him. Those stories are very popular.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/26 10:22 PM
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Turn of emotions. Don't engage in heated debates. Don't explain or appeal to her rational side. Create space between both, as much as possible. You can turn it around, the question is whether you should. "I let trivial matters get between us" This is toxic belief instilled upon you that you are responsible for how woman feels. You are not. It will take a lot of self reflection for you to actually understand that. You are not responsible for how she feels!!! She is.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/26 05:25 PM
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Congratulations for your growth. This response should be an integral part of your previous. The first part sounds noble but many won't understand it and approach from a position "I need to do better". It doesn't address the core issue tho. Your spouse doesn't have desire or motivation to grow. Never did. She is an empty person that seeks regulation from an outter source: can you make me lough, can I have fun life with you, do you fulfill my needs etc. Doing what you recommended first can make OP…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/26 05:19 PM
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Agree with many here. The marriage is over. Don't persuade anything to a woman ever again. It doesn't work. Toxic neurochemical cocktail of butterflies in the belly is over. She didn't choose to grow and transition from infatuation to love. Love is a choice to care and be with someone. It comes not because the partner is great, but because the source of love is inside and one wants to share it with the world. Many people, and ex'es of this sub, don't have this source inside. They simply look for…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/26 05:01 PM
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I understood you. But liked to expand your use of term long onto life and purpose in general. Feminine lives in the moment according to fleeting emotions. Masculine tends to focus on changing the world by methodically applying effort.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/26 06:19 AM
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Men are wired to be "long" finances, commitment, pursuit of an idea. In stockmarket terms if you believe company would do well, you invest in it by buying their shares and this is called "being long". I am long GOOG. I invested and hold shares for long time because I believe in it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/26 05:19 PM
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I am hoping more men will adopt this view.
/r/seduction01/08/26 05:11 PM
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The ones I dated wanted what I was offering so bad, and were greedy about my time. The thing is - I am not investing much. At least at this stage. So I get what you are saying.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 04:59 AM
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For the love of God leave this whore. Attractive she is for a few more years. She is a depreciating asset. She could've built lasting respectful relashinships with you and grew old together. She chose different. Don't diminish yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 03:48 AM
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True to cortisol shock. Hardly any libido when you feel your life has been stolen and you are kicked by the person who you thought was your closest.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 03:46 AM
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Photofeeler dot com can rate your pics for money or tokens. Including attractiveness.
/r/seduction30/07/26 07:35 PM
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How you solved it?
/r/seduction28/07/26 05:11 AM
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You are not alone. World is full of amazing KIND people. Your wife was not one of them. The mortality rate is 100% on this planet. But you still have time ahead of you. It sucks now but give yourself time. Baby steps forward. And you will be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 04:53 AM
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Your wife isn't compassionate mother lol. SHE is narcissistic. Also avoidant. Any discipline, any pressure on children might upset them so by not disciplining them she avoids "rejection". The closest person is usually the only one experiencing them as they truly are. Others see curated image - that's how they avoid rejection. This is psychological condition. Improper care and connection with caregiver before 2-3 yo. They crave and seek connection and then break it trying to recreate what happene…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 07:28 PM
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I hate how accurate this advice is.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 05:53 PM
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You sent them your pic = trying to qualify yourself for them. Right?
/r/seduction27/07/26 05:22 PM
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Yes. Takes time away to reach clarity.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:13 PM
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Similar story. I was convinced I had a happy marriage until it ended and I had no contact for prolonged period. I realized how much I clipped myself to provide and accommodate. The gaslighting works so deep - for long time I thought I was the issue. No. Cheater is the problem. I don't think "they look forward to be free". These women have underdeveloped pair bonding centers. Evolutionary way to keep gene pool rotation.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:12 PM
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I find it hard to be general paradigm. I am 6.4 and successful, smart, athletic. I never experienced 8-9s hitting on me. In fact 8s are rare, they would have some many hitting on them - they will never offer themselves to a man. Their ego and fear of rejection are very big. Anyways that's my experience.
/r/seduction26/07/26 07:06 PM
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Its a skill that can be cultivated
/r/seduction26/07/26 01:47 AM
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I am a year post separation. The clarity takes this much time to set in. So hard to see toxicity when you immersed in it. OP accept that you can't even perceive reality clearly rn. Listen to all the comments here. She is not your person. Nothing to work out. Time to protect yourself from the poison.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 06:21 PM
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Don't overthink for a woman. She can be comfortable, she can be love bombing narcissist looking for a new supply, or she can be your forever person. Don't rush. Step by step. Make her earn your trust, but also be genuine like a proper man should be. Consistency in the key.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 02:34 AM
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Seduction is about improving yourself as a man. Going after older woman, who has a husband - that's what morons do.
/r/seduction22/07/26 12:06 AM
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Truth. I've come to learn thru my journey that these type of people don't have empathy center property developed (insula). Maybe for evolutionary purposes or by sheer mutation. They cannot comprehend that they are doing anything wrong, hurting someone, just like blind people don't know that they are missing out on flower colors. Other people are just a resource to them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 07:17 PM
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How did you improve your game? First steps if you don't mind.
/r/seduction19/07/26 04:52 PM
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Moderator removed my texts :)
/r/seduction19/07/26 04:42 PM
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I am upvoting you as thank you for chiming in and trying to deliver your point. But you are wrong without knowing that. Real life proves this again and again. Women are controlled by their emotions and whatever they says they want - they say from their intellect, but what they truly want is in limbic system - deeper, evolutionary older, more primal part. Those feelings will override rational thoughts sooner or later. A reality that OP is sad about.
/r/seduction19/07/26 04:29 PM
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You are saying all the obvious stuff. But OP is asking why is it repulsive to women?, why does she have to have more interest?, why man needs to be a challenge? The answer is not pretty - they are primal, little control over their fleeting emotions.
/r/seduction19/07/26 04:16 PM
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That's right. Don't let others tell you It's needy to actually want to be seen as a person.
/r/seduction19/07/26 04:07 PM
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The only red flag is marrying 3x. Otherwise pretty reasonable write up imo.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 03:49 PM
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Now that you framed it like that - I agree. Thank you Sir.
/r/seduction18/07/26 06:08 AM
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Guy matching with a woman that wants "short term fun" and implying that there is a possibility of sex. Nothing criminal here.
/r/seduction17/07/26 11:05 PM
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You get to fondle giant cans. Good in my books.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 10:52 PM
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Nah. If you wanna experience true culinary joy - don't pick Michelin restaurant. Chose to water fast for 3-5 days and then cook the most basic healthy meal. It WILL blow your mind. The critters get spoilt, and this will not end well for their nervous system. Neurochemistry 101.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:34 PM
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Oh I hear you loud and clear. Very much my thoughts and experience. Add that I found out my first child isn't my genes. Tall, athletic, caring, $$$. Bought her new house for cash, took the whole family to Italy, bought strawberries and drinks to sit in Rome's Piazza del popolo and watch sunset. To only see her sullen face and hear "I don't want strawberries". And you know what - great. Take this as a lesson. Now spend all this effort towards you. Dismantle all the beliefs that you need to be app…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:22 PM
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Corey Wayne book: 3% man
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 01:23 PM
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Listen, the purpose of life isn't to get laid or happiness. You are a spiritual being having earthly experience. You are in the game. You need to figure it out and then enjoy this game. Wherever "hardships" you are having are designed to waken you and make you go after what you want in this game. That woman is giving you a favor. She is teaching you a lesson. Fall 7 times, get up 8. Figure it out and you'll be thankful for the lesson. You will only get the results after you done your work.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 01:21 PM
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Brother, it sucks. Please accept that you aren't thinking straight rn. Your nervous system is disregulated. Going thru hard withdrawal. You always have a chance to get her back the question is whether you'll want to. To start with minimize contact, give her space and let situation breathe. Be polite, it not clingy or needy. Think that she is an independent person and you no longer have claim to her. Do not initiate any contact. Try to rebuild your persona. Google Corey Wayne steps to return your…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 03:46 AM
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Testosterone Replacement therapy. T - R - T
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 08:12 PM
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Can you describe your first date? I want to have sex after first meet up too. Looking for instructions.
/r/seduction16/07/26 08:09 PM
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Alcohol is terrible for everything.
/r/seduction16/07/26 03:58 PM
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Not a good woman or wife material. Divorce, get on your feet mentally and financially and protect yourself in future interactions with women.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 03:56 PM
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https://youtu.be/KVXnVe8eOkM?si=0BF6TziUEKpmJoOC To go into ketosis (ability to source energy from fat) you need to stop eating carbs for at least some time. They suggest 30 days sardines diet - nothing but a few cans per day. After that still eat fat rich diet with minimal carbs. That's the way to get more energy, less abdominal fat, better metabolic health.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 01:31 PM
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All correct in you current iteration. Now get up, stop eating sugar and indulging yourself in shit foods. Start lifting, cardio. Get on sardines diet for 30 days. Peptides. Upgrade your skills. Read books, listen podcasts. You dont need to compete in dating. Start loving yourself and not depend on another person loving you. You are misaligned and universe is sending you a lesson. And it's something that you CAN handle. Do it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 04:41 AM
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Dopamine is the drive. Mice with blocked dopamine receptors starve, it won't move 5 inches to bite cheese they see in front of them. Such is the power of neurochemicals. Exercise, routine, healthy sleep, diet, no drinking - are all parts of restoring this disrupted dopamine system. In other words, do your work and when you do it you'll see the point. So this requires your masculine willpower to just keep going (without seeing the point) for some time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 03:24 AM
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Op listen to this. I know about this cognitive dissonance. .y ex literally was shaking when I'd do the most caring hugs. Take distance.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 08:23 PM
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Love yourself. Start listening to advice - block her on all social media, don't even use social media. No need to compare yourself to anyone.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 05:04 AM
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I wouldn't believe what she said. This types say what you need to hear. No moral compass of their own.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 11:41 AM
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DM me too please
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 05:01 AM
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Radical acceptance. Look it up. And put yourself first.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 05:00 AM
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Idk man. I am in the same boat unfortunately and as much as I wish everyone to know the truth I don't want "my" child to suffer. I carted for them 21 years. This can shutter their worldview. Cheating and narcissists are like cancer - they keeps spreading the damage in chain reaction. I intend to keep it private.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 09:51 PM
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Another man is between her legs now. So she is rejecting you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 12:28 PM
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Now I am at work and all emotional...
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 06:12 PM
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I wish I was dating someone gorgeous, generous and loving with amazing sex. I haven't met this unicorn yet. But when I do I sure not be missing my previous relationships. Lucky and unappreciative.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 10:40 PM
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My friend goes to Germany for software course. Hanged out with the owner of the software company. Dude is on his 40s. He partied. Then he chose surrogate mother, paid her to birth him a boy. She is dismissed. Boy is now 9ish. Dude runs business, brings up boy as his successor and support for later years. Meanwhile occasionally he runs wild parties with hookups as he has sexroom on his basement with screens, multiple cameras, pole and fancy lighting. Jait to satisfy his demons as he put it. I did…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 05:22 AM
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You'll be fine. Abstain from cheap dopamine - porn, drugs, alcohol, food etc. Sleep, healthy habits, gym - once dopamine balance resets you'll feel so much better. Life goes on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 01:51 AM
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You are right - I don't know what caused the divorce. I based my opinion on the fact that she divorced him, then 8 months later wanted to stay in touch and they are chatting about random things. This is hovering. And I can be wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 01:22 AM
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Wow. Bravo for your wisdom expressed directly yet with respect. You have done your heavy lifting - it's apparent.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 04:18 PM
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Women are solipsistic. She is the center of her universe. She is narcissistic. She didn't reach to you "neat-performer". She reached to soothe herself from guilt - because subconsciously she knows what she did. Also to check on her narcissistic supply of validation "is he still mine". When she secures another supply - will forget about you. No contact is not to manipulate her back. Is for you to heal from brain fog she and you kept yourself in. She offered breadcrumbs and you went soft again. Sh…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 04:13 PM
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Exactly. Narcs attach blame outside. When imagined issue is gone, and a new source of excitement is secured - they are glowing. Then the new source will be depleted, abused, diminished. The cycle repeats.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 10:51 PM
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Edited the link. Thank you for pointing! https://youtu.be/2ZKLaUbB33o?si=ZXeMHZkbN_8Jj4ub
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 08:16 PM
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Preach brother. 47y. 1 year post separation. And I still have some resentment for hypergamy and how hormones play trick on the other sex. I hope to encourage this sub with my success stories one day. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 11:13 PM
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When did you do vasectomy? I am considering but side effects are to be considered.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 09:45 PM
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Hey brother hang in there. It's very tough. I have been married for 23 y, like you. She told me how we have a special spiritual connection, how she imagined us walking the beach holding hands when we are old. Until there was AP and distance occurred. You will rebuild. Just be. Don't rush. Try not to dwell on thoughts of unfairness and create pleasurable pain loop. Give yourself time. It heals. And try to practice gratitude. Be strong. Dominate your mind God meets you in silence Master emotional …
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 12:49 PM
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Write separation agreement. I did using ChatGPT and some templates. Make 4 copies. Make sure she finds a lawyer ( I found one for my ex and paid for them while she was amicable). She needs to sign agreement in presence of the lawyer for ILA (independent legal advice) - which makes it enforcible.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 02:36 AM
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You are not over this. Divorce means you sever ties with this person. She will change very quickly once you are out. You don't need to be transparent, neither she owes you transparency if you agree to separate. Move on, or work on this together. Either or.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 01:51 AM
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We fly to the moon. It has been figured out. Just unconventional to talk about it. Women are primal, their cortex isn't developed the same way as male (hormones and different childhood experiences). Their primary driving force resides in lymbic system - feelings. Exaggerated need for security, but also novelty. That's how nature rotated genes.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 07:21 PM
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To answer your question: main reason is accumulated resentment. Broader reason: man needs to lead, and have goals outside of marriage. As soon as woman steps off your program - you need the speak up, discuss your boundaries. Don't suppress out of fear of conflict. As soon as your care more for your woman than she cares for you - she sees you as weak, then your boundaries start to irritate her. So your will always have to maintain this polarity. Men are too thirsty for women, so they are bombarde…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 07:14 PM
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Then take this experience as hard rest. Get on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 01:10 AM
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And that's fine. You will rebuild yourself with time. You were a boy that needed validation from outside (her). Now creator took it all away. Rebuild yourself from ashes. That's your task.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 01:04 AM
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Dark period. Get thru this. Like Spartans, like concentration camp prisoners - pull thru. It's hard, but there will be good times in the future.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 11:59 PM
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I am a dentist. Now and then someone in their 60s come. They have trusting relashinships with me for long time. Despite regularly having positive experience here they admit that just coming into the office often sends shivers down their spines. All because of the few bad childhood memories. Negative conditioning unfortunately doesn't have expiration.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 01:21 PM
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Agree with all replies. Many hear been thru this stuff. This type of women have no rational control of their emotional. It's a 🤡 in the driver seat. Whatever comes they go there. She is messed up and you have no control over that. Pay no attention to her words. Adopt strict no contact rule. Get on with treating your withdrawal symptoms.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 03:26 AM
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God I want that so much. But inflicted trauma is so deep almost no desire to move. I personally need time to just let it all out of the system. I tried with a few women and couldn't even cum without thinking of ex. Unfair to all involved. But every day the thoughts of what could have been are more and more distant. Hoping for time to heal.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 09:28 PM
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Guilt probably. Use it to your advantage.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:19 AM
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Agree with all replies here. Also books: Rebuild, The way superior man, no more Mr nice guy.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 04:03 PM
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From young boy age you learnt to judge your value thru other people. "Was I ever enough?". You are enough. The only judge is you. Your ex has poor control of her emotions. Doesn't mean her opinion of you is your verdict.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 04:00 PM
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Following
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 03:05 AM
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Just give up the dog. Surrender to the process. Lots of dogs need your care. Don't get attached to anything.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 12:24 AM
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Op don't listen. Approaching is normal and is ok. Test for interest and progress from there.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 05:12 AM
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I had secret hopes that we aren't animals, that those instincts are countered by the intellect.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:44 PM
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Agree. Total bs. OP you are drowning in a cocktail of neurochemicals rn. Give yourself time. Don't rush with anything. With time you will see how toxic her phrases were to your self esteem.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 04:08 AM
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Sounds long. I hope to get past this (mis)fortune quickly and only come to this sub to reassure new divorcees.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 04:30 AM
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Mind listing the items?
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/26 10:10 PM
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Fall 7 times, get up 8. Gym (or whatever you can do). Aggressively kill all negative thoughts. Dopamine detox. Study. Find way to make $. Cultivate contentment.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 03:58 PM
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I agree with the message but you should look into paragraphs and punctuation.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 03:33 PM
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Sexual compatibility is a wrong term here. Women that can't pair bond rely on novelty to feel alive. This means either you come up with new stuff all the time. Not GREAT, but new. Kinks, BDSM, cuckold, swinging etc. Or she is cheating (not necessarily with a better compatible partner, rather new). This is because they lack internal source of dopamine. They rely heavily on their partners to provide excitement. As soon as relashinships enter stable (oxytocin) phase - they feel unhappy. And that's …
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 03:24 PM
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Boy does this hit true and hard. I don't know if this is the algorithms working but I am seeing a lot of such stories. Would be interesting to know the statistics on general population.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 05:32 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 02:17 AM
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Listen to this guy ☝️ And before you discard your self consider starting TRT, peptides, supplements, gym. Yes it's not for everyone, but better than wishing death.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 11:34 PM
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So blind to assume that. Women said what OPs wife said to actors, politicians, rich and great looking guys too.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 09:47 PM
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I got food poisoning on last vacation - I thought of ex when puking. Worked for a while. The thoughts still creep back in tbh. Still need time. And definitely not masturbating to thoughts of her...
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 11:14 PM
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Ooff this is the script. Spacetime doesn't exist anyways, only feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 03:07 AM
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Op don't start blaming yourself. This is all facade. Female way - venting - is not the only way to correct problems. Male way - actually fixing - is also the way, unlike pop psychology makes us believe. It's social media, friends and hedonistic culture that are working against family institute right now.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 01:20 AM
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Didn't know about 180. Thanks Learn to step back. Keep your mouth shut and walk away when you feel the urge to react, no matter the provocation. No one ever gets into trouble by choosing silence. Take care of yourself. Exercise, sleep well, laugh, and invest in the parts of your life that are not in turmoil. Be strong. Be confident. Learn to speak softly. Understand that if you can make a true 180, your smallest consistent actions will be noticed far more than anything you say or write. Do not a…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 03:48 PM
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I gotta check it out. My interest piqued.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 04:05 AM
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I too was a nice guy. Separated for 9 months now. Only now, at 47, I start to understand that if woman is unhappy I don't need to do anything - no saving, no consolation, no helping hand - unless directly asked. Some love their sorrow and drama.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 09:40 PM
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Wholeheartedly agree. A very hard lesson to learn, especially later in life.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 09:33 PM
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Get courses on how to use dating apps. Read books. Hell, start cold approaching women in real life. Even if you aren't charismatic. Say: hey, I think you are cute, I wanna take you out. Are you free this ...? Surely 1 out of 10 will at least give you a chance.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 07:21 PM
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The saying goes: most men will sleep with most women, while most women will not sleep with most men. You must be a typical man (nothing wrong). But I, for one, cannot find most women attractive. Too smart, too wise to see right behind their masks. And I know it's not a bonus, rather a disadvantage.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 05:01 PM
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Yeah sleeping with somebody - 99% certainly. That's said marriage is still solvable with some psychological tricks, but whether OP wants or not is the question.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/26 03:39 PM
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Can you elaborate on wow?
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 06:12 PM
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I am 47 - healthy as ever. Gym, got yoga, best diet, low LDL. Amazing. Women around - not so much.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 09:17 PM
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Ugly 35-40 yes. Good looking and well taken care off are rarity. You must be living in alternative reality. Tattoos and nose piercing 90%
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 10:00 PM
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47m, 23 year together. Same shit. "True" woman will not leave you but make everything for you to leave her. The devaluing, neg hits, control thru sex. It deprives partner of the most fundamental sense of security.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 02:56 AM
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I am with you about sex with strangers. I can't even enjoy smell, textures.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 12:53 AM
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Did that several time. Mostly to feel alive. My libido is badly affected by separation trauma, so it was for exploration. One time I went PIV and withdrew after a few seconds - felt mechanical and repulsive. Othe few times I just asked for handjob and it was ok-ish, but not mentally exiting. Brain is still wired to ex. Hard work ahead.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 05:52 PM
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My thoughts too. All the memories are false now, every picture and smile - erase that and I've erased half of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 03:30 PM
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Don't let anyone out anything in your marriage Can you clarify what this means?
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 03:14 PM
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And I am talking specifically about his statement. You've taken the second part of my message and turned into "inherently WILL lead", while I implied that it CAN lead. You just camouflaged main theme of this post "women above men" as Female led relashinships, which is more socially acceptable. This doen't change the absurdity of OPs claim. The burden of proof belongs to criminal investigation and scientific claims. I don't need peer reviewed study that water is wet. So... no, man.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 02:29 PM
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"nothing wrong with it" is a classic rhetorical "frame trap." You trapping me into a position where i have to prove it is wrong. No thanks. Statement "women are above men" inherently leads to a hierarchy that most men (and arguably most women) find fundamentally unappealing.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/26 10:44 AM
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This is dumb conclusion "women are naturally better leaders and more competent. .. this is the natural order. That women are above men." Next she will find a dominant boyfriend, then he offers to deny you sex. Your spouse then creates a post on Reddit how you are all happy with your cuckoldry. And one time you have PIV intercourse you are forced to call her boyfriend and apologize. this can be you 👋
/r/ExRedPill07/05/26 03:55 PM
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It all stems from your insecurities. Be a person of substance, learn about yourself: what your interests, passions are etc. Don't guestimate how other people perceive you, they do it differently anyway. Hence if you rock for a reason ( for instance being a great outdoors man, playing poker well, knowing your trade well) other will gravitate towards you because of that energy. We all (and women too) have different lenses thru which we see the world. There is someone out there for whom you will re…
/r/seduction27/12/18 04:29 PM
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Lol. For a moment there I thought you meant "men piss all over the seat", but no. You have witnessed some horrible stuff :)
/r/MensRights14/12/18 10:13 PM
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F*ing cunt.
/r/MensRights03/11/18 06:04 AM
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High profile people may be forced (by circumstances) to offer apologies and admit wrongdoings. There easily can be behind the scenes deals whereby a company wants to save public image and is only prepared to pay salary/severance etc if the person apologized. It's always political. We will only know the truth decades later when accused write their memoirs.
/r/MensRights28/10/18 02:42 PM
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