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100 percent. When I think of the people/couples I know who spill their truth, almost all of them no longer want to be married. They just are still for various reasons (as am I).
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:08 PM
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This is the reality. Of the people I really, truly know I can’t think of a single one that has a fairy tale marriage and most wish they could escape it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 11:07 PM
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I think we (men) probably have a bit of a blind spot when it comes to what’s actually going on in their heads. It’s always surprised me to hear women talk glowingly about relationships that I know are not going well. I know my SO probably thinks our relationship is far more solid than it actually is. So I definitely fear being the one to suggest ending it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 06:13 AM
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This has been my instinct. I have never, ever threatened it. It seems like such a cheap and unfair tactic. If I’m gonna threaten it I better be ready to move out.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 07:47 AM
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Depends on your state. People like to really over exaggerate the need to not move out. I’ve heard from several lawyers while it may not be ideal it’s also pretty much fine if you’re still involved, paying house bills etc. … get some legal advice for your area.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 07:47 AM
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I’m sure time will move slower because you’ll have more of it. Although when I was single I felt like time was flying by because I filled my days with things I enjoyed. That said I definitely felt like a had a lot more time to do things. Married, time also flies but in a different way.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 08:05 AM
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Happy for OP but yes, This!! I know divorce is hard for everyone but hot damn it’s gotta be so much easier without kids.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 02:51 AM
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Fair enough, that makes sense. When do personal pre-marital accounts even have to be revealed? Mitigation? Or does it have to go to court before you’re really forced?
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 01:45 PM
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Okay right. I’d think in his scenario he’s paying hefty child support and possibly alimony even without the inheritance. But it sounds like in the case of two people both having high paying jobs of equal pay it’s unlikely the inheritance comes into play.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 01:43 PM
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Random question for you about financial disclosures. I assume you have to reveal everything in your name. What if someone moved funds into someone else’s name, say a sibling, until a divorce was over. Would that work or would that backfire somehow?
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 01:13 PM
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You started the account before marriage but if you contributed to it after marriage then all those contributions are marital assets anyway. Seems odd that changing allocations would impact the money that went in before, but you’d have to have financial forensics done on the account regardless.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 01:04 PM
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Interesting stuff. Why would an inheritance impact child support? Let’s say for example two people have jobs and make the same income. Are you saying if one person inherits a bunch of money someone could claim child support off that? Is that due to the supposed interest income off the inheritance?
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 01:00 PM
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You hear that because it’s Reddit and it’s a divorce sub on Reddit so 9/10 are going to say that. As much as you say you hate it, you’ve managed to stay 10 years so it’s maybe not as bad as it is in your head. If your son is 10, heck in four years you’ve gotten him to high school and maybe you feel better about leaving at that point. If your son is much younger than that, then maybe it’s a different decision.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 06:37 AM
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Yeah isn’t this just one year more than the short term marriage of 10 years? Does that one single year really screw you that much?
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 02:57 PM
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Sorry man, all I can think is imagine how happy you will be once you’re on the other side. It’s rough now but will get so much better. Random question, how much do they dig into the details in mediation, or does it stay fairly high level? For example, I have a small side business and I’m worried they’ll want to challenge business expenses, like “Oh you didn’t need to spend this much on marketing so your income is actually higher than you say”. Or does it not go that deep?
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 02:56 PM
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What state is this? I make about 60k more, but we both do well so I’m within that 75%, do you think I’d have to pay any child support?
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 02:51 PM
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This is the truth. If I just think about my close circle of friends, I would say I know of maybe 2-3 truly happy couples (and, who knows if they are faking it!). The more you talk to people the more you realize how unhappy they truly are. So I would honestly not be shocked to find only 20 percent of marriages actually “work”. Or less.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 10:29 PM
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This is seriously one of the biggest blockers for me. It’s like hmm is my marriage that bad or can I just treat it like I live with a roommate in a great house? I get why everyone ends up renting but damn, what a waste of hard earned cash, which I gotta believe is even more essential to squirrel away once divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 07:54 AM
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Anyone who is unhappy would be plotting.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 03:07 PM
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Ah thanks for clarifying that makes sense.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 05:18 PM
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I don’t see how that matters to the point being made. Once it’s final and really happening the dynamic is totally different for certain people. For some people it’s a bomb no matter how many talks or hints or therapy sessions or whatever.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 05:13 AM
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I think we’re missing the headline… how does one actually cheat with the nanny? I thought that was only in movies and for movie stars!
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 05:11 AM
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I get the financial aspect. I’m sure that’s what keeps a lot of people stuck in their home, but if finances weren’t an issue, there’s no way in heck I would stick around. There’s absolutely no benefit to it except to just be miserable for several more months and like I said, I think it would actually be worse for the kids to have two parents who have made the decision and the tension that comes with that.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 11:03 PM
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I guess that depends on the state. In a lot of places you can leave the house as long as you’re making an effort to also have a parenting plan. You don’t end up as an ATM you end up as a co parent with 50 percent custody.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 06:35 AM
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Wow how do you guys do this? I would not be able to be in the same house as my SO if I dropped the bomb that I wanted to end it. It would be so awkward and we’d be awful to each other. How is that better for the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 05:37 AM
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How was discernment therapy? I’m surprised it was 5 sessions I’ve heard it’s supposed to be shorter. I’m highly interested because I don’t want to waste time on traditional marriage counseling but I have a million questions about the discernment process.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 08:17 AM
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I don’t know if this helps, but one of the things that surprised me most when I became a parent is how nobody has it mastered. If you think about any other facet of life, there’s some human out there who has totally mastered it. But not parenting. It’s a wild, wild ride.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 07:23 AM
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My heart breaks when I see someone marry and have kids at like 25 these days. I’m like oh gosh no what are you doing!?!? The only thing that keeps me sane is that I had my 20s and 30s to myself.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/24 08:50 AM
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Very similar boat for me. I echo what people are saying about talking to a professional. That could really help. Leaving kiddos is rough. So far I haven’t been able to leave because the thought of having my kiddo live out of a suitcase is torture. But I also decided to just start doing some of the things I enjoy whether she cares or not.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 06:27 AM
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You are an amazing dad. Needs to be said. Too many people in this sub jump to the whole “kids are resilient” … sure they are, but unless the parents are fighting every day no kid wants a parent walking out the door.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 06:22 AM
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I think it really varies by state. Where I am, you can move out and if you make an effort to remain in your children’s lives it’s not abandonment. I think every lawyer is largely going to recommend staying put, but I’ve had several tell me I could move out without much issue as long as I’m not actively abandoning the situation.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 02:46 AM
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So is she also in a low rent apartment? I’m just curious how this works and would presume you’re both in the same boat?
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 09:40 PM
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You make 100k doing an hour of work?That is a job you shouldn’t leave until they force you to. Use the extra time to start a side hustle if you want or need to.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 03:33 AM
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Did she get the house? Or did you both have to find apartments?
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 03:24 AM
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Solidarity. I get told all the time “she does everything” which is such a crock. I’ve offered to do certain things and she says no because I’ll screw it up. Okay fine if you’re never going to let me try that’s on you. Nonetheless I’m still the only one who picks crap up off the floor and counter. Her jackets and shoes are usually lying all over the house like a 12 year old. Her office is a pit while mine is spotless. I almost always do the dishes. I spend hours playing with the kiddo while she g…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 02:23 PM
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Isn’t that last one a really friggin big one though? That’s what keeps me stuck, that and the fact my lifestyle is gonna go way down because single people where I live can’t afford housing. Actually I care less about me being in a nice home than I do struggle with the idea of forcing my kid into two crappier homes than the one she’s currently in. Life’s a bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 06:38 AM
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It’s a low percentage. And think of all the marriages you assume are happy but are not.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 01:43 PM
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Dude, take it from someone who was EXACTLY in your shoes when my kid was that age…. I swallowed my pride and said to myself “okay she’s a hard working mom I’ll do what she wants for now…” the problem is, “for now” becomes “forever”. At some point in the next six months I would really encourage you to say, look, I need a couple hours of video games, it’s all I’m asking for and if I can’t get it, I’m going to wind up resenting you down the road. And if she doesn’t give it to you, you ask for marri…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 06:19 AM
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You’re trying and she’s not giving. It seems like she doesn’t really want to be married and if you suggested divorce do you think she’d be relieved?
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 06:02 AM
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Great comment filled with truth.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 05:59 AM
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Everyone’s arguing for divorce and completely dismissing what you’re saying which is 100% accurate. In some markets if you lose the home both parties are going to end up in much shittier homes, or end up with financially crushing mortgages and both parents end up “house poor”. How’s that great for the kids when they could be experiencing Hawaii and Disneyland and now aren’t experiencing jack or are losing their inheritances to the douche your wife remarries. There are endless cases of people who…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 05:51 AM
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I don’t think the OP would care if she leaves at that point, he would probably leave as well since he’s only staying to keep the kids in their home. As for money, he’ll lose a lot to child support if he leaves assuming he is the bread winner and if he’s not then divorce won’t hurt him down the road.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 05:46 AM
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That book doesn’t seem to apply in this scenario. The guy isn’t staying for her; the guy is staying for his kids. He seems to do what he wants, so it’s not an issue of him not having (most) of what he needs. He’s making some sacrifices so his kids can stay in their home.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 05:44 AM
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I’ve always wondered, how does anyone KNOW that income for one person or the other has gone up? If I was divorced I sure as shit wouldn’t be broadcasting that.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 05:35 AM
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Know that you’re not alone. I have a lot of similarities, I have a tolerable life I can continue to live for my kid if I wanted, although it’s honestly me who’s lost the interest in intimacy, largely because of that exact thing you mentioned about not supporting any personal time and yet simultaneously getting pissed that I’m not taking personal time. (WTF?!?) That said, I empathize with how hard it is when you have a kid you love, a marriage that isn’t a nightmare but isn’t great either.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 06:51 AM
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Just curious why was it so bad? Was she a stay at home mom? I’m terrified of this, but I’m lucky right now in that my spouse makes as much if not more. That said, it’s still going to suck to drop quality of life by having to go buy a new expensive home etc etc. if I ever go through with this. I think the depression over my horrid decision to get married is among the hardest parts for me to deal with mentally, especially since my gut was saying no at the time. I haven’t figured out how to mentall…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 06:45 AM
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And I’m really only saying don’t walk away entirely just because you may have a difficult co parent. I’m not suggesting anyone stay in a bad marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 10:23 PM
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Keep in mind here, I’m only saying dealing with a co parent for 50/50 I’m not saying don’t leave a bad marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 10:22 PM
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I’ll just say as someone who’s dad bailed, and probably partly because my mom was kinda difficult, I never had a great relationship with him, never felt connected, and it sucks to this day. Hope that helps just a tiny bit.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 08:08 AM
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Congrats! Curious why child support if it’s 50/50? Was that because you make more or because you kept the house or both? Also, what circumstances allowed you to keep the house?
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 08:25 PM
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