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gearsmurf/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 06:12 AM
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Wow they did take that as serious. Honestly though as much fun as fighting is most guys will avoid it due to obvious possible risks of dying or going to jail. A man can only take so much shit though. It’s naive to assume any man is unwilling or unable to harm you. Every fight has a series of escalation points, it may be over something trivial but it’s never over nothing. In your case fucking his girl is the first escalation point. Going to his house the second. You probably subconsciously looked…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/18 12:43 AM
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I’m 100% with you bro. Let’s go our own way, fuck women I’m never fucking a women again. My only problem is the steroids I take make me really horny. So I might have to start fucking dudes when we get there, is this still cool with mgtow?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 08:51 PM
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Umm you actually posted here. And you’ve defined that as the action of a man cucked beyond belief. If you read this then you are by your definition even more cucked. Fuck yeah technical knockout. Inb4: I know you are, you said you are, so what am I?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 09:27 AM
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You should always pick fights with guys twice your size and turn them into cucks. It shows dominance. I’d recommend 2 to 3 karate lessons just to be safe though. Heeeya
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 09:18 AM
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r/stopdrinking helped me give up the booze a few years ago
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/18 08:13 AM
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I did it straight away it’s part of the MRP process. I read the sex god method but ignored all the stuff about fantasies and role playing which was not for us. I slowly stopped being a pussy and started being completely honest about what I liked most (pretty much the filthy stuff I’ve seen in porn). She’s said no to a lot and the start, fair enough. But with the self improvement stuff and the dread she started agreeing to more and enjoying it. I stopped hiding my dark side and being more dominan…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 08:53 AM
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I can be a bit over cautious at times, part of it is from my career. As I’ve gotten older (35) I’ve learned to be careful and not rush into things as much. I think you need to stop worrying so much about “building resentment” and probably err more on the side of risk taking as opposed to being cautious.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 09:28 PM
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You need whatever the bank requires for a deposit. I did the first one with no money I had $20,000 in credit card debt. My parents went guarantor for the loan. So they put up their equity as security but the loan was in my name and I had to pay it. Not ideal, but it got me started. After that I put in 20 percent of the land and building contracts as deposit which is the banks requirement. Some banks here will take 5 percent deposit but you have to pay $10,000 in mortgage insurance. So $80,000 or…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 04:48 AM
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MRP taught me to own my shit and not blame anyone else. Mainly taking full responsibility for everything financial and not letting my wife pay any bills. She gets a monthly allowance same amount as me and is much happier this way. I work as a redacted. I’m aiming at moving into property development in the long term. So I’ve started out doing the smallest scale development possible first, which is buying a block of land building a house on it then moving in to the house then selling it. First I l…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 09:12 PM
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I have always had a good income but was stupid with money until trp. I’m talking credit cards maxed, car loan and big mortgage. My wife used to pay all the bills and I put my head in the sand and we both wasted money. Now I pay all the bills, do a monthly and annual budget and live within my means. I pay myself and my wife a spending allowance after I have budgeted all expenses and put aside 10 percent for savings. The only debt I now have is a mortgage that I’m paying down. I’m just about to do…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 01:06 AM
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So to be more alpha and get more respect from other men I’ve tried a few things with some success. Better posture and body language eg not having a beer guard up, standing tall, more eye contact, having people crowd around me and faking it till I make it. I’ve improved conversation skills through reading and practicing. I’ve got more male friends in general. I still struggle with being introverted and social anxiety. I have people that respect me it’s more if I’m in a random conversation with a …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/18 09:46 PM
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Sounds like you’ve got it figured out. Having good looks is obviously going to give you a different experience in life compared to many guys on here. You probably won’t need to try and purposely implement much hard dread or do all that catch and release bullshit. I read your posts and sounds like you have a good career also, I nearly chose estimating/quantity surveyor as a career. So you’ve probably got more than enough smv. I’ve had some looks and have the physique now. But I was never a man th…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/18 12:55 AM
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Occasional impotence is deca dick. Ok good for you man what ever works, it’s just quicker results with gear that’s all.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/18 12:41 AM
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Yeah sounds like you did it wrong also. It’s best to take it slower than you think with this mrp stuff IMO. I try and trust my gut/intuition more than shit I read on the internet. I mean this stuff works but it’s how you apply it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 10:24 PM
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That sucks you lost gains, I lost all gains from first cycle. It was diet related, if I keep calories up I can normally keep half of gains. Also no cutting off cycle. Only sides I got were mild hair loss like 2 cm over 3 years and some acne. Oh and deca dick when I took deca. Oh and a few gyno flare ups fixed with tamoxifen tho. Honestly I think running a few cycles with your diet in check will get you at least 50 percent of the results your after. It did for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 10:21 PM
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I read some information on r/steroids and a minority of people report not being able to ever get an erection again after taking finastride. So it’s not worth the risk IMO.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 09:30 PM
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Applying MRP principals too literally and slightly autistically, too much dread, mostly flirting with a single mom we know. I’m a bit introverted so this was weird behaviour for me. She knows I’m not that social so it was obvious what I was up to. This was bad application of dread. It works better when a women comes onto me and I’m polite/friendly back.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 09:28 PM
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178 cm or 5’10”, 95 kg and roughly estimated 15 percent (visible abs when flexed only). I did used steroids but these stats are totally obtainable natty but would be at upper end of my natural limit. I’m not on steroids now. The bodybuilding training style is proven to be best for pure muscle growth and aesthetics though. I have leaned towards powerlifting style at times as it’s fun but when I was honest with myself about my main goal it was just to look good and gain size.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 12:17 AM
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This is why I gravitated towards a more bodybuilding style of training. I know it’s tempting to go the powerlifting route and never cut or diet. It’s also fun to pile the plates on the bar and the ego lift. But lighter weights, volume training, time under tension, isolation and compound exercises and perfect form will get me more muscle growth. I love Eddie Hall but my wife thinks he’s gross.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 05:36 AM
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Thanks for the positive feedback. You’ve hit the nail on the head, I would have gone to dread level 12 if needed I’m not morally against it. It sounds like you are doing pretty well for yourself and are far from a frustrated chump. Good job
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 09:05 PM
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8 years of b and c wow, I can take a guess what your physique looks like. But how do you know women find you attractive, haha. Some dude actually asked me that, but it’s something you only understand when you’ve been big. All women are suddenly friendly, you get unwanted attention from women you don’t want to fuck. Many have a horny look in their eye, they play with their hair, raise their voice pitch and stick their breasts out. My last 2 cycles were 500 test 500 Decca the first 3 were we’re ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/18 09:32 PM
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So according to you I’m settling, am mediocre, have little to show for 3 years of mrp, am still in her frame, scared of loosing her, I am gutless and afraid to use dread. You are also concerned that my wife is unattractive and not good in bed and you would like to know how often I masturbate? Is that correct?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/18 05:22 AM
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It can break your dick seriously. Would rather risk hair than dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/18 05:16 AM
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So you are saying if you run a mild 500 test cycle it will have minimum risk but still may fuck up your natty test. And if you run an AI and a proper pct you should be fine? If so then yeah I agree 100 percent. You have either done a bit of research or cycled yourself? I still wouldn’t recommend it to anyone, as many still will fuck up this basic protocol. I’m already setting a bad example by juicing I can’t promote this shit and have a clear conscience. If you are under 25 it can fuck you up ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/18 05:15 AM
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I’m pretty sure rollo tommasi says you can’t spin plates if you are in a committed relationship. Of course there’s risk these guys are fucking idiots
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 07:59 AM
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Point 2 is a really good one I had not thought of. The others are too, I’d just heard them before.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 09:29 PM
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Ok, just seems like it would be hard to unlearn everything. I mean you could try and put your head in the sand, but your knowledge is always going to be in the back if your mind. It wouldn’t be the same
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 09:24 PM
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It is still a priority. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 09:21 PM
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You are moralizing by taking the moral high ground and saying I deliberately broke a rule. Which is cool. I had forgotten the rules as I hadn’t been here in a while. Your getting hung up on this moralizing thing to much. It wasn’t the message. Who gives a fuck if someone else has some morals they apply in their life and even if they recommend them. Everyone has fucking morals. I’m sure the intent of rule 3 is to stop do gooders hassling guys for spinning plates or whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 09:17 PM
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It was the most loving caring reply I got. With typical well meaning female advice I once partly believed. She advised it’s ok to be scrawny yet used to date an athlete. All you need it’s a nice smile and witt. I don’t think any guys would honestly look into yoga for muscle growth. Fuck me
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 09:07 PM
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Oh ok, well that sounds like bad advice from JP. I’ll just take the good stuff and ignore the BP stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 09:02 PM
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You are obviously doing it right then. It’s just overkill for me at the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 08:52 PM
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Thanks, I just went with my gut on that one and am glad that I stopped. I honestly don’t understand balance that well and completely overdid everything else.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 08:47 PM
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Do yoga bro
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 07:47 AM
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You do need all three to attract a good woman in a relationship. Having a career gives me a base level of self esteem, confidence and purpose which is sexy. But I lost what little alpha I had and my looks. The career wasn’t enough to keep my wife fucking me. Having said that during this beta phase I still had interest from an office girl who worked under me. To her I was alpha and well paid the career was appealing. But it would not have kept her coming back for more years later as she slowly re…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 07:46 AM
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And now you know
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 07:27 AM
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I hope not. Dread is essential I just took it further than I needed and backed off. No dread no sex
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 05:50 AM
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Congrats on the 1 week sober, I’m a recovering alcoholic also and I probably mention r/stopdrinking somewhere in the comments and that’s what landed you on Married Red Pill a sexual strategy subreddit for married guys. I appreciate your concern with the steroids and was planning on stopping the gear next year as I’ve already achieved my physique goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 05:37 AM
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Oh a woman how come you are here of all places? Yes steroids can give you bitch tits it’s a common side effect. Some of the excess testosterone injected converts to estrogen and you can grow female breast tissue. Everyone who cycles has a scare with this stuff, I made sure to have an anti estrogen drug on hand to get rid of the lumps. So yeah no boobies for me. JP would not approve, but I only cleaned my room last week so it will be a while before on fix the steroid mess. There are positives to …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 05:10 AM
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Thanks. Sexual Market Value - the value you trade at in the sexual marketplace say a bar. So I was a skinny fat 75 kg with bad posture, low confidence and a beta personality and would have had a low SMV which women could pick up at first sight and first conversation. My wife became aware of this slow decline and stopped fucking me as much accordingly. I increased it by doing the opposite, lifting and reading sidebar books. I’m going to do that test. My brother has done it and also found it usefu…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 04:35 AM
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Do people want to “plug back in” and have less sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 04:05 AM
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That is the point
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 04:04 AM
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This makes sense
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 04:00 AM
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Yes this
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 03:56 AM
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Your plan sounds... uh... well thought out
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 03:52 AM
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Or I could just break his handsome nose right now
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 03:30 AM
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Ok I didn’t want argue about weather we agreed he was alpha or not. I honestly really want to know where I can find the bit he says about negotiating desire?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 02:35 AM
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My kids all have my nose so I think they are mine. My wife may have let another man with a distinctive nose impregnate her 3 times I guess
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 02:28 AM
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Ok thanks that’s what I was going for
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 02:25 AM
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Thanks, and yes that is what I will take away from this
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 02:23 AM
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You get it, cool
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 02:21 AM
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I’m a big JP fan now but he can be polarising. Does he really advocate negotiated desire, where does he say that? If he does then yeah maybe he doesn’t get laid but who knows. He’s powerful, wealthy, famous and charismatic. That’s appealing to women and plenty of passive dread. I think he is alpha in that he dosent care what people think and won’t back down.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 02:19 AM
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I had a drinking problem that got worse over my 20s. I lost contact with them because of this and also moving areas. I also did not value male friends enough and only cared about my girl and getting rich and drinking. I also changed from having work colleagues to working from home. This happened slowly over a decade. I have male friends at the gym who I can socialise with. A brother I hang out with and go fishing with. But I am trying to find an extra buddy or 2 again. I can’t really fault the w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 01:59 AM
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400 is ok I think life starts to suck at 200 and below. But your test levels vary so much during the day so if you’re feeling shit you could be around 200 some of the time. I’m guessing it would probably fuck your natural test production after a few years and be hard to come off. From what I’ve heard the difference between 400-500 and 1000 isn’t that noticeable. Also if I was to do black market trt I would always the issues of bunk gear. But you could try pharma trt for 3-4 months you should be …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 01:48 AM
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Yeah I could do a better post after all this feedback but I guess it’s all in the comments anyway. When I used to frequent the stop drinking subreddit, most of the posts are from guys with less than a years sobriety who are more active in the sub. The posts from guys with years of sobriety were also uplifting, but those guys were out of touch with what the new guys are going through. So that’s was what I was going for a “I’m a guy that started the journey years ago and I’m happy, this stuff work…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 01:17 AM
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Yeah I do like the tough love. It’s just turned up a hundred more notches than gym talk as we can’t punch each other in the head to keep it half civilised.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 12:47 AM
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My test levels are 490 naturally so I don’t need trt yet and it’s pretty hard to get a prescription where I live. I did 3 x 12 week cycles of test at 500mg per week and 2 x cycles with 500mg of Decca plus test. Which is pretty mild for an average gear user. The Decca was not worth it for the dick sides. Put on 17 -20 kg of muscle in 3 years which would have taken 10 naturally. Lost a little hair, some mild acne scars a few baby pea sized lumps around nipples. Heart and kidney damage are possible…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 12:31 AM
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I love this part of MRP if someone pisses you off online don’t keyboard fight them, go and floss your teeth or do something productive
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 11:58 PM
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What does this mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 11:50 PM
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What’s the point I’m missing?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 11:49 PM
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More that the anger passes. I was real fucking angry at the start. And I’m glad I didn’t make rash decisions when I’m angry. If you are a mod can you leave the post up, I’ve offended a few people and broken rule 3 by accident but I think 2 guys have found it helpful plus there will be lurkers
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 11:14 PM
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Being complacent is a risk, maybe I needed to hear this. I’ve been there before so backsliding is a real possibility. I’m assuming the anti gay stuff is just an insult/joke tho right. IRL I call my buddies pussy or pansy but faggot or cunt would not go down well.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 11:09 PM
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Yeah I’m just about done with it. I don’t regret it but I don’t recommend it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:27 PM
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Yeah I lost a cm or 2 giving me a slightly receding hairline like my old man. Still have hair tho
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:25 PM
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Thanks. Yeah some guys sound a bit over the top, but’s it’s really good information here that works in the the real world. Those are the posts I should have ignored, some of the extremist posts just fed into my anger during the anger stage. I found the books more helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:23 PM
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Spot on that DEVI stuff is a game changer. I still fuck up the immersion part regularly, but I’ve got the rest down pat.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:18 PM
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I’ve got a natural test level of 490 which is pretty average. Guys who are younger or genetically gifted will have higher testosterone levels and need more sex than me. It’s more about hormone levels and free time
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:14 PM
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It’s my truth and not trolling. Yes she was always a best option. I mean I could trade her in for a younger model and abandon my kids, but it’s not that appealing. Not moralising there I know guys who have done that and are super happy, it’s just not right for me. You are right about the career not being part of SMV, my bad I’m a bit out of practice. Career is a beta trait and good for relationships not getting sex. I had this career when I wasn’t getting sex, the money is good enough to keep a …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:10 PM
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Yes that’s what I meant. For me passive dread was enough so I was just being a dick adding on active dread. I was too autistic to see this shit straight away and was getting carried away. In hindsight taking it more slowly would have been just as effective and more enjoyable. Also JP is awesome and I think he’s pretty RP and alpha as fuck. He appeals to young men like so I assumed he’d be popular here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:03 PM
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Yeah it’s such a diverse range of replies which I guess reflects everyone’s different experience and situation. Good to hear this shit worked for you too.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 08:56 PM
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I’m not gay, not that there’s anything wrong with that. Honestly maybe 2 percent gay depending on the situation. This probably does sound a bit soft to you. I think it’s because it was unnecessary pain I backed off. If she was still mean and not sexing me well then fine have some more dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 08:53 PM
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We both felt good, no guilt, helped me get more sex in the second scenario.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 11:28 AM
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Yes I think you are spot on. I was lucky in that my wife is a good woman who turned into a harpy bitch only when I acted like a looser. When I changed my ways she went back to being cool. Yes she knows about my gear use. She doesn’t like the damage it will do to my health but knows I will do what I want anyway. I would not recommend the gear to anyone as you can get to a decent lean 90 kg natural I now know. Plus all the sides acne, hair loss and possible bitch tits.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 11:25 AM
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Thanks, good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 10:07 AM
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We’re probably different age, hormone levels and stuff. Also 3 kids, job, gym, side business keeps me busy so it’s all I require. I could try for more but I would not be into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:27 AM
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Perhaps a post about dread may have been more useful. This was just what popped into my head when I wanted to give something back. Bad dread for me was the sad defeated look on my wife’s face when I flirted purposely in front of her. Good dread was when a girl flirted with me and my wife overhead me telling her I’m not interested.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:22 AM
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I didn’t want to pretend to be some super sexy millionaire who can get any woman I want. I’ve gone from looser to better than average. I’m not superior to anyone here morally or otherwise. I guess my strategy involved being moral and not cheating or getting close to it. If I had done it during my Rambo stage I would be regretting it more than some of the other shit I pulled.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:17 AM
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I mentioned in my post I tend to take things literally, I’m late to pick up ball busting IRL. I’ve had trouble saying no to drugs and alcohol so sex would be hard for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:10 AM
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Is that how this came across? To be clear you have to lift that is like half of it, dread is essential also. I meant that I stopped having to deliberately cause dread at a certain point and backed it off. This point will be different for everyone. I didn't need to post to get the results I wanted. If it helps you do it at least you will be helping others by sharing your story. But I originally came here for a sex strategy not to help other people.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 07:42 AM
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Sorry this wasn't more helpful for you its just my honest experience. I just meant to take it slow and only do the steps you need to. I started to go rambo and it was overkill and not needed. I guess a lot of this MRP stuff is not that conventionally moral, but it works so who gives a fuck. Stopping short for me worked and I'm glad a drew that line on my own and did not take this stuff as gospel. But some guys will need to prove to themselves they can do it. If had cheated on my wife like you su…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 07:34 AM
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Good work. It was the number 1 thing holding me back. I still have 1 or 2 at work functions. So three years without getting drunk has been sobering and productive. I don’t miss it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 06:55 AM
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R/stopdrinking loose the beer first, worked for me
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 02:37 AM
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