gemmabea Archive

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2	Feeling invisible to good men I’m a chubby old lady now, lol, but I found the “looks match” thing was probably critical in both directions… “dating down” doesn’t work as a solution like proposed above. I used to intentionally date guys who were physically less attractive, but had other great qualities, smart or kind, whatever… hoping that since looks matter more to men, they’d appreciate me more and be faithful. Didn’t work. They would appreciate me for a short time and then their ego would get involved and they’d try to pro…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/25 08:38 AM
2	What it means to be settled for sexually I mean, you kind of just said it again, although I added the “guys are supposed to be easy,” I admit, which was, again, referencing the person to whom you were responding. “You seem to believe your partner thinking your [sic] ugly can be overcome with performance. I disagree” AKA how I paraphrased you, “if your partner doesn’t do it for you [based on looks], then that encompasses all potential attraction and they’re never going to. It’s okay for us to disagree—women aren’t a monolith any more th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 10:07 AM
2	What it means to be settled for sexually I think the exact stated orgasm gap is WHY men have it better here: you can learn what most men don’t bother to learn, take the time commitment they don’t bother to take, and become really good at pleasing women sexually, which isn’t a priority for most men, and definitely not in this example. Take a young religious couple where neither knows what they’re doing but the husband recognizes women are harder to get off so he learns that and get to where he makes her incredibly happy. Think about wha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 08:39 AM
1	What it means to be settled for sexually OP’s model (with which I disagree) also said no faking orgasms. So if a husband is “blissfully unaware of his disappointed wife” then he’s a fucking tool as much as she’s using him to be one. This model only works in shame-ridden or naive societies where two people with no sex ed or lived experience whatsoever not access to the internet married one another at like 18 because they knew one another from church. It doesn’t work on any level even in a hypothetical modern world, not only, but also, f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 08:31 AM
1	Q4A: "If men did more [of women's thing] they would get more of [women's results]" - why do you think they don't? Excuse me, female. Please don’t pretend you know more about being female than this man who proudly boasts two ex-wives. LMAO	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 08:22 AM
1	What it means to be settled for sexually Divorce rate these days is the same as it was in the 1920s… has been going down since the 1980s. Read about any 1920-30s film star and you’re going to be amazed at their 4 to 6 divorces. Self-absorbed, romantic, damaged people just act out. I don’t want anyone to “duty love” or “duty provide” for me or our family any more than I’m gonna “duty sex” someone up. If you can’t find someone for whom you’re enthusiastic then FYI, being alone is awesome. I do not want to dance with someone just because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 08:16 AM
1	What it means to be settled for sexually Uh FYI married men live longer than single men, while married women live less long than single women. Women don’t have to build you a log cabin to make your life better. Women do and have always literally put their life force into their various relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 08:08 AM
1	What it means to be settled for sexually And since women are less likely to feel pressure to marry and/or less likely settle, we are having fewer babies be born all across the western world. Remains to be seen how hot they’ll grow up to be, I suppose.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 08:06 AM
1	What it means to be settled for sexually In the 2000s we were going out and meeting one another. Idk about your area, but all of my video game and tabletop game and D&D friends are fucking like rabbits and are never not in relationships. It’s not because they’re either hot or settling. It’s because they’re in constant proximity to people to whom they become drawn and then hook up and start dating. It used to be we would go and do things, not stay at home and/or looking at our phones or consoles 24/7.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 08:03 AM
5	Why do women feel single childless men are obligated to date single-moms??? Emotional risk = emotional reward. Like I said: my beloved grandma will never meet my kids. I wouldn’t have thought it could mean so much to take care of “another woman’s child” alongside her… but it did. I’m so grateful for those times. Every single memory is precious and worth it. I look back entirely fondly and we all talk about him a few times a year. I love my photos and videos with him, even if he isn’t likely to even remember me. People’s bio kids can die 🤷🏼‍♀️ I lost two siblings by age …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 07:49 AM
4	Why do women feel single childless men are obligated to date single-moms??? It’s not a secret or a revelation. And I wouldn’t take the time back. If the romantic relationship had worked, I would have been even more blessed than I already was to have time with the kiddo. Things being difficult or even painful in the end doesn’t make them not worth the process. If I was at a different stage in my life or met the right person maybe it would be different, I’m just focused on considering my own needs first and foremost right now. It definitely taught me the bigger “smoking g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 07:40 AM
0	Why do women feel single childless men are obligated to date single-moms??? u/psych0ticmonk big mad about studies and statistics that say it’s not “unhinged” to consider serious life choices carefully. Lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 05:10 AM
3	Why do women feel single childless men are obligated to date single-moms??? Flair checks out	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 04:56 AM
5	Why do women feel single childless men are obligated to date single-moms??? “Women really have no idea how emotionally devastating this could be. Or just don’t care because men are supposed to be these emotionless machines apparently.” Why wouldn’t we? I’m not a single mom, but I dated a single dad. His baby mama had two kids older than his son, and had another kid by the time his son met me at age one. So she was busy and happy to let me spend tons of time with him. He had a great dad, but I worked from home so over time I naturally got more and more (much desired) tim…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 04:53 AM
1	Why do women feel single childless men are obligated to date single-moms??? It is not “unhinged” to be a consideration. 17% or one out of approximately every six women who had a stepfather as a principal figure in her childhood years, was sexually abused by him. The comparable figures for biological fathers were 2% or one out of approximately 40 women. In addition, when a distinction was made between Very Serious Sexual Abuse and other less serious forms, 47% of the cases of sexual abuse by stepfathers were at the Very Serious level of violation compared with 26% by bio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/25 04:36 AM
2	Even if the "nice guys" have hidden selfish motives, they are still infinitely better than the honest “bad boys”. All right, a few things stand out here. First, what do you actually want? Dates, or a partner who loves you? Because if it’s the latter, kindness does matter. I hear you on the upbringing—I come from a corporal punishment military family too. It’s confusing when authority figures enforce rules with violence: “Don’t hit your brother! smack!” or “Never let me catch you fucking swearing again!” That kind of contradiction messes with your head. It teaches “niceness” as paramount while delivering tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 02:17 PM
4	Q4M: Would you say you are a natural provider? Some men seem to think their job is to be wallets on legs. See what I did there? Qualifiers. Some, seem. Because sweeping generalizations don’t hold up. When I’ve been dumped, odds are they just weren’t into me—simple as that. But I’ve repeatedly heard: “Men want to provide.” “You didn’t make me feel needed.” “You never let me pay for anything.” And that “being needed” was clearly financial. I believe in leaning on each other emotionally—that’s never been the issue. I love giving and receiving g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 01:19 PM
0	Even if the "nice guys" have hidden selfish motives, they are still infinitely better than the honest “bad boys”. It’s not gaslighting to encourage people to be their best selves just because someone can try to do everything right and very little wrong and still have “problems”—that’s life. It happens in families, in education, in careers, in love. If you’re still thinking “what the fuck, I do all this to be a good person and no one is fucking me in exchange for it, what a crock of shit,” that’s understandable, but you’re also not “there yet” in where women talk about being the type of men they’re looking f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 11:57 AM
0	People (and red pillers) often underestimate the necessity of young love/teen love and the impact it can have on am average guy's dating life in the future. She’s not that rare—she seems pretty typical for her cohort. I dunno if you’re in an area as crazy-liberal as mine, but The Youths, for the most part, don’t even acknowledge biological sex as meaningful. I think sex/gender impacts life experience—each has distinct challenges—and they’ll be forced to acknowledge that over time. But it’s not like one psychopath teen guy is dating all the gullible teen girls. In couples, there’s a 1:1 ratio, and they’re both getting experience; those who aren’t dat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 06:59 AM
1	People (and red pillers) often underestimate the necessity of young love/teen love and the impact it can have on am average guy's dating life in the future. “Who said they were?” You did. ”Let’s not sugarcoat it: at this stage, mistakes cost way more. A nervous stutter? A slightly awkward joke? In high school, that might have been cute. Now? It’s a red flag.” This is operating off of so many assumptions. My 20-year-old sister is really into her major and isn’t going to have any more experience at 25 than a 25-year-old man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 06:00 AM
0	People (and red pillers) often underestimate the necessity of young love/teen love and the impact it can have on am average guy's dating life in the future. This is the teen boy version of ‘daddy issues,’ the old stereotype that young women’s need for unconditional platonic love, if not met, would then be improperly sought out in conditional romantic and sexual partners who could take advantage of that. The idea that having a teen romance is a “necessity” is so concerning. I know it’s a debate, but only horny young guys who have incredibly serious comorbid problems, like maybe dad took off or is abusive, or mom had to work 24/7 and isn’t affectionat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 05:35 AM
1	People (and red pillers) often underestimate the necessity of young love/teen love and the impact it can have on am average guy's dating life in the future. u/silverhippo15 I don’t take advice from Bitters whose every comment whines, “females/girls XYZ!,” who casually uses slurs, and who loudly profess an “all [women] are sluts” ideology while clearly being so butthurt about not getting laid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/25 05:14 AM
-1	If you have to chase a woman, you've already lost. That’s fucking insane lol good to know you are ignorant to every type of animal as well as the human animal because this is biologically false	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/25 12:29 PM
2	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD “Men and girls” is so r/MenandFemales coded. Lol. Ok, you are right! “Truly confident” men can be disturbed by literally anything that, to an outsider critiquing rhetorical integrity, would indicate he was threatened by his own low self-esteem while juxtaposing himself against something that has no impact on him. Sure. Lol. We weren’t talking about matching based on similar values and motives, where sure, match with someone who has qualities you care about… we are just talking modern men and wom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/25 03:07 AM
1	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD Why would I need to convince you of anything? Manipulation implies that I am not only employing rhetoric to gain your agreement but doing so in bad faith, which I’m not—neither do I need your approval nor do I need to be deceptive to achieve it, since I have no incentive to want it. We are discussing both of our philosophies. The fact that you just want to shame women, and me, and claim my perspective is motivated by you somehow rather than consider it just reflects on you and makes for boring b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/25 02:53 AM
-2	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD A truly confident man isn’t disturbed by a woman’s past 🙃 I’m in my mid-thirties, so you can make whatever decisions you want but I’m not looking for anyone my age who’s preoccupied with virginity lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/25 01:50 AM
2	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD I don’t sleep around but if I did I wouldn’t need men to be okay with it? Lmao. I can fuck 10s and be in relationships with 8s but I’m emotional so I don’t. If I could handle the emotions of being slutty I’d absolutely be sluttier—sex is fun—and any man who wasn’t “okay with it” was probably not my guy because he was a little boy so up in his feelings about not being the hottest blonde-haired blue-eyed tall charming clever man born that he self-selected out of my pool by being a misogynist for f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 09:55 PM
1	Is it common for women to settle for their partners, especially sexually? That’s absolutely kooky, bro. Like she doesn’t know they exist? Like she will only fantasize about ugly guys if she’s only with ugly guys? You want to be appreciated only for your body? This is all the way wild. I’ve been in long relationships with super-hot athletes and model-types—no casual sex, I mean love and years of commitment. You’re saying if I really start to fall for some guy who is amazingly brilliant or incredibly funny and warm but then any less attractive, they should reject me bec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 09:52 PM
3	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD Please stick to this ideology and never commit to any woman. No woman is horrible enough to deserve a man like this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 09:47 PM
0	Is it common for women to settle for their partners, especially sexually? Yo if you think “if she’s never been with anyone else then she won’t have context to know she is settling for me,” and the inverse of that rule, you’re delusional and super super sad. Anyone would be settling for someone with that attitude, much less a someone with such a clear lack of confidence in any ability or positive quality that they hope if the blind lead the blind then the blind won’t realize they’re blind. Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 09:45 PM
3	Women can seem unapproachable these days hence why we don’t do it. Most people where I live are socially closed off and unfriendly—it’s just the culture. I choose to be friendly because it makes my life better, leaves me smiling more often as I open my door to go home than I was when I was leaving. It’s not because I expect a certain response. When I smile at people or try to engage in chit-chat while we are stuck in the same location, it’s common for them to look as startled and alarmed as if this 5’-tall little woman in business attire has just held them up a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 05:00 AM
1	Appeal to nature arguments and what humans historically did are dumb Just here to poke fun at the nonsensical statement “humans did not evolve [X], [X] was inherited via evolution” rofl	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 05:46 AM