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| 98 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting? | Logistics | genesiscz | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 09:05 PM |
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| 1 | I lost a girl in a beach party to another girl.YourUsernameSucks, Wanker - simply hilarious | /r/TheRedPill | 04/04/25 02:52 AM |
| 14 | I lost a girl in a beach party to another girl.Well I guess a lot of us endure rejections on a regular basis anyway, don't we? | /r/TheRedPill | 04/04/25 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Why do people say Tinder doesn’t work? It’s just an interface that mirrors real life dating preferencesIt’s the opposite man. More right swipes = worse rank | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Why do people say Tinder doesn’t work? It’s just an interface that mirrors real life dating preferencesIt may not make sense but it does. If you are hungry because you are afraid the 5% is not gonna be a match it’s gonna be like 60+% right. To your assumption, if 60% of girls swipe you right, you would get higer ranking? So if you show first, you get 60% of all girls? So if I am average looking and get 10% of right swipes, I get ranked even lower, lowering the percentage to 1% because most girls don’t even get to see me? Do you agree that you see only really attractive girls first and then less a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 12:52 PM |
| 0 | Why do people say Tinder doesn’t work? It’s just an interface that mirrors real life dating preferencesRight, how many % of your swipes are left? Cuz that ranks you higher | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Why do people say Tinder doesn’t work? It’s just an interface that mirrors real life dating preferencesAbove average looks and the important part: they are more picky because they can/get the matches more easily. More “no” swipes = higher your rank | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Girl I was texting that I was trying to hang out for the first time with sees me at the mall with friends and texts me after not responding to me in 4 days, she asks why I didn’t approach her and I didn’t because she wasn’t answering my texts and ghosting. How do I go on about this to plan a date ?We want update! | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 09:48 PM |
| 8 | How do I let him know I wanna give him head?!remindme 24hours | /r/seduction | 15/01/22 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Do girls really notice when guys are wearing colognes?Don't forget you stop noticing the smell cuz your brain filters it out | /r/seduction | 08/01/22 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Do girls really notice when guys are wearing colognes?It's the least enduring scent you can get on yourself. It's like a cheap perfume. Google it up :) | /r/seduction | 08/01/22 10:18 PM |
| 3 | How to reply to this shit testThat may be true, but you could actually respond like this to most of the posts here. Just because he's trying to get an another opinion doesn't mean he is "overthinking it" with this one girl. | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 02:10 PM |
| 11 | It’s not a numbers game, it’s a game of probabilityNo, numbers are just count of approached, while probability is purely a probability of success. | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 10:30 AM |
| 2 | girl outright telling you that you're not her type and she isn't attractedI thought girls do this instinctively without them actually knowing (sub conscious) | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 04:25 AM |
| 1 | girl outright telling you that you're not her type and she isn't attractedI gotta see how this one reacts | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 04:22 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!I got diagnosed a year ago - Asperger's - highly functional autism | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 11:41 PM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!Were you having trouble communicating as a child? Arent's you an Aspie as opposed to a pure autism? | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 06:34 PM |
| 2 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!and trying it myself. Are you still struggling a lot? How many success stories could you tell us if we asked? :-) I am an Aspie & struggling kinda in these things, but yeah, I've also read A LOT, otherwise I would be a virgin still I think haha. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Lol I have no clue how this could end up looking as a lack of confidence since that statement basically tell her she's safe and that I respect her decision. That's some fucked up logic there. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?She responded to the question I sent 2 days ago, but I guess I got better things to do rn right :-) Thanks everybody for the discussion it really helps me with practice. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?It doesn't actually translate well into my language, so I would not use that term anyway :) | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Lol get the fuck out thanks | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Damn it’s pretty hard man me too. The problem is my brain is sometimes not even able to think of anything beyond logic, I just don’t have the feeling for that. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Does that also apply to responding online? | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 11:53 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?You don't need to be sarcastic. That's what I told her. She asked what I was doing today and I said I was with my friends until 11pm and that I have worked since then. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Just because I accepted to get some fresh air I needed? Or what makes you feel that way | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?You thing the wine thing is any worse than a movie? :D | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?I don't beat myself, I was more sad/angry about the fact they can't be straight up enough to just tell the person. I'd like to carry on and just message her like nothing happened, but I guess that's not an option. Bumping into her seems very unlikely, but yea. Will do my best. Thanks | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Thanks for the kind words. I won't let her know :-) | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Yea, I guess that's right. If she said that to me I would appreciate the honesty and would take a big step back. The conversation could go on. The way it ended doesn't give me many options tho. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?I wasn't at all trying to be bitter. I feel sorry for girls who had to experience rudeness/screaming/outrages because of a simple rejection. | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:51 PM |
| 3 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?That's exactly what I said myself after these comments. I'll try in a few months maybe if she ever crosses my mind again. Thanks again. | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?I analyze myself a lot already. I learn better with feedback. I can overanalyze my own steps but if I don't see a clear reason for the outcome (e. g. she telling me anything at all), that's a lot harder to do. | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 8 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Might be rude, might be just too afraid to do so. Who knows right. Will do. Thanks a lot. | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:39 PM |
| 3 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Definitely already reflecting so much on this. I no longer feel bad or sad, or angry. It's a lesson and I take it as such. | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:37 PM |
| 0 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Of course What if you are not sexually interested but are looking for a friend. How would you approach that kind of thing? I see no reason not to tell you the reason I suck if I don't use this excuse as a reason not to improve. That was my point. I don't feel like a dipshit. I have some degree of self-love. I wanted to practice, risk & evaluate later, which I did. Lessons learned. It may be a textbook fail case but kinda worked for me before. | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?If I didn't ever think about these kinds of stuff I would be still a virgin moving on and on doing the same mistakes, don't you think? | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:24 PM |
| 4 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Trying to, yeah. Last year was rough, online school and shit. I know I do, but I will never be as good as neurotypicals are. I am having Asperger's. Not trying to excuse myself, that's just how it is. Doing my best tho :-) Thanks for input | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?If I wanted to do the same mistakes again I wouldn't be posting here. So thanks for your input, I am not doing this thing again. Frankly, in November, when the lockdown was there for a long time already, I picked up a girl who brought me a burger, we texted for 5 days, had one call late at night. We wanted to go out but it was getting worse and cold. I asked if she wanted to come over and she did. Similar situation, different outcome. Yea, I guess it was about not getting enough PERSONAL contact… | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?So being aggressive is not creepy if she's been interested but is creepy if I didn't care about it at all before? Probably right, but it's a bit funny. How do you "not package it as the I'm trying to bone u atmosphere", just the wine thing? Or something else? While you think you are being nice, she has to deal with the 100 creepers each day trying to bone her EVERY SINGLE DAY. Yeah friend of mine said me something similar, and I was like "Did you try to delete your tinder?" There is nothing that… | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Heh, yes, that's exactly why I feel it's not ideal. The assumptions they make of specific things are so wrong. "Hey, I have a bad experience from when I last said 'no' to this very nice person because I was not interested in dating at all." and then "Hey, he told me it is okay to say no, he must hear that a lot! Probably a creep". That makes no sense. Oh wait. I forgot. I was hoping there was something like "Hey I know girls might have problems with just rejecting (because I have a lot of female… | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 10:49 PM |
| 9 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?I am actually kinda sick of the fact that you need to look busy. I basically came from restaurant with my friends and had nothing to do after, so I basically went working as I would normally do on some nights. That does come out as I am there waiting around, lowering my value? Fuck that. | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 10:21 PM |
| 7 | Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting?Try to be a little more respectful please. I get it. I am bad at this. I have very good reasons to be bad at this. But I am at least trying my best to even do something. No, we weren't drunk. No, she did seem kinda out of our conversation, nor did I see any IOIs to anybody there. Frankly, I didn't even think about it that day. I am working from home, at Friday we had a lot to do & I wasn't out the entire day so I was just yea good idea let me get some air. I wondered about this later, if that di… | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Why are men so persistent?They don't know whether you are forward or not. Even if you say you do. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Why are men so persistent?Agreed! | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 10:13 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Because you said you feel being objectified, approached because of looks, which you said like it's a bad thing but you said you do the exact same thing. I just don't understand that. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 10:12 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Lol this made me really mad. You are talking here about him watching your ass, that he's not really interested and he cares only about your looks while at the same time you write "He'd have to be hot to even consider giving him my number". Like what? | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 06:25 PM |
| 2 | Why are men so persistent?Yea, I hear you. I am afraid the change will take a couple of decades. To be honest tho, it is already happening. The problem is you see the worse side of the coin. You always remember the bad, rude behavior because you can't even see the good one, because you simply reject them all. When they walk away you won't remember it as much as when they still hover around which makes you uncomfortable. That makes it easier to remember I guess. That's just an assumption, and I can be wrong. Are you not i… | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 06:20 PM |
| 1 | When new girl is at your place what you usually do to have sex with her?I completely understand and agree, I am just curious if somebody got rejected after such a sexy message (they say it's sexy if you ask like that :-)) | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 06:13 PM |
| 2 | Why are men so persistent?That's why you post here, right :-) I am glad you care enough to ask. I'd love if you take your time to read this one https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/p9j8d9/why_are_men_so_persistent/ha0d96e/?context=3 | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 06:10 PM |
| 2 | When new girl is at your place what you usually do to have sex with her?The fact she does not want to have sex with you on the first visit doesn't fucking mean you kick her out. it was not about the way you wrote it, but WHAT it meant. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Absolutely no | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 03:16 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]This | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Why are men so persistent?Yea i believe this subreddit is a bit more concentrated than some others :-) | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 03:06 AM |
| 5 | When new girl is at your place what you usually do to have sex with her?The last sentence fucked it all up lol | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 02:25 AM |
| 6 | When new girl is at your place what you usually do to have sex with her?Did any of them said no, ever? | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 02:20 AM |
| 5 | Why are men so persistent?I so love the fact I found a post talking about this. Aspie here. And it's so true and so important to know. Please, trust me when I say that it takes a lot of effort to go to talk with a pretty girl. When I do, I somehow just start autopiloting without actually being present sometimes, nervousness, heart rate through the roof, focus on what you actually wanted to say makes it all way harder than you can even imagine. Of course, there are jerks around, but please, try to bear with us, be direc… | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Why are men so persistent?When you (girls) stop ignoring men even though you are interested in them, we can reshape around consent. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Why are men so persistent? this | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 01:28 AM |
| 2 | Why are men so persistent?Unless you are on an autistic spectrum and kinda unable to be emotionally mature. On another note, she could be just "not vibing" because she's shy, happened so many times already that the girl does not seem interested while in reality she's just shy. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Why are men so persistent?this | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Guys please help i have zero gameyou do that by practise | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Advice NeededWell it always is a waste of money if you don't get what you what out of it | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Advice NeededThat's exactly the reason you have to start my friend :-) | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes you’re not that shy to approach girls, you just don’t set a clear intentionHow did this actually got some upvotes. Pretending is not the way | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes you’re not that shy to approach girls, you just don’t set a clear intentionDidn’t get the objection part. Not a native speaker and have no idea what goody rule follower | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 11:25 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes you’re not that shy to approach girls, you just don’t set a clear intentionInteresting. I feel the same | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes you’re not that shy to approach girls, you just don’t set a clear intentionWhat the fuck is wrong with you, YOU should grow up dude. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 11:18 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes you’re not that shy to approach girls, you just don’t set a clear intentionI literally had the exactly same situation a week before, got her number right away & she went out with me already :-) | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 11:16 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I wanna hear an aftermath! !remindme 1 week | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Had one of the worst first date scenarios ever, but saved it by staying composed and in controllonger than You seem you got distracted and the post got auto submitted. Funny :D (ADHD too) | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Finally broke the Gym Code!remindme in one week | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Hilarious reaction from this girl when I didn't fall for her shit test.So basically he showed her she has the handle that let her pull him back from his more important things? | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 02:05 PM |
| 4 | Hilarious reaction from this girl when I didn't fall for her shit test.This | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 01:52 PM |
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