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I chose the username because of that but in an ironic way, because at the time I started posting in cheating support subreddits. I don't have a kink for it, it is the other way around, it fucked me up emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 12:34 AM
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I've been two years in therapy, for that and other issues. That's how I learned how to cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 11:49 PM
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Life is shit I guess. /blog
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 10:33 PM
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She is my girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 10:20 PM
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This hits close to home because my gf cheated with a guy way more handsome, fit, better personality, liked widely by everyone and he was her "out of her league" crush since before she met me. She even said to me that sex with him was a mindblowing experience, almost glowlike. It is obvious that if that guy would be interested in a ltr before I did I wouldn't stood a chance. Other than that she only dated an asshole but it was brief, the other guys were either ok or cringy so is just that one guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:45 PM
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I'm low libido because I'm rehabilitated porn addict. Would like to remain the same so I never feel the urge to masturbate or watch porn ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 07:20 PM
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Yup, but not as much. He has the same kind of nipples as me only mine are browner. Of there are outliers but male nipples all look the same basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 10:13 PM
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You are at a right place. Only thing you need is to look up sexual transmutation techniques. I don't have casual sex because I'm a full time shut in, but transmutation helps me get creative work done and working out more instead of focusing on the urges (that I agree can be overwhelming at times) .
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:36 PM
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Just try to stop dosing porn to your brain for a month, stop fantasizing about sex or looking at women on the streets for that same month. The next time you see a naked woman in front of you, your head will be absolutely blown into space.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:17 PM
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I'm starting to think this "women like casual sex with taken man" is a first world thing or something. In my country that doesn't happen at all unless the second woman's endgame is to steal the guy from the girlfriend/wife and date/marry him herself, never for casual sex. And I don't think it has to be transactional; as a person who leans towards demisexuality, it's the other way around for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:47 PM
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Of couse a lot of men are naive enough to propose this, thinking they will drown in pussy. The reality of it is if their parnert ends up agreeing on it, they will be very sorry of even thinking about an agreement like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:38 PM
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Low effort bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:34 AM
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Those are hyperboles of what I said, not facts. Which means you are troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:06 AM
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Sure. You can always brake up or get a divorce. That's the solution. I don't think this is a matter of life and death or anything. I'm just saying open relationships can be unfair, maybe even harmful to men. Is like a female friend telling you her husband punched her, of course divorce and lawsuit is the way to go, but it would be nice if domestic abuse wasn't a thing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:41 AM
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They come off a bit radical, even kind of preachy, I agree to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:34 AM
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Don't worry I'm not an AWALT endorser. I also don't condone emotionally unavailable men hooking up with women just to ghost them later or think i's bad if women judge men based on their own preferences. All I'm saying is average women in open relationships will be far more succesful in finding someone to fool around NSA than an average looking man in the same situation. This is 100% anecdotal but here it goes, I've have 2 LTRs one 4 years and one 7 years. That's 11 years of at least some degree …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:24 AM
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I don't think much of men, that's right. That's how I know below average males don't have it easy finding a partner. Most of the time it's their own fault for being assholes, machos, etc. Now add to that the fact that they are in a relationship. What woman would give them the time of day?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:54 PM
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In what world is easy to find lovers as a male in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:40 PM
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Maybe in certain scenes I don't know of. I'd get it if it was high school or college.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:37 PM
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You don't lose anything. You just feel more lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:36 PM
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I live downtown in a major city, bro. Most women I know agree that dick is a low value commodity since is so easy to harvest. In a sea of men why would you choose the commited one?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:27 PM
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Yes, the unfairness doesn't come from the consenting adults involved, the game is rigged. This is one of those hate the game not the players scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:58 PM
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This is my point. Who would fuck an average looking man who is already settled down just for the kick of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:54 PM
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Yeah I was talking about the latter. Swinging is a whole different dynamic I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:35 PM
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Because the burden is not pun on any of the consenting parties, the agreement is inherently unfair, like if you take a high rate loan and then lose your house over it, it is unfair but at the end of the day you agreed to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:12 PM
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This is most of what I've seen aswell, but with semi-attractive couples too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:02 PM
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Never seen that phenomenon/myth ocurring, that's maybe why I didn't take it into account.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:01 PM
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Yeah, I get women have to filter a lot more to find a partner and it is a shore, but is hard for me to believe that from that pile they would not be able to find a suitor. Men who have trouble getting laid will continue having trouble getting laid no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:00 PM
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Yup, but the rules may create an imbalance. For example, if me and my gf both agree to be able to send nudes to other people. For the deal to be fair, she must have to wait until I found someone to send nudes to, which may take months, It feels manipulative in a way. A clean agreement would be "we are both able to send nudes to other people whenever we feel like it". The unfairness there is not burdened to the girl acting on it, but it is inherently unfair regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:55 PM
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Yes, I agree there can be ethical non-mongamy that works for the couple. But most couples wanting to try poly and those kind of things don't see it as playing out a kink wouldn't be fond of sex workers or swinging and such I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:45 PM
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If you view this from a monogamist point of view (I'm monogamous myself) it will of course make no sense. You have to view this as a person willing to be in an open relationship woud view it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:43 PM
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Yup, I don't know in other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:41 PM
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Young people from intellectual/artsy/alt middle class from Mexico City.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:40 PM
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I agree with what you said. But I feel the percentage of young women looking for 100% commintment from the start is lowering. You just have to take a look at some TikTok to see how many girls are talking about poly, open relationships, free spirit, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:37 PM
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Why do you feel they are unfair for women? Finding willing partners is not a problem for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:35 PM
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As i said, may be cultural/anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:34 PM
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Do you have a kink of knowing your wife sleeps with another women? Because if that's the case, of course is going to work for you, you have no jealousy or competition in the agreement. You still have total control of the situation because you made boundaries tailored for you. This "hot couple" scenario is not what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:32 PM
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Depends on the class group. I'd say that in highbrow middle class, they are more common than ever. Specially between late millenials aged 25 - 30. That's just my anecdotal experience thought. Also, at least in my country, people on lower classes marry young and are religious so it is not common at all on that group.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:28 PM
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I think this too, most average men who propose an open relationship is just oblivious to the world he lives in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:25 PM
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May be cultural, but in my anecdotal experience, every open relationship I know of was proposed by the girl. When it is proposed by them men, I suppose there are two viable scenarios. The guy is already sleeping with someone else. He is naive and thinks he will drown in girls and, worst of all, he thinks he is above jealousy and will have a hard time when his girl is acting on it and he is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:24 PM
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I have this anecdotal experience aswell. Every open relationships I know were proposed by the girl. And for the equal opportunity fairness, I don't think the spectrum of opportunity is equal, but I get what you mean. It seems as fair becaue both parties agreed to have the same opportunities, but inherently is not really fair, like when you sign for a high rate loan, it will cripple you but at the end of the day you agreed to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:09 PM
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Yeah, I get it. I was talking about inherently unfair. Like if you sign an unfair contract where you do a lot of work and they pay you nickles, at the end of the day you agreed to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:02 PM
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Fair enough, will edit the post to make it clear I'm talking about heterosexual people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 06:48 PM
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Not to mentions the guys that get sucked on the "open relatioship" BS, those guys would never be able to find someone to act on it while their partner will have flooded DM's and at least one guy active all the time. Yet, everytime you seems open relationships mentioned women say is unfair for them (?) because is an excuse for men to sleep around. Yeah right, like men have the ability to sleep aound lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:48 PM
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I know, maybe the point didn't came across. What I meant is, if a man could open out entirely, he should be able to disscuss any topic, incluiding this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 11:16 PM
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It's one of the topics men get more gaslighted about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:15 PM
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If you allow them to do that to you, sure, most people will step over most people given the opportunity, sad but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:05 AM
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I think it may go wrong, but I don't believe they will see you as one of her girlfriends from that point on or think you have no masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 09:48 PM
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I don't belive that thing about women losing respect for you as a person if you show vulnerability, but is never a good idea to open up way too much in front of a woman because: They'll think you are too intense. For most girls good vulnerability is talking about your day and being an empath to her. For men, vulnerability is telling dark secrets or showing off your trauma. She will think you are using her as a therapist. There are enough memes on the internet about "men will do x before going to…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 09:37 PM
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I thought girls only dated cute guys, like TV or popstar level of cuteness. But as an ugly guy that had dated cute girls, I know that's not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 09:26 PM
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Ofc, women wet themselves about unresolved trauma, mommy issues, panic attacks, narcissistic tendencies and all those things therapy gets rid of.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 01:06 AM
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Sure man, because basic health services are gay, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:58 AM
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That's what I don't get about the DFS thread. 1) They don't want to be a man's therapist (this is fine and reasonable) 2) They don't want men to go to therapy. It can't be both. It is delusional to think a grown ass person will always be at its 100% mentally just because.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:56 AM
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It is not the same, but if you are having anxiety and stress go to therapy and get help with it. is like having a pill that would cure a hangover and you are refusing to take it just because women might find it feminine if a man wants to be feel better about himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:39 AM
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Everyone should go to therapy. Even if you think you are fine, there is a lot of selfdiscovering to do, nothing wrong can come out of trying to be a better, more aware version of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:36 AM
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Isn't it like saying "oh, and this week I went to my dentist". Most people remain in therapy because it's great to have someone to talk to with an unbiased point of view. The conversation may even be just like "Oh, I had this weird dream the other night and my therapist said this and that about it".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:31 AM
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It's like saying, don't go to the dentist for your pain! The nerve will rot in a few months and you will have a numb jaw for the rest of your life! But hey, at least you didn't pay those bums.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:27 AM
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Everyone needs therapy in one form or another. Even if you are just afraid of clowns or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:26 AM
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This is the thread if someone wants to check it out https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/qwsl44/what_do_you_think_about_a_man_opening_up_and/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 07:55 PM
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Taking the pics was def stalking. Posting it to Facebook and tagging him (missed that detail) was simping I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:50 PM
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In college there was this girl, not really attractive, that would take sneaky pictures of a particular guy doing everyday things ( he was handsome). Then she would upload the pictures to a Facebook album with captions like "omg he is reading" or "omg i love how he eats his sandwich". Once I was introduced to this guy at a party and after a few drinks I asked him if he was aware of the Facebook album and he said yes and that it creeped him out. The girl nevee had a boyfriend I knew of and would o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:06 PM
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What would he have to explore in order for you to like his small penis more? Sorry if I'm blunt but your answer really got me curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:34 PM
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It means confidence too. But confidence is a good thing to have, while no cinfidence = bad, those values are universal. I don't see the need to relate good or bad traits with genital size. Is like I said, what would society think if men called girls with no confidence " fat girl energy", and girl with confidence "skinny girl energy". There is nothing wrong with wtv body type you have so it doesn't inherently have any kind of energy, same with penis size. I've seen "big clit energy" threw around …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:01 PM
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Maybe. But it still holds the narrative of big dick = good, small dick = bad. It's like the saying was "oh you have skin girl energy" when you do something baller or good, and "fat girl energy" was used to imply you are trash. That's how big dick/small dick energy is used in context.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:01 PM
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Not sending a picture, sorry. She is good looking in a "qt" babyface way, and you will have to take my word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:59 PM
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What is your minimun?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:49 PM
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It's a long story really. Tl;dr: She had a long distance crush with this chad since before meeting me, 4 years of relationship go by and she bumps into him on an academic trip (shes a linguist and he is an antrophologist), feels guilty for a few months then tells me about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:30 PM
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In a real life escenario, yes. I'm thinking more about idealization. When FDS think about the ideal HVM, do they picture it with a small, average or big penis?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:58 PM
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I don't know about numbers, but I have a really small penis and my ex cheated on me with a guy with a 7" dick. She told me because I asked, but never made a point about she cheating because of size. My ex prior also cheated and the ex ex ex jumped to another guy as soon as out relationship was over. I don't want to say it is because of the size, but the fact is there. I also have never had a ONS so I don't know if I would be rejected for that or not. That's why I asked this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:18 PM
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According to u/Fleischpeitsch citations, small is below 6 inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:36 PM
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Yes, as man with a small penis who haven't dated in a long while, I'm curious as how savage is out there in the current dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:46 PM
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That's what I want to know, but for obvious reasons I can't ask there. What is the minimun for FDS or if is it even important to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:39 PM
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That doesn't mean thisty males shouldn't be held accountable. If it wasn't for simps women wouldn't have said control over dating dynamics. Ofc they will always have the upper hand, but not as savage as it is today. Stop liking, stop following, matching, simping, wtv. Thirsty males are only feeding the beast.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 03:57 PM
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Dick size correlates as people reinforce the idea if you are a toxic male (or even if you own a big car) it is because you must have a small dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 06:49 PM
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Maybe her ideal 4lifer is a producer, director or photographer that can hook her up on the biz?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/09/21 10:04 PM
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If she was just tired she would say that, seeing how she is bold with words. It seems like she is no longer attracted to her husband and is sexually frustrated as a result, blaming (maybe unconciously) him for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 04:32 PM
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Sex with a husband is work because the husband may not be as attractive or have a dick like Chad's. That's why namy men (me included) are realizing their partners arent't low libido as a general, but are low libido only for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 04:30 PM
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