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Ugh sorry you had to deal with this, hope you got a good laugh and blocked him! Quantity DOES NOT equal quality. But most men will never understand why that’s important. In order for them to understand, they have to care about that first. That getting dates easily does not equal getting love easily, it’s getting sex easily, which is what they actually care about. In order for them to understand, they must see the difference between sex as something that a man does WITH a woman, not TO her. But t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:10 AM
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“Would like to make it special for him” Lmao . Another example of how generous, empathic and thoughtful women are compared to men with anything and everything. How often do men do this for inexperienced women? Almost never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:37 AM
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The audacity of these profiles 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:30 AM
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I agree with this 100%. She believes she is valuable because she’s “taken” and is trying to show off her “girlfriend skills” (who knows, maybe he’s cheating). You make a good point about the used car. Cars are programmed with functions for our benefit as well as WARNING SIGNALS to let us know when there’s something wrong! A man, on the other hand, is NOT programmed and has the consciousness to make his own decisions, and part of that is choosing to be an awful or low effort partner, and hide beh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:11 PM
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Would he ever do a girlfriend appreciation post about her? No. And if he did it would be about all the ways she serves him (pretty much a copy paste of hers lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:06 PM
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Men forget women want quality not quantity like they do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:34 AM
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Lmao. Men are so clueless. One time many years ago, my cousin and I were shopping at Ross. She’s looking at bras and underwear. This random dude hovers around like he’s browsing and grabs one pair of undies off a rack. He asks her “hey what do you think of this, is this a good pair for a gift?” Or something like that (I was a few aisles over so hearing little but could see them). I can’t remember the details but basically he asked for her phone number at the end before she turned him down and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:29 AM
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Oh boy, better set up stanchion ropes, because women are totally lining up to be with this gem of a man!! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:30 PM
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Ughhhh. So many guys would text me at like 9 - 10pm or later to “hang”, and wonder why I would never go, even called me boring!! like bitch I’m in bed already, no bra and pjs, comfy and warm! Last thing I’m gonna do is get full on ready just to go freeze my ass off while we hang out in your car while you get stoned, can’t hold a conversation, and spend the entire time trying to convince me to screw you there because you can’t do it at home because you live with your parents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:21 PM
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She is using so many key words and phrases that show she has been brainwashed to believe she needs to accept his behaviors and to question her own instincts. She sees the red flags with her own eyes and feels them in her gut. Yet she can’t break away because the expectation placed on her as woman to be 100% accommodating, generous, tolerant and fully accepting in her shitty relationship has probably been reinforced over and over again throughout her life (because god forbid a woman chooses to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:00 PM
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I love Marina so much. Saw her live twice (was supposed to be thrice but I got the flu real bad the last one 😭)! Each of her albums are unique and i love how honest she is with what she feels, how she puts it into words. You can see and hear her growth as a woman over time. Love this video, and the message “don’t punish me because I’m not a man” ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:24 AM
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Your first paragraph is spot on! They don’t understand or care that the quality or motive behind the compliments is malicious or basic/crappy. They care about quantity only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:43 PM
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Other than his obvious attraction to or desire to sleep with her, he is projecting his own ideas of what it means to be feminine/attractive onto her. He can fuck right off with that shit and mind his own business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:57 AM
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Same! A friend of mine were catching up, she mentioned it first and I said omg me too! We both agree it’s been extremely eye opening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:36 AM
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Wtf!? Hell no! She’s going to be his wife, she should be #1 to him and absolutely thrilled that she wants to spend time with him anywhere, and a protector! Instead he physically abused her for not being totally cool about a flirtatious coworker?? While I do believe the coworker being flirty doesn’t help, he should be on her side no matter what! Instead he’s worried about potential drama. She is absolutely right to be worried, but not about him cheating, but about her safety! She needs to gtfo. F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:19 AM
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This is so annoying. I don’t listen to her music but all the criticism that gets said about her dating life & music content is overdone. Sooo many male celebrities date (ahem; screw) lots of women all the time, including musicians who write about all the times they cheated, how they hurt women and beg for them back, the loads of women they “score” because they’re players, having side chicks, etc and either nobody bats an eye or they get PRAISED for it. But when female artists like Taylor date an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:08 AM
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LOL women are not at all oblivious, if anything it’s the other way around - that GUYS are oblivious and need 483828 signals! And like onefoulowl said, women don’t want men who aren’t confident and let all those excuses stop them from trying to begin with! Asking a woman out doesn’t guarantee she will say yes, but like THEY always preach to women , they miss the shots they don’t take!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:43 AM
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Exactly! He’s got them both played! Wouldn’t be surprised if that break up had more details than he let on to the current GF. Since they’re “friends” I hope she finds out eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:35 AM
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It’s completely hypocritical!!😬😬😬 and also “it’s gonna take 13 attempts before he notices” like bro, women are NOT gonna try that hard to woo one man! A pickme stage woman might try a few times but more than you can count on two hands!? We did not grow up being taught to persist endlessly like boys did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 04:36 AM
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“The thing about men is that they don't see women they're not attracted to .... he assumes that the woman asking him out will be his "type" - he doesn't associate romance with women who fall outside that narrow range.” And yet they have the audacity to get angry at women for not giving a chance to men outside their range (men they don’t find attractive / “tHe NiCe GuY” ) either ! 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:44 AM
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I agree with this comment. He doesn’t care about your well being, I know that sucks to hear but don’t bother replying to him! He’s a faker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:27 AM
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This has to be a troll account. If you browse the other subs long enough, you’ll often find “nice guys” saying they created a fake account and made it as horrible as possible just to see how many responses they’ll get just to prove women only like jerks who don’t have their shit together. That’s exactly what this sounds like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:21 AM
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Boo fucking hoo. He’s not crying because he lost someone he loved, he’s crying because he lost access to another vagina. Poly relationships, my ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:18 AM
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I find it interesting that you seem to be having the opposite experience I have. He wants to be intrusive and fetishize your lack of experience, whereas the guys I’ve dealt with run the other way (fear of a Virgin woman becoming obsessed or committed? Idk). I’m sorry you have to deal with that though. Hope you aren’t anymore! But yes you bring up a good point that a HV man won’t care as much either way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 09:56 PM
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Yeah that’s probably the safest thing to do, like white lie a little bit, keep it vague. If they are HV they won’t pry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:20 PM
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I know the other comments are giving you feedback about why not to tell men about this info and why it’s none of their business & whatever.. I have more of a question. Do you feel the need to share due to the anxiety behind feeling “behind” or afraid of the unknown? I’m late virgin much older than you and I still feel like I have a hard time keeping it to myself. It’s because, while heavily experienced with masturbation, I have a lot of anxiety over the vulnerable side of sex. You know, like wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:39 AM
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I’m too tired to look it all up myself, but I wonder if this is because the music producers & songwriters from their labels are men? LVM, to be more specific. I can definitely picture that being a huge influence behind those kind of lyrics. It’s probably ingrained so deep they don’t realize it , or maybe they don’t care and want to make more $$
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 02:15 AM
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I can’t remember which queen coined it on this sub, but this a perfect example of Schrodinger’s Scrote in action !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:33 AM
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Which is ironic because they bitch endlessly about high suicide rates for men, that men can’t express themselves emotionally and suffer for it, and why it’s justified that they act out in rage due to it. But if it’s a woman it isn’t justified and she’s just a crazy B. Hypocrites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:40 PM
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No idea, I think he said he “didn’t need them”. Like what about your guests dude??? Yes he Had friends both men and women 🤓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:12 PM
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WHAT?! He just left it there!? How can they be THAT lazy?! Oh queen I’m so glad he’s irrelevant to you now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:10 PM
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Lmao right?! Apparently at least one 😂 like what if his guests come to visit and they suddenly need to go poop ? Since there’s no window outside or a door separating, That smell travels to the living room and kitchen 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:08 PM
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IIRC, the entire house was made of wood, he inherited it from his parents so it’s VERY old. The dude could’ve saved some money and fixed it up?! 🤦🏽‍♀️ he even had a wife and kids before ... she cheated on him so they filed for divorce, & he constantly complained about how useless she was around the house due to depression, and that he did all the work ?? but once I saw it with my own eyes (long after she had left), I questioned everything he ever told me! (I cringe at how low of a place I was in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:03 PM
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In the realm of cleaning: Idk about you all but I’ve been to way too many guy’s houses (not dates but parties) where they didn’t have more than a single roll of toilet paper, SOAP, or HAND TOWELS in the bathroom!! They would always ask why I was antisocial if I chose not to come to future parties! I made up all kinds of excuses to avoid saying you’re dirty and disgusting I don’t wanna be in that environment. One time a guy I was considering dating, I hadn’t seen his house yet....it was in the mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:36 PM
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Men ARE the gold diggers !! 👎🏻 Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:50 AM
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Yup! You said it so well. Men are hypocrites. They see virgins as nothing more than quests that they must be the first to conquer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:48 AM
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Thanks! Btw I agree with ALL of your points, especially about safety - women should definitely read the surroundings!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:21 AM
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I’ve noticed the best way to get rid of men who don’t accept your No or Not Interested as a complete answer, is to go straight to saying you don’t find them attractive. Even if that’s not exactly true in your own head, just say it. Every other answer won’t work. Because to men, a woman’s physical appearance is what determines her value/worth. And since they’re so delusional they assume women think the same way/ have the same values, the absolute WORST thing they could ever hear, or worst reason …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:11 AM
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This. This is the first epiphany I had when I first discovered FDS . It finally explained why, despite doing everything “right” according to men’s advice throughout my 20s, I was always single & never felt good enough. Now I understand why men mostly expressed attraction/interest when I was perceived to be involved with one particular man; I’ve had men stare me down / talk to me when my date would go use the bathroom! I used to be jealous of other women who had flocks of men around them. Now I u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:05 AM
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That’s good to know, thanks so much for that info!! 🤗 glad to hear it’s been making a positive difference for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:21 AM
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Wtf!!! So disgusting. And DISAPPOINTING!!! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:20 AM
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The #1 argument in the PPD sub, in a nutshell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:23 AM
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Am I the only one who read this and thought it was a delusional woman who posted it?? Either way, 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ also, the use of “men are the prize” and “gentleman” ...Lmao whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:10 PM
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That must have been so annoying!! It’s ok if he acknowledged it the first time he ever saw the show and was surprised but EVERY episode?? 👎🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:23 AM
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🤣 that’s so true! They can make a fetish out of anything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:18 AM
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Every so often I see a meme/ gif floating around online of Jennifer Aniston from FRIENDS whose nipples are perky through her shirt on the show, caption is something like “one thing I miss about the 90s” or “why I watched FRIENDS” something like that. Like yeah okay it’s nice being bra free and comfortable but perverts still get to benefit from it 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:02 AM
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Can you use it anywhere on your body, or is it mainly for the face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:58 PM
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I am so confused. How did they make the leap from puppy being silly to step sibling porn? What am I missing?? Genuinely asking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 09:26 PM
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I am not surprised, wording and phrasing is everything!!! “Force a woman to have sex” of course that gets more honest results 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’ll bet they don’t understand what coercion is either. Especially if the woman feels like she can’t say no because she’s potentially unsafe & can’t get out. Something like this happened to me. Guy and I had been flirting for awhile. One night at a party we’re alone and he starts kissing me, touching me. After awhile I was not feeling it and changed my mind about it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 04:59 PM
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That is true 🤗 ty!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 12:26 AM
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Ugh, this is what I have realized and why I feel sad sometimes. Majority of the men who like me are not the kind of men I’d date at all, and the ones I give chances to I discover are LV. Occasionally I will meet a man I like because he’s my type physically, has his shit together, and his personality showed very positive qualities, especially the way they treat women in our social circles. But these men aren’t interested in me. So I move on and go about my solo life. Which is fine, but It feels s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:59 PM
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This! Omg. Common sense! How drastic is their “need” that they can’t even get through at least 8 hours minimum to wait to do this, let alone when they’re interacting with other people ?!🤢🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:53 PM
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This is a fantastic post! Thank you for sharing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:42 PM
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Nothing! Say ok good for you goodbye! Cease communication with men who say that. Sometimes they say this on purpose to test us to see if we will fight for their attention & be the one THEY choose. I think it really pushes LVM’s buttons that women Have the CHOICE to say NO to sex, which a lot them don’t (can’t) have as they see the more sex the better & have less opportunities. They go back and forth on their beliefs so much on this topic. One minute they insult women not putting out early enough…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:37 PM
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Wth?! Then what would even be the point in meeting him at all?! They want you two to meet because YOU are HIS type, but give no fucks about what incentive & benefit would be in it for YOU? I see you stated they were a friend of a friend; do they even know you that well to know/ care about what you want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 05:27 AM
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Thanks for your response! The detailed info is awesome actually! Screw these “tmi” labels , if anything we could benefit from hearing techniques that work for other women to get a new idea! The part about your hands going numb is so true 😹 sometimes it takes too long or the vibe is too powerful. Switching devices helps a lot. And I’m the same way regarding putting it just next to the clit not exactly on top! It’s only through experimenting we eventually figure out what we like! Men are so lazy w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:21 PM
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I hear you! Preach it 🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:30 AM
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I agree with you about the cats, they’re the BOSS (my cat is anyway 😹). I hope you’re able to get a kitty soon either way! It seems like no time of the year is really that great. Maybe spring? Idk about you but wearing summer dresses puts me in an extra confident mood and feel prettier, I get more in touch with my feminine side. And you make a good point. Sometimes it’s not even about ourselves feeling insecure or lonely because we can sit with it, ponder it, self reflect, and strive to improve.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:25 AM
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I’ve only tried a few, I like the Black Label Jack Rabbit vibrator, although it may not be as girthy as some women would prefer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:19 AM
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oh I believe that don’t worry 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:17 AM
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“Buyer’s remorse” omg that’s such a good way to describe the feeling! And yes why engage in something we would know better than to do at this point? Lasted all our 20s without it, what’s a little longer, especially during Covid 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:16 AM
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I tried a massage once and felt more stressed when I left. I don’t like strangers touching me... but if it works for you that’s wonderful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:15 AM
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Ugh I feel this so much. TMI - I’m 30, I’ve never had a bf and still haven’t had sex. I’ve dealt with feelings of loneliness, FOMO, and other accompanying feelings for a long time. But yet I always find myself rejecting my prospects both romantically and physically because they’re LVM and not worth my time/the risks that come with it. 90% of the time my vibrator, weighted blanket, cat, and own company satisfies, but I still had enough experience with men that I know the good parts & feel extreme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:35 PM
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Lol eye fucking 😂😂 exactly!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:24 PM
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For me personally, wearing baggy workout clothes is annoying and inconvenient. I’ve had to stop my workouts to roll up sleeves, pull up my pants, or my shirt falls up my stomach during certain stretches. Especially when I did kickboxing! Fitted clothes are more practical. Also, even if subconsciously their eyes take a look real quick, they can quickly look away and not look again! Staring is a choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:12 PM
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While I’m perfectly capable of carrying heavy things, i really love it when even just my platonic male friends see the opportunity to help me out and expect nothing in return. For example, I often went to the beach with a certain group of friends, and we’d have to climb down unsteady paths down the cliff (there aren’t really any paved pathways to the best spots) . They would insist to carry my stuff, maybe I had a light backpack at most. Always walked me to my car, or say to call them when I am …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:11 PM
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I didn’t care for the show. I fell asleep every. single. episode. And again when I tried to rewatch them. Barely made it through two seasons. I remember going to parties & people would spend a whole hour talking about the show, but I was bored to death & it would’ve been rude to leave at the time. Also So much of the nudity was clearly for the pleasure of male viewers too. I didn’t see the point most of the time. (I would apply that to many forms of media, actually)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:01 PM
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Omfg... this is so terrifying! Look at how they’re surrounding her and won’t let her through! I hope she got the fuck out of there safely, or got inside the station and got the police called! I am shaking watching that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:54 PM
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I love this show, the cast, and the characters they portray. You really see the Rose Family’s growth over time throughout the series. Plus it’s hilarious! If you haven’t watched it, you should, it’s on Netflix US!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:43 PM
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I don’t know. What I do know is that if I have to justify any reason beyond saying “it’s gross/I don’t want to” I am OUT 👎🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:14 PM
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Omg are you me 🤣😭 Isn’t it amazing how apparent things are in hindsight!? Even as a pickme I would do the devil’s advocate thing with men who complained about having a gf, like how it’s “expensive” or “a lot of work” to have a gf. I would ask them questions about why it bothers them, why don’t they ask her to go 50/50, does she do the same for them, why don’t they find someone else who will do that, etc. Answers usually consisted of how men are expected to be providers in a relationship (which t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:47 PM
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In the words of Lucille Bluth, GOOD FOR HER! 💋💁🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:58 PM
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Hypocrites! 👎🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:03 AM
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You’re right, when it comes to men’s bodies, there’s not much to look at for most of them lol. I’m 4’11” so I’ve really never had a problem with finding someone taller, but I seem to have the opposite experience. Men closer to 6’ never cease to point how short / petite / little / midget I am (yes that word too) and ...make fun of it?! It’s a little scary when they say something like i could “easily be picked up /thrown”. One random guy at a club actually did that when I was a bit tipsy and a guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:53 AM
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Ive been watching her participate on British panel shows for years, she’s hilarious! A lot of them are on YouTube
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:02 AM
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It bugs the fucking shit out of me that men are encouraged to fuck as many women as they want/can, as fast as they can, as often as they can and they are seen as bachelors “sowing their wild oats” ....yet can still decide to get married to whatever woman is convenient for them at the time that is convenient for them with no consequences to their reputation. Meanwhile if a woman does the same she loses her value and her reputation tarnished. Fuck everything about that shit. Sorry for any run on s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:53 AM
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Idk whether to applaud you for an excellent observation👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻, or put a sad face because the key statement in there is the requirement of both parties caring for each other to the same degree/ same way and listen to each other, which is not as common😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:41 AM
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Oh yes absolutely! I was using a “universal you” when I was writing the comment, like for any FDS users reading it 😅 I agree with your post 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:10 AM
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Omg good point! Sometimes it really is about having the last word! You gave me an epiphany of some past conversations...I used to explain to an old girl friend of mine why she needed to stop sending novels to her ex’s who cheated, causing an endless argument that resulted in her forgiving him and “working on their relationship”. she couldn’t understand why I would just cut all communication very early on with anyone who caused me the least bit of disrespect (this was years before FDS too, go me!…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:07 AM
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talking out loud to yourself DOES help with organizing your thoughts, it even works in work settings if you have your own office 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:01 AM
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Exactly! Sounds like you’re handling it well! and yes you’re right, LVM don’t give a fuck about our paragraphs. Might as well get it out of your system, reread if you must, and delete instead of letting him see it / let it see the light of day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:00 AM
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As someone who finds a cathartic release with verbal communication, I highly recommend going into your notes app and using the dictation feature to talk into the phone about what you want to vent as if you’re talking to another person, like a therapist. It helps a lot and prevents you from interacting with the guy, and block him instead with a clearer head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:57 PM
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Google: “On most ships, the First Mate is the officer who ranks just below the Captain of the ship and takes over in the event that the Captain can no longer perform his duties. “ Why am I not surprised!? 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:30 AM
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Idk who edits the playlist but I suggest that song “FRIENDS” by Anne-Marie & Marshmello
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:42 AM
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Time, self reflection, and FDS. You got this 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:32 AM
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I struggle with letting go of this kind of validation (or lack of it) even while understanding its coming from LVM, but I’m working on it. The way you articulated it felt relatable and I feel less alone so thank you for posting it. We will get better with consistent mental reinforcement of FDS teachings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:22 AM
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This is pathetic. I’m willing to bet this guy has never even volunteered a day in his life either. Doesn’t sound like a giver to any extent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:17 PM
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Thanks! It’s really not a big deal anymore :) And good to know, happy for your friend! :) We women need to focus on other forms of self validation anyway. Like even if we do care about body hair maintenance in the beginning, what happens when we get pregnant/ have kids? Gonna be too tired to maintain / care .... might as well show ourselves in our natural state early on so it’s not a surprise later lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:21 PM
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Love it! Keep it going!! I’m sorry to hear the favoritism towards your brother had such a crappy impact on you. It really is traumatizing. A family unit should be full of love and support, but apparently those are realities for the few and dreams for the many. I hope things get better with your family, if that’s what you want of course (to continue your relationship with them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:42 AM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:57 AM
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Im middle eastern & used to shave my arms back in high school because of bullying. In college switched to bleaching only. Now I don’t bother with maintenance because it has literally zero affect on my life and accomplishments! If anyone doesn’t like it THEY DONT HAVE TO LOOK AT ME (which works in my favor anyway because one less asshole to deal with! Lol). Honestly the only people who still make comments are my relatives...which is fucking annoying because they’re WOMEN of the SAME CULTURE, they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:54 AM
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That is so frustrating!!! Of course the task was only put on you because of those expectations 🙄 Are you the oldest as well by any chance? My brother is younger and he gets shit from my parents now at 26 about how he’s behind or whatever in life, doesn’t apply himself, etc. They look at me and go “help him!! Tell him to do XYZ!!” and I would respond “nope you raised him to be that way, and you put all the hard work /expectations on me and scolded me for very minor mistakes/ disagreements. “ Wher…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:32 AM
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that is a good point! It’s so deeply ingrained within us as women, yet men don’t even think about it! Ah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:50 AM
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Ugh....earlier this year we had a family gathering. One of my mom’s girlfriends who has two sons saw me helping with putting leftovers away & doing dishes. She commented to my mom “it is SO NICE to have a daughter/girl in the house!” I simultaneously was annoyed at the obvious gender role expectations (I help clean up because it’s kind to do so), but also felt kinda bad because I was surprised, knowing her sons they seemed like responsible guys who could take care of themselves& others, especial…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:14 AM
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I haven’t actively dated since I found FDS, but I’ve started accepting the mistakes I made in my 20s. I’ve spent that entire time insecure and lonely being depressed that I never had a boyfriend or sex, or anything sexual. I thought there was something wrong with me because all the women around me could find themselves a guy without any effort, even though I was the one doing things guys claimed they liked or complained about other women not doing. I thought being cool girl would find me a guy b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:45 AM
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That sub is where someone commented talking shit about FDS and thats how I found this amazing sub 👏🏻👏🏻🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:00 AM
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That does make sense! you make a good effort by trying to distinguish if it really is an attraction or you want the validation (and why!) I think my yes/no mentality definitely helps with boundaries, I’ve never felt like I settled for a guy out of loneliness. On the other hand, abundance mentality is hard, as there’s less options I’m allowing myself, so I have to be content with being single for long term lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:12 AM
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That’s interesting, I’ve never heard of that. Gonna look that up! Thanks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:49 AM
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Yes I agree, I think most people fall into the Normal range, but within that range my body still has a yes or no automatic response. The “become hot to my eyes” just doesn’t seem to happen, I’m trying to understand that. Maybe it really is just me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:43 AM
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your description of pass /fail + the development that comes after is actually what I was trying to say! Just couldn’t think of how to express it. You’re right, passes without context really don’t mean much. And yup porn is not helping them at all. Were number scales even a thing before porn became widely available (and free) on the internet?! Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:39 AM
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To me it isn’t. I can’t rate a guy on a scale out of 10. I either want to touch him / kiss him or i don’t. Whereas a lot of men rate women and compare, and will have sex no matter what number they consider her. I’m just focusing on looks in my question so maybe I’ll edit that last part out. Maybe I wasn’t clear but it’s a shower thought that came to me today! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:31 AM
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This explains so much....why I didn’t always attract men when alone but did attract random men when I was out with other specific types of men (men I actually found attractive as opposed to platonic friends). They would stare at me until my date would go to the bathroom then try to talk to me. Ha! Thanks for the epiphany !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:26 AM
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Yup same I’ve posted about my terrible experiences making first moves on the datingoverthirty sub (before I found this sub), and not only did I get downvoted, but there were ALWAYS petty responses like “what do YOU bring to the table?” “Welcome to what men have to deal with, get over it” “but men love when you do that, you must not be as attractive as you think you are” etc. Once I found this sub it all FINALLY made sense! Pretty sure I found FDS from someone talking shit about it on that sub to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:20 AM
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Totally relate to everything you said. I don’t get the comments that say “men want women to be virgins” . Where is that belief coming from? That’s not true at all from my experience, they RUN the other way if I ever admit to that. It is impossible for me to believe “a real man/ HVM would not care and stay” Because it’s never happened. Yet without acknowledging the anxieties of the situation, the less likely I would actually be able to follow through with it! All I want is to experience someone w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:24 PM
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I feel you, every comment. Next month I’ll be 30, a 30 year old virgin, no BFs or FWBs to my name. It sucks a lot and non virgins don’t empathize with me at all. I want to experience things that I need another person to do and I can’t do by myself, like oral :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:32 AM
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Same. I used to bleach, but not anymore. I am hairy everywhere else though so I have to take an hour long shower just to prep for a pool party or a beach 😒 Edit : love that last comment 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:22 AM
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One time I went to a coworker’s house that was located up in some random area of the woods late at night (first mistake) ...when I got there his house was like the size of a large shed. Inside it was so disgusting... I was just expecting toys to be on the floor or something because he had two young kids, recently single father (wife cheated on him and she left about two months before that). This dude had gigantic spider webs AND giant spiders that could fit in the palm of my hand. They were EVER…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:59 PM
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