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Can definitely confirm I had no idea my husband’s size and my guess was over an inch off the actual size.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:47 AM
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It surprises me that anyone spends enough time around someone else’s butthole that this is a real issue. Not kink shaming, just surprised how significant butthole hair is to people (not you specifically).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:17 AM
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I was just pointing out that you asked if nobody ever told her. I’m sure the number of people who saw her butthole was limited so if you couldn’t mention it, my point was that it’s likely nobody else probably could either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 12:52 PM
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Did no one ever tell her? She was the love of your life and YOU didn’t- how do you tell someone that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 04:04 AM
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Yes, I’m the same way and a hypocrite because I really hate my voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 04:01 AM
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Difference between small and dainty though. Callous that shit up so they look like working hands!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 04:00 AM
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I find it subjective, but reading through the comments, see that most people aren’t coming from the same place I am. I agree with a lot of people’s takes and admit that I’m in the minority when it comes to this subject. It kind of baffles me, actually. I’ve never been attracted to men who women flock to. My mentality has always been “ew” with men like that. I much prefer low-key men and that preference landed me an absolutely incredible husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:18 AM
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I am very, very attracted to intelligence. I think I understand your argument, but it’s a drop dead issue for me that my partner has to be intelligent. I’m going to follow that up by saying the dumbest thing I could possibly say, but if anyone has ever seen Criminal Minds- fans seem to love Derek Morgan’s character (and he’s very good looking). I am a Spencer Reed girl 100%, just for his brains alone though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 03:21 PM
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Disagree. If someone is getting harassed or bullied, I want my man to intervene. And he would.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 07:16 PM
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Thanks! My phone did change “pissing” to mark his territory to “posing” so I just changed it back. I was hoping that’s what you meant by your post but it’s late and my reading comprehension gets iffy when I’m tired.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 05:01 AM
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I don’t feel like the OP or any comments adequately speak to my feelings as a women, and yes I’m aware my feelings aren’t universal, but here’s my take: I like a man who is nice, and it is also correct I am turned off if he’s spineless. I want him to be able to speak up, calmly and confidently, but not aggressively. He should know who he is and be solid in his beliefs, not get pushed around, but respect others and what they think and believe too. I don’t think it’s necessary for a man to strut a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 04:52 AM
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I’d be homeless with all the dogs. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 07:55 AM
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Are they all just mutts over there?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 07:07 AM
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Meh. We’re taking dogs now and he’s chilled out a lot. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:46 AM
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Rottweilers and pitbulls have really bad reputations, but people who have them will tell you that you can’t get a sweeter pet. Oscar, my Rottweiler, was the calmest, most docile dog I’ve ever known. He worked with me in schools and daycares and let abused and foster kids read to him and pet him during hard therapy sessions. Pitbulls have terrible reputations but if you look at a sub for owners, most of us know they’re giant babies. They have very strong bites so they get a lot of attention when …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:44 AM
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I always get my ass chewed if I mention it outside of my designated subs, but the best dog I’ve ever had in my life was a Rottweiler and I’ve got two amazing rescue pibbles now. Probably won’t ever have anything but a pibble ever again. Most loyal, loving dog anyone could ask for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:25 AM
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I like looking at other peoples dogs on Reddit because I try not to be a toxic person. With your links to a subreddit for short people and scholarly article about the discrimination of them, plus assertion that’s it’s the main thing USA women are looking for, I struggle to believe you don’t bring toxicity into your in-person life whether you’re aware of it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:14 AM
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There are biases against so many traits. What I think is a major turnoff is when someone takes a trait they have that might be less desirable, then obsess over it and decide that’s the one and only reason for all of their problems. You’ve completely shut down any possibility that you have other flaws. Nobody is going to entertain the idea that being short is your only problem when you’re this annoying. You could be sitting in front of me, only three feet tall, and I’d still tell you that your bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:05 AM
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So you think bitching at a random stranger ad nauseam about the perils of being short, being completely hellbent on your victimhood, and not conceding that you MIGHT have some other flaws isn’t a personality deficit? You need to have an honest talk with yourself because I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:59 AM
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I assume what I do because of how quick you were to jump my shit and form a conclusion about and entire gender based on a very small component of something I said. Healthy people don’t do that. And no, I’m not going to read a bunch of posts from other angry people who confirm your bias. I suggest you stop doing it too and get in a healthier frame of mind. It might change your outlook and dating experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:53 AM
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I’m not trying to be rude although admittedly I know this is rude, but I am betting that most (not all) of you guys who come on Reddit and air your grievances about being short have some other flaw or personality deficit and it’s just way too easy to blame your troubles on being short.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:37 AM
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Holy crap dude. Are you the short guy ambassador? You can speak on behalf of every short man? There are PLENTY of short men who do just fine, and many leading men in Hollywood who are short. It’s almost like, you know, you need to have a personality to be successful and you can’t make anger your entire being.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:35 AM
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I was calling my anecdote an anecdote. You said my anecdote proves men are less focused on looks than women. I said no it doesn’t, because it’s just MY anecdote. My experience isn’t universal. YOU fail to understand that your experience isn’t universal, though. You personally having difficulty attracting women doesn’t mean all short men do. I actually do not prefer tall men. I am a pretty attractive woman. Believe it or not, we are individuals. What I find on here is men blaming their height for…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:26 AM
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Okay…. While I appreciate the snark, I have way more anecdotes about attractive women with less attractive men. Most of my friends are knockouts and I’m the only one who’s married to someone taller than me, and he’s only 5’9. Out of my immediate group of friends I’d say one of them has a husband I’d consider good looking, but since that wasn’t really the question I didn’t mention it. Edit: and since it’s an anecdote, it really proves nothing. Take your rage elsewhere. Edit#2: before you jump my …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:06 AM
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I really doubt with the amount of time people spend online, that online dating is declining. Possible that dating in general is declining because of the pandemic or for other reasons, but unlikely people are dating the old fashioned way. I was a huge fan of OLD but I’m an introvert and really enjoyed getting to know people through a week or two of messages before meeting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 02:09 AM
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I do believe there was research done on this but am too lazy to look it up. I had an interesting talk with my mom about it once because she worked with a VERY handsome man who was married to a VERY ugly woman, and she said he was completely in love with her, had been for 25 years, several kids, was faithful as they come. The talk lead to some googling on our part and we learned men married to less attractive women were, in general, happier. I believe the reason was because they got married for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:33 AM
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My husband has a circular electric razor that fits in the palm of his hand and cuts in every angle/direction. Before he showers, he take it to his head and shaves. It doesn’t even take him five full minutes. He got this razor a couple months ago and has really reduced maintenance time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 03:39 PM
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I tend to be more attracted to men who aren’t traditionally good looking. In a lot of cases they have a much better personality and I become physically attracted to them because of that. I was not attracted to my first husband, although I didn’t realize that. He was kind of good looking but very, very overweight. Over time that did weigh on me. The main reason is that there were things I wanted to do that he couldn’t because of his size, and ultimately I resented it and became less interested in…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 02:53 AM
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I see a few valid points in your assertion. I’m going to take your points one by one, and please know that my disagreement with some of your points is coming from a place of respect and not hostility. School hairstyle: You having to have short hair is wildly less prohibitive than most dress code standards for girls. Girls have to wear a certain length pant/dress/skirt, can’t have holes in their jeans, can’t wear leggings, can’t wear tight clothes, can’t wear shirts with spaghetti straps or tube …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 04:54 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 04:22 AM
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Agreed- the husband and wife were in agreement about whether or not the wife would work. That’s really the kind of thing a couple should discuss before marriage. My husband knew before we got married that I wasn’t really interested in any kind of job, despite my degree and qualifications, I just didn’t find it fulfilling. He didn’t care at all and makes plenty of money. We agreed that I’d handle most of the household tasks while he worked. It was actually a pretty luxurious life until I got preg…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 03:24 PM
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In a lot of cases, my personal opinion (feel free to disagree) is this lacks important and valid context. I think it’s justifiable to be annoyed with your husband for not working full-time if it’s putting strain on the household. It’s easier for men to get jobs and they generally are paid more, so unless the wife can support the household and his lack of employment was agreed upon, her frustration is valid. A wife’s lack of full time employment not being an issue in divorce is probably because i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 03:59 AM
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I clearly stated in my first comment that I’m not going to debate because minds are already made up. I’ll provide a link but you’ll just do what people with your mentality do, which is attack and attempt to delegitimize the source. This provides some examples of male privilege. You will probably find it unrelatable, and that’s the problem. To be fair and honest, there are a few things on this list that I think aren’t the absolute most solid arguments, but many of them are very valid. I will not …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 03:01 AM
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Never said impossible. I said it’s hard. Empathy isn’t a trait everyone has. You don’t need empathy to see certain forms of privilege in everyday life. Improve your reading comprehension if you wish to have a debate of any substance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 12:04 AM
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I think that really depends on the subject. If you’re talking strictly about dating, yes, I’d empathize with men and say they don’t have it easy, and would say in a lot of ways it’s significantly harder for them, just in different ways. If you’re just talking about regular life and not specifically dating, I don’t believe men “want” to be oppressed. I am not going to engage in a debate about this, but I do think men are more privileged, particularly white men. To notice, though, you’d have to se…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 09:11 AM
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I’m curious what kind of empathy you’re looking for, and what you’re saying to women that they’re not receptive to. Can you provide some examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 04:54 AM
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Men divorcing their wives for younger women is literally the subject of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:38 AM
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I hate to be the “actually,” person here, but you’re not completely right in your first paragraph. Yes, women as a whole leave before men, but if you look more closely at the data, you see the numbers shift with age. Total, per year, women (combined ages) leave more. If you look specifically at divorces of people over, let’s say 50 years old, those numbers shift. Men DO leave for younger women. I will not claim it’s the primary reason or that men initiate more divorce at that age, because I do n…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:17 AM
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Wait, he’s not an underage man?
/r/PussyPassDenied11/08/21 10:03 AM
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Well if YOU have heard it flow that way a million times, it must be so. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 02:42 PM
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My husband and I met in our mid 30’s. We looked great, we’re financially secure, and deeply in love. Best decision of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:44 AM
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I can hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:32 AM
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And what if that’s not what he meant?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:30 AM
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How could an app that’s 80% men ruin ALL women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:09 PM
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I think you might want to reassess your position. How could an app that’s 80% men succeed at ruining ALL women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:08 PM
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I think you might want to reassess your position. How could an app that’s 80% men succeed at ruining ALL women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:08 PM
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My comment was in response to the douche who essentially said women want to be hit on by attractive guys. Wrong. Many women just want to live their lives and not get hit on at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:10 AM
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You explicitly said flirt, not talk to. Many women don’t want to be flirted with at work or the gym, which is the point I made. You replied with a “boo hoo” comment and asked why you should give empathy. That sounds like you don’t respect women or their boundaries and yeah, if you’re going to “flirt” with them when they don’t want it, you shouldn’t be surprised when they consider it harassment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:57 PM
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That’s irrelevant to this particular conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:24 PM
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He wouldn’t. You don’t know him. I do. He’s not that kind of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:20 PM
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My husband says the same thing! I’ve never noticed that but that doesn’t mean it’s not happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 07:10 AM
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I’m sure you get the chance, that’s totally believable. Some people just don’t grasp something they can’t relate to and that speaks more about them than anyone else. I know my husband has had chances, but I never worry. I’m thankful he’s the kind of person he is, because I know that while his love for me is a big factor that keeps him faithful, the way he conducts himself and the standards he lives by don’t permit him to even consider cheating. I’ve known plenty of people who are the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 07:02 AM
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I agree with what you said completely. My husband would never cheat on me. I know he absolutely adores me, but that’s not why I say he wouldn’t cheat. He wouldn’t cheat because no matter how he feels about me, he holds himself to a high standard. If our marriage was struggling, absolutely terrible, and he couldn’t stand me, he still wouldn’t cheat. It’s not who he is. Drives me bonkers when people think they can classify an entire group of people the same way rather than recognizing them as indi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:39 AM
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It’s cute how a man is going to tell a woman what women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:50 AM
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As for me personally, I try to be empathetic towards everyone’s personal struggles. It’s ridiculous, though, if you think that being rejected romantically by women gives you license to harass them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:35 AM
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You’re wrong, but go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:37 AM
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I proved society is abusing men? How?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:56 AM
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Maybe we need men to quit pretending they’re the victims of abuse and start proactively listening to what women are saying. You SHOULDN’T hit on women at work and most women DON’T want to be hit on at the gym. Accept the fact that women get continuously bombarded with male attention and don’t always like or want it, and just because you mean well doesn’t mean that she knows that and doesn’t mean you’re not just another random man who’s bothered her for the 50th time that day. Think in terms outs…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:21 AM
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Imagine being so clueless that you think women are actually doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:16 AM
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Trying to date at 50 is irrelevant. “The wall” is something those crazy men say happens at 30, sometimes they even say that’s too old. My mother is a widow and decided she might be ready to date or at least look for a male friend. She’s 68. I made her an account on POF and her inbox was flooded with messages from men her age. I helped my recently divorced friend too. She was 55 at the time- she went on several dates and ultimately met her husband. I don’t know if it’s some sort of revenge fantas…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:52 PM
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All of this. I married in my early twenties, got divorced in my late 20’s, and was dating in my 30’s. Absolutely no problems getting dates and met some fantastic men. I married the man of my dreams but have nothing but respect for the men I dated while I was looking for him. I have plenty of friends who are dating, and having no problems either. “The wall” is a fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:09 PM
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“Trust me that whatever a woman perceives to be reality… is reality to her.” Isn’t that true of like, everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 04:42 AM
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Yeah, a lot of comments about prevalence of cheating by men in IT surprises me. I would be curious to see that broken down into specific fields of IT. My husband works in IT, and two of my best friends have husbands in IT. Different fields but same concept- my husband is a programmer, one friend’s husband is in DevOps, and the other is a freelance programmer and also writes code for cyber security companies. None of these 3 men have a cheating bone in their body- I can say that with complete con…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:08 PM
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I guess it could be a path to inceldom if your standards are Kate moss thin, Elon musk rich, and Einstein smart. If those are your standards I think you have more to address within yourself to be looking for a partner anyway. The kind of “buts” I’m talking about are things like hygiene, habits, cleanliness in general, mismatched expectations, annoying qualities you might be willing to overlook at first but will drive you mad over time, stuff like that. When I began dating seriously I knew exactl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 04:09 PM
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I don’t have a problem with people compromising, but I agree with you. My biggest piece of advice for my single friends is to look for somebody with no “buts.” “He’s great, BUT ______.” “I really like him, BUT ____.” After a while the little buts you’re willing to overlook at first become annoying big buts and that’s not fair to you or the person you’re dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:19 AM
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I can’t speak for anyone but myself. Your particular stance, whether it’s intentional or intrinsic, means (or at least would cause many women to believe it means) that when you do have sex with someone, there’s a greater chance it’s because you actually like her and aren’t just using her. It would also suggest you haven’t had sex with 56 billion people and that matters to some women. I actually had more reasons but unfortunately they slipped away and I can’t seem to recall. I have epilepsy and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 04:47 AM
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I actually think it’s a really respectable position. I can also understand how women could feel insulted by it, given the collective societal assumption is that men will hump anything with a pulse, but a woman’s choice to get offended instead of listening to your rationale is not your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 03:40 AM
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Can you clarify? Sorry if someone else has already asked but I’m not scrolling through 150 comments to check. Do you mean you don’t have casual sex with complete strangers, or you don’t have sex with women you know until you get to know them on a deeper level? I’m assuming it’s the latter but I’m skillful at misinterpreting things so I thought I’d confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 03:35 AM
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I’ll bite. I’m willing to take this challenge. I am an above average attractive woman who regularly had hundreds of men in my inbox. I also have a degree in soc/anth/psych and helped develop some of the personality tests we use today. That might make men uniquely positioned to make a fake dating profile. What I don’t like about this piece presented by OP (absolutely no offense to OP, I definitely agree it’s easier for women), is the overkill on “Daisy’s” profile could factor into the number of r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:43 AM
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I picked it up tonight and politely mentioned my issues, especially since there was a book of cakes they could make and it had exactly what I was looking for. Oh well. She’s two and won’t remember her cake anyway. It’s cake. It’s going to be a turd for the next day for everyone anyway. The bakery employee told me SHE was in the middle of transitioning snd getting pumped full of female hormones (explains the rudeness) and that she also has a learning disability. I’m markings this one down as I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 07:14 AM
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I really don’t know what based means and I’ve tried looking it up. Either stay true to yourself, or a crackhead if I’m understanding correctly. Unfortunately, despite my deep belief that all we really want to be is who we truly are and to be accepted for that, I still carry a gutting amount of self doubt and am afraid of literally everything. I used to be fearless, said what I meant but diplomatically, and undeniably myself. Now I can’t even meet new people because in the first five minutes I’m …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 07:08 AM
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Oh wow that was pretty dead on. That marriage was the only time in my life I’ve ever been cheated on. To be honest, I had really nasty thoughts at the time that felt so unlike me. I was with him for who (I thought) he was. But when he cheated on me mentally it was like “fucking really? Look at you, look at me, and tell me again why you did the stupidest thing you’ve ever done in your life. I didn’t say it and it’s the only time I felt it. And yes, he painted me as a supervillain. He said I “took…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 09:49 AM
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I’ve definitely seen an attractive man with an ugly woman and my mom has a whole theory about it. She worked at a sheriff department as a transcriptionist and did fingerprints, so she worked with the deputies a lot. There were many good looking ones. One of the most good looking ones, she noticed, had a rather ugly/plain wife and he ADORED her. At that time they’d been married 30+ years or something and he was crazy about her. She’s known a couple people like that, I have too. My experience isn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 09:38 AM
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Why though? I’ve never put this together until you said it but I’ve sometimes been mistreated by men. Sometimes I’ve rejected them and they get mad- A guy at work was harassing me a lot and I told my boss,who told him to back off. Dude wouldn’t speak a single word to me all shift. That night he went to the bar I usually went to (small town, but lots of bars) with a knife, and got arrested. Rumor has it he was looking for me. A bartender at a different pub called the cops on a second man because …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 05:49 AM
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I agree and sorry people came down so hard on you. You didn’t come across to me as a “not all women” to me personally, but maybe because I’m a woman. Brains and heart get “fuck me eyes” for my husband, and always has, every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:01 AM
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Says a guy who’s username is literally pimp. I think I’ll go ahead and not feel insulted for my lack of maturity.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 02:32 AM
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My ex-husband hated my guts, but LOVED telling other men he was married to me. We graduated in the same class, and I had no idea who he was when we were in school. He insisted on going to the 10 year reunion, which I thought was odd because he spent so much time discussing how much he hated school. Turns out he just wanted to rub it in everyone’s face that he married me. I witnessed one conversation go “you married HER? Good job” with a handshake, and didn’t hear the end of how good it felt to “…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:14 AM
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Thanks! That definitely didn’t turn up in my search for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 03:28 PM
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The only one I can see has just one post from several years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 04:29 AM
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Haha! You’d be surprised what you can read between the lines in someone’s writing. If there are short, simple answers/statements it complicates things but when I was using OLD, there was an “about me” section and most people put a lot of information in that space, so it was helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 05:44 PM
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What am I missing that I can’t see a TRP sub? I’m pretty new to Reddit and have found a blue pill sub, but no red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:28 AM
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I wasn’t offended! Just clarifying my position in case anyone misunderstood what I was trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:10 AM
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I’m 5’4-5’5, and realize we’ve got a height difference, but height just doesn’t matter to me. I’ve dated tall men and short men alike- my preference is average height but if he was short, I wouldn’t be disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:09 AM
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You’re mostly right. When I was using OLD I could detect confidence and charisma in how men wrote, but I also have a soc/anth/psych degree and pick up on subtleties, and am a much worse judge of character in person. Using OLD, I actually never had a bad date and met amazing people, but do realize that isn’t the average user experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:05 AM
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Mansplain to women what they want, daddy, it’s soooo hot. 🙄
/r/ExRedPill04/07/21 06:58 PM
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To be fair, I think at some point I did say that I realize my experience isn’t universal. I’m not trying to debate anyone’s points, I’m expressing surprise that some of these things are an issue BECAUSE I haven’t seen it. My lived experience showed me something different- but at no point did I say that I believed my anecdotes were representative of the population. If I were actually debating someone, I’d bring more than my experience to the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:33 AM
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I very much appreciate the conversations that have broken out on this thread, a lot of them I think are insightful and healthy rather than some of the mindless arguing I see happening a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:29 AM
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There interesting. I’ve been married long enough that tinder wasn’t a thing when I was online dating so the whole swiping/matching wasn’t a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:25 AM
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Why do you think that is? I know online women have men coming at them from damn near every direction if it’s anything like it used to be, but I’m curious why you do so much better in person than online. Is it just a matter of having the kind of personality that’s likable?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:23 AM
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Literally none of those things you mentioned would be dealbreakers for me. My husband is 5’9-5’10, doesn’t really use social media, and is extremely diplomatic/polite. He’s not a pushover- he’s quietly confident and will say something when he needs to but the rest of the time he’s unbelievably chill. He makes enough money that I can choose to stay home while our kids are little but we’ve got to budget and can’t go crazy on luxuries. All of those little things: the quiet life, the good natured pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:19 AM
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That really sucks. I truly wouldn’t have thought 5’7 would be a dealbreaker. I actually prefer men on the shorter side (or used to, before I got married) and it surprises me that height is so important. My closest friends are all 5’10-5’11 with very successful careers, are beautiful, smart, thin, and could probably take their pick of men. They’re all married to someone shorter than they are. I’m curious if demographics play a part at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 03:17 AM
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I realize my life experience isn’t universal but I have noticed the same thing as you- the men I know who are short (I’ll define “short” as under 5’8) all ended up with short women (under 5’4). I didn’t make a habit of asking about how the casual sex market was for them, but I guess it’s possible that it was harder to find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 03:02 AM
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I’m really surprised a 5’7 man is struggling like that. Has anyone directly told him height was an issue? Not debating, genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:51 AM
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To be fair, I think there’s a pretty significant difference between telling her she did the right thing, and telling her she did what she THOUGHT was right at the time. My takeaway from that wasn’t that the therapist thought she made a good choice.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 05:21 AM
1

Mansplain to us more about what we want, daddy. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 12:37 AM
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I actually never said I was 100% unbothered by it, all I said was I never asked and don’t want to know. I’m also positive that despite not knowing a number, it’s below 12, not that I’m concerned about my ranking. We each put in an effort to keep things fresh and enjoy satisfying each other. Not to be judgmental but it seems like a pretty sad existence if your primary concern is whether or not you could get a better lover than the one you have. Sounds exhausting. I’d much rather keep it spicy wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 10:50 PM
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Assuming you’re a man, how do you feel so comfortable speaking on behalf of women, specifically virgin women? I find it hard to believe that if you know any, you probably haven’t had this discussion with them. Is this just a fantasy you’ve concocted in your head? My question was specifically towards men who want virgin women because I can’t even offer conjecture on this topic. I’m not a man, and I’ve never had this conversation with a man. But you just had the balls to tell me what virgin women …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 10:36 PM
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I think it’s weird that men care, and I don’t know if women would so I can’t answer but for myself. I never asked my husband and he never asked me. None of my past boyfriends asked either. Honestly I don’t want to know or talk about anyone who was before me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:22 AM
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Serious question, not being snarky. In this hypothetical, ideal situation where a guy would be able to easily find a virgin, would he also remain a virgin or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:26 AM
1

That internal monologue often stresses people out, especially overweight people who are emotional eaters, and actually causes them to eat more, not less.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:37 AM
1

Like I said already, family court is more than custody and child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:04 AM
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I’m not touching the first question, since there’s some haziness regarding the definition. As for the second- I think it’s dehumanizing and degrading for a woman to knowingly keep that information from a man and let him think he’s raising his own child, while simultaneously another man has a child in the world he doesn’t know about. That doesn’t even get into the trauma that could be inflicted on the child. There should be some kind of punishment for inflicting that much pain on innocent people,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:26 AM
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What in tarnation did that dude think he was doing sleeping with his brother’s girlfriend though?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:19 AM
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Well if you say so, it must be true. You sound like a bonafide expert on all things XX.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:12 AM
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Your experience isn’t universal and your opinion isn’t fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:00 AM
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There is more to family court than custody and child support. In cases of domestic violence, family court often re-victimizes women and children. The most recent tool utilized is abusive fathers using the term “parental alienation” in attempt to convince the court that the mothers are simply trying to alienate the fathers from the children, even in the face of actual evidence/police reports/restraining orders. While I agree with that family court is unfair to fathers in many instances, particula…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 05:59 AM
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There are many women who would tell you family court is rigged against women. Family court hurts both sexes in different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:15 AM
1

It’s in the way you talk. It’s crude and spiteful. I’d date a man with a facial defect back when I was dating, no problem. What I wouldn’t have dated is someone full of bitterness and anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 07:07 PM
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Your comparison might make sense if was just ripping on unattractive people. I’m not. I’m specifically talking about YOUR bad attitude, the vile hatred of women and “chad” that resounds throughout the echo chamber subs people like you frequent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:22 PM
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Your experience isn’t universal and you can’t present your opinion as fact. The bitterness oozes out in your comments, even. Nobody wants to surround themselves with people so negative. Comparing looks to poverty isn’t an apt comparison but if you need this outlook go keep your narrative from falling apart, have at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 01:57 PM
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I really don’t believe that at all. Carrying around that kind of bitterness and victim mentality has to bubble over.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 01:13 PM
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Oh my goodness they’re so spoiled it’s ridiculous. Caesar Milan would judge us so Judily but darn it. After what they’ve been through, they deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:13 AM
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I was referring to your apparent disdain for women. Glad you’re not seriously injured though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:40 AM
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The “chads” (I hate that term) may have an ego and live according to it, but some of these uglier guys are MEAN and I agree completely, they’re bitter and sexually frustrated. It seems they’ve fabricated a narrative in which they’re a victim: women and “chad” are to blame and it has nothing at all to do with their shitty personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 02:59 AM
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Who hurt you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 02:55 AM
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Two pitties (blocky headed wiggle butts) rescued from horrible conditions many years ago. Now they never have to go a day without food, shelter, water, or love. They are home.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 02:51 AM
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My husband is easily the kindest person I’ve ever known, devoid of any scrap of vanity. He also achieved his physique at home, mostly using a tree branch and exercise bands, some weights, and running to the nearby school and working out on the bleachers. He didn’t spent an excessive amount of time per day doing it- it was just part of his routine. This is so subjective and just my biased perspective, but personally my threshold is somewhere between looking healthy/fit and having arms the size of…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 04:14 PM
1

The answers by women really surprised me, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 05:08 AM
1

It doesn’t apply as much, but it’s not a make or break either way. My first husband was very overweight and I wouldn’t do it again because he couldn’t do a lot of things I wanted to do. My husband now was very muscular when we met/got married. On our honeymoon he was mistaken for an American Ninja Warrior and was built like it. Seven years later, he’s lost some of that and is average/muscular and I find him every bit as attractive. My mentality actually is more applicable with bodybuilder types …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 05:06 AM
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Even if I was a 0 I could still appreciate a fashionable man regardless if I was able to date one. I can’t answer such a subjective question but I used to be (pre-kids, pre-what “good men” would call “wall”) very attractive. Zero problems getting dates and I was always the one who got to decide if a first date got a second- the man was always willing. The group of women I call friends are all very attractive. When we’d go out, we didn’t have to buy a drink all night. Now we’re all married and no…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 04:59 AM
2

I don’t think it’s really fair to take your personal experience and present it to the rest of the world as fact. Your experience isn’t universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 04:53 PM
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I am going to go against much of the group, and it’s just a matter of personal opinion, so I don’t think this is an issue in which anyone can be wrong. Please don’t rage at me because of my answer. A man who is dressed exceptionally well is one I’d probably reject 100% of the time. Of course, hygiene, cleanliness, etc. are important and it’s a turn off if someone looks like a slob. That said, I personally see a very well dressed man and can’t help but think he’s got more vanity than I’m interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:05 PM
2

The statistics overwhelmingly oppose your position on this matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:52 PM
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Okay, that’s fair but my point was that they don’t do it to protect themselves from sexual assault from women. Of course, everyone takes safety precautions but the topic was sexual assault, I didn’t think I needed to be so explicit in my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:40 PM
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If men pair up at night because they’re afraid of women lurking around waiting to sexually assault them, that’s news to me. If you’re nitpicking my comment because men pair up to protect themselves from mugging, getting jumped, etc. by other MEN, please stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:26 PM
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I don’t think women sexually assault and harass men as much as they do women, no. Men don’t have to pair up to go to the bathroom or to walk in public at night, check for roofies in their drinks, carry mace, avoid certain places at night, etc. That said, I DO think men get sexually assaulted and harassed more than the statistics show. I believe men tend not to report it because of the stigma, but that it’s real and horrible no matter who it happens to, so I’m not at ALL diminishing the trauma me…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:38 AM
1

I’m sorry you feel that way
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:20 AM
1

I’m going to hold out hope that you’ll find someone worthwhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:06 AM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:03 AM
1

Well I really hope that’s not true and someday someone gives you the love you deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:19 AM
1

Please forgive me for my ignorance, I’m trying but a) I’m new to Twitter and b) only starting to grasp the mentality of red pill/blue pill. I’m also elderly compared to most of you(I’m 40) and posts like this leave me seeking clarity. I do have questions and I mean them sincerely, no sarcasm. I’m interested in everyone your insight. Is this platform (either this sub specifically or reddit in general) one that sees relationships as transactional? I understand wanting a partner who isn’t a mooch, …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:17 AM
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Do you really believe that? I’m not being snide, promise. You really think love is simply unrequited infatuation in 80% of guys? Do you mean single guys? Please clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 06:19 AM
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We are a partnership I hope someday you can release the cynicism and find someone to undo whatever damage has been done to make you so angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 10:19 PM
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If his career takes a dive, he’ll find another job. He’s a responsible man who cares about providing for his family. If he can’t find something right away, guess what? I’m capable of working too, and I would do what I had to do to support my family, just like my husband would.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:39 PM
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Women buy more clothes than men, therefore they care more about appearance? Plenty of men use social media. Even if what you say is true, that doesn’t mean woman care more about their appearance and status.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:32 PM
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Like I said, sometimes men wanted a hookup and I wasn’t in the market for that. I said that from the start and it still didn’t always appear to sink in, but when I reiterated, the men were respectful. So, I suppose sometimes men who are looking for a hookup miss the signals that women aren’t always looking for the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:58 PM
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I appreciate this post. I’m new to Reddit and haven’t been able to firmly distinguish what redpill is. Context clues helped sometimes but then sometimes another post claiming to be redpill contradicted it. Thanks for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:52 PM
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I’m being genuine and honest here, and will probably get downvoted into oblivion but wanted to share my story. I guess you could say I got white knighted but my husband fell hard and still loves me. When I met my now husband, I was unemployed and didn’t have a $1 to my name. I was recently divorced from a terribly abusive marriage (that I didn’t talk about until years later), and this was a few years after I turned 30, when I had my first of many tonic-clonic seizures that was evidently a result…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:46 PM
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I was very, very lucky when I was in the dating market and met a lot of fantastic guys. There wasn’t any physical chemistry but I’ve kept a few of them to this day- there was one who, after a week of dating and realizing the spark wasn’t there, I’d babysit his daughter while he went on dates. Mostly what men did wrong or misunderstood, in my case, was that I wasn’t looking for a hookup and wanted a relationship, but to be fair I was clear about that and when I reminded them, they were all very r…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:33 PM
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I call bs. Plenty of men care about their appearance and status too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:27 PM
2

I’ve noticed, all my life, as a woman (I know y’all like to talk about the wall a lot) that when I look my best I get treated better too. I don’t know if that has anything to do with a wall- don’t we all get treated better when we look better? I never go to appointments without looking my best and age has never influenced how I get treated, just my poise and how I take care of myself.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/06/21 05:29 PM
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That won’t stop your comrades from doing it. Interesting you decided my take on it was dumb before knowing what it is.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/06/21 02:15 PM
1

I did read the article. If I tell you what I think you will disregard and downvote me into oblivion anyway. What’s the point?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/06/21 01:33 AM
1

I’m not sure what you’re implying. I can’t speak for people I don’t know personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:32 AM
1

I’m not sure what you’re implying. I can’t speak for people I don’t know personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:32 AM
1

I’m happily married but prior to that, I was almost always paid for on the first date. One time a man drove quite a distance to meet me and I asked if I could pay to help compensate for his gas loss. I know few women who think they’re special enough to be paid for on the first date. As far as me and my circle of friends, it just happened that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:44 PM
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Whoever wrote that article is seriously jaded Can I assume you’re not tall, based on the amount of content you post related to height?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/06/21 10:18 PM
1

Some wild mental gymnastics you just pulled out there, dude. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:42 AM
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I stopped reading after “all this is basically communicating to men is “my vagina is on the table and you have to pay if you want to get in.” That’s presumptuous and inaccurate. Why would not going on a second date after the man didn’t pay communicate that her vagina is for sale?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:26 PM
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