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Thanks for sharing, your experience is really relatable. On good days we'll talk about how many kids we'll have, home renovations, etc, but there's no action, it's all talk and when he does act out of his norm I find sketchy texts, condom wrappers, etc. I honestly feel bad. It took me a while (5 months) to really fall in love with him, we have chemistry but it's not extraordinary, we just have a lot of similar interests and we almost never fight. It's easy with him and I didn't realize that's wh…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 04:12 PM
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I know :( he's made comments before about how I'm naive or too good for him or will grow out of him. Or he'll mention doing something together and add on "if you haven't broke up with me by then". Everything is an emotional struggle with him. At least the sex was good.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 03:54 PM
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I've told a new friend from nursing school and my older brother. I'm going to ask him about the condoms and see what he has to say, but the relationship is officially over today, although it's starting to feel like its been over for a while. I'll be very busy with finals the next week and my mom is getting carpal tunnel surgery after so ill be helping her, especially with the dairy cows and milking. I'll be busy. Thank you so much foe the advice, I hadn't thought that part through.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 03:52 PM
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Thank you all for the advice, it's been thought provoking but I can't bring myself to break up with him right now. I'm going to stay and see where it goes. He said he would stop the wingman stuff and be more transparent, so I'll just have to see.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 07:44 PM
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I wish I could just break up with him easy peasy but I really do love him and I want so badly to give him a chance to show me he's not a bad guy. It's just hard. I know there's other guys out there I could be happy with but everything was so great and I want to go back to it being like that if I can.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 07:03 PM
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We had a discussion last night and this morning, after I made this post, about the text messages and he just repeated over and over he hasn't cheated and he was only talking to women to get them to his house for his friend. Half of the conversation was him saying how hurt he was I would accuse him of cheating but the text messages were plain talking about him and a woman who isn't me having sex, how is that not a warning sign for cheating? I feel manipulated, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 07:01 PM
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We've been together a year and a few months and I've worked so hard to be the kind of woman I want to be and I've never heard any complaints. Our sex life is awesome, we don't live together so there's no nagging, I just don't understand what more he wants from me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 06:57 PM
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I hadn't even considered the implications of his character by him doing this, thank you for pointing that out. I asked who she was later this morning and she's actually an ex gf of his, so that's another red flag. I feel like I'm in the twilight zone.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 06:46 PM
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Enthusiasm is all you need, speaking from experience lol. My n count is two and my current boyfriend was kind enough to teach me all sorts of cool things. Be open minded, enthusiastic, and accept that awkward happens sometimes, just remember to laugh about it
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 12:36 AM
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Ah, yes, and teenagers have awful advice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 11:45 AM
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I'm sorry I don't have anything constructive to add, but he sounds very remorseful, I hope you two find a good solution
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 01:04 AM
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We're an hour and a half apart while I'm going through nursing school. I see him in person on the weekend and take a shirt back with me haha, weird I know, but it smells like him and I fall asleep right away during the school week. We also skype or call every afternoon and text throughout the day. I'm thinking about stepping up my game and sending cute cards in the mail, but we'll see.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:26 AM
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Also, to add about the gift thing. When you give a gift, expect one or ask for one in return. This will make him feel needed and make him realize you value the gift you are giving and it took time and effort to prepare. I'll make my boyfriend a hat, I get a back massage. I make an elaborate dinner one night, he grills dinner one weekend. In my experience, men like being needed, they want you to say here I brought you these awesome new bed linens, I noticed you were having trouble sleeping, maybe…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:05 PM
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You need to draw a line. Men like a woman who will stand up to the world and be intelligent, strong, and nice looking. On the flip side, they want someone who has the capacity to be very sweet, loving, and nurturing but that side of you is only rewarded to your SO, children, and close family. I think of Ivanka Trump. She is classy, well spoken, and a boss bitch to everyone except her husband and father, who she is demure to, and loving and compassionate to her children. It's good to be nice, it'…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 02:57 PM
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Haha, I can relate to you. I met my boyfriend from online dating, he was my second date. I was shaking in my boots he was so attractive. I knew he had very strong potential the moment I met him in person. Focus on the little things, like having a clear, strong, but delicate voice. You don't want to sound worried, or afraid. Stand up straight and have open body posture. Don't cross yours arms, face him when he is speaking, so don't turn your shoulders away or anything. Eye contact is also huge, b…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:16 AM
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This is an awesome article, thanks so much for sharing! I agree with the sentiment that the right needs joy, but I think my generation as a whole needs more joy. Most liberal thinking people I know are unhappy with their peers and view moderate or conservative leaning people as inherently evil and unreasonable, and I've met quite a few hateful conservative people as well. If people treated each other as neighbors, or perhaps as they would treat their grandparents, the world would be a happier pl…
/r/RedPillWives16/09/17 04:45 AM
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Hahaha, I love this! Definitely gonna be a Christmas present this year for my boyfriend!
/r/RedPillWives15/09/17 04:30 AM
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I mean, a t shirt and jean is what I wear five days out of the week. Two days I try to wear a skirt or dress. My boyfriend and I enjoy hiking and backwoods camping in our free time, so jeans are a necessity for me. It's not really about what you wear, but the way you wear it. If you wear a dress and stomp around slouched over you won't look very "girly" or feminine, while jeans and a shirt can look girly if you use the right accessories.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/17 04:50 PM
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I wouldn't settle, I'd rather be single. My parents divorced when I was in grade school and my mom has gone through seven men, two of those marriages, so far. She's always settling for men who she doesn't really click with and they last a year or two each before they split. If I end up on the dating market when I am over 40, I wouldn't settle for any man less than my standards because I know it wouldn't last and would expend energy I could be using elsewhere in my life. My standards are: Mutual …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 01:32 AM
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In my experience, yes, as a "feeler", to bring up the topic without committing to a serious, sit down type of conversation. When my boyfriend and I had only been together a few months we'd occasionally be watching tv then someone would make a joke about women getting fat and not taking care of themselves or something like that and he'd turn to me and say something like "you're not gonna be like that, are you?" What I understood from this was he was seeing if I liked him enough to not be offended…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 03:19 AM
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I've never considered a white noise machine but I bet that would help. I grew up on a farm with five siblings and just moved into the city and it is sooo quiet here. I also hate rushing in the morning, it really sets the tone for the day. I'm known to get snappy if I'm stressed or running late, so I really want to make getting up early a habit so when I eventually marry and have children I'm not like a grizzly bear in the morning.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 05:09 PM
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I like this! In the past I used to have my radio turn on about 15 minutes before my alarm but I would listen to it and fall back asleep, I'll have to try motivational videos!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 04:58 PM
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Thanks so much!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 04:57 PM
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Thanks so much for sharing! I usually exercise in the morning, I'll start doing that in the evening. Also, I'm very bad about having a cup of tea around 6 or 7 pm after supper, so I'll have to find a non caffeinated blend I like.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 04:57 PM
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Okay, thanks! I definitely slack on going to bed at a reasonable time and being consistent. I'll start on a project sometimes and kind of just get sucked in, so that would be a good thing for me to work on too, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 04:55 PM
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So, uh, what's the story behind your username?
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 03:35 PM
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I am so proud of the work he accomplishes at his job! He went to college on a wrestling scholarship and got his bachelors in exercise science, then worked in the city as a personal trainer for two years before deciding to move back to his small home town since he's not fond of cities and enjoys the country life (hunting, trapping, etc.). Anyways, he's been working at a chicken processing plant for the last two years and started at an entry level position, doesn't sound very glamorous, I know. Ho…
/r/RedPillWives30/08/17 11:41 PM
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I don't think shaming her is necessary, your tone is unnecessarily rude.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 01:49 AM
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I don't think motherhood means being fat, miserable, or shackled down by a child. Have you considered talking to a therapist? It sounds like you don't have a healthy view of motherhood. Also, have you considered support you may get from family and friends? If you have a healthy relationship with them, I'm sure they'd love to babysit for a couple days now and then to give you and your partner a break. It also wouldn't hurt to go to counseling with your partner to iron out everyone's feelings rega…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 01:46 AM
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That sounds like such a tough situation! I highly encourage you to tell him you're pregnant. You are a team, you should approach events like this together. Ultimately, I believe it's your choice whether you abort or not, however, he should get to share his opinion. If you don't tell him, I'm afraid it would be emotionally very tough dealing with the loss of a pregnancy and not getting any support from your partner because he didn't even know you're pregnant. Not telling him about this would be a…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 07:33 PM
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Thanks! She really doing well, she's lost 30 lbs since the start of the year and is running a 5k with me this month. It's really easy to tell that you're a good person, it's wonderful that you're helping your brother and mother. Just like the red pill, accepting that your current weight isn't healthy and it will take hard work to change it is a very difficult pill for many. One of my younger sisters turned to stress eating after our parents divorce when we were in elementary school and my mom tr…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 03:30 AM
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I realize you're asking him but I would say it's all about delivery. My boyfriend said a few months ago that I sometimes have a tendency to come off sarcastic when I'm complimenting him or saying something is cool or interesting. My solution was to make eye contact when I'm expressing gratitude or praise and include words like "really" or "seriously" to convey my meaning. A little smile never hurts, either. A real life example: I made supper last night and I like to wash dishes as I go. We ate i…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 02:42 AM
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I made a booklet of 100 things I love about you for my boyfriend for our anniversary and it was the first time I saw him cry- well not really crying, just a few manly tears. Of course, I ended up crying because he was crying. If that's something he would appreciate, you could do that? I like HarleyQ's suggestion a lot too. Especially if you make it sort of a decor piece, he can say "Oh yeah, my wonderful SO made that for me." Maybe you could wine and dine him, like make a feast and make your tim…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 02:30 AM
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Over eating should be treated as a mental disorder and the underlying causes treated by a psychiatrist, just as other eating disorders are handled. And excuses like "I have thyroid problems" or "it's genetic" are bs in my opinion. Edited to add: my mom has hypo thyroidism and is/has been doing keto to control it. She's happy and healthy, and has stated since she no longer eats things like cake or brownies, she doesn't even desire them.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:28 AM
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I agree with you entirely, I believe parents need to educate their children on the importance of taking care of their bodies. I work in a retirement home and it's so incredibly sad to have people in their 50s and 60s here with debilitating, often fatal, illnesses caused by obesity and related health problems. :( It's kind of a big deal now, since the next generation is even more overweight and we're so chronically short staffed we can't muster enough people to roll or ambulate someone so we have…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 01:26 AM
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Yes, indeed! I work at a retirement home and some of my favorite residents are the men. They are always so sweet and funny, unlike their female counterparts who tend to sour with age.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 08:30 PM
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I love your analogy! That's a really healthy way to think about your relationship
/r/RedPillWives05/08/17 08:51 PM
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Thank you so much for your response! I really appreciate a man's opinion regarding this. Also, the distinction you made is very helpful, thanks again!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 06:00 PM
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Have you read this before? A Voice For Men- More Than An Orgasm There's some great reading material in the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 11:21 PM
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If you want to wait for the right man, I strongly encourage you to. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of four months when I was seventeen and I very, very, strongly regret it. I got caught up in the moment, and ended the relationship quickly after because all he wanted from then on was sex and to be honest, it wasn't great. If you don't really, deeply care about the person you're having sex with, it isn't fun, in my experience. With my current boyfriend, I also waited a few months before havin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 11:17 PM
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I feel like you really hit the nail on the head here. My boyfriend of one year is 26 and slept with a lot of women during college and the first couple years after when he worked as a personal trainer. He knows how to handle women, and I'm grateful he's had those experiences because it makes communicating with him pretty transparent. He knows how women are predisposed to act and he generally knows how to handle me when I'm not being pleasant, which helps me bounce back to my normal behavior quick…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 05:39 PM
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Ew. That's my first impression lol. I like for a man to lead, I would expect him to ask for my number. Especially since he is older, I find it even more odd that he wants you to pursue him. I would go with your gut. If thinking about pursuing him like that turns you off, don't do it. If he has redeeming qualities you could steer him towards calling you with a funny joke or some other way to lessen the blow. Edited to add: I just read your post again. He could have just given you his number so yo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 12:46 AM
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I've met his father but not his mother and I think you're definitely onto something. His father is an alcoholic and was abusive and evidently his mother wasn't much better, as he's almost completely cut off contact with her. I live in southeastern Nebraska where it's a dream if you live rurally but the two large southeastern cities are both "university towns" and have a politically charged climate, especially regarding feminism since there is a lot of opposition in the western part of the state.…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 07:29 PM
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I like to backwoods camp with minimal electronics and modern technology. There's something special about just paying attention to all the details in my environment that's therapeutic. It's especially nice when I have like minded company.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 08:18 PM
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