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So true! I can’t fully explain it but certain guys just bring out totally different sides of me, it really depends on their vibe and how they show up. Some make me feel more anxious and shy like I need to impress them, but others make me feel super outgoing and confident like I can say the dumbest shit and not worry about anything. My whole energy shifts and I don’t even notice it half the time
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 12:07 AM
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It’s just another way to meet single people other than the apps! Theres a lot of other speed dating type groups too and they’re split by age groups. Get on Instagram and check out what’s going on in your city, lots of cool more aesthetic social club type things like “first rounds on me” Just a fun alternative to dating apps and lots of attractive people goto these!! Im in LA. I say keep using the apps but if you’ve got the time and energy then branch out a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 08:20 PM
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Of course because I'm not on them right now! Lol just kidding, but honestly yes and no? Where I live the trendy thing is speed dating and joining those 20s/30s social groups that look super aesthetic and cool on insta. They're popping up everywhere now and they kind of play into the whole “dating apps are the worst” vibe. Theres one called Thursday and it's basically they plan events at bars and the only rule is everyone has to be single. I’ve had a lot of luck just going out to bars and being s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:05 AM
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In that situation I would definitely feel jealous! I wouldn’t freak out though, I would talk with her one on one and casually ask what she thinks of the guy I like and get a feel for the vibe. If shes into him I would step back and let her go for it. I’m not trying to compete over a crush. But if she’s not into him I wouldnt overthink them laughing together and not care as much
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:03 AM
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Finances matter in dating, not because women are shallow or want someone to bankroll their life but because money reflects deeper things like stability, maturity, and how someone handles adulthood. It’s not about needing a guy to be super rich, but when a man doesn’t have a career, long term goals, or a sense of direction it gives off “failure to launch” energy. It’s less about income and more about showing momentum and taking life seriously. Living at home and figuring things out isn’t a red fl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:29 PM
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Society is like a bell curve where most men are still getting married, dating, and getting into relationships. Guys who have to pay for escorts or girlfriends are outliers. It would definitely make me wonder what kind of guy he is and why he hasn’t hit normal milestones that most average people are still reaching. I wouldn’t want to date them and would feel bad for them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:42 PM
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Thank you❤️ Best of luck to you dear!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:16 AM
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I admit that was harshly worded and I can rephrase that. This is just my opinion based on my own life and experiences. It’s simply my perspective and I understand we might not all agree. I apologize for the way I came across!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:41 AM
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I’m just sharing my thoughts and agreeing with OP. Everyone’s perspective is important and anyone can contribute to this debate no matter who you are. Posts like this are not meant to be an echo chamber of everyone just like you. It’s not a “question for men” or any pill specific question but a debate post
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:37 AM
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I understand what you’re saying but he’s acting like I’m not allowed to comment on this debate. This post isn’t labeled just for men and I’m simply agreeing with OP and adding my perspective. I’ll never know what it’s like to be an older man but I don’t think my experiences and opinions are any less valid in this discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:31 AM
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He’s extremely unkind and writing me off like I have no say so in this conversation😭
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:17 AM
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Stop being rude and telling me to stay in my lane? You can give your opinion and I can give mine, that’s why this is labeled as a debate topic on a public forum. I respect your opinion and views and I’m not going to stoop as low as you and tell you to stay in your lane Mr. Uses Chatgpt For Everything😭😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:08 AM
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I never even considered this perspective and it makes sense. Last paragraph is a bit harsh but I do agree.. I think that’s a good thing I learned from watching videos from repill guys. Settling down, or compromising and caring way less about looks is important. I do agree which makes me purple pill
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:01 AM
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I can comment if I want! I’m just relating to and agreeing with OP. I can give my opinion if I want, back off James🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:48 AM
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THIS!! It’s so weird reading conversations in these online spaces and seeing people push the idea that women prefer significantly older men when that’s just not the reality. I genuinely dont think a lot of people who think along those lines interact with many women irl. I noticed anything beyond a 5 year age difference just starts to feel off. I went on a date with an older guy just out of morbid curiosity and it creeped me out the whole time. The maturity gap is always so obvious and it's like …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 04:26 AM
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I think society benefits from supporting people in being whoever they want as long as they’re not harming others. I just want to see people free to be happy and themselves as long as it’s within reason. At the end of the day who cares lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:35 PM
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I'm not sure, it’s up to the person experiencing it and whatever struggles they’re facing. I think we should respect how people choose to identify. If someone sees themselves as fluid, I’ll respect that. Is it always biologically accurate? No. I don’t think it has to be for it to feel real to them. I’m not here to judge or tell someone they aren’t who they say they are
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:58 PM
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I think gender has both social and biological aspects. The way people express themselves can definitely be fluid and I respect that different people see gender differently. I also think biology plays a big role that can’t be completely changed. So while someone can identify however they feel most comfortable, I personally don’t see gender as entirely fluid. But I get that people have different views on it and I respect that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:05 PM
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No. I fully support people living as they choose and believe in protecting their rights, everyone deserves respect. But I also believe biology can’t be fully changed like that regardless of how many surgeries or hormones someone takes. I’m only interested in dating men who grew up with male anatomy, I think it shapes identity in ways that can’t be replicated. Maybe that’s a super red pill take that people don't want to hear but it’s just how I see it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:39 AM
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Yeah I’ve always felt when guys show too much interest too soon it comes off like lovebombing or desperation. Im not a fan but it wouldn't make me stop talking to someone I really liked! There’s definitely a fine line between showing too much interest and not enough. It can be hard for some people to find that balance if they don't have a lot of dating experience
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:49 AM
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If you struggle to attract women or haven’t had attention in a while and desperately want it, you'll love a woman showing too much interest. But if you don’t have that issue I can see how too much attention is a turn off. I think It depends on your options!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:26 AM
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I'm 28 and my profile shows my actual age! My dating app age range is set to 28-33! I used to keep it higher but I learned my lesson that anything beyond 5 years comes with a noticeable maturity gap and age gap that I think is weird. I connect best with my age group:)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:46 AM
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Your worth isn’t defined by experiences you haven’t had yet. I know it can feel like you’re being left behind or that something is “wrong” with you but that’s not true. Life isn’t a race and you are not a failure. You matter just as you are. There are experiences waiting for you that you haven’t had yet. Please don’t make a permanent decision like that based on how you feel right now. You deserve kindness, patience and a chance for things to get better:)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 09:10 PM
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That’s not my intention at all. I’m just sharing what I personally find attractive in a partner. Everyone has different preferences and that doesn’t mean I think any less of others who might not fit that. It’s all about personal preference, not about making anyone feel unworthy. Im sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:55 PM
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Where did I say unwanted, repulsive, or pathetic? Show me an example of where you think I said or implied that please😭
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:19 PM
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I’m really sorry if this upset you. My intentions were never to hurt you and no one here is trying to do that. The topics discussed in this subreddit can be really tough and I want you to know I’m proud of you for your progress in recovering from being an incel. You’re handling this with a lot of grace and thank you for apologizing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 09:27 AM
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Nooo I think these stigmas in society are unfair but this is just the reality of the times we’re in. I’m so sorry if it came across the wrong way, I never meant to rile people up like this or press any buttons. No this isn’t about revenge! I love men and I genuinely try to understand everyones pov while still recognizing the unfairness of it all, that's why Im on this sub in the first place! Criticizing a woman isn’t the same as SA in my mind at all, I’m not sure how that connects to the virgini…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:24 AM
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I hear you and I promise you there is hope! Your past doesn’t define your future and just because you took a different path doesn’t mean you’re out of the game. You’ve grown and become more confident and put effort into yourself and that matters. Everyone moves at their own pace and you deserve to be appreciated for for who you are. Keep putting yourself out there and don’t be so hard on yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:00 AM
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It’s not fair to say all women shame virgin men. Society as a whole reinforces that stigma and men play a role in that too. I’m not shaming anyone, just stating the objective fact that the average age of a man losing his virginity in the US is 17. If a man is well past that age and hasnt had sex yet, it’s not about blaming him but acknowledging that they haven’t met the average milestone most men do. I’m sorry that is unfair, but both men and women face unfair expectations in different ways:(
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:58 AM
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I agree!! That makes a lot of sense
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:09 AM
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I’m in my late 20s and by now the average man has had a few relationships, has experience, and are starting to settle down, get married, have kids.. If a man my age or older than me is still a virgin, it signals that he’s missed really important dating and relationship milestones. Society doesn’t see it as normal to still be a virgin past a certain age when the average age people lose their virginity is 17 in the US. Call me old fashioned and this sounds a little red pill but when I’m in a relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:57 AM
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😂😭
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:45 AM
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Tell me you get no pussy without telling me you get no pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:28 AM
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I see your perspective and I understand. If I were a guy in that position I would probably do the same.. Lot of things just arent fair sadly!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 12:44 AM
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Nooo actually my last bf was a virgin and I was the first girl he ever dated lol. I’m not purposely filtering anyone out, I’m just talking about the dating scene in general. A lot of people see lack of experience as a red flag and that’s just the reality of it.. Always exceptions to the rule
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:32 PM
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Do what you want but I’m just saying it’s not typical or normal to have to lie about it. There will always be exceptions but the average guy doesn’t need all these strategies you’re suggesting lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 10:49 PM
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Nope! All I’m saying is that if we look at the world in terms of averages, how most people operate, and consider that the average man in his late 20s/early 30s has been in multiple relationships or even marriages by this point, then look at OPs situation of having never been in a relationship, it isn’t typical or average. So when he’s out there dating it’s naturally going to raise some red flags
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 07:54 PM
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Depends on their age! Most people reach certain milestones by a certain age, so if he’s 30 and has never had a girlfriend, especially while actively trying to meet women, I’d question if his expectations are too high, if he struggles with commitment, or if there’s something else holding him back. If we look at a bell curve of all 30 year old men, statistics show that’s around the age when most are getting married or have already been in multiple relationships. But if you're having this issue at …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 01:30 AM
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I feel like society gets weird when women are openly confident about their looks like they look down on a woman who thinks she's super hot because its not very "humble". Attractiveness is super subjective though. Personally I love compliments and sometimes I’ll do the whole “omg nooo you’re the gorgeous one!” blah blah thing to deflect.. But lowkey I eat it up. I put a lot of time and money into looking my best and will always return a compliment. Thats just the inner workings of my mind though
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:46 PM
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This is so real! Way too many men are doing the whole repeating your name too often thing. I can look past it, but not without physically cringing first😭 Must be common for dating coaches to be spreading this everywhere lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 08:47 PM
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I think we both have our struggles but they’re different and each has its own pros and cons, but neither is objectively perfect. The pressure I feel to find a partner in the next few years and have kids and start a family is overwhelming. I turn 30 in a few years and dating is serious for me, but my male peers my age don’t have that same urgency, they’re not worried at all about biological clocks. It feels like men get an extra 10–15 years that I don’t. You don't realize how hard that is to deal…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:30 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:42 PM
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I get that you feel this way but I don’t think it’s as rigid as you’re making it out to be. Yeah certain traits might be broadly appealing but attraction is wayyyy more complex than just ticking off a checklist. Personality, chemistry, shared values.. Those things matter just as much if not more in the long run. Be open! Life will prove you wrong in ways you didn’t expect
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:35 PM
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Im sorry😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:24 PM
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THERE IS HOPE FOR YOU!!!!!! Stop you will find love and you deserve it. You may have been single for decades but there are billions of women out there and I know lots of them would be interested in you, it’s not over you need to get that out of your head
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:23 PM
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All it takes is one! Keep putting yourself out there and trying
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:16 PM
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Noooo stop yes I am happy about men advocating for their well being you’re misreading what I mean😭 There’s just a lot of freaky stuff out there like andrew tate and yadayada
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:16 PM
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You’re going to be just fine too. You have a lifetime of opportunities ahead of you and so many good things are going to happen for you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:05 PM
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Yesss very true! I do believe women have it way way easier than men but there’s pros and cons to both
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:00 PM
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Yes! Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:00 PM
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Nooooooo read my comments above so not true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:59 PM
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NOO just the opposite. Your face isnt the issue stop. A lot of red pill be focusing on how women lose value after the age of 30 and shit and how each year that passes we lose more value. I feel like women have it bad too according to these pills
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:59 PM
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Yeah I didn’t know what it was I just had to pick a flare to comment and never changed it I thought it means neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:57 PM
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Awww stop don’t be so defeatist like this. Im sorry I said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:57 PM
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This is true!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:43 PM
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Yeah! I think they’ll eventually show their true colors in some way and reveal pilly kinda beliefs. They can hint at being a certain kind of pill without outright saying it through their perspectives and actions. Still unsettling and something to look out for😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:42 PM
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Ooo I like this perspective!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:36 PM
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Ok sir🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:36 PM
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This is such a hopeful way to look at it! I’ve been wanting to understand the male psyche which is what led me down this path in the first place. Im a lot more empathetic about things but it’s also disappointing in some ways at the same time. I wish I knew less but there’s no turning back lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:35 PM
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I kinda wish I never came across this sub lol. I’d be more optimistic if I didn’t know about all this pill stuff. All the things like smw, rwv, mgtow, black pill lmao. Some real chronically online shit😂 I think I’m worse off knowing any of it exists because why am I hesitating to meet men irl now wondering if they follow pill stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:27 PM
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I really feel for you but I wouldn’t say I feel threatened. It's sad to hear that you couldn’t find success in your home country. If you're really having no luck here you deserve to go somewhere where you'll feel valued and have a chance at finding a wife! The locals to whatever country you choose know what’s up though. Both genders are guilty of going to economically poor countries to use their gringo status and $ to get romance and sex. It’s a lottery win for the local and a win for you. Just …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:50 AM
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Good to know
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:16 PM
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Then why does redpill get so much hate and controversy if its being framed as that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:10 PM
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Thanks! Your username and flare is soooo cute its giving coquette vibes!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:03 PM
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You're right. I'm sorry. It's not easy out there. I realize I've been way too critical but I'm just trying to make sense of the redpill community and listen to podcasts and hear their POV
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:01 PM
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Oh oops im going to try this again
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:59 PM
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Yes! I think about this so much lol. I think it’s less about settling in dating and more about reframing it as “compromising.” Stupid example but lets say you want a super rare ferrari but can’t have it, so you compromise for a nice 2015 bmw instead. It’s not the absolute best car in the world, but it’s still great and makes you happy regardless. Everyone is compromising in dating and relationships all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:58 PM
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There's a huge issue if men are going to college less and not pursuing a higher education then
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:54 PM
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Agreed, they also talk about high levels of testosterone can cause violence too
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:53 PM
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Some maybe lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:50 PM
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How is black pill different from red pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:47 PM
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Everytime I try to make a discussion post in here it gets removed by mods before it ever gets posted. Anyways I was listening to diary of a ceo podcast and a redpil guy talked about how broke lonely uneducated men are a threat to society. It makes sense since they commit the most crimes and violence. What do you think? Articles I found to back it up- https://www.insidehook.com/culture/growing-number-uneducated-lone-broke-men-deemed-threat-society
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:45 PM
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Because
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:39 PM
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Yess! We're all imperfect and I dont know a lot of people who love themselves fully but it shouldn't stop them from dating. I see a lot of people postponing dating, waiting until they achieve something or feel ready but that day never really comes. Self improvement is a lifelong journey and we're never really 100% prepared for big life steps like starting relationships, marriages, kids, etc. I think there's something to be said about diving in with no fear that works well
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:21 AM
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Nothing screams romantic date night like whipping out your phone to make sure you're both sober, of age, and on the same page about consent. If a dude pulled something like this out on a first date, I’d expect them to start asking for my social security number next and wondering when they’ll want me to sign a release form just to start holding hands
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 04:44 AM
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Sorry for the confusion in wording, I hope you get what I mean overall. I was talking more about being proud and happy to have them, not in a superficial look at my shiny trophy way😬
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:50 PM
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Hmmm I think as women we’re naturally more social and connected to our communities and have more friends while a lot of men tend to be lonelier. I think I saw a stat that said 1 in 4 men have no close friends. That’s just not the case for us, there’s no “loneliness epidemic” for us. It makes sense that we subconsciously value social skills in men! I’ve never heard of anyone wanting a guy just as a trophy so I don't really know what you mean there. Of course everyone wants a partner they can prou…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:39 AM
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I agree! If anyone is socially awkward and weird, dating will rough. But it’s all a spectrum, most people land somewhere in the middle between the two extremes of super awkwardness and the super confident type. It’s all about finding a good balance! Focus on improving your self awareness and social skills, this is one of those aspects of dating and life you can improve on and have the power to control
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:26 AM
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Aww that’s cool! As long as it works for you both, that’s all that matters. I’m glad you found such an amazing partner!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 07:30 AM
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Wishing you the best too and I hope you find what works out best for you as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 05:02 AM
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I totally get where you're coming from. Liberal men are rare where I live and I'm just not coming across any in the dating scene. I can't stay single forever or just cling to the first one I meet and try to make it work and hope it's a perfect match. If it were up to me, the majority of guys would be voting liberal, but that's just not the reality. I have to be open and compromise on this and that's valid too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:44 AM
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Having different views doesn’t mean someone doesn’t respect or consider your rights. Most average people aren’t extreme and radical in their political beliefs, there’s a lot of grey area and room for interpretation. People are always changing their minds when presented with new info and the pendulum is always swinging from right to left. Limiting yourself to only people who share your exact views might prevent you from finding a meaningful connection. Relationships go beyond politics. But you do…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:11 AM
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Yeah definitely! I often see conservative guys either skip the political section on dating apps or remove it altogether. I always keep mine as liberal and it’s never stopped me from finding great relationships with conservative men and going on dates with them. Most of the guys I’ve been in serious relationships with have been conservative! We just don’t talk about politics. I’m looking for love not a political debate. The more I distance myself from all the political stuff going on in the count…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:53 AM
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I get where you're coming from on some points kinda! But your two extremes feels too extreme. Women aren’t as manipulative or calculated as these subreddits make us out to be but I get why you would see more shocking opinions here. I really like what you said in #7 Remember theres a whoooole grey area in between two extremes and in reality most people fall somewhere in the middle. Theres plenty of kind genuine women and I hope you're able to go out there and meet people and realize it's not as d…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:57 AM
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I had no idea any of this existed until I started reading reddit and learning more about mens struggles. It’s clear people are facing tough challenges, which explains why some turn to toxic communities online for support. I genuinely feel for them and hope it doesn’t lead to anger toward women. There’s no simple solution but blaming women isn’t the answer. We all need to stop pointing fingers and focus on self reflection and improvement. It’s heartbreaking all around
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:34 AM
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I'm sorry that men have it harder in that way. Pros and cons on both sides for sure but thanks for bringing to light the dating app issue, didn't think of it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:56 AM
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I’m sorry for anyone who’s had that story and perspective, it feels heavy. I hope they stay open minded and give relationships more chances. By meeting and dating more, they might realize women aren’t as challenging or bad as they think.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:12 AM
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This wayyy oversimplifies dating dynamics! Social media and dating apps have changed how everyone connects, not just women. Your idea that women are addicted to attention overlooks the reality that men seek validation too. Relationships aren’t about gatekeeping, they’re about mutual effort and respect. Automatically assuming women treat men as replaceable options ignores the fact that most people (regardless of gender) are simply looking for someone they genuinely connect with! Blaming the apps …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:00 AM
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I never realized men wanted to be lusted over but now it makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:48 AM
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It’s easy to get caught up in statistics when it comes to dating but the idea of the “average” really changes depending on who you’re looking at and where you’re searching geographically. If you only date within a specific age range like 30-35, in certain cities, the idea of what’s “average” will look very different from the national stats. People in larger cities or other states tend to be focused on their careers, financially stable, leans more fit, more social, while others in different citie…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:29 AM
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Double standards exist in every area of life, the workplace, justice system, taxes, parenting, pay gap, dating, the list goes on... Society has different expectations for different people based on traditions and cultural values. I'm not saying they’re fair because they arent! We can't deny or pretend like they don't exist because theres so many issues and double standards that are deeply built into our world
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 12:02 AM
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Blatant double standards exist whether we like it or not. Financially stable men do better in modern dating, it’s an unfair truth. Isn’t the whole “pill” debate about accepting reality, even when it’s not fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:25 PM
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It is! it’s tough for both men and women for different reasons. We both face societal pressures that feel unfair and limiting and contradictory in different ways, this being one of them. I think the people who are the happiest in dating are often the ones who understand and accept the challenges out there
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 09:34 PM
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Where did I say anything about dating "unattractive" men? I never brought up height but I’ve dated shorter than average men because I’m short myself and height has never been a big deal to me! I think financial stability is attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 07:24 PM
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I would say don't be too hard on women who struggle with spending. Financial literacy isn’t widely taught and it’s rare for the average man or woman to be great with money. If spending is ever your concern, set boundaries early on and understand their intentions. Not every woman wants financial support either, most just want stability and a responsible partner
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 07:20 PM
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I kind of agree with you. I think theres a more important way for men to "glow up" thats a little controversial, financial independence and security. Having a great Instagram and being fit helps, but I don't think it'll take you that far. Things like owning a home and being able to stand on your own two feet are even more crucial. Financial stability reflects responsibility, ambition, and a long term vision, all qualities that go far beyond how your instagram feed looks. The last few guys I date…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:37 PM
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I know I am! I'm wayyyyy more intimidated by the husband material guy compared to a fuckboy. When I'm flirting with someone I see as a potential long term partner, I get this deeper fear of rejection because it feels more personal. If I'm turned down by someone like that it takes a hit to my self worth because they represent something I really want.. Stability, commitment, a shared future. I recently went through this and I'm still working my way through this depressing aftermath of losing a guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:16 PM
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I could never even imagine being in a relationship like this to begin with. If a man showed such little enthusiasm for affection or attraction to me early on, I’d recognize we weren’t compatible and end things before it got this serious. The fact that he could be passionate and affectionate with another woman but chooses not to with me would be a deal breaker. It would make me sick to my stomach! It’s not about "maturity", it’s about effort, genuine, compatibility and attraction. Even in my lowe…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:53 PM
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