givemegems Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Should I ask my HVW friend to dump him? Why do you know so much about your friend's sexual life? Even talking about his "oral game"...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/03/20 09:17 PM
12	"If you don't cook for your husband you might as well NOT get married" My dad is a lvm who thinks doing household chores are a women's duty and didnt lift a finger until my mother's mum stopped coming by to help with chores and childcare. This is why i'm agaisnt the "breadwinner hypocrisy" where women are pushed to do 80-100% chores because men arent pushed to do the same when they arent the breadwinners. This is also why i'm agaisnt the It tAkEs a VilLaGe thing because it just puts the responsibility of chores, child rearing and emotional labour on other women whi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/03/20 01:47 PM
28	"If you don't cook for your husband you might as well NOT get married" My case is weirder. My mom was the main breadwinner and made my dad cook. He is a fantastic cook now and my mom is still terrible. Yet she made us sisters do household chores yet my brother didnt lift a finger. And to boot, despite not doing chores, having terrible grades and being overall rude, my brother received more allowance than us.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/20 11:57 PM
4	Low self esteem is dangerous, as evidenced in Tiger King Pickmeishas reinforce the enviroment you mention, though. Also, many of them dont come from an abusive enviroment. Many times it is because they have a family to support them and clean their messes that they dont gauge the risks of getting involved with a lvm. And that would be ok with me, but they dont stop with themselves. Instead, they try to push and shame others into behaving the same way.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/20 07:29 PM
7	Is marriage worth it anymore? Why would you halt your career for getting married? And if you dont want to date, then dont. But if you are going to date anyway, think if it is more convenient to you to get married or not. And watch out for canada's laws, even if you dont get married, you might have to pay "partner support" to a lvm, so never date down.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/20 05:13 PM
22	Is marriage worth it anymore? It depends on the country. Check your country's laws and statistics. Do the laws protect you more if you get married? FI: tax perks, healthcare perks, widower pay... would alimony laws work in your favour or against you? Is it easy to access divorce if you need it? Also, check statistics about how marriage affects women's employement: in my country married women without children earn less than married women with children or single women (with kids or not).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/20 11:58 AM
99	More kneejerk defenses of porn and threats we’re all going to die alone unless we accept it. “Nice Guys” don’t make overt threats, they wrap it up in some concern trolling. If men that watched porn were capable of maintaining loving, capable relationships we wouldnt be talking about how harming watching porn is. I think many of us werent opposed to the idea of porn until recent research.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/03/20 02:02 PM
44	Coronavirus making married moms realize that they may have a husband, but they don't have a partner I agree with you. And what baffles me more is that they insist that their husband earns way more than them, then, why arent they getting paid help with that money? Why do they insist in being chefs and maids instead of using their free time to bond with their children other family and friends? They could be creating much needed employement like this, imo it would be a win for everyone.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/03/20 10:47 AM
5	I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me... I am economically dependent of my husband right now, i know it " can" work but it isnt usually the case. Usually the economic imbalance goes to their head. I'm in my 40s, i have seen it happening so many times... and any statistic about this confirms it. Men change with the economic imbalance, dont count on them behaving the same way you expected them to behave. And please, dont tell me tha abused women with no economic resources have the same chances of leaving an abusive relationship, we all k…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/20 11:53 PM
8	I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me... Being a housewife puts you in a vulnerable position. I dont have the statistics at hand, so pls take my word for it but the most common time for men to start cheating is when having the 1st child. Moreover, men tend to become financially abusive. And they put 100% of caregiving work and household chores on women. Many of you would say, whats wrong with that? Well, for starters, when the woman is the breadwinner, that "logic" goes out the window & nobody expects men to do that. Also, what happens…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/20 11:10 PM
183	Quarantine or GTFO People are allowed to go to their main address, so your boyfriend going back home is not breaking any rules. Since he is unable to respect you in your own home, tell him to go. Who knows how much longer this will get, put your mental health first.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/20 03:19 PM
1	"don't ask just one person to give you what a whole village should actually give you" The whole village thing is nonsense. There are more children than yours in the village, so you have families fighting for resources and actually sabotaging one another.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/20 10:36 AM
110	Need advice: My boyfriend's friend sent him explicit nude pics of his wife You wont be the one breaking up the family if you tell her. But can you let her know in an anonimous way? You never know what men like this are capable of doing, so it's better if you protect yourself.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/20 07:54 PM
3	Anyone else feel shame for not being traditionally “feminine” due to your assertiveness, courage and leader qualities? Do i feel bad for being assertive and having leader qualities? No, why should i? I'm proud of it, actually. And defining courage as masculine, arent you also defining coward as feminine? Why would you accept such a mindset?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/03/20 10:31 AM
5	“Synonyms” for HVM and LVM?? Good life partner vs bad life partner.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/03/20 09:34 AM
12	PSA: stay away from them ladies! Italian men eat quite well, imo. Maybe the eat a bit too much red meat compared to women but they still have a quite balanced diet. But as another commenter said, it's probably because they smoke more and this is a disease that attacks lungs.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/03/20 08:18 PM
2	Why do men expect women to submit to them, but the moment she wants a provider he accuses her of being a walking ATM? Right? Men who women to submit are abusive. Moreover, nobody thinks men should submit to women if we are the breadwinners...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/03/20 04:40 PM
17	I want everything, I offer absolutely nothing. He is not bringing cooking to the table. He said he expects the gf to cook because he is not "the healthy cook type"	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/03/20 05:24 PM
3	Men know what they are doing, and sometimes they say it like it is yes, i believe my mother should have had access to contraceptives and abortion. Edit: sometimes i wonder if I'm in the wrong sub	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/19 12:59 PM
11	Creepy Gym bro lurks in gym, talks to women with headphones on, annoys ppl, is generally obnoxious. MALE LURKERS WHO FOLLOW TRP ADVICE: THIS IS WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE. "JUST LIFT BRO" "GO TALK TO HER!" TRP TROPES DON'T WORK. YA'LL LOOK CREEPY ASF!! DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM THESE MEN!!! " This gym is not in Baltimore or Indiana or where you are from. It's not your gym " bwahaha	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/19 10:19 AM
7	Men know what they are doing, and sometimes they say it like it is Your mother needs therapy for going through the trauma of an unwanted pregnancy and child rearing that stole her youth. That is why she got mad at you when you started resembling her, because you remind her of what she lost and also, she got anxiety over the possibility of repeating the cycle through you. This is normal, my mother is the same way even though my dad isnt a deadbeat man. But in my country, women didnt have access to contraceptives back them. I'm not preaching you, i ended up cutti…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/19 08:33 AM
5	This is why even high paid men are LVM ... Dont be this chick Men have it easier in the job market, and that economic power imbalance goes to their head. I've seen many friends' husband's change when she is kicked out of her job due to sexist conceptions about maternity, due to sexual harasment or due to health problems that are ignored by doctors during decades without them bothering to proper diagnose and treat. They love it even more if she is more prepared than them, they dont think is unfair. Instead they get a kick out of it, that they get better job…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/19 07:19 AM
2	This is why even high paid men are LVM ... Dont be this chick i'd like to add, that women with children, specially if they have been out of job for years, may consider setting up a business instead of getting hired. Internet offers a great platform to offer products/services from your home if that is necesary.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/19 07:13 AM
2	(His new girlfriend is involved) Trying to not contact him Trying to understand why he is doing what he does will lead you nowhere. His issues are his own, his choices are his own. You need to worry about your own choices and avoid someone who has hurt you. The why doesnt matter, only that he did.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/12/19 06:16 PM
4	Why it's not shallow to insist a man be financially capable Even if you dont plan to have a family, who knows what can happen in the future? Better have someone that can have your back in case something goes wrong.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/12/19 05:24 PM
1	7 Texting Habits of a High Value Woman Sorry for the late reply, but I dont think your comment makes sense. You arent trying to control anything, are letting the man lead, yet you are not being accommodating? I find that hard to believe. Anyways, i'm happy with leading and controlling my life, it has worked fine for me and i reject anyone calling controlling your own life masculine.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/12/19 10:46 PM
9	7 Texting Habits of a High Value Woman no, she doesn't know what a HVW is, things like this in https://katarinaphang.com/what-is-feminine-energy/ " So here’s the typical story of modern women of the 21st century. They are too self-sufficient and independent for their own good. " or this " Feminine energy is about being, acceptance and receiving while masculine energy is about doing, go getting, goal seeking and giving. It’s passive, agreeable and accommodating while masculine energy is active and being in control (and often appears c…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/19 10:27 PM
3	Post on r/marriage posted here as a WARNING to all FDS members: this is what your are more likely to end up with if you get married: a husband that is a child....and then everyone blames YOU for your husband being a child. Nah, SIS! It's the father's fault, Children learn through imitation of the parent they identify with, usually the one of the same sex. So let's stop blaming mothers and start blaming fathers instead.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/19 07:25 PM
2	Someone else’s boyfriend discovers his GF is an FDS member. Y’all gotta stop leaving your browsers open. You are right to protect your privacy and choose what to share with your partner. Having said this, I found this sub recently and talked about it with my husband, if he were the type to get threatened by me reading this I wouldnt have married him.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/19 04:29 PM