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glowing_dolphins/r/askTRP24/06/20 10:09 AM
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glowing_dolphins/r/askTRP23/06/20 11:29 AM
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Just go a layer deeper. Deists are easy to blag. “God gives you opportunities, but he expects you to take them. God is good to those who work hard, and we can be proud of that.” Really, she’s scared, and doesn’t want to be blamed, or to fail. It’s preemptive emotional escapism, manifesting as fatalism. People who aren’t in control of their lives talk like this. That’s why it annoys you, and not her. Recognise where it comes from, and it won’t annoy you so much. She’s really just saying “this mak…
/r/askMRP08/12/21 03:39 PM
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Absolutely. Well answered, and you don’t owe me anything. I’d suggest that you don’t need to scheme your way out. Just be busy, thank them politely, and don’t show up. I’d caution a full exit, assuming you’re in similar schooling or university or work stages. As an older person, I’ve later come to appreciate people I shunned before. Many are in similar professions and I call them for advice, even though I might not respect wholly how they live, or the things they’ve done. Living with that ambigu…
/r/RedPillBooks24/11/21 10:05 AM
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I think you’re looking on this a bit… intensely? Do your own self improvement, and chill. Enjoy yourself without injuring them. Don’t conflate lifting yourself up with pushing them down. High SMV is an outcome of work, not something you do upon meeting someone. Have fun. It’s ok to enjoy spending time with people. If you’re standing there, scheming in how to use them, they’re gonna think you’re weird. Closest book is probably How to Win Friends and Influence People.
/r/RedPillBooks24/11/21 09:39 AM
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Are you asking for advice on actually executing this? Just send her a mail with all the info in it. Make it minimalist, and factual. Don’t put any sass in the tone. Then ignore it. If she doesn’t update her paperwork it’s her problem. This is seriously boring administration stuff. Your mind should move on from this in seconds.
/r/RedPillWorkplace26/08/21 09:10 PM
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That means she has to be informed, not consulted or deferred to.
/r/RedPillWorkplace26/08/21 09:05 PM
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You need to isolate where authority is, and only acknowledge that authority. Make it clear that you’ve listened to other people, but are going in an agreed direction, and they need to get on board. In this case, your manager said it’s ok, so that’s basically it. Go home. Also; no idea what your rota is for. If you’re doing work for the receptionist, then they might be an approver.
/r/RedPillWorkplace25/08/21 08:27 PM
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I’m sure there’s a “primitive technology” episode about this. But seriously, sports, clubs, hiking, charity, music. Talk to people. Decide who you want as a friend. Tell them you’re friends now. Invite them places. Bam. Friends.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:43 PM
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I love when they do silent treatment. It’s so peaceful. I get lots done.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:41 PM
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This was fun. Thanks for putting up with that for our entertainment. Sounds like you don’t really need to do anything.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 10:12 AM
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Honestly, this is great craic. I hope we get another episode in the saga. Treat it like when a kid hands you sand and weeds and says they made dinner.
/r/askTRP10/06/21 05:13 PM
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This is why I come back to this place. Reminders. Thanks. Beautiful link.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 05:48 PM
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I get that, but I have to zoom to see the text because the page stays desktop size, and then i have to drag left and right every line. Usually an article folds into something readable on a phone. So I probably won’t bother. I’m not annoyed, or complaining. I like the format, and it seems you’ve thought about the content. But you did ask for feedback, and it’s not really usable on a phone.
/r/RedPillBooks28/05/21 06:29 PM
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“In the first quarter of 2021, mobile devices (excluding tablets) generated 54.8 percent of global website traffic, consistently hovering around the 50 percent mark since the beginning of 2017.” Could you make it so can get around it on a phone?
/r/RedPillBooks28/05/21 05:17 PM
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I suppose you can run away and do easy things. See how strong it makes you.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 03:38 PM
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Fair play. Sounds like you know where you are, but need to get back to having fun approaching. Go easy on yourself. Do one or two. Get a taste for it back. Enjoy it.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 03:09 PM
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Depends on your job. Take ownership, become a manager, and then it’s testosterone central. Maybe you’ve learned to work in a defensive, feminine way.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 01:56 PM
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Did you say “plate” and then imply no sex? Because that makes no sense. Your words sound guarded, like you know what we’re going to say, but you’re unwilling to do the basics. Rather than take specific advice here, I’d recommend you Are hitting the gym Are approaching other girls Read the recommended books. Remember abundance, mission, fitness. What do you think you should do?
/r/askTRP28/05/21 01:54 PM
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Calculate the age you can retire at. No joke. Make a spreadsheet. Work out your spend per year, cost of a kid, cost of a house, travel, tax etc. Savings, growth on savings. You may find that working earlier in your life is better for life on the whole. Or not. Without doing this, you’re using zero information to make a big decision. See the “fire” subs for more info.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 11:39 AM
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Well, yeah, it’s so obvious that I can see why you have to ask. Like, it’s so obvious, it’s almost confusing.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 03:01 PM
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Awwww he liiiikes you. Just escalate and see what happens.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 02:52 PM
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Sounds like an easy win. Don’t forget to enjoy yourself. It’s supposed to be fun. It doesn’t sound like you’ve outrun a time window. Generally early escalation is better, as it filters girls who are not interested, or are playing games, or who you later find you just don’t enjoy sleeping with. But you sound fine here. Have fun.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 02:51 PM
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Yeah, some guys here would also associate it with non-femininity. It also causes wage deflation and mortgages that depend on two incomes etc. It’s a package.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 03:54 PM
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Fuck your anxiety. Everyone does. Just get it done. After 10 it’ll be normal to you. After 20 you’ll enjoy it. And it’s great fun! People are interesting. You’ll have a blast. Especially when you find out that the worst case is basically nothing.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 03:52 PM
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Yeah, this place and relationships can be so damn serious. It’s meant to be craic. Do the work, and then enjoy yourself. There’s a world of fun people out there.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 03:50 PM
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Guy who doesn’t look fit and doesn’t approach / flirt wonders why women don’t see him sexually. You literally know the answers. Get on it.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:35 PM
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Aw I remember you! You’re such a good friend! Running around doing stuff for her. So nice. Errands and stuff. Aw, you’re like, the best guy. You should get her flowers. Maybe buy her dinner. And probably a car or something so she can drive herself. You’re so sweet. Such a nice guy. Just the best.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:31 PM
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Naw man, most chicks have some kind of job. They have their own lives. They don’t straight up ask for money. That’d be kinda messed up over here. They’d still obviously prefer someone loaded though.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:28 PM
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You are going to have so much fun when you get a normal sized girl. Sidebar. Gym and approaches. The two unavoidable sides to trp. Literally the answer to most posts of “I don’t know what to do” is what do you lift, and how many women have you approached / asked for a number.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:20 PM
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You got bogged down in crap. It’s normal to have to work late, or network late. It’s not a present-giving situation. It’s barely an apology situation. Just schedule another day and move on. Space is what people say when they have no balls but want to end it. I think you need to take a look at your abundance perspective, and your DEER-ing.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:15 PM
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Regardless of details, you want an LTR who is a value-add to your career. Either encourages, discusses/ listens, helps networking, or frees up your time by tending house. Making the person you spend most time with a negative-career-value is not a good life move.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 11:50 AM
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I’d take the 200k. You’ll find time in the middle to do your thing. I doubt it’s an absolute. And you can always bail to wage slave whenever you like.
/r/askTRP21/05/21 08:32 AM
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It stands for “financial independence, retire early”. There are a lot of subs about it for different locations and budgets. Best to search and discover yourself. Examples; Fire is one sub. Financialidependence is another.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 08:45 AM
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False Advertisement by Hopsin. My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy.
/r/askTRP15/05/21 04:31 PM
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Reputation lags action by about 6-12 months.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 03:15 PM
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Add on: Part of it is knowing you’re better and stronger and hotter and have options. You have to hit the gym. You have to approach other women. You can’t learn your way out of this entirely.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 11:50 AM
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Tbh, I don’t know. It depends on her, and you, and the social structure. You can’t always straight out control someone. And sometimes the smart thing isn’t to control them. A gal hit me in college, so I gently and politely picked her up and placed her in a bin. It was socially fine for that group. It was not a smart thing to do, from a “shag others in the group” perspective. Amused mastery will always be the best default option though.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 11:40 AM
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Change the “her” to a “him” and read it back to yourself. You do sound petty. But it is good to have boundaries. It can be hard when your blood is up to be clever, so remember, amused mastery. Always amused mastery. You’re amused by how weak they are compared to you. Your total control over the situation makes their little rebellion entertaining to you. “You’re cute when you’re mad.” “You’ve got a lot of energy built up there.” “If you’re getting physical I might have to spank you.” Treat her li…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 11:31 AM
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Dude, wtf. Chick is crazy. Get out of there. You shouldn’t even have to ask with that much crazy. Literally nothing is worth being abused for. You’ll be so much happier in a year when this divorce is processed.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/21 02:06 PM
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I’ve never seen anything the exact same. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida is pretty good, but a bit wish washy. You might also enjoy the subs asktrp and marriedtrp. They have their own reading lists that are tangentially related. Edit: also, yeah, it’s a wild ride the first time. Go slow. Do the work.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 11:58 PM
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And check out the FIRE subs. Even if you don’t want to FIRE, they’re great for information, templates etc.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 02:17 PM
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Depends on your income arc. If you’re in fin tech or med, you’ll earn so much more age 30, that age 22 there’s little point saving. Conversely, if your wage stays under 60k for life, you need to save aggressively to retire. However, you have to work out if you’ll be able to continue earning age 55+. Make a spreadsheet. One row per year. Annual income estimate, tax, mortgage, kids, woman, savings etc. Be super conservative. Work out what age you can retire with 4% growth on savings. Seriously do …
/r/askTRP08/05/21 02:15 PM
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ASAP. You gain time and freedom, and it’s much easier to love and respect your family when you’re not rammed in the same box every day. Also you can get laid without them listening.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 09:45 AM
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This plus goals. People will always try to influence you. Especially as you become higher value. It’s your job to ignore them.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 09:43 AM
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How many women have you asked out in person? How many events have you organised with friends? Genuinely, it sounds like you have your hand in a fire and are complaining about the heat.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 09:42 AM
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Makes sense. That’s a great system to apply. I went for the core “how to be trustworthy” rather than “how to act trustworthy” with NMMNG. Build the introspection, and add the actions later.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 04:57 PM
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I don’t like tats, and I think they make girls look trashy. Some people are into it. That’s great. More power to them. But it’s their thing, not mine. If you don’t want tats, don’t get them. It might preselect some women for you.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 02:15 PM
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So, your goals are not aligned with most goals and tools of trp. Read NMMNG first. No More Mr Nice Guy. That should clear up the fact that you’re not even wanting the right things. Then Rollo’s The Rational Male. That’ll give you the trp worldview. Throw in The Game because it’s fun and lighthearted, but gives you a pleasant intro to pickup. It’s considered outdated by trp, but it’s an enjoyable read. I can’t stress enough how much you’re not even asking the right question though. Do this readin…
/r/askTRP06/05/21 10:16 AM
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Get blitzed drunk, or go for a run so long you feel a little messed up. Either will screw you up for a few days and reset you. Emerge into balance.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 09:29 AM
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Trichotemy of control. Things you control things you influence things you can’t control (accept) Put things in the buckets. Accept, influence, or control as appropriate. If you have no control, there’s not much reason to worry.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 09:27 AM
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“Because you like it.” “Who’s the best girl!? You are!!” With a head pat. “You get compliments for achievements or high effort, not existing.”
/r/askTRP06/05/21 09:24 AM
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This post so much. The AskTRP philosophy is more about plates. MarriedTRP is more about the “stuck” situation of marriage. It will hold a better mirror to his situation.
/r/askTRP04/05/21 08:28 AM
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Aw, see it the other way. You can become Neo.
/r/ThankTRP03/05/21 04:32 PM
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Wtf, that’s hilarious. Why are you not asking her for money?
/r/askTRP03/05/21 10:03 AM
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Yeah, it’s a pretty cool community. The beautiful tragedy of trp is most people in other places who haven’t done the reading here in trp are missing so much knowledge, it’s hard to take their opinion seriously. So trp becomes a haven of sanity. Even if this place is full of kids going through the anger phase, at least it’s not totally lost and clueless. And everyone wants to see you succeed, and pushes you to be better for yourself, rather than for chicks.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 09:43 PM
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You don’t use a screwdriver to cut down a tree.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 08:29 PM
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People here will say she was on a million dicks blah blah. Probably not if she was into you. Doesn’t stop them window shopping. Doesn’t stop them lining up a beta. Anyway; who gives a fuck. Make peace with your past. Don’t dig through the trash. You’re probably fitter, hotter and wealthier than when you started. Enjoy your new life. Do whatever you want. You don’t need to solve anything now. You might feel messy for a while, but it’ll pass, and if you keep working on yourself for you you’ll come…
/r/askTRP02/05/21 08:29 PM
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Not just rounded, but targeted. Money doesn’t matter as much if you just want a ONS. Money matters lots if you want to raise a kid. Either way, you’re tracking well for 27. People will earn more, people will earn less. Look up salary guides and stats reports for numbers.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 05:24 PM
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So are you, and your peak lasts longer. You’re going to have a lot of fun. I envy your position more than hers.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 05:20 PM
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Plan ambitious achievable events or improvements that are memorable. A non standard trip that takes organisation. A work achievement. Learning. Hobby skill level. Afterward, celebrate it with your tribe. If you don’t have a group to celebrate your success with, and remember with, it’s going to be less intense. Also, use your time. Don’t give a fuck if you’re tired on Saturday morning, get your ass up a mountain, play an instrument, do something.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 04:16 PM
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70k is way above the average. At 27, you’re doing well. If you can hit 6fig by 30, you’re doing well. The 20% thing is a guideline. Also, just like when you’re selling a product, what’s more important; product quality, or store placement and marketing? Bumping your wage is one dimension. Also, having money makes you someone a girl can have buy her shit. Being ripped makes you fuckable. Being funny makes you fun to hang out with. Remember they’re all parts to a puzzle.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 03:30 PM
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The logistics principle is about avoiding perpetual messaging without getting anywhere. Not becoming an orbiter. Not growing time-sinks. If something else is working for you, then that’s great. You might have moved past the limitation of basic rules. Newbies who message for ages and never escalate in person need the logistics rule. People whose plates expect constant sexting validation need the logistics rule. At some stage you gotta put the phone away and get real life work done. But if you’ve …
/r/askTRP02/05/21 03:18 PM
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So you both want different things… and you gave an ultimatum… and she left… and what exactly is the question? Sounds like a fine outcome. Don’t give ultimatums unless you’re outcome independent. You probably could have convinced her to move with you, if you were high SMV enough. Re trp, the principles are gold. The comment sections can be trash. If you’re overwhelmed, read the books instead.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 03:12 PM
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“The RP is a lonely place” “Next time, go to the party solo”
/r/askTRP30/04/21 04:56 PM
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I wouldn’t go quite as far as this. Some guys are assholes, beta or otherwise. Some are chill, and can be great friends with healthy competition. Don’t cut yourself off from male friends just because one was a dick. Otherwise you’re stuck with women the whole time.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 09:13 AM
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Nice! Glad it’s going well.
/r/askTRP30/04/21 08:06 AM
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Hey, serious line-by-line there. I think you’re gonna love NMMNG. It’s so up the alley of what you’re talking about. You must come back when you’ve read it and update us.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 03:23 PM
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Whisper gently to it. “You can do this.” “I believe in you.” Etc. Seriously though, don’t worry. It’ll happen or it won’t.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 01:34 PM
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You sound like you have low self worth, no actual boundaries, and are looking for codependency. I don’t get the sense that you really know who you are, and that you are grasping externally for meaning, and when the world doesn’t give you unconditional love, you feel it’s unjust. You don’t seem to accept yourself, or the world, as it is. I’d recommend doing the work in NMMNG. If nothing is working, consider finding a good psychologist. And do the work. There is no magic fix. You don’t solve this …
/r/askTRP29/04/21 01:31 PM
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How’re you finding it through the day? You in the office? Is it lispy?
/r/askTRP29/04/21 11:54 AM
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For dread, I’d show don’t tell, and definitely forward not backward. For just idle conversation, it could be fun to chat about. I would speak well and warmly about exes. Remember, you dated them for their qualities. “They were great but I wanted more” is a better look than “they were alright, and I could go back to them”. I really do think you’re trying to find something good in the skip though. Edit: borrow the levels from marriedtrp Pass shit tests Advance your life (physical, work) Have a sep…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 10:44 AM
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Tbh, it sounds great. Did one of you invent it?
/r/askTRP29/04/21 10:39 AM
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Depends on the investment. You can dangle a fishing line, lay back in your boat, sip a beer and enjoy the sun. The fish bite if they want, and you have a nice day either way. I wouldn’t go hunting though.
/r/askTRP29/04/21 10:36 AM
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I would move forward rather than backward with dread. Flirting with a waitress or being ripped shows you have options. Toying with an ex is emotional regression, and digging through the trash. It shows a lack of abundance from you. Why can’t you find someone new? Also, if the ex was worthwhile, why did you get this new girl in the first place? It makes you look lost. You are placing too much value in your ex. Exes in general should not have datable value to you. The idea that you’re entertaining…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 10:31 AM
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You’re just seeing the normal good execution of trp. Sometimes things go well. Well done, keep it up, don’t get complacent.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 06:22 PM
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I probably wouldn’t. And I would find another way to read that. If they were on it after we’d agreed to be exclusive... then obviously... but unless you set an expectation they’re not gonna divine your thoughts. Also, trp would tell you loyalty is fundamentally not a trait you can find, and it’s down to your value, and how you manage the relationship. Hypergamy wins etc. Have you read NMMNG? You sound very giving-to-get Disney-expectations passive-aggressive.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 05:05 PM
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It’s not a red flag to not be exclusive if you’re not exclusive. Not sure what you expected. Also, I would recommend doing whatever you want, but remembering the principles of TRP. Rollo is married. Who saw that coming in a trp bundle.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 03:24 PM
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KAGDocta speaks the truth. Also, rename that Queen bullshit. I wouldn’t even jokingly let that into an interaction. Make it “occasional lover” or “personal chef”.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 03:20 PM
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Noise. Ignore. All the rules still hold. Copy paste advice from any of the TRP sources over what to do.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 03:16 PM
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Do remember, TRP is a toolset. And a lot of the people commenting are anger-phase non-LTR people. Many have been dumped, found trp, and are at various stages of grief. Then there are the people who are learning what there is to learn, and applying it how they like. Some plate. Some LTR. Some mgtow. It’s ok to go full retard if that’s what you want to do. And now you’re better equipped to do it. And if you get 3 years of fun, and it all tanks, magic. Who cares. Fun. Eyes wide open. Wear protectio…
/r/askTRP28/04/21 08:41 AM
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I think you’re pissing in the wind with this question. Look up the okcupid graphs on attractiveness. It’s after it switches at 26 to men being more desirable, plus doing the “kids” math backward from mid thirties. 35 minus 3 years for 2 kids is 32, minus 2 years marriage before kids is 30, minus 2+ years dating is 28. Gotta find someone. And suddenly realising they’re less attractive than men their age. You land at around 28 when the pressure hits for them. I think rollo writes about this. Every…
/r/askTRP28/04/21 08:32 AM
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You’re thinking about this sideways. Women will like that you’re a ripped adult man with his shit together. Just date some and see. And from a hobby pov, people don’t want to see you “have a hobby”, they want to see you’re passionate about something, and be around infectious enthusiasm. That can be anything. It sounds to me like you’re putting up fake walls, and just need to approach and ask some chicks out. I’ve never seen written in the TRP pantheon “thou shalt have unproductive hobbies”.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 08:27 AM
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Stop hoping for closure. Do something else. It will never be what you want. If you step in shit, you don’t go back to argue with it later. The great victory is working on yourself, and bumping into them 5 years later, when you have totally forgotten and don’t care about them. And you’ll think “wow, that dude was a tool” and they’ll think “that kid turned out well” and you’ll go about your day.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 08:18 AM
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“Yesss, I feel your anger. It makes you stronger. It gives you focus.” Also, break down the reason into little bite sizes. You’re hurt that you’re not magically desireable without any effort. You’re hurt that you lost out on good women because you were lied to. You’re annoyed someone else was winning the game, and you didn’t even know how to play. It’s embarrassing. But here you are. Out the other side. The game isn’t over. Now you know all the rules. All the tactics. There’s a community to help…
/r/askTRP28/04/21 08:10 AM
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Comfort test. Also, it’s ok for you to break a plate. If you don’t want an LTR, and don’t want an increasingly mopey girl, up the rotation and release her back into the wild.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 09:55 AM
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Not sure it counts as a “shit test” if it’s guys. I’d recommend the offensive. Look outward instead of inward. “At least I don’t... still smell like lynx Africa” “if I’m on roids, how’re you the one with the shit skin”. Don’t take insults onboard. Ignore it and slag them back. It’s just guy fun. Edit: when you’re comfortable in yourself, you’ll enjoy it. The joking will roll off your back, and the tips, insight, camaraderie and competition of men will be valuable to you. Either that or they’re t…
/r/askTRP27/04/21 09:49 AM
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Move through the positions and breath into the stretches. Warm up beforehand and drink plenty of water after. Don’t forget to bring a towel. Namaste.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 09:44 AM
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“A breakup happened in my life” Fucking edit that to “a girl dumped me”. Accept it. Own it. Move on. You can’t even fucking write it. Then don’t worry about your friends. “Yeah, I was pretty messed up”. You don’t win respect by “acting” or saying some shit. That takes years. Be someone you’d respect for yourself. Their respect will come, or it won’t. Either way, don’t focus on it. And accept yourself.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:47 PM
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Freedom of speech in the US means the government can’t screw with you. You exercise it with the government. It doesn’t exist on private apps, unless by their own rules. So, basically, you don’t. Also, consider that the best way to catch a fish is not to scream that you only want to eat it.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:31 PM
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Becoming friends with senior people is part of the job. Get your shit together. Have you done the sidebar reading? NMMNG? You sound like you’re just here for pity, which you will get none of.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:26 PM
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Dude, half this sub as about literally never stopping. It’s actually more fun as you get older. Women find you more attractive, and become less a pain-in-the-ass themselves.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:24 PM
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If you’re actually LTR-ing with a future, you’re going to have to be secure, and come to terms with having friends as a couple. It can be a very enriching life experience. You may even like him as a bro more than her as an LTR.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:17 PM
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Sounds great. Did you want something from us?
/r/askTRP23/04/21 03:59 PM
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This should have gone in /r/AskTRP. That is a good place for info, as well as the main sub. Also, read the books. TRP is just a set of tools and information. You can use them however you like. They don't make anyone "inferior". You could use them to be more masculine, or you could use the information from a feminine side to attract a more masculine person. It is principally focused on the perspective of men though, so to use it differently, you'll have to do some of your own thinking. tl;dr; not…
/r/ThankTRP19/04/21 09:28 AM
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You must swing back after reading them, and let us know how you got on! So much of Reddit commenting can feel like shouting your best wisdom into an abyss.
/r/altTRP13/02/21 11:39 PM
2

Second this. NMMNG will give you a foundation, and change you as a person. Then you can add behaviours on top of that. Just learning game without thinking about why you became a simp cam make you feel inauthentic. The Game is a great read even as a novel. And it’s like a history book to this place.
/r/altTRP13/02/21 11:58 AM
1

Nothing bad. I don’t mean to moralise. It’s just a different thing. People confuse the two, and lose money by doing the wrong one.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 08:58 PM
1

That you live in America. Have you seen the divorce rate?
/r/askTRP01/02/21 02:26 PM
2

“Investing” is buying items or company shares, based on an understanding of its value, with the intention of secure, modest gain. “Speculating” is essentially betting, with a large chance of losses, based on a vague idea, that the price will go up massively. You’re speculating, not investing. Be careful with the difference.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 01:26 PM
2

Cover of fifa 2003. Wild to see him play. Also Bono for glaucoma. People hate on him because he tries to help people... but... that seems like a rough thing to hate on him for. Anyway, bitchin’. Wear your glasses.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 10:18 PM
5

Edgar Davids had the same thing. Cool AF.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 02:37 PM
2

She doesn’t really think it’s creepy in the way you understand the word. It’s just a word for something she doesn’t like, and wants to dissuade. Because it’s hard; she’s gonna hit the wall, and you keep getting hotter. It’s worth her fearing and dissuading. The crazy chicks are fun! Especially older, wise ones who know how to fuck with your head. Just don’t do anything permanent and you’ll be grand. If you are in a relationship, I’d recommend having a rough cutoff date in mind. You don’t wanna w…
/r/askTRP27/01/21 07:01 PM
3

Just saw from another comment that you’re a boy toy! That’s fun. I wouldn’t expect long term anything from a girl who’s older though. She’ll start wanting to settle down and hitting the wall when you’re starting to enter prime. You’ll want to bang 24yo gals. I’m not saying it can’t work, just, finger in the air, probably won’t. And it’s suuuuper fun. 28 is still hot, generally experienced and worldly enough to be more fun than younger girls. Definitely live the now and have fun.
/r/askTRP27/01/21 06:07 PM
2

Oh my god, your girl was with another boy before you? How can you ever look at her the same again? I only date women fresh from their cocoons. If they have so much as seen a beard, I shun them. ... Seriously, chill. If the relationship is going well, enjoy it, and be glad you don’t have to put up with newbie crap from her. A little experience is a good thing.
/r/askTRP27/01/21 04:45 PM
1

Yeah, this is what winning feels like. Anyway, now that that’s over... Got any new prospects? You gonna spin plates for a while or chill? I generally end up with a “to do list” of women and things after a relationship.
/r/askTRP27/01/21 04:21 PM
220

Steak is temporary but delicious. So is beer. Holidays are temporary and fun. You can stay in your mental loop as long as you like, but it’s dumb as fuck. You’re temporary. Deal with that conundrum.
/r/askTRP26/01/21 09:11 PM
2

Sounds kinda dull. You want more than a warm body. If you’ve only being comparing being with her and being with crazy girls, consider comparing another thing. Like, would you rather having the current job and be with her, or go live on a beach somewhere. I have thought things like “I don’t want to break up with this girl, but I’d rather quit my job and live on a beach than continue this life, and she is the problem”. It doesn’t make sense, but kinda does. Circuitously.
/r/askMRP26/01/21 06:44 PM
2

You don’t want to idolise mayhem though. You can achieve a lot more with a stable person. And stable people can be interesting. It can be hard weaning off being love-bombed too. One challenge I had was that when I was with a good, normal, stable person, I had to face myself a lot more. The frantic rush to be something to/for the crazy girl disappears, and you need to be you. From the sound of things, you have your life set up enough to not need a girlfriend who is a housekeeper. You’re looking f…
/r/askMRP26/01/21 09:45 AM
1

Yeah, regret avoidance isn’t the worst strategy. It swings both ways though. Don’t forget; abundance mentality. And also, be wary of attribute optimising. It’s hard to get an interesting professional who’ll cook all your dinners. It’s hard to get a hot girl who’s chill about her looks. Etc. You gotta have some priorities in knowing what matters to you. Chances are, as your experience extends, the new women won’t be the “most anything” you’ve known.
/r/askMRP25/01/21 11:18 PM
1

If your life trundled along as it is, what would it be like? If you rolled the dice, what would it be like? Pick the one you want. If you don’t, you may accumulate a lot of resentment. Also, covid times. Everything is boring as fuck atm.
/r/askMRP25/01/21 11:05 PM
0

Did. You. Do. The. Sidebar. Reading. This is basic NMMNG shit. Seriously.
/r/askTRP24/01/21 01:25 PM
2

There is no magic fix. Have you done all the sidebar reading? Especially the work in NMMNG? You need more resilience. It’s very possible to have a relationship go wrong, and be sad, but perfectly fine. Just have your own life. Job, hobbies, friends who you don’t want to fuck. It’s possible to be friends with people who aren’t women. They’re men. Nice fellows. Tend to share an outlook. Women and relationships should be a nice value-add to an already good life. If you’re seeking salvation through …
/r/askTRP23/01/21 01:14 PM
4

Watch lots of comedy. The more improv the better. Especially Scottish/Aussie. Not one-liner shit, or written-to-death look-at-me SNL crap. High energy standup with stories. Think Billy Connolly. You’ll get into the frame of the absurd, and stories. You’ll get that life is electric, and wild, and fun, and people will come with you for that ride. It gets into you. You pick it up. Electric. Worst case you laugh your ass off for a few hours and it doesn’t work.
/r/askTRP22/01/21 04:57 PM
18

Never trust anyone who tries to isolate you, or reduce your options. Have a look at marriedtrp. That “dread” she has is a core part of LTR strategy. Consider it a comfort test. Laugh it off. Tease her for being jealous. Compliment her for how good she is to you.
/r/askTRP22/01/21 04:52 PM
5

If you’re not having your needs met, there is probably someone out there who will meet those needs. Make sure you have some work and hobbies. Sounds like she has more of a life than you. Cheating makes your life unnecessarily complicated. I wouldn’t even consider marriage and kids until I was 28. She is 18 and clueless. Don’t stay in a relationship you don’t like just because a breakup will make her sad. You will resent her. If you need to break up, do it. Make sure you’re working on your own mi…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 04:28 PM
1

I recommend reading NMMNG. You’ve a stereotype backstory. Relationships are like hanging out with some for a really long time. You don’t enter some ethereal plane of existence. You don’t get a spirit guide and a transcendant space-desert landscape. You just spend fucking ages together. There’s sex and intimacy blah blah it’s novel to kids the first few times, but eventually it normalises. You’ll be bored, and deciding between sex first or beer first, but not for 5 mins because you think you need…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 04:14 PM
2

Dated 4. All daddy issues. All had been on happy pills at some stage. Top right on the hot/crazy scale. Really sorry for American dudes. Having said that, American chicks had to deal with a president saying “you can grab ‘em by the pussy”, so they’re just in a gender shitshow atm.
/r/askTRP22/01/21 02:45 PM
1

LTR is a different ballgame. There is usually an expectation of escalation. There’s also a level of validation. It can be socially powerful / supportive to have a good LTR, depending on your work / friend scene. Short term exclusive is e.g. you’re travelling, you know there’s a time limit, and you still want to be exclusive. Basically you accept that your life is transient, there’s a fundamental expectation that you won’t stay together, but you still don’t want to be double dipping with the othe…
/r/askTRP21/01/21 03:23 PM
5

Thank you for your call. Please rate this conversation 5 stars. Have a good day.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 02:28 PM
33

Settings -> Tags -> No One. Say it’s for work reasons.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 11:29 AM
2

What exactly are you angry about?
/r/askTRP21/01/21 11:25 AM
1

Does she have good family old friends? Does she approach life with sporadic infatuation or some calm progress? What would an LTR do for you that the current situation doesn’t? Would a “short term exclusive” do the trick? I don’t really believe in questions (to her). You just get a sense of someone, and know yourself well enough to back yourself.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 11:21 AM
78

Two options Go caveman Tell her you’re not putting up with that starfish crap. Treat her more like a kid making a mistake. Tell her what to do. Give an ass smack. I’d recommend #2. It’s ok to be turned off when she spontaneously flops. Preferring girls who are animate doesn’t make you less of a man. Also, some girls are as clueless as BP guys. They just need a nudge in the right direction. You gotta lead, especially when they’re way off track. Another also, some chicks are just super boring. It’…
/r/askTRP21/01/21 11:12 AM
2

You sound very “nice guy” ish, in the sense of NMMNG. By which I mean, you’re not clear on what you want, so you do contradictory things in little fits. It sounds like you needed to cheat to prove to yourself you weren’t a little bitch. That’s a bit of an ego boost, and if it gets you out of an emotional slump, so be it. But is anything different now? You’re in the same place but now you have a paranoid LTR. It sounds like you want emotional codependence, to be needed, and to embody some idealis…
/r/askTRP20/01/21 11:02 PM
9

Do you want an LTR? Or is she meant to be a plate? What’s going on there?
/r/askTRP20/01/21 08:09 PM
1

How good at digital security do you think they are? How much do you trust them to have those photos for the rest of forever? How confident are you that things will end perfectly amicably?
/r/askTRP18/01/21 02:05 PM
1

Something to add; you’re rarely gonna get off on personality. Shared history is more important to bonding. Accumulating memories, and friends, and being able to have more nuance understood will do more for that.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 02:34 PM
3

If you’re just having a park ‘n’ ride, then shallowness makes sense. When you have to do projects and activities together, you start to value someone who isn’t an idiot. The only way to get to that stage is to start doing that kinda stuff, and seeing what you like. Get them to help you paint stuff, cook, climb a hill. Desire (of any form) takes cultivation. You don’t love whiskey on your first sip. It takes a bit of practise. Start practising. ALSO, you might just be very agreeable, and like hot…
/r/askTRP17/01/21 02:08 PM
1

Totally agree. But if you’re going out, enjoy yourself. Bacon is awesome. If my entire life collapsed, I would move country, eat lots more bacon, and swim in the sea every day. And probably die broke.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 09:39 PM
0

It’s soooo shit. Call people. Old colleagues tend to be great craic. You’d be surprised how open to having a chat people are.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 09:38 PM
3

I mean of the addicts. You are not a special addict. Replace with something else. If you have to, leave your phone and computer at work. Break the triggers. Again, this is suuuuper basic, same as all the other addicts. You don’t need magic help to break triggers.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 06:22 PM
8

This is a boring answer, but... that is literally how everyone feels about it. Your experience is not special. Google “reddit trp how i beat porn addiction”. Read the advice. Pick one that resonates. 1% information, 99% implementation needed. Keep in mind, most “avoidance” is done by replacement. You gotta be working out. You gotta have hobbies. Also: HALT - hungry, angry, lonely, tired. Fix these any time you’re considering it. Don’t give up what you want most for what you want now.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 11:15 AM
20

Hey man, stay in the game. When you’re going through hell, keep going. I haven’t been there, but here’s my plan if I ever feel like bailing on life. To try before thinking about exiting stage left eat lots of bacon live on a beach in the Caribbean do a year of charity work When you got nothing, you got nothing to lose.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 11:29 PM
1

Do the basic reading. NMMNG has pages on this. Seriously. Read that. Then read rollo. Then keep going. You’re wasting time. Edit: you’re wasting time... wondering and reading individual comments, when a genius psychologist has a famous book about this, which is recommended reading for the whole TRP idea.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 09:43 PM
3

Had a look; you’re very right. Thanks for correcting me. I put a note on the comment in case it misleads anyone.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 05:44 PM
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Edit: this comment is wrong. See below. Be careful lifting toooo young. It can be not-so-good. It’s worth researching the effect on growth. Also, a lot of redpill requires context. Some people here have a lot of rage. Be gentle if you’re teaching him the ideas. He’s a kid.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 04:37 PM
1

A lot of focus here is on externals. About building a level of hate. I don’t like that approach. For me, it’s about being ok wanting things yourself. You can know that your path lies elsewhere, and still love (think warmly of) and appreciate someone. You are you. And you should prioritise you. Don’t compromise on being the most important person in your own life. That might mean making someone else sad. And it’s good you don’t wantonly hurt people. But you aren’t a charity. Your life isn’t there …
/r/askTRP15/01/21 11:29 AM
4

Get ropes specifically or it’ll hurt. Amazon. Cotton. Multipack. Look up the right diameter. You can loop the bed frame. Learn to tie or it’ll hurt and cut off her circulation.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 10:16 PM
1

I am like you. I embrace the phases. I play piano for a season? Fuckit. Imma be as good as possible after 3 months. I might even vibe of that for a few years. Hobbies and rando skills, just make gains wherever’s fun. Work skills, I only do cv-worthy certs, and I only do sure-things. PMP. PSM. Degree. All they take is time, and once you start, you have to finish. These are good to commit to when you’re lost. Recommend enjoying your hobbies. Don’t put pressure on. And pick professional stuff that’…
/r/askTRP14/01/21 10:03 PM
2

STFU. Work on the basics. It’s an expression of standard problems.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 09:13 PM
10

Do what works, but you gotta accept yourself too. Recommend the book NMMNG. I feel a bit wired after >5 days. Lots of energy, but hard to focus.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 07:36 PM
1

You sound really boring. Scuba is class. I hope another trp’er shags her while she’s there.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 06:19 PM
4

Beware you haven’t accidentally flipped the nuke switch. If a wife wanted a break from me, I’d start talking to a lawyer and moving money.
/r/askMRP14/01/21 04:06 PM
1

Don’t project anything. Don’t bullshit. You don’t owe them anything. Also, it’s ok to have not had sex. It’s fun, and you’ll get around to it eventually. But either way, even if you’d banged a girl every night of the week, those should be your answers. People will always poke and prod. Ignore them. Slag them. Whatever. It really doesn’t matter. Don’t give up personal information.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 04:02 PM
2

Nah. The easiest way to win is to play someone who doesn’t know it’s a race. And there’s nothing wrong with winning easily. Ronaldo picks the weakest defender. Unless it’s fun, and you’re looking for your Claire Underwood, just find someone hotter and less mental.
/r/askTRP14/01/21 11:33 AM
12

For girls: “I don’t kiss and tell.” + smile For guys: “I’m not telling you about my dick’s adventures.” + mock disgust You’ll get farther with mystery. Chicks don’t shag a talker.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 10:30 PM
1

If you want someone to go after your money, show that. If you want someone to go after your body, show that. For some high class girls it’s a box tick. Someone with Wealth isn’t going to go for someone without Wealth. Capital W intentional.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 01:18 PM
5

“The only guy I can’t control” Brilliant. She’s playing games too. Looks like you have a competitor.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 01:17 PM
2

If you can’t beat it, own it. “I suck at driving, but I’m great at making money.” “I suppose I couldn’t be a world class lover, and a good driver.” Some of the biggest fucktards in the world are seriously alpha. With a solid job, good lifting, and not being hung up on yourself, you’ll be better than 99% of them. Just accept yourself. Keep improving, but accept yourself. If someone says “you can’t drive” say “you’re poor, weak, and an idiot. Imma get an Uber while you chew some crayons, and congr…
/r/askTRP13/01/21 01:00 PM
17

Not sure what I can link here, but google “reddit Stages of Change and How Best To Work With People Experiencing Each One” You’ll find a great chart for bringing people along the journey. But seriously, their success is not your problem. If they’re agreeable, get them to do things for you. Compliment them wildly to others when they’re around. Build your own base. Eventually they’ll just ditch the people who hate on them. But you have to be the alternative, and you might as well ascend while doin…
/r/askTRP13/01/21 11:26 AM
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First, wear a condom, because you are in the DANGER ZONE. You may need to eject. Kids make that hard. Second, by letting her stay home, not even raising kids, you made this happen. You’re the money. You’re like her job. Keeping you happy is what gets her money. If she isn’t very submissive, she’s gonna resent that eventually. Now you’re trying to parent your partner. And your partner isn’t internally motivated. So you’re basically fucked. What’s your dread level? (Dread level is married trp talk…
/r/askTRP12/01/21 07:10 PM
2

Yeah! Still nails the start though. Probably wouldn’t make for good Hollywood if he was an uncomplicated man calmly banging and working.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 01:17 PM
2

Med genuinely sounds shit. The volume of work is insane. When you finally finish the million years of studying, you will give up sleep for a few years of hospital work. Why not stick with the IT, make bank, and buy a yacht if you get sad?
/r/askTRP12/01/21 11:59 AM
2

Vicky Christina Barcelona in parts.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 08:41 AM
3

Nah; they were fun, and I didn’t know any better. Fucking annoying time waste, but I can still think kindly of myself. You can only judge based on what you knew. Succeeding while making terrible decisions would annoy me more than failing and doing my best.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 10:38 AM
0

Hard truths: 1) did you read any of the sidebar books? 2) what are your lifting numbers? Your text reeks of low effort “woe is me” shite.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 10:27 AM
3

Where... do you find this kind of people? Ghost, walk away, eject, alt+f4, follow emergency evacuation procedures. If it’s violent, prosecute. Consider it your good deed for the day.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 10:23 AM
2

Listen. Learn. Be curious. The people you learn most from are the ones you disagree with. Learn to impress too. If you can’t charm both sides, you won’t succeed in business later. Wear a condom, make consent clear.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 09:00 PM
3

Sure. Use protection. Have fun. Beware Asian provider culture. Their women can be pretty redpill.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:55 PM
4

Come clean. Get clean. Live in the open. Your shame cave will do more damage than good. It’s probably what got you here in the first place. Edit: If you can’t trust yourself, trust your parents, or pay a therapist. Bounce every purchase, investment, or gamble off them every time.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 01:00 PM
3

Both! The blue ones are tragic, because it’s so hard to talk about personal stuff and take them seriously. Some very good friends, but we just can’t talk strategy or plans. Some unintentionally red. Good lads. Talk plans with them. I’ve no explicit Rollo-readin’, book-learnin’ outed-as-redpill friends. I don’t ever talk about it explicitly because I don’t want to deal with the “label”. Maybe some day. Labels are bad though. I don’t want to be called red pilled or blue pilled. It’s really pinning…
/r/askTRP08/01/21 11:53 AM
37

Bitch Certificate. Absolute gold.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 09:48 AM
3

Hard to flake when it’s at their house.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 09:46 AM
4

The ceremony of cooking for someone is good for everyone. They’ll get themselves in the mood.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 09:45 AM
7

That’s not very funny, and fails a shit test. Separately, yes, on average, they have less ability to generate comedy. There have been studies.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 05:55 PM
3

Dude, vengeance isn’t gonna make you happy. It’ll make you more spiteful. And they didn’t know it. They’re like children. You’re seriously working with comic book villain logic here. Chill. Enjoy some sex. Maybe find someone nice. You’re coming across real damaged and butthurt. Make peace with the fact that you lost a few rounds.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 05:46 PM
5

“Evil”? Seriously dude, you gone way black pill. This doesn’t sound cool at all.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 05:33 PM
2

So true, and worth pursuing very hard. Set up calls, put birthdays in your calendar, plan events as far ahead as you need to. Compromise on the sport / bar / video game / whatever keeps you together. Ping the whatsapp group. Remember their kids names. Actually being involved can be alien when you’ve lone-wolf’d your way to success.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 05:31 PM
48

I really enjoy podcasts and albums, and driving somewhere is lovely when you’ve been in lockdown. Sounds fun. Tell her she better cook dinner or something.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 05:13 PM
2

Male friends with similar worldview.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:15 PM
3

Your question is reasonable, but use my answer. Do what I did. Challenge the premise in your own mind. AWALT is useful when someone has oneitis and says things like “my girl could never do this”. But remember practical limits.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 02:31 PM
5

Which of these are you currently doing? (You don’t have to tell me, but it’s a good benchmark.) no porn squat 1.5x body weight meditate daily cold approach regular contact with family group of aligned male friends ? Edit: + 8 hours minimum sleep
/r/askTRP07/01/21 02:23 PM
3

Yes. Every single one. And they all have FWB. It’s me. Even the ones who don’t want casual sex. Literally all of them. Even the ugly ones. And Facebook statuses are perfectly maintained. You should pay very close attention to those. Log the times they are updated. They always record their sex actions there. /s, just in case that was needed.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 02:19 PM
-1

*asks basic question *gets basic answer *asks same question again as if it changed Seriously, stop fishing for a different answer. MTFU.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 02:13 PM
3

Essentially, their elections don’t facilitate minority political voices per area, and their media doesn’t have to be fair. It causes two camps. And people throw rocks from one side at the other. You’ll see a lot of “the left say this” and “the right say this”, as though the world is split in two coherent bundles. Feminism is in the “Left” camp, so if it’s not feminism it must be “right” So TRP is really just getting some of the mud thrown at it. But it’s mostly just noise from the politics. If y…
/r/askTRP07/01/21 12:38 PM
5

This. Plus... you have your plate control over reproduction? Depending on what you caught, you might have gotten off lightly here.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 12:28 PM
22

Get it treated. Tell whoever needs to be told. It does make you an idiot. It doesn’t make you a bad person.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 11:20 AM
3

Take some vocal coaching. Look up videos on youtube. Record yourself and play it back. Take an hour to do it. A good voice will get you far.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 11:18 AM
2

Because America doesn’t have 1) proportional representation or 2) a fairness doctrine their politics have become binary. This means that you need to fit into the red or blue bucket. “Alt right” is just “Red Plus”. It has also caused the segregation of media, so that one side does not appreciate the nuance of the other. Labels and identity politics have precedence over policy, solutions and competence. Basically, you’re running a version 1.0 democracy, and need an upgrade.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 11:15 AM
10

Maybe you’re vetting for the wrong characteristics. Look for good families, and avoid people who “love bomb” you. If you’re now used to being love bombed, this will take a while to recalibrate. Also, rape stats are no joke. A shockingly large number of women have been raped. Some deal with it well. Some less so. It makes for a complicated few years while they reconcile it in their heads. Can’t blame them. And while compassion is good, it’s not really your problem.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 11:01 AM
25

Do this. And seriously, that’s one of the first two sidebar books. You should absolutely read it all. Otherwise you’re pissing about asking basic questions. And I mean that warmly and kindly. It’s a brilliant, perfect question. But it’s so well answered in a book that was right there, and so fundamental to redpill outlook.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 06:48 PM
6

Don’t avoid “being nice”. Know what you want. Then pursue that. Understanding what you want takes time and focus. When you avoid that, and abdicate responsibility for your decisions, you follow other peoples’ direction and become “a nice guy”. Your motivation and direction must come from you. Otherwise you’re a leaf in the wind, going wherever you’re blown.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 06:38 PM
257

“The term is very loaded, and means something different to everyone. I do believe in personal freedoms.” Followed by a neg of your choosing.
/r/askTRP05/01/21 01:42 PM
2

Worst case, go work as a bartender on a beach in the Caribbean. It’s not dentistry or death.
/r/askTRP05/01/21 01:38 PM
2

No prob. It's easy to think you're just being nice, or that "open" is good, but it's ok to have boundaries, it's ok to have privacy, and it's imperative to have security. Literally no one gets in my tech without me watching them. ​ Privacy isn't about "having nothing to hide" right now. It's about never being able to hide in the future. You pre-commit to having no options. And knowing you're watched, you will self censor. ​ It is extremely insidious. Accept zero amount of it.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 12:00 PM
8

Never EVER let anyone look in your phone. All your password recovery via email, your money, your conversations through history are there. I’d rather throw mine under a bus and buy a new one. It is a very (very) stupid thing to do.
/r/askTRP04/01/21 09:41 AM
4

If she can get that, well done her. She’s an admirable player of the game. If you don’t want to do that, then next. :) And onward with your game. Live and let live in the SMP. I’m not gonna complain because a shop stocks shoes in a size that doesn’t fit me.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 12:14 AM
4

They have to write who will inherit their stuff. They wrap up everything that will happen in the case of their death.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 12:10 AM
1

Forgetting is one of the most important human abilities. Never undervalue the ability to forget.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 12:09 AM
87

Win. You’ll grow to enjoy it. Also, intellectually accept the possibility of loss and think through that outcome. Astronauts have to write wills before they go up, so they can be at peace in near-death situations. It’s not as scary/ unpleasant if you’ve calmly thought it through.
/r/askTRP01/01/21 10:36 PM
2

If you’re late in an LTR, it’s fine. If you’re dating, it’s a competition problem. Why would a girl spend time with someone who talks about being depressed, when they could talk about wine or puppies.
/r/askTRP01/01/21 05:25 PM
6

I’m with this guy. Those things are really a guideline to help you find someone you’ll get on with. If you already get on well and she’s well vetted, they don’t matter.
/r/askTRP01/01/21 11:38 AM
19

This is so retarded. I love it.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/20 11:44 AM
3

Ego wouldn’t let me. I’d consider charging.
/r/askTRP31/12/20 12:44 AM
6

Dude, seriously, read the sidebar. That is way too basic to ask.
/r/askTRP31/12/20 12:41 AM
1

There are always stacks of setbacks. Solve them. Outwork them. Outsmart them. There is no perma solution. Stay vigilant. Meet good people. Strategise. Work hard. Manufacture luck as much as you can.
/r/askTRP30/12/20 08:00 PM
3

Either way, know that you’re an adult, and are your own person. Things your folks did doesn’t change what you do with your life. Personally, I think life is as long as it is short. Might as well have a coffee with your half sister as sit watching tv one night. Could be cool. I’d have a chat with him as a curious, worldly man. If you’re not trying to pull the house down in a “gotcha”, he might open up. Also, it’s ok to feel whatever you like. If you’re chill, excited, annoyed, whatever, feel what…
/r/askTRP30/12/20 02:52 PM
3

Continue to make your own progress. Let nothing stop that. You will resent anything that stops you. And your resentment is no gift. Don’t overtly flirt with girls in front of her? Do give a bit more comfort (without turning to self deprecating mush). Sounds like you’re doing well. Keep it up.
/r/askMRP30/12/20 02:39 PM
3

I don’t think I’m living in, or go to that kind of place.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 07:21 PM
3

Define “disrespects”? Like, if a guy hit on her, I’d probably whisper “I think he likes you” to her.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 07:08 PM
1

I was kinda saying: successful girls grind, but want to think a guy is magic Also successful guys grind, but would rather their girl was magic. Just broadcast the successes, and not the boring part of your life.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 01:33 PM
1

Some girls do work on things. There are girl doctors. And girls who work hard for a great insta booty.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 12:37 AM
1

Thanks! I think Rollo and Dr Glover have us covered though.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 12:36 AM
2

No prob. The interesting part is there’s a digital world of women getting the same messaging about men, and of black people getting messaging about white people etc. The outrage machine doesn’t have a home.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 10:13 PM
3

Pro tip; other peoples’ problems are a cheap way of learning. :) Glad to help.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 08:41 PM
2

It’s horribly unjust. It’s normal to feel the way you do. Just make sure you have all the information. If you’re in the states, there’s a factory of people trying to sway your opinion. I’ve been on the inside. The headline is rarely accurate. Also, there’s a broad spectrum of happening. You might be focusing on the 0.001% because it gets plastered on national media.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 08:36 PM
27

It’s a pain in the ass to hang with someone who eats kale and talks lifting. It’s fun when someone’s magically strong and teases you. They want to think that you ARE great, not that you’re constantly paddling and worrying about being great. Picture girl with hot Instagram vs standing around while she takes selfies and talks about angles.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 06:03 PM
2

The chinese one is hilarious. Sometimes when they hesitate, or say “urm” they say a phrase which I think translates as “it is”. Sounds like “nih guhhhh”. Totally harmless. Brilliantly hilarious. Very unfortunate. Edit: found it: nèige 那个 (that)
/r/askTRP28/12/20 05:54 PM
1

I run a fairly morally influenced implementation of redpill ideas, and it’s a problem. The issue is that you know much more, so you’re the adult. And being the adult means you only stop for ice cream if you say so. It’s the burden of being in charge. Get used to it, or be told what to do.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 05:20 PM
3

Looking forward to the success post in a few years. ;)
/r/askMRP28/12/20 05:15 PM
16

Staying in the game long enough to get a win is a brilliant strategy. You didn’t shack up with someone you didn’t want. That’s good. You live to fight another round. Sometimes you win with the first punch. Sometimes you gotta stay in the game long enough so you can hit a knockout. The game isn’t over because you haven’t won yet.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 01:53 PM
1

Trp helps people who help themselves. I will give the standard advice. Come back when the answer to all of these is yes. Fucked 10 other girls. Squat 1.5x body weight. Bench 1x body weight. Got promoted / did well in exams. Read the sidebar including NMMNG and The Rational Male. Until you do this, for your own good, piss off and stop asking the same question different ways. You’re not going to get a new answer. The real answer is work.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 01:02 PM
1

Genuinely, NMMNG. Learn that what you want matters, and what they want isn’t important. People slag you and... what do they know? Who cares?
/r/askTRP27/12/20 09:41 PM
2

It’s the only place to go where you’ll hear “man the fuck up, and here’s how”. The other advice subs are all too feminised.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 08:34 PM
2

It’s safe, but it’ll gently slow you down. And compound that over 20 years is not good. Put on a podcast and go for a walk. Learn. Get qualifications. Do some work. Flirt with girls. Don’t forget to live. Replace it. Don’t just quit.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 08:29 PM
1

There’s an audiobook on disreputable sites. It is basic TRP reading. You start with that, NMMNG, and the sidebar posts. Picture that as your Neo-training-scene. You can fight Morpheus after. No point before.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 07:21 PM
1

Book. You can get an audiobook on dubious platforms if you’re so inclined. It’s very professional / reputable, compared to the more janky philosophical redpill stuff.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 03:14 PM
8

Is this salvageable = yes. You have serious redemption story potential. But you will have to cut off all the dark people instead of playing nicey-nice with the ones who screwed you over. That may involve a new job. It will involved being financially tactical. Make sure the step brother is axed from every will. Isolate him. Be good at this. You’re trouble is you’re losing. Once you rack a few wins on the board, and get some confidence back, you’ll be grand. You might need to take over the company…
/r/askMRP27/12/20 10:37 AM
1

:D It’s genuinely like the “terms and conditions apply, always read the label” at the end of TRP advice. But really, winning the SMV race by a mile can scrub the oneitis clean.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 12:00 AM
10

Sometimes... it’s ok for YOU to dump a plate. You don’t have to wait for them to leave you. You don’t have to LTR them. Do what makes you happy. If you don’t know what that is, you may need to learn to know yourself more. Consider reading NMMNG if you haven’t.
/r/askTRP26/12/20 11:57 PM
1

There is only forwards. You don’t get to unshag her. But yes. Memories fade and become outlines. You do more shit with your life. It will always have happened, but it won’t matter as much. Also, lift, shag 10 girls, work hard, sidebar.
/r/askTRP26/12/20 11:54 PM
3

Aside from it being hilarious, I wouldn’t worry too much. Maybe don’t tell people, just so you don’t have to listen to the banter.
/r/askTRP26/12/20 10:02 PM
3

First of all, totally normal. So don’t worry. Second of all, there is only forward. You don’t get to travel back in time and make it never have happened. So accept that that was a beautiful part of your life. But also that there are more beautiful parts ahead. And you’re perfectly capable of enjoying them too. It sounds like you’re young. Trust me; memories fade. Nuanced scenes become idealised outlines. New stuff fills your thoughts. It’ll happen naturally. You’ll still look back fondly, but yo…
/r/askTRP24/12/20 03:59 PM
6

Yes. It was not fun. They intellectually know where they stand, which is either good, or bad, depending on how the deck is stacked at the time. If she’s over 28, she’ll know she’s playing from a weak position, which is useful. If she’s under 25, she’ll know she has manoeuvring room, and will be optimising hard.
/r/askTRP24/12/20 02:40 PM
3

It’s great that you learned. But it’s also possible to commit no errors and still fail. That is not weakness. That is life. Accept that you have value, regardless of failure. Really know that. Then build on if you like. But own that step.
/r/askTRP23/12/20 08:51 PM
84

Hey, just remember that TRP is not just a plate-accumulation-strategy. The Net Gain of Happiness may mean you have to break this plate. Abundance mentality. Ps. It’s ok to want what you want, even if it makes someone else sad.
/r/askTRP23/12/20 04:45 PM
54

To add to this, you don’t use a screwdriver to cut a log. By which I mean, if you’re not fit, why shag you? If you’re not charming / funny, why flirt with you? If you’re not rich, why date / financially entangle with you? You don’t chop a log with a screwdriver. But it’s easy to become those things. Second Also, Getting laid is an outcome. It’s not what you do. What you do is get ripped, project value, have chats, escalate. You don’t just “get laid”. That’s like trying to “make money” and skippi…
/r/askTRP23/12/20 04:37 PM
72

Dude, totally. Guys just keep getting more attractive; if anything your odds have become better just by sitting around. 1) be good at job and make money 2) gym (not optional) 3) hobby 4) read the trp materials eg NMMNG, rollo, the way of the superior man 5) approach It’s easy when you’re ripped, loaded, have a hobby, and a bit of knowledge and charm. Focus on those, the rest will come. You get what you put in.
/r/askTRP23/12/20 04:32 PM
13

Innocence has a beauty to it. You had feels, and you did silly things. That’s ok. Many do. Best to think kindly of yourself. You’ve learned and grown. That’s a good thing. Today is better than yesterday. PS: there’s a lot of anger in trp. It can be good. It can be motivating. And TRP has great wisdom and advice. But idolising “alpha” and shaming any part of your life that fails to meet that ideal is not a path to happiness.
/r/askTRP23/12/20 04:20 PM
2

Help him avoid getting trapped, but leave him enjoy it.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 09:20 PM
8

Don’t kick. It’s a weak move. Shows you can’t handle having your feathers ruffled. If anything, spawn another group and don’t invite. Much better to keep him around and enjoy having won. You might even be able to teach him something. Poor sod.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 04:34 PM
1

It entertains me when I’m with a girl who has orbiters. Kinda cute. Feel sorry for them a little. It’s fun to win. If they were a challenge, they wouldn’t be orbiting.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 03:52 PM
24

She needs a psychologist. She could be depressed. You need to find someone who meets your needs. She clearly doesn’t. You don’t need to stay in the relationship for her. It’s ok for you to have needs. It’s ok if she doesn’t meet those. You are capable of finding someone who does.
/r/askTRP20/12/20 12:37 AM
1

Given the context of demoting her, yes. You’ve basically already told her she isn’t worth dating. With different subtext, where it’s understood that you could like someone, it has a very different tone.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 06:38 PM
3

Dude, this stuff sounds normal. No idea what you were like in the relationship, but people don’t really want to be complimented all the time. They want to be teased. Do what makes you happy. Use the tools. Definitely don’t feel bad about what you’re doing there. Also, get a mission. This kind of behaviour from you should naturally happen because you’re busy with something else.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 03:59 PM
3

Your answers sound like playful teasing, not mean things. That’s where you should be even if you’re being nice.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 03:55 PM
7

Know what you want to do. You don’t have to follow the old script, and you don’t have to follow the RP script either. Use the tools. Do yaw thing. Make you happy. It’s ok for you to end it or to keep going. But make sure you’re happy with it.
/r/askTRP16/12/20 10:50 PM
1

What she says is not what she wants. That’s pretty fundamental. Make sure you’re giving enough comfort.
/r/askTRP16/12/20 10:48 AM
1

Everyone gossips. I gossip. Or more accurately, I trade information, and build comfort. Also it’s fun. Depends on the tone, content, and how personal it is. Gotta have boundaries and be smart about it. But if someone is incapable of gossip, they’re probably not going to be highly fun/socialised/workplace adept.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 02:32 PM
0

They are not sharing your life experience. Men and women live very different lives, and have different needs and gifts in friendship. If you think you can be good friends with a woman, you probably have a highly feminised outlook, and really need to do the required reading. Start at NMMNG and then do The Rational Male.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 02:13 PM
4

Be fit Play sports Be interested in people Don’t be rude / unpresentable Accept in your heart that people will accept you, and it’s ok to say “I’m your friend, will you be mine”. Not literally. But, like, figuratively. Wash, rinse, repeat.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 02:10 PM
3

Enjoy it. Sometimes things actually go well. ALSO, focus on mission, lift, work hard, lead. Don’t get complacent. Don’t turn to mush. You are capable of getting and maintaining happiness. A little fear is keeps you sharp.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 02:07 PM
9

It’s not your job to make her happy. Let her feel her feelings. Stop trying to fix her. Stop entering her frame. Focus on your direction. Read NMMNG.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 02:04 PM
1

Wall of text... the word “oneitis”... I’m guessing you have oneitis and are very unhappy about it? At least you’ve come to the right place.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 02:03 PM
1

First of all, tell her to respect social distancing. There’s a pandemic. Then tell her you’re going to ask her for her number at the front door at 2pm, but right now you’re working out. And remember social distancing.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 02:00 PM
8

I totally agree. It was, I suppose, not negative value. But god, he rambles on something awful. Same thing. Over and over. No basis. No foundation. Just “I’m great and I worked this out and people like my blog”. And it’s in a list beside professionally researched masterpieces like NMMNG.
/r/askTRP08/12/20 11:17 AM
1

Be awkward! Have fun! Go caveman if it’s not working. Big one people here forget Have fun! Enjoy it yourself! It’s not all a performance. Really. Laugh, do silly things, and please yourself. It’s good for them, and it’s fundamental for you.
/r/askTRP06/12/20 11:16 AM
0

“There is no god, Summer. Gotta rip that band-aid off now you'll thank me later.”
/r/askTRP04/12/20 12:06 PM
1

Yeah, setting goals is weird when 1) you’re not experienced at it, and 2) you haven’t seen a lot of the world. I find picturing a lifestyle useful, and then turning that into a simple step on the way. Here’s a few to get ya going. “Get a first.” (This later = money = holidays = options.) “Get X qualification by Y date.” Eg scrum master. “Squat x, dead y, shoulder ... by end 2020” I’d recommend spending some of your internet hours googling “Pay comparison” “salary data” “job satisfaction by caree…
/r/askTRP02/12/20 09:11 AM
1

One observation; if you’re at a quiet time in the work, you should be studying something to advance, or apply for jobs, or improving processes. The old trp adage of having a mission could help you out here.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 10:19 PM
6

It’s ok for them not to like you. Sounds like you’re trying not to burn bridges. Sometimes blowing up a bridge is the best strategy. OR Use them as a gofer. “Hey, if you’re not up to anything, could you grab me a coffee?” Then escalate to biro, biscuit, something from downstairs, and eventually stuff that belongs to other people.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 09:37 PM
2

There is no backwards. It can’t un-happen. There is forwards though. You can become something new. Nothing wrong with a few scars.
/r/askTRP01/12/20 10:11 AM
2

The Hitchhiker’s Guide is great. But seriously, all the usuals here. And then just go to work. The reading is easy. Building the workout habits and getting out there is the hard part. Edit: take it all with a pinch of salt too.
/r/askTRP30/11/20 09:57 PM
1

The hard work it led to.
/r/askTRP30/11/20 09:31 PM
94

Always, always establish a social base first. This is not an isolated issue. You need everyone on your side long before you make any move against him. Going 100% RP can lose your base, so you need a bit of hybrid warfare. Confide in someone that you’re not sure if he’s flirting or has agression issues. You want to help him. You’re hope he’s alright because this antisocial stuff isn’t normal. They will 99% tell someone else, if you make it juicy enough. Make sure your perspective is the prevailin…
/r/askTRP30/11/20 06:35 PM
0

That other guy is a red-piller in the making. Maybe not today. Maybe not next year. He could have two kids before you see his MRP post.
/r/askTRP30/11/20 10:16 AM
3

Boredom, history, shared experience, reliability, finding someone worthwhile. Eventually you accumulate a past with someone. If you’ve ever travelled a lot, you’ll know the zipper blues. That is, you’re always zipping up your coat to leave. You get sick of being on the road. It’s nice to say “hey, remember that road trip two years ago where you accidentally snorted milkshake up your nose”. Also, when you’ve sampled a large number, you might find someone who’s better than rolling the dice again. …
/r/askTRP27/11/20 05:42 PM
3

pursued medical advice outside of conventional medicine . I have chosen the path of love in my life. If you’re 31 and can’t afford the 6k, take it. Ya need it. Especially if your aura needs more cleansing in future.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 05:30 PM
10

You should do all the cleaning and get shouted at randomly for the rest of your life. Also, you should let your kids see you do this, so they learn to quietly accept abuse too. Like, just let crazy dominate your life and do nothing. And let them watch. Teach them how to let someone drain money from your joint account. Passive, quiet, no fight. That’s the way. Definitely don’t set standards. By god don’t lift. You want to be as meek and quiet as you can. Gradually fade out of existence.
/r/askMRP26/11/20 12:00 PM
6

Congrats bro. Sounds like you’re in the “dark night of the soul” with good things around the corner. Better live life in its gritty, vibrant, shit/fun reality, than sit around waiting to die. I’d recommend a hobby to build another group of friends. Covid is crap for this, so hang tight. Climbing / surfing. Something that does trips away. Aside from that, you sound like you’re doing the hard part. Be patient. Be focused. Reach out to people. Savour the glory of hard work.
/r/askMRP25/11/20 12:47 PM
1

It’s a book from the sidebar called “No More Mr Nice Guy”. You can find audiobook versions for ”download”. I think you might like it / learn a bit from it. The title is not what you expect before reading it. What you may find is that those guys are behaving very naturally, very powerfully, competing and living as men. You may also find that you’re living your life to please women, in a way that you’ve been taught to, but that never gets the result you expect. That gap is why TRP exists. And the …
/r/askTRP24/11/20 09:18 PM
9

‘Tesla never married, but he admitted to falling in love with a very special white pigeon that visited him regularly. He reportedly said, “I loved that pigeon as a man loves a woman, and she loved me.”’ Not that ad-hominem is a valid argument, but he was a-sexual, dramatic, and not necessarily a keen sociologist. Every generation complains that civilisation is collapsing and that the old ways were the best yada yada. He can enjoy his pigeon, 1900s life, and dull women. I’ll be here with my magic…
/r/askTRP24/11/20 03:43 PM
4

Look at nearest girl. “I think he likes you. He’s doing that gorilla thing.”
/r/askTRP24/11/20 10:29 AM
33

Just be nice to the little fellows. You could be as unlucky as them.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 09:36 PM
20

Because they’re stronger than you. When you’re stronger and earn more money than them in 10 years, they’ll like you more. Read NMMNG.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 09:35 PM
2

Not very. See posts on “your image of who she is” and unicorns. Also, it’s not about having power to leave. It’s about being such a weak piece of mush that you can’t. Have you read NMMNG? I know it’s an obvious thing to say, but you could gain a lot by really doing the sidebar reading.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 09:00 PM
2

So you want to do... whatever you want... and get... whatever results you want... without looking at the correlation? That's like wanting to be ripped but eating cake and sitting on your ass. It sounds like you are a shadow of a man. Sidebar. Lift. Read the books. Do the work. Don't be a lazy waster. Or piss the time away, but don't come here, say you don't want to do the work, and then complain that you don't get the results.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 06:04 PM
2

Have you read NMMNG? You sound like you’re adapting, trying to be a friend or be feminine, with someone who wants a capable protector / ravisher / master of the universe.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 04:26 PM
1

Definitely this. Plus think about it lots. Really focus on that. Put all your wit and humour to the side. Focusing on this biiiiig problem is where it’s at.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 12:12 AM
3

Laugh it off! Sometimes you kick for the goal and it goes way wide. Watch it sail off into the stands. It’s kinda hilarious sometimes. Next time you’ll slam it in the top corner.* *this is a good thing in soccer
/r/askTRP22/11/20 06:50 PM
1

This will probably always be true. However, you can just tell her to initiate at a particular time. Then you have but she has. But again, unless you want someone super self directed, this is what it’s like. Make sure you’re not saying this just because you want validation.
/r/askTRP22/11/20 06:49 PM
3

Yeah! And be ok enjoying it. It’s meant to be a little whimsical and fun. No point being serious, dower and grim.
/r/askTRP22/11/20 06:00 PM
2

Well done asking her out. Don’t look for meaning in words. Look to actions. “Everyone needs a night off. You deserve it. Drinks in X at Y.” Roll more dice. Don’t get COVID.
/r/askTRP22/11/20 05:53 PM
3

It’s a journey. There is no end-state. You will fail sometimes. Be chill. Keep going. Have fun.
/r/askTRP22/11/20 05:28 PM
2

Part addiction, and part “hedonic adaptation”. And yes.
/r/askTRP22/11/20 04:09 PM
11

I get the vibe though. Responsibility is now a relentless burden. You gotta give yourself some moments to let go. Create a beautiful moment with a gal, get into it emotionally, and really enjoy it. Then go back to being in charge. You can still dabble in the silly romantic shit, but don’t go to market thinking someone’s gonna adopt you and mind you forever. Big boy pants. You’re the captain.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 04:06 PM
46

Sorry dude. That’s literally why it’s called the red pill. You can’t plug back in, but you can become Neo.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 03:35 PM
2

What situation? You hard nexted. There is no situation here. Don’t dig through the trash.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 03:32 PM
10

Generally I don’t agree with the knee-jerk “dump ‘em and move on”, but based on what you’ve written, this sounds pretty clear. Anywho, chin up. You’re gonna be an early 30s lawyer with a great backstory. Better get your wellies.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 10:43 AM
3

For girls, it starts easy and gets harder. For guys, it starts hard and gets easier. Don’t be glum. It only gets better.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 10:37 AM
4

I know; you should act like a child and go off in a huff, so all the men know you’re sensitive about it. That’ll show them how strong and repilled you are. And then you’ll be the alpha. Seriously dude, just lighten up. Take a joke. Slag back. It kinda sounded like a compliment. “You’re so good at working out the best outcome all the time that you’re a computer.” Life’s not that serious. Chill a bit. Be above it. Take a slagging now and again.
/r/askTRP11/11/20 01:42 PM
22

A smart man does not make enemies of competent people needlessly. Keep a secure list of all the bad shit she does, with useable (not illegal) records, and wait. Everyone fucks up. It just depends how the deck is stacked when they do. Long game. Quiet game. Also, consolidate a base. Ask people how they are. Do at least 30 seconds of listening with everyone. Start slow. Find out nice things about people. Then compliment them to others. Be a person people like to be around. Ask people their opinion…
/r/askTRP11/11/20 01:35 PM
6

Sounds like you think you’re Belle in Beauty and the Beast. Wanting more, and making smart moves towards that makes sense. Putting effort into creating beautiful, interesting moments makes sense. Working on music or literature for yourself makes sense if you need creativity. Doing those things in the right city will draw you to interesting people. Calling yourself a dreamer, gaping at magical Instagram lives, and then going into the army because you’re bored and have no friends sounds totally lo…
/r/askTRP11/11/20 11:07 AM
4

This, plus she has low neuroticism. If you’re used to bpd gals who get infatuated, then meeting someone mentally calm who has their shit together can be strange. Calm intelligent people tend to have a (vague) life plan though. So find it out, and decide whether you want that, rather than get drawn in by inches.
/r/askTRP11/11/20 10:44 AM
6

I like the basic questions. They keep the basic answers fresh in your mind.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 11:39 AM
4

Give a man a fish, he might give you something back. Teach a man to fish, you’ve lost a revenue stream.
/r/askMRP06/11/20 09:37 PM
5

Security is important beyond your relationship. Change your password. Establish boundaries. Google “haveibeenpwned” and put your email address in to see if other passwords have been leaked. This is not a relationship issue. This is a security issue. Don’t be happy-go-lucky with digital security or it will hurt eventually.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 11:33 AM
15

There is a lot of loathing going on here. You seem to hate yourself, blame your mom, and are disappointed in your dad. And you’re asking how to blame your parents for your issues, rather than asking us how to help you improve. TRP is not about judging people, or confronting people for emotional satisfaction. It’s a set of rules/principles/guides that can steer you towards a better life. It’s about working hard and getting laid. Ignore shit you can’t fix. And you can’t fix your parents’ relations…
/r/askTRP04/11/20 09:54 AM
2

Look up “love bombing”. Sounds like you miss that. A month isn’t that long after losing a fiancé to be sad. Don’t feel bad. At the same time, standard sidebar four months is crazy fast frame personal priorities “I accepted you as a husband” is emotional blackmail crap if she doesn’t meet your basic red flags. You’re not a bad person for having priorities. Enjoy yourself; you’re only getting hotter and wealthier as time goes on.
/r/askTRP03/11/20 03:48 PM
1

“A girl’s gotta eat. Saturday at 8. We’ll have you home before your carriage turns back into a pumpkin.”
/r/askTRP30/10/20 02:11 PM
2

It’s ok that they want things and go about getting them. It’s also ok that you want things and go about getting them. Working with people, you can achieve a lot more than on your own. Heck, even WFH during covid, living with someone means you have to cook 50% less. It’s still possible to have meaningful companionship, and know the rules.
/r/askTRP30/10/20 02:05 PM
2

Pro tip: being interested in people makes you likeable. Ask their opinions on stuff. You don’t have to be interesting.
/r/askTRP30/10/20 09:52 AM
2

Violin background was hilarious to go with that. You have banter. In a second language. Serious stuff. I know this sounds stupid, but basics. Lift. Eat well. Your numbers are solid intermediate. Consistency will just make you feel better. If you’re doing politics, make sure you know what money you’ll make. Look up salary guides from recruitment agencies. Make sure you’re on a good path. 3 years in a job with a future will change your life. Enjoy your college years. Talk shit. Flirt. Be outrageou…
/r/askTRP27/10/20 06:48 PM
7

You’re never gonna be able to orgasm as frequently as a girl. Keep it in the barrel and lay off the porn. Also, basic sidebar. Lift, eat well, be dominant, game her.
/r/askMRP20/10/20 04:48 PM
0

“I’m not comfortable with you discussing my relationship status in the workplace. I was hurt that the first I heard about my relationship was from someone else. I don’t think I can see your friend anymore now.” Then “I don’t want to discuss it.” Bit of hr sounding words. Bit of “I’m the injured party”. Bit of threat. And now it’s her fault if you ever ditch the girl. Edit: or just STFU and tell your girl not to leak.
/r/askTRP20/10/20 03:39 PM
1

Reminds me of when a football team expressed interest in buying a Barca player years ago. Their answer was along the lines of “We have many world class players, and it is natural that a number of teams are interested in them at any time. We appreciate their interest but are not selling at the present time.”
/r/askTRP20/10/20 12:28 PM
12

Having had another look, it seems to give your pecs great definition if you get jacked.
/r/askTRP20/10/20 12:00 PM
18

Had a look online. Doesn’t look that bad. I wouldn’t give a f. Make sure it’s safe before you load on the bench weight. Same advice as always. Be better than the you of yesterday. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Lift. Dress well. Approach. If you “slowly started doing some workouts”, make sure you don’t catch fuckarounditis. Seriously, that doesn’t look too bad. I was expecting something awful. Most of the photos I saw in a quick search were not worth caring about.
/r/askTRP20/10/20 11:58 AM
1

Same as guys. Stacks of people are here because they’re pissed off getting LJBF’d. It’s a kick to the ego. “You are not enough. I have evaluated you for the lead role, and found you wanting. Would you like to be a backing singer instead?”
/r/askTRP19/10/20 12:01 PM
1

Just remember she’s a petulant child, stuck at home minding a baby. Poor gal is probably going nuts. Meanwhile, you’re out being successful. That’s gotta sting subconsciously. Aside from holding your frame, and using amused mastery to keep your own sanity around her... You could try prime her. Like, hit her up before an event and ask her to help you by making a cake for someone’s birthday. Give her a bit of acceptance. Trick her into practising being nice. Often people feel better toward those t…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 12:06 PM
1

Some people are just horrible, and it has nothing to do with you. Be calm. She’s not your problem. She’s not stealing from you. She’s not injecting herself in your relationships, and not ruining your life. She’s just a mean big sister. Keep your frame. Amused mastery. You know your path. She’s a hurt animal, lashing out, trying to feel better by cutting down others. Hopefully she can put herself together. Being calm and strong yourself will do more for both of you than anything else. If my fam w…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 10:34 AM
5

Break down specifically what you want, without the use of labels, and agree that. “I want a reasonable expectation that we will continue seeing each other while it keeps being good, to be exclusive, and that we can hang out with my friends. They might call you my girlfriend. If that makes you uncomfortable I’ll introduce you as my lover.” Edit: sounds like you’re in an ideal position to spin plates, and should have been spinning plates to avoid your current situation.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 03:52 PM
1

Dominance in the bedroom bleeds out. The rest of life is life. Re TWOTSM, Yeah, the language is super floopy, but it gets the idea across. Keep your energy / eagerness / dominance high by cuming less frequently. Work on being able to shag for ages without cumming via kegels and the odd mind trick. Strongly recommend a wand vibrator. Do. Not. Let. Her. Use. It. It’s yours. Tie her down and have fun. Tell her she hasn’t been good enough to earn your orgasm. Reward good behaviour sporadically. Ther…
/r/askMRP10/10/20 11:57 AM
1

Sounds like you have other things to work on, but as a band aid for this one... Buy some toys, tie her up, have fun, don’t cum. Though it is preferred, you don’t have to stick your dick in her until you cum. If your restart time is 3 days, don’t cum for 5. Keep yourself full of that good chi. Read The Way of the Superior Man again. Do kegels. Learn to make cumming a choice. Edit: being more dominant in this way spills out into the rest of life too. Would recommend.
/r/askMRP10/10/20 08:46 AM
33

“I couldn’t control falling in love with you. I don’t know how I could control falling out.” A tasteful paraphrase of “attraction isn’t a choice”. Keeps the pressure, but makes it palatable.
/r/askMRP21/09/20 02:37 PM
5

ONS; hot, forward, high status, discreet. LTR; same + loaded + good family + can improve them + constantly introduces variety.
/r/askTRP18/09/20 10:47 AM
6

Your post is literally a catalogue of not reading the sidebar.
/r/askTRP14/09/20 05:57 PM
5

TRM is not about how to pick up women. It is a theory of relationships from a purely male perspective. It teaches the societal framework that has lead you to become shit at picking up women, in spite of probably doing what they asked for. It also teaches some core concepts you need to understand what’s happening here. Many will be familiar if you lurk here, but it’s still worthwhile. It is worth continuing. It’s long though. I would recommend the audiobook so you can get on with your day. If you…
/r/RedPillBooks14/09/20 08:25 AM
7

Redpill is counter-zeitgeist, and has a lot of people in the “anger phase”. It’s always gonna have a PR problem. It also has a lot of nuance that you can willfully ignore if you want to attack it. The headlines are too easy. I consider it’s pariah state it’s greatest asset. Going full mainstream would really ruin TRP. Edit; I don’t think equal opportunity and trp philosophy are incompatible. Though trp would predict (but not mandate) that equal outcome is unlikely.
/r/askTRP11/09/20 06:55 PM
2

Don’t be afraid to be the person organising things. It’s easy to lose friends by forgetting to actually do something with them. Not sure how to help with the douche factor not in person. Sports events and gaming are my ways of hanging with people I want around but don’t have a massive amount to say to.
/r/askTRP08/09/20 10:27 PM
5

Making friends from a place of desperation is very difficult. No one likes the feel of it. People want to be around others who are comfortable with themselves, and enjoying their own life. Have you read the sidebar? Do you lift? Do you have a mission you focus on? If you are in shape, and diligent, people will want to be around you. I might be way off, but I’m guessing you’re asking this stupid question because you’re too lazy to do the work. To answer your question directly; stop worrying about…
/r/askTRP08/09/20 10:17 PM
18

This. Plus, do - not - commit. She is definitely trying hard to elicit a “naw baby, I definitely won’t leave you”. Frame. Don’t get sucked into that shit.
/r/askTRP08/09/20 09:19 AM
1

Stop looking for closure. Do the difficult thing.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 04:48 PM
15

What lovely closure for you. “Thank you for your kind words. I really wish you every happiness.” No more. Change your fucking locks. Zero people should have unapproved access to your house.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 03:57 PM
3

Fair enough. Tbh, I don’t really worry about orbiters. I’m pretty confident, happy to slag them off, and consider them par for high SMV women. It can be fun to know how much you’re winning by seeing who’s losing. Edit: but I would also NEVER be in a LDR.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 12:48 PM
16

Good spot. Basic sidebar. I think there’s a whole section about this in The Rational Male. OP, please do the required reading of The Rational Male, or you’re really lost in the woods here.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 09:25 AM
3

Sounds good. You might need a gal with a little more fight in her.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:54 PM
42

It’s very hard to tell how extreme some of the things you describe are. If you’re tense all the time, you’re not really winning at trp. You should be more free once you’ve practised the form. If you’re getting angry and shouting at your LTR to the point that she cries, you really need to think about that. Is she fragile, or are you emotionally unstable. When you understand the middle path of that, you can really do what you like. If you are unstable, it will be hard to make up for in the long ru…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 01:52 PM
5

“You’re on a schedule and must provide comfort at these times” as a relationship style is a disaster. It’s a recipe for “gotcha” dynamic. You can only lose. Do not even pretend to play that game. Your approach is spot on. You are leaving her hungry. This is basically good dread game. There is only success in what you are doing, and as you continue, you’ll get a lot more of these. You need to dish out some value and comfort, and basically ignore it. While also being a “real high value guy”. Texti…
/r/askTRP29/08/20 02:24 PM
76

I do on occasion, but not generally. One girl asked me to. I was young and starry eyed, and did it. It was a shitshow. If a girl has that mentality, you’re gonna have a nightmare.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 12:21 AM
1

I would recommend asking in a different sub.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 11:01 PM
2

I was gonna try work in all the “alpha, blue pill, beta, cuck, blah” keywords, but it didn’t really fit. There’s always next time.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 04:05 PM
13

I have a great idea. You should overthink this. Lots. Let’s pick apart every line, and analyse it to make sure we understand the hidden meanings behind when she messaged 2 hours later than usual. Was she making a particular facial expression in the snap? That could mean that she actually is in love with your best friend. It’s a signal. ... Seriously man, chill. Get a hobby. Find something else to do with your time, like work or study. This is crazytown stuff. You’re so hungry for a pat on the he…
/r/askTRP28/08/20 03:56 PM
3

Maybe! Or maybe not! Who cares!? It’s not a useful way to think about it. First time with a chick can be a little gammy anyway, unless you’re totally domming. Get in. Have some fun. Sidebar. Sex god method. Mostly enjoy yourself and she will too. Also, you clearly either didn’t read NMMNG, or didn’t take it in. Do that again.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 03:53 PM
5

Well done. Great detective work. Didn’t take you long.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 03:45 PM
17

So, from your comments here, you’re obese he’s codependent you don’t know why there’s no sex ... really? You recognise these issues, but need more urgency. Start solving them today, or you will die of heart disease after a sexless life. The weeks might feel long, but years whistle past. Your youth is a brief gift. This is what you are doing with it. Being fat and staying with a man who doesn’t have a phone. Stop asking the internet for answers. You already know how to lose weight, and how to fin…
/r/askTRP28/08/20 03:43 PM
25

He. Doesn’t. Have. A. Phone. What? Are you on a commune?
/r/askTRP28/08/20 02:58 PM
1

Dignity is abstract. Just be emotionally coherent, and hang with other people. It’s ok to say “I enjoyed hanging with those two but we’re very different people. Door is always open.” Or “Rob wants to shag Gal, and I’m collateral damage.” But do your own thing. Make friends with the people you want to. “I’m gonna grab lunch over at x. In?” I really don’t get why you’re trying to cling to these guys when it clearly isn’t that great for you. For yourself, I’d recommend taking one of those political…
/r/askTRP28/08/20 02:55 PM
4

People won’t stand up for you, if you’re not independently very good friends with them. Don’t judge them for it. Those guys are temporarily pillars. Social groups develop. Just do lunch with some others. Play a sport and meet others there. The idea that you are one totally coherent solid group that always moves in a block is barmy. Salami tactics.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 01:49 PM
5

Have you read NMMNG? Are you giving to receive? Are you looking for validation from her by being a good listener? What do you want? Does that question confuse and scare you? Yours is less a TRP question, and more a NMMNG question. The trp answer is “plate her”.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 10:17 AM
15

So the trp style lessons here are; have a male friend group don’t go on self-gratifying political rants Re read your own post. What do you actually want? Do you want to stay friends with those three you named? Because that ship has sailed. Do you want to keep the rest of the group? Do you want everything to stay the same forever regardless of what you do or say? Do you have any friends who agree with you, to hang with and form a new group? College groups are fluid. You can literally just make ne…
/r/askTRP28/08/20 10:07 AM
12

“Law 38: Think as you like but behave like others” You can go around like an alpha bull in a china shop, but don’t expect not to break anything. Ya don’t want to be one of those guys who shouts the first US amendment at cashiers.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 08:36 AM
40

So you... Openly expressed political beliefs generally opposed to the rest had a kinda fling with one of them don’t actually like another one And you expect the gang to keep going along? Friend groups form and dissolve. Especially mixed ones. Accepting that will make you stronger. Pick the ones you like. Invite them places. Have fun. Let go the rest.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 08:22 AM
3

So right. Such a waste of beautiful, healthy women. It’s just bizarre. And it can’t be comfortable for them.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 09:16 PM
0

Yes, but... It depends how it came about. Whoever asks has to be willing to pay, because it might not be in the other person’s budget. If you’re loaded, pay. If not, split. If she pays, it’s ok to owe her. Pay your debts. If you don’t want to do a second dinner, gift wine. If someone insists on paying for everything 3 times, they can pay. Any fewer is politeness.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 09:14 PM
60

Yes. I grant you permission to be friends with someone you don't want to shag. Make sure you got some good guy friends though. It's surprisingly important.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 08:21 PM
76

That was very honest and self aware of her. Few people would admit that they want everyone irrationally and wildly in love with them, even in the face of rejection. That reaction really defines TRP in a way. It says the unsaid. Anyway, next.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 08:20 PM
-2

“If you want to meet at 2pm, then you can come to the gym. What do you deadlift?”
/r/askTRP27/08/20 06:48 PM
5

This is spot on. Also, her dad is dying so she’s depressed. That’ll just take time to get used to. Not surprised she doesn’t want to shag. You’re not going to “solve” that, or “advice” it away. It’s just going to suck for a while. Don’t get drawn in to the sad. You need to epitomise the healthy, normal life that she’s trying to get back to. Show a bit of comfort and empathy, but let her surface, rather than jumping in the sad with her. And STFU. business—-travel is very right.
/r/askMRP27/08/20 07:31 AM
4

I’m sorry your quest to find a replacement mother isn’t working out.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 07:22 AM
7

You made it crass, and not sufficiently absurd. Saying you “love sucking new cock every weekend” us unnecessarily rude, and makes you seem low value trash. The aim is playful, not offensive. Subtle and teasing, not face-punch lines. More like winding up a kid than banter with the lads. “Are you gay?” “Nah, I just have great hair. Looks like you need some tips?” “Honestly, having spent an hour talking to <girl’s name> I was starting to consider it.” “I caught myself in the mirror one time and ins…
/r/askTRP26/08/20 02:42 PM
1

If I structurally think someone is on firm ground in life, I’ll give them one pass. Sane, ambitious, active, has kept old friends. If I have suspicions and an outburst confirms them, then I’ll bail. Someone going into therapy will change a lot. For the good. But it’ll happen.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 10:32 AM
1

It sounds like you’ve lost touch with what you yourself from within want. This is a hard thing to know when you’ve been searching externally for intellectual answers, and “solving” things. I’d recommend NMMNG. Get the audiobook from a disreputable online source. Have a listen. Give yourself permission to enjoy things for you. Part of trp is discipline, and part of being a man is being a bit feral.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 10:15 AM
3

You can’t break up with her Because you give her too much. Hang on, what?
/r/askTRP25/08/20 09:58 AM
1

There is just so much wrong with OP here. I agree with IXseed. You really gotta focus on getting some balance yourself. I'd recommend the required reading from the sidebar. It's not about hating women for having options.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 02:42 PM
2

"long distance communication" Text for logistics. This whole scenario is the definition of bluepill. Other commenters are right. It snuck up on you. Doesn't make you a bad person. Just don't get attached to someone far away. It is a form of self sabotage.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 02:36 PM
2

Read NMMNG. Stop using porn. Be present; don’t fantasise. Just enjoy yourself. Worry about making them happy later. This is about you having fun. Once you’ve done it a few times, you can worry about kegels and all that jazz. No one is expecting you to shag like a pornstar. Bit of honesty. Want what you want. Enjoy it for you.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 01:51 PM
6

Great. Then you might be fine. A lot of the people who take it on are addicts, and don’t know they are. If you’re not constantly living a fantasy, and aren’t going literally every day, or multiple times a day, you’re probably grand.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 04:08 PM
5

Say hi. Have a chat. You’re allowed talk to strangers.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 12:33 PM
57

Are you frequently masturbating as a form of escapism, to avoid uncomfortable emotions? Do you have trouble approaching women because you’re scared? Have you had trouble getting it up? Do you find you lack energy or intensity? If yes to any of these, give it a go. See what happens. It may help. As /u/Zavss says, it’s just a tool.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 12:18 PM
8

Text. For. Logistics. Sidebar. If she’s massively into texting, she may be waaaay hungry for attention. Might be more trouble than it’s worth.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 10:18 AM
25

“When you’re on my arm everyone will take your photo anyway. Let’s go for a walk at 4 and get spotted together.” “The paparazzi need a story. It’s been a slow week.” You can head back to yours to escape the photographers.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 10:14 AM
3

This isn’t a silly “let’s do it” thing. This is life direction stuff. Some things for her to think about. pay / remuneration / percent of profit (could get a free commission of something you like) ownership / first refusal to purchase at agreed cost publication / reuse / advertisement using her likeness (she could end up in a domestic violence ad) own future career She’s entering a serious situation with the wisdom of a child kicking a football out of a ditch full of rocks. Get it all in writing…
/r/askTRP21/08/20 11:16 AM
2

Getting her to dump her boyfriend and then dumping her sounds a little cruel, and not all that gratifying. Not sure you need that in your past.
/r/askTRP21/08/20 04:06 AM
1

Thanks! I class things that aren’t doable themselves as “emergent”. Like, they emerge from other things. They aren't something you can do. It’s super helpful to have a subtle understanding of that. Spotting it saves a lot of heartache.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 10:53 PM
1

You sound very serious. Life is meant to be fun and whimsical. You work hard, and then you have a water fight with friends. Watch some comedy. Do something silly. Lighten up. And stop judging life. Running around scoring things “good” or “bad”. It just is. Get off that shit media. Meet some humans in person, and talk sports. Play with kids in the family. Football with a nephew will teach you what matters.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 10:47 PM
2

She can’t make the decision to dump him or you, so she’s trying whatever else works. - get you to dump her - like you less - hamster away. Personally, I’m done with crazy. I liked it. The crazy ones get your blood going. But I’m at a stage where dysfunction bores and distracts me. I made myself into someone sane, happy and desirable. I’m looking for the same. Can’t tell you what to do. It’s worth riding the crazy once you can keep sane, but in my experience it gets contagious after about 3 weeks…
/r/askTRP20/08/20 10:42 PM
2

Trying to resolve “I want sex” and “this man won’t give me sex” and coming up with “open marriage” is non-decision-making crap. Once you accept one core thing that is not true, it eats away at your confidence in understanding what you want. She can’t let go of her first sexless relationship. She also wants you. She can’t resolve those two things, and is trying to make you resolve it.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 01:12 PM
2

Thanks. Sorry about the formatting. Total carnage up there.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 12:21 PM
7

I can’t speak to the drugs, and that is a big issue. I can talk about wanting to “fix things” though. First note, you’re talking big problems rather than little actions. I can’t “fix my life”. That’s not an action. But I can work a little every day, and after a while, it is fixed. 1 Read the two blog posts “Why Procrastinators Procrastinate” and “How to Beat Procrastination” by waitbutwhy. 2 Baby steps. Gym. Study. Your body, your mind. Be someone for yourself. Small tasks. Small activities. Stu…
/r/askTRP20/08/20 10:04 AM
6

“Hey, wanna grab a drink at my place? It’s just across the road.” “Hey, wanna grab a taxi back to mine for a drink?” Big difference.
/r/askTRP19/08/20 02:30 PM
5

You are losing frame and texting for more than logistics.
/r/askTRP18/08/20 10:45 AM
1

Nice. This should be pinned it comes up so often.
/r/askTRP17/08/20 06:10 PM
1

Make her an LTR if she’s to be an LTR. If she’s a plate, none of this matters. It sounds like you’re all over the place. Make your decision. “We agreed 2 days before to try it out and be exlusive with each other and to see how things will develop” This is the weakest way of getting into an LTR I’ve seen in ages. Do you want her? Do you just want to be wanted? Have you read the sidebar / NMMNG?
/r/askTRP17/08/20 06:09 PM
3

After that, don’t worry. If someone brings it up with you, don’t be afraid to tell them that it hurt when she kicked you, and you feel worried about the prejudice against men defending themselves when assaulted by women. Own the story. It was stupid getting into it, but you shouldn’t be assaulted for having an argument.
/r/askTRP17/08/20 06:03 PM
5

This. Also, make sure you write down what happened. Own the story in your own mind. Read over it. Know exactly what happened. If she starts crapping on, you will need a bedrock of facts that doesn’t waver.
/r/askTRP17/08/20 05:49 PM
4

This is the best advice. Literally enjoy yourself. Don’t try make yourself happy by making her happy. Just do you. You want a hug, you take a hug, and put her down wherever suits you when you’re done hugging. ;)
/r/askTRP17/08/20 05:45 PM
0

You have abundance. He is probably wrong, but for a bro, just pass on this one chick. It’s much harder to find good bros than it is to get a tinder shag.
/r/askTRP17/08/20 05:37 PM
1

Can’t believe this isn’t higher. He’s worried about some guy who’s at best an orbiter. The entire conversation is about him. Zero to worry about. The amount of posts about “being disrespected” here is ridiculous. So much fragility.
/r/askTRP17/08/20 05:34 PM
2

Hey, I’m just a random guy on the internet. You gotta take all this cr** with a pinch of salt. Do read the side bar, work out, and then plot your own course.
/r/askTRP15/08/20 10:13 PM
4

Always ignore. Talk about something you’re excited about, or ask her a stupid question like whether cats think the moon is cheese, or tease her about something. The frame idea is keeping the conversation on your terms. Do not enter her mindset. She’ll fight to get it on her terms, and give you the burden of answering questions. Never accept the burden. Always flip it back, or ignore and just talk about something else. If she asks why you’re avoiding her questions, ask if everyone notices she’s a…
/r/askTRP15/08/20 05:51 PM
8

Push it back on her. Ignore the question. “Would that make you jealous?” “Do you want her to yourself?” “You could look as good as her if you made an effort.” “I don’t think she’d be into you, but I can put in a good word if you like.” If cornered; “I don’t kiss and tell.” “I don’t talk about this kind of thing. There’s no intimacy without privacy.” “Yeah hahah” is weak. Not alone are you entering her frame and answering questions like a good little boy, you’re failing a shit test in the process…
/r/askTRP15/08/20 05:06 PM
1

He also goes out of the way to own and publicise his narrative, so people see him how he wants to be seen. “How could a kid with a funny name...” You can own how you’re seen. Normalise your heritage. Tell stories about food your mom cooks, what it was like moving away from parents; things that anyone can relate to. Plant what you want in their minds. You might win a few over. Don’t make it a mission though. At the end of the day, it’s not your problem.
/r/askTRP14/08/20 02:40 PM
3

Obama route. Have the dignity they lack. Be firm and calm, in not allowing people casually look down on you. Be able to say “that was rude” in an unaffected way. Never internalise it. This is their problem, not yours. They need to change. You might tolerate them briefly, like you tolerate someone else’s obnoxious children.
/r/askTRP14/08/20 01:53 PM
1

Thanks for sharing the story. I hope you’ve found some peace with it. I had a brief fling with someone similar, but got out before she went bonkers. The mechanic of it always eluded me though. “Stop hoping for closure” is great advice. This is an interesting window into the past.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 10:41 PM
4

This. Do not willingly let anyone hold kompromat on you for any reason.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 02:36 PM
3

Thanks for posting this. I looked up “love bombing” and linked on to “idealization and devaluation”. It’s a very useful model to understand. Really peeled away a curtain.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 11:57 AM
3

Shit test / good game from her. She set a time constraint and demonstrated abundance, which is fairly standard game. Now you’re all insecure. Ignore, chill, screw with her a bit because she’s obviously an entertaining competitor, and have fun. If she’s got that level of banter, she’ll be a fun lay. Just remember to enjoy yourself and don’t think too hard. This is definitely one you gotta be willing to let break.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 11:47 AM
6

At 24, that’s gonna be the way of it. Girls want to have their fun too, and they have to do it all before 26. If you’re high SMV, it’s going to take time to find someone to match your standards. You will get that “oh god, I’ve been in this stupid shopping center for ages, where have they hidden the fricking steaks” feeling. Stay strong. Have fun. Keep vetting plates. Finding a worthy LTR gets easier as you get older.
/r/askMRP31/07/20 12:28 PM
1

That’s the point of “frame”. You lead. You determine if it’s awkward. Kids cry. Adults don’t act weird with them after. You’re not worried it’ll be awkward with a child after a tantrum. That’s what this is.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:42 PM
1

You can’t force help one someone. Let him come to you.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:35 PM
1

This. Charity isn’t for your personal life. I’d help a friend of 15 years for 2 years max. I’d seriously help. But after that, they gotta help themselves. I hate emotional blackmail. “I will injure me if you don’t talk to me” will get you blocked.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:30 PM
3

It sucks to make people sad, but you’re not a charity worker. Your life isn’t about keeping a chick happy at your expense. Keep charity out of your personal life. If you don’t like ‘em, next.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:25 PM
1

Honestly, it just sounds like great fun. Enjoy being fought over. And chances are they’ll only want you more after.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:23 PM
1

You got shit tested, and now you’re asking if you should act butthurt. Which you shouldn’t.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:19 PM
1

There is a difference between a oneitis and an LTR. If you want an LTR, go for it. Have fun. Don’t slack off though. Check out married trp. Work on your dread levels. Keep lifting. You’re still your priority.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:17 PM
1

“Good, because you’re going to be up late.”
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:11 PM
5

It is a wonderful compliment, and you should take it that way. Don’t dig through the trash.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 03:09 PM
2

Don’t dig through the trash. Stop looking for closure.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 08:15 AM
1

Yes. There is more whining and less pragmatism. The comments are softer. People who just need to lift and hold frame are getting sympathy rather than told, “you idiot, lift and hold frame”. It feels diluted. I think newbs need a checklist: Lift3+ months: yes cold approach 10+: yes if LTR, dread level: #3 ... ... but then you’re turning art into procedure again. Admittedly, correction of the basics is what keeps me coming back.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 08:11 AM
3

I’m genuinely not being smarmy here, but... have you tried the sidebar? Totally agree with your point though. On the flip side, once I punched about my weight and dated a few really hot, intelligent women, I found it hard to go back. Only solution was to up the game.
/r/askTRP29/07/20 09:41 PM
20

Three reasons and one note; 1) Playing the victim is a way of appealing to the crowd. Before, there was limited observation. You went out into the world, and did what you could. Now, with social media, there’s always a crowd. People get trained to elicit support and sympathy. 2) Rationalising failure with ego. You suck, but it couldn’t possibly be your fault. 3) Life is comfortable. You can get away with it and not die of hunger. Note; there may be a lack of persisted evidence to the contrary. M…
/r/askTRP29/07/20 12:32 PM
-3

/u/PepinoSF /u/TRPCops How is this in any way related to TRP or a question? And why are people commenting apart from to report? This beautiful house is decaying.
/r/askTRP28/07/20 08:55 PM
2

Either 1) 100% don’t mention it, because you’re too busy and just moved on, or 2) if the opportunity seamlessly arises, playfully tell them they owe you a coffee. Another point to remember; as you play higher up, your level of preparation for important moments increases. The amount of prep you never use will be high, but when you do use it, it will be worth much more. You’re playing for opportunity, and opportunity picks it’s own moments.
/r/askTRP23/07/20 08:37 AM
1

And yet still it grows. ;)
/r/askTRP22/07/20 03:00 PM
2

“Stop hoping for a completion of anything in life.” David Deida - The Way of the Superior Man Sidebar.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 08:26 AM
46

At 16, I’d keep the friends. Play your cards close with women though. They don’t need to know who you’re into. It only generates problems.
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:58 PM
19

Sounds ideal so far. You had a good date. Did what you wanted. Then you were actually busy. You didn’t stop your life for a random chick. Now you have time. Drop her a logistics message to meet up. Away you go. You sound like a normal adult, making healthy decisions. It might feel weird if it’s new to you.
/r/askTRP20/07/20 09:02 AM
2

From your story, you sound like friends. Lovely friends who tag each other on the internet and chat. Charming conversations. Nothing wrong with that. Being friends. You’re friends. I’m sure you’re a very nice guy, and would absolutely drive her to college because her boyfriend is busy today. He’s probably such a dick and you’re so good for listening when she complains about him. Such a great friend. Chat every day. ... And so on and so forth... Edit: didn’t mean to be a prick; thought you needed…
/r/askTRP17/07/20 04:43 PM
1

/u/trpcops /u/axel971 No idea what this post is.
/r/askTRP17/07/20 04:37 PM
2

No.
/r/askTRP17/07/20 02:42 PM
5

You dated for a year and a half and spent that time studying. It was a big part of both your lives. She had to sit through that. She might actually just want to congratulate you.
/r/askTRP17/07/20 08:12 AM
5

This. So much this. Being meh will get you meh.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 06:46 PM
37

This is not a “fuck her” problem, this is a work/ social dominance problem. If the currency is being friendly with everyone, you have to be friendly with everyone. If she wants to be strung along, you might have to string her along. Always privately DOCUMENT EVERYTHING literally IMMEDIATELY when you smell trouble. If you’ve missed steps, write the facts to bring the story up to that date, and then keep a log. Well before you consider acting. If nothing else, 3 months down the road your preparati…
/r/askTRP16/07/20 06:43 PM
1

The problem is making them feel valued without a) making a commitment or b) letting them think they hold the cards. Anything you do that meets that is fine. “I’m happy to see you” “You have a fantastic smile” Mix it with some playful negs. Keep it honest with yourself and what you want.
/r/askTRP15/07/20 02:27 PM
2

Learn to love it. It means you’re winning. Bask in the envy.
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:46 AM
1

Seriously not an issue. She can be proud of doing a good job. Could just tell her “well done” or “good girl”. Chill out. Read sex god method. Have fun first. Last longer second.
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:45 AM
2

Tease each other, have fun, enjoy learning about sex and supporting each other. Do things you enjoy on dates. Cycle / drive places. Explore. Sex outdoors. Get there gradually. It’s a journey, not an end location. Frame is the most important thing to start early. You sound smart. Be careful going too far into TRP before getting some experience. A lot of people here were rejected for years and on an anger crusade against women. There is some great information, but use it as guidance to a wise pers…
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:40 AM
4

You should have pulled the trigger when the sex dried up. No problem. She saved the day and now you’re back. You’re out of practise. That’s ok. Happens in sport, happens with game. Be chill. Have fun approaching. Study hard. Stay on mission. You don’t need ego, you need confidence. That’ll grow as you lift. If you’re under 20, remember you have a long time to bang a lot of chicks, and you just keep getting hotter for like, 15 years. She’s gonna peak in 2 years. She’s low on time.
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:29 AM
1

Wtf, two calls a day? Codependent much? Sidebar dude. Or check out the relationships page. What dread level are you at?
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:22 AM
13

This is literally what the entire redpill is about. The relationship you want does not exist. That is literally the point. You can’t go bluepill for ages and keep a high smv woman. She wants a strong man. She wants to feel your strength. If you’re not showing it, she’ll prod you to feel it. You can get an easier woman by going down a few smv notches. If you want an easy life. Do you want easy?
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:17 AM
3

Fucking is great fun. You may have fallen a little too far down the redpill hole. Just vet a few, pick one, have a good shag, and see if you enjoy it. Then pick another. People are nice to be around. There’s a balance somewhere between mission and enjoyment.
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:14 AM
10

“You’re going to have to find a good way to apologise. My favourite drink is whiskey.”
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:11 AM
21

All good to supply a bit of comfort while you’re banging. Just sidebar + dread at the same time. Laying that on without any dread is gonna make a big beta mess. The LTR centric material is better over in married red pill. AskTRP is more likely to call you a spanner for getting into an LTR.
/r/askTRP15/07/20 09:09 AM
1

Still not a problem at all. It’ll take a year to get ripped. 2 years to progress a career. By 28 you could be strong, and in a job you like, radiating confidence. Or you could be in the same place. You’ll be 28 either way. Pick.
/r/askTRP14/07/20 04:08 PM
1

Dude, seriously not a problem. You’re 20. You strayed from the path. No big deal. Lift. Find a job. Spend time thinking about career. You have structural problems to solve there. Women are the icing, not the cake.
/r/askTRP14/07/20 12:42 PM
8

Your personal life has nothing to do with your work. You could live in a tent. Live in a castle. 20 kids. No kids. 10 wives. 10 husbands. Doesn’t matter. Talk about the work. You’re excited about that area. A lot to learn off senior people. You have energy. You’re going to get a lot done. Help people look good. Get along with people. Not generate hr problems. Complete tasks to a high level. Nothing left behind. Focus on the work. Communicate that you’re excited by it. Mean it.
/r/askTRP14/07/20 12:15 PM
5

Yes yet.
/r/askTRP14/07/20 09:53 AM
3

This post is a shit show. The whole situation has almost nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. You’re not doing anything from the sidebar. See a psychologist. Quell the negative thoughts. Meditate. Lift.
/r/askTRP14/07/20 09:47 AM
2

This is it. You can let them swim off the back in the sunshine, but when the boat is going to a port, you don’t drift out to sea just because the crew are having fun. Don’t lose focus. Don’t lose frame. The trap is a false sense of security. You’re not a passenger. Someone needs to steer.
/r/askTRP13/07/20 08:59 AM
1

Be curious. Have fun. Stay on mission. As /u/throwawaycunt1997 says, tinder has some great tour guides. Try all the hobbies. Take all the courses. Live fast.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 10:03 AM
1

Because it takes too much time, and disrupts your routine and continuity. Imagine having to deal with the drama of a new girl every day while running an empire. Nightmare. Compare that to one politically savvy woman who can speak intelligently to guests. Also, if you’re talking politically powerful, the despots tend to be voted in by countryside conservatives, who like traditional values.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 08:36 AM
1

Heh, that actually got a laugh out of me. I see TRP as making more valuable men. I hope some gals out there have the same thing as TRP, to make them into better people. Body positivity is such a circlejerk.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 08:04 AM
40

Don’t understand it. I like skinny girls. (Aka normal BMI.) I really don’t get the trend at all. It’s ruining Christmas.
/r/askTRP10/07/20 02:29 PM
1

Respect. Sounds like you know what you’re doing. I think AskTRP is great for a nudge when you’re wobbly. If you do have your shit together, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a bit of community charity work, once it isn’t “complicated”. What you have sounds complicated.
/r/askTRP09/07/20 01:19 PM
3

She is not the usual bimbo Here we go. she just broke up from an abusive 7yrs relationship Yep. yesterday she told me that her brother (the last of her family still alive) just died and she need to go away for few days Jesus. Obviously you’re a “nice guy” and want to take care of this damsel in distress so you can be validated and secure because of how much needs you. But this is bullshit. If you want the friendly advice, go somewhere else. For this sub, don’t date damaged girls. Don’t surround …
/r/askTRP09/07/20 08:10 AM
5

A lot of your text is about minding her. That isn’t what this place is really about. You don’t have to love someone back because they love you. That is just weak validation seeking. If you would prefer to break it off, then simply do that. It sounds like you only came here for a push in that direction. If you’re gonna RP it, do that. If you’re gonna beta it, well, RP isn’t for everyone. Be strong brother. Sidebar it up.
/r/askTRP08/07/20 01:35 PM
3

I was genuinely asking. I’m happily friends with some chicks who are fuckable, but who I don’t wanna fuck. But you’re sounding very butthurt for someone whose “bro” bailed on them. If you like her, don’t piss about. Make a move, tank or succeed, move on. Don’t get stuck in the middle ground, do follow the sidebar, don’t be a passenger in your own life.
/r/askTRP08/07/20 12:42 PM
1

I don’t understand. Do you want to fuck her? Are you orbiting? What’s happening here? If this is just a friend, why are we talking about this here?
/r/askTRP08/07/20 11:35 AM
3

Re nervousness, nobody cares about you. The big guy? Doesn’t care. Young guy? Nervous as fuck himself. Doesn’t care. People working there? They certainly don’t care. They’ll help you because they’re paid to. You have genuinely fuck all to be embarrassed about. You could spend 30 minutes trying to change a setting on a machine, and the worst thing that’ll happen is someone might kindly help you out. Most gym folks are pretty sound, but you are wallpaper to them. Do your thing. (Starting strength …
/r/askTRP03/07/20 12:56 PM
5

It’s not bad. It’s totally normal. And it’s a huge turn on for girls. They get so wet from it. 100% assume they love it. This is your frame. Wash, trim. No one wants a weird taste or hairs in their teeth. Then you’re good to go. And don’t ask. By asking, you’re suggesting it might not be ok. It’s a gift you’re letting her have. You’ve been lifting and working on yourself so much, she’s lucky to get to make you happy. This is also your frame. Don’t enter the “maybe not” frame. That is a social bu…
/r/askTRP03/07/20 12:46 PM
-1

This is so insecure. Frame. Abundance. Vet plate before promoting. Don’t mate-guard. Dread levels. This genuinely reads like you were looking for r relationships and got lost. Do the things.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 12:41 PM
7

Shutdown blows. So do the burbs. In normal times, I’d say go on a surf trip, or hit up a group/ course you can reasonably expect a good show at. I get the vibe though; in my experience, women tend to come in groups. You crack the coal seam, you’ll be drowning in it again. Congrats all the same. Sounds like you’re playing it well.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 08:33 PM
3

Sounds fairly reasonable. You could have given a bit of comfort, but hey, plates break. If you don’t have time to spin ‘em, they’re gonna fall and break.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 04:22 PM
56

You’re obviously reading a lot of this sub. Without context and experience, it’s going to seem very aggressive. Whatever you do, I recommend being somewhat authentic. You can be redpill without lying. You can be redpill without cheating. If you don’t want an LTR, don’t have one. If you do, then do. Having an LTR you don’t want, and all the social crap that comes with cheating is going to be miserable, and a waste of time. It’s a dark road, that will make you a darker person. Decide what you want…
/r/askTRP02/07/20 01:26 PM
2

That was a terrible question. Don’t fall into the “follow your dreams” crap and become a failed florist. Look up 1. job satisfaction rates 2. Salary guides (recruiters publish these) Think about what you’re good at compared to other people. Money and talent will be more fun than doing what you thought was fun age 18.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 01:11 PM
2

Yes. In case you’re writing from zero experience, people obviously do get a bit invested, but you don’t want to rely on that. It’ll get boring.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 01:01 PM
1

Great question. You really cracked the case.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 10:59 AM
2

You’re a toy boy. This thread is ridiculous. You’re a hot young piece of ass she’s banging. When she’s 68, you will be 48. At 48 you could be dating a <38 year old girl. She could literally be your mother. This is not one for the long term. She knows it. I have no idea how you don’t know it. This whole thing seems totally clueless from you. Read some books. Talk to friends. Get some life experience.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 10:58 AM
6

Genuinely, seduce her. Wine, old stories, look how far we’ve come, standard game. If it works, and it 100% will, absolute craic, major headfuck, daemons excised. If it doesn’t, then you’re not looking for friends. Sorry for the misunderstanding. It was great catching up. Bye. Don’t orbit. Remember LMR. There may be some. Keep frame. It will probably not be as good as you expect physically, but it’ll be a fun tick box. Remember to fuck her. You’re not there to beta about. Get into it. Have fun.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 10:43 AM
3

Shared experience. I’ve travelled the world and banged / had flings with girls all over the place. Seen amazing things. All separate. The only person I still know who was there, is me. The reason I LTR’d one was to accumulate successes. To have some cumulative rapport. Some novelty in progressing through stages of knowing someone. Flings started getting a bit like Groundhog Day. LTR was more interesting. I’m not saying it will be forever, but it is at the moment. Ya gotta find someone worth both…
/r/askTRP02/07/20 10:35 AM
2

Yes. Imagine negotiating a price at a market. If you’re willing to walk away from the shop, the seller has to give you their best offer. On the other side, when you are selling yourself, TRP shows you how to make yourself valuable, so that you can get paid a lot for what you are.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 10:25 AM
2

Lift Abundance Dread “It was just your turn” Sidebar Sounds like you’re half-assing it. Getting dumped is shit. Don’t wonder what you could have done TO her. Focus inwards on being better. Use the energy.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 10:01 AM
10

Own it. “I love what he did. The guy has style.” Pass on the credit if you like. In life, never be ashamed to adopt/steal ideas. Compliment them. Praise them. Ask them for more ideas. Take everything and use it. You will become the better part of everyone.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 09:55 AM
6

The word “Psychopath” has become popular and not well understood. They probably mean you have an intensity about you, are relentlessly rational, and are not open to emotional manipulation. If they like you, they’ll project (bluepill) expectations on you. When you don’t match those, they’ll have to rationalise all that confusion in their heads. You must be crazy. But you’re too successful to be crazy. What words are left to describe that? As long as you’re not kicking dogs.
/r/askTRP02/07/20 09:50 AM
1

/u/trpcops as -Frank says, where is /u/ya_boi_minkus ‘ question.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 04:55 PM
1

Call. Maintain frame. Don’t waffle. Don’t try to comfort. Accept that it will be crap for her. It’s the cost of not being a slave. Don’t meet the family of a girl you’re about to dump. Frame. Frame. Frame. That’s what got you into this. Sidebar. Basics. This is very straight forward and you’re choosing to make it difficult. You’re in charge of your life. Grow some balls and get on with it.
/r/askTRP01/07/20 04:49 PM
1

You’re gonna love being 30 and dating a 24 yo.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 03:02 PM
1

People have their own stuff going on in their heads. Might not be your monkeys.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 03:00 PM
1

That’s messed up even by blue pill standards. Think you got a bag of crazy there.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 02:58 PM
2

Personally, I don’t let jabs pass. I calmly and curiously ask people what they mean. Ask them to explain. Then I ask what they would have done. Then I ask what motivates them to do that. Then I compliment them on how strong they are. It entertains me, and I get to control the conversation. They have to make up a pack of lies or try to change the subject. Don’t let them change the subject. Doesn’t happen much anymore.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 02:51 PM
1

Don’t ignore. It’s rude. She’s paying for you to live. You aren’t cheap. Be curious. “That’s interesting.” “What made you think that?” “Good perspective.” “That is so true.” Consider it. Don’t recommend anything. This will make you far more resilient than trying to block it out. Your actions have to be your own though. STFU, stash money, make your own plans, don’t talk about your plans, and then execute on them. Move out, and then do what you like. This isn’t about wrecking your relationship wit…
/r/askTRP29/06/20 02:46 PM
6

If on mobile, click “about” on the subreddit page. Big list of links and resources. If on pc, it’s on the right hand side of the subreddit page.
/r/askMRP26/06/20 12:11 PM
1

No prob. Source is a sidebar book “the way of the superior man”. The language is a bit waffly (“move your energy“) but the message is great. Found it about 10 years ago. Read it about once a year. It’s gold.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 12:09 PM
19

You’re the most interesting part of their day.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 10:57 AM
9

Does not matter at all. Enjoy it. You’re 18. Say what you like. Don’t be all paranoid about putting on a porn show. Getting better and taking time can happen later. Relax, have some fun. You sound like you’ve been working hard and become awesome. She’ll be way more nervous than you. She’s about to get fucked.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 10:55 AM
4

Because they’re losers. People who lost. They didn’t win and now they hate the game. They got rejected, and now they’re saying “you’re ugly anyway”. It’s kinda tragic. Hope they work hard and pull through.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 10:48 AM
4

People will tell you all kinds of stuff. Some smart, some dumb. You have to get good at hearing advice, conveying that you appreciate the advice, and then deciding without having to share your decision. They may be very wrong. You don’t have to do the thing. But it’s important to keep people onside. It’s not your job to fix them. You don’t have to prove you’re right either. You do you. People will talk all kinds of shit.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 10:43 AM
12

Yeah, it’s crazy how personal and strong a feeling it is. Good thing you’re here, and there’s literally a giant sidebar of how to deal with it. And some folks commenting to help you. Lift Work hard, study hard Abundance. Other women. Time As I said elsewhere, stop your search for closure. You will not solve this feeling. Be strong. Be successful. Bang someone hotter, smarter, and more fun. In a few years, this’ll be “that time you fancied some girl”.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 10:35 AM
1

It’s fascinating When you have a problem, it’s hard to see the wood from the trees Help the newbies Give something back Refine and evolve the ideas for yourself
/r/askTRP26/06/20 10:28 AM
0

Your parents have been in a relationship since before you were born. You might think you know their relationship, but you don’t. You’re their child. You can make your dad aware, but unless she’s abusive, this isn’t really your problem. There are a lot of alternate relationships here. He may be sleeping with other people too. You know them as parents, but you don’t know what they’re like as lovers, in their own heads, with their own hopes, desires and issues. If they were good to you, you can wis…
/r/askTRP26/06/20 10:23 AM
4

You need to know the end of the story. What happens next. Did the hero live? Did the football team win? Why was the girl so sad? “Closure” = the feeling of the story being complete. “Narrative” = story. The search for that feeling can make you do things that are not useful or good. Life is full of stories that disappear, rather than being explained.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 10:15 AM
6

Totally agree. We’re all playing with fire, basically all of the time. And I am really arguing the left because you are arguing the right, and it doesn’t sound like anyone has spelled it out. Struggling to conceive is a quiet sorrow that usually stays hidden inside of a relationship. It’s not as public as “I banged up this chick”. I wouldn’t underestimate it though. People can spend years with ivf in waiting rooms and at home wondering if they’ll see their son or daughter, half them, half their …
/r/askTRP25/06/20 04:39 PM
1

I’m not for or against, if you’ve thought about it. If it is logical for you, do anything. Be sure you have weighed it up over a space of time. Elective surgery is never trivial. Make sure you’re dispassionate, read the other side of the story, and haven’t just fallen down an internet hole.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 03:38 PM
22

A lot of people see having kids as an important part of being human, and lots of people who never wanted kids before change their minds in their late 20s and 30s. Being 65 without kids could be kinda lonely when you’ve done everything else there is to do, and your friends are dying off. He would probably also like grandkids running around the garden, and sees this as permanent.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 03:34 PM
389

It’s not about you, and it’s not yours to fix. Some people are having a tough time in their heads. You’re a stranger, and it’s not really your business. Abandon your search for narrative closure. Also, I know it can be suuuper fun, but really don’t stick your dick in crazy.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 03:29 PM
2

Also, don’t take life too seriously. You can work hard, but I t’s meant to be a bit fun and a bit silly. TRP are tools you can use. Helps you out. Tweaks things you could do better. 90% of the useful info is - lift, - have a good life yourself before chasing women, and - some good ideas around being happy while dating as a guy. You really don’t need to get bogged down in all the heavy stuff. It’s just angry losers (people who lost) being boring.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 02:40 PM
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Nah, that's just normal stuck-inside, not-exercising, not-seeing-friends stuff. Everyone gets that. Go for a run, cook for your friends once or twice (even if it's weird) and see how you feel. Separately to your totally normal cocoon problem, Humans always feel a vague discomfort and hunger for more. That's what keeps you breathing, eating, keeping yourself alive. If you don't deliver on it, it can be a depressing sorrow/yearning. If you do deliver, it's called "drive". When you start delivering…
/r/askTRP25/06/20 02:10 PM
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There are no women in this list because you are depressed and not ready for that. After 2 weeks of good food, exercise and meeting people, you’ll feel a lot better. Get your shit together before you add women, or you’ll try use them as a crutch, when actually you’re just failing at living.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 01:45 PM
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Exercise. Not optional. Meditate. Not optional. Bedtime. Get a full night’s sleep. No phones in bed. Not optional. Diet. Semi optional. Take up making good food as a hobby. Refocusing on outcome. Make a poster of why you want to have studied. The job. The money. The stakes. The fact that you’ll ruin age 24-65+ of your life if you don’t. How good it can be. Get better downtime. Call your family or friends for a chat. Host some dinner parties. Go for a walk. Take some photos. Don’t sit in your hov…
/r/askTRP25/06/20 01:41 PM
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Brilliant. I’m already doing 1. You’ve described it very well. Number 2 is what I was after. I’ll give it a lash.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 09:31 AM
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I like it. Links well with what LeatherBoundWisdom was saying below. With lockdown, I'm short on stories and high on plans, and I hadn't even noticed. Thanks for the re-focus.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 10:53 AM
1

NP. Drop a message in this thread in a few days if you want more nuance and less hammer.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 10:45 AM
1

Great perspective. Compartmentalising may help a lot.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 10:34 PM
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Don’t dig through the trash.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 02:06 PM
2

Absolutely excellent post. Thanks for the recommendation. https://theredarchive.com/post/246538
/r/askTRP23/06/20 12:44 PM
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I only do it if it’s borderline sarcastic. If you were in the gym that day then “Me? Work out? Pfft, never. Not into that.” As long as it doesn’t play into a narrative of “I’m mediocre and it’s ok and funny”. The narrative has to be “I succeed at everything I do. You may be allowed join me.” Either way, you’re better going the other direction; “I’m actually playing both sides of a game of chess in my head right now.”
/r/askTRP23/06/20 12:30 PM
1

That’s actually the core of it. And them basically frame spreading at me forever after. Now that you mention it, it’s like opening another front in a war.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 12:25 PM
1

What’s this a reference to? Sounds like good perspective.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 12:23 PM
2

General. Life plans. Moving house (before all plans are confirmed), job hunting. Just telling people what I’m doing has led to crap advice, and resistance from family and friends who have nothing to do with it. I am genuinely thinking of reciting song lyrics in my head to help just not talk.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 12:22 PM
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Chapter 15 of the Deida book in the sidebar is literally called “stop hoping for your woman to get easier”. So you’re basically out of redpill and into Pavlovian conditioning. Tell her to compliment you, and when she does, make her feel good in some way. Scale up over months. When she starts doing it spontaneously, gradually remove the stimulus. Another way is to make your own drama, so her emotional dinnerplate is already full of sweets. Separately, a perspective that is useful is considering i…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 12:19 PM
1

Once the cortisol is in your veins, you’re basically on a 15 minute time out. It’s a shit body thing, and basically nothing to do with you. If you get hard in your own time, it’s probably not medical, and you have sfa to worry about. Do not give a f*uck. At all. It’s literally a thing that happens and a non-issue. Do not try to get hard. That shit just happens. You don’t summon it. Ignore your dick. Relax. No clenching. If you’re having a problem with 2, tell her you’re definitely not having sex…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 12:10 PM
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I absolutely do not find them attractive. It’s like drawing on yourself in permanent marker. And on a partner, I don’t wanna be looking at a butterfly while banging them. I’d rather bang an non-scribbled-on human.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 11:46 AM
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Comfort or shit? If you’ve been improving recently, both will ramp up, especially the comfort tests if your increased SOV makes her insecure.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 11:44 AM
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Not at all. It’s far better. Take the useful tools, ditch the rest. A lot of the people in hate spirals are just sore losers.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 10:55 AM
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It’s normal to think about what you would do before, if you knew what you know now. It’s normal but not useful. Life does not have closure. You will not solve this. Something else will become more important, and you’ll just forget. Block her social media. Don’t dig through the trash.
/r/askTRP16/06/20 11:57 AM
1

You read the things, but did you do the things? This is not something you solve on paper. You can’t maths this out and be “cured”. You have to put in the work. Lift. Shag other girls. Then see.
/r/askTRP16/06/20 11:12 AM
1

“I can feel your anger. It gives you focus, makes you stronger.” Use it while it’s there. Don’t worry too much. It’ll pass. Also, you’re only angry because you feel cheated. But this is just how things are. It’s hard to be angry with a flower for luring bees, or with a shark for eating fish.
/r/askTRP16/06/20 11:08 AM
2

Work hard on your self. STFU. Wait for that first joke that almost sounds more like jealousy than insult. “Dianded1, do you think getting ripped makes you less of a retard?” It’ll piss them off that you start to succeed. Just STFU, keep working, keep winning. You may find some will respect you when you earn their respect. It doesn’t sound like you’ve earned it yet. Their respect is not your goal. You win for you.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 09:53 PM
1

Study. Get a job that builds experience or has a future. Start spotting what things are helping you in the long run, and what aren’t. Start spotting what things companies, religions, people, friends, universities, schools tell you are true and useful, and what aren’t. Most are trying to get you to be a good little boy and get as much out of you for as little as possible. And have fun. Life is a lot of craic. Work hard, win, enjoy it.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 09:13 PM
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Breaking up can be like getting up to pee. At first, you don’t need to go that badly, and bed is warm and comfy. After a while, you’re not really happy. A bit more and you’re in danger of wetting the bed. Just get up and pee. You can get back into bed after. (A metaphorically new bed).
/r/askTRP15/06/20 05:55 PM
1

If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:57 PM
1

Fair play. I’ll keep my stupid comments in my pocket. Did you try a reasonable number of approaches? Eventually you don’t have the fear. Sheer practise to the point you’re bored.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:34 PM
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You’re waaay overanalysing this. You don’t need to be a zealot to use the tools. Decide what’s true and what’s useful, and have at it. Do take in some of the energy though. Just because you haven’t been ditched by a hot girl, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t live well. Life is very short. There is only one. You are dying one day at a time. Sitting at home. Losing minutes off your life you will never get back. What do you have to show for it? Think of time as money. You’re paying it. What are you getti…
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:32 PM
1

There are 3 things you need to consider when dating; Location, location, location.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:22 PM
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It’s always easier to get more when you have it. If you wanna bang a 6, go for it. Have fun. Set expectations though. If you really date down, they’re gonna be suuuuuuper attached and paranoid.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:21 PM
1

This is sidebar stuff. How many months have you been lifting? Have you read the books? This is not a sympathy sub.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:18 PM
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You are more than welcome to both the words, and the thought behind it. For more on delicious analogies, check out Orwell’s essay “Politics and the English Language”.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:15 PM
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My angle with that was... women are the object, and then some people study the game, some people play the game. Adapt the metaphor as you see fit.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 02:14 PM
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Women know redpill in the same way that footballs know gravity. They adhere to it, but they don’t get it. If you want advice on gravity, you don’t ask the football, you ask the physicist or the footballer.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 11:44 AM
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Pining after an ideal past is common to every generation. Don’t fall into the trap. It wasn’t better back before toilet paper. The women probably stank, and there were no condoms. Life is good, and getting better. Enjoy it. Edit: we’re all just clueless monkeys parroting what we heard, and trying to make sense of shit. No need to hate. No need to think anyone’s too smart or dumb. Just have a good time. Use the tools.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 11:39 AM
2

Rebaseline. Play the cards you have. Know where you are, and judge yourself based on how you perform from there. Or cry into your pillow forever. This isn’t a place for sympathy. It’s for for getting shit done.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 11:36 AM
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Friends are harder to come by as you get older. Abundance mentality with girls. If you’re trying to get him to up his game, google “Reddit Stages of Change and How Best To Work With People Experiencing Each One“. That table spells it out.
/r/askTRP14/06/20 12:02 PM
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Also, if you have a hair-brained idea to start a company, do it ASAP, and in your 20s when you have nothing to lose. When you hit 30s, it’s less socially acceptable not to have stable income. Friends will have houses and wives. It gets harder to blow off 2 years of income and career because you can draw cool trousers.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 02:01 PM
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Working for the rest of your life at what you think is cool at 17 is usually a bad idea. What makes people happy is “autonomy, mastery, purpose”. College is something you buy with your time and money (and it sounds like state money for you). They are selling a product. They just want you to pick that course. Your future is not on their minds. Getting a course doesn’t guarantee a job or a career. Look up how many film making grads end up actually making films and how much they’re paid. Check out …
/r/askTRP12/06/20 01:58 PM
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Well put. My only experiences of either were exactly that.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 04:50 AM
2

So much text. Gonna guess... Oneitis, sidebar, lift.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 09:51 PM
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Uni is one of the last major self-contained Acts in the play. The rest is less distinct and entirely up to you. Life doesn’t happen in 4-6 year blocks anymore. Friend groups become something you do, rather than something that happens. You have to actually organise things, not just show up for class. I enjoyed women more after college when they got a bit of sense. The untethered intensity will probably not repeat. You will own things and become someone, and find a new reward in being your own per…
/r/askTRP11/06/20 09:47 PM
2

The gym is literally where all the fit dudes are. Because it's a gym. If you want to compare, walk down a random street.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 01:38 PM
2

Tell her playfully that if she’s egalitarian she can make it up to you, and if not she can accept the patriarchy in the form of nice things. She probably doesn’t like that she owes you, and is using sexism to wriggle out of the feeling of obligation. Its a deflection for insecurity, much like “you really shouldn’t have”. She probably isn’t aware of the why. Polarised people rarely hold frame with self scrutiny, so if you want to screw with her, just go 5 “whys” deep into any position. But you sh…
/r/askTRP08/06/20 10:41 AM
2

STFU. Pass shit tests. STFU some more. Move on. You might find you have a better relationship as you both get your lives together. Family are worth keeping close as you get older.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 04:54 PM
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Totally agree with the question. You can be a strong and ruthless liberal. The image of what strength is can get a little muddled. A lot of people on this sub are butthurt about women, going through the anger phase, and just want to hate on “them”.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 04:40 PM
1

Check this. Stay balanced. https://symmetricstrength.com/
/r/askTRP02/06/20 05:02 PM
11

Great read. Deserves a column with submitted stories.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 10:34 AM
1

Thank you for taking time to write this. It is exceptionally useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/20 12:29 PM
5

Do not tell her. She’s not your mom or your priest. Get your shit together. Side bar. Lift. Frame. STFU. You will not fix this in a day. You may find after 6+ months of applying yourself that you have become something better.
/r/askTRP30/05/20 11:07 AM
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Because sex is great and some chicks are fun. Remember that improving yourself is the path to all of this. You’ll both attract more women, and care less that you did.
/r/askTRP30/05/20 11:04 AM
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Ignore the groups. Just join what you want to join. Groups matter when you're 14, but not when you're 27. Especially when you're an adult with a career. Double-especially when you've starting to show some muscle after lifting for 8 months. Remember that lifting is not optional. I've done yoga, 5Ks and Bootcamps. They can all be done without talking to anyone. I would not recommend them for socialising. They are introspective. My suggestions, it is normal for you to interact. Plan how to climb a …
/r/askTRP30/05/20 10:17 AM
1

Number 2 in this. Had to scroll up and see what sub this was in.
/r/askTRP30/05/20 09:51 AM
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Journal if you like, but join some mixed groups. Climbing, dancing, badminton, anything with women. Make some friends. Have some conversations with women. If you crawl out of your java dungeon into the light, you’re gonna need a bit of wind in the cobwebs. 27 is a great age to be, and you have a career. Remember that lifting isn’t optional.
/r/askTRP30/05/20 09:33 AM
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Lift. Dress well. Calm, strong voice. Up your smv. Don’t enter their frame. Read the sidebar and learn about frame. Empathy is good, but know that you’re a lot of fun, way cooler than they are, and they’d Be lucky to hang out with you. But you might not have time for them. You’re a ball of fun and fuck everyone else. If they don’t get that, it’s because they don’t understand yet. They might in a while. Or maybe they missed out. Poor fools. Smirk and move on. Set a time limit when you approach. “…
/r/askTRP30/05/20 09:11 AM
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