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There's a difference between selling something that demean women (like Axe's ads), furthers gender stereotypes, and those that celebrate gender stereotypes without furthering them. I could see where this is in either group 2 or 3 but I'd suggest 3 because it's a class of product that typically sell to women and consequently only have a limited range of stereotypical scents. Making "man cans" opens up the market to both genders while, I think, poking fun at the male gender stereotype (as opposed …
/r/MensRights20/07/18 08:35 PM
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A few things. Boys and girls are physically much more similar until puberty. If the two are different, it's upbringing and societal, not biological. In which case the judgement call you're making that a child with a penis has a different upbringing than one with longer hair. That's as base sexist as things get. Is mom-daughter time somehow more valuable than mom-son or dad-child time? In what way are the different combinations mutually exclusive? It feels a whole lot like this question comes fro…
/r/MensRights26/04/18 03:34 PM
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I think you're filling in the gaps between what I said incorrectly. You're absolutely right, the article is a huge men's rights issue. But lately this sub has screencap clippings of headlines of stories like OP's, or full stories from archive.is, or full stories from dailymail, and those are all shit sources. I know from others links that this is real, but most people that see the material in this site are not going to follow up and think we're a bunch of morons. If we want traction on real issu…
/r/MensRights31/08/17 03:15 PM
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Yeah, that's a big problem for this sub. Actually in general. I think the same thing happens to a lot of feminist, firearm, abortion, etc. arguments. Seems like we've got two choices: make an inaccurate, emotional argument and get traction or make a well-reasoned, accurate, logical argument and get no traction.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 06:57 PM
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I pretty much agreed with you that there are real issues behind these shit articles and incomplete newspaper clippings posted on this site lately, so I'm not sure what all the rage is for. So, I agree with you that the criminal justice system is sexist, but without sources, I'm not willing to go argue shit. So what I suggest to OP, the /r/mensrights community as a whole, and to you, is to start providing generally respected (not just respected in this sub) sources to support your arguments. Here…
/r/MensRights30/08/17 05:30 PM
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Real sources? Seems like it's at least semi-legit (ignoring her super rich family being likely involved), but damnit, this place is already a sesspool of alt-right bullshit sources. There's plenty of real gender issues to be upset about. When this sub is loaded with bullshit, people will treat it (rightfully) as bullshit.
/r/MensRights30/08/17 03:50 PM
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This. This sub is riddled with shit sources. There's plenty of real stuff to be upset about, but when people on this sub are taking clippings off of other, shady sources, it's just as bad as all the feminists that this sub complains about (note, that's not a reflection on feminists as much as how feminists are discussed on this sub).
/r/MensRights30/08/17 03:47 PM
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I cant upvote this hyperbolic headline, no matter how much I like the content.
/r/MensRights03/06/17 12:27 PM
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Glad I'm not the only one. I figured it was going to be some horrific pro-"old family values" (men and women should know their place) type production. From one menslib review it sounds like it's ok from a style point of view but a pretty open and informative, non-anti-feminist on the whole production.
/r/MensRights21/05/17 05:34 PM
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I agree with you, the damage that can be done by flatly believing a victim is reason enough to take issue with the post. Maybe they should have been kore specific. Still, many (probably most) claims of rape are legit, and the mental issues associated are severe. The best thing to do is comfort the person, whether you think it's bullshit or not, get them to a doctor, and get them to the police. All the rest of the issues should be sorted out there. Your suspicions of foul play just dont justify p…
/r/MensRights20/05/17 03:34 AM
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I think you're taking what I'm saying and adding to it. Yes, simply believing and consoling the supposed victim is all helpful. Immediately leading a witchhunt is obviously potentially damaging. Those two things are very separate things. And it's not individual's jobs to lead investigations, so it's best to get whoever's claimed to be raped into professional hands (therepist, police, doctor) and step back. I'd never encourage anyone to take up the vigilante cause.
/r/MensRights18/05/17 09:58 PM
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Came here to say this. Believe and accept testimony as proof are two very different things. If someone comes to you and tells you that you've been raped, there's zero problem and tons of benefit to believing them. There's a lot of harm in not believing them.
/r/MensRights17/05/17 10:44 PM
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The idea that it's ok to start cutting up anyone's genitals without their consent, nick or otherwise, for flaky health reasons or cultural reasons, is pretty barbaric. And what could have been an honest open discussion turned into a vague "it's ok to impose this thing that I chose to do on infant girls cause it's not Type 3" and "I don't want your culture here". It's nice that this topic was even allowed to rest here, but Fox news is such blatant anti-immigrant drivel it's disgusting.
/r/MensRights09/05/17 01:10 PM
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Something that I think many feminists (people in general, but we're talking about feminists here) is the concept that not all logical, interesting talking points are true or meaningful. I'll defend this concept of "dont feminize bombs" discussion as an interesting talking point, but it doesnt really mean anything to anybody. Also, it's only being used to grandstand against men.
/r/MensRights21/04/17 12:05 PM
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So the concept is that if we measure everyone's outcomes and one gender clearly leads, then likely they started ahead of the other. I agree, force equality of outcomes is flawed. But it's harder to measure that and harder to report about that than it is outcomes. Outcomes are a sign, not the end goal. One go a step more to the left and say that, in some cases, the outcomes will never be equal because gender itself (strength, height, etc) will never have an equal starting position. Because of tha…
/r/MensRights11/04/17 09:23 PM
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I guess that makes him 1 in 428 so far.
/r/MensRights01/04/17 01:12 PM
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I agree, that would qualify as hate. Now, name 3 lobbyist groups that qualify. Cite their expenditures, and missions of those expenditures. Then, show me that at least a majority of feminists align with at least one of those groups. Then show me that feminists who align themselves with those groups align themselves with the anti-male purpose of those expenditures. It's easy to say they exist, but they don't. It's easy to say most feminists support their evil cause, but they don't. If you're goin…
/r/MensRights01/03/17 08:17 PM
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Not quite. There are plenty of things to be upset about that are more meaningful and more impactful to most men. Focusing on little shit like this diminishes our credibility. Like it or not, the success of a social movement is largely based on credibility.
/r/MensRights01/03/17 08:00 PM
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Look, I can't make you think any different, but I could find hundreds of articles that make men's rights look like a hate movement too. If you want a war between movements, keep doing what you're doing. If you want to solve something, stop acting like all feminists are spreading hate speech just because they align themselves with a movement that they see differently than you do. If you're correct about what the largest feminist organization is, and that they're fighting tooth and nail about some…
/r/MensRights01/03/17 07:48 PM
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Here was my response to another comment that echo'ed your position: I agree with this, it's important to keep a handle on the general volume of this sort of crap. But it's an issue of volume/ratio; there's so much of it, and the majority is from low-quality sources. This sub has turned into a cataloging agency for these sorts of low quality/low level sexism reports. This is bad because: It increases exposure bias among subscribers. People who watch the local news think modern society is more vio…
/r/MensRights01/03/17 06:18 PM
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I think the problem with how MRA's see feminists is part of the "judge others by their actions and yourself by your intentions" issue. I suspect that you're a decent human being pursuing equality, but there are plenty of people who, right or wrong, are considered MRAs. Judging mensrights by the actions of Milo Y..opolus or r/theredpill is no different than judging feminism by r/feminism or the actions of Amy Schumer. The point here is that you've got this holier-than-thou view of feminism vs. me…
/r/MensRights01/03/17 06:13 PM
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Also, upvote for the convo. I honestly love and respect this sort of discussion. That's why I'm here.
/r/MensRights01/03/17 04:08 PM
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I agree with this, it's important to keep a handle on the general volume of this sort of crap. But it's an issue of volume/ratio; there's so much of it, and the majority is from low-quality sources. This sub has turned into a cataloging agency for these sorts of low quality/low level sexism reports. This is bad because: It increases exposure bias among subscribers. People who watch the local news think modern society is more violent than it is, and people on this sub think modern society is more…
/r/MensRights01/03/17 04:07 PM
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Thats really horrible.
/r/MensRights01/03/17 11:37 AM
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I was just looking up valence emotions when I came back to elaborate on what I thought I read. What I'd like to do is at least partially disregard the existing psychological theory and more closely correlate the description with the physics definition. Like valence electrons, valence emotions are easily excited, and inevitably require an energy output in order to return to normal. It seems psychology reads too much into positive and negative as absolutes. I much prefer to think of them as simply…
/r/MensRights01/03/17 05:21 AM
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So that's both a reason for why OP should post it, but it's also a reason why OP shouldn't. They should, because it's a sign that society is sexist (not because of hate for the argument itself). This is not how OP titled the post though. Still, OP shouldn't have posted it because 1. it's more air-time for the shit-stirring post and 2. To misconstrue the article for real opinion is the entire purpose of the lie. Still, at some point, there's gotta be some respect for what deserves attention and n…
/r/MensRights01/03/17 03:44 AM
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I get this sentiment, and many others have voiced it. I think it's important to recognize what some of the more popular sources say and get away with, but when they're so ill respected, why bother?
/r/MensRights01/03/17 02:33 AM
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I havent visited r/feminism since I was banned years ago. Its sad that its such a problem sub.
/r/MensRights01/03/17 01:03 AM
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u/Larry-Man may have just outed him/herself as more than just a feminist... Not that any of the above is bad. Edit: wow, I'm not drunk yet. I though I read that you were also a woman. Now I feel like an asshat for assuming you were a woman because you're a feminist. Gonna pack it up for tonight I think.
/r/MensRights01/03/17 12:40 AM
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Understood. something something rise above.
/r/MensRights01/03/17 12:01 AM
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Don't give this crap the legitimacy of a response. The fire will burn itself out.
/r/MensRights01/03/17 12:00 AM
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Nah. No one there is spending any time on journalistic integrity. Viewership? Yeah, they're all over that. And it's a problem, but I still think we're better off ignoring them than turning into whiny bastards about it. The best comeback is not to say anything, but to treat the joke as insignificant.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 11:59 PM
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No, women didn't say this. Some shitlord wrote this post, probably as a joke, but if it were serious, they would still be trolls. This isn't a real opinion, and if it is then it's not the opinion of 'women'. That's the point. Similarly, we have no reason whatsoever to act like feminists, especially if you're silly enough to think that most feminists think like the writer of this article. So what, you can be a shitlord because someone else is a shitlord? When everyone else is gone, you're still a…
/r/MensRights28/02/17 11:57 PM
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Yeah, but we're not police. No one is. They're free to say whatever shit they can. Getting all bent out of shape about it is pretty immature. And frankly, there's plenty out there that's misogynist and racist and no one is getting their head chopped off. Granted there's more societal pressure to be non-racist and non-sexist right now, but it's a myth that everyone who's anti-male is walking around spouting out their 'kill all men' philosophies. If misogyny and racism were dead, we wouldn't have …
/r/MensRights28/02/17 11:54 PM
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I've reviewed this and the first comment again. You're not really saying it, so I won't pin it on you, but it still smells a bit like an old man rant on young people these days. I don't know where you are in life, but I'm a millennial myself. I'm not college aged anymore, but I can't help but think that some of this sentiment and some of the general sentiment on this sub is based on generational and political biases. Sure, lots of people do like Buzzfeed and similar opinu-tainment sources and so…
/r/MensRights28/02/17 11:49 PM
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Nope, been here for most of 3 years, if not over. Not sure exactly how long, but years. I see some of the same patterns that you have, but my take on this sub has been very different. When I joined in years ago, the sub got more heat. In the last 1-1.5 years, this sub has turned into a swamp of exactly the OP's kinds of posts, and whenever I read through the comments, the majority (certainly not all) of the comments are crap about how bad feminism is and how misandrist society is. I've gone a ve…
/r/MensRights28/02/17 11:18 PM
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I don't mean to encourage anyone to thinking badly of r/feminism or feminists. I think you missed this. And no, the vast majority of feminists are not these people and do entertain discourse. I once spent a good half hour debating with a professor of feminism even after she heard I was active on /mensrights. Now, something I'll give you credit for; there's a large part of the liberal community that seems to think itself justified in their self-appointed status as humanitarian judge. Looking for …
/r/MensRights28/02/17 09:56 PM
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Absolutely right, it's unacceptable misandry. But making this sub into a list of anti-male statements makes mensrights look like a bunch of idiots circlejerking about how everyone hates men. There are real inequities out there and discussing them in reasonable fashion earns the movement credibility. There will always be jerks out there and we do just need to get over it.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 09:26 PM
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Lol, honestly hadn't concidered. Probably true. Another good reason not to get so pissy about it.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 07:49 PM
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Lol. Was just there. You've got something special going on out in Denver and Steamboat. Cool shit. Also, how the hell do you deal with the thin dry air?
/r/MensRights28/02/17 07:48 PM
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Me too. We all need judgement-free censors. For all the ills of anonymous communities, one of the benefits is shitting our your thoughts on the internet and letting people tell you why you're wrong. I realized early on that it doesn't matter how right you are, the first stupid thing you say, your credibility is shot. I learned that the very hard way, many times over. I still do. But analyzing and reviewing yourself with that in mind helps.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 07:40 PM
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Oh, and, upvote for the conversation. My intent isn't to argue but to disagree and discuss. I do honestly appreciate your post.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 07:07 PM
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Well, you're right and wrong at the same time. I agree, there are some reeeeally closeminded subs, and I can personally vouch for r/feminism being one of them. But here's the thing. Liberal subreddits like r/feminism aren't the opposite of r/mensrights. In fact, the concept of fighting for gender equality is a liberal concept. Sure, r/mensrights tends to attract conservatives, but most non MRM conservatives think that MRM is a bunch of spineless beta males bitching anyway. Even if r/mensrights i…
/r/MensRights28/02/17 07:06 PM
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That's what she said?
/r/MensRights28/02/17 06:21 PM
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YUUUUUUP. The Red Pill. What a swamp. I miss the days of reasonable commentary on societal asymmetry.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 06:21 PM
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lol, honesty. Love it. It's fine, it just seems like this sub has turned into a bunch of sniveling Breitbart subscribers bitching about tumblr and buzzfeed.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 06:19 PM
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That's the thing. In a world of 7 billion and a country of 330 million (I'm in the States), the number of shit organizations and posts like the attached are sooooo damn high. Same with FB posts that make it here. I'm convinced that there's an equal number of shitty anti-female posts generally on the internet. Granted, fewer organizations are willing to sponsor that content, and I think that's a legitimate gripe, but linking every shitpost here is going to make it seem like 50% of the internet is…
/r/MensRights28/02/17 06:18 PM
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Probably largely true, and they seem to have been loaned some level of viewership among feminists because of their anti-male posture. So see some legitimate complaint about them based on their viewership, but I don't think anyone takes them seriously as news media. Opinion pieces have value. News has value. This is one of those cases where at least they're considered opinion instead of news.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 06:14 PM
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And yet it's 30% of the posts on this sub.
/r/MensRights28/02/17 06:12 PM
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I agree, but the question is what is mainstream. This post is not. This post is on bullshit clickbait pretending to be media. And that's the problem. I think there are legit links on WaPo and NYT that I have issue and want to post here, but this sub has gotten so full of being upset over lone assholes that you can't hear the legit complaints over the noise. It's been that way for years now, and it's turning away a lot of people and de-legitimizing to any mens lib/mensrights arguments. It's that …
/r/MensRights28/02/17 06:11 PM
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Downvote me, it's fine, I know it's coming. But seriously, if you guys continue to take places like buzzfeed as your source for "what horrible feminists say" and places like dailymail foractual news, you're gonna think the world is out for us. Sure, this post is terrible. There are stupid feminists out there. There are enough shitbag feminists out there to find multiple shitposts daily. Thats the nature of a world with 7B people. But just like people are scared of all the crime reporting going o…
/r/MensRights28/02/17 12:39 PM
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You're linking posts from literally The Gossip Mill.
/r/MensRights14/02/17 09:31 PM
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Understood. I think what's so disagreeable about this to many people is the percieved demise of personal responsibility. Someone chose to get drunk and be around other people, and they chose to do that sober. If they wanted to get drunk and stay in but they got out of control and ended up in public, they should know better to not drink or to drink with trusted friends. Ultimately it'll ultimately be everyone's own decision to put themselves, not everyone else's. And I get the others side's point…
/r/MensRights12/01/17 11:40 PM
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What if two gay guys have drunk sex? How about two lesbians? What happens then?
/r/MensRights12/01/17 07:02 PM
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It has to do with being unable/incapable of concent as opposed to things you freely decide to do on your own. It is gray, but hear me out. Drunk sex is more like drunkenly signing a waiver to go skydiving while drunk. You may choose to skydive sober, you may choose to skydive while drunk. Thats all on the skydiver. However that waiver you signed is not legally valid if you're drunk, therefore the responsibility for you falls on the skydive organization that took you up. The difference here is th…
/r/MensRights12/01/17 06:53 PM
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I think my problem with all this is that, like a lot of issues I have with feminist policy, start somewhere reasonable and go somewhere dumb and hurtful to men. So, somewhere along the line the discussion probably started with something more like "there are a lot of behaviors that we believe are inappropriate and degrading to women that society seems to consider acceptable. These may be flirting tactics or relationship status issues, etc. They are the social norms and thats not acceptable (think…
/r/MensRights06/12/16 12:47 PM
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This speaks to something I've been saying: speaking out in your room alone is not communication, it's just speaking. Communication isn't about saying things, it's about other people understanding. Things said to a person that do not communicate what you want to say are useless or worst. Don't speak, communicate.
/r/MensRights11/11/16 04:43 PM
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I think this is a really good piece for discussion of how unhealthy these sorts of roles are and less of the opinion of the artist. Also, as u/youreallmeatanyway mentioned, yin and yang have such historical literary basis here.
/r/MensRights17/10/16 10:57 PM
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Yes. We can play into the system and get the same result. We can play the alternative vote in hopes hat the 3rd party candidate will win or that the votes will show that America is sick of the two party system. Unfortunately, the votes wont count for anything. They wont be great enough to wake anyone up. They wont elect anyone. Yeah, I know this is one of those self-prophecies, but the thing is that VERY VERY few people who will vote for Trump would ever be reasonable and vote 3rd party. There a…
/r/MensRights27/09/16 03:33 PM
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Well aware and agreed.
/r/MensRights27/09/16 02:44 PM
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I cant in good consience encourage you to vote for Hillary, but I can encourage you to cast a vote to keep a neonazi conman out of office (which means vote for Hillary). Giant douche and turd sandwich.
/r/MensRights27/09/16 01:23 PM
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No one said the gap doesnt exist, they just said the myth is why it exists. Clinton did not, iirc, say why it exists, just that she promises to do something about it. Not sure what that means though. To be fair, I dont like Clinton and I dont know what she wants to do about the wage gap, but I cant forget that the political scene is bigger than just mensrights issues. This is a race between a racist conman and a disagreeable feminist.
/r/MensRights27/09/16 01:22 PM
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I can understand that sentiment. Seems like you'd be an advocate of a "once you're drunk it's all on you" responsibility plan. I could hardly argue against you on that. My retort would be this: laws should not be designed to control how we live, they should be designed to support the life that we wish to live. Obviously this is a high and impossible ideal but it's what we should strive for. In that mindset, people wish to be able to consume alcohol and many do it very responsibly. There are few …
/r/MensRights09/08/16 05:50 PM
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Easy. Innocence until proven guilty. We forget how groundbreaking a concept this was when it was written (or at least during the late renaissance when intellectuals began writing about it). This was the anti-witchhunt ammendment. This is its entire purpose: it's so easy for humans to burn whoever initially seems guilty but we're the first country to legally guarantee due process. Rape is not different than murder in severity and difficulty to convict, someone being hysterical over rape isn't rea…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 04:10 PM
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Yep. For my own information, could you send a link to one of those studies?
/r/MensRights09/08/16 12:23 PM
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Yes. Not every violation had to have someone who was remotely aware that they were doing anything wrong either. The whole "good, they deserve it" mentality to men is really telling. What, what did I do? Sit on the a busy train with my legs spread? Talk condescending to a woman? Leered at a girl? Molested someone? Raped someone? I've done none of those things. Some feminists really act like men are a guilty population.
/r/MensRights09/08/16 11:13 AM
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Yeah, I didn't think we were talking about Australian shepherds here. See, what I tested in the earlier statement was the concept that rape could imply a victim but not necessarily an attacker. I kinda like the idea. Because no one seems to look at the perspective of the guy (in your case, the other guy) in these situations. If the woman/femme feels bad about what happened, the man must have done it to her. But to the man, nothing strange happened. And no matter what anyone argues, EVERYONE who …
/r/MensRights09/08/16 10:15 AM
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I would have imagined 'dingo' to be a euphemism for a penis, but I guess it can go both ways. I think you're right, and I may be filling in details to my interpretation. It sounds like there was a good deal of time that went by where the girl was physically unable to push/shove/yell and was in a state of horror. I agree, there's a HUGE difference between laying there wishing it was over cause you're tired/done/not feeling into it anymore and feeling completely violated by it. We've all been ther…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 03:47 AM
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There's obviously a lot more going on. You: rape accuser contradicted themselves. They must be lying. Me: rape victims often contradict themselves. Putting them through a gauntlet where they know if they fuck up their story at all (and they will, it's a mental condition) their case will be thrown out is unreasonable. Don't just believe everything, and don't stop investigating to find which story is real, just don't throw out the case. I heard myself say that twice now. I still agree with it.
/r/MensRights09/08/16 03:21 AM
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No, that's the thing. Investigators find information. Yes, there are some decisions being made, but it's far bigger than the investigator him/herself. As for victims contradicting themselves, that happens a lot in real rape cases. I know it smells of lies, but it's very common for a victim to not act logically. That's the problem with mental illness, it's not logical.
/r/MensRights09/08/16 02:43 AM
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Yeah, that's certainly a tough one. Think about investigating a rape and finding out later that it was true. Those investigative questions must hurt. You're right though, they need to happen. If it means funding quality mental/emotional support help, proper psychiatrists who's job it is simply to support the victims/supposed victim through the process then I think it's money very well spent. That's probably the best I can offer because by the time the process gets to the 'accusing the rapist' pa…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 02:37 AM
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Yes and no. Many accusations of severe crimes have severe social/legal/economic penalties. Feminism is pushing to make rape worse (as bad as it is already) in light of a few things. 1. many rapes go un/under-punished (they do, for a variety of good and bad reasons) and 2. many feminists are really horrible people who wish to see bad things happen to men. Part of the legitimate problem with publishing the accusers name is that accusing someone of a crime is not a crime and should not be criminali…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 02:28 AM
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Yeah, sure. To be fair, being accused of rape, especially in the early stages, before the police and lawyers and public shaming, is (I can only imagine) a far less emotionally challenging situation. So the immediate need of a person accused of rape is less critical in terms of mental/emotional stability and more legal. Similar, yes, but not the same. And yes, if someone you trust was accused of rape, then it's pretty normal to support them as if they're innocent. And legally it's normal to treat…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 02:20 AM
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You seemed to have a positive outlook on feminism. Fuck you man! /s
/r/MensRights09/08/16 12:49 AM
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I'm glad you're pretty reasonable about this, but I do wish you'd see loud, obnoxious feminists and not speaking for all feminists. Most reasonable feminists simply don't get air time. But like everything in life, logos is buried under the ethos built by pathos.
/r/MensRights09/08/16 12:48 AM
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I would like to think this is an obvious argument but it doesn't seem so. I can also UNDERSTAND (not agree with) the more extreme views too. That rape is so difficult to convict for and the whole process is so trying on a victim that victims don't try or give up early or mentally collapse or even commit suicide just to get out from under the anguish. So better off clearing the path to justice for their sake. I do get it. We should do a better job listening to that side too, we should do a better…
/r/MensRights09/08/16 12:45 AM
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Why did you just get down voted?
/r/MensRights09/08/16 12:23 AM
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That... is a fucked up situation. See, this is the conversation that needs to happen, but we can't seem to have it because people are too busy yelling and plugging their ears. So many people could point out that it was the people's decision to get high/drunk and that things they decide to do after that are their fault. But it's also law (and a good law) that people can't consent to things contractually when under the influence. Sex is part of that. Part of the problem is that sex is two people a…
/r/MensRights08/08/16 10:30 PM
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Of course, but there's a difference between the law assisting a victim and the law pursuing a suspect. The police have every responsibility to investigate claims of crime and there a lot of claims that they do not in the case of rape. This is an important leak to plug. Frankly, maybe the complaints of cops not following through are unsubstantiated, but there's relatively little harm to trying to make a social or regulatory issue out of it. As long as there's not a call to witch hunt the accused,…
/r/MensRights08/08/16 09:20 PM
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There's a middle ground here. Like a lot of things feminists do, theres a logical basis for the feminist philosophy that often gets totally hidden later on. Stick with me for a sec. If your friend Jane (or John or whoever) tells you that they were raped, there's little harm in treating it as truth. It's not reasonable to tell Jane "you're a liar, I don't believe you." Better off being supportive to a friend who may be in great need of support. However, once the accusations come, it becomes reaso…
/r/MensRights08/08/16 07:33 PM
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*fined
/r/MensRights06/07/16 10:41 AM
0

Right. Point being mainly that this is a far more complicated issue than the headline. Implications are many many fold. Good article to read, bad article to have an opinion formed by the article alone.
/r/MensRights28/06/16 05:25 PM
1

I'll be downvoted to yell, but worth noting: more work hours does not mean more productivity. Taking more vacation is shown to increase overall production.
/r/MensRights28/06/16 05:18 AM
7

And clearly, it's women's fault that I dont get laid either. /s
/r/MensRights01/06/16 12:04 AM
2

Source?
/r/MensRights11/05/16 09:13 AM
1

Before you think I'm attacking you with this wall of text, please know that I do appreciate the discussion. Part of this is for me to write my ideas out and re-read them. I am very specifically saying that the phrase is not racist without context. So no matter what context you bring up that happens to make the phrase racist, it is not inherently racist. Again, I agree in theory. What you're saying is absolutely true. But in practice "he's one of the good one's" is 99% racist because it's only us…
/r/MensRights03/05/16 02:14 PM
1

I don't know man, I live in the southeast USA. I've never heard that said about white people, always black people and by the kind of people you expect to see driving a truck with a confederate flag across the back window. Yeah, that in itself is racist, and the person probably deserves a second chance to prove otherwise. But having that grim an outlook against all humanity such that that phrase makes any sense makes me look like a massive optimist. Either way it speaks volumes about the user of …
/r/MensRights03/05/16 11:03 AM
1

Sure, those are good examples, given that those are situations where a parent is being protective of a daughter against all potential significant others. Totally with you. It's actually good "is it racist" sitcom joke material because it's 50/50 (assuming the boyfriend is also black). If, however, it's an old white grandpa talking about his 20 year old son's black friend, it's closer to 95%. No old grandpa is that protective of their adult son that they're stacking the deck against the son's fri…
/r/MensRights03/05/16 10:58 AM
1

On something more subtle than the example given, sure. "One of the good ones" is a pretty damning statement though. No one refers to a white person as being "one of the good ones" because people don't see white people as all good or bad. I hate the way people play out "micro aggressions". Makes it sound like people make out political correctness. Handling it so stupidly makes them sound like dumb concepts, but they really don't come from bad places.
/r/MensRights03/05/16 03:02 AM
1

Also, I just read through some of the Forbes article posted. I can agree that there's an element to young people not really being prepared for the day-to-day, but then again if there's additionala feeling of additional pressure to stay at the desk instead of fooling around because women are seen as lessers or there's pressure for women to get out of the workforce to have children, that's not 100% fair to leave out. Then again, I can imagine that many women look forward to the "break" of maternit…
/r/MensRights02/05/16 06:15 PM
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Mostly agreed, although sometimes it's more innocent than that. Men aren't expected to speak up for themselves, they're expected to buck up and succeed anyway. Men who don't are seen as being lessers. It's a really bad combo, the two extremes; most women and men have these innocent and subconsious beliefs about men, plus some "trusted" feminist extremists have very purposeful, anti-male reasons. The combination of the two is very powerful because the more innocent majority believes that they're …
/r/MensRights02/05/16 06:03 PM
3

Agreed. That, plus although this is possibly even the majority of cases, nightmare stories told by feminists still happen. The fault is in telling the story that no one takes rape seriously.
/r/MensRights29/04/16 09:01 AM
2

There's such a thing as soft evidence; the guy was seen in the area, car parcked outside her place at the time, him arguing on the porch, etc.
/r/MensRights29/04/16 08:59 AM
9

Much appreciated!
/r/MensRights28/04/16 03:45 PM
23

Source on the 6x gap differential? I'm not debating, I'd just like to see/have/use the data.
/r/MensRights28/04/16 12:12 PM
7

I'm glad someone else noticed this. I think they'd be better making a big deal out of this differential. Still, is it ok again to talk about how women's brains work differently?
/r/MensRights28/04/16 12:11 PM
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Yeah, I can't believe that this isn't a knucklehead bill. I'm all for reduction of alimony, increased child timeshare for fathers, etc. But I have little faith that Florida wouldn't put out something as stupid as the NC HB2 or the recent Mississippi anti-gay bill that just passed.
/r/MensRights08/04/16 07:03 PM
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Faux news. The pigheadedness shows through brightly, but at least they air the topic.
/r/MensRights01/04/16 08:12 PM
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Not in the context of why the video is being shared on MR. He's the perfect non-aggressor. I doubt I could stand hanging out with the guy for more than a minute though.
/r/MensRights29/03/16 06:33 PM
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Dude is a tool. Also, girl is a tool.
/r/MensRights29/03/16 06:14 PM
1

Sucks to have to root for such a shitbag. But you're right, Gawker got exactly what it deserved.
/r/MensRights19/03/16 02:28 AM
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This is exactly why I totally get when people want to pass laws that make it easier to convict alleged rapists. Rape isn't the only crime like that though. That's the reality behind many different crimes. Where I think the train has gone off its tracks is that rape is the only crime (it seems) where there's 1. focus on penalties over prevention and 2. discouragement of people to protect themselves and know what to do when the worst happens. Take Back the Night is the most ignorant display of exa…
/r/MensRights27/02/16 05:07 PM
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So, here's the thing. Believing an alleged victim is much more supportive to that person. Supporting that person and helping them get to professional counseling is great. What everyone here is mad about is instantaneous support to ruin alleged rapists. Totally agreed with all that, there's a reason why people are legally innocent until proven guilty. Neither the orignal FB post nor the response (or most posts on MR) seem to make that very important distinction.
/r/MensRights27/02/16 04:53 PM
1

Actually, before anyone freaks out on this, the headline is not so absurd if the guy threatened or blackmailed the teacher. We need more details before we go flip our shit.
/r/MensRights24/02/16 09:43 PM
1

Does anyone have a legit source on this? The referenced Star Tribune article is slightly better, but still not a lot of details. http://www.startribune.com/authorities-say-15-year-old-used-coercion-to-rape-woman-47-in-winona-county/369811651/
/r/MensRights24/02/16 09:33 PM
2

Most stores train their employees not to go after shoplifters because its too dangerous. Yet somehow, these people are encouraging men to be vigilante police against violent offenders?
/r/MensRights13/02/16 02:10 PM
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I just hope he's not an idiot otherwise. Thing is, Trump may say something you agree with, doesnt mean he's a good president or if he loses its because people hate that thing that you liked about him. No different than feminists right now with Clinton.
/r/MensRights10/02/16 11:53 AM
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I come back to the same informal stamdard; a friend of mine in college had come back to her high school to see the old band director and some friends over a long weekend. When she was there, five old band members whom ahe knew for years pulled her into the instrument storage room, beat her, and raped her one after another. She took her exlerience and became a rape victims advocate. What I want to see is the woman who wrote this article go and tell this friend of mine that she has been raped by a…
/r/MensRights10/02/16 10:53 AM
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Fuck Ted Cruise. Exactly why I opened the comments.
/r/PussyPass10/02/16 03:11 AM
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I think we're kinda missing the point here. There's still waaaay too much of MRA's calling European men that they're weak like it's a bad thing. It's fine for them to be whoever they want to be; their gender does not define who they should be. Then again if gender doesn't necessitate anything, we shouldn't be called upon for defense. Do it yourself, whoever you are. I'm still pretty amazed that feminists are still pulling the "women don't need men" line. Sure lady, you're right. You don't need a…
/r/MensRights05/02/16 07:27 PM
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Who is this?
/r/MensRights05/02/16 07:17 PM
2

Yeah, having women's and unisex bathrooms is a bad and sexist idea. I'm talking about converting both bathrooms into two unisex (or one big unisex) bathroom. And no, it doesn't solve the problem of women taking longer to use the actual bathroom equipment, but it allows the longer line (male or female, but usually female) to use a greater pool of resources. I reduces the burden of women's physical requirements for more time on women and places it more squarely on everyone. It's just that it also …
/r/MensRights26/01/16 10:27 PM
2

Two legitimate sticking points in my mind: First, to quote myself in another statement somewhere below This is one of the legitimate sticky points. Urinals are more space/water/time/energy efficient and are much less likely to be clogged in an average public restroom. Many new urinals now are completely flushless. Toilet auto-flush valves are huge water wasters since they tend to flush at the wrong time, whereas urinal auto-flush valves tend to be far more accurate (additional water savings). Ur…
/r/MensRights26/01/16 07:46 PM
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This is one of the legitimate sticky points. Urinals are more space/water/time/energy efficient and are much less likely to be clogged in an average public restroom. Many new urinals now are completely flushless. Toilet auto-flush valves are huge water wasters since they tend to flush at the wrong time, whereas urinal auto-flush valves tend to be far more accurate (additional water savings). Urinals also don't have doors, handles and seats that have to be lifted, making them more hygienic (altho…
/r/MensRights26/01/16 06:38 PM
2

I don't know who said this, but it's dead on: "Saying "black lives matte"r doesn't say that others' lives don't matter. Saying "Save the Rainforest" doesn't mean "fuck every other kind of forest" The point is that all lives matter but somehow police statistically react to black people as if their lives don't matter as much as white people's. No one says otherwise, but police (especially) act otherwise. Actions speak louder than words. I agree though that there's need for police reform.
/r/MensRights26/01/16 06:18 PM
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Agreed. This isn't quite a fair argument, although she's said a lot of very true things also. There are certain types of accommodations for physical differences that don't effect combat performance but do effect other things (like accommodations to urinate and defecate as "conveniently" as soldiers do now). Ultimately we need to make those accommodations, but no further. Seriously damaging combat effectiveness in order to invite women to the party is a very, and reasonably questionable argument.…
/r/MensRights11/01/16 06:27 PM
2

Oh, I didn't realize that we were boycotting Star Wars. I guess I'm going to have to start hating on it now.
/r/MensRights07/01/16 01:19 AM
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Your sources please? I would like to see this info. Thanks.
/r/MensRights03/01/16 04:42 PM
5

Why not the full chart? http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/maryland/bal-rape-graphic-photo.html
/r/MensRights31/12/15 05:16 PM
1

About to leave this comment. I wouldn't expect someone to want to get knocked up by a random person without doctors, I wouldn't expect them to not know anything about the sperm/egg donor either. If that's the case, this is a market, and the market will offer the buyer the best goods and control their supply. When supply is very very small (eggs vs. sperm), the market takes what it can get. That said, this is all supportive of one of the major arguments that men are in some ways considered lesser…
/r/MensRights30/12/15 12:02 AM
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Is the experience and shame thr same between genders? I dont know. But how is a "victim's advocate" as I think Koss would call herself able to tell a victim of grievous sexual assault that what they experienced is not that bad?
/r/MensRights27/12/15 08:34 PM
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This is exactly how I feel about a lot of feminist arguments. Are men being kinda selfish when they're all about women's satisfaction? Actually, sure, I get it, there's an element of machismo and braggadocia about it and all people should probably be more mature about it in general and see sex for an activity that two people simply enjoy together. Glad you brought it up. But wait, what is this author arguing now? What, so all men who don't hold doors are assholes while simultaneously all men who…
/r/MensRights21/12/15 03:10 PM
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As always, take a slightly reasonable talking point and turn it into a vaguely academic-sounding dissertation on "toxic masculinity". Thinking deeply for 10 minutes to come up with an anti-male viewpoint does not make feminism academic.
/r/MensRights21/12/15 12:54 PM
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Actually I'll have to give you that. I was seeing extremism for extremism, but there is a difference.
/r/PussyPass18/12/15 12:31 PM
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I'm reposting this comment because my original got burried immediately and I think my clarifications deserve some light. Re-bury it if you want. Original comment: I would agree, but some seriously fucked up shit happens on trains and busses in some areas. Edit: I totally get all the hatemail I'm getting here. I see and understand the comparisons to putting black people on the back of the bus. And I get the issue of this leading to fewer seats than women. Let me add some detail: 1.Not the same as…
/r/MensRights17/12/15 05:24 PM
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Wrong shit. Busy pub trans is bad for women much more than men due to sexual assault. You're right in general but packed in busses and grans are a place where women actually do have it worse.
/r/MensRights17/12/15 01:03 PM
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Source?
/r/MensRights17/12/15 01:01 PM
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Agreed, but that was obviously not the purpose. Actually I'm grateful to see that extreme wing as a reminder of why some people view MRA's as scary people; some are.
/r/PussyPass17/12/15 05:51 AM
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No, but not the world's worst stopgap till we figure it out.
/r/MensRights17/12/15 05:46 AM
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I would agree, but some seriously fucked up shit happens on trains and busses in some areas. Edit: I totally get all the hatemail I'm getting here. I see and understand the comparisons to putting black people on the back of the bus. And I get the issue of this leading to fewer seats than women. Let me add some detail: 1.Not the same as black people on the bus because that was never about white people getting felt up or mugged or beaten. Jim Crow laws were about showing black people that they don…
/r/MensRights17/12/15 02:18 AM
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Well, problem is that basically everyone on this is a delusional extremist. Not to say every word was terrible, cause a few statements were reasonable, but I would consider myself lucky to meet anyone in that documentary. Some of the infographics that float around on this subreddit are better summaries of core MRA arguments though. Much more reasonable than the assholes features on that documentary.
/r/PussyPass17/12/15 02:05 AM
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The problem is the same for MRAs as for feminism, to a large extent. The complete assholes are the ones that get the most attention. I don't blame Reggie for the conclusions he's come to given the people he's talked to. As always, more reasonable people are just never going to stand on a soapbox in a park. That's reserved for the crazy ass fire and brimstone preacher dude who tells women they're going to hell for wearing pants. Still, no one keeps asking feminists in 1st world countries why they…
/r/PussyPass17/12/15 02:03 AM
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I had to look this up myself. https://www.carthrottle.com/post/gta-v-has-been-banned-from-australian-retailers-because-of-sexual-violence-petition/
/r/MensRights15/12/15 04:58 PM
1

I totally believe that a large number, possibly even a majority of rapes go unreported, especially those of men. Still, the fact that a women's empowerment website reporting that rape is vastly overreported ought to say something.
/r/MensRights07/12/15 11:59 AM
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The argument only matters if the action actually happened. I agree, it's silly to argue about Fox News if the story is true, but frankly they're... not reputable enough for me to get mad at something.
/r/MensRights26/11/15 05:08 AM
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From the network that constantly runs"the war on Christmas"? Any other sources?
/r/MensRights25/11/15 11:33 PM
2

The quote "Federal pound me in thw ass prison" was not referring to a womens prison.
/r/MensRights21/11/15 08:00 PM
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Made fun of and criticized. Southpark is doing a great job lately at showing the complexity of reality. There's some good in SJW philosophies. And bad. And good in MR, and bad. It's the maturity in complex analysis that's so good.
/r/MensRights20/11/15 12:17 PM
1

Research much appreciated!
/r/MensRights10/11/15 11:50 PM
1

Totally agreed. And yeah, the whole entitlement to a safe space thing (albeit a nice rosy concept) is gross and indefensible. Same tactics in anti-male, anti-mra attacks. Other than simply being a feminist and a professor, do we know that this professor is active in that community? How do we know she is a feminist?
/r/MensRights10/11/15 05:09 PM
4

Honest question: whats the MRA/gender issue side of this protest? I've seen some of the video but see general idiocy more than anti MRA. I looked up the whole Concerned Student 1950 thing to doublecheck and its race related, not specifically gendered. Please help fill me in. Thanks.
/r/MensRights10/11/15 01:31 PM
1

Sorry for the late reply. There's a lot of truth to what you've said, and I don't have much to add or take away from it. I think a lot of feminism, but there's one thing I find freeing about MR that feminism should consider adopting. Someone might ask me "do you really think that men have it worse than women?" My gut answer is "some days I do, some days I don't." A better answer is "people's experiences are so widely varied that the question is immature. Some ugly women suffer terribly due to ge…
/r/MensRights07/11/15 02:45 PM
1

Something interesting to me is this. We used to talk down about black people for being poor, involved in crime, less likely to succeed and seemingly hopeless for equality. Then a movement came along that suggested that instead of blaming the people, see whats wrong with the situation. Figure out why these normal and equal human beings are having such trouble self fulfilling. When men are "terrible people" who commit most of the crimes and start all of the wars, feminists try to reinforce how bad…
/r/MensRights03/11/15 02:42 AM
1

Wow, 100%. I get that feminism is a liberal initiative so many MRA's go the other direction. But the toxic gender roles forces upon men also come from old conservative traditions. It sucks being a man or a woman in the 1850's, or in India or Iraq. Conservatives dont want to hear the men's rights "whining" anymore then feminists do. Social equality and gender awareness are liberal issues. Besides, most feminist tactics are straight out of the republican playbook. Book/film/porn burning, silencing…
/r/MensRights01/11/15 02:52 PM
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This is what we need. Someone respected by feminista to publish quality studies that lay out these facts. AVFM, right or not, is just a place for MRA's to get pissed off and continue our circlejerk. HuffPo can change minds.
/r/MensRights31/10/15 01:07 PM
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"I think there’s a really strong men’s rights lobby in this area and I certainly know we get substantial attacks through media and social media, there’s a really strong lobby that would like us to believe women and men experience domestic violence at equal rates and we just know that that’s not true." Baulch said there was a resistance to recognising the gendered nature of domestic violence as it becomes less taboo to talk about. “It challenges people’s perceptions of Australia and our idea of e…
/r/MensRights24/10/15 03:19 PM
1

This is true but a tough argument. Since, ATM, most children's primary caretakers are their mothers, which really makes this whole camp situation seem pretty reasonable. But that's only because of sexist attitudes towards men and child rearing. It's something of a butterfly effect or total inter-connectivity issue.
/r/MensRights22/10/15 05:46 PM
2

What was the DeAngelo Williams situation? The NFL can obviously do what they want, but inequal application of law (rules) is absolutely a gender rights/gender inequality issue.
/r/MensRights22/10/15 01:53 PM
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Yeah, feminism's attempts to limit women's life choices in the name of expanding women's life choices is confounding. Also, you're in a pretty common scenario in that there are many physically demanding jobs, the large majority of which are held by men. These jobs are necessary but many women (and men) wont or physically cant do them. Feminism doesnt really have an answer for this, especially when those jobs are so demanding as to require help at home.
/r/MensRights21/10/15 10:55 AM
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So there are a few tough things about this mentality, both yours and Rousey's statements. the assumption is that all employers are fair, which is getting to be very nearly true. That no one is encouraged to go into different careers because of gender, which is definitely false. If I really wanted to dance ballet, even if it paid better than engineering, I would have gone into engineering based on my gender's acceptable roles. As it happens, most gender roles for women are lower-paying. It's a pe…
/r/MensRights20/10/15 05:19 PM
1

Agreed. Because not being underpaid doesnt mean you cant mention that othera are underpaid. Granted the vast majority of the pay gap is choice based, but it doesnt mean people should be varred from talking about how and why its choice based.
/r/MensRights20/10/15 05:01 PM
1

Agreed on the narrow focus/rigidity. The biggest problem here is the labeling of a sketchy tipsy-to-drunk hookup as rape. Being touched inappropriately sucks. I've been there. I've felt violated, but nothing I could imagine being remotely categorically the same as being beaten down by 5 people and bloodied and sexually abused. Having a class that was gender-fair that discussed best-practices of sexual conduct is ok by me. Sure, you're never going to get potential violent rapists to not rape, but…
/r/MensRights19/10/15 05:11 PM
1

I may steal that.
/r/MensRights16/10/15 10:56 PM
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I can't see anything that he's said that's even slightly unreasonable. The things that kill me about this subject is that there's nothing else in the westernized world where people who are too timid to opt out are protected by so much law and receive so much social and collegiate hubub. Nothing, not life itself, is protected as much as women's sexuality (emphasis on the gender). I get it, there are a very large number of women (and men) are raped and cases get swept under the rug and that's terr…
/r/MensRights16/10/15 07:34 PM
1

Of the events that have sparked the BLM movement, how many have involved black women? Ought to be the Black Men's Lives Matter movement. Although I wouldnt want to belittle what black women experience because of their race, they arent being hurt and killed and overincarcerated for being black the way black men are.
/r/MensRights16/10/15 11:38 AM
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TIL everyone ever is a rapist. Or maybe they aren't really. Despite the lack of sexist language, no one seems to consider that no man will ever be defended by this in court no matter how aggressive the woman is.
/r/MensRights15/10/15 11:23 AM
1

Nor would they place a picture of sliced roast beef under the news headline.
/r/MensRights16/09/15 12:26 AM
1

Nah. She was best. Luigi was a close 2nd. Its not new to men though. I think roids are more common now (see The Rock vs. Dwane Johnson in current form) but Swartzennegar has been popular and jacked since before my time at least. Honestly, from the heart, I think men are taught a few things from early on that women arent, and it makes a huge difference: 1. Strength comes from within. Get your shit together for yourself. 2. If you arent valuable for looking like a fantasy Greek soldier, make yours…
/r/MensRights01/09/15 11:09 PM
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I dont remember who was in what game. I guess i'm not a real gamer or MRA either. Fuck off.
/r/MensRights01/09/15 10:59 PM
1

Yeah, of course a girl would think stretchable parts is really cool. So would a guy...
/r/MensRights01/09/15 10:53 PM
2

Thank you for that. I dont temember being able to play as Princess in Super Mario 3, but in 2 she was awesome cause her dress allowed her to float pretty far. I always played as her. I didnt play a lot of fighting games, but I never really registered any of them as being ugly (except maybe Dhalsim, the stretchy dude, right?). Also, as a kid, I dont remember taking any body image related feelings from it as a kid (back before I knew what my genetics had in store for me), but I definitely feel a b…
/r/MensRights01/09/15 04:17 PM
2

Ok, let's not get upset about what some slimy defence lawyer cooks up on behalf of an alleged murderer. Still, gas powered water pump in the kmart parking lot? Wtf you psycho?
/r/MensRights01/09/15 03:57 PM
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The other side of this is that Ryu is dressed fairly reasonably. Now I'd probably wear a shirt or something, but otherwise the costume itself is not bad. Mika's is just absurd. Not to say the same feminist wouldn't take issue with an MMA standard sports bra and shorts too. But yeah, to OP's point, both of their bodies are similarly sexualized and similarly cartoonish. And men feel this as much as women. I doubt that many women refuse to play this game because of women's costumes in these games. …
/r/MensRights01/09/15 03:44 PM
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I'd imagine gender only a subconscious, background thought as it wasn't mentioned until well into the article. Maybe the public discussion doesn't focus on the gender. But the fact that this is mentioned at all is totally inappropriate. Imagine if the article stated "They do not know yet whether white people are among the victims, or how they died." This is far from a single incident. "Women and children" is still a thing. I listened to an NPR broadcast about Mexican immigrants being detained fo…
/r/MensRights28/08/15 01:50 AM
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Ok, let's say I accept your premise that statistically women dressing "below the dress code" harms grades of boys. Still, nothing that boys wear effects grades. Therefore only women are being required to change behavior. Let's be honest. Many many things that adult women wear wouldnt pass a school dress code. Imagine it being super cool for guys to wear jeans (it is) but denim is outlawed for boys. Is it a life changer? No. But it's worth considering that the rule, however justified, does effect…
/r/MensRights21/08/15 11:20 PM
1

Yeah. I'm just finding this sub as becoming more and more anti-feminist and in denial that there are any reasonable women's issues. There are. Who has it worse? I don't give a fuck. MRA's denying all possible feminist issues is no better than the the usual feminist denials of men having issues. This isn't a comment against you, its an explanation of why I pick shit so frequently on this forum.
/r/MensRights21/08/15 08:53 PM
1

I'm obviously not saying women dont have a choice. I'm saying that, for reasons unbeknownst to most men, women desire to wear horribly uncomfortable cloths because they're sexy. They obviously want to. And if the only reason they shouldnt be allowed to is some bullshit Victorian era sense of morality, then we have no reason to keep people from wearing what they want. Given all that, then yes, women are inordinately damaged by being required to wear more conservative clothing than they want. To c…
/r/MensRights21/08/15 08:14 PM
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Good point, thats open for debate. I think that most obviously it disallows one gender and almost not at all the other from doing what they want. And yes, denial if that freedom is a more basic harm than denial of looking at wome. Despite how much I like how yoga pants are now considered acceptable winter dress... The other part here that no one is talking about is how all the things men aren't allowed to wear are considered gang symbols. Long low baggy pants? Must be a violent person. Now who h…
/r/MensRights21/08/15 06:00 PM
2

I agree with some things, disagree with others. Mostly I disagree with more extreme positions (i have a long history of this). But I do appreciate this community as a safe place to discuss subjects that get people socially branded as biggots.
/r/MensRights21/08/15 05:56 PM
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I didnt say quite that. Here's an example: strength and size help humans with many activities. We are a dimorphic species, and women are significantly smaller and physically weaker than men, giving an inherent disadvantage at many of those activities. No one is a mysoginist, but the disadvantage is real and statistically (though not completely) one-sided. Seeing this situation, holding any bar at an equal strength level inordinately disqualifies women. As all humans exist due to our species' qua…
/r/MensRights21/08/15 05:10 PM
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Meh, downvote. I hate the bullshit sexist reason given because it's at least partially not true, but it's a pretty shitty situation for girls. They are just being used as a shield to justify puritanical nonsense. Yup, Leinadro. Edit: Just saw the FB response below the sign photo. Again, yes and no. If women are being held to a silly standard, then they are reasonable in protesting. Whether they're protesting the puritanic qualities of the rule or just because they want to be able to do what thes…
/r/MensRights21/08/15 03:54 PM
6

Some, not all. Something I've been saying for a while is that people tend to hate people who are most similar to themselves but disagree on something. A lot of conservatives want religion instituted in the govt, limited birth control and family planning, military superiority. All just like a lot of the middleastern countries they hate so much. Same here. Feminists like this think that the sort of harrassment and totalitarianism they percieve (legitimately sometimes) in 'the patriarchy' is accept…
/r/MensRights05/08/15 04:10 PM
4

Agreed, although this conversation should include discussion of men's shorts and short sleved polos (collard t's, right?). I didn't think the woman in the video was that bad, although just saying "we just need more flexibility" is a BS way of ignoring the reality that some people are even still hot at 22C. Three additions: I am less likely to agree with cooling a place to the tastes of someone who could fix their health situation and be much cooler. I'm not calling you out, but mentioning your w…
/r/MensRights05/08/15 12:53 PM
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I just saw this on the news. They showed a video before this where the lifeguard dumped a bucket of water to put out the cigarette the woman refused to put out, but they didn't play the part where the woman cried rape. I get it. No one wants to discourage. A rape victim from coming forward. But it's not a women's problem, it's equally gendered. And this method demonstrably harms men and belittles real victimhood.
/r/MensRights05/08/15 09:12 AM
1

Not quite done listening yet, but... I have to say, I'm still in support of government aid for anyone raising a child, I just don't see the point in making it sexist. Actually, government support for either gender staying home to raise a child will likely encourage men to seek work that allows the same flexibility that feminists claim keep women from better paying jobs, and will also allow more women to keep higher paying jobs instead of ducking out of the workforce. Yet somehow, MRM's and femin…
/r/MensRights30/07/15 02:51 AM
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I think we've all had similar, stupid thoughts on gender differences. Truth is these are all pretty dumb.
/r/MensRights04/07/15 06:12 PM
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Yup. I remember a very handsome male teacher at my high school who everyone knew that he got around with students. There were 'willing paricipants' there too. I have no reason to believe female students with male teachers is any more rape just because underage men are expected to want it.
/r/MensRights04/07/15 05:43 PM
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It's a guy.
/r/PussyPass14/06/15 09:09 PM
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Agreed, total bullshit. Punch her in the face while she's got you by the neck. Don't go after her when she's already left. But yeah, people should stand up to help the first go round, but no one wants to hit a girl no matter how much they want to defend a dude. Edit: I'm not sure where you people think that I claimed the camera man was a woman. I've re-read my statement 4 times and I can't find it. The only genders I specified were the female asailant and the male victim.
/r/PussyPass14/06/15 04:45 PM
1

Oh please. Were you drafted? Neither was I. Look, I'm 100% for women having to sign up, but that hardly justifies women having to serve men in traditional roles. FYI, I'm only saying this to clear my conscience at this point. I didn't realize exactly who I was debating with.
/r/PussyPass08/06/15 12:17 PM
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Incorrect. I wholeheartedly acknowledge that there are many inequities against men, some forming now, some have been there for a long time. There are 100 reasons you or I can give for why men have it worse. There are also 100 reasons that being a woman worse. None of that matters. What matters is that we fix those 100 reasons on each side. Again, you're pushing me for an answer that's irrelevant to the conversation of moving forward. If I agreed that men have it worse, then you might feel more j…
/r/PussyPass08/06/15 01:32 AM
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I get why feminists want to call this rape. There are sketchy situations. And it's never the women's fault that they were raped. It really isn't. But that doesn't mean that women can't prevent this by staying clear of harms way. As a motorcyclist, everyone is ready to call you an idiot if you get hurt, and they're right; if I get in a bad wreck it's my fault for being on a vehicle without a roll cage. What we should be doing is asking women to take that responsibility but also vilify anyone who …
/r/MensRights03/06/15 02:12 PM
1

That's not a question out of curiosity, you're asking me to prove that men have it worse. And as I've already said, the answer is irrelevant. All of those thing are true. And if we approach every situation without the burden of one gender getting the title of 'most descrimination' we will be able to approach each situation openly. If feminism as a whole would approach things this way, the movement wouldn't be so harmful to men, they wouldn't delight in men's issues failing, they wouldn't be so l…
/r/PussyPass01/06/15 11:19 AM
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See, that's probably the worst aspect of feminism. Sure, things get carried away for both MRA's and femimnists. But what's most damaging is that feminists believe that men have it better/women have it worse. That doesn't matter. Women are treated unfairly, and that's wrong. Once you start believing that one gender has it better than the other, you start justifying the jealousy, hatred, and start justifying doing bad things to a group of people. The other half of that statement is that some women…
/r/PussyPass01/06/15 10:21 AM
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It sounds like someone needs to remind them how well separate but equal goes. We proved it's a bad idea with race a long time ago, let's not start with Jane Crow laws.
/r/MensRights29/05/15 11:32 AM
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It's not that I, as a white man, wish to minimalist your opinions. Its that I, as a white man, am tired of you using the concept that I am incapable of empathy in order to minimalist my thoughts and opinions. I am not incapable of empathy.
/r/MensRights22/05/15 10:32 AM
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I finally reviewed a bit of the article. Here's the thing. The whole point about the "never doubt the woman's credibility" thing has everything to do with women not wanting to drag out the process. We can't allow ourselves to think that this isn't a real case, especially when dealing with such emotional decisions that people have to make. What happened happened, regardless of whether or not people pursue it. That may go for the dad too. She may have called it off. I do find it odd that no one co…
/r/MensRights21/05/15 07:57 PM
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So yeah It's funny how feminists treat women weaker than most of society. Putting yourself in a compromising situation is your decision. If you get plastered and commit a crime, it was your decision to get plastered, and consequently it's your fault still. (Not to compare women having sex to a crime of course) That said, it's more than douchey to take advantage of women falling over drunk. The question becomes where does one draw the line. Bqc of 0.08? I guess where gonna Cary around brethalyzer…
/r/MensRights21/05/15 07:35 PM
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Fucking excellent research. Although I usually find that the daily show does great research, they seemed to fall short on this.
/r/MensRights21/05/15 07:07 PM
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No, but giving those guys degrees after greviously and criminally violating student code makes keeping them from returning a tiny slap on the wrist.
/r/MensRights21/05/15 05:32 PM
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It doesn't. You can't pass punishment on to the next guy. All I'm saying is that this college can't get their shit together and that's a judicial issue, not just a men's rights issue.
/r/MensRights21/05/15 05:29 PM
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Yeah,so that's a fairly stand-up guy who denied the drunk girl 2 floors away, waited till she was sober, then had sex...
/r/MensRights21/05/15 05:27 PM
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No. I already said that.
/r/MensRights21/05/15 05:22 PM
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Agreed wholeheartedly. Although in many cases, the university absolutely had a legal obligation for due process, just like the girl has a legal obligation to pursue her own personal justice in legal (non-defamitive) methods. The other reason that this story is on men's rights is because lately there is a rapid movement away from the the terrible mishandling of the past (like the Sarah Butters case and hundreds of others) towards an assumption of guilt of men. Its taken so far that it seems like …
/r/MensRights21/05/15 05:08 PM
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And yes, that is a way that we force our collective beliefs on justice upon a university. That's not a bad thing.
/r/MensRights21/05/15 04:16 PM
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This was JMU's response as well, but I still take issue. I'm actually ok with universities applying their own constitution to their justice system, but they still have a responsibility to law and to their students. A college that does not give a scrap of fairness and expells a student unjustly is unfair and is complicit in any negative impact they have on that student. I hope this kid sues the fuck out of JMU for defamation. I also would never attend this school knowing that I could be defamed a…
/r/MensRights21/05/15 04:14 PM
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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/18/james-madison-university-sexual-assault_n_5509163.html Again, flipping out and not allowing some other dude a proper trial is absurd. Although it breaks US justice code, I can see the reevaluation of a case, but not the bastardized justice that was served. (to everyone here, not you specifically) Please keep in mind that the justice system, especially the college justice system, can't handle anyone's sexual misconduct case lately. That's not a men's right…
/r/MensRights21/05/15 12:26 PM
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100% agreed on this case as presented in this article. I will be researching further later. That said, in my research thus far, there was another case, Sarah Butters, where 3 frat brothers filmed themselves assaulting her. Although I haven't seen it, somehow the university found the 3 men guilty, yet they were allowed to graduate but never return to the school. That is an incredibly light punishment. Not to say that that justifies what happened to the kid in this article, but it does put things …
/r/MensRights21/05/15 11:27 AM
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What rights are we being stripped of in terms of this article?
/r/MensRights10/05/15 07:04 PM
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Nice. Damn autocorrect.
/r/MensRights10/05/15 03:38 PM
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Agreed. No one discusses how men want an equal partner in love and care much less about being the sole provider. The other qualm I had with this article is that it blames modern feminism for an ill effect of a good thing. Giving women the go ahead to pursue careers is a GOOD thing. But what we need now is a society that defines a relationship without antique gender roles. It's BECAUSE women are financially equal (if they so choose) that men can no longer be looked down upon for being a lesser fi…
/r/MensRights10/05/15 02:47 PM
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I think that's largely valid and I lolled pretty hard. To be fair though, women in STEM fields, especially those who work in factories, do work in a "hostile" environment. I have a coworker who's a fairly attractive, very young looking 20 some who gets hit on a lot (most of which is minor and tough to blame men who are 'supposed to hunt' but occasionally it's repetitive and obnoxious).
/r/MensRights02/05/15 06:17 PM
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True. If they were truly being concise, they obviously had an agenda.
/r/MensRights13/03/15 11:59 AM
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I honestly don't see a problem with a book on technical writing taking notice that people have a tendency to gender positions when writing. It's pretty common and wrong.
/r/MensRights13/03/15 01:19 AM
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Have seen quite a few, although usually in airports. Still, awesome to hear someone hold it up.
/r/MensRights11/03/15 04:30 AM
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I do wish to be with someone else who takes sex seriously enough to not have a lot of casual partners. It's ok to feel that way and have those preferences. That doesn't mean I think badly of someone else. I say that to give perspective to this: We're adults. You can get over your bullshit turnoffs that do unfairly affect others. Grow up. Fucking downvote.
/r/MensRights06/03/15 03:28 PM
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Mansplaining: "haters gonna hate" for feminists.
/r/MensRights05/03/15 04:11 AM
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“You just have to face facts,” he said. “Men are extremely visual creatures; we respond visually and we can’t help it. Well, we could probably help it, but we don’t want to. I hear a lot of 'women can't help who they're attracted to' crap too. We're all human, we all have those tenancies. They're not good, but they're not gendered either. And we should all be aware of the negative effects. I don't agree with a lot of the article, but these effects do exist. If we want to call ourselves gender eg…
/r/MensRights22/02/15 05:13 PM
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So this study involved young couples? Thats interesting and good data, but keep in mind that this stat may very well change as the couples get older.
/r/MensRights15/02/15 12:58 PM
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PSA: if your girl is acting like Elizabeth Banks in 40 Year Old Virgin, DONT HAVE SEX WITH HER. Rape or not, its a bad idea for a whole lot of reasons. One, not the least of which, is you're encouraging another human being to do sometging they have a high likelihood of regretting later. EDIT: wrong Liz B.
/r/MensRights14/02/15 06:20 PM
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I repeatedly stated that I support feminists and encourage people to become feminists. Nonetheless, the penny dropped. Feminism seems to rely on the idea that women absolutely have it worse, as if by definition. e.g. "male privilege", as opposed to a series of privileges given to men, along side privileges given to women and opressions imposed upon both men and women. And although some MRA's believe that men have it worse off, not all do and the movement doesnt rely upon it. Feminism's basis is …
/r/MensRights14/02/15 05:23 PM
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What do you mean? Who argues that men shouldnt complain about the negative effects of patriarchy on men? I got that argument the first time I "came out" to my family about my MRA affiliation to them. EDIT: I dont believe that this was 100% of the intent of the statement. I think there may have been some pro-feminist/anti patriarchy rallying going on. Of course, this person was ignoring that not all MRA's are anti feminist and the vast majority are anti patriarchy. Obviously, there are some preju…
/r/MensRights12/02/15 12:59 PM
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Very good summary. One addition on the Confirmation Bias example: My response in an argument on the concept that men's problems are a result of the patriarchy has become this: what do I have to do with the patriarchy? Being a man wasn't my choice, and if I could reverse all effects of the patriarchy I would. I don't deserve this shit either. Any argument stating that men deserve negative effects of the patriarchy is a fallacy.
/r/MensRights09/02/15 12:03 PM
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Openmindedness is the only thing I can ask. I don't judge a feminist until I hear what she has to say, no matter how many awful feminists there are. Yes. Yes, slandered. MRA, mensrights, etc. are a bad word, and I honestly haven't seen any cases of an MRA doing anything worthy of that. I recently 'came out' to my family that I browse this subreddit but have concerns over some people in the community (we don't all agree, and that's fine). Some of my family acted as if I was a KKK member. They nev…
/r/MensRights06/02/15 09:19 PM
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Completely agreed. I'm glad you clarified on rapes vs. rape victim numbers. Where did you get your numbers?
/r/MensRights06/02/15 01:06 AM
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DOJ estimates 216k new prison rape victims annually, 2.1m people incarserated. CDC estimates 1.27m new rape victims per year in the US, 150m women total. Thats roughly 0.85% of women are raped outside of prison vs 10% of men raped in prison.
/r/MensRights05/02/15 02:24 PM
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Beautiful. Bear in mind this feeling may be coming from a traditional gender stereotype, basically a form of macho posturing - "We men are just so damned badass!". I never thought of it that way.
/r/MensRights31/12/14 07:26 PM
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I got that point, I was just commenting because I didn't know there was any MRA plot to increase crotch angles in pubtrans for any reason. I'll skip the part where I totally agree with your first paragraph, but rest assured, I do. As for the 2nd paragraph, I think we need to be careful to not over-inflate this; despite traveling on public and mass transit very frequently, I've never had anyone, feminist or otherwise, tell me to close my legs. I've generally kept to myself. Whether this is more o…
/r/MensRights31/12/14 05:55 PM
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I appreciate your time trying to understand the community. And good for you for considering yourself a feminist. For a brief overview, search "male privilege" in /r/MensRights. There are a lot of infographics to show that men are statistically disadvantaged in some ways. To me, it's not a competition with feminism because it doesn't matter who has it worse. It's about solving inequities that absolutely do exist. Start of personal rant--------------------------------------------------------------…
/r/MensRights31/12/14 05:49 PM
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I have the male anatomy. I'm not saying that it isnt nice to spread out, but I log 3 weeks a month traveling by plane (more cramped than busses) and can deal just fine without spreading out more. That said, since men are generally larger and are more comfortable spreading legs (not necessary but yes, more comfortable), that shows flaws in womens arguments that everything is designed for men. No, sometimes things are just designed for profit. Sometimes men lose, sometimes women lose.
/r/MensRights31/12/14 03:28 PM
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Wait, there are mra's actually arguing this? Come on guys, i thought Jezebel was making this up. No, you do not need to spread beyond parallel.
/r/MensRights31/12/14 02:38 PM
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It also fails to state what kind of power we are talking about, influential power? physical power? intellectual power? economical power? political power? Also are we talking about exercised power or potential power? Where does responsibility come in to the equation? It's not always the case but power often comes hand in hand with responsibility. The other thing this fails to state is that the attributes of a group do not necessarily apply to all group members. I have known men who have nil influ…
/r/MensRights29/12/14 06:18 PM
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"Language itself others women" - Simone de Bouvoir. I wholeheartedly agree. Men are default, women are 'other'. Men are people, but women are a gended. But this is a huge advantage for exactly this reason. Human rights issues arent given nearly the same concern as gender rights issues. And men have no gender.
/r/MensRights22/12/14 10:40 AM
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I've sweat bullets over this in the US twice now. Never been moved. I regularly fly USAir and Delta. Since I fly 2 or 3 weeks a month for work, I always feel like I'm going to have to chose to be banned from flying with an airline and possibly lose my job for my inability to travel.
/r/MensRights21/12/14 02:30 PM
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Did anyone note that this teacher is defending sexual assault charges and not rape charges? Is the justice department now working on the CDC's definitions of rape?
/r/MensRights21/12/14 02:12 PM
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A study I heard about on the radio (yes, I know, a super reliable source) stated the #1 must have for a guy yo be attractive is blue eyes. I dobt remember height, but i'm sure its up there.
/r/MensRights18/12/14 01:19 PM
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Possibly. It would be reasonable to recheck the standards to make aure they arent unnecessarily high for the sorts of obatacles that firefighters in NYC would face. Other FD's having much higher female populations makes the NYC requirements suspect. If NYC requires FF's to jump a higher wall with heavier equipment because NYC has a higher population of tall walls and the skyscrapers require larger O2 tanks, then tough luck. The requirements are what they are for the sake of every citizen and eve…
/r/MensRights15/12/14 11:54 PM
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Young, single, childless women in Charlotte and Raleigh make an average of 16% more than the same men in the cities. Seeing as how this grouping describes 99% of college students it would be logical to assume that I could fairly run a bake sale at UNCC or NCSU and charge women $1 and men $0.86. Reverse genders, right?
/r/MensRights04/12/14 11:38 PM
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we need to have Stalin level purges of the left wing of politics You realize you're advocating for mass killings, right? Stalin is responsible for killing more people than any human in history. Tone your shit down.
/r/MensRights02/12/14 04:31 PM
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Wow, there goes my comment, right into the ground. Thanks for your reasonable and well contemplated response! The truthful relationship between the proverbial pink and blue toys and general sexism is somewhere between butterfly effect and 'toy hammers make men beat women'. A kid who grows up with Legos is more likely to be an engineer than one who doesn't. Kids who grow up playing paintball are more likely to ignore pain (for benefit of strength or the loss of belittling physical violence). I ho…
/r/MensRights02/12/14 04:28 PM
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Guys and gals, I thought MRA's disliked gender roles too. I completely agree with the senator here. I don't have kids, but I plan on supplying an EZ bake oven, Legos, and an Erector set to my kids no matter what gender.
/r/MensRights02/12/14 12:58 AM
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To me, it’s a way for a man to show, very clearly, that he likes you. Enough to try to impress you. Enough to make some effort. Why don't you show the man that you like him? Or better yet, why would he like you at all at that point? What happens if he buys you a drink to show you that he really likes you and then you decide it's not mutual. Do you give him anything back to return the favor, since obviously, he was trying very hard to show you? No, that's quid pro quo rape. I've just paid for the…
/r/MensRights01/12/14 01:24 AM
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Agreed. Those are some pretty hilarious reactions. The only MRA thing I got out of this is that somehow there's still a stigma/shame in a man using a toy.
/r/MensRights01/12/14 01:12 AM
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Am I the only one who didnt know that this was institutionalized? I'd like to see the data behind the Huff Post article's claim that women are more likely to be forced out of the workforce sick and less likely to be laid off. http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3195493P I dont imagine disability counts as retirement. But I guess male priveledge includes being more likely to be laid off. What I couldnt find was the justification behind differential retirement ages. So, women leave the workforce early …
/r/MensRights23/11/14 01:25 PM
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Point made. Having just gotten back from a metal fabrication trade show myself, the same hiring practices exist there. The 'booth babe' is a common tactic to draw a mostly male crowd in to talk about a product. EDIT: i thought there was one specific booth that did a good job in hiring a booth babe. I noticed a very attractive oman working a booth by herself. The conpany, i'm noy kidding here, was named "Self-Lube Tool and Die". I cant make that up. Seriously though, women not being in the indust…
/r/MensRights17/11/14 07:51 PM
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Care to elaborate?
/r/MensRights17/11/14 02:08 PM
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Agreed, but another angle is this: Bars know that men like to meet women there, so they stack the deck to bring women in. Fine. Except that they're treating women's mere existence as valuable. Women are something to have. Its objectification. Let's make this phenominon easier to see. Some women want a guy to buy them dinner and treat them before they have sex. Society pushes this concept throughout; down to men holding doors, women witholding sex to get something, etc. Social order has taught wo…
/r/MensRights17/11/14 12:37 PM
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That would be the logical conclusion. But it's one of those things that I dont necessarily follow through that logic with. Mgm, despite my beliefs, isn't so bad that circumsized men refuse to do it to their kids most of the time. And any reasonable AIDS prevention measure, even if only another 5% effective will save tens of thousands of lives. I should be idealistic and say mgm shouldnt be used, but I may instead reserve judgement.
/r/MensRights02/11/14 12:41 AM
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I dont necessarily believe that the ends justify these means, but the ends are positive
/r/MensRights01/11/14 04:26 PM
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It can help, as can other things. My problem with the article isnt the contents but the fact that mgm does not even need to be justified. The public assumption that it's ok is a problem.
/r/MensRights01/11/14 04:13 PM
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Good hygene may be more difficult to fund or enact
/r/MensRights01/11/14 04:11 PM
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Wait, thats not even the same data. Am I on crazy pills or something?
/r/MensRights01/11/14 02:03 PM
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I tried searching Charlotte Craigslist. Two ads.
/r/MensRights21/10/14 08:26 PM
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Yep, still voting for Clinton. I'd prefer Warren though.
/r/PussyPass21/10/14 12:28 AM
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Ok, I'm going to show my ignorance here, but this got me thinking. What evidence would be left by someone who forced a male to penetrate them (I'd call this rape, but that would be obviously inappropriate)? From this article, it looks like a female [rapist] may not leave behind evidence. http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/dna-female-sexual-fluids Given that, it sounds like even if there was a desire to solve rape cases with male victims, it would be nearly impossible to convict the perpetrator due t…
/r/MensRights21/10/14 12:22 AM
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No idea. Seems like it's not working for black people either though.
/r/PussyPass21/10/14 12:07 AM
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Couldnt agree more.
/r/MensRights20/10/14 04:05 PM
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"hoping that Max will grow up having a better understanding of women" Granted, the parents didn't say that directly. But somehow I doubt that they would make their daughter wear boys' clothes to get a better understanding of men. Gender-neutral parenting is for dismissing gender roles entirely, not to push the idea that women are different and they need to be understood. That's my only problem with this. I don't think I'd go that far, but I think the base idea is positive.
/r/MensRights20/10/14 01:34 AM
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She could easily leave. Equal rights, advocacy for violence against women, I'm in 100%. Equal responsibilities to contain your self and your emotions and to accept what people are forced to do to defend themselves, I'm there 100% too. edit: spelling
/r/PussyPass07/10/14 01:35 AM
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When I wrote that there were 8 comments, zero total points. I upvoted, still zero points. It has since changed.
/r/PussyPass06/10/14 11:55 PM
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I'm honestly not sure why this post got downvoted below ground. The bus driver did as little as humanly possible to defend himself, and didn't move an inch. All the woman had to do was step backwards once if the bus marshal was "attacking" her.
/r/PussyPass06/10/14 08:00 PM
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Well, probably is assault with a deadly weapon, similar to a knife. But it ought to be sexual assault as well, at very minimum.
/r/PussyPass01/10/14 09:26 PM
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I wasnt bringing that up to bash Emma Watson but to use that statement as an example of women seemingly falling for preferences for things that do not help gender statistics. I think its a very tough thing in general to be aware of both a true and powerful statement and the integrity of the person who said it. Neither can be forgotten, but quoting a disagreeable person can allow for some very devicive emotional backlash.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 11:19 AM
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Another decision made by women that keeps their pay below that of men, average to average.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 04:40 AM
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True. On a scale of Mary Koss to 10, Emma Watson is a 7, MAYBE an 8. But she's still said some kinda crappy, selfish things. I'd love if we could keep in mind that we're never going to change feminist views by screaming at them that men are more oppressed, even if everything we say is true. Feminism (the agreeable equal-rights people) didn't gain support by being extreme, they did it little by little. The fact that Emma Watson got almost universal approval from feminists by encouraging people no…
/r/MensRights30/09/14 02:44 AM
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Agreed. But personally I'd like to have either my wife or myself raise my children, at least until Kindergarten. For anyone who feels this way, the career decision becomes tough. And for myself, who's attracted to women who are career-driven, it's going to be an issue. Then again I'm a single 20 some with no children.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 02:36 AM
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That's also true. I remember something about this being posted some time ago on /r/mensrights but I had forgotten about it. Turns out, men who wish to be fair are not attractive. Kinda reminds me of another recent /r/mensrights post about Emma Watson. http://i.imgur.com/yhw52dq.jpg
/r/MensRights30/09/14 02:33 AM
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Yeah, I know all about it. Thing is it does exist, it's just not because women don't work in the same jobs (generally speaking). Also, to quote my first post in this string: Come to think of it though, women of my demographic in my city earn 14% more than similar men, I live in Charlotte. Raleigh has an identical gap.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 02:30 AM
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The wage gap exists, but it's almost entirely explained by women's choices. So you know I'm on the same page, I'll mention another part of the 77% bullshit's explanation no one seems to be saying (though someone may have): if the large majority of major CEOs are men (which is diminishing VERY quickly), then comparing men's average salary to women's is like saying Walmart employees make an average of $65k/year. 99% of men do not directly benefit from that and are much closer to 99% of women even …
/r/MensRights30/09/14 02:23 AM
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Yep, and thats awesome. But if it has to be one or another, and the one earning less money stays at home, then 77% of the time it's going to be the mother staying at home (yes, I know the stats dont work that way, but you get the point). Besides, for those of us who consider their careers their life accomplishments, it's a lot more than money they would have to give up. I'll put it this way: I plan to buy my kids, whatever gender, dolls, an ez bake oven, legos, an erector set, plenty of non-gend…
/r/MensRights30/09/14 01:11 AM
0

The point is that our physiology makes it such that men have an easier choice with that. Men have to pay for 18 years, but women lose hope of having a regular career. Neither can be ignored, and I believe it's society's burden to help bear genetically uneven burdens like we bear the cost of handicap-accessible facilities.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 01:02 AM
5

99% agreed, I'm glad to see this making semi-important newspapers. One bone to pick with this article. Women 'choose' to get off the "fast track" of careers to raise children. That is, there are relatively few men willing to be a stay-at-home dad, so if a couple believes in having a parent raise the child at least until kindergarten and the woman doesn't want to give up a career, that woman will have a lot of trouble finding a husband. Men aren't made to make that decision. It's one of very few …
/r/MensRights29/09/14 11:19 PM
2

Bullshit. Source: my life.
/r/MensRights26/09/14 09:09 PM
2

I think you missed the point. Women are attracted to men who are "masculine", which often includes being assertive. But we've all tried to tell jokes that may be pushing the envelope a bit and failed, it goes over like a lead baloon. And that's ok, it happens. Now (reasonable) feminists will argue that there are agressive actions that should never happen (abuse) and things that are acceptable. I agree. But there are some grey areas too (consentual aggressive or drunk or high sex) and more import…
/r/MensRights26/09/14 06:27 PM
4

The difference often being related to the mood the woman is in and how attractive the man is.
/r/MensRights26/09/14 12:22 PM
50

The name of the post is horrible, it's embarrassingly overstated. But it does bring up the very valid idea that even aware, educated women are attracted to the Don Draper types even if they're aware that they're hurt by the behavior. It's an impossible standard applied to men, just like a lot of shit standards applied to women.
/r/MensRights26/09/14 12:21 PM
1

Thanks
/r/MensRights25/09/14 11:34 AM
4

When you say that men can stop sexual assault on their own you are imagining men as one big group that congregates together and can stop the socipathic individuals that predate on others. Sexual assault is not a mistake, or a lapse in judgment. It is not something learned or taught to rapists by society. It is instead a rejection of society. It persists in spite of those who preach equal treatment. This is not the story that modern feminism wishes to tell. It is not the story that it wishes to a…
/r/MensRights25/09/14 04:21 AM
0

It's not dislike of anyone, it's just a statement that not all (or even most) pedophiles are men. Jeez.
/r/MensRights26/08/14 07:52 PM
-19

Well, it is kindof mysogenistic by definition. I'm sure someone could compile an equally-sized list for male teacher predators too. But that's the point: it isnt that women are bad, it's that women aren't neceasarily good or more moral than men. And that they typically get off lighter then men on sentencing.
/r/MensRights26/08/14 10:44 AM
1

I can only imagine thry're referring to emotionally controlling witholding of affection and the sex that goes along with it. Thats legit. What's actually written is laughable at best.
/r/MensRights13/08/14 10:45 AM
1

Don't know whether to downvote or upvote. The problem is that these comments (mainly the first) have both shades of reason and shades of baseless anti-feminist and anti-female attitude. I almost didn't read the whole first quote because it's offensive to me, a human rights advocate, and I wouldn't blame anyone else for not reading the whole thing and judging. Tthe entire quote goes like this: "Women are emotional and unreasonable, plus men have lots of problems unrelated to the article." The 2nd…
/r/MensRights12/08/14 12:46 PM
2

I far from dislike NPR, but I have noticed similar. Actually, about 3 months ago (wild guess), I noticed a story about people being detained for inordinate periods of time. I can't remember what the justification was, maybe crossing the US/Mexico border (legally) but being suspected of involvement of drug trafficking. Anyways, the statement that got me was something along the lines of "these people are being held for no reason, some are children and 50 some year old women." Yeah, they're little …
/r/MensRights11/08/14 01:05 AM
6

Plessy v Ferguson?
/r/PussyPass19/07/14 12:27 PM
2

This is definitely true. Just like the McDonalds case of the old lady that spilled her coffee, there's so much that goes unpublished since no one caring to read a full case discussion before getting emotionally involved. That said, there's tons of talk about restricting gun/ammo access to mentally ill and giving the ability of family and friends to report someone as having issues, mainly aimed at men after mass murders. Most people immediately ignore that these people are mentally ill and hold t…
/r/MensRights07/07/14 07:48 PM
67

Many MRAs here employ the "swap genders" analogy to show how screwed up something is. I've also employed the "make it a race issue" analogy, which applies well here. Say, "During prom season at my school, black people are actually required to go to a mandatory anti-mugging course, whites have to go to a self defense course." Yup, that's fucked up. Edit: better verbage
/r/MensRights30/06/14 03:15 AM
1

Right, and a spice girl first cause she was hot. And that's a bit harsh. Maybe not wrong, but definitely quite harsh.
/r/MensRights26/06/14 10:51 PM
1

Interestingly enough, beckham is known both for his looks and skill, of both he has lots. Per the article's point, Victoria Beckham is less often known (even as Victoria Beckham) only because she's hot. We only know her for for her looks, frankly, because she has little talent. It's a shame that much more talented women, both attractive and unattractive, are overahadowed by Posh, but Posh started in a female-dominated consumership. This trend doesn't continue solely from men's habits. There's on…
/r/MensRights26/06/14 10:22 PM
1

Cant watch the vid at the moment, will do later. U agree on humor, there are no bounds, but some topics and deliveries are more tasteless than others. I disagree about these men being victims though. The study is so absurd it marginalizes the 4x% number as not rape. These are not rape victims. Even the 1/4 women and men who claim to be raped includes much less violating sexual conduct, so I take that 25% as not all being victims too.
/r/MensRights25/06/14 02:51 PM
1

Ok guys, few ground statements: The study is breaking my BSometer. It probably counts everyone who's ever heard "oh come on honey, dont go to sleep yet" which everyone who's ever been in a relationship has heard. Yes its bad to cover up that men are forcibly raped. Yes its bad to keep asserting the stereotype that men do/should accept any attention they deserve and that their sex is worthless and women are valuable. But jeez, take a joke. The study is being made fun of here. Plenty of people mak…
/r/MensRights25/06/14 01:47 PM
-18

Oh come on, its a nerdy hobby and a funny stereotype. I laughed at that. Edit: being made fun of for a hobby doesnt mean theres something wrong with it. I ought to know.
/r/MensRights25/06/14 01:22 PM
13

Wow, I really thought someone was posting fake information until I saw the link. Honestly kinda difficult to believe. Can they only post this kinda stuff 364 days a year? Unbelievably disrespectful.
/r/MensRights16/06/14 12:59 AM
5

Thanks for reposting, I missed that thread. I think the biggest obstacle is the first one: realizing that no one around now chose to make society this way. If my problems as a man are caused by the patriarchy, it's not a patriarchy that I am in any real way responsible for. I also benefit through none of my own influence as well, I realize that, but I'm working to give that up. I wish that all, not just some feminists did the same instead of just placing sexist restrictions stigmas to try and co…
/r/MensRights04/06/14 11:12 AM
2

Hmm.. I'm feeling somewhat misinformed. I could have heard only slanted views. I apologize.
/r/MensRights03/06/14 06:39 PM
-3

Agreed. I think this is what we see when gender ISN'T an issue and something weird and horrible happens. This is unlike the recent shooting/stabbing in CA where a boy killed 4 males and 2 females. In this case, the man believed that he would have to murder to prove his masculinity (a sick thought prompted by societal influences and grown in depression relating to general personal rejection). Very similar circumstances, very different media perceptions.
/r/MensRights03/06/14 04:55 PM
2

Agreed. The first point is a little shaky, except its important to remember that much of the existing patriarchal elements in society have been set up far before us, and aren't even us. This shows the author (and many other feminists, though not all) as a sexist group. My rule has always been "don't refer to any group of people as "the xxxxx" unless they have meetings". Meaning, there's no "the blacks", "the Muslims", "the men" unless that group has meetings. It shows ignorance that these groups…
/r/MensRights28/05/14 01:25 AM
1

Not totally illogical, but I do live in NC. Republicans may not be trying to repeal roevwade, but they're harming women's health clinics for the sake of making legal abortions completely unavailable.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 11:36 PM
2

Sure. As long as their goal isnt anti-other races. I'm most in tune and spend most of my time arguing men's rights issues (by comparison to women's rights issues) but I still advocate for a woman's right to choose as bodily harm or control is more important than financial.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 09:31 PM
7

I can't gage your reactions to why this is good/bad... 1. "reverse sexism" is a stupid phrase 2. her last retort was also stupid. 3. there's nothing wrong with being a gender egalitarian focusing mostly or only on one gender's issues. She didn't say she's prioritizing women's issues, she said she's focusing on it. Just like us. That's why we're MRA's, that's why there are also feminists. I hope we're not pushing anti-feminist agenda here.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 03:09 PM
4

Ots funny that no one wants to speculate on exactly what the police said. It's entirely possible that the victim was told exactly what the reports said, and its totally possible that they were extremely supportive of moving forward but also warned of possible outcomes. Why was duke lacrosse not brought up? Thats the mess that should be brought up. Say ehat you want about them being innocent, they're still ruined, the team was still ruined, recruiting is still ruined. The accused are victims of b…
/r/MensRights16/04/14 02:28 PM
1

I still don't know what specifically in this bill is so MRA-detestable. The origin (77%) is bullshit, but that doesn't make the bill bad.
/r/MensRights11/04/14 04:42 PM
1

True, within what statistical tolerances. But you bring up a good point, women who do not get married have no wage gap (actually in both largest cities in North Carolina (I live in one of them), single, young, childless women earn 14% more than men. But anyway, the stipulation to the 4% stat you brought up seems like they're saying that married women do earn less. I think it's fair to say that 77% is bullshit, pressure on men to make money and not do things they want like the arts is bullshit, t…
/r/MensRights11/04/14 04:41 PM
3

This is the classic "10 children on one RR track/ 1 child on the other track" dilemma (don't know the name for this). All I'm saying is that Obama and the democrats are clearly the 1 child track in terms of gender equality. I'm getting pretty tired of hearing how bad Obama is on /r/MensRights over this one stupid 77 cents issue. I'm not saying don't bring up the issue, I'm happy to see the Washington Post cover it, but I think there's a lot of us (not just you JimmyTheIntern) who are getting so …
/r/MensRights09/04/14 04:52 PM
2

That's a pretty ignorant response. I agree that this is really a crappy position of his, but I'm definitely an Obama supporter. I don't know whether he believes the 77% stat or if he knows it's wrong and uses it to gain women's votes (for the dems obviously, since he's not running anymore). Either way, the alternative is a party full of homophobes who give gay oral sex in airport bathrooms, politicians who claim that a woman's body has ways of shutting down pregnancy in the case of "actual" rape…
/r/MensRights09/04/14 03:18 PM
1

Yes, but only a few of these shirts espouse disagreeable beliefs. The male tears and no uterus no opinion ones are outright sexist, but almost all of the reat are fine. I always go back to the 'swap genders' standard, and where some seem out of place, they're not bad. And a little female chest beating may be out of place but it really isnt bad, its jusst that (most) women do it a whole lot less than men.
/r/MensRights28/02/14 11:44 AM
1

Well, I think the real instances get a bit of a pass for chivalry-ish reasons, or generally sounds nice or fun or whatever. Ladies' nights keep getting brought up, but they're purpose is to help men just as much as women. That said, I think that someone selling cookies cheaper to women, claiming that same reasoning, would get a lot of sales go through fine in the heat of the moment. What I mean is, when you go to buy cookies and find out the sexist sales strategy, I bet a lot of people would fee…
/r/MensRights13/02/14 04:00 PM
1

Good commentary. And the fact is that nobody loses in this venture. The venue makes a nice piece of change that night, the women get a cheap night on the town, and the men get a chance at meeting some party girls. Disagree with this line only. It's still harmful to men by continually promoting the "pussy is expensive, but dick is free" mentality (Chris Rock's words, not mine).
/r/MensRights13/02/14 12:32 AM
2

Self-identification and for distancing my personal beliefs from the company's. EDIT: decided not to be a dick about your username
/r/MensRights13/02/14 12:17 AM
1

It doesn't matter why though. I don't care if male drivers cost 5 times as female drivers, sexism isn't allowed. If you want to charge me because of prior crashes or tickets, that's fine.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 11:14 PM
1

Yes, I'm aware of all of that and frequently quote it, but it doesn't mean women don't earn less (I am changing my language to show my intent). The 77% is another debate.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 11:12 PM
1

Yes I know. And I live in one of the 14% cities. And I am (other than being male) in that demographic.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 11:10 PM
-26

Not quite. Women ARE paid less then men, on average. Betty is charging women less because women are paid less. The question doesn't state why she picked $.59.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 08:53 PM
2

lol, yes.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 07:54 PM
2

I truly don't believe that's true. I won't identify my company, but I can tell you that they've been workers rights leaders for many many decades. I'm very proud to work for them.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 07:29 PM
1

Yes, but who's going to stop them? If anything, it helps men and helps women. The point is to create a "target rich environment" or "packed shooting gallery" for men. Not that I disagree with you, especially considering that anyone trying to do something like this for men, say a men's night at a pottery making place, would never go over. To be honest with you, it's sexist, but there are seemingly innate differences between men and women. This particular one prays upon the "men are hunters" stanc…
/r/MensRights12/02/14 07:17 PM
4

lol. I know it's not the point, but I sure can't complain. Slightest cold and I'm a child in bed for 3 days. I still think comedy receives exceptions from sexism and racism, and this is funny. But that's for pointing it out, it does need to happen sometimes.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 06:43 PM
22

I was posting this to say that this is still common sense to a large portion of the general public. There are a lot of terrible feminists, yes, but I think we're collectively hotboxing our frustration over here at r/mensrights, and I wanted to give us all some fresh air. So I guess I'm with you, I'd like to see the results, but I think they'd make us happy.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 06:37 PM
12

No, this is an code of ethics test, not law. Being sexist is unethical. Edit: wording
/r/MensRights12/02/14 06:30 PM
4

Neither should this subreddit, for much the same reason.
/r/MensRights12/02/14 06:29 PM
1

I've been repeating in my head for a while that nothing gets solved if it's a competition, a blame issue, or misrepresentation. Men and women both have burdens, difficulties due to their gender, and they should be isolated one by one and dealt with as fairly as possible in their most pure form. Misrepresenting the 77% number, then talking about women in STEM, then talking about time off for pregnancy/rearing, then talking about the glass ceiling, while avoiding women's choices to stay away from …
/r/MensRights12/02/14 02:01 PM
2

I'm glad you said this, because it is good to think about the whole picture. But I agree with most here, the penalties are simply far softer for women. Either way, I don't think a man would have gotten the same consideration. I also think that girls in the same situation would be encouraged to say they were raped/taken advantage of/etc., where a 16 year old boy is considered man enough to make his own decision about it. Of course, we have no idea of what all was said on this case. Regardless of …
/r/MensRights17/01/14 02:18 PM
2

I hope not, but I'm sure some do. I couldn't care less if someone were joking about this sort of stuff (ie, no one taking this seriously), but the fact that this is acceptable material from a leading magazine and gets zero news coverage when saying anything remotely construed as violence against women is horrifically unacceptable is scary.
/r/MensRights15/01/14 02:41 PM
16

As a man, I have also rocked cradles.
/r/MensRights12/01/14 04:59 PM
1

Lol, that too. I dont have an issue with the enforcement of a fair law regardless of the statistics. I dont want to allow prostitution just because mostly guys do it. I would imagine that men would be less villified for taking part in a legal service.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 12:37 AM
1

What problem were you talking about?
/r/MensRights23/12/13 08:30 PM
1

Well, it could help with disease control, and it allows a prostitute to call the cops if a client becomes abusive. It also can hold the organizing agency up to standard busines practices, which tend to be a bit abussive to employees, but better than pimps, I imagine.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 05:59 PM
2

I always liked when women treat themselves like a prize; like sex is a reward for being good/obedient, like their bodies are something they can take away as a punishment, like they deserve preferential treatment in order to be had. Yet the moment men treat a woman like a prize, an object, like something they won, men are pigs who objectify women. Women objectify women too. It's never ok, not for benefits nor for losses. EDITS: clarity/grammer
/r/MensRights23/10/13 03:25 PM
1

Lol, good point. I guess that, being at least slightly pro-chivalry myself, that I never saw it this way. Chivalry, fine. Complaining that you don't get enough free handouts cause of your tits, that's bad. Is it ever ok to complain that people don't give you free shit? I think not. Also, let me explain "slightly pro-chivalry"; I enjoy taking care of friends, family, and even more so my SO. If it means opening doors and being sweet in a classically endearing way, that's ok. But I'm not going to a…
/r/MensRights23/10/13 01:52 PM
3

Maybe I'm a bit off in the head here, but I think this is similar to people complaining about how fattening McDonalds is; the market adjusts to demand. I'm plenty damn chivalrous, but girls don't seem to want that. i just get walked over and passed up for the asshole. That, and if you want to be treated as an equal, you will be. I'm totally for women's equality, but that means you're gonna have to open your own door. FWIW, I'm a big fan of opening doors for significant others, and many other chi…
/r/MensRights23/10/13 01:37 AM
1

Normal mirrors will show a small gap between fingers. The reflective silver coating is on the back side of the glass sheet, hence the gap.
/r/MensRights05/09/13 11:27 AM
1

Sorry... for those that haven't seen this exploding in emails and on facebook, this is a way to test if a mirror in a public place or hotel is a 1 way mirror. The idea is to protect people from being spied on through a 1 way mirror. Btw, I mean no disrespect to those who have successfully avoided all of those stupid chain emails and facebook posts. I'm jealous.
/r/MensRights05/09/13 12:37 AM
1

Yeah, but that doesn't work out for a few reasons: breastfeeding (yes, another choice, but it's defensible, and not fair to say "too bad, your choice") many (probably most) won't be the one to stay home for many families, the one with the higher paying job/more career track job will be the one to keep working. I'd imagine this is most likely the male. Again, a choice, but ditto #1. Statistically, women take more jobs as teachers, etc., which are typically not the more career-track jobs. Again, c…
/r/MensRights13/08/13 02:43 AM
2

Agreed. I've always said that affirmative actions, being a one-way mechanism, can never create equality. I'm not against them, however, because sometimes they're the only thing that will budge an unfair status quo. I know that my alma matter pushed WISE (women in science and engineering) strongly, and frankly I'm proud of them, even knowing that plenty of more qualified men are not accepted to those programs for women who, frankly, almost always leave (not always to failing grades, of course). U…
/r/MensRights12/08/13 04:59 PM
0

I still say that I have no trouble with feminism. I have trouble with the ill-conceived philosophy in any group. If feminism as a human rights movement that focuses on gender inequalities affecting women, I'm totally ok with that. One would assume then, that feminism would at least verbally support masculism as a counterpart helping the other half. My issue is the fact that there is no such support. So I agree with OP, but I'm not yet ready to throw away feminism as a whole. I also think that we…
/r/MensRights11/08/13 09:25 PM
1

Often, yes, but I imagine that everyone does at times. I know I have. I imagine that at this point, now that women have the right to vote, are at least coming much closer to eliminating the glass ceiling and leveling the salary gap, that the focus should move away from feminism and move towards general gender equality motion. Now, both sides have similar issues that need less soapboxing and grandstanding and more deep adult conversation. Although I imagine women still 'have it worse' than men, I…
/r/MensRights03/05/13 04:31 PM
1

Hahaha, Agreed, up to: Wait, you want me to sign papers to have sex with someone now? lol. Privacy violation! Also, I'm going to imagine that most of the time, there are other red flags (I've come to assume "I'm on birth control" is one of them). Agreed on the paternity test being mandated; it keeps the trusting babydaddy from getting screwed, and makes the reason for the paternity test legal/mandatory instead of bringing up another relationship issue. If it's mandated, shared sounds reasonable,…
/r/MensRights03/05/13 04:18 PM
2

Then it seems that the general feminist view is that abortion should be legal and should solely be up to the woman. I would agree with this, although I think that it's important to balance this statement by saying that both parties should be involved in the decision making process when possible/reasonable. I'm sure there are plenty of cases where the two potential parents hold opposing views that cannot be rectified, in which case, the woman should make the decision. However there are also plent…
/r/MensRights03/05/13 02:41 PM
2

Not to be an idiot, but can you explain why? I'm pro-life for personal reasons (although I support Roe V. Wade, abortion shouldn't be a legal issue), but I don't see why someone advocating for paternal child custody can't also think that abortion is a bad idea.
/r/MensRights03/05/13 03:35 AM
1

I can see that. I guess my point is more that the subtle language-related problems like this are smaller than lack of equal opportunity for pay for women, lack of equal convictions and child custody for men.
/r/MensRights03/05/13 03:12 AM
1

Actually that's probably the best description for it. I feel like with the race example, and there's more of a negative connotation to it. But the way you put it is dead on. There's a positive connotation to the 'special group', and I think that really agrees with my argument. There's just regular old people (men), and there's special/important/worth specifying people (women).
/r/MensRights01/05/13 09:44 PM
2

Likely less important, or at least less effectual, I’ve always thought that the male-generic language structure had somewhat of an opposite effect than what many feminists argue. Let me explain through a race example: Many (likely racist) people may point out a white person and say “that person”, then turn around, point out a black person and say “that black person”. IE, white is the generic race, and others must be specified. White is generic/normal, black is abnormal. This is obviously harmful…
/r/MensRights30/04/13 01:26 AM
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