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5	Wife asked for divorce but has done nothing to action it Mine did something similar. Treated me like garbage (cold shoulder, insults when she did talk, slept in a separate bed). She told me repeatedly she wanted a divorce. Then she got angry when the process server showed up to give her divorce papers.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/25 01:13 AM
1	My STBXW the now Pension Expert Early withdrawals from a traditional IRA or 401k incur taxes and penalties. If you have a joint account and your spouse withdraws half, the IRS can hold you responsible for those taxes and penalties. The QDRO officially separates the accounts without incurring taxes or penalties and stops the IRS from coming after you if your spouse drains their account after the split.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/04/25 05:35 AM
1	My STBXW the now Pension Expert Similar story here. I insisted on the QDRO to protect myself from the IRS. Once the assets left my 401k, I didn't care. I heard through the grapvevine she spent it and owes the IRS $$.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/03/25 02:38 AM
5	Did you have to imitate the divorce after she said she would? My wife made noises for several weeks about wanting a divorce but tried to hide when the process server arrived with the divorce papers.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/25 02:57 AM
7	Need advice - Wife wants a divorce Yeah, hiding assets is NOT part of an amicable divorce. In an amicable divorce, you may argue, disagree, and negotiate about how to split the assets, but all parties need to be honest about the assets and willing to sign the negotiated settlement agreement. If you've agreed in principle on a 50-50 split with a few exceptions for the children's things, then stick to it. If she doesn't honor her part of that, get a lawyer.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/09/24 04:06 PM
7	She is refusing to sign divorce papers, which is my proof that I have made the correct decision to move forward with divorce. My now ex-wife did something similar... insisted on getting a divorce for over a month, then got mad when I filed for a divorce and the process server served her divorce papers.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/05/24 02:51 PM
1	How do you survive financially even with a prenup? If necessary, the lawyer/paralegal can draw up paperwork to split the 401k at whatever percentage you feel is appropriate. When I divorced, I traded cash in hand for 401k money -- my wife got the more expensive car and more from the sale of the house, but I got more of the 401k.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/02/24 01:57 AM
1	Sitting on her hands She kept telling me she was going to file and I waited two months until finally filing. She was pissed for some reason and hasn’t spoken to me since. Very similar to my situation. My wife reminds me regularly she wants the divorce, but won't do anything to move it forward. After she refused to sign the Waiver of Service, I hired a lawyer and had her served. Now she's mad I had her served. I dread her reaction when I start getting bids on the house -- I want to go to trial with serious offers on …	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/22 07:27 PM
1	Vehicles To be clear, include all debts in that spreadsheet. Be sure you know the final status for any outstanding debts (house mortgage, car notes, credit card bills, etc.)	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/22 07:07 PM
2	How to reason with the unreasonable? Advice appreciated My wife's doing something similar... she wants the divorce, but she won't cooperate to move it forward. After I filed a Petition for Divorce, she refused to notarize the Waiver of Service, so I hired my lawyer. The process server just showed up. She refused to answer, so I let him in. Now she's mad at me for serving her divorce papers. Now she keeps asking when I'll move out, but she refuses to sell the house until we're officially divorced.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/22 06:58 PM
1	Separation IANAL, but I talk to yours. My lawyer said moving out -- in my circumstances -- wouldn't hurt the divorce case. Whether or not you leave the house depends on a variety of factors (children, what'll happen to the house after the divorce, possibility of violence, etc.).	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/22 06:41 PM