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| 15 | Women leaving the dating apps100 attractive men out of 500 is already being very generous. The percentage is closer to 0.5-1% in my case. I wish I were joking but sadly I'm not lmao. It's just not worth the time energy and jeopardising our safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:40 PM |
| 4 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?I DIDN'T KNOW THIS IS ACTUALLY A THING. I went on one date with a guy like this. He has a degree in a STEM field but he told me he went on vacation to Tokyo, decided to stay there on a whim when he was down to his last few dollars, even though he didn't speak Japanese, stayed there for 2 years doing god knows what, and then came to my country to be a barista. I just...lost all interest at that very moment. It was such a turn off that this man in his early 30s had nothing going for him and didn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 04:43 PM |
| 173 | A Curated Selection from OLDThis is exactly what OLD is like and no one is missing out. Just a wasteland of cheating men and the laziest scrotes who can't string a full coherent sentence together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:30 PM |
| 39 | In my country, a father killed his 2 special needs sons, dumped their bodies in a canal, and caused the police to go on a manhunt. Yet, the top comments on Facebook are people sympathizing/rationalizing the father’s behavior. Even when men murder, society excuses their behavior.I know exactly what story you're talking about. When I first read about it, I had a sneaking suspicion the dad had something to do with it. Murder is so uncommon here and the fact that both of them were killed? Sus. And these comments sympathising with him are revolting. I hope their mum and sister will be okay following this extremely traumatic experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 07:05 PM |
| 25 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?OH MY GOD. My friend and I go to spin classes regularly. Sometimes, she suggests them as dates. Once I happened to be at the same class as her and one of her dates, and the guy was clearly not fit - he spent most of the class in the saddle. She told me that when it ended, she asked him how he found the class, to which he said something along the lines of how he goes to the gym regularly and how spin is stupid. 🤡🤡🤡 Sure bud. Whatever helps you sleep at night? (I am also willing to bet money that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 08:49 AM |
| 11 | Even OTHER men can sense LVM/NVM/ZVM’s red flags with women at the beginning of a relationship, such as “being too busy.”I'm never falling for this shit again. My ex told me that he 'didn't want to put a label on things'. Should have bolted that very second instead of wasting 12 months. 🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 04:19 AM |
| 17 | Giving up sex with men has been the best thing everI made the mistake of having sex with my first boyfriend ever. I was 27 and a virgin. Not for the lack of attention, because I had been rejecting every guy before that. But I slipped up and I paid for it. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I would have broken up with him much more easily and earlier instead of hanging on if I hadn't slept with him. The oxytocin hits hard. Anyway, I'm never having sex with any man ever again until I'm sure he's committed and has shown that he wants things to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 03:03 PM |
| 109 | Strategy - make him jump through hoopsI don't think this is silly at all! It's a wonderful story and it demonstrates several good qualities like empathy, responsibility and initiative in a man. As always: If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 28 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?Holy shit THIS EXACT THING happened to me. It was my birthday, dressed up in a cute dress and my best heels. Looking back I should have dumped him right there. (At least he had the decency to arrange the date and pay? ☠️☠️☠️) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 06:44 AM |
| 51 | A guy once wrote me a huge paragraph on how when a man offers to pay a bill, you need to argue and insist to pay for yourself. Pls, share your funniest and dumbest interactions about first date courtesy.So we can't be tired. Now we can't be hungry too. Ok. Makes sense. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 02:47 PM |
| 120 | Just FYI…if you or a loved one are hospitalized, it is ALWAYS ok to insist on having female-only staff.Just want to add - I'm a doctor. One of my colleagues was jailed for taking indecent photos of women without their consent, including nurses that he worked with and fellow colleagues. But anyway, the point is, I worked with this person for 4 months and I didn't realise. I only found out when it appeared in the papers. Of course, I have plenty of other male colleagues and I don't think the vast majority of them are like this depraved pervert. But if you feel uncomfortable, then please do ask for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 06:14 AM |
| 16 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?I would like to know too. I have a good education and a stable job. I take care of myself. At the moment, I'm not sure about kids but I would like to find a husband for companionship. Seeing my friends who are getting married and having children and my friend pool dwindling is very discouraging. Of course, like mentioned here, I don't want to trade places with any of them. The last thing I want to do is to settle. Also not for the lack of male attention. But I'm not attracted to any of them. I k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:53 PM |
| 57 | He's Your Ex For A ReasonI was dumped by my ex because he said he was 'too busy with work', and other personal issues. I want to move on from it, but it's so damn difficult, maybe because it was my first relationship. Every time I think I'm over him, something reminds me of him and I end up missing him all over again. He wasn't good for me. Seeing as he ended our rs because he was 'too busy with work', he can't be relied on in the future if any hardships are encountered and he'd leave then too. I want to look forwards t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:42 PM |
| 36 | My online dating experience was so similar, for a second I thought it's my old tweet! Feel free to add more typesI deleted all my OLD apps a week ago because I was sick of the gross men there and tired of their bullshit and reading this has reminded me why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 06:12 PM |
| 11 | Never beg a man to marry youOne of my closest friends is doing this with her boyfriend. They've been together for 6 years. And he is half-assing and beating around the bush with regards to asking for her hand in marriage. She tells me that she is tired of nagging him to ask her too. And I'm just...livid at this man for being utterly garbage, and I am so close to telling her that he ain't worth shit if this is how he's going about it. Also, more horrifically, she works in a male-dominated field and her male co-workers const… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 09:00 AM |
| 2 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagThanks, your reply makes a lot of sense. I'm still struggling to decide how long is too long to wait until a man demonstrates that he's earned the privilege to have that information about me, versus it being too long where people don't appreciate for wasting their time when something this important is being hidden from them. E.g. I date a guy for 6 months, after which he tells me his family carries the FAP gene, or he has DM1 etc. Honestly, I wouldn't know if it would have been better if he had … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:33 AM |
| 2 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagYes, I could just say that I'm on the fence about having kids for other reasons (because I do, not just concerning my mental health). But let's just say things progress, then when? Most people are accepting of mental illness and aren't particularly judgmental about it nowadays thanks to better awareness, but having a relationship with a person with a history of mental illness and still on medication is an entirely different thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:12 AM |
| 3 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagOf course, in the initial stages, I wouldn't want to reveal my mental health history. I also don't have a problem telling people that I don't feel comfortable sharing such information when I barely know them. But I also don't want to become one of those men who obfuscate vital information about their background and then their partner discovers much later on. Like some people mentioned here, they wouldn't date someone with a significant history of mental illness. I'm in remission but I would say … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:06 AM |
| 12 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagOkay, since we were on the topic but this was posted (please let me know if this is off-topic): When is a good time to mention that you are going to therapy and have a history of mental illness? I've been wanting to post this for a while now but wasn't sure if I should but this seems to be an opportune moment. I have a history of major depressive disorder (diagnosed in my early 20s) and I am on medication for life (I am in remission but on maintenance treatment). This is actually an important fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:45 PM |
| 21 | Why Splitting the Check Isn't as Feminist As PickMes Think It IsAs much as my ex had other issues which caused our rs to fail in the end, he understood this. He was attentive during sex. When he noticed that I was uncomfortable during sex (he was my first and the first few times weren't without hiccups), he'd stop to check on me. Sometimes he wouldn't even finish himself off if we had to stop early. Once I asked him about him not coming, and he told me that it didn't matter, he didn't need to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:12 PM |
| 44 | [deleted by user]Omg I resonate with this completely. Whenever a man previously expressed interest in me and I declined, my mum would go on and on about how I should give him a chance. I'm not a charity. I'm not going to go out with him because I'm not attracted to him. It will only get worse if he looks like shit now. I take care of my skin and hair and I exercise so why should I accept anything less from the man whom I'm expected to be with? Edited for clarity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:39 PM |
| 14 | [deleted by user]My mother keeps insisting that men where I'm from are 'not handsome', hinting that I should settle for one. But why would I? I don't want to marry and have sex with a guy whom I'm not attracted to. Anyway, my ex was hot and there was mutual physical attraction. I loved admiring how broad his shoulders were and just running my fingers through his well-groomed beard and body hair. He kept his pubes trimmed, and I def have a thing for a nice happy trail. He also always smelled nice and giving him b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:35 PM |
| 21 | [deleted by user]I agree completely! I was once lamenting to a friend that some men who are handsome might turn out to be jerks so I'm hesitant to like them on dating apps. But she told me that since the ugly guys already don't meet my standards, then I might as well give it a shot and like them anyway. And I've soon learned that ugly guys are no better and I shouldn't have to suffer with one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:25 PM |
| 94 | How do you deal with HVM that know they have options?they care but they have the 'if I lose her then its not the end of the world' attitude from my experience. Way too laid back and confident Imo this doesn't sound like high-value behaviour to me. A post from a few days ago basically said that if the guy's response isn't 'FUCK YES' when dating you, it's a no. So if he's not all in, then it's time to leave. Edit: Here is the post, if you're interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:32 PM |
| 7 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.I don't want to discredit your experience, because everyone's life experiences differ. I consider myself to be demisexual as well, although I know that term is hotly debated around here. However, I beg to differ when a man says he's 'looking for friends' on a dating app. What I get from these men more often than not is that they want a backup plan, or they have no plan to date you at all. Another thing I encounter is childish men who have not progressed since middle school - I live in a relative… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 01:37 PM |
| 7 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.I feel you because idk which is worse - a blank profile, or seeing them type misogynistic/misleading/mundane bullshit with the grammar and spelling of a 7-year-old child. The selfies though. It's so bad. Sometimes I am so physically repulsed by a selfie that I feel the need to just quit the app and not look any ANY MORE men for a few days to get over the revulsion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 01:16 PM |
| 36 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.I agree completely. I don't understand people who say 'friends first'. This isn't middle school. We're adults. If you're not prepared to date, don't go on a dating app. Also 'looking to see where things go' warrants an immediate swipe left from me. Stop wasting my time - I'm not here to pussyfoot around with a man who doesn't know what he wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 07:22 PM |
| 63 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.Another gem that men on OLD apps love to come up with - mentioning how they 'don't take life too seriously' or they're looking for a girl who 'doesn't take life too seriously'. All I can see when I read this is, "I'm not looking for anything serious but I lack the balls to actually say it out loud so I'll do this instead and hopefully string you along for as long as possible and evade commitment because tHaT's tOo sEriOuS fOr mE. Also, agreed, the statistics are TRULY abysmal. Idek why I'm still… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 07:20 PM |
| 12 | I think being intimidating is a good thing.My parents keep telling me that I'm too intimidating and that I might 'scare off men'. Good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 12:45 PM |
| 26 | Any tips on how to engage a man emotionally without sex being on the table?Oh my god, you took the words right out of my mouth. Where are you ladies even able to find a roster of men? I'm having a hard time even getting to setting up a date because 99% of men on dating apps are just repulsive. And the ones that do make it to the chatting stage don't progress further. I've tried getting to more interests but, like another user said, they tend to have a very high female to male ratio (spin class, animal rescues). I've deleted OKC recently because I legit couldn't tolerat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:30 PM |
| 6 | The farce that “men age like fine wine”I had the most unfortunate experience of having one such scrote in my med school study group that uttered that exact phrase, being the miserable, delusional and misogynistic bastard that he is and gave off major incel vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:12 PM |
| 2 | When their lame man-brags are deeply unimpressiveI aspire to be as indifferent as this queen the next time some man tries to impress me with nothing but the sheer audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 03:11 PM |
| 10 | Porn culture and Only Fans promotes the dehumanization of women everywhere.This is my biggest gripe about OF. It gave rise to the notion that anyone could make pornographic content and they're better off making it and consuming it. It's disgusting that regular girls (yes, girls, literal teenagers) think that they are being empowered in some way by earning money from creepy scrotes who don't give a damn about them. And from what I hear, for the vast majority, it isn't even good money. It's just not worth it. Meanwhile, the constant supply of porn just feeds these NVMs/L… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 02:46 PM |
| 9 | new male just droppedoh my god it's one of those 'LoNe wOLf' types. 🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:16 AM |
| 2 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?That's great! I've never once regretted splurging on it. 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?I use a mild soap free cleanser and I was recommended to wash twice to 3 times a day by my dermatologist! I was having several problem spots with cystic acne. After stopping all foundations, taking a short course of Doxycycline, applying topical tretinoin and doing the above, my skin cleared up completely! Yup, I use a matte moisturiser too! But unfortunately I live in a ridiculously warm and humid climate so I still need a bit of setting powder to control the grease. For the mask, I'm using Mas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:09 AM |
| 17 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?I try to stick to basics. I'm a healthcare worker and most women don't wear makeup in my line of work. I didn't use to either but I got really sick of hearing that I looked tired all the time so I decided to put a bit of effort in my appearance. I try to wash my face at least twice a day as I'm on the oily side. Then I follow up with a moisturiser. Weekly, I use an exfoliating mask. Cost-wise, it's pretty affordable. It all comes up to $100 in total and they last me about 3-4 months. For makeup,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:03 PM |
| 36 | Reason 1 out of 30,000I know, right? Another one I hate is, "You just have to give them a chance," and, "Maybe your standards are too high." 😬😬😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 10:02 AM |
| 5 | Let’s Discuss PERSONAL Requirements, Red Flags and Dealbreakers! 😍🤡I went through my list of physical attributes that I like in men previously. So purely based on his character, my ideal guy: Opens himself emotionally and spends time communicating with me, just as I would with him. Has to be polite and respectful. Is kind-hearted and loyal. Has to be knowledgeable. And I don't just mean academically but he has an interest in things outside of his field. I know a lot of doctors who know zero outside of medicine and it's incredibly boring. Is willing to accept th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:12 PM |
| 7 | Dr Karin discusses the question, 'What if I never find my person?'Thank you for sharing. I'm at the age where my social media feed is just wedding and pregnancy and baby photos, one after another, and it's so easy to get swept away with preoccupations about whether I'll find all of those things for myself or not. This helped to ground me and I'll be thinking of it when I need it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:15 PM |
| 20 | Vindicta destroyed my self esteem: a warning about putting too much of your self-worth on physical beautyWhen I stumbled upon Vindicta, I found it interesting mainly because of the ways that you can 'softmaxx' your face and physical attributes. Their sidebar posts can actually be helpful if a girl wants to level up her physical appearance like how to dress for her body type, what is flattering for her face shape, and what you can use makeup to help with. I resonated with that, as my makeup is my war paint. Showing up looking like a drowned harrassed rat makes me feel like a drowned harrassed rat. W… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 01:08 PM |
| 51 | Twitter is the epicenter of the Pick me pandemicWhy do these women not see that their problems will not end by getting married to a man? In fact marrying the wrong man will cause you A LOT MORE PAIN that you could have avoided. And you bet that any douchebag proposing with a $20 ring will not be worth it. You wanna talk about what I'll be grateful for? I'll be grateful if unwashed, illiterate neckbeards will stop making me look at their profiles on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 11:43 AM |
| 35 | I laughed so hard too good not to share with you ladies 🤣💯👏That furious backpedaling - i wAs jOkiNg (pls dont tell my wife) Sure you were, bud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:40 AM |
| 10 | The Audacity of some scroteaJust his sentence structure alone gave me an aneurysm, nevermind the drivel that he's going on and on about iNtiMaCy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:33 AM |
| 2 | Reframing of the Pickme PhenomenonI identify with this! I am far from desperate - I never was in a relationship until last year when I was 27. I was looking for the Right Guy™. I thought I had found him and I loved him dearly. I wanted to spend my time with him, be there for him when he was feeling down and help him when he needed it. Not because I was desperate, but because I wanted him to be happy. And at that time, he seemed like a HVM too (again, this is a lesson that just because he seems like a HVM doesn't mean he is!) - h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:24 AM |
| 41 | Yet another LVM who will be damned if he allows the woman he claims to love to feel special by having a nice wedding, committing to her officially, and making sure that all their friends and family know it.I feel somewhat the same way. I'm Chinese and while our weddings tend to be not quite as elaborate as Indian ones, it's still common to have like a few hundred people at a wedding. Some of whom you don't even like. Some of whom you don't even know. I don't want that. Also, it's customary to give the newly wed couple money as a gift so part of the cost is covered. That being said, I definitely still do want a wedding. A smallish one with close family and friends but a nice one nonetheless. And ce… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:26 AM |
| 151 | What low value men post on their social media.HAH. The projection is unreal. LVM be running around terrorising women with unsolicited dick pics, unwanted advances, cringey pick up lines, being creeps and stalking women, rifling through women's mail, and their inability to maintain basic hygiene/dress themselves and their need for someone to take care of them and cook and clean for them and get all pissy when they're told 'no' but sure women are the perpetual 2 year olds. B Y E. Edited for grammar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:09 AM |
| 3 | 😒😒😒🙃We're just scraping the bottom of the barrel now huh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:17 PM |
| 9 | ✔️Thank you for the reminder. I'm 28 this year, and it's very easy to feel pressured by all the wedding/pregnancy/baby photos that keep popping up on my social media feed. I've muted the lot of them for my own sanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 01:29 PM |
| 21 | 😒😒😒🙃I know right?! Also - 'stylist' and 'decorator'???? Which woman is asking her husband for fashion/interior design advice. This scrote is off his nut. I want to say so many things about this but it's not even worth more of my time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 01:21 PM |
| 95 | 😒😒😒🙃Amazing. The delusion of LVMs has no limits. Just listing random jobs and adjectives now. And why the hell would I want my partner to be...my...my brother? Also here's the zinger - even if you fulfill those 5 things to make a man happy, he might still go and get those exact same 5 things from his side chick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:22 AM |
| 9 | Don’t you just love the delusional male ego? 🙄I just got dumped recently (probably for the better tbh because my ex was very emotionally unavailable) and the thing I loathe the most about being single is going back to OLD. My workplace is predominantly female (ratio is probably like 3:1 - anyway I'm not interested in the men) and OLD is sort of the only option at the moment (no classes, seminars or whatever to attend because of COVID). OLD is like the 9th circle of hell. It's just endless monotony of swiping left on guys who are overweight,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:17 AM |
| 7 | Quarantine beards are a tragedy .. from Ryan Gosling lookalike to Ryan the Hobo. Why do they all do this??I've seen chin and neck anatomy I wish i hadn't. I was in the Emergency Department when COVID shit really started to hit the fan where I'm from and this sent me. Thank you for making my day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:57 AM |
| 2 | Quarantine beards are a tragedy .. from Ryan Gosling lookalike to Ryan the Hobo. Why do they all do this??My ex WAS THE SAME. He grew a god awful quarantine beard during quarantine over 2 and a half months, but at least he had ENOUGH SENSE to shave it off before I went over when quarantine ended. Also guys who use beards to hide their lack of jawline, no thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:37 AM |
| 3 | Beyond the peen: what are your physical preferences when it comes to men's appearances?Just this Wednesday, a month after my last breakup, my mother told me that 'I should settle for average'. Imagine my horror because the average man here is just...repulsive. No thanks, mom. Anyway. On to what I think is ideal (my ex actually ticked all of these boxes but he was very emotionally unstable/unavailable): I'm 5'2, so anything in the realm of 5'10-6'2 is okay. A full head of dark hair in a cut that suits him. Clear skin. Intelligent gaze, kind eyes. Strong jaw and chin. Clean, white, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 08:38 PM |
| 1 | The 5 questions you need to ask to see if a man has value in your lifeReminder to myself now that I'm back in the dating game. Thanks for the post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 09:07 AM |
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