gr3nade Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	I just missed the biggest IOI		gr3nade	/r/seduction	27/06/19 09:16 AM

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5	I want to approach 100 girls tomorrow Fear is like a weed, it's constantly growing. The longer you wait to deal with it, the more effort you need to deal with it. However, even if you exert a ton of effort and completely face it tomorrow, it'll slowly start growing back. If instead you face it every single day, then it will never get a chance to grow very big again. But if you stop facing it regularly, it'll grow big and scary again. One big courageous act is just that, ONE act. It will not fix the fear and the issues you face long …	/r/seduction	01/08/24 05:34 AM
5	No PUA course is good? I took a course once. As well as a separate bootcamp with the same coach. It was a good course. Lots of good material. I got some good results out of it. Didn't become some god but got a lot better and learned how little looks actually matter without the game to back it up. The bootcamp especially was useful and everyone there "Leveled up" significantly in the 3 days that it took place over. Like you could see it, day one, everyone is struggling to even approach. By day 3, you just fucking appro…	/r/seduction	14/06/24 11:08 PM
3	College was shit for getting laid for me. Is it going to get better? Yes and no. It generally gets easier as you get older as a man because you have more autonomy, more money, more experience, better social circle. However, it doesn't get easier if you don't try with some consistency.	/r/seduction	11/06/24 07:15 PM
0	Are my results typical considering my stats? Something's up. I've seen this with another guy I knew. He was a multi millionaire, very charismatic, very tall, fit, handsome and could seem to achieve things he set his mind to. Could easily get girls, but could not for the life of him get a steady good long term relationship and that's what he desperately wanted most of all. Might be some sort of belief you've internalized that's fucking this up because that's what it was for him. He just didn't feel worthy of that kind of love for some reaso…	/r/seduction	09/06/24 02:59 AM
1	What kind of social interactions with women do you enjoy the most? Humor is the biggest thing. If I can share a laugh with someone then I can enjoy talking to them. That goes for women or men. If I'm cold approaching then I just like the rush.	/r/seduction	07/06/24 05:30 PM
1	Will a guy expect sex if I invite him to a movie at my house? Yes	/r/seduction	31/05/24 06:55 PM
1	Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effects It's not uncommon to chase a thing, get the thing and then find that the thing is no longer satisfying. Sometimes it's because that thing isn't as fulfilling as you thought it would be. Sometimes it's because without the challenge, it's just not fun. Can't say I've experienced the same thing with women, I've had nowhere near your level of success but I did experience something like this in my career. Was grinding for some years, got to a really good position that I wanted with amazing pay and I …	/r/seduction	12/05/24 10:16 PM
2	How do I finally drop the soft nice guy personality and become a bad boy? Start doing things that scare the absolute piss out of you every day. Do it over and over. Since it's in this sub, it's specifically talking to women and directly flirting with them. No beating around the bush. But do that with any area of your life you can think of where you're held back by fear. Do it long enough and you'll realize that you are the guy that does the shit that scares you and eventually, you'll drop the ultra nice guy stuff and stop caring so much what other people think. They s…	/r/seduction	10/04/24 07:25 PM
1	Do you think gym guy is trying to impress me? Maybe. If you would like to get to know him say hello. If not just ignore him.	/r/seduction	09/04/22 12:58 PM
2	Is it weird to ask a random girl for her number? It's weird if you just go up to random people and just ask for their number. That's very weird. What you do is go up to them and say hello, make some smalltalk, see if they open up or if they don't. If they do open up, converse more, if they don't, exit the convo. If you have a good conversation and you want to see her again then ask for the number. You will get scared, you won't even approach a lot but keep going. Keep trying. Keep believing. You'll get better at it. Just going up to a random a…	/r/seduction	08/03/22 01:40 AM
43	Anyone else feel resentful of how they were brought up to view sex? Yes. I'm very resentful. Grew up in a religious household. Anything even remotely sexual was viewed as something we should never know anything about. Literally, if two people kissed in a movie, my parents would change the channel. I remember one time some ad came on and there was a woman in a normal bikini at the beach and my dad lunged across the sofa to grab the remote to change the channel. As a result, I didn't talk about sex with anyone or bring it up or know how to bring it up. It was just…	/r/seduction	20/02/22 05:34 PM
6	Need advice boys The only advice I can give is love yourself. She ain't worth it. This is oneitis. Move on. Just keep things business between the two of you at work and just focus on loving yourself. Forgive yourself for feeling hurt. You're good bro. Your body is fine. Your heart and mind hurt but that's just your emotions. They hurt but they're actually bullshit most of the time in this modern world. Acknowledge them but don't dwell on them. She's not an enemy but she's not important to you either. She's just …	/r/seduction	25/01/22 01:35 AM
4	drunk texted a lot of women, what now? I don't know why so many people are acting like this is fine. This was fucking stupid and don't ever do it again. That's not to say that you should beat yourself up over it but this is definitely not cool. You did it very drunk which is fucking stupid. Almost certainly it sounded as needy and poorly worded as most drunk texts do to sober people. On top of that, if all of them turned you down then either these texts were bad (wouldn't be a surprise cause you were sloshed). Or your initial interac…	/r/seduction	14/01/22 12:40 AM
57	Anyone else feel like dating is completely pointless now? You're placing too much importance on yourself and your worldview. You have to detach from expectation. You're thinking of "normalcy" as YOUR view of normalcy. There is no universal view of normalcy. Normalcy for a child growing up in the slums of India is poverty and struggling just to stay alive. Every single day of their life has been harder than yours or mine but they laugh and smile and live all the same. They have their own dreams and hopes and struggles and fears. Normalcy for myself 6 ye…	/r/seduction	08/01/22 05:51 PM
4	Do girls really notice when guys are wearing colognes? Everyone notices when guys wear cologne. I'm a man and as soon as I'm near someone, I'm able to smell it. If they use too much, it's repulsive. If they use just the right amount, then my brain is just like "Huh? What is this smell? I don't see any oranges here? Is this guy wearing cologne? Oh yeah, he's definitely wearing cologne." Now whether you like the smell of that cologne or not is an entirely different thing. Personally, I have quite a sensitive nose so just a hint of cologne is something…	/r/seduction	08/01/22 04:51 PM
19	Should I Flake More Often? No. Only flake if you become unavailable suddenly and aren't able to make it but make sure to send them a message explaining the situation. You want to get to a point where you just don't care about flakes. Drop them and move on. You get to this point by having a popping social life and having things to do with friends/dates all the time so each interaction doesn't feel like a big deal. It's a LOT of constant work and making time and it requires sacrifice. Honestly, building and maintaining a go…	/r/seduction	29/12/21 02:53 AM
11	Do you think women know what average guys go through with dating? I don't think they know. The same way we don't know what the average woman goes through. Sure, you hear about metoo and sexual harassment and assault but then you actually talk to some women who're honest about it and it's fucking everywhere for them. But I don't really KNOW it. I definitely can't sympathize with it. I can empathize with it a little bit but I can't even do that very well because it's just such a black box to me and I imagine a woman's perspective is much the same when it comes t…	/r/seduction	28/12/21 10:57 PM
42	First time approach, got a number at my airport gate from an absolute babe Let's fucking go. "Let's go" has become a very common saying these days. Basically just means "hell yea" or "awesome".	/r/seduction	28/12/21 07:31 PM
13	How to touch girls back in a friendly/flirty, non-creepy way? Basically, just physically stand or sit nearer to her than you would generally be comfortable with and let touching just happen. If she likes you, she'll allow you to stay near her. If she recoils or moves away when you get near her then she's uncomfortable and touching isn't going to resolve that. As for starting spots for touching, shoulders, elbows and arms are good, fairly neutral places to start. But the key is being natural. If you reach across the table to tap her shoulder, that's weird. …	/r/seduction	28/12/21 06:40 PM
201	First time approach, got a number at my airport gate from an absolute babe LFG. Keep putting yourself out there. Also, here's a little something I've noticed in my life. Women on vacation, especially solo women, are usually the most outgoing they'll ever be. And it's not just women either. People don't go on vacation solo to hang out by themselves. They want to meet people. Heck, you can try going on a solo trip for a while and you'll see how much easier it to meet people than it is trying to do the same thing in your hometown solo. Being in a totally different place w…	/r/seduction	28/12/21 05:31 PM
1	Lost all motivation for hookups(22M) I think this is pretty normal. A lot of guys hookup a lot and eventually realize it doesn't bring them anything meaningful in their life. If you're hooking up simply for the sake of hooking up, it's really no different than any other activity, like riding a bike or playing sports. Some guys could enjoy random hookups forever and some guys won't find it worthwhile after a while. Different strokes for different folks. Try long term relationships and see if that brings you joy. Or maybe focus on yo…	/r/seduction	15/12/21 04:32 PM
106	Is this an acceptable approach to women? Sure that works. But it's such an unnatural approach. If you're both waiting for the train and standing near one another. Just make some quick eye contact, smile and say casually, "Hey" or "How's it going". This should be very casual, no pressure, no expectation. Literally just a completely innocuous greeting. If she's somewhat open/receptive, make some smalltalk and see where things go. If she's not open/receptive or doesn't respond at all or looks at you like you're a weirdo, don't push it any…	/r/seduction	27/11/21 11:32 PM
-1	Is this a bro code violation? There is no bro-code. As much as I wish there was such a simple answer, there isn't. Not for this. Not for most of the real problems in life. There is no set of rules that solves every situation between two friends. There is only doing your best and learning from your mistakes and re-calibrating. He's being honest with you that he would feel jealous if you got together with this girl after he struck out. It would be a blow to his ego and he would feel like less of a desirable man than you. If yo…	/r/seduction	16/10/21 11:10 PM
1	[deleted by user] If you can't get em with your looks, you gotta get em with your personality and energy. Lots of great guys out there who are either terrible at dating or just don't really put themselves out there for one reason or another. If you're trying to land top guys, probably not gonna happen. But at the end of the day, it's all about marketing yourself more than you're doing now. That being said, the quickest route to success would most likely be working on your body. Maybe lose about 30lbs and put on a…	/r/seduction	16/09/21 02:31 PM
1	How do I get dates? Is 23 too late for me to start dating? I only want to make one point and it's that the thought of being too old for dating at 23 is absolutely ridiculous. I know it feels like you might be too old. But I want you to take a step back and realize, atleast logically, that the statement "23 is too old for dating" is just as ridiculous and factually incorrect as the claim that "microsoft is putting microchips in the COVID vaccine to control your brain". Not trying to make you feel dumb, you're not, but I do want you to realize that not on…	/r/seduction	15/09/21 04:36 PM
11	Can only attract/bed overweight girls Less attractive people have lower standards. For these overweight women, you happen to fall within the bounds of those standards, for the more attractive(to most people), non-overweight women, you don't. You now have a choice to make, either lower your standards and accept it, or increase your attractiveness in some way. Up your fitness, or up your sociability, or up your fashion sense, or up your confidence, or up your money. Nothing in life that's worth having is easy. All that being said, low…	/r/seduction	11/07/21 02:40 PM
1	Why can’t he finish when we’re doing it.. 100% it's them. Some guys struggle with this. I've met two people who both had tremendous issues finishing with women. Erectile dysfunction is a real problem. Sometimes the cause is a physical medical issue. Sometimes it's a deep seeded mental issue manifesting as not being able to get hard, or cum or sometimes it's coming way too fast. Sometimes it's just the chemistry is off or the guy is too drunk or he's nervous with a new partner. It could be a whole slew of things, but it is definitely int…	/r/seduction	26/06/21 10:29 PM
3	Went to another club but might give up It's a hard road. Some nights are gonna suck. But just like with anything else, the more you put in, the harder you try, the better you'll get. The more used to bad nights and failures you'll get. That being said, bar hopping isn't the only way to meet women. Join some clubs that you enjoy and get really enthusiastic and involved in them. Something that inspires joy and confidence in you. Talk to women there. The key is repeatedly putting yourself into social situations with women and trying to …	/r/seduction	26/06/21 04:13 PM
4	Asked gym crush out. Sort of. I think it's good not to but I'm a risk averse guy. It comes down to risk tolerance at the end of the day. If you accept that she might say no and that it will be awkward in that case, you can roll the dice and ask. You can't predict how awkward it might be for her or if she will get offended or not. Some girls will hate it because they don't like you but would be totally fine with being approached by a different guy she does like. Other girls might hate it because the gym is their me t…	/r/seduction	30/04/21 05:43 PM
3	Asked gym crush out. Wow, that sucks. I would say all guys aren't like that and while that's true, I have no idea what proportion of guys are like vs which aren't. Asking him out as a female took a LOT of courage. Props to you.	/r/seduction	30/04/21 05:27 PM
1	If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be? This turned out longer than I wanted it to be but if you read it, I hope it helps. I can't speak for any other guy so take this with a grain of salt but I think there are four main ingredients to a good long-term relationship for most people. I've listed them in no particular order. I think all four are essential. 1) Physical attraction on both sides 2) Alignment in values - Both people need to have their own set of values but there needs to be a lot of overlap in them. Especially the most impor…	/r/seduction	25/04/21 12:13 AM
1	I just missed the biggest IOI Lmao right?! When I got home, and I reflected on the night, it just hit me how obvious it should've been. Still had a fun night and the experience helped me get my head straight. Had a blast with a different girl yestersay.	/r/seduction	28/06/19 09:59 PM
1	I just missed the biggest IOI You're definitely right, it could've been that. My awareness, especially on that night wasn't great. But I do think it was an IOI because I didn't initiate conversation with her specifically. I initiated conversation with her group. 2 guys 2 girls. I was just trying to get them to open up to the rest of the tour group a bit. She was the most outgoing of their group and started talking to me. Then she steered it to the rhyming thing. The bar wasn't full and the tour group was spread out, she wasn…	/r/seduction	28/06/19 09:55 PM
1	What to say if she already has a boyfriend? Man this is some its always sunny MAC system shit right here.	/r/seduction	27/05/15 06:31 AM
1	I'm not who I want to be I absolutely know what you mean with the bursts of confidence. Except I usually get them in bursts of a half day at a time, once in a while. It's not even a buildup or anything and there are no specific conditions for it as long as nothing very shitty has happened in that day. And the thing is in those days my confidence is fucking through the roof, I notice it and I definitely notice people noticing it including girls. But since its so fucking inconsistent and I can go from super confident to s…	/r/seduction	25/05/15 04:19 AM
19	Are you an exciting person? So what are your exciting hobbies? That was fucking eloquent.	/r/seduction	26/07/14 04:31 AM
7	How to become good at storytelling/more magnetic? I don't think he has prepped his stories. I just think that he tells stories so much that his actual storytelling ability is very good. And the stories he's telling you guys, he's probably told a million times since he is new so he wouldn't forget the details. But you said that some of the stories aren't even that amusing but he still gets laughs which means that his stories don't really matter. It's his storytelling skill that he's developed over, probably his lifetime that makes his stories so…	/r/seduction	19/07/14 04:05 AM
1	What should I do? No social life and feeling quite low now... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qigOUdAOyRs I think you may be able to relate to this guy. Hopefully this video will help. Also if starting practicing social interactions feels too hard, start with absolutely tiny baby steps something that's so easy that you can't say no to doing it every single day and build up from there.	/r/seduction	23/05/14 07:03 PM
1	Found this and thought it applied. Sorry if it's been posted before. Dude, when you're shaving your cheeks, puff em out, it makes it a bit easier to get a closer shave.	/r/seduction	06/04/14 01:41 AM