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gravedestruct1on/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:28 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYgravedestruct1on/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:48 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEgravedestruct1on/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:39 PM
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NAH, SISgravedestruct1on/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:44 PM
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This may be a dumb questions but is there any way to order these in advance? Like order one now so that if by chance I do get a positive test result in the future I can take it immediately? Im in a relationship but unfortunately live in one of these states and all of this is so new to me I’m trying to wrap my head around these bans ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 11:13 PM
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The fact that they told you it was good debt makes me so angry ): A lot of times college does pay off and it can be worth it to go into debt for, but with how the economy is going in terms of cost of living not matching salaries, depending on what you degree you get it can be really difficult to pay off. The whole system is incredibly messed up. My childhood friend is 70k in debt because she kept switching majors and ended up getting a degree that is really difficult to get a adequate paying job…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 04:43 PM
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I don’t think $7500 is insane depending on how well off financially someone is, my sisters husband spent $10k on my sisters ring with no hesitation. Normally I agree with these sorts of posts because an engagement ring is special and will last a lifetime. However I have to go against the grain on this post because I would never marry someone with that much debt. I mean maybe I just grew up poor but some of these comments......”don’t date broke men” like she’s definitely more broke than him and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 11:03 PM
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Reminds me of the story regarding Francia when she donated her kidney to Selena Gomez, and how she found out Selena was still drinking.... Some people will take even the gift of life and squander it. There are few people deserving of your literal body. I’m sad that this girl had the misfortune of finding this out the hard way, that people can be so cruel. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:10 AM
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I mean you’re gorgeous & one of the richest women in the world and you have a child out of wedlock and your relationship falls to pieces before the child is even in elementary school 🤦🏻‍♀️....yes her mother is incredibly narcissistic and I have dealt with my narcissistic mother tearing down my self esteem and ending up with a terrible narcissistic/ emotionally unavailable partner. But I always drew the line at subjecting a child to that....I vowed that if I were to have a. child it would be with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 02:47 AM
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You can tell by the post title that he’s being manipulative. “Gf doesn’t want me to masterbate” no no no, she doesn’t want you to masterbate to porn. They always do this. Turn it into a “how can I never masterbate again waaaaah” argument when it’s like how have centuries of men able to masterbate before the existence of the internet and porn 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:07 PM
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Super ghonorrhea.....I’m in a relationship but I’m glad I didn’t like casual sex beforehand because yikes 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:01 PM
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Isn’t gonorrhea one of the curable STDs? With antibiotics?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:26 PM
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Not many but unfortunately the most influential :/ influencers, already famous Instagram models etc were within the top 1% making a considerable amount of income and then promoting it and influencing their younger audiences to want to try it out too. & I hope so too but I have a feeling they’re just going to blame society’s views on how sex work isn’t a valid job and OF was forced into doing this bc of it :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:49 PM
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Said it from the beginning. All these women making bank off of “their brand” when it’s solely invested in a male dominated company for men is NOT what empowering is. Is it empowering to be at the mercy of a platform that ultimately does not care about you at all? Unfortunately many used the money to promote lavish lifestyles and not invest adequately which does not bode well for their financial or career future. It was quick for them to call other women jealous or haters but I wonder how they’re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:40 PM
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I see your point, idk I just think giving these types of people any sort of attention at all is feeding their ego. Yes the man in the video seems super but hurt and desperate to uphold his ego and how hot he thinks he is. But her reaction and being in his video to be uploaded will give him more reactions, more content, more engagement, and thus more money as these sorts of videos don’t seem to get demonetized on YouTube (or TikTok?) compared to other types of content. It’s likely he felt but hur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:16 PM
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I’m going against the grain here but this is a bad look. Why would you engage with someone like that and stoop down to their level? It’s kind of cringe/a waste of time. Better to ignore them and deprive the attention they seek from getting reactions to their videos to post online and make money off of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:21 AM
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As someone who has recently become concerned about these issues (from the study where 50% of our makeup has PFAS in it) I would love to hear more about your opinion either as posts here or on the podcast! I think this is a great filter for men as well because if they’re not interested in being the best healthiest version of themselves how can we expect them to parent a child. I just think this whole thing is concerning. For anyone else interested, if you go on CosDNA you can type in what makeup …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:46 PM
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I agree but I honestly think it really depends. I’m not saying that this sub in particular has this problem since I typically don’t see posts or comments that are mean but “good faith constructive criticism” is a wide term. I think there should be a balance between being able to speak freely (while not being an asshole/hostile) versus having to tip toe criticism and sandwich it between compliments etc etc. I guess it’s also hard for me as a user to see how it’s like, but I wouldn’t want to ban a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:18 PM
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I wonder the same. I live on the coast with predictions that sea levels will rise and destroy entire cities but investors and real estate owners continue to buy land right near the sea. I could be wrong but many investors try to lower risks as much as possible, wouldn’t they see a risk if there was immediate danger and sell property like crazy before it gets bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:16 AM
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Hmmmm how about we oh I don’t know give people adequate maternity and paternity leave, funded childcare services that are supplied by our taxpayer money that is mismanaged and full of corruption. People know a bad deal when they see it....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:07 AM
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Not necessarily, I’m currently in a relationship with what I have seen and experienced thus far HVM. I still lurk/post on FDS because it’s one of the few spaces on the internet and probably the only space on Reddit that there’s a really supportive community of women and we can talk about feminism in general, not just dating but society as a whole. Idk I’ve seen this notion on FDS that HVM don’t exist and there’s a lot of heartbreak and disappointment from what society paints love to be and condi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:27 AM
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You’ve definitely put into words something I have felt for a long time but couldn’t quite express properly. I remember being a pickme in my teenage days and seriously questioning and urging my best friend (who was queen pickme and sexually active at the time) to stop dating this guy who she was obsessed with. Literally had sex with multiple people and strung her along, talked shit about her appearance to her, gave her yeast infections etc etc. It all came to a point when said guy raped someone s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:52 PM
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This whole thing just makes me cringe, I couldn’t even focus on the song or what words were being said tbh. Like let’s get back at some crusty old dude by following him around everywhere and twerking all over him...as like a “aha! Gotcha!” moment.....like the concept is just so degrading. How about sending the message of just feeling so secure in yourself that you don’t even get troubled by the hate, oh wait there’s no money to be made in that. What pleasure do women get from twerking? It basica…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:40 PM
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Right move. Around the time I discovered FDS a guy matched with me on hinge and was a city away. Kept offering me things to go to his city like fixing an aspect of my car I was having trouble with. We kept talking for a bit and he started to get flaky and then the one time he was in my city he reaches out to me for a booty call and I shut that shit down so fast. If they really like YOU for YOU they would drive, period. People can’t hide their intentions for long, better for them to expose themse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:06 PM
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Wow, what a hero 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:50 AM
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That smug ass “ (: “ at the end is so fucking snake-like and gross. He knew what he was doing, he knew his evil ass self was out partying and living it up while the mother of his child was slaving away and also being demeaned by being called a gold digger...I do not for a second believe he “had to get a masters” to get a good job at his parents family business. We all know whether or not he finished school daddy and mommy would have taken care of him and given him some prominent position for the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:37 AM
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I think it really depends. I truly do think most of the time when a man has low libido it’s because he’s a porn addict. My ex was a porn addict and developed delayed ejaculation which would make sex a lot of work that he wasn’t physically fit for (I’m not trying to be rude, he was out of shape). I do think other factors can be at play as you pointed out it not being universal. For example I have anxiety and have tried medication for it, but it has made me unable to climax so I stopped and found …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:57 PM
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Ugh if you have to watch porn to have sex you’re ruined I’m sorry. Like take the man and throw him in the trash. The amount of effort, self discipline, and time it requires for someone to fix their dick when they’ve gotten to that point will be nearly impossible for them to achieve because the type to get to that point is so low effort and depraved anyways. I was a virgin when I was with my ex and he had delayed ejaculation but hid the fact that he had a porn addiction. It was evident with the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:18 PM
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The vampire from twilight, mostly known for being sparky and doing weird shit like watching Bella sleep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:41 PM
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Did he think he was Edward Cullen or something? 😣That is so creepy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:40 PM
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They’re literally comparing dating preferences....to nazis.....who experimented on people....killed people . Do they not see how offensive it should be to a Jewish person that they’re comparing something like dating preferences to actual murder and experimentation on humans??? Like ????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:56 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:48 PM
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Yeeeeeep. I wonder how these guys will feel when they’re old, alone, and depressed. They have all these views that women are out to get them, “steal half their shit” in a divorce, etc so they never get married and whatever. Like these guys really be growing into middle age looking SO unfulfilled and lonely. It probably didn’t help that most male friendships are shallow as hell too with minimal emotional support. It’s like congratulations! 🎊🎉🍾Nobody “took half your shit” but why do you still look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:49 PM
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I had a guy at my job say he has to go at “simp:30” like 6:30 bc he has a date and I rolled my eyes. I really just want to look at these guys dead-faced and say “your girlfriend is probably the only interesting thing about you”. Not saying using the word simp is good in any capacity anyways, but it makes me extra mad when it’s some guy who isn’t even cute or isn’t even doing anything remarkable with their lives. Like who tf you think you are?? You should be grateful you have someone who loves yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:37 PM
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Talks about how dogs are “better than women/or people” because they’re loyal. It just shows that he expects devoted loyalty without actually earning it. A lot people who stress preferring dogs over people actually have no friends or can’t keep friends due to their own shortcomings. A lot of dogs will love you no matter how you treat them, people are obviously not like that. You can also tell just the general selfishness of some men who get dogs....my ex worked 8-9 hours a day so when he got a ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:58 PM
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Totally agree! I actually met my now really close friend through bumble BFF and one semi close friend off of there. My close friend is much more FDS oriented whereas the other is unfortunately more pickme so it’s really a mixed bag. If you keep looking and connect with someone it’s definitely worth it though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:39 PM
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Let’s hope the evil ones like this continue to expose themselves so women stay the fuck away from them....with that attitude and disregard for half of the human population they don’t even deserve what they have now, let alone “passing their DNA” like their DNA is worth anything more than a bag of chips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:18 PM
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How do you seriously live with and have sex with someone who repeatedly shows you they hate you? He’s literally giving her things she’s allergic to....absolute scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:14 PM
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Zac Efron is another example, although it appears he got some sort of plastic surgery/jaw implant. Went from looking like a youthful hot but sweet man to a uncanny valley GI joe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:35 PM
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.....that is so bizarre, I mean....why would anyone have sex like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:29 PM
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Honestly I don’t even think you need to go that far in terms of the whole cool wine aunt thing. Realistically most people work 40 hours work weeks, and depending on your country and company have varying levels of vacation time (here in the US it’s pretty shit, like 2 weeks a year I think??). Just in general working hard on your own, buying your own place whether it be a condo or a house, your free time will improve without having to take care of kids. You could even get to a point where you don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:52 AM
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“Marriage has always been an institution meant to benefit men” is a reality that hit you hard. I still struggle with feeling bitter occasionally of just how much the media lies to you about marriage, which leads you into relationships with men with doe eyes when you’re finally an adult. I do think marriage with a HVM is worth it, although even then you need to accept the fact that once you have marriage/kids your freedom is limited in the sense that you need to discuss with your partner to be on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:08 PM
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I think there’s cheaper ways to go about it (also some products aren’t good for animals but I don’t have any) but I was taught to use a swiffer if you have hardwood floors. They have a dry version that cleans up the dust and there’s also a wet version that makes the floor look more polished and is supposed to clean it. For carpet use a vacuum and there’s also a washing version of a vacuum I honestly don’t know the name but it basically washes out your carpet and gets any bad smells out. Always c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:07 PM
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He looks like a turtle, I can’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:15 PM
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Imagine living your life with that much of a chip on your shoulder, constantly being on the defensive, and living with that kind of darkness in your soul that you just fuck with people for your own satisfaction....truly sociopathic. They’re entitlement and narcissism is so high they don’t even realize they’re gold digging women for their looks, bodies, etc they just believe they deserve the benefits of companionship with women. Like it’s common sense if you’re leveling up in your career that you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:07 PM
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Literally at my job today overheard a conversation with someone on their phone -insert other person on the line criticizing their son- Pickme mother: -gasp- Yes he’s hit other girls, but my kid is NOT a bad kid! Hes just short tempered, gets his aggression from his father” I’m just sitting there like....your attempts to normalize your kids behavior doesn’t even sound convincing to me, a stranger. It’s like I had a flash forward of how that kids going to end up a misogynistic women beater in the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:48 AM
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100% agree. When I was first experiencing sexual feelings in adolescence it was after tremendous religious influence telling me that if I don’t save myself for marriage I’m a “wh_re” and that no one from my culture will ever want to be with me. I literally fantasized about being raped because then it wouldn’t be my choice to lose my virginity, therefore I wouldn’t go to hell. I thought after its already been lost there’s no point in trying to keep yourself celibate. Do you know how extremely fuc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:02 AM
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My question to her is, so what if your husband forgot your anniversary? Made a comment about you that hurt your feelings? You’re just going to pull your top off and hop on his dick anyways?? I never understand the whole “withholding sex as punishment” like.....do you expect someone to want to have sex with you right after you hurt their feelings? That they’re just supposed to take your apology and 2 seconds later be totally okay and ready to be turned on? & if they think women should just “forgi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:46 PM
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Idk I get somewhat conflicted about this topic as someone who has small boobs and still struggles with my self confidence about it. I don’t think it’s about the frame of reference as my attraction level to men, as I’ve never had problems getting one, it’s more so the constant bombarding from everyone that boobs like mine are “underdeveloped”, by both genders. From the male perspective my boobs are too small. I’m not “womanly” enough. Using words like these to make me and other small breasted wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:46 PM
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I might be wrong but I remember an only fans creator mentioning that you have to take a picture of your drivers license and send it to only fans and that is the only way to create an account. So you basically have to be yourself? Or it’s more difficult to be truly anonymous. (I don’t watch only fans obvi so I can’t really tell) but even if you didn’t you’re like one hacker away from someone exposing everyone. I would say most men willing to pay for your only fans want to see your face. So even i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:15 PM
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Lmao I was literally just thinking, we’re supposed to take this dudes opinions into account when he can’t even wipe his damn nose?? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:37 PM
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Definitely. Sometimes shes brainwashed into not knowing its a lie/cope. I was a late bloomer as a teen, religious parents who didn’t talk about sex much. However this “casual sex positivity” movement was spreading throughout my highschool, friends, etc like crazy. Porn made me think of sex as being one way (no focus on MY pleasure) so by the time I actually had sex (19) I could not cum. The man I was seeing was into all of that harmful shit (choking, slapping, etc) he then tried to make me cum a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:34 PM
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Not in a snowy part of the world...dude went on vacation and thought it would be romantic to pee my name in the snow and send it to me since I never saw it before in rl, so I could “get close to it” in a different way.... I wish I was joking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:26 AM
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Lol looking at the comments I am so happy I didn’t watch, that kind of ending makes my blood boil 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:01 PM
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Pre FDS I dated an overweight LVM. I was in love with him. One time we were having a conversation about weight, not sure how the topic came up but I think I asked if he was into bigger women or has ever been with one (I’ve always been insecure of being the opposite and not being “thick” enough). & the man literally said he was not attracted to overweight women, thought they looked ugly, and wouldn’t date one.....I literally just looked at him like....? You’re not some pinnacle of perfection eith…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:05 PM
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“You're probably ambitious and think that it's a smart choice to get paid hundreds of dollars per hour or thousands of dollars per meeting or month. You don't have to deal with a boss, you don't need to work plenty of hours to just to get paid what you'll get paid in a week or a few days. But the truth is, you don't need to do all of that to get paid $5k/month or more.” Can anyone tell me what these jobs that don’t have to deal with this are? Idk I hope this doesn’t come off the wrong way, I don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:46 PM
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This whole situation is unsettling and disgusting. This is also another reason why I’m not attracted to small skinny men. Her boyfriend should be sticking up for her, like a dude pissed on your gfs loofah (their loofah??), yelling and threatening you and your girlfriend, and you don’t do anything at all? I mean what’s the point of having a boyfriend if they can’t even protect you? It’s like women are always supposed to be nurturing, pouring emotional labor into men, etc but they can’t even hold …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 06:09 PM
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This makes me so sad. Mostly because society doesn’t place importance/emphasis on how much your parents contribute to the kind of love you seek when you’re older. I’ve actually struggled with this and it’s a hard pattern to break because the “love” that you think you’re getting from a narc feels “right” because when you’re younger you’re so used to being the one pouring in love and receiving very little to none from your parents. Spirituality is a tricky one because I feel many people just say s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:37 PM
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I think I get it, I’ve definitely felt a little jealous when my sister got in her long term relationship (she’s now in a happy marriage) not in a ill intentioned way like I wanted to see her fail (I love my sister very much and am always happy when friends find love) but more so I knew that our sister relationship would always be different. We’re no longer that young where I have memories of us being carefree and driving around town hanging out but she has her own life with more responsibilities…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:17 PM
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Can I say this extends to men who didn’t have a child with their last partner but dated/or was heavily involved with a single mother before meeting you. One of my ex’s would always go on and on (before FDS me) about how this women broke his heart (she cheated on him and gave him chlamydia) and how it was such a difficult breakup because of how attached he was to the kid. On top of that he met his ex because she was his fathers best friends daughter. So he would go to his fathers house and the ki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:17 PM
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Silly question, but as someone who isn’t a parent nor had step parents wouldn’t the biological mom happy that their child bonded with the step mom or that the step mom was a good person enough to try to be there for the kids while the kid has their stay at the biological dads house? I mean isn’t the alternative the “evil stepmom/stepdad” stereotype (which isn’t always just a stereotype from stories I’ve heard from my friends and such). Are these feelings coming from being overprotective? Or worr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:02 PM
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Lmao I just say I pick up on persons vibe and if I like it, I like it. It’s truthful bc my gut feeling is usually right, and it doesn’t give anything away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:22 PM
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My eyes. My poor eyes. The video of him carrying the doll in the swimming pool while there’s people on the other side is just too much. What the actual fuck. On top of that did you notice edits the crap out of the doll too? Not only does it not talk and can be twisted in any direction to cater to his needs, but it was fucking crafted to be “physical perfection” for men and its still not good enough in his eyes. I’m actually scared of men like this. It’s so unsettling and disturbing watching what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:23 PM
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Ugh this reminds me of the “where’s my hug?” dudes back in high-school 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:58 PM
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I’m guessing what he doesn’t love is English 101, or basic grooming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:39 PM
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I actually enjoy playing a few rpgs but I refuse to date anyone who is a “gamer”. I don’t even consider myself a “gamer” because it’s not my whole life. I could go months without playing, like currently because I understand my school is what I really need to be focusing on and I’m close to graduating. I have one friend whose bf basically shuts himself in his room to game all day. I have another friend who started working from home and plays video games all day during work (like both of these men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:44 PM
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You. Are. A. Genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 01:01 AM
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I went ahead and made a post! It’s a long post though so fair warning 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:22 AM
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I was just about to comment because I’ve had decent experience on this app and then my comment ended up being super super long!! Would you guys be interested in a post about it? I’m not sure if it’s allowed because it’s technically not a dating strategy but I think I have a lot of good points and tips to add to the discussion, both positive and negative. I also feel like when we have good strong friendships we make better decisions on dating. Mods, would I be able to post my experience? /is this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:10 AM
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Omg i feel similarly sometimes but I feel like they’re almost worse in other ways? I went back to the gym for the first time a couple weeks ago (they spray everything down and make you bring a towel to sit on the machines and such) but I swear to god all the men were staring hard. I’ve never really felt that uncomfortable in the gym but I did that day. Like usually it’s just a glance and they look away. I feel like when they have less access to women they get more depraved and don’t care about s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:53 AM
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Wow I didn’t even think about this. They always crap on the younger generations and call us entitled for having smartphones when they were able to buy a house and go to college for a decent wage. It’s all projection, if anything they’re the entitled ones who got it easier and feel entitled to time and good work for low pay 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:31 AM
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I never understood the last quote but I’ve seen that shit everyyyyywhere. Like why the hell would someone who loved me feel like they needed to be set free? & why the hell would I want someone back who left to begin with. This is the kinda stupid fake deep crap that romanticizes toxic behavior and socializes us to accept anything 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:26 AM
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Oh and let me guess they don’t consider themselves “used” at 25-35 or “clearance” at 35+” Fucking bullshit I swear this has to be the stupidest shit I’ve ever seen. I’m not an expert about the depths the problems poc have to go through in our society but you would think just maaayyyyybe if they’ve been discriminated against by non poc that they would know how it feels and wouldn’t do the same to their own race but opposite gender? Do they not see how stupid and hateful they look when they create…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:36 AM
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Yes! I think most apps actually have a video calling feature now so you don’t even need to give your number out (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 10:57 PM
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Like other commenters said, nudes. I had originally thought Snapchat was a good way to weed out cat fishing men (after going on a few dates where they were considerably uglier than their photos and I didn’t want to waste my time) until regular old flirting turned into BAM random dick. Didn’t ask for it, didn’t wanna see it but there it is. They get off on it, I for the love of me don’t understand why. I think it’s partly ego boost, partly thrill, and partly they might think a dick pic turns us o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:47 PM
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Yes OP this is not something you should regret! Working on yourself and your career is the right move. So many of my friends have lost their dreams of their careers while getting into relationships around men. Or they have been traumatized in some way by cheating, toxic behavior, etc. Your education and self worth work will not ever leave you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:31 PM
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I disagree that there are a lot of sweet guys aged 19-22. Most of them are just looking to use us for our bodies and have 0 intention of getting into a relationship because they think “this is their time” to be “wild and free” and score as much as possible to fuel their ego. Or at least this has been my experience, none of them are serious. They may be nice(?), but they don’t know what they’re doing. Not with their lives, career, or women. & that in itself is dangerous if they try to get involve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 05:36 PM
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“There is no beauty in feeling nothing, taking from others, and hurting” 100% agree. But this why I love this sub, the support here has been so amazing. Thank you (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:45 AM
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It does help, thank you (: 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:43 AM
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Wow I feel like you are me haha. I totally relate to feeling like this world is full of ego, cruelty, and power plays. I too cry at the pain of the people suffering in this world, and I’ve definitely visited the highly sensitive person sub (: they make me feel less alone too, but there isn’t an emphasis on how I believe much more women are highly sensitive and empathic versus men, and how that effects women and our sisters as a whole, so I’m super grateful of this sub and this post. Thank you so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:41 AM
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That means so much more to me than you realize (,: thank you for understanding and hearing ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:20 AM
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I think crying it out is the best way to go, it doesn’t make us weak, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with us. As the title goes we own our sorrow, process it, and wake up anew and ready to try again. & damn is that powerful and strong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:19 AM
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I was just thinking about this yesterday and I cried in my cubicle. I don’t have any answers other than I understand. I wasn’t crying because of men specifically, but about al of the narcissism and lack of empathy in this world and in the people I see around me. Sometimes it truly feels like I’m in a maze and at every corner there’s someone selfish with a callous heart trying to take something from me. Whether it be my kindness, my empathy, my advice, anything. I’ve grown so tired of fighting an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:33 PM
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Wow 🤤congrats on making something amazing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:36 PM
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This just happened to me actually. I haven’t been in a serious relationship in 2 years after letting go of my LVM ex (who was definitely addicted to porn) However a man recently came into my life and was (key word) showing, signs of HVM. I usually don’t open my heart to men anymore, but I decided to open my heart a bit (oof) because I didn’t know he was essentially love bombing me (thinking about making a post about how love bombing isn’t always textbook definition of what you see online as exam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:46 AM
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Man this makes me so frustrated. I thought it was bad enough when guys pretended to be your friend for the “long con” to see if you would eventually sleep with them, and them ghosting you when you say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:41 PM
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I had a best friend of 8 years up and ghost me, move to a different city without telling me for her LVM (she thought he was HVM because he had some money.....money that he didn’t work for at all and is rapidly running out because his mom spent her whole life spending millions of their grandparents hardworking money/fortune instead of actually doing something with it, might I add) I might be going against the grain here, but you just can’t be friends with people who are this deep into pickmeisha …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:06 PM
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He sounds so confused but he knows what’s up, he tried to lowball her into a low effort date. She knew her shit and didn’t entertain it lmao. He knows and he’s mad she’s smart af. Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:05 AM
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I love where the flame cuts off “If you give me this last-“ NOPE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:51 AM
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A women with large boobs but small butt, so form the side it gives the appearance of a “P”. People bring up Wendy Williams a lot when talking about the “P” body type, and I don’t think Wendy Williams is a great person but I think that just goes to show no matter what you do or what beauty trend you follow it will never be enough. I’m sure when Wendy was younger the large or enhanced boobs was a trend, as was having a small butt (does my ass look fat in this dress?). Now that the body shape that’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:46 PM
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& We definitely do care about your thoughts and experiences (: In most other subs I don’t feel a strong connection to the posters but here I definitely do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:14 PM
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Yes! And it becomes a toxic cycle because they unload all of this emotional or life trauma onto you and society has conditioned us to be more empathetic and kind, so we start to feel sympathy/empathy for them. We think “wow he must have told me all of that because he really trusts me and values my opinion, he must really like me” so you start to get more attached to him. But it’s a trap. There’s only a few reasons why this occurs imo. 1) They don’t want to deal with their problems and seek help …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:00 PM
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Imagine being so overworked that your husband making dinner for you is an act of holiness. Maybe he should have just helped from the get go instead of letting her stew in stress all day and then decide to “save” her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:36 PM
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Have you guys ever actually asked a man why they don’t open up to their friends? I’ve literally heard this complaint so many times I’ve told men “well it starts with your own life and friend group, if you feel like people don’t take men’s mental health seriously it’s because men need to open up to their friends more and be supportive. You can start with your own friend group, then maybe they’ll open up more after you break the ice” I got a lip smack and a wave of the hand “well that’s never goin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:18 PM
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Most of us have been a pickme, please don’t be so hard on yourself. I know it’s easy to think “if I would have just done x then y wouldn’t happen” but at the end of the day none of us know because we can’t see into the future. If he’s mentally unwell he could be doing this to other women, or he could be doing it to women he doesn’t even know. Be resilient, be persistent, don’t give up. If you can financially afford it a security system or defense weapons might give you a higher peace of mind. I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:37 PM
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When I see replies like hers I can’t help but feel like they’re entering delusion. Somehow he forgot her birthday but didn’t forget her birthday....somehow he doesn’t want to go to a strip club but his friends wants to go to a strip club. ooooookay. She has to know deep down somewhere he’s trash right? I mean how much backwards behavior like “I want him to go see some titties that aren’t mine” can you go through without realizing you’re doing shit ass backwards because you know he’s going to go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:27 PM
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I took bc for 2 years, originally for acne and then for my now ex. My hair started falling out. I stopped taking it like 8 months ago and I’m just now seeing a decent amount of regrowth but i still have a long ways away since my hair is quite long. The worst part is nobody tells you about side effects like these, and my gyno doctor at my university had never even heard of bc causing hair loss. Majority of doctors don’t fully know how this shit effects us. Never taking it again. No man is worth m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:09 PM
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I agree but unfortunately most people have stopped training their dogs well in general :/ the amount of anthropomorphising that goes on with dogs in society right now causes a lot of owners to treat their dogs like a baby who can’t do no harm. Which is actually worse for the dog because dogs are good on a schedule/ order or a lot of them get anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:24 PM
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You can actually report men on hinge for this very reason, as it violates hinges terms of looking for a relationship. Hinge will ban them with no explanation (they will randomly not be able to log in one day) and hinge bans are so strict that they not only ban your phone number for life but if you use any associating accounts from your old hinge to your new hinge it will automatically block them once more. They don’t have an appeals process either, and hinges customer support is awful. So basica…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:34 AM
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Oooof. I did not know that she did her first husband dirty like that, tbh I didn’t even know she was ever married! I hate cheaters, so I’m that case I agree, probably perfectly toxic for each-other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:08 AM
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I watched a short clip on YouTube from their live where she asks him to marry her and I’m honestly pissed but not surprised with the comments. I would say one or two is telling her to gtfo and he’s not going to marry her. The other ones? Calling her washed up and saying she “seems more immature than him” and that “he’s just not ready” Barely any accountability for Big Sean . Like she’s immature for asking for marriage and commitment but he’s not with his soppy ass “it’s in the works” comment. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:24 PM
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I just checked and it still says it’s down?
/r/askFDS01/09/20 03:34 PM
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How is your experience on Etsy with clothing? I had a negative experience on Etsy so I’ve been a bit afraid of buying on there again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:01 PM
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Thanks I’ll try them out! High waisted pants look good on the front of my body but not from the back ahah I wish I could send a pic I took the other day but it’s a bit too identifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:00 PM
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Yes I think I need to get into sewing too. My problem is that I’m too thin for the women’s section in many stores (the one that does fit me is express which is nice because they have a lot of xs options).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:57 PM
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I’m eating my breakfast rn and this fr made me lose my appetite some. Like...it was so bad...it woke you up...?🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:03 PM
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Such a good reminder tbh thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:47 PM
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Thank you for the reminder ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:01 PM
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They’re not the type of jokes that I think you’re thinking about. For example, my brother thought he got an awesome deal for buying a cooking pan set for $20 off of an auction on Sams. Then when it came in the mail they were actually tiny and meant for spices and me and him were dying laughing. So I bring up stuff like that and tease him and he does the same for me, it’s all lighthearted. I’d rather have friendships/relationships where we can poke fun at each-other versus always walking on eggsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:32 PM
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They’re not the type of jokes that I think you’re thinking about. For example, my brother thought he got an awesome deal for buying a cooking pan set for $20 off of an auction on Sams. Then when it came in the mail they were actually tiny and meant for spices and me and him were dying laughing. So I bring up stuff like that and tease him and he does the same for me, it’s all lighthearted. I’d rather have friendships/relationships where we can poke fun at each-other versus always walking on eggsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:31 PM
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I think most people can take a joke and mess around with their friends, family, SO etc by teasing a bit. This man on the other hand probably thinks negging you is top quality humor or some dumb shit, pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:13 PM
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You’re still thinking about it because your gut instinct is telling you to RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:34 PM
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If that’s the start of the marriage I don’t want to see it years down the line....unless down the line there’s a divorce. Imagine the one person who is supposed to love and cherish you gives you scraps of attention and barely ever calls you beautiful. I lived that life for a few months before I slapped the reality into myself but ffs I pray for the women who marry into this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:33 PM
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Jesus Christ. The fact that she smiles at the end is so fucking heartbreaking 😞.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:30 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:11 PM
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Is there an alternative to GC? I’m crushed ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:46 PM
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Oh yeah after he “lold” at the disposable part you can tell what kind of person he is 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:24 PM
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with leaving someone if you don’t find them attractive anymore or their habits but damn some of these posts I see on reddit are like “my gf gained weight and I’m no longer attracted to her huerhjer” and then you scroll in the comments and it’s not even that much weight.... I swear to god I remember some ridiculous shit about some guy having a fetish for hib bones sticking out or something and how the girlfriend gaining weight was making him loose attraction a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:04 PM
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I had a best friend for 7 years (from middle school to high school) completely ghost me and move to a city 3 hours away without saying goodbye once we were 18 and she found a man that had a bit of money (not from working hard but left over $ from his grandparents). I was so so so hurt. I was there for her during all her bitty bfs and pain and then when she left I proceeded to have the worst year of my life due to some unrelated abuse issues. Now two years later she’s wishing me “all the happines…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:54 PM
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I actually agree with this pretty hard. Too much of either category is simply too unbalanced for me. A lot of men who present as givers are either giving maliciously with the intent of getting something in return or they are genuinely too giving and have 0 backbone or personality. I don’t really want to be able to bend someone to my will 24/7, it’s a weird power dynamic and then a lot of them end up making you the planner in the relationship because they want things to always be “perfect” for yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 11:22 PM
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That is the question I ask myself to this day... I guess there’s some really sick people out there 😔& this is true, some people are opting out of having children though so some sickos are targeting the pets instead. Or maybe they think they have a lower chance of getting caught like another commenter said the police couldn’t find proof he threw the nails into the horses feed....either way super evil and super sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:17 PM
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Oh my god 😨I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I’m happy you dumped his evil self and leveled up. “It was just a joke” is what makes me so mad like no you almost caused it’s poor leg to get amputated! How can someone play that off that it was “just a joke” ugh. Picking on someone or an animal that can’t defend itself is the lowest of the low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:15 PM
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Resentment is actually dangerous. Sometimes I wonder why people let it get that bad. Like a lot things people do out of resentment are to establish some sort of power/control on a situation or person. Like they will take another down to feel as bad as they do. But they fail to see the opposite, like you can feel so powerful just by giving to people or being a listening ear to the right person at the right time and changing their life AND you don’t feel like shit while doing that. I just don’t un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:21 AM
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I agree 💯. People can change and rot over time which is definitely always a factor, although it’s better to try to vet than not vet at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 04:36 AM
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Imagine being this bitter, Jesus Christ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:06 PM
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Same 😭 Edit: just used my alt account to check my last post and it says removed...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:37 AM
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Yess I feel the same way. I see less and less strategy posts and more and more roasts. & while I love and appreciate the roasts we all really come here mainly for the dating advice/stategies. I thought I put in a decent amount of effort into my last strategy post but it didn’t take off which is okay, but when you see a meme posted shortly after yours it’s a bit disheartening because now I’m wondering about all the strategy posts I haven’t personally seen yet :/ starting to sort by new and anothe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:36 AM
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Hey if you would reach out and private message me I’m all ears. It looks like you’ve deleted your account but if this was just a temporary one and you have a main somewhere and you’re looking at this please feel free to HMU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:39 PM
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If he isn’t brave enough to ask you on a date he’s sure as hell not brave enough to help you when you’re in a potentially dangerous situation 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:47 AM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:41 PM
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You can’t let these kind of people try to swindle you back with their apologies either. This person is unfortunately toxic and nothing can repair her but herself, but she’s since benefiting off of it she’ll never change. If she even hints that she wants to apologize and make it up I would tell her you will reconsider after she pays you back 2 months of rent, and a few extra hundred for the food and extra things she leeched off of you. When someone does something nice for you you need to apprecia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:39 PM
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The comments on here give pretty good advice already but if you’re friend is tired of talking about it and you need an ear hit me up! I’m 21 and don’t have the funds to move out, but I can go into how I started to gain control of myself emotionally and I basically had to rewire my whole thought process from “caring about what other people think/doormat behavior” to “trusting my intuition and following my heart and not being a slave to other people’s opinions”. I’m still not where I want to be (b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:35 PM
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I think this also depends on how you look in terms of how you dress yourself sometimes. For example I have small boobs but I’ve heard from other women who are bustier that when they wear a low cut top some women get that kind of attention from other women. As someone with smaller boobs I can “get away” with lower cut tops whereas I’ve heard a few women say toxic things like “she trying so hard 🙄” to women with bigger boobs who happen to want to dress a little bit more revealing. I always admire …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:22 PM
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Y’all be coming up with some of the best insults 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:15 AM
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I’m sorry 😔 I have a mother who has many narcissistic tendencies/anger tendencies (along with toxic Muslim mentality of women) and while she’s never been diagnosed it really fucked me up (how I became a pickmeisha tbh) and it has taken years for me to build my own self worth, deal with the fact my mom and I will never be the kind of relationship I see other people have (I’ve seen her explosive anger and she’s beaten me up once because she was mad I was drinking/smoking and “against god”, but the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:55 PM
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Yeah honestly I’ve never had a problem men going down on me but damn they just weren’t good at it and it’s sad lol. Like if I can figure out different bj methods and the only thing they can do is put their flat ass no stimulation ass tongue on my clit it’s a problem. I never fake coming from oral though so I think it’s a bit funny/sad when they think they’re really going at it and I’m just like “....” One thing another commenter suggested is basically talking about likes/dislikes before having s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:29 PM
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Yeah I would say no drug is 100% harmless, any kind of smoke entering your lungs for example is not really a great idea. I’m not a scientists but another website says “So far, this research shows only an association between smoking pot and developing psychosis or schizophrenia later on. That’s not the same thing as saying that marijuana causes psychosis” “This is how research works. Years ago, scientists first noted an association between cigarette smoking and lung cancer. Only later were they a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:01 PM
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Now THIS is interesting. When I was younger(16) I bought into the whole “weed is harmless thing” but now that I’ve gotten older and done some more research abusing marijuana can definitely lead to an IQ decrease in adolescents. I still smoke here and there and I definitely notice I’m more “sharp” when I quit weed for a while, although I haven’t really noticed a decrease in problem solving skills or anything (coming up on my senior year as an accounting major at a college known to make his degree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:53 AM
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o_O
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:35 PM
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I agree and also disagree sometimes. I’ll admit as a former pickmeisha I don’t hate them, hell my best friend is one right now, but I hate their behavior. I do judge their actions and my friends actions openly though(when she asks for my advice). I do it not to be mean, but to point out how ridiculous it is, and I do it to myself like “remember I really was out there being this mans dog sitter and chef for free 🤦🏼‍♀️” because I feel like if more people put it to me that way I might have snapped …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:36 AM
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Why is it always the creep ass men who start sentences with “My dear” then directly contradict that pleasant term of endearment by saying the most evil shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:08 AM
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I’ve said it before but testing isn’t always bad. Even if you didn’t do it intentionally the situation showed his lack of caring nature and willingness to do the right thing. Doing stuff like this saves me from wasting my time imo. I’m also a naturally forgetful kind of person so it’s not really suspicious either. Obviously the method only works if you use it once and in a situation anyone could find themselves in, but usually all it takes is once for me to realize if they’re dependable or not. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:05 AM
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She’s dating a leech
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:28 PM
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We appreciate it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:36 PM
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I think I see what you’re saying now. I definitely feel like it could be a social class thing too. My mother immigrated here from Europe when she was younger (only had a middle school education) so she’s been a school bus driver for the last few years. Sitting all day+ being in the sun+ being stressed out over dumb kids that could cost you your job if you don’t do it safely doesn’t make for great aging. I still consider my mom beautiful, even though she doesn’t look as young as the women in this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:35 PM
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I agree and disagree with this at the same time. Maybe I’ve just internalized a lot of the whole “look young forever” message but I don’t think researching products and trying them out is necessarily a huge sacrifice unless you don’t have the budget to pay for it (in which case you definitely shouldn’t be spending money on things for appearance because food on the table is more important obviously). I feel like I’ve always had the “improvement” viewpoint in life where I want to continuously impr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:01 PM
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Even guys admit to respecting you less when you send nudes. I used to send nudes to my ex but I would always draw a heart over my face and I would never send pics that could truly identify me. He literally told me he liked the fact that I covered my face with he heart....like he couldn’t even trust himself smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:21 PM
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And selfish as well. Oh you’ve never had an amazing sexual experience with me? Hmmm what should I do try to put in an effort so we can both enjoy it or cry in the bathroom about myself and my shortcomings hmmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:26 PM
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I mean I see this more as a compatibility issue. No sexual chemistry, not on the same page as of hobbies and you’re a dog person and he’s not. But honestly I don’t like dogs on the bed because I don’t really like the stink or the thought of their butt on my bed but that’s just my preference. I find that in the topic of having a pet/ how you treat can be a bit compatibility issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 03:05 AM
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She does, she’s a nurse and happily married
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 07:55 PM
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I just told you I’m planning on getting fully tested before I get with any other partner. So no I’m NOT making a decision about their body because I’m NOT sexually active right now, so if I did have something I wouldn’t be putting anyone at risk. My school does free std screening so I already have a date in which I’m going in for. & Because you can spread HSV-1 by kissing, like the flu which is why I also included that. My sister was kissed by a relative by when she was younger and that’s how sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 07:39 PM
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He got tested for everything because his ex cheated on him and he ended up getting chlamydia. There is unfortunately going to be a stigma attached to everything. People obviously wouldn’t not date someone for a common cold because it’s something they’ve gone through and they know it will pass. However there are some people who wouldn’t date someone who has cancer, because they’re too afraid that their time on earth may be too short. Is it fair? Is it right? Of course not but you can’t control ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 07:13 PM
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First of all you seem to assume that I think that you’re promiscuous, I never assumed you slept with over thirty men, I’m well aware you can attract the virus or any STD from one person. Second of all I’ve only slept with one person before, he showed me his test results that showed he was *free before we ever had sex, since I was a virgin I didn’t get tested. In hindsight I could have gotten tested to make sure I don’t have HSV 1 but once again, I’ve never had a cold sore before and at the time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 06:21 PM
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So we just just promote spreading it around? Yeah no....I can’t 100% say for certain that I don’t have HSV-1 since testing for herpies is so unreliable but with my immune system It’s likely if I did have it it would have shown itself as a cold sore on my lips by now. You can give someone genital herpies if you have a cold sore on your lips, even without an active outbreak, so if I did have HSV-1 I would then need to be on medication to prevent it to spreading to partners while giving head which …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:18 PM
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Whenever a women isn’t okay with something it’s “raging” smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 09:09 PM
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Couldn’t be me. I try to be happy for women in these situations since they’re getting married and all but you can tell she’s the “planner in the relationship”. He likely will put in the minimum effort into their wedding and marriage as a whole lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 03:37 PM
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They’re ego bruised by their sad floppy erection, it’s their own fault but they’re too dumb for comprehension
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:48 PM
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People really ghost while their IN a relationship? This man is so full of himself, thinks he got a win by ghosting her because she “disrespected him” what whiny coward, whatever happened to talking about issues and resolving them? Oh wait that would be too much work 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:12 PM
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Most of the time they’re probably not as interested in you as you are them but there are exceptions For example I really hate texting all day, everyone including my friends family etc wants a response back asap but if I did that I would be constantly glued to my phone. I hate feeling like I’m living on my phone. I tell guys in the beginning I’m not a fan of texting 24/7 and prefer phone calls. For some reason people aren’t into phone calls as much now for getting to know a person but I think it’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:07 PM
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I don’t necessarily look at size because it’s hard to judge perfectly by eyesight but if it keeps slipping out then your dick is probably too small or your technique is awful. I would say length at a minimum 5 inches/5.5inches, I’m more concerned about thickness that to me gives me the “stretching/fullness” feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:26 PM
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I never got the appeal of proposing to a guy. I’m going to commit my life to you, ruin my body to give us a family, etc and you cannot even buy me a ring that will last me a lifetime and propose to me? Especially because women are still known to shoulder a lot of emotional labor around the home. I don’t mean to judge but it just sounds pathetic to me. I see similar posts where some dude buys a girl a $200 ring and asks “am I the asshole for buying a cheap ring” and everyone in the comments are b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:22 PM
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Where you the one that posted on GC? I just followed a new sub created for women/feminists specifically dealing with relationships after porn! As someone who has dated a secret addict with delayed ED problems for it, and dealing with that bs sex I truly realized how shitty porn is for women. Zero love there, hell zero respect, only objectification and increasingly high standards....I’m kind of conflicted in some ways and feel sad that we have to do these things but the spaces we create on here a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 02:57 PM
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I read a book called the four agreements, it talks about you should only judge yourself once for a mistake. I’ve really been trying to hold on to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:21 PM
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Definitely possible. Apparently under their rules under spam it says fresh accounts will go through a 24 hr wait period, however I’m not sure what they consider “fresh” since the account wasn’t made specifically for this post. But hey if it posts let’s see what happens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:07 AM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 12:56 AM
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Wow thanks for this post, I made a similar post on another feminist subreddit and got chewed out for blaming my mom/mothers/women for men’s problems/patriarchy, but tbh I believe as women we need to stop enabling this behavior in men. Mothers need to teach and treat sons and daughters equally. If women enable this behavior it only causes other women pain down the road. I know for a fact I won’t stand for that shit with a future SO, and I’m breaking the cycle with my future kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 05:52 AM
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Wow thanks for this post, I made a similar post on another feminist subreddit and got chewed out for blaming my mom/mothers/women for men’s problems/patriarchy, but tbh I believe as women we need to stop enabling this behavior in men. Mothers need to teach and treat sons and daughters equally. If women enable this behavior it only causes other women pain down the road. I know for a fact I won’t stand for that shit with a future SO, and I’m breaking the cycle with my future kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 05:52 AM
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This is actually sad lol how do you even get to this point in life smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 02:31 AM
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Oof is unpopular opinion a place where men go to whine and blame women about dumb shit? I mean seriously this coupled with the last post is just men whining about their supposed situation. Like they’re not the ones who invented being beautiful is one of the most important thing for a women.....It’s almost like you can feel the bitterness floating off the screen. The only privilege being attracted versus being unattractive when I was younger is that guys want to fuck me. I’ve had 0 guys “swoop in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 02:51 PM
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I’m going to paste my response here that I used from my alt account. That post speaks volumes and I hope this is just the mentality of reddit men. I don’t get how these people aren’t dumb, financially speaking at the least. If you’re not going to university then you’re prospects in the job market aren’t great in society unless you have connections or have a trade. However, being skilled in a trade requires you too work a lot of hours for the most part. If you do none of these things, work a low …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:23 PM
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Lol these men really think Emma Watson is in trouble because she’s going to turn 30 soon....what a weird reason to be angry We all know the respectable reason to not like Emma Watson is because she trashes HP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 02:36 AM
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The only time I’ve ever sent nudes I used the edit feature and drew a heart over my face. Ironically enough the guy I sent the nudes to commented on it and said he liked the fact I did that....looking back on it it sounds suspicious like was he saying he would be tempted to expose me if things turned sour? Idk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 12:22 AM
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