| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 60 | Support | SEEKING ADVICE | greatflo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 11:00 PM |
| 45 | Once you’re in a relationship | DISCUSSION | greatflo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:54 PM |
| 41 | Dumped a LVM for the first time, cut off all my hair, and printed out the handbook - all in under a week. THANK YOU FDS!!! | QUEEN SH*T | greatflo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 09:06 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 4 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.UH PARDON | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 09:40 PM |
| 55 | LibFems: Women don’t need UBI because Sex Work is part of the “Divine Feminine” and “empowering”🤡I fucking hate sex work positivity. I get that everyone has a choice but I used to do it and I’m traumatized from my experience. I’m taking a human sexuality class in school right now and everyone talks about how online sex work and only fans is empowering etc etc and it makes my blood boil | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:09 PM |
| 15 | A literal nightmare.Right??? I’ve only been single/sex free for two months and I already feel better than I have in YEARS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:59 AM |
| 7 | Anyone else shocked by how many ‘out and proud’ men there are about binge drinking / smoking (420/tobacco) and drugs?I agree with the drugs and alcohol thing but what’s so terrible about having piercings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 05:22 PM |
| 6 | After A Stressful Week, I Bought Myself A Bouquet of Roses. 💐🌹 Treat Yo’ Self Ladies!I did the same thing last night!! Sending luv queen ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 02:48 AM |
| 4 | It’s okay to mourn the loss of a connection/relationship, even if it was not right for youI found it in the handbook with the recommended readings, it’s by Howard Halpern | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 02:44 AM |
| 2 | It’s okay to mourn the loss of a connection/relationship, even if it was not right for youIt’s by Howard Halpern I got it online! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 02:44 AM |
| 21 | It’s okay to mourn the loss of a connection/relationship, even if it was not right for youAgreed!!! For anyone going through something like this read How to break your addiction to a person from the fds reading list. It helped me so much with getting over a LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 09:06 PM |
| 4 | Open to Analysis : Music and past relationshipsI agree with the other comments saying this isn’t exactly the best form of communication. And at least for me, I literally avoid any songs/playlists that remind me of him like the plagueeeeee lol. It’s just pain shopping | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:23 AM |
| 27 | Someone posted this in a motivational group for women in medicine and I’m just like? Cringe af? Why is this cute or funny?I haven’t really so I just keep it all inside most of the time lol. It’s absolutely so degrading to deal directly with porn sick limp dick men who feel entitled to have you do whatever they want. So gross. I really don’t give a shit about the sex workers positivity movement because I’ve been on the other side of it and worked with many girls who I know feel the same as me deep down and they’re going to be scarred from it too it’s so sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:17 AM |
| 5 | Hot sex without BDSM/violence?Amen thanks so much for replying I admire your turnaround with your approach to men/sex/porn and hope to do the same for myself ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:07 AM |
| 5 | Has the view of your own parents relationship changed since being on this sub? Is your father someone who is high value?My father is the only HVM I have ever known. He gives me hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:02 AM |
| 7 | Hot sex without BDSM/violence?Can I ask how you dealt with cutting out porn cold turkey? I’m trying to do the same thing for the same reason as OP. And I am trying to abstain from casual sex because I know that compounds the issue, so since I can’t have sex atm I have to resort to other ways of satisfaction and I’m finding it almost impossible to do it without porn lol. Do you have any advice for that or did you just stop masturbating completely as well as porn? Cuz they’re so linked in my mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:37 AM |
| 62 | We had been talking to eachother daily for weeks up until this point while I recovered from surgery before our first date. I immediately ghosted him after this. Just... wow LMAO. His bumble originally said he was 31. Make sure you do your research before meeting up with a guyQueens pls don’t use bumble!!! It automatically sets women up to be the pursuer from the jump because we’re forced to message first I hate that feature | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:31 AM |
| 122 | Someone posted this in a motivational group for women in medicine and I’m just like? Cringe af? Why is this cute or funny?I absolutely fucking hate the normalization of online sex work I was a camgirl for a year at the beginning of college and it FUCKED me up. I still have unresolved trauma from those days and I know 90% of girls will exit that industry within a few years with the same regrets I had smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:26 AM |
| 142 | Ex sends me this message, 11 months after we broke up 🤔 BLOCK AND DELETE!Omg that text reads so awkwardly he’s trying so hard to sound polite and sophisticated | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Would this tattoo make you feel confident?AHHHHHH WHAT KIND OF TATTOO ARTIST AGREES TO THIS SHIT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:32 PM |
| 87 | I better get my clown makeup on 🤡This entire post, including your comments, is a huge mess. You clearly know this is a shit show with your clown makeup comment. Cut this guy off and read the handbook | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:26 PM |
| 13 | Leveling up myself 🥳 thanks ladies!If this is your ig account I would recommend maybe not posting it here, there’s a lot of crazies that lurk around!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Looking for tips of how to be seen as a high valued womanTHIS ugh OLD is a magnet for LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:44 PM |
| 22 | Any stories about how toxic exes are doing years after?The correct response 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:55 PM |
| 12 | Someone teach men how to have an engaging personality!Whenever I talk to a guy and the only topics of conversation he can come up with are the tv shows he watches or the video games he plays it makes me so depressed lmao. Like imagine being so one dimensional that your personality is based off tv/media you consume. And then I see girls who are in LTR’s with guys like these. How???? Wtf do y’all talk about??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 03:15 PM |
| 12 | A scrote thought he could dictate how a 👸queen should eat 🤣🤣🤣 #KickHimOut2020I’m laughing so hard at this oh my god she’s probably sitting nice and pretty hydrated af from the cucumbers while he’s drying from the inside out from the alcohol 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 10:56 PM |
| 71 | PSA to all the young Queens on here: a man wanting to have sex with you is not a compliment, nor does it mean he cares about you as a person!Very true. I had a guy tell me once that he purposely fucks girls that annoy him because he wants to make them “shut up and take it” thinking about that makes my head hurt lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 10:49 PM |
| 72 | If they even try to apologize...I had a full on, crying screaming physically violent breakdown with an ex LVM once, because I was so beaten down by how he was treating me and I kept repressing the feelings. He pushed me on the bed and told me if I could “keep my attitude in check” I could keep seeing him, he “didn’t like my attitude”, etc. Bitch that was not an attitude that was a mental breakdown from the constant disrespect, negging, and degradation lol. Men feed off our pain and exasperation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 10:39 PM |
| 60 | Excuse the profanity, but her passion spoke to me. I’ve been here. Black women, you DO NOT need to struggle behind a man to one day be worthy of love!! You are not losing anything by letting go of a man who mistreats you!When she said I’ll sleep in a bed by myself before I sleep next to a guy and still feel alone .. wow I really needed to hear all this. Thanks for posting it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 36 | LVM tries is PUA game on meOmg one time a guy’s opener on tinder for me was “You’re cute but what’s all that metal shit in your face” like??? Ok buddy you think insulting me is gonna get you laid?? Men are weird | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 09:32 PM |
| 28 | This is 80% of men on dating sites now and I'm so.fucking.tired. Even when I specify in my bio that I'm strictly monogamous they'll still try to message me?Because it’s degrading and painful for women 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Having trouble getting over my LVM exThanks so much!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 10:42 AM |
| 3 | Having trouble getting over my LVM exCould you recommend some of the self-care subs that you’ve found? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 02:22 AM |
| 6 | I just want to thank all of you on this sub who have shared their wisdom and experience that has helped me get over (mostly) grieving my narc, absuive, exs death and trying to better my life and share my long, crazy transformation with you.Thank you for being so honest and brave, I really wish you all the best in recovery. I’m a recovering addict as well and know how difficult it can be when it intersects with relationships. I’m sorry you had to go through this but it’s inspiring to see how strong you’ve become on the other side of it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 02:11 AM |
| 66 | Thoughts?No ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 02:06 AM |
| 20 | Is it okay to continue having a busy schedule with a boyfriend?Omg girl no you should be able to keep your routine and have your own life separate from the relationship! In my opinion that’s way healthier than letting a bf consume you and your time fuck him if he made you feel bad for wanting your own life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 02:05 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone really deserve to have sex with a HVW without her complete trust? What if she is too smart to trust these men, when she knows even HVM can be a years long facade? Must we wait years to have sex?This is the best comment I’ve read on this sub thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 07:51 AM |
| 33 | You Aren't Being Kind When You Mother HimFormer pickmeisha story: I couldn’t stand how dirty this guy’s apartment was, so I vacuumed the floors for him. The vacuum got so clogged with hair that I would have to pull it out in clumps, to the point where there was a pile of his hair on the floor that could’ve made three wigs. He was gaming the entire time I did this. Even after reading the handbook and taking time to level up and be single, it’s soooo hard to forgive myself for moments like those lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:28 AM |
| 37 | This Instagram has no shortage of these types of fuckboi messagesI fucking love this acct lol it hits too close to home | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:13 AM |
| 6 | Devastated over narcissistic ex, months after D-day How do u move on, please share your tipsThanks so much for linking that post it’s great !! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 09:51 PM |
| 5 | SupportAmen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 08:24 PM |
| 9 | SupportThank you so much and I’m sorry you’re going through this too :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 11:16 PM |
| 15 | SupportYes I only have him on insta but I deleted the DM’s and everything that’s good advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 11:16 PM |
| 5 | Of course this doesn’t get over thousands of upvotes and over a hundred awards. People only care about men and I’m getting sick of it.Unpopular opinion is like one of the most toxic subs on reddit lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 10:51 PM |
| 4 | The classy way to deal with uninvited attention from a stranger you don't knowI’ve always just ignored it because I would feel unsafe retaliating, because they might hurt me, I’ve been jumped before. I have a friend and when we go out together she verbally shoots back when guys hit on us or bother us. It makes me super uncomfortable how snappy she gets with them, part of me wishes I could stand up for myself that way and the other part of me is scared shitless wishing she would stop because I’m scared of us getting hurt. It would be soooo fun to not have to worry about wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:27 PM |
| 3 | How to handle this situation?B l o c k. That’s it simple | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:42 PM |
| 7 | I was nervous to share my last post about having a hard time leaving my husband. But I know yall support other women and you proved it to me yesterday. Thank you 💛💖💖💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 08:49 PM |
| 28 | A quote to live by!That’s horrible wow, I’m proud of you for blocking and moving on with your beautiful life!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:42 PM |
| 132 | 👏👏Throughout my whole life I’ve been into degradation in bed and I never realized how weird it is/how much it bothers me, personally, until I found FDS. I respect other women’s choices, but personally I am trying to divorce myself from being turned on by choking/slapping/called names/etc because it conflicts with my new mindset. And blowjobs fit in that category too I’m discovering, the thought of being subservient in any way to a man in bed makes me extremely uncomfortable now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:47 AM |
| 263 | 👏👏To be honest I don’t think I’ll be into blowjobs when I start dating again, after finding this sub lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:39 PM |
| 42 | Blocked and deleted: I disclosed I wasn’t into sports on our first date but shouldn’t have let him waste my time. (full story in comments)I’m laughing so hard what a fucking clown 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 03:28 PM |
| 16 | “How a man treats you when you’re sick is a good indicator for the future”Beautiful❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 03:27 PM |
| 19 | Hi everyone, I am 29F, and I think I have not really experienced orgasm. I think I’ve been good at faking it all this time which is really sad. But now I really want to get there. Can you please give some tips on what I should do/should be doing to get the big “O”?Try to reach it by yourself first, a vibrator is the easiest way IMO! Invest in one of those hitachi wand style ones on amazon, they’re super powerful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 03:26 PM |
| 15 | Ladies, please talk some sense into meI understand that you’re hurting and I feel for you. Breakups hurt and the only thing that will really change that is time. It hurts until it doesn’t. I’m sorry though but there’s no such thing as a medium value man. He is a LVM. Turn your focus to leveling up your mindset and just fully embracing your own life instead of worrying about all his bullshit. You are a beautiful queen who deserves better! It sounds like he was pulling you down in a major way and good for you blocking him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 03:07 PM |
| 35 | His Kinks Are A Reflection of His Values. Kink Shame Away.I read a ton of the comments in that Reddit thread linked in the article and it’s just.....it made me so sad. The women’s logic behind the justifications for degradation kinks... Someone kept bringing up a really good point: why shouldn’t we be alarmed when a man is aroused by degrading and abusing women, even if it’s only in a sexual context? That means a part of them enjoys that, even if it’s “just in bed”.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 02:38 PM |
| 38 | Trying to find a decent man via online dating is like playing the lottery.The block list on my phone is literally 40+ numbers long and id say a good 90% of those are from OLD matches. Those apps are toxic cesspits lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 02:24 AM |
| 12 | Writing down my pickmeisha moments as therapy so I can move onHey, I really identify with how used you feel in this situation, and I’m sorry this happened to you. I recently dumped a LVM too who I had been letting string me along/use me for sex for almost a year. And i feel so, so disgusting looking back at how I let him treat me. So I feel for you, but seriously, props on blocking him and getting yourself out of there. You deserve better and will find better!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:46 AM |
| 29 | Should dating be put on hold during COVID?-significant age gap -you’re nervous about getting covid from him -he has no car and is t h i r t y s i x -low effort coffee date -and he didn’t pay for your coffee Ditch him. You can do better than this !!! Don’t settle just because you’re afraid of being single this dude sounds crusty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:36 PM |
| 22 | The “what are we” textLol “what are we” read what you wrote back to yourself a second time it is clear as day girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:23 PM |
| 9 | I don’t believe this man has ever had sexHe also has a tik tok saying men should keep a “stable of mares” for sex, and when one of the “mares” asks why it isn’t evolving into a relationship yet, kick her out and find a new “mare” to replace her..........yeah this guy sucks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 03:34 PM |
| 10 | Embroidering the lessons I’ve learned from dating LVM 👌Love this omg!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 03:23 PM |
| 5 | Thank you FDSAmazing and inspiring!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 11:52 PM |
| 3 | FDS Playlist Pt.2Hey i made a Spotify playlist with all these songs and some extras lol, I’ll keep adding if there’s more suggestions! PM me if you want the link to it ladies 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 03:14 PM |
| 8 | Anything > married to a LVM gamerThis made my pussy SO dry ☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Imagine being so insecure you can’t event hold a conversationA grown man ending a text with “hehe” lmao buh bye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:56 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020YES. It took me a minute to realize that while of course we’d all like a hvm in our lives, the actual point of fds is being 100% complete, happy and whole WITHOUT a man, and not throwing that away to settle with a lvm/nvm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:02 PM |
| 31 | Interesting how having self respect seems to really kill the mood for these dudesMen feed off insecurity, it is their ego fuel 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Men are trash!I’ve completely given up on OLD, especially tinder. Tinder is a cesspit. I have used it on and off for three years, and 90% of my very lengthy block list on my phone is men from tinder lol. It’s just glorified body shopping, men don’t take it seriously at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Looked up Female Dating Strategy on YouTube and it's all mockeryCan you dm me the name of that insta account?? Sounds interesting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:32 PM |
| 25 | Looked up Female Dating Strategy on YouTube and it's all mockeryThey think, “If I weren’t texting first, splitting the bill, not demanding commitment and having porn star sex with him, he wouldn’t be sticking around.” That IS the point!! Thank you for putting this into words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:29 PM |
| 51 | I just... I’m speechless. I know some of you can make a proper comment, I’ll leave that to you. 🤢🤢🤢This made me nauseous to read. To be honest, in my eyes, violence against women in bed regardless of their race just, like, shouldn’t be a thing?? If you stop to think about it?? Think about all the normalization of “choke me daddy” and stuff like that, and how that’s considered relatively vanilla nowadays......lol disturbing as fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:50 AM |
| 12 | He’s had more than a million chances to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.I love this sub it has helped me change so much already | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 07:24 AM |
| 3 | Never let a LVM know that you are angry with him. Men simply don't fear female anger in the same way that women fear male anger. In fact, men seem to actively enjoy it.Completely agree. Last night I finally left a LVM situationship because about a week ago, all my anger that I’ve been holding in for 10 months boiled over and I physically attacked him and tried to smother him with a pillow. Did not go over well. But instead of hearing what I was saying and realizing WHY I was angry, he told me if I can keep my “attitude” in check I can continue seeing him, that he didn’t like my “attitude”. That was not an attitude that was suppressed rage and hurt from all the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 01:20 PM |
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