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REMINDER 👑greenshadownymph/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:10 PM
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FDS MEMESgreenshadownymph/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:23 AM
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SEX STRATEGYgreenshadownymph/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:25 AM
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 REDDIT HATES WOMENgreenshadownymph/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:26 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYgreenshadownymph/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:27 PM
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It's their fault. It's not up to you. They make the conscious decision to fantasize about you. Report them to HR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:53 PM
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Pfft start asking how the man would feel if the woman was checking out every other guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 03:10 AM
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It's called a restraining order. Get one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 01:15 AM
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My friend bought a house in another state after his wife was accepted into a masters degree program in that state. Then he packed up and moved there to be with her while she's working on her degree. His job is online so he can go wherever, but it meant leaving all his friends behind and living in a strange place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:48 AM
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When you're in the relationship you can't see how bad the relationship is, and just because a relationship isn't as bad, does not mean the relationship is good. A year from now you'll be able to look back and really remember how terrible your current relationship is, and how destructive it is to your self esteem, and how your boyfriend has traumatized you. But right now you can't see all of it and you've just got to trust your gut and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:12 AM
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Yeah I've taken self defence classes and when I stare men down and get into a judo pose (especially if I pull out a sharp object) they run away. Most men are all bark and just want to get off on intimidating women, or only hurt women if they think they can easily get away with it, but cowardly predators run from a real fight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:41 AM
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Carry pepper spray at all times. Spray them in the eyes when they get in your face threatening you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:36 AM
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Bro, I had a fiance in my mid 20s who treated me incredibly terribly, and both my mom and my best friends mom were So upset when I broke up with him. When I explained how he treated me they both said "That's how all men are." Do Not Take dating advice from these kinds of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:31 AM
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Yep, met a guy who couldn't even keep track of his age, and kept changing how old he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:53 PM
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I'm trying to find them and I think I'm just too tired to put in the correct search terms. Though there are some that pop up that talk about a few different causes of sex pain that may require surgery, just not the articles I read before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:46 AM
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Yeah you need to see a good doctor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:32 AM
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So I've been reading a lot of articles about "psychosomatic" pain during sex and how some women will go to multiple doctor's and multiple therapists to deal with their "psychosomatic" sex pain, until they find a doctor who actually checks for a physical cause, and Lo and Behold most sex pain that is labeled "psychosomatic" is actually real pain with a real physical cause and real physical solutions. So yeah I now get Very angry if someone claims sex pain is psychosomatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:30 AM
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And yes A Lot of women get told pain during sex is psychosomatic, and it's complete B.S. Please don't ever assume a woman's pain during sex is psychosomatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:04 AM
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No there's actual physical reasons for this issue, and it has to do with the pressure of penetration and where exactly it goes. Some women get surgery for this exact issue and then the pain goes away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:02 AM
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Okay but now that y'all have read this you need to stop having sex with men if the sex is shitty. You don't owe anyone sex. Break up with them. Find someone else. Get a sex toy. Stop putting up with shitty sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:58 AM
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So press on the area around your belly button. If it hurts the same way sex hurts then it's a physical problem that can be solved with surgery (If you want to. Or just stop having sex with guys who have small penises. Painful sex sounds like a perfectly reasonable reason not to date someone).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:54 AM
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Alex Falcone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:56 AM
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Men who want to cheat tell such BS stories where they act like the victim. My Very Christian Aunt found out her Very Christian husband had been cheating on her for years, and had convinced his Very Christian mistress that it was okay because his wife had stopped having sex with him. In fact his wife had sex with him every night because she felt it was her Christian Duty, so he was just lying about it to get easy sex and sympathy from someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:57 AM
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What therapy group is this? Can I go on there and be the mom friend who tells the men to stop being dicks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:31 AM
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My hands get like that whenever I eat beans. Have you tried changing your diet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:39 PM
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I mean, my reaction would be to call and say "Why did you unfriend me on facebook?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:21 AM
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Did she defriend or take a break? One time someone had clicked "take a break" from anything negative on her newsfeed and it looked like I was unfriended, but a month later Facebook said we were friends again and she hadn't sent a request. I mean, be friends with whoever you want, but Facebook is weird like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:19 AM
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They're Trump supporters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:14 AM
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Yeah I get extreamly irate with anyone who tries to blame me for "bad taste in men". I go from 0 to 100 real fast on attacking them for their victim blaming bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:04 AM
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On a college campus in one of the student lounges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:42 AM
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I've had a guy literally say what I had just said word for word in front of a group of men, as if he had just come up with it, and some men laughed when he said it, but the gay man in the room was outraged and told him "You literally just repeated what she said word for word." And the guy who had repeated me acted confused and the gay man kept going at him, saying "Yes you did you just repeated her! Exactly! Word for word!" and then he attacked the other guys for only laughing when a man said my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:20 PM
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The only men who belittle women in this way are trash. I have plenty of male friends who do not belittle women for their looks or expect any woman to live up to their "fuckability standard" and who do call out other men who do this B.S. around them. And yeah I think it's just a tactic that men who are inferior use to feel superior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:11 PM
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Yeah I've been talking to a guy who studied child development like me, and now works with children, and being able to discuss a subject I'm passionate about with someone who is also passionate about that subject (and is not just mansplaining and doing all the talking without listening) makes such a difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:30 PM
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So many years ago I dated a man who in the beginning took me out to fun places a lot, and then one day decided I was "spoiled" and that he should treat me like shit and stop doing nice things for me. Because I was living with him at the time I stopped having sex with him and started looking for a new place to live, but couldn't break up with him until I could escape him. One of the last things he did to "save" the relationship was take me to a hiking spot we had visited once when we first starte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:16 AM
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That's what I was thinking. Depression makes self care difficult in the extreme. And self recriminations only make it worse, we have to be easy with ourselved. Ive heard breaking things into small steps also helps, and cutting out anything unnecessary. For example if a person doesn't have the energy to make a sandwich they can just eat the ingredients.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:44 AM
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Tbh I'd pay to not get them. Can someone make an app for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:49 PM
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Also HVM appreciate the things about you that don't directly benefit them. Yeah they can compliment your looks, but do they compliment your knowledge? Your way of explaining things? Your empathy and your passions? Your strengths? What they compliment is important and shows what they actually value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:08 PM
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A lot of them will play a game where they will say and do things that they think will never actually work and then keep doing it repeatedly in Hope's that eventually it will be statistically impossible for them to have not found someone who will go for it. It becomes a kind of gaslighting though where after a while people start to think.. he keeps saying that so much..maybe just maybe he is truly sincere...he is saying it so much.....but in reality they are just playing a game of numbers hoping …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:19 AM
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They don't actually expect sex on the first date they're just trying to bully women into sex on the first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:34 AM
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Yeah non consensual violence is just abuse, plain and simple. I have kicked men out of my house and they're shocked that I'm serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:31 AM
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I have been single for about 8 years now. Sometimes I contemplate being in a relationship, but then I spend time with men who want to be my boyfriend and I'm like "hahaha no." I remember how miserable I was and I don't want that ever again. Maybe someday I'll find someone who makes my life better when we are together instead of a living hell, but I'm not holding my breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:59 PM
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Women become Pagan to feel empowered, men become Pagan to manipulate women. Ren Faire guys have to practice smooth flirting to do with guests, so it's very fun when they act in character and use those smooth pickup lines on me. It's a culture where everyone flirts for fun. Heavy on genuine compliments and trying to make the guest happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:42 AM
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I also grew up in a very ethnically diverse way and noticed how racial culture shapes how men hit me. I'm in Long Beach CA so we have the rainbow of diversity here. I've noticed guys who are black and were raised in the local "black culture" irritate the hell out of me when they hit on me. They are the Most disrespectful. Only black men walk directly behind me and shout at me, and when I don't turn around those shouts quickly turn to insults. Also when I was in community college they would loudl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:14 PM
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Make it very clear that you seriously SERIOUSLY do not want to have anything to do with her boyfriend. Tell her that she might get off on being treated like that but that's really not your kink, and having him involved ruins every activity you do with her because you don't like the way he talks to you. Make it clear his presence takes the fun out of every activity and he ruins your day every time he interacts with you. Don't make it about him being toxic to Her, make it about him being toxic to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:22 PM
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Both my sister and I cut off all our hair once we were at the age where brushing it is our responsibility. Our governor shut down hair salon's due to COVID, and I really want to chop it all off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:04 PM
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We need to start doing DNA testing for donors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:30 PM
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I was in foster care 13-19 and I was in 13 placements. Only two kids that I know of ever reunited with their families, the rest remained in the system until they aged out or committed suicide. Oh, also 1/4 of all foster kids end up committing suicide because no one wants them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:05 AM
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You can foster to adopt, which is a different process and is free (and you get paid until the adoption goes through) and there are a shit ton of foster kids right now. At a certain age the child can choose their foster parent over their birth parents and get adopted even if the birth parents say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:02 AM
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Except that there's a history of sperm donor facilities giving out the sperm of mentally ill men who lie in their paperwork.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:58 AM
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Most of my foster mother's were single. Try being a foster mother. Then you get paid and adoption is free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:57 AM
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Nah I have a friend with mom, dad, and brothers, and since he's the baby his mom spoiled the life out of him, so now he's a spoiled rotten man child who loves his mom but thinks women should clean up after him. He can't figure out why he can't keep a girlfriend and doesn't believe me or any of his other friends when we try to explain that he's a shitty boyfriend. He thinks that eventually he'll find a woman who treats him like his mom treats him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:04 PM
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Where do you people work? You'd get fired for this every place I've worked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:57 PM
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Unlike those women who have premarital sex, I can drive stick 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:34 PM
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I think our society stressing being in a relationship so strongly that women don't feel like they have the time for a vetting process. We also get attacked if we admit to having literally any preferences: care about looks? Shallow. Care about money? Gold digger. Not attracted to a guy at all? Well you should give him a chance anyway. All these things we are told from the time we are children and none of this B.S. benifits any of us, it's all set up to benifit low value men. We are brainwashed fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:24 PM
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Bro so many rapist would be dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:33 PM
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My sexual preference includes guys who don't piss on the floor. I'm sure some men will get angry over that 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:28 PM
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I actually messaged a guy about how it is unsafe to have your kids pictures up on a dating site, and he said he didn't used to have his kids pictures up, but since he switched his pics so All of them have kids in them he has gotten more messages. He was exploiting his kids to get a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:33 PM
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Ha! I had a guy give me a fake name before. It's so dumb because the voicemail says the real name. I don't understand what they're thinking. They would fail under witness protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:27 PM
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I suggest IF you are going to have sex, unless you are trying to get pregnant, there should always be a condom involved. Yes it's more effective with other forms of birth control, but it's the only thing that helps prevent the transmission of STDs. These other problems sound more like a problem with the guy rather than a problem with condoms. Like, would sex with a guy who stealths or pokes holes be better if there was no condom involved? That guy is still a terrible person regardless of condom …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:47 PM
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I think that falls more under a problem with men rather than a problem with condoms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:40 PM
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Okay, if it's just for effectiveness I would suggest condoms plus vasectomy. Also if you do find a partner and he gets tested you need to make sure he gets tested for Everything, and brings back documentation. Many clinics say "We will call you in two weeks if anything shows up." But if you say you need documentation they must provide it for you. Also many clinics only test for common STDs/STIs and won't test for things like syphilis, which is why my area had a huge syphilis outbreak, because cl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:25 PM
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Man, the ten year thing, I have a story: I had a roommate who ended up being just absolutely awful, on so many levels, but she told me she dated a guy for ten years, and he broke up with her and immediately married someone else, which she was pissed about because apparently she'd been waiting for a ring. Then she proudly tells me he sometimes comes over for sex, and when she sleeps with him she feels like she won because his wife can't satisfy him like her. And I'm like..... that means you lost.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:02 PM
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Wait. What is your problem with condoms? Serious question I used to work for planned parenthood and had to talk women through their condom problems. What exactly is your problem with condoms?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:54 PM
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Men harassed my grandmother for sex up until the day she died. I believe she was in her 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:47 PM
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He's not your friend. You need to take a break from that "friendship."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:44 PM
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Funny enough, I've seen ugly guys with poor hygiene suddenly come out as gay, and there's a complete transformation. Because men know other men care about looks and hygiene and if you want the hottest guy to sleep with you then you need to lose weight, get a hair cut, and get some flattering clothes. If I tell a straight guy to do that for female attention he's like "No, I want a woman who likes me for who I am." Because women are naturally assumed to have lower standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:10 PM
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I don't have just some anxiety, I will be clawing at the ground unable to breath when my PTSD is triggered. It's terrifying for me and everyone around me. And if people start yelling things like "What should I do?!" "DO YOU WANT SOME WATER?" It only makes it worse. I also don't want anyone touching me because my nerves are on fire. So if I don't inform people that this can happen, and it happens in front of them, then it is much worse for everyone. I had a friend with autism who told me I need a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:08 PM
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When I confronted her on it she called me a victim blamer, spewed abusive language, and blocked me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:30 PM
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Umm, get through triggers on your own? I have never heard this, I have no idea what you're talking about. Also every therapist, psychiatrist, and psychologist has been phenomenally useless. So I have absolutely no knowledge of what people with PTSD are taught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:26 AM
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Ahhhh as a person with PTSD triggers I respectfully disagree. I do have to explain to friends and people I want to date seriously that I have panic attacks, what can trigger an attack, and how they should respond. I think of it like telling people my allergies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:32 PM
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Interesting, I was just trained to distrust men. I had friends who were raped younger than 7. My first male teacher terrified me. I was constantly afraid he was going to try to rape me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:14 PM
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Lol my mom told me grown men want to rape me my entire childhood. Where are you getting the age of 7? Is that just you personally?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:36 PM
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These things you claim doctor's do.... Not a single doctor I have ever been to in my life has done these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:07 AM
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I also knew a woman who went to the ER in incredible pain, the doctor's tried sending her home acting like she was lying, her husband had to argue with the doctor's that no, she was really in pain, and they had her sit around for hours until the shift changed and the new doctor came in, took a look at her, and was like "WTF she has meningitis."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:26 AM
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I volunteer at my local Ren Faire and have heard so many stories. Did you know women's signs of a heart attack are different from men's signs of a Heart attack? But if you call 911 and say you think you're having a heart attack, but don't have male symptoms, they will tell you that you're wrong and won't send an ambulance? Also, doctors assume that if you are overweight you have high blood pressure, and will start prescribing you things for your high blood pressure even if your chart says you ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:14 AM
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Well.... radical feminist share your views. Liberal feminists are the ones who seem to want to put men first. And I donno about 7 years old.... I've seen some baby girls who were raped by their dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:02 AM
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Yeah I automatically distrust any man who calls himself a feminist. It's a tride and true proven red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:58 AM
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I'm a bit confused by the racism. And people who think we are involuntarily celibate are obviously not paying any attention, because just from reading the comments it's obvious that many women on here are A) actually in a relationship or B) don't want a relationship with the available men or C) in the process of getting a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:53 AM
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Ha, well I was in college and there was one guy in my club who would tell me I was wrong any time I made a declarative statement, so destroying him in front of a room full of men was something I was all about. When strangers ask for evidence online though I tell them to either pay me or do their own research.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:43 PM
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Yeah I was thinking more of conversations I had with college men where they would act like I'd somehow lost an argument by being emotionally invested in it. Thankfully as a Ravenclaw I would pull up all the facts while calling them a shit eating asshole. Like Oh you want an article to back it up, here's 5 bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:18 PM
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There are some men I hate 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:37 AM
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I had an ex I dated for 3 months when I was 20 and he ended up admitting to hating 90% of my personality, and expecting me to just give up my personality to fit his needs. He did all sorts of things to shut me down, and it was all very intentional. What you gotta realize is that the men are doing this on purpose, it's not you, they are intentionally trying to destroy you so you trauma bond with them. My new rule is that if I'm too scared to sing in front of a guy (Or if he tells me to shut up wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:20 PM
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He failed at brainwashing her. He was probably planning to get abusive next but she left too fast. His plan to break her so she could never leave failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:01 PM
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I second the writing everything down post. Write down every bad memory so that the trauma can't block it all out. Your brain is kinda an assholes when it comes to trauma and will try to convince you that everything is fine when really you have PTSD. Get a journal specifically for everything bad your ex did. Show it to a therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:59 PM
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You don't have to give back gifts. Not if you don't want to. Think of it as payback for the time you wasted on him. You probably spent more money on him than that switch is worth anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:54 PM
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Wow he's an absolute piece of shit. Don't feel guilty. He deserves to get stabbed in the throat. Good job leaving his manipulative piece of shit lower than dirt ass. Cut all ties with him. Block him on all accounts. Warn other women what absolute fucking garbage he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:50 PM
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Restraining orders are a thing. Just spend a day at the courthouse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:49 PM
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You don't need to date, however you do need friends. It's hard right now, but if you can find ways to get involved in your community it will take some of the weight off of your loneliness. When you're ready to date someone you won't have this kind of doubt. Don't force yourself, or you may end up ignoring some obvious red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:43 PM
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Long Beach CA. Must be something in the water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:01 PM
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hugs yeah I've been there. Try not to blame your body too much, it's doing the best it can. Treat it like a kid who needs some extra help, love, and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:58 PM
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Do some self care. Long bath or tasty food or a long walk in a scenic area. If you're crying over this your stress is way too high right now. If you're not taking multivitamins you might want to invest in some, because vitamin deficiency can destroy emotional stability. It's fine to be upset if a date doesn't work out, but if you're crying then something else is going on in your life that needs to be addressed. You need to look after you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:20 PM
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Yeah, he sounds like a dick. At my old job I just blamed highschool for lying in sex ed. The teachers told everyone that one size fits all and didn't tell students that condoms come in different sizes. But a good boyfriend will at the very least explore condom options with you and not put the burden on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:58 PM
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The cheating thing.... A guy asked me to marry him once and I said he had to agree that if he cheated on me I could cheat on him. He got so mad. He said men were supposed to cheat and women are not supposed to cheat. This is why I'm not married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:56 AM
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Some guys are.... Dumb. A lot do not shop around for condoms. Most do not know that every brand of condom is a slightly different size. I dated guys who had never before worn a condom that properly fitted, and were pleasantly surprised. And yes, some guys lie and are malicious about it but you'd be surprised how many are simply unaware of what's going on around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:46 AM
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They were not actually good in bed. Just had big penises.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:01 AM
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Long Beach, California. They were all skinny gamers. One guy was Mexican and the others were white. That's all I know, unless I'm doing something to attract them somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:00 AM
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I have to disagree (slightly) as a woman who somehow kept getting boyfriend's whose dicks were over 10 inches, normal condoms literally didn't roll up their dick. Magnums work, but not lifestyles. I had to give this advice to many young women when I worked for planned parenthood, because sometimes women will reject condoms because the condoms hurt (since they don't roll all the way up the penis). All condoms are not the same size, and there are condom sizing charts online where you can find the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:16 AM
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Stop having sex, get a toy. If you drink/smoke weed/do drugs you should stop that too because it makes you more likely to do stupid shit with men. Remember it's okay to be single, and men to not determine your value. Get a hobby that feels productive, it will raise your self esteem. Read books. (I know there's a list on here somewhere of good books to read). And remember that a lot of your actions are a natural response to stress and trauma, and not because there's something wrong with you. Once…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:33 PM
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Well, I'm a person who has always wanted children and I've had the opposite problem, which is kinda the same problem. I've had guys say the wanted to marry me, and that we are not having children. They knew I want children, but have the audacity to tell me I need to marry them and also that I'm not going to have children. No discussion, they make the rules. And they are SHOCKED when I break up with them. It's all about that level of respect. If a guy is demanding control of whether or not you ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:10 PM
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Sometimes you can only plant a seed, and it takes time for it to grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:02 PM
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Funny enough, I had an ex who for some reason gave his new girlfriend my email. She emailed asking why I wasn't friends with him anymore since apparently he wanted to rekindle the "friendship". So I sent her screenshots of conversations I had with the girl he cheated on me with. The new girlfriend thanked me and said she wouldn't bother me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:02 PM
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I was all skinny gamer guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:40 PM
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I didn't know beforehand and would be their girlfriend for months before sex happened, and then be like "how the fuck does this keep happening?" I keep hearing women complain about small penises and wondered if I was cursed. Apparently I'm attracted to big dick energy or something. And yeah I used measuring tape 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:47 PM
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Is 8 inches long? I was thinking about how I'm 5'3" and I don't like big penises, but all my exes had over 10 inches and it didn't fit. I could probably fit 8...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:02 PM
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I... I don't like big dicks so I'm very confused. Somehow I keep dating men over 10 inches and I'm not that deep so it's distressing. -.- personal preference I guess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:58 PM
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I'll argue if I'm bored and want a funny exchange to post online 😂. I don't argue to win, I just want them to dig the hole a little deeper before I screencap the conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 10:08 PM
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Your idea of attractive is unique to you. I say seek out a guy you think is a 10, who also thinks you are a 10. I can 100% promise you that your idea of what a 10 looks like is completely different from mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:19 PM
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Also remember that just because a guy likes you and pursues you, that does not mean you need to like him back. Just because someone has a crush on you doesn't mean you owe them anything. It has to be mutual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:44 PM
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This post seems very judgemental. I think that Christian upbringing may be causing you to judge others as inferior to you. I mean, I read the same books you did, I'm not going to look down on others for not reading those books though. When you come from a place of power you won't feel the need to put others down to prop yourself up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:21 AM
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Aww. Yeah you honestly have to put just as much work into choosing your female friends as your male friends. I'm 35 and very active socially, so (before covid) I was constantly meeting new people at jobs or volunteer events who wanted to be friends. I start as friends with all of them and then start pruning down, and end up with one or two awesome men or women that I stay friends with forever. It adds up over time, and having multiple awesome friends means one can disappear for awhile without it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:38 PM
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He needs her for free child care 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:07 AM
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Funny enough I have tons of male friends and every now and then a guy will get a girlfriend who makes him give up all his female friends. I always point out that it's a toxic relationship, and after the guy starts talking to me (cuz the relationship ended) he's like "yeeeah you were right." The guys who are in the healthiest relationships are still my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:51 PM
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.....What dad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:46 PM
4

So you're saying I need to make a throwaway account?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:51 PM
7

And then have the mom be Proud when you react with violence to anyone questioning you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:34 PM
1

Lol just start yelling "You're the reason why I'm fat!!" Though if you really want to lose weight you gotta drink water and only water. Don't drink anything else. Treat it like a religious commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:43 AM
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You've been traumatized and you need time to heal. It might be time to seek a good therapist (and remember not all therapists are good, you might need to go through a few to find the right one) just remember not to blame yourself or fall into guilt over it. You don't have to date right now but leave yourself some wiggle room to change your mind in the future if you actually do find a HVM and keep in mind the warning signs so you don't end up with a LVM in disguise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:29 PM
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Maybe you're not your type? First of all you're too young to be worrying about men. Second of all most of our ideas about appearance are invented by companies trying to sell you something. Everyone is attracted to something different and there is no universal beauty standard. Two of my brothers are married (one's on his second marriage) and they have completely opposite ideas about beauty. They each think the other man's wife is ugly and their own wife is beautiful. One wife is a thin leggy form…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:13 PM
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I've been single for a few years now and whenever I'm Tempted to get a boyfriend I just remember how miserable I've been in every single relationship and how distructive my exes were towards me reaching my goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:49 PM
2

I wanna make an all woman commune so bad. Giant self sustaining farm run by women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:55 PM
2

Get a woman as a roommate?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:53 PM
1

So I'm a gamer and that means I meet a lot of single guys who ask me why they're single. I tell them to put some effort into their looks and they all say some B.S. about "a woman should love me for who I am" even though they want the hottest girl. Sometimes one of these guys will come out as Bi, and a transformation happens where they suddenly care about their appearance because they know men will not date them if they're ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:48 PM
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Had an ex get enraged at me for paying for driving lessons (out of my own pocket). He hated driving me anywhere and made me take the bus, but he hated the idea of me driving myself even more since he would lose power over me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:46 PM
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With the no child support though I think the courts might be willing to redo the custody. I worry because my little sisters dad was fine with visitations when she was young but as she got older he became more and more of an asshole to her until she started to refuse visitations with him. I really don't think it's safe for a violent drug user to have custody of a child, and his actions towards her will probably change for the worse once puberty hits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:32 PM
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Any guy who brags about his penis size or how good he is in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:28 AM
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Oh wow, this exact same thing happened to an old friend mine, and after the breakup I brought it up to the guy. He told me he had never loved his ex and had been in love with someone else the whole time, and if he had actually loved his ex he would have gotten her food and never forgotten her and would have prioritized her needs. But since he didn't actually care about her he did the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:25 AM
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I would make his life a living hell :3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:43 PM
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Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Scott Pilgrim vs The World.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 10:46 PM
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Lol I love intimidating men it's my favorite thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:23 PM
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