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| 1 | Does anyone else think alimony is BS?Yeah but who thinks of that until it’s too late? That would definitely be a part of having firm boundaries and heavily discussing and planning for those kind of situations before marriage. However, I think that would require a cultural shift that forces people to also actively consider the legal/commitment-oriented consequences of tying your lives together and have hard conversations, as opposed to only making it about "love". But people are basically taught from birth that marriage is the way, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/23 12:18 PM |
| 5 | Does anyone else think alimony is BS?I agree. People change. They can change unexpectedly and overnight, or just slowly over time. I don't think telling people to stay together for a lifetime is realistic. Something to strive for, maybe, but not an expectation. As for the contract idea, although renewing vows isn't a legal thing, it's similar enough and already in our social fabric, so having that ability to reaffirm your commitment or say you want out wouldn't be unthinkable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/23 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else think alimony is BS?Thanks for the response. I made a lot of assumptions, so I should probably clear up my thought process. One of the big ones was I was thinking about a marriage with no children, which makes things a little less complicated and more about the individuals in question. If by chance they get an interview, they torpedo it to make sure they don't get the job. Yeah, I thought about that when I wrote it, but I felt like it might be a least a little bit of a safeguard against unconditionally granting mon… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/23 11:43 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else think alimony is BS?Genuine question: if they're able to work, shouldn't that be a condition? Some states require you to be actively looking for a job to get unemployment benefits, so why can't that be a condition for alimony if the party is able to work but needs time to find a job? Legally requiring one person to involuntarily carry the load to subsidize another capable person's standard of living after their legal relationship has ended doesn't sit right with me. I can understand why, and you can say people shou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/23 02:55 AM |
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