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I'm retired now, but I was a prostitute and then I was a dominatrix. I did a little bit of camming but I found it too stressful/annoying/low-return.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 12:15 PM
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there are a couple senses of denigrating and humiliating here. I don't think there's anything morally wrong with it and I don't feel like it lowers my value as a person, but you have to work with some unsavory elements. It's like saying is there anything denigrating and humiliating about being a garbage man. I wouldn't use those words but it doesn't mean I want to handle garbage on a daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 05:52 PM
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sex worker here, I don't do only fans but I do other stuff. Sex workers are not treated like heroes. That kind of rhetoric is people trying to drown out the much more pervasive take. Keep in mind we are not attracted to these people. It is the same reason that you don't do gay only fans if you are not gay. How would you feel about hundreds of gross old gay men jerking off to you and graphically telling you they want to stretch your asshole out and sending you pictures of their jizz every day? Ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 05:51 PM
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Yes all of these things are correct. You get to know somebody and if you feel there is mutual chemistry you should decide whether you want to forget about it or escalate and you should escalate through disclosure of your feelings and seeing if they are reciprocated. I'm a lesbian and I follow these exact same rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 09:33 PM
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I have asked out every single serious partner I've ever had which has been a lot of people. Let me tell you, there are men out there who do not like the feeling of somebody showing interest in them before they are ready to have made a decision on it. And I'm not the type of person whoever wants to have a relationship defining conversation before other person is ready, who is clingy, anything like that. Some people are just so sensitive to perceived pressure that they put it on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:16 AM
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>high-count women like men who don't have any sexual hangups yes. for sure. and i find very high n count, charismatic men actually like a woman who is on their level w body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:43 PM
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>Insecurity is spreading your legs for every man that looks at you the right way because you subconsciously need validation. that's a weird thing to think people are having sex for. what if they just... like sex? it's set up to be unfalsifiable too, bc "oh it's subconscious so yr reports of yr motivations can't be trusted".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:41 PM
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yeah but it's not causal. ppl w trauma are often hypersexual, and trauma also disrupts interpersonal relationships. ofc it's going to cause a correlation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:40 PM
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>High n count doesn't come to exist if there was lack of willing men, there are not EXACTLY. it's clearly not harming me any if I got to this number in the first place...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:39 PM
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i don't have a problem w that and i'm high body count...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:38 PM
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what does ran through even mean? it doesn't change someone's body to have a lot of sex lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:37 PM
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Why is a fat woman liking only fit men hypocritical? It would be hypocritical for her to say everyone should be fit but her not do it. I mean, I'm thin and I'm only attracted to fat people, do I have to get fat or I'm a hypocrite?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:35 PM
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I think it's similar to how middle class ppl have more class anxiety than working class. When yr right at the edge of conventional respectability there's an urge to obtain/retain it. I made a choice very early on that I would rather live the way I want to than avoid stigma; there's no point trying to reverse that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:33 PM
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Very high N count woman who prefers very high N count men here. Not my experience. In my experience it's low-medium body count women who feel a way about it. Triple digits here, when you have this level of experience you also have the perspective to realize it doesn't matter what any individual person thinks unless yr in a committed relationship. If a guy thinks NO women should have high body counts, yeah I think that's pretty stupid although it's not my problem to engage w him. But if someone j…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:31 PM
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this right here OP. I am probably one of the most sexual women most people will ever meet in their lifetime, I have a triple digit body count, I am into some really extreme fetishes, etc. But I also absolutely cannot stand getting constantly harassed by randos and drove me so far as to wear a fake wedding ring, for a while I was wearing Muslim modest dress even though I'm not Muslim to try to throw guys off the trail, etc. I do not advertise my sexuality because even trying to actively repel guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 06:31 PM
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imagine how you would feel if somebody was trying to be sexual with you during your refractory period after you just came in the middle of post nut clarity and would just not give it up. it's not like you're judging them for being sexual but it's like damn dude I said I'm not into it you're just grossing me out now do yourself a favor and stop
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 06:27 PM
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I mean, I'm feeling a little weird just from having a bad sexual interaction with my partner the other day and the guy is an absolute chad that I'm completely in love with. But the other day they were totally into it and I was not feeling it at all and I came away from it feeling like damn the chemistry and connection doesn't mean that much do you huh? (I know this isn't actually true, it was just one "off" encounter, but my point is that it's not just about the guy's value or looks it's about h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 06:26 PM
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I want my partners to want to have sex with me in disgusting freaky ways. I expect people who are not my partners to respectfully direct their attention elsewhere when I indicate that I do not want to have sex with them. The same as I do. Gay men do not like continued sexual attention from men they are not attracted to either, even though they have male sex drives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 06:21 PM
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I can’t seem to reply to your reply. I generally don’t send nudes to randos, but even if somebody did show somebody else, so what? It’s a crime to post it on the Internet, and honestly if it was in my real life social circle the guy would be the person who everybody thought was an asshole. I guess the thing I wouldn’t do is do some really specific fetish activity with people that I knew only as acquaintances. the freakier it is the more I have to trust you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 04:39 AM
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theory I would love to sleep with any classmate or whatever I think is cute then never speak to them again, but women don't get that privilege. umm, yes we do. i do that shit all the time. and yet the two most high value, eligible, sought after men i’ve ever met both pursued me vigorously for committed relationships that lasted many years. i don’t care what people know or think, there‘s nothing embarrassing about my body or tastes and i will own any true rumors.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 04:04 AM
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I agree, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it I think it’s a good thing. In my experience most men are afraid to even accept that though, I’ve only found two people – – my two most successful relationships – – who were willing to accept my blanket consent and push it thru at the time (I don’t mean force me when I’m saying no stop, because obviously you can hurt someone like that because it could be that they need more lube or whatever, I just mean being the person who initiates and keeps…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:12 AM
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I thought this guy was gonna say you marry them because you love them, but he says you marry them because they have the willpower and capability to maintain their figure LMAO. Are you guys really getting married for sexual attraction????
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:10 AM
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ew. that’s weird to make a blanket statement like that devaluing the woman when it could be any number of things
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:09 AM
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For some reason I can’t reply to the reply to my comment but CNC is consensual nonconsent
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:09 AM
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while I do have responsive desire and I do do it when I’m not in the mood because I know my partner is capable of eventually arousing me, in some cases when people are not feeling it it’s because they don’t feel emotionally safe or there is some kind of hygiene thing or for some reason they are repelled and have an issue they need to fix in their relationship. if it was just a pure libido mismatch I would agree with your advice but MOST of the time it is an underlying issue
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:08 AM
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i do 24/7 cnc in most of my relationships, recently put the kibosh on it indefinitely bc i didn’t like how partner has been treating me. i’m not refusing sex categorically i’m just not giving a literal guarantee no matter what it is or if i hate it or whatever. that is yes a behavior that is worth something transactionally and if i let someone do literally anything they want in bed in exchange i expect someone to be patient and gentle with me not in bed. otherwise it just feels like abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:50 PM
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fuck yeah we do. And the best kind of promiscuous man is one who likes promiscuous women back
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:21 AM
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no baby the best husband is a manwhore :p You can be both!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:20 AM
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Do you want to be monogamous?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:18 AM
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yeah, I’m an avoidant dating an avoidant. It breaks my heart because if he just told me hey don’t call me for a month, I would understand as another avoidant. but he has a people pleaser and avoidant so he doesn’t set his boundaries and gets so resentful and twisted up. Like dude, don’t text me back if you don’t want to text me back. I’m not texting you back when I don’t want to. It’s just sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:18 AM
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my partner absolutely has wife goggles for his wife, but she actually is that pretty? love shows the truest version of someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:02 PM
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it really depends what you call casual. I don’t like that expression. I have a lot of sex that does not involve being life partners with somebody, but I don’t have sex with anybody that I don’t feel intimate and safe with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:42 PM
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I am bisexual, so I definitely understand being attracted to women. The thing that I find disgusting is when somebody involves an unwilling party in their sexual activity and that includes explicit comments about the fact that you are sexually aroused right now looking at whatever, when we are not partners
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:03 AM
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Andrea Dworkin already wrote about this It’s definitely not true that all women can’t cum from PIV though, I do all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 10:42 AM
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Yes I would
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:57 AM
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Also I have turned down multiple marriage proposals so apparently I am marriageable
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:57 AM
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Yes I’m open about it with everybody
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:56 AM
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that’s probably because they’re willing to deviate from social norms so extremely, and are Novelty seeking and risk tolerant
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:47 AM
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retired sex worker here, guys are not all clumsy and unattractive. A lot of them don’t have time for girlfriends, or they don’t want to for some reason, or whatever. I have had a lot of attractive clients that I had a good time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:46 AM
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I don’t know, I dated a virgin in my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:43 AM
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I’m not asexual and I don’t feel it’s fundamental to my well-being.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:42 AM
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that’s what people say, but I was a sex worker for 10 years and I’ve never had a problem with anybody objecting to it, I’ve never had somebody turn me down for a date or a serious relationship on that basis or actually ever. Maybe some people didn’t ask me out who would have, but I guess I wasn’t attracted to them anyway if I didn’t ask them out either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:41 AM
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My partner has paid for a sex worker, and he has probably the easiest time getting women in real life that I’ve ever seen. I think good for him he was just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:40 AM
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poly is a thing and some women want it
/r/RedPillWives07/05/25 09:28 AM
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I have one too.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/25 09:27 AM
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I am the partner of a homemaker. I see alimony as compensation for the unpaid labor of being a homemaker and the years lost in the workforce. if you want a prenup without alimony, maybe consider some kind of actual calculated exchange ahead of time, I guess they're getting bored but nobody is a 24 seven servant for a room and board anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 07:46 PM
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Supply and demand or being pursued by the opposite type. I am attracted to short men as an under 5 foot four. 5 foot zero myself, so I find it more intimate. I have had multiple consecutive relationships with guys over 6 foot three, it's ridiculous. They just all pursue me for some reason. And a lot of the time they have better confidence and better life outcomes because of confidence, also being a retired sex worker I need a guy who feels comfortable with sex and his body and my body and a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 06:18 AM
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I think some of it is fake, and some of it is filtration – – a lot of women posting online for that stuff are really sex workers or they only went online for that purpose. No women I know in real life date for money, etc beyond very practical matters like does the man make as much as her, which is enough to safely run a two person household, possibly with a child, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 11:59 PM
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By the way, I want to be extremely clear that if I thought there was any way to interfere with his activity, I would have done it no matter what. But I did not even know the real identity of the person who introduced me to him, let alone his real identity, I did not know the countries that he did this in, I did not know what he did for a living, and make things even worse I have a very bad case of face blindness, so I wouldn't even be able to pick the guy out of a lineup! unless I had called the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:14 AM
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Generally for me to think that something is misogyny, they need to either tell me to my face that it is because I am a woman, or I need at least two other females who do not resemble me or hold a similar role to mine in the persons life to have experienced the same treatment and no males to have experienced the same treatment. I never ever ever want to play the victim or jump to conclusions, because realistically in life, I rarely ever experienced misogyny whether socially or at work. I am a bit…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:09 AM
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By the way, I am extremely slow to claim misogyny-- normally, I would think, maybe I look like his ex, maybe my voice is really annoying to him, maybe I said something that offended him once by mistake, maybe he thinks I don't want to talk to him (although because he forces us to communicate with notes, I did leave him a note saying I would be happy to email, text, do it by letter, anything that he felt was more accessible to him. One of my partners has selective mutism so I thought this was jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:08 AM
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I was a sex worker for a famous nfl guy who was way too entitled and aggro and spoiled abt women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:24 AM
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I met a guy who did child sex tourism overseas. I was a sex worker and did not know his identity, also it's very hard to prosecute those crimes in those countries. Due to the circumstances nothing would have happened except me getting killed probably. But he was scary and a violent creep to me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:21 AM
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Btw I was assigned in a group w him, there was nothing I could do about being there offending him w my femaleness.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:19 AM
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Also was told by a guy in my math PhD program he doesn't work w women. I wrote his whole part of the research paper bc his gf dumped him and he spiraled.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:18 AM
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I am a female property manager w my partner. Partner is super of building I am all the financial, contracts, etc. one tenant was rejected by a previous female manager and never spoke to anyone in the building (artist colony) virtually ever again. Bc I am female he refuses to look at me, won't answer if I speak to him, screamed at me when I came to his house to give him a fire extinguisher talking about how I don't know how his lease works and he doesn't have to take one and ask my bf. I wrote hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:15 AM
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I can't reply to the reply to my comment for some reason, but if you think asking somebody on a date is sipping, I don't know what to tell you. Somebody doesn't even have the confidence to do that then… Not a great sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:34 PM
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Depends what you consider chasing. If you mean court, that's just a sign of healthy polarity. There's no guy that I'm going to chase for him, that's just a turn off. I'll make myself available if he puts in some respectful effort and asks me on a planned date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:01 AM
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Is this a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:44 AM
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Voice to text totally fucked that up. I meant to say we are both avoidant attachment style and this is how we stay comfortable enough to maintain a long-term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:44 AM
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Actually, I'm in a relationship like that right now. We live together and own a business together and have been together for three years. Enough to have an ongoing relationship. By making sure we don't feel claustrophobic phobic or trapped.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:43 AM
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... yes? Yes, I do think all those things. And as a matter of fact, I am a female in a harem. My male partner has two other girlfriends and we are all very happy. We do as we please, but this is what we please. If I get sick of it, I'll leave. If he gets sick of me, he'll leave me. I'm not out to control other peoples lives, we choose each other every day. Why do you think those things are immoral? Do you think once you have sex with somebody you have to be in a relationship with them forever ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:37 AM
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Not sure what a fawn response has to do with this though? I know what that is, but I don't understand the relevance to what I'm saying (I definitely do not have one) or the idea that men would not want to build a mental connection. Think about it this way. Would you be willing to have coffee with any stranger who asked you if you were getting nagged about this all day? It's almost like panhandling. There is a classy way to do it, and someone can stand out by being so classy and so direct and so …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 05:59 PM
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I don't think you're getting it. A strange man who is physically attracted to me is asking me for something (time, risk, task switching, attention) yet has done nothing to distinguish himself from anybody else, and I am not interested in taking spontaneous applications on the basis of physical attraction. I would have to talk to people all day just to walk down the street if I had such a low filter. It makes more sense to go about my normal life meeting ppl on the basis of mutual interest then s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 05:55 PM
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Personally, I find them to be a good target for relationships, but that's just my personal taste in women, it's definitely not for everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 08:19 PM
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I mean, sorry, human psychology is complicated and lurking variables are a thing. I have no opinion on the transaction, if that's working for you great.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 08:18 PM
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But I am saying from the point of view of a woman, it rings hollow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 08:17 PM
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You are close, but no banana. Frequent change of personal appearance is correlated with difficulty in core / stable personal identity and not feeling at home in one's own body, therefore trying to personalize it. Therefore, there is a correlation with trauma based personality disorders. Anyone running around trying to exploit that deserves what they're gonna get and it won't be as fun as they think. There are also openness to experience and novelty seeking as correlates. Your observational data …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 08:59 PM
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How are you going to tell someone has interest in random sex with strangers from their hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:10 PM
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Attractive guys don't usually need to approach strangers on public transit. They have no problem meeting women that are mutually interested that they actually know something about. The reason it's weird is that you've never spoken to this person in your life. How on earth do you know that you are interested in a date with them? Somebody thinking that you are hot as a woman is not exactly novel, and it doesn't qualify them for anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:09 PM
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Depends on what it's for. my partner has notifications on for social media but doesn't check it so it looks like a bazillion million unchecked notifications but really who is checking Instagram and Snapchat that much, I'm wonder why anyone would have their notifications on for that, but it doesn't interfere with our time together so whatever it's not my business
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:31 PM
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Not crazy about your language here. I'll admit that I struggle to read social cues by non-autistic people. But there is nothing correct or incorrect about the cues that I give or how I react, those are value neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:36 PM
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My partner is into some pretty heavy stuff, I don't particularly like it but I like how he treats me so, whatever, not my business. It's not anything illegal or like racial slurs or anything like that, no reason to think that it's unethically produced and while it is very violent the women are depicted as consenting. Honestly, it's the production type that grosses me out more than that, it's very like... shiny bimbo porn (I don't mean a body type way, we like the same body type on women) whereas…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 07:07 AM
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Well, I am seriously dating somebody of that description, for the second time in a row too, and I'm not some kind of model or anything, I'm autistic and pretty average looking, I'm just smart and nice and genuinely seeking personality matches, it just wound up being the stereotype of the superficial traits ppl say women want. So. You never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:46 PM
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I just don't get why this doesn't apply to women too. Hardly any of my friends are female, I made my friends through seeking out opportunities in my community and putting myself in a highly visible position in organizations I care about. There are actually many, many women who are happy to be the breadwinner and take care of somebody emotionally. I am pretty reserved, the breadwinner of my household, etc. Most men are not interested in this kind of dynamic. You could have the femme role, but the…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:49 PM
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Damn are people really tracking people's social media that closely? That you know all the pictures she's posted and how this one differs? I think this is so culturally different from my life and circles that I'm not gonna get it. But it seems basically the same as appearing in public....
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:36 PM
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The lesbian community has an extremely high rate of CPTSD and associated personality disorders namely borderline personality disorder. The chance of a straight guy randomly pairing with such a person is vanishingly small compared to the chance for a lesbian unless you are subconsciously selecting for it. You will make a statistical mistake if you imagine lesbian relationships as what happens when you pair up straight women. It is an entirely different population, the fact that both groups are wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:40 PM
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Approach them how? Talking to me in class? No. At work? No. In the community I live in residentially? No. A stranger on the street? Absolutely yes, because most of them make a comment like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 06:19 PM
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Yeah, I do expect them not to care because they knew what I was like when they got with me. Also, I definitely do not dress any kind of way for "men" except for my specific partner sometimes. Women are not attracted to most men. The idea of men as a category looking at us with attraction is gross and scary, not lust inducing (excepting in some kink fantasies or whatever).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:25 PM
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Yeah. Both people have to consent to their own involvement with the kid. No guy should be able to compel me to get an abortion, but I would never ask a guy to be involved with a kid he didn't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 10:19 AM
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Sort of. If I have sex with my partner it's for emotional intimacy. But the vehicle of that intimacy is by letting them have access to my unbridled horniness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:36 AM
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nope! i mean, maybe there are people who would have asked me out but didn't and i never found out because i wasn't interested in them either, but i've never been rejected on this basis afaik and i haven't been single since I was a young teenager. I am in a relationship of 3 years, we live together and run a business together, he built me a house, 6'5", fabio hair, emotionally intelligent, total jackpot. my partner before that was a male model and poet, also tall and charismatic with long hair. b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 04:35 AM
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Right, but the burden is on the claimant. Your question is if they are against it, how does that correlate to them being weak or insecure. I am saying if they cannot substantiate that it is harmful, there is probably another reason they are against it That is a personal emotional reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 05:49 AM
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Someone being against something for everybody that doesn't have a clear harm is prescriptive and weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:19 PM
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Woman here with a super Duper high body count, like triple digits. I've never knowingly been rejected for this. It just isn't a problem. I've dated virgins and stuff too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:50 AM
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Woman here, there are a lot of people that I would fuck that I wouldn't give head. I wouldn't give someone head unless we were in a long-term committed relationship.
/r/askMRP16/12/24 07:40 AM
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The worst sex I've ever had was with somebody who would get really irritable and rude if there were normal mishaps like having to change positions or something going awkwardly or whatever. Like I was committing some kind of crime if I didn't read his mind and get in the exact right position ahead of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:48 AM
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Those all seem like normal things to want from a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:54 PM
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OK, I would've accepted your point, but you are clearly a jerk if you're out here calling people names outright
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:40 PM
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Same and i'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 07:23 AM
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It sounds like something is actually going on. She says you hurt her so much that she's at her parent's house, and you aren't even including what that is about. Maybe you should actually process the situation with her in a mature way, I don't see any self reflection here and you describe her as writing entire letter is taking responsibility for her actions, maybe this is a one-sided interaction emotionally where you are not doing as much work to meet her. Of course a woman is going to have "chil…
/r/askMRP29/11/24 05:54 PM
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Oh, I'm sorry, was a paragraph too much for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:59 PM
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That is a really good observation
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:58 PM
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Well, in my case, these people are diagnosed, but disinhibition is definitely an element
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:57 PM
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There are not that many women who genuinely don't wanna have a job. Most people are not career homemakers (which is a job, but almost everybody either has a job outside the house or is a homemaker).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:57 PM
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For some reason, I can't reply to the people who are replying to my comment doubting my story that I know two guys who are autistic pussy slayers, but I'm fucking both of them and I am with them an awful lot so I physically see women coming up to them and texting them practically every time I am with them. This is a real thing. Is it an extreme outlier, yes. Is it a way that autism can manifest where somebody basically uses their powers of pattern recognition to become a mechanical social savant…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:49 PM
12

No, it definitely isn't. A lot of guys are weird pregnancy fetishists and day laborers have a reputation earned or not for being more sexually aggressive. Or she may be thinking someone tries to steal something or does something wrong and she isn't in a state to confront them. She is going to be extra vigilant because she's worried about protecting the baby.
/r/askMRP27/11/24 03:06 PM
29

She's pregnant and she doesn't want strange guys in her house without you there. Get a grip. This is like basic masculinity 101. You're out here like a little bitch thinking she's trying to manipulate you by acting like a normal pregnant woman, like everything she does is some kind of threat to you and your feefees. This is normal female emotions during pregnancy.
/r/askMRP27/11/24 03:04 PM
1

This is voice to text by the way, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:57 AM
1

Like, what's really attractive to a woman is the way you make her feel about herself right. If you make her feel like she's causing the situation to be socially awkward by acting awkward, or you know you're not giving her the responses that she thinks she should be getting, she's gonna feel like she's doing something wrong and be uncomfortable.but you can also seem really nonjudgmental and down for whatever and accepting of different kinds of people in that can make her feel good about herself. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:56 AM
4

Also, some autistic guys ask you a lot of questions about yourself and your feelings to compensate and that can be hot too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:56 AM
-4

The two guys I know with the highest body counts and the most charisma are both autistic. They both pick up women absolutely everywhere they go whether they want to or not. There are basically two kinds of autistics. the kind who are really socially awkward because they know they can't tell other peoples emotions, and the kind who don't give a fuck because they know they're not even gonna be able to tell if people are judging them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:54 AM
1

By the way, we are still friends to this day. That was 10 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 11:04 AM
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Jealous of...?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:18 AM
10

Hard same. 35 and have the best partner of my life. Absolutely blows everyone else out of the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:30 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 08:42 AM
2

I became pregnant with contraception.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 05:31 PM
0

I'm an American woman in STEM. If you want that date in yr own field. Personally I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 05:21 PM
0

If you have a problem w that behavior you shouldn't. If you don't give a shit then go for it. STI testing is a thing and the impact of STIs is waaaay overblown.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:44 AM
2

Nah. I'm more of a conservative and my partner is a communist. We balance eachother out and even run an intentional community together. What I need is for them to respect that I believe what I believe bc I genuinely think it's the best way, not bc I'm stupid or contrarian or mean. Then I'm happy to talk or debate if they want, but it must start w assumption of mutual good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 10:47 PM
5

I've never known a guy who claimed to be falsely accused, but I have seen someone be falsely accused thirdhand (like, I heard it from the accuser not the guy and I call BS). I'm a female and I was falsely me too'd by my own gf but that's a diff story. She asked me to hold her hands over her head, I did, I guess she changed her mind midway but didn't resist or say stop or in any way indicate dislike (I was NOT using force), then said it was SA bc she was uncomfortable basically. Histrionic Person…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:04 AM
1

I don't understand the wording. In my case I like that other women want them, I'm into it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:39 PM
1

Wouldn't surprise me. My partner has several casual partners. My ex was the same. I tend to date really high charisma guys that everyone is fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:22 PM
2

Idk, I'm 35 and I was not open to marriage at all until my late 20s even hypothetically.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:10 PM
3

Just tell her the truth. You didn't think of it, or you were doing other stuff and didn't feel like it. That you like / love her but you can't be relied on to call daily and won't be doing so.
/r/askMRP24/09/24 05:46 AM
1

Okay, I think hazing in the freaking army is a different circumstance than regular life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:52 PM
2

You are out of yr mind if you think being ugly is as dangerous as being black.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 01:40 AM
1

I would wait and see if they did anything sketch or I heard any other claims. I mean, I'm a female and this happened to me by another female (tldr we were dating and did have consensual sex, she asked for a very mild kink activity and apparently grew uncomfortable in the middle but didn't say anything, then was mad after... the metoo'd me on fb, HPD diagnosis. Still wanted to date after that), so, I know it's real. I'm in a bit of a diff situation rn. My current partner caught a legitimate DV ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 01:35 AM
1

I'm actually into both. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 06:26 AM
6

Same!!!!! This is the first time I've ever been sexually attracted to a male. My mind is totally fucking blown.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 06:23 AM
1

Definitely 7 (or 10/10 or whatever). My partner can pick up virtually anyone anywhere we go and has a huge roster. All my females friends have crushes. Frankly out of my league.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 06:22 AM
1

I don't trade those w my partner. Why bother?
/r/askMRP14/08/24 05:27 AM
3

She probably just wants to spend time with you. Say no to everything you don't want to do, be proactive suggesting things you do want to do.
/r/askMRP11/06/24 04:51 PM
1

Absolutely the fuck not, this is abuse.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/24 11:56 AM
1

Personality issue. Past a certain level of financial stability it's actual harming your filtration. Stop chasing women who just want to be sugar babies, they aren't your target audience anyway. Money gets sex, behavior gets relationships.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/24 07:15 PM
1

is that really beta energy though? that just sounds like being a provider to me. not having the class to take care of yr sick wife who treats you well, fucks you, etc the majority of the time would just be acting like an immature little boy. if yr secure in yrself you know that it's not harming you any to act like that and there's little opportunity cost w others bc you always have later... so i guess in a way it is like temporary beta behaviors, but it's not beta ENERGY. it's like that one jock…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/23 11:51 AM
1

yeah crying isn't always weak though, sometimes being unashamed of yr feelings can paradoxically seem confident to the core
/r/TheRedPill29/11/23 11:48 AM
8

I agree. Most women have seen their father, bf, etc cry once or twice. Especially if it's from being moved/happy like meeting their newborn baby or something it's fine.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/23 06:00 AM
2

If you're dating women who offer nothing but looks, that's a you problem.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/23 10:16 AM
5

They are not out to get you, sounds like you feel betrayed easily bc of yr trauma issues. They are just emotional creatures on their own trip like all humans.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/23 10:12 AM
7

Depends what it is. If it's malicious or cruel, then break it off. If it's just something that you found embarrassing, private, talking over you, etc., just assertively tell her that you didn't like when she said xyz, and please don't speak to me like that in public. Be sure she knows what about it made it that way. You're going to have to own your own feelings and have some self worth to do this. You can afford to say it calmly the first time. If it continues, end it.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/23 10:11 AM
4

I know women who don't use social media.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/23 09:58 AM
1

Playing dumb games like that IS acting butthurt. Someone with real class would ask her outright what was going on and leave if it's not what you're looking for.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/23 03:03 AM
1

If you treat them poorly, yes you will know in your heart that it was wrong and of poor character. It is possible to do well with this type but you have to be grounded beyond measure-- not a first relationship situation, she'll eat you alive.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/23 03:02 AM
3

ex-Hoarder here. When it crosses the line into actually harming you (dangerous, etc.) please say something. I reformed bc my wheelchair-using ex couldn't safely get their chair into my room. Short of that, if he is self-aware he probably thinks yr an angel for being patient.
/r/RedPillWives02/10/22 08:03 AM
4

I think there's a difference between telling someone "I'm going through some personal shit right now" or "I've been fucked up about so and so's death" and acting it out, getting in detail, crying, etc. You can tell someone what's going on with you without weeping all over them.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 05:42 PM
2

bc that's what girls think is polite. the point is to get rid of her, right? so what if it comes off a little beta. you want her to STOP chasing you.
/r/askMRP26/03/21 12:55 AM
6

Work is so crazy right now that you barely have time to get enough sleep let alone go out recreationally, and there's no end in sight. If there is no plausible deniability for her that it was a flirtatious/romantic/not broish invite, say "Hey, I'm really flattered and someone would be lucky to go out with you, but I just don't see you that way, I'm sorry."
/r/askMRP22/03/21 01:52 AM
1

update?
/r/askMRP19/02/21 07:27 AM
1

You need to BOTH work on yourself. What comes out of your mouth is YOUR responsibility, and it is bad not because it hurts her feelings, but because it lacks self-control, contributes to an atmosphere of vague chaos where you don't have your environment or emotions handled, and generally breaks you down. If you are waiting for a woman to do something for you to initiate self-improvement, you are putting the cart before the horse. If you think you are fine how you are and don't want to change any…
/r/askMRP28/12/20 02:41 AM
2

I really caution you against implementing a lot of the stuff from this forum right when another major change is already happening (esp cause a lot of people come through who don't know wtf they're talking about and say dumb shit, and you need to stick around for a long while to get a sense of what's what). It's going to be hard to disentangle the variables. I agree that you should be a strong leader and a guiding force of course, but it's not like a military captain ordering around a suboordinat…
/r/askMRP26/12/20 02:14 AM
1

Definitely a mental health flag. Get help.
/r/askMRP26/12/20 02:09 AM
1

I agree with all of this. However it's not uncommon at ALL for the partner themselves to be drawn into lowering their own behavior and becoming unhealthy themself. So while it may not be the partner causing it, in these situations there's a VERY good chance that the partner is now contributing, simply bc that's how this shit works. Been there myself.
/r/askMRP26/12/20 02:08 AM
1

I have at time put salt in her wound in heated arguments by calling her useless. Yeah that's definitely not gonna help things-- it will make your situation worse. I feel like she's lost and regrets having a child with me or in general. Loathes me and is using me. She may feel that she can't leave because of having the child. If you guys are fighting all the time and she has PPD or is depressed then yeah, she probably DOES feel lost and regretful. I feel like I know exactly what tasks need to be …
/r/askMRP26/12/20 02:06 AM
2

I think you handed it perfectly. You're not being a dick and you're not being cruel either. It's a mismatch and it's her choice.
/r/askTRP23/12/20 10:22 PM
1

Counseling in what capacity? Seems strange that you misspell counseling if it's professional at all.
/r/askMRP14/12/20 03:39 AM
1

I think you should read some stuff on post-partum depression and see if that applies / that advice works. Is it poss, also, that she's stressed out / tired from continuous childcare? I'm guessing most of the time you're working
/r/askMRP14/12/20 03:37 AM
1

Yes, that's true. Of course someone with valuable time doesn't just throw it around.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/20 10:48 AM
3

Generally a good thing to do is try to do favors for powerful people LONG before you need anything from them. Make connections and actual friendships without a particular end goal in mind and keep a diverse social roster. Help people (be the guy who helps your friend move in the sweltering summer) and volunteer for things (eg tutor or do pro bono work in your field. I do curriculum development for a free [legit free, not deferred payment etc] code camp that targets poor black kids-- it's hard as…
/r/TheRedPill26/11/20 10:30 AM
24

In my experience a real mentor will be someone who doesn't want anything back. They just see themself in you and want to help you because they can tell you want it so bad. Everyone that has been a lifesaver for me seemingly did it out of the goodness of their heart-- and I try to do the same thing to people coming up under me (often in a different area). I remember the first time I ever tried to code anything, I was intimidated half to death even though I was in the middle of a math PhD because …
/r/TheRedPill26/11/20 10:24 AM
1

Eh... I've fucked a lot of girls with daddy issues and that's not why they act like that. It's trauma coping mechanisms, and they usually look the same in women regardless of the source of the cPTSD.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 01:18 AM
4

Sounds like you think you're the alpha of an alpha widow. Don't give yourself too much credit, lol. It just sounds like a girl bitching about online dating being "not intimate enough" etc etc, I don't think it's that deep.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/20 07:51 PM
1

Good for you!
/r/askTRP20/11/20 12:19 AM
1

friend who is ashamed: cut her off as a friend, that's beyond rude. seriously, unacceptable. stalker: women can be dangerous too, if you feel you are in physical danger take that shit seriously and don't let anyone convince you not to and get Jodi Arias'd.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 08:16 AM
1

she's your gf already, you're overthinking. see her if you feel like it.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 08:15 AM
2

stop trying so hard to downplay how you feel about her by calling her a bitch over and over etc, so you like a girl, that's fine. ignore the bumble thing, sounds like someone asked her abt tv shows. who cares. if she brings it up, you don't even remember what she's talking about until she spells it out and you go "oh yeah! right, to the typo gulag with you!" ignoring the connotation that it would be to someone else; just treat it like any other misclick/typo. i don't see how she's playing mind g…
/r/askTRP18/11/20 08:11 AM
1

you've got it backwards. if no one had imposed and "no"s why would they be obsessed w breaking boundaries? anyway, a lot of these girls have caregiver abandonment trauma, that's the real etiology.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 08:05 AM
3

Don't do it. Highest risk group for false allegations.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 08:04 AM
1

I'm pro drug use all the way if you can use responsibly. However Phenibut is running over ants with a car imo. Verrrry phys habituating. Propranolol is literally made for this issue and also fast-acting and very easy to get from docs, unscheduled.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 08:03 AM
1

These all sound like they could equally well be interpreted as positive indicators. What if she's hinting that she wants you to initiate?
/r/askTRP18/11/20 08:01 AM
1

That is way too indirect. Why tip your hand without any chance of the benefit (that's not an invitation, dude)? That's backwards. You tip your hand BECAUSE that's sometimes the only way to get the thing you want.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 07:57 AM
1

yes, it's normal.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 07:54 AM
2

"applied statistics"
/r/askTRP18/11/20 07:52 AM
3

Well, apparently that was too vague or the context was off. You didn't literally say you didn't WANT to meet or NOT to try to meet you. Decide now if you like this behavior or not (sounds like you do) and if you don't, have a talk with her where that is the sole purpose of the talk so it's not brushed over. Be nice about it but clear.
/r/askTRP09/11/20 05:42 AM
1

He sent her delivery items TO A RESTAURANT? Never heard of such a thing. Yes, that's creepy.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/20 05:17 AM
1

Yes. I wouldn't be married if I weren't in love (9 years). I'm whole-hog "we're soulmates" yada yada. I could be happy alone, but I wouldn't be AS happy.
/r/askMRP09/11/20 05:06 AM
2

Did you actually explicitly tell her what to do and not do, or were you hoping she would infer it? If you told her outright not to come to your work and she did (also, why does she know exactly where your workplace is? Small town, or took her there before, or...? Like how much stalking did she have to do to obtain this information?), then hard next. I warn everyone, male friends and plates alike, never to show up to my work/home without permission, and immediately cut anyone off who does (it's j…
/r/askTRP09/11/20 05:02 AM
2

Prob pussy-chained bc bpd girls are hot as fuck, haha. 99% of guys can't deal with them but for someone with a chill temperament, they're the best. (Unless they're the smash your windshield type, but that's realllllly rare unless you fuck it up epically.)
/r/askTRP07/11/20 10:11 AM
9

Hitler came to power bc Germany felt cucked as the Weimar Republic. It's a complex story but it's not just bc he's a good yeller. Go read some of his speeches. (No, I'm not pro-Hitler, but my best friend is fascinated w WWII so I've been exposed to a lot of original source material.)
/r/askTRP07/11/20 10:06 AM
1

But I agree, depends on circumstances. My job being a night job allowed me to do a lot of school reading while work was slow on site.
/r/askTRP18/10/20 08:33 AM
2

I did two pure math degrees while working full time nights and a third one while working part time, so I am well aware of how time consuming school is. I agree that getting to a competitive level would be unrealistic, but as a hobbyist, class-once-a-week type of thing and then normal working out? Possible.
/r/askTRP18/10/20 08:31 AM
1

If you're suggesting that I find it tasteless because I don't get oral sex, that's false, I have a gf, so, virtually every day. I just think the way that it was said seems like the person is trying to accomplish some secondary social purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 08:28 AM
1

right, that's what I'm referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 08:27 AM
1

lol. getting his chance to brag to the internet about how he "mouthfucks" people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 07:48 PM
1

Can you read? It's to screen for minimal competence and investment. Have you heard the expression "at least buy me dinner first"? it means "at least make a token, nominal effort"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 07:46 PM
2

what is this fds thing? first date screening?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 07:42 PM
3

It's bizarre to me that a person with a normal income would think going out to eat is prohibitively expensive for a first date to the point that it's a sign of being a gold-digger. If someone is THAT suspicious, he either has a long and sordid past or is just mean/cheap. One time I got a guy a bunch of weed for free (in a country where it's hard to obtain) and we went to the store for rolling papers. I came up fifty cents short on the papers and asked him to spot me til we got back to the house,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 07:37 PM
5

I dunno, we've been together 9 years and we keep our finances separate mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/20 07:34 PM
1

working hard at your personal goals is because of social media? or did you mean vets w PTSD are glamorous? the hell are you talking about
/r/askTRP14/10/20 11:29 AM
2

Make friends wherever you go and never be snobbish to anyone. You never know when they'll be able to help you, even homeless people. I gave a homeless guy a ride the other day and befriended him, turns out he lives in his car (that was out of gas) on my block where I'm always worried about car break-ins, and he parks right behind my spot almost every day! Now I have someone keeping an eye on my car for free at night. Whenever we cross paths I have a chat with him and give him a soda or whatever.…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 10:51 AM
2

Preach. Don't try every wild life path, check out the stats of how those things work out for people-- this is why to make friends from all walks of life (among other things).
/r/askTRP14/10/20 10:43 AM
13

Concur. It took me til my early 30s to realize how much balance the right person can bring to your life. If she supports your goals and wants to basically be your helper because it makes her feel good, and you get a morale boost from her and she's not an unreasonable time sink, go for it. There's a reason that most successful academics & grad students are married. Idk about you but I'm not eager to cook and clean for myself even though I certainly CAN, I want a housewife (who is intellectually w…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 10:39 AM
1

Cooking stuff can be optimized. No need to go HAM on that as long as you're getting nutrition. I'm big on the protein powder shakes and so on, just made sure you're getting enough protein, fat, calories, greens, multivit if you aren't much into cooking/eating (honestly I could give a fuck about food, I just don't get why it's a hobby for some, but we all gotta eat to live). But in general you'll find that the more you do this stuff the more functional time and energy you magically have.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 10:37 AM
7

No one said "work hard at a low-wage job when it's not advantageous". Work hard at what YOU want to accomplish. Either you have a decent job or you should be working toward it, or you're disabled in which case you certainly have enough health & house maintenance goals to work toward-- even if your task is literally just do a ton of work in therapy to not kill yourself-- one of my best friends had the craziest fucking childhood then exp'd some horrible war shit and probably 60% of his waking time…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 10:33 AM
2

Bullshit. Tired of this roll-over-and-get-fucked mentality people are jumping into headfirst. There are many remote jobs incl unskilled. But which of those things (short of martial arts classes) are undoable?
/r/askTRP14/10/20 10:26 AM
3

Nope. You can do it (unless you are physically disabled, in which case just aspire to something challenging and realistic) and I have. Don't say you don't have time until you have cut everything worthless out of your day.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 10:25 AM
1

Doesn't matter, to her it may have gotten significantly "worse". (And as for you... sucks that you're not into your own wife's genitalia unless you plan on sleeping around or are in an open marriage.)
/r/askMRP13/10/20 04:32 AM
8

Word. In fact approach some girls with a pre-made decision that you are NOT going to take her home, ask for her number, or anything. Restrict it to this interaction so there is nothing "at stake" and you can just practice.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/20 08:25 AM
1

If he's into it then whatever imo.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 08:22 AM
1

Is it possible she's been self-conscious about her vagina since giving birth?
/r/askMRP11/10/20 06:02 AM
7

31 is not old in the grand scheme of things. Someone who would marry you likely will not be deterred by this.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/20 06:01 AM
1

That's stupid. It may be hard for them to fire you but you'll likely get constructively dismissed anyway and trying to prove that/retaliation is way more trouble than anyone needs. Never sue someone while continuing to be dependent on them for income.
/r/askTRP26/09/20 07:20 AM
1

they want you to help them wank, is why. they're trying to lure you in to be one of their set pieces. i doubt they're going to backlash that hard if you decline as long as you're polite about it (but then I don't have personal experience w this).
/r/askTRP26/09/20 07:16 AM
1

libertarian here too (white). It IS racist. you don't have a special duty to suck their political dick bc you're black, and you shouldn't be under special scrutiny for being black. I would just tell them that you don't feel comfortable talking about your ~personal racial experiences~ (even if they weren't asking about that) at work in a way that implies it's a painful subject for you. you know they're essentially trying to tokenize you, now think why (how do they want to feel about themselves? w…
/r/askTRP26/09/20 07:13 AM
8

My fiance and I have actually talked about this exact situation before and he made me promise to just run away and not try to interfere because it would just make his task harder.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/20 12:32 AM
1

She's not gonna guess that it's her hair causing it.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 03:41 AM
1

There are 3 cases. She was not aware you would prefer to have been consulted and thinks you don't care. (second most likely imo) She is misguidedly trying to impress you with novelty / hoping you will like it. (most likely imo) She is aware you would prefer to have been consulted but doesn't care. (least likely imo unless she has a history of intentionally provocative behavior / has BPD; most women would not purposely make themselves look ugly to others, esp their partner, bc they don't have the…
/r/askTRP24/03/20 06:17 AM
3

lol how many buzzwords can you fit into one reply
/r/askTRP03/03/20 11:54 AM
5

They may be white knights, but it sounds like you're making a spectacle of yourself in a bad way-- running after a chick "who you rejected" trying to get her to talk to you, girls "shit testing" you so hard and loud that tons of dudes take notice and she welcomes them cockblocking you? Honestly it does sound like you're a creep man.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 11:51 AM
2

>despite taking numerous pregnancy tests which came back negative. She's just having an anxiety attack and wants you to talk her down. Just be like "Hon. You took a pregnancy test and it's negative. Go take a walk around the block, drink a glass of water, and then hit me back." She wants you to tell her what to do to manage her anxiety. That's what "I'm spiraling out of control" means. Also, that phrase is red flag for possible BPD (literally never heard it from a non-BPD chick) so I'd read up o…
/r/askTRP29/10/19 04:01 AM
2

Dread working.
/r/askTRP29/10/19 03:58 AM
12

>She sends him pics of her ready for a night out first and then fwds to me (yeah I didn't realise) afterwards. This is worse than all of the other ones put together. This is the death knell.
/r/askTRP29/10/19 03:55 AM
1

Perfect shit test example. Perfect. I would just laugh and say "Suit yourself, kiddo." with a tone of "I don't see it, but it's cute that you check ugly guys out, more power to him."
/r/askTRP29/10/19 03:49 AM
2

Seriously, who cares? It doesn't mean "I would rather be with that guy right now," or she would.
/r/askTRP29/10/19 03:46 AM
2

>the first time you want to spend the night alone outside of your standard schedule (when you hang out together) after you enter a LTR Do most people have certain days they spend with their SOs every week?
/r/askTRP29/10/19 03:42 AM
1

Honestly she probably lied to you bc you were acting like a little bitch. Who cares if some old fwb calls her?
/r/askTRP13/10/19 10:47 PM
1

Have you talked to her? She may just be trying to make you jealous.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 10:45 PM
2

Wellbutrin is an interesting one, it's somewhat of a stimulant. I actually take it myself not for depression but for fatigue-- I have a medical condition that makes me tired as a side effect. I was misdiagnosed with depression before my real condition was found, which is how I got on this (I was curious to try it even though I knew I didn't have depression, because of what I'd heard about it), but it helped so I kept it. I've tried several other antidepressants as well as a minor when I was "for…
/r/askMRP13/10/19 10:39 PM
5

The point of that sentence wasn't that she's trying to fix something, it's that she's likely trying to do so on her side to place LESS burden on you, which is ultimately desirable (many times I've been like oh yeah tell me everything babe!-- bad idea, it's boring and miserable, encourage them to deal with things alone when reasonable). No one's saying you're dumb so chill the fuck out. How long has she been on them?
/r/askMRP13/10/19 10:37 PM
3

I wouldn't try to fuck with the meds before the external situation is completely stabilized. It is going to be too hard to determine which variables are affecting what. Case 1: she doesn't feel better, the meds didn't help, bye bye meds. Case 2: she does feel better, you can try meds then no meds then meds and see if that was really necessary. She's trying to handle her shit so it doesn't explode all over you, I strongly suggest you let her.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 10:27 PM
1

I knew I was in love in 2 dates, but played it cool because he had just gotten out of a 4 years relationship like 2 weeks earlier. Didn't initiate contact once until he asked me to be bf/gf and move in with him (1 month later). We've been together almost 10 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 10:23 AM
1

I'm dating a diagnosed sociopath (technically the dx is ASPD); 8 years; AMA. I have no interest in or respect for dudes who try to neg me, who are disrespectful, who act a fool, etc. I have ALL the respect for dudes who do what they want and don't make up excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 10:19 AM
1

This book is about living with women with BPD, but there's great boundaries stuff in it too: When Hope Is Not Enough by Bon Dobbs.
/r/askMRP01/09/19 09:31 AM
1

Not sure what you're asking. Like how am I gainfully employed, or what do I do to treat it, or...? So, a little medical background, my disorder is called Ehlers-Danlos, it is the disorder that allows contortionists to contort. It is a collagen production disorder, and collagen (aka connective tissue) is everywhere in your body. However for some reason a lot of people don't start falling apart til they're in their mid-20s and then it's rapid. So I thought I was normal, never gave a shit about dis…
/r/askTRP23/08/19 03:12 AM
3

On the contrary, she may think it's serious rather than a hookup.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:54 AM
4

Wedding date usually means serious gf. Could give her ideas.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:53 AM
1

I wouldn't read too much into it. Go ahead and see her. Who cares what she does / is thinking-- see her if you feel like it and it's convenient, if it's a bad time, don't! If she acts right and yr feelin it great, if she's a bitch, next. Quit when it's a hassle, don't make up a hassle in yr head cause yr trippin about what it all "means".
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:51 AM
1

ID.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:44 AM
1

If she kept it going, she didn't care. She was prob thinking SHE wasn't interesting enough to keep you "on".
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:43 AM
1

"yup thanks" nothing longer
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:39 AM
1

It doesn't matter what she's doing. May have nothing to do w you.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:37 AM
1

What's the connection btw autism/adhd and efficacy of melatonin? Autistic and interested.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:35 AM
3

sleep study ANA screen for autoimmune disorders T levels taken CBC (basic blood panel) Chronic fatigue was literally ruining my life and it turned out I had a crazy ass genetic disorder. See a doctor bro.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 06:34 AM
1

Same here. We don't worry about what we dislike, we both just bring in stuff we DO like.
/r/RedPillWives17/08/19 04:12 AM
-3

Lol you know him mom? Projection much?
/r/askMRP17/08/19 04:06 AM
2

Yo, I used to have frequent ones. It is NOT an anxiety attack, and anyone would be alarmed to feel those symptoms. It's literally a fake heart attack. Wish it were called something else. What's fucked up is it turned out I also had a legit heart condition. Anyway, the day it all stopped was the day I was like "I don't give a fuck if I drop dead right now! I HOPE I pass out so my autonomic system will self-regulate w/o me goofing it up!" You gotta accept it, don't fight the feelings.
/r/askMRP17/08/19 04:04 AM
1

My biggedt triggers are people I'm close to. This sounds pussy, but if truly I feel on the verge of clocking someone, I straight up run away. Just go "I need a break" (wife realizes this is a magnanimous understatement) or say nothing, and walk away. Better than being a wife-beater. I do try to eliminate the situation longterm, but sometimes it's an emergency. I also realized I had sensory issues / misophonia and invested in some noise-blocking headphones + earplugs.
/r/askTRP17/08/19 03:54 AM
1

If you give a simple and repeated answer, it should become obvious who is the person escalating and fighting. It kinda puts the impetus/onus to argue on the other person.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/19 04:49 AM
2

I think you could, however, the father figure / roommate thing needs to stop. Sounds like he's just some random guy that you don't even know. If you're a lesbian, there is not going to be a father, and you have to work around that concept. For a male role model, maybe one of the grandfathers? What does traditional mean to you?
/r/RedPillWives04/08/19 01:08 PM
2

Autistic person sensitive to smells here. Air purifier.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/19 01:04 PM
1

>“Why don’t we go to this creamery that x place is known for? We could get ice cream.” >“I don’t think they’d have dairy free ice cream at a creamery,” I said. >“You could look it up and check.” >I started but then I could feel my entire body stress up and get extremely defensive. I realized I didn’t want to do this. >“No,” I said. “I specifically looked up three places in advance so that I wouldn’t have to be stressed out in this moment checking places. I don’t want to do it now and I feel myse…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/19 01:02 PM
1

This sounds like the kind of guy who is going to think you are being manipulative if you try to bring him your emotions, frankly. And I agree that saying "I can't" isn't strictly true. I would simply say "No thank you" calmly and supportively. "Why?" "I would prefer not to due to my allergies." Note the vague statement that alludes to your allergies, but does not get into the nitty gritty of certain items, how hard it would be to do this or that, and so on-- nothing that can be disproven or cons…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/19 12:54 PM
2

Bring your own cheese to a restaurant? Who carries a slice of cheese around on a spontaneous trip?
/r/RedPillWives04/08/19 12:49 PM
1

I'm physically disabled and it "happened" while my relationship was LDR, so my partner had some difficulty taking it as seriously as he needed to (I have a genetic disorder that does not onset until a certain age, and prior to this I seemd fine). Has he been to doctors' appointments with you? Has he seen what actually happens to you if you get sick? For me, I was really covering up my symptoms (not saying what actually happened, isolating myself during the unglamorous parts, not letting him see …
/r/RedPillWives04/08/19 12:47 PM
2

Totally agree with the rephrasing. It needs to include YOUR feelings and why they are YOUR needs rather than an emasculating list of what he is allowed and not allowed to do. When you frame it as a way of taking care of you, there is a positive incentive.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/19 12:39 PM
1

Eh. He shouldn't care if he offers to let her join and she says no. She doesn't like cigars, who cares? He doesn't need to be validated by every single offer being taken up. It's one thing if he's begging her or something but essentially saying "I'm doing X, join me or don't" is fine imo.
/r/askMRP04/08/19 12:31 PM
1

She's just talking to herself, to you. You can't do anything about her family drama so just be a refuge in the sense of not allowing your personal "zone" to become infected with any stupid shit. There are a LOT of relatives coming that sound like they have the potentially to be really fucking annoying, so I'd make sure to fuck her a lot to keep both of your stress levels down (ie get alone time and make it content-rich). Everything will be better if she isn't taking anything seriously because sh…
/r/askMRP04/08/19 12:25 PM
1

Please, please do not have unwanted kids. They will grow up with severe emotional problems and wreak havoc on the world (this is how you create borderlines), and you might wind up a suicide case if things keep on as they are now. If she needs kids that badly, she can become single and raise them herself from a sperm bank. I would MUCH sooner divorce than have kids.
/r/askMRP04/08/19 12:19 PM
1

Borderline personality disorder. Men have it too.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/19 11:39 AM
1

Ditto. There are negative consequences in the rest of your life, hence why it's considered a personality disorder. Although I don't think of it as such unless the topic comes up, I'm what would be considered dark triad as well (which does NOT mean you go around wearing a cape and only doing Darky Dark Dark Eebil things, it can be anyone with normal interests in life within reason) and it's essentially C-PTSD. You're suspicious of everyone, can't and don't want to bond normally, irritated and tur…
/r/askTRP25/06/19 02:21 AM
6

Sounds like she wants to break it off bc she has a bf, but you're acting like y'all didn't even have a good time together. Be nice to her, just say you had a great time with her but understand and wish them the best. Two-word msgs seem passive-aggressive and not abundancy imo.
/r/askTRP06/01/19 09:00 AM
1

Good point. I can't think of an instance of taking photos while just chilling since last Halloween (due to costumes).
/r/askTRP20/10/18 02:24 PM
1

your doc should know (SHOULD being operative, honestly I would google it up beforehand but don't say you did) how to differentially dx chronic fatigue. but since you replied let me list a few things to rule out, i was sloppy before (ignore the electrolyte thing) 1. vitamin deficiencies 2. dehydration 3. anything that could be found on a cbc 4. sleep apnea and other sleep disorders (get a sleep study via referral to sleep specialist if gp is unable to determine cause) 5. autoimmune issues (ANA is…
/r/TheRedPill14/10/18 07:18 AM
4

If you feel low energy at 24 get a CBC (basic blood panel) and take a multivitamin. If you still have substantial fatigue get hydration, electrolytes tested, then an ANA for autoimmune issues. I started feeling bleh at 24 and it turned out to be a serious genetic disorder. My sister, same deal but turned out to be fcking lupus.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/18 02:20 AM
2

I don't do monogamy, so I don't give a shit
/r/TheRedPill07/10/18 12:38 AM
3

Dear god, where did you pick up that analogy?
/r/askTRP04/10/18 11:21 AM
4

Yeah I'm not eager to let my abusive parent live with me and fuck up my mind. OTOH I'm Iranian and putting family out to stay w strangers is not acceptable to us.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 11:19 AM
2

In comments says she's 22 at time of post.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 09:52 AM
1

Concur. This is a poor example to flip out on. Comes off whack.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 09:50 AM
-2

I would, i'm not insecure. I've fucked >300 so what do I care. The real reason not to is if you want to avoid bpd/cluster-b (totally legit life choice but not mine) cause that shit ain't normal for a girl.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 09:40 AM
2

Huh?
/r/askTRP02/10/18 03:17 AM
1

Tell the truth. Just do it fearlessly. She's seen/heard it all. I don't think this is the time to make a sex joke, I think you should just tell her the deal even if it's that you're nervous but decided to go for it. That is the true Way of DGAF.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 03:12 AM
1

Nope. If she's insecure she needs to have a chance to parade around like the alpha female for a minute. Tie FunSize up. Let Kitten say what she wants you to do to her (in a co-domming way, not you serving her way). I do this w my LTR alllll the time and she loves it, and stays out of the way for the rest of the times I meet up w the other girls. It's just a game, so this won't set bossy expectations for the real relationship. And if FunSize is so chill she should be down.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/18 02:24 AM
3

She prob just knows you're insecure about it. In any case that shit is just rude. Either AM or just make her feel like an idiot (if it wasn't meant as a joke) by looking her up and down with faux-concealed disgust like she has no taste or manners whatsoever, then proceed to acting like you don't care. I think agree and amplify is the best choice tho.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 02:22 AM
2

Compromising your principles wouldn't be the deterrent, rooming with someone you don't like for life/longterm would.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 10:55 PM
1

OK most resources on BPD are bogus, but there's ONE book that is awesome. It's not about how someone becomes BPD, it's how to captain them. It made sense to & worked for me and my best friend also had a borderline ltr and it worked for him. He didn't even understand why stuff was working, he just used some of the lines in there and it had reportedly great results (note: I don't endorse blindly following others' advice when health of any kind is involved; he is lucky this is legit and didn't back…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 09:11 PM
1

Huh. Didn't know that. I guess it's my first rodeo then!
/r/askTRP24/09/18 09:08 PM
1

in the immortal words of Courtney Love presumably talking about dating / fucking her, "They get what they want, and they never want it again."
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 08:33 AM
1

Unfortunately that's not even legal in every state. State by state there are lists of what you can't include in a prenup.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 08:28 AM
2

Don't do that. You could clog the toilet badly. Maybe just wash all the cum down the sink out of it lmfao.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 08:25 AM
1

Maybe someone else is feeding her lines? Maybe she meant it was going bad like she was doing a bad job? Is it possible she has Asperger's and went too far / bad job attempting the kind of humor she sees others do (which as someone w/ Asperger's basically seems just like you describe, someone lying for no reason then maybe telling you later)? About the group, I have to wonder if she went home, looked it up, realized they're extremely famous and was embarrassed, and now wants to retract her having…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 08:19 AM
1

possible. post sounded like way more than 2. but maybe something about him attracts them, who knows
/r/askTRP24/09/18 07:42 AM
2

Maybe I've just never caused one to be desperate enough to make serious threats against me. I've had them hurt themselves or break my stuff (lol), but not attempt to defame me or harm me bodily. I've dated and hooked up w like a billion of them too. My ex was in the adult industry and we had an open relationship, so I eventually befriended and/or fucked several of her work friends and a LOT of those chicks have BPD. The manipulation etc tended to be from their psycho moms, who were invariably ea…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 07:37 AM
1

amen
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:54 AM
1

Yup. I can't even count how many dumb ass situations just like OP's that I've been in. Le sigh.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/18 05:48 AM
1

honestly dude, that post sounds waaay more like OP had bpd himself. it's not just a chick thing (looks way diff on guys). anyone who thinks he has legions of women he barely knows out focused to destroy him clearly is suffering substantial emotional impact from what is likely to be not that much work from a bunch of randos.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:41 AM
0

Yawn. They're manipulative like little kids are manipulative. They're hurting or needy or wanty or whatever, and dudes can't stand to see their lady cry so they do all kinds of dumb shit. Don't let your mood rely on headpats from your gf and it won't be so bad. Here's a trick, friend. Next time a borderline pops off @ you about she hates you or you're worthless or whatever, reply literally as though she had just said it about herself w the I/you swapped (like I hate you = you hate me). I'm talki…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:28 AM
2

I'll concede the traits thing though.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:18 AM
0

BPDs lie etc etc Haven't found that to be the case personally. Have seen a LOT of butthurt white knights talking shit on the internet though. They're like little kids, 99% of the time if you handle your shit you can handle them.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:17 AM
1

do you let people vote on what your opinion is going to be?
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:15 AM
1

No, it becomes a disorder when it meets the criteria (and is a functional impairment or you wouldn't be getting the eval). I'm perhaps biased bc I /am/ stereotype-level autistic with a yes-actually BPD ltr. No, not every girl has mild bpd, but I do see bpd as an exaggeratedly feminine set of qualities, probably bc so many of them are media icons of femininity. I don't truly know if OP's gf had bpd or not and am being someone facetious by replying a one-word answer about a serious topic/label, bu…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:08 AM
3

I said a very weak indicator (accidentally said "light", so, no wonder you didn't get it) as in a positive but weak correlation. Meaning don't sweat, but do a once-over and ask yrself is this a fluke or not.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:03 AM
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Agree, but footnote. If she followed you to the couch she is not a normal level of clingy/lonely, her cling/lonliness is strong enough that it interferes w her sleeping pattern too. Combined w repeatedly asking if you're mad, I'd take this as a very light indicator of possible bpd or similar, meaning you need (if you want peace, lol) to preface all these statements in reassurance and be double careful you don't sound like yr judging her.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 12:23 AM
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bpd.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 12:17 AM
1

I'm not being sarcastic! I don't find him charismatic.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 12:15 AM
1

If it's truly without malice. I think OP is full of anger and maybe rightfully so, but if you combine where he's at now with artificial narcissism you'll get Elliot Roger.
/r/askTRP20/09/18 10:43 AM
1

Oh, the irony of this comment.
/r/askTRP20/09/18 07:32 AM
0

I find his posture and eye contact lacking. He talks about it well and shows pictures, but he himself has the charisma of an overcooked noodle.
/r/askTRP19/09/18 09:01 AM
3

Strength: Walking On Hot Coals, or, Your Haz-Mat Suit One thing that pops in my head at the moment is the technique of asking lots of people lots of neutral questions about their personal lives, and don't give too much feedback. You wouldn't believe the crazy stuff people wind up confessing to me, because I have a reputation for not being easily alarmed / judgemental. People do like to talk about themselves, and many things that are seen as too personal to ask about are really things that the pe…
/r/askTRP19/09/18 08:31 AM
1

I don't know if you have a "stereotypical" aspie obsession (mine is Christian theology), but if you do shut up about it from time to time. At least yours is remotely socially acceptable... mine is domestic terrorism >_> (Not doing it myself, obviously.)
/r/askTRP19/09/18 08:18 AM
1

maybe he actually thinks you're his friend and doesn't realize you used to like her and is just bragging?
/r/askTRP18/09/18 10:10 PM
2

lol, not sure if this is a compliment or an insult.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 10:09 PM
1

definitely act confused like you have no idea why he would do that or think you would care. don't reply much
/r/askTRP18/09/18 10:08 PM
1

I agree. School shooters are disproportionately autistic for a reason.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 08:57 AM
2

Just took a look and got a good vibe. Y'all are funny. Maybe I /will/ lurk there (cause I'm new to trading)!
/r/askTRP18/09/18 08:30 AM
1

I'd just act confused, if you do reply. I'd ignore a couple of them then after like 3 times be like "Yo this is [name], are you sending these to the right person?" and if he says something like oh yeah I just wanted you to see me about to bang so and so, or whatever, be like "uhhh, no thanks I'm not into gay shit, you should send it to [his best friend] maybe he'll care". Because it's fucking gay for him to be taunting you with his supposed sex life. Why the fuck would you care!
/r/askTRP18/09/18 07:50 AM
1

What kind of snap, was it like... sexual shit lol? Or just him sitting there alone or what?
/r/askTRP18/09/18 07:48 AM
1

How do you know they're fucking or she sends him nudes, maybe he's just a wannabe. So he was in her room, so what? Maybe he just went in to take a piss or something, or made some excuse just to take the photo in there!
/r/askTRP18/09/18 07:47 AM
4

OK here is a starter bit on some TRP/positive stuff that we are unusually *adept* at doing. If you and another person are at odds, assume as default the thing you want to happen, and put the social burden on the other person. Example 1: If someone says "Those shoes are... interesting..." just nonchalantly/mildly say "Thanks." What are they gonna do, go "No, I was trying to be mean!" ? That would make them look incompetent at mockery. You won by failing to buy into their frame. Even better, just …
/r/askTRP18/09/18 07:34 AM
2

>Look what setting the bar lower for yourself has gotten you so far? Time to start jumping the same size hurdles as other people. I had a whole braggy reply written out to this, but you know what, there's no need. We don't know one another, friend, so let's not make assumptions about eachothers' lives. I'm sure we both have accomplishments and areas to improve like everyone else on the planet. All the best.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 07:01 AM
2

maybe they thought it was a fake invitation, like to be polite? also, interesting typo.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 06:48 AM
2

Hey, blame God for making me so funny that I can't help laughing. In all seriousness, any time I try to tell a story that I find truly hilarious (usually not a joke obviously, but an anecdote of something really absurd/funny/dumb that I saw), I have a fucking laugh attack and can't finish it. It can be pretty annoying cause I never get to tell the story and no one knows what the fuck I'm going on about.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 06:46 AM
3

Thanks man!
/r/askTRP18/09/18 06:45 AM
6

Hey pleeeease be careful my dude. Cluster-B personality disorder diagnoses will follow you around for life if they get into your main (ie non-mental health related) medical record and if something serious actually does happen to you healthwise, people will not believe you and will think it's psychiatric. My gf has BPD, and she also has lupus & and has to do heavy meds and shit so it doesn't destroy her internal organs-- but that diagnosis of BPD kept her from getting diagnosed for years because …
/r/askTRP18/09/18 06:34 AM
1

You don't get it at all, also don't tell me about some imaginary feelings you make up for me, lol. I "didn't like what [you] said" not because I was "invalidated", but because it does not line up with current peer-reviewed research in neuro demonstrating measurable differences between autistic-labeled and nonautistic-labeled persons, nor common sense from anecdotally looking at clusters of behavioral traits that commonly co-occur in the population. YOU are the one saying it makes you a victim or…
/r/askTRP18/09/18 06:21 AM
1

Are you sure they really think you're inferior and you don't just have low self-esteem / are paranoid?
/r/askTRP18/09/18 03:46 AM
2

I don't get the mormon thing's relevance, are you saying that's an example of how extreme your social failure is? But also lmao, that's wild. Probably a blessing in disguise, or maybe you should market it as how to scare them away (Mormon Repellant! tm)
/r/askTRP18/09/18 03:44 AM
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OK, I'm ready to say a bit more. Maybe I should make a post out of my thoughts on this topic... Here's some food for thought. "Autism" means "self-ism". Being oriented toward yourself instead of toward other people. It used to be called "Autistic Psychopathy". And peer-reviewed research shows (crawl NCBI/PubMed about this) that we have many overlapping neuro traits with Antisocial Personality Disorder: easily irritated and overstimulated, low affective empathy, poor facial processing... So what'…
/r/askTRP18/09/18 03:00 AM
3

All of your advice is fine except "deny that you have Asperger's". Idk if you're aware but Asperger's is a lot more than social issues. It's autism. Sensory issues, often comorbid with other serious (as in could kill you) medical problems, neurologically researchers-did-brain-scans-to-prove-it different ass shit. That doesn't mean obsess over it or make excuses (in any form, for any reason, including using ASD as an excuse), but denying reality is BS. Not all of us are some kind of cowering lose…
/r/askTRP18/09/18 02:30 AM
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I have Asperger's. Sometimes people (eg coworkers; I work at a butchery so it's very comradely and we joke on eachother a lot) will fuck w me by telling me something that to them is obviously bogus to see if I can figure it out, but they don't drag it out longer than a few seconds and it's all in good fun and not degrading (I've done far worse to them). Part of why it isn't a problem may be that I openly tell people that I have poor facial processing due to autism and, if they want to know how t…
/r/askTRP18/09/18 01:23 AM
1

Start w the sidebar.
/r/askTRP10/09/18 10:49 PM
0

Surprise spankings? LOL. Groping unwanted kisses? Bro you're making a fool out of yourself being corny.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 01:52 AM
3

Personally I would wait a couple weeks and invite her to something else with a broad date, ie "Hey, was considering going to Lake Berryessa sometime this weekend, you down?" If she declines and doesn't make a counteroffer, cease contact.
/r/askTRP10/09/18 12:40 AM
1

nope.
/r/askTRP09/09/18 04:18 AM
1

I didn't have any overt family trauma as a kid other than my father being a douchebag personality-wise, but I've certainly seen some stuff in life. Dunno if that's related. Yeah, stuff doesn't affect me unless it's actually doing something TO me (eg unable to sleep bc of gf having an extremely loud crying spurt-- got noiseblocking headphones tho so it's all good now), my stuff broken on purpose (but I stayed calm and said it was bedtime for both of us-- it was like 3am-- and simply said that tom…
/r/askTRP09/09/18 01:06 AM
1

Sure, in context. In that photo? Hell no, no offense to OP. Save those shots for bodybuilding.com.
/r/askTRP09/09/18 12:48 AM
1

The real tell within yr sex descrip is that they react ecstatically to attention and approval, and want to do whatever you want in bed so you'll like them.
/r/askTRP09/09/18 12:42 AM
1

It's trauma based, so like highly immersive flashbacks (my partner will think she's another age like 5 or 12 and temporarily forget everything that happened since). Read The Body Keeps the Score for traumatic memory info. It's not as bad as bipolar or schiz but they can go into fugues esp if triggered by substances (no drinking, no coke!!!) or strong emotion.
/r/askTRP08/09/18 11:17 PM
1

lol @ psychopath, i've had many people call me a sociopath but i'm just lowkey autistic so less emotional contagion. you can't exactly control them but you can control YOURSELF and outbursts will run their course much quicker if you don't react except to make brief comments that you still like her. "I HATE YOU!" "That's too bad, I like you."
/r/askTRP08/09/18 11:13 PM
1

Some do, some don't. Personally I have an open relationship so that's not a concern.
/r/askTRP08/09/18 11:12 PM
1

I don't see that as a hard ask so much as letting her know that you won't be chasing her.
/r/askTRP08/09/18 11:11 PM
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5 year LTR w BPD here. They have such severe emotional pain and abandonment issues that they are terrified all the time and it runs their life. Extremely open, childlike, loving, honest in my experience. Extremely loyal but get so scared that they have to test you, disappear so you don't see them breaking down, yell at you (reverse mentally everything they say when they're hysterically yelling/crying. i hate you = i hate myself. i should go fuck the neighbor = i'm afraid you're fucking the neigh…
/r/askTRP07/09/18 03:23 PM
2

BPD 100% for sure.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 03:20 PM
2

then go for it bro. i only date them. if you're a strong person you can do it. the thing above where he says abandonment issues bc he wanted to go get food is dead serious, worst situation I was in girl wouldn't leave my house and would flip out if I even went to the bathroom hahaha. I'm still with her, we figured out a solution (got her an egg timer hourglass to help regulate her time distortion). you gotta realize that there is psychosis involved. but they're so used to ppl being mad at them t…
/r/askTRP07/09/18 03:18 PM
1

LOL @ fun w knives, true af my gf is obsessed w them (& has bpd) yes @ borderline psychosis, this is not taken seriously enough, it's literally partially a psychotic (in the hallucinations sense, not psycho slang sense) disorder
/r/askTRP07/09/18 03:17 PM
1

gotcha, I'm in the US (obviously lol)
/r/askTRP07/09/18 03:15 PM
1

Black girls constantly, constantly hear that they're "sassy" to the point that it's now considered an offensive trope, unless you're black too just don't esp at work. If you are, carry on lol.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 03:12 PM
2

LOL!
/r/askTRP07/09/18 03:06 PM
1

Read the article. He went from disabled to able-bodied, probably just mad hyped. Went thru similar myself a long time ago, not as drastic.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 03:04 PM
1

It's a common expression in Asia.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:57 PM
1

She's just busy. "It's all good, hmu when you wanna hang out!"
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:54 PM
1

I agree. I've had serious LDRs, and my fiance and I got serious within a month (7 years now). We don't know them. He should just talk to her. Christ.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:49 PM
2

It's not moralizing, you're butthurt that someone doesn't have the same taste as you. They're too young for him. Move on.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:38 PM
2

Legal risk.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:35 PM
3

both are hot.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:33 PM
1

Put a shirt on, no body-only pics. Addicted to black sounds like it means race and honestly even sounds gay, sorry but it's true (maybe I'm biased to think race bc gf is black and nonblack dudes are constantly making dumb chocolate etc remarks to her, but...). I agree on include other people. More eyes.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:31 PM
2

... Hope you meant "trustworthy", bro.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:28 PM
2

If you look like this you don't need Tinder. People will notice you. Fix whatever's fucking you up irl.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:25 PM
0

You're not in STEM, are you? OP: student loans.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:20 PM
1

bpd. let her take her time, she's trying to avoid going clingy nuts on you, see other people.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:16 PM
1

Jesus Christ. You can't yell at someone til they like you. Leave her alone.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:10 PM
1

Safety thing. Let her, who cares! Twice the girls.'
/r/askTRP07/09/18 02:03 PM
1

A lot of women like it, in fact. Do you. It's not thirsty unless YOU'RE thirsty.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:59 PM
1

amen.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:58 PM
0

wow wtf. if i said this to a chick and she flipped out like some of y'all butthurts I would assume bpd immediately. saying she can tell you'll be friends is GOOD. doesn't say "and never fuck, never date later, and I hate you" fer Chrissake. relax. you've only been out for like 30m, you think she's gonna bust it open over appetizers?
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:55 PM
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Amused mastery ASAP. "Explains why you were crying 'Fuck me, Luigi!' in your sleep. Shit was hilarious." Either she is dreaming it for real in which case make it funny and harmless, or she's fucking w you and you can let her wonder why/if you're fucking w her too. What's she gonna do, be like "Wait, what? But I was lying!" Who gives a fuck what she dreams about? Don't try to decode this nonsense; if she's actually cheating a) who cares unless you get an std b) you'll figure it out eventually.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:42 PM
1

If you feel that she truly is self-conscious etc, I'd simply say that I did like her. I think you messed up by making it an ultimatum-- why bother threatening not to go down on her otherwise, unless you were afraid you needed some leverage? It's a chick, fear of no head is not more salient than need for approval. It just kinda made it seem like you're afraid of natural pussy or like she didn't look good or something. Keep it positive, that's what she's trying to get out of the convo. Girls get t…
/r/askMRP07/09/18 01:34 PM
1

Or simply don't reply. When she asks later, just go "Oh, I got distracted with work. Love to see em now [/ see it in person, if she asks in person]."
/r/askMRP07/09/18 01:29 PM
0

"I'll worry about what I'm into, you worry about doing what I say."
/r/askMRP07/09/18 01:24 PM
1

Oh interesting, so it has a permanent effect even though it's only for 6 mo? Kinda makes me wanna look into it myself. I don't have serious acne but I do still have acne at age 30.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:15 PM
1

Yes.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 01:13 PM
1

Word. I mean I've lived with several and survived it, but at this age, I'm just over not having total control of my env. I'm very irritable to sensory overstim and the crying can really get to be too much for me personally. I don't want to suggest that no one w bpd including guys can have a normal relationship, they just can't have one with me. But what I have now seems to be working out for both of us.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/18 01:11 PM
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I would assume the girl was confused as to why people were laughing. Dunno why people were looking at you though... Re: people can sense what you're thinking-- this guy was probably talking about vague body language type stuff, or was on some I-have-new-insight-into-interpersonal-interaction guru trip. Or maybe you personally have very expressive body language, or a worse ability to read other people than normal so many people seem abnormally good at it to you. But I assure you they can't tell w…
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:46 PM
1

It's much better for females to use their wits to deescalate a situation when a guy has an out of control temper. Don't do nothing and just take it, but that doesn't mean physically engaging a losing battle either. It's basically a hostage situation if the guy is really out of control / on drugs / etc. Placate, calm him down, make a smart exit.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 11:34 PM
1

what race/s are you if you don't mind me asking? might be helpful for the replies to consider.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 01:17 PM
1

true.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 01:16 PM
1

Yes and yes.
/r/askMRP04/09/18 01:11 PM
0

Lot of dumb comments here. I would agree to talk BUT 1) at an agreed upon, later time 2) for a predefined amt of time 3) she needs to bring a concrete list of her 3 biggest issues re the topic at hand and her dream outcome for each of them. Doesn't mean yr gonna do it, but will give you a sense of the situation. Then make her an offer of what you are willing to do, and does she agree to try that for X days/weeks without giving up?
/r/askMRP04/09/18 01:04 PM
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yeah, i'll agree to that.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 12:27 PM
1

Oh please. Is this what you fap to? You know how few girls do DP or shit like that? Honestly sounds like this is some kinda fantasy for you lol.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:29 AM
1

Just don't come at it like you're mad or desperate... Think about what YOU want, be sure, and make her a concrete offer. Don't drag your feet trying to get permission / validation and make her tell you all her feelings first etc (when I said find out if she's into you, I should have said ask her if she wants [whatever you want] and say you do)-- she can take you up on it or reject you, but you need to be grounded in your life and desires; know what you want and go for it. If it doesn't work out,…
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:26 AM
1

Girls who have childhoods like that are going to have personality issues. You need to be real w yourself about whether you can handle this and not be resentful if she tries to cling (be nice but maintain your own boundaries), etc. Will probably be challenging for a first serious relationship. But if you're serious this time...
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:21 AM
1

I don't understand the post, do you mean she literally wants to blend her work and life, or just that she wants to be more social than you? Do you both agree on what the conflict is? Sit down w her, both describe what you each think the conflict is, each of you make a CONCRETE LIST of your material or abstract needs/wants and try to find a soln. This sounds like it's a pretty involved situation that will actually require some strategizing. Why do you mind that her calendar is so full, is she try…
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:17 AM
1

Imo you freaked her out by trying to artificially cut her off, she detected it & thought you didn't like her, got involved w someone else but still likes you. You need to end these games and outright tell her that yr interested but need to know what the deal is, is she into you or not? Don't orbit but don't be afraid to call the hand. Liking a girl for real and wanting to be bf/gf is not oneitis, don't listen to these idiots. Oneitis is thinking your life couldn't go on w/o her. She said she lov…
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:08 AM
1

Nope, don't overrely on it. Personally I have a fb but find it kind of gay. I'm 29 btw.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:02 AM
0

Beard will make it worse. OP, if you have a baby face, yr gonna have to own it.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:00 AM
1

Definitely do something. Yes hair is fine. Just face her and don't get psyched out and stuck spooning. Sounds like she's willing to escalate somewhat herself so you may get away w being somewhat shy as it sounds like you are. But make no mistake, she's escalating on purpose.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 11:00 AM
0

These guys are trolling. It's pussy! Who the fuck doesn't like pussy? Enjoy bro.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:57 AM
1

Yeah I have been there taking meds and not being able to remember that meds are causing the mental health sides. It's almost impossible to maintain perspective. But I think OP needs to try something concrete. OP could you commit to trying it for X months then no matter what go off it for X months afterward to compare how you feel?
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:55 AM
2

This is not that severe, don't freak OP out by portraying this as a serious accutane case as OP's is prob worse. OP, yes try medication. Just keep your psych in the loop. In the meantime join an online support group.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:51 AM
1

Okay, I really hope you read this reply out of all the troll replies you're gonna get. I used to think about this all the time. Barring the unlikely circumstance that you have a psychotic/paranoid disorder etc, this is mostly likely a form of severe OCD. Google "pure-O OCD". Think about it, if people could read others' thoughts why wouldn't you be able to? Why wouldn't everyone exploit this for money (poker, etc wouldn't be hard). The responses you're describing people giving are generic and not…
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:44 AM
1

Nighttime walk. Somewhere without a structure you can rely on as a crutch (no movies etc).
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:41 AM
2

She was probably serious about her place being messy-- take them to your place. Girls are self-conscious about guys going down on them or maybe you were doing a shitty job-- but she decided you were overeager and had no class. Should have moved on to another activity.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:39 AM
1

Don't worry about it, you may act the fool a few times but it'll run its course.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:36 AM
2

Drugs ain't beta, but I agree about not writing it down.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:34 AM
3

I agree. She doesn't need a play by play. Keep it classy. "Been hanging out with some foreign exchange students my roommate met" or similar is better. She can wonder if there are girls etc.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:31 AM
1

I've seen the same. The guys I know who are complete naturals genuinely love being around women and have mostly female friends.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:24 AM
1

Which side is open? Me too.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:21 AM
2

WTF is with these retarded comments. This is anti-slut defense. Let her have 3 dates. She's not playing you, you're doing fine.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:15 AM
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Atlanta, NYC, any major city. In the south there will be more stigma for an interracial relationship if you're white though. I agree w you, I find a lot of black and latina women more feminine.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:10 AM
1

I would explain the situation ONCE. But, consider that it might be flirting.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:07 AM
0

Be polite. No need to embarrass her outright or you'll get a reputation as a dick. Maybe she just wants to be friends anyway. Possibly showing up at the same party as you is not needy/clingy lol, you must have not seen needy in real life.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:05 AM
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I date drastically down in age, but I wouldn't exactly say it's psychologically normal. People dating w a 10yr age gap have Reasons. As for fucking, tho, just don't do illegal shit and/or get caught.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 10:02 AM
1

I think tracking your morning wood is overdoing it.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 09:57 AM
1

Not 20-30 times a day, but I had a period where I would do it at work and shit. That shit can turn into a drug real fast. Just don't let it get out of control.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 09:56 AM
1

Well, not all porn has a guy in it. I watch two chicks or solo.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 09:52 AM
2

I don't drink but I downplay it a lot. No need to go into a soliloquy about life strategy every time someone offers me a beer. I just say "I'm good, thanks." When people see a pattern, I just say I've nothing against it (a lie, haha) but it's not my jam.
/r/askTRP02/09/18 02:06 AM
1

Oh, no need to convince me, my friend. I have zero desire to marry or cohabitate with a partner; it would be abominably boring to be subject to someone else's entitled harassment 24/7. But surely it isn't men driving marriages? I would think that they're primarily a "woman thing".
/r/askTRP01/09/18 02:15 AM
1

As for the anecdote from your mom-- it is exactly that, an anecdote, which by your logic is liable to be dishonest anyway since women don't give credible information to males (unless it's different for family, in which case I might stack my anecdotal comments from my family against the same from yours, and now we're even).
/r/askTRP27/08/18 03:45 AM
1

it's not my sensitive disposition in question, as it was not addressed to me anyway. EDIT: came back to give a more honest, less bs argumentative reply. the real reason I commented in disfavor of your comment is that I've seen what causes people to follow up and take in and eventually master information, vs what drives people away from the subject altogether. you're under no obligation to attempt to convey the material to a n00b, but the fact that you bothered to reply in the first place is such…
/r/askTRP27/08/18 03:43 AM
1

you need smarter partners.
/r/askTRP27/08/18 02:24 AM
1

also I think "you obviously don't know anything about TRP wakka wakka wakka" is jerkish. this is an ASK sub after all.
/r/askTRP27/08/18 02:22 AM
1

most women want to divorce that doesn't seem right. i know a couple of women who don't like/love their husbands, but most all of my close female friends who are married apparently intend to stay that way.
/r/askTRP27/08/18 02:20 AM
1

Uh yes it's definitely possible that you have some kind of attachment issue or mental health problem from that. Most abuse survivors do. It would be abnormal NOT to. But I can't say whether this has impacted your love life without seeing it unfold.
/r/askTRP27/08/18 02:19 AM
1

Hmm. I've met people thru forums, chat, facebook, etc. But you'd have to trust their judgement meaning it probably shouldn't be someone you just met for that purpose (also, beware of friending/PMing girls uninvited on fb, some have a real stick up their ass about it and will assume it's sexual). Maybe a sibling/cousin?
/r/askTRP27/08/18 02:11 AM
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imo, if you are more content doing those things, go ahead. gossiping in the office is good for nothing-- but always being on the receiving end of circulating info bc you're perceived as so nonjudgemental and neutral is ok (for some reason people tend to project friendliness and lack of derision onto me when I don't give a shit-- and they tend to think that oh, that's just the way he is, calm and level-headed etc bc I'm barely engaging in something so ~controversial~). of course, if you do feel l…
/r/askMRP26/08/18 12:32 PM
0

case 1: she's a hassle and a golddigger, let her move on to someone else to scam case 2: if you for some reason determine she is genuinely into you, good for you, etc, see the following: If it were me with my gf, I would keep being nice to her (within reason-- I'm a bit of a lovebomber but with immobile boundaries) like nothing was happening. Do not take on any of the burden of implementing a situation you don't want. She may of her own accord present to you some hedging content about what would…
/r/askMRP26/08/18 11:47 AM
1

I would normally say "find a more emotional woman" (yes, I like to live life on the edge heh), but since this is Mrp-- just figure out what legitimate issue/behavior will push her buttons-- or just live your damn life. sooner or later if you're doing whatever you want it will clash with any given person's wants/feelz/etc. if you have to manufacture drama you're not having enough fun in life.
/r/askMRP26/08/18 11:35 AM
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no need to repost this comment 100 times dude.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/18 06:09 AM
1

female alpha is real, but she often doesn't want to be alpha in the bedroom. that's my 2 cents. concur on "tldw please"
/r/becomeaman26/08/18 05:11 AM
1

Interesting post. This isn't something that I struggle with (I think) but I am happy you posted this.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/18 04:39 AM
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If you're autistic (I am, and this advice is tailored to that context), I recommend getting at least one close confidant (can be online or whatever) who can help you parse the wild situations we get into with allistics. Also, try to get people to tell you about their personal problems (again, online, w/ ppl you won't know irl, and do it just by asking neutral questions and responding neutrally w/o attempting to comfort them); often the stories will be about interpersonal relationships and/or soc…
/r/askTRP26/08/18 02:58 AM
3

my ex did this. she was like a hobbyist dreamer.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/18 11:15 AM
2

totally agree. sick of the lack of taking charge of one's own life and finances (it's called fucking hustling, catch up) and whining about boomers. and the indulgence in describing onesself as weak and lazy as though it were something positive or universally sympathetic-- disgusting.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/18 11:04 AM
1

I definitely encounter issues with others being afraid of my eye contact. To the point that I probably don't make enough eye contact now because it seemed like I must have been coming off like a serial killer or something, and as funny as it may be it's not always the best thing to be freaking people out. Context: I'm legit autistic (you can't really tell unless you know me or catch a particularly revealing moment though-- also, I have no problem with being such, so don't take this as some self-…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/18 10:49 AM
1

gotta agree, drunk driving ain't cool.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/18 10:36 AM
1

You should project a confident, positive image toward everyone anyway, so go ahead and include her in it.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/18 10:24 AM
1

pretty accurate description, but it isn't exactly a fate worse than death to have a sex slave. it makes me laugh how many guys on here break out the garlic and crosses when it comes to bpds when really their emotions are a billion times more manipulable than anyone else's-- just takes a light touch and strong personal boundaries. have dated several, with one now, & wouldn't date any other breed. yeah it's a hassle and they're not a good idea as NSA/fwb, but as longterm investments it's totally w…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/18 10:00 AM
1

bs. shot dope iv for 6 years. quit cold turkey for grad school.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/18 02:13 AM
1

>and just sort of have a malaise about me What do you mean? If you actually feel sluggish and "off" all the time and haven't identified a clear physical reason, I encourage you to look into this. I would have said this about myself a couple years ago and it turned out to be Serious Medical Issues (tm).
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 11:32 AM
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>That's one reason why men are allowed to whore it up, they are the ones that control commitment. You know this can run in the other direction. I'm a chick and I feel that I control commitment. I'm seeing 2 guys seriously (5 and 7 years) who are amazing, both would marry me now if I accepted, and I fuck whoever I want.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 11:29 AM
1

>hand literally opens up randomly If you don't get a satisfactory answer from PT, I would look towards orthopedics then neurology as depts.
/r/askMRP16/08/18 11:00 AM
1

If you've had a ONS, it's tough to make him wait and hold any credibility that you truly love him, imo. If you've done a threesome, it's tough to be credible and turn down my advances towards that (though if you haven't, I wouldn't be opposed to a girl who didn't want to.) How would a dude know all this about you though? I certainly don't run around telling everyone everything I've ever done-- which is a lot, and I'm cool w/ that. I feel like if the guy wants me to do all this shit for him, be f…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 08:48 AM
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>and only if he has explicitly stated that he's looking for something of substance I mean, unless we just want a FWB in that situation also. I think the idea should just be that you feel you're on the same page (but at the same time, don't grill the poor guy about What Is This after a few dates-- let him do it, I'd say).
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 08:43 AM
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