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Keep trying.
/r/ExRedPill06/08/25 10:09 PM
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Yep that's the risk you've got to be willing to take, eh? You can't make a goal you don't shoot for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:06 AM
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The obesity rate has tripled, yes... But so have stress levels, and many other factors that could/would contribute to weight gain. Women are no longer at home all day with plenty of time to care for themselves like they were in the 60's + 70's. Life is completely different now than it was then.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:43 PM
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As if they would even listen to kind words?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:38 PM
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The world is your oyster man. If this is men's mentality these days, it's no wonder women are surpassing men in many different arenas.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 08:42 PM
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It sounds like you don't want or need it bad enough then! Which is fine! Just know there's always more you can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 08:26 PM
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If you're into "normal" things, then it shouldn't be too hard to find a group of other normies. If you think you're too "weird" for normies, then follow your interests further or find something to get into. Better yet, find an exercise-based group (i.e. running, hiking, or walking groups, join some gym classes, find a climbing gym, etc. these would be nice normie things to do in groups).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 08:17 PM
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Of course they do! They just have to find it. It's like saying "I don't have any hobbies"... Well, what do you spend your time doing? If you're just watching TV then maybe it's time to start exploring more productive ways to spend your time. No niche? Find one. Don't be a bump on a log.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 07:58 PM
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I believe it was the conservatives who coined the snowflake thing. Ironically, they voted for their snowflake feelings instead of looking at the future of citizen rights and freedoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 01:00 PM
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What's fucked is that I've actually heard that, IN PERSON, as a thing they are worried about: trans surgeries in prison. FFS. Like that's something that affects the population on a large scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 12:59 PM
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Feminism is why women finally have these rights. It wasn't that long ago that Feminism came about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 12:46 PM
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Oh please.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 12:33 PM
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I love how you think somehow manual labor jobs will magically pay more if white men are hired for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 12:20 PM
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But it's NaTuRaL tO gIvE biiiiiRtHhhh....gggggggggh....
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:12 PM
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Or "rebelling" for the wrong reasons (like illegal immigrants! And post-birth abortions hur dur).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:55 PM
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Yeah but who cares about cultural?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:53 PM
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Let me guess... You're voting for Trump?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:32 PM
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GROSS.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:29 PM
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It's their life. And it's absolutely none of your business what choices other people make. That's what this all ultimately comes down to. Your opinion of marriage is yours alone, and you should not be trying to push it on others with laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 03:44 PM
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Marriage is what you make of it - being able to divorce easily won't change that. Conservatives or society won't be able to change people's views if they want to get married over and over again. Also, who gives a shit? Let people live their lives how they want to, people need to keep their judgements to themselves. Two parent households are better for children, but worse when the parents have a toxic relationship (I was a child of this, so I have firsthand experience wishing my parents would jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:02 PM
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Your 4th point is completely irrelevant. Cheaters are going to cheat whether they're married or not. Also, your other points are just not that strong and can be easily countered. It seems these ideas are extremely outdated.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:26 AM
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Have a visit over at r/regretfulparents, maybe you'll change your mind
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:24 AM
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Life is short, and you get only one. Why spend it living in fear? Go with the flow with everyone you meet, if things start getting serious with a woman, just go with it! Done waste time and energy over analyzing every aspect of every person or relationship. Learn to get over things quickly and move on! I am a good 10 years older than you and that would be my advice for you. Women prefer the less anal men anyway, so being chill and letting things roll off your back can only help you.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/24 04:01 PM
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Also, I love your flair!! I say that shit all the time 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:35 PM
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Yuup! I'm grateful I found a homebody man, lmao. He's so homebody, I don't ever have to worry about him cheating either, which is nice. We spend all our time together. Wouldn't have it any other way!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:34 PM
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And that's why they won't see consistent puss without paying someone for it, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:52 PM
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No, you're right, not over looks + money. But when women say "money", what they really mean is a stable income that is not minimum wage. We just want a capable, resourceful man that can be a go-getter when he needs to be. He doesn't need to be a millionaire, but he needs to be employed and when he gets unemployed he actively looks for a job and doesn't laze around playing video games all day. He needs to be a reliable, productive member of society, and someone for her to be proud of. That's way …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:50 PM
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Women also value a good soul. I'd even say 90% of single women want their future husband to be their best friend. To grow together and die together. Can't do that with a huge age gap or with a husband who is gone traveling for work all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:40 PM
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But you just said a "luxurious life" is what women want, which is not necessarily true.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:37 PM
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I don't disagree, but women these days really just want an equal partner. Someone to enjoy life with together as best friends, to grow old together. An older man who has money is fine, I guess, but it's not as big of a draw as PPD men seem to think it is. For us women, that just sounds like work. It sounds like he wants a woman to do stuff for him and then eventually take care of him when he's super old. I'd rather we go through life together since we're the same age.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:36 PM
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Nope. That's what you, as a man, would choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:30 PM
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It's funny how little PPD men put value in being charismatic, whereas that's a pretty huge priority for us women. Charisma, confidence, and sense of humor. Make me laugh every day and you could look like Danny DeVito and I'd still want to spend all my time with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:29 PM
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I don't understand why men on here don't get this, lmao. Women don't just want a rich husband. That's absolutely not enough. Especially millennial women - we want a best friend, a life PARTNER. Not just someone who pays for our shit. Man, PPD men are so shortsighted, or dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:26 PM
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According to MEN. Women have completely different desires in a man than what you are proposing. Remember, women are thinking about how their life will be like with this man, living with him, spending every day together, sharing a life, etc. If the guy is old and is gone traveling for work all the time, that's not going to be appealing to women. Most women want their mate to also be their best friend. Not just a money bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:23 PM
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Bingo!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:18 PM
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No, being kind to animals is HUGE for women. At least for millennials and younger. Millennials love us some pets.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:06 PM
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EXACTLY.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 07:55 PM
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But this happens to everybody, not just women. Men too. People just need to get over it. It's reality. Not everyone's dreams come true and that's OKAY.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 07:53 PM
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Amen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 12:31 PM
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Men seem to just be driven by impulse I guess. Impulse-driven monkeys.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 11:43 AM
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I disagree that feminists think women can be as strong as men and do everything men can do. Women can try, but we'll always come up short because men are always going to be biologically stronger. It takes a lot of testosterone injections to become a female bodybuilder that could be seen as "stronger" than a regular man. But the minute those injections stop, the muscles start to literally melt away. That's how our bodies work. I can lift at the gym every single day, and still come up short agains…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 11:02 AM
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No, that's bullshit. Especially when women have physical limitations to our strength that would prevent us from doing some of the jobs that certain men can do. And even then, there are many men that can't do those jobs either, so your point is dumb and nonsensical. We want equal RIGHTS, like bodily autonomy, and we want to be treated as though we are on the same level as men socially. Not being able to lift heavy things has absolutely nothing to do with how people are treated. Also, there are ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:56 PM
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No, being treated equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 11:29 AM
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Oh yes, it's totally retarded for women to want to be equal to men... Amiright, boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 08:43 PM
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This is absolutely what red pill teaches. Y'all can be pedantic about it and try to say it's NOT these things, but there are pages upon pages of "field reports" and other such BS redpillers spew that contradicts what you're claiming.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 08:35 PM
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Mhmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 06:44 PM
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If the divorce is amicable, and both parties agree with the way things are being split, there's no reason for the courts to intervene with who gets what. So her story could very well be true. She never explained how she has all that money, so it's highly likely she has a fuckton of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 09:29 PM
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I think what men in this sub need to realize is that it's not personal. Women are driven by biology just as much as men are. They are just different biological goals. Men to produce an offspring, women to produce a successful offspring (which in this world means smart and beautiful). So her standards have to be higher than the "average" man's standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 09:12 PM
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Think about it evolutionarily or biologically. Males need to spread their seed, it doesn't really matter THAT MUCH what the woman looks like, as long as he succeeds in reproducing. Right? That's his biological imperative. On the other hand, women are the ones who not only have to bear a man's child, but she also has to take care of it and raise it until adulthood, and it is her biological imperative to ensure the eventual success of her offspring. Ensuring the success of her offspring entails fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 09:07 PM
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It's what it is. Women have to be more selective, it's biology. Men just need to get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 08:26 PM
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There's nothing wrong with that! The issues arise when she ends up NOT being interested in him romantically and he throws a tantrum because he thinks he wasted his time. And doing that makes her even more turned off, removing any chances he might have had. If he stayed her friend, he could have grown on her and she could have changed her mind later. But getting bitter and pissy early on really gives women the ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:31 PM
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But historically, men DID use it a whole lot, and they still do! Maybe not as much as in the past, but you don't have to look hard to find it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 07:23 PM
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No no no, I'm not saying it's pathetic to share what you've learned. I'm saying it's pathetic to not move past it and to not realize there's a lot more going on than just "rom coms aren't real". I'm talking about the guys who complain and cry about things that were never reality to begin with, and using that as a reason for why they are still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:27 PM
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Can you suggest a less offensive word? I couldn't think of one when I wrote my comment 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:25 PM
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You need to expose yourself to more women. I understand that's challenging in itself, but you won't get success unless you are around women enough to catch one. Think about the kind of hobbies you want your woman to have... Maybe yoga or cycling/spin, hiking, running, sports? Then go join those classes and show up every time. Not only will you gain a new hobby yourself, but you'll make new friends and the women who go to those classes will learn about your existence and will start to feel comfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:10 PM
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They are adults. It's common for teenagers to go through this realization, but a full grown adult feeling bitter about rom coms not being reality is... Pretty pathetic and shows some emotional and social stuntedness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:51 PM
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Also, most women are itching to get rid of the apps. I know so many women who go through phases of deleting all dating apps for periods of time, then installing them again when they have no luck. They get fed up really quickly from the low quality men on there. An IRL spark will always be better than apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 12:25 PM
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You might be right. But to be fair, we were in college and had some background, so we knew OF each other before we "met". So right there he had already established some amount of rapport. I get that you're saying the apps make it so she's talking to many different men, but I promise you IRL interactions are much more impactful than swipes and convos that go nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 11:55 AM
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Well, I agree that on the individual level, who knows what anyone's intentions really are. But in general, most women's goal when it comes to relationships is to find someone to share their life with, to grow old together with. I don't think that wish is dead on a large scale quite yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 08:25 PM
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Do you disagree that most women desire a life partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 08:18 PM
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Yeah, same with me + my husband. We started out just friends, then we were hanging out every chance we got. He valued our friendship so much that he didn't want to make the first move in case it went wrong. I felt I knew him well enough to trust him and feel safe around him, so I made the first move. We've been together ever since (nearly 15 years now). We're still best friends and we're inseparable. I did grow up in a cult, so I needed more trust + comfort before I felt safe enough to consider …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 07:57 PM
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Don't you think you should find out if you're compatible with a woman before you commit to her? Lol. From your comment it sounds like you're only concerned with whether or not you're physically attracted to her, when that's not what makes a relationship last long term. If long term isn't your goal, then you should narrow down your search big time, because 99% of women date to find a life partner. Why waste their time for anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 07:46 PM
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That's exactly how it went with my husband and I. We started hanging out as friends. Of course he was attracted to me and probably (definitely) wanted to bang me out. But he valued our friendship more than that and wasn't willing to risk it by coming on too strong. In the end, I did wish he had made a move first, but I ended up making the first move and we've been together ever since. He respected me as a friend first and foremost. He allowed me the space to feel safe and comfortable around him.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 07:38 PM
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Women can handle their own resources? What happened to the wage gap complaints and how are you gonna be handling it when you get pregnant? Yes, women in general can handle their own resources. Most women have a job or are in school. Dating or marrying for money/resources is becoming less and less common. Although I will concede that it has become more difficult to live a good life without dual incomes, so having A JOB is a big attractant. Wage gap complaints will not go away until the wage gap g…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:56 PM
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Actually yes that is also absurd. I don't believe "most women want to be able to exchange sex for resources". Even unintentionally! The majority of hetero- women with LTR intentions want to find their life partner, someone to grow old with. Women can handle their own resources these days, and anyone exchanging sex for resources makes it pretty clear from the outset (whether they say it upfront or show signs of being materialistic and money-grubby).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:38 PM
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That's an absurd generalization - I hate to have to remind you that women don't make decisions as a whole ("women aren't a monolith" have you heard that one yet?), therefore it is not accurate to assume all women have the same intentions or thoughts. I, for one, do not think that way (that my advice could make him more successful, which would create competition... Or something). You are applying mental gymnastics to explain something that is so individual and subjective. Guess what? Some people …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 04:59 PM
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Funnily enough, certain personality traits are needed in order to have the guts to get yourself to the gym and stick with it until your lifestyle improves permanently. It takes determination and optimism to improve your look at the gym. Two things many men lack in their personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 07:32 PM
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He's gaslighting with that "why are you angry?" Bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:35 PM
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Everyone, men included, is out here trying to find the best mate for the job. Call it branch swinging, call it hypergamy, it's all the same and all humans do it. I don't understand why men think only women do it. Men are having tantrums online about it and it's ridiculous. Just keep moving forward, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:30 PM
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To their own detriment, it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:27 PM
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We are all fed lies when we are kids, that we learn are lies when we become adults. You're acting like it's some great offense that the real world is different than you imagined it as a child. There is no real Santa Claus, and there is no Disney princess waiting for you when you grow up. You learn as you go, we all do. Maybe we all need to be updating our worldview more often to not get caught up and offended by such things.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:24 PM
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Whatever, then I used the word consent incorrectly. Your last paragraph is all I was getting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 11:21 AM
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Then they shouldn't be surprised if a stranger isn't interested in giving out their number to another stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:50 PM
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If you don't need it to happen then you don't need it to happen! It's not like it's anyone else's loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:39 PM
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You're not wrong! But a true confident man will take life by the wheel and put his best foot forward and try things and see if he can get what he wants. Unfortunately, all this back + forth messaging is detrimental to the more delicate men out there that lack confidence in themselves. The only solution is to find that courage within and stand up for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:38 PM
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If that happened to you then I'm quite sorry. That's not a normal or average thing that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:04 PM
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It's called non-verbal cues, like smiling, being calm, having positive vibes. Don't approach if she's obviously in a bad mood or not trying to talk to people. It's not that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:02 PM
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Can you talk with a female coworker about the girl you like? Maybe she can ask and feel her out for you? You don't have to be paranoid and scared. If she has been giving you hugs then she's obviously comfortable being around you, so I highly doubt she'd go nuts if you asked to hang out with her outside work. Have a little more confidence in yourself. Women react poorly to being approached when it's an inappropriate time to be approached, and likely by a stranger she's never seen before. You are …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:41 PM
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Don't approach a random woman on the street. You're taking this concept to the extreme. Woman want to have at least seen you once or twice before, like if you share a bus route, or literally any other situation where you are in the same vicinity as one another on a regular or semi-regular basis. A random guy you've never seen before approaching you can be scary! That's how certain murders and kidnappings happen. She needs to have seen your face a few times in order for her to feel more at ease t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:31 PM
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Then approach with her consent? I love how that's not even an option that would cross your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:22 PM
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Look, women don't want to be approached by random men they've literally never seen before. The only place it's okay to approach a stranger is in an environment where meeting strangers is encouraged, like a bar, or mixer, or party, or club, or any place where people congregate to meet. If a guy stops me on the damn street and tries to talk to me, I'm putting my guard up and thinking about where my keys are or my pepper spray. That's what we mean when we say don't approach. It's scary to us to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:20 PM
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Yeah, don't ever approach a woman "off the street". That's way too random and sketchy. Approach her in a setting where you see each other on a regular basis. She needs some amount of rapport in order to not feel predated on. That being said, if you don't approach any woman ever, then you're never going to find anyone. You shouldn't be giving up so quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:08 PM
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Y'all men give up way too easily. And tbh, that in itself is a turn-off.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:05 PM
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Not always! You've got to be good company to make women want to be around you. Most unsuccessful men aren't good company to be around, for anyone, not just women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 08:21 PM
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You're right! And most women of that height don't usually land a 6' man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:57 PM
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Being a dominant person is. Nope, being a CONFIDENT person is. Women don't appreciate men for being funny Women absolutely do appreciate men who are funny. There are so many conventionally unattractive comedians with hot wives. Funny + confident can cancel most ugly looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:49 PM
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Most women just want a man taller than them. It has nothing to do with society or what other women want. In general, a tall man will be at least 6 feet tall, so it's like an easy round number.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 06:37 PM
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You're absolutely right. I regret saying it the way I did. It was a shorthand way of saying "poor choices, low education likely, possibly mental disorders like bipolar, etc." even with those qualities they are not bad people or low quality people. Low quality choice of partner may be a better way of putting it.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/24 08:26 PM
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It sounds like your work exposes you to the lowest quality women that are out there. That might be poisoning your general view of women, don't you think? It might help to set your sights higher than that, since it sounds like you want to avoid women with shitty qualities.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/24 05:49 PM
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In the west, we usually are friends first and attraction grows within the friendship.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/24 05:34 PM
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The thing you have to understand about women is that we pick for long-lasting, long-term relationships that will likely outlast looks (we hope). If we pick for short-lasting qualities, we're shooting ourselves in the foot. That's why you're seeing so many comments about how their attraction grew over time - the men in those scenarios likely had other non-physical qualities that she highly desired, and due to those qualities, her physical attraction grew more and more over time. That's kind of ho…
/r/ExRedPill28/01/24 05:32 PM
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I think it's a sore spot because they are not used to thinking with their brains, but thinking with their peckers. It's pretty gross, tbh. And that mentality is what leads people to bad relationships/marriages. Marrying solely on looks is risky as fuck. Especially for women! I guess it's a risk men are willing to take, but then they shouldn't bitch and moan when the hot chick takes them to the cleaners when they eventually get a divorce. They get what's coming to them for being so short-sided an…
/r/ExRedPill28/01/24 05:18 PM
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Well damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:17 PM
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You're an awful human being if that's how you feel about this planet, you know, the only home we've got.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:09 PM
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These days, this phrase should be changed to: "doormat pushover guys finish last". Because the word "nice" in this context seems to be taken way too literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:08 PM
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Ah yes, "God" is definitely a present force in our society. /s 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:06 PM
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You're right! Why would any woman want to reproduce with someone who is blatantly uglier than any average person? Especially with how society props up attractiveness (being attractive is like an insurance policy). Reproducing with an ugly person increases the risk of having ugly children, and that's not a good life for those children. It's an unfortunate situation, but it's really for the best interest of your progeny. Super or extremely ugly men should look for women with their same level of ug…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:47 PM
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No, it's always offered as a reason when men show their true colors, not as an excuse for looks. A lot of the comments about niceness from women are a response to online comments from men where a photo of them isn't even involved. Some men online are just complaining and moping and shitting on women for no reason (or reasons that are completely on them), and those kinds of comments will often garner a "well maybe if you were nicer, you'd get more attention from girls". It's usually not related i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:22 PM
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I was 100% with you until the circumcision part. That feels way too pseudo-science-y to be real. "Unconscious trauma response" doesn't sound like a real thing, I'll need a peer-reviewed scientific study to convince me otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 08:01 PM
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It sounds to me like you are not mature or ready enough to be in a relationship with a woman, western or other. If you truly believe these things, then you have quite a long way to go. I don't think any woman will even be interested in you if you hold these beliefs.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 07:12 PM
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Hey, my husband and I are also atheist and we chose to get married because we wanted to make sure we could make decisions for each other if one of us were to be in a serious accident or hospitalized or whatnot. We didn't want a parent or someone else coming in as next of kin to make these types of decisions. Marriage for us is simply an official/governmental declaration of our unity as partners, and all the rights that come with that. We didn't get married until over 10 years into our relationsh…
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 07:06 PM
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Are you prepared to financially support a mail-order bride for the rest of her life? Because that's what you'll have to do if you marry a non-western woman and bring her over to the US. That's what these non-western women want, they are agreeing to marry a Western man in order to secure a good life in America and eventually bring all her family members over with her. I suggest you think about some of the negatives that could come with marrying a non-westerner. Because I guarantee it won't be as …
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 06:56 PM
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I'm sorry, but being beholden to religious rules like no divorce sounds horrible. What do you personally get out of following these rules? It's clearly causing you a lot of stress as it is. If you find a woman that matches your lifestyle, background, traumas, etc. and you are both in love with each other, and you both uphold the sanctity of marriage, then you should be good to marry. God forbid you get divorced, it should be amicable if you choose the right woman.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 06:38 PM
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The man of most women's dreams is not so judgemental, puritanical, and hypocritical, lol. This is all a man's fantasy, a close-minded conservative nutjob man's fantasy, but a fantasy nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:48 PM
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Not interacting with women enough in real life. Everyone knows it's a numbers game, and if you're simply not in the presence of women, ever, then how are you going to find one to have sex with? Moral of the story: hang out with more women, lol. Learn to talk with them, be comfortable around them, learn what makes them feel safe enough around men to let their guard down and trust being intimate with them. Pretty simple actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:33 PM
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You've gotta be a real cuck to worship Jesus or God or... What else is it, a holy ghost? Bahaha 😂 it's so dumb on its face. I'm so glad society is finally waking up and soon we'll have more atheists than cultists.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:24 PM
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Especially if you're a supposed "Christian" 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:20 PM
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Being excited with a new relationship is not only okay, it's great! The key is to try to match her level of enthusiasm. If she welcomes your intense energy, then there shouldn't be any issue. The problem arises when you become too much for her. Part of knowing what's too much is spending lots of time, over time, together. Have realistic expectations for how long it will take to figure out if she's "the one". If you can count the number of dates on 2 hands, it's not enough time to be "the one".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:19 PM
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110%
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:37 PM
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You're not wrong. Women in their 30's, especially nowadays that we have skincare routines and we know how to care for our bodies, are very desirable. They are so much more comfortable in their own bodies, they likely have a career so they have money. And honestly, there are many women in their 30's who've never had kids! I think they are a hidden gem, discounted by douche men, but a real man would recognize what she has to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:31 PM
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Look for women who have similar upbringing as you did. Look for women with harmonious family dynamics like yours was. That way you have more in common, share similar world views, and will likely want the same things you do in a relationship. Don't only go for looks, go for the whole package.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/24 09:00 PM
1

If you're not a woman, how can you say women can't have sex without emotions? You sound deep in the dumdum pill, ahem, I mean red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 08:48 PM
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Escaping Twin Flames, maybe?
/r/ExRedPill08/01/24 12:21 PM
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I played WoW for many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:00 PM
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This is close to what I commented somewhere above. The girls op is looking at are very likely immature and very young, and therefore don't have the life experience to form their own identity. They look to their peers for how to dress, act, etc. And the fact that op is generalizing this much tells me he is also very immature and lacks the life experience to see what's going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 05:14 PM
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Young, immature people who haven't found an identity will often look to see what others are doing. It's what kids do in middle school, they copy each other and follow what's popular. They haven't had enough life experience to form an identity yet. So either you are looking at very young women who are still children basically, or you're specifically only targeting women who share the same lifestyles/life experiences/hobbies/habits. But the fact that you assume all women are like that, that tells …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:59 PM
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I'm female and I hate Mac. Android + PC only.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:16 PM
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I'll bet her answers would be different than yours.
/r/ExRedPill11/12/23 09:52 PM
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Why do you identify as a red pill woman? If you don't mind my asking? That's like a woman voting for a Republican (i.e. voting against her interests).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 06:19 PM
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The 28 year old will have less insecurities, be more confident, and will know who she is. All things a 21 year old won't have yet due to more limited life experience. It's better to date someone your own age, so you are going through the same shit together or at the same general time. It's just better to be on the same page of life together with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 06:17 PM
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Typical conservative "rules for thee but not for me".
/r/ExRedPill07/09/23 11:12 AM
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Because they are controlled by their peepee.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:33 AM
2

Yes, most things in life don't seem heavy because you have man strength. Just yesterday I was carrying the heavier bag of groceries on my shoulder and it was digging in so much that it hurt to continue. I asked my husband to grab it off me and he swiped it off like it was no problem. That's my most recent example of the strength disparity. Another thing I believe is a big difference is that men are able to keep muscle better than women. About 2 years ago I was at the gym every single day lifting…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:31 AM
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If the male wants to spread his genes and impregnate the woman, he has to make a good enough case to convince her to choose him and not someone else. Of course men have to put in a lot of effort. This is biology. It's ingrained in our DNA.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 07:11 PM
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They are indistinguishable from the outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 07:02 PM
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Why do ya'll care so much about how people look? It's weird and immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:13 AM
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Look for anorexic women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 06:10 PM
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Those guys are "okay with whatever" when it comes to fucking. Their tune will change if they had to reproduce with them or look at their face for the rest of their life, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:53 PM
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If there are men willing to pay to see women's genitals, then women will make lots of money. It's the men willingly making these women rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:49 PM
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If you think sex is "sticky and nasty", you may not be mature enough to have real sex in the first place. Grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:43 PM
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Yeah that'll work out greeaat. I had a friend in HS who's mom was a bought bride from Eastern Europe. The guy who bought her promised she'd never have secondhand anything, everything he will buy her brand new. Brand new house, car, furniture, etc. To this day she still refuses to use anything used. She's fucked in the head. Your problems will not be solved if you buy a person instead of naturally falling in love. I get it's hard to fall in love, but I'd rather be open to that than have a derange…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:39 PM
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Who cares what she did in the past? As long as it doesn't affect her current or how she treats others, who she fucked 10 years ago has no bearing. Get over your jealousy and move on. You'll find you have much more options this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:33 PM
2

Some men won't consider dating outside their own race. Liking a certain hair color is not a crazy thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:26 PM
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Why not young people? Like attracts like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 04:56 PM
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if one wants to be good at something, or really delve into their hobbies and passions, they should that for themselves, not for the possibility of attracting someone. That's literally what I'm trying to say!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:20 AM
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Lol. It's your life you're stunting. We don't give a shit 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:36 PM
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Have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:35 PM
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"re-enforcing gender roles, just so you know. " I hate to break it to you, but gender roles aren't ever really going to go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:30 PM
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You shouldn't want those types of women for ltr anyways. Why chase them in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:28 PM
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Does high IQ mean bashing single moms? Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:25 PM
3

I come for the rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:21 PM
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Do you want to get your dick wet by a pussy or not? Because it's starting to sound like women might not be a good match for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:20 PM
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I'm not who you're responding to, but if he's posting shit like this on a daily basis, that would be a pretty big detractor in his personality that can probably be sussed out by a person irl. This obsession with getting girls and hooking up or trying to figure women out is kinda gross. I want a man that has more important things to occupy his mind than how he gets his next lay. To any young man reading this, please try to understand that maturity, humility, patience, and understanding of other p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:12 PM
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Real life isn't that black and white, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 06:59 PM
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Who is saying drugs or alcohol are involved? Rape happens to sober women too you know
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:41 AM
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Also, there aren't even that many so called "Chads" out there either! Men here are so damn obsessed with Chad. I'm embarrassed for them!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 07:25 PM
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You must not have trouble getting dates then!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:47 PM
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A lot can, and does, happen in 10 years. Even if a person is married for 8 years, divorces, gets on OLD and experiences what you're talking about, and still be within a 10 year time span. Plenty of stuff can go on in the 10 years app dating has been around.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:42 PM
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Parents of all kinds be at the zoo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:36 PM
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If you want sex with your wife, don't have kids. That's the sacrifice men have to make in order to spread their genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:31 PM
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Mhmm, sure, men don't lie to gain favor. Definitely no men lying about not being virgins, having a larger dick size, or how much they make. No, never heard of men lying like that! /S
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:31 PM
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That's so far from the truth that it hurts to think people think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:45 PM
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Yeah but no one is just consuming redpill information, they are consuming everything in the redpill forums including all the horrible opinions and comments from mentally + emotionally sick men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:43 PM
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There will always be an opposing opinion to anything anyone does. You can't let it get to you. Don't take things so personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:38 PM
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I'd actually argue it's easier for men to harness the urgency and motivation testosterone provides in order to get off their butts and do something productive with themselves. Instead of jerking off, use that energy to work out or do something to improve your life and THEN jerk off at the end of a productive day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:26 PM
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I think it's very biological in nature. It's more about our ability as humans to predict or expect the future. It's a huge risk to go through 9 months of pregnancy, 5 years of weaning a child, etc. Only to lose the child because you can't afford food, shelter, etc. It's basic stuff. So women naturally want to make sure their offspring will have a higher chance of survival by selecting a partner that can protect and support her and the future child. Edit: you might ask what's in it for the man, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:12 PM
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There is likely something in common between the women you've chosen. Think about the common denominator that YOU have been selecting for. Not all women are the same. You've gotta be kind of low IQ to actually think stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 05:00 PM
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That's why vetting is so important for both men AND women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 04:53 PM
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Because most women know there's a chance they'll become pregnant and have to raise a child. Better to have a child with someone who can support them or help them in some way (financially or otherwise). It's a bigger risk for women, so women naturally are thinking ahead and want their future children to be stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 04:51 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 04:45 PM
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There is a grain of truth to this. I certainly find active men more attractive. What is attractive about a body that doesn't move much? If I want my husband to be able to physically protect me some day, I don't want it to be the first time he makes a fist and throws a punch.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 04:41 PM
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Unfortunately there are more people in the real world, like all those you mentioned. At least online she can only go places that are not going to treat her differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:20 PM
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You have more to gain by being a nice kind person than you would being an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:57 PM
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Well then these men are selectively only hearing "be nice", because the media has a lot of different suggestions for how to achieve your goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:06 PM
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How dim are these "young men" that they'd actually believe just being nice is enough to become a well-rounded person whom people want to be around? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 08:04 PM
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Yes, your last sentence is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:10 PM
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YES! Trying to find a mate organically versus via strategy is how most people find their person. It's the least stressful way to go about things. Now, that doesn't mean you shouldn't put yourself out there - you absolutely should! But don't put yourself out there with the express purpose of getting laid, because you will be disappointed. Another unrequested tip I will offer: you know how women claim to sense desperation? It's true. Women will be more attracted to you if you give off the vibe tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:11 AM
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Yes, they struggle with both sides of the coin. We should all work as hard as we can to maintain friendships, because it is absolutely like a muscle - if you don't practice, you'll lose the skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 10:58 AM
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Men innately have stronger muscles than women do. Even a scrawny man has more usable strength than an average sized woman. I don't doubt a big woman can take an average man - I see it all the time on true crime tv shows (although it's usually an overweight female caretaker killing an old frail man), but it is extremely rare in comparison and not something the average guy has to worry about, nor do parents warn their sons about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 10:56 AM
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You are in control of your feelings. You can choose to be happy or depressed. Where you are in life is a direct result of your own choices. There is no point in blaming anyone else, because no one else can fix you. Only you can fix you. Your ability to control how you feel gets easier with age. Start by working on that! Practice getting triggered and then thinking about and picking apart your internal reaction. You know in your heart what is a reasonable reaction to your trigger. Hold yourself t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:39 PM
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So from reading what you wrote, it seems you care too much what society thinks (not feeling fully part of society - society is what it is, and everyone pretty much minds their own business). With age comes maturity. A mature and confident person doesn't care what anyone thinks about their personal life, they live life day by day, they have goals they are working towards, and are friendly and open to speaking with others. Someone who says, "I've been so sad and depressed because I don't have a gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:25 PM
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Cuddling is absolutely physical intimacy, and should be reserved for a partner. However, cuddling is not something you need to do to have emotional intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:14 PM
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Yes, but having a best friend to open up to allows you to vent anything you have pent up. Which I think a lot of inc#ls don't seem to have. If they had that, they may not be so damn desperate seeming. That has to make sense to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:09 PM
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You're Christian - don't they have the easiest time finding a mate? Can you use christiansingles .com or something like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:22 AM
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You have a healthy outlook. I admire your tenacity. Keep being the way you are and maybe someday a nice woman will recognize what you have to offer and want to spend her life with you. Never give up hope!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:21 AM
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That wasn't my point at all. My point was that men don't fear for their life when around women. OR DO THEY???
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:52 AM
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Yes. 100%. That's why I scoff at the men here who scream "they lied to us and told us to be ourselves!!". Like, you dumbfuck, if you don't be yourself you're not going to find someone who is compatible with you. What do you think will result from a relationship or marriage between two incompatible people? "But but but... I want her to be hot 😭". Are YOU hot motherfucker?? No? Then go back to the drawing board, son, because you've got more learnin' to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 08:29 PM
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Women carry it forever because letting your guard down could mean you get strangled to death. Men don't have that worry or consideration when they date women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 08:23 PM
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Then he needs to be clear about why he's following her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:11 AM
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Yeah, I don't really understand why these comments are saying she's nuts. I wouldn't want to be cold approached in a parking lot either?! Like what do you want from me? I'm trying to get to my car!! Not the appropriate time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:11 PM
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I'm sorry, but she's right. Don't fucking approach women in a parking lot for the purpose of hitting on them. Just don't do it. Any time I was approached like that even 10+ years ago, I was terrified. It has never been okay to approach women like this. Pick a different place to approach. Don't make women feel in danger!!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:09 PM
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My guess is that you weren't a good match to begin with, and that's why she wasn't as engaging with you. When you find the right person, not only is she interested, but she wants to know more. And you feel extremely comfortable being who you are around her. Essentially, being with her makes you feel safe, if that makes sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:47 PM
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Communication and respect are key. Take what women say at face value, don't interpret things, don't assume. If she says she's not interested, don't push it. You're not going to be "cancelled" for striking up a conversation with someone. That's absurd. If you don't want to be a creep, don't be a creep. It's that simple. The manosphere's strategy is fear-mongering, so don't fall for it. Plus, the likelihood of anyone accusing you of anything is so low it's not even worth wasting brain cells thinki…
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 11:29 AM
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Women of the past were usually of great moral character chaste/ low notch, knew how cook from scratch, clean, knit, sow on a button, garden and grow her own food; she was fit, feminine, friendly and submissive/cooperative etc. no attention seeking behavior, no HOEtivities, no promotion of degenerate behavior etc. I'm sorry, but that was always the IDEAL woman, even back then. Not every woman in the 60's was thin, submissive, attractive, good at cooking, etc. Let's be realistic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 11:54 AM
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Men on PPD always say "men and women are different. Men are bIoLoGicAlly meant to cheat, women aren't" (or some variation of that). This is a similar scenario in my opinion, but favoring the woman this time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 11:21 AM
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Mmhmm, and where can one get a degree in evolutionary psychology?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 11:32 AM
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Have you been to a university science department? Because they don't recognize evolutionary psychology as being a scientific field. It's a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 11:19 AM
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It doesn't matter. Your example is still not a scientific, testable, experiment. It's still just making assumptions and speculations about what we "think" "might" be the reason. It doesn't make it true or real, it's just observations. Just like how PPD tends to go in circles over and over again. You can make generalizations about whatever you want, but that doesn't make it actually true or applicable to every person (ex. plenty of ugly men are happily married, but online/PPD everyone thinks that…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:49 AM
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Huh, didn't know he was black. And we shall see what he gets charged with, considering he's still locked up, it ain't going to be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:33 AM
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Sounds like you're doing better than 90% of PPD men! Keep it up and you'll find what you're looking for. Now that you're comfortable doing this kind of thing, start branching out to places other than bars so you can actually find a woman who wants a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:31 AM
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Evo psych is bunk, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:28 AM
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Yup. Can't be a bump on a log and expect people to be impressed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:42 PM
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Yes, relationships can be job-like, but it's supposed to be a fun job where any disagreement is an opportunity to finely tune the strength and fortitude of your relationship. The goal is to fully optimize two lovers working as a unit in this world. At least that's how I feel I'm at with my marriage thus far. It's pretty rad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:19 PM
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Look into getting a prescription for Propanolol. It's worked amazing for me, I take a quarter pill an hour before a work meeting, friend outing, any planned human interaction, and magically I'm no longer stuck in my own head! My thoughts flow freely out of my mouth and I have the courage to speak and continue the conversation, with joy too! I feel like it might even have antidepressant qualities to it too because I genuinely feel happier on days I take it. It's not addictive (bc you can't really…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:52 PM
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As a woman I like your take. It rings true to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:33 PM
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If you find the right person, you never have to do any of that stuff ever again. Why be with someone you can't be your true self around?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:18 PM
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Yeah. To women: just avoid Muslim men altogether. You deserve better than that world of dogshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:09 PM
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That is so sick. Those people are sick in the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:31 PM
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Good to know if they don't like what they do. I wouldn't want to be with someone who hated their job so much yet didn't want to do anything about it. I'll have to hear him complain every single day about how shitty things are. No thank you. Do something about it. THAT is what's attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:07 PM
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Not that many women out there not working, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 02:16 PM
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The women who say that are saying it from experience. I've never met or heard of a single woman who's never lived with a partner saying these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 02:14 PM
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Yup. You get what you put in to the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:35 PM
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That's nasty. You're a dirty person and you risk spreading diseases to the one person you're supposed to "love". Disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:24 PM
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Women also don't jerk off to pictures of hot men. Our sexual attraction is not quite the same for women as it is for men. I think men find this hard to understand and truly get. Edit to add: women respond much much more to physical stimulation as opposed to visual stimuli. That's just how we're wired. So physical attraction is not as important as how the man interacts with her and how he makes her feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:08 PM
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Don't use apps if you're not super photogenic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:56 PM
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He looked underdeveloped to me, like he still looked like a growing teenager. I bet if he waited 5 years he would have grown into his features and been much more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:49 PM
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Every time I mention female models as the standard for what men find attractive, they snap back with "no, we actually don't find super models attractive, we like 'real women'". So then I guess the opposite is true for women, they don't think male models are super attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:37 PM
1

Exactly. And there's no turning that back either. Cost of living never goes down, it's always going up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:30 PM
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That just sounds like more pain to me. You want kids so you have someone to watch you die and share in that pain? The pain of seeing their parents sick and dying. Man, that's really selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:23 PM
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Do you really think if women left the workforce men's salaries would go up? Somehow I don't think it would work like that. Alternative to salaries increasing would be the cost of goods + services decreasing, which will never happen in a million years at this point. There's no going back.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:10 PM
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I said something similar to this about my husband's looks - that his looks aren't that great but because we're so compatible and our personalities match so well, I would never want to be with anyone else. I think men are so much more superficial because they are offended by this. What they don't understand is that of all people, women know looks fade over time. Women prioritize the longevity of their relationship, so they don't make looks the #1 decider. A marriage does not last on looks, and ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:04 AM
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Lol, that's more like incentivizing a man to do something. Many women end up stuck with child-like husbands that need a carrot on a stick in order to help around the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:52 PM
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That's awful. She stunted you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:55 PM
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Saying men show greater variability in personality is extremely naive, juvenile, and closed-minded thinking. It's simply not true. If you spent even a minute actually observing women irl, you'd see this. Do you know or understand why women really appreciate chocolates and flowers? Think about it. It's not because they really like those things (even though many women do), it's because they want to feel loved. They want to know their partner thinks about them, that he cares enough to go out of his…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:53 PM
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Both men and women have requirements for who they do and don't want to have sex with. So don't act like all women choose men by looks only, because while that's partly a reason, there's a lot more to it than just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:31 PM
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Eh, men consider it "weaponizing" because sex is something they really really want, and someone denying it feels like an attack or a reach for power. It's more likely that, as the fuckee, women don't want to just be fucked all the time, especially if they don't get the same amount of satisfaction from it as men do. Edit to add: also, because men don't feel any physical negatives from fucking, they don't understand that women's parts get sore, they get micro-tears, it's painful to get punched in …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:24 PM
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I watched my husband get snipped. It really wasn't that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:18 AM
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This is exactly how I was raised. Every single one of those things you mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:26 PM
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After the first year I think it's way less than 70%.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:02 PM
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I guess you can only blame nature's will to reproduce and continue the species.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:59 PM
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If you were running a coal mining business, would you hire strong men who can carry heavy shit and handle heavy machinery with pure muscle mass? Or would you want to hire a woman who has a much smaller frame, much less muscle mass (with no possibility for gaining substantial muscle mass)? Let's be real here, women's bodies are not big and strong enough to make taking the position efficient. There are always exceptions and many women have large frames and strong muscles. But it would not be a sma…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:46 PM
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To be fair, women's bodies aren't exactly built for hard labor like men's bodies are. It's very difficult for women to retain muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:42 PM
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I'm right there with you on that performative bullshit, it's super cringy and I don't do cringe. And I agree, kinks and paraphilia is definitely for people who've got something missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:28 PM
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Extreme generalizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:07 PM
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Damn. You're spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:06 PM
1

Red pill says a lot of things that don't sound like that, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:50 PM
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If you are defining an "emotional job" as a job where the person makes other people feel a certain way, then sales is the most emotional job I can think of.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:24 PM
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Oops, I didn't notice your username when I made that comment! I think I've said something similar to you before. You're one of the very few men on here that share similar views with most women (here and irl). You seem to really value equality and you genuinely try to put yourself in other people's shoes. You don't sugar coat things, you say it how it is. Your "I don't give a fuck what you think, right is right and I stand with right" attitude (from what I've seen your write on PPD) is very intel…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:15 PM
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That's big of you to admit! I think reading experiences like yours could help young men. Because they sure as fuck don't seem to listen when women say these same exact things. But their bias against women makes them brush off all advice, even if it's the best advice ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:16 PM
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That's so inaccurate. Anyone who takes good care of their weight and wears sunscreen can look very very good until 40's, even 50's (with good genetics). Only the bottom of the barrel lose their looks at 25. Because of course, the longer you go without taking care of yourself, the worse you're going to look! I still get carded, and I'm 34.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:10 PM
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We can tell
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:45 PM
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That's a pretty immature and "small brain" take. Academia might be up its own ass in many ways, but there is still a lot of value in it, including educating others.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 05:16 PM
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"crippling student debt" And yet med and law schools are still pumping out doctors and lawyers. If someone wants a higher paying career, they usually understand it comes at a greater price. If dudes are not striving for these positions, that's their choice. If they don't have the drive, there's no point in trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 05:09 PM
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Right? This dude is so far up his own ass, he can't tell reality from his warped worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 04:20 PM
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I call everyone dude, even women sometimes. Sometimes it's just a phrase or exclamation too. I don't think it's any kind of red flag or symbol she's trying to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:38 PM
1

Haha, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:33 PM
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Can you honestly say you learned nothing from all that therapy, though? Even if you just talked about yourself with no feedback from the therapist, you should have gotten something out of simply verbalizing things. Even if it only helped in the moment. I agree not every therapist is good or worth the money. But a lot of them are, and some people could really use it. So it would be nice if people like you didn't discourage or disparage it so much. Someone who can benefit from therapy might not se…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:29 PM
2

How does the government incentivise family break ups?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:08 PM
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To prove the marriage happened and that it exists maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:00 PM
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I bet! It's just frustrating to me because it's usually the emotionally immature men who will take this kind of advice and go, "well then I'm NEVER opening up to anyone EVER again!!". And it's like, well, no. That's not the right reaction either! Emotional maturity means being able to take suggestions and advice like an adult. You're not getting advice for no reason. Take the parts of the advice you agree with, and save the rest for when you finally think about it enough to understand why it was…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:55 PM
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I think that's what men here tend to confuse whiny-ness with "expressing their emotions", and think they can't do it at all ever or else we'll lose attraction. Part of what women LIKE, and what we mean by "emotional maturity", is the ability to understand your own emotions and know (or be willing to learn) how to properly express them without acting like a toddler. Of course, women are guilty of tantrums too. But I think it's a bad look for men because women are attracted to men who are confiden…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:12 PM
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That's sad. We desperately need voters that are educated and want good for others in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:02 PM
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The same exact thing he would say if he could.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 09:23 PM
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Now that's a hot take!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 09:04 PM
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That's just what it is, pal. Get used to it. Women have the right to pick the guy that's right for them. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:59 PM
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I'm not the person you're responding to, but my answer is that personality and social skills are absolutely two different things! Think about it. Social skills is your ability to communicate with others. You can be a shitty person who is really good at manipulating others or otherwise good at making communication with them unpleasant. It's the same vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:56 PM
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You've really summed it up perfectly. We should pin this comment somewhere, like a sub FAQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:30 PM
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Why do you and other men put so much stock in what others (article) says? That one time, in that one small article that barely anyone read or would remember the contents of. That kind of advice you're looking for is so specific that it likely wouldn't apply to most men. Not everyone is "gaslighting" you. Build a tougher skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:23 PM
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Why do you all want more control over people? Why can't people just do whatever the fuck they want to do with their bodies? If I have a large growth forming on my body, do I not have the right to get it removed?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 06:34 PM
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I'd take the virgin. I feel like he might treat me better. But if he has a complex about the virginity, then I'm out. I don't want him constantly thinking the grass is greener, or that he "missed out" by staying with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:40 PM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:50 PM
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I see you're having to repeat yourself over and over that you wrote this comment not as a man. Maybe next time you should preface your original comment with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:47 PM
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This is some of the most deranged "advice" I've ever read. You sound like a psychopath, no joke. The people who do this kind of shit are generally seen as scumbags and nobody actually respects them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:44 PM
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Harmless fetuses? You are hella thick or uneducated if you think they are harmless. Did you know a "fetus" can actually harm a woman? Maybe even kill her! Who knew!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:29 PM
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I think this specifically is debatable. Doctors and hospitals are notorious for not listening to women when they are in pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 05:26 PM
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Dude. Millions of women, myself included, have irregular periods. I use a period tracker, and while it does a good job of reminding me when it's close, it's never been accurate enough to rely on for really anything other than "your period is coming soon!". If you cohabitated with a woman, I would suspect you would have a much different attitude towards periods.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 05:12 PM
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Dumpster fire low class women: like the ones who have different baby daddies, who cheat on their men, either don't work or have a bad track record at work (coming in late, arguing with customers, just generally being shitty and irresponsible, usually working minimum wage jobs if they work at all). These women get on shows like Maury or Jerry Springer. They live in super low income areas or section 8 housing. They rely on food stamps. They often are very combative, have no manners, and are loud a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 05:03 PM
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That's so stupid. Do you want to date a trailer park women? Because that's who is going after convicts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 04:50 PM
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So then what would make LTR more appealing to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 04:43 PM
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Yeah but criminals get laid by dumpster fire low class women. High quality women want nothing to do with criminals.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 04:21 PM
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Sure, I guess I agree not a lot of guys have a girlfriend that early on. But for those that do, they seem to take it for granted and throw it away more often than not. For those that don't have girlfriends early, they may value a relationship more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 03:44 PM
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This is a fresh take on this sub, and it tracks with my own experience. Women are absolutely more attracted to a man that has his shit together and can meet his own needs. Not a man who you can tell is thirsty or desperate for a relationship. No one wants to be with someone who is going to nag you for sex, or whatever. My husband didn't even ask me out when we first started dating, I had to do it. Why? Because his life was great as-is and it was ME who wanted to be part of HIS life. I mean, ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 03:34 PM
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I agree with everything you said, except I prefer quickies! - they are more fun and urgent feeling. Longer sex is a snooze fest for me, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 03:07 PM
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Lol, I guess it's just too much trouble to try to attract a woman these days. Buying her dinner in exchange for a possible lifetime together just doesn't seem fair!!! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:57 PM
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Get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:53 PM
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Making such large generalizations about women does nothing good for you if you are looking for what you are looking for. Try not to make assumptions before getting to know her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:50 PM
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Young men are more likely to dump their HS girlfriend because they want to sow their oats once they get their "freedom". We see this time and time again on relationship subs. Where men lament and cry that they let go of their dream girl when they were young and stupid. This happens more often to men than to women. Many many girls are happy to get hitched early.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:39 PM
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Then what's your beef here? Why can't you admit that men should also be doing these daily chores?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:09 PM
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So you're saying household chores is like having a second job?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 01:58 PM
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Let's see how well that goes for you, lol. Resentment breeds for years this way and she starts dreaming of divorcing you just so she doesn't have to continue carrying your ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 01:57 PM
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Traditions in general are going by the wayside. It seems to me the couple is just as likely to pay with their own money.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:32 AM
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Eh, that's debatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:18 PM
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Well fancy weddings have gained such popularity, that I understand a little bit of their desire... I would say it's the husband's responsibility to talk her down and remind her of reality. A good woman will listen and ultimately agree, or at least compromise til both parties are happy. If she can't do that, then there's a bullet coming at you in slow motion and you need to dodge that motherfucker to save your own life!! Haha. Because that's how every argument in the future will go whether you li…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:41 PM
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Yeah, I didn't really have any hobbies (other than working out), when I met my husband. He really started pushing and prodding me to find a hobby for myself, which I think has been a really good thing over all. It's nice to have something I can do on my own and a goal that I'm working towards.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:34 PM
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Being a good conversationalist is how you keep friends, it's how you encourage people to talk to you, thereby increasing your network and thus increasing opportunities (which usually leads to making more money). Let's not downplay this very important characteristic, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:31 PM
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Shoot your shot but handle the rejection with class. Don't let it get to you, let it slide off. Continue moving forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:22 PM
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It's been weird to watch it happen
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:14 PM
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This obsession with weddings is absolutely absurd in my opinion. It's a single day/party. Who gives a fuck? Just get good professional photos done of the couple + family, and save the rest of the money for buying a house, saving for kids college, buying a car, paying off debt, a nice honeymoon, a vacation, renovation, rent, LITERALLY ANYTHING that lasts longer than a few hours. It infuriates me and I encourage men to drop the fuck out of the whole deal if she doesn't compromise with you and what…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:11 PM
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You're forgetting that being flooded with men on OLD is just as useless for women as getting no matches is for men. Women are not trying to hook up, so the dudes that want to hook up only are not options for us. It's not as amazing as you seem to think it is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:36 PM
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Mmmm, uhuh, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:49 AM
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Oh boy! Second world!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 07:20 PM
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Based on my experience, and seeing many men I was into be too afraid, you should go for it. Even if she is taken, now you know. It doesn't reflect negatively on you in any way. Edit to add: and thank you for the compliment. Husband encouraged me to do camming for a while in my 20's, and I still do it occasionally when I want money and need a bit of extra attention
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:53 PM
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Boys/men had absolutely no interest in me in high school, and no one approached me in college either. I made a friend with someone in college (we went to the same small/private HS, so he was relatively vetted in my book). We hung out for a few months and grew closer together. I ended up having to ask him out because he was too scared to "ruin our friendship". We've been together ever since. I was a virgin and 21. Now 34. I look even better than I did back then (no more acne, more toned body, hig…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:56 PM
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Height 5'7", honest weight is 115. Face is probably closer to a real life 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:10 AM
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Super common, dude. The heterosexual masculine-leaning women need partners too. It takes all kinds!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 07:36 PM
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Dude, it sounds like you have no idea what pregnancy does to a woman's body. It's pretty horrific. The baby sucks nutrients out of the woman's body, calcium from her bones, etc. Some of that is irreplaceable. Her hips permanently widen, her feet permanently get bigger and wider, some women lose hair and have permanently thinner hair. Breasts shrink and deflate permanently. Her ab muscles separate and often don't go back to normal (and surgery is difficult for this specific issue, so many women d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:20 PM
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Getting a vasectomy is super affordable. Just save $50 a month for 14-16 months and you can get one. You don't even need a referral from your GP. It's probably more accessible than birth control pills are for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:57 PM
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I'm an attractive woman who participates in this sub. But I will agree if they are attractive, they are taken (if they are above a certain age).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:43 PM
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Just as there are outlier men who are analytical geniuses. You think the majority of men are contributing to advancing society? It's a minority of super smart men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:55 PM
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Men don't teach coping skills, lmfao, women do. I'd love to see what society will look like if women are in charge. You men are way overestimating men's contribution right now. And women are just as capable, if not more, of advancing scientific innovation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:53 PM
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Damn, I'm so sorry that happened. But honestly, that woman was looking out for the safety of your sister. What other incentive would she have had to do what she did?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:59 PM
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These are great examples. If PPD men can't appreciate the specificity you've provided, then they don't really care to know what women think or feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:54 PM
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Women admit this all the time. I think it's men who get upset about it is the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:50 PM
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Why is this comment in the negatives? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:48 PM
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I'm thinking these girls are so young and inexperienced and are trying to just get internet attention. It sucks and is stupid, but it is what it is. They will eventually grow out of it and stop that behavior. Best to just ignore it and keep doing what you're doing. Just don't make people feel uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:38 PM
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I think that's the scary part: when they don't think there's anything they should change. Everyone has something they can improve about themselves. No one is perfect. Stay far far away from anyone who won't acknowledge their faults and who refuse to try to work on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:11 PM
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What I mentioned is just the superficial stuff. When you give birth, the pussy literally tears wide open, often to the anus. That's what I mean by blown out. You need stitches to fix it. It's not a simple thing. Women have downplayed it since the beginning of time. Women post birth don't pee normally ever again, let alone poop normally. You have a totally new fucked up body after giving birth, and you never know what you're going to get. More problems, though, that's for sure. My own mother had …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 10:52 AM
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For me at least (and I'm a woman married to a man my age, been together since college), him doing stuff around the house is definitely more attractive than not. The first 10 years of our relationship (we're 11 years in), he rarely lifted a finger to help. If he did, it was because I asked and had to give specific explicit instructions otherwise he wouldn't do it. Now he has matured greatly and has acknowledged that he should be helping and is actively trying on a daily basis. This change has dra…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 09:11 PM
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Giving birth scares the shit out of me. My body will literally never be the same. You think a pussy gets blown out by different Chad dicks? You'll be shocked to know giving birth makes it like 50 times more blown out. Tits won't look good either. I do have perfect tits by any means, but they'll be saggy and stretch-marky if I give birth. As a woman, my body looking young is what men value. If I want to ensure I have a man some day (you never know if a marriage will last or end), I'd better try t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 08:42 PM
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Republicans are the reason shit like the train derailment happen. It'll be a grim world if we continue this direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 08:34 PM
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This just sounds like an excuse to not do housework, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 08:12 PM
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Yeah, no one ever taught me about it growing up, let alone told me I could rely on it. It's not something I ever ever calculated or considered in my future
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 07:58 PM
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Yes, you continue to do this until you find the one that accepts. That's dating. You have to accept that this is how it works! It's how it's worked for millenia, and it's how it will continue to work forever. If you want it bad enough, you will keep going until you get it. That's how successful people work. They acknowledge it's going to be uncomfortable sometimes, but stick out for the reward at the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 10:30 PM
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These are all different ways of being rejected. Rejection happens, it's not that scary. It's generally a good thing if she rejects you because then you can move on and find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:08 PM
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Part of what really drew me to my now husband is the fact that he was the first person I had ever met (of my age that would be of consideration) that questioned what I said and contradicted me, respectfully, to my face. Every other guy or girl I'd ever talked with before then (I was in college) would almost always agree with me. He poked my beliefs in a way no one ever had. He challenged me. That was incredibly sexy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 08:21 PM
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This is my feeling as well. Well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:57 PM
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Each one of these scenarios sounds super fun and even romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 06:58 PM
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We're all much more valuable than what you are implying here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 07:26 PM
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Having to drive everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 07:20 PM
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I don't think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 08:58 PM
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False rape accusations are super rare and lack of evidence will make them go nowhere, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 08:58 PM
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How does that make any sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:52 PM
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Ugh. I feel like if men on here knew the real rape statistics (that most rapes don't even get reported), then they might actually consider raping. Maybe it's best they think there's a high chance they'll get caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:37 AM
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She sounds kind of crazy. I'd stay the fuck away from someone actively and openly fucking other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:21 PM
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Dude, it comes down to this: if you don't even pretend to want to be around her and just want sex from her, she will feel used, because she IS being used. What the fuck is the incentive for her? For you it's obvious, you get sex and to cum.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 08:17 PM
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Those are fantasy books. If those fictional men were real, their full time job would be working out at the gym to keep up their physique. Most women don't care for that lifestyle and would rather be with someone who keeps good company and makes being with them easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 08:15 PM
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That's more because obese men a) have a hard time even reaching their dicks through all that fat, and b) excess fat in men corresponds with increased estrogen and lower sex drive altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:17 PM
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I'd love to see PPD argue this case. I can see a lot of PPD men try to argue men's sex drive is what propels innovation and all that, and that a drug like that would affect population decline, etc. You should make a post!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:13 PM
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Good for you for freeing yourself and getting rid of the oppressive uber-christian attitude/lifestyle! I couldn't get out of my oppressive faith until I left for college, and I'm still deprogramming 10 years later. And now that I'm a bit older, I think we women should try to be a bit more understanding and compassionate to and about one another. The way you wrote your example felt lacking in compassion for the other girl. You probably don't know exactly what the vibe her guy was giving off or ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 06:13 PM
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If you select for a woman who wants the same things as you, you are giving yourself much much better odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 06:02 PM
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Definitely not now that I'm married and in my 30's, lol. But if I was in college and Heath Ledger or Josh Hartnett was my age and wanted to do stuff...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 05:57 PM
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Yes, there's an infinite number of different scenarios that could maybe happen to you. But you should not be letting all these "maybe" scenarios infect you and discourage you from being with women. You'll never know unless you try. Don't shoot yourself in the foot just because you "might" could get drafted (this is a metaphor for what I'm trying to say, if that wasn't clear).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 05:46 PM
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It sounds to me like maybe you two were raised differently. For example, I was raised to be protective of my body, not to let ANY man touch me even remotely sexually, etc. I was raised with fear, so I was both clueless when men tried to make moves on me and I was clueless on how to make moves on men. Whereas it sounds like you were raised with much more freedom and encouragement of expression.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:40 PM
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But it's not up to you how you are judged, so why remove yourself altogether? Maybe you're not as ugly or bad as you think you are? If a woman of your looksmatch showed interest, would you refuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:35 PM
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To be fair, men are supposed.to grow out of the socially awkward phase as they mature and get into their 20's. But I guess this generation is too far gone and there's no chance of maturing? Either way, people can and do change (at least I'm hopeful).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:29 PM
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Yuck. Yes, let's go backwards...again.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 06:17 PM
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Why would it matter when it happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 06:14 PM
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Eh, "nerdy" is more popular than ever nowadays. Even anime is popular, and there are a ton of women who love anime that these anime-obsessed men can try to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 04:24 PM
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Look into Propranolol. It's easy to get a prescription. It basically helps you get out of your own head and makes it easier to talk and feel a bit bolder in social situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:54 PM
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Fascinating Thanks for the insight!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:35 PM
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Yeah, who would've known men are just as selfish and self-serving as we thought they were!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:31 PM
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Sounds like you're more exposed to scandalous tabloid make-em-ups because that's what they do in the UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 08:26 PM
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It's the idea that you are giving attention to the relationship and to your partner's happiness and satisfaction. Ideally, the more you give, the more you get in this scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:39 PM
1

I do agree that if women want their men to fuck them, they should do what they can to stay attractive (i.e. working out and staying in shape). Neither partner should become slovenly. No one's attracted to laziness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:53 PM
1

Bingo. I will say, if you are in this situation - where you have been infantilized and you don't pull your weight in the house, and she feels like a caretaker/maid - you can get out of this situation! She will appreciate you so much more if you show effort and start to change. Show a desire to contribute more! I promise you she will be thrilled. It will make her so fucking happy to know you care and want to change. Doing this will STRENGTHEN your relationship. Just be sure to keep it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:41 PM
2

I'm sure no one wants to hear my personal anecdote, but here it is anyway. I've been with my man for 13 years now (since we were 21). He has never stopped slapping and pinching my ass, talking about how much he desires me, thinks I'm sexy, etc. He shows me his desire for me on a daily basis and therefore he gets sex whenever he wants. He puts in the effort to make me feel hot and desirable. What do I do to make myself desirable you ask? I exercise every single day and make sure I look my best ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:28 PM
2

Men and women get aroused differently. Yes, men might have to do a little more to make her in the mood, but that's not unusual and actually benefits the relationship more in the long run. And believe me, she will be more than happy to pick up your dirty socks if you treat her like you desire her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:09 PM
1

Well if he wants to fuck her at his discretion, he needs to make it appealing for her too. Women have fundamentally different arousal mechanisms, and a smart man will take that into account. It's not actually asking that much from men (considering what he's asking for). All of this is in the context of a loving relationship where both parties love and are in love with each other and have been living together for many years. No one is saying the man should pretend, fake, or "game". Only to treat …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:58 PM
1

What difference does it make? The only person benefiting from Chad is Chad. There will always be a select few super attractive people out there, and they usually end up with each other. I'm sure they have many opportunities in dating and in life in general, that's how it goes for attractive people when society praises attractiveness the way it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 06:35 PM
0

Yup. Women are the ones with the biological clock ticking down, so settling is extremely commonplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 05:31 PM
1

High school is arguably the most important of the grade schools. It's where you really start to polish skills like public speaking, writing, communicating with peers and adults, it's when you begin to master geometry and calculus (which are super important if you're going into the trades), etc. I would never in a million years recommend someone skip high school (which is grade 9 through 12 here in the US of A), unless they were super genius level and going straight to university - although even …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 04:45 PM
2

Cool story bro
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 04:30 PM
1

My point is that incels hate on people who have those preferences or else assume all women are like the women they see in porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:17 AM
1

God can be however and whoever you want him to be, he only exists in your imagination anyway, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:24 PM
1

They don't. They put in zero effort irl. It's too much trouble and they're afraid of "rejection" waaaah. Plus the fact that they think all women act like the pornstars they watch day in and day out, so they feel justified in blaming ALL women for what pornstars do (i.e. banging chads left and right, doing gangbangs, and wanting BBCs).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:20 PM
3

Are you fat? That's the most egregious expectation imo. When overweight men refuse to date overweight women. I've seen it time and time again. You can't be surprised about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:11 PM
1

Not really. Average women absolutely know they can't get a Ryan Reynolds type, as if Ryan Reynolds type is even common enough to try for.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 03:57 PM
1

All of those "intelligences" types are learnable and anyone can get good at them if they practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:45 PM
3

Very well articulated. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 09:19 PM
2

To change something like women's rights is such a massive endeavor, you need a fuck ton of women on the same page and a lot of support from men. Legislation is not easy to change on that kind of scale. But they did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 09:11 PM
0

If you would like to remove yourself from the pool of applicants and bow out for the 6'1+ guys to take over, that's your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 11:26 AM
2

Great response.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 07:52 PM
3

Your perspective is refreshing to read here on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 07:44 PM
15

As an above-average attractive woman, I agree 100% with every point you made. While I got snatched up before getting to go to nightclubs, I imagine I'd be making these observations and my eyes are always wide open. You must present as confident, strong, competent, FRIENDLY, easy-going, and happy. Continue acting happy and normal if you get rejected. Brush it off and wish her a good evening, thank her for her consideration (remember you are selling yourself in a way, and this is how you would res…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 07:10 PM
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Yeah, you have to establish a baseline before a relationship can begin. You can't jump to a date with someone you know nothing about yet because you just met for the very first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:46 PM
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It's absolutely ridiculous that this has to be told to men. I really think maybe this generation of men is just beyond fucked in the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:42 PM
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Yes, exactly. These things take time and patience. As a man, you should be willing get to know her. Be understanding of her perspective (which she should do as well). I think that's the benefit of getting older and maturing - your expectations start to become more realistic the more life experience you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:26 PM
1

That's a problem with how the GOP rules the government. If they were gone we probably wouldn't be having those issues. We'd have better vetting for which businesses actually needed those loans. Not just giving it to anyone willy nilly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:17 AM
5

Kill spiders? Lol. Just kidding, what woman is scared of spiders in 2023?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 05:10 PM
1

Mmmkay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 11:32 PM
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Good on you for recognizing, admitting, and seeking to change your behavior! It shows maturity, and will only be beneficial to you in the long run. Protect yourself by vetting for yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:00 PM
1

I'll help you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:18 PM
1

Going after "thots" is the real issue here. They are the scummy hoes manosphere men complain about all the time. For some reason these men don't see there are other women out there who aren't on Instagram 24/7 begging for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:06 PM
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Literally no one cares if young men approach young women, it's normal. What's not normal is men not taking 'no' for an answer, continuing to ask her out even after she politely declines, negging, stalking, etc. Don't do those things and no one will label you or bother you about it. Everyone's gotta shoot their shot. We all get it, we all have been there! So this whole, "men are not allowed to approach anymore" is complete bullshit. Just don't be a dick. Be cordial and continue the prior work rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:57 PM
1

Just like with abortion, if you make a medical procedure "illegal", then people who want/need them are forced to go to dangerous lengths to get them, increasing the chances of getting botched or infected. We all need to think about the bigger picture and stop trying to control other people's decisions and lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:23 PM
1

Men do exactly what you're saying women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:02 PM
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If she chooses to let "a good thing go", then that's her problem, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:01 PM
4

Unfortunately, when it comes to weight, it actually IS that simple. Calories in must be less than calories out if you want your body to use/consume your excess fat. You need a daily caloric deficit in order to lose weight. Thyroid issues are rare and are actually caused by being fat in the first place (skinny thyroid issues aside). Same with things like type-2 diabetus, it's caused by eating poorly and being too fat - with diet and exercise you can reverse type-2 diabetes. In reality, most overw…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 05:43 PM
1

Ding ding ding. Close the thread now. It all comes down to: women are afraid men will kill her. Men are afraid a woman will embarrass him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 09:03 PM
5

I disagree that women (or anyone in general) divorce frivolously. It's very similar to the "women use abortion as birth control" trope. Divorce is very disruptive to your life in many ways, not just financial. Especially if they've been living together for many years. You have to divide all your shared stuff, find a new place to live, separate all the finances, etc. etc. And that's without kids. It's a pretty huge deal to go through divorce (just like it's a big deal to get an abortion). So I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:20 PM
2

The children won't be happy if the parents are unhappy or constantly fighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:58 PM
2

To be fair, it's almost impossible to give better advice online when people don't know anything about you or how you live your life. I'd say don't take that kind of advice too personally. Take the advice and use it to your advantage when navigating your current and future relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 07:21 PM
2

That would be a deal breaker for me too 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 07:01 PM
1

People do it with a lot of prescriptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:44 PM
2

What are some male-only institutions that women destroyed? The only institution for boys that I know of is the boy scouts, and it definitely wasn't women who destroyed that, lol (if you don't know, it was male pedophiles who ruined boy scouts).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 06:07 PM
1

Thank you for sharing your experience. I agree 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 07:56 PM
0

Alcohol is poison. Why would I willingly poison myself? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:54 PM
1

Lol, pretty much!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:43 PM
5

Yes, exactly. Women who had kids in their 20's begin to urge their daughters to wait until their 30's if they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:40 PM
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I've seen this a lot too. PPD is the only place I've been where the majority of the men want kids and a family. Most men irl don't actually want kids. Now, maybe it's because men in their 20's don't want kids YET, but who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:32 PM
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Okay, good, I'm glad you're perceptive enough to see why putting those requirements in your profile could be a bad thing 😋 I hope you're able to find the right woman for you! If you are still in your early 20's, then don't stress too much about it, you still have a bit of time! If you are looking for a long term relationship and a forever partner, then make sure your behavior reflects that too. Women like me are not attracted to men who sleep around for fun. I will not devote my life to a man wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:48 PM
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Dude, a lot of men take things like that too far. That's what these rules are for. Without them, women could go to HR when they feel uncomfortable and nothing would be done (or worse, they would be reprimanded for the accusation). The whole point is to make the working environment safe and comfortable for every employee. That doesn't mean you're not allowed to meet and get to know the women at work. It just means if you are the type who can't take 'no' for an answer, then the company, who is res…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:17 PM
1

I wonder how I'd fair on tinder, as I meet/exceed the criteria you listed 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:10 PM
0

As a skinny athletic woman myself who also would not want fat men, I would be put off by a man putting stuff like "no fat chicks, no single mothers, no xyz" on his profile. You can just as easily keep those rules to yourself and just be selective when choosing, without bringing negativity to your profile. It kind of shows how you view others in general and is a litmus test to your general attitude. Believe me, I am just as fatphobic as most people who care about their health/weight, but the key …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:51 PM
5

It will be different for each individual. But the majority of humanity sees marriage as the end goal. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:20 PM
2

Then by what metric can we make the assumption that someone has reached their relationship goal (winning)?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 03:17 PM
1

You think women are the stopgap to marriage? Lmfao. I'm a millennial, my whole life I've observed more men who don't want to marry and just want to play the field (my own husband dragged getting married for nearly 10 years before he was "ready" - honestly he's lucky I stuck with him waiting that long). Women are the ones who constantly want LTRs and only LTRs. I think we're starting to see a slight change with gen z women being more pro-casual than any other generation past. But that's incredibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 04:46 PM
3

Mixed people generally are better looking on the whole. Turns out genetic diversity is actually desirable!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 04:36 PM
3

Oh yes, and they accuse us of "hamstering" and mental gymnastics, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 04:20 PM
2

They are, you goon. Globalization and diversification is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 04:17 PM
2

If he didn't want kids, he should take measures to ensure his sperm does not touch an egg. Period. Yes, it's "her body" that carries the child, but it's also possible she didn't want or choose to get pregnant. It's a risk adults should be aware of and both parties should take equal responsibility for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:54 PM
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Child cannot be conceived without his sperm. Why can't he contain himself? It's his personal choice to cum inside a woman, he knows full well what happens when he does this. Yet it's women's fault? Gtfo with that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:51 PM
2

You don't think these low value men manipulate and lie to women in order to get sex? Men fuck, women get fucked. Stop blaming the victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:46 PM
1

My husband and I have a similar fantasy, but instead getting together in high school. Went to same high school but met in college. We often fantasize about finding each other in HS and going to town on each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:20 PM
2

TwoX is for women, though. As a man, you can't just say "oh they should shut it down because I don't like it!!". Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:14 PM
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This is all what is changing, though. Millennials and gen z are breaking this mold and living more for themselves. They won't put up with misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:00 PM
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You will only hurt yourself by thinking this way. There are so many different kinds of women out there, and to label them all as one, you are closing your eyes to the many others who are NOT like that. Anyone who doesn't have a lot of options should fully evaluate each individual option they do have, and not generalize and paint with a wide brush.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 07:35 PM
2

This is so basic yet so many young men don't seem to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 06:38 PM
1

Greek life is a teeny tiny fraction of the college population. I think you're conflating movies with reality here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 06:35 PM
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I think that's a pretty rare type of guy, tbh. Like, celebrity levels of attractiveness and status/money. Football team Chad usually has a girlfriend and probably cheats here and there. But I doubt he's got a rolodex of booty callers that'll drop everything to come fuck him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:57 PM
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I agree with this 100%. As far as looks, if every other box is checked, she can pick a physical feature she likes in him, focus just on that and ignore the other negative features. For example, maybe his face is a bit ugly, maybe his nose specifically or jawline is meh, but he's tall, broad shoulders, nice legs, etc. She will happily ignore the negative traits. But he has to be good in every other requirement (status, stability, reputation, confidence, values-matching, etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:51 PM
1

You gaslit first my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:57 PM
3

Intelligence is absolutely selected for, what are you talking about, lol. Intelligence is correlated with higher income usually. Remember women are much more lenient when it comes to looks compared to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:47 PM
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That wasn't even her point bro. It's still traditional for the man to pay for the first date. Obviously with the high number of dates people go on due to OLD, that is beginning to change. But that doesn't change the fact that traditionally and historically, the men paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:35 PM
1

I think it's because more bluepill people in this sub have their shit together and are usually already married or in LTR (or sexually successful in their own way). So they don't have time to be meme mashing the sub. I'm in this category. I have time to make comments here and there, but never the time to make a post and reply to comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:58 PM
2

Yeah, she looks great. Idk what people are even talking about here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:57 PM
1

Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:17 PM
1

I'm talking about women in general society, not on the individual level where there will be some who won't have kids. My point was that it's easy to overlook the contribution women make to society, just because they don't make money doing it. It's just as thankless a job as trash collection. At least some trash men get tips every once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:02 PM
1

All the legitimate arguments about women working and contributing to society aside, women are the ones primarily raising kids. That's a hugely important job that men here don't seem to recognize. Without women, there would be no men doing all the things you describe. Period. So shit on women all you want, but you wouldn't be who you are today if it weren't for your mother (or mother figure). Women do ALL the grunt work related to people below the age of 18. That is a huge contribution to society…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:37 PM
1

Look for ex-muslims to match with. I'm sure they're out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:41 PM
2

What, like trying to destroy grid substations?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:05 PM
4

Thank you for being a kind person and offering compassion. I admire that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:33 PM
10

I don't see the issue here. These women move to a big city and couple up. That's literally what most people's goal is, lol. What is your gripe? That they didn't stay in their small town and marry you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:22 PM
3

God is not real.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:19 PM
7

Or at least a guy that works out too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:17 PM
1

Maybe you would be a good candidate for Adderall or another ADHD med. They are very helpful for motivation and depression, and they help you accomplish daily tasks easier, which in turn will make you feel better about yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:11 PM
1

Eh, just find a way to talk about this sub with your partner! It's a convo starter, and you can make fun of it together! Otherwise, consume moderately and be cognizant of what you allow yourself to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:56 PM
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I hope you're able to let her go find what she truly wants. Have your fun with her, but don't hog her until she loses her opportunity to find what she's looking for. Or wife her yourself, that is also an option!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:33 PM
1

There are a lot of wife/relationship material women out there, what are you talking about? Not every available girl is an insta thot. The thing is, though, these women get wifed up earlier. Maybe you're just not husband material?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:31 PM
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I know right?! There are so many men (and women) out there who found lasting love even though their partner had a kid from before. It's an instant family. Now you just have another soul to love and take care of - what's so horrible about that? Especially if the kid likes you and wants you to be their dad (or mom). I get not wanting that in your 20's, who does. But if you're in your 30's? What the big fucking deal ultimately? If you love her deeply, you will love her child.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:24 PM
1

There are quite a few ex-religious people out there. They are usually very disillusioned with religion and lean heavily agnostic/atheist. They are usually really great people too, because they've been on both sides and have a better perspective on life (in my personal biased opinion, of course! lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:51 PM
1

I'm copying a comment I wrote to another person here: I have an idea for you: look for women who are ex-christian, ex-muslim, ex-mormon, or ex-bahai. There are many of them. They were raised with traditional values and morals, but have come to reject the religion when they grew up. I am one of these women. I am atheist/agnostic now, but I feel much more comfortable serving a more feminine role in my relationship. I do hold feminist views, but I don't use it to identify myself. There are subreddi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:12 PM
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I have an idea for you: look for women who are ex-christian, ex-muslim, ex-mormon, or ex-bahai. There are many of them. They were raised with traditional values and morals, but have come to reject the religion when they grew up. I am one of these women. I am atheist/agnostic now, but I feel much more comfortable serving a more feminine role in my relationship. I do hold feminist views, but I don't use it to identify myself. There are subreddits for these people, and I'm sure there are other foru…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:08 PM
1

It's a matter of time, my friend. Men taking on traditionally feminine roles is still a relatively new thing in the grand scheme of things. Given more time, society will adjust. Stay at home dads are kind of pioneering the role for men right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 03:56 PM
1

No one seems to celebrate or value anyone who does housework, men or women. Maybe the issue lies in the devaluing of the stay-at-home role by society in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 03:42 PM
0

Omg they lap this shit up! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 09:03 PM
3

I haven't read the comments here yet. But my initial reaction is that you are selecting women too young. Anyone who puts "food, travel, fun!" Etc. Probably hasn't figured themselves out yet. They're so fresh they regurgitate what the popular people say in order to fit in. That's not what you're looking for. I think you should consider looking for women more your own age who have established a real identity and personality. They will have a stronger sense of self and will have hobbies and things …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:53 PM
1

Wooow. How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:33 PM
0

Because they are too fragile to look at themselves objectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:24 PM
4

This is an interesting way to see it. Maybe we could level the playing field by coming up with terms for men doing those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:19 PM
2

People do that kind of thing when they are defending something they hold dear. Men do it too. Fuck, Republicans do it with every single argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:16 PM
1

This kind of response is more related to immaturity, in my opinion. It's how teenagers argue - it's baby's first argument strategy. Hopefully they'll grow out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:14 PM
-1

Yes, this is the way we operate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 08:06 PM
0

I agree. I married a man easily 5 points below me in smv.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 07:50 PM
1

The only scenario I would consider a man like that would be if he was saving his money, basically waiting for me to come around, so that we could buy a house together and start our life. Any other scenario and I would be out. And he would definitely have to have a detached relationship with his mom. I can't have him putting his mom's desires and needs before mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 06:08 PM
1

When did we specify he has a job and isn't a neckbeard? I thought you were defending neckbeards, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 06:02 PM
1

It's so sad how little you value other human beings. God forbid you lose your eyesight, right? Because good looks are literally the only thing that matters. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:36 PM
2

Ah yes, women lack loyalty. That's probably the biggest steaming pile of shit I've read all day. Men are the ones secretly banging their secretaries, historically and today. And yes, it's usually because their wives are physically worn out from having their children and raising them for him. Yes, she's the disloyal one. - big exaggerated eye roll -
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:32 PM
2

Ah yes, women lack loyalty. That's probably the biggest steaming pile of shit I've read all day. Men are the ones secretly banging their secretaries, historically and today. And yes, it's usually because their wives are physically worn out from having their children and raising them for him. Yes, she's the disloyal one. - big exaggerated eye roll -
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:31 PM
1

Jesus. She's only 24 and you've already thrown her away. I truly hope she finds happiness and independence from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:27 PM
0

I wonder what she'd think of you saying all this about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:20 PM
2

You get what you deserve with this mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:14 PM
3

They are literally paid to act in porn? It's their job to, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:09 PM
1

Yes, it is a case by case thing. But in general, what can a man living in mom's basement offer to a woman who is ready to start a long-term relationship? Will she eventually move into the basement with him? Will his mom make pizza rolls for her too? Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 04:25 PM
0

What does a man living in mom's basement have going for him again?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 04:07 PM
1

And men don't have to improve their lives either. If you want something, you have to work for it. It's just that that work looks different for men vs. women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 04:06 PM
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I agree 100%! More fat women should try to lose weight, otherwise shouldn't complain if they don't attract men. But American society is very self-centered, and there's a big culture around food (our society glorifies snacks, fast food, eating out, etc.). And I've personally seen parents say things like, "why are you trying to lose weight? You look good as you are. Here, please eat more of the food I made for you!". Almost like since the rest of the family is fat, they want to keep her fat too. O…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 03:47 PM
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Exactly. And that's something men don't seem to consider when they criticize women for "not trying to improve themselves like men do".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 03:40 PM
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Do you think a man will admit to abusing their partner? That's a silly thing to ask, no one will openly admit to hurting someone else, let alone their partner (it often takes years of therapy before someone will come to accept and admit they were abusive). Also, the requirements to attract a man are different for women. Men have to show stability and responsibility in life to attract an LTR, women generally should show physical attractiveness and their ability to care for a home (in addition to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 03:36 PM
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I think this is a very important point. Men are in their late teens early 20's before they realize they need to be desirable if they want to find a partner. Whereas women are indirectly taught they have to make themselves attractive very very early on. I tried to start shaving my legs in 5th grade. I was too young to keep it up, but I asked to borrow my mom's razor and gave it a shot. In 5th GRADE!! Boys that age weren't thinking about their looks at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 03:31 PM
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It's all subconscious, and men experience it too. Everyone feels safer around attractive people. It's just what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 02:59 PM
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I'm the same. Lately been feeling bad about it, but don't know how specifically to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:30 PM
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It's because we enjoy the feeling of getting into a made bed when you're tired and ready to sleep. Is likely related to feeling clean, as I at least tend to shower at night so I'm clean and wearing clean clothes, getting into a fresh bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:19 PM
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Great, then just don't do that. Don't get into that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:58 PM
1

But isn't that like exactly what men do?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:44 PM
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Hey, I recognize your effort! It doesn't make a ton of sense to get super personalized for a first or second date (if you're still doing that once she's a "girlfriend" then that's now baseline pretty much). That being said, I think the main point she's trying to make is that you should be trying to continue getting to know the girl and push to spend quality time together, just hanging out and connecting. The more you spend time with her, the more things can happen naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:29 PM
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That sounds real to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:53 PM
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And why, in your eyes, are women to blame for single motherhood? And I would need some amount of proof that men are actually bettering themselves more than any other time. I don't need a "study", any kind of evidence would suffice for me, because all I see are deadbeat young men who spend all their time online. There is a rare few that ACTUALLY go to the gym, and that's awesome! They are trying and that effort will very likely have results (especially since so many other men are "bowing out"). B…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 10:32 AM
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Good! Everyone should be protecting themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 10:24 AM
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Jesus, man. The mental gymnastics. Each individual woman is doing her own thing. Women are not a collective plotting to bring men down by fucking only the top Chads and settling for a scmuck after she's "done". That's an incel FANTASY!! Each girl is doing what she wants to do with her life, and that can look like anything. What difference does it make what she chooses to do with her life? If you want something you have to work for it. It's that way with every other thing in this life. We all hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:03 PM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:34 PM
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Are you for real bro? You really think it was better back when men could just close the door and rape his employee? What the actual fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:13 PM
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At least you're honest with yourself about it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:07 PM
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Based on these pics and looks alone, I'd go with the guy on the left with glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:21 PM
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You've heard their music before, it's played in all stores these days. They even have a christmas song that's really popular ("Siiimply haaving a wonderful christmas time!").
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:20 PM
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Anyone can judge another person as being "wonderful" but also acknowledge they're not the right fit as a life partner. Sometimes it takes spending a large amount of time with said person to make that determination. And it has nothing to do with wanting to say everything happens "to men too!!1!". It literally happens to all people. However, I agree it's a good thing to advise young people: that not every good person is the right person for you. Making it a sex/gender thing is more of a reflection…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 05:17 PM
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But it's not a common female trait, it's a common trait for all, period. Both men and women do this. Someone might be a great person but something about their lifestyle might not match yours (different life/future plans, maybe he's a vegan, maybe he's a night owl and sleeps during the day only... It could be LITERALLY anything that's not compatible with your life). Are you implying that it would be better if she didn't break up the relationship?? Part of finding the right person is trying out pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:52 PM
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Well, those women obviously thought the criminals deserved their love. Something about them was attractive to those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 08:17 PM
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Yeah that's a good point. I'm not the type of woman to loudly proclaim I'm a "queen"... I think it's immature and it's just not a 'me' thing to do. But I think men here might misunderstand where these girls' mindset is coming from. It's their own way of boosting their self-esteem. It's not harming anyone. If anything it makes themselves look bad. No one is expected to actually treat her like a queen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 08:22 PM
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I've actually thought about this quite a bit. And I've come to the conclusion that people (both men and women) are much more attractive IN GENERAL in the US than most other countries. The melting pot effect of mixing races and genetics are resulting in more attractive and interesting facial looks. Compared to, say, somewhere like the UK. When I see footage of people walking around in the UK, or when people are interviewed from there, I always think to myself how ugly they are compared to what I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:49 PM
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Eh, you'd be surprised what you'll find in Kansas.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:42 PM
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Yes, this is absolutely 100% true. 99% of women end up marrying a man slightly uglier than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:31 PM
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It's hilarious! And it's why I'm here... 😆😎
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:21 PM
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My acne chilled out a lot in my mid/late-20's. Almost like I was still in puberty into my 20's 😂. I also started following the recommendations on the skincare addiction subreddit. That helped immensely. I also found that eating pepperoni pizza for more than 2-3 days in a row also caused breakouts. But otherwise diet wasn't much of a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:08 PM
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This is the heart of it, isn't it? That men are butthurt they can't be the choosers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:59 PM
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Well shouldn't the enraged person calm down, though? What is the ideal suggestion in your scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:45 PM
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I'm curious. Do you still have sexual urges? Do you masturbate successfully? Or is the issue just that you can't get hard enough to penetrate a vag? Please don't take offense, I'm genuinely curious as I've never heard of this specific issue!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:14 PM
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There's a literal definition, the one you outlined, and a colloquial definition (the kind she's referring to). If the man is a "self-proclaimed" incel and hangs out in the incel forums, that's a red flag because he likely has a fucked up view of women from all the horrible things being posted on those forums. Regular men who happen to be virgin don't usually self-identify as incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:43 PM
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As a woman, I would have to agree with your last sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:11 PM
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Wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:32 PM
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You're right, no one is entitled to anything in this world. But nothing wrong with interacting with others in public. Just don't be a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:23 PM
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I'd say the married woman who met her husband in college will have good relationship advice, but maybe not dating advice. Although her perspective on dating would still be valuable to men + women who desire an LTR. She just won't be super helpful for casual sex/dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:16 PM
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I'm 34 and haven't hit "the wall" yet. But my looks have lagged at least 10 years behind (felt like I JUST got out of puberty in the last 4 years 😂).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:07 PM
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But it doesn't have to be all or nothing. If you're in a public place and there's a good reason to talk to a girl (like you're both looking at cereal or both waiting in line or in an elevator), then use that as a conversation topic starter. You'll make her feel less discomfort if the object of the convo is not her, but a thing you're both observing or dealing with. It's very much the same as small talking with anyone in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:04 PM
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Married for 4 years, been together for 12. My husband was my first everything (not like I was saving myself or anything, although I was raised in a religious cult, so was shamed for anything related to sex + relationships). We met in college. Became best friends, spending as much time together as possible. He was too scared to make a move and threaten our friendship, so I had to make the first move and tell him I liked him more than a friend. We are still best friends to this day, we work togeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:44 PM
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My recommendation would be the gym or groups for light physical activity like a running, walking, or hiking groups. Those are especially good because you're walking or hiking in a group and you're almost forced to have conversations with people. And don't turn your nose up to talking to older men and women because the idea is to expand your network and they may have a daughter your age or know people they can set you up with. But yeah, physical activity groups will be a hidden gem, imo. Edit to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:20 PM
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There's a big difference between casual/friendly conversation and harassment. Women are social (in general), they like to talk to people, men and women. What they don't like is being stared at, touched, stalked, or verbally harassed (catcalling, "you should smile more", etc. type of stuff) by strangers in public. Taking this to mean, "I guess I should never approach any woman ever againnnnn!!!" Is simply a sign of immaturity, and no one likes that attitude either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:13 PM
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Women who go as far as buying donor sperm have usually thought through the decision thoroughly and are financially prepared to take on being a single mother. She is not usually a government moocher. It's the lower income accidental babies that end up costing tax.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:05 PM
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College is the best time to lock down a long term relationship. Period. Otherwise, like you said, your pool of women to choose from that are around you greatly diminishes. As a woman, I made sure I found my man in college. It's been 10 years since then and my husband and I are happier than ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:36 PM
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What the fuck is she supposed to do then? Continue getting used until she finds a guy that wants to stay? By then she'll be even more "ran through", making her even LESS desirable over time! What would YOU do in her shoes? I genuinely would like to know. And don't say, "I wouldn't have fucked around to begin with", because we were all young and dumb once and wanted to date/play around and get experiences. There's nothing wrong with experimenting when young, all men want to do this and they need …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:54 PM
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You implied that having had boyfriends in the past (and doing stuff with them) makes her less desirable to the men she's after, hence the "flaw" in her "logic". The details of "I meant letting men fuck you sooner than others" isn't really much different in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:46 PM
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I've literally read men say this on PPD. I wouldn't say it otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:55 AM
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You can call us women too :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 08:19 PM
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You have to understand that it is DANGEROUS for women to have an instinct to want to bone a sexy man at first sight. We have to be protective of ourselves #1. That's why you're seeing so many answers saying they've been attracted but not aroused at first sight. It's not a sad thing or a negative thing for men. Men just have to learn how to navigate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:03 PM
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The purpose of male attractiveness is to get their foot in the door. It will never be the only criteria for a woman to select him. Hence why many non-standardly attractive men find partners (they likely got their foot in the door in other ways such as being funny, being smart, confident, successful, etc.). Whereas it seems men put a lot more weight on looks as a criteria for choosing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 04:52 PM
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But the way women get aroused or attracted is part of what makes men feel "special" when they are chosen. Men seem to really need that feeling in long term relationships. Men want to feel like their woman only has eyes for him. For that to happen, women have to have a totally different arousal mechanism/response than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 04:47 PM
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They're not exactly the same, sure, but the differences are negligible at best. Why do you want to believe things are so much worse? 10 years ago is nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 08:19 PM
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Men are not more efficient about housework, they just have lower standards of cleanliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:56 PM
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I'm bummed I missed that make-up thread - I've been hearing people talk about it but it was supposedly deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:49 PM
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You should be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 11:34 AM
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There are just as many childfree men as there are women. I found one myself. I don't think you should lose hope and remove yourself from the dating pool. Remove yourself from dating APPS, I get that! The apps suck for us women. But don't close the door if deep down inside you want a partner in life. I've always believed love often comes when you least expect it! You just have to not be closed off such that you miss it when it comes (which I don't think you would). I hope you get what you want in…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:52 PM
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Omg you need to have a conversation with your man! Lol. This is a very small thing he can change that would make a big impact on your quality of sleep and general happiness! If he's a good man he will listen and act accordingly:)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:42 PM
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But that's not realistic at all! Most women I've encountered in my life are too embarrassed to even mention they're on their period, let alone ask for people to "fawn" over her. Periods are messy, uncomfortable, painful, and unavoidable. Most of the time we're just trying to make sure our shit doesn't bleed on our clothes by accident. There's so much more going on in our heads during this time that begging for special privileges "just because" isn't really something we consider. Having said that…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:00 PM
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Women don't want or need sex on tap from random men, though, "hot" or otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:58 PM
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Ah, yes, it's women wanting their cake and eating it too, to want basic understanding and compassion from others (ie. men).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:28 PM
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Yes, they are no big deal because it happens to us EVERY FUCKING MONTH. But no, we won't stop complaining about it, because it SUCKS. You fucking asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 11:57 AM
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Am woman, right pic is definitely better than left pic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 09:09 PM
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This is beyond stupid. I just asked my husband if my decision-making changes at all when I'm on my period. His response, "the only change in decision making that I can tell is the decision to go lay down and rest a bit more than usual". By that logic, any man who stubs his toe cannot make logical decisions because he's in pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 08:38 PM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 08:28 PM
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I guess it's so much less common for older women to be predatory to young men, to the point where PPD men can't seem to fathom how such a large age gap can have the potential for manipulation. Your comment is refreshing to see, and shows it can happen to young men too. The same as it happens to young women. That's why so many people recommend to avoid it in general. It makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:26 PM
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I've never heard of anyone, let alone "society", having any issue with a 5-year age gap, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:00 PM
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At least you admit it!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:47 PM
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I'm loving this comment. Honestly it sounds like my husband is writing this 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:13 PM
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Wait, your ideal society is like Putin's Russia?? Wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:41 PM
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Exactly. You can't just be a human slug. Everything else in your life has to be at 100% for women to consider you when you're unambitious.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:54 PM
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It doesn't really matter what it is as long as you have mastery over it. No one's going to be impressed with mediocre. The only way unambitious works is by being the best or standing out in something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:50 PM
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Bingo. I married an unambitious man. I myself am relatively unambitious. He has passions and hobbies that occupy his mind and time. He is smart as a whip, very good memory, and is amazing at every single thing he's done (showing my bias, I know!). He makes a decent enough salary for me to feel safe + secure, and aside from his hobby he doesn't spend frivolously. He works from home and just does his hobby all day. He has found a way to maximize his income while at the same time doing as little as…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:47 PM
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Yes, and time away from each other can help as well. Distance makes the heart grow fonder and all that!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:21 PM
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Yes! This is the reality we must all face. How you deal with it reflects what kind of person you are on a human level. Are you a superficial douchebag that will move on or cheat once your partner ages? Or do you cherish your partner for who they are and what you've both been through, no matter what they look like after 30 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:08 PM
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I don't think anyone is actively or intentionally segregating different men just because. There's no ulterior motive to fuck the guy over by making him wait, lol. "Different rules for different men" might happen on accident sometimes, but it's not a prescription.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 12:07 PM
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Don't let "men have to be upfront about their intentions" become a negative or scary thing to do. It's actually in everyone's favor for you to be forthcoming with how you feel and your plans for the future (i.e. are you only into sex or are you open to a relationship blossoming?). All relationships should begin with a foundation and habit of open communication so that both partners can always know where they stand with the other. They just should practice tact/compassion and know what to say and…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:30 PM
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Nice incorrect conclusion there, bud. How would you feel if a guy pretended to be your friend for the sole intention of using your PlayStation? He didn't actually care about you or your life, and all the things he said to you were lies in order to use you for what you have. That's what it's like for women when men "befriend" them just for sex. Be genuine, don't take advantage of people. If you are compatible with her and she is attracted to you, being friends will naturally become more. Sometime…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:04 PM
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I'd say having opposite sex friends to help vet is more a "nice to have" rather than a requirement. Not everyone has a lot of friends that would be comfortable with that kind of thing. Though I agree it's good to get opinions from those you trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:56 PM
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Why wouldn't people want men to better themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 05:22 PM
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Who cares? I think men who care really just care that they aren't Chad themselves. That must be what it comes down to. Jealousy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:33 PM
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What exactly are women "losing" in your mind? And how does that actually manifest in reality? And I don't mean in redpill "reality", I mean in reality reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:22 PM
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Sex is an experience, not a limited supply thing. Women don't "lose" from having sex! It's extremely outdated, sexist, toxic, and small-minded to think like that. There's no physical difference between a woman who sleeps with 5 different men vs 1 man 5 times. The negative effects of promiscuity happen to both men AND women, and it usually happens with extreme numbers (like over 20-50 sexual partners). And people with those numbers are usually compatible with each other. People with high n-counts…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:15 PM
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That's still very immature, pathetic, and short-sighted, though! Women don't have a limited number of sex tokens she gives out, and the LTR guy will have less tokens available to him because she gave them away already? That's dumb and not reality. Most people's goal in life is to find a partner to spend their time with. A woman is not damaged goods because she may have experimented in her youth. When you're vetting for a forever partner, a lot more goes into it than just how many partners did sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:02 PM
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Sure! There are bad players on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 06:50 PM
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Men and women have different problems when it comes to dating. Period. So the advice is going to be different. I suggest you compare the main points or goals of each, not the specific examples how to achieve them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 06:24 PM
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Right?? Red pill and FDS are mostly aligned when it comes to their main messages (the positive ones at least).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 06:21 PM
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That's what my parents did and it ruined their life. They married each other because their bio clocks were running out and they both wanted kids real bad. That was one of the only things they had in common (other than religion). And while they were loyal throughout their relationship, they grew to hate each other and were absolutely miserable. They divorced as soon as I was in college and now they're both old, loveless, and alone. I do not recommend marrying someone you aren't really good friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:21 PM
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I'd say that's a fair analysis of the OP, although the main point still stands, regardless of the history..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 09:26 PM
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Great comparison and explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:22 PM
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Then they aren't the trademarked and well-defined "Nice Guy".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:47 PM
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Well the whole thread is about those guys. Idk how he or she could have been more clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:42 PM
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I think that's fair. Nothing wrong with being clear about your intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:36 PM
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You're on the right track! Don't get discouraged. The right woman for you will be found in this way. Trust me. But it will come when you least expect it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:25 PM
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You're not wrong! A lot of it relies on the woman catching the same feelings at the same time. So luck and circumstances are also involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:22 PM
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My husband used the friends first tactic and I felt very safe with him. Unfortunately, I had to be the one to tell him "hey I think I'm starting to like you", before he had the guts to do anything about it. But he admitted he was more afraid of losing me as a friend and would have been happy either way, so he was too scared to escalate in any way. For a woman like me (mostly shy, inexperienced, very sheltered, raised in a cult, never having experimented, never had a boyfriend, etc.), it worked o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:10 PM
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That is really sad. I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that by yourself. Someone in your life failed you. You must not have gotten enough praise from your parents to tide you over into maturity/adulthood. And yes, it's absolutely not your fault. Unfortunately, society and the world don't care and the earth keeps moving forward regardless. I don't know what the solution is for people with your experience, other than recognizing what's happening to you as soon as possible and mustering up the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:57 PM
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Everyone gets bullied in some form or another growing up. You learn from the experience and you build a thicker skin. That's how everyone grows up and matures. Nerdy boys (or whoever you're referring to) should be doing the same as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:50 PM
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Where's the female equivalent of Viagra? Huh? The invention and commercialization of dildos/vibrators has nothing to do with it. Why haven't we fully mapped out the female body yet, that's the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:19 PM
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People have different reactions to abuse. There is SO MUCH variation out there, that most of the sweeping generalizations made on PPD are, for the most part, completely meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:28 PM
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These "men" are completely delusional and are thinking with their dicks only. The dudes that value only looks are the ones who end up being taken advantage of and end up being the bigger loser in the end. Superficiality is empty and vapid. I don't think I'd even want to be friends with a person like that. Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:11 PM
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Sure most women want rich and tall, but how many actually get it? How many men actually get thin hot virgins? It's absurd to use that as a legitimate argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:06 PM
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Too bad these douches won't read what you wrote, because everything you said is closer to truth/reality than anything they've said or thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:12 PM
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Does that make you the leech? Or them leeching on your child/elder care? Hope you get something out of it too!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:55 PM
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It is in Average Adam's best interest to not try to be a fuckboy and to aim higher (LTR). Both women and men will try to shoot for higher than themselves in the areas they value (usually looks for men, income for women, or whatever - it's individual). Everyone should be playing into their own strengths and stop thinking the grass is always greener, because it's usually not (unless they are in an abusive relationship, in which case yes, the grass will always be greener with someone not abusive).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:20 AM
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Exactly. This is what I've observed and experienced. It's quite sad that so many here try to say this relationship doesn't happen and that it's empty and always transactional. Everything can be considered transactional in some way, but it doesn't have to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:16 AM
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My husband comes home to my open arms every day (well, metaphorically, because we both work from home), so I at least know it happens. But I have the ideal relationship for both men and women, so I know I'm the exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 10:44 AM
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A lot of people choose to!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:01 PM
14

This is the realest answer here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:25 PM
32

What more can anyone realistically want? This post just feels like one of 1,001 reasons why they're not to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:34 PM
7

Dude no one expects exciting 24/7. Life is boring sometimes... for everyone. If someone is too immature to reconcile with that, then they'll have a rude awakening one day when they finally have to face it. But realistically, the majority of people have boring parents and boring family members, so they know what to expect for LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:29 PM
5

It's also because you put yourself out there to meet these people and opened yourself to absorbing and learning from them. People like the one you just responded to are often very closed off. They assume they don't have anything in common with someone and they write them off. They don't recognize that everything is an opportunity, you either choose to take it (in this case choosing to take an interest in someone or regarding them) or you choose to close that door and be indifferent/surface-level…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:22 PM
0

I'm not who you were talking to but I saw your username, lol. Curious to know what's to like about Casey Anthony?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:08 PM
1

Yeah, from what I've learned on PPD, high quality/high value women don't do tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:03 PM
6

Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:00 PM
1

That's a super defeatist attitude to take. Having a loving partner to come home to, to welcome you into her (or his) arms after a hard day, someone who understands you and listens to you... Why wouldn't you want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:45 PM
1

The younger generations are getting more and more pornified and they think porn sex is real life sex. If this trend continues, which I have no reason to think it won't, then porn sex will become real life sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:26 PM
4

Unfortunately what you just experienced is him "mansplaining" and him making sure "you're not confused". LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:53 PM
2

Porn is not real life. Not yet at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:01 PM
2

Training wheels is probably masturbation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:43 PM
2

Your house of cards will fall quick if you're looking for LTR though. So you'd need to look for a longer term strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:23 PM
3

Yeah, menopause really fucking sucks for women. Just another notch on the old "it sucks to be a woman" tally. Edit to add: I'm not being sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:15 PM
0

It's not THAT late, though. It can absolutely be done, even without medical intervention. Fertility goes down by small percentages. When you get closer to 40-45, that's when things get harder. But 30 to 39? Should be easy breezy to have 2-3 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:53 PM
0

Men are getting vasectomies significantly more these days, I truly believe there are more childfree men now than there ever were. Don't lose hope!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:51 PM
2

I don't see why she shouldn't be telling you to be nice, be a gentleman, be yourself. That is still good advice if you want to attract a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 08:52 PM
1

These dudes are delusional.. It seems to me that it's much too difficult for them to socialize themselves and put themselves out there. And spending hours on this subreddit blaming everything under the sun is much easier to swallow. I guess they ultimately don't want it bad enough to do anything about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 08:28 PM
1

With every piece of advice from parents, comes a kernel of truth. Even the "bad" advice you claim moms give sons, they are usually mostly correct. Especially since 100% of the time they don't want their sons fucking around getting chicks pregnant and getting STDs. Any other advice and you're putting your child at risk. How is this so hard to comprehend?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 08:25 PM
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Yeah, I don't know what they think this argument proves. And people keep throwing around "you blame everyone but yourself" and now I'm finally starting to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 08:15 PM
1

I think that's why it's so important for men to stick around to raise their children. What can society do to incentivise men sticking around for their kids? Also, abortion access should be a right so these situations can be avoided.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 04:18 PM
1

Agreed. Part of maturing and growing up is recognizing these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:54 PM
3

I have the same history and relationship with my parents. I avoid talking to them. These days it's a text every couple of months. I see them maybe once a year. I am so much happier without their negative energy in my life!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:46 PM
1

What exactly is wrong with a woman who doesn't regularly wear makeup?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:41 PM
1

That's what we're all here for! ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:34 PM
4

I'd say that's rare. You got lucky!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:30 PM
0

I would actually venture to guess that Americans on the whole have more attractive faces than, say, the UK. I'm always so shocked when I see footage of people from the UK... It's pretty grim.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:27 PM
1

I think it is MUCH more common than it used to be among young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:22 PM
1

She's pretty blobular.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:20 PM
2

Okay yeah that's pretty obese. If she continues this trajectory, she's skirting landwhale territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:52 PM
1

There is 0 proof there is a god, let alone an afterlife. There never has been proof and there never will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:10 PM
2

That does not sound appealing for the woman at all. You're basically asking her to give and do literally everything while you not doing the same (or be equal in some way). Maybe I'm misreading what you meant, but the woman doing all housework (and add to that the fooding + shopping aspect) + childcare + work full time + fulfill all your sexual desires, while you just work full time + sit back and enjoy the fruits of her labor the minute you get home... This unfortunately doesn't make for a happy…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:03 PM
1

I'm sorry, but if we still believe in an afterlife of hellfire and damnation for eternity, then I don't even know what to think. What a ridiculously juvenile and baseless belief to hold in 2022. Religion is a poison. Pure and simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:54 PM
1

Unfortunately because women have been second class citizens for so much of humanity, it will be a little while before society in general starts hearing and really caring about men's problems. It's just what it is for now. But maybe the ideal solution is to make all support avenues be open to both men and women. Remove the gender aspect, and maybe more people will be helped? Idk. It's tough, and it's unfair, but once women fully get equalized to men, then society can focus on individual issues as…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:52 PM
2

That is my observation/experience as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:41 PM
1

Well ya gotta offer something! You can't just be an ugly bump on a log and think that's enough to attract long-term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:13 PM
2

Get it!! There absolutely ARE good non-promiscuous girls out there. Just stay positive, make your heart open, and just try to get to know as many potential girls as possible. For what you're looking for (LTR), starting out as friends is the right move. If you feel like you're being "friend zoned", which will happen, just spend less time with her and continue moving ahead. Don't let it bring you down, she just isn't your person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:57 PM
2

You could try collaborating with classmates on class work and try to build a friendship out of that? It's tough, I know. Don't give up hope!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:51 PM
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The ADHD mostly just affects career, income, life goals, and drive to succeed. For these groups, it's best to match up early (like in college), so the pressure to be super successful is less (since by that point you'll already have your person who loves you for you).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:49 PM
0

Learn from your mistakes and keep trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:43 PM
1

It happened to me and it can happen to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 11:08 AM
0

Love always comes when you least expect it. Put it out of your mind for a few weeks/months and see what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:45 PM
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BURN
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:13 PM
5

Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 07:44 PM
0

Yeah uhuh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:22 PM
0

Stop trying to make "cosigned" happen! J/k I'm teasing ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:10 PM
1

Women generally prefer men who are taller than THEM. I think it's a big flaw in thinking all women prefer 6'. Women just want a man taller than them, and there's a LOT of variety in women's height, as there is in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:59 PM
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Why can't these dudes understand this? It's more a reflection of them, because everyone else is looking at each other like wtf is up with this guy? No wonder he's not successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:48 PM
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How do you think we could socialize young boys and girls more? Should we ask schools to arrange more school dances to encourage more boy/girl interactions? I feel like a lot of these social skills are learned in middle and high school, and then ideally they can then fully practice in college with actual sex. In my experience and opinion, men should not be foregoing college as an option for finding their mate (like, if you can't get into college, go to community college). I think if more men desi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 04:46 PM
0

That's such a dumb, small-dick take.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 04:29 PM
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Sex is a LOT more than just dick size for women. It's the chemistry, the flow of how things go, the pheromones, the emotions, the feel, the touch, the enthusiasm, his desire for her body, etc. More than anything, women want to be wanted and lusted for during sex. Dick size likely won't even register as a thing she cares about as long as it's near average size and works (and even small is usually just fine). The only scenario most women won't be happy with a dick is if it's a micro-penis, and tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 10:39 AM
1

Then you would understand more than other men what women go through, being afraid for their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:32 PM
1

Very little will actually hurt your social standing at your job (physician) unless it's malpractice. People overlook a LOT with doctors.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 10:47 AM
1

This is the most accurate response.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:14 PM
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It makes you look like a selfish piece of shit to outright ask "so what are you going to do for me?"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:26 PM
1

He's Indian, so he's likely extremely misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:24 PM
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The way I see it, as a society we WANT women to only mate with the top men. Let's let women decide who are the best men to have children with. Why? Because that improves the genetics of the future generations. It's basic biology. Let women filter out the men who are unfit to pass on their genetics. I don't see anything wrong with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 02:45 PM
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In my case, I have a husband who doesn't want kids (and he's pretty adamant about that), so my choice is quite limited anyway. We've been together over 10 years (in our early 30's now) and opinions on that have not changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:51 AM
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I'd want kids too if I was a man. But as a woman, it's just too much to take on (physically, emotionally, financially, time-wise, effort-wise, etc.) when I have the option to not. It's so easy for a man to change his mind after the fact too. So it's a risky choice for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:28 AM
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And that kind of life for a kid sucks and causes serious and lasting emotional trauma. It's a better idea to just not have that kid in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:03 AM
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Child bearing and child rearing is oh so easy if you're a man. So of course you're going to have this take.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:01 AM
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You can't force or expect your kids to be there when you're dying. Using that as a reason to have kids is incredibly stupid. Not to mention, selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 10:59 AM
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Some of these I've LITERALLY never heard anywhere before. And I've been on PPD for a while now. I guess we look at different posts or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 08:21 PM
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But just like today, that's not a realistic thing to expect from all families.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:02 PM
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Not always. More and more men these days do not want the burden of kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:20 PM
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If the man is significantly older than her, she will look up to him for this kind of life guidance, so it is his responsibility to lead her in the right direction and encourage her to talk to a therapist to help her out. This is much less of a thing for more equal age difference couples. But the large age gap causes a mentor-mentee dynamic just by virtue of the age difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:17 PM
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Except even unfruitful dates can be opportunities for growth and learning, and it's good socialization practice. You get more out of a bad date than paying some dude for his "advice".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:49 PM
2

Do you have any examples of scams blue pillers fall for? I genuinely can't think of any.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:48 PM
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Your final point seems really rough. So glad I am happily married and don't have to deal with that stress and disappointment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:25 PM
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It's less weird and off-putting when 18-22 year olds date each other because they are learning and experiencing new things together, even though their brains aren't fully formed. They're on more equal ground. A 45+ year old sniffing around an 18-year old is no different than dating your teacher or boss. They have world experience the younger person doesn't and thus can more easily take advantage of the 18-22 year old. And that's fucked up and creepy. Let people grow and learn naturally without s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:02 PM
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These crusty old men need to just stop altogether. If a woman looks young (whether she's underage or not), they shouldn't be trying to mess with her at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:43 PM
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Generally that's indicative of undesirable bio or photos. Those men need to have someone critique their profiles and maybe take some more flattering pics of them. If they're unable to get good pics because of looks, then they might want to start doing things to improve their look (there are many things they can do).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:22 PM
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Well, theoretically, the incentive would be to find serious people who want long-term relationships? You're right, though, it's tough. But from what I can tell (I'm a woman but never used OLD), most women who want an LTR or marriage don't use Tinder or the other apps very much because those apps are geared towards hooking up. It's a waste of a woman's time to be bombarded by men who just want to fuck, so they don't even bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:23 PM
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Not with THAT attitude! Lol. But for real, though. There is a woman out there for you. Maybe we need a new online dating platform with no pictures at all, just bio and questionnaires to match personalities. Because that's what makes a lasting relationship (if that's what you're looking for, of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:59 PM
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It's true though. She may not be "hot", but she exists. These incels are just butthurt they can't attract hot chicks, but the reality is they never could, it's called "out of your league". Stay in your league and you'll inevitably find a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:11 PM
2

BINGO!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:02 PM
3

Try not to be allergic to things that are "difficult".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:38 PM
2

What would it take to fill in that massive chip on your shoulder?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:56 PM
1

Once again, it's a failsafe for EVERYONE including yourself. I get that you're perfect and you'll never be jobless or need food and so you won't ever need the government's help, but you never know. Shit happens and you better believe your tune would change if it did happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:45 AM
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HAH! It's not baseless slander. It's reality. Have you even taken a college level science class?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:42 AM
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You are correct that things that aren't probable are still worth explanation, but those "explanations" can never be upheld as "fact". Only things that are provable are fact. Anything else is debatable and only good for frivolous online discussions like this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:37 PM
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Evolutionary psychology has no real basis in fact or science. It's literally all armchair speculation and is not respected as an actual scientific field.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 06:52 PM
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I think that's what separates you from the redpill types who only value looks. You're looking for a partner that will be compatible for LIFE, spending time with her every single day. Whereas the redpill only desire looks, and that's why their relationships literally never last and why they have a big chip on their shoulders about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 06:19 PM
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You're outing yourself as being of a higher class than most of dudes that comment in this sub 😆 Also, you're spot on from what I see in my daily life. Actual "high value" men seek intelligence, education, and compassion/empathy in the women they seek for marriage. In fact, looks kind of take a second seat to the criteria above. Most of these women, however, take good care of themselves anyway, so there is a general tendency towards good looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 06:14 PM
1

Just out of curiosity, and to understand your views a bit better, where are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 06:05 PM
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Do you consider women who don't wear makeup, or who don't care that much about current fashion, to be ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 05:59 PM
1

That's pretty funny you think I didn't go to school or have a job. I went to a top state school and I've been employed every since (except right out of college when I needed some help from the government because my parents were unable to financially help me - but I helped myself after that). And, not that you need to know anything else about me, but I've never been pumped and dumped, I stuck with my first love and college boyfriend and we've been doing great, going on over 10 years now. I was a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:24 AM
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But I'd bet you money if you lost your job, you'd be the first in line for what you're "owed" from the government. Maybe if more people had compassion and were less selfish, it wouldn't be seen as such a big deal that a small percent of taxes are there as a fail safe to make sure everyone is taken care of equally in their time of need. I'm not a minority, and even I had food stamps both once as a child and once again in college. I used these services twice. I did not try to "live for free off th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 11:46 AM
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Wouldn't you want those services if YOU were too poor to afford it? A HUR, A DUR.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 11:09 AM
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For young men, I will say: GO TO COLLEGE. Do not lose your opportunity to meet people and women by skipping the college experience. In college, both men and women are basically shopping for their future husband/wife. Do college activities, make as many friends as you possibly can, and keep up with them. You are much more likely to find your love during these college years.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 06:08 PM
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The idea is to be active and go to social settings. It makes sense that if you interact with more people in general, you are increasing your chances of meeting women. Versus just sitting at home and hoping a girl swipes right. Unless you have great looking pics on tinder, you're not going to get very many swipes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:59 PM
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Very true. Good on you for researching and learning about women's bodies and how their cycle affects their gains in the gym. I think there are studies that talk about the best times of the month to do certain training - for example, during your period it's good to lift, the week before your period focus more on cardio, etc. There are suggestions based on how the woman feels during her cycle. Look into it! It's interesting and would be helpful advice for women. I, too, love being active and fit a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:39 PM
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No, you're absolutely right! However, I do believe men overall tend to not contribute as much to housework as women do, and therefore have more free time to do whatever, get horny, game, etc. There are outliers just as you described (I agree many men love to cook!), But I think my situation is extremely common. Hopefully the next few generations of men will contribute more equally to household chores, and everyone can have time for sex every day!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:34 PM
1

Love always comes when you least expect it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:10 PM
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I guess you don't deserve clean water, your trash picked up, your city clean, or to be protected by police then. Glad you were able to save a few bucks each paycheck amiright?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:47 PM
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That tells me young men are dumb as fuck because taxes don't just help those groups, they help EVERYONE. Like, who do they think pays for roads, access to clean water, regulations to ensure our food and drugs aren't poisonous or destroying the environment... I could go on. An intelligent, educated young man will understand taxes are not just for the popular talking points (medical, LGBTQ, etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:44 PM
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I guess that's the sacrifice you have to make to be with a woman. Go be with men of you need sex multiple times a day every day!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:36 PM
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7 shorter sessions!! Get off together and continue with your day! If you're trying to spend over an hour of my time fucking, I don't have the attention for it, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:31 PM
2

I will say, I have a husband and 3 dogs, and I spend about 1.5 hours every single morning tidying up the kitchen, bedroom, and living room from the previous day's activities. That's just to get things looking decent for the day. Factor in laundry, vacuuming, dusting, etc. That's like over 2-3 hours a DAY, and I have a full-time job and working out that I need to do every day as well. And I have a decent sex drive and think once a day or every other day is ideal. Just saying, housework, even with…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:26 PM
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No one here is talking about you caring about a stranger's vagina. Obviously no one cares about a stranger's anything. We're talking about caring about your partner's vagina. She's saying dudes generally don't care about (or really think about) their PARTNER'S vagina if they're trying to have sex multiple times a day. They're only thinking about their own needs usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:17 PM
1

Honestly it would get boring too! There's only so many positions that work well enough to get off with, it all gets old pretty quick if you're doing it every single day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:10 PM
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I think you're making a sound argument. And I totally agree that it's mostly really young people with these extreme standards because they don't have as much life experience. Given time and socialization, these women will eventually see there is no such thing as perfect. No amount of men telling them to be "realistic" will convince them, only time and experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 04:16 PM
1

Exactly! Women who have extreme standards will figure out for themselves that their standards are too high. Eventually a guy will come along that checks a few of their boxes and the rest no longer matters because they are a good fit and they fall in love. A lot can be forgiven once you fall for the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 04:09 PM
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Anyone who goes after those hard-to-achieve characteristics like 6ft, 6-figs, as their bare minimum is shallow and they will likely turn off any man that is "high value". Same with ugly men wanting insta model hot women. Marriages based on superficial stuff never last. So it is incumbent on anyone looking for a marriage material person to filter out the people who want those requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 03:57 PM
1

This exact comment can be said about men (or really the "nice guys" and incels and black pills/redpills). Really, it's for anyone who is not realistic about what they can attract. Which, for some reason, there are a lot of them on Reddit and online in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 03:20 PM
1

Nope. If I intentionally make eye contact more than once, I'm checking him out and hoping he sees me seeing him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 11:06 AM
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There is something to be said about relentless pursuit. There are many "romantic" stories from the '50's and later where the guy didn't give up and the girl eventually let him in and they're still married 45 years later. It's a strategy, but it depends on the type of girl. And honestly it might not even work in the post-internet age (or it might! I wouldn't know). But be careful following this method and learn to stop when she is seriously saying no.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:00 PM
2

Do you want an LTR? If you're not too concerned about that, then cam models and other types of sex workers could help you fulfill those fantasies!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 04:53 PM
1

If you're at a bar or in a public place, as a woman, if I make eye contact then I'm looking at you and I'm interested in you. Please approach especially if we make eye contact more than once! Eye contact once could be an accident, but twice or more, don't sleep on it!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 04:47 PM
3

That makes sense to me. I have no problem with that assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 08:34 PM
1

In that scenario, the man will likely care about the woman's income as well (if neither wants kids).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:15 PM
2

You make good points. I will say, though, that you are wrong about making friends first and then showing interest. A LOT of marriages start this way (my own included). Becoming friends is a good way to get to know a person. The closer you get to each other, the more sexual tension starts to build and the chances of falling in love are increased and it's just a more natural progression. Of course, there is the possibility of being friend-zoned. But you're just going to have to be okay with that. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:01 PM
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I'm a woman, and I would never be comfortable with a man "cold approaching" me randomly on the street. Absolutely hell no. That's the creepiest thing. Even if the guy is a 10, it would still come off as he's just trying to get in my pants, and that's a no-go for me (and I imagine most women). I'd feel much more comfortable with a cold approach if I've seen his face a few times already and I'm able to observe his natural behaviors a bit (like if I see him on campus, in class, at work, at the gym,…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:44 PM
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If the only thing the women see is the man's tinder profile pic, then yes, the more attractive man will be more successful. That's obvious because the women only have the photo to decide. True confidence (that women are attracted to) can't always be captured in a photo. In OLD, this is why attractive men are successful: because they pass the only real bar available for women to decide from, their picture. I would not recommend apps for men who have average or below looks (or else spend more time…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:06 PM
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I disagree. The one thing nearly all comments contain is "confidence" (or another word basically meaning the same thing, "charisma", "be able to read the room", etc.). Most of the comments that mention looks are saying they must at least be average (ie. Not a disgusting leper). And I think that's a bottom line standard that both men and women uphold for the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:16 PM
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I think this is the most succinct and accurate response. You don't need any more than that to attract people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:57 PM
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It's the IDGAF mindset that is attractive. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:55 PM
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I totally disagree. Everyone understands the fact that not all women will be into you. How you deal with rejection and being able to brush it off and move on and still be happy is a quality women will absolutely take note of. Whether or not she is "first pick" is irrelevant and dumb. No one is keeping tabs like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:54 PM
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I think women who want to have a family (ie. Children in the future), will care more about a man's income.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:26 PM
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You can be stoic and still care about how people are treated or how women are perceived. You can be stoic and want everyone to be treated equally. We found each other. We were acquaintances who never spoke to each other in high school and then recognized each other in college. But if you must know, I made the first move.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/22 11:04 AM
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Like others have said, it's fucked up to see women as objects like that. They are human, just like you. Having said that, there ARE women out there EXACTLY as you describe. I am one of them. I feel a lot of the same things you do. I am stoic, unemotional, selfish, etc. I don't need people around me, I'm happy alone, etc. However, I found someone who is just like me. We've been together ever since we met basically. So don't think there's no hope for finding someone like you. As long as you're not…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 08:28 PM
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Trust. When you find someone you click with and you build a relationship together, it is built on trust. The more you let her in and be vulnerable, the closer she gets to you and this whole process builds trust on each other. Unfortunately, this also makes it very difficult if that trust is broken. But that's part of why you choose someone who shares your values and life goals ("vetting").
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 08:17 PM
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I get the feeling you might be a bit insecure about possibly not being interesting to women. You know what is interesting? Passion about a subject. That's it!! That's literally all women are attracted to in a man (well, obviously not the only thing). Women love and admire men who have a passion for something. Men who are positive, eager, and have light in their hearts. People like that attract others. People are drawn to them. And it really doesn't matter what it is they are passionate about. If…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 08:02 PM
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I think you're taking it too far when you try to label everything or everyone as having ulterior motives ("safe bet", etc.). Life is short, people want to find someone who is compatible in most ways and settle into a comfortable relationship before their time on this earth runs out. The point I'm trying to make is that everyone makes a mental calculation and considers all aspects of a person as they decide whether or not to be with that person. And "safe bet" is likely something you would also d…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 07:54 PM
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Good on you for working hard to build yourself and your life! However, it seems you have put up a barrier between yourself and potential mates. You assume the women you date have not gone through the same struggles you have and are therefore not on your level and can't relate. I think this is a self-created mechanism to protect yourself, to protect what you've worked hard for. I urge you to open your heart to allow a woman the chance to listen and to understand. I promise you won't find anyone w…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 05:45 PM
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Just looked up Andrew Tate's picture... Eww-yuckh. He looks like a douche I wouldn't touch with a 6-ft pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:55 PM
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Have there been studies done to back this up?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:36 PM
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This. It's the same with super hot women. Other women want to be them, but they'll give them shit and demean them for being hotter than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:09 PM
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Unfortunately, I believe it. You can't blame women for young men being bumps on a log. Maybe we should be exploring why men have lost all vigor and desire to succeed in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:58 PM
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That's really happening only in low income/class/education areas, and probably always will unless we make education more accessible. And in those areas, abortion should be extremely accessible to prevent what you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:05 PM
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Hard disagree. I grew up with my parents staying together only "for the kids". It was extremely toxic, with both parents talking badly about the other behind their back to us kids. I often wished they'd just divorce and get it over with. They eventually did after I left for college. They would have been much happier, and could have found someone else, had they just split sooner. Now they're both too old to find a new partner and no one wants them. My dad at least is still hopeful to find another…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 05:38 PM
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Same can be said about men, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 05:32 PM
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Bingo!
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 01:55 PM
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That's fantastic! Good for you :)
/r/ExRedPill24/09/22 12:08 PM
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Just wanted to say, there are many asexual women out there that would love to be in a relationship!
/r/ExRedPill24/09/22 11:43 AM
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My point is that there's a goddamn difference between movie star (or porn star) level attractiveness and reality. Men and women both daydream about fucking the "ideal", but then you snap out of it. And everyone knows it's not reality. That's not even mentioning that women don't need perfect looks to be attracted, why do you think they marry their looksmatch?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 10:25 AM
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Well then excuse me, I guess I meant PORN STARS are the ideal for men. MY BAD.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 10:18 AM
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Sure - that's the "ideal", just like supermodels are the "ideal" for men. But everyone knows that's not reality, and guess what, women are attracted to average men in real life! 99% of women actually end up marrying their general looksmatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:20 PM
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I believe you proved her point with your last sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 06:48 PM
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Some men aren't meant to sleep around, and if this person hasn't had success yet, then he is likely one of these men who are better off in long-term relationships. Men either "have it" or they don't. And that's okay! Not all women want to be pumped and dumped. Some men are better suited to longer lasting relationships and should lean into that instead of trying to force something that isn't there for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:48 PM
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They want their money. They are not actually attracted to the men. There is a big distinction.
/r/ExRedPill03/09/22 04:29 PM
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Actually, it absolutely is. Being a good person is unrelated to my argument. Here's an example of what I'm trying to say: Teachers do not get paid a lot, but they have financial stability because they have job security. This is attractive to women. Choosing to become a teacher, knowing they will always have a job, is good decision-making.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 11:02 AM
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I agree with this. Women are attracted to someone who's got their shit together. I mean, anyone would be. Have a drive to succeed in life. And success does not necessarily have to mean millionaire either. Financial stability is highly attractive. Good decision-making skills. Preparing for your future. No one is attracted to a deadbeat with no driver's license who drops out of college and works minimum wage. Even if they are good looking. Good looks can only take you so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 07:48 PM
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It really is eye-opening. And says more about the "red-pilled men" than any woman.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/22 07:11 PM
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That should be telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:43 PM
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Yeah, it's exactly like that. It's a shitty situation all around, and the person needs to decide if they are willing to get over it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 06:41 PM
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It's all fake and scripted.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 07:49 PM
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Don't know what video you're talking about, but I assume she's in on it.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 10:58 AM
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All very true. Well said.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 12:04 AM
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You might not know this, but literally every person goes through the "i've never dated anyone, will anyone ever love me, am i ugly?" phase. Even attractive people go through this at one point or another. Love always comes when you least expect it. That's why everyone's advice is to work on yourself, because then you will spend your time on productive things instead of wasting it pining and wishing. If you were a woman, would you be more attracted to the guy who has low self-esteem and thinks he'…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/20 01:23 PM
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I don't think it's very controversial on this sub. Everything you said makes sense.
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 05:54 PM
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Don't beat yourself up about things you can't control. The best you can do is be open and accepting of anyone who wants to be your friend, whether it be at work, campus, wherever. Everyone knows it's hard to make friends when classes are online. Maybe you can consider starting a study group (in-person or online) with classmates and see if anyone wants to join - then try to make friends from that group? Ultimately, being positive and open will draw people to you. Don't let your depression from la…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 05:36 PM
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If it's something you are insecure about, then probably a deal breaker. Confidence is the most important I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/20 10:36 AM
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These are all personal preferences: Don't be a fat f*ck, working out is a plus (I work out a lot myself). No long fingernails, as everyone else listed - long fingernails are creepy and gross. I am absolutely grossed out any time I see a man with long fingernails. Guh-rosse. I'm not into short dudes, but would be okay if literally everything else about him is perfect. Bald is a no-go. I like a full healthy head of hair like myself. I love beards (no mustaches, though). Haircut doesn't matter much…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 01:03 PM
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So a man that can overcome his baser urges and keeps it in his pants is beta? GTFO of here with that bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 05:34 PM
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What's wrong with childfree again?
/r/ExRedPill07/02/20 09:08 PM
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Miami.
/r/askTRP27/12/19 09:36 AM
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Then men who pursue "career women" know what they're getting into.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 01:02 PM
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If she cared more about her work than her relationship, then why pursue a relationship? It's more likely she wouldn't bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 12:23 PM
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I think you've hit the nail on the head here. It's not that men "handle their emotions better than women", it's that they follow the societal norms of what is the acceptable way of displaying their emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 06:48 PM
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I'm happy you found the right woman for you. They are out there, despite what the RP claims. All women are definitely not "like that".
/r/ExRedPill29/12/18 12:11 PM
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That's pretty hilarious. You must be the type who thinks abortion is bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 11:54 AM
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Exactly. We don't talk about it enough as a society, but childbirth FUCKS you UP! Women really give up a lot to have children and we shouldn't take it lightly. I don't want a prolapsed uterus (my mother had one after giving birth to my brother), I don't want a prolapsed anus, I don't want to pee myself when I sneeze or cough or whatever, and these are all pretty much guaranteed to happen. I have a fantastic tight little body right now, I'm not ruining it for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 06:28 PM
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Female, early 30's here. Having a child DESTROYS your body. Your "downstairs" will literally never be the same again. And then you have to take care of a child every waking moment for the next 10 years with no break. It's a lifetime commitment and you no longer live for yourself. And for what? To have an ungrateful little shit of a kid? No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 12:21 PM
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Interesting to see at least one Bahai on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 07:47 PM
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That's because it's bullshit and not true.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 08:21 PM
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This is absolutely incorrect. IUD removal is very simple and painless. In fact, she can remove it herself if she wanted to. All the doctor does is pull the string until it's out. And you are also very wrong about the baby being fucked up if conceived within a year of having the IUD. Where are you getting all this false information?
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 08:20 PM
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So you don't want a woman who is into you for the real you. You want someone who is into you for superficial reasons. Got it.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/18 11:57 AM
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Never assume. Hot girls go for "average-looking" men all the time.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/18 01:12 PM
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For the record, I was absolutely NOT holding his unemployment against him, I AM holding the fact that he didn't lift a finger during his 6 months of unemployment against him. You'd think that if you don't have work you'd want to contribute in other ways, but he did no such thing. For 6 MONTHS. I was making plenty of money for the both of us during that time, so money was never an issue. During that 6 months I still kept up the house because I was working from home. Now that I'm NOT working from …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/18 12:19 PM
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You're right, all you've heard from me is complaining. I guess I read OP's post and thought "I give a lot in this relationship and sometimes I wish my partner gave a little bit back as well" - aanndd... it sort of snowballed and became a venting exercise for me. I really appreciate your perspective, and although I've heard it all before, it is good to hear it again. Things have been exceedingly stressful for me lately, with my new job and my being away from home all day every day, so I've been c…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/18 10:50 PM
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Sure, I understand your point. I'm sure there are times when he does a mediocre job so he can be done and get back to his video games. But we're adults now (almost 30). And it's time he takes some responsibility in his life! If he didn't do a good job cleaning something, he should know about it so he can improve next time. I lurk on the RP subreddit, and even though I don't agree with most of the crap on there, I do wish he followed some of the ideas. You see, working out is my hobby, my passion…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/18 01:14 PM
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I'm in a relationship where I do LITERALLY everything in the house. EVERYTHING. I recently got a job where I have to commute (whereas I was working from home before that), and my h still works from home. He sometimes says "make me a list and I'll do it before you get home from work!". Well, I made him a list every day this week and he only completed ONE of those items. I came home yesterday, tired and exhausted, and I had to vacuum, tidy up, pick up HIS clothes off the floor, and clean the kitch…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/18 01:26 PM
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This has already been said by other commenters, but people in happy committed relationships do not cheat. Cheating happens when there is dysfunction in the relationship. It will not happen when both people are happy with each other and the relationship. Making sure both partners communicate their feelings on a daily basis will ensure that things get worked out when there is trouble. In general, you will see cheating happen in very young couples who don't want to be tied down (but for some reason…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/17 07:00 PM
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The point is that these extreme acts are becoming SO common and "normal" that if the woman decides to set boundaries, the man will think less of her and possibly try to find it elsewhere. Sure, "submitting" is supposed to be pleasurable for both parties, but that's not what's being displayed in porn. And porn is where men are getting their expectations from (you know, since they watch it literally all the time now).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 03:28 PM
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Wouldn't that be nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 03:24 PM
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I find that many first-born children take after the father, and the second-born takes after the mother (this is the case with my sibling and I and many many others that I've observed in my lifetime). Of course, it's not ALWAYS like this, but I'd say 75% of the time it's like this. But all of this to say: it varies. I don't think ALL children take more of the father's genes, it's literally a mixed bag (as it was designed to be).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/17 03:45 PM
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I'm late to the party, and I don't usually comment on these subs (though I lurk), but something compelled me to answer... My parents divorced after I left for college. They stayed together "for the kids" (which I will always recommend against). My parents were horrible to each other but tried to keep it together around us. When a parent was alone with us, they would talk shit about the other parent. Super dysfunctional, yet there was definitely love for us, the kids. Both my parents were in thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/17 03:19 PM
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Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/17 08:28 PM
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The American left is not against capitalism. Like, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/17 03:35 PM
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Sounds like UNC.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/17 09:30 PM
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Her legs look so short, though!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/17 09:08 PM
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But is a life of lying and hiding from your family worth the effort and headache and trouble? Just for a fuck? Idk, sounds pretty pathetic if you ask me. Dead bedrooms can be dealt with using communication. If the wife is 100% set on never having sex, then she should be open to you finding someone else to have sex with (or having an open relationship or whatever). But chances are she wants to make you happy and will be willing to make things work. EDIT: Also, if there is that kind of trouble in …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/16 08:42 PM
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Grabbing hold of anybody (whether it's her shoulder or whatever, or "slapping" her) is tantamount to assault. Don't be surprised if she fights back by kicking you in the nuts.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/16 04:39 PM
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a woman can't get a similar sexual release from maturation as she does with a man Where did you get this from? Because women can absolutely get the same sexual release from masturbation that men can. Just like men, women also want to be close to a partner and have the same positive hormones be released. It's all about the hormones and the feeling of being close to another person, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/16 03:50 PM
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Trump is a "celebrity" and Clinton was secretary of state AND a senator. I'm going with the one with actual government/politics experience. Clinton has been in politics literally her whole life! She's going to know what the fuck she's doing. Whereas Trump is running for president just to see if he can. It's just a show in his eyes. And he's already made millions on his campaign, so for him it's a win-win either way!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/16 03:21 PM
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"OD on heroin night"?! How about just "heroin night"? No need to OD on it! :)
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 07:32 PM
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She can always get a copper IUD. Works better than any hormonal birth control anyway (and has no hormones).
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 03:16 PM
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I don't think this is true at all. I don't currently have any friends (I'm female), but I would absolutely love for someone to be my friend and someone who would want to hang out with me. What does "personality defect" really mean? Growing up, my family traveled a lot, so I was moving from school to school - this allowed me to practice making friends, but it was keeping these friends that became difficult once I moved. Of course, this was the time right before facebook became a thing, so the old…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/16 04:51 PM
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You're right about the definition of a fetish - idk what I was thinking when I wrote that, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/16 02:03 PM
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I completely agree - men are going to be attracted to fertility and, to some degree, what the women in their family look like (generally speaking. Not all people are attracted to others with similar skin tone (like interracial couples), but I'd be comfortable saying the majority of people seek mates that look similar to themselves). Obese and fat is liked only by a small minority of men, and in those cases it is more of a fetish (as in, they won't turn down a normal sized woman, but they enjoy t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/16 07:55 PM
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But the poor peasants looked up to the wealthy fatties - and just like today, they wanted to emulate them (b/c rich = desirable = the rich deciding what is beautiful/popular, even if it's just by being themselves). So even though the fat tubs being painted had likely commissioned said painting, it is still representative of what was fashionable/beautiful for that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/16 04:01 PM
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Well, I was the one who first told him I liked him (aka "asking him out" I guess, since he didn't have the balls to do it himself), so yes, at the very least I expect him to ask me to marry him (we've been living together for 5 years now).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 05:23 PM
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