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Thanks for reminding me I'm wasting my time by being on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 05:11 AM
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Men crying about "emotional" death are pathetic, weak, cowards. And like I said that kind of man is a bitch who needs to grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 05:01 AM
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No, my statement is more legitimate. I'm not arguing philosphy or ideology on this one, I'm talking biology alone. You can sustain the human body indefinitely on life support with nutrients and water alone. The human body does not need sex to survive. Anyone who disagrees is legitimately a braindead moron who know nothing about how the body works.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:56 AM
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The human body will not physically cease functioning, aka death, without sex. Literally a 3rd grade understanding of biology is enough to get that. Men crying about "emotional" death are pathetic, weak, cowards.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:48 AM
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More men need to adopt this mindset too. Stop being so desperate for anything, be patient and wait till you find the right partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:16 PM
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I view it as coming from a place of wanting and expecting someone else to protect them and solve their problems for them. Be it the teacher in school, the government as an adult, or even "the manager", some people want to deny their
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:07 PM
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Yes, those men are responsible for acting like animals. Those women are equally responsible for being aware and minimizing potential harm to themselves. People need to grow up and stop acting like you can run to the principal with your problems. You as an individual have a personal responsibility to protect yourself, no one else will. "I really wanna travel to this place cause it's beautiful. Oh there's a war going on? Well it's not my fault if I die, I'm just a civilian." Yes by all means, you …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 06:48 PM
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Why are people so insecure they have to defend their preferences to strangers? Why are people so insecure they have to attack strangers for the preferences they have? Who cares what someone else thinks about what you choose do with your life. People need to grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:14 PM
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You will not die without sex, unlike food and water, therefore you do not need sex to survive. People want sex. People who resort to paying out of desperation, are weak cowardly subhuman animals because they are controlled by their bodily desires instead of taking control of their life. People who sell themselves willing and freely of coercion, are weak cowardly subhuman animals because they are capitalizing on people's lack of control and refusal to do or build anything genuinely meaningful and…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:24 PM
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I will say this every time a post like this comes up. Men who pay for sex are pathetic. Women who sell themselves willingly are pathetic. The buying and selling of the human body, of human intimacy, is despicable. Prostitution is despicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 05:21 AM
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Say you want to have a lot of sex. Is it easier to accomplish that by having a few hookups with many people, or many hookups with few people? That's the unanswerable question that is different for each person depending on their life and perspective. For some, they'd rather have sex 3 times each with 30 people, for others, rather 30 times with 3 people. They both have the same amount of sex, just in different ways. If you get married, 90 times with one person, and it's all the same. Sure, you hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:00 PM
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Nah I'm not saying you're trying to be mean, I'm just speaking from personal experience of saying things I know are gonna mildly annoy someone, even if I'm still making my point with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 10:49 PM
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I ain't mad, I think it's funny reading the other comments, but do you seriously think you're not trolling at times?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:49 PM
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Sure. I would not date her, regardless of her personality, because I'm not physically attracted to her. There's your answer then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:46 PM
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I refer back to calling the question disingenuous. You claim to want and claim the question is asking about men's preferenes and type in woman, and sure a specific "look" abstractly based on physical features. Perhaps things like facial features like distance between eyes, size and shape of mouth, angle of eyebrows, that's a "descriptive" analysis for the differences between what "type" men are attracted to. You're not though, because you're singling out you can't change anything that would affe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:38 PM
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I continue to disagree because I believe a person's appearance is highly reflective of their personality in ways that you can not separate. Also, the "specific archetype" is literally an "overweight american woman."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:18 PM
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You're being facetious and I fell for it, shame on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:09 PM
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It's not. Okay, then "I want her to love rock climbing" You physically can't do that if you aren't fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:04 PM
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It's not. If I said, I want her to have a personality that loves the outdoors, loves hiking, camping, and adventuring in the wilderness, she by nature of those activities would have a different appearance. Meaning, she'd be slimmer and more fit. It's indirectly changing her view towards those things, because along with a love for the outdoors to that degree is a requirement for good eating, and fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:01 PM
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Yeah, it's why it's an unfair bait question. Shoulda just said "Men, would you date a fat woman" instead of pretending like that isn't what she's asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 08:58 PM
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The question is inherently disingenuous. A persons attitude and personality hugely impacts their perspective and approach towards food, health, dieting, and fitness. A person's appearance, how they choose to present themselves to the world, is impacted by their personality and demeanor. If you can change those, you'd change her appearance as a result of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 08:22 PM
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There is no personality that can make up for a lack of physical attraction. This goes for men and women alike.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 08:15 PM
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Dating as a 24 year old man. To me, a good Father is one who knows how to be patient. To know how to discipline without judgement or shame. It takes patience and genuine care to say "You did this wrong, here's the right way to do it" without the listener feeling hurt by it, and actually getting something out of it. A good Father wants to teach his kids how to succeed in life, to steer them away from bad decisions, and for them to earnestly be receptive to it. To know how to be a trusted confidan…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:59 PM
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why would you not want to use your resources to bless your loved ones (all of them) in all the ways you can? Because if they aren't satisfied with just me, my time and my energy, I view that as a business transaction, and not an honest personal relationship. Sure, I could make their lives easier, and they wouldn't have to worry about a lot, but I'm not going to do it because that will unavoidably create a toxic, unhealthy dynamic. I'm speaking from having done it before. especially if money isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:56 PM
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To your examples of helping with the garden, or cooking, or going on a vacation, I consider that part of spending time and energy. I don't fully count the money needed to accomplish the task as part of it, nor do I really count money spent on shared experiences. What I mean is more explicitly buying a gift like jewelry or items or outright paying for things for the other person. If the money gets spent, it must be something we both share, because I view that money being spent towards our relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:07 AM
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Speaking only for myself, I don't nor do I want to ever mix money and the spending of money with romance and gestures of love. If I want to show them I love them, I do it through efforts of my time and physical energy. If they need my money to know I love them, I can't view that as anything but bad. On the other side, I would never accept my partner spending money on me as a true gesture of their love for me, getting spoiled does nothing for me, their time and energy is what's valuable. Money is…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:30 PM
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Every action a person takes is a reflection of them as a person. Man or woman, if you choose to only have a few long relationships, it says something about you. Man or woman, if you choose to have many casual relationships, it says something about you. Refusal to acknowledge this is refusing to take accountability for your own actions. There is no judgement in it, there is no right or wrong to it. Who you choose to be is up to you, but you choose who you are through the actions you take. Man or …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:17 PM
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hell if I know most people are stupid and the others treat their bodies like trash
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:05 PM
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“The society that separates its scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting by fools.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 08:50 PM
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I'd assume plays up acting innocent on the outside because really a freak on the inside. Dangerous, but what doesn't kill you is fun while it lasts. Easy yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 07:26 PM
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If 85% of men and women mentally grew up past 15 those dating problems would go away. None of what we debate here is ever a man or a woman exclusive problem, it's that everyone is stuck in high school drama bullshit emotional immaturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 06:58 PM
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the 6th grade understanding of biology and evolution Go back to high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:27 PM
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No. Ignoring the 6th grade understanding of biology and evolution and the mental attitude to match, no, we desire to build a family. This is repeatedly gotten wrong, we do not have a desire to have wanton sex for the sake of maximizing reproduction, we have a desire to build a long term stable unit. Cheating and cheaters are scum of the earth. I have more respect for murderers, ending a life is more "natural" and justifiable. Cheating never is. It's pathetic. Be pathetic if you want, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:05 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:57 PM
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Yes, no one should ever settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 06:40 AM
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No, it's weird. Worse, men trying to justify it out themselves as even weirder.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 06:34 AM
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No. Immature people are going to be immature. This is not a man vs woman problem, this is a people need to grow up problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 06:08 AM
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Every time a post like this, talks about the kinds of points like this, one side or the other, I seriously question how many people in the world never mentally grow past 15. Every argument that's been spun for putting men in a bad light, or women, boils down to the kinds of highschool drama bullshit most people should've but don't grow out of. It's just all the people who are insecure, immature, and play games because they don't know how to be a serious adult. Nothing you said about women is tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 05:59 AM
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These guys are too busy having wet dreams getting railed by their ideal man to realize they have no idea what women, not closeted men, want. I can't see these posts as anything else, men who put this much thought into hyper masculinity have to have an obsessive fixation on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:21 PM
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"What do I get out of seeing the person I chose to get into a relationship with, that close intimate bond that's about sharing and giving to one another out of love and compassion, as my equal, and putting in an equal amount of effort?" Just stay single. If you wanna cry about "what do I get out of this" you should just stay single. You can't handle being an adult, or having an honest, mature relationship built on mutual respect for another human being. If you wanna cry about "men are narcissist…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:52 AM
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I still count that as want, a biological built-in want, but still not a need. I'm arguing a semantic point that it's not necessary for survival. It's not necessary in the same way food and water are. There's still validity to the innate desire for it, but if you had to harsly cut things out for the bare minimum to get by, it's one that can go.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:07 AM
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I definitely agree it can drive a human mad, but I think that's more a societal issue of not teaching people how to be happy on their own, and not use relationships as a crutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 12:56 AM
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And I'm saying romance isn't needed for life, it shouldn't be, and should only be wanted. I'm just saying it's an important distinction.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 12:52 AM
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I agree, but I don't believe that makes it a necessity. It's just that it provides so many positive effects that many deficiencies can be compesated with it, that are glaringly bad when it's not present. I think we just don't teach or as a society understand how to survive without them in healthy ways, that we view it as such a necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:37 PM
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I want to be an equal partner. I have no desire to be "submissive" in anyway, to follow someone else's lead, nor do I have any interest in imposing what I want or making decisions for anyone else. I want a partner who wants to make equal choices with me, about our equal partnership. I might lean more "dominant" in practice, but I have no intentions of going out of my way to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:34 PM
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In that regard, I agree completely. If you choose to have kids, I would say you do need a partner to do it properly. I do think a family unit is a desire human's have and want, but I'm simply saying it isn't an explicit need. We won't die without it, but it might have detriments to our lives, I can acknowledge that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:23 PM
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Fair enough, to each their own for what they want out of a relationship, I'm simply responding with my personal perspective to the post you asked. I don't view it as "less dominant." I don't feel "emasculated" by paying 50/50. I don't view spending money on my partner as charming in any way. I'm a romantic too, if I want to make a romantic gesture, I do something, I make something, or take action in some way, money and gifts are cheap and meaningless to me. If my money is how I'm enhancing her l…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:21 PM
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No one should be in anyone's pedastal, that's toxic relationship 101. If she can't even pay for half of a meal, an insignificant facet of a relationship, then I don't believe she views me in a healthy way. I don't want my partner's money either, and I don't want her to want mine, I agree, it should be mutually enhancing each other's lives. You're getting into dangerous wording by saying "she can only do that if she's dedicated to me". Are you implying that you paying for the full of the meal is …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:55 PM
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I'd say you're in the group of putting your partner on a pedastal, as above you. I view that perspective of "she wants to be cared for and I'll do it for her" as a lack of respect for me on their part. If she really saw me as an equal, she'd happily pay half, and bring half to the "table" for anything in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:44 PM
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I want a partner that is my equal. Not above, not below. Going 50/50, is viewing my partner as an equal. If they don't like that, they need to find someone who puts them on a pedastal or views them as beneath them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:37 PM
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Sure, I agree Disagree, relationships are not a need, but the monumental positives they provide, make it seem like you're intentionally hurting yourself by not being in one. Hard disagree. Viewing relationships, as the truth they should be a want, makes it far more "beautiful", because having it as a choice, "I choose to be with you, not because I'm compelled in anyway, by anyone or anything, but because I decided" is far more powerful. It's "sociopathic" and "degenerate" to view love and intima…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:27 PM
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I think we rely on people to satisfy those functions because we don't know how to properly teach and learn how to be self-sufficient for those things on our own. I believe everyone can be perfectly at peace by themselves, absent of other humans, and extract more with them around by choice. I just think most people are so far from ever being at that place of mind, that they view it as a neccessity to be around other people. I see those social neccessities as a crutch, that have plenty of benefits…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:22 PM
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That's why I view it as, the mental perspective someone has to feel insulted, implies they view the person doing it as beneath them. No matter how disgusting I think another person is, they are still a human being to me. They are still my "equal" as a human, even if not "physically." I won't feel offended, more sad for them than anything, being insulted is a waste of mental energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:18 PM
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There's a short list of things I think are actually worth going out of my way to verbally tell someone I think they're doing some condemnable behavior. I just think that's still on the level worthy of basic respect for another human being, as gross and weird as it might be to have to experience. Why should I verbally hurt someone just because I think they're gross? I can move on with my life without needing to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:11 PM
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I'm not saying she should entertain him at all, she should very clearly say she wants nothing to do with it. I'm just speaking on the mental perspective one has about it. Being uncomfortable and not liking it is more than justified, but extending it to you've insulted and offended me because I feel that way, is now taking the emotion further than it needs to, in an unhealthy way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:55 PM
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No one should need anyone anyway. Need implies neccessity, that they can't go on without it. Need is slavery, we are all slaves to our need for food and water. Needing your partner is toxic. A relationship should be want, a freely made choice, that they'd be fine without, but like each other and would rather be together than apart. That's healthy and mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:26 PM
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I chock it up to immaturity, they get a feeling of validation while equally thinking those men are beneath them for giving it to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:08 PM
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Ya got me lmao. The paradox of to follow it or not. Either way, I just think everyone is better off learning the hard way, then trying to take shortcuts and "tricks" by using what other people tell them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 08:51 PM
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One is selling their body, the other is buying someone else's body. No, it's not the same as getting paid for a job. I don't believe it's humanly possible to separate emotions from sex. It's a mentally destructive act for both parties. I see it as equal to slavery. I don't believe real consent can exist in such a transaction. I don't care how anyone wants to justify it, I find it despicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 08:47 PM
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Yeah, often I see it as just a simple sign of immaturity. It takes a self-centered way of thinking that the more you see the world and meet people, equally fail and succeed in life, the more you realize just how not different everyone else is. No one can really know why or how someone sees things the way they do through their own eyes, only that everyone sees the same thing differently. People get angry and judgemental when they don't accept or understand that's the case, don't accept that other…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 08:38 PM
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Sure, but feeling grossed out by an old man hitting on you is different from being insulted by it. Saying, that was weird and I really wish it didn't happen, is different from saying I'm offended you even tried. One puts the feeling on yourself, that it's uncomfortable, the other is putting the feeling on the other person, that you are a lesser person for attempting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 07:27 PM
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People in general care too much about other people's approval, in general. The unfortunately reality is most people are too insecure and lacking the confidence to be who they are, unafraid of any judgement they can and will get. As a result, they pursue behaviors and symbols of status amongst their group for fleeting validation and acceptance, that none of it matters in the end. Everyone needs to learn how to let go of caring about other's expecations, opinions, and approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 07:17 PM
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Chadlier than thou Ah my bad, your Chadliness, I didn't realize I was in the presence of such a specimen of manhood. Nah, you're the problem if you think looking down on others is acceptable or good. That's prime weak man behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 07:09 PM
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If you really think treating other people as the humans they are is woke and mentally ill, genuinely believe they hate you, my brother, I can only hope you're not a lost cause. You need help.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:52 PM
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I pity you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:48 PM
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Don't know if you're talking to me or him, but I'll respond anyway. It's got nothing to do with being a "feminist ally", it's a matter of basic human respect. Don't look down on others. Don't treat people as beneath you, that's scum behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:41 PM
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If you view anyone as lesser than you, you're sick in the head and need help.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:39 PM
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My point stands, if you get insulted by it, you have to have no respect for the other human you're looking at and view them as beneath you. I can't say how many women that is, just the behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:38 PM
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To me, there are two things we look for. In men, traits that make a good Father, and in women, traits that would make a good Mother. What you described, are girls, immature, unworldly, and unknowing of life. Women who would make a good mother are attractive. What makes a woman motherly? Nurture and care: Helping others grow and thrive, emotional giving to those they care about and cherish. Protective: Missing from your list, is the instinct for a mother to defend to her death her children and lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:37 PM
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Did once. Mistake. No, I won't ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:09 PM
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When it comes to dating, no one should take advice from anyone else. We are all too unique in terms of who we are, our personalities, our looks, for what works for one person to work for another. It's better to completely ignore everything everyone else says, than to take bits and pieces of shoddy "advice" that probably won't work for you. Men shouldn't listen to other men, women shouldn't listen other women. You have to listen to yourself, it's difficult, but you have to learn it on your own, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:08 PM
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It can feel insulting when you get approached by those you find unattractive. Requires seeing those "unnattractive" people as lesser than or beneath you. No, mentally healthy people don't find it insulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 05:46 PM
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