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gumdrops1/r/askTRP03/05/21 08:18 PM
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gumdrops1/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:26 PM
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It's a nice change of pace but sort of a weird idea for a first date if she's not already strongly attracted to you
/r/seduction19/10/22 04:01 AM
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Overthinking it. For me, I have usually booked up other dates on Fridays and Saturdays... so leaving Sunday nights open for first dates is fine.
/r/seduction19/10/22 04:00 AM
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AWALT. I love latinas, some of them are complete useless bitches and some of them are the sweetest, most down to earth little things you could ever meet.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 05:50 AM
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I generally do not flirt with women at their place of work. Not because I feel like it wouldn't accomplish something, but because it is not a natural environment for them and they are basically captive to your advances there. It makes you look like a weak person who could only hit on her when she's unable to escape from you.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 05:48 AM
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Generally going out alone will accomplish one of two things: You'll find out that you are a social drinker / socializer, not just a natural extrovert Meeting random new people is something that is either difficult or really exciting You seem like a natural introvert. Not a bad thing. I am one too. But maybe try going out with a few friends instead of alone. It can definitely be weird going out alone. I've done it a few times and it's both liberating and very strange. Not generally for me but I e…
/r/askTRP06/06/21 05:44 AM
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I put a girl in plate zone when I determine that she is actually dumb as a rock. I personally can't form meaningful long-term relationships with people who can't connect with on a deeper intellectual level. Beyond that, any slutty behavior, tattoos or even uncouth manners is probably a red flag from the get-go. If I can't put her in front of my mom, she's a plate.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 05:37 AM
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I am not trying to turn this into a religious debate but believing the Bible in my opinion is the ultimate blue pill. That's not just the Bible, though. It's the entire Judeo-Christian belief system. I will admit that a lot of its tenets are true when it comes to women. Proof that even though society has changed, the basic nature and instinct of women has not.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 05:30 AM
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Forget worrying about what's "right" or not. Are you pushing your life forwards? If fappin' off saves you the time you'd otherwise waste on women, I'd consider that a plus. Just don't get addicted to your hand. If you think you're going to move your life ahead by finding a woman, then by all means, date.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 09:25 PM
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This is why the hot/crazy scale is real. Heaps of attention from society warps your concept of reality. Look what it does to celebrities and you'll understand. If that attention (and by extent, your status) is solely based on your looks, that will literally drive you insane. As for dating while the hotties are fun to look at, it's nice to not have to constantly mateguard. I'll settle for a solid 8 just so that she isn't constantly trying to exercise hypergamy because that gets tiring, fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 01:48 AM
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Sure, if you ask most women in their 20s what age they want their partner to be, it would be probably within a few years of their own age. However, their behavior suggests otherwise. Not too uncommon to see a 20-year old with a guy in his 30s or 40s who can actually provide her with a good lifestyle, house, kids, etc. Very few men in their 20s are prepared to provide on that level. Just another example of womens' actual behavior not matching their stated desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 01:43 AM
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Is it because they can relate to how hard it is to get there? Yes. Having a really impressive physique is really hard for most people. It requires dedication and discipline. The majority of women are not trying to build mass. They're just trying to not be fat. That is arguably a lot simpler than getting down to 10% body fat while holding on to a lot of muscle mass. So while women may verbally appreciate the visuals, they don't tend to know exactly what it takes to get there... because they're no…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 01:37 AM
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Remember: Don’t put your dick in crazy.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 01:22 AM
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I've dated some hotties and I've never owned a car newer than 2003. Take from that what you will.
/r/seduction15/05/21 02:31 PM
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You're 31. You're not an old fuck. The best bang for the buck fields are probably programming and computer related. Some of the newer languages are so in demand that they don't care about a degree. "Easy" six figures after doing a coding bootcamp and creating a few proof-of-concept projects for your resume.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 01:26 AM
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Tell your bro and be like "yo... these hoes ain't loyal"
/r/askTRP12/05/21 01:24 AM
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I listen to motivational stuff about finance and red pill content while at the gym. It is kinda lame but surprisingly gets you pumped
/r/askTRP12/05/21 01:23 AM
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I would consider a girl that doesn't have social media as a plus. But that's just me.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 01:21 AM
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Your urge to fuck other women will never go away. Whether you actually need to take action on that is up to you. As I like to tell my buddies and my girl, "Just because I've ordered doesn't mean I can't still look at the menu."
/r/askTRP11/05/21 10:54 PM
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Sure. But Brad Pitt isn't on dating apps.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:16 AM
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The ring, my dude.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:11 AM
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I've found that bicycling is a great way create new friends and meet new people. Cycling is exploding in popularity. Get a bike, find a local group ride, have at it.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:06 AM
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Don't overthink. Just shoot her your number and get her off the dating app ASAP.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:04 AM
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First off, you did it wrong. Oneitis ≠ plate. You had an LTR/girlfriend, even if it wasn't official, you caught feelings. You don't catch feelings for plates. Plates should be a couple months, MAX. Long story short, you had zero frame in that relationship. You need to become happy with yourself. Stop looking to females to validate you. Spend a good solid several months on yourself, if not years. You need to have created a frame that she could enter into in the first place. If not, you never had …
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:03 AM
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This happens ALL the time. To everyone. Sometimes it's you. A lot of the time, it's not. Sometimes, a girl is just not feeling it enough to actually show up. Girls have to put a lot of work into looking good for a date. Maybe she's lazy. Shit comes up, whatever. So I'll usually give them one chance to reschedule. BUT: and here's the life hack, you make her suggest the date. E.g. Her: "Something came up, I can't make it." You: "No worries." If she is actually trying to be with you, she will resch…
/r/askTRP11/05/21 03:57 AM
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That's kinda beta bitchy.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 03:49 AM
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I haven't had social media for years. Quit 4 years ago, but I had over 1,000 followers on instagram at a certain point. It hasn't held me back from dating. In fact, it's probably opened more doors than closed them. I'm 31. At this point, I'm borderline "old man" to a lot of younger women, so it's possible that they might find it weird or immature if I, a grown-ass man, had, say, a TikTok. Not having social media is an interesting conversation starter. Funny enough, someone who has consciously ch…
/r/askTRP11/05/21 03:48 AM
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You have to make yourself the focus of your life instead of focusing on making other people happy, which is a fool’s errand.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 03:57 PM
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No, totally agree and I'm keeping the ego in check. I definitely have a full point to gain with the body, if not more. My logic is that I see dudes that have nothing particularly special going for them getting a lot of matches and maybe it's just the quality of their photos. There are just a lot of hot women in LA, no doubt. Being above average looking IS the average. A Seattle 7 is definitely not a Los Angeles 7, etc.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 10:05 PM
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Just tell her. That's sort of the point. You don't need to sit her down formally. Maybe just offhand let her know.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 07:05 PM
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If you think you are the smartest person in the room, it is time to find a different room.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:46 PM
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What are you actually trying to achieve? If you want dating advice, online forums like this are great because you basically are getting unbiased feedback. Your friends will never give you the unfiltered feedback that a stranger will, red pill or not. In general, the red pill lifestyle is one of learning to deal with your own issues in healthy ways. Yes it can be cathartic to bitch and moan to someone who understands and cares, but there are better bases on which to form relationships with other …
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:43 PM
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TL;DR Growth is hard, embrace it. Red Pill Rage is normal. And it can last for a long time. I would say when I first got into RP about 3 years ago it was pretty brutal and only now am I at the point where I can comfortably look objectively at the situation. For me, it wasn't so much the acceptance of female nature that was difficult as it was the anger at society, my family brainwashing me to believe in something that would fundamentally screw me (and millions of ofther men) over eventually. Sor…
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:36 PM
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100%
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:29 PM
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You do need to lay down hard boundaries for her. E.g. no one on one hangouts with dudes. You need to be ready to walk away if she protests. I would probably not stay with a woman who couldn't agree with that point of view.
/r/askTRP03/05/21 06:27 PM
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This is a really tough time in society to cold approach. At the same time, since literally no one else is doing it, you have an opportunity to REALLY stand out. There are places opening up here and there where you could meet women. I know for a fact they are itching to interact with people in the right setting. Women are SOCIAL. I know at least a few open air restaurant/bars in my city where you could hover around and interact with ladies. Just be really honest, open, and polite when you approac…
/r/askTRP01/09/20 02:35 AM
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Black pill is just the doomer's philosophy of giving up and disengaging from society. I find it hopelessly bleak. Functionally, it gives someone a security blanket to be "OK" with giving up on life, which I think is extremely anti-masculine. ​ What scientific studies are you referencing?
/r/askTRP01/09/20 02:31 AM
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They're just basic dress shoes: https://www.allenedmonds.com/shoes/mens-shoes/fifth-avenue-cap-toe-oxford/5735-105-D.html?utm_source=cse&utm_medium=google&utm_campaign=5735-105-D&country=US&currency=USD&CAWELAID=520006330000208369&cagpspn=pla&CAAGID=52138479506&CATCI=pla-822071161823&partnerid=pla_google_shoppinglowprioritybrandinregion&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5urHt_TG6wIVvBatBh2R2Q-aEAQYAiABEgJyHvD_BwE
/r/askTRP01/09/20 02:28 AM
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It is socially acceptable and "normal" for women to desire tall men. It is also socially acceptable and "normal" for men to avoid tall women (but perhaps at the present moment more socially damaging for that to be publicly admitted by a man.) Fat and muscles aren't really a deal breaker as they can be changed. But height is pretty much set, and a girl doesn't really have a choice but to make it known that it is a deal breaker for her especially when she can make her preferences known in a way in…
/r/askTRP01/09/20 02:27 AM
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She doesn't have 3 years to decide. And frankly, 3 years is a long time to be in a committed relationship when I could be exploring other options. This sucks ass.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:29 AM
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She has a pretty typical dating history. Longest relationship was 4 years. My guess is that she has pushed her exes away for SOME reason (I expect that guys are generally pretty logical when they decide a woman is no longer worth their time), although she has admitted she has had a history of dating abusive assholes. Long story short, none of this really bodes well for me.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:28 AM
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She has expressed that she is OK with having no kids if that is what life brings her. Of course, I call bullshit. and she's not being honest with me. At the same time, we are both open to children at some point, but my primary issue is that she is going to want them (and have to have them) sooner than I am going to be able to properly provide for them. She is in a high-paying career at the same time and appears dedicated to it... but I don't plan to even buy a damn house for another 10 years unl…
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:26 AM
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As far as any behavioral issues, she generally has a pretty hard time asking for the things that she wants. So she can be a little passive. Aside from that she has her head screwed on the straightest out of anyone I've dated. Family is a wild card. Haven't met them yet. I've had several relationships go up in flames in the past because of external family issues though, although I attribute that to my own bad behavior.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:24 AM
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This hit me. RP theory will completely throw off the way that you view womenand their motivations. It's hard to know what is innocent love-motivated actions and what is selfish motivation. I'm guessing there is always a mix of both and it's basically impossible to know for sure.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:50 PM
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I appreciate this. I'd say 90% of the girls I've gone out with just don't click on the intellectual level that she does. There is ABSOLUTELY a sea of dumb, dysfunctional women out there that I would prefer to avoid. Is she the absolute best I can do? Probably not... but how long am I willing to wait to find out?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:41 PM
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I appreciate the back and forth. Honestly this one really is tough because I do appreciate her as a human and do not wish to take advantage of her in that way. Is it in my best interest to continue to fuck her? Of course, but it doesn't sit right with me. It's less of a moralistic thing as it is a karma thing.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:39 PM
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Everyone has red flags. Everyone. I am convinced that everyone is fucked up in some way and that holding out for a unicorn is just as stupid as anyone would have you think. I tend to look more at people's results rather than their background, that goes for everyone and not just dating partners.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:38 PM
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Anectodal advice, but on a first date I generally dress nice-ish, but comfort is important. Wear some nice shoes (Allen Edmonds dress shoes). Several girls always have commented that they loved the shoes and it made them feel attracted (after I fked em). Bizarre but appears to work.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:36 PM
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