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Lol ok good luck with that
/r/TheRedPill02/07/21 09:23 PM
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If you've ever worked in this you'll know that the user, not the dev, decides if the UX is any good. You've got a zillion users in here saying it's shit and all you can say is "no it's not".
/r/TheRedPill02/07/21 07:53 AM
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For normal people, flirting is fun. You're not "falling for" anything if you enjoy flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 10:18 PM
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A woman understands her sexuality in a way men will never be able to. We know what it feels like to be turned on, what that experience actually is, how attraction is triggered etc. A successful man will know what he needs to do to get her to do what he wants, but he'll never "understand" her sexuality. He won't know why what he's doing is working, or what's going on inside a woman to get her there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:32 AM
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weird, i'm the opposite. if someone ISN'T pushy i start to lose interest. if a man i'm into pushes my boundaries a bit i'm sold.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:32 AM
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i'll get turned on if someone i'm interested in puts himself in my space, or looks me up and down, or even just shares a sexual sort of look with me. basically someone i'm already into expressing his own sexuality or attraction to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:03 AM
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having normal, female sexuality is not "demisexual". it's called "being a woman". i swear you guys see anything that deviates from the male experience as being somehow faulty.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:00 AM
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I don't have to look it up because I live in the west and am part of a circle of professionals and I can see what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 01:06 AM
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maybe in brazil
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 12:34 AM
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i know a bunch of lawyers and none of them are married to a barista. if anything, the women i know have been marrying down career-wise moreso than the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:34 PM
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Men don't vanish like this when they're crazy about you
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 02:28 PM
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It doesn't miss the point at all and I explain why in my initial comment. I don't care about the law
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:26 PM
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That wasn't my question
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 01:07 PM
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Because when someone presents themself as a sex object it's usually for men to look at. Women are less visual, we generally don't look at men like that. If a man is showing off his body like that, it's either because he's looking for male attention or he doesn't understand women at all. It's a very feminine thing to present yourself like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:12 PM
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The women who wear revealing clothes are not the same ones who hate being objectified. A man showing off his body and objectifying himself comes across as gay. If he's carrying on like a gay man while hitting on women, they'll likely be creeped out and complain about it. There's nothing hypocritical about it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 11:33 AM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 11:13 AM
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Ok that sucks, but in this very thread there's tons of guys saying they've been groped and just didn't care. I don't think your reaction is the common one among men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 11:10 AM
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Trim the goatie thing back so it's all the same kinda stubbly length. Grow the hair out a bit on top so it's got some shape and doesn't look like such a nerd cut. Honestly though, stop thinking of it in terms of eye angles and jaw protrusion and maximillia whatever term you've learnt on lookism subs. Your face is fine, getting all weird about about plastic surgery is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 10:39 AM
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Not a feminist. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 09:11 AM
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Why are you telling me what feminists whinge about?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:26 AM
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Ok I don't think we disagree on anything? Are you hoping I'm a pro-stem feminist activist or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:25 AM
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I think that is equally retarded
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:24 AM
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Nope, I'm not denying these things exist. I'm saying that as a general rule, men sexually assault women FAR more often than the reverse, and when they do, the impacts are far greater.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:23 AM
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Not if it's true
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:18 AM
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I'm not determining anything. I'm saying what I believe to be the case. If a man truly is traumatized by a woman groping him then my opinion determines nothing. I'm not denying some men are affected deeply by these things. I'm not telling men they shouldn't be affected by it. I'm just saying that in the real world, if men are being honest with themselves, I don't think it's the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:49 AM
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Literally everything discussed on this sub is sensitive. How are we going to ever have an interesting or productive conversation while people freak out and get emotional over it? I'm here to discuss things and share ideas, not coddle them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:20 AM
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How is having an (accurate) opinion on something "toxic"? I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:18 AM
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If they actually read my words and responded to those rather than whatever big feelings they're reacting to, I'm sure we could gave an interesting conversation about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:14 AM
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i don't know what you're trying to say sorry. can you rephrase?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:09 AM
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i disagree but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:06 AM
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I'm sorry if me having an opinion upsets you. That's what this place is for, you may be happier somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 07:00 AM
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I don't resent men at all. I actually love masculinity. I just think it's completely blind to say men and women are the same, we express our sexuality the same, and we're similarly affected by sexual harassment. I just don't believe it, and that has nothing to do with disliking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:57 AM
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Yeah that's what I thought
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 06:07 AM
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Size is part but not all of it. Women are not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:31 AM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:12 AM
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i don't think men are affected by hetero sexual assault in the same way that women are. make of that what you will. when he's assaulted/penetrated by a testosterone ridden male twice his size, yeah i'll have a little more sympathy. that is much more in line with what a woman experiences when assaulted by a man. becky grabbed your butt? poor sweetheart. how will you deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:50 AM
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it's not taken seriously because it's not serious
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:41 AM
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i mean do you feel that you were violated and traumatised in the way that women are when they're assaulted by men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:37 AM
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did it affect you having these women harass you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:09 AM
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yeah. and even in the rare case it does happen the guy knows he can shrug her off and move on with his day. these guys wringing their hands over female assault are ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:03 AM
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Do you buy this? not for a second. women do not have predatory sexuality in the way that men do, and they do not force themselves on men anywhere near as often as men force themselves on women. even if they did, my definition of harassment and assault includes the impact that the action had on the "victim". i don't believe that when a woman gropes a man it has the same impact as a man groping a woman. the sexes are different and the same action doesn't not necessitate the same impact. 99% of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:53 AM
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A few months
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:58 PM
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Ah yep fair enough, Aladdin was the poor guy. I mean he was also adventurous and exciting and charismatic, but point taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 06:15 AM
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Ah yep I agree then
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 01:28 AM
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I thought TRP's hypergamy was more about comparing men and focusing on the best single option between them. Less so comparing a man's masculinity to herself. In any case, I see your point. To men, femininity is just faulty masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 01:18 AM
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Why can I watch movies from the 50s and still find the men charming then?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 12:45 AM
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It's less a generation thing and more an age thing. Young women have always been more into feminine, less intimidating men. Once the gen z girls age a bit I bet you'll see their tastes change.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 12:29 AM
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you keep saying "it's everywhere" but can't give me a better example than shrek? there are tropes and stereotypes in media, and you're describing something that just doesn't exist. what is the main substance of your point? do you have any examples to back it up or just "it's everywhere, i swear"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:29 PM
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it's not pedantic. the trope is a pretty girl with not much else going on who gets swept away by a prince. you're describing the opposite and i haven't seen it literally anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:25 PM
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which disney shows depicted a regular guy ending up with a princess? i saw the opposite. cinderella ending up with prince charming. snow white kissed by a prince. beauty and beast... belle falls in love and surprise he's a rich prince. all the disney i grew up on featured pretty girls from a humble background who stumble across prince charming and are swept into riches and romance. what did i miss where boys were told "just be a normal dude and there will be a perfect woman waiting for you"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:19 PM
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what media? can you be more specific? i haven't seen this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:17 PM
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In fact we're fed Disney tales of the perfect women waiting for us and all of that fantasy crap by who?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:14 PM
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do you not think that maybe the media is informed by women's preferences and not vice versa? women have always wanted the rich, attractive guy. long before TV and social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:10 PM
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humans are animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 10:58 PM
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Yeah same. Getting out of suburbia and into the city was the best thing ever as a 17 year old. The whole world opened up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 08:34 PM
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Yeah I think so. He grew up to be masculine and confident and despite not being the best looking guy always had girls interested in him. He's married now to a great woman and has a couple of kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 08:58 PM
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Yeah my dad was definitely teaching my brother about girls and how to get them. Lol I remember him telling my brother off once for standing with his hands on his hips because "do you really want girls to think you're a fag". My brother would cringe and get embarrassed when dad would give him sleazy tips, but they must've sunk in because he always did quite well for himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 06:28 AM
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I've lived and dated in the US as well as countries where it's totally legal. There's no difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:54 AM
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Many people in those countries are single and they chase relationships less No they don't
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 10:09 PM
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White people who tan are trying to look like white people who spend time at the beach. They're usually not trying to look like they're actually from another ethnicity (obvs there are exceptions like Ariana Grande). Fashion-wise, there's a difference between sunkissed brown and POC brown.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 01:51 AM
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Yeah still a very different skin type to Anglos. The sun ruins our skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 01:42 AM
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Aren't you not-white? Fair skin needs sunscreen to stay in good shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 01:39 AM
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Oh honey if you think fluff pieces online are well researched and not just cheap entertainment, I don't know what to tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 12:40 AM
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how is your article (ie one writer's opinion on something which may or may not affect them) more reliable than a discussion thread with multiple people's first hand experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 11:34 PM
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Interesting. I wonder if it's an age thing. How old is your dad? When I was dating I came across a real type. A whole bunch of men in their early-mid 40s who had divorced in the last couple of years, had kids who live with their ex-wives, were kinda re-finding themselves living alone and without a full-time family. I got the impression they were missing having a woman's touch around and were all a little too eager to lock me down and make it official. Probably helps that I'm in my 30s and don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:01 AM
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Yeah but it's not. Animals fuck each other and have no concept of "branding". Sexual tastes vary slightly depending on ethnicity and culture, but when you get down to it it's almost entirely your animal brain trying to find something appropriate to breed with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 04:29 AM
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Fashion and sexual attraction are not comparable. What do sneakers have to do with getting horny?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 03:53 AM
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I'm in my 30s and was dating men in their 40s not too long ago. Almost all of them were divorced and looking for someone else to partner up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 03:23 AM
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Match.com is for relationships, not hook ups. In my first hand experience, 40+ men aren't fucking around and having casual sex. They're looking for their next wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:48 AM
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Why wouldn't a 40 year old woman want a 50 year old man?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:45 AM
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How many 40+ men are on tinder?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:31 AM
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Women over 40 have usually already been married and had any children they're going to have. They've achieved what they "needed" a man for, and are probably more interested in looking after their kids than caring for another husband. I think once the kids move out you'd probably see them dating for companionship again
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:29 AM
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Maybe you're hanging out with trash
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:09 PM
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I have a couple of friends who went to Oxford and apparently it was an absolute fuckfest. They were all just addicted to Adderall and coke so managed to burn the candle at both ends for a few years. Oxbridge is full of hot rich kids with good families and connections, not really nerds who lock themselves away.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:00 PM
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You're "dating" an angry child you've met 3 times and there's already issues. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 12:52 AM
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It's not necessarily a "bad thing", it's just not the great privilege that men keep telling us it is. "Omg you can go out any night of the week and get laid you're so luckyyyyy" is pure solipsism and projecting male desires onto us.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 11:56 PM
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Yep! And vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:01 AM
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Where did I say otherwise? I've never told anyone to prioritise a man who doesn't treat them well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:01 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:00 AM
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I'm a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 01:59 AM
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RPW do discuss male nature
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:41 PM
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Do you understand the difference between "keep" as in keeping someone happy, and "keep" as in holding onto? I feel like there's a language problem here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:37 PM
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Semantics
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:37 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:36 PM
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And what does your comment have to do with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:35 PM
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I don't know what you're responding to or trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:21 PM
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If a woman sees "keeping a man in a relationship" as thriving Who said this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:17 PM
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It is what it is. You can make your man, and by extension yourself, happy. Or you can withhold that and make both of you miserable because it's not "fair". Up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:15 PM
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Oh yep I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 11:13 PM
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This is what makes a relationship thrive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 10:22 PM
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Red Pill women accept men for what they are Not "men". RPW accept their own individual man who they have chosen, for who he is. They're just as picky as FDS, they just look to maintaining a happy relationship with that one guy once they have him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 10:19 PM
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Real rpw understand that serving their own man's imperative is what will ultimately serve their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 10:16 PM
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Source?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 02:06 AM
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Yeah, some women are more afraid of violence than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:05 AM
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🤣
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 11:19 PM
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real aggressiveness disgusts women. Not assertiveness, confidence, or capacity for violence under control, but ACTUAL aggressiveness It's not disgusting, it's scary. The dream is to have an aggressive man, as long as that aggression is used to protect her and her children. Of course there's always a risk the aggression is turned on her, so it just becomes a personal risk assessment from there. How much personal risk is she willing to take to enjoy the benefits of his aggression?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 11:13 PM
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That just shows who lodges the paperwork. Doesn't say anything about who was at fault or who asked for the divorce. Women as a whole do more of the home admin/paperwork, which a divorce application tends to fall under.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 10:56 PM
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I didn't ask you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:05 AM
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How many guys do you think use porn once in a while, vs most or every time they masturbate?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:28 AM
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if you think I'm saying we should all be Luddites for the sake of it you've completely missed my point. I'm saying that porn is damaging, and that it is possible to avoid it and still get yourself off. So many men conflate masturbation with porn as if it's a requirement. "No porn?! How am I supposed to get off?". The fact they can't imagine masturbating without porn just proves that they have an unhealthy dependence on it. I avoid things that are going to damage my sex life like porn does. I act…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 02:52 AM
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Sure, and eating ice cream for dinner is more fun than broccoli. I don't do that because it's bad for me. Have some self control.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 02:52 AM
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if you think I'm saying we should all be Luddites for the sake of it you've completely missed my point. I'm saying that porn is damaging, and that it is possible to avoid it and still get yourself off. So many men conflate masturbation with porn as if it's a requirement. "No porn?! How am I supposed to get off?". The fact they can't imagine masturbating without porn just proves that they have an unhealthy dependence on it. I avoid things that are going to damage my sex life like porn does. I act…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 02:50 AM
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How old are you? Do you really think that if you were living alone and running your own life you couldn't get a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 02:36 AM
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Young women have always liked softer effeminate men. Once the gen z cohort ages they'll like masculine men just like the rest of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 12:27 AM
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I wish I could send you my college ex. You just described him to a T. Sweet guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 11:43 PM
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Haha yes I can relate
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 11:42 PM
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Has literally nothing to do with my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:18 AM
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I didn't posit anything to disbelieve lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 10:14 PM
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Have any of them had children with unwed women?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 08:58 PM
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You know you can jerk off without porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:13 AM
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Lol you think I'm from FDS?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 08:29 AM
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Make themselves less ugly and make the effort engage with humans, like men have for millenia.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 08:28 AM
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Are you serious? What do you think men did before porn existed?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 08:27 AM
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You guys are delusional if you think porn isn't affecting male sexuality. I've never heard a man complain that his wife stopped fucking him as a result of her washing machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:14 AM
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All the men I know who wanted a family of their own got one. What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:58 AM
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Because it makes my life easier, my clothes cleaner, and it doesn't get in the way of my sex life. There's literally not a single downside to a washing machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:57 AM
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What reward did men get in the past that they don't now?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:33 AM
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Yeah, I don't fuck it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:27 AM
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If the man wants someone remotely chaste, yes a high n will cause problems. If he's dating women like him, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:44 AM
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No, because you're not actually engaging in a conversation. You're using people's comments as a jumping off point for whatever half formed rants are currently bumping around in your head. It's boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:32 AM
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You're like a bot that just repeats the same jumbled catch-phrases over and over
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:23 AM
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Why do they have to? Men masturbated for all of human history without looking at porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:40 AM
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Men tell women to do things that benefit men. Shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:39 AM
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The consensus amongst my friend group is they will never get legally married, but some still want kids and plan to have them without being married And what kind of woman are they expecting to agree to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:32 AM
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I don't believe you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:30 PM
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Which women here demand men look after their own children while refusing to consider single dads? You're just making stuff up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:15 PM
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No I wouldn't. Why would that have any bearing on how he treats me? I'm not his child.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 09:03 PM
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Of course that's what you think
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:41 PM
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You don't know what you don't know
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:10 PM
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Ew go find an incel sub
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 07:20 AM
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Single mothers tend to have a LOT more to do with their kids than single dads do. I wouldn't mind dating a guy with kids if they lived with the mother and he saw them intermittently. I don't think I could get involved with a guy who's kids lived with him. Too much work.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 07:16 AM
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These men were functional, independent adults long before they met a woman who insisted he do these things to her standards though. they WERE. you're underestimating how many men will stop behaving like an independent adult once there's a woman present.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:57 AM
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Oh sorry, that was directed at OP, not you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:57 AM
2

A couple of my single friends do this too
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:40 AM
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I don't know anyone who's told their parents, let alone their grandparents, that they've been assaulted by a man they're seeing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:39 AM
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Women are not men. We have different expectations in dating and sex and that's ok. I don't call men pussies for not breastfeeding, it's not their job.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:23 AM
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Sure I can
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:16 AM
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yes, but it's "if he really wanted me, and he's not a pussy, he would approach me". i don't care how much he wants me if he's too timid to approach. this screens for men who are forward and outgoing and it works very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:02 AM
1

By normal I mean culturally appropriate and healthy, and yes, also common. There is nothing healthy, common or culturally appropriate about retroactive jealousy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:52 AM
1

Some preferences are normal, and some are borne out of neuroticism and OCD.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:41 AM
1

Having a physical preference like height or weight is not the same as feeling physically ill because your partner had sex before you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:33 AM
0

What is "valid"? That's a nothing word. It's legal for a western guy to be neurotic like this, but it's certainly not normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:17 AM
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I went to the retroactive jealousy sub and they clearly state in their pinned post that they are not normal, and liken it to mental illness and OCD. https://www.reddit.com/r/retroactivejealousy/comments/i8mebd/the_short_guide_on_how_to_overcome_retroactive?sort=top They're right. Men who freak out over a girl's history are neurotic and weird and you can't draw any general conclusions from them. They just happen to congregate and be overrepresented on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:11 AM
2

Wait, all of this because he said your hair looks nice? The haircut he paid for? It seems like you're looking for something to be upset over. I mean, it's good you held your tongue, but I think if you want gushing lip service over your haircut you should go to a girlfriend. "It's nice" is a perfectly acceptable response to a haircut.
/r/RedPillWives06/06/21 02:53 AM
3

lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 06:16 AM
13

fos-cel
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:45 PM
2

You're exactly right.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 09:00 PM
1

Well it sounds like you've made up your mind regardless of what your husband would prefer, so I'm not sure why you're here? For a pat on the back? You're fearful your husband will resent you for this because it's a very realistic risk. Taking away the majority of your family's income when he has clearly told you he would rather you wouldn't is not RP. I can think of a dozen compromises that don't involve you dropping out of the workforce altogether. Have you asked your husband to come up with a …
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 08:53 PM
3

K
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 08:34 AM
2

That's why I said degrees and experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:57 AM
1

Degrees and experience. Same as my colleagues.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:02 AM
4

Squirt is pee. She felt like she was about to pee because she was about to... Pee.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 03:42 AM
1

It sounds like your husband has made his opinion on this clear and you're powering ahead with your decision unilaterally. Why can't you find a compromise with your husband that doesn't involve taking your family's main income away altogether?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 03:38 AM
3

Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 04:57 AM
1

Congrats
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:29 PM
5

I've seen guys being knocked back from director roles because they're single. I've been involved in conversations with execs that stated this explicitly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:28 PM
7

I've worked with and for many people at the exec/director level and have been privy to these conversations. They knocked back an unmarried guy because they we were worried he simply wouldn't have the time for the job without a wife to look after him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:27 PM
2

I'm not talking about the vast majority of cases. I'm saying that hot women eventually age and see a difference in how they're treated. They can be hot 'for their age' but they'll never be treated as a hot 20 year old again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 10:35 PM
4

That's not true. Execs don't get to exec level unmarried except for nerds in the silicon valley.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 10:33 PM
5

Nobody says that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 10:28 PM
2

Older women who were hot when they were young can see the difference
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 10:27 PM
23

Yes of course. When I was young I could get away with nearly anything. Older people (men and women) would be protective of me and go out of their way to help if I looked like I needed it. Free stuff from guys who wanted to fuck. Wasn't great professionally. despite being highly qualified I was never taken as seriously as my male/unattractive colleagues of the same age, but that settled down once I hit 30 or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 10:26 PM
1

so 7 hours a week to cook and clean. is that for yourself, or for you and your partner/kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:02 PM
1

It's definitely unusual what are you talking about
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/21 02:35 AM
4

lol I met a yoga guy in LA who would only drink fancy bottled water that came from some volcano because it was super pure and of a particular pH, but come Saturday night would spend $500 on dodgy street corner coke and put it up his nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 11:03 PM
2

If you're an adult, it's no longer your mother's fault if your life is a mess. Why are you asking her for money if you don't even respect her? Live your own life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/21 10:47 PM
10

But there's no pre-packaged serotonin hit. I agree with your general thesis here and think it's a good article, but ignoring drugs like SSRIs and MDMA is a pretty big oversight. They literally cause your brain to flood itself with serotonin, and as a former rave kid I can tell you that the latter is very good at producing feelings of happiness.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/21 10:36 PM
0

Red Pill has been right all along. Looks ARE paramount. This is not at all what RP says
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 09:17 PM
19

If he's reading RP it sounds like a weird attempt at dread game. And I disagree with the other commenter who said to ignore it. A sudden change like that doesn't mean nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/21 09:57 AM
1

I'm a girl but yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 11:11 AM
1

And there you are demonstrating that "I'm useless" mentality I just described.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 04:39 AM
2

Well yes. Husbands generally create a lot more work for a woman, and don't share the load. It takes a lot of time to feed and clean up after another grown human.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 04:38 AM
7

Be hotter than you are rich. Or hide your financial status. You can't live like a rich guy and then complain that you're treated like a rich guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 04:33 AM
7

I see the opposite. Poor women getting knocked up by hot trailer trash, and UMC girls ending up with the safe, well-off career guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 01:10 AM
4

thinking that their jobs make them sexually attractive, or enhance their sexual attractiveness. No one actually thinks this though?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 10:20 PM
2

Wait til you're married. My ex husband said the same lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 02:00 AM
6

Having a husband is time consuming.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 01:58 AM
3

90% of depression is choosing to indulge in it. It's this attitude that's unattractive, not the depression itself. No woman is going to feel excited by a man who chooses not to put the work in to control his own mental state.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 01:56 AM
0

Ok, give up. I'm done trying to convince you not to waste your own life
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 11:10 PM
0

Fake it til you make it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 08:52 PM
1

Ah yep that makes sense. I was thinking of like community libraries, not academic ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 03:07 AM
8

Clubs, bars, parties. Anywhere people go to socialise and unwind.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 03:03 AM
2

How many young single women are hanging out in libraries these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 03:02 AM
1

I’m never able to be the guy that people want to ask to hang with or even text. And you know, that's actually ok! Not everyone is the life of the party, but they can still be liked and valued. I have friends who are quiet and reserved, but I still love them and enjoy hanging out in a more chill environment to chat or see a show or whatever. Look for men's groups or clubs in your area. Looks like you're into sports, that's perfect. Surrounding yourself with cool guys who get out and do things is …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:54 AM
2

You can change all of that except your height, and 5'8 isn't even short. Your real problem is that you're withering away in neuroticism and rumination. The internet and anime are absolute poison for people like you, and indulging in these kinds of communities online is pushing you further into the hole. You need to change things up and put yourself around happy, outgoing men who have a life outside of the internet. You can make friends. You can be independent. You can build up your self esteem. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:41 AM
1

Have you fucked many women? I'm not trying to be nasty, but you're one of the most confidently incorrect people I've seen on here. It's actually pretty funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:28 AM
0

Have you been an aroused woman before, or is this all theoretical? You are SO far off the mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:21 AM
1

It's almost certainly fixable. The great thing for you guys, is that so much of our attraction to men is based on how you make us feeeeeel. If you can learn to make a woman feel sexy and excited and wanted, you've got it in the bag. So what is it that is unfixable, in your mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:03 AM
-2

Nup. The effort involved is completely orthogonal to the nervousness, which is the actual turnoff. If a confident masculine guy tells a girl to do a somersault and recite the alphabet backwards before he fucks her, she'll do it. Putting in effort is not the problem. The guy being unattractive to her is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:43 PM
5

Stop thinking about it so much
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:39 PM
1

So stop focusing on the virginity and work on whatever your weird thing is. Why do you think you're still a virgin? This is what you need to solve, and sex will follow
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:39 PM
-1

You're right we don't want to teach a man, but that's got nothing at all to do with effort. It's that the nervousness and inexperience itself is a turn off. Our sexuality depends on a man being forward and confident in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:19 PM
7

I don't mean this in a nasty way, but you just need to get over it. This is the way women work and crying about it isn't going to change shit. Every single response in this thread is so fucking neurotic, and that is a FAR bigger turn off than virginity. Stop giving so many fucks. Chill out. If you keep overthinking everything like this it'll never happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:15 PM
2

Plenty of experienced guys are also shit in bed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:08 PM
1

If he's a virgin at that age, there's a reason for it. Women will likely pick up on that reason and be weirded out by him whether or not he lies. But yeah, if he's looking to hook up and for some reason she asks, he should lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:06 PM
2

Yes, and I answered the why. I understand that there is variety, but autistic people do often struggle with displays of emotion and irrationality. I think that it is very likely that OP's husband is displaying normal emotion, and OP is viewing that as some kind of defect in him because of her autism.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 11:13 AM
6

Autistic or not, reading her responses in this thread, does she come across as someone with a depth of emotional intelligence and warmth? I've met plenty of autistic men and women, and it's super common among them to have this cold rationality and show frustration when people around them aren't 100% logical.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 10:32 AM
1

Yes I know ADHD is a neurodiversity. It's not the same as autism though and doesn't affect emotional intelligence in the same way. I know it's not what you asked for, but I suggest you try to stop viewing this as some kind of problem with your husband and recognise that you may be the abnormal one when it comes to emotions.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:35 AM
1

Do you know if his previous partners have been Asian?
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:32 AM
3

It's not weird, it's normal dating
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:30 AM
7

Because you're autistic and he is not. This is why he's the "emotional" one.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:28 AM
5

Different issue. ADHD people still experience emotions. They can even be extra sensitive in my experience. He appears emotional because you're autistic and just about everything appears overly emotional to you. It's not your job to manage his emotions, but there are certainly things you can do to make it easier on him, and this whole "I refuse to change for him" mentality is poison to a marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:20 AM
3

It's not your "fault" that he has regular emotions, but there's nothing "wrong" with it either. You're asking why he's the emotional one in your marriage, and the answer is obviously that you're autistic and he is not.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:17 AM
16

Peeked at your post history, I think it would have been relevant to mention that you're autistic. It's entirely possible that your husband is behaving like a normal neurotypical person with feelings, and you're frustrated by that. Your responses in this thread are defensive and angry and if this is how you express yourself around your husband then I think you're the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:13 AM
2

Lol good luck
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:09 AM
4

It's very telling that you freak out and get defensive when anyone here poses that question. You seem angry and reactionary and blind to any part you may play in your husband's state of mind. I'm not surprised he's carrying on like an emotional kid.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:08 AM
2

This kind of dating would be quite abnormal if she's not from the same niche (religious, ethnic) communities.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/21 12:35 AM
1

Being a big fan of Star Wars, Lord of The Rings, Magic: The Gathering, DnD, anime, comic books, and some video games (eg. Leagues of Legends) These are supremely unattractive hobbies to women. All you've noticed is that men don't give a shit about a woman's hobbies, just how she looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:00 AM
1

I was asking /u/aldabruzzo because I'm sure I've seen him say that it's a bit wife's responsibility to fuck her husband, even when she's not really in the mood. I agree with that, I'm just confused by his "don't fuck him" here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:00 PM
2

most men are married or paired off after 30 and don't hang out on reddit talking about their marriages. women talk about relationships and dating more in general, so it makes sense you'll see more women talking about it online
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 05:48 AM
13

No I don't think I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:14 PM
25

No. Men don't fall in love women they're not physically attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 08:05 PM
2

i've dated a guy who was far below me in looks, and it was because his personality and presence were so hot. this along with music skills made him a big deal in our "scene" so he had a lot of social proof too. when i showed my friends pics of him they were very wtf, but as soon as they met him in real life they understood the pull. he ended up dumping me for a hotter girl. when i see an ugly guy with a hot girl i assume it's a case like this. if he's old, i assume it's money. even then, i've got…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 12:36 AM
2

So a wife shouldn't fuck her husband if she's not 100% in the mood?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 09:08 PM
2

She's not married, doesn't have kids and is 26. It's not normal for a young woman to have zero interest in sex, and I would bet that she simply isn't attracted to the man or he's just rubbish in bed. 26 is too young to just grin and bear it for the rest of your life. She should be with someone she WANTS to have sex with.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 05:49 PM
2

What is the equivalent for women? Marriage
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 08:52 PM
1

Female rapists rarely exist
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 07:50 AM
0

Why have you not dated yet?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 06:13 AM
5

Often worse. British girls can be roughhh
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 05:54 AM
4

Haha what? Have you been to either of those places?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 05:53 AM
2

Because the kind of woman he wants to lock down requires it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:06 PM
12

Funny. I'm absolutely certain I've seen you complain that women tell their sons "be a nice guy, treat women well, it's sexy". How is that in line with women wanting their sons to be more masculine? Genuinely confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 07:21 PM
8

Aren't you always complaining that women turn their sons into supplicating betas though? That they don't teach their boys to be masculine cads who can get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:55 PM
2

Its own set of problems, like picking out the color of the Ferrari
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:44 PM
0

Boys and girls are different
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:43 PM
0

I'm a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:42 PM
0

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:31 PM
0

a 35 yr old man convincing a 15 yr old girl to sleep with him is perfectly fine.. How does that follow? Boys and girls are different. A horny schoolboy fucking his female teacher is very different to a grown man fucking a schoolgirl.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:29 PM
0

The portion of sex up until she changed her mind was rape
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:23 PM
1

That's exactly how you sound complaining about having to hang onto all your UMC money
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:18 PM
-2

Girls and boys are different
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:13 PM
-1

Yes they almost certainly liked it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:12 PM
3

Can someone post a pic of what a dadbod actually is? I feel like it varies anywhere from "not quite a 6 pack" to "fat".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 08:19 AM
5

If fighting the discrimination is "too hard", I suspect there isn't so much discrimination in the first place. Victim mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 12:35 AM
1

No, men different.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 10:36 PM
3

Women don't commit hate crimes because they aren't men. Likewise, societal roles aren't switched because women aren't men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 10:28 PM
1

Yes female sexuality relies on being inferior to a man. Hypergamy. No woman is turned on by a man she can physically or mentally overpower. Women may want to feel powerful at work or in other social situations, but women who say they want power over their male partner are lying or wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 09:58 PM
1

I'm 5'10 and as a teen I often wished I was shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 09:56 PM
2

Because you're listening to women and "male feminists", not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 09:18 PM
6

Well yes, that's the question. Why did these groups persevere and fight for what they want, but men would rather give up and complain when it gets a bit hard?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 09:16 PM
4

You don't think women, blacks, etc ever faced resistance?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 08:10 PM
8

i think we underestimate the amount of full-blown autism in this place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:58 AM
1

I've literally never seen a woman in here claim that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:24 AM
12

Have you ever... liked another person before? Wanted to be around them?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 10:31 PM
15

so many successful, independent women that are lonely Because they're lonely. Obviously. It's not natural for a human to spend their life without love and companionship, regardless of money. Sometimes I think you're all actual robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 10:30 PM
0

What is BP about expecting men to stop listening to their mommies and learn to navigate women and the world themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:50 AM
3

Tbh most women I know are very wary of male strength and violence. It's mostly men here I see saying that women are just as dangerous as men and/or complaining that women are paranoid and overestimating male strength
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 04:19 AM
1

Yeah I see lots of MRA types in here claiming that a similarly sized woman could knock them around, "DV happens to men too", etc etc. Will completely ignore biology when it doesn't support their victim narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 02:49 AM
1

relationships aren't about equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 12:22 AM
1

well feminists are dumb and you shouldn't listen to them, obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 12:21 AM
1

if you're a straight man who wants to be treated like a woman in a relationship, then yeah it's probably better that you don't date.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 03:11 AM
16

We don't like it when our men behave like women. Same way men are turned off when their women act like men (aggression, anger, argumentative). Women can tolerate occasional feminine weakness in a man, but she'll never want to fuck him again if it becomes the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:20 AM
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