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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
54	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids?	Dating After Divorce	gza360	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/25 11:59 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? I haven’t touched alcohol during this whole process. I knew it would only make things worse… been down that path before.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 11:27 AM
2	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? Hinge and Tinder… I’ve only had them for 3 days. I hate it bro, but this is the new norm I guess? Last time I was single we didn’t even have dating apps. I might look into the Facebook dating thing though… wasn’t tracking that one.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 02:20 AM
1	Checking in on everyone Going through this now, but I’m starting to come out the other side and starting to feel a lot better than I ever had. Best piece of advice I can give is take the time to be sad and grieve… but don’t stay there long. Force yourself no matter how much you don’t want to and get out there and upgrade yourself. Start looking at it as an opportunity to figure out who you are as individual. I started small and started going to the gym… turning that emotional pain into physical pain really helped heal …	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 01:49 AM
5	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? Appreciate the advice here gents. It really helped.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 01:08 AM
3	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? Sage advice my friend. Thanks.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:32 AM
5	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? Yea man, I’m ready. 17 years with the same woman who wasn’t really that great in bed… I’m ready to role out!	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:30 AM
9	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? Absolutely! That’s my primary and I’m doing pretty good at it. Lost 42 pounds, hit gym 5-6 times a week, joined gun club, about to join a softball team, ran army 10 miler and signed up for usmc marathon this year, I’m a better dad now that I dont have that devil lady constantly criticizing my parenting in front of them, got my friends groups back and made new friends… i feel like I’m checking all those boxes. But, i still get the nagging feeling of loneliness at night (I’m working on that but it…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:28 AM
2	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? Awesome! Meet naturally or through apps?	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:15 AM
3	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? Kids are 13/11/10/3 all girls	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:14 AM
3	Finding love at 40 with 4 kids? It got really bad between us. She went full victim mode and start manifesting situations to make me look bad and would secretly record me. For my own safety and to make sure I didn’t make a life altering mistake when she pushed me beyond my breaking point, I left the house…. but only after a custody agreement was in place. She was trying to force me out with a PL order claiming that I was an abuser… and this and that. None of it true. She wanted sole custody and I wanted joint. We fought like an…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:13 AM
1	Why couldn't I have a healthy life and marriage? Bro this sounds exactly like my situation. I got in the best shape of my life during separation and coming up on divorce. So many false starts… To be honest, atleast for me anyways, the level of emotional pain became so bad while my family was falling apart that I was either going to make a change or eat a bullet… not doing anything wasn’t an option anymore. I chose the former obviously and never looked back. It’s been great finding myself again.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 12:07 AM
4	She's banging someone else Just had papers drop in April and living separately since July but we have been rocky since early 2023. I think about this a lot and how I will handle it when it happens. Our sex life most definitely sucked and the thought of her with someone else made me sick…. Initially that is. As time has gone on I think it won’t really bother me. 1: because her being so awful and hateful to me over the past year has drastically shifted my feeling towards her… enjoy that tbd new dude.. sheesh 2: sex with her…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/24 05:52 PM
4	After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship. Just went through this… together 17 years with 4 kids. Once she got 40 her whole personality changed. I became a villain and she became the victim.. Didn’t matter how hard I tried to save the marriage she kept pushing me farther away… almost to the point where I lost my whole identity to it. She filed and now we are living separately and going through one hell of a contested divorce. To be honest, I’m glad she did because I would have lived that way the rest of my life for the sake of keeping th…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 11:44 PM