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hagbard51/r/MGTOW211/04/20 05:51 PM
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Now in my early 50’s I can tell you what I did in my 20’s that still benefits me now, and what I did that has held me back. What I did that still benefits me now: Age 22 I took a seasonal summer job on a campsite in a Mediterranean country I learned a new language, had new experiences in a new culture, learned how to socialise within a group of other young adults in a relaxed, holiday atmosphere Took karate classes Gave me confidence, increased awareness of my physicality, got me stronger and fi…
/r/MGTOW223/05/20 08:33 AM
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Thank you
/r/MGTOW217/05/20 11:59 AM
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As an ‘older chap’ I can relate to being lost and purposeless as a young man. When I see posts asking for a bit of advice from younger guys I tend to respond with some tried and tested methods that helped me. The old faithfuls like eating and sleeping well, lifting and reading, investing etc. If I’d had some older guys telling me stuff like that in my 20’s maybe, just maybe, I might have listened and got a better handle on life. So I don’t mind those posts, not that I’m a financially independent…
/r/MGTOW223/04/20 02:40 PM
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I’ve got two dogs and ditto to this.
/r/MGTOW217/04/20 05:19 AM
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Hey man Here’s some things you could try that have worked for me. Exercise daily Research something you’re interested in and learn something new Spend time alone in nature Think about other people’s problems as well as or instead of your own Do some kind of service for other people in need (elderly, lonely) Read stuff by people who inspire you (David Goggins - You Can’t Hurt Me) The more I take action, rather than being passive, I begin to control my environment and what happens. This gives me c…
/r/MGTOW217/04/20 05:17 AM
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Morning csehsovakze Thank you for your input, it’s what I’ve decided to do actually. My current Landlords, who are super-cool, have told me that they’re converting another of their outbuildings into a larger accommodation than my current one and that I can have dogs there with me. It’s going to be just about affordable too, assuming my business survives our current situation. This has made me very happy. Have a good day dude
/r/MGTOW215/04/20 05:48 AM
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My take on this is: If you’re 18 - 35 your testosterone may well be raging for you to have sex, possibly with as many women as possible. I went with it and learned some of the ‘skills’ required to do that in my mid-20’s. The sad thing is (in retrospect) that the main thing required in order for me to sleep with women back then was to be a real dickhead and treat them badly. These days I don’t want to play that role to keep having sex, being an asshole came to define for years and I lost friendsh…
/r/MGTOW214/04/20 06:15 PM
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Hello young man. The fact that you’re even asking these questions at your age is a good sign that you’ll forge a memorable path in your life. Like DonMelbourne, I’m an older guy and I chose to travel and work overseas, in my case for over 20 years. That inhibited me having a ‘normal’ life-path of career + wife & kids. Do I regret it? No. My brothers both did normal and all I’d say is I’m happy I did my own thing. Finding purpose in life I think is an ongoing journey. Google Robert A Heinlein’s c…
/r/MGTOW213/04/20 07:22 AM
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Thank you for your input.
/r/MGTOW212/04/20 07:32 PM
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Thank you for your input Raygar She can’t assault me anymore as my mindset has changed dramatically since that happened. I’m willing and capable of defending myself and she senses that change in me. But she can and still does bring me down with her drama and that’s almost as bad. I was actually lining up a dog-walking gig at a rescue centre near where I live just before the lockdown. Unfortunately they’ve also locked down with a skeleton crew of paid staff for now with no new Volunteers allowed …
/r/MGTOW212/04/20 05:03 PM
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When it happens, which is becoming rarer now, I do something for myself that will benefit me. Some push ups, watch a creative / educational YouTuber, cook a steak, plan a trip somewhere I’ve wanted to go, get some fresh air or read something inspiring or adventurous (can highly recommend Jules Verne’s novels) and finally, I can enjoy the peace and quiet of my own space. When I live in a way that helps me to develop myself in positive ways, I like myself and my own company more, the goal being to…
/r/MGTOW212/04/20 09:21 AM
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Hi guys I only just recently started posting here and I can honestly say that reading about how you guys are bettering yourselves is infinitely more satisfying than the woman-bashing stuff over on MGTOW. In general terms I am highly motivated and want to contribute positive content, I’m not interested in just belittling women for the sake of it either. In fact the more ownership I’ve taken for my life and associated challenges in recent months the better it’s becoming. Have a good day all and le…
/r/MGTOW212/04/20 09:07 AM
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Hi DonMelbourne I doubt that she could / would ever harm them. She is a classic ‘dog mom’ and treats them like children. It’s more about how much I will miss the joy and love they bring into my own life. She won’t entertain the idea of me having them full-time (I’ve tried) and to be fair I currently can’t afford to rent a place big enough to have dogs. It’s actually very tough even finding a rental in my area that allows dogs. She can however have unpredictable mood swings and go to dark places …
/r/MGTOW212/04/20 08:58 AM
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Thanks BEASTMODE She clearly cares a great deal for them so I don’t worry that she’d ever mistreat them. I do suspect though that she will attempt to shame me for ‘abandoning’ them. The people who I care about know what she can be like, so I guess that only her Immediate circle would lap it up, but I don’t care about her direct family or friends so that’s fine. Thanks again mate, I’m walking them later today following the altercation yesterday and an going to make a decision afterwards. Have a g…
/r/MGTOW212/04/20 08:49 AM
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Thanks MagicMike I’ll set boundaries that mean I minimise interaction with her and see how that pans out. Cheers
/r/MGTOW211/04/20 09:46 PM
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Some of my friends are having what appear to be some new clarity about life pre-Covid19. One guy I spoke to today, been a chartered accountant his whole life earning big (from my perspective) money said “this (lockdown at home) can carry on for the rest of the year if it wants” He’s not the only one either, I’m having the best few weeks I’ve had in a long time. Time to think, exercise and read all those books I’ve been ignoring and most of all, understanding that our culture of consume = happine…
/r/MGTOW211/04/20 05:32 PM
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This is a really interesting topic. When I stopped thinking purely of me and my apparent problems and began thinking about others problems as well it brought me some peace. As in, having some compassion for others, whether known to me or strangers. I do a lot of what some would call the right things: listen to podcasts by people like Jocko Willink and David Goggins, go to bed early and get up early, eat homemade food, moderate alcohol, exercise every day, work on my goals before most people get …
/r/MGTOW211/04/20 05:22 PM
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VestigialHead, what an awesome response. Bury yourself in a project that you’re excited about and you will not have any excess energy to overthink. Then afterwards you’ll win the double benefits of a sense of achievement plus learned something new / become more proficient at a new skill and improved your life.
/r/MGTOW211/04/20 08:47 AM
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Occasionally some family members will ask me when I will marry, or I’ll end up old an alone etc. The thing is I’ve been ‘in love’ four times in my life for more than five years in each of those relationships. I still talk to and occasionally see two of those women and bear no animosity to any of them. Perhaps the discussion could be that humans just aren’t ‘mate for life’ material? Being an older single guy doesn’t trouble me, watching others strained and sometimes co-dependent relationships how…
/r/MGTOW211/04/20 08:43 AM
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My experience mirrors yours in that I acquired most of the stuff I thought would make me happy, the bike I wanted, car I wanted, job I wanted, living where I wanted to live. There was some initial and fleeting satisfaction, but I ultimately realised that external stuff doesn’t make me happy. Now I’m working more on ending the suffering caused by the ‘chattering monkey’, the internal dialogue that more often than not is negative. Stilling the mind, combined with undertaking challenging pursuits l…
/r/MGTOW211/04/20 08:18 AM
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For myself I’m finding that practicing being present in the moment, plus spending time making and being with friends and most importantly for me, Doing. Challenging. Things. combine to negate any desire to look for a woman to ‘complete me’. A sense of purpose is far more crucial for me than imagining there’s that one special woman out there who will make me feel less lonely, miserable, unattractive blah blah. The great thing is that if you take a bit of basic pride in yourself, you know like was…
/r/MGTOW209/04/20 09:51 AM
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I was enjoying this discussion until the nutsack-imagery kicked in! I recently came off the MGTOW thread for similar reasons to OP. However it did serve a purpose whilst I was post-breakup / bitter AF / miserable and angry. Now I’ve come out the other side into acceptance mode I much prefer these ‘blokes bettering themselves’ convo’s in here. These days I’m discovering that most of what I previously thought of as “self-help bullshit” actually works with some consistency. So what am I doing? Eati…
/r/MGTOW209/04/20 09:38 AM
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First a bit of context, I’m a 53yr old recently out of a tumultuous relationship and this post and comments resonate strongly with me. My own experience was of ‘sunk cost fallacy’ in that I endured (her too) seven years of codependent toxicity. We both felt that we’d been through so much shit that we shouldn’t break up, so instead we went back again and again to suffer again. Crazy when I write it down here and read it. Coming back to your original point of feeling lost, since we finally broke u…
/r/MGTOW204/04/20 02:18 PM
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On lockdown in the UK. Filmed a 30 min outdoor workout for my gym clients, took the dogs out in the woods for a long walk, read, lifted in my home gym for an hour, video calls with a friend and parents, cooking ribs as I write this, watching Bad Day At Black Rock with a couple of glasses of white after dinner. Another good day.
/r/MGTOW202/04/20 08:10 PM
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My pleasure mate, now go and ‘get after it!’
/r/MGTOW230/03/20 09:39 AM
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I have found for myself, through a lot of reading and self-experimentation, that motivation only comes AFTER action. E.G. I’ve got a report to write or some accounts to complete, so I used to wait for motivation to somehow magically arrive. Now, whether I want to do it or not I START doing whatever it is and hey presto! after 2, 5 or 15 mins motivation shows up and helps me stay on-task. I recommend either reading or listening (Spotify) to ‘Discipline Equals Freedom’ by ex-Navy Seal Jocko Willin…
/r/MGTOW230/03/20 09:25 AM
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Ditto, a couple of years would have been good and then to have been able to reassess my life path. Ah, the benefit of hindsight though! For me now it’s can I be a bit better today, a bit healthier, more compassionate and understanding. Those kinds of mini-goals can bring me a lot of satisfaction. I really feel for young men out there these days, the same hormones and desires I had, but I didn’t have to negotiate this rather more anti-masculine culture and worry that if I got naked with a girl th…
/r/MGTOW230/03/20 09:07 AM
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I’ve been reading this thread and want to add my own experience, not to state it as fact, merely my subjective take on it. Raised in a strict Catholic household, masturbation was equated with sin, going to hell and going blind / hairy palms. As I rebellious hormonal 13yr old I therefore wanked myself into oblivion most days whilst developing a nice addiction to porn on the side. Fast forward a few decades and soft-core magazines have evolved into ultra graphic and sometimes brutal pornography, e…
/r/MGTOW230/03/20 08:09 AM
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This post could have been written by me, just by switching ‘teens and 20’s’ to ‘late 20’s through early 40’s’. By spending some of my most productive years prioritising women over friendships, family relationships, career and health I am reaping the whirlwind now as a man in his 50’s. For 20 years I fed my ego by sleeping with multiple women, seeking validation through that single, fairly meaningless pursuit. Now I’m working on that, and myself, every day. My goals are to repair and reconnect fr…
/r/MGTOW230/03/20 07:27 AM
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About eighteen months ago I started getting up at 5am, making a coffee, doing some push ups then reading something inspiring or instructional. This was 90 mins before my ex-partner would wake up and without doubt it was the best part of my day in terms of peace and positivity. I’m 53 now, thankfully out of that relationship for 5 months and am sticking to my 5am routine as it simply makes me more productive and more content. I was a night owl for decades, now I love going to bed early to get up …
/r/MGTOW228/03/20 06:35 PM
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Nov 18 I opened an S&S ISA with a Vanguard LifeStrategy 80:20 fund. Prior to doing so I read the following books: Your Money or Your Life The Simple Path to Wealth The Millionaire Next Door The Richest Man in Babylon Smarter Investing Reset For the first time in my life (53yrs) I have no debt and my investments generate me income. As I believe Warren Buffet said: “If you don’t learn how to make money whilst your asleep, you’ll work till you die” All I’ll say is that my brother is on his third ma…
/r/MGTOW16/07/19 06:01 AM
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