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You should check out dr. John gray on YouTube. He talks about how men think and ways to communicate that won’t trigger negative responses. I’m going to try and find specific videos and I’ll send to you too.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 01:40 PM
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Will do! Waiting until after Father’s Day so I don’t spoil his first one as a new daddy. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 02:35 AM
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There weren’t specific plans, but he literally is initiating a trip saying they need to go to Brazil solely because of what the women look like. If I said a similar comment about going to Miami for that reason you would be shaming me even more than you already are. For whatever reason, you’re ignoring that, but that’s okay. I didn’t buy an outfit lol I hadn’t even said yes to going on the trip. I showed him a picture of the outfit that my friend sent when she asked if the group chat wanted to go…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 01:00 AM
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Yes, I hate being checked out and never go out to clubs and drinking because of that. If only women were there it’d be perfect. I’ve never sought out looking for men ever lol. I like the dressing up in all the feathers aspect and drinking with my friends (that I rarely get to see) at a parade aspect and that’s what I wanted to go for. I’m not a mother of two, and I’m not looking to cheat. Edit: It’s interesting you don’t have a problem with my boyfriend possibly showing actual intent to cheat an…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 06:56 PM
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You probably haven’t read through all the replies, understandably, but my issue isn’t solely Brazil. It’s that he mentioned going there to specifically to see women and was excited about some traveler friend showing him where to find them. I definitely brought this on myself and will talk to him. Thank you for your advice!
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 04:41 PM
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I literally am the biggest homebody and Carnaval is so out of what I would ever do. I can’t even dance and I never wear flashy things. My swimsuits aren’t even super revealing. I think Im open to going because I’m still young and I’m afraid that when I’m older I’ll look back and say I wish I had gone and seen what it’s like. My boyfriend is a big homebody too and we usually do everything together outside of the stuff that we can’t. I agree I need to reframe. Thank you for your comment and for pr…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 01:09 AM
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Thank you and good luck to you too!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:34 PM
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Okay, my apologies. I must’ve read a little to deep into it. You’re right I need to ask him and see where he’s at now. We are seriously the biggest homebodies. Even before I was pregnant we rarely would go out and if we did it was nothing even a 10th of what Carnaval would be lol I see your point that you shouldn’t really be partying once you become parents. In our case, the pregnancy was a surprise I think for me I want to go kind of as a last hoorah. Maybe it’s the same for him. I’ll talk with…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:18 PM
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That’s okay, you were still more or less right lol and everything else that you said was spot on. How do you think I should approach this situation about the trips? I honestly don’t even want to go anymore this whole thing is draining me emotionally. If/when it’s brought up again should I mention that I snooped and my feelings? Edit: He doesn’t have a bunch of friends, but his best one is married. He does have a close friend with a girlfriend who cheats but their whole relationship is dysfunctio…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:07 PM
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We’ll have to agree to disagree. I appreciate your response but I think I’m going to refrain from responding any further. My post wasn’t about whether or not I’m an appropriate mother so this honestly just feels like an unnecessary jab.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:57 PM
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Had I not snooped I’d be in ignorant bliss lol
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 08:07 PM
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This is exactly what I was looking for! The only thing I slightly disagree with is the last two sections. I didn’t agree to the trip yet and was hoping he would come too. That’s why I was a little disappointed he had said he wouldn’t mind if I wore the outfit. Someone called it shit testing and I agree with them now. I shouldn’t have done that. He hasn’t planned anything for the trip as of yet, just brought up the idea to a friend. So it’s still in the beginning stages, nothing is booked. He doe…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 07:41 PM
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Being parents doesn't mean you can't still have fun. I envisioned him coming too. My friend asked about carnavale in text and I immediately spoke to my boyfriend about it AND suggested he come too. I haven't even told my friends whether or not I'm going. The Miami carnavale would literally be a 1 day thing and id be back home the next day.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 06:55 PM
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YES, I would! I’d actually prefer if there weren’t even men there. This isn’t the type of event I’d typically go to and I’m only considering it because my friend asked if we would go with her and I thought my boyfriend would want to go too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 06:42 PM
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Both are cheating for me, but I know what you meant. Emotional cheating would be way worse to me than physical if I had to choose. Define goofing around?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 06:36 PM
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The events would be next year, my friends were planning ahead. Idk when the Brazil one is. My son is extremely well taken care of though so I disagree that we are at fault for planning to have a trip when we are capable of doing so. I’m at fault for snooping and maybe being a hypocrite, but my child is perfectly fine.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 04:24 PM
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You’re bored 🥱
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 03:11 PM
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I mean they both suck. I think the playing it off as innocent is what’s worse to me right now since it’s currently happening. If both happened I’d say cheating is worse.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 03:07 PM
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I appreciate this perspective. I guess I do have to remember that conversation wasn’t even meant for my eyes to begin with. It just feels icky to me seeing it brought up that way. The whole time we’ve been together we’ve never talked about boys or girls trips. I don’t even consider mine a girls trip since I invited my boyfriend to come too but maybe I’m just splitting hairs.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 03:04 PM
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I know he loves me. Never questioned that. The big deal is I am not okay with infidelity. It is a big deal to me and I’ve told him if it ever happened I would be gone. I’m not mature, evolved, whatever enough to share someone I’m intimate with.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:29 PM
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It’s not about the distance alone. it’s that he wants to go to that country AND it’s because there’s “thick women everywhere”. Would someone initiate and plan a trip with the saying that and NOT want to do more than just look?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:28 PM
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My boyfriend started the conversation. Yeah you’re right thank you
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:26 PM
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Sorry can you expand? I don’t understand.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:18 PM
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This is good advice. As for the man chat...what do you think about him initiating the trip because there’s “thick women everywhere”?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:17 PM
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Yeah I’m honestly thinking I’m just gonna come clean and be 100% honest about everything and how I feel.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:15 PM
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You’re right. His friend was technically talking about getting with the women but my boyfriend is still the one mentioning them. Is it likely someone would mention a trip with the purpose to see women and NOT get with them?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:14 PM
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I’ve been trying to think what’s missing and probably should talk to him about it too. I’m thinking all the worst case scenario is and I wasn’t even able to have sex with him postpartum until the 8 week mark. The more I think the worse it gets.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:12 PM
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I agree, it’s not fair that I think guys use guys trips to cheat. That’s something I need to work on for sure. What do you mean by if I didn’t find he did anything? The trip hasn’t happened yet. He’s was trying to plan it and introduced it by mentioning there’s beautiful thick women everywhere and also wanted to go during Carnaval. I also agree with you that I probably shouldn’t be going to the Miami one either. Anyone who knows me would be surprised I even entertained the thought to go. I’m not…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:07 PM
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After reading the texts over and over, it seems like their saying he’s got the hookup like he’s the plug kind of thing. I could be wrong but yeah still a very bleak outlook for me in general about the discussion regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 01:09 PM
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I’m not really sure. I have a hard time with figurative things but either way both options suck lol
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 12:46 PM
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I don’t disagree. I thought the same thing when she asked me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 12:43 PM
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What do you mean by “go behind my back”?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 12:30 PM
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Please don’t be condescending (sweetheart). I’ve said it multiple times that the main issue isn’t Carnaval, it’s what could happen afterward and what appears to be his intent.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 12:02 PM
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Jealous??? Lmao no, I wanted him to come with me Edit: Also, I don’t feel jealousy. I feel distrust...betrayal. That’s not the same.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:27 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:23 AM
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What kind of answer are you expecting from me lol? We’ve literally never had any serious issues and I would’ve had no way of knowing this was going to happen when we first started dating.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:03 AM
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I’m not. If I’m certain he has cheated, I’m going to him to talk about how we will be coparenting, and I’m moving out.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:52 AM
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Yeah the event itself is the same. I’m not opposed to him going to Carnaval. I invited him to come with me. His interest in women outside of carnival during his trip to Brazil is what is different. I’m not going to Miami to see fine men. My friends live there, we are going to carnaval to dress up and drink, and then I’d be coming home.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:50 AM
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He technically hasn’t said he is plans for pursue them but I got you. He more or less has. I feel like a fucking idiot right now. I’ve been practically losing my mind since snooping and don’t even know what to do. Part of me wants to pretend I didn’t see anything and just hope he never talks about the boys trip again. My biggest fear in life was being a baby mama and a single mother. I’ll only have myself to blame and I’ve felt such disappointment in myself from the moment I got pregnant. His go…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:41 AM
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Okay I see what you’re saying. I gotta find a way to talk about it without letting my emotions take over. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 10:14 AM
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Don’t do what? I can’t really control him. If he decides he’s going on the trip, he’s going on the trip lol If it comes up again I’m going to tell him I’m not a fan of it but at the end of the day he’s going to make his choices.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 09:56 AM
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I hope he doesn’t. I could never trust someone who would disrespect me in that way.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 09:52 AM
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I really don’t know honestly
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 09:51 AM
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He would never pay for sex. That I’m almost certain of. All the carnavals look so amazing, I don’t blame him for wanting to go at all. I wanted him to come with me lol. His excitement of Brazilian women outside of the event is what concerns me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 09:31 AM
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Yeah I’m surprised not many people find that part worth mentioning. That’s exactly what I’m worried about. So far I’ve trusted that he would never do me wrong based off of how he’s been but I’ve also never seen him in a situation where cheating was a possibility. If the opportunity were to present itself I truly don’t know what he’d do now and that’s what scares me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 09:24 AM
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Yeah, you’re right. I really appreciate your responses. This whole thing is probably silly but you took the time out to give productive insight. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 06:44 AM
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Yeah I seriously need to stop. I can never bring this up and wouldn’t even want to because I know the trust issues is a “me thing”. I’ve always had it even outside of romantic relationships. We’re both 28 so I don’t know if that makes a difference to the fact that his nephew is coming. I see what you’re saying though. After he heard about the travel friend knowing hotspots and where to find women he said, “Oh he’s plugged in and knows where everything’s at. He’s coming. I can’t wait. We have to …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 06:07 AM
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You are 100% right. I honestly probably need to go to therapy for my trust issues. We spoke later on about the trips again and he asked when it was and I asked him the same and who all were going. He told me and I had said, I don’t know how to articulate it but this makes me really nervous. He said I shouldn’t be worried because they all have partners except for one of them, his 21 year old nephew. One of the guys is a known cheater and is the same guy he was messaging on Instagram. Just to clar…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:43 AM
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I would love if we all went to the same one! I suggested that too. I guess I’m not considering mine a girls trip because my friends literally live in Miami and I would be going to the event and coming back. He would be having a whole trip and doing things outside of the event. In my head, I don’t see them as equivalent but others are saying differently so I may need to rethink my mentality lol
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:35 AM
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Yeah, that’s fair. The intent is my main issue. I definitely would be jealous if he got to go on a trip overseas and I went to Miami when we both go there all the time. My friends live there. Also, I’m okay with not going. I only asked because my friends brought it up and showed me the outfit. I showed it to him to see if he’d be okay with me wearing it and going and even asked him to come.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:26 AM
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Yeah I know it does sound like one. My friends live in Miami and our intent is to dress up and drink. My boyfriend wants to go to Brazil for carnaval...and said he wants to go because of the women. I definitely think I’m being a little bit hypocritical, but it’s not so much about carnaval. If I never saw the messages with his intent for the trip outside of carnaval I wouldn’t be so uneasy. Edit: also to add, it’s not necessarily a girls trip. I invited him to come.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:23 AM
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Yes, he is.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:19 AM
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Are you op?
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 06:03 PM
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I honestly used to think very similarly and had a very cynical viewpoint of dating and love. It’s probably going to sound really hippydippy, but even with all the new things of today I don’t think now is that much different than before. People were dogs before and they’ll be dogs until the end of time. What I realized is people who have great relationships are not going to vocalize it as loud as the ones who don’t. For yourself, all you can do is know what you want, cut off men quickly who don’t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 02:27 PM
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Loyalty and sacrifice
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 10:05 AM
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Public outings almost guarantee that nothing escalates. I think you need to figure out what your specific boundaries need to be, but for me it was just not going to their home and not bringing my date to my home. It makes things a lot easier when there’s a level of comfortability.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 11:56 AM
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True. It’s really more of a liability for men now.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 12:55 AM
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I started dating late at around 23. Sometimes I wish I started sooner just because there are moments I think my lack of experience contributes to naive relationship mistakes I’ve made. It’s tough though because I also feel like I handled certain “bad” situations from dating in a more mature way because I did start dating later and felt more confident in myself. My insecurities are what kept me from dating sooner. I think there’s pros and cons to dating sooner or later. What’s most important is t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 12:39 AM
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I met my boyfriend in the mall parking lot as we both were leaving. I met my ex on Tinder and even though we didn’t work out, he was a good guy for the most part. My best friend met her husband on tinder too so OLD isn’t a bad way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 08:43 PM
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I’m curious in the answers too and also about sending selfies in general. I rarely take or send pics but I feel like men really like receiving them. My ex would ask all the time and it just made me uncomfortable because oftentimes he wanted nudes or sexy pics. My boyfriend now rarely asks for pics and he’s never asked for nudes. Whenever I send selfies though he always is really appreciative and compliments a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/21 01:46 PM
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I really admire you! Keep doing what you’re doing 😊
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/21 12:05 PM
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Okay troll.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 10:39 PM
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You’re clearly not a girl based off your own posts.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 10:31 PM
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Excuse me?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 10:25 PM
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Seems really subjective. I’m not sure women differentiate so much, but if so whoever makes the most is probably the most attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 10:21 PM
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She said he wasn’t putting in effort. I don’t know the specifics.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 04:26 PM
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It sounds like you have different values and he’s not even putting in effort so it sounds like maybe leave him alone.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 03:50 PM
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I completely agree with you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 12:17 PM
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If that is true for a majority of men, it will lead you to make more informed decisions. Many, many women easily fall for guys and sleep with guys who know how to play the game. If they understood men, they wouldn’t. Edited a lot because my wording was weird.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 11:56 AM
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Birds of a feather flock together. Is it possible that you and the men you know are the 5% lol? I’m not a man, and I’m not sure of the actual percentage, but nothing he is saying sounds all that crazy to me. Men who have approached me with the sole purpose of just talking to me usually are trying to hit on me. Maybe sex isn’t on the forefront, getting a date or number might be, but it’s in the near vicinity of why they are approaching. Again, I’m not a man, but when I was trying to learn more ab…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 11:43 AM
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What part of what he is saying do you take offense with?
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 11:31 AM
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What part of what he is saying do you take offense with?
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 11:31 AM
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I think it depends on what is making you say that. I could be wrong, but I feel like sometimes people will say that once they hit the boredom stage of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 12:23 PM
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Surprised him with tickets in Vegas to see Future (his favorite rapper) on his birthday! It was his first real vacation too so he couldn’t stop telling me how amazing the trip was. I’ve never seen him so happy, I loved it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 11:55 PM
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How did you heal painful periods?
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/21 02:07 AM
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It’s not worth it
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 11:55 AM
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Yeah I agree with you. Men say they want someone who has a sense of humor alllll the time. It’s nice to be around someone who isn’t going to get offended every time you’re being playful with them.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 04:52 PM
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I think you meant to reply to OP
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 04:07 PM
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We all had to learn someway! I definitely went through something similar when I was younger, so I can relate. Like I said the date sounds super charming so don’t let whatever the outcome of this damper that. We live and learn 😊
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 04:06 PM
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I mean I could be wrong, but just based off of what I’m reading that’s what I’ve come to. Him having you drive 3 hours to meet him for the first time and his lack of communication with you afterward is just rubbing me wrong. Regardless of how this turns out it does sound like a really charming date and great memory!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 03:39 PM
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If he is interested, it will be crystal clear. Couldn’t agree with this more. Nothing about this entire interaction makes me think this guy was interested in anything more than sex. Edit sorry, I was trying to reply to u/Julesb954
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 03:19 PM
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This was my first thought too. I hope it wasn’t the first date.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 09:47 AM
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Damn, yeah when you put it like that it makes sense 😭 Now I feel so bad!! I thought doing the hand job would be better than completely stopping the blowjob and doing nothing else 🤷🏾‍♀️ Yeah he doesn’t drink a lot of water. He’s been trying to get better about it though because of his training so I won’t say anything. Thanks for you help!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 01:37 PM
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I LOVE how you worded that first section! Lol and okay I understand you better now, that’s funny 😂
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 01:11 PM
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It sounds silly, but I get what they are saying. I think this way too when ever I have a disagreement with my bf. I’ll put it into context and ask myself if fighting about this little thing is worth possibly losing the family I could have with him? Lol writing it out sounds silly too, but it makes sense in the moment and works to keep me from “doing the most” over a tiny issue.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 12:52 PM
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These definitely help! For #3 I realized I actually always swallow anything that gets in my mouth BUT for the times I haven’t been able to swallow it all, once he starts to cum I’ll switch to giving a hand job. Is that better or worse than not swallowing? Also, just to add, he actually tastes fine it’s the consistency that makes me gag. Do those foods change the consistency to be less thick? I would much rather just swallow because it’s the all around better choice, just trying to get past the m…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 12:45 PM
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See this is exactly why I want to get better at it! It’s not even anything against him because he tastes fine, I just have consistency issues. I guess if I just force myself to do it I’ll get over it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 01:14 AM
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Yep, that’s mostly why I asked about solutions. Do you have any?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 09:57 PM
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How do you deal with swallowing or spitting? Probably 70% of the time it makes me want to throw up thinking about swallowing. The other 30% of the time I’ll do it because I guess I’m turned on too? I wish I could flip the percentages 😭
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 05:12 PM
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Alina Baraz’s most recent album is really nice. Always gives me a super girly feel. Sabrina Claudio was mentioned a couple of times already, but practically everything she makes is very sultry/sexy. Edit: also Victoria Monet is a new fave for me. Has “grown and sexy” vibes to me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 07:48 AM
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It’s Instagram. Don’t even respond. Usually the messages from people who you don’t follow go to a different mail box entirely.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 04:34 PM
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I follow a lot of red pill black men and that’s the sentiments they express.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/21 05:08 PM
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If it’s anything like in the black community, it’s because a lot of men are turned off by the western, feminist mentality. I feel like certain cultures are more known for catering to their man and that could be why they are going for those different women.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 12:54 PM
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For me, marrying a man I’m not attracted to.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 02:13 PM
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It can be looked at as protection. Some would feel safer giving that part of themselves to someone they are 100% certain wants a commitment with them. I don’t see a problem with waiting. I personally just wait until I’m in an exclusive, committed relationship to have sex. I will never have children with someone I’m not married to though.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/20 09:37 PM
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You’re getting downvoted but I agree with you. Most men are not willing to wait for sex until marriage. I don’t blame them since culturally it’s not frowned upon to have premarital sex.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/20 07:41 PM
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I can definitely look for it! He also talks about it in Mars Venus on a Date if you have that. It might be easier if I find that and post the pictures because I think I’m YouTube he mentions it in his loooong videos lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 03:56 PM
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That’s a shame! I’ve never had to deal with that but their response alone would completely make me stop talking to them seriously. That’s so unattractive.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 03:49 PM
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John gray covers this, you can probably find YouTube videos of it. He basically says in order to not hurt his ego you should make it clear that you’d love to have sex with him but you like to take things slow. As long as they know that it’s not a “them” thing, the rejection doesn’t sting as much.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 02:19 PM
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Okay perfect! This is exactly what I needed bc I definitely never want him to feel that way. I’ve done it a few times but I could definitely show appreciation more. Thanks for your help!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:21 PM
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This was so helpful!! Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:18 PM
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This is good and is definitely something I need lol thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:17 PM
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Oooh perfect!! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:17 PM
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This is perfect!! I’m very cuddly and sometimes I just sit and wait for him to initiate. In the moments where I wish for something that would equates to a need and I can just outright ask for that. I was thinking too deep bc I was looking at needs as tangible things/items but this response really helps!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:16 PM
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Okay, this helps! I was thinking too deep into it. Basically I can ask for help with anything that would just help make my life easier and allow him to be the hero kind of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:14 PM
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He does the things I need without me having to ask. I guess something I could do is when I show gratitude express also that he’s fulfilling whatever need it is as well?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 06:12 PM
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I agree! Just curious about any general man things that I could be unaware of. After finally realizing men and women don’t think the same I get curious if there are still obvious things that are going over my head.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 04:39 PM
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This is such a good response and should be so obvious! Thanks for the common sense lol I’ll be sure to ask him as well 😊
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 04:23 PM
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Touch and words of affirmation
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 04:19 PM
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That’s a good framework to work from! I guess I’m wondering if there are things that men generally want their women to need them for or if it’s just like if your in trouble come to me kind of thing? These are things I probably should just ask him but wanted to get more insight.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 03:41 PM
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No relationship is a waste. She can learn valuable lessons from this that will help her choose a better person in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 12:32 AM
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It doesn’t sound like you two are on the same page. You’re really young and have plenty of options. You don’t have to settle for someone that doesn’t respect your boundaries and doesn’t want to even talk about your relationship and it’s possible growth. I promise you as long as you’re taking care of yourself many men more compatible will come along.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 09:58 PM
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That’s understandable! You want to build more of a connection so that you feel safe enough to share that part of you with someone. I won’t say all, but most men are going to try and see how far and fast they can take things. That’s why it’s so important to know your boundaries and to be firm with them. It sounds like you definitely know your boundaries though, so that’s really good. Have you two spoken about relationships or being exclusive at all after he mentioned he has commitment issues?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 09:42 PM
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I’m really sorry that you’ve been feeling so badly the past few days! I know it can’t be easy when you’re also trying to work through what’s going on between you and this man. I can tell this has been very overwhelming for you, but just keep in mind it’s been 3 days and you’re just trying to sort all your emotions out. Everything will be okay. What about the situation is upsetting you specifically? It might help you to know what to do next if you can pinpoint what exactly is bothering you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 09:16 PM
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That’s very true!! Idk if you know her, but Nicole Michelle was who kind of got me into the whole traditional mindset and becoming more feminine about two years ago. There’s definitely more sources now so I should just be grateful lol What other channels have you liked so far? I love channels geared toward black relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 11:14 PM
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Haha yeah that’s true, he can absolutely be unnecessarily scathing at times but idk I can handle the way he does it more but it’s probably just because I’m not familiar with the younger guy. Have you noticed that there’s like a new wave of channels like this? The cynic in me feels like they are gaining more traction because it’s easy money off of desperate and/or insecure women.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 04:24 PM
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Yeah, I definitely believe you! It’s his channel so he can do his thing but I can actually watch hours of Kevin no problem but after a while this guy was making me cringe. He 100% is speaking the truth though so I won’t knock that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 01:15 PM
3

Daaaaaanger zoneeeeee lol I don’t listen to him anymore, but he definitely has good insights.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 03:19 AM
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I like his message, but his delivery is ooooof lol He seems like a wanna be Kevin Samuels but less likeable. Thanks for sharing the link though, I’ve only watched a couple of his podcast episodes.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 10:55 PM
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Hey girl, if you do it just means y’all both have good taste 💁🏾‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 10:50 PM
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Me personally, no. Every time I’ve even tried to shop on the website I get overwhelmed by how much there is though so that’s why lol. I feel like if you’re able to find things that look good on you and don’t scream “I’m from fashionova” you should be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 10:46 PM
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This thread is amazing!! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 02:27 PM
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100% trust your gut. I wouldn’t leave this woman with my children either. Probably could’ve used more tact when telling her. I would’ve just said that’s really nice of her and just never asked for her to babysit. If I were you, I would just apologize to her for hurting her feelings and just hear her out if she wants to vent. At the end of the day, what you do with your children is your choice but if you care about your friendship just be the bigger person and start the process to make amends.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 02:29 AM
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So you’ve never been in a relationship with him when he worked in another city before? I think I’m misunderstanding the dynamic.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:15 AM
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What do you usually do when he leaves for work?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 07:58 PM
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I’ve liked a few of her breakdown videos but honestly something about all these new, young femininity channels feel off lol
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 07:32 PM
1

I would love to learn this skill! Do you know of any resources that helped you to get started?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 12:28 PM
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I love lulus! I’ve only ever gotten dresses and shoes from them, but they’ve all been good quality and worth it for me.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 12:27 PM
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I figured we were both following along contextually since it started about OP, whoops. I completely agree!! It should go both ways though. Sounds like OP is trying to find a way to deal with opposing views. Morals are usually considered what a person believes to be right and wrong. You really don’t think that something that goes against a persons idea of what is morally right would feel unsafe or disrespectful to them? I’m talking about beliefs too.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 04:46 AM
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What do fiscal policies have to do with this discussion? OP specifically mentioned not wanting to teach things that go against her and her husbands moral barometer. Your response to her was basically you shouldn’t care what your kids think. As long as their beliefs are respectful and safe there shouldn’t be a problem. However obviously if something goes against what someone believes to be moral, they would likely deem that thing unsafe and possibly even disrespectful.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 04:27 AM
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If it goes against someone’s morals I would say it isn’t considered respectful and or safe to them.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 03:56 AM
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This is ideally how I’d like to raise my children. I would like to give them the foundation I wish I could’ve gotten. Child development is really important to me and I don’t feel like it’s the worlds responsibility to raise my child if I’m capable.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 03:46 AM
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Why wouldn’t someone care what their child thinks?? That’s a crazy question. Maybe OP doesn’t share the same opinion of what’s respectful and safe and they should be able to raise their children how they would like.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 03:38 AM
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I’m conservative like you and also wonder how I’ll navigate this. My kids will most likely be homeschooled in their more formative years until it makes sense to expose them to certain things. Way too many things are normalized for me to let the world teach my children their foundation.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 03:34 AM
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So so soooo happy for you!! I had an ex who criticized almost every aspect of me too and it’s not until a year later that I realized what he was doing. I can’t believe I couldn’t see it when we were together. We were a hot mess but dealing with those kind of things give you an opportunity to get stronger! I’m proud of you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/20 11:46 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 10:53 PM
2

Woosah, girl.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 11:07 AM
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That’s a good idea, communication never hurts!
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/20 03:41 AM
2

Love this response! No relationship is perfect, but at the very least all parties involved should feel safe and at peace with the other.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/20 03:33 AM
4

Obviously the woman’s mentality is wrong. I was just curious how the single act is inherently hating males? In the past, and even today, I know that circumcision was done to follow religious tradition and those religions aren’t based on toxic femininity so that’s why I ask. I guess intent is what makes it a male hating act? Edit: I’m glad to have seen this though because I never really thought about circumcision more than it just being the norm. I’m definitely going to research it further so I’m…
/r/FeminismStopsWhen01/02/20 04:52 PM
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Idk a lot about the topic and I’m curious how this is so?
/r/FeminismStopsWhen01/02/20 02:09 PM
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Love this!! I want to go through my clothes and get rid of all of my frumpy/lazy clothes that I lounge in and replace it with cuter lounge clothes. If any of you ladies know of good places to shop for night gowns and that sort of thing, I’d love to know!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 06:20 PM
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I make sure to leave my house looking and feeling my best about myself. The days I feel jealous are the days I didn’t put effort into myself.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 07:38 PM
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This has been my experience. Let him lead
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 10:48 PM
1

Thank you! I don’t want to make the same mistakes anymore. For anyone else like me and literally feels like men are a whole different creature you don’t understand, I just started reading mars and Venus on a date and it’s been really eye opening.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 12:31 PM
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That’s very true! I have a coworker that’s been with her husband for decades and I really admire her and her family’s dynamic. I’m really thankful for her perspective!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 01:52 AM
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