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A mix of both. Similar enough that we are compatible, but different enough that we complement each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:16 PM
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Ow ye, men accusing of lieing no matter what u answer or rage at that answer, do show bas faith. "If you just treated women like human beings they would like you more" - this does show up, but does it really come up when the question what do women like in a man is asked? I've seen it more when a dude is unhappy that he's single then he spita some vile crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:24 PM
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On this particular topic (what women like about men) i think the women are mostly genuine as some of those things i noticed them irl as well on a few occasions. One for example is short men. This friend's first gf was a very tall and leggy blonde who had a thing for short guys. I've seen other women simply not caring about height, but this one had a thing for shorties. So a woman here saying she likes em short is not necesarelly virtue signaling, nor does she answer in bad faith. Another example…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:11 PM
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I don't really like the "virtue signal" dismissal. Just because it is rather uncommon, that doesn't mean it's virtue signal. For example i like men with bellies, dome fat, some coushion. When there was a discussion about liking men with a belly and i state my preference, i was accused of virtue signaling. A different dude said i couldn't pull a ripped guy and i was co ping. Are there vague answers? Sure. Are there odd answers? Of course. But to dismiss answers just by throwing "virtue signal" it…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:54 PM
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Well, i was talking about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:48 PM
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You touch a great point. I think part of the reason is how the question is phrased: what do women like about men, what women look for when they want a relationship, what do women want from a partner. All of these questions can men exactly what they mean or they can mean what turned on the spark, what made your man sexually attractive initially, what sparked your interest. Still, on a few occasions, i did answer what sparked my interrest: his humor, plushy skin, nice pecs, his charm, the whole vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:14 PM
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My argument is that virgin men tend to be lonely and touch starved. From tge study, we know that the 3rd most common reason was lonely and touch starved.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:05 PM
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I'm afraid that if the study included virgins, then the % would rise. But, we may never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:38 PM
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Two stats drew my attention: most men reported that finding the woman attractive (“hot”) was the primary reason they targeted her (78.4%), feeling lonely and wanting intimacy or touch (33.7%) The first one reminds me about Marla Hanson's quote "being beautiful is unsafe" after her ex landlord asked 2 men to slash her face with razors after she refused him and moved out. The second one confirms once again that lonely men can be entitled and dangerous to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:04 AM
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What is the debate exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 02:34 PM
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Please explain what part is sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:49 PM
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No, they're sexy when he does them with me. I love being charmed. If i've seen him flirt in the past it wasn't me who was being charmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:39 PM
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That's when they show their charm, humor, flirting style, confidence. And that's sexy af.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:34 PM
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Hard pass. A man approaching is an important part of attraction for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:56 PM
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Why do people think this is an advice sub when the name literally says debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:02 AM
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Last paragraph says it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:05 PM
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To me, a good partner is cheeky, cocky, funny, charming, charismatic, daring, flirty. You might have a different view. OP might have a totally different view.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:24 PM
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But even secret service consider incels a rising threat: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2022/mar/16/involuntary-celibates-incels-threat-us-secret-service
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:31 AM
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If that was true, no man ever would be suspicious of gold diggers, be used as a free meal ticket or atm. Yet...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:14 AM
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I wouldn't even equate a person who wants to talk about books with a lonely person. It's just an individual who wants to discuss literature.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:07 PM
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First of all, you do seem to compare apples and oranges. If i see a post "i need a friend" , i might read, maybe even comment. If i see a post "let's talk about books", i get past it, don't even click on the post because i'm not into that. It also depends on which sub it was posted, how it's integrated into the sub's peofile, what is the sub's demographic and at which hours there's more activity. "I'm lonely" posted in a soccer sub might draw attention and fans from the same club as the OP might…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:37 PM
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That is an "every other weekend babysitter", not a single dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:16 PM
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You miss the point. I don't care what thr group thinks or wants
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:57 AM
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Never explored the reason. I just don't respond sexually at anything below bold, cocky, extroverted. The shyer, the worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:14 AM
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I don't see shy men in a sexual way. To make an analogy: the effect of shyness over attraction is the same as castration for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:06 AM
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I talk only about myself. Plase show me where i said women. I always reffered to myself. And it did work very nicely. It is passed the point of it being a hypothesis.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:46 AM
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I agree with this. There are very few things i find more unattractive than a shy guy. At the end of the day, both the shy guy AND the serial killer are bottom of the barrel. Dofferent flavours of unattractive, but unattractive none the less.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:44 AM
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Hold up! The question is about men. Plural. My man is my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:29 AM
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Generally didn't care. I was always fine alone and never been boy crazy. I can only be myself. If i find a new idea appealing, i'd give it a try. But that is trying something new, not changing oneself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:59 AM
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A dude made the same mistake down the comments. In my books, pussy makes the rules. So a man's standards are a cute attempt for men to make their preferences relevant. They're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:45 AM
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I don't really care what they want. And in no shape or form i'd change myself to cater to them. I'm too busy making myself happy. If a dude wants to tag along, fine. But i'm the main character in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:10 AM
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My tone demands an answer since i have to ask repeatedly. I've always been disinterested in guys who care about my past relationships. So i don't feel like i lost anything by having those guys disintrested in me. To make an analogy: would you care if the restaurant is out of fish when you don't like or intend to order fish? No. You simply don't care. And how does this self accountability look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:53 PM
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Answer the question: accountability for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:18 PM
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Nothing i can be ashamed of.So again...accountable for what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:36 PM
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Then men are stupid and without a backbone if they avoid prostitutes because "oh, what if a women i will possibly meet in the future think about it", not the logical gender they claim to be. Some might judge a bc of 3 and thoseen are not compatible with me. Still, you haven't answer a question: i should be acountable for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:36 PM
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Accountability for what? I know what i want and more precisely what i don't want. A negative reaction from a man to a bc of 3 automatically makes the man not compatible. Like i was going to sit around for 35+ years hoping that one day a knight in shiny armor will magically appear. Be serios!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:17 PM
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Different woman, but same mindset. I don't want him if he's judgemental. We're not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 09:52 AM
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Gilmore Girls
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:34 AM
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I don't do victim olympics
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:19 AM
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I started to think that eveyone should do a disclaimer about their mental issues or put it aa a flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:03 AM
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But isn't lack of social skills a case of bad personality? What is "bad"? Is unpleasent a case of "bad"? To me, it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:44 AM
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OP discovered women are attracted to personality, but he still seems in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:11 AM
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Because people can judge only what they see. And if the man shit posts, then people assume the man is shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:33 PM
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Because it's tiresom to hold stranger's hand because they are not normally developed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:35 PM
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Because normally developed people quietly understand this and can't fathom that others don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:33 PM
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Rp can only make one obnoxious
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 08:56 PM
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Pills are dumb imo. And not exactly blackpilles since o believe socical skills can be improved. Black pill thinks you're born like this and it's nothing you can do about it. It is advice. It's not actionable advice, but advice nonetheless. And you mostly get actionable advice from people who know you irl and specialists (like tgerapists or self help books and seminars), not from randos on reddit. Plus, this is a debate sub, not an advice sub. Advice is prohibited here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:54 PM
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They are born like that or develop like that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:05 PM
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Funny, charming charismatic, know how to flirt, exteoverted
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:05 AM
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36 & 36 married. We don't track, it's not his or my money, it's our money.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:09 PM
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Algoriyhmd give you what you constantly seek.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:16 AM
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Had this friend who was fat. She was desperate for love. She couldn't even get dick, not even when she aproached, let alone love. I've seen how unattractive women are treated. How men would yell "whale" on the street. Just randomly, strangers she passed on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 08:07 PM
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Divorce rates are declining
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 07:13 AM
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No. At least not good/close friends. At some point, one side catches feelings. But i do believe spouses can be great friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:46 AM
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There's a paradox: unhappy marriages usually end up in divorce. So the ones remaining are mostly the happy ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:39 AM
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Commitment is a 2 way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 07:13 PM
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There might be a language barrier brtween us, this is why i asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:15 PM
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Casually, NSA? Could be. Those women might have a few guys they fuck. Those men might have a few women they fuck. Tye casual world is rather small. No harm, all are single so no cheating. And i think it's preferable from my point of view. Have a few guys for sex, but not commit if they aren't worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:14 PM
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Indeed, i think there were a lot more relationships back then, but a whole lot less relationship happiness. We have less people partnered today, but happier overall. You can divorce your cheating spouse and you can leave your abusive significant other. Back then, you'd be stuck with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:29 PM
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You'll have to better explain this process.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:25 PM
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Not really. More women then ever are single. And by 2030 it's estimated that 45% of women will be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:22 PM
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I agree. Now more and more women actually need to like the man in order to enter a relationship. Another important factor is ignoring pressure and comments from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 02:39 PM
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By any chance you're butt ugly, very short or have any disability?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 08:45 AM
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Abusive men who attract women have atractive personalities. They can be funny, charming, know how to flirt, have great social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 02:12 AM
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No strue scotsman, eh? Your (general you) rights stop where my (general me) begin.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:40 PM
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Ofc they oppose rp men who advocate for less rights for women. Ofc most unpartnered nd are men. Idk why u expect otherwise. The "not care if you offend" stretches into asshole behaviour. Dating and relationships are still social activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 12:36 PM
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Just wanted to point out the connection OP makes between red pill and inceldom. Also the blue pill = feminism, which leaves red pill = misoginy i guess? Because that would be the opposite of feminism. Idk, maybe OP will clear this. OP was already told that feminism isn't about dating, yet here we are. Checks out my hunch that neurodivergence is common among incels. There is no magical cure all treatment. At least not until somebody discovers autism medication. Because that is the main issue. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:54 AM
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I agree and it's consistent with my observations. But i think it's not only about bullying, but more about the reaction to bullying and what type of person they become after being exposed to bullying. This idea is also present in The Crown series. Duke of Edinborough was enrolled to a tough school when his dear sister died. He channelled all the rage and everything to build himself into a strong man. As adult, he considered Charles too soft. So he wanted to toughen hia eldest son by sending him …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 01:20 PM
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B definetely
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 08:51 PM
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My answer would be "k".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:36 AM
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But we are discussing things that are unnatural, not the frequency. Please stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 12:00 AM
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Yes, unnatural. Just like finestride and minoxidil for bald heads. Or like turkish hair implants. Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 09:17 PM
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A somewhat level of protection is better than no protection. There is room for improvement always.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:42 PM
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Who someone is is not just how someone acts. Again, you're not refuting anything
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:00 PM
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So for women it's not character, it's something else that they are loved for. Idk why you think you refuted my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:49 PM
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Legalise prostitution. My argument is economic. Prositution existed since forever, i don't think it will ever go away (or at least not in my lifetime) so might as well tax it, make laws, protect workers, protect clients. I have the same view about weed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:48 PM
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Isn't a man's dominance who he is? Who else's dominance is that? His dog's?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:32 PM
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She talks about authoritativ. Where do you think that is coming from?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:42 AM
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The comment i linked worded it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:15 AM
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No, no. It's the same irl in some cases. Hear me out. I've been fascinated by dating dynamics for years. What made some guys be seen as just friends, but never a romantic prospect? Looks were there, so it wasn't that. And then it hit me. A particular aspect of the behaviour was the answer. That particular aspect of the behaviour is internal strenght, acting like a man, being less weak. Internal weakness, not physical weakness. Strenght of the character. And then a mod posted the same thing, idk …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:55 AM
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1 - when i said that i don''t think you ever baked a cake, you said obviously 2 - now you say you can bake which you only know if you can if you did bake in the past. But then why say you obviously never baked at point one 3 - what does baking have to do with estrogen levels? The logucal gender, ladies and gentlemen
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:43 AM
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Did i claim you claimed that? Or did i say i would use your comment as counter rethoric when other men claim that men are the logical gender? Please follow the thread and read slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:22 AM
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Then they can't claim to be the logical gender. Like pick a lane.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:17 AM
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Well then i'll save your comment for reference to show each man who claims men are the logical gender. Thanks for the ammo!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:07 AM
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Another "men bring so much, but ow women barely bring anything". Yet, men chase women so why do they do that if women bring little to nothing? Hmmmm?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:55 AM
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And dudes can't bake? Or you can't bake?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:44 AM
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What makes you think i never even dated? You"ve never seen teenagers date?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:42 AM
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My preferences are clearly different since at age 36 i would date a guy in his 20s. So you have no idea, you just yell at the clouds. Got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:35 AM
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I have money. I have a good job, a house and an appartment in my name and i will inherit another house, another apartment and 2 condos. I don't need a man's money. I have 19,5 bmi, fit in clothes from when i was 16 and look under 30. I can secaure a man who's 36-40 easily. I don't have kids and don't want kids. And even if i had any, read again about my financial situation. Kids would be fine. I wouldn't have married my husband if he wasn't stable. So there is no "developed preference" for stabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:08 AM
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I don't think OP ever baked a cake in his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:59 PM
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Thanks! So back to your OP, what makes you think that if i end up single, i would pick a guy i am not attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:57 PM
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It might taste better since the frosting and all got to hydrate the baked part of the cake. You know how cake in general is the best after a few days.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:35 PM
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I'm 36 in an 18 year old relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:33 PM
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OP: women shouldn't filter men based on humor Also OP: women should have relationships with men they find pleasent So...a funny guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:07 PM
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One fuels the insecurity, thr other fuels the ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:31 PM
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I blame the mods because they enable this fetish posting
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:19 PM
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Men who are afraid they would be betabuxx should be relieved as it looks like women will rather be single than have a relationship woth men they don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:16 PM
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Do not feed the lesbian fetish troll
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:02 PM
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At this point, i'm blaming mods for enabling his fetish on a debate sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:40 AM
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It helps him sleep at night if he convinces himself that straight woman aren't actually straight because then there's a reason he can stomach for his lack of woman's attention. His ego escaoes unharmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:38 AM
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I think it is a difference on how each person defines nice. My definition of nice is "i enjoy his company", defibetely not "opening a door".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:47 PM
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The first thing that pops into my mind when i hear "favorable view" is platonic, day to day interactions, not dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:50 PM
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Yes, a suit. I prefer my man in a pair a grry sweatpants. And i also fail to understand why it has to be like the other things mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:58 AM
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To each their own, indeed. I'm happy for you and your boyfriend!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:56 AM
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Fidgeting, studdering, anxiety mess, drags his feet when walking, very bad posture, mouthbreathing, bald, chest hair, nerd overall estethic, wears a suit, nose hump, very skinny, neandeethal forehead
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:38 AM
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Easy: "only correct choice is choosing me 😃"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:39 PM
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It was a retorical question
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:57 PM
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Let's go with your take. Still, women who prefer skinny guys are a minority, just like men who prefer fat women are a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:56 PM
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And how's the dating life in your generation since they don't warm aproach irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:42 PM
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Dad bod > noodle arms A skinny woman is prefered by the majority of men. A fat woman is prefered by a minoritity of men. A skinny man is prefered by the minority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:41 PM
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This is the warm approach and it's the best way imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:46 PM
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Pursue your hobbies but don't refuse social gatherings. Someone from your hobby invites you to a barbecue, just go have fun. Maybe the hosts cousin will attend with his sister and her best friend. And lo and behold you and your friend's cousin's sister's friend hit it ofr, conversation flows, the vibe is good, you have fun and you get yourself a date. And even if no date comes out of that barbecue, at least you went out, had a social moment, got out of a screen and 4 walls.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:33 PM
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Nobody can stop someone to cold approach. The only thing that is sanctioned is harrasment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:30 PM
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There are levels of annoyance. Giving me his number and walking away is less annoying then demanding my phone number. I can just throw away the paper in the nearest trash can. Still annoying as i hate cold apprpaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:06 PM
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Focusing on the minority sure is a hill to die on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:32 AM
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Sure, there are some people who have this type, but that's a monority. You missed this part of my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:05 AM
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Sure, this is why noodle arms is a compliment 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:23 AM
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Imo, the equivalent of a skinny dude IS a fat woman. I think both are equally undesirable by the large population. Sure, there are some people who have this type, but that's a monority.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:12 AM
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I think most incels are born like that. I saw an article a while ago and 80% of incels have autism. And autism is something you're born with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:35 AM
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How old were you when you had your first kiss? 14 First relationships? Casual sex? First relationship at 15, never had casual sex, lost virginity at 16 How many relationships/partners have you had? About 10-15 bfs, but 3 sexual partners. What's the longest you've gone single/sexless? 2 years Do you find sex and dating to be unimportant? Were​ your best experiences in life strictly outside of these things? My marriage is very important to me. Like extremely important. Outside of my marriage, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:29 PM
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Look, at this point i am actually curious and it really does look like you dodge a direct answer, so i'll as as well: Women ... are never ever going to change in any way that would make it easier for any type of men to date or have sex with them. Should we??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:34 PM
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Perhaps i phrased it in a weird way, en is not my first language. If you split all aspects of life, dating/relationships is one of them. And being able to pull is relevant just foe this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:29 PM
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I think there needs to be a distinction: In the dating aspect of life, being able to pull determines your worth. In the general aspect of life (career for example), being able to pull has nothing to do with your worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:00 PM
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Lmao, that is just delusion
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:51 AM
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I am ISFJ. Husband is ESFJ.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:46 AM
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Don't get me started with the looksmatch. How convenient for them. Doesn't matter that he has autism, anxiety, is a mess in social situatioms, while she might be just normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:09 AM
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I think they want to twist ourselves and actually do feel real attraction towards them. They want to feel wanted, irresistable, sexy. I get it, but attration is not controllable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:05 AM
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You have some great points. It's like makeup is something that a woman does to herself and negging is something a man does to a woman. One is not like the other. But porn brained men think makeup is something a woman does to a man. Nuts!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 11:27 PM
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It's one more guy, not just one guy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 10:32 PM
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Jusy because a sport isn't popular in one location doesn't mean that the same plaxe lacks talented people. And as a joke, i'd mention a certain movie about a jamaic bob team.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 09:09 PM
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I'm sure this is the case. OP looked only at the aspects he saw as positive neglencting the negatives. It's an emotional response. Hence, we can use the post and your explanation as counterargument when men claim that men are the logical gender or that women are the emotional gender. Thanks for the ammo.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:20 PM
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It was one of the many posts when using tge search function. You can check for more yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:34 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/s/wzlq3tluLl
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 12:32 PM
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And wtf do birds' behaviour have to do with dating?!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:28 PM
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So many such examples on r/AsOneAfterInfidelity Pick the awkward nerd they said. He won't cheat they said. And then the guy throws his family down the drain for the first woman that shows a sign of interrest.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:54 PM
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Could you expand on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:56 PM
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Agree, but either we will see a large scale selling, or a large scale songleness. You can't have 2 majorities
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:56 PM
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Do you understand that known globally > known locally or in a certain niche when it comes to grading how famous a person is?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:40 AM
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Joke's on you, i know players from those clubs. The point is there's a huge difference between being known by mainstream people and being known locally and by people interrested in a niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:05 AM
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World known > locally known Hope this helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:39 AM
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I just want to add another stpid thing i noticed. So, an article that 50% (or something like that) of women will be single and childless by year 2035 (or something). And then they fear women settling for them. One of those has to be false. Either women are single or they settle. But i see both arguments and it's stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:38 AM
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Here in europe, most of us know who Megan is. But basketball is a dead game people don't give 2 shits about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:17 AM
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I never heard of this guy in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:11 AM
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For that price? No
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:11 PM
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Uf, i can't take my hands off him. He has this very sexy, plushy, expensive-feeling skin i can't get enough of. And i keep touching him during the day. His neck, his back, his hips, his chest. Amazing!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:04 AM
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Ow dear! No, not all men cheat. Not even when another woman throws herself at him. Geez.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:59 PM
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Or the prostitute was very disgusted that she couldn't bring herself to even try to fake it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 09:15 PM
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I am looking for specific examples, not general things. "Specific" is doing a lot of pull here, but i don't see anything specific in your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 05:12 PM
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Serious question: what value should the woman bring for each value she wants in a partner? I am looking for specific examples, not general things. Example: a woman wants a funny guy. For this, she needs to be brunette.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 04:01 PM
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Even the account: only posted that story, 0 comments. In 10 years! Fake af, but guys dig it because it reinforces their fears and insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:49 AM
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Good girl
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:45 PM
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Include copler peptides as well
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:05 PM
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Is this about insecurity? Retroactive jealosy? Paranoia? Lack of experience in life? Where do you think this whole thing stems from?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:31 PM
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So they are doomed. So?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:11 PM
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So if he's her type = not settled If he's not her type = settled Hope i got this correctly. And how will the men know if they are her type or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:09 PM
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Serious question: Where do you draw the line between "she settled" vs. "she didn't settle"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:58 PM
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I'll bring the popcorn
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:53 PM
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No, thanks, i don't want that. What now?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:45 PM
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Meet with each other. Alcohics have meetigs, ugly people can organize themselves also.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:30 PM
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Lmao, true. And it's a damn small chance for settling to even happen to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:18 PM
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Easy counterpoint: wasn't thre an article that a huge % of women will be childless and single in x amout of years? Well, seems like gen z men shouldn't worry too much because those women still won't want them and won't settle for them. The men who fear they will be settled for can sleep peacefully at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:11 PM
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I keep saying this: the average man (i.e. average on all aspects) is fine. He might hit a dry spell here and there, but overall, he can find a few women who want to date him. Not finding any woman ever or having to resort to basically paying a woman to tolerate his presence means he lacks some qualities that are attraction related. Usually, these are looks (a face only a mother can love, not just a big nose or crooked teeth), physical health (disabled included), mental health (neurodivergent inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 10:56 AM
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Agree. I had a conversation about this with my husband and we both want to be wanted, not needed. He's happy he's wanted and i'm happy i'm wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 05:39 PM
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No, the drift happens with the mood and vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 08:43 PM
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Then please take the RP advice and choose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:16 PM
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Hold up 🫪
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:13 PM
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A handsome man is like a beautiful painting. You admire it, but you don't think about humping the canvas.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:48 PM
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Agree. Plus, there is a difference between "what do you want from a man" and "what lights up the spark for you on a date" and "what makes you pursue a man". Because the answers vary from chores to good easy going conversation and charming to beautiful eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:20 PM
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Not having either still makes the guy stupid and willfully ignorant I think it runs deeper. The fact that he doesn't acknowledge not only it makes him stupid, but also a bad long time partner. He's a liability for the relationship in many aspects of life: scammers, job, acquaintances that can profit from his stupidity. And even if he learns about attractiveness being needed. It's not something he figured out on his own. It was spoonfed to him. He might be a hard working stupid, but stupid none t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:27 PM
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Be funny is one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:24 AM
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They don't beg for losers, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:59 PM
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When i thought this sub couldn't get weirder...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 10:19 AM
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Ow he knows. All my previous attempts at sex went wrong before i met my husband. He knows the entire 30 second story lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 12:04 AM
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But most MGTOW are losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 02:02 PM
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Hmm, i think they want women to panic when they hear that these men decide not to date. Usually it's just an eyeroll
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 12:27 AM
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It wouldn't hurt to be more diplomatic. I do not encourage telling lies
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:17 PM
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The message is true, but boy did you spelt it out in a harsh way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 05:31 PM
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A truly average man as in average in all stats? I think he's too boring and not enough charming for my taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:33 AM
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Sure! My libido is rather reactive so no problem for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:27 AM
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Answer his question until you say what he wants you to say lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:50 PM
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I've seen you around throwing comments meant to seed doubt on relationships. Sing to a different table.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:26 PM
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Lmao, she's not good because what? She cut contact with him when she figured out what he does? Be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:40 PM
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I find it degenerate. You're free to watch it. I'm free to find it disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:28 PM
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Ow, that's a huge leap. Maybe rethink how you misinterpreted my words. Neither is cheating, not porn, not erotica, not hentai.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:26 PM
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Porn is also fictional. You don't really think the dude is actually a plumber or that she actually has an orgasm. Be serious now. I am not a big fan of books either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:15 PM
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No, he's a pimp
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:13 PM
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Ohoo, you really took this personally. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:00 PM
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Most disturbing: hentai Medium: porn Least: erotica
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:58 PM
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Idk wtf it is in it. You have all kinds of videos on porn websites as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:50 PM
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Porn transcript
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:49 PM
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That better describes OP, he's the one who opened the subject. I'm not the one to suddenly ask such questions in a public internet space.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:38 PM
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I don't even know what that is. I don't watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:36 PM
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I don't see moderate consumption of regular porn as cheating. I don't even want to know about it. Hentai, ai are more like physhological problems to me. Like the dude is really disturbed. Just wank at porn like a normal human.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:27 PM
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Hmm, idk. Worst was the secondecond, then the first, then the third. Then i met my husband, instant orgasm, together ever since.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:34 PM
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I am saying someone who likes a terrible person and it is obvious that they are terrible, is a terrible person too. Attraction is not a moral compass. Had a friend who would go out sometimes with this sketchy guy. It was obvious he was on to something, just not sure what. They've been dating on again, off again, mostly when he would get back to the home city. She kind of figured out it was prostitutes. She was a modest woman, christian, kind. Does that stop him from being a bad person or is this…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:32 PM
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Idk why they think virgins don't have standards. I mean, even as a virgin i could tell i didn't orgasm so i broke up with the guy. Life is too short for orgasmless sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:18 PM
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Finding someone who is moral and virtuous, might be part of someone finding a good match in compatibility. Someone, but not everyone. Also, I’m not really liking this moral relativism. Because that’s like insisting that Jeffrey Epstein had good qualities about him. That's the black and white thinking i talked about. Perhaps JE had a good eye for paintings (hypothetical). He had this quality and he still was a pos who got too easy out of this world considering the evil he did for so many years. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:10 PM
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My take is that people aren't absolutely good and absolutely bad, but rather a mix of qualities and defects. Each one of us is the bad guy in someone else's story. I find the focus on "good" when it comes to relationships quite weird. It's often interpreted as "moral" or "virtuous" . To me, it's more like "a good match" or "compatible" or "makes a good partner".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:53 AM
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No, just read the article
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:16 AM
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The link doesn't say what you think it says: Now a study suggests that as marriages evolve, the flames of passion die down far more dramatically for women than men — possibly because wives are more romantic than their partners to start with but also, perhaps, because they are more likely to be lumbered with housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 04:06 AM
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Wait till he hears about couple tattoos, tattoos with their husband's name or tattoos with their child's date of birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 08:41 AM
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Just saw in a science sub (i think) a post about a study which concluded that less married men had cancer. Now, cancer usually develops later in life and doesn't care about gender or money. You could marry young as a healthy individual and still get cancer. The comments shed some light: the wives send their husbands to the doctor to have checkups, homemade nutritious meals contribute to better health, lower financial stress since there's 2 incomes, wives put pressure on husbands to quit or curb …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 05:37 PM
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That's the thing: rp is not the only option. Plus, even if you improve yourself, you are still you. A better version of yourself, but still yourself. So being yourself doesn't negate improving yourself. It's not an argument for "being yourself is a shitty advice".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:08 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/UzibmBSGNr
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:42 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/dUgtEQFnGH
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 12:58 PM
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And that's on them to figure out what aspects need some work on. But being yourself is great advice. And improving yourself is also great advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:37 AM
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So then you are "yourself". A better version of yourself, but still authentic. So, how is being yourself a shitty advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:32 AM
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How would you comment this part? Authenticity is the way to go and faking is not fair for either partner. Not for the one who fakes because you can't really be happy masking for long periods of time. Not for the partner who will be disappointed when the mask eventually falls.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:20 AM
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It's not shitty at all. Authenticity is the way to go and faking is not fair for either partner. Not for the one who fakes because you can't really be happy masking for long periods of time. Not for the partner who will be disappointed when the mask eventually falls. The reason why this is perceived as shitty advice is because "yourself" is not attractive and if they behave authentically, few to no women would be into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:03 AM
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You know because i tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 07:37 AM
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Thank god i touch grass and i know most men aren't like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:38 PM
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I am right
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:45 PM
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Or, hear me out, i am capable to vet properly and no need to resort to creepy psycho tactics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:36 PM
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About people who specifically seek exs to ask questions about the partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:34 PM
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I think this includes early bird vs night owl. I'm a night owl, i can't even go on vacation with a group of early birds, let alone live with an early bird in the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:31 PM
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And if men are so helpless, should we let them roam the streets unsupervised?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:27 PM
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That is creepy and psycho
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:24 PM
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Then what do you say? Really now? We're taking guesses because you don't pinpoint the solution. Here's my dumb guess: you want women to genuinely find more men attractive and not be so selective?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:05 PM
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r/oddlyspecific i might add
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:26 AM
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The link of the actual post is hardly ever posted. So we can't check the OOP, account history, veridity of the OOP.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 09:04 PM
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I didn't deflect, I showed the error in your logic Age gap relationships refer to relationships where there is a significant age difference between partners, but there is also a difference in stages of life. This is usually relevant when the younger partner is below the age of 27. Your example of 30 and 37 is not that big of a deal. But 20 and 27 is. I said sentence, not paragraph, your reading comprehension is horrible In my defense, en is not my first language. Still, can you point to what i i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:55 PM
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Don't deflect to 37 and 30. We are talking 18 and 42. Teacher not ok. Boss ok in your opinion? Totally ignored 2nd part of sentence lol There is nothing else in that paragraph. Could you point to what part i ignored? Because their behavior is the same as other relationships, why would you assume differently? Not necessarily the same behaviour. Maybe in the 3rd case i listed, yes, you have the same behaviour. But normal relationships don't include abuse, grooming or paying for your partner to sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:28 PM
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39 and 15 in Macron's case. Would 42 and 18 suddenly make things better? Would she behave differently? Totally disagree with this being the most common or one of them I never said which one is the most common. I said which one is least common. You completely left out the most obvious and common one..... men think young women are hot so the shallow ones that are able to will commonly date younger women, not that complicated and has nothing to do with grooming/manipulation/taking advantage That is…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:14 PM
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It is an age gap relationship none the less. And it also is a blueprint for many agegap relationships. I think there are 3 main types of age gap relationships: The younger person is naive, impressionable, doesn't know better, is taken advantage of, groomed The younger person takes advantage of the older person. They sell their time, it's like prostitution with just one client The rarest of them all, there are actually good relationships, no grooming, no taking advantage, just 2 people who truly …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:55 AM
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So you're talking about nuances, subsets of people, circumstances. Yet, i don't see them in your OP. However, now i take it you are able to differentiate between the shades of grey. Still, you keep this "older women suddenly care". Those who care also cared when young. I'm 36, I find age gap relationships yucky. I had the same view at 22 and at 28 and at 32. Now i find the opportunity to voice it (it's not the first time) since you opened the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:51 AM
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Your reasoning breaks in multiple points. A man frowning at age gap relationships might have a daughter or a niece or a very young sister. An older woman frowning at age gap relationships might hold this view since she was young herself. And no matter what you tell me, Macron's wife is creepy, abusive and a groomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:28 AM
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"it directly contradicts awalt, so it must be an exception"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:40 AM
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"it doesn't fit my bias so it must be false"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:34 AM
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Same, i'm skinny, barely pass as normal weight according to bmi. But i like me a man with a belly. I love those giggly hips and chubby cheeks and thighs the size of my waist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:15 AM
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The point is person A might have a bit of a financial knowledge from grandpa that would prove very valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 05:41 PM
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You should get pass the clickbait totle and perhaps the paywall. And not frame an article that starts with "ladies" as advice directed to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:42 PM
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The article is behind a paywall. From what i could read, the article touches grooming and smell which i totally agree as cologne plays a big role for me. Also, note how the article starts with "ladies" so it's not an advice for men, it's something addressed to women. Perhaps with a clickbaity title.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:37 PM
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Hope you're on a good path. Good luck out there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:48 AM
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My first thought: the man is gay or perceived as in the closet. Or he's not gay, but gives friend vibes so strong that he's seen as a gay friend who just happens to not be gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 01:40 AM
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No I don't see OF models on my page. All I see is feminists making these arguments about OF models on my page. I remind you the comment that started this discussion. Again, algorithms show what you engage with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:06 AM
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By your logic, i should get the female version of rage bait. And i don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 09:43 PM
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You're on to something. It used to be that if he didn't beat you, he was good. He could be an alcoholic, the kind that isn't aggressive when he drinks, the woman would put up with that. Nowadays, this still happens believe it or not. Simply not beating your wife makes you a good husband. But less and less women put up with this shit. Because single is better than being with an alcoholic that doesn't beat you. Less headaches. And add here any defect. If my life was easier if i broke up than putti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:33 PM
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It doesn't throw stuff like "girls, we should kill all men, they are all pigs" either. I get cooking recipes, historical videos and dogs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 07:15 PM
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I don't see either. You know how? I don't engage with such content.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 11:06 PM
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It reveals their taste in women. The algorithm feeds you what you engage with. And posts here are made when someone thinks about the subject. Looks like OF girls are constantly on their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 10:33 PM
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That doesn't negate the need for critical thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:26 AM
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Girl, you're 28. It's about time critical thinking skills start to kick in. Also, feeding yourself with outside validation isn't the healthiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 07:39 AM
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Kdramas are banned in North Korea. People have been publicly executed when caught watching them. But for some people, those kdramas opened a new world that looks very different from theirs. It's a connection to the outside world. One of the few they have. And that pushed them to defect and start a new life, a free life. And i see these kinds of movies vilinized out of fear. Just like North Korea. Sad...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 12:11 AM
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Ow yes. It's weird that he thought "i go to therapy, then gf will be 100% guaranteed".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:57 AM
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Plus, it looks like OP's state improved. I mean dude even joined dance classes. For someone very very timid, this is a sign of leaving the comfort zone. Big win, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:46 AM
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I am child free. Still, you didn't refute my claim
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 03:50 PM
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If you see it as a burden, don't engage. Sex, dating, relationships are out-in, not opt-out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 03:47 PM
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Their ability to make my mind relaxed. I think the orgasm in my case is like 50% mental state.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:25 PM
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Ow, i did compare. Two of them didn't make me orgasm so i dumped them. Then had multiple orgasms from the first try with the third guy and he's now my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:17 PM
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For every woman? No. Not everyone will find someone. And if they find someone, that doesn't mean it will be a very good relationship. For example: A distant relative, mentally retarded (diagnosed) with a physical handicap. She died in her late 50s, never married, no man looked her way. Or a more famous example - melania trump. Let's be serious, she can barely stand him and would run for the hills if he wasn't rich. The prince is THE ONE, who's your lover, best friend, confidant, consigliere, you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:50 PM
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You need to kiss many frogs until you find the prince.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:26 PM
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And then she dumps him and he goes on to marry within a year with a baby on the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:52 PM
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One example i can think about is a mentally retardes (diagnosed) woman with a mobility handicap. She died a few years ago, nobody wanted her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 07:07 PM
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Idk overall, but here it's more like single men vs. partnered women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:44 PM
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It's like they already had half a conversation in their head, then suddenly continued it out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:38 PM
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Wait till you find out FIL was cheating on MIL with the mistress and on the mistress with a few side pieces.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:10 AM
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It's C2 level phrasal verb: it means to tell or show someone that they are less important than they thought. How was the importance determined? I don't think OP suggested that it's needed, but there's obviously a value in being kept in check by others. Please at least know what 'being kept in check' means. Let OP answer what he meant or if it's needed. People who know the person in question? Just a guess. Perhaps you mean to suggest that this could be done by strangers too, I don't know, by glan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 04:58 PM
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Someone needs to put them in their place What is their place? Why do they need to be put in their place? Who should put them in their place? How should they be put in their place? In which other situations should someone be put in their place?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:14 PM
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The grifters in podcasts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:47 PM
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Each time i bought my husband flowers he took pictures of them, with them, cared for them to prolong their life. I love to make him happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 11:50 AM
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Just because a skill doesn't add extra points to attraction, doesn't mean that those skills aren't valuable. If a woman knows how to use a sewing machine and alter clothes, it adds 0 attraction points. But boy it can be useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:06 AM
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I keep wondering how damn selective their reading is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:02 AM
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Nu-uh is not an answer
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 02:48 AM
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Some partnerns may excel in one metric, while others in a different metric. Trying to compare the metrics is like comparing apples to oranges
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:52 AM
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Please note the gender neutral language i used. It's on purpose in order to include both husbands and wives who were cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:51 AM
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You can visit r/AsOneAfterInfidelity it's a sub for betrayed spouses who choose to give the relationship another chance. Read through it, try to understand the pain these people go through and maybe rethink how grateful they should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:01 PM
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Most men are married or partnered, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:49 AM
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I believe it's a misandric view to think men have close to no selection.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:10 AM
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What a misandric way to describe men. I have more faith in men than you do. Sad
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:50 AM
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I think there's a disconnect regarding "effort". Take charisma for example. For a naturally charismatic man, it comes out easily. No effort is involved. That's who he is. But for a dull man, trying to get a smidge of charisma out is a big effort. Because that's not who he is. Same thing applies to humor, charm, small talk, being flirty, being spontaneous. And all of these are factors that influence attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:41 AM
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Parties, get togethers, poker nights, barbeques. Have people forgotten how to people?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:59 AM
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You're mixing up the words.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 06:21 PM
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The word i described is. It's derived from "lowest grade prostitute".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 06:18 PM
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We do have a word for that in my language and it's a slur. Rough translation would be "man who has been with way too many women".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 05:13 PM
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It's the fantasy of unwated men who then go on and reject women who don't even want them. Helps them sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:04 PM
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Aw hell no. Girl, he's sweet like a cupcake, but i'm not cooking him. He's not ripe yet 😈🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:02 PM
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It's understandable that you won't treat all your partners exactly the same This! You know for how many ex bfs i cooked? ZERO! Only man i cooked for is my husband. RP guys want the exact same treatment as past partners. Guess i should throw away the dough i just made for some turkish flatbreads and let hubby figure out his meal. Just like the past boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:54 PM
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It's the same one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:39 PM
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https://news.gallup.com/poll/203198/presidential-approval-ratings-donald-trump.aspx Btw, this is trumpy's first term (lowest apprival rating ever): https://fortune.com/2021/01/18/trump-approval-rating-average-popularity/ I wonder if he can break his own record of the least approved us president at the end of the term. He's very very close.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:03 PM
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I don't see how having the shelter nearby a school is a problem. https://www.yahoo.com/news/brooklyn-residents-protest-proposed-homeless-021524319.html?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAB2xgbTE8bNGofJbMTub_38g3eznfMtJ5bAvWc8B29O6QHVTbrcV8ZgpEmIhZslXR0vhnhiKZh9BU_MLlFe6xG-ZXP3fG1ny4sCAvncvFejiKWKJhJXnNJULBGKrXs-SQaTGPyqd49GEZvC9Q8B1fKoU0PrUcYWZYhyXGc1_jdSX From the article: "Elected officials said the city then plans to use that hotel to house the a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:58 PM
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Schadenfreude, FAFO, the dildo of consequences often comes unlubed and added a trump tag
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:31 PM
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Because you didn't check the sub i linked. It's right there in the description. Or scroll a bit, it's self explanatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:02 PM
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Keep feeding the leopards. I want to see how fat they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:57 PM
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OP implies that men voted trumpy to spite femininists. And now we have fresh meat for r/LeopardsAteMyFace These leopards became morbidly obese
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:36 PM
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The rgb kind
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:48 AM
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There wouldn't be a huge market for lifts to level pick ups if those cars were for work. And might i add the gaming room spendings since we're here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:16 AM
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My FIL divorced my MIL so he can marry his long term primary mistress. He filed for no fault divorce. His case appears in the statistics as no fault divorce. But in reality, it was very much his fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:08 AM
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You have the right to be insecure and i have the right to avoid entering relationships with insecure men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 10:29 PM
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"if my grandmother had wheels, she would have been a bike"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:26 PM
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I always paid what i ordered. For ease of wording, we call this 50-50.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:22 PM
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I’ve never really understood the appeal of thongs. The idea of having a thin strip of fabric sitting between your butt cheeks all day just sounds uncomfortable to me. It's not uncomfortable to me. Also, what’s the point of underwear if your butt is basically uncovered anyway? At that point you might as well skip the underwear entirely. It always seemed kind of impractical to me, maybe even a bit unhygienic. Do people really wear those all day just to look and feel sexy? The point of underware is…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:25 AM
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Why do standards have to be in someone's control?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:11 AM
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Like 2 days ago we had a man here asking women what non physical traits of their husbands they like. Wimwn replied and got downvoted by men. Then one woman made a post about the phenomenon and men replied that they hate that other men get what they themselves would also want, but don't have. These men can't be happy other men are loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:09 AM
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HI5 was launched in 2003. Same with myspace.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:48 PM
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He's the sexiest man alive in my eyes. I don't care what others think. He's my man, my forever person, my favorite person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:44 AM
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women can find men good looking or attractive but not want to sleep with him. It's like looking at a beautiful painting. You admire it's beauty but you don't dry hump the canvas.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:19 PM
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Charm, charisma and humor. How he can be so big, yet so gentle. I'm constantly amazed by how social he is. How he keeps me in his arms and that is my favourite place in the world. He's so patient and reliable. He's so open and safe. Very smart, both academically and street smart. Very good taste with clothes and perfumes. He always smells great.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:17 PM
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I'm sorry you lost your wife, i can't even imagine what you've been through. It's been the same for me. Other men simply do not exist in a romantic way. Even the thought of another man touching me makes my skin crawl. And frankly, if he goes first, i don't want to live another second without him. Hope to meet him as a ghost, if such a thing exists, so we can be together forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:41 AM
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Ow, a very good post. Too bad it will be ignored and men will derail in the comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:08 AM
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Only thing you'll create is a sausage party.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 06:20 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 06:11 PM
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Now i am left here scratching my head trying to guess what perfumes are those.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:15 PM
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I spend the least amount on clothes. Perfumes on the other hand, i think i have over 30. But i am on a no purchase/project pan period until i finish at least 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:07 PM
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I'm confused what it has to do with dating
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:02 PM
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I wouldn't have the whoopsie child. At that age, it would have been an abortion, not a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 09:19 AM
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Um, no. I met my husband when we were in high school. Although i knew very early that i met my soulmate and that i'll marry him one day, i still didn't want a child at that age. Didn't stop us from fucking like rabbits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:09 AM
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Uf, you spoke my mind. The guy might think it was his jaw when in fact it was the constant fidgeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:17 PM
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I always saw it as functional illiteracy. But i do see your point about lacking social skills. I think you're onto something. Food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:56 PM
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I'm not that far from what she described, but there's a twist. I never felt the need to have sex unless a man made me horny. I never got randomly horny. I never masturbated in my life. Not to mention never hooking up in between relationships. So i think you made a great analogy: you don't laugh unless you hear a funny joke. I don't think about sex unless the man is sexy to me. Also, i want to go further using your analogy. You noticed how some people naturally say jokes better? And how they can …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 03:13 AM
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I'll add statistics here as well. It's one thing to discuss around them. But when you partner with someone, that person might be in the minority on one statistic and in the majority in a different statistic. What matters is the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:19 PM
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Vibe, body composition, and facial attractiveness always supersede plain height and weight. Add cologne, charm, humor. Idk why perfume is so rarely mentioned. I know for sure there are other women who get intoxicated by a sexy scent.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 02:06 AM
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It's a question for women, not a debate post
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:34 AM
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Ugh, give me a smudgy black pencil eyeliner. I'm fine with my glow coz baby i am oily af.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 09:25 PM
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Can't help you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 09:15 PM
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I hope it goes out. But that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 09:05 PM
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Um...no. as i am not a very feminine woman and frankly i never bothered with my femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 02:28 PM
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Just because it existed underground, doesn't mean it couldn't peak in the mainstream, thus becoming trendy. South Korea existed for decades in it's current form , but SK culture (music, esthetic, skincare) became trendy much more recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 02:26 PM
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Lmao, clean girl makeup (minimal and very natural) is still the trend. It has declined a bit, analysts say messy makeup is the next big thing, but this new look isn't popular yet. Idk wtf you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 02:24 PM
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Incoming deflection and off topic replies that focus on why men shouldn't listen to women instead of actually expressing the opinion on why women should listen to men. You know, as in actually addressing the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 11:27 AM
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True in my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 10:08 AM
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I'll do my best best to be by his side, roll him on walks, talk, watch tv, listen to music. You know, the normal couple stuff. That's the best part of a relationship: the other person is also your best friend and you genuinely enjoy each other's company.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:10 PM
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What situation exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:43 PM
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Your words: The most popular dance ia sexual like twerking You can't say "popular" and "twerking" in the same sentence in 2026 and expect to be taken seriously. Dancers didn't choose the coregraphy. They are exployees that do what are paid to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:18 PM
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Sure, if you're desperate enough, even ballet seems sexual. It's not what i think, it's what the general population thinks. And truth is: it peaked and then went out. Just like many other trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:07 PM
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https://vancouver.ctvnews.ca/entertainment/article/9-reasons-why-twerking-is-already-over/ It peaked in 2013, bro. Over a decade ago. A few people still do it? Sure. Baggy jeans are trendy now, but some still wear skinny jeans. But you can't say skinny jeans are trendy atm. Same way you can't say twerking is trendy now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:00 PM
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This is so sad and funny at the same time. These men's brains are so easily scrambled. But at the same time, they are so naive and guillable that you can talk about twerking (2010s trend) being popular in f'ing 2026 and they actually believe it lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 01:58 PM
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Also, weird choice to mention twerking. That is soo out of date, like pre-pandemic. Does the manosphere ever update their content? It's like always some out of fashion, old news example. I'd add here MeToo, heavy makeup Kim Kardashian style, crop tops. There are all past trends. And that's exactly what they were: trends. We will see some of them again in 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 01:52 PM
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Idk what you mean by that. I need more context.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 01:38 PM
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A simple bf, the kind you have by the dozen - sure But no way i'm leaving my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 03:25 AM
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This one, no doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 05:22 PM
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I say this all the time: i prefer men in grey sweatpants and a hoodie. I just can't stand suits. But i also know other women looove men in suits.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:54 PM
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That's the damn end point: to shrink the pool until you are left with 1 - your forever person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:32 PM
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Indeed, i think narcissism is really a disease in her case. Not an inflated ego issue. No need to believe me, the video when she gave the picture to Miley is on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:34 PM
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r/kibbe and do the test. When you have the results, just read what works for you. Ignore trends and general influencers. In my case, lipstick is just off on me and usually makes me look old. Focus must always be on eyes, else it's a disaster. Then i do the kibbe test and lo and behold, for my type, bold lips just do not work. Explains my struggle with lippies. Same with trends, current fashion doesn't work for my body. I need very low rise skinny jeans (like 20 years ago). Current fashion: baggy…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:31 PM
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Tyra Banks is a POS. She even gifted Miley Cyrus a picture of herself (Tyra) on Miley's 16th birthday. Like wtf, tone down that narcissism.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:23 PM
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No, all those 5% of men won't want a relationship with me. I know i am not everyone's cup of tea. Which means i might be left with 2-3% of men. So, even less work to filter through them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:29 AM
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How is this a problem as a problem implies a negative impact. I think it's efficiency. If you want to find your forever person, you are basically filtering out all men except one. If you find only 5% of men attractive, then you focus to filter through a smaller pool of men as the overwhelming majority was ruled out already. It's a lot less effort to filter through 5% of men than let's say 40% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 10:59 AM
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That... Is not what social means...or social skills
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:57 PM
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Here are social skills mentioned by a RP man in the comments of this very post: https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/7WFeqO3kGD Go ask him also to define social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:36 PM
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You know what those are, unless you have autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:38 PM
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I tell guys to be funny and charming, or to be social butterflies or be extroverted. And then some men lose their shit. Being social, funny and charming IS attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 05:07 PM
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Option 3 Money doesn't keep me warm at night. But we can work a tight budget. Actually, we already did that in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:08 AM
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Sure, dude may seem awesome, the interest is clearly there and 5 dates in he pulls one of those haarkharrk and spits on the ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 04:05 AM
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Ofc, if i'm not attracted to the man, i can't have sex with him. My pussy would be bone dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 04:02 AM
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Um...no. And let's say what you say is true coz i know you won't budge. My advice still stands: don't take men seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 02:03 AM
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Why is a woman dating a man she deems ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 12:10 AM
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Ugh, i want french mani so bad, but my nails suck after having gel on. I couldn't remove all of it so i need to outgrow the remains and only after they grow a bit i can get a french.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 12:55 AM
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Honestly, if they stop taking men seriously. Especially in their 20s. Don't be overly enthusiastic in the beginning, as the dude could actually be love bombing. So it's not a good idea to be very invested. Wait a while, get to know him before dreaming of your whole life with him. Keep your cool and don't put him on a pedestal in the early stages. Men come and go. See where things are going, keep your boundaries, eyes wide open for red flags or things you perceive as defects that make you 2 incom…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 12:30 AM
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Perhaps... Almost
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:41 AM
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Fat pic looks better. He looks a lot like my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:54 AM
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Somehow that song went under the radar for me and i just discovered it like 2 days ago and it's on repeat. Got a good remix for it, can't wait for the next party to play that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 07:56 PM
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1 - let's wait for the person who commented initially to explain, but i doubt he will at this point. 2- how does this phrase make sense: "men need to set a standard instead of ask and accept a no"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 03:43 PM
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I never had casual sex, still i don't feel love through sex. Though i do think love makes sex better due to closeness and the other person knows you and what you like. But sex doesn't bring closeness to me. Yet, closeness brings good sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:38 PM
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And it still doesn't make sense. When you replace what you said in the phrase originally written, it doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 02:58 AM
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It's important to me to disect this. Also, i asked the person who left that comment, not some rabdo's interpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:27 AM
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Doesn't answer my questions.I asked about the nuance difference between "demand" and "ask". Words have meaning and nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:21 AM
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I agree men should have standards and not act desperate. You can say GTFO, but still ask. I'm asking the nuance between "demand" and "ask". Hence i asked those specific questions. Words have meaning. And nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:19 AM
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Refund when i was entitled to one. But doesn't answer all my questions
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:17 AM
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This does not make any sense. Please expand. Like, "men need to set a standard instead of ask and accept a no". English isn't my first language, but it doesn't make any sense
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:51 PM
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I know how he will bring it up: by taking me to the doctor for a check up. He put on weight some past years. We didn't know, but his gullbladder had stones. He had it removed completely. So i know he will take me to the doctor if he sees me put on weight. But since i am skinny, if i put on 10 kg, my bmi would then be 23, normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:48 PM
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That pandemic did something to a good chunk of people also. Human to human relations feel different. Only last year my chronological clock started to get back to normal. 2020-2023 are very very blurry.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:38 PM
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demand - ask authoritatively or brusquely What gives men authority over women when asking? What's the difference between "demand" and "ask" if "no" is (easily) accepted? What things should men demand?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:33 PM
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But telling men they can or should do that, while then avoiding those men romantically just comes off as sabotage. No. You can do whatever and express yourself as you want. Your painted nails do not affect me at all. Your dress doesn't affect me as well. Be yourself. From a societal point of view, i have no problem. From a romantic point of view, i'm not interested. And you mix up these two very different and separate things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:42 AM
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Let's see the first one: MGTOW is destroying my son's life This post deals with depression and emotional issues, so please be advised. Everyone else in out family is in a relationship. Everyone else has a social life, outside of my son. He's a recluse and refuses to date because "all women want is child support, and won't hesitate to file a false rape claim". I'm not saying there aren't repugnant, pig women out there who wouldn't do that, but he's come to the conclusion that all women are inhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:26 AM
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I see several women, including me, telling that guy to decenter women. Where do you see the hate in those comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:49 PM
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It's not. It's being neutral. Decenter means not making women the center of one's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:43 PM
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Just decenter women, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:15 PM
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I only read the tldr (sorry mate), but i agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 11:51 AM
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I'm not giving hope. I speak my mind and stated multiple times that a % of the population will remain single. And it's not a new phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:38 AM
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Ya think they are able to pull something off? Be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:09 AM
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Indeed, it's that buildup going on and it has to explode somehow. Like the steam pressure in a pot and then you take the lid off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:07 AM
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It's more, like the mood, the environment, the cocktails. Add a good perfume and there you have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:03 AM
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Uuuf, the amount of times dancing led to making out 🥵. Idk what's with that, but it's always hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 11:56 PM
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Am i the only one to notice that the gurus don't bother to update their content as it's kind of obvious since the adepts also talk about old subjects? MeToo - that is a last decade subject of discussion Heavy makeup - that's 2010s kim kardashian style. The current style is clean makeup, and it's been for years. I guess you don't need to put in effort to be up to date if they money comes and subscribers are hooked with old content.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:55 PM
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I feel lucky because my period is really easy, but man i know women who got the short stick. One has endometriosis, only thing that worked was powerful prescription pain killers. She wanted a child more than anything, but only IVF would work and the closest clinic specialised in IVF for women with endometriosis was in a different city. First she had to get her tubes tied, then the IVF procedure, then various checks and the pregnancy was at risk until the second trimester. Then c section. Another…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:39 AM
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Neah, i am completely against OD, refused to use it. You keep saying friends for a month or friends for a while before dating. Dude, some people meet on thursday (complete strangers by then), they talk, they vibe, they do on a date on saturday and end the date as bf and gf. The vibe is how you 2 get along, how you complete each other's sentences, how you rhyme together. You could be closer to a person you met 4 hrs ago than to a person you've known for a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:06 AM
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Mine was reaching my butt and then one night that beast crawled across the bed directly into my husband's mouth. He woke up in a panic, confused, choking with my hair which was down his throat. Next morning i made an appointment and cut it collar bone length. I won't allow my hair to make me a window.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:57 PM
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Where is the "people with whom you hit it off from the beginning - within hours or days after you meet them, but sex happens a month later" Idk, i think this is a somewhat common occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:51 PM
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That Him...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:32 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:22 PM
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A
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:22 PM
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What do you mean by "Him". In what context? Who's Him?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:20 PM
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AI content
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:36 PM
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My claim was "multiple women talked about height". I also linked multiple (5) comments that talk about height. And also stated that these are just 5 examples and there are more comments about height. Is 5+ cases multiple or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:55 PM
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I'm not using my time so you can be lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:48 PM
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(Will edit to add more) It helps if you read the entire comment and wait. Otherwise, you could read the comms yourself. Just so you know, i'll only link the first 5 i will encounter, you can check out the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:43 PM
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Someone else seemed to have no problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:41 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/5hOhrJK2y2 https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/XXog3guqTt https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/Y03NUkBATs https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/qWZF34yczH https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/ZlhNnr0xL6 (Will edit to add more) Edit: added 5 as promised
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:40 PM
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the absolute denial and dismissal of height preferences Perhaps you missed this post from yesterday where multiple women mention height preferences. Glad you are willing to take into account that you might have incorrect observations. https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/w8j1ErWBrk
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:25 PM
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I had a severe episode of eczema. The dermatologist gave me medication and also sent me to the beach, get some sun and relaxation. And lo and behold, 3 days of vacation did more than a handful of pills. Vacations are relaxing, you change the environment, see things, try new food, experience something else, break the routine. Plus i love traveling, dragging a suitcase in train stations, packing and unpacking, the excitement, the fun, the new experiences. And as you can see, vacations have a posit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:18 PM
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I call em tits
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:11 AM
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Hi5 and myspace would like a word with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:16 AM
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Excuse me? How do you call the top front chest area of a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:10 AM
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I almost fit, i am 5'6". I won't list the obvious like cheater, rapist, lazy etc Personality: bad boys with a heart of gold. Funny, charming, chatismatic, extroverted. The kind of guy you can count on. Street smart and academically smart. Witty, social butterfly, spontaneous. Looks: gorgeous eyes, ideally at least half an inch taller than me. Facial hair, but not a long beard. Muscular, but with a belly. Nice tits, soft skin. No chest hair. No bald. About style: smells good, haircut that fits hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 10:46 PM
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And i think the women who would ask someone to uninvite the slut just because she's a slut (and no other motive) are in the wrong. Let the slut come and grab popcorn. Watch grown men turn into clowns, competing with each other, you'll have a good laugh. Also lets you filter men. Last time i witnessed this, a dude resorted to kissing an unvaccinated stray dog on the mouth multiple times just because she said she liked the dog. He still didn't hit, though. But my husband and i had such a good laug…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:59 PM
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And you are free to feel any way you want. It doesn't hurt anyone. Point is, women don't necessarily hate sluts as you said in the previous comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:11 PM
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You nailed it! I said marriage, but it's not set in stone. At the age of 45, most people have already been married or in a very very serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 01:31 PM
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I have no beef with sluts. I like my man with lots of experience. Those women created the man i love. I am thankful to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:36 PM
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Marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 11:58 AM
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Awful profile that keeps getting worse. And then you see it at the bottom: autism. Suddenly, it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:22 AM
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I had this conversation with my husband that after we die, we will search for each other as ghosts in the after life, if it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:33 PM
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Yes, they derail to off topic, they deflect. Again, this is a dating oriented sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 09:15 PM
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Women often bring up wood cutting safety? Where? Since it's often, i'm sure you can easily point to those posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 07:07 PM
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It wouldn't make sense to talk about this here. This is a dating oriented sub, not wood cutting sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:39 PM
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S A T U R D A Y Unless it's a job that already had working saturdays and chaotic shifts that change last minute, that lie is very see through.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:48 PM
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Yeah, this is where it starts looking like a fantasy. Hardly any woman would believe the "i was busy" excuse when it comes to V Day, especially on a Saturday.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:41 PM
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You didn't take into account that OP provided context for the survey: today, V Day. One man can't spend V Day evening/night with multiple women without them figuring out something is fishy, especially on a Saturday.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:30 PM
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And since chads are men as well, and since they get partnered, this means the overall male singleness drops.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:51 PM
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Who are those women dating then? Aliens?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:13 PM
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There's a horseshoe effect there, ngl. But yes, i think i'd give a chance to that show although i don't normally watch such things. But man, that would require the largest popcorn bag in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 08:14 PM
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I could never date a man with that hair style.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 06:37 PM
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Yes, older (+2 years), not old (+12 years).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 06:28 PM
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Honestly, idk if there is a solution for that. Some desperate woman perhaps, who either has "alive man" as the only standard or in a very bad financial situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:45 PM
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The average age gap worldwide is 4 years. Mind you, this also includes countries with child brides. In the western world, the average age gap is 2 years. So you have 29 year old women (one age bracket) with 31 year old men (another bracket). But it doesn't mean there is a 12 year old age gap that is routinely encountered.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:41 PM
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"Age 10"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:23 PM
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Exactly what an 18 year old wants: a man in his 30s who starts balding. Yummy!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:09 PM
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I want him to ask, not much planning needed as we met somewhere and entered the first bar/cofee shop we saw, each one pays what they ordered.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:10 PM
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It's like badly described humans - by aliens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 02:25 AM
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The guidance is still there: social wit, reading the room, social skills. Milestone by date 3 is for people who don't have the typical social skills. And for me at least, they kill the vibe quicker than a dick pic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:17 AM
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Because the ND population is known to have trouble with social interaction, social cues, reading the room AND sometimes are very vocal about wanting clear, direct communication to the last thought, leave nothing to guessing, interpreting or just understanding. Hence, they are the first group that come to mind who would actually not only want, but even think about such a system. Guidelines are fine and often required (think hospitals, protocols, etc). But dating is something else: a tango between…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:11 AM
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I wouldn't opt in in the first place. Although i think what you propose could work for the neurodivergent community. I can't even think of another category who would embrace such an idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:58 AM
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Go with the flow vs "milestones by date 3".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:22 AM
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Horrible idea. Takes out the fun out of dating: the flirting, the long looks, the vibe, the mood. Instead, it makes it mechanical, mathematical, caldculated and cold. No more passion, no more spantanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:18 AM
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Someone else said status includes social skills. So you can't talk about status without talking about social skills. If you disagree, maybe tell the other person in the thread who named social skills as part of status that he is wrong and present your arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 11:12 PM
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If you end up tying anything to looks, you tie nothing. Social skills can be learnt, but they're more natural - you get born with them. Like some people are talented at painting or singing or math or writing. So not tied to looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 11:11 PM
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That is fame. I'm talking about the social skills component (as i understand) from status.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:58 PM
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I disagree since in a relationship you have to talk - open your mouth. And what comes out and how it comes out depends a lot on social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:56 PM
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Ow, we kind of know. Not all the horrors, but similar to what you see in Ukraine now. Some even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:15 PM
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If statys would be social skills, i would agree, but also wonder why it's not directly communicated as social skis and the euphomism "status" is used. My guess: to spear the ego of men who lack social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:13 PM
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My great-grandmother was gathering seashells from several km away to get food for her 2 children during ww2. Russian soldiers would knock down doors and grab food and even the bread from the oven leaving people hungry. My grandmother witnessed this as a child in her home. Each time Putin would show up on TV, she would spit on the entire screen while cursing. She was only 7 during the war. She didn't forget or forgot 70 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:39 PM
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Why not focus on clarifying the vague one: status
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:30 PM
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Losing your head over a guy. You have butterflies in your stomach, but please make an effort and remain level headed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:55 PM
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i dont think intelligence is the only point Indeed, it's also being street smart, not just academically smart. A bit off topic, but now that i think about it, I rarely see "street smart" being discussed on this sub and imo it's a factor for attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:46 PM
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Neither do men. Nobody is required to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 04:14 PM
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I disagree. I wouldn't marry someone who didn't give 100% to the relationship. The same way i don't expect to be proposed if i don't give 100% to the relationship. How else will he know we will be together in poorer and sickness.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:44 PM
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People meet in all kinds of life situations. Not dating would be stupid. And ofc i'd talk about the work situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:56 AM
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Being a man is more than sex. But sex is part of being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 02:50 AM
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Beautiful eyes (anything but classic deep brown or hunter eyes), with a belly, no baldness, no chest hair, no tailored suit, no watch, some facial hair, beautiful chest (soft skin that sits nice on musxle and fat). He's my type, else he wouldn't be my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:21 PM
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It's more than "he is attractive". He could be attractive, but if i'm stressed from work because there are layoffs, sex is the last thing on my mind, i need to start sending CVs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:58 PM
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Ow, i'll save this comment for future reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:32 PM
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A wall is an impenetrable structure. Or close to it. Perhaps the choice of words was not clever. So, it's not a wall, but a peak. Why not call it peak instead of wall?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:32 PM
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I'll ignore the light rudeness. I'm talking specifically about men who set a clear age: 25 or 30. You seem to disapprove them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:31 PM
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Why do you think people throw "women initiate most divorces" (with a heavy accent on women) when the reasons are because they are cheated on or abused?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:21 PM
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Hardly a wall i understand from your comment. I asked the age because i've seen random numbers thrown around: 25, 30, you gave an example for a 40 year old woman. So not only the wall is weak, but it also keeps moving. It's confusion, not autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:16 PM
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Totally, i always do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:05 PM
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For the sake of the argument, could you please post the reasons why women initiate divorce according to official data?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:03 PM
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I got that when a dude wouldn't get "no" for an answer and my facial expression clearly stated that, but he kept trying. No, sir, i will not smile. I don't smile on command and it's not a smiley face situation. You're getting on my nerves because you insist after being clearly told "No".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:01 PM
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So there is no wall. Or is it a penetrable wall since you said 40 year old women can be attractive? Btw, at which age is the wall?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:58 AM
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Could you also name the reasons cited by women for divorce according to official data?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:57 AM
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Incoming comments about how older women can be attractive. Suddenly, the wall no longer exists 🌝
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:50 AM
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I have never seen a man who looks like this in my entire life. But i live in EE so maybe different genetics or grooming habits?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:02 AM
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Yes, survey If that information was correct, it would be in the official statistic on wikipedia. If you think you have proof that the wikipedia numbers are incorrect, please propose for the page to be edited. Until then, i prefer to believe peer reviewed data.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 01:22 AM
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Cdc>survry I'll take official data as the correct one
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 01:18 AM
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From 1973 to 1980, the abortion rate rose almost 80%, peaking at 29.3 abortions per 1,000 women of childbearing age in 1980 and 1981. From 1981 through 2017, the abortion rate fell by more than half, falling faster in Democratic administrations than Republican ones. The abortion rate fell below the 1973 rate in 2012 and continued to fall through 2017, when it stood at 13.5 abortions per 1,000 women of childbearing age. The abortion rate then rose from 2018 through 2020. https://en.wikipedia.org/…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 01:09 AM
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Lovely, just lovely. Pun intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:57 AM
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Because first i want to get it all out so i can think about the solution more clearly. Cool off a bit, sit on the problem. Cool head first, solution after
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:35 PM
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No, never had a hook up, never will. It's not my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:23 PM
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Like we can't tell he's clumsy. Or we can't tell if we have an orgasm or not. But yeah, i do agree with her. The only guy who got a second chance to make me orgasm was the first one since i expected my first to be bad. Round 2 was orgasmless so i broke up with him. Second guy - no orgaam the only time we had sex, so he became an ex. Third guy is my husband. Fireworks from the first try. Multiple orgasms each time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:18 PM
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I would know my symptoms better than the doctor, so yes, I would know myself better
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 09:42 AM
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Ow it sure backfired because it simply adds suspicion to an already suspicious situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:27 AM
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Because we are not a hive mind? Like, idk why you would expect that we like the same things. It's confusing. Perhaps in bigger groups of friends, there is some overlap. But mine is rather small and there's no overlap. Also, why would you prefer that her friends find you hot? I'm very confused about your line of thinking. I also find it a bit problematic because it says you need validation from other women as if the girlfriend's validation isn't enough. And this can lead to problems in the future…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:26 AM
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We have people who worked for jails confirm that there is no protocol to make a fake body. The focus isn't if it worked, but the action of making a fake body.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:59 AM
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Because their bfs are not our types. So ofc we find them unattractive. The great part is that it's not us who need to find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:47 AM
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No, not the ear story. It's revealed in the new batch of documents. The records also detail a trick that jail staffers used to fool the media gathered outside while Epstein’s body was removed: they used boxes and sheets to create what appeared to be a body and loaded it into a white van labeled as belonging to the Office of the Chief Medical Examiner. The reporters followed the van when it left the jail, not knowing that Epstein’s actual body was loaded into a black vehicle, which departed “unno…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:35 AM
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I hope you dismiss tiktok videos, insta posts and reddit comments used by men as evidence with the same reply: it's something you read online but is uncommon irl
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:30 AM
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I'll copy paste my comment since you missed it: That's the point, they didn't say "i don't want to get married". To the contrary, some were even told early on that the goal is marriage and they said they want to get married. When the discussion time arrived, they didn't say "i don't want to get married", they just moved goalposts: next summer, then next Christmas, after your birthday. Very very very few finally admitted after many years and many discussions that they don't want to get married (a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:29 AM
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Not in the stories i am talking about. You're probably talking about something else completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:27 AM
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That's the point, they didn't say "i don't want to get married". To the contrary, some were even told early on that the goal is marriage and they said they want to get married. When the discussion time arrived, they didn't say "i don't want to get married", they just moved goalposts: next summer, then next Christmas, after your birthday. Very very very few finally admitted after many years and many discussions that they don't want to get married (although previously saying that they want).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:20 AM
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Clearly marriage means something to some and nothing for others. To those women it meant a lot and it was a dealbreaker (often communicated from the beginning). Hence they ended the relationship. And we can also say about the men involved that they weren't anti marriage, else they wouldn't quickly marry the next woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:17 AM
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There's a bigger chance that it was all smoke and mirrors and he's still alive, especially after it was revealed that they used a fake body used to fool the press than for him to actually commit suicide. If you take each and every event separately, from the cameras to the design of the cell, yes, suicide is possible. But for everything to happen or fail at the same time, all at once, no chance. The cumulative coincidence is what makes the suicide story a coverup.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:08 AM
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Please explain
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:55 AM
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It sure looks like they treated them as temporary when discussions about marriage were met with avoidance, always postponed, golaposts moved. But then with the new women they move very fast and pun in effort. How was the saying? Watch what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:54 AM
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Not really. Multiple examples on r/Waiting_To_Wed where men strung alone a woman for years, sometimes even 10+ years, only to marry the next women in very short time, sometimes even less than a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:41 AM
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Epstein didn't kill himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:06 AM
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You'll get your answers from r/Waiting_To_Wed It's usually lack of effort, the woman initiates the moving forward of the relationship, years pass without him opening the marriage talk. It's a good sub to see other's experiences and perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:47 AM
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I think it's a good thing that women are able to talk casually about their dating experiences, especially the bad ones. It means they moved on and didn't get stuck on that bad experience. Which is the mature thing to do. But many of us went through breakups, cried ourselves to sleep, got really scared in certain situations, had sleepless nights, couldn't eat. But they got over it eventually and some time later they can casually talk about it. I can casually tell you about a 35 year old man offer…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 11:44 PM
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This gives reverse "I have a boyfriend" vibes. Something like "I don't have a boyfriend" lol Joke aside, i agree. But i always liked this tango, i think it also builds the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 10:46 PM
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Yes. My husband is the winner of my heart. There is a winner in this story.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:44 PM
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Sir, please stop unfunded accusations fueled by fantasies. Please stop projecting. I said what i said and i mean it. Continuing would mean you accuse me of lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:41 PM
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I think i know myself better than a stranger on the internet. Please stop projecting your fantasies on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:06 PM
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I said what i said. Those corrections are your fantasies. Please don't project your fantasies on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:52 PM
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Searched on google and it sent me to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Femininity Yes, a lot more than a couple of words. Sounds interesting, i'll go read the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:03 PM
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What keeps me monogamous isn't society, but love for my husband. The thought of a different man touching me makes my skin crawl. Also, i am possessive enough not to want to share him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:55 PM
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That's still not a definition lmao. Same with "hypergamy". That poor word changed meaning from man to man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:44 PM
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Yes, i have a type. It's not about being picky, it's about what you find attractive. Also, my husband has a type.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:39 PM
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You still didn't get a definition for "female nature". Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 09:42 AM
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This post is like a breath of fresh air. Good read, not much to add. I guess that's what life is all about: learning how to make lemonade with the lemons you are handed. The twist is: you gotta find your own recipe that works for you. Can't really copy (the entire) homework from someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:43 AM
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Geez, it's like a bad written book about humans for aliens. Is common sense a lost skill? That should be a discussion subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:37 AM
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He definitely appeals to a certain audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 12:08 PM
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TIL that Hitler could be considered charismatic. I guess there can be different flavours of charismatic because to me Trump is not charismatic, he's annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:22 AM
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That is brainwashing, something close to hypnoyisation (lack of a better word). Also, a good chunk fall for constant rambling nonsense because it's low brain activity. When someone says complex things, you need to focus to understand and have some knowledge. Trump is easy for his followers to digest. Simple words, verbal diarrhea. For a person with a superficial mind, it looks like he says a lot, although he says nothing of substance. A small, very small minority might have a hard on for Trump, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:21 AM
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Trump is no way charismatic. He's megaloman, but not charismatic. And i think you make a mistake about the "You can grab me by the pussy" shirts. Trump said "Grab her by the pussy" and naturally many people revolted because that's not a normal statement from a high profile politician. In response, female Trump appologists somehow tried to normalise the statement and wore those shirts. But the message was not literral. It was just a political stunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:10 AM
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Because to them being filtered out is the worst thing ever. So they project this on the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 05:55 PM
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The action of lusting. So... ACCOUNTABILITY!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 03:42 PM
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Ofc you can. Why limit accountability?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:15 PM
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Don't care, accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:00 PM
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aCcOuNtAbIlLiTy!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:59 PM
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He should hold himself accountable for the thoughts he has
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:58 PM
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Ow he should hold himself accountable and not lust after 20 year olds
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:12 PM
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Q.E.D.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:09 PM
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Incoming comments about "wife goggles" and bs about "ow but she will always look young in his eyes because he got her in her prime".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 12:50 PM
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Same trait can be seen in multiple scenarios. Clumsiness is seen in virgins. Doesn't mean it's only virgins who are clumsy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 11:34 AM
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How funny they are. Men are the funny gender. Facial hair, frames their faces in a beautiful way. When they are gentle. When a man is aware of his strength and of the fragility of a woman and he just touches her like she's a porcelain doll. This just makes me melt.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 03:47 AM
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Nice try, FBI
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 08:49 PM
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I really don't get this matchy-matchy mindset. Why do people need to date other people who are alike. Some of us like the opposite. I'm skinny, but i'm into fat men. Following your logic, i should match with fellow skinny men, aka something i am really not into. It just makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:01 PM
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women think that they can "tame" bad boys But this does happen. Just as an example: my husband. But i do agree not any women can tame any bad boy and not all bad boys can be tamed. Still, if you are into this type of men and you do tame one of these boys, it's heaven on earth. Best of both worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:56 PM
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The other person said lazy and indeed, it's a factor. But i think it's not the only one. Sometimes it's skill issue, but other times it's the mood/ability of the man to relax the woman's mind. I feel like 50% of the orgasm is mental. So if the mental relaxation isn't there, no matter the attractiveness of the partner, the desire of the woman or the ability and effort of the man, the orgasm won't happen. And sometimes, the mental relaxation can't happen no matter what due to external factors (str…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:32 PM
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Me: OP made a low effort post so i reprocitated with the same level of effort. You: you missed the substance on purpose just to nitpick. I will no longer engage with your bad faith arguments. Mind you, this is the second one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:30 PM
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First of all, OP doesn't even engage in his own post (so far at least). I do agree that there are often things that are pointlessly gendered, but those are in relation to generalisations. This is a particular situation that involves only a handful of people so i wouldn't rush to exclude gender being a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:26 PM
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OP posts something low effort, i reply with the same level of effort, you and others don't put in more effort to see that my low effort is only due to OP's low effort, but in the end, i'm the only one who receives slightly mean comments (the use x% of your brain replies). What do you think about this situation? Why do you think that if multiple men pin in low effort and a woman also puts in low effort, only the woman receives mean comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:08 PM
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Low effort posts don't deserve high effort (using common sense when OP didn't) from my side.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:44 AM
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If he wanted to ask that, he would have phrased it. Maybe he intended to ask that, but didn't. So it's a bad look for OP because he created a rushed, vague post.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:32 AM
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I am very confused about "good in all aspects". Like extremely confused. A good partner for me is not religious. This is a dealbreaker. Also, he doesn't say anything about being charismatic or funny or extroverted. These are things that make him a good partner to me. The level of delusion is insane. Personally, i wouldn't date such a man. He's not good for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:30 AM
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First of all, not all women watch k dramas. So why would you think every girl is like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:26 AM
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We're still married
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:03 AM
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A sane individual will be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:39 AM
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Agree about libido, but hard disagree about n count. Let me have my high n count man. He makes me happy, i wanna keep him forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:05 AM
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Why would i compare myself with another woman. Or worse, be in competition. I have my charms, my game, my charisma. Other women also have their charms in their own way. I would compare apples and oranges as their charms work better with some men and mine work better with other men. It makes no sense to overthink all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:45 AM
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Clumsiness not a virgin trait... Be serious now
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:43 AM
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Again, the topic is about a man, not a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 11:49 PM
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What part of what i said do you think is wild? I really do believe what i said, else i wouldn't have said it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:49 AM
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Why? Do you think i'm wrong with either of those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:31 AM
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I usually take issue when a topic is created to talk about men and men switch it to talk about women. It makes men look like they center women too much and can't live unless they tie their existence to women. Weak. But the topic is not about this either. You have any questions for me regarding the topic?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:37 AM
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Same for a woman. But the topic isn't about a woman, so let's stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:28 AM
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There has to be something very very very wrong in a particular department if such a man is a virgin past the age of 20. Think mental issues, morbid obesity or really really ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:13 AM
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The kind of man i like usually isn't a virgin past highschool. Funny, charming, charismatic, extroverted with beautiful eyes. These guys easily find relationships so they aren't virgins at ages 20+. Unless he's religious in which case i want nothing to do with him as that is a dealbraker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:52 AM
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Sometimes you can tell because they can't hold an erection. Sure, this isn't the only reason for erection problems, but it can be a sign. Pair this with clumsyness and you kind of get your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:49 AM
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I wouldn't consider it a red flag necessarily, but i wouldn't be interested in him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:42 AM
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Hard agree. It's never a good idea to offer yourself on a platter.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 01:47 AM
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You're getting off topic here. We're talking about relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 02:00 AM
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Yes, walk away, take your business elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:52 AM
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You can walk away, mate. This is just a box in which you place yourself. Walk away if you're unhappy. Same for women. They can walk away. I personally walked away if i didn't see a future in that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 10:38 AM
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That's the thing though, they're not expected. I also can't deal with a stupid man, it's another mood killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:05 AM
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Retinol, sunscreen, peptides, ceramides
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:53 PM
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Also add charming, charismatic, funny, extroverted, fun to be around
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:17 PM
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Yes, here the wording leads to the assumption that cheating was involved, however i would also say that i used a new relationship to get out of the previous one
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 05:20 PM
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The post is about men, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:18 PM
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Could be, sure. But why deflect and talk about women when the topic is about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:53 PM
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I bought flowers for my husband. Needless to say he took pictures, posted and told everybody how happy he is that he received flowers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:34 PM
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I'm team "nothing past hello with an ex". With reasonable exceptions like they work for the government and you need some specific papers and they are the only one in that office. But the discussion should only be related to that paperwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:31 PM
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Cheating was not necessarily involved. I did that too for about 2 years without ever cheating. You just get out of a relationship today and find a new guy within days. Rinse and repeat. It's like finding a new thing to focus on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:25 PM
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There isn't much motivation to enter a relationship with someone you find unsexy and for many women awkward is unsexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 09:23 AM
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The discussion is about the man si ofc i will refer to the things that the man lacks. I mean, how can it be put on the shoulders of the woman that the man is awkward? This isn't her awkwardness, it's his.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:02 AM
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In highschool, one of my bfs was THE guy, you know exactly who. Dude was my ex deskmate, he did study, didn't skip school, smoked, went to clubs. Same as me (minus clubbing which i did only in the summer). One of my classmates, a guy friend, the dude who was friendzoned the entire highschool years by another classmate/friend (quite a tri), you know the type, immediately said "Why do you like so and so? Because he's a bad boy?". He knew the guy, knew he's no trouble and yet, the bad boy label was…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:56 PM
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And under it i listed "lack of humor", yet you didn't jump to the conclusion that it's a disability. Nice switch from "disability" to "objectively personality type", looks like you actually understood what i listed. European here, also a preference for extroverts. It's not necessarily assumption, after all - i'm an introvert myself, it's what i find unattractive and i'm sure i'm not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:37 PM
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I couldn't wait to take my husband's name. It felt more...right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:31 PM
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Where did i say it was?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:23 PM
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Yes, be yourself. Your partner should be themself. You need to genuinely like each other's company and personalities. They're not normal. They are a sign of emotional immaturity. Another sign is interpreting this as "as sign of personal fault". It's not about fault, but stating a reason in a very neutral manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:57 PM
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Yes, genetics, this is why black pill makes more sense if you exclude the doomerism and incel leaning ideas. Also why i firmly believe in "be yourself" because trying to mimic being extroverted will drain you and make you unhappy and others can sometimes feel that it's not genuine. A person with a good sense of humor is automatically entertaining. Because that sense of humor surfaces, doesn't collect dust in a glory box.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:11 PM
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when women try to pin a man's lack of sexual or dating success on some sort of moral failing I pinned it on autism, had a few guys melt down. I pinned it on introversion, more guys had a meltdown. I pinned it on awkwardness, more meltdowns. I pinned it on not humorous and charming, fun to be around, got accused of wanting a dance monkey + meltdowns. And i trully believe all of the above are more common reasons than moral failings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:12 PM
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If i have to bring the crayons, i lose attraction and develop motherly feelings towards him instead of lustful feelings. Stupidity and incompetence are things that frustrate me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:06 AM
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Ofc, people need to personally know you more than at surface lvl to give proper advice
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:40 PM
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The account who posted the thing from the screenshot is 1month old, no other posts, barely had some interaction in their own post and someone else also called it fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:27 PM
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But what if the previous partner was uglier than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:25 PM
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Thank you for your answer. Would you say that a more handsome past partner would make you feel insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:05 PM
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Genuinely curious: what if it wasn't chad, but just some average dude, just like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:45 PM
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My FIL's long term mistress who became his second wife outed him that while he was married to my husband's mother and was also with her, he left another lady pregnant. FIL couldn't say a word, turned red as a lobster. Honestly, it wouldn't shock me if there was a 4th woman at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:53 PM
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So you do acknowledge this is not the norm. I am an average woman. I didn't settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:43 PM
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Check again, dude. Big is out of style, ozempic/heroin chick is back again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:39 PM
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People here think BP is just silly talking. It's just the sane part of the RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:58 PM
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Even the answers in that thread show you it's not the norm. And another person called it fake in the comments. Are you even reading the comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:46 PM
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No, but the post is fake. The other women have a more genuine approach. Also, there very few and state that the relationship is over (as it should have never happened). I want to stress that this is not the norm, neither is it encouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:31 PM
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Hmm, a link for a common trope subject, posted by a new account, without any other posts or comments. Low quality bait
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:25 PM
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Some of these women already do this. You think passport bros' wives are with them for love? Ha ha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:23 PM
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"learn" has a lot of pull and you keep diminishing it's importance
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:28 PM
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But the value of that diamond when it's cut to it's best shape has nothing to do with the mine when worn on a piece of jewelery
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:17 PM
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*to learn how to work on yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:16 PM
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Employees are interchangeable. Partners aren't
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:15 PM
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While i agree that finding the right practitioner is a task of it's own, saying that it doesn't work on almost anyone is far, far from the truth. I mean, you can find positive result stories even on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:49 AM
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Therapy can only work for open minded people or who try to be open minded. And even then, it's not a guarantee or cure-all pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:35 AM
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Jobs are different from relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:31 AM
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People can learn to accept many things. Not all people, not all things perhaps. But it is worth a try. Who knows, it might help. Or make it easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:13 AM
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It may help you accept you won't (ever) get dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:06 AM
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I don't think i can even remember, but i think it's between 10-15.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:36 AM
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I keep saying this: with the right person, it's effortless, conversation flows, time flies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:51 PM
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I didn't blame, i simply didn't date them. And the issue is not the lack of experience per se, but certain traits that don't turn me on. For example, i prefer funny, charming, charismatic bad boys who are family oriented. Such a guy doesn't really have issues finding a woman. Not because he has experience, but because they are a weird combination of fun and stable that has it's own magnetic charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:00 AM
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What do you bring to the table??? Hmm? HMMM??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:53 PM
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N count 3, no regrets
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:45 PM
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I said i like funny, charismatic, extroverted men and a few guys had a meltdown. What do you think about this situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 01:27 PM
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I don't like flowers, but i still suggest them. Other women like them, so it's a good idea to mention them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 11:32 AM
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I have enough life experience to know a fool when he's talking to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:45 AM
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That wasn't neutral dude. If you wanted to be neutral and commented that, then you have severe communications issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 02:13 AM
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I was told that my husband is a beta i settled for, but also a chad. That i will cheat on him, but also that he will cheat on me. The narrative bends in order to create a comfortable lie so they can sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 02:10 AM
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N count of 3: classmate summer camp common acquaintance
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:48 AM
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You might need to reread my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:41 AM
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Nothing really to deal with, he's a great friend. We tried to let him know that he'll lose great women because he can't have a spine, it's up to him to take action.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:00 AM
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Sure, after about 30 years of friendship...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:38 AM
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Hard disagree. We have a close friend and we never would have guessed he's a mamma's boy when in a relationship. Because his mom doesn't get involved in his friendships, but gets involved and keeps him under her shoe when it comes to his romantic relationships. Which makes him a great friend and a very shitty partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:29 AM
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Not a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 06:40 PM
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Unsexy hobbies: cars, hunting, extreme sports, collecting, reading, writing Sexy hobbies: gaming, dj These are just from the top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:14 AM
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Ow, i'm into men, sir. I'm very much into men. But i find boring guys unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:53 AM
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Literally, like that is not a subject for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:52 AM
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Chad also has to. Looks alone don't keep me warm
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 06:31 PM
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Why 50-50 and not pool all the money and join finances? I prefer the joint finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:33 AM
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Where do you hear that phrase? On the street, in the family, at the workplace, in a podcast?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:15 PM
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And that actually happens quite often. They meet, they vibe, they hit it off, now they're married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 03:38 PM
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I never had sex a second time with the same guy if I didn't have an orgasm the first time. Except my first time because i knew it was supposed to be crappy and i just wanted to get off already.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 12:33 AM
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A hug from my husband feels different from a hug from a friend. More intimate, more cozy. I guess we just complement each other. He's my favourite person in the world. Sex is amazing as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 04:02 PM
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Myself and most low n women i know prefer high n count men. Culture difference perhaps
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:57 PM
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Mine is low, but prefer men with high n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:52 PM
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This screams NiceGuy behaviour. "I was nice, i did homework for them, where relationship". Yes, you were nice, but you weren't seductive. Nice doesn't build attraction, being seductive does. That is the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 10:10 PM
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Wtf is this fantasy? NO!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:30 AM
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I married my highschool sweetheart. Orgasms aren't emotionally connected.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 07:28 PM
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0 - it's a dealbreaker, i hate it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 02:23 AM
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Ofc to me. I have no problem talking as well, but i can't always be around. When i'm not, i need him to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 11:21 AM
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Shy men make bad partners for relationships. What if we renovate or build a house and i need him to talk to the construction crew that the wall isn't straight or the floor isn't flat. The workers are gonna laugh in his shy face if he isn't assertive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 09:02 AM
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So, what's the debate? This is more like a rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:05 PM
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And an AI wrote that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:46 PM
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Thank you! I saved your recipe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 08:51 AM
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I NEED that brownie recipe. Please post complete instructions
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:36 AM
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Patience comes with degrees, like a grey scale. One can learn from the other to be patient. The patient one has patience with the impatient one and also can grab the tasks that require more patience. They complement each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 05:47 PM
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Someone patient can be with someone impatient.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:45 AM
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I see it sometimes as a revenge fantasy, some moralisation of life, see you were noughty, now you don't have a husband. Or a scare tactic. Or projection of their own fears.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 06:44 PM
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Ofc, any bad guy is a good guy in someone else's story
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 06:31 PM
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Any person can be the bad guy in someone else's story. Humans are not perfect. Good people can have their AH moments.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:11 AM
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Because he's masculine, fun and has life experience. Bad boys can have manners. They can play by the rules or at least pretend to do so. And if you manage to tame one, you hit jackpot. Best of both worlds. A man who's street smart, academically smart, respects you, loyal, will put in effort for the family. But you really need to be a good judge of character, and he must also be one. If life goals match, you're good for life with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:54 AM
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Tell this to the men who moan that sex is a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:36 AM
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Those women have a libido closer to an average man. Are men functioning like a junkie and are they low IQ? Because i'd say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:18 AM
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Those women have a high libido and need to get off. A dick is warmer than a dildo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:13 AM
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Sir, you have a healthy way of seeing life, nuance and humans. I kept reading your comments, they're always solid.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:12 AM
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Chicken or egg. I prefer men with charm, charisma, humor, extroverted, social butterflies. Such a man usually has prior relationships and may have a highee bc. Si it's not the n count per se, but it just happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:07 AM
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Whoever picks a partner based on statistics either has autism, has very little life experience or is very shut in
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:30 AM
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Anyone can have any preference they want. I'm not attacking anyone's preference. But what i am discussing is what's behind a preference. In this case, it's mostly insecurity
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:28 AM
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They fear low commitment when it's not even a rule that high bc people have low commitment. I had low commitment as a virgin and as a bc of 1. They also think people act according to statistics. People are complex and fit in different statistics. Might score high in one and low in another. My example: low commitment, bc of 0 (at that time).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:26 AM
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Ow, anyone can have a meltdown. But denying having a meltdown while having a meltdown is cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:19 AM
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It depends why that bc is low. Is it because he had the opportunity and didn't want to? Or because ge wanted to, but he didn't have the opportunity?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:18 AM
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They don't care already. They point out the insecurity and men have a meltdown
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:11 AM
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Alex. I'm a sucker for bed hair, hoodies, shorts are fine, but i prefer grey swatpants, i'm good with finance as i have a college degree in finance What i deeply dislike: fit (i like my men more on the prosciutto side), male grooming as in hair done, perfect beard etc. And what i truly hate is men's business attire and styled clothes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:10 AM
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They know about their n count and don't care about someone judging them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:02 AM
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Then they should own their insecurity and not have a meltdown when they are called insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:00 AM
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My bc is 3 and i still think men like this are insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 08:57 AM
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Sir, it's a defect that is surgically corrected by doctors. Ask any dentist if that jaw is ok. And i'm not talking about the aesthetic, i'm talking about the functionality aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:51 PM
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I only had sex in a relationship and had relationships only with high n coujt men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:40 PM
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Why? I don't fit the hive mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 08:55 AM
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My father tried this as well. I ignored him and dated anyway. My parents know if only one bf, now husband. But there were many others in the past. I also developed a taste in men that are the opposite of my father.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 08:01 AM
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Lmao, i saw the meltdown in the comments. Stopped replying because the dudes were too emotional. Now this... A delusional person believes things that aren't true. But her marriage and children are very very true. The point is, you never know which person is delusional and who actually hits the jackpot. And you'll look like a clown for saying they were delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:14 AM
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Girl, speak for yourself. All the guys i slept with are high n count, including my husband. I didn't keep myself low n count for a virgin man or one with n count 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 12:30 AM
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No, that should make the hater realise they eat shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 12:08 AM
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Either way, she got what she wanted. And could laugh in the face of anyone who thinks she was delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:03 PM
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Is your mom’s maiden name better than the name you got from your dad? Yes. And then i took my husband's name which is the funniest name i've heard irl. My grandmother had high blood pressure from laughing when she found out the name. I see people try to hold their laughter when i introduce myself. Nobody forgets us and it becomes useful in certain situations. I love it!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:50 PM
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I think they would look like clowns. "Nooo, you're going to lose all your money" sounds dumb when they actually won a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:22 PM
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But was she delusional since she got what she wanted?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:21 PM
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But was she delisional as long as she got what she wanted?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:21 PM
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Real life events don't give a shit about statistics. Who tf falls in love based on statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 07:04 PM
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Yet, if i had told her she is delusional, i'd look like a clown.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:44 PM
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Ok, so i have this friend and she genuinely likes a guy with money. Big money, not some programmer money. I'm talking about investor money, enough to buy a yacht. Also, she liked them older, some 5-10 years age gap. But he must not look old. And she is 6' and wanted a guy way taller than her. She's a bit overweight, can have babies only through IVF because she lost an ovary after a miscarriage and isn't the type to tolerate bs. She worked as a careiver for an old couple and abandoned college. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:18 PM
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I see "The One" as a close match and a faith thing. And i do believe in The One.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:58 AM
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I don't snitch because i deeply dislike his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:57 AM
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Yes, that is usually called a sugar baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:56 AM
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How old are you and what is your longest relationship so far?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:44 AM
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Doesn't complain about chad. Isn't obsessed that women are after money he doesn't have
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:40 AM
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So, the broke 25 year olds go for a 40 year old's money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:57 PM
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Again with tge paranoia. If you think every woman is out there to get your money, i have bad news for you. Statistics about women being breadwinners or on the same financial level as their partner are linked here at least weekly. Still, you spout the same bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:56 PM
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What is common to you? The meaning of the word. Because to me, common is like 40%. Not a majority so i can't say "most". But a significant minority that is close to almost half. To me, your message reads as: 40% of big age gap relationships are based on love.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:52 PM
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Tuen you Re too far removed from nuance and reality. A 40 year old financially stable woman doesn't need a man for his money. She gets with him if she really likes him
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:49 PM
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Do you know this for sure? Or is it paranoia. If she works, has a roof above her head and a deposit for emergencies, she's not after his money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:45 PM
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Yes, i live in reality. I also understand nuance, odd cases and the need to protect a fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:44 PM
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Not necessarely. These are usually 2 main cases here and some oddities. Case 1: she seems naive, can't hold boundaries, then he looks like a groomer Case 2: she seems like she knows how to work him and squeeze money, then it looks transactional. Like an escort with only one client. He knows she's there foe the money, else he's very very naive. And the oddities where things simply happened like that, there is true love in that relationship, she doesn't seem naive and can hold boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:42 PM
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Geez, do you live in an arab country? Or somewhere where they practice arranged marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:36 PM
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...and who has money. They don't go for homeless 40 year old men. Neither for struggling with debt men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:35 PM
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My apologies! Hanging or not, be proud of your family jewels 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:34 PM
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You don't, that's the point. Those are really odd exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:33 PM
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A 40 year old woman is his age. In 25 years old's language, she is also an old fart. But 40 years old is not old in a 40 years old's person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:31 PM
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Some people need to hear the undiluted truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:29 PM
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Because 25 year olds don't have much in common with 40 year olds, dude. Usually, 25 year olds see 40 year olds as "old". And 25 year old women usually want to hang out with their peers, not some old fart. Want a youthful body beside them, not hanging balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:18 PM
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Me: shy men You: nOt AlL mEn Men lead. But not shy, meek men who are insecure. Those are born FA.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:53 PM
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Ow, no no no. It's about the ones who think they can 1 on 1 close combat a burglar.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:15 PM
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I can't wrap my head around shy men dreaming to be leaders. Bro, you're riddled with anxiety and can't ask for extra napkins. You want to lead what exactly? It's in the same vein with skinny short men who want to "protect".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:17 PM
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It said comment deleted when i tried to reply. I wanted to say that you are awfully concerned about my relationship with my husband. It starts to look odd. Edit: your comments don't show up again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:17 AM
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Ow, you don't need to worry about us. Edit: either OP deleted his last comment or he blocked me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 09:55 AM
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Cool. So you can keep your ideas and i can keep my husband and our sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:49 AM
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It wasn't advice. Kind reminder that advice is not permitted on this sub. Please see sub rules. It was an explanation with a few examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:48 AM
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A normal guy doesn't need a checklist. Nor did i state that there needs to be only this checklist for a relationship to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:40 AM
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And a perfect example of "(some) men don't listen" Why even ask if you're going to say "nuh, uh"? And i believe i know a thing or 2 considering i'm in a happy relationship for 17+ years. Relationship and sex are separate, but intertwine. Hence the answers are complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:39 AM
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"I didn't formulate my question correctly so now i am mad that you didn't understand what was implied". This is such a low effort post. And for the guys with the same mind set, i think it just shows not only how you don't understand women, but how you don't even listen to women when they say state their views. Also shows how far removed from reality you guys are. And how you don't comprehend the entirety of a happy, healthy relatiomship. Or a happy, healthy sex life. What makes a relationship wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:45 AM
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The humor. It's just different from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 08:21 PM
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I honestly think it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 02:38 PM
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My parents worked hard to raise me and give me a house so i don't end up in this situation. I also studied hard so i don't end up in this situation. I don't think i could do it. I am grateful for what i have.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 03:31 PM
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Well, they have to talk to each other first. So man talks, woman talks. Man flirts, woman flirts. It's the same effort up until the 20 seconds it takes for thr man to say "hey, want to grab a coffee some time?" That is all the extra effort that a man does until the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:56 PM
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You didn't explain why you think this
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:42 AM
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I see it as effort when the man tried to get to know me. Idk what scenario you made into your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:24 PM
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These are different women. Why mix what you did yesterday with a woman with what you did today with a different woman. In total, still, 20 seconds extra of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:07 PM
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It takes time, yes. Investing time is effort
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:06 PM
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I prefer to keep a few. I love baking for my husband. I feel feminine and love goes through the stomach with this one. And i see initiation as masculine so i left it to the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:05 PM
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If she's needs that much convincing, she's not into you. If she plays games, remove yourself from the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:04 PM
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It's 10 seconds of "want to grab a coffee some time?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:34 PM
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No worries. I do believe dating is a tango and both should work for it and not take the other one for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:27 PM
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He did it as well. I did it also. We both did it. Dating is a tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:19 PM
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Women do the same thing a man does minus the asking out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:19 PM
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No, because it's unfeminine and i don't offer myself on a platter. I've always been very selective about men, especially the ones i have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:45 PM
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That's masculinity, not vulnerability. The 10 seconds it takes to ask out a woman aren't the equivalent of decads of chores and mental load.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:20 PM
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I don't do it because i don't offer myself on a platter. It's unfeminine imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:19 PM
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They do the same thing a woman does + the 10 seconds it takes to ask on a date. Such effort...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:14 PM
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Haven't you ever seen a woman trying to get a guy on a hook?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:07 PM
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You may not be on a date. You may be in a social setting and happen to meet a new person. This is before the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:05 PM
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Not the point of my comment. Effort is done by both sides. Dating is a tango
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:03 PM
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That is not lady game. Haven't you ever seen a woman doing things to get a man in the hook?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:02 PM
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Apart from the first move, i've done all the other efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:00 PM
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If that's what women do with you, i get it that you get the wrong impression of what lady game is. You'll know it when you'll see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:41 PM
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Effort doesn't mean just approach. Effort is also flirting, lady game, asking questions, holding conversation, actively listening, getting to know the other person. Edit: makeup and nails are for myself, not for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:37 PM
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I can't wrap my head around "but if she is attracted...". I only had sex in a relationship and i wouldn't have had a relationship with a guy i wasn't attracted to. But sex always came a few weeks later.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:22 PM
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Never tolerated bs. I could get another hot one in a week. Hopefully, this one behaves. Else, move on to the next.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:06 AM
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I am not the type to send people to therapy for any small thing. But i do know that there's a point where professional help is needed. Actually, i do appreciate personal strength and powerful minds. I think men overall are fine. It's just that some spaxes attract a loud minority and that what makes it seem that they are many.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 09:50 PM
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Girl, i'm the opposite. I hate chest hair. This is one of my dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 09:33 PM
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Too much hand muscle, too much titty and not enough belly fat Not to mention i hate chest hair
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 09:31 PM
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I still don't understand if you agree with OP or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 09:16 PM
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It is common because most understand it. And ofc you can talk about it, but not frame it as the truth nobody wants you to know. It also feels redundant for those who have it and the ones who don't sometimes seem alien. Most people do observe. Somehow during high school they get it. Others are a bit late to the party and get it in college. Others are waaay too oblivious. I observed, but didn't need the internet or podcasts or discussions on the subject. I wasn't spoon fed. THAT is the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 09:11 PM
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Absolutely. I mean the ppders
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:37 PM
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Can you answer in the context of what OP said? Do you think OP is right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:47 PM
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Same. Luckily I pulled out of the situation in time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 05:59 PM
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Spread the word, they won't listen to a woman. Maybe they will listen to you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 05:52 PM
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Now we're adding a lack of introspection to the mix. A good therapist can see through you. And guess what, now they know. Some of the men here who feel this way had an evrika moment and can now see what hurts them. Do you think they will take action?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 05:38 PM
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The ones who rage instead of doing their best to change something are emotionally children. The ones who have their lows, keep trying, work on themselves aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 05:32 PM
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I understand what OP means. I've seen it with some of my husband's friends. The feeling of inadequacy, emasculation, feeling like a boy, not like a man, being afraid that they are nobody's type, unworthy of love. Some had dry spells stretching for a decade, some for months or a few years. For most, the feeling of inadequacy came from seeing my relationship with my husband. Even expressed that they are sad that they can't find someone compatible like we are compatible. But what i can not understa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 05:17 PM
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I'm not objectively red pilled. You see, even a broken clock tells the correct hour twice a day. Same thing with the red pill. They take things that are common sense (presented as "the truth that nobody wants to tell you"), but bundle them up with crap. So each time someone says something that is common sense, red pillers are "aha! gotcha! you are red pilled". No sir, i am just normal. I understand dynamics, i read the room, i observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:46 PM
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No. Pills are dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 04:11 PM
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My husband and i got weird "tips" from our parents. His mother told him he can get a poor girl, they will take care of her. Whatever that means. MIL is a sweetheart. His father is the biggest player i know. All he did was damn teach him how to put on a condom...after he already started having sex and been using condoms for a while already. My mother never gave me tips because she knew i'll be fine. I don't tolerate bs and she knows it. My father tried to push me to enter a relationship with a gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 08:04 PM
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17 years and going strong. A bad boy in love makes a great husband
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 03:02 PM
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What perfume did you assume it was?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 06:24 PM
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Can be trashy or classy. Even shorter nails can be trashy or classy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 06:23 PM
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Personality to me means: funny, charming, extroverted, charismatic. These are the personality traits that increase attraction. The thing about "nice" is that while it provides 0 extra attraction, it's a must have in order for attraction to exist. At least for some women. "Nice" is like a context for all the other attractive traits to exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 09:04 PM
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Delusion. It's delusion
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 08:21 PM
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I would like to point out the inability to keep conversation about men. You see a post about men, the discussion is about men, you comment about men, but then some man in the comments circles back to woman. Bro, stay on topic. Can't these men exist without attaching themselves to women in a discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:48 AM
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It comes naturally, it's normal human behaviour. Also, you might find it unfunny, but when you click with someone, you feel good, relaxed, this applifies a what seems a meh joke to 300%. Sure, you'll say it's halo, but that would be reductive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:28 AM
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She should have known better, but her Ted Talk provided more insight. It's the "learn from other's mistakes" type of situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:21 PM
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I can get an idea of his cockiness in the first half an hour, i don't even need a second date. I can tell who's street smart and who's not. I can tell who's funny and who's not. If this behaviour disappears, i'm out. It means either i misjudged or he put on a mask. He can keep his career. It doesn't keep me warm in the bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 10:04 PM
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Totally agree. Actually i would ignore completely men who consider their love language to be "physical touch" since we wouldn't be compatible. I'm not a touchy person, i don't like cuddles plus it can be code for play with my penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:58 PM
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I always vet for men who are cocky without being obnoxious. And OP is asking to just give men, including timid or shy guys, a chance. Why? Why would i waste both of our time giving these guys a chance and for what? I don't get it. It's clear from the start that they wouldn't be my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:41 AM
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That's the whole idea. I want him to be naturally charming. There is no effort to be who you are. And that's who he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 08:48 AM
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OP agrees that it's a good strategy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 08:15 AM
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Recent?!? My ex boss in her late 60s was all about her tall late husband and refused a guy who was short. Tall has always been a standard. Even for great grandmas
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:02 AM
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What's wrong with keeping you accountable?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:00 AM
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You said it to me, but did you say it to OP as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:58 PM
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Well, then tell this to OP, i'm the normal one here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:55 PM
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Why would that happen? OP here agreed that this is a good strategy. Do you disagree with OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:05 PM
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It only makes sense to do that with men who have less options. Those who have more options don't need to settle, they can have the woman they want. The guys with less options usually have the woman they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:04 PM
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Play hard to get in order to determine real attraction. Keep him dry for months to check if he stays. Got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:25 PM
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The same way he was able to cheat and kiss me good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:51 PM
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?? What do you mean by sequence of events?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 07:52 PM
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It can be. Eye for an eye
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:16 PM
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Idk, i think i would try to reconcile
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:03 PM
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They talk themselves out of sex
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:58 PM
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I think it's debatable. Some grey area for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:38 PM
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A hall pass given to me after he cheated first. Going on a date with someone else is cheating and i would do just that. Ofc, i wouldn't let him know it was just a date and nothing more. I'd leave him guessing and come home late. Emotional cheating is still cheating. Your mind is not in the relationship, you take time from the relationship, you hide, you sneak, your heart pounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:06 AM
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I am very very picky about apartments/houses and how the rooms are arranged. I hate open space (kitchen + living room), especially if that is one spacious kitchen in which you can fit a couch, not the space of a proper living room + the space of a kitchen combined. Then the whole bathroom situation where you might have 2 bathrooms, but one is connected to a bedroom, not a hallway. Even at night, you might wake up your partner with flushing and washing hands, so you're gonna use the other one any…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:36 PM
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At 25 it starts to be weird imo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:27 PM
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And the next crew does the same 🥴 We even had to pay 4x the normal rate because we needed something done in a rush. And it was a bad job that we will fix next year.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:01 PM
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They come, they sew the half job, they ask for double than it normally is. Take it or leave it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:56 PM
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Not where i live. They become suspicious if the work is half done and refuse to continue or charge a lot more. It's very tricky.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:54 PM
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I want him to genuinely be funny and charming, not to put on a show.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:28 PM
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It is not a redeeming quality even in the long term. We are building a house. We've been dealing with various construction crews for the past 2,5 years. Workers can get cocky, leave things unfinished, ignore the plan, do a half ass job. Is Timmy here going to impose his opinion over the workers? Because i need my man to deal with the workers when i am not around. Is Timmy going to call me to come over for every little thing because he's too shy? A shy man doesn't make a good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:27 PM
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A little extra, yes, maybe. But you phrased it like a biiig huuuge effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:20 PM
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There is no effort when that's who they are. Being yourself takes no effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:59 PM
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Timothy - i am not attracted to shy guys, i simply find nothing sexual about them. I'd rather remove myself from the situation so he gets a clear message. Chad - he can think he can get what he wants coz he ain't getting anything. The more sure of himself a guy is (about this aspect), the more i would play him. YEEzy - kind of too extra for me, but if i don't find him obnoxious, i might be interested for a chat at least and see where things go. Maybe friends, maybe bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:33 PM
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Idk, even for me, there is such a thing as too extroverted. They become tireing. I am introverted though, so this is a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:07 PM
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Ow yes, i misinterpreted your comment. You are right.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:56 PM
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It’s a weird dance you have to do for a few weeks This is where i disagree. I want this dance to continue. I don't want him being funny for 3 weeks and then radio silence. That is what keeps me attracted as it was what attracted me in the first place. Sure, the stability will add depth to the relationship, but the flames need to be maintained
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:49 PM
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I have different preferences Cocky - yes 🥵 Loud - depends, there's a fine line, it can lean into full of life territory or into obnoxious territory Insufferable - if he was in the obnoxious territory when being loud But then again, i'm a sucker for extroverts
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:44 PM
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Valentine's day, that's when shit hits the fan
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 01:40 AM
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Banning contraception My husband uses condoms as a contraceptive method.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:44 PM
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Girl, i'm brewing as we speak. Just need some time to get all my ducks in a row.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:28 PM
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I was fine single before meeting my husband. I wasn't desperate for a relationship, actually had been single for a while before meeting him. Good relationship > single > bad relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:58 PM
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It works for me, though. Explains also why lipstick looks horrible on me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:29 PM
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r/kibbe Take the test, it will change your perspective on clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:51 PM
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Our case: i was the owner (no mortgage), he moved in, our incomes were already merged so everything was paid from our money.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:17 PM
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Nothing you can do about it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:12 AM
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That's the whole point. It needs to be attractive to ONE woman, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:58 AM
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Funny guys are dangerous. When you laugh you close your eyes, you don't even see what he looks like. And you laugh and laugh and suddenly you have no panties on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:54 PM
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They did the same exact things that everyone around did I strongly discourage copying what others do. Because it's like wearing someone else's clothes: it doesn't fit the story, comes out as fake, doesn't suit the wearer, not their style and above all, you'll feel uncomfortable the whole time. This is the essence of "be yourself".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:24 PM
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Even with sex as a reward as if it's a quest. Bring 5 pieces of wood and 2 pieces of metal and you get a sword. And no matter the character that they play, it's always the same requirement for the same quest for the same loot. It must work the same with women, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:09 PM
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Someone said it could be because of video games. They see it like stat points. In order to max something, you are left with no points for other stats. No, dude. Some people have everything going for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 08:53 PM
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God, i love men like this. Comfortable to joke around and wear a dress for shitz and lolz.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:57 PM
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I never lied. I always said i liked extroverted, funny, charming men who are social butterflies. And almost each time i had multiple dudes in the comments "he's gonna cheat on you". They shit on you when you state your preferences if they aren't included. They scream that you lie when they are included in those preferences. So why bother stating?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:31 PM
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For you. But don't act like it's the same for everyone or the same for each cafe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:28 PM
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Wtf did you do that they banned you from a cafe?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:10 PM
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Bars...disappeared? Cafes disappeared? Hobby groups disappeared? Legitimate question: do you live in a corn field?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:04 PM
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Nice dodge, but now i am also curious. What 3rd spaces were destroyed? Be specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:28 PM
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I was thinking about the same thing: what is the biggest thing that bothers you about us?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:31 PM
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Sir, it's the esthetic. And bots. And people guillable enough to believe the fantasy. That is not how real life works. The only influencer who actually is traditional is Ballerina Farm. But that poor woman is in an abusive relationship imo, although they try to keep a facade. If someone naive sees a pretty woman with perfect makeup cooking happily, they think it's easy and romantic and simple and dream life. That's because the children are with the nanny and there's a housekeeper, but this is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:51 PM
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Ofc. It's a show for the viewers. You can't be this naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:10 PM
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The same reason influencers push products they don't use or even like. To make money.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:49 AM
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I think this is a more realistic approach. Sometimes children have very different views on life from their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:15 AM
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I doubt it's an issue of being raised to love it. I know this very young woman, she comes from a very christian, conservative, traditional family. She hates it, resents it and is secretly an atheist. I have a hunch that her younger sister shares her views.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 08:23 AM
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I don't hook up. Whichever i vibe with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:38 PM
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I think that this is often missed: people are various combinations of various statistics. One can be a party animal AND have a career and a stable income. Best example i have: a friend's father. The guy is a violent man, beat the shit out of his wife and my friend. Yet, he's also doing everything possible to build my friend the house of his dreams and he's paying for it and working on the construction site. Guy is a piece of shit loving father. People don't fit in neat boxes. There's always some…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 06:50 PM
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I think you nailed it. My husband is my lover, but he's also my best friend. When we will be old and wrinkly and an orgasm away from a heart attack, at least we will have a wonderful friendship and many stories to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 06:23 PM
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I mean, what do you want to debate here? It's more like a personal rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 04:24 PM
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Imo between 23 and 27. They have the money to party, but can shake off a hangover in half a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 12:20 PM
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I wouldn't because i don't do casual sex. If he wants casual, he can keep looking. And yes, my husband knows this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:18 AM
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Your example in the OP is binary. I'm not reading the rest of your blurb.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:22 PM
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Sir, in all your post and many comments you displayed a black and white thinking, which is also common in ND people. Also, you seem to misinterpret what people comment to you and ignore not only a grayscale, but a full spectrum of colors. And you do this misinterpretation either in bad faith, or because of functional illiteracy or because you might be on the spectrum. Either way, both ends of a grayscale can be bad options. When white is wrong and black is wrong, the answer could be medium grey,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:18 PM
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I asked you about your thought process and you proceeded to talk about me. Legitimate question: are you on the spectrum?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:03 PM
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I am fully convinced that functional illiteracy is a factor in some men's lack of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:01 PM
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What was your thought process and how did you manage to reach this conclusion from my comment? I am genuinely intrigued.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 05:57 PM
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Bro here is about to discover Gauss' bell. Or the Pantone book of colors. 🤦
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 05:26 PM
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Nice AI ragebait.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:04 PM
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consisted of a couple of wild nights getting drunk and making out with guys Can confirm that this is the farthest i went.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:58 PM
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So? I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:12 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 06:14 AM
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🙄 whatever makes you sleep at night
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 10:16 PM
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burns bright and ends fast Almost 18 years, man. Half of our lives. I think you are in the wrong. Falling in love is not a conscious decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 10:05 PM
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When it happens, it just happens like magic. It's that je ne said quoi
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:46 PM
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good luck I guess something that is often forgotten. Two halves of one soul, relentlessly going through life, searching for each other. And it takes years or decades to meet. Sometimes it's sooner, sometimes it's later, but love can always be right around the corner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:28 PM
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"I went to a nudist beach and now i am mad that i saw naked people."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 05:42 PM
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I sometimes read to him the crap written here. For amusement purposes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:24 PM
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We have spare time, time to pass at work, time when playing video games or cooking or waiting in a waiting room, or insomnia. Depends on the man. My husband is the default love doctor in the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:15 PM
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Unlike your fantasy, i base my argument on the sub statistic. I know it was posted somewhere, maybe a mod can help me and link it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:08 PM
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Why do you think that? I find it normal since people in relationships know a thing or 2 about relationships so they can shut down the fantasies written here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:07 PM
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Sir, this is the sub statistic. Maybe the mods can help and share it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:06 PM
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Then you are not part of the majority of the sub, sir
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 10:47 PM
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I'd like to remind everyone that many if not most of the women on this sub are married or in a relationship. Which is the opposite of being pumped and dumped. Men on the other hand are mostly single and even virgin. They are not doing any dumping because there is no pumping. They would love to be able to do it, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 09:37 PM
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Then don't fuck. That is an option as well. Why would a woman spread her legs for a dude she doesn't like. Maybe if he pays the price, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:00 PM
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Moving goalposts? Ow, but they are repulsive. And if they are not repulsive, then they are not good women. And if they are good women, then they wear too much makeup. And if they don't wear makeup, their feet are stinky. And if their feet aren't stinky, then they are old. And if they aren't old, then they are stupid. And so on and on and on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:21 PM
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No need to be rich. Broke MF with good game fuck without paying. Weird, awkward MFs without game pay their way out of friendzone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:10 PM
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It puts YOU in the friendzone. The charming ones get pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:02 PM
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I'd say dating and sex are good on average. I liked to date the men i've been with in the past and i love my husband. Why do i need to imagine something that doesn't happen in reverse. You seem to be stuck in a political debate in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:01 AM
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Inertia
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:09 AM
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Have you noticed that even when they start talking about men, somehow they derail to women? They just can't get women out of their heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:06 AM
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A cozy life with my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:03 AM
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Different commenter here, but it makes sense to me as well. I've seen the same approach in regards of "what do i need to do in order to have a date/sex/relationship". And it's the same mindset as video games. They expect an answer similar to "get 4 pieces of wood and 5 scrap metal and you get the reward". I mean even the fact that they call sex a reward is a hint that they see it as a video game.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 05:42 AM
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I use metric. I am disgusted by inches, not by numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 05:24 AM
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Fox and grapes Maybe a little bit of a scare tactic: pick the uggo, else the guy you like will cheat on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:23 PM
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EE woman, living in EE, dated only local guys. You get all kinds of men, like everywhere. You got the corporate guy, dressed casual smart, with his perfect hair style and goes to gym and is fit and frankly they annoy the hell out of me. You got the guy in the hood in grey sweatpants with a bit of belly, street smart, gets his way around, knows how to talk in a conflictual situation, but isn't a douchebag. My type of a man. You have the BMW driver, "we like women, but we love cars" stickers, usua…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:10 PM
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Yes, that. You nailed it in my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 03:16 PM
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Toxic: Her: i felt uncomfortable Him: no, you didn't Manipulative: Him: i have a surprise for you Him: brings her to a gathering for a different religion from her's because he guessed that she wouldn't go there voluntarily, but since she doesn't know where she's going ("surprise"), then she won't say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 12:59 PM
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r/AsOneAfterInfidelity is a sub dedicated to reconciliation. There, you can find many stories where the betrayed spouse tells the unsuspecting other betrayed spouse about the affair. Or they find out about the affair from the other betrayed spouse. The reactions are not of anger towards the person who outs the affair, but of gratitude because now they know.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 11:51 AM
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Eh, i am order and seek chaos. He is chaos and seeks order. We match
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:16 AM
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I always say i like bad boys, so you're not proving shit. I am one woman, not "women". He is, he's the kind of extrovert who adopts introverts and takes care of them in hard situations. Life has been tough for him, but he found his peace with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:33 AM
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No, he just found trouble wherever he went. Trouble found him, not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:57 PM
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I was thinking I admitted some things are socially normalised/accepted and others aren't. An 80 year old grandma is attracted by neither, still finds one acceptable and one cringe. Same with a cousin or aunt/uncle, or some rando.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:56 PM
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My husband has a scar on his chin (in a very concealed position, hard to see it normally) from a fight. Other dude had a knife. Also one on his knee from a different fight. Other dudr also had a knife.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:06 PM
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Pfahahaha, thieves always believe everyone out there is like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:39 PM
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No, i didn't. You talk about me considering that i call them cringe in order to keep my advantages. In a room full of people it's others who consider them cringe. Men and women. So your theory doesn't hold water.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:38 PM
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Seems it matters judgeing the multiple posts about the topic
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:46 PM
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Yell in a crowded room that i wear 2 dashes of eyeliner, nobody bats an eye. Yell that you wear 3 inches of conealed heels to appear taller and i expect a different reaction. Coz it's cringe, bro
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:00 PM
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Not the scope of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 11:33 AM
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Manoshphere influencers managed to sever their audience from the world and now they don't feel the need to update their content. They got stuck in the 2016 kim kardashian makeup era and forgot almost 10 years have passed and trends changed. For the last several years, the trend was focused on skincare and less on makeup. Hair extensions and push up bras are so 2000's. Those were trendy before some of these dudes were even born lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:59 AM
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No, i'm not usually. And when i do, it's not cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:48 AM
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I also understand the insecurity. I don't encourage the lie. Plus it is cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:20 AM
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When i say skill i mean able to make me orgasm. When i say experienced i mean multiple past partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:50 AM
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I'd also add: Women are the beautiful gender. Men are the strong gender. Strong gender thinks he needs 3 more inches? 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:47 AM
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I know 2 girls who only had anal because they wanted to marry as virgins. And then i see guys here who dream about virgin wives and project some mystic qualities to the pure pussy. Bro, if any of these guys end up with a girl like that and he's so high and mighty that he saw blood on the sheets, i'm gonna laugh my ass off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:23 PM
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It's not about learning better. The brain is wired differently. It's like wanting a person with an amputated leg to just walk better. Medication might help, but nobody can tell for sure which pills and in what concentration and if they will work.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:34 AM
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She has BPD so this might be part of it. Because it's not something in the nature of women. It's something in the nature of someone with BPD. The same can be seen in men with BPD, but it's not men's nature to be like that. And this is the shortcoming of people who have a hard time to understand the world around them and to understand nuance. This might also be because of their own mental health (autism for example). When you add everything, it's a recipe for disaster. Or PPD on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:30 AM
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Some won't consider you regardless if they had casual sex or not Some women find that timidity cute and it draws their attention. People vibe in weird ways. Or no women will ever have feelings for you and in that case, a few might consider marrying you for what you can provide. Like an escort with just one client.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:16 AM
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Because the type of sex they take part in is superficial. A man who volunteers for an animal shelter is perceived as better than a man partying. But sex is not about being good or bad. It's about being sexy. And qualities perceived as good/deep are not necessarily sexy. Not even in a relationship. I have sex with my husband because he's sexy to me, not because he helped a neighbor move the furniture. But i do appreciate/admire my husband because he helped the neighbors. Sex, casual or in a relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:08 AM
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So it is about hierarchy between men which starts pre puberty. So why is it tied to women? That is the question here. Is it so that the man feels like he needs to compensate? Yeah, i got made fun of, but i get bitches? So that he feels like he's climbing the ladder? I think these men feel like they should be higher in hierarchy or at least want to be. When they reach adulthood, they need to be up the ladder somehow. Money, fame, job title, physique, car, women. Be up there on at least one metric…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 07:26 AM
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Picked on once? Yes. But if he has a strong character to shut it down, it won't happen again. The strong character to not be overstepped in what actually makes the hierarchy in the playground.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:49 AM
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The small % of women who have casual sex often have it due to proximity. Are you going out, are you charming, extroverted, fun to be around, perceived as safe, relaxed, chill, not perceived as desperate, confident? Are you even in the same group/social circle as the women who have casual sex? Then, other times, the meeting is set up through dating apps. A horny women won't check each and every profile. She wants to fuck, not read russian novels. So the first thing that comes up is your picture. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:39 AM
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You laid it down perfectly, this is what i believed the issue for these men is. Not the women, they just project on women. They project their perceived value, validation, confirmation, security and confidence. And it's funny that all of this feels for them like a hierarchy amongst other men. The blame of feeling an inferior man is blamed on women. I think most men who perceive themselves like this were at least picked on a bit since childhood (pre puberty when interest in girls is 0), if not str…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:04 AM
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I swear, how can some men be so oblivious, superficial in thinking and awareness and, frankly, functional illiterate?! This is why they are picked on all their life and why they are bitchless. It's like explaining humans to aliens. Bro, there's 2 scenarios here. Scenario 1: you ask out many/multiple women in the same circle. Especially when you do it without any enthusiasm/effort, monotone, like you ask in different stores "do you have toilet paper?". It's offensive because you seem like you jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:23 PM
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I don't like men with square faces. Or men with protruding foreheas neanthertal style
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:27 PM
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Most aren't. So the average man is not paranoid. Now you see, being paranoid is a low score in an important trait. That weights him down a lot. Edit: dude deleted his messages and blocked me. Coward
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 10:29 AM
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Common sense question: is the average man a paranoic?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 07:37 AM
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Yep, you confirm what i said in my previous comment. It's not pair bond. It's like having an old friend and a new friend. But in years, that new friend will be an old friend. Pair bond...you make it sound like we are hamsters. I'm here because some dudes need their views corrected and i can give advice about relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 07:11 AM
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Tell that to rp men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:23 PM
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Met at 18, married at 25. Now we are 36. According to RP, i am an old hag, expired, i hit the wall, i am unwanted. Thankfully, my husband is normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:53 PM
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It seems a prerequisite for RP is to be below average. ... And pretend to be average. No you're not. You're an insecure neurotic mess, riddled with paranoia, aren't a pleasant company, with the charm of a rubber boot. That is not average. That is bottom of the barrel. And you have the audacity to call yourself average. This is an insult to average men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:13 PM
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There is no guy. That is AI generated rage bait. Look at the em dash.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:58 PM
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Should i ask my husband to find men for me to fuck ao i can "catch up"? How do you think that conversation will go?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:56 PM
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I think people should state if they are a morning person or a night owl.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:17 PM
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This has happened. He found out she is. They still did it twice knowing full well that they are related. One could say craziness runs in that family.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:57 AM
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I think we mostly hear about the shit kids, the others don't make the news because "XYZ's kid is normal" doesn't sell.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 04:50 PM
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Somehow that sounds even worse
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:27 PM
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I've been with my husband for almost 18 years. Idk how big his dick is. If i have to guess, it's "penis size".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:36 PM
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Neither shame, nor praise is neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:36 PM
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If the information is presented with nuance and in a neutral way, people are more willing to listen. Some will have a meltdown none the less
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:23 PM
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I don't think that is true. I think most women want the whole package. Good looks don't cut it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:57 PM
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Neither where i live. Y'all need to get your shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:24 PM
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Rape is one of the fastest growing crimes in India. Selective reading much?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:33 AM
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Ofc, i wouldn't go there, there are warnings for your country.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:27 AM
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Idk bro, i'm not in the US. You have people shitting in the street and unsanitary food. Edit: The coward deleted his message. Second time in 3 days i have to call him out on his cowardness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:20 AM
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True. Normal people don't have 3 nanies and 2 maids.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:08 AM
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Bro here acts like rich women marry and have children with men they don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:05 AM
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I'm not arguing with that. But i had a few dudes argue with me when I said i also care about a man's n count and i prefer it to be high.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 09:52 AM
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I'll answer to the reverse question as i am a low bc woman married to a high bc man. I never thought about his past encounters with women. He has a past just like i had a past. I feel secure as i know he is willingly in a relationship with me. It's not a matter of "need", but a matter of "want". Our new life started when we met. What happened previously has no effect on our current life. Like how stupid would "i feel insecure because 20 years ago he got a few drinks with this girl and they slept…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:53 PM
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I never saw it as "sharing". I only had sex in relationships. Those guys had a past that happened before me. They had other relationships just like i had other relationships. Now we are together and this is my focus. If we break up, he will have other relationships just like i will have other relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:12 PM
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No duh autistic people have different experiences. That's not the point of what I said. Let's work with this, the rest of your comment is irrelevant. My issue is men with autism call themselves average...when they are not average. Average men don't have autism. Average men are fine with dating. Maybe some dry spells sometimes, but overall, they are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:32 PM
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I don't need that comparison. I only asked if it is reasonable for people with autism that their experience is different from neurotypicals. That's all. I'm not interested in other comparisons or derailments from the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:17 PM
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You compare people with autism with other people with autism. I asked if people with autism can understand that their experience is different from neuropyticals.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:11 PM
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Yep, look at the ingredients: petroleum jelly. That is vaseline. The same vaseline that is used as a lube, but the cosmetic one is purified (cosmetic grade). Ofc, both the lip balm and the industrial vaseline can be combined with other ingredients, but the bottom line is the same tin can protect your lips and lube your door hinge.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:08 PM
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But you can also use it to shut up a squicky door or to lube a screw.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:52 PM
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I'm already in (kind of) scenario A. The thing is, i don't do hook ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:48 PM
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I dumped the first and the second guy i had sex with because i had no orgasm. Just because i was a virgin doesn't mean i was stupid or oblivious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:36 PM
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No, sir. I am married. I am not interested in someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:28 PM
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And what do you see as an alternative?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:28 PM
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I'm saving this comment! Stress and chores and work and worries are like many opened tabs in my browser. Sex is a mental action as much as it's a physical one. In order to focus on sex i need as few tabs open in my browser as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:12 PM
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That's the way, my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:05 PM
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Someone said that 40-51% of women avoid virgin men. So odds are not that bad, i'd say they lean in favour of virgon men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:52 PM
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That is one way to deal with it and i think it's a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:50 PM
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Is it reasonable for people with autism to understand that their experience is very different from neurotypicals? Because their experience is actually different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:49 PM
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It's not healthy to think about yourself this way. Take care!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:46 PM
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Trash is still a rude assesment
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:45 PM
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I know and their ultimate goal is political. They have been doing this for decades: https://youtu.be/Z1EA2ohrt5Q?si=QHPdIw38FFShDkXM
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:32 PM
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Woah, i wouldn't say virgin men are trash. This is rude, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:30 PM
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Didn't seem like it since you tried to derail to talk about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:52 PM
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Valid, but i was talking about n count for men, not for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:48 PM
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Avoidance is avoidance. Like avoiding alcohol or carbs. Avoiding virgin men is not shunning or shaming. There are other women for them, just not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:46 PM
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You can't save everybody, mate. Some people don't want to be saved. They choose the comfort of confirmation bias, pain shopping and rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:00 AM
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If i am in a relationship, i avoid romantic interest from all the other men. Am i shunning all the other men? Because then "shunning" lost all it's meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:52 AM
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Insecure people will find something else to be insecure about. Alhorithns will jump on this other insecurity. And since we can't change algorithms and i believe these manipulation tactics will get worse, it's best to teach people how to handle or avoid insecurities, how to spot bubbles, brainwashing and indoctrination.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:51 AM
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It's not niche at all, especially when you take location and culture into consideration. Let's say scandinavia vs. asia. The volume of content is delivered often by algorithms, bots and people being in a bubble. You know who didn't engage with the video? People who don't use tiktok, people who use TT but didn't see the video, people who are in a different bubble and the algorithm doesn't even show it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:33 AM
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Again, online. Again, anyone can be anything online. Sometimes it's men pretending to be women, sometimes it's bots, sometimes it's people from all over the world, or people in your area but from different cultures. TikTok throws you in a bubble iness than 20 video scrolls. Also, tends to prioritize scandalous content in order to keep you on the platform. Not to mention that it's one of the shadiest platforms. You and your friend fell for the algorithm, just like many others. It's not normal to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:18 AM
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We were very close.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:02 AM
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Ow yes, or ALL women prefer virgin men. Look, you do you, you have your reasons, i have mine. But the generalisations do more harm imo. You get to guys who think ALL women want a higher bc man so a dude might think he should go to prostitutes to get a higher bc. And he will still be single because the problem is actually somewhere else. And then guys who think ALL women want virgin men and then meet someone like me and get very confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:06 AM
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I see n count being mostly discussed for women, but not for men. I think higher n count men are the best and i keep seeing a praise of virgin men which i cannot understand, but each to their own. If you select for extroverts, charming, charismatic, funny, good smelling, social butterflies, those guys most likely will have a higher n count. Which is fine if you also want to avoid situations where he loses his errection the first time ypu have sex with him. Ofc, preferences vary.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:00 AM
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Answred
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:54 AM
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Saw i was tagged so i jumped in. Glad women like you exist because the rest of us who avoid virgin men get fresh meat. Joke aside, a more experienced man better aligns with my preferences. No risk of losing erection the first time, doesn't get hung up on me if i dump him, less chances he's timid, less chances he's introvert and i could go on
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:54 AM
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It's not a trigger, it's simply dishonest. You drmonize an action that you yourself can't tell why it's bad. You go by feelings, no logic at all (else you'd be able to provide reasons) and then accuse me of being triggered. Lmao at accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:50 AM
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So far, you couldn't really guess. The one who acted the sluttiest was a virgin. The one with the highest libido was a virgin. The one with the strongest personality was married to her high school sweetheart. The one who cheated dressed modestly. The one with a higher bc was a teacher with conservative clothes. This is why i don't really get it when i see guys associating traits to low n count women or to high n count women. I think they are naive and forget even porn stars started out as virgin…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:29 AM
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That means 49-60% of women would be fine with a virgin man. So we can almost say more women don't mind a virgin man than women who avoid them. I still don't see the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:52 AM
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If nothing is wrong, why is OP trying to find excuses when i asked him to remove "avoid" from his post? I asked him, he kept dodging a straight answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:48 AM
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Not a good reason since sometimes i can guess if he's a virgin. No need to ask. Try again
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:43 AM
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So the only reason is how are men going to get experience?! With the women who don't mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:41 AM
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I ageee
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:36 AM
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So: fantasy and revenge fantasy + victimisation olympics
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 01:05 AM
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Then it requires an explanation on why avoiding is bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:58 AM
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Seriously, i don't know any man or woman who behaves like any of the points listed in the post, except avoiding virgin men (me). Never heard about any such situation either. Not saying it's not happening, but imagine how small the scale is. These kinds of things tend to be a bit scandalous and you know gossip. I don't get it why they focus on minorities. My guess is that algorithms fuck up their brain and they start believing this is happening globally on a very large scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:56 AM
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No there is no problem with avoiding virgin men? Coz in this case, you might remove the "avoid" part from the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:48 AM
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You can avoid women who slept around. Shaming is bad though. Still, you didn't say what's wrong with avoiding virgin men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:42 AM
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What's wrong with avoiding virgin men? I mean shaming is bad, but avoiding is neutral. You don't shame them, you don't take them, you just don't have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:33 AM
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In the most neutral way as possible: I think it's a combination of more or less sexual frustration, a feeling of being a smaller human(being) than you want to be, mental issues, a feeling that their qualities are underappreciated, ego, being blind to the world around
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 08:04 PM
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Red pill has almost no new content. There's a scandal from time to time and that's how they get a new subject, but everything else is repeating the same thing: single moms are bad, high number of previous partners is bad, etc.* And if it needs to be repeated over and over again, it starts to look like brainwashing and indoctrination. Also, they are stuck in 2010's. MeToo is dead since last decade. Same with heavy 2016 Kim Kardashian makeup. The trend for the past many years was clean girl and sk…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 07:14 AM
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I think you best described all my past relationships. I knew it wouldn't work long term, but it felt good short term. Happy that they happened, happy that they ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 09:01 PM
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How many times do i have to say i still keep some grender roles? That is the explanation. Stereotypes, gender roles. What other women do is their decision. I will silently consider them desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 04:20 PM
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And angry lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:59 PM
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I think the dog mostly, if i remember correctly. The rat was not handy. The cat was more self sufficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:33 PM
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Was that the dog in the show?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:23 PM
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😒good thing i don't need to explain what bread is... Party boy, charming, funny, charismatic, witty, coy, knows how to read the room, extrovert, street smart, academically smart, reliable, extrovert
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 09:20 AM
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I am married so no risk in that. I have a very specific type: sort of reformed bad boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 07:59 AM
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I'm a centrist. My happiness and his happiness are what's bringing wellbeing to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:19 PM
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For initiation: men who don't really have feelings for a woman will accept her invitation on a date hoping for easy sex. For proposal: it's even worse, it's like begging the man to marry you, it's desperate and lame It doesn't apply to men because i do believe in this gender role.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:04 PM
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They offered themselves on a platter. I tend to judge this, but quietly. After all, it's their choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:33 PM
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You missed this part: I'm a centrist so i still keep a few gender roles here and there. I find women initiating a bad look for both the man and the woman. Plus, it's always bad for the woman to offer herself on a platter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:22 PM
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The man initiating the relationship, sex and making the proposal are a few things that i do not negotiate. Call me old fashioned, but this is how i was raised. I'm a centrist so i still keep a few gender roles here and there. I find women initiating a bad look for both the man and the woman. Plus, it's always bad for the woman to offer herself on a platter. Ofc, my view is not universal, i judge by my standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:13 PM
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There are many people on this earth. Few are compatible as friends. Even fewer as lovers. And you can count on one hand the people you can have a LTR with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:23 PM
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I appreciate mental stability (absence of mental issues) a lot, as well as inner power to overcome hardships in life. I also display these traits and i would not stay with a man who is on the sensitive side. I also feel like people who have been through therapy are sort of trained by therapy. It's like that subtle difference between naturally straight teeth and straightened teeth. That being said, i am not against therapy. And people should go to therapy if needed. Whether i would date them is n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:16 PM
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Bangmaid
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:57 PM
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I'm an atheist. Also, now you should no longer say women are lying because now you have your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:56 PM
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They better not even think about forcing. Although OP's silence speaks many words.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:42 PM
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You're gonna see a peak in "unexplainable" female fertility issues and some full pockets for the doctors. If anything fails, i'd rather move to a different country which doesn't have these rules. If it's global, i'd pay the tax. I'm not fucking men i don't love.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:36 PM
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Extrovert, charming, funny, good posture, normal to fit body type, hair on head, beautiful eyes, reliable, loyal, good conversation partner, similar interests and hobbies, taller than the woman. Here, have the list. Now you know the traits so nobody lies to you. Ofc, there will be exceptions, those women are not lying, they are just different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:29 PM
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My husband has the same lifestyle. Texting at late hours at the night was never an issue for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:37 PM
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I am not interested in "men", i am only interested in one man. And what makes a good gf/wife to one man doesn't apply to a different man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:00 PM
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I would have named it if I wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 09:57 PM
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In my language you can curse someone for 15 minutes straight without repeating yourself. There is no preferred insult, it's just a long string of invocation of blood, onions, dicks, graves, mothers, dead relatives, dogs and throats. Go crazy, be creative. Perhaps the lowest hanging fruit would be "stupid" used for a naive loser who can't figure life, slow thinker, low intelligence, a failure who's always the target of jokes and pranks, sometimes also used for a man who can't get women. The Engli…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 09:43 PM
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Dude here stopped in front of a cancer treatment center, counted the people without hair and drew the conclusion that ALL people have cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 06:23 PM
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It's in my proximity, i work flexible hours from home and i coordinate the construction site for my house. Basically, yes, i am attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 06:14 PM
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Hell no. He should pick the ring according to my taste. After years of dating, he should know what i like.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:24 PM
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Must be Atlas comet, man
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:13 PM
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It is just the internet. I have no social media accounts. Idk who tge fuck OP ia talking about. Idk the person, the post, never heard of him or the series.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:12 PM
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Galaxy Intel core i9
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:07 PM
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Or the women who don't even see the post. Or women who don't even have social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:07 PM
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Read the other replies, i'm not typing the same shit multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:01 PM
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Generally speaking? No, they could be bots, bad actors, paid influencers, rage bait, things taken out of context, AI
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:01 PM
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I'm saying that something abnormal sparks curiosity, but not necessarily the desire. I also googled the man who grows hair all over the body, including face and palms. Doesn't mean i want that amount of hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 04:59 PM
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"if you go on social media" If you get off social media, you have a chance at life 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 04:51 PM
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Unfortunately, both our old hard drives are broken and the drawing was lost. The engagement ring is the only survivor.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:40 PM
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Have faith in that man, damn it. He is going to be your husband! (general you). When we were dating for only a few months, he drew a beautiful ring in paint. When it came to buying an engagement ring, he searched for a ring similar to the drawing. He found a ring that is almost identical. I just love my ring. It's beautiful, it's comfortable, it's my style. He nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:33 PM
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I am appalled by the idea of me funding the ring or me choosing the ring. He knows my taste, he should be able to choose a ring i like. Also, it's an engagement ring for me, why would i pay? Am i proposing to myself? This being said, diamonds are not really a custom here, so rings are not that expensive. I have no expectations of precious stones. My ring was perhaps $100.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:23 PM
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Usually, on the spot. Sometimes it takes a bit more if i need to check something. Chatting at 3 am included, i go to sleep late at night. And here comes the compatibility. I am a night owl. I could not ever be with a morning person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 02:49 PM
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I expect rather quick replies to messages. Ofc, there are moments when you can't pause whatever you are doing to check the phone, but those are exceptions, not the rule. Some might consider this entitlement. I'd say it's a matter of compatibility as i also reply quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 08:25 AM
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When our neighbors moved in, they built a new house and demolished the old one. The lady was 7 months pregnant and was destroying the roof and hammering the walls, carrying debris.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 10:57 PM
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Ow dear. I know the feeling of the phone getting very hot because it was in the charger while the phone call was on. And the backpain from staying in an awkward position because the cord was too short.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 08:21 PM
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Uh, the amount of times either me or my husband fell asleep at the keyboard or with the phone in the hand as we kept talking until late hours in the night...or should i say early hours of the morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 06:36 PM
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Or because he asked a friend to help him text. Or used chatgpt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 03:25 PM
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5 x french fries
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 03:20 PM
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Because spouse = lover + friend + partner If you reread my comment, i said that "sometimes i need him to be there". Which means other times, i am there. So i have that utility, but i need him to have the same utility as me in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 07:31 AM
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You reject men because the way he sits doesn't project confidence. Because his tone of voice isn't confident enough. Yes, i find those traits deeply unattractive Also, these guys don't make good husbands. I need him to be my partner, i want to build a house or remodel the apartment. I need him sometimes to be there and manage crews of workers. How is he going to do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 02:11 AM
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One of us must be lying or is an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:07 PM
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I'm the opposite. I lose interest in a week tops if no initiation from his side.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:03 PM
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Not your main target, as i only had sex in relationships. I have no problem telling about my past, i had 2 partners before my husband and my past sex life can be summed up in 20 seconds. What bugs me the most is the associations made with the number. If it's low, she is more understanding of the man's inexperience or it will be more difficult for her to break up with him. And i just know that it's not necessarily true. Take into consideration that even the sluttiest woman was a virgin once.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 08:55 PM
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Those are the only guys i dated, also the man i married. I think it needs to be reminded from time to time that according to the sub survey, most women here are partnered.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 11:04 PM
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I'll speak only for myself. It's not about the number of past relationships, actually past relationships are the byproduct. It's the fabric of the man. You see, my type is funny, charming, witty, coy, extrovert, cheeky, daring, good in social situations, not timid, likes parties. This type of man would have dated since high school. So to answer your question: i am not interested in a man who never had a gf, regardless of what he lies about past relationships. Your hypothetical can not happen due…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 07:20 PM
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Lol, it's like the lockdown stories when people had zoom meetings in shorts and a tailored shirt😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:33 PM
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Bald is a dealbreaker
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:19 AM
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Nope, they are just short, their parents are also short.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 10:46 PM
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5'5, the second guy is balding, first and third are overweight
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 10:42 PM
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3 guys 1 was an extrovert, social butterfly, never had a problem with women, is now married 1 was an introvert, insecure, had a few gfs in the past, but mostly because the women initiated. Was hit by a long period of dry spell, managed to get the courage to ask on a date a woman he met through his social circle, they're going 1+ years together and they are happy 1 was an introvert, very insecure, almost no social circle, had a gf in the past (she asked him out), he's looking for someone but no l…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 10:24 PM
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Ofc, i still see the effects of socialism
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:32 PM
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Same. And it's a shame as there are beautiful things to see. But they are overshadowed by gang rapes, pooping in the street, trash, the unsanitary food preparation. It's a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 02:55 PM
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I was always a fan of Lady & The Tramp. I guess i'm living the dream. It doesn't always work out. But when it does, it's like having the best of both worlds. That perfect combination of reliability and edgyness.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:48 PM
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I think he's 5'8". Again, you talk about the boogy man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:42 PM
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It's more like they wanted a change, but needed a push. Or didn't know there could be a different world, you show it to them and they like it and want it. The thing is, it shouldn't be forced. When we met, my husband expected that he wouldn't graduate high school and definitely wouldn't go to college, had no support from his family. I was at the top school in the country with good grades. He had a few months left to study, i also helped him, he knew he had to graduate. And lo and behold, he made…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:41 PM
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One thing i agree is that it's not for everybody. It worked for me as i am able to keep my head on my shoulders even when i am in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:16 PM
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I found him very attractive. Chad is just the boogy man for men who don't understand life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:14 PM
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The key is to not take them seriously unless they also take you seriously. That's when there is no hurting. Worked for me, met him in highschool, been together for 17 years, married for 11.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 12:36 PM
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Yes, those are the lady games. I also forgot about a big factor: his ability to make me feel comfortable. I am a "tough nut to crack" as some told me and i agree with them. Being comfortable and making me leave my guard down is a huge thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 12:34 PM
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Apart from the preselection part as it's actually a born ability to understand social cues, i think you nailed it in my case. And the way he approaches me matters as well: humor, wit, coy, charming. Then i can check if he's an extrovert, if we click, if the conversation flows, if he's bullshitting, i get to know him a bit more.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 12:12 PM
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And that's ok. Different strokes for different folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 11:22 AM
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No, because Trump let it slip he wanted a chunk of Canada and Greenland
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 11:20 AM
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They can fall in love and make great husbands. Nothing better than a bad boy type who falls in love with a woman who brings to the surface the best out of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 11:01 AM
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"Get away"... Sir, i actively prefer grey sweatpants and a hoodie.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 08:49 AM
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Look guys, it's sexual socialism saturday! No, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 08:41 AM
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r/LeopardsAteMyFace has a tag especially for Trump. Let that sink in. Not to mention all the subs created for boycotting products made in US.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 08:16 AM
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I don't see that, boo. Who tf do you follow on socials?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 03:15 AM
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I think the content creators just want the money and don't even bother to update their content since they know their viewers are far removed from reality to even detect that those are old trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 10:23 PM
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The manosphere forgot to update their content. MeToo - subject died last decade Heavy makeup - for years, the go to makeup was clean girl and skincare got very popualar
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 10:10 PM
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Then you are not in the category which i talked about: wanted to have sex, was horny, but didn't have a willing partner. Why do you keep thinking i was referencing your case?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 05:36 PM
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Who talked about sleeping around?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 05:34 PM
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