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He’s been clean for a while now. His sobriety was a hot topic on a station show I interned at in college and that was like three years ago. So he’s probably something like three years sober.
/r/PussyPassDenied26/06/20 09:26 AM
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People who share this belief with you are not part of their target market. They are targeting people who believe in OLD. If you don’t fit the bill, and you know this, why bother? I don’t disagree with you btw, I never did OLD for any longer than a few days because that’s about how long it took/takes for me to reach your same conclusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:04 AM
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One of the first steps to marketing something is to know who you are marketing to and what they are looking for. It’s basic entry-level marketing, not that odd. Marketing is a part of product development.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:44 PM
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Get a trash bag and throw the whole man away.
/r/RedPillWives03/02/20 02:33 AM
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You’ll only be unworthy to LVM. HVM are attracted to a level of wisdom that only an adult woman has. Age is a filter for LVM, so think of aging as developing a filter rather than losing worth - especially when aging does the opposite, it increases your worth (drastically too) by increasing your wisdom. I like to be entertained so I have a tendency to look for entertaining FDS resources rather than ones that are strictly informational, here’s a video from a YouTube series I love that shows you th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:48 PM
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This gives me hope 😪 I honestly can’t wait for the days that I no longer attract potential pedophiles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:33 PM
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I’m really susceptible to fuckboy manipulation/coercion tactics due to having been groomed for sexual abuse (and I mean an actual grooming process). For me, this type of intel is needed for my safety, and since safety is a really big concern of mine I shared the link for anyone else who may benefit from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:42 PM
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Do you remember where you saw that pose? I’m interested in reading it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:17 PM
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I was groomed as an adult (22) as well as in my teens. My inbox is open. I really am a wealth of knowledge when it comes to healing complicated grief from being groomed for sexual abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:13 PM
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I’m cringing at myself reading this because this was me two years ago until post infidelity stress disorder developed into complex post traumatic stress disorder, in part because of the toll this type of behavior took on my self esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:56 PM
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Depends on the girlfriend. I don’t split bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:30 PM
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Oh please. Just listen to the way men speak to each other and trust that your brother is fine, and has brushed off MUCH worse when it comes from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:07 PM
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29 is old enough to know how creepy this reads. NEXT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:56 PM
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They’ll only believe him for the first 3-4 months or however long it’ll take for the mask to inevitably slip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:23 AM
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Most women who are surrogate mothers do so out of extreme need, not out of choice. There are a number of physiological consequences of pregnancy many of which can lead to or perpetuate developing certain sub types of post traumatic stress disorder, and the potential for postpartum depression which clinical studies show takes up to seven years to successfully treat, assuming its treatable and doesn’t turn into something like complicated grief. Those women’s bodies are being sacrificed truly at an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:23 PM
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It may not seem creepy to you, but to me it’s downright exploitative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:40 PM
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It’s a legitimate thing in the hood! Dudes get out of the penitentiary and straight up just want a place to live. Warm pussy and a home cooked meal are just a bonus. Those tend to be the same guys who leave prison fat from all of the casseroles they get their pen pals to bring them. They tend to target morbidly obese women in ghettos or projects. Source: I have three scummy older brothers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:10 PM
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I actually did this on a second date with a guy I really liked because of the legitimate embarrassment I felt being handed the check on the first date. Please pray for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:13 PM
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Are you even sure it’s his mom? For all you know he has an entire family (as in wife + kids; not mom + siblings) he’ll be able to hide from you by passing it off as his mom having been there, done that, not wanting to meet his hoes anymore. Men still think they can pull this shit off well into their 30s as long as they can find a woman who’s naive enough to fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:11 PM
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I swear they all read from the same book!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:10 AM
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Girl! I’m going through the exact same thing!!!! Idk what to tell him because in his mind, giving me lavish experiences is akin to committing to me, but I don’t see it that way. What do you plan on saying to him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:05 PM
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While I think it’s a wonderful you’re able to take such great care of yourself, I also found this to be very dismissive. I have multiple overlapping mental illnesses due to complex trauma and there have been days when even getting up to drink a glass of water was too much for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:16 AM
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I’m somewhat like this, but I’m very low functioning due to having severe C-PTSD. With that being said I agree it’s a little bit of a red flag, but I’m only saying that because I know in my case of doing specifically this it is one indicative of mental disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:46 AM
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So how’d you meet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:56 AM
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I’m a few days late to the party but I both agree and disagree! Social media isn’t the end all be all to knowing wether or not a man is open/honest/public about your relationship, but it is the most basic, the most obvious and arguably most public way for him to show that he is open and public about being in a relationship. Of course, he can and should also be planning public dates and you should meet some of his friends and eventually family (if you choose, personally I don’t do family).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:57 AM
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You must also be a fellow Taurus lol that or we just have really similar birth charts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:37 AM
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I think that exact one in the photo is from Hollister actually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:59 AM
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You’re modest! That’s one nice thing you can say about yourself! (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:46 AM
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Then ask him why he never wears it even though you picked it out for him, even though it’s not his style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:17 AM
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Girl, break up with him. You weren’t rude or unappreciative and you offered solutions. He is just being too emotionally fragile to hear that he could have done better, soooo emotionally fragile that it’s stopping him from actually doing better. And you deserve better than cheap jewelry that you don’t even like and someone who gaslights you for knowing your own taste rather than loving you enough to want to get to know what your taste actually is. Leave his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:16 AM
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That was actually a really good break up message!!! It didn’t blame him for anything but still acknowledges what a disappointment he is lol hopefully I can have a fraction of your class and grace while trying to figure out how to dump my manlet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:13 AM
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Seconding the “please share” comment!!! Where are the recipes? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:58 PM
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STANDARDS/EXPECTATIONS: Generosity with money Emotional intelligence Acts of service Must be in good shape Must be capable of healthy relationships with women, both nonromantic AND romantic Total transparency around loyalty (if you cant take me out on public dates, change your relationship status on Facebook, post photos of us together, etc. - than you’re not transparent enough about your loyalty to date me). RED FLAGS/I WILL LEAVE IF...: Any variations of the narcissistic prayer (inability to a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:53 PM
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It’s actually usually the whimpy, emasculated guys are the ones with inferiority complexes that internally cause them to lie to, manipulate and abuse women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:19 PM
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IMm in this exact situation now but my man literally cannot handle hearing that he treats me badly. It immediately launches him into blame-shifting, gaslighting and other tactics that I’m still highly susceptible to falling for. Do you have any advice on how to dump him without triggering him in a way that causes him to trigger my codependency?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:55 PM
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I highly recommend looking up Alan Robarg on YouTube. His entire channel is dedicated to helping people like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 08:48 PM
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Out of curiosity; what do you do on a first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 08:42 PM
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Congrats for nope-ing the fuck out of that guys life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:40 PM
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This! Men are acting like we just go around treating every single one of them like they’re already proven to be predators. We don’t. We’re only cautious of potential predators in the situations that require us to be; and men on a global scale are not being empathetic to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:36 PM
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Not to mention the overwhelming majority of ptsd cases are women. I’m a woman with PTSD actually. I feel that in a lot of ways, it actually adds to my value as a partner, not subtracts, and my partner would agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 12:36 PM
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Right? Why/how are we just letting it continue to be okay that the primary way men/boys bond is through objectifying women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 12:16 PM
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YouTube search for videos on attachment theory and attachment injuries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 07:52 AM
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“Don’t contact me again” proceeds to contact you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 07:49 AM
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MeToo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 10:57 AM
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I can’t speak for all former pick-mes, but in my case I now spend the vast majority of my free time bonding with other women over how awful men are. Instead of perpetuating pick-me bullshit, I now channel that energy into supporting other women and nurturing female friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:09 AM
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I’m 24 and on marriage #1 (it’s not looking too hot, hopefully there’s a marriage #2 in my future that doesn’t involve being cheated on with 14+ different women immediately after tying the knot). Reading your comment was really inspirational. I’m working hard to better myself and knowing that being a higher caliber person isn’t actually going to scare away all men from my life (just the weak ones I don’t want in it anyways) leaves me hopeful that when one door closes, another does open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 11:55 PM
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Imagine if the genders were reversed. I don’t even want to imagine what men would feel they can rightfully do to us if we made a past time out of having naked men 10x hotter than them grinding all upon us and pressured them into watching, devalued them if they didn’t participate or just flat out lied and continued this behavior with some other man behind their back after they voiced their legitimate concerns and then turned around to blame them for our cheating and clear problem with objectifyin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 10:02 PM
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I relate to this so much! I did gymnastics growing up and thankfully never had the literal growing pains from doing heavy push/pull exercises while developing. At 24 years old I STILL feel that anyone who is attracted to me is questionable. My best friend in middle school was the very first of everyone to start developing. In NO WAY was this 11 year old girl fat, a piggy, porker, etc. etc. (to the point of comparing her to the fattest boy in school, who was legitimately obese) but that’s exactly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 09:03 PM
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This is actually a misconception. They are only covered under warranty for 10 years, meaning that if you are to get them replaced the cost is only covered if you do so within those 10 years. Breast implants have evolved so much over the years that they last significantly longer without needing to be redone, if at all. Source: My grandma has had fake breasts since the 90s and my mom got hers done in the early 2000s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 08:52 PM
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I‘m genuinely confused. The guys I DONT like and treat as such chase me down anyways. Am I not being assertive enough? Is dialing back not enough/do I need to outright be rude to get the point of ‘please stop I’m not interested and the further you push this the closer to sexual harassment it becomes’ politely? How else can you put this in a way that ends with respect rather than further harassment but now instead of it being for a date it’s for speaking up for yourself? I feel like I’m damned if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 08:45 PM
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I’m the friend who’s advice used to be to swallow so there’s less of a mess. I realized the error of my ways like two or three years ago, but prior to that I was a mess. I know the chances of you being someone I spewed all my internalized misogyny off to, but I’m sorry. I missed out on countless opportunities to be real with and bond with other women by being a Pick-Me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 08:40 PM
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I treat FDS the way I treat the Bible. I understand the overall message, but also understand where and how some of the “rules” can land in me hot waters, so I pick and choose what to implement in my life and beliefs and to what extent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 08:27 PM
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Your loose skin is beautiful. It’s tangible evidence of your progress and that in itself is beautiful. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 06:39 AM
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Omg that makes sooo much sense! My best friend is bi and never understood why men reacted to her sexuality the way they do until this! I’m kind of flattered now that I realize how threatened of me a lot of her exes were 😂 ya know, because I do one thing they can’t - treat her like a whole entire person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:45 AM
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I’m sorry you have to live through this :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 01:40 AM
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You’re right, but in my opinion only to a degree. I guess my limit when it comes to eye-for-an-eye philosophy is anal rape lol. I’d rather call the police and run a smear campaign than sodomize someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 10:34 AM
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Nah Sis, women are better than stooping to their level of “accidental” anal rape and that would open the door for counter retaliation anyways. Moids already do a good enough job perpetuating sexual violence, there’s no need to help their cause. I know you meant it as a joke, am commenting mostly so others don’t get the wrong idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 03:48 AM
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Outside of the US maids aren’t necessarily a thing of privilege, it’s just normal to have hired help like during the first few months after childbirth or if both spouses are working. In my home country if both spouses have jobs it’s normal/expected they have a maid. It’s usually single women who have that job and they are treated with the upmost respect. They have a normal schedule for their job for cleaning and cooking and often visit 2-3 houses in a day, and unless a wife recently had a baby o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 12:49 AM
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......I think need FDS on how to hook a latte papa that will be loyal and won’t make do more house work than he does. I’d love someone to cook and clean for me and do most of the child raising and rearing while I cement a career and be thankful i give him an allowance even though it’s not a livable amount of money. If I never have to mop or take out the trash again (my husband doesn’t mop and my father never took out the trash) in my life, I will be one happy woman. I definitely want a latte pap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 12:37 AM
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I would ask him if the option for money for favors is still on the table and if you can discuss it, when he says yes I would bring up how you do need the extra help financially but you don’t want to feel like a used prostitute, “so what are you willing to give without strings attatched? And what are you willing to give with strings attatched provided that those strings aren’t sex? Like would you be willing to buy my groceries if I make you a nice meal once a week?”. Get your money girl, you don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:25 PM
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Making a second comment to say not to blame yourself! Men cast nets as wide as they can. Them treating you this way is absolutely no reflection of you or your worth, but it is a reflection of their character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 07:50 PM
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“ohhh uhmmm to be honest I’ve never had to say this before (pause) I usually meet people for dinner a few a few times before deciding to be alone. It’s really hard to protect yourself as a woman these days, you know? I’ve never had to explain this before. I’ve just always been asked out on a few dates first.” It’s all about communicating your standard in a way that doesn’t actually ask him to meet it, just communicates that there is a standard to meet. It also addresses the safety concern in a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 07:47 PM
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Some day she will come to her senses. She accused me of wanting her husband when I suggested that there are signs of abuse in their relationship and expressed concern for her safety after he showed me violent photographs of their “workouts”. Right now I think she’s too pornsick herself to see these things objectively. She’s heavily into bimbofication - or at least I think that’s the name of the fetish, I’m not very educated on BDSM so some of the language I use might not be the same language as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 07:13 PM
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I used to know a person who anally raped his wife dry, without any warming up or even a warning. They’re both pornsick so it’s “consensual” (he’s manipulative, coercive and obviously a rapist). I asked him that exact question you posed here and his answer was that he doesn’t really care what it physically feels like because what he really gets off on is the fact that she allows herself to be objectified to the extreme of being brutally, violently, anally raped just to make him happy. He enjoys t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:59 AM
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I think it’s more that they always want what the next man can’t have. Maybe not in this case, but generally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 05:36 AM
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I’m struggling with this the most right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 04:02 PM
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I feel soooo called out. You are right. I will do better / be better.
/r/MGTOW08/11/19 07:38 AM
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Thank you so much! I actually have codependent no more and it’s accompanying workbook, I suppose it’s time I really delve back into educating myself on how to heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 11:56 AM
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Not harsh at all <3 thank you for keeping it real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 11:55 AM
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Ugh you’re right /:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 10:26 AM
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I think that’s only a fraction of it lol but yes you’re correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 10:25 AM
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Most importantly: How do I fix this? How do you walk away? How do you actually end a relationship and get over it? It’s been a really long time since I’ve had to and I honestly don’t even remember how to break up with someone or how to stop myself from texting them or how to stop so strongly needing to fight for my humanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:32 AM
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Ehhh yeah I’m kind of emotionally over this one. He’s a night in rusty armor that he refuses to acknowledge is rusty. I’ve learned from the experience though. I’ve learned that porn use is a solid no for me and I’ll be using my newly found boundary as a way to better screen men in the future. Aaaand I think I might be done with casual sex forever. It’s not worth it anymore, no matter how hot he is or how much I love that circley suction thing he does with his tongue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:42 AM
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Porn is becoming an issue in my relationship because of #2. My partner was great about sex in the beginning but lately his desires are making it a little clearer to me that he’s been watching porn and I can sense how it’s changing his psyche literally just by how it’s changing sex. I want to feel like a whole person that is emotionally connected, not like a living sex doll. Ya know? /: Not that it matters anymore, I’m pretty sure I’m done sleeping with him forever now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 11:56 AM
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Thank you for the advice! Are there any documentaries you recommend in particular?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 05:50 AM
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I’m waiting for that other post! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:06 AM
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How do you actually go about starting a conversation on not wanting your man (or men) to use porn in a way that to them is non-accusatory and non-aggressive and won’t hurt their ego in a way that prevents you from being able to have an adult conversation with them about the dangers of porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:01 AM
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Negging
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 05:18 AM
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You know wether or not you’re attracted within a date, yes, but being attracted to someone and wanting to sleep with them are to very, very different things. I find a lot of people attractive, but unless I’ve gotten to know and like them I don’t necessarily want to fuck them and it’ll take more than one date to know if I do or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 06:02 AM
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Wanting to sleep with me isn’t a red flag, but demanding that you can after only three or four dates (which is NOT long enough to get to know someone) absolutely is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 06:00 AM
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I don’t fault you for that. You’re absolutely entitled to that standard, as I am to mine. Btw I just said 12 as a stand in figure, every woman is different. Some might only need 3 or 4 dates to feel sure of you. Personally, I know that it takes 27 days to make a habit. I know that I want to be with someone long enough to know that they have made a habit of respecting me, and that they are capable of maintaining that habit. 12 dates / 6 weeks (that’s seeing someone twice a week) is enough time to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 12:06 AM
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We have vibrators lol +we aren’t rabid animals; we can put off pouncing in you until we know for certain that you come in peace lol. I don’t feel like digging for it but I remember reading a research journal a few years back on kids they used candy to measure the effects of delayed gratification on and there’s strong correlations between high levels of general intelligence, emotional intellect and willingness to delay gratification. So it’s actually more of a sign of intelligence and emotional h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 12:00 AM
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“If I’m attracted to you and I’m single, the relationship is going to be polarized very quickly.” That sounds threatening, creepy and rape-y. It makes me wonder how these women are supposed to know that there’s even a possibility of a relationship if you’re pressuring them to have sex before you consider levels commitment? Or if they even like you when you’re pressuring them into sleeping with you before they can have long enough to really figure it out? You don’t want women to use you to get wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 11:48 PM
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What if she’s a stranger? Do you still think she’s just not attracted to you, even if she only wants to get to know you long enough to make sure your not an abuser, don’t have any stds and wont otherwise put her physical or mental health/wellbeing in jeopardy before sleeping with you? You can be highly attracted to someone while simultaneously not being so dumb that you throw basic safety out the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 11:34 PM
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He’s going to be masturbating multiple times per week regardless lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 11:16 PM
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How long do you really think a lady is going to make you wait though? Wanting to vet a man isn’t the same as running away to join a convent and it doesn’t necessarily have to be a long process. Women are highly intuitive. Sometimes wanting to wait might mean that we have a very solid idea of how we’d like to proceed with you as early as the 12th date, provided we weren’t total strangers prior to courtship. If you’re seeing someone twice a week, that might not be long at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 11:12 PM
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Yes, but: If you’re dead set on not being in a relationship, it doesn’t matter how much someone isn’t willing to let go of you. Sometimes your personal need(s) exceeds the love that’s being offered to you. Sometimes no matter how much someone else loves you and is set out to prove it, it’s not reciprocal and love can’t be forced or performed (not without resentment anyways). Sometimes you’re not ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 10:59 PM
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What makes a vagina bad? I’m not judging or anything just genuinely asking
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 08:27 PM
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I’m a female and I do crave those things, but I’m also a csa survivor and that’s warped sex for me entirely (thanks men)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 11:07 AM
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Sheraseven1 or atleast I think that’s the name of her channel. She has a lot of 1+ hour long videos exclusively on FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 01:47 AM
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Good boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 11:51 PM
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Tell your FWB that the next person you sleep with after them is your boyfriend and no one else, and you’re now being courted by someone which means there’s a chance you’ll have a boyfriend soon. You’re just letting him know so that if/when after a while you don’t call or text back anymore, he knows what’s up. I know that this only solves half the problem because only one of them will know, but it’s better than being completely dishonest altogether and prevents any symptoms of feeling blindsided …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 10:40 PM
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Moids don’t want to be your friend. They don’t understand the concept of emotional support or really know what that looks like, so friends are kind of pointless to them. Even though subconsciously (some consciously) know they need it, they’re afraid to look and ask for it because not knowing how means there at risk of failing and they’re too fragile to handle their own failures. That’s why they save all their emotions for “their” woman; because she’s the one person who’s supposed to stick by the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 09:54 AM
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Yes and no. I’m in therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 10:41 AM
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I low key think that was written by my husband and I know that everyone has those feelings when they’re on reddit but it’s strong in me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 06:46 AM
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Kellis has soooo many good ones! Her first album got me through a lot of tough times with men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 12:59 AM
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I don’t understand where men get this idea of this mystical “wall”. My mom is a legitimate career gold digger who at whatever age she is now (she lies about her age so none of us actually now, but I’m guessing late 50s/early 60s though she genuinely only looks she’s in late her very early 40s or late late 30s) and she gets approached MORE than I do (several times more; and I’m not ugly lol) and my mom has never had a man who didnt provide - and I mean willingly, happily provide. Currently, she g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 11:59 PM
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You really don’t owe him an explanation as to why and to be honest he should have higher self esteem than to be trying to convince someone whose telling them straight up that they don’t want to be with them, that they do. -internet hugs- I’m really proud of you for recognizing this behavior and sticking up for yourself rather than allow him to continue to try to coerce you. You’re doing all the right things to hopefully never have to deal with this type of shit behavior from men ever again <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 11:40 PM
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Unfoolish by Ashanti (not to be confused with Foolish) and Apple Tree by Badu 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 10:39 PM
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To be honest it differs from woman to woman and can change over time. What I currently perceive as a man providing value is someone who already has their emotional intellect figured out, enough to help me stabilize my emotions from work-related stress. I’ve been really stressed out trying to figure out how to continue affording my tuition, and the other day one of my men made me a bubble bath. The peace and quiet relaxing in there with candles lit while someone massaged my scalp gave me is the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 07:17 PM
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You’re a hero ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 06:51 PM
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What makes wanting to smash not good intentions? It’s a great intention; it might not always be reciprocated or even well received but that doesn’t change the fact that it can still be a good hearted intention. There’s nothing inherently wrong or “bad” about wanting to have sex with someone and it’s possible to do so without harming, degrading or devaluing them in any way. Demonizing sexuality just teaches women how to demonize sexuality, further discouraging women from claiming our own sexualit…
/r/seduction06/08/19 03:15 AM
10

When your wingman tells the girl your interested in that you’re a bit shy he’s setting the bar low for you so that you can soar over it. That’s when you’re supposed to be your best, most confidently authentic self. It catches the girl off guard, genuinely impresses her and gives the illusion that your connection is just sooo strong you can really be yourself or whatever other bullshit she wants to feed herself and having scheming haters further credits you ass some sort of hot crazy badass. It’s…
/r/askTRP30/07/19 11:27 PM
1

Either way isn’t that what you’re wanting to do?
/r/askTRP20/07/19 07:14 AM
1

It’s not self-defense if you are the one you are defending, it’s literally in the name self-defense. It would be consider aggravated assault, because that’s exactly what it would be... assault aggravated by the assaulted.
/r/askTRP20/07/19 07:05 AM
2

This isn’t some girl he only knew for a few seconds.. it was someone he was already flirting and even making out with and that is the difference. I really do want to help you out, but I’ve got about five and a half hours worth of work on my desk. Let me get through my work and then I will message you a detailed, no bullshit guide to how I as an attractive 24 year old woman feel men should approach looking for friends with benefits type situations and some practical advice for building confidence…
/r/seduction09/07/19 08:33 PM
1

I’m not trying to rub it in I’m trying to help by explaining what actually works, and you’re just refusing to hear any of it.
/r/seduction09/07/19 08:18 PM
1

Boy do you live up to your username lmao
/r/seduction09/07/19 08:15 PM
1

Yes he can actually... have you never heard of a friends with benefits? Plenty of people hook up without dating.
/r/seduction09/07/19 08:13 PM
1

That was the second time they went out, AFTER he already fucked up. Before that everyone was a green light. He fucked up by taking her out on a date. She said she wasn’t looking for anything, meaning that woman was looking for some dick not a date or anything else relationship-y. That’s what he just didn’t understand.
/r/seduction09/07/19 07:48 PM
0

She didn’t tell him no though? From what I gathered the first time she was cuddly and him and gave him a green light to make a move but with the knowledge she just wants something casual. He dropped the ball. Edit: he took her out on a second date. That’s where he fucked up. This woman was looking for some dick, not a date or anything else relationship-y.
/r/seduction09/07/19 07:43 PM
2

....maybe it was that joke? Joking about kidnapping a girl while you’re making out comes across a little rapey. Instead of talking about what you want to do to her while you’re with her maybe just actually do it but slowly enough for her to have room to change the pace to what she wants. Another tip: make it all about the woman. Instead of “I really want to kidnap you right now” how about “I really want to taste you right now”? It sounds less like you’re going to kidnap me and stuff me in your c…
/r/seduction09/07/19 07:37 PM
0

No he didn’t... trying is more than just kissing. What he did to escalate beyond that? Nothing
/r/seduction09/07/19 07:31 PM
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When she told she isn’t looking for anything serious and doesn’t know what she’s looking for, what she meant is that she’s down to fuck. That was your chance to try for a casual fwb type thing and you blew it by not taking the bite / not trying to sleep with her.
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:28 PM
3

It was a combination of taking the time to learn and understand what, in my eyes, bettering myself really looks like, what I want to improve or change and why and then reflecting on what in my life lead to me having the traits I want to change or improve to begin with. Further down the road I’ve learned just as much about humankind as I’ve learned about myself.
/r/seduction26/05/19 10:52 PM
3

Start with the females in category 3 (want sex but not a relationship) and continue to better yourself as a person until women see you as worth investing in a relationship with.
/r/seduction26/05/19 08:00 PM
9

This is almost verbatim how I met someone
/r/seduction27/09/18 05:54 AM
2

Kelis is underrated. Listening to her first album never fails to give me confident energy. Jill Scott is wonderful for those days where I need to feel more connected to my womanly higher self rather than the playfulness that artists like Kelis tend to bring out. Honorable mentions include Lauren Hill, Eryka Badu, Faith Evans, Blu Cantrell, Mya, Aaliya, Total and TLC.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 10:40 PM
1

How do I do this?
/r/seduction07/07/18 02:15 PM
1

Well then I want to sleep with him. But I want a lifetime of sleeping with him, not just a few times.
/r/seduction07/07/18 01:42 PM
1

Both.
/r/seduction06/07/18 11:10 PM
1

I mean, I usually ask them to dinner rather than telling them to take me to dinner, but usually what ends up happening is we just get dinner. :P I’ve already been seeing the man in question for about 6 weeks. Honestly, I am feeling insecure as hell because he is a white knight at heart and I am not someone who needs saving. I fear that if I don’t demonstrate some sort of need for him in my life rather just simply wanting him in my life that he’ll stray for someone who needs him for financial/res…
/r/seduction06/07/18 08:49 PM
1

Well then what do you recommend? The man I am currently pursuing is a classic white knight if you would like a little background info to take into consideration.
/r/seduction06/07/18 08:40 PM
2

I think your fear of rejection and lack of self respect go hand in hand because I honestly struggle with the same issue myself. I started asking myself why I feared rejection and for me it turned out that it was just a massive fear of abandonment from being a child of divorce. I would put up with truly anything in “love” to appease my partner enough to keep them around, to the point where up until a month ago I couldn’t even tell you what my core needs in a relationship are never mind if I cared…
/r/seduction06/07/18 08:26 PM
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If your confidence is dependent on other people’s view of you, you will never truly self confident or have a high sense of self worth / self value. It’s also difficult to control the behaviors of others, but you can easily control your own habits that directly effect your confidence. My advice is to seek something that will increase your self confidence rather than just your confidence. I practice this by setting realistic, achievable short term and long term goals for myself and then crushing s…
/r/seduction06/07/18 07:43 PM
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