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This is part of how another dude steals your girl, he has more interesting stuff to say and he's a better storyteller then you. Women are wired to seek validation from men. If you're not capable of showing value even if you're high value, she'll find validation elsewhere. Awesome post. Sacking up and applying this a few years ago could have saved my marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 08:14 PM
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I've been away from MRP for a while, 9 months. Currently in the 11th hour of my divorce. She wants me back but there's no trust for good reason. Might be casual FWB's but not an LTR. Recently lost my job. I carried too much of an IDGAF attitude to work. Also let my family/personal life affect my productivity and failed myself by not buckling down and focusing. I can and will do better. While looking for an new job I'm prepping my house to sell and built a handmade king bed. Still have quite a fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/16 07:27 PM
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They are different for everyone but these are mine. Were you USMC? Reminded me of the Rifleman's Creed.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/15 03:50 PM
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That's probably part of it. But I think it started with Mark Manson's tips on presence, presentation and how to walk. The first day I actively held my head up, chest out, shoulders back hands free and a slight swagger, it was on like donkey kong.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/15 03:12 PM
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I've been noticing everything from smiles, quick looks and looking away, and tossing hair to stares but nothing that far. My personal history is those forward enough to do the approaching tend to be sluts. Regardless, congrats on the ego kibbles!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 07:57 PM
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Trickle truth's a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 06:44 PM
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The friend needs to go. Establish the boundary and defend it. My STBX had a BFF who was cheating then low and behold STBX cheated. 'Nuff said. I've heard others use "This person is not a friend of the marriage" but that sounds bluepill-ish. I would assume your wife or her friend's hamster may be filtering the truth that reaches you. (ASD) "Yeah, I/she stopped the affair. All those random guys from the bar don't count since they were only one night stands and you don't need to know that."
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 06:34 PM
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Not familiar with your situation, but you mentioned being in the middle of a divorce. She may have wanted a job then for many reasons. Career building (fatten the resume), income (attorney, rent), socializing (find friends, someone to fuck).
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 06:19 PM
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Anyone have lifting advice for someone with a restriction? I had a congenital heart fixed at a young age. To reduce aneurysm risks, my cardiologist restricted me from power lifting. She defined that as lifting more than half of my body weight. I asked about pullups/chinups and they are out since that's about 90% of my body weight. Another problem I have is I'm 6'5" and am down to about 190. So half my body weight is only 95 lbs. I lost a significant amount of fat from Adderall and poor appetite …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 06:01 PM
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Great reply TTB. Yes. It’s like crumpled paper, it can be opened up and pushed flat, but it will never be perfect again... She cheated, is that something you can handle, own, and most importantly get over and move forward with your mission? Like /u/theultmatecad said to me, “You'll either let go of the past or it will ruin you. If you can't let it go, you're fucked.” I feel the need to stress that this is the attitude to take whether the relationship continues or not. Forgiveness is key and it's…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 05:24 PM
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Dude fuck this "do what you love shit" Dammit! Jerking off and playing video games (sometimes simultaneously) isn't the road to financial freedom? You know how much money the average jizz-mopper makes per hour? (Clerks)
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 04:26 PM
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Wow, that shit hits close to home... When I come across stuff like this I repeat in my head. Iron sharpens iron. The pain I feel is merely friction. How awesome is that? To take a vacation from a marriage, fuck a bunch of dudes and then still have a place to land on your feet where everything will be ok. The vacation concept is so accurate! I been referring to my STBX's cheating as vacationships. BP me initially gave her the place to land. STBX and her BFF now wonder why it's being pulled out fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 04:14 PM
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This post(wall of text) is from a site called Surviving Infidelity and changed my outlook on relationships before discovering RP and MRP. I'm not saying your wife cheated or whatever, but her leaving is similar. A big part of what galls betrayed husband's over time is the sense that their wife got one over on them, that she has access to all of this secret information, and he can never have it. He's supposed to become Mr. Emotional Transparency and a surrogate female BFF so she never feels unful…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 03:23 AM
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Your wife is only regretful you found out. Correct. Regret is not equal to remorse. I think OP confused the two. If the plan is to fuck/use her until she fucks up again (and she will,) then have fun while it lasts. She's had a taste of cake (have my cake and eat it too). His main problem now is she'll be much more careful in the future. Meaning he's less likely to find out when she fucks up again until much later.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 02:53 AM
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If this is a serious post: Yeah, good luck with this plan. Been there, done that. Then 9 years and 4 kids later she pulls the same shit. I believed her promise then that it wouldn't happen again and continued to do so. She forgot my statement that if she did I'd be gone. BTW, you want to be seeing remorse from her and not necessarily regret. Regret is a common side effect from merely being caught. Remorse is only possible from someone with a conscience.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 02:39 AM
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Read This Post Talk to your Dr. Check your T level, TSH(thyroid), Depression/M3 (as in my earlier reply) and maybe blood sugar and lipids.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 06:40 PM
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General advice for you/others reading this thread. Have your TSH (Thyroid) checked since it can mess with lots of stuff. (You're seeing an endo anyway.) Get your lipids checked regularly and stay on top of them. Cholesterol often plays a role in ED.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 06:30 PM
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Live in each moment and make the best possible decisions you can daily. This reminds of when I told my wife I'll no longer let her direct me taking pics and vids on holidays and birthdays. When you're experiencing the event through a viewfinder you miss out. I only take them when I feel like it now. Edit By removing the scroll creators, I mean from your phone so you physically have to go to your computer to use them and even then, on a time constraint. Use these things effectively and they aren'…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 05:51 PM
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You might need to look at this differently. If you tell someone with shitty boundaries they can't come, they'll want to even more. (Remember "the oldest teenager in the house") I have 4 kids. If my oldest is going to a friend's birthday party at Chuck-E-Cheese, I can't just say to the others, "You can't because you aren't invited." and I'd go broke if I took the others there too. I'll will explain why they can't go but I'll also distract them with their own activities. Thus keeping them busy and…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 05:12 PM
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May not have been shit tests per se, but not giving her the power to control me is making her want me more. That night in bed I was rubbing her ass, seeing if she was in the mood at all. She put up attitude and said something like "An orgasm isn't worth it." We have a FWB agreement and she's lately had hurt feelings and confusion about sharing a bed and fucking. (Funny how it didn't stop her from banging other guys...) I said, "Whatever, you know you want it you little slut." then rolled over an…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 04:17 PM
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I need to get mine checked again. About 5 years ago when I was 40 pounds fatter I was in the "Low-Normal" range.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 03:58 PM
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Yeah, I hear ya. I read a couple and stopped as it hit a bit too close to home.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 03:54 PM
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I have consulted four lawyers and am only waiting on a piece of plastic to arrive in the mail to allow me to pay the retainer. Once I have it in hand it's shock and awe time.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 05:56 AM
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If you can't get her in to see a DR, a Nurse Practitioner or Physician's Assistant can prescribe also. A combo of Wellbutrin and Lexapro may help. (both are generic and cheap) Lexapro may mess with her libido but Wellbutrin will likely counteract it. She might still be dealing with some crazy hormone shit, especially if she was ever nursing.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 09:26 PM
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The tales of women BY women being dominated by their Alpha Fux will help that pill just slide right on down. /u/UEMcGill, Unless I'm dense, I think /u/sexyshoulderdevil is pointing out the cheating wife/gf's hamstering and their inherent RP views. As a husband preparing to divorce his cheating wife (and having experienced the butthurt thereof): I don't condone cheating UNLESS you are separated or she's cheated on you. I also couldn't bang another man's wife unless I knew for sure they were separ…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 09:02 PM
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Nice. I suppose the lesson here is much of their behavior could be a shit test and you can always run a combination. Me "OK no biggie." gets coffee goes to the porch for a smoke "Hey babe, wasn't that the workout program you were doing last year?" Ignore and Change Subject "Yeah. Why?" - "No reason." ... it showed some Mom of 2 with a great body I let out a "MMMMMmmm" and went to take a shower. Nuclear Option - Small scale tactical nuke
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 07:10 PM
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Congrats! I'll do this from time to time to ensure I don't become dependent on alcohol.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 09:26 PM
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When was the baby born? If it was within the past year, postpartum depression could (at least) be contributing. Be prepared for the shit to hit the fan on Friday due to the checking account. Get a VAR(voice activated recorder) or equivalent app for your phone. Do this now and record every interaction with her. She may go apeshit enough to justify a psych hold or she may even accuse you of domestic violence. Twelve states require, under most circumstances, the consent of all parties to a conversa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 08:59 PM
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Being raised in a 3rd world country, might there be cultural differences making typical RP advice not as effective?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 06:16 PM
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I take it as a failure that I either picked a horrible woman, or can't lead her enough to keep myself from disliking her. Failure is either not realizing your mistake or realizing it and not learning or acting on it. Remember, the only person you can control is yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 04:46 PM
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My first OYS here aside from my initial situation puke. List of attorneys is narrowed to 3. Approved for 22k credit card, so short term financing is in place to pull the trigger on divorce. Consulted a surgeon about my pectus and I'm a good candidate. Need to run some tests to satisfy insurance. I got sick of driving around a POS minivan so I leased a new truck. Two additional reasons. 1) To establish a car payment in advance of divorce and 2) since it's leased, it can't be an asset in divorce. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 04:23 PM
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Here's a thought. Keep a running list of regular and new places to check out. Same with movies. Then you can just review it and choose, avoiding the whole deciding/brainstorming awkwardness. Rotate in the new ones to avoid predictability. Combine leading with variety/new experiences and it should be a great night. You can even give the illusion of choice. "We're either going here or here. Let me know if you have a preference."
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 04:03 PM
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I like the idea of categorizing the posts via link flair rather than creating a silo sub for AskMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 03:45 PM
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I agree with spexer, BPP and becoming_pertinax. Although I'm facing divorce, I think I'm more aligned with MRP than TRP. Just like BP examples we can learn through others implementing MRP/TRP and their failures. Take /u/TrainingTheBrain's post - Start thinking and acting like the Man you want to be, right now. Taking control is like riding a bike for the first time. Unless you are naturally gifted, you're likely going to need training wheels. Rather than validation of success, I think a lot of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 03:29 PM
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She asked me if there was anyone else. I told her there was not. She keeps begging me to promise her I wont leave her no matter what. Are you sure she hasn't been fucking around behind your back? Out of context, these statements make her seem guilty of something. Any relatively recent GNO's trips or odd behaviors?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 04:26 AM
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I'm married with 4 kids and if you decide to say "fuck it" and jump ship, I may have some pointers too. I'm in the process of hitting the life reset button. Not to concern you too much, but we were having sex about once a week while she cheated on me. So the sooner you turn things around and she's begging to gobble your cock, the better.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 10:27 PM
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The warning in Ch 7 of NMMNG sums it up the best. A Warning If you are in a relationship, the program of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome presented in this book will seriously affect you and your partner. One of two things will happen: 1) Your present relationship will begin to grow and evolve in exciting and unpredictable ways. 2) Your present relationship will be sent to a long overdue grave. 
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 09:11 PM
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How 'bout a spinning plate with a gold border next to a whole stack of alternates?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/15 08:47 PM
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I am that guy and want to clarify I'm intent on leaving her and she knows I want a divorce. I'm trying to do it strategically in order to minimize my losses on a shitty investment. Or at least offset them with short term gains elsewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 05:54 PM
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I like the comment from /u/GayLubeOil on Redefinition of Marriage part two Lets say you were a gardener and you got paid a flat $100 to take care of a man's gardening needs. At first you go above and beyond and everyone knows you to be an amazing gardener. Then you decide that climbing trees really isn't your thing so you negotiate not to do it anymore, but still get paid $100. Then you negotiate not to cut bushes. Then you negotiate not to plant flowers. Then you negotiate not to pull weeds. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 05:33 PM
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I suppose you could change it to "Smell the Shit" :)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 04:37 PM
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In one episode of Friends, Joey popularized the term "Smell the fart acting". As an actor, his character pretended to smell a fart in order buy time to remember his lines. Not sure if you ever watched the show, regardless google it if not familiar. That or something similar could be a temporary crutch.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 04:21 PM
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If this was last August, it sounds like you must ran into my wife. :) Then the hamster spins and spins...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 04:05 PM
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(/u/marxistbacon) is dead on. OP, read this a couple of times to digest it if need be. It's Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in a nutshell. Think Feel Do Thoughts /\ /\ || || \/ \/ Feelings <=> Behavior This is basically what they beat around the bush and eventually get to after a few sessions in therapy.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 03:43 PM
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Listen to this song OMG I just sprayed hot coffee out my nose! LMFAO
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/15 05:51 PM
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I think all of those applied to both me and my slut wife over the years. I'd half ass initiate and she'd not seem interested. I didn't pick up her flirting or was too exhausted to care. I rarely flirted with her. She'd wear something sexy or seem in the mood but completely ignore me. She had low self esteem, body image issues and resentment towards me. She wasn't ugly but didn't make my heart skip a beat. I liked her body but I guess I never saw her as pretty. Felt like I settled but wouldn't ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 06:19 PM
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See my reply to /u/antariusz below
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 05:37 PM
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They're all mine. They all look like just like me. I realize that may be subjective, but a lot of people point it out. Even in the remote chance, it's my name on the birth certificates and I'm their dad no matter what. I'd refuse to punish any of them for the bad choices of others.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 04:26 PM
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No at fault in my jurisdiction. She could have banged the entire town and gave me an STI, and the court wouldn't give two shits.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 04:19 PM
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Oh hell no! I already know I'm going to bolt. She's said to her BFF it's inevitable and needs to just make it a couple more years. Just thinking about milking it as much as possible. I'm fucked either way just hoping for a reach-around. To quote FMJ: "I bet you're the kind of guy wife that would fuck a person in the ass and not even have the goddamn common courtesy to give him a reach-around. I'll be watching you." The way I look at it with divorce: 1. Stay 12-16 months. Enjoy and document the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 04:15 PM
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I take that Dr J is in AZ? I'm near the Mayo in Rochester. I agree it would change my life and "normal" people don't get it. It's like someone with micropenis given the opportunity to double its size. Or a flat girl getting some D's bolted on. I've wanted to do it for years but always put everyone else first. Enough of that shit...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 03:29 PM
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I planned on doing this but she needed a c-section and it was 10 more minutes on the table. I remember thinking she was going to cheat now that she has no incentive not to. I'm considering getting the V again as I don't want to become daddy again. I'm on the fence though since new research indicates a link between it and prostate cancer.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 04:32 AM
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It's pretty bad. It's less about disfigurement and more about pulmonary and cardiac impairment from an insurance perspective. I've already maxed out my out of pocket maximum for the year and it definitely affects my mental SMV, so why not figure out if it will be covered? Mayo is pretty close to me, so I'd be on good hands instead of some regional butcher.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 03:32 AM
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Thanks bluepillprofessor. I listened to your radio interview today. Great stuff! I need to consult my attorney as I'm concerned if I stay that I could be on the hook for some of her student loans.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 03:18 AM
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