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| 26 | A true strategic genius- the story is even better: https://www.instagram.com/p/B7XA0ligfGL/?igshid=16jnp0m3mvtbu | MOOD FOR LIFE | hapahunnie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 06:24 PM |
| 1 | How to help my (badass) mom level up | SEEKING ADVICE | hapahunnie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 09:37 PM |
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| 31 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthHi- a little off topic but do you have any reading recommendations that aren’t super biased about this issue (within the context of Pakistan) if we want to learn more about it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 05:52 PM |
| 6 | Referring to women as girlsIdk dude I’m a resident, not a linguist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:07 AM |
| 6 | Referring to women as girlsHate to love it and love to hate it here! Prices are ridiculous but anywhere else and I feel like I’m a fish out of water. I have lots of complaints about my area but then again who doesn’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:16 AM |
| 17 | Can long distance relationships work?I’ve only seen it work with couples who have been married for a looong time and I mean a LONG time. I had a professor who lived in one of the buildings on campus and went back home to his house + wife a distance away on the weekends and during breaks. They had been married 30+ years and he’s very HV but that’s the only example I would give any sort of credence to. Anything else and you’re better off chatting a help bot on a random website instead of having an online/LDR boyfriend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:15 AM |
| -18 | Referring to women as girlsI’ve also seen it spelled as “folx” to be inclusive of the LGBTQ+ community but I’m from a super liberal state so it may not be for everyone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:11 AM |
| 54 | Lies Men Tell: Women Can't PairbondThat account is so fucking disturbing but thank you so much for linking it. Knowledge is power but I honestly just want to vomit. I wish there was a way to include that in the handbook or pinned somewhere because it’s basically a cheat sheet for manipulative strategies to look out for straight from the horse’s mouth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:53 PM |
| 140 | Reminder to watch out for how he treats you around his friendsIf you feel like you are the shiny object- RUN. You are not there because he values you, you’re there because he couldn’t afford a $10k Rolex to make his homies get hard and you were the next best option. Your feelings don’t matter it’s purely the fact that you showed up and showed face as a burden of proof. These men are carbon copies of Christian Bale from American Psycho but lack any and all self awareness to recognize the fact. The best response is to Gone Girl his ass and high tail it out o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:14 AM |
| 100 | Anyone wants to partner with a Scrote? I’m sure he’s 100% sincereHa! I’m in my early 20s and I cannot think of a single person my age who would even consider this shriveled up shell of a person. Just say you’re a closeted pedo and leave. He didn’t say it but we all know there’s an expectation of absolutely zero body hair + the whole young amateur thing is so disgusting. It’s an insult to think women are dumb enough to find this offer attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Pierce Brosnan is HVM from what I know. Are there any other HVM you know of in any way? I am lucky enough to have some in family.Someone please correct me, but I’d like to nominate his Mamma Mia costar Colin Firth! From what I have read thus far about his work advocating for the environment and refugees and even doing work within the scientific community, he seems somewhat wholesome and well rounded and I’m hoping that’s not a ruse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:52 AM |
| 9 | Dating someone I like a lot but starting to feel insecureSome people have mentioned therapy but more specifically, CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) or DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) could be particularly helpful in uncovering the underlying issues that lead to negative self talk. And as another user said, be kind for yourself!! Self love is a process and a continuous learning cycle | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:57 AM |
| 41 | Red flags in female friendshipsI would go with “I can’t stop admiring your (insert object of admiration here)” it works for everything from jewelry to work ethic and frames things more positively rather than centering around what you want of theirs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 12:46 AM |
| 30 | “I’m part Viking” Avoid Men Who Fake Their Ancestry or Try to Claim Their Ancestors Accomplishments As Their OwnWeren’t women respected and given equal standing in Viking culture? If I’m not mistaken it was partly matriarchal because while the men were off plundering the women would run everything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 08:54 PM |
| 4 | Would you consider her a pickme ? I feel like I understand her message but it seems like she’s using this for validation given the men in her comments...If he buys the movie tickets, then I show up. That’s his payment from me wtf do I look like paying $7 for a soda??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 10:24 PM |
| 79 | Examples of HVM or healthy relationships in media?I haven’t finished the series so I can’t say definitively but Johnny and Moira from Schitt’s Creek seem to fit the bill | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:05 AM |
| 4 | Field ReportUnfortunately :// I want to do nothing more than bang my head on a wall when I think of it. My dad is definitely a man who needs therapy but refuse to explore the option he’s not violent or anything but he’s not exactly bringing value to the table either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 02:12 AM |
| 21 | Field ReportCan I volunteer my mom to be your friend? She’s in her mid 50s and she’s a great FDS minded lady but she definitely got suckered by my dad (big yikes there but at least my sister and I turned out okay!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 01:22 AM |
| 7 | Decided against a ring in lieu of something more utilitarianBeautiful!! Thank you so so much!! I found my grandpa’s photo album from when he was stationed in Japan during the Korean War in 1953 and I talked to my photography prof who said my best bet was to take a picture of the picture because scanning them would pick up more of the dust, scratches, etc and would take more time in photoshop to fix. Also I think I’m ready to graduate to a big girl camera because I’m a journalism student and being able to write my own pieces and shoot for them makes it a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:39 AM |
| 25 | Decided against a ring in lieu of something more utilitarianCongrats!! Do you have any recs for a first time DSLR to get for a newbie? I have a couple projects I want to work on but I’m scared to drop on the wrong equipment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 11:55 PM |
| 31 | Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM.Maybe they’re not treating the next girl “right” perhaps he is just meeting her on her own level and her standards happen to be lower, thus making them easier to fulfill which makes it appear as thought a LVM himself has “leveled up”. In reality it’s a level down but smoke and mirrors would make you think otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 05:57 AM |
| 57 | What are some questions you ask when dating, or things you look for, to determine if you're dating a decent human?I straight up ask them what their opinion is on therapy and mental health. I phrase it casually and almost in a tone where it seems like I’m NOT a proponent to see if they will reveal themselves as someone who will remain underdeveloped. If they’re open to the idea I ask them if they have ever been or if they like it to seem like I am broaching the subject myself. I never tell them my stance until or reveal my cards so to speak until I’m sure of theirs. And be careful about fake woke guys who co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 05:52 AM |
| 48 | Obama on being a High Value Man: "Being a man is about being a good human. Responsible, reliable, working hard, being kind, respectful, compassionate. Supporting, not dominating. You don't need eight women around you twerking"“You seem stressed” got me LMAO also Steph being there is also another good example- he’s a great husband and is super supportive of Ayesha as well as doing quiet work in the community in the Bay Area without the expectation of it being publicized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 01:28 AM |
| 4 | Lowkey can't wait for my hair to turn gray 👀My family typically goes white and I’m so excited I think it looks sooo chic and I’m already seeing it on my mom (probably gave her a lot too whoops) and it looks fabulous!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:24 PM |
| 44 | I am really grateful to have found this sub at 20 years old.Dworkin nearly rolled over in her grave for that one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:04 AM |
| 47 | Anon is a sweaty neck beard that has never been to JapanLmao I have to laugh Japan is extremely misogynistic and conservative but men are still expected to provide by being breadwinners and high earners. That eliminates a large portion of these Japan worshipping weirdos to begin with. Second of all, Japanese women are choosing to not get married and have kids because that’s basically retiring and dependency and why should they get married? Japan is the epicenter of technology, a good vibrator is just around the corner and extremely affordable. As a J… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 10:54 PM |
| 0 | What are they even thinking when they send messages like this??God I hope this is a Google number or something and she didn’t give him her actual contact info... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:20 PM |
| 5 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...I only have female doctors and my mom works in healthcare and I can honestly say if you want the best, most thorough and empathetic care I highly suggest seeing female doctors. Not to bash on male doctors because there are good ones (I work for one and he and his wife are extremely HV!) but they are becoming more difficult to come by. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:28 PM |
| 10 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...Good for you!! There are men out there who don’t watch porn and it seems like a handful of younger guys are wising up (or maybe I’m just in a bubble) so you may have better fish to catch in the future! Men in mental health spaces are so iffy so you truly dodged a bullet- I went to my first therapist when I was 12 and he tried to send me to a mental halfway house for teens??? My mom said fuck no you’re getting a younger female doctor and lo and behold I most certainly did not need to be shipped o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:55 PM |
| 95 | Let’s discuss why a HVM will choose to be with a HVW over the 100 million available pickmeishasPickmes cater to and are fluid in their views, opinions, and lifestyle based on who they are trying to please. HVW say, “move or be moved” and continue on without shape shifting and if you miss the train, you miss the train because HVW don’t wait they just DO. HVM are attracted to HVW because they can be apart of something rather than just be in something (short term relationship/situationship/FWB) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:44 PM |
| 55 | Pretty much the exact response I expected. That’s a no from me, dawg.I would not tell anyone you can cook to weed these types of people out. I literally tell strangers that I would burn water if I could when in reality I took 4 years of culinary arts and restaurant management classes. Even when I get to know people I just tell them I learned from YouTube until I know what type of people they are because I don’t want to be asked for last minute favors for parties or gatherings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 01:34 AM |
| 2 | One of my love languages is receiving gifts..Melinda Gates did this and after a year or two of “dating” she approached Bill and said, “either we get married or we break up” and Lo and behold here we are today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:04 AM |
| 6 | It’s the “active in” communities for me 🤣 (blocked this rumplescroatskin immediately after my response)Can someone point the incels in the direction of the grammarly chrome extension? We just want to laugh at your hate mail not decode 1st grade level prose | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:58 AM |
| 11 | I don’t understand men who hide important stuffs on their OLD profile(divorced, kids, height etc) and claim that they aren’t insecure about itI hope she pats him on the head after rejecting him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:56 PM |
| 12 | Do you judge a guy by the girls he dated in the past ?Safe to say you should probably just judge men on everything. Why the hell not since they do the same things to us and have been for thousands of years 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:54 PM |
| 19 | How can you tell if a man’s relationship with his mom is healthy versus a man who has “mommy-itis”??You can usually tell by the way he talks about her- if he puts her on a pedestal good luck there. If he’s way too casual around her she probably has a good hold on him and her influence will be lurking everywhere. If he can appreciate her but acknowledge that space is necessary like a normal adult I would say that’s the bare minimum. You could try asking what he thinks of his mom’s sense of humor to get a gauge as to where he lies on the normal to momma’s bitchboy scale | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 02:30 AM |
| 6 | What are some strategies and tactics to put off intimacy for as long as possible?If you have to strategize with a guy it’s a red flag and you should leave immediately. If you truly are with a decent human being, you should feel completely comfortable saying, “I’m not ready for this” without second guessing anything. The right person will understand and not broach the subject until you are ready. But it’s so important you feel comfortable setting boundaries with anything and if you aren’t 100% comfortable ask yourself why. Is it because they try to negotiate with you? Or guil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 02:01 AM |
| 19 | How does a HVW act when running into a LVM ex?My mom always says, “The opposite of love is not hate- it’s indifference” so acting like his existence does nothing, changes nothing is probably the best option. If you show any kind of reaction that just shows him he still has an effect of some sort. If a man is too stupid to keep you then why even bother | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:47 PM |
| 6 | FDS approved guide to buying Christmas gifts for men?Get him a nice bottle of wine or a small item that he may be able to use on the trip- maybe a decent pair of shoes if you two will be doing a lot of walking ( DSW, Amazon, and Nordstrom’s are running some decent promotions right now) or maybe that Polaroid machine that turns smart phone photos into a mini Polaroid print out!! That would be super cute and a good way to work it into the holiday season :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Mum: “Still single?”I would literally rather die alone that sounds so much more appealing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on Subtle Asian Dating?Seems a little too close to the concept of picture brides wrapped up with a trendy bow and group name. I’d stay away from it and get involved in local AAPI events, groups, sports leagues, or churches or if you’re doing apps you could filter for Asian men/women on Coffee Meets Bagel. The app is lowkey not the best but it could work for some people. But yeah it doesn’t sit right with me to auction yourself off given how commoditized Asian women are to begin with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 10:55 PM |
| 8 | Is anyone else kind of miffed at the whole "male as default" assumption in culture?If you look at it through the male gaze, then yes. My grandpa was a mechanic and a decent carpenter/handyman so he did everything so that way my grandma would have time to pursue her interests and her career without having to worry about anything. He was happy to do it because her happiness made his life better. So as a woman my grandma was able to better herself rather than be called “useless” because she wasn’t burdened by certain tasks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 10:46 PM |
| 24 | Anyone else annoyed that the average man is straight up ugly?And if they’re not ugly they’re either short or have parental issues. What lucky ducks we are!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:57 PM |
| 44 | Is anyone else kind of miffed at the whole "male as default" assumption in culture?Overcompensation, per usual. It’s why I never lift a finger to pick up something or do something “manly” because it’s called MANual labor, not WOMANual labor so I don’t see why I need to be involved 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:55 PM |
| 14 | Advice on PrenupsI’m a dodo and don’t know how to link on mobile but I really like FIREyFemmes and MoneyDiariesACTIVE! They give really sound, well researched advice and most are financially independent so there’s not a lot of pickme-isms going around :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:18 PM |
| 38 | Advice on PrenupsDefinitely invest in a good lawyer and maybe check out some woman centric finance subs on here- they’re so nice and helpful! I’m considering including a cheating clause if I ever need a prenup purely because if someone wants to be stupid enough I’d feel a lot better crying in Chanel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:26 AM |
| 10 | How Are You Happier (Even If Single) After FDS & How Has FDS Short&Long-Term Changed Your Life?Married women die earlier but married men live longer. So anytime I think of being alone indefinitely it’s a nice little reminder that I’m actually getting more out of life that way. I would rather be unhappy on my accord and have the opportunity to be proactive about it rather than be miserable as a result of some dipshit’s actions. Plus I am a sucker for luxury and designer items so I’d be able to devote more $$$ towards my wardrobe in the long term. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 07:55 PM |
| 4 | Coming from r/rheumatoid - Issues W SODo not entertain this bullshit any longer especially if you have a child in the house. I remember being 9 and finding porn on my d*d’s phone and crying to my mom about it and I can’t imagine the toll it took on her. That behavior was tolerated and written off and when her mom passed away all he could talk about was reminding the family of his birthday that same week. If he can’t provide, kick him out and karma can deal with him. It’s absolutely vile that someone would not support you when you ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 07:46 PM |
| 41 | I see so many discussions of women complaining how difficult dating is and constant experiences with low effort men and bullshit in general. Could this be the future?Apparently there’s also developments which would allow women to fertilize their eggs with DNA from another egg. The study was done in mice or rats a few years ago and I remember seriously discussing it with a friend because it seems like almost too perfect of a solution LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:12 AM |
| 38 | Sad but trueAs if men like this have any comprehensive grasp of political theory aside from quoting red pill tweets | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:00 PM |
| 23 | even if you don’t like or agree with the themes in WAP, you can agree that society is always quick to comment on women’s sexuality and promiscuousness but won’t say shit about the violence and danger that we are subject to everyday.Hate the song and the lyrics but if it pisses off Ben Shapiro then maybe there is some chaotic good in the world | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 04:45 PM |
| 86 | It was my birthday yesterday. Treated myself by making a romantic red velvet cake from scratch😊 it was a quarantine birthday but being self-partnered was the best thing that could have happened.We love a rough edged buttercream it’s so effortlessly chic- happiest of birthdays!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 08:01 AM |
| 19 | Pickme MusicShe made a statement saying she was pregnant with Don Henley’s and she decided to get an abortion because at the time there were no other rock groups with a female lead, much less two. She felt music was her calling and at the peak of her career, and she could not take care of a child and pursue music in the ways she desired so she got an abortion and is now a two time Rock & Roll Hall of Fame inductee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:20 PM |
| 50 | Pickme MusicI was so excited for Positions and then I heard the lyrics... disappointment does not even begin to cover it. Now I can’t stop thinking about Stevie Nicks and her quote about how her abortion was the reason Fleetwood Mac was a success. Good role models are few and far between these days sigh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 03:44 AM |
| 7 | How to stop mixing up anxiety and chemistry?My boss told me this bit of advice: Find someone who you can stand. Not tolerate because that’s a completely different story. Emotions have a tendency to skew our views of people because of the so called “honeymoon phase” so finding someone who you can appreciate being with when all of those feel good happy neurochemicals cool off is so important because it means you truly appreciate them and they add value to your lifestyle. If you can’t stand someone and have to backtrack to thinking about all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 11:32 PM |
| 109 | NO, NO AND NO. Women NEVER liked serving men.If it’s serving their heads on platters, then yeah, I could see it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:54 PM |
| 10 | Has anyone read this or seen this ad on instagram? A definite place where the "not all men" argument applies.Emphasis on the “Traumatic” in traumatic brain injury | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 09:56 PM |
| 52 | Has anyone read this or seen this ad on instagram? A definite place where the "not all men" argument applies.Diving into a man’s mind is like diving into the shallow end of a kiddie pool. Not much depth and maybe some turds there too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:28 PM |
| 8 | “Womanly” activities are cooking, cleaning, caretaking & appearances 🤢Organizing is fine, no problems with that. But I find it hard to imagine someone enjoying playing maid and cleaning up after other people and question those who ascribe that trait as a part of their identity as a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 02:52 AM |
| 9 | “Womanly” activities are cooking, cleaning, caretaking & appearances 🤢Name one woman who ACTUALLY likes to clean. Like CLEAN clean other people’s messes. I’ll wait because they don’t exist and this was a cute attempt at LARPing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 12:01 AM |
| 29 | I'm not sure if this belongs here. This is so disgusting!Someone get the slippers out, we have work to do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 08:02 PM |
| 57 | I Tried Femdom And It Was Nowhere Near As "Empowering" As The BDSM Community Would Have You BelieveIt’s a trap. Everything is a trap now and it’s the most disgusting paradox of them all. The only way to win is to not even engage in it at all. But now I’m not allowed to talk shit about it because it’s someone’s “kink” and I might hurt their “feelings” like just say you need years of intensive therapy and go | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 05:18 AM |
| 142 | I Tried Femdom And It Was Nowhere Near As "Empowering" As The BDSM Community Would Have You BelieveI’m a FinDom give me the money! s/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:02 AM |
| 17 | Been wondering for some time; how many neurodivergent women are here?ADHD here! I see a female therapist who practices CBT (and is extremely critical of David Burns and openly admits he’s misogynistic in his approach) and I honestly feel like I’ve added years back onto my life span. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 05:08 AM |
| 13 | What posts do you enjoy seeing on FDS and what would you like to see more of?More radfem content/philosophies! I’ve learned a lot from women commenting things up that alley and have gotten into researching it for myself. Or even more “don’t drink the kool-aid content” because I remember someone commenting about how open borders may seem like an ideal solution but it really opens the floodgates for human trafficking and sex trafficking and it opened my eyes to the importance of critically analyzing any and all political platforms! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:23 AM |
| 26 | LibFem Twitter is at it again. WTF is “Sexual Mutual Aid”? Notice how quickly the Incels jumped into the fray to spin this idea into a way to punish women who won’t have sex with them🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️Saw a quote tweet that said, “The Handmaid’s Tale, but make it woke” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Imagine using this many words to tell the entire world you’re shit in bed.Ben Shapiro? Is that you hiding there??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 12:58 AM |
| 26 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I hate going outside more than anything now- I used to run but I got so uncomfortable with people slowing down to look, people watching me, and constantly looking over my shoulder that I’m looking at treadmills. I got hit on at the grocery store in a mask and no make up and I even got the whole “you’re so ExOtiC” bit like shut up and give me a discount on this rib eye if you’re really about it dude. It’s so gross because none of these men deserve me or my presence! I’m young, financially savvy, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:00 PM |
| 111 | Explaining your standards to men?I filter by height because I adore my designer heels and they will not collect dust just to make someone can feel better. Short guy complexes exit stage left please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:30 AM |
| 13 | Anyone else completely okay with being single forever?Yes because I have my sister and we’re pretty close and I enjoy supporting her hobbies and vice versa and I doubt any man could be a bigger cheerleader as a partner and we’re both okay with that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 04:24 AM |
| 5 | What would you do if there were no men around for 24hrs?Go on a run, go to the gas station, go to the ATM alone without dragging a family member with me, go to the mall in a skirt (had someone follow me when I was 16 trying to take pics up my skirt and some good Samaritans walked with me and let me know). Oh also exist on social media, I get so many creepy DM’s from pornsick/hentai obsessed assholes because of my “exotic mix” BARF. No wonder my mom suggested concealed carry when I turned 18... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 06:12 PM |
| 33 | 🙅🏻♀️A caring Scorpio??? That’s a whole ass lie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 01:34 AM |
| 24 | How would you trick a man into revealing his true intentions with you?Ask him if he invests and how he learns about finance. The way he explains it is EVERYTHING. Does he get cocky and arrogant and flaunt numbers? There you go. Is he patient and understanding and thorough? Et voíla. Does he engage with his interests outside of Twitter and read actual books? Does his approach seem too aggressive, impulsive, or reckless? Is he stingy or does he splurge in non-essentials? Does he save? What is he saving for? What are his financial goals? Listen to his words and then … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:55 PM |
| 54 | May the fires left by Michael’s errors light your path. 🤣😂🤣😂We have to stan Japanese grandma’s. We love to see it. One time mine heard this couple had been together for 5+ years and she said, “oh nooo that’s so bad” respect for all bachan’s out there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:51 PM |
| 46 | To my fellow Asian girls, this is why you should NEVER feel bad for dating out no matter how much Asian incels lead you to believe otherwise.Hapa here and Asian guys have mastered the negging game so please for the love of God WATCH OUT AND JUST BLOCK. No sassy or sarcastic remarks just please block- the minute you feel that anger arise channel it into something else because those extra seconds you spend replying to a man are seconds out of your precious and very valuable day. Listen to “Check Yo Self” by Ice Cube if you have to but Jesus Christ leave the dumpster fire alone thank you and goodnight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:47 PM |
| 30 | How much do you think a man should spend on an engagement ring?I’m torn between wanting to look like I won the Super Bowl and realistic expectations while working in a healthcare setting (ie wearing gloves 90% of the time) but that’s just me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 01:26 AM |
| 3 | Yesterday the California governor signed a law that gives judges discretion on labeling pedophiles as sex offenders. California is literally on fire and this is what the government is focused on. They stop at nothing to normalize pedophilia.I hate this law so much. Supposedly it’s purpose was to create equality for the LGBT+ community but it was put forth by a middle aged white guy with the last name Wiener (red flags anyone??) If we really wanted to protect the LGBT+ community we would amend the language in certain laws like Title IX so queer students would be able to properly report harassment or assault. Reading through the actual law it’s written so deceptively to make it seem like it’s not purporting what it is literally purpo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 06:22 PM |
| 44 | LVM in my local area: a play in three acts with a shocking twist ending.Mods can we please put a warning on the post before we open the pictures so I don’t have to burn my contacts after | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:01 AM |
| 2 | My(19f) bf(20) didn't let me see his phone. I saw her best friend's name (it's a she) what to do?Compounded interest is better than compounded regret!!! I hate tik tok but points were made in that stupid song “get that bread, get that head, then leave, peace out!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:37 AM |
| 5 | My(19f) bf(20) didn't let me see his phone. I saw her best friend's name (it's a she) what to do?Dump him and spend the rest of your time researching the stock market. Invest your money instead of your time right now and in a few months you can treat yourself like a queen and forget the bullshit. Source: I’m also 20 and people our age are boys not men 🚮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 11:01 PM |
| 22 | Hm interesting 😐I’m half Asian and my white mom told me I’m not allowed to bring a white guy home but I would never because I’ve only ever gotten the most creepy and vile messages + comments from guess who? I started a spreadsheet in HS to track all of the creepy comments it got so bad, count me out 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 10:16 PM |
| 19 | He really thinks God gave me tinder for him. Oh, where his job title, he put “not looking for anything serious fr” so clear contradictions.Did he put A.S of arts degree?? Associate’s of Science of Arts degree?? Someone tell this child to read a course catalog instead of yanking it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 07:55 PM |
| 6 | Let’s talk long distance relationships.....Please get a support system in line and prepare an exit strategy. Letting friends and family know in addition to seeking therapy will help you heal and hold you accountable. It’s better that it only lasted 7 years instead of 30. He sounds like he needs to go through a serious healing process but that’s not a battle you can fight for him and it’s something he has to decide to address on his own. My mom’s piece of advice for situations where you’re not quite sure what to do is to imagine the perso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:57 PM |
| 13 | Advice needed: Setting boundaries on an engagement/marriage timeline.I tell them if there’s no discussion about engagement/ring at the 2 year mark I’m out. It’s not an ultimatum to let someone know that you’re attractive, intelligent, and HV and that you can’t be with someone too blind to appreciate it. Better to leave when you still respect each other than twiddle your thumbs waiting for a ring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Thank you for giving me the strength to leave my marriage. I deserve better.https://youtu.be/Vb8PIBQbw7w ASMR Darling (she also has a super cute dog that sometimes makes appearances) https://youtu.be/RYTAfxpJTV0 ASMR Glow (I find her French videos super relaxing and great for listening to when I’m getting stuff done because idk what she’s saying but it’s relaxing) I really like these two youtubers and if you’re into more woo woo stuff The Lune Innate is fabulous! Lune Innate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Thank you for giving me the strength to leave my marriage. I deserve better.Super weird but I find that sometimes those positive affirmation ASMR videos can really help (so weird I know) but it’s so calming to hear someone tell you that you’re doing great and it counts as meditating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:23 PM |
| 13 | Some Scrote wrote an article on 9 ways to make your female partner orgasm annnd I dunno what to think ladies.Number 10: Venmo transactions for self care | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 03:38 AM |
| 13 | Thank you for giving me the strength to leave my marriage. I deserve better.You attract what you put out so I see nothing but great things coming your way based on your new outlook! Welcome home we’ll be here if you need us 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 03:36 AM |
| 17 | This guys ex-fiancé leveled up by dumping him. By the description, he thinks he’s a real gem 😂🤣LVM are evolving they’re getting rings from JC Penny instead of Walmart now 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:01 AM |
| 69 | This guys ex-fiancé leveled up by dumping him. By the description, he thinks he’s a real gem 😂🤣I’d leave too if someone gave me a ring with that band and setting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 08:23 PM |
| 2 | This post on Married Red Pill made me so fucking scared.Couldn’t even read it, someone get these poor men an AP style guide | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:15 PM |
| 25 | How do you introduce your female friends to FDS without forcing it on themPatience!! I was horrible and my best friend was so patient with me as I collected mistakes like Girl Scout badges. She was also very blunt with me when I needed it and would straight up tell me, “no he’s ugly don’t do it” even if it wasn’t what I wanted to hear. She’s also in a really solid relationship so a lot of it was leading by example and reminding me to of what I should be doing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:50 PM |
| 26 | The "Call Her Daddy" Podcast is honestly some of the stupidest shit I've ever heard. Can women's "sex positive" media do better than this?Saying “f***” repeatedly doesn’t make you less wrong and definitely doesn’t make you more right. My poor ex catholic ears 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 06:20 AM |
| 10 | How old is everyone and does that impact strategy?19 and my strategy was to put myself in therapy first to make sure I was in the right headspace before pursuing anything. I want to make sure I’m able to communicate and respond to things in a healthy way. My goal is to be a reflection of my ideal partner so that way I’m always satisfied- partnered or not :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 06:31 AM |
| 11 | Boys trips and Bachelor partiesI frame it in a way by making him feel like he has to meet me at my level- I say things like “oh my god people who hire strippers and go to those places, that’s so pathetic! I could never be with someone like that/I could never imagine myself with someone who participates in that, it’s so sad” It’s a good way to draw out the bad ones who will defend it and vet the ones who have the same views as you. If he gets defensive, hasta la pasta I’m outta there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 04:17 AM |
| 50 | My guy friend sent me this, he calls her wifey....Blink twice if you’re being held hostage sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 10:16 PM |
| 33 | Nominee for Pickmeisha MVPIs she going to plan the wedding or his funeral | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 09:37 PM |
| 20 | That should go really well.Oh yes please teach me all about femininity while you’re on Day 3 of wearing your boxers because you think wearing them inside out “makes them new again” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 12:53 AM |
| 15 | RPW pickmeisha agrees to “open situationship” with BF where he can fuck others and she can’t. This is bold, unadulterated male bullshit on full display. LADIES, THIS IS A DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN!This has to be a man based on the article “she” cited. My best advice is to get a 10 inch dildo since “she” can’t see other men and use it in front of him 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:39 PM |
| 35 | Typical male feministSounds about right for someone who’s 5’7 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 08:47 PM |
| 1 | What do you all think of men’s rights activists?Either be a troll or an idiot- pick a struggle and maybe use a different account next time. Incels these days 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:19 PM |
| 16 | Is this something to be concerned about? I have no idea how to repondThe fact that he said he has a “few odd behaviors” screams “I have horrible coping mechanisms” to me. He’s basically giving you a warning that he expects you to be his mommy, therapist, and enabler right off the bat... Big yikes territory. Also it should be expected that one behaves well in public- not something we should be rewarding men for; what are we supposed to do? Carry treats in our pockets for every time they don’t bark at someone or check another girl out? End of rant I’m making myself… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 03:06 PM |
| 11 | We don’t endorse lowering standards to attract men? The horror.As a journalist, I have to disagree with this article, it sounded like she was picking and choosing what fit into her narrative rather than fully vet the sub aka “confirmation bias” on full display. Her depiction of FDS’ view in sex work is incomplete, when I first joined in December 2019, I noticed a number of women here were either former sex workers or still involved in the industry and they were some of the fiercest advocates for FDS advice. The way I would explain FDS as a journalist would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 07:37 AM |
| 11 | How do you know if it's a HVM that's asking you outThere’s no surefire way to know right off the bat if a guy is a HVM. However, a HVM will make himself known to the point where you won’t have to ask the question, “is he or isn’t he?” Because his actions will demonstrate where his values are. You’ll know a HVM when you don’t have to question anything and everything because you’ll already know where he stands with you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 08:32 PM |
| 51 | It’s been a big day for meI’m here for the last paragraph 🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼 that’s what I LOVE to see! Who cares about men like that when it’s very clearly a woman’s world we live in | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 05:51 AM |
| 17 | Trolling will not be tolerated. Trashing FDS and FDS mods will also not be tolerated. This is a support sub.Take a shot every time the mods have to tell someone to go back and read the handbook 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 02:02 AM |
| 12 | Good to know that if you are sexy, you are not worth respect. Got this from a churchy friend of mine whose only posts about marriage are to say how hard it it and imply she and her hubby don't get along.JLo’s man was in the audience hyping her up THE WHOLE TIME and was probably the most excited person there who literally said he’s perfectly happy being her backup dancer sips tea maybe she should be taking notes from Jenny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:11 PM |
| 9 | Beauty hacks to become a HVWIf anything, invest more time in making your resumé look more appealing- beauty fades but high achieving women kick ass at any age | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 04:52 PM |
| 22 | Is Hollywood brainwashing us?I use that movie as a litmus test on guys to gauge their reaction of the boyfriend and if it’s not “he’s a whiny narcissistic manchild” then it’s time to ghost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 11:24 PM |
| 9 | Texting advice?No response is the best response- if he can’t take the two seconds to let you know he has a busy week going on out of courtesy, you owe him absolutely nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 11:07 PM |
| 8 | Should I be worried that my (F27) boyfriend (M28) has a female best friend that he texts more than me?I would not trust it at all. My hair dresser just married one of my old teachers after being friends for 10+ years- he’s been divorced for most if not all of those 10 years but it just goes to show the theory is true 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 02:45 AM |
| 29 | Reason # 2913738 on why you can’t compliment men. Complimented my DoorDash Driver on his shirt and he took it as hitting on him.Doordash has a disgusting amount of creeps working for them. I signed up before I left for school one summer, hoping to make some extra pocket change and the guy who ran my training session somehow went in their system and got my personal cell # and started texting me ATTEMPTING to ask me out. I was barely 18 at the time and it’s still grosses me out to think about it. Never did one delivery for them considering I couldn’t even make it out the door from their employee trainings before some sidew… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 03:35 AM |
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