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I don't think what I did was wrong - tell me what was wrong about it? Tell me why I must "confess" my "sins" when it didn't affect him one bit. Did you read how the affair was? It was only physical attraction and text messaging. He was there to listen when no one else was. We made no plans to be together, we just enjoyed talking to each other. Both of us respected our partners' privacy. We did not do this to hurt our partners, we did it because we were both lonely. And the outcome seems to be th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:13 PM
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We got too casual with each other. I'd ask for favors bluntly, or get irritated when he didn't listen the first 5 times, or instead of just listening to his hour long rants after my 80 hour workweek I'd add my idea/opinion and then be told how I don't know anything because I'm younger. And if I wanted to do anything you normally do when you're in a LTR - go out for once, talk about marriage or kids or try to have sex, I was always shot down. So you're right it probably made me less inclined to p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:56 PM
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They've been unhappy for a long time, before she got pregnant, before the marriage. I believe they just went through the motions and, similarly to my relationship, it was easier to stay than to leave. I get it. But I also encouraged him to enjoy the trip they just had, and tell her the things he told me about his needs not being met. Probably was a bad idea having a kid, but they love the child and he knows it would be better for a kid to grow up in a broken but happy family.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:41 PM
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I can tell you what would happen. He would be insecure and jealous disproportionately for how mild my relationship with the coworker was. But he wouldn't want us to break up. In the past he was convinced I was cheating on him and I wasn't, it went like this. He cried and said no matter what happens I love you and I'm not giving up on us, before he even came to realize it was a misunderstanding. It would be needless pain and suffering and argument for the same result, us staying together. And I k…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 05:26 PM
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You can't say that you don't see 5 butts a week in leggings you wouldn't enjoy slapping. Same thing. We just don't do it, and that's all the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:37 AM
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It was such a mild form of cheating that it doesn't benefit us at all if he knew. All things considered I kept boundaries firm with that guy. We bonded over shared issues and we made each other feel desired, but it's not worth hurting my bf's feelings. I would've never sustained that affair long, I would have ended my relationship before it turned into anything because I respect my bf and I have dignity
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:32 AM
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It was the response to your comment about me sucking his dick lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:08 AM
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Yeah, she's not pregnant, they have an 8 month old baby. And if I haven't made it clear I wasn't interested in sex while either of us were still attached. Also: He told me that after he brought up divorce a flip switched in her and she's been acting a lot nicer. I told him I hope it lasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:01 AM
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2nd update on the cheating ordeal After telling my boyfriend I wanted to break up due to incompatibility, arguments, and generally not feeling it, he insisted we will make it work. He started treating me better, less like a roommate/little sister and more like a girlfriend. So I drastically cut down on texting the coworker. Coworker and I have not had any physical relationship or meeting outside of work. It was purely emotional cheating in messages both talking about our own relationship problem…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 09:43 AM
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Is it bad that I'm adaptive? I have my own ideals after we break up, I'd like to live alone and avoid any dependant type situation again. I want whoever I'm with to want to be with me, not because it's easier than leaving. I understand he's not mine and he has commitments with her. I think I'm just happy that for the first time in a long time I clicked with someone, it gives me hope that other people besides my boyfriend would want me. Also somehow I'm feeling more independent now, picking up ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 09:21 PM
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I think what I'm looking for is emotional intimacy and mutual attraction even if it doesn't come with lifelong commitment. Maybe my standards are just so low at this point, but I'm getting fond of the idea of just staying single and enjoying connections that don't have to be permanent.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:54 PM
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My home isn't paid off yet, there's about 10k left on the mortgage. The plans with the bf were for both of us to save and buy a house together closer to our jobs. We both agreed that it would be better having a mortgage together than wasting that money on rent. So he has money now, he could get an apartment, but he really wanted to buy a house and this would set him back. I originally wanted to give this house to my dad, as his job is ending next year and a good friend of his that offered him a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:50 PM
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We're not having a relationship further than intimate friends until we're both single. If meeting me inspires a guy to divorce his wife then the relationship probably wasn't stable to begin with so I'm not taking the blame for that. He already knows I'm not pushing for anything
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:00 PM
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Their kid is an infant It hasn't gone further than touching each other's hands a little more than we needed to while we were handing each other stuff at work. We're both attracted to each other. It's just a playful crush type of relationship Thanks for understanding about it being hard to end things and the incompatibility. I've felt that way for a while. The breakup being so difficult I would say is because he lives with me and he has more stuff than I do, and most of his family isn't in the po…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:52 PM
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I will
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:43 PM
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Look, I don't want to be more important than anyone's child, don't paint me that way. But if that's your argument, I guess you also believe that marriage should never end, stay together for kids etc? My parents divorced and I had a wonderful stepmother that treated me better than my own mother did. But like I said I'm not hoping to be with him long term, I just appreciate our friendship and attention but I know better than to rely on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:40 PM
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I made this account for a different purpose, but I responded to your other points in my other comments
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:26 PM
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Thanks, yeah I do know that sub, but from what I've seen I don't relate much. I came here to have a conversation about cheating from my perspective because I felt like people on PPD would like to hear maybe the logic behind it all when it's so hard to understand from a monogamous background. I didn't understand it either. I'm still against cheating as ironic as that is. I don't romanticize it. The meat and potatoes of the affair is we both make each other feel good about our own selves, wanted, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:24 PM
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He has a kid and if we did have a relationship I wouldn't have any more, I'd be happy with one. But in response to the broke and homeless part from what he's said he'd be saving more money paying child support than staying with her. I know this isn't pretty or ideal, I'm just so past caring that we aren't perfect people with solid hard morals like everyone here. I guess when you're in this situation you'll understand or you never will and congrats, I genuinely hope you never will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:16 PM
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I don't agree that you should never expect romantic excitement again after you choose someone. I haven't felt that with my bf in 2 years. I don't think people should just accept mediocrity when there are other options out there. Is that disgusting? I think what's disgusting is hurting our partners. I don't like this part at all. Part of what's kept us together is him living with me. We've been down the road of me explicitly telling him "We probably wouldn't be together if we lived apart" and he'…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:12 PM
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If I'm being honest I don't want him to leave his family for me. I wouldn't want to be in the wife's shoes and I do actually have empathy, I would prefer if it works out for them. I wouldn't want to have a baby with him or any man that already has a child. Even if it's not mine, one child is enough for me. I'm open to being a stepmother but right now I'm not even expecting that. And you're right why be with someone long term that has a history of straying. I don't know if I want a LTR anymore, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:56 PM
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It could be because of NRE. I haven't felt respected by my bf in a while though, from the nature of our conversations and him turning everything into a full blown debate, disagreeing with everything I say, thinking he's right all the time because he's older. We have an age gap. This isn't new. It's just more obvious now, when you have someone actually listening and understanding you rather than insulting you are you supposed to choose the person insulting you? I guess I don't blame anyone here f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:48 PM
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I know. This was a problem in my current relationship. We both got comfortable enough to act like our worst selves. Was our first ever relationship and I made mistakes and so did he. I know now what to expect and what's realistic. And I'm not expecting this to last, it might blow over, or we might end up losing interest in each other, that's okay. The fact is we're both filling a need that's not met in our own relationships. If their marriage gets better that's good too. I'm enforcing physical a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:38 PM
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I'm not ready to inflict this kind of stress onto my bf. I don't want to hurt him at all. I probably left this out but this isn't the first time I've wanted to break up with him - over the years I've mentioned I'm not sure and I don't think we are right for each other. So the breakup won't be totally unexpected but I still want to wait for a better time. Regardless of whether my coworker and I "get together" I'm going to end this relationship because I've had it in me for a long time. I also wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:30 PM
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Update on the borderline-cheating situation I'm in Coworker and I might have a thing now. I won't do anything physical for now, we just text and hang out at work. We're both not happy in our relationships. It's just difficult obviously due to living situations and not wanting to hurt our partners. I suggested we just get to know each other better and don't take it too seriously but have boundaries. He's good with that. I feel bad about texting him behind my bfs back and having feelings for him b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 10:00 AM
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Yeah, that's sorta why I came here, along with not wanting to post on mainstream subs so I'm not "found out". Thought it'd be interesting perspective and I'd get some advice which I have and I thank you guys! I have a main account here too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:22 AM
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Good luck to you too - hope you have some incredible sex some day 👋 I'll be here continuing to ... not appreciate what I have 😂 God damn it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:43 AM
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I'm in disbelief too. I'm really fucking confused. Hey, let's entertain the idea that this guy is my real 'soulmate' and true love really can exist. I'm kidding, but honestly wish something like that were the case. Or that this is just a blip that my brain did and I'll go back to not caring about any other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:33 AM
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Uh... Not like this. I felt liked by my boyfriend. But there was no sexual tension. It was just a comfortable agreement when we met, exchanged numbers, and hung out. I felt the honeymoon feelings and excitement because it was new and I felt desired. But there wasn't flirting and gazing into each other's eyes like this. I also wasn't totally physically attracted to my boyfriend. It pains me to say that. I've developed attraction for him and made myself attracted to him. And I know no man wants to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:21 AM
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It's true, I don't know if I can commit. He is my first boyfriend and we've lived together since the 2nd month, so we are quite intertwined and reliant on eachother. I never thought we would split. I thought, okay, sometimes the passion wanes but I can be mature and handle that. Well, random guy's attention and way of looking at me made me melt and realize that I have never felt this desired before, or have ever experienced courtship truly. The way I met my boyfriend, it was quick, there wasn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:08 AM
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I encouraged it, it felt good, it was harmless at first, just enjoying his company, noticing he's hot... then I kept it going, I kept looking at him, fantasizing, being receptive to his joking and comments and attention, overly friendly. I take responsibility for it. I think I may not be the loyal type I thought I was. I think I enjoy attention too much. I think I got too comfortable and had too much fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 05:55 AM
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I've been even more attentive to my boyfriend since these cheating feelings started. I've been putting in more effort to make him happy and enjoying intimacy with him even more. I've been carrying these infatuation hormones home and having really great sex and being more confident in myself. Here's the problem, when you're infatuated with someone you don't want to cut contact with them at all. if/when I do that, it will take sheer force, like doing 10more pushups after you've already reached you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 05:47 AM
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I've been in an LTR for around 3 years. Well, I feel like I've been seduced by a coworker. Haven't done anything physical with him, but we've been eye fucking and flirting and saying ridiculous things to each other in some odd stupor we seem to be in. He's married and his wife just had a baby. I've never felt this sense of mutual attraction before, it's otherworldly, it reels me into the present, and for the moments we look at each other I don't feel taken and he doesn't feel taken or inappropri…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 05:25 AM
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