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SEEKING ADVICEhappyhippie111/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:35 AM
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DISCUSSIONhappyhippie111/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:10 PM
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I understand. I guess I just look at it from the perspective of why can't we just be honest about how were feeling and be straight up. Yeah it's not the easiest conversation to have but it saves time and unnecessary pain for both parties you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:37 PM
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I like the idea of not creating an image in your head before meeting based upon their social media. It's so true that meeting them in person is your true gauge of how they really are, anyone can appear to be anything over text. Truly sorry to hear about that guy. But it seems like you are able to look back and reflect on your mishaps and have learned from it greatly. All you can ask for :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:38 AM
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Yeah, I am glad and also comforted by the fact that you have a similar mindset towards this! I am not a fan of playing games and having to put on an act of being uninterested when I am seems very inauthentic to me. Of course, like you said though, show interest within reason lol. I'm trying to approach this whole situation as having dodged a bullet. Wouldn't want to be with someone whose moral compass deems it alright to just ghost someone, it just signifies disrespect and a lack of emotional ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:35 AM
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Thanks for such a thoughtful response, means a lot to me :) Honestly, I think you may be right. My defence mechanism for my anxiety and my desire for validation definitely is reinforced by seeking external validation in the men I am talking to. Which I forget is also human, and I'm not crazy or broken for doing so. I'm really working on being gentle with myself here and exercising self compassion. You're right, this is a great learning experience for me to exercise the skills I've been learning.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:31 AM
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Thank you for your words :) you are right. I shouldn't want someone who is not equally interested in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:39 PM
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I see what you're saying. I guess I consider it ghosting cause we talked consistently for about 2 weeks before our date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:25 PM
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Whys that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:24 PM
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Sucks how I can't just act how I'm feeling though! How I have to put on a persona of just being semi interested. Part of me just wants to be my genuine self and honour what I'm feeling when I'm feeling. I struggle with this in dating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:24 PM
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We do deserve openness and honesty. Thanks for your words. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:23 PM
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You're right! Probably dodged a bullet early. Thanks for your kind words ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:22 PM
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Yeah I definitely will not entertain such behaviour anymore. It's emotionally exhausting. Thanks for your words and advice. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:22 PM
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Noted. I'm always torn between if I want something ask for it but I'm learning in this scenario to not necessarily do that in regards to dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:21 PM
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I'm trying! I just find it so hard to deeply connect with someone on an intellectual level so when I do find that I tend to zero in on that person. So many people on dating apps seem so superficial and just surface level :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:20 PM
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I'm working on it every day :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:20 PM
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You do make some really good points. Thanks :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:19 PM
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You're right. I think it's a control issue I have with my anxiety to be honest. But I'm working on it in therapy :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:17 PM
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