happypillows Archive

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1	Being a virgin at 18 and social pressure Depends what purity is. Is purity really predicated on virginity? Also, how do we define the value of "purity" if the idea of purity changes with society? Also, if a man demands that his women be "pure", what does that say about him? Would you trust that guy? In the end, your main goal is to find the person that respects you and helps you grow. Not one who would judge you based on personal experiences that are yours only. So I guess my point is, if you focus too much on the idea of purity, the m…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/03/20 07:58 AM
-4	Being a virgin at 18 and social pressure How doable is staying a virgin until marriage nowadays? Hardest its ever been, I imagine. Do you think it is better to gather experience for your future husband or to stay pure for him? You're asking the wrong question. It should be, "Should I gain experience so that I can find the most suitable husband for me, or stick to my morals and beliefs at all costs?" I think we all have a right to do whatever we want with our bodies, mostly. So of course you have the choice of remaining a virgin. But un…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/03/20 06:33 AM
1	Text Game?? Texting is pretty powerful when it comes to initial rapport. I've seen that the best texting is around a common topic/joke. Music, sports etc. are all good topics because its a shared interest. Through texting about said topics, you can get a lot more information about her as a person as well, so don't think its just empty banter. Inside jokes. One of the keys to an interaction is to have something exclusive betwen the two of you. Oftentimes this is a joke of some sort whether its something funn…	/r/seduction	12/11/14 09:32 AM
9	Do any of you see yourselves getting married? The oneitis mentality? This mentality is generally born out of insecurity and a lack of options. The reason I say this, is because oneitis is only oneitis if the girl doesn't reciprocate...or she leads you on and you battle alone. If things are working great, its not oneitis or needy or desperate. Oneitis, when it happens, should make you feel like you lack worth, that you need to meet new people, that you need to grow up. This should be the catalyst of change at some point in your life...leadin…	/r/seduction	12/11/14 08:19 AM
1	Funny vs cool It's all balance. Its good to be quirky/funny/weird, but only when its supplemented with a "cool" dimension. And by "cool" I mean in control of your emotions and having good timing.	/r/seduction	27/10/14 08:25 AM
1	I need help balancing more than 1 girl at a time, and making it clear that i don't want a relationship, help? Just be up front. You would be surprised by how many girls are down for a casual thing as long as you aren't trying to deceive them. Through my experience it seems the difference between an experienced guy and a douche is whether or not they were honest about their intentions when hooking up/dating women. Once people start smelling nefarious undertones like lying, things can go downhill.	/r/seduction	21/10/14 09:55 AM
6	Overthinking when texting. Text how you talk. It creates a much more 'you' feel and ultimately helps the girl gain perspective on who you are faster which will help her feel more comfortable with you. The above piece of advice from windowtothesoul I think is the most important. Why? Because all people say is "be yourself" and "act natural" (which is easy, BS advice IMO)...but you know what, the best way to do that is by texting in your own voice, how else would you stand out anyways? Sure, there are good and bad ways of t…	/r/seduction	14/10/14 09:16 AM
1	Im really unexperienced, starting University in 2 weeks. If you could give me one advice, what would it be? Nothing more important than RESILIENCE. Learn how to enjoy failure, and dating gets a lot more fun.	/r/seduction	08/10/14 05:31 AM
2	Should you shake hands? Also the handshake is your first chance to make a confident, dominant impression. Be assertive, cheerful and look them straight in the eye when you introduce yourself. THIS. This is a great time to brand yourself as a confident, assertive guy with a crisp handshake and nice smile.	/r/seduction	08/10/14 05:28 AM
1	I feel as if women see me as one-dimensional. It's also predicated on the genre of funny. The more attractive funny tends to be of the more sarcastic, witty, variety. In contrast, the super energetic outrageous funny has its place...just not in dating (of course, there are women that love this as well). Think about evolving your comedy to make you a bit more deceptively funny. Remember its all balance, girls don't want a "nice guy" but they expect their "bad boy" to be nice along with the bad. In the end, 1 dimensional is bad on both sides.…	/r/seduction	07/10/14 07:36 AM
1	I have no experience kissing It really is just gaining experience. Won't matter how many books you read or videos you watch. The mental circus that goes on in your brain when you kiss people is something to get used to, not coach yourself up on. Have fun and start kissing dude.	/r/seduction	03/10/14 07:11 AM
3	How long does it usually take to build attraction? A lot of people wait until they enter the gray zone, then realize they are in the gray zone. Too late. Flirting and "game" is a lot more high-speed than people think. You've heard about how women decide if they want a guy in the first 30 seconds (or whatever it is now). The fact that women make an educated decision early on is absolutely true (obviously not ALL women). Everyone is different, but rapport is also a huge part of attraction for women. Sometimes it takes a good conversation for the t…	/r/seduction	29/09/14 05:03 AM
-2	My game has slipped since I graduated college, looking for tips on how to improve it. After college, your priorities should change. Just randomly hooking up and not having to deal with much consequences is nice and all, but at a certain point you have to get pickier with your relationships just like you've downsized your social circle. Its not coincidence that your circle gets smaller as you get older. You realize that many people are a waste of time and more than anything, you just don't care about them. But the people you do care about should be very important to you. Same goes…	/r/seduction	24/09/14 02:46 AM
1	Need some serious Texting/Messaging advice I think another part to focus on is the actually meetup details. Many of these girls already have plenty of reasons to ignore you and not hang out, so don't take it personally. Try switching things up and pinpoint what her interests are. If its art, suggest a museum. Music? Record store, and so on. These suggestions take part of the focus off of dealing with you and more on doing what she enjoys. Not to mention that you're stock will go up if you have this similar interest and can speak intellig…	/r/seduction	24/09/14 02:37 AM
1	Labeled as a player in my campus.... Starting off with a player reputation is much better than "that nerdy asian guy" so stop crying. The key is always to show a different dimension of yourself. In your case, maybe you want to be more of that "friend" so that you can balance out your alpha-male reputation with the "understanding and nice" reputation. Girls actually do like "nice" guys but only when it comes with masculinity and confidence as a lover. Girls always say they love guys that are secure enough to cry....yeah, if you are …	/r/seduction	16/09/14 06:44 AM
1	Guys I need your opinion.. You must be pretty young or inexperienced. Finding other people attractive is normal, in fact it would be weird for your boyfriend to think you are the only attractive person in his life. We are all human. In terms of fantasizing, what do you think porn is? Guys and girls alike fantasize all day, don't hold THAT against him or things will go south very quickly. The slutty dressing girl is getting attention and she loves it, but that doesnt mean shes going to rape all the men looking at her, righ…	/r/seduction	16/09/14 02:50 AM